Whakarāpopototia te tuhinga:  Kua whakakitea e tētahi kaituhi, he patunga o te tūkino i te rā, he aha ia e akiaki ana kia whakatauhia ngā kirimana moepuku 'yes means yes' hei whakahauanga i ngā whare wānanga puta noa i te motu. I whakamārama te New Yorker Amanda Chatel i roto i tana tuhinga mo Your Tango ko te whakaaetanga o te ture 'e ae ana te tikanga' e tautuhi ana i te whakaaetanga hei 'whakatau, mohio, me te whakaaetanga noa ki te uru atu ki te mahi moepuku' mai i ia hoa, ko tetahi taahiraa anake ki te whawhai i te ahurea moepuku o te hapori. 'I te mea he patunga o te raupatu, ina tae mai ki te whakaaetanga e tino whakaaro ana ahau kaore he rohe hina,' i tuhituhi ia. Heoi anō, i taua wā, he taitamariki rawa ahau, he kuware hoki ki te mōhio i tērā, nā te mea kāore au i mea, <unk>Kāore,<unk> He kaiuru pai ahau.' Te whakaoho i te huringa: I whakamarama te New Yorker a Amanda Chatel i roto i tetahi tuhinga ko ia te patunga o te raupatu e akiaki ana i nga ture 'e ae ana' kia paahitia i nga kawanatanga puta noa i te whenua. Ko te ture 'ae te tikanga ae', i whakaaetia tuatahitia i California i te tau 2014, he hurihanga i runga i te tikanga tawhito mo te whakaeke moepuku 'kaore he kore'. Ko te ture e kii ana ko nga kaareti me nga whare wananga katoa e whiwhi ana i te putea awhina putea mai i California me piri ki te paerewa whakaaetanga i whakaahuatia e te ture, e kii ana ko te kore o te aukati, o te whakahe ranei, kaore e kii i te whakaaetanga - he kaupapa i raru a Amanda i nga tau i muri i tana tukino moepuku. He roa a Amanda e whakamārama ana i a ia anō nā te mea i kaha ia, ā, he 'tino haurangi' a ia. 'He maha ngā tau i muri mai, ināianei, e mōhio ana ahau, nui atu i ngā wā katoa, kāore i whakaaetia taku whakaaetanga, ā, he tūkino. Ko te mutunga o te kōrero,' i tuhituhi ia. I kī anō a Amanda kāore i taea e ia te whakapiri i te kupu 'whakapā' ki te mea i pa ki a ia, ā, i kī ia i te whakaekenga ko te 'whakapā e kore ahau e hiahia'. I taua wa, i kii ia, pera i te maha o nga wahine, kaore ia i whakaaro ki te haere ki te pirihimana i muri i tana raupatu, he hapa i kii ia kaore ia e 'whakahou'. E ai ki ngā tatauranga, tata tonu ki te kotahi i roto i te rima o ngā wāhine ka tukinotia ā-waha i a rātau mahi ki te wānanga. Kāore he whakama: i tuhituhi te New Yorker i te mea i whakapae ia...
I whakamārama a Amanda Chatel ko te whakaaetanga o te ture puta noa i te motu, he taahiraa kotahi noa iho ki te whawhai ki te ahurea tūkino o te hapori. Ka tautuhia e te ture 'ae te tikanga o te 'ae' te whakaaetanga hei 'whakatau, mohio, me te whakaaetanga noa ki te uru atu ki te mahi moepuku' mai i ia hoa. I whakaaetia i California i te tau kua hipa, ā, kei te whakaarohia e ngā māngai kāwanatanga i Connecticut te whakaaetanga o tētahi pire ōrite 'āe te tikanga o te āe'.