Prompt: So I live in a small rented apartment with two other women. We don't hang out much and more live together for convenience. Recently I've started noticing that my milk is running out faster than I've been drinking it. I'm vegan so I drink dairy free oat milk. I'm pretty confident that I know who it is but every time I confront her she denies it. My friend suggested that I fill the carton with normal milk as she is lactose intolerant. I think it's a good idea but I don't want to go to far. So WIBTA? ######

Response:
 NTA.  I would have blamed you both, except that you've already tried to resolve this conventionally:

> I'm pretty confident that I know who it is but every time I confront her she denies it.

If she's not the one drinking your milk, then there should be no problems.  If she is, then she'll regret it soon enough. ######


Prompt: Yeah I now it sounds weird. My daughter is 2 and currently her favorite thing to do is to strip all her clothes off, take off her diaper, and pee everywhere while laughing maniacally. Partly because she hates the wet diaper, and while we are working on potty training, she is not quite physically ready, despite being mentally ready. Anyways, I’ve started referring to her as “the goblin” whenever she does this, and my husband thinks it’s hilarious and now whenever she’s covered in pudding/peanut butter/ takes off her diaper and pees while laughing maniacally, he also refers to her as “the goblin.” Usually it’s “the goblin needs a bath.” That kind of thing. Anyways, some of friends think it’s mean to call our daughter a goblin. Are we the assholes here? ######

Response: NTA.  I work at a doctor's office and I fully heard a mom call her 4-year-old a little shit.  Could be worse, and could probably turn into a fun nickname when she's older! ######


Prompt:
Background:So I live in a trailer because of family complications and we have 2 two dogs (Chihuahuas)

My dad was working on the plumbing in the back of the trailer because it's an old model and the plumbing was old so we were replacing it.

We have a little fence in our front yard so the dogs can eat and drink out of a fountain that my dad made that has filtered water going through it and we clean it everyday

We had the dogs out at the time so they could do there thing and my dad went around the front and saw the youngest neighbor that is about 6 years old pouring motor oil into the water and splashing onto them and they were drinking it. My dad grabbed the oil out of his hands and immediately thew it away and we tried to call the vet to see what we could do but it's closed. So we researched and found that if you give them hydrogen peroxide in there mouth they  would throw it up so we did that and they only thew up the hydrogen peroxide and nothing else.

We had to clean out the whole filtration system since the oil had clumps in it. We were worried that our cats might drink it since they like to drink it from the fountain so we locked them in since we already had a litter box and everything.

We went to talk to the mother about this and she said she told them to do it since we had called the cops on them for a previous incident.

We threatened to called the cops on them since we were really pissed but I have to ask WIBTA if I called the cops on the mom? ######

Response:
 NTA.  I was thinking that, while horrible, this was just a dumb kid who didn't know better, but the fact that the mom said she told him to do it as revenge definitely warrants a call to the cops.

Edited to add: if the cops don't take it seriously, call animal control. ######


Prompt:
So, 2 weeks ago I started online school. I have 2 computers, a school provided one and my personal computer. I let him use my personal one, just for school. He asked for it a few minutes early, which is fine because I also started school a little earlier.

Apparently he was mad at me because I was cuddling one of my family's kittens while he wanted to play with it. So he decided a rational response was to try and 'make me lose karma on reddit'. He made up a easily faked revenge story and posted it on r/prorevenge. He failed, though. It got me 50 karma. I only found out because someone commented that you can't buy poison oak. I said sorry, deleted the post, and told my brother he is no longer allowed to use my computer. He had to use my mom's work Ipad, which she despises me for, he gets the screen nasty. Since there is no keyboard, he had trouble doing any assignment, causing him to get in trouble multiple times for not doing the assignment.

My parents have forced me to read 1 hour a day because of this, but that had backfired. That's another story though. Anyways, AITA for this or did he get what he deserved? ######

Response: NTA.  I used to get in trouble for reading too much.  Brother will learn to stick with his assignments next time, hopefully. ######


Prompt:
I don’t know how much I can talk about it, but I’m waiting on a claim to go to court that I am most likely getting a good chunk of money from. Obviously only close family like my mum know the details.

 Any time the case is talked about among the family my mum immediately jumps to “we’ll be going to Disneyland with that money”, “I can’t wait to get a new suite”, or “you’ll have to give me half of it”. She always says these things ‘as a joke’ but time after time, without failure, anytime I try and make any decision that she doesn’t agree with she gets huffy, shouty, and gets older family members on board to sway me to her side, so I know what to expect when the time comes.

I’m not gonna lie, it hurts me that my mum has never asked or even seem interested in what \*I\* want to do with the money. I was thinking of putting it towards a car, Uni, or new furniture and such for my room (which is probably the most selfish option, but I study art + design and currently don’t have any space or the right resources to work from home). Maybe there’s a way to meet her half way, but at the very least I wish I could get a little bit of input.

