Explaining the Macho Attitude
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I enjoyed this book and learned so much that I bought copies to give to friends. I wondered where these macho fixations came from (especially in the Republican Party) and now I have a better understanding of their origins.
I think it is must read.....even more so in this important political year.
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No More Mr. Nice Guy is a GREAT book  However, the title is misleading, the purpose of the book is to boost confidence and help men reclaim power in their lives, it does not make men jerks.  The author points out that you are the only person on this planet responsible for your needs, wants, and happiness.  By boosting a man's confidence and ensuring the man's needs are met, women are naturally more attractive to these men.  The greatest aphrodisiac is self-confidence.

The characteristics of "Nice Guys" are men who have difficulty setting boundaries in relationships with women and become doormats.  The men often feel as helpless victims and seeing another person as the cause of problems.  Many nice guys live life trying to gain approval for others.

Many nice guys did not have their needs met as boys.  As a coping mechanism to try to get their needs met, they try to be nice.  Later in life, Nice Guys apply the skills learned as a boy in dealing with women - by being nice - it does not work.  When being nice does not work, the Nice Guys try to be even nicer.

Men need to set healthy boundaries in relationships with women.  Avoiding conflicts in relationships is problematic - Women do not feel safe with a man they know they can push around.  A woman wants to know you will stand up to her.  That is how she will feel secure in the relationship.  There is a catch - she has to test to see if she can trust you.  When you set a boundary, she may strongly test and push against the boundary.  She will tell you that you are wrong for having the boundary and do her best to find out if the boundary is for real.  Generally, when women feel secure, they feel loved.  When a man stands up to a woman, she believes he will likely stand up for her.  Setting boundaries creates respect and makes women feel secure and feel loved.

Around 50%+ of marriages end in divorce and usually the mother has primary custody.  This places the boy in a subservient position to women and minimizes the father's influence.  The mother has a profound influence in upbringing of the boy.  Mothers teach their daughters to be more independent and teach their sons to be "nice boys" - dependent on women's approval.  During the formative years (0-5 years), most of the boy's school teachers are women, so they learn to be subservient to women.  The boy must be nice to gain the teacher's approval and earn good grades.  In essence, most of the boy's power figures are women and he must be nice to win their approval.  Nice guys learn that their needs are not important or having needs contrary to the women's needs is bad, so they try to please others and become miserable in the process.  They become wimps, doormats, nice guys - whatever to avoid conflict in relationships and try to make their women happy.

During the formative years, when a boy set boundaries with either his mother or female teachers - he was taught that it was alright to have those boundaries violated.  Later in life these boys grow to become men, but use the outdated strategy developed in childhood to deal with women - by being nice and trying to make women happy at any cost.  Since Nice Guys learned to sacrifice themselves in order to survive, recovery must center on learning to put themselves first and making their needs a priority.  That's what this book is about.

There were 27 reviews on the book; I read all of them before buying the book.  I also read the 3 new reviews since receiving and reading the book.  A book of this nature cannot please everyone - it will save some relationships and bury some relationships that have been long dead.  Depending upon your life upbringing, the book will either apply to you or not.  Since I started reading the book, I have been raving about it.  Get this book.  I bought a second copy to send to a friend.  I even recommended friend who is a single mother raising a son to get this book.
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Shipped and arrived in very timely manner. Great book on how to be more man and not so much people pleaser/pushover. Read if you feel you have been used or under-appreciated by people
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Would reccomend to any man who wants to grow in the area of personal development and how to be a man. I would also recommend the books: The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi, The Manual by W. Anton, The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida, How to Be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne, and No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover, just to name a few.
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Loved the book, really gives you some insight as to how men operate in relationships.
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this is a quick read. I really enjoyed it. It was very no frills, just good advice from a man's perspective. It was an honest look at the facts. Men are what they are and they think differently than we do. (No kidding! lol) I would recommend this book to help you get along with all the men in your life, not just the one special guy. Very helpful
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Although the title sounds a little 'one sided' it is far from one sided. This book is an excellent tool into the thoughts of men.
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The rub against Hemingway is that he was a macho guy writing about guy stuff like hunting, fishing, bullfights, boxing, etc. This book is about a young couple who fall in love with the same beautiful woman. Good stuff.
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Iron John is about taking men back, through myth and legend, to the source of their masculinity, and finding a middle path between the greater awareness of the "sensitive new age guy" and the power and vitality of the warrior. According to Bly, the wild man has been prepared to examine where it is he hurts; because of this, he is more like a Zen priest or a shaman than a savage. The wild man is masculinity's highest expression, the savage man its lowest. Mythology beckons us to enter fully into life, with all its blood and tears; the way we achieve full realisation of ourselves is to focus on "one precious thing" (an idea, a person, a quest, a question) and the decision to follow it at any cost is the sign of maturity. When we make a clear choice, the king in us awakens and our power are finally released. If used rightly, the wild energy can become a source of delight to everyone in its refinement. How else can we explain the unconscious admiration for a glorious knight or a man in a starch white uniform and medals? This image represents the civilisation of warrior energy. Appreciation of pain and sorrow, Bly says is as vital to a man's potentiality as is having the ability to soar in the air.
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Mr Centeno has a knack for style advice made for a man who has good basic knowledge and helps to fine tune the way I want to present myself.  At the same time for the guy who is just breaking into dressing better than the average schmoe can easily make sense of the advice and put the knowledge to good use.

