Your Search for a Book on N Abuse and RECOVERY is Over!
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I was in an on/off years long love relationship with a narcissist male. A neighbor questioned me about him possibility of him having a disorder, so off I went on an internet search. I educated myself on the disorder, how Narcs treat their victims. When I realized I had been a victim still hurting and needed healing to move on, I could not find a book that addressed the NPD DISORDER, THE PERSON HAVING IT (HIM/HER), THE VICTIM HIM/HER, SCENARIOS OF A VICTIM, QUIZZES, HEALING, MOVING ON, etc. IN ONE BOOK! The list goes on! This book does not have all the professional jargon, which makes it very easy to read! IT IS A GREAT ALL-IN-ONE BOOK....! It's a blessing to have found an effective self-help guide on how to recognize a narcissist, his/her mindset, and how a victim MUST recover, and of course, how to finally move on! MY SEARCH IS FINALLY OVER!
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In search of Insperation and healing for myself I had listened to a few of T.D.Jakes youtube broadcasts. This inspired me in search of the Woman Thou Art Loosed book. I first went to the Libiary, I took our several books by T.D. Jakes, This one, here, The Devotional Writings of T.D.Jakes drew me in. I began to read, I began to write in a journal of which I have never done before, this book was a libiary book, maybe thats why, I could not write in that book. It was time to return the book, so I renewed the book from the libiary, but I also went on Amazon.com to see if they had it. THey did. They had it for .01 cents and $3.99 shipping. I bought it!,WHile I watied for it to come in, I continued to read the Libiary copy of which I take back today. I have the Amazon copy, I started from the begining, and have made pen marks in my book, and still writing things of insperation in my journal.
Let me incourage you ladies, if you have been hurt in any way in your life, this book is for  you. If you want a deeper walk and deeper understanding in your life, this is the book for you. If you have not heard T.D. Jakes before, go on youtube and type his name in. Then search for a message on Woman Thou Art Loosed and take some time to listen to it. After you have made your purchase of this book, look to see if your libiary has it so you can be healing while you wait for your book to arrive. This book covers, incest, abuse, divorce, abandonment, homomosexuality. What ever you are struggling with, what ever area you need healing in, this is the book to purchase. May the Lord begin to heal you as you seek him out in the pages of this book.
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Amazing book!  Spoke to me as a helper and as an adult who suffered abuse as a child!
One of the most helpful books this book junkie has read in a long time.  Offers hope and healing to those with ill health struggling to understand their problems as well as those who are attempting to heal from child abuse.  As a helper I recognize this is very cutting edge research that is definately not the same old stuff!  Will give as a gift to many I love.
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It's My Life Now fills an important gap in the literature on domestic violence.  There are several great books out there that help bring the abused to the point of recognizing that they are in an abusive relationship that they must escape.  These books help clarify the patterns and cycles that are common to so many abusive relationships.  When searching for help and healing myself, I largely encountered books that told me how to get out, get safe, and (had I any children) get custody.  But at that point, I had already fought my way out of my abuser's grasp and was searching for something to help me untangle the webs of control, humiliation, and verbal abuse I had endured.  I was also struggling with difficult feelings of guilt, loss, and anger that I needed some guidance to process.  That is where this book came in: the practical guide to regaining yourself after enduring abuse and/or violence.

What is so valuable and remarkable about this book, compared to many others, is that it walks the abused through the complicated (and admittedly frightening) time AFTER she gets out of the relationship.

It begins with the typical identification of abuse and abusive behaviors, but as this book is written for those who have already left their abuser, this list serves a different purpose.  In an incredibly reassuring and helpful chapter that addresses the feelings of love for the abuser that may still remain, we are asked to make a list of the qualities that were attractive in him in the first place.  Then, we return to the initial chapter's list of abusive behaviors and make a list of what type of abuses were committed and with what frequency.  The positive list serves to reassure the abused that she had compelling reasons for being attracted to the abuser, while the abuses list reminds her that the abuser (however charming) is not who he seemed.  There are many more simple, journal-style exercises that I found important for gaining insight and perspective.

