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Hate, Detox, Backlash and a Board of Directors: Mandatory Member Reading.

I want everyone to know something very important about myself and MySaline.com. I've been saddened and angered to see the behavior that has come out here in grown adults. Bickering, name-calling, lies and other childish and downright evil character has become  what many people think about when they hear the name "MySaline.com."

This website is something I've worked hard on for  nearly five years. I've made it into something that people already know about before I can tell them. It's made me a local celebrity. People greet me all the time now and I have no idea who many of them are. This might sound cool and exciting, but as soon as someone speaks about what's happening on the site, it's all about...  

  1. What I must be going through because of the  lawsuit against members of the site, 
  2. How the site is covered up with  hate and  negativity from people who don't even sign their own name to their comments. 

I don't know if this is going to make sense to you, or if you'll even read this, given that you're either one of the people guilty of this behavior or you're one of the people avoiding the site because of that behavior... But here goes.

As alluded to above, MySaline is my baby. I've spent countless days and nights - and overnights - feeding it, teaching it to walk and talk and cleaning up after its messes. I got my baby to a point where I didn't have to watch her every second. She was able to feed and dress herself and be rather independent. I was the proud parent for some long time.

Now what's happened is comparable to a stranger coming in and pushing drugs on a child. The parent's efforts don't have the same effect on the child. The child pulls away and becomes engulfed in the new culture of poor decisions and regrettable consequences that come with her new habit. A  terrible, sad and hurtful habit, both to herself, her parents, and to society in general.

You want to raise your child to be a healthy, positive contributor to society. You want her to be successful and beautiful in as many ways possible. When find that your child is on drugs, you feel that you've lost her. You feel you've failed her. You'll do whatever you can to bring her back. The damage is done and you can't undo it, but there is something a parent can do.

This is the hard part.  You have to strip away the things that are harming her, but she's addicted to them. You have to separate the child from the drug and watch her scream and cry and shiver through detox. I will also compare this to having to make that painful incision in surgery in order to get the tumor out from under the skin. The tumor that's consuming your child's flesh. 

I'm speaking in parallels because this is one of the more difficult things I've had to write. I need desperately for you to understand what's about to happen. Moreover, I need your help in deciding what should happen next. I've paused and breathed deep and walked away a couple times and come back to this writing since eight o'clock this morning. We don't always get to say exactly what we mean, but I'm putting my best into this. 

You know that I have allowed anonymous members on MySaline.com because there are some things that must be said. Many times, the person who must say what must be said will become someone with something to lose after they have said it. This is the only reason I have allowed it. What's happened is that certain members have taken that freedom and run in a full-blown, no-holds-barred direction akin to dropping a piano on the sidewalk to kill a weed.

Last night, a longtime MySaline member that I call friend asked me a simple question: [paraphrased] "Has everyone on MySaline gone flat crazy?!" Next, another friend and member since forever expressed how awful it is on MySaline, particularly close to election time and she hasn't checked in for a while. Then, still another friend who's been a member from nearly the start said that he hasn't been on in a long time. He didn't say why, but I know. These remarks from good and trustworthy friends cut me. I felt at that moment like I wanted to delete every member who didn't put their name behind what they say. For a few minutes, this really was my decision. Luckily for you and for me, my very best friend called and interrupted my thought process. 

So here's what's going to happen. I'm going through the site today - yes, on election day, of all days - and I'm deleting the troublemakers. You've seen me make several appeals over the months and years for members to read and take care to follow the site agreement. It's so very simple, and yet people don't do it. Some people even say they are following it - or after I've messaged them to talk about it they say they'll do better to follow it. They aren't. They just aren't. I say "they" because I'm assuming at this point that the troublemakers have stopped reading. So here goes.

