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conversations.value: Provide a description for a book titled Boundaries with Kids about Boundaries, Kids, Townsend with the genre: Christian Books & Bibles, Christian Living.
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conversations.value: Since the 1992 release of their Gold Medallion Award-winning book, Boundaries, Drs. the author and John Townsend have heard these three questions rephrased thousands of times. As parents begin to realize the tremendous impact poor boundaries have had on their own lives, their concern naturally extends to their children. How can they help their sons and daughters form healthy boundaries that lead to well-rounded characters and successful adult lives? Now there are answers. Boundaries with Kids helps parents apply the Ten Laws of Boundaries (first described in Boundaries) to the challenges of raising children. For parents who want their kids to escape the struggles they themselves have experienced, here's an in-depth look at how to implement the preventive medicine of character development by establishing sound boundaries--starting with the parents. Boundaries with Kids helps moms and dads learn how to bring control to an out-of-control family life set limits and still be loving parents define what legitimate boundaries are in the family transfer what they are learning as parents to help their children develop healthy boundaries. Illustrating its points with numerous case studies and anecdotes, Boundaries with Kids gives parents the can-do guidance they need in order to model healthy boundaries for their kids. This book may well be the best investment parents will ever make into the lifelong welfare of their children.
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conversations.value: Add another sentence about Townsend, parenting.
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conversations.value: Since the 1992 release of their Gold Medallion Award-winning book, Boundaries, Drs. the author and John Townsend have heard these three questions rephrased thousands of times. As parents begin to realize the tremendous impact poor boundaries have had on their own lives, their concern naturally extends to their children. How can they help their sons and daughters form healthy boundaries that lead to well-rounded characters and successful adult lives? Now there are answers. Boundaries with Kids helps parents apply the Ten Laws of Boundaries (first described in Boundaries) to the challenges of raising children. In their popular, readable style, the author and Townsend help moms and dads make choices and develop a parenting approach that sees beyond the moment to the adults their children will become. For parents who want their kids to escape the struggles they themselves have experienced, here's an in-depth look at how to implement the preventive medicine of character development by establishing sound boundaries--starting with the parents. Boundaries with Kids helps moms and dads learn how to bring control to an out-of-control family life set limits and still be loving parents define what legitimate boundaries are in the family transfer what they are learning as parents to help their children develop healthy boundaries. Illustrating its points with numerous case studies and anecdotes, Boundaries with Kids gives parents the can-do guidance they need in order to model healthy boundaries for their kids. This book may well be the best investment parents will ever make into the lifelong welfare of their children.
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conversations.value: Provide the first five paragraphs for this book.
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conversations.value: Boundaries with Kids
  Responsibility is actually broader than this. We think of responsibility in terms of ownership. To take ownership of your life is ultimately to take control. Ownership is to truly possess your life and to know that you are accountable for your life—to God and others. When you take ownership, you realize that all aspects of your life are truly yours and only yours, and that no one is going to live your life for you.
  We shall all give an account to God for our lives (2 Corinthians 5:10), and he will hold us responsible for what we did with our talents, resources, relationships, time, and actions. People who are accountable see life as something that has been entrusted to them, and they know that they and they only will be responsible for what they do with it.
  Responsibility has been problematic for humankind ever since the Garden of Eden. Remember how Adam did not take responsibility for his own choices? When God asked him what had happened, he blamed Eve. "It was the woman you gave me," he said, implicating not only Eve, but God as well—as if God and Eve were to blame for his wrong choice! And then Eve blamed the serpent for deceiving her. The human race has been struggling with such lack of ownership ever since. And if we cannot take ownership of our lives, we are not in control of them either.
  The other day I was counseling a couple who were having marital problems. I asked each of them about their behavior.
  Both of them told me that they couldn't control their own behavior. Each thought their problems were the other one's fault. With each one disowning their own behavior toward the other, there was little chance for change. They reminded me of Adam and Eve.
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conversations.value: Before we explain these stages, understand that children have an enormous task before them in growing up and learning limits; much will be demanded of them by you, reality, and their friends. They need to be rooted and grounded in love (Ephesians 3:17). No one can bear the frustration and pain of responsibility outside of relationship. People can only internalize rules and laws within a grace atmosphere, otherwise they experience rules as something they hate, something that condemns them, or both: The law brings wrath (Romans 4:15).
  If you are new to the idea of boundaries and want to start developing them in your child, don't begin with the riot act: "Now hear this! Things are going to change around the Smith household." Make sure you are providing your child with emotional contact, support, and love. Setting boundaries isn't an alternative to loving your child. It is a means of loving her. Be connected to her, reassure her of how much you care. Be with her in her joys and sorrows, even in her anger at and disappointment in you. This contact is what enables her to grow.
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conversations.value: Safe people will help you help your child. Let them minister to you and him both, filling you up with love, structure, support, and guidance: "From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work" (Ephesians 4:16).
  Believe it or not, your child is an agent of this same hope of growth and responsibility. God designed him with a need to learn to take ownership of his life in submission to him. He may not be aware of that need—but you are. Remember that you are helping to develop the image of God that is already in your child and is waiting to be strengthened: "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him" (Genesis 1:27).
  Use these sources of hope as a help, comfort, and tool as you walk in his ways, and train your child to do the same.
  There's got to be a balance--and there is. Joining their expertise with the wisdom of MOPS International (Mothers of Preschoolers), Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you provide both the care and acceptance that make grace real to your child, and the firmness and discipline that give direction. Avoiding the twin extremes of permissiveness and over-control, Drs. Cloud and Townsend show how you can help your child cultivate six necessary character traits: attachment, responsibility, reality, competence, morality, and worship/spiritual life.
  The teen years can be challenging and even scary for parents and those involved with youth. However, good boundaries are the bedrock of not only better relationships, but also maturity, safety, and growth--especially for teens and their parents. In order to help teenagers grow into healthy adults, parents and youth workers need to help them experience how to take responsibility for their behavior, their values, and their lives.
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conversations.value: Let them minister to you and him both, filling you up with love, structure, support, and guidance: "From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work" (Ephesians 4:16).
  Believe it or not, your child is an agent of this same hope of growth and responsibility. God designed him with a need to learn to take ownership of his life in submission to him. He may not be aware of that need—but you are. Remember that you are helping to develop the image of God that is already in your child and is waiting to be strengthened: "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him" (Genesis 1:27).
  Use these sources of hope as a help, comfort, and tool as you walk in his ways, and train your child to do the same.
  There's got to be a balance--and there is. Joining their expertise with the wisdom of MOPS International (Mothers of Preschoolers), Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you provide both the care and acceptance that make grace real to your child, and the firmness and discipline that give direction. Avoiding the twin extremes of permissiveness and over-control, Drs. Cloud and Townsend show how you can help your child cultivate six necessary character traits: attachment, responsibility, reality, competence, morality, and worship/spiritual life.
  The teen years can be challenging and even scary for parents and those involved with youth. However, good boundaries are the bedrock of not only better relationships, but also maturity, safety, and growth--especially for teens and their parents. In order to help teenagers grow into healthy adults, parents and youth workers need to help them experience how to take responsibility for their behavior, their values, and their lives.