The book addresses key issues I encountered in the uncomfortable period that ensued within one week or two of leaving my abuser.  The author also recommends that readers return to these topics and exercises one month later, for comparison.  (Perspective is everything.)  I have emphatically recommended this book to the women I have met in domestic violence support groups, who have returned nothing but praise for the usefulness, pertinence and clarity of It's My Life Now.  I have found it invaluable in my own process and will continue to refer to it when I require strength or guidance.
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What an amazing book! After being angrily accused of being a narcissist, and told I should look it up and start therapy, I found this publishers site. After reading some articles I knew I had to get out! What to do? What to expect? Am I being too tough on her, should I try harder again, was it my fault she started a fight right after I paid for dinner? The reasoning behind all this is in the book. Although I'm not in a new relationship with Crazy, I'm just trying to find answers to fix the relationship, but this book helped me realize there is no reality that will allow this to work. Since leaving I have found peace, clarity, and friends all around who were waiting for me to get through the fog. Life is beautiful again my friends... That is until Crazy started showing up, stalking, and harassing me at work! Which was warned about in some of the articles that Crazy just won't allow her control over you to be lost. A court order is on its way, as I'm taking the steps to make my life, my life again. I want to thank the publishers, writers, whoever was involved with this, for helping all of us out here in the fog looking for a light and to please keep it up. I want to say to anyone looking for help, this book is a great help for couples with a crazy ex and great for singles too! Keep your head up and don't give up on yourself! Freedom isn't far away.
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Sean Blackwell's work, including "Am I Bipolar or waking up?" has given me such hope with my struggles through mental illness and recovery.  His book reads very well!  His videos on You tube have given me hope to know there is room for improvement with mental health recovery, and not the life sentence of psych wards and medication!!
This book is on my high recommendation list!!
Thanks!
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I suffered great emotional and physical abuse as the child of an alcoholic father. BUY THIS BOOK if you are or were in the same situation.
The outcome of reading this book and lots of therapy was a profound change in discovering why I reacted to life the way I did. D'ont wait until you are in your forties like I did. Get help now!! I found out I suffer with PTSD-Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I have read many other books like this one. They all helped in one way or other. Now because of all the help I got for myself I'm doing much better. So get a therapist and read all the info on this subject you can. Its not your fault! But you can do something about those panic attacks,depression,and the way you react to the world. Also contact A.C.O.A. the Adult Children of Alcoholics on the web.
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So glad to have found Peg Streep and Daughter Detox. I find myself exclaiming out loud when I'm reading this book!  I'm not finished reading it yet because I have been highlighting things that apply to me. It is so helpful to realize I'm not alone in my journey. Peg explains things in layman's terms, meaning it is really easy to understand.  I've read several other books about narcissistic mothers and her book takes the cake!  Also she uses other people's stories (with first names only) so you can usually find someone who has experienced many of the same things that you have. She also posts little quipets on face book that are really helpful. These little quipets have been taken directly from her book. I truly think that when I finish this book I will be well on my way to recovery or at least have the tools I will need to do it. Thanks Peg, for using your life story to help the rest of us unloved daughters recognize ourselves in your pain.
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This is a no nonsense book that is great for people in any level of recovery. It is easy to follow, and gave me so many "AHA" moments, that I highlighted page after page! I lent it to someone, and never got it back, so I ordered a "used" copy for a little over $4. It looks like it has never been opened! I expected dog eared pages, writing, SOME signs of use! Needless to say,I am VERY pleased!!. It came very quickly, too! YAY Amazon!!
