But it is enough that he took great advantage of my weakness and the admiration I felt ...
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the amazon bio needs updating' here it is
The latest news on Tariq Ramadan does not come from France, where he is in prison awaiting trial, after several women (Muslim)  accused him of rape and extreme sexual violence. You surely remember his very first accuser, one Henda Ayari, who had earlier written about Ramadan in her book Jai choisi dtre libre (I Chose To Be Free), giving him the alias Zoubeyr because, at that point, she was still terrified of what he might do to her, given how violently he had already treated her in their encounters. Ramadan is both very powerful and, as she knew, very sinister. In fact, her fears were justified, for once she bravely accused him publicly, she received more than 3,000 death threats within just a few days. She now is forced to live under round-the-clock guard.
Here is how she had described Tariq Ramadan, giving him the name Zoubeyr:
This man, Zoubeyr, transformed before my very eyes into a vile, vulgar, aggressive being  physically and verbally, she wrote. And then she explained that she was now giving him, in the wake of the Harvey Weinstein scandal, his real name: Tariq Ramadan. For modesty, I will not give the precise details here of the acts he made me submit to. But it is enough that he took great advantage of my weakness and the admiration I felt for him.
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It had helped me a great deal. I can recommend the it to any person in need of overcoming the spirit of rejection.
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Some days I pick up this book during a free moment, pick a page and start reading.  Some days, I pick it up and move it from my office desk to my nightstand.  Some days I seek out this book because there's something going on in my world that calls for a reminder of who I am and where I fit in to this life.

Soul Proprietorship was given to me to read by a good friend.  I was going through some particularly rough stuff at the time and was already on the way to realizing on my own that my coping skills need work.  I can get through anything - if there's nothing I know for sure about myself, I know that - but the way in which I've gotten through hasn't always felt right.  And this time more than any other time in my life, I was overwhelmed with issues that were slowly but surely overcoming me.

The friend that gave me the book actually had no idea the turmoil I was dealing with - we were friendly acquaintances at best.  But he recognized somehow that I was struggling and gifted me with Soul Proprietorship.  It didn't fix me, it didn't solve all my problems, it didn't give me pat answers to tough questions.

Instead, I got something so much more valuable to me than all of those things.  I got a physical manifestation of courage.  The more I read (and re-read), the more I thought about what I was reading and how Al's teachings correspond with who I am at the core of my being, I realized that I was holding in my hands what had been eluding me for so long.  Courage.  I have been afraid for as long as I can remember.  So long that it doesn't even occur to me most of the time that I operate from and make decisions based on fear.  So long that in the midst of all my personal turmoil, I was at a complete and utter loss as to where to turn, how to deal and how to manage this mess I felt I had created.

Soul Proprietorship spoke to me in a language I could understand.  Al's style is sincere, heartfelt, plain spoken and truly logical.  I decided to trust in his voice rather than the one in my head and it's serving me well.  What I learned more than anything is that it's not about fixing.  It's about being able to be present in your life and making the choice to deal with what comes your way.  Good, bad or indifferent.  Ask yourself out loud what is the worst possible thing that could happen if you made choices that completely correspond with who you are on the inside?  The real you.  The you that's maybe gotten lost.  I discovered that the worst possible thing isn't nearly as scary or daunting as I thought it was.

Someone handed me courage in the fall of 2009.  I am grateful.  I am paying that forward.
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oh it has been wonderful I was shocked out how much of his hair I was able to brush out and help stop the clumps of hair all over my home
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At first I was like "Oh god how could I be so dumb! I'm doing everything wrong." But as I continued reading I felt myself want to take the pressure off myself. I am smart, funny, accomplished and have my life on track. I'm a total catch and if your "just not that into me" that's your loss and I'll keep looking. We all deserve real true love and happiness!
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This book got me to reflect on my life as a father, son, husband, brother, friend, and most of all a scared human being who wonders every day "am I actually making it or faking it."

Brene,  if you read these reviews, you need to know that you have helped me in so many ways. I know that lots of what I do is already great, and I also know that when I make mistakes, or those times I look back on that I am not so happy about, I can feel guilt not shame.  That is the freedom I now have to show up and dare greatly for the rest of my life.

Thank you.
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Rather brief, I don't really feel that I know the man much better than I did.
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I wanted to give 4.5 stars but since that wasn't possible I felt 5 was most appropriate. This is a simple and sweet read. The author is sometimes a bit over-the-top in his self-deprecation (he can be awfully unforgiving of his faults, flaws and mistakes!) but he was so genuine that I couldn't help but find myself really liking him. It was Mr. Gill's sincerity and vulnerability that won me over and I found myself feeling truly invested in his journey.

*SPOILER ALERT* I had expected some sort of lottery win-type of ending, where the hero is restored to his former glory, or whatever, but it was satisfyingly "normal". It was Mr. Gill's sincerity and vulnerability that won me over and I found myself feeling truly invested in his journey.
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His head didn't look as full as I thought it would but he worked for what I wanted it for
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I really felt touched and part of Caleb's life as he proved he could build a successful life beyond slavery.
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Makes one feel humble...plan to pass it on to my nephews.
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I get made fun of on a regular basis for caring this "man-purse" but I feel like it gives me nerd superpowers
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From one type of connection to another,for me this is the greatist for the price.
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I thought at first that it was going to be so sad, but on the contrary.  He was such a sweet boy, I found myself right there with him.  His gift of music just overwhelmed me and just a bit much on the music a few times but I enjoyed it as I play the organ.  How he becomes a man and comes to know himself was very poignant.  I Loved it.
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Really helped my ubderstanding, so that I could do well in class.
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I HAS HELP ME TO LET GO AND STOP HOLDING ANGER IN FOR PEOPLE WHO DID ME WRONG IN THE PASSED.
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Before I read Betrayal Trauma, I obsessed over the details of WHAT had been done to me, to protect myself from the deeper and more devastating knowledge that I was severely betrayed by people who were expected, by society, to protect and care about me. As I let go of my denial that their behaviors were the norm, and accepted that they had wilfully chosen to betray me, I felt and fully experienced the deep, foundational pain that I'd secretly feared might kill me. I was stunned to realize how their innumerable betrayals had kept me separated from the rest of society for DECADES. Armed with that knowledge, I was able to let go of my childishly unrealistic expectations, and emotionally disconnect from them. As I let go, I realized how lonely I was. Although I'd used my inner selves in the past decades for company, I now dared to reach out to external others.  As I did - miracle of miracles - I began to fully integrate. (I've been tested recently, and no longer have DID, although I still struggle with PTSD from hell.)  Some of the healthy people I've since chosen to trust, love, and bond with have become members of my new family of choice. I cannot, in words, sufficiently express the joy and happiness I now feel when I interact with them. I never would have experienced this marvelous part of ordinary life, had I not allowed Dr. Freyd's words to lead me through my foundational pain. By example, she blazed a brave path that I am fortunate to have found and followed.