Great book! Best i've read yet on everyday what seems like harmless narcissism!
595203
This is by far the best book on dealing with high functioning narcissism. I struggled for nine years with a woman that exhibited all 7 of the deadly sins contained in this book. When we think of narcissist we often think of very ugly people that do their best to destroy everybody in their path. This is totally opposite when dealing with a high functioning or closet narcissist. Most times the things narcissists do are so subtle it takes years to realize why you couldn't deal or ever really communicate with them in a healthy way. You also learn alot about your own mistakes in the relationship and how to move on and create a new, more powerful and healthy relationship for yourself. Whether you stay with the narcissistic person or start anew. This book also has great insights into why and how narciisistic personalities are born. I've only recently realized what I was dealing with and I've read many books already and this is by far the best out there. I can stop my research here. Everything in this book will help you understand all dynamics of narcissism. A great read well worth your time and investment.
2702075
I'm not done with the book yet, in fact I just started chapter 2 but already this book has already been immensely helpful in identifying some huge problems Ive experienced in a few of my relationships I've been in, especially this last one I'm having trouble leaving. I recommend this for everyone to read, including people who have not had any experience with a narcissist before, so that you have the knowledge and identifying the characteristics and are better equipped to avoid these relationships at all costs. Trust me, having the knowledge beforehand is way better than fumbling and tumbling along wondering what the hell happened and why you're being abused.  It's empowering having the knowledge and I'm so grateful for being pointed in this direction. Highly recommend reading to everyone.
3944253
Extremely insightful and hit on key areas of shame after providing a wonderful overview and definition of shame. I think it's a book everyone should read!
2356068
Upon reading several reviews here on this book, I completely understand why one may think it's manipulative.. Then there are others who view it oppositely like myself. I'm more than halfway through the book right now and as I have been going about my day I actually feel less "self-absorbed" as the book mentions this several times. How selfless is that? If you look at it in those terms, which is how I CHOSE my direction during this amazing read. Robert Greene is a realist which is what people seem to be afraid of and shy away at times. It shows in his writings which may turn off people. Just like any philosophy, not everything is to be taken to heart. Everyone can certainly apply some of this information and make it their own. It is NOT exclusive to the opposite sex either. It's applicable in life, business, sales, developing new friendships etc. while Robert Greene is my favorite author, I will still not necessarily apply Everything from his books nor agree with everything 100%. Make it your own!
2171596
Right from the begining this book grabbed me.  I feel the author must have interviewed both me and my husband before writing this book.  I also know it wasn't me, or my bad judgement.  I also find myself listening to my husband talk and me thinking, yes, I just read that part!  I am looking forward to finishing this book.  I have a paper version for home where I can make notes and highlight.  While I can do the same in the kindle, it allows me to read in public in privacy with no one knowing what I am reading.  If you are married or dating a narcissist or psychopathic person this book is the only one you will need. You will identify what you once questioned, and get stronger and supportive of yourself in the process.
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<a data-hook="product-link-linked" class="a-link-normal" href="/Why-Is-It-Always-About-You-The-Seven-Deadly-Sins-of-Narcissism/dp/0743214285/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_rvw_txt?ie=UTF8">Why Is It Always About You? : The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism</a>&nbsp;is simply the best book I have read on narcissism!

Grade A:  Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism
Sandy Hotchkiss (Psychologically incisive.  She shines light on our own narcissistic vulnerabilities, helping me to understand so much about general human behavior that had previously eluded me.)
<a data-hook="product-link-linked" class="a-link-normal" href="/In-Sheep-s-Clothing-Understanding-and-Dealing-with-Manipulative-People/dp/1935166301/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_rvw_txt?ie=UTF8">In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People</a>. (A must read, especially if you still have the naive belief that most people are basically "good".)

Grade B:
<a data-hook="product-link-linked" class="a-link-normal" href="/The-Wizard-of-Oz-and-Other-Narcissists-Coping-with-the-One-Way-Relationship-in-Work-Love-and-Family/dp/0972072837/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_rvw_txt?ie=UTF8">The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family</a>(Good introduction)
Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed by Behary, Wendy (If you have committed to staying with your narcissist, this may give you tools to help them re-parent.)
The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection: Coping with Narcissists by Lerner, Rokelle (add little to your theoretical understanding of narcissism (basically quote Hotchkiss throughout her book) but provides insight as to what therapy is like for the narcissist and how to assert boundaries if you are married to a narcissist)
Narcissistic Lovers: How to Cope, Recover and Move On (best if you are post breakup)

Grade C:
<a data-hook="product-link-linked" class="a-link-normal" href="/Malignant-Self-Love-Narcissism-Revisited/dp/8023833847/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_rvw_txt?ie=UTF8">Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited</a>.  Lacks the emotional wisdom of&nbsp;<a data-hook="product-link-linked" class="a-link-normal" href="/Why-Is-It-Always-About-You-The-Seven-Deadly-Sins-of-Narcissism/dp/0743214285/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_rvw_txt?ie=UTF8">Why Is It Always About You? : The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism</a>.

