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"PinterestFacebook*Dear Emily, *I&amp;#39;ve been in a sexual rut, so I&amp;#39;m looking for some fun ways to get excited about sex again. I&amp;#39;ve heard you suggest erotica as a way to get turned on, but I find the majority of porn to be a huge turn-off (especially the kind my guy watches). Am I missing something here? Or is there porn out there that&amp;#39;s better for me? And if so, how do I find it?\nSincerely,\n*Angelica\n\n\n\nDear Angelica,\nYou are not alone in your porn predicament. The truth is, there are plenty of women out there who feel just like you, who want to enjoy porn but don&amp;#39;t and aren&amp;#39;t sure why. What many of us don&amp;#39;t realize is that the majority of porn we see is made for men, by men. So if you&amp;#39;re feeling left out of the pleasure, don&amp;#39;t worry&amp;#8212;the porn you&amp;#39;re watching was probably not made with you in mind.\nYes, a large portion of today&amp;#39;s pornography is aimed at heterosexual men, and men are visual creatures; they get turned on by things they can see. From the male perspective, boobs, butts and vaginas&amp;#8212;and the way they can be used for male pleasure&amp;#8212;makes porn the perfect medium for getting guys off.\nWomen, on the other hand, are wired a little differently. We get turned on by a complex cocktail of emotion, attraction and aesthetic, and we like porn that stimulates us on multiple levels. This is why erotic material with intricate story lines has proved to be so popular among women (hello, Fifty Shades). We love to see beautiful people in flattering lighting act out our fantasies. We want to see sexual chemistry (and believable orgasms). At the very least, we want to see porn that puts emphasis on female pleasure.\nWhich leads me to the biggest issue with male-focused pornography: It often degrades women, reducing them to sexual objects and reinforcing the idea that women don&amp;#39;t actually enjoy sex as much as their male counterparts. Which we, as women, know to be complete BS.\nBut good news to women everywhere! There is porn out there that can get you in the mood, it just needs to be the right kind of porn. Female sexuality is a complex thing, with few women responding the same way to stimuli. One woman&amp;#39;s trashy porn could be another lady&amp;#39;s treasure, which makes it difficult to pinpoint what will work for you. To start simply, the right kind of porn will actually arouse you; it will introduce you to sexual acts, positions and erogenous zones that you may want to explore. And the best kind will spark new fantasies and desires, and will empower you to reenact them.\nMy best advice to you is to start your exploration with some female-friendly erotica.\nFemale-friendly porn is usually created by women, for women of all sexualities, depicting their fantasies instead of the typical male ones. This type of erotica uses sex-positive imagery, emphasizing mutual consent and respectful relationships. The women involved are shown enjoying sex as much as their male counterparts and receive most of the attention, meaning there are fewer gag-inducing blowjobs and &amp;quot;money shots&amp;quot; and more realistic orgasms. These films can vary in intensity, ranging from soft to hardcore, but they all have one thing in common: a clear respect for women.\nThere is an abundance of sex positive, female-focused material out there just waiting to turn you on, and it&amp;#39;s not limited to video content. So now that you have an idea of what you&amp;#39;re looking for, let&amp;#39;s talk about what&amp;#39;s available and where to find it...\nFor women who enjoy the written word, sexy books, blogs and erotic stories are available online, and you can find a number of best-of erotica collections on Amazon. If you are interested in reading well-written, tasteful erotica from real women, HotChillErotica.com is a subscription site that allows the subscriber to select their desired level of &amp;quot;spice&amp;quot; and explore a range of porn categories.\nFor porn you can watch, LustCinema.com features well-written content with high production value, focusing more on the story line than the sex itself and allowing one&amp;#39;s imagination to fill in the blanks. If you&amp;#39;re interested in something completely different from most porn, www.beautifulagony.com doesn&amp;#39;t show nudity; instead the camera remains focused on the facial expressions of the non-professional stars as they masturbate to orgasm. And Frolicme.com provides the best of both worlds, giving subscribers access to beautifully shot videos and naughty stories written by some of the best erotic authors around the world.\nAnother big trend in sex positive erotica is Tumblr porn, which features a collection of GIFs, short video clips and sexy blogs that you can collect, tag and share with other Tumblr users. Tumblr is quick, easy and most importantly free! Plus, it is largely geared toward women and their sexual enjoyment! LadyCheeky.com is one of the hottest female-friendly Tumblr sites right now&amp;#8212;it features content for gay, straight and coupled viewers, ranging from soft-core to kinky, and best of all, features all body types.\nWith so many sexy solutions, finding one that makes your heart race shouldn&amp;#39;t be too difficult. Happy hunting, and most of all, enjoy!\nXO,\nEmily\n\nEmily Morse is a sexologist, host of the Sex With Emily podcast, and co-founder of the intimate care line Emily &amp;amp; Tony. She has a doctorate in human sexuality and is the author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight and a weekly cohost of the nationally syndicated radio show Loveline With Dr. Drew Pinsky.*\n\nMore from Glamour:\n"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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