Serious sensual research for a better sex life
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I was introduced to The Welcomed Consensus in 1998 by a woman friend of mine. She and I enjoyed our sex life together, and she kept piquing my interest with this thing she called DOing, which was apparently some special way to stroke her clitoris that she found tremendously pleasurable. D.O., it turned out, is an acronym for Deliberate Orgasm.

D.O. Volume II - Peaking has long been my favorite of this video library. The video starts with the instructors introducing the concept of "peaking". And the viewer is invited to consider taking on additional viewpoints to the ones he or she already has about orgasm.

Then the demonstration begins with the techniques of DOing and Peaking a woman. The entire focus is on her orgasm. She lies back with her genitals facing the camera. Her genitalia are strikingly alive and animated from the start, contracting visibly, as well as flushing, engorging and changing over the course of the demonstration. The doer describes in detail what he's experiencing as he stimulates her clitoris, the sense that "now she's going up", "now she's going down", and what he's doing to "peak" her. Progressively higher and more intense orgasmic peaks are built throughout this video.

The whole DOing section is filmed as a single, continuous shot, composed mostly of a close-up on her p----. I found I had to watch it a couple of times before I was able to take it all in. When the camera does pull out, a deep flush across her face corroborates her moans, demonstrating that she is genuinely getting off on the strokes. She lucidly describes what she's feeling in her body while getting DOne.

This video has simple sets, and a noticeable absence of "slickness" to the production. It's evident from watching it that these instructors are serious about their research and having people's sex lives get better. That is what we experienced.
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My husband and I loved this book.  By bringing fantasy and play to the world of relationships, author Mark Robert Waldman successfully combines psychology and sensuality in Love Games. Exercises drawn from diverse  experts, including Harville Hendrix and the Dalai Lama, can be done alone,  with a friend, or with a lover. Sometimes therapeutic, sometimes childlike  and playful, Waldman's book shows how to discover more about yourself and  your partner, improve communication and fan the flames of romance. My  favorites: "Treasure Hunt" - Tuck a heartfelt  love note under a  jar of pickles, in a box of cereal, or between the bedsheets; create a  "Couple's Journal"; make a "Pleasure List" of your most  pleasurable memories; and "Two Thumbs Up,"in which you and your  partner engage in a scene where the characters are, well, your thumbs.
186332
After seven years of marriage, the wife and I were looking for ways to spice up our sex-life, and it was around this time that we heard about the "Fifty Shades" phenomenon. Even if you haven't read the series, I highly recommend Fifty Shades of Passion: An Erotic Guide to Exploring Fifty Shades with Your Lover. In a series known for cutting to the chase, this book really cuts to the chase, and introduces you to a world of flirting, sexting, foreplay, and BDSM in a way that is safe, exciting, and erotic.

For novices like us (yes, we're vanilla. It's our favorite flavor), this book was very practical. There is a whole world of erotic resources out there that we never knew about. This book is like a one-stop directory for sexual exploration. What I especially liked about Fifty Shades of Passion is that it has plenty of sexy ideas, without reading like a how-to manual. It's more like a concise collection of well-written erotica. There are a lot of things you'll read and want to try right away. I'll definitely never look at pinwheels the same way again. Whatever your fantasy, this book will help you explore it.
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If you are looking for sweet romance, you've come to the wrong book.  But then, you must have known that before you began, and yet you're curious.  The theme here is experiencing profound pleasure -- that she slowly comes to experience in the loss of control of her body's responses, and for his pleasure in controlling her arousal and her involuntary erotic responses.  Not for everyone, perverse and revolting to many.  But if you enjoy the powerful sensation of when your body craves what your intellect rejects -- fasten your seatbelt, this author knows.  More compelling writing skills and story than most of this genre can offer.  A real libido boost, and inspiring in the bedroom.  My Audible version is heavily bookmarked for repeat listening.  Yes, even a hard-core feminist can enjoy this choice.
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When I bought this book, I wanted to better understand the mentality and the motives behind the consumption of porn. Never did I think that it would change my perception of sex, improve my relationship, and completely transform my partners attitudes towards porn and women. I especially loved the section that discussed what role sex actually plays in our lives, I became more conserned with intimacy and affection during sex as opposed to mere friction or the superficial aspects of sex. the result is that me and my partner are having more sex (sometimes 3 times a day! but definately 7 times a week) we are more open and less insecure, and our new found level of intimacy during sex has spread from the bedroom to every aspect of our relationship.