At the minute I do live at home, and all my benefits go directly to my mum so I don’t have to worry about paying rent. But considering I don’t work, is that enough? Am I being selfish and making my family miss out because I planned ahead when I should’ve asked them first? What should I do when the time comes? ######

Response: NTA.  I strongly recommend that you make sure that money goes to an account where your mother cannot touch it.  If you are planning to go to school keep it in the account.  If you buy a car, put it in your name only. ######


Prompt:
A little background, I'm a very punctual person while my gf isn't, we have talked in the past about this and how it creates unnecessary stress in our otherwise great relationship.

I'm specially aggravated because she does expect some measure of punctuality from me since I'm the "responsible one".

My new tactic is I match her lateness by making her wait as much as she does it to me.

For example, if we had dinner plans for 8pm and she shows up at 9pm, I'll make her wait until 10pm.

I believe this is extremely petty but so far it's working, she told me she does get how frustrating is to be left waiting.

I told my sister and her friend and they think I'm a controlling asshole for this. AITA? ######

Response: NTA.  I hate how some people think it's so acceptable to always be late.  I'd go about it differently, though.  If dinner plans are at 8 pm, leave without her, have something delivered and eat it, whatever it takes so you get fed.  When she shows up at nine, she can fend for herself.  If you have plans to go somewhere at a certain time and she doesn't show up, leave without her. ######


Prompt:
So, I (f20) have wanted a small tattoo of a butterfly on the back of my neck for a few months now, since my childhood pet dog, Mariposa (“butterfly” in Spanish), passed away. I mentioned this to one of my friends (f20) and she was not happy about the idea.

I’ve known about her lepidopterophobia (fear of butterflies and moths) for years now, as we’ve been friends since 5th grade. But I didn’t think this tattoo would be a problem for her since it’s not a real butterfly, just a small tattoo.

I went ahead and got the tattoo anyway (using proper precautions regarding the virus!). It’s just a small butterfly on the back of my neck, just how I wanted. A simple way to remember my dog.

When my friend found out I went ahead and did it, she flipped. She texted me, “I saw on insta that you got a butterfly tattoo... I’m hurt. I thought you’d understand how triggering this would be to me. I wish you had taken my feelings into account.”

I tried to explain that I didn’t think it would bother her this much and apologized, but she said that the way the butterfly is drawn (sort of mid-flutter I guess? It looks like it’s flying, it’s not flat) was scary to her as it made the tattoo look more “real.”

So, am I the asshole for getting a tattoo that creeps out my friend? ######

Response: NTA.  I get the phobia, I really do. I have worked for years on my arachnophobia and if someone had a realistic looking spider tattoo I would not be able to look at it because I avoid that type of thing because yes, as stupid as it seems, it will make me uncomfortable.  So *I take it on myself not to look at it.*  Her trying to tell you what to do with your own body is ridiculous. ######


Prompt: We've been together for 16 years and have always had multiple dogs. We currently have 4--2 Akitas, a Rottweiler and a Westie. About a year ago, her grandson was bitten by his dog (at his home) and ever since then my wife has become increasingly hostile to our dogs (No lasting damage to the boy). Now she has them barricaded in the back yard and a small section of the kitchen whenever she is home. She was the driving force in buying each of these dogs. She picked out every one of them. She named them. I love them all like crazy. I don't like seeing them treated differently. She says it is not because of her grandson being bitten by another dog--rather, they are just dogs and she is tired of fur/sweeping/cleaning. I told her the time to have figured that out is before you got 'em and now they are members of the family (And have been for 8 years, 7, 6 and 2...so not a new situation). She thinks I am picking the dogs over her. Hell, maybe I am. But, problems and all, they are total love. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.  I could understand if your wife wanted to put the dogs in the yard when her grandson came over, but what she is doing is cruel and irrational.  When she got those animals, she made an obligation to give them a good home.  Now they are outside without any understanding of why they have been cast off.

However, I will ask if you are putting all of their care on her.  Are you cleaning up dog hair?  If not, try doing that and taking other responsibilities from her for the care of the dogs. ######


Prompt:
I'm (m35) close best friends/ soul mates with this guy (M39), and we live together. We've both been friends since i was 17 and he was 22. We meet in a book club when i was in high school.

We moved in because of not many houses being avalibale and i though it was awesome to move in with my best friend. We share a bed and sometimes fuck because we both have a high libdio and have a connection. And since hes at home now, we fuck like 5 days a week and its amazing lol.He takes care of me and works a office job and i'm currently unemployed so i cook for him and do laundry etc. He treats me like a prince and protects me. He's gay, and i don't give a shit but like being taken care of. I love that i can live with my best friend, and don't have to live alone.

He has health issues (asthma, and heart disease runs in his family) and is overweight and i didn't want anything to happen to him so about a month ago we got "married" (just went to the courthouse, no wedding.) so can get my health insurance if he gets sick or i die.

I don't talk to my family, since they don't like me. I'm a athiest stoner, and the oldest son in family. My family are all italian catholics, and want me to marry a girl from another family i don't know.

one day he was going to pay the taxes before everything closes down, and i smoked a little to relax. My mother calls me, and starts talking about how i should i be thinking about babies and marriage since we're all die soon.

