Single + below average + short + male = hope
933478
This book provides a fun look into the modern dating scene. KC shares his dating experiences and lessons learned from the perspective of an average or below average guy. I found his adventures comical and his perspective on relationships and how to treat yourself and others uplifting. Its nice to know there are nice decent people out there. I found myself rooting for KC and I hope he finds a girl that shares his values and interests. Its tough to be a single and below average guy these days.
3501879
For attractive young women looking to "catch" a young, successful, professional, semi-decent looking guy, this is your book.  The 3 authors pooled their insights and share a 30 year old male perspective on commitment, living together, getting engaged and the like.  Their strength is telling about their world, but it's a world that not everyone lives in.  I think they have a pretty good handle on "hooking" a guy emotionally and physically....being careful not to scare him away, but there is a spiritual quality of love that is being missed.  That type of understanding would not be expected from these guys based their age and background.  But hey, it's a decent read, great title and I'm sure they'll sell a lot of books.  But I hope they did not assume that this was a book for meant for non-Yuppies because it's not.  And if that was the case, I'd have to lower my rating.
4254337
This book helped me realize I was dating a guy who clearly had no intention of ever getting serious with me.

I bought this book because I was having mixed feelings about a boyfriend I was hoping would love me back. While this book was painful to read, half way through it I realized the guy I was in love with most likely was staying with me because he didn't like being alone and it seemed he would continue dating me until he found someone he liked better. The book helped me realize I needed to dump a guy who was using me and find someone who would love me back. I told him the next day I loved him but loved myself more and was going to find the kind of man I needed..

While I know there may be lots of exceptions to the reasons they gave for a guy not committing, this short and painful book helped me face the fact that I had been wasting my time loving a guy who did not share my feelings and was not worth my time. Glad I bought it because I dumped that user and have since found someone who respects and loves me back and that, to me, is as good as it gets.
1887753
Good read. Short, digestible chapters.  Single theme with many perspectives.  We are all living for something.  Are you living for the right thing?  Men over 35... This book is for you!
3808002
I'm a single 25 year old man and thus not the intended audience for this book.  But it made me feel so much better about my dating experiences:)  It may not be politically correct to say, but a lot of young women don't know what they want and are just too picky and shallow in their 20s.  Gottlieb has done the world a great service by trying to wake these young women up to what they are missing by rejecting the decent if not perfect men that show interest in them.  Sorry ladies, but time is not on your side and the sooner you realize that and start looking at things besides a mans income, height, and wardrobe the sooner we can all be happy.
4730082
You choose to stay in an unhealthy relationship,then you choose to always be unhappy! Fear of being alone is not a good reason to stay,that which does not kill us,makes us stronger ~Single is not a status,Single is in a relationship with Freedom & Freedom is Power,its better to stay single than lied to,disrespected & cheated on. Being single is better than a broken relationshipTwo ppl could be together for decades but still are complete strangers cos they've never learnt to understand one another

This was an ok read, bit too soppy for my liking though, so glad I got it when it was fre
225068
Empowering Single Women Everywhere!  Reminding us we're worth it and not to settle just because we're single ...  Center yourself with God and He will bring the right person to you at the right moment! In the meantime ... Celebrate being you! Thanks Mandy!
3313514
This book is a good quick read for any male. It is for those who are currently in the dating world and those that were in the dating world. It is funny because we all should be able to relate to his stories.
4041952
I married late in life, and I'm glad I did.  But my reason for staying single for so long was simply that I am a person who has a lot of things I like to do -- I enjoy music, reading, writing and I am a teacher -- all of which kept me very busy.  And I noticed two positive things:

1.  I refused to get into a snit about being single.  I simply wasn't worried about it.  Single life was good to me and I had a great time (minus the offensive questions I would be asked).  I dated occasionally, some times a lot and sometimes seldom.

2.  I didn't wrap up my identity in a man.  Although I got a lot of verbal garbage from other people, I knew I was OK even if I wasn't married.

I have now been married for seven years.  By John Molloy's standards, I had a snowball's chance in Uno Where of getting married, but it happened.  And believe me, it was not done through John Molloy advice!  If what John Molloy says is true (and perhaps there is some truth to it) then the relationship is of no value to me.  If a man my age or older wants a 20-year old, then no matter how much I respect myself, the dude isn't going to marry me.  And I'll be better off.  If most men really do value beauty and fertility more than anything else, then I don't want most men.  The calendar and Mother Nature will age me (as it will the man).  Some things are worse than being single, and one of them is trying to fit into this silly game.

Fortunately, I don't think all men are like this.  There are plenty of rational guys out there, and my advice to women is this:  look for them.  They exist.

