Feeling nervous while talking to people, difficulty in socializing. Any advice?
Patient: Hello. I would like to have help with a nervous problem of mine. I am kind of good in social situations, but when meeting new people, and i think highly of them as in if they are high status people, i either avoid the situation or become really nervous when speaking. Sometimes, I choke right in the middle of the conversation because of my nervousness . I love meeting new people and such, and at night time when i go out to party, i dont get this problem. but in school, (im 16 years old), i cant socialize and talk to new people because my nerves get the best of me. Any tips? I would like to have other advice than going to therapy . Thank you in advance, Alex. Doctor: Hello and welcome to Healthcare Magic. Thanks for your query.  The problem which you have described is indicative of social anxiety. Though you have mentioned that you are able to meet people and socialze, there seem to be certain specific social situations where you become anxious and nervous.  The best way to deal with this problem (other than going for therapy) is  not to avoid such unpleasant social situations and to slowly keep exposing yourself to them in a graded manner. You can also learn and master relaxation techniques, so that when exposing yourself to such situations, you can readily deploy them whenever you become nervous. As you keep practicing this, with every step forward you will be able to gain more confidence and overcome your nervousness soon.    Wish you all the best.  Regards, Dr. Jonas Sundarakumar Consultant Psychiatrist