I'm certain this move will provoke much fork-tongued backlash to show up in my inbox... From the people who never cared that this isn't just any website. It. Is. My. Baby. MySaline.com has got the heart of the close-knit community of Saline County in it. That's you and me. This site is no longer a hobby for me - I've quit my day job and benefits and regular paycheck to turn the crank on this ice cream maker until it no longer makes ice cream. Or until nobody is left that likes ice cream. The name "MySaline" is now synonymous with "Shelli Russell," my own name my parents gave me. I want my family to be proud of that name; proud to speak of what I do. 

So if you're with me, I'll need your help. I'll need you to give me suggestions about what the site needs. I'll need folks who care to get together in person on a regular basis and discuss what's working, what isn't, and what's next for MySaline... your watering hole, your history book, your go-to for community questions and more. All these members aren't for nothing. Let's make MySaline.com fun, informational, easy, and hate-free.

Please email me at shelli@mysaline.com if you're in for any of that last paragraph. I'll add you to the MySaline Army and after the election tonight and after the Freedom of Speech Rally June 1st, we'll rock the snot out of this bad boy.

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Comment by Laura Butler on May 27, 2012 at 12:08pm
You got it, Jerry! The motto is don't worry, be happy. Or else.
Comment by Shelli Poole on May 26, 2012 at 1:29pm

Thanks Al! I'll add you to the Army - and I sho do remember you and appreciate your support!

Comment by Al Smith on May 25, 2012 at 9:19pm

OH YES; YOU CAN ADD ME TO YOUR ARMY

Comment by Al Smith on May 25, 2012 at 9:15pm

I for one have found"your baby" a breath of fresh air.  I liked  your site and how it has enlightned our community.  I tell new businesses to contact you and have you come and interview them and how you help new and old busisnes to be known in our community and how they can payback by advertiseing on your site.  I for one do not pay much attention to those who use fictitious names.  If they do not want be identified they can do has newspapers do and sign them anonimous.  But in respect for your site, if they want to be members they should be proud enough of your site to join with their real names. I have seen good people make comments and then be Bullied, yes bullied for there ideas and made to feel stupid. Good people can agree to disagree without insults.  I for one am proud to be a member of this site  and want it to remain as you first intended it to be.  I do not know id you remember meeting me at Dentens or not but I extended my support and wished you well  and later commented on what a fine  and inteligent lady you are. I still believe that and know you will make the right decisitions for the beterment of our community.So take it from an old 71 year old who wishes you well.  I for one will pray for your success.

Comment by Beau on May 23, 2012 at 10:36am

snot rocking. yeah.

Comment by Brenda Rhodes on May 23, 2012 at 10:32am
I would love to help you with ideas for the site, brainstorming or anything else you need. I am at your service. I learn something everyday from this site and I love that about MySaline. I know this is your baby, but you have lots of aunts, uncles and cousins that are willing babysitters. After all, it takes a village! Thanks for all you do so that we can have this great place to hang out.
Comment by Brad Moore on May 23, 2012 at 9:26am

...never mind.

Comment by Mark Twine on May 23, 2012 at 7:43am

I have always stayed well back from "the line" but I do enjoy the anonymity that this site allows.  There is a certain freedom to being able to speak that way, but some have certainly gone to far.  The finding the right balance  between accountability and the ability to speak with impunity is a difficult task.

Comment by Al Smith on May 23, 2012 at 4:23am

I have been with you ever since I discovered your site and tell all my freinds how level minded ypu are about the site and believe you are non particent.  Saline county needs this site and all your working for. I try to ignor those hateful comments that are useually untruths.  I also do not put much covidence to those who hide behind anonomuse names.  I decided to ignore them.  Your doing good work Shellie and I will continue to support you and this site.  We can all agree to disagree without the mude slinging.  You come along way, SHRLLIE; KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.  Al Smith

Comment by Shelli Poole on May 23, 2012 at 12:15am

I want to be sure everyone knows that I'm not saying you need to change your name to the real one or be booted. Maybe there will come a time when I'll figure out how to verify anonymous members, but for now, you are safe so long as you are following the site agreement.

An update: I've received one email from a suspended member and it was rather cordial. Folks do keep me guessing.

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