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I've been scouring books for help in my recovery.  This is the best book that I have found.  Of course, the book ended too early and I would love more helpful direction as I move forward.  I was married to a sex addict for 17 years.  We divorced.  Afterwards, I thought I had forgiven and healed.  I felt confident and ready to move on.  However, after starting a new relationship several years later found that I have triggers and episodes of reliving deepest fears and hurt.  I am at a place ready to and hopeful about fully recovering, so I find this book truthful to experience and very relevant for me.  Thank you to the author!  Well presented work.
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After having serious panic attacks and developing phobias and OCD behaviours since 2007 life seemed to be stuck in the past and it seemed to hurtful to continue even living.
I never thought that stopping medication after 6 years could be so difficult really, so I stopped and everything seemed OK, but 2 months later PUM!!! the big shock I had the biggest relapse ever! couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, couldn't drive, work, or anything, I was just NOT self sufficient and yes I was completely in a downward spiral towards the most hurtful place a human being could ever experience.
I end up in the hospital for the 5th time in my life 'cause this anxiety was something I just couldn't cope. I was admitted in psychiatric help and I just remember screaming "Please put me back on meds or do just something to remove this nightmare I am living in!!!". The doctor didn't seemed to impress with my desperation and she just told me: "I can't medicate you, this is a battle you need to overcome just using your mind and no medication is necessarily, but wait, she said: I have a plan for you, go back home and read this book starting tomorrow and come back in a week"
It's been 3 months since that happened and even though I am not completely fine, I could say I feel 80% better, I haven't been so disciplined applying the techniques either because I feel that I can cope with the way I am feeling now. It is really sad but you have the tendency of feeling just bad and you just get used to.
Other thing that has really helped me has been mindfulness meditation, and I think that this kind of meditation is exactly what Dr. Weekes meant when she said on the chapter that talks about Masterly Inactivity it is exactly what mindfulness meditation is about. This meditation has been shown by scientific proofs that not only change the way you perceive the world it actually does change your brain wires or whatever physically.
Conclusion. As the Dr. Weekes said: The first step for your recovery is the understanding of your illness, and this part is given by the book the second half is definitely the practice. I will update my review once I feel 100% cured, because I know I will be there soon.
Dr. Weekes truly truly truly saved my life. I know everybody wrote the same but I don't feel any way different than this. God bless this lovely woman.
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I am a non-offending parent of a sexually abused child. This book is exactly what I needed last year as we were not only introduced to the dark side of sexual abuse, but the failure of the system that is in place to protect our children.

This is an easy book to read and will educate and validate you to the process of protection (or lack of) that you will encounter on this journey.

Claire has hit the nail on the head. Her years of experience and insight is a blessing to all. Thank you!
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FINALLY!!!  A manual, of sorts, on how to FINALLY heal many types of mystery illnesses.  After having two near-death experiences (that I now firmly attribute to a viral toxic overload) which left me with hypothyroidism, chronic fatigue, and adrenal burnout symptoms, thanks to Anthony's book, MEDICAL MEDIUM, I FINALLY have HOPE for HEALING!!!  I could hardly put it down until I had read every single word and then urgently put the practical applications and suggestions into action. The immediate results from the nutritional aspect alone have given me more energy and clarity than I've had in a very long time.  Thank you, Anthony, for giving me my life back!  This awesome book will help so many silently suffering people!!!
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Thank you for writing a complete, insiteful, useful book about anger.  Ive searched and this one is by far the best.  It gave me all the tools I need to begin the work I have to do to heal and get to the root of my issues unresolved.  In addition, a much needed section on how to communicate because part of the challenge for me was not knowing how to say what I was feeling.  I will purchase this in paperback edition as well and keep it bedside as a reminder that Im not alone through this journey and when I feel misunderstood I will have this beautifully written resource to help guide me through.
