what to say to someone that is going through chemo?
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["“I'm here for you.” Show up for your loved one and remain by their side as they go through this process. ... ", '“You are in my thoughts and prayers.” ... ', '“This stinks.” ... ', '“Let me help you with…” ... ', 'Tell a Joke. ... ', '“You are not alone.” ... ', "“Any time you need to talk, I'll listen.” ... ", '“What day works for a visit?”']
1285489
Give the person space to explain what they are going through. Let them tell you how they feel. Avoid rejecting the person's experiences and feelings. Try not to lessen how they feel.
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["“I'm so sorry. ... ", "“Thank you so much for the way you're handling this.” ... ", '“Take as much time as you need.” ... ', '“Your grandmother was always so proud of you.” ... ', '“She always had so many nice things to say about you.”']
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Someone (or a relative) is sick or terminally ill. Do say: "I'm very sorry to hear this. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers". Be sure to show sympathy by helping the person with their job.
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['“Thinking about you every day. ... ', '“Thoughts of you are always some of my happiest. ... ', "“It's good to know you're receiving wonderful care.”", '“Praying with you.”', '“In my heart and in my prayers. ... ', "“Thinking about you today and hoping it's a good one for you.”"]
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['Call ahead and ask when you should come. ... ', "Sit, don't stand. ... ", 'Greet as you always have: an air kiss, a big hug, a handshake.', 'If the patient is very sick, they may face away from you, close their eyes or be unresponsive. ... ', 'Talk about shared memories.']
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["“Whenever you need to call, I'm here.” ... ", '“I wish I could be there right now.” ... ', "“You're still in my thoughts. ... ", '“Your family is lucky to have you through all this.” ... ', "“Maybe I can't be there, but there's definitely something I can do. ... ", '“Hey, get well soon.']
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["I hear you have an illness in your family, I'll be thinking of you all. ... ", "I know we never really talk, but I wanted to let you know I'm here. ... ", "If you ever need a listening ear or want to grab a coffee, I'm around."]
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Be honest and genuine. Try simply saying, “I can't imagine how hard this is,” or “I'm so sorry that you're going through this.” Don't always ask how they're feeling. Let them know they can share what they'd like, when they're ready.
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You'll be fine! Instead say: I'm so sorry to hear that. What a shock for you. I know that there have been a lot of improvements in breast cancer treatments. (Try to stay away from the word 'progress' because it is used in such a confusing way in cancer services – disease 'progressing,' for example.)
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["Don't ask 'How are you?' ... ", "Don't just focus on their illness. ... ", "Don't make assumptions. ... ", "Don't describe them as 'dying' ... ", "Don't wait for them to ask."]
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['“Can I bring you a meal?” ... ', '“I know how much you loved this baby. ... ', '“Remember to be kind to yourself. ... ', '“Our entire family grieves with you.” ... ', '“You and _______ are in my heart.” ... ', "“I love you, and I'm so sorry you are going through this pain.”"]
53285
['“I am so sorry to hear about your loss. ... ', '“May (name) rest in peace. ... ', '“Thinking of you in these difficult times.”', '“My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. ... ', '“Thinking of you, wishing you hope in the midst of sorrow, comfort in the midst of pain.”']
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["“I know this wasn't an easy decision to make. ... ", "“I don't like this, but we're going to do our best with this time.”", "“I'm sad, of course, but I'm also glad you're in a place where you don't have to fight so hard anymore.”", "“I'm praying for you to feel at peace and to know how much you're loved.”"]
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["Tip # 1: Follow the dying person's lead. ... ", 'Tip #2: If possible, be clear that you know the end is nearing. ... ', 'Tip #3: Deal with regrets by saying, “Please forgive me.” ... ', 'Tip #4: Free yourself of hard feelings by saying, “I forgive you.” ... ', "Tip #5: Appreciate the person's legacy by saying, “Thank you.”"]
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["I'm sorry you are going through this tough time. Everyone values honesty. ... ", 'I think about you all the time. ... ', "I'm praying for you. ... ", "You're so strong to go through all this. ... ", 'You have a great team of people behind you! ... ', 'I love you! ... ', "I'm going to bring you a _____."]
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['Do not burst into tears. Every woman told she has breast cancer believes it will kill her. ... ', 'Do not avoid talking about the subject. ... ', 'Do not invade. ... ', 'Do not send YOUR thoughts by post. ... ', 'Do not offer prayers. ... ', "Do not say 'Let me know what I can do' ... ", 'Do not stop sending out invites. ... ', 'Do not try to kid us how well we look.']