My partner stopped watching porn after reading this book, he says it made him question why he ever watched it in the first place. It inspired him to start writing about feminist subjects and he has adopted a more empathetic, and less gender biased attitude towards all people. I never expected one book to create such a dramatic effect on him! I think that in jensens description of the "king of the hill" games that boys play in childhood pressured him to adopt a persona that fit with society's perception of manhood. This was something my partner could relate to and it helped him to better understand himself and the true reasoning behind his porn consumption.

For me the book showed me the reasoning behind the fetishising of dominance over women which is a recurrant theme in porn. I am thankfull for Jensen's graphic, and informative descriptions of scenes and sex acts in porn, alongside the disection of the apeal of such acts to men. when i first saw porn I thought men where monsters, seeing titles such as "use my daughter.com", the tones of male supremacy, and ridicule directed at the actresses. I couldn't even begin to understand why men would enjoy this. Jensen's explanations made a lot of sense to me, and helped me to resolve my relationships with men, without this book I would never be able to look my male friends, family and coworkers in the eye again. Its not that Jensen excused the cruelty in porn, it's that he described the real reasons that it appeals to ordinary men. And it's these attitudes that I don't agree with, but I can understand.

All in all it was a terrific book, which profoundly resonated with me and my partner. It put our sex lives and our conseptions of gender into perspective. truely ife changing I would recomend it to anyone.
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Anyone can have a one-night stand, but how do you maintain an ongoing, sexually stimulating relationship that will last a lifetime? This book explores how to create a lasting bond with your partner and increase her pleasure as well as your own. It offers helpful suggestions and informative discussions on this delicate topic in a frank and honest way. We all have struggles in the sexual arena, and even the best marriages can be improved. This is a book for couples, not for the random Don Juan looking to score some tail. If you aren't willing to do the hard work required for a lasting intimate relationship, don't get this book. If, however, you love your partner and want to build something to last forever, this book can help you out.
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If you're trying to decide which of the new "sex over 60" books to buy, definitely choose this one. It is not a step-by-step "how to" book that might offend people, although it does cover every aspect of sexual activity--married, single, solo, gay, straight, young, old, one-night, long-term (50 years and even longer). Instead, the book provides practical, encouraging advice from experts and from ordinary women about the joys of loving relationships, dealing with sexual problems of menopause, loss of interest in sex (or your partner's loss of interest and/or ability), how to approach sex with a new partner, helpful exercises, and even a detailed discussion of sex toys and assistive devices. (I thought these were only for `adventurous' couples, but the book explains how they can make sex possible and more enjoyable for older people).

Plus, this book is also a beautiful love story which could stand on its own, even without all the excellent sex information. The writer chronicles her many relationships, from her first teenage romance (You'll be furious to learn how her father broke up what might have been a lasting relationship), to a succession of sexual affairs, including a short failed marriage. It's easy to see why she had given up on finding true love. But she never gave up on having an active, fulfilling life as a dance and exercise instructor, despite two devastating auto accidents that left her with many scars and lasting injuries.

And then, magic! In the form of a trim, gray-haired, older man she spots in one of her dance classes. These are true-to-life 60-plus people, not wrinkle-free, gorgeous-body super models, but the story of how their love and sexual relationship blossomed is a real page turner. And be prepared for a few tears when you come to a troubling revelation near the end of the story.

This is a thought-provoking, informative, encouraging book you'll definitely want to share with friends.
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As a cunnilingus devotee for several years I have bought other books on it both for the pleasure of reading them and any extra information that will help me pleasure my women this way - they have certainly appreciated it! The books have much common information - as you'd expect- but like this one they have different emphasis and different topics.  The investment in buying all the cunnilingus books isn't big - less than $[...]- and is well worthwhile for the spice it will give, both to you as a performer and your woman in the event she is a reluctant receiver.
This one has some erotic short stories inserted at the chapter ends which are good as I find reading one aloud to my girlfriend puts her in the mood for extra passionate lovemaking.
I'm not giving this book 5 stars, however, because although the information is comprehensive it would have benefited from a good structural editor and an editor should have dealt with comments such as that in the Foreword by the author that she is "uniquely qualified to write this book". Like the "ultimate" in the title this is quite unjustified I think.  The drawings are a little  lacking in finess, the publisher could have found someone better to do them.
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This is a book primarily as title says is pleasuring a woman but a little more on the oral end. It is very informative with desciption and drawn pictures. No matter how much of a master of the art you think you are you should read this book my girlfriend sure is glad i did. It also goes into alot of detail about the female sex anatomy it was amazing to learn about the amount of nerves in the love button. Read this book it is well worth the effort.
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This book is the simplest sex instruction manual that I have ever come across.  It  gives a clear, and continuously reinforced message about great sexual behaviour and risk reduction. The author uses a variety of simple approaches to teaching and learning that involve and engage couples and help them to personalise the information. The profound relaxation that typically follows G-spot orgasm in women and ejaculation and/or orgasm for men, is one of the few times we let go, surrender and relax. Good Sex promotes harmony in couples, also reduces stress, regulates behavior and improves memory. Regular and enthusiastic G-spot lovemaking can keep you inquisitive and investigative, ready and hungry for new input. In a recent study which I saw on the TV, I remember experts saying that sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. Having sex three or more times a week reduced risk of heart attack or stroke by half. Good sex is 10 times more effective than Valium and other sedatives when it comes to providing humans sense of relief, satisfaction, fulfillment and tranquility in sleeping and in depressing moods. This book has helped my personal life by improving my intimacy with my wife. Excellent book, a must read.
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I wish this book had been available when I was in my twenties, but a lot of the research in this book hadn't been done then.  This book taught me more than I've learned in 40 years of reading and experience.  And it's not just about tips and techniques, although there's plenty of that, too.  It's more about learning to express your feelings for your partner through sex using your whole body.