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All of this stuff is incredibly useful to know!  I wish I had found it sooner.  The trauma bond is what makes it difficult to leave the 'relationship'.  It is no different from Stockholm syndrome for a POW.  It is literally a drug addiction but it is not really the narc you miss it is the drug from the abuse.  So take heart it is not him/her you are missing.  Do some googling around for how to heal the 'trauma bond'.  Until that is addressed you cannot truly recover completely.  Read more here:&nbsp;<a data-hook="product-link-linked" class="a-link-normal" href="/Your-Brain-on-Love-Sex-and-the-Narcissist-The-Biochemical-Bonds-That-Keep-Us-Addicted-to-Our-Abusers/dp/B01CUOPKF8/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_rvw_txt?ie=UTF8">Your Brain on Love, Sex and the Narcissist: The Biochemical Bonds That Keep Us Addicted to Our Abusers</a>.

Also, realize that you have an additional childhood trauma that most likely needs to be addressed as well.  If you didn't you would not have been targeted.  Not all Empaths are targeted.  1) 'Know yourself'. (many empaths don't know they are empaths or are focused on others and confuse other's emotions with theirs.  Discover your identity and keep it safe and separate.  2) 'Love Yourself'. You should not need outside validation, love should come from within.  If you love yourself you will not be susceptible to love bombing or insults to the same extent. Put boundaries up to as a defense. Nobody should love bomb.  3) Set clear and hard boundaries and NEVER let anyone violate them.  Nobody should ever try and make you feel their life or problem is so bad that you should make an exception for them just this one time. Never feel you need to give more of yourself than you are comfortable with, set those boundaries and don't adjust them.  Nobody but a predator would ask you too or try or guilt you or pressure you into it.  Look at the Exorcism book and be sure to have clear hard 0 tolerance rules for manipulation tactics or anything that seems off or fishy.  Learn to say NO and be OK with that.  If you do those three things they cannot even get their hooks in so they will not target you or they will give up and look elsewhere.  Your weakness is not your trust and willingness to be vulnerable.  That fosters intimacy and love.  Keep those as they were but search for books here on 1)Know yourself 2)love yourself 3) boundaries.  Add those 3 and they cannot exploit those other 2 nearly as easily.  Just don't share the super personal stuff too soon.  They should reciprocate, and obviously, it should check out.  Let people earn trust over a couple years.  Infatuation should never feel that strong.  They became what you wanted them to be, and infatuation while normal, is not real, but when it is that perfect it is almost definitely wrong, and you should look closer.  There are things that will give them away. Their fuel will go stale and they will have to start the devalue. When they do they will hit those boundaries you have set around all the attack points and you shut it down.
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I can't say enough about this book!  The author UNDERSTANDS and VALIDATES so much!  She understands that people who haven't been through trauma really DON'T understand-especially if they see your abusive spouse as "nice".  She also understands how many Counselor's don't understand either, and end up being deceived, thinking the abusive spouse is the nice one because of their ability to seem so.  She even gets that some Counselors are toxic themselves.  Yikes!  This author understands SO MUCH, with compassion and a hope for the future.  I'm only part way into the book, but it truly is one of the best books on abuse that I have every read-and I've read a lot!  Thank you so very much for writing this book!
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Reading this book is like going from taking ibuprofen to mask the pain of a problem to undergoing the precision of neurosurgery that pinpoints alleviates, and remedies the exact source of the pain . The emotional healing is the first domino in the blessing of spiritual, mental, physical, financial and relational restoration that comes through the power of this information.
Knowledge is power and for those of us who have survived narcissistic sociopaths and psychotic abuse this gives us our power back.
Healing From Hidden Abuse book gave me more than head knowledge, it healed my heart. It offers me a way to reach out and offer hope to others which gives purpose to my pain. I look forward to the vibrant and supportive community of survivors this book will galvanize at [...]
This is the bible for hidden abuse recovery. Thank you Shannon for "comforting us with the comfort you were comforted with" . You not only walked the journey you took the time to return to that deep, dark place and offer us a guiding hand to freedom.
Authors offer education and/or entertainment , heroes offer hope. Thanks for being a hero