Great book, saved my marriage
927261
Great book. Powerful insights and very practical ideas that really worked in my marriage. In fact, I would say that this book saved my marriage. The

author has other products that I would recommend also...the tele-boot camp

is even better than the book and it comes with the book included. I should

have just gone for that from the start. Recommended.
1351568
This is an excellent book for married couples to read. The 7 strategies shared to keep your marriage in or bring your marriage back to a healthy, positive one are great!  I highly recomend this book.
1502236
This book had transformed our marriage.  My husband and I were about to separate when we came across this book.  Gary Thomas does an incredible job of addressing the biblical role of both husband and wife in a non threatening, yet very effective manner.  If both partners are open to examining themselves and letting God's truth transform them than your marriage will enter a new level of intimacy with God and with each other.  My husband and I read it out loud together. We took turns reading a page and then talked through the questions at the end of the chapter.  We did one chapter per night. We just finished and we both wish we would have gone through this book 20 years ago when we were first married. This book will be one that we will give to each of our three children when they make plans to marry.  This book has been so transforming for us that we plan to continue working through books together.  The one we are starting now is called "The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment" by Clifford and Joyce Penner.  Our marriage counselor recommended it. So far it's wonderful.  Another to add to the list of gifts for the kids when the get engaged.
3594508
We are almost done reading but immediately this book changed our marriage. We were arguing almost daily for months.... now we have had about 1 arguement in about 2 months and we resolved it easily. HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS!!!! Dr. Laura is also on Sirius stars channel mon - fri - she is awesome if you like hearing the truth
1628954
My relationship with my husband has been dull lately and feeling as though it's falling apart. I saw this book bundle #31creativeways to love your spouse and I just had to get it! This book helps bring your marriage back to life, it pushes you to be more engaging with your spouse in such a positive way, it pushes you to be encouraging, thoughtful and more loving toward your spouse. This is exactly what my husband and I needed, I'm thankful we had the opportunity to go through it together. I encourage every marriage to go through this book together with your spouse :)
4854940
I remember reading this book in the early 1990's and learning life lessons from Pat that literally saved my marriage.  Although most "self-help" books manage to make everything into a formula to follow, Pat does a great job of showing that persistence and consitency are the keys to taking a damaged relationship to a fufilling relationship where healing and restoration are found in the midst of a relationship with Jesus Christ.  Wonderful pattern for all readers to follow!

Unfortunately, after this book was published, Pat and Jill seperated and finally divorced.  According to Pat's autobiography, Jill was unable to overcome all that had happened in their marriage.  The pressure of raising so many children and living in the limelight of the NBA was difficult for their marriage to overcome.

Therefore, I recommend that the reader stay focused, persistent, and consistent in the battle to save your marriage.  Just because Pat and Jill were not successful, be encouraged!  God and you can do it!
2317868
My marriage is having its fair share of trouble I bought marriage fitness in hopes it would help give me insight. I receive the daily emails from Mort Fertel already and figured right now I am willing to try anything. I got this book yesterday and literally read it in one day. It has so much to offer and its a very easy read. I know I will have to go back and review it, but it really pulled me in. It made me see where some of the problems lie and helped me to stop pointing fingers and really open my eyes. To look at the big picture.  I have not implemented any of the processes yet as I just got the book yesterday but I think they are feasible and do able. Mort talks about how we need to have talk and touch charge. He talks about planning business meetings with your spouse. He opens your eyes up to how giving is better than receiving and how to know what to give. Love conquers all and Mort explains that in this book. Its very easy to read and to understand. The words just flow, you are drawn in. He often references problems he had in his marriage so you can see the results.
I would recommend this book to any one that is either struggling in their marriage or looking to revive their marriage before its too late. This book is not directed to either spouse so it can be read by either or both parties.
109471
I must say getting ready for my upcoming wedding has me kind of flustered. That is why I chose this book when it was offered. I am just trying to proactively act on marital problems before marriage I guess. I am really happy that I read this book! I was really surprised at all the information in it about the actual neuroscience behind feelings and emotions.

Dr. Henslin has done a magnificent job connecting neuroscience with Love. Of course he mentions numerous times through out the book that Dr. Amen, of the Amen Clinic, has a great deal to do with his findings and success in marriage therapy. The book pin points what type of lover you are, and what to do to make you more compatible with the type of lover your mate is. I found this to be great, since I have suffered from severe depression since I was a child. The information I learned in there could have helped me so much in the past with my relationships, not that I would rather be there then where I am now, just would have cut down on a lot of hurt.

It is hard to explain the science in the book without actually rewriting the book for you. I recommend that anyone looking for something to help out with relationships read this book! I actually sat down with my fianc&eacute;e and spoke to him about some of the problems I see in our relationship, yeah, I can admit we have problems, but everyone does, there is no perfect relationship. I would rather help mend the things broken then separate us more by leaving each thing unattended. I am not saying I am not a person of faith, but do not follow religion as closely as I should, Dr. Henslin puts a lot of spirituality in the book, not just Christianity, but he also talks about the Jewish practices, which I found fascinating. Just the amount of emotion and everything put into a relationship in that religion was amazing to me, and with my depression, I could actually use some of those traditions, as well as my fianc&eacute;e to make things a little better in our relationship.

