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conversations.value: Give me a description for a book titled Women Who Love Too Much about somebody, Therapist, Many with the genre: Self-Help, Relationships.
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conversations.value: Is having 'somebody to love' the most important thing in your life? Do you constantly believe that with 'the right man' you would no longer feel depressed or lonely? Are you bored with 'nice guys' who are open, honest and dependable? If being in love means being in pain, this book was written for you. Therapist the author describes loving too much as a pattern of thoughts and behavior, which certain women develop as a response to problems from childhood. Many women find themselves repeatedly drawn into unhappy and destructive relationships with men. They then struggle to make these doomed relationships work. This bestselling book takes a hard look at how powerfully addictive these unhealthy relationships are - but also gives a very specific program for recovery from the disease of loving too much.
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conversations.value: Delete the last sentence.
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conversations.value: Is having 'somebody to love' the most important thing in your life? Do you constantly believe that with 'the right man' you would no longer feel depressed or lonely? Are you bored with 'nice guys' who are open, honest and dependable? If being in love means being in pain, this book was written for you. Therapist the author describes loving too much as a pattern of thoughts and behavior, which certain women develop as a response to problems from childhood. Many women find themselves repeatedly drawn into unhappy and destructive relationships with men. They then struggle to make these doomed relationships work.
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conversations.value: Give me the first five paragraphs for this book.
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conversations.value: Women Who Love Too Much
  Shaking her head, the round curls bouncing, she explained with vehemence, "I don't want that to happen, because I'm very lonely. In law school I have lots of responsibility, and then I'm working to support myself, too. These demands could keep me busy all the time. In fact, that's pretty much all I did for the past year—work, go to school, study, and sleep. But I missed having a man in my life."
  Quickly she continued. "Then I met Randy, when I was visiting friends in San Diego two months ago. He's an attorney, and we met one night when my friends took me out dancing. Well, we just hit it off right away. There was so much to talk about—except that I guess I did most of the talking. But he seemed to like that. And it was just so great to be with a man who was interested in things that were important to me, too."
  Her brows gathered together. "He seemed really attracted to me. You know, asking if I was married—I'm divorced, have been for two years—if I lived alone. That kind of stuff."
  I could imagine how Jill's eagerness must have shown as she chatted brightly with Randy over the blaring music that first night. And the eagerness with which she welcomed him a week later when he extended a business trip to Los Angeles an extra hundred miles to visit her. At dinner she offered to let him sleep at her apartment so that he could postpone the long drive back until the next day. He accepted her invitation and their affair began that night.
  When he returned to his San Diego apartment, the phone was ringing. Jill warmly informed him that she had been worried about his long drive and was relieved to know he was safely home. When she thought he sounded a little bemused at her call, she apologized for bothering him and hung up, but a gnawing discomfort began to grow in her, fueled by the awareness that once again she cared far more than the man in her life did.
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conversations.value: Give me four more paragraphs.
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conversations.value: This dynamic is illustrated in the following stories. These women have gained a good deal of insight into their behaviors through involvement with therapy, and when appropriate because of the nature of their problems, involvement in other support groups as well. They have been able to recognize their helping behavior for what it was, a subconsciously motivated attempt to deny their own pain by controlling those closest to them. The intensity of each woman's desire to be of help to her partner is a clue that it was much more a need than a choice.
  Before therapy I could not remember a single issue that my parents fought about. All I could remember was that they constantly fought. Every day, every meal, almost every minute. They criticized each other, disagreed with each other, and insulted each other, while my brother and I looked on. Dad would stay away at work, or wherever, as much as he could, but sooner or later he'd have to come home and then it would begin again. My role in all of this was first of all to pretend nothing was wrong, and second to try and distract either one or both of them by being entertaining. I would toss my head and beam them a big smile and make a joke or do whatever silly thing I could think of to capture their attention. Actually, I was scared to death inside, but being afraid got in the way of putting on a good show. So I clowned and joked, and soon it became a full-time job, being cute. I got so much practice when I was at home that after a while I started acting like that elsewhere, too. I was always polishing my act. Basically, it came down to this: if anything was wrong I ignored it, and at the same time I tried to cover it up. That last sentence encapsulizes what happened in my marriage.
  I met Kenneth by the pool at my apartment when I was twenty. He was very tan, very good-looking in a sunburnedsurfer sort of way. The fact that he was interested enough to want to live with me shortly after we met made me feel that we had a lot going for us. Also, he was pretty cheerful, like me, so I thought we had all the ingredients for being happy together.
  Kenneth was a little vague, a little indecisive about his career, about what he wanted to do with his life, and I gave him lots of encouragement there. I was sure I was helping him blossom, giving him needed support and direction. I made virtually all the decisions concerning us as a couple, too, right from the beginning, but still somehow he did just as he wanted. I felt strong and he felt free to lean on me. It was just what we each needed, I guess.
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conversations.value: Give me the last five paragraphs.
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conversations.value: Other affirmations that are short and easy to remember, and which can be used in the time you spend driving, exercising, waiting, or simply holding still, follow:
  If you have a belief in God or a higher power, make that belief an important part of your affirmations:
  If you do not have a belief in God you may be more comfortable with an affirmation like the following:
  It is important that you also make up your own affirmations. Those that feel and sound exactly right to you will work best for you, so practice some of the ones listed here until you are ready to design your own 100-percent positive, unconditional, fully validating affirmations, tailor-made by you, for you. Do not create affirmations such as "Everything works out perfectly between Tom and me and we get married." The "and we get married" may not be the perfect solution for whatever goes on between you and Tom. Leave it at "Everything works out perfectly," maybe adding "for my highest good." Stay away from demanding specific results. Simply affirm yourself, your life, your worth, and your wonderful future. When you make affirmations, you are programming your unconscious to become willing to let go of the old patterns and move into new, healthy, joyous, and prosperous ways of living. In fact, that's not bad as an affirmation:
  There are two types of depression, exogenous and endogenous. Exogenous depression occurs in reaction to outside events and is closely related to grieving. Endogenous depression is a result of improperly functioning biochemistry and appears to be genetically linked with compulsive eating and/or alcohol and drug addiction. In fact, these may all be different expressions of the same or similar biochemical disorders.