She doesn't know about me and his "marriage" or "relationship", and i don't want her to know.

But since i was high, i was very relaxed and stopped thinking it was my mom talking. I told her about that i got "married", and she became furious. She started talking about it's wrong or whatever. Now they won't let me talk to my lil brothers or cousins.

AITA for "marrying" my best friend? ######

Response: NTA.  However, I think it's time to admit that you are not heterosexual. ######


Prompt:
I'm F27 and my co-worker is M23, his GF makes him 3 meals a day and he brings in these amazing lunches to work all the time. He mentioned that she does all the cleaning, cooking, laundry and goes to school and has a part time job. When he told me that I was like wow you don't do anything at home? He just said work is stressful enough and she likes taking care of him. Yeah ok, I'm sure she does, is what I tell him. One day he brought in some lunch and asked if I wanted it because his GF didn't make the lasagna the way he likes it. I declined but heard him berating his GF on the phone about 5 mins later in the lobby of our office building. When we got up to the office I told him how he treats his GF is abusive and not right and he told me its none of my business and to stop prying in and spying on her personal life or he'll go to HR.... I told my girlfriend about this and she said that I'm a bit of an ass for confronting him about it and maybe it was just a one time blow up and I shouldn't get involved in his life.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA.  Hopefully, GF will eventually drop this AH. ######


Prompt:
Title sounds kinda confusing. Also sorry for any grammar mistakes, I’m french, English isn’t first language.

So right now I’m(15F) living with my brother(27) and his boyfriend(24). It’s temporary tho, I’ll be back with my parents in 2 weeks. I’ve been with them for a week, everything was going great.

Yesterday I got up early and I was bored,  I thought I’d make something. I found easy mug brownie recipe so I made it. I found some powered sugar and there was a tiny bit left, so I sprinkled it on top of the brownie. As I was doing that my brother’s boyfriend walked in the kitchen and saw me. He got angry and asked me what I was doing. He told me that the sugar was expired and made me throw the brownie out. He told me that they were just keeping it because of memories because they got it while traveling. My brother was kinda mad too and told me that I should’ve asked him first before cooking something.

I haven’t apologized and I don’t think it’s my fault. They could’ve kept it anywhere other than kitchen if it’s just a decoration and not actually edible. ######

Response: NTA.  Honey, they're mad cause you wasted their drug stash. ######


Prompt:
So, my (22 F)  mom (55) is a very passive-aggressive person. She’s not a nice lady, so much so that if my dad (an amazing human being) wasn’t around, I’d write her off forever and not regret a second of the rest of my life. She makes snide and downright tasteless comments about everything in my life, but this time was about my weight. I know I’m over weight, but I’m so tired of her sh*t. She’s not any better than me, she’s been overweight and diabetic my whole life. Her mom died two years ago and had advanced Alzheimer’s. It runs in her family (I’m adopted).

A couple days ago, she said, “one day you’re going to get diabetes and die and I’m not going to feel bad for you.” It had been a long ass day, plus I’m quarantined with this lady, so I said, “Well, you’re going start to lose your mind one day and we’ll see who’s left to take care of you.” She kinda looked at me and left the room.

It’s been 3 days and she hasn’t talked to me. I feel like I may have crossed a line, but I also feel like she might have deserved it after all the soul-crushing stuff she’s said to me my whole life. I can and will list more stuff she’s said if y’all need more context to our relationship. AITA? ######

Response: NTA.  Honest side question: Why is your "amazing human being" dad with such a woman? ######


Prompt:
Backstory on my boyfriend's brother is that I don't like him and he doesn't like me. My family is comfortable without being wealthy while my boyfriend's family is definitely wealthy, and the brother seems to think I'm a golddigger despite my boyfriend and I splitting everything 50/50. He is the kind of person who will ask the groom on the day of his wedding if he needs a getaway driver and tell people to get prenups at their engagement party, and I'm saying this because I've seen him do both things more than once.

I'm pregnant. It's definitely ahead of schedule but my fiancé and I are happy about it. I'm around 5 months pregnant, my fiance proposed about 2 weeks before we found out. We told his family earlier today over zoom. His mum, dad, and sister congratulated us and his brother did too, but then the brother made a joke about getting a prenup (which we are doing anyway). My fiance's sister told him to shut the fuck up and the dad said "come on now" in a reproachful tone, and then I said "just checking are you aware there are personality traits other than dickhead and edgelord?", after which my fiance's mother told me off for speaking to her son like that because he's just looking out for his brother. I asked if "I'm just meant to let him say whatever he wants, then?"

Call ended quickly after that, and now I've had messages from my future parents in law and brother in law all expecting me to apologize in order to smooth things over. Fiance says not to apologise for shit and his sister says they're ridiculous but this might be the easiest way to move on, and pointed out that I did go for him there when they'd already spoken to him.