Grade D:
Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents by Brown, Nina (I could not even get through this one.  The writing is not engaging.  More of a checklist than a written narrative or case studies)
2818612
Very insightful book. Like another book I read it picks up on subtle and not so subtle ways narcissists and emotional cripples use to make one knuckle under their tactics. Whether it is a family member, boss, co worker or someone in a relationship it keys in to their methods and gives vital clues on how to pick up on them and head them off at the pass. It also gives insightful glimpses on how NOT to choose them as lovers  and partners and recognize the familial ties that created the attraction to controlling, narcissistic people who cause great harm to their victims. It teaches one how to recognize them, and their tactics and how to keep them from harming you or running you over emotionally. Would recommend to anyone.
614064
Great nudge in the right direction! I need to read this book over and over again - lots of good practicals and tips for combating negativity!
3680575
If you think that you're acting in unusual ways and feeling frustrated at work for no discernable reason...you may want to read this book. In it you'll find out what destructive narcissists do in the office environment, and it will convince you you're not imagining the slow drain of energy and increasing discomfort you feel! Brown's detailed descriptions not only of the work-related behaviors of destructive narcissists but also of the feelings these behaviors inspire in others is concrete and helpful. Especially useful is her delineation of the four response stages that you might feel when confronted with a destructive narcissist--she rightly identifies a process of initial elation, when the person is entirely focused on impressing you (I would call this the "honeymoon" period, which comes from the language of domestic violence), to confusion, self-doubt, and then overwhelming frustration. She then offers practical coping strategies that you can enact immediately and that really do work, whether your workplace narcissist is your boss or your colleague.
Just knowing that *you* are not overreacting or imagining things is the best reason for reading this book. This book appeared on the shelf when I most needed it. Although I would have liked to see a chapter dealing with how destructive narcissists can actually enlist the help of others in the workplace in their quest for control, in general I found this book very helpful and enlightening.
3774073
I haven't finished reading this book yet but it's already had an impact.  It's helped me understand so many attitudes regarding family, friends and, most importantly, myself!  I've already begun incorporating some of the principles of the book and what a difference it's made already!  I'm actually enjoying catching myself in the self deception mode and getting out of my box.  I'm looking forward to finishing the book and applying more of the principles to my daily life.  However, do not expect this to be a one-time read or a one-time fix.  To be successful you will have to apply the principles every single day of your life no matter what situation arises. But I think the rewards, internal as well as external, will truly be worth every moment of effort you put into it.  For me the book is written in the way I learn best -- through story telling.  Thank you for a job well done!
3200430
This is a wonderful book.  I constantly refer to it and it helps me understand how and why people act!
4371445
I liked this book .I was to the point helpful because my husband did the same things ,but not very often. Until he got older. It has gotten worst. He never cheated on my ,he always comes home from work. So this man she did mention if he cheated.  A lot of Narcissists dont.
3949687
Loved this book. Takes very simple themes and thoughts and puts them in a very enlightening way. A must read for those who want to better themselves!
1652319
This book was recommended to my husband by his therapist due to his narcissistic, alcoholic mother issues.  It's like this book is a written timeline of his childhood and all that entailed.  It's so well done and so thoughtfully put together that it's an easy read for absolutely anyone.
If you even remotely think this topic might apply to you or to someone you love- do not hesitate, do not pass go and do not collect $200...  put this book in your shopping cart and hit "Purchase".  I feel very confident in telling you that you will NOT regret it  :-)
3852105
<a data-hook="product-link-linked" class="a-link-normal" href="/The-Little-Book-on-Big-Ego-A-Guide-to-Manage-and-Control-the-Egomaniacs-in-Your-Life/dp/0978705904/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_rvw_txt?ie=UTF8">The Little Book on Big Ego: A Guide to Manage and Control the Egomaniacs in Your Life</a>&nbsp;Excellent! Very helpful and useful book to use at work, at home and almost in any life situation. Must read for all! Highly recommend it!
61383
I would recommend this book for anybody going through narcissistic, or any other type of toxic abuse in their life.
325823
I had never heard of this author but a friend and I were chatting and she recommended this book. I signed up for Kindle Unlimited just so I could read this (and I think I will continue with it). I am so glad that I did! This books is awesome! Tina tells her story and adds in the right amount of humor. I was worried I might have some PTSD from reading it, which I have had with other books about abuse and narcs, but I did not. I read it quickly and loved it. If you are dealing with a narcissist, read this book.