Not all women are contented to be single, I realize.  Although I am quite a worry wart by nature, oddly enough, staying single was one thing I did not worry about.  To be honest, I don't know if my husband is Alpha, Beta, Kappa or Omicron.  But I do know this -- our relatioinship is of great value to both of us.
2129199
Hey man.
Just listened to your recent pod cast about hope- led me to find this amazing n beautiful song. Thank you.
I can sense your real genuine vulnerable self and its contiguous. Congrats on your up coming wedding.
4003024
If you are single and feel like you're stuck trying to find the mate of your dreams then this book just might be what you need.  Well written and easy to read, you'll find it hard to put the book down.  Getting the reader to find a perfect match is what this book is all about.  It covers all of the basic steps needed to make this a reality.  At the end of each chapter there are a series of action items that help to apply the material covered in the text.  This book is a great resource for singles of all ages.
1026717
This book basically teaches you how to asess your RMV or Romantic Market Value. This is very helpful for singles because many people walk around with an inflated sense of self. We all consider ourselves good catches for one reason or another, but there are many factors that go into finding a mate than what we see on the surface. This book in a way also debunks the myths of their being a "shortage" of AA men out there, which is simply not true. There are still more African American couples than there are interracial couples as society would like for the masses to believe. This book discusses most if not all of the factors that weigh on African American relationships and that's why it's a classic.
1567141
In 2008 I made the choice after 15 years of an awful marriage to get myself back. I knew I deserved better and believed that God would bring my perfect match to me. I had no idea, thought how unprepared I was for the dating world. After about a year and a half of dating disasters, I decided that I was the common denominator in my failures. Looking inward was a scary step for me but led me into a year of self-discovery that I never knew was possible. This book was one of the many that I read that peeled back the layers for me. I began to learn how misled we are as women by mainstream media to be easy and let things slide that we shouldn't, basically to be way too understanding when a man is being a jerk and to spot even the smallest hints that he is acting in ways that I shouldn't accept. Girls, if you are tired of getting stepped on, stood up, waiting around and disrespected, get this book. It may help you to identify why things are going wrong and help you to fix the things in yourself that will bring you to the right relationship. I kept my original copy I found in Half-Price books in 2010 and plan to give it to my daughter when she turns dating age. Tonight, I bought a copy for my niece who is in a crap-tastic relationship at the tender age of 21. I also recommended it to my sister.

I had to tear myself down to the framework and rebuild how I handle myself with men, but it was completely worth the effort, and actually quite fun and empowering. I married my perfect match in June 2013. :)

I also recommend the following: Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man; Christian Carter's Catch Him and Keep Him; He's Just Not That Into You; Rory Raye's newsletters; a book that speaks to you about finding your inner goddess; a book about internet dating if you are new to that; Why Men Love Bitches and Why Men Won't Commit. If your self esteem is low, look for Loving You Before Him.
481773
It is so simple now to avoid wasting your time on someone who is not into you...You could say...let the bee come to the flower...or look for someone who will swim through shark infested waters to bring you a lemonade....My high school sweetheart is one of those "guys"...Now I know what I want, and I am worth it...
1240395
Very cute story.  Short and sweet. When one man is not a good man. Don't close the door on the next man he may be your blessing.  I like this love bites looking forward for more.
1505578
Hope.

Such a wonderful and fragile thing.  When we are young, we hope for a bike for Christmas, or a puppy for our birthday.  That that cute boy or girl will notice us.  We hope to get into a good school.  That we get a great great job and a hot car.

We hope for love.  For that special someone to be ours.

And sometimes, we just hope that this time it will be real.  That we don't get our heart broken.  That we have one more try in us...

James is a forty something year old professor at a community college in California.  Betrayed by his partner on the East Coast, he has moved out West for a new start.  Three years later, he and Marlowe, his Boston Terrier, have each other, and that's enough.

Raphael is a late twenties blue collar Hispanic guy who looks like an underwear model.  Unlucky in love, he stays one foot in the closet to make his Catholic family happy.  He plays tough guy, but his heart is a tender one.

When Raphael's friend, who just happens to be in James' class, sets them up, will sparks fly or will the past hurts and the age difference keep these two apart?

This book is, at heart, all about hope.  James' hope that life hasn't passed him by.  That forty doesn't mean the end.  That his lying cheating ex didn't kill that spark in him, that fragile hopeful heartbeat of romance and love.  And Raphael's hope that someone will take a chance on him and not make him choose love over his family.  That being Hispanic working class doesn't mean unlovable.  That his fragile painful hope that James will put his heart on the line with him and not leave him hanging out there alone isn't in vain.

"Well, sometimes small dreams had grandeur, he thought with dignity.  Sometimes, the small dreams were all a person needed to live."

God, Amy Lane gets it so right.

These two men dare to dream small, but hope bigger.  And, thank God, sometimes dreams come true and hopes are answered.

Because when I read this fine, fine book, my hopes were given given wings.  Hopes that romance can conquer fear, that love doesn't quit being possible at 40 (or even 50), that there are still men out there who have the balls to say things like "I get laid plenty, baby.  I don't remember ever being asked to sleep.  There's different kinds of loneliness, Jimmy." and mean it.

So, thank you, Ms. Lane, for writing a beautiful love song to hope.

Tom
1273168
returning not typer friendly keys way to clkose together if your a guy with bigger fiongers forget ity youll hit two buttons at once ,wish theyed startt makinbg thingsd for men and weomen again bercause we are not creatyed equal; brainwise yes buty thats about it./pretty soon all us ghuys will be werar dresses and pumps,god forbid