Aita? ######

Response: NTA.  His Parents want you to apologise because they know that you are reasonable. It's easier to appeal to the normally reasonable party than the dude stuck in asshole mode. If you apologize it would make things easier for them, but the brother would still see you as an appealing target. That's not a place you want your future child to be in so stand firm now and make it easier for you to deal with him in the future. ######


Prompt:
Last week, a neighbor’s kid slashed several tires in the neighborhood. I guess I got extra lucky, because he destroyed all 4 of mine.

Here’s where it’s tricky: just before this happened, I noticed that all 4 tires were nearing 5 years old, and thought they should be replaced. I made an appointment to get new tires and ordered them for installation later in the week.  I was planning on keeping one or two of my older tires as a “donut” for emergencies.

The next day, her kid decided to slash them to pieces.

She’s now taking full responsibility and asked for the bill so she can see about refunding me. Everyone, including the police, is telling me that she should pay for the new set of tires. I think she should pay for half at most, but even that doesn’t seem completely moral to me because I was already planning on getting them replaced.

Am I the asshole if I let her pay for all 4? How about half? It did cause me to lose a day and a half of work and towing was a nightmare. ######

Response: NTA.  Her kid slashed them.  There are consequences.  Honestly the damn kid should pay, not her.  I get you're trying to be nice but there's no lesson learned if you don't let there be one.  Slash tires. Pay for tires. ######


Prompt:
I’ll keep this short.

So my sister and BIL are having a baby. She’s 4 months along.

My sister has BPD and she’s been getting serious mood swings but still absolutely refuses to see any doctor/therapist about it. I’ve known my BIL for years (since college) and he’s told me recently how tough things have gotten with my sister.

The breaking point came last week when BIL texted me saying sister has started to throw things at him. He said he came home with take out but got the wrong sauce or side or whatever, next thing he knew she was flinging silverware at him. When he tried to leave she grabbed a heavy bowl threw it at his face (it missed but still).

I immediately offered a place for him to get away. He took me up on the offer and stayed for 1 night while we tried to get my sister professional help again. She made a surprising 180 over the next day after BIL left and started calling all our relatives/family saying I’m trying to intervene and destroy her marriage.

She told our family and relatives that I was now conspiring with her husband to leave her while she’s pregnant. BIL has gone back now but things are still dicey and I told him to call me if things get out of hand again.

Both my parents called me today to say I’m betraying family. After I told them of her recent unhinged actions they said if I really cared I would make sure BIL stays with my sister who’s the real vulnerable one, not give him an “easy out” from marriage. They also said it’s obvious I didn’t care about her wellbeing or else I would’ve taken HER in instead of him. It’s true I never offered to take her in.

AITA if I don’t do any of this and just let BIL stay with me when he feels like it? I can’t help but feel like no one takes my sister’s terrible actions seriously in my family and I know if I were in BIL’s shoes I would want a place where I can distance myself from all that. ######

Response: NTA.  He’s in an abusive relationship, and your sister needs professional help. ######


Prompt: Backstory(short version): My dad has been a not very nice person from the start, while he was married to my mum he would often take “surfing trips” in which he would sleep with other women. For a while he was engaged to another woman while still married to my mum. I tried to keep a relationship with him not knowing of what he had done. Recently he wanted me to block a number of one of his ex-wives, she is a nice lady and we don’t have a problem with each other. So I politely said no I won’t as I had no reason to. He then sent the following message “You know the hell I went thro, just a bit of respect for your dad wouldn’t go amiss. Till you show that respect then please don’t contact me. You need to step up if you want to stay in touch. If you want to keep in contact with your brother then I suggest you go thro your mum to contact him” I then got angry and sent back a message of one word “ok”. I have not talked to him since. All I would like to know is what I did ok? He has treated me as I would always be there no matter how bad he would treat me. If need be I can provide evidence of the messages. ######

Response: NTA.  He sounds like a petulant child. ######


Prompt:
Bit of background: When we married we agreed everything would be joint and it’s worked perfectly for 6 years. Together a total of 11. All of our credit cards and bank accounts have each other’s names on them. We actually have a system so we know what each other spends (even if it’s a $2 hot dog).

Example: We run our budget every two weeks and figure out what we have left over after bills/savings. Say it’s $700 - we will text each other budget updates. $20 at Target, $3 at 7-11, $100 on groceries, etc. This way we know exactly what we have left over.

The reason I explained the above is to make the point that we are VERY transparent about money.

A few months ago we got into a really bad fight which ended with him saying he was filing for divorce. We worked it out and he admitted he was just angry in the moment and lashed out.

Here’s the thing, I recently found out that my inheritance is coming and will be in the 6 figure range. Since we’ve had that fight I’ve started to feel nervous about putting such a large sum in a joint account. That fight made me realize that if we ever got a divorce half of that would belong to him. In my state separate bank accounts are not subjected to be split equally in a divorce. Meaning if I never put his name on the account he would never have a claim to it.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA.  He lashes out by threatening divorce?  That's a really good reason to keep the money separate and in an account with only your name on it.  You can always change the account ownership at a later date or set him up as a beneficiary/payable on death.  Right now, I'd err on the side of caution. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account; he uses reddit too.

