Hello all, I wasn't sure about the flair, but I don't have dress regret -- I just would like some support.

I have a particular aesthetic for my bridal outfit: I'm often inspired by period or fantasy movies, medieval history, etc. I love film costume. Well, for my dress, I was totally uninspired for a whole year until I watched the film adaptation of *The Phantom of the Opera*, and I knew that Christine's wedding dress was the look I wanted. So I have a beautiful 80s off-shoulder ivory ballgown with lace and sequins that I got for a deal on eBay. It has this gigantic bow on the bustle that I absolutely adore.

Well, I'm not stopping at the dress -- I'm wearing POTO-inspired jewellery, vintage-reproduction shoes from that time period, white hose, and a fancy gold-and-pearl snood because my hair is full of sadness right now and I'm all about the princess vibe, anyway.

This is my second marriage, and my previous dress was also inspired by a movie costume, albeit very different. My every-day office clothes are very uniform and functional, so my special event fashion is my playground where I have fun with fantasy. My friends and family all say the dress is very "me."  Meanwhile, I'm worried I will embarrass my fiancé on the big day, even though I've shown him my inspirations and he's excited. We're both life-long fans of Phantom.

I feel like I'm not "doing it right" when I see photos for bridal inspiration, or would look at dresses online. I'm prone to comparing myself to other people anyway, and I believe the worst about myself, and while I'm working on those bad narratives, some things are so huge (like a wedding) that comparison is inevitable. We are having a traditional church wedding, too, which might be making me feel a little self-conscious. The wedding reception is cocktail but NOT themed -- Victorian is just my look. We don't have a bridal party so I'm not coordinating with anyone.

Anyway, sorry for the ramble. I love my look, personally, but I feel like I'm not a "serious bride." I'm mid-30s with a FT job and I still feel like a girl playing dress up.

Can anyone else relate to this feeling or offer some perspective?

EDIT: Everyone, I am so grateful for all of your thoughtful responses! I feel very encouraged and appreciate that you all took your time to respond!