
I (18F) have known for years that my mother has been having an affair. It’s something I’ve had to live with, and while I’ve tried to emotionally detach from it, I can’t shake the fear that her choices will affect my own future.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a while, and while we’re young, I do see a future with him. But I keep thinking—what if his family refuses to accept me because of my mother’s affair? I know how judgmental some families can be, and I don’t want to be seen as “tainted” because of something I had no control over.

I talked to my boyfriend about it, but he just said he doesn’t know and that we should decide when the time comes. I get that he doesn’t have an answer right now, but it feels like he doesn’t understand how much this is weighing on me.

I feel stuck. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do I stop feeling like my mother’s choices are going to ruin my future?

Edit: My father knows about it and he is friends the man. Hilarious but yes!