Background:My husband and I are both 27 and have been married for almost 3 years, no kids.

I have suffered with OCD for the majority of my life. I was officially diagnosed when I was 23 and finally got medication. The medication has greatly reduced my panic attacks, but it has also made me tired all the time.

My husband finds some of my OCD tics fascinating, which I don't blame him for, because I can see why he thinks that. I have talked to him about all my weirdest ones: the fact that I can't have my hands in the same position at the same time, the fact that I can't touch the mole on my neck or else I have compulsions to squeeze the skin, etc. (There are many more but those are most relevant.)

Sometimes, my husband induces my OCD to mess with me. Like if he's holding my hands and forces them into the same position to see how I'll react. I've talked to him about it and hes since stopped doing that.

Today, he playfully touched the mole on the back of my neck. I was like "we talked about this; why do you trigger my OCD on purpose?"

He went on about how I need to overcome this anxiety and he was helping with my exposure to it. I told him he's not a licensed therapist and he's just stressing me out. I've gone to therapy. I see a psychiatrist frequently. I let the professionals handle that.

I was crying about how I feel he's disrespectful of my OCD by trying to induce those feeling's on purpose. He said that he's bothered that I'm giving in to irrational fears.

Now I'm crying and trying to remove myself from the situation but he's keeps telling me it's just a mole and I need to act like people treat it in the real world. I KNOW that logically; I try to explain to him that OCD is illogical which is why I treat it with therapy and medication, and why I feel disrespected when he messes with it on purpose for no real reason.

Who's the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA.  He is touching you in a way that you have repeatedly asked him not to, and even if it had nothing to do with OCD, he should respect your personal space and boundaries. It is downright shameful that he is essentially shaming you for having a condition you are actively treating. Dismissing the tangible ways he could help is bad. Deliberately trying to make you spiral is awful. ######


Prompt:
So I (F20) currently share an apartment with my brother (M21). My boyfriend (M26) has been staying with me during the pandemic. I've had an apartment with my brother for two years and I'll be moving out in a few days. Over the course of the two years we've lived together, my parents have come up many times and have stayed the night. This wouldn't really bother me if they ever bothered to talk to me about it first. They always discuss coming over with my brother and I'll get told a few days before they arrive if I'm lucky (there have been multiple times I've figured out because my dad has called me telling me to get ready to pack their stuff up to my third floor apartment). At one point I had to start threatening to lock them out for hours until my brother came home to even get told a few days in advance again.
Now my boyfriend tries to get along with my family. Early on my parents decided they didn't like him based on my brother deciding he's "off-putting" before having a conversation with him. My brother had decided that because my boyfriend is the awkward quiet type and he's not usually very confident.
So everytime my parents come over, they expect my boyfriend to go somewhere else (which has caused a lot of unnecessary spending on hotels). Today, my brother and my parents decided they'd be coming up tomorrow and spending a few nights at my apartment and my brother told me that my boyfriend needs to find somewhere to stay while they're up here.
It should be noted that my boyfriend has never spent the night around my family and he wasn't very against staying time at hotels so he didn't have to listen to my dad tell us that he essentially can control what goes on in my apartment as my guarantor (I checked the lease and the law and he has 0 rights). But we don't want to spend more money than we have to since we're trying to start a life together.
So, Reddit, WIBTA if I ignored my family and decided to keep my boyfriend with me at my apartment? ######

Response: NTA.  He essentially lives there right?  Then they have no right to demand that he leaves his home.  They are being entitled.  I would put your foot down OP and make it very clear that if they continue to demand this then you will not allow them to continue visiting.  It's your apartment, not theirs. ######


Prompt:
Preface:
So, I (16M), have been saving up some money to purchase a new laptop. Specs are very good (2070 ti, i7 10th gen, 16gb ram, etc.) and I use it for school, gaming, and 3d modeling. So the laptop costs $1500 USD, and I currently have $1660 in my bank account. Currently the laptop is out of stock until July 15, but you can pre-order it.

My mom had bought a laptop as a gift two Christmases ago, and it doesn't run certain things well, specifically the 3d modeling software I use. My stepdad however needs a new laptop for doing some stuff for his work , so I'm looking for a new one. My mom doesn't want me getting a new laptop because, "I already have one that works." I explained to her that I was planning on giving it to my stepdad, and she didn't say anything about that. So here I am finding the perfect laptop for my purposes, and as I'm about to buy it my mom stops me.

She explains that she would rather us use her credit card so she could get points on it, and I agree. She says she will buy the laptop for me and then I would transfer the money to her account. So it's been 5 days since she said she would buy it, and I'm getting kinda annoyed. I know it's not in stock for a while, but I would like to have my order be filled first. So I've been slowly increasing the pressure on my mom to buy it.

