conversations.from: human
conversations.value: What could be a title for a story about Kirschner, Whether, Realizing with the genre: Self-Help, Relationships?
conversations.from: assistant
conversations.value: A title for this story could be 'Dealing With People You Can't Stand'
conversations.from: human
conversations.value: Give me the first four paragraphs for this story.. Start with the sentence 'Dealing With People You Can't Stand
  When you talk on the phone, you're cut off from the visual clues (the 55 percent) that would help you to make sense what you're hearing'.
conversations.from: assistant
conversations.value: Dealing With People You Can't Stand
  When you talk on the phone, you're cut off from the visual clues (the 55 percent) that would help you to make sense what you're hearing.
  On the phone, communication comes across in how a person sounds, the 38 percent, and what they say, the 7 percent. What happens to the 55 percent? When the visual elements of face-to-face interaction are removed, people often make up their own mental images. Let's say you're on the phone with someone you've never met. The voice you hear may remind you of someone else or some other time in your personal history. Or you may associate the tone, speed, and volume with a certain kind of person, based, of course, on your own experience. So you create an image in your mind's eye that makes sense out of what you're hearing, and then you respond to what you see in that mental image.
  Have you ever had the experience of meeting someone face-to-face that you'd previously talked to only on the phone and the person looked completely different from what you expected? That's because you believed the image in your mind to be real until you were faced with reality! Now suppose that you had negative feelings associated with the image you made up in the privacy of your own mind. Do you suppose this could influence the way you make sense of the words you hear? Do you suppose that the way you hear the words might influence your reactions? Of course, and quite often, that's exactly what happens.
  A phone conversation comes down to small moments in time that shape perception. All phone conversations are a string of such moments, from how you greet people when you or they answer the phone, how you respond when they tell you something, their response to your response, what you say and how you sound when you put them on hold and vice versa. And in those moments, either you're adding to or subtracting from the ease of the relationship, simplifying the next moment or growing the complexity of what's required of you. And the funny thing is, these moments have little to do with truth and everything to do with perception!
conversations.from: human
conversations.value: Give me another paragraph.
conversations.from: assistant
conversations.value: Yet another contributing factor to electronic messaging conflict: people compose their messages in front of a computer screen, where their thoughts become words in isolation. Without the ameliorating influence of immediate feedback from others, the distance between correspondents can remove the social inhibition that might otherwise cause a person to think twice before speaking. Perhaps you recall Mark Twain's caution: "Better to say nothing and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and prove it beyond a doubt." Sadly, the words composed in isolation get sent when they should have remained the private thoughts of the sender. E-mail allows for more blatant and raw expressions of one's actual thoughts.
conversations.from: human
conversations.value: Swap the first and the last sentence.
conversations.from: assistant
conversations.value: E-mail allows for more blatant and raw expressions of one's actual thoughts. Without the ameliorating influence of immediate feedback from others, the distance between correspondents can remove the social inhibition that might otherwise cause a person to think twice before speaking. Perhaps you recall Mark Twain's caution: "Better to say nothing and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and prove it beyond a doubt." Sadly, the words composed in isolation get sent when they should have remained the private thoughts of the sender.Yet another contributing factor to electronic messaging conflict: people compose their messages in front of a computer screen, where their thoughts become words in isolation.
conversations.from: human
conversations.value: Give me the last five paragraphs.
conversations.from: assistant
conversations.value: The range of emotions that you can express with smileys is astonishing. And you can add a few common abbreviations to provide even more direction, feeling, and meaning:
  Funny, isn't it, how different people are when it comes to what's funny? We don't mean to say that you should never try to be funny in your electronic correspondence. Go ahead and try! After all, humor can help people regain their perspective in difficult situations. But remember that a little kidding goes a long way, and then it works only if the other person gets the joke. Some forms of humor, like puns and other wordplay, are effective without the 55 and 38 percent. Other humor depends completely on a voice tone or facial expression. And when it comes to humor, one person's trash is another person's treasure. Unless you know for sure what makes certain people laugh, you should probably avoid being humorous. Sending them communication that they will perceive to be trash is a recipe for disaster!
  To gain insight into how humor works through the written word, we suggest you read almost anything ever written by Dave Barry. Of course, there's no accounting for taste. If you know for a fact that someone else shares your taste in humor, then you can share a joke with a friend or kid around with a colleague at your discretion. But when in doubt, leave the humor out!
  Difficult people are a part of every person's life, and apparently they've been with us since the beginning of history, when the Lord said, "Let there be light," and difficult people first came into the world. They've been here ever since, waging war and engaging in interpersonal conflict, blaming, placating, distracting, and withdrawing. Yet each of us can do something to reduce the misunderstanding and eliminate the conflict that has plagued the earth. In fact, the future of humanity may depend on each of us learning how to stand each other in spite of our differences, and in that sense there is no better time for bringing out the best in people at their worst than right now. Our children see their future in our efforts. They ask us to set a good example, do the right thing, and run a good race. So the next time you're dealing with someone you can't stand, remember this: Life is not a test. It is an actual emergency. Good luck.
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