Again, I will recommend this book to anyone, needing any kind of assistance in a relationship. This is a wonderful book full of great information, both psychological and scientific. The things you find out kind of turn on that light bulb in your brain saying "A-HA! Now I got it!"

**Disclaimer: I received a copy of This Is Your Brain In Love by: Dr. Earl Henslin free for review from Booksneeze.com. I have given my honest opinion of this book. No other compensation was received.
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I have read lots of books that give all types of "helps" to succeed in your marriage but I especially appreciate the fact that they don't give formulas for a better marriage relationship.  They give help that really works.  I have been married for 51 yrs. and these commitments that they speak about are totally true as I have experienced them.
3732269
Really great book, easy to read and understand.  I highly recommend it to anyone who is married or thinking about getting married.
209877
I was hoping this book would be good, but it was even better than I expected! I've read a lot of marriage self-help books over the years and so far, this one's my favorite. There were a couple of sections the author could have expanded on, but other than that, the book was really good. As soon as I downloaded it, I put a few of the tips into play and I can already see a difference in my relationship with my husband. She also gave me lots of tools around the bigger issues that we're always arguing about, so I feel like I have a pretty good game plan from here on out.

These are the steps:

Step 1: Figure Out What Makes You Resentful

Step 2: Learn When to Say Yes and When to Say No

Step 3: Honor Who You Are and Where You Came From

Step 4: Figure Out What Makes You Happy

Step 5: Reframe and Retrain Your Brain

Step 6: Communicate More Clearly and Effectively

Step 7: Learn How to Have Fun Again

Step 8: Decide What Kind of Marriage You Want to Have

Step 9: Decide What Kind of Life You Want to Have

Personally, I found Steps 3 and 5 most helpful, because they helped me gain a real clarity around the big, recurring issues in my marriage. I never thought it could be so easy to change some of these patterns! Then, once I got closer to the end of the book, Steps 8 & 9 pulled everything together. I wasn't expecting it, but this book is already turning into a game changer.

What I liked:

  The writing was clear and easy to follow. I appreciated how clearly she outlined the issues, then showed me what I could do about them. It was a nice break from books that go on and on without actually giving you any useful information.

  Super-helpful tips for changing the status quo--and there were lots of them! They made the process feel actually achievable.

  Each step is interspersed with personal stories, which helped me feel like I wasn't alone in my predicament.

  There's a big section on how the past affects the present.  I found myself resisting this at first, but as I went deeper and explored my own family roots, I was shocked at the patterns I found and how directly they correlated to the problems in my current marriage.

  I liked that the book was addressed to both men and women. A lot of these books are so touchy-feeling that I can't get my husband to read them, but this time, he was open to reading a few sections alongside me. I think the humor helped.

(This book is about marriage and she doesn't say it, but you can use a lot of these  tips and techniques to better understand the other relationships in your life, too.)

What I didn't like:

  I wish she'd included more information in Step 5, the chapter about rebooting your brain. It was really interesting to read about brain chemistry and its role in resentment, and it made me want to read another book on the subject.

Overall, it's a great little book. I'd definitely recommend it for anyone struggling with their resentment. It's already helped me!
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I felt prompted spiritually to read and apply this book, so I did. My marriage wasn't bad--or so I thought. But after applying this book... the changes in me prompted my husband to share with me some devastating secrets he'd been carrying for years. I'd had no idea. I think my improved character made him feel guilty for doing the things he was doing!

He told me and swore to change. And he has. The more faithfully I apply the principles of FW, the more he changes for the better.

These kinds of secrets would have torn our marriage apart a year ago... and I know many, many women whose marriages have been destroyed by these same things. But ours is actually stronger for them.

As one example--one of the first exercises in this book is to make a list of your husband's shortcomings and just accept them. Accept HIM for who he is, even though he has these shortcomings.

I did the exercise, and honestly, from my heart, accepted him.

Later, when he confessed to me the things he had done, it turned out that every single thing on my list of things I had accepted was a side effect of the choices he had made. And I'd already accepted them. Even if he didn't change, I already accepted him, bad choices and all.

So our marriage is stronger and more honest than it's ever been. My house is cleaner, I am thinner and happier, and life is better than it has been. I read this book over and over again. It has changed my life for the better.
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I'm married 5 years. The last year of our marriage was very difficult. Long could not understand what was happening. Thanks to this book, namely Chapter 4 Strengthening Your Marriage I was able to find a solution. And now we are happy again as before. A huge thanks to the author. Must read.
839758
I have been in a small group that is reading this book together. It has been very helpful for me. I like the fact that the author and his wife were on the verge of separating, but they were able to avoid divorce. It makes everything he has to say more believable. I think every married couple would benefit from reading this.
119559
Loved this book, and I have been trying to employ the six intimacy skills for a couple of years now. When I have the discipline and energy to apply the skills mentioned in this book my marriage does flourish tremendously.  Unfortunately, I tend to fall back into my old habits, and then my marriage suffers.
3986533
After 26 yrs of marriage, I needed this book as if it were my first day of marriage. I love my wife better than before reading it. Thank you Regi!
758577
got the book for my wife, i started reading it. its well worth the price. must read for all spouses