TL:DR : I have saved money for a laptop. Mom wants to use credit card, and then transfer the money into her account. It's been 5 days and I'm slowly increasing the pressure on her to buy it.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.  Have a conversation with her and ask her why she hasn’t ordered it yet, explaining that since it is out of stock at the moment, you want to make sure to get one when it is back in stock.

It’s possible that she’s waiting on the next billing cycle for her credit card for some reason, but you won’t know unless you ask.

It’s also okay to say “Getting this laptop preordered is important to me. You had said you wanted to get the points on your credit card for it and I was fine with that, but the delay is making it anxious.  If you don’t order it by the end of the day on Monday, I’m planning to order it myself to make sure to receive one when they are back in stock, but I wanted to let you know first so that there wasn’t any misunderstanding.” ######


Prompt:
I used to be an EMT, now work as a referee + medical guy in a combat sports system.

My girlfriend started screaming for me. Turns out she popped herself in the face with a cabinet door and was bleeding pretty good.

She wasn't remotely bleeding out or anything. Although it's scary, no where near life threatening hemorrhage. Was obviously alert/oriented, no signs of anything serious, so I take a second to put on gloves (not a big deal in my mind - 5 seconds max to pull a pair out of the box ontop of the fridge, contact with a patient or bodily fluid always warrants gloves).

Got my gloves on, popped a peak. She ended up splitting her lip pretty good on her braces (yes we're 20 and she has braces). End up going to the ER, they put like 3 stitches in, really that was it. She later expressed offense about me putting on gloves before tending to her.

I tried to explain why, the fact it's engrained by training, but she's still offended. I said sorry, that's just how I was trained, but she's mad.

AITA here? ######

Response: NTA.  Gloves if contact is possible with bodily fluids; even if they’re from a loved one ######


Prompt:
So my wife and I have been married for 5 years. We have two children, a five year and 5 month old. She has acknowledged her alcohol problem in the past, but when she gets to a certain point, she throws caution to the wind and gets completely wasted. She gets mean and absolute hateful.

Tonight, I took time off work to drive her two hours to see her best friend that she hasn’t seen in a year. When we get there, it’s cinco de Mayo, so her friend wanted tacos and margaritas. The margaritas were STRONG. I, knowing I had to drive in three hours, didn’t drink. Our kids were with us. My wife, on the other hand, got shitfaced. Come time to leave, she had another canned margarita in hand about to open it in the car. I took the can and told her it’s illegal to drink in the car. She got pissed. She finally calmed down, but she was still super drunk. She took her frustrations out on our five year old and made him cry his eyes out in the back seat. We got back home and she was about to start up again and get even more drunk.

I had enough of it. I took the can she was about to open and said no. Not tonight. You’ve had enough.

She became belligerent saying she married a dictator. I feel I have a right to keep the peace in the house especially since we’re both responsible for two children. She is still going off on me (going on two hours) and my five year old is in his room screaming. She’s screaming she wants a divorce. My response is that if her abuse of alcohol is that important to her, then fine. She can have her divorce. Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 NTA.  Give her an ultimatum: get sober or get divorced.

Your #1 priority should be your children, even if that means keeping them from their alcoholic mother. ######


Prompt:
I (22, F) currently work as an EMT, and as part of my certification, I learned to deliver babies. On occasion, we will get calls to pick up someone whos in labor. I've gotten these calls about 3x and each time we have just transported the patient to the hospital and they have given birth there.

My sister (26, F) who is 8.5 months pregnant recently asked if I could deliver her baby at her home since I was certified. She wants to do it at home since the hospital in our area (Chicago) won't let family visit, and she wants us to be there since this is her first child. Also, her gynecologist is sick and wouldn't be there to deliver her child, so she's also nervous about having a doctor, she doesn't know.

I told her I would get back to her, but my sister and my mom keep texting me about it. Idk what to do, I'm really nervous about doing it since I have never delivered a baby before. She said the baby was perfectly healthy which is good and it obviously won't be premature but I'm still on the fence. ######

Response:
 NTA.  Former EMT here.  Do Not deliver that baby at home, by yourself.

For one, how are you going to obtain the medical supplies necessary for this delivery?

Secondly, we are trained for skills for transport into transfer of care to people who have greater abilities to help (nurses, doctors, hospitals).  While you have the ability to help with the delivery, people with more training and experience are obviously the better choice.

Third, gods help you if something goes wrong.  I couldn't imagine what would happen to the family if something went wrong with mother or child.

My family used to joke that I would deliver my niece.  Like, I could if it was ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY, but you should not be THE FIRST CHOICE. ######


Prompt:
My 19 year old daughter rescued a stray cat outside that has been following her around the house from the outside. The little bastard had been jumping on the roof and running around on the extension to try and meow for attention from her because she kept feeding it bacon.

This was a coupe months ago. She took the cat to the vet and it was given anti flea anti fungal and anti worm and all the rest of it treatments including being neutered which the darling girl of mine stuck the cost of onto daddy’s debit card because of course she did.

