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[spoilers all] HBO May Reveal Game of Thrones Ending Before the Books Can by dvallejin asoiaf

[–]Jen_Snow 2 points3 points ago

I wasn't fishing for compliments or anything but it's always nice to hear.

[spoilers all] HBO May Reveal Game of Thrones Ending Before the Books Can by dvallejin asoiaf

[–]Jen_Snow 17 points18 points ago

I don't even know how we'd police them from a mod standpoint. We'd all (or most of us) would have to watch the show purely so we would know what's being spoiled and what's not. :/

(No Spoilers) Can we stop linking Benjen=Daario in r/GoT? by Madtomatoesin asoiaf

[–]Jen_Snow 0 points1 point ago

Your title is just as fake spoilery as the comments in /r/gameofthrones and so I am going to remove this post. Please feel free to repost with a more vague title.

What do I need to know about looking after a 5 year old? by foxthegoldfishin Parenting

[–]Jen_Snow 1 point2 points ago

I assumed since she had all these family rules and routines she had kids that actually did them.

Yeah, it seems like she wants to test out her parenting ideas and/or make her nephew do what she thinks he should be doing at home. There isn't an already kid-friendly house her nephew is integrating into here.

What do I need to know about looking after a 5 year old? by foxthegoldfishin Parenting

[–]Jen_Snow 3 points4 points ago

I'm sure you mean well but your post seems as if you're using your nephew as a practice child for your parenting style. Plus, as a non parent, you've got overzealous ideas about what you're going to do as a parent. We all did. Not that we all became lazy assholes once the kids were here, it's just we adjusted our expectations to more reasonable levels. Please keep this in mind.

As others have said, he's already going to be stressed out because he's away from home and his mom is in the hospital. Cut him some slack as others have said. Has he ever spent the night or any extended time at your house?

Setting rules for Aunt's house isn't a bad idea but they shouldn't unreasonable. "This drawer is off limits/This room is off limits/We don't run in this room/whatever" it is is reasonable. "In this house guests run the vacuum and load the dishwasher" is unreasonable. Because that's what he is -- he's a guest, he's not a member of the household that should be expected to do housework like that.

Pick up his toys? Yes, absolutely. Maybe you have a rule that all beds should be made. That's not unreasonable either. If he forgets on the second day and you put him in time out for it, that would be unreasonable. Just work with him -- he's in a new place with new rules and he's only 5.

My fear is that my sister and I have very different personalities and parenting styles (although my husband and I don't have kids yet) and I want to do a good job of looking after him so my sister doesn't have to worry.

You know what would make me worry? Knowing that my sibling was putting my child through unnecessary stress because she felt he didn't do enough at home and wanted to demonstrate what good parenting is. Your statement about what your nephew does (or doesn't do) at home comes off as judgey.

(she doesn't use timeout or anything, so would it be wrong to use timeout at our house?

No, I don't think so. Just explain it to him at some point beforehand. These are Aunt's rules and when rules get broken, you sit in time out. Make sure you've read up on how to do timeout right too. 1 minute for each year of age (so 5 minutes), not in some dark room or something, and don't withhold affection or attention while he's in it. So no ignoring him while he's in the time out chair or whatever. The punishment is not being able to play, it shouldn't be silent solitary confinement.

Bed times might be hard because of the new environment. Aim for what his usual bedtime is but don't be surprised if he has trouble sleeping because of the new bed, house, and the general situation. This wouldn't be something you'd punish him for, you'd just try to help him get to sleep. And at 5, it might seem like he's trying to push your buttons by continuing to play or whatever when you've told him it's bedtime but remember, he likely doesn't have words to say "I'm anxious about all of this and am afraid to try to sleep."

Ask your sister what his bedtime routine is and try to stick close to it. Maybe add an Aunt flourish. A new book, new song, whatever. Something special because he's away from home.

As for what to feed him, do you eat very differently from your sister? If you do, it's unreasonable to punish him for not liking foods he's not used to. So long as he tries it, that should count. If he tries it and doesn't like it, I don't see what the problem would be with making him a PB&J to eat instead. This isn't the time to force him to eat things he doesn't like because you think he should be eating them. Ask your sister what he likes and try to work those into your meals so he's got at least one thing to eat at each meal.

Just remember that this isn't your child. What you'll do with your children shouldn't dictate what you'll do with your sister's child. This isn't a practice run for your parenting style nor should you use it as a way to demonstrate what you think your sister should be doing as a mom.

Just relax a bit. If he goes to bed later and some of his toys don't get picked up this weekend, it doesn't mean you failed at babysitting and will thus fail at motherhood when it's your time.

