ther people. Not only was this a very poor way in which to treat myself,
it also consumed a tremendous amount of energy in me (to constantly manage my responses to another‚Äôs
emotional state), and created so much internal conflict, confusion, and chaos. I was always a
distant 3rd and the other person was always 1st. This was also fed by the fact that I didn‚Äôt how to
be when I was alone ‚Äî all very bad things. These all led me to the opposite state of ‚Äújust being‚Äù.</p>

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