Imagine my surprise when she returned from the vet and announced she was keeping the bloody thing.

Now I hate little animals, I’m deeply allergic to cats and in general I’m just not a cat bloke.

It roams around the house like it owns the gaff and it bloody pisses against everything it takes a liking to but my wife and girl are absolutely enthralled with it and it’s very very content to steal the sofas to scratch and sleep on.

It keeps trying to rub up against me and I refuse to let it touch me. I’ve had to ask the pharmacist to give me fexofenadine which is the only thing stopping me from scratching my eyeballs out.

My wife actually got into a mardy with me and snapped at me cuz I refused to stroke the cat and she called me a miserable bastard. My daughter joined in and said the cat only wants to be friends but frankly I don’t care and I don’t want to be friends.

Anyway my darling wife told my darling mother and now she keeps bringing it up everytime she calls me calling me a misery guts.

Am I the arsehole or are they for trying to force me to stroke the cat? ######

Response:
 NTA.  First, hats off for having the thickest English accent in written form. Truly spectacular, sir.  No bullshit, you could probably get a writing job in Hollywood, you awesome fucking misery guts.

Anyway, you didn't want the cat. You're not a cat person. You're crazy allergic to the cat. That's fine.  You tolerate the cat living with you despite your allergies because it makes your wife and daughter happy. That's a big deal. They should be satisfied with that.

Yes, the cat means well, but you've already been asked enough. Plus, better it not understand you as a "friend" since you don't want it rubbing up on you.  Better stay as (barely) tolerated acquaintances. ######


Prompt:
21F here. I lost my mother two months before my 17th birthday. I was extremely close to her and her sudden death was a huge blow to both me and my dad.

When I had to move to another city to attend college, my dad had to move in with my grandmother, uncle (as in dad's brother), and his wife. They live close to our old home, so it wasn't a hassle for dad, and since he paid them more than enough money for having him, it wasn't an issue for my uncle either.

When I came back right before the lockdown started, I was shocked at my dad's condition. He looked terrible and it was obvious that he hadn't been eating well. I had always known that when confronted by grief he tends to ignore everything else and put his heart and soul into his work. I also knew that his 'family' had only agreed to have him in because he earns well and hadn't taken notice of his condition, but he was living in their house and I couldn't say anything about it.

But the real shocker came when I saw my aunt wearing an opal pendant that had been my dad's gift to my mom on their anniversary. I confronted her and asked her how she got her hands on it. She told me that she had taken out house keys from dad to 'clean' our house, found the pendant, and taken it since it was gathering dust. Grandmother supported her, saying (I quote), "She's dead anyway, why leave her things to gather dust?"

I asked my dad if he knew anything, and he said that he didn't know the pendant had been brought here. I proceeded to lose my shit and chewed out aunt and grandmother over touching my mom's things. Aunt and grandmother said that I was overreacting, it's just jewellery (not to me. It's my mother's memories.) and that I need to calm the f down.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA.  Find a way to snag it back ASAP.  Get a hold of your moms engagement ring and band too.  Jesus.  Hard to imagine anyone could really be so entitled. ######


Prompt:
I got an IUD in August and told my mom I was getting it, she paid because i’m her daughter and she wanted to.
Fast forward to October and my mom calls me at college and says she has a funny story. Mind you, we both tend to joke about my dad because he’s a character and they’re divorced. She says that my dad found out about the IUD because he saw paperwork that i had in my car that he was cleaning out while i was away. HE WAS FURIOUS. He called me mom and yelled at her over the phone about how i have an IUD and my mom was like “oh yeah i knew about that” and then my dad proceeded to yell at her for not telling him and she was like “she’s 18 and it’s not my place to tell you about her reproductive choices.” My dad is acting as if I needed his permission for this. I didn’t even need to tell my mom in the first place, but i chose to because we’re close like that. Anyways, this was a while ago but it still sits weird with me. He has no say in the matter. I don’t like that my dad felt obligated to know about this personal aspect of my life especially because he’s otherwise a very progressive, liberal man so it doesn’t really make sense as to why he’s trying to police my goddamn uterus. Idk thoughts? ######

Response: NTA.  Don’t doubt yourself.  Your thought process is very sound in this. ######


Prompt:
Hey!
So recently my biological dad reached out to me and explained that he is probbably going to die because of kidney falioure and he is at the bottom of the list.
Im 21 female.
I am really scared of doctors, let alone blood donation. So you can't even imagine how scared I really am to even think about this. Surgery is 10 times worse than anything else.

Recently my biological dad told me that I am probbably an approppriate donator. To me, he is just a regular stranger. I don't think I would be able to donate kidney even to my close family.
Results came back positive. I tought I won't be approppriate donator and went to test myself because my and his family were pressuring me to do so. I was wery scared. After results came back positive they told me how happy they were,... and I had a panic attack.

