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De-linking consent from desire

Understanding the distinction between consent and desire is essential in addressing issues of violation and ensuring respectful interactions. Desire is also often interpreted as what we “want”, but who knows all the time what they want? This strong emphasis on the person who is asked puts extra pressure on what is already happening, which indeed could end up damaging the situation even further. This requirement to give clear, unambiguous, and ongoing agreement to sexual activities, may place too much emphasis on knowing precisely what one wants at all times. This expectation can be unrealistic, as people often have ambivalent feelings about sex and desire. It is not always possible to feel this enthusiastic yes, and seeking this might lead to internal conflicts.