viewing wedding gifts not only as evidence that various family and friends wish us well in married life, but also as reasonable recompense from a marginally just universe*** for having had to live with a wedding-related to-do list for the past six months.  While I stand by my original assertion that planning a smallish wedding is not so very difficult -- not if both parties have a decent network of friends, are reasonably competent at returning phone calls, and avoid being more than half a mile from a wirel