It was wery hard for me and I finally got the currage to tell them. They started trying to guilttrip me, saying that I will be sorry, that I will be responsible for murderer, that they will file a lawsuit,...
I really don't know what to do. So please tell me, AITA? ######

Response: NTA.  Do not go ahead with this.  You aren't a murderer if you don't donate your kidney.  You can contact the doctor and tell them that you don't want to do it.  They'll tell your dad that you aren't a good candidate.  They will take the blame.  Please have them take the blame!!  One of his other relatives can donate their kidney.  If they're not a match, they can be tested to match someone else and the kidney donations will be exchanged. ######


Prompt:
Recently my grandad has been in hospital for a reason I’m not sure I can mention, but you can probably guess. Prior to that he had other health complications so I thought it’d be nice to get all of my cousins to make a video for him wishing him to get well soon and that we all love him. I have a pretty big family so it was a bit of a nightmare.

Now here’s the issue, we weren’t sure when my grandad would be released from hospital, so I gave everyone a deadline to send me a video to include. They had two days to make me a 10 second video. Easy, right? Wrong..

Everyone apart from one cousin managed to send me a video, and to be fair I completed the video and sent it to my grandad. Since then all hell has broken loose. My aunt thinks I’m the devil, and that I purposefully didn’t include my cousin to be mean (I didn’t.. I sent multiple reminders and she promised she’d get it to me and then didn’t). Now she’s stirring the pot with my other aunts, and one of them thinks I purposefully didn’t include her grandson because he has a speech problem I wasn’t even aware about because they live on the other side of the world and I’ve never met him (he’s like 3). I specifically asked my cousin/his dad to include him but for some reason he didn’t and only sent one of himself which was fine I thought.

So now my aunt is pissed at me for making my 14yo cousin cry because she wasn’t able to send me a video in time, and my other aunt who I actually get on with thinks I didn’t include her grandson because of a speech impediment I didn’t even know about.

This was supposed to be a nice thing for my grandad but now everyone hates me.
Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA.  Did you keep copies of your texts/emails/reminders?  Circulate those ######


Prompt:
My mom (55F) raised me by herself.

I (25M) was always told that my dad (57M) never loved me and ran out on me, that he left us. Well it turns out that I have been lied to for a long time.

For the first time in over 20 years, my bio dad found me last year and contacted me. I was filled with rage but also curiosity so I met up with him and he explained his side of the story. He said that he wanted custody of me and that my mom had lied about why he left, that it was her who cheated on him and left him for a guy (this guy was in my life for the first few years but I only heard stories of him. Mom told me he was a good guy and they met through mutual friends).

I didn't know what to make of it until I confronted my mom in rage and she admitted that it was true, my dad did try and get custody and that it was her who cheated on him.

Anyway I was shown proof that this man is 100% my bio dad and we got closer... as I got closer to him over the year, it became apparent that my mom had outright lied about everything and filled my head with nonsense about him.

As I attended therapy this year I have finally been able to somewhat process this and have decided that I had enough of my mom and her pack of lies. When I met with her I said to her that I can't forgive her and that I want nothing to do with her. I said its over and she began crying and breaking down but I said it is what it is and got out.

Then my aunt showed up at my door and called me asshile and how could I do this to my mother. But how could she do this to me? AITA? ######

Response: NTA.  Continue processing and healing. ######


Prompt:
I live with my grandmother. Rent is $900 and we each pay half. Recently this person decided to bring in their grown 50 year old drug addict son because “he has nowhere to go”. He does have somewhere to go. He has a house he was living in but his wife recently died and she took it upon herself to allow him to live with us. I had absolutely no say in the matter despite being extremely uncomfortable about the entire situation. This man has multiple drug charges and has threatened to kill people. He has never worked a day in his life.

At first she said it would only be a couple of days. It’s been nearly a month and he’s still here. Rent free. Hasn’t lifted a finger and he’s eating our groceries. He’s also gotten high in our home on heroin twice. I used to help out substantially with the groceries also but have since stopped and only buy the groceries for myself.

This month I only have her $300 in rent money. She asked for the rest because she’s low on money and can’t pay her car insurance. She’s low on money because she’s been treating her addict son like a king, buying all this food, cooking three times a day and withdrawing cash for him from her checking account.

I said that since we have a third person living in the house who I had no control or say over, it is unfair for me to continue paying half the rent and that he can get a job and pay the remainder. ######

Response:
 NTA.  Check your lease.  Most of them require the approval of the landlord to have a new person move in.  Also, rent is usually split between all adults living in an apartment after a discussion is had.  Usually this takes place before moving in or right after.  Your grandmother is altering the original agreement between the two of you therefore a new split in rent needs to be discussed.

If you don’t want her son to be there, see if it violates the lease.  If it does tell her that her son needs to go per the lease.  If it doesn’t (as in you are allowed to add people) tell her you object to him as another roommate and will contact the authorities for illegal activity.

You should not feel unsafe in your own home.  Tell her you will move out if he stays.  Considering you are paying into the rent, this might help get this freeloader out of there. ######


Prompt:
Last year I (28F) decided to go back to