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"Well, Save the Date reader Kayla has quite the predicament on her hands ...\nPinterestFacebookCan&amp;#39;t you just propose at home? Sheesh!\nWrites Kayla:\nHelp! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years and I&amp;#39;m ready to tie the knot. The good news: My boyfriend says he wants to get married. The bad news: He&amp;#39;s hinted that he&amp;#39;d like to propose &amp;quot;up high,&amp;quot; like, in the mountains and on a road trip, which means there would likely be skiing. I&amp;#39;ve been skiing once before and wound up walking down the mountain because I couldn&amp;#39;t stop falling. I also fell off the ski lift and hit my head. The closest I want to get to a mountain for the rest of my life is the ski lodge. I&amp;#39;ve told my boyfriend this&amp;#8212;he&amp;#39;s the one who took me skiing that one time, so he knows how bad it was&amp;#8212;but he seems determined. How can I tell him that, while the sentiment is sweet, I don&amp;#39;t want a mountaintop proposal?\nHere are my thoughts:\nHmm ... since you&amp;#39;re thinking your boyfriend&amp;#39;s going to try to drag you up a mountain again, I&amp;#39;m guessing that skiing is something that&amp;#39;s a pretty big part of his life.\nI don&amp;#39;t think you can outright say, &amp;quot;If and when you&amp;#39;re giving me a ring, I don&amp;#39;t want it to come during a ski trip&amp;#8212;and I really don&amp;#39;t want it on top of a mountain.&amp;quot; That just comes off as rude and presumptuous.\nWhat you can do is broach the topic of your independent interests and see how he feels about the fact that you don&amp;#39;t plan on becoming a ski bunny. Ever.\nThe thing is, I think when you&amp;#39;re single, you imagine yourself with a partner who has the exact same interests as you. But once you find your perfect someone, that&amp;#39;s not always the reality. Rory doesn&amp;#39;t like watching The Bachelor any more than I like going to Phish shows. Blech. And that, it turns out, is a good thing. We both have friends who like what we like, so every now and then we spend a night apart, get our fill of &amp;quot;outside interests&amp;quot; and then come home to each other, where we can share the things we both enjoy, like cooking for friends and watching Modern Family. As long as you understand and appreciate your differences, they shouldn&amp;#39;t come between you.\nSo I suggest you cook your boyfriend a nice dinner (Engagement Chicken, perhaps?), pour some wine, and say something to the effect of, &amp;quot;I know skiing with your friends is so important to you. Does it bother you that I really hated skiing and never plan on going again?&amp;quot; Then maybe mention something you like that he&amp;#39;s not that into. &amp;quot;I think it&amp;#39;s fine that we like different things&amp;#8212;I don&amp;#39;t want you joining my knitting group!&amp;#8212;as long as we&amp;#39;re together at the end of the day.&amp;quot; You could also bring up things that you do share: &amp;quot;I love that we both love sailing and playing Wii and reading the Sunday New York Times in bed. I hope those are things we can enjoy together for the rest of our lives.&amp;quot; While you&amp;#39;re pointing out your differences, you&amp;#39;re also pointing out all you have in common, which should leave you both feeling good about your relationship. You might also discuss things you&amp;#39;d like to try together as a couple down the road&amp;#8212;traveling to wine country, getting a puppy&amp;#8212;to get the wheels moving on the &amp;quot;our future&amp;quot; discussion.\nIf the conversation goes well, hopefully he&amp;#39;ll see where your coming from and a change of plans will be in order.\nLadies, what do you think? Do you agree with my advice? Or do you think Kayla should be more direct? Do you think her boyfriend will miss the point if she doesn&amp;#39;t come out and say, &amp;quot;Hey, buddy. Mountain proposal? N-o!&amp;quot;? Have any of you guys ever been in a similar situation?\nHave a wedding-y dilemma of your own? Click here to e-mail me!\nMore reader&amp;#39;s dilemmas, solved!\n\n&amp;quot;Help! I&amp;#39;m in a Serious Funk!&amp;quot;\n\n\nHave You Ever Had a Pregnancy Scare?\n\n\n&amp;quot;Um, My Boyfriend&amp;#39;s Parents Walk Around Half-Naked. Weird?&amp;quot;\n\nMore Ways to Get Glamour\nVisit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10!\nEnter the latest Glamour sweepstakes!\nFollow us on Twitter\nAdd us to your iGoogle homepage\nPhoto: Jupiter Images"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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