What do I need to know about looking after a 5 year old? by foxthegoldfishin Parenting

[–]Jen_Snow 1 point2 points ago

there's no reason he should have separate meals than your family

Not that OP should be making entirely separate dinners for her nephew or anything but I'd hope she'd take into consideration what he normally eats. If her diet is completely different than what he eats at home, it's unreasonable to punish him for things he doesn't normally eat or doesn't like. In this situation especially when he's already stressed out from the new environment and his mom being in the hospital, now isn't the time to send the kid to bed without dinner or something.

If he gives the food a try and doesn't like it then making a PB&J doesn't seem like it's unreasonable.

Wikis and spoilers: is there a guide somewhere on what to avoid and how (dammit) ? by japaneseknotweedin asoiaf

[–]Jen_Snow 0 points1 point ago

Tower of the Hand is a great resource for stuff like this. You can filter the info based on which book you've finished.

Avoid the ASOIAF wiki at all costs. I too spoiled most events that way too.

Ignore the people you say you shouldn't be here on /r/asoiaf. They are uninformed about our rules.

Also, make sure you read the FAQs here. I'm afraid your post doesn't have a spoiler tag so I have to remove it. If you repost with a spoiler tag -- (No Spoilers) would work for you on this topic -- you'll be good to go.

Wikis and spoilers: is there a guide somewhere on what to avoid and how (dammit) ? by japaneseknotweedin asoiaf

[–]Jen_Snow[M] 0 points1 point ago

Everyone is welcome here regardless of whether they're a current reader or if they've already finished the books.

Please see our FAQs for more information.

Wikis and spoilers: is there a guide somewhere on what to avoid and how (dammit) ? by japaneseknotweedin asoiaf

[–]Jen_Snow[M] 0 points1 point ago

Everyone is welcome here regardless of whether they're a current reader or if they've already finished the books.

Please see our FAQs for more information.

(SPOILERS ASOS) Why read? by kelmermaein asoiaf

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(No Spoilers) Is anyone else avoiding any TWOW preview chapters like the plague? by SkiThe802in asoiaf

[–]Jen_Snow 29 points30 points ago

What's it called when people who are in cults get kidnapped out of them and unbrainwashed? We should sponsor one of those in time for the TWOW release.

(SPOILERS ASOS) Why read? by kelmermaein asoiaf

[–]Jen_Snow 25 points26 points ago

AFFC seems slow on your first read through especially after the excitement of ASOS. It's only after you finish and you start looking at how much AFFC sets up that you realize how awesome of a story it was. Many people (perhaps even most people) enjoy AFFC more on the second read through than the first.

Keep reading it. You'll regret it if you don't.

(No Spoilers) A cartographic study of the Lands of Ice and Fire by spaceXcadetin asoiaf

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(No Spoilers) A cartographic study of the Lands of Ice and Fire by spaceXcadetin asoiaf

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(Spoilers ASOS) What is your favorite easter egg about the books from the show. by aggieboy12in asoiaf

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[Spoilers All] The fires did not lie (Melisandre's mistake) by SerEagleein asoiaf

[–]Jen_Snow[M] 1 point2 points ago

Please see our FAQs for our don't be a dick policy.

(Spoilers All) Euron and The Three Eyed Crow. by Valar_Morghulis_in asoiaf

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Please see our FAQs for our don't be a dick policy.

(Spoilers All) Euron and The Three Eyed Crow. by Valar_Morghulis_in asoiaf

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[Spoilers All] The fires did not lie (Melisandre's mistake) by SerEagleein asoiaf

[–]Jen_Snow 7 points8 points ago

Are we sure about this though? I think it's just conjecture at this point whether she caused the deaths or just pretended to cause them.

(Spoilers All) "The Rains of Castamere" reaction video by bunka77in asoiaf

[–]Jen_Snow 14 points15 points ago

Nope.

(GoT Spoilers) Why Ghost is like he is. by TheBoraxKidin asoiaf

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(GoT Spoilers) Why Ghost is like he is. by TheBoraxKidin asoiaf

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(GoT Spoilers) Why Ghost is like he is. by TheBoraxKidin asoiaf

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(GoT Spoilers) Why Ghost is like he is. by TheBoraxKidin asoiaf

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My baby will NOT sleep by Godzillamintchipin Parenting

[–]Jen_Snow 2 points3 points ago

Toddler_Snow was almost 11 months old before he would nap by himself. Sometimes I still have to go back and put him back to sleep but those instances are rare nowadays.

It'll happen eventually! It didn't seem like it would for the longest time but it did. I'm now holding out the same hope for him sleeping all the way through the night.

Also, I'm a huge fan of /r/VelcroBabies and subscribe to it. It's just the kind of place I wish had existed when I was in OP's shoes.

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