I was at the airport last month and was told several times how people either liked my "look" or my "style" I've been reading Antonio's works and several of the blogs he has contributed for a few years now and it appears that following the advice contained within has paid off.

Thanks for your advice!
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Mike Bechtle has an easy-to-read, personable writing voice. What I love about this book is how Mike treats both sexes with respectwomen and men may think differently, but those differences don't make one better or worse than the other. In fact, through the descriptions of the way a man thinks, Mike is able to dispel negative stereotypes that are portrayed in media, stereotypes that belittle men.

This book is helpful because information about men can really help a woman not get so offended when a man behaves in a way that confuses her. She can understand better why he does it and know its probably not personally against her.
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I think the biggest lesson in this book is that both genders have their strengths and weaknesses due to upbringing and socializaton, and it's important to know the difference because that influences how they react to anything you say or do. Men want sex, women suppress sex. Women want emotional intimacy, men suppress vulnerability. Very good insights.
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I wish that I had read this book before my last failed relationship. I had lost my way and my manliness and became a weak and needy little wimp. I aimed to please my woman and lost her respect for it. This book is not about being a jerk, it's about being a MAN. Something that we have slowly forgotten how to do in the last few decades. Read this book and learn about how to get your manhood bad, to be honorable, to have the respect of your woman and be her strong protector again. Turn things around and tip the scale of power by taking control of your manliness today!
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I did read the book why men love bitches. That one was longer.  I loved the way this was written and that it was written by a man.  It's written the way your best friend my explain it... with caring but pulling no punches. I can definitely feel confident about applying the advice.  The authors noted research validated his advice but his notes about it weren't long and droll which made it a fast easy read.  Because it's short and to the point, i will keep this book handy bc i need it in my arsenal as i move forward and practise the principles.
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This is an important book. Short but there is more to it than meets the eye. True, it is full of homilies and conventional wisdom and is written in an evangelistic style. But these do not detract from the underlying message  they are indeed it's strengths. They serve to bring the message home. Namely for the reader to sit back objectively and take a look at himself, take stock of his aims and goals in life. Being an Alpha male is a mover, an action guy, as the author explains, but the reader gets the impression that Alpha male is a  young man setting out in life. But every generation has its image of the Alpha male. The Alpha male at 25 is a completely different animal to that at forty-five. (If you don't believe me, ask any woman!) This is the weakness in the book. The world in which we live is highly competitive and crammed with defence mechanisms which make life tough for the Alpha male. Also there is a danger of Alpha male slipping into becoming macho man! Unfortunately the author touches only briefly on these or how to counter them. Thus I am giving the author only four stars.
 However, his message is clear: being an Alpha male needs thought and strategy. This book will set him on the way to getting his act together.
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The author of this book really knows what he is talking about. I like the way he explained about women who are very sensitive and emotional and also about men who are supreme in bed but very respectful in public. This book will help you know more about your partner.
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I enjoyed this book and would recommend it to all the following guys:

  1. Those who are young and totally inexperienced with women.

  2.  Those who are experienced with women but are finding they are not at all happy with their results.

  3.  Those who never had a good heart to heart talk with their father as to how to choose and handle women.

  4.  Those who had a good heart to heart talk with their father as to how to choose and handle women, but feel that the advice they got is not really working because some of it may just be a bit (or very) out of date.

  5.  Those guys who are totally fed up with women wanting equal rights when all the benefits are being handed out but still expecting us men to always pay their way as though we are still in pre-1950 America.

I don't agree with everything Marc Rudov says, for instance that men and women are basically the same except for their plumbing and socialization.  He does, however, give a lot of good advice concerning avoiding women who will end up destroying your life, not to mention being a royal, permanent headache if you unfortunately marry one in spite of her annoying, abusive, destructive, and/or self-destructive behavior.  He includes what to look for in a woman in addition to what to avoid, and why.

My only problem with this book?  Mostly generalized instead of real, nuts and bolts, how-to advice.  This won't be the last book you'll need on the subject, but it's certainly a really good start.