If you haven't read it, you should.
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The story behind ordering this book: I first ordered Seasoned Romance from Amazon.com, a book that featured story after story of older people who have discovered an inspiring life of better romance and lovemaking.

The common thread in each extraordinary story in this book was sexy seniors who each first made a commitment to become fit. That got my attention, which brought me back to Amazon.com to look for a great exercise program, which led me to order The Men's Health Big Book of Exercises, The Women's Health Big Book of Exercises, and especially this sizzling book, The Men's Health Big Book of Sex.

Definitely better fitness is a huge part of greater sex for people of any age, especially for seniors. And have a fit body does wonders for your self-image, which is a wonderful boost toward becoming more attractive and a more skilled lover.

Rodale Books, along with the editors of Men's Health and Women's Health, have combined to do a magnificent job in providing the best and most concise books I've seen.

It and the other books I've mentioned are perfect for people of all ages who want a life filled with feeling better and enjoying greater sex, certainly including us who have already blown out 50, 60, 70 or more birthday candles!
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Mikaya Heart really did her homework.  In addition to research, she interviewed a number of women of varying ages, experience levels, and sexual preferences.  Therefore, I think any woman could learn things she didn't know about her own potential for sexual response.  But the best part is, men can also learn much about women's sexuality, presented in a surprisingly open and forthright manner.  Thanks for writing this book!
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This was fantastic. Not only was the information here incredibly useful, but it was also extremely sexy. My girlfriend and I listened to the audible version of the book and could hardly keep our hands off one another, and we tried the massage techniques that were used in the book when we could no longer take it. It was an adventure, and I thank the author for sharing his experiences with the rest of us so that we can attempt to explore our own sexuality as well. Fantastic work.
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This is excellent information.  But I wonder how many people have enough time in their days to practice this.  Certainly, more fulfilling sex, and deep passionate connections with our lovers should take precedence over watching TV or many of the other mundane activities of our lives. I'm not sure American culture (as I know it) has a place for this kind of information and activity - which is precisely why we need it.
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This book as created an exclusive way for me to flaunt my sexual fantasies with my partner, it offered enough to get every couple instigated for a pleasurable time with each other. It provided me prodigious information about how to spice and make a sexting relationship more exciting and more intimate.
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A male friend with many shared interests recommended this book and I bought it reluctantly, expecting to find the same old tired refrains about unresponsive women and the equivalent of another Mars/Venus dichotomy.  Instead, I am happy to say that THE CLITORAL TRUTH makes information about women's anatomy and responsiveness more comprehensible than most books that make the same claims.  I was particularly happy to see that the author tackles the issues of G-Spots and female ejaculation by relying on women's experience instead of the academic doubts of male "experts" who seem to have very limited experience with women. The reality of a range of responses in women, depending on their beliefs, circumstances, and level of arousal, reminds us all that what we are TOLD we do is usually very different from what we KNOW we do.  This is true whether we talk about female ejaculation, multiple orgasm, ability to self-pleasure to orgasm, or teach our partners what we want and like.  Her list of resources, books, Internet sites, and workshops is wonderful.
This book is a terrific companion to Betty Dodson's SEX FOR ONE: THE JOY OF SELF-LOVING.
~~Joan Mazza, author of Dream Back Your Life; Dreaming Your Real Self; Who's Crazy Anyway; and Exploring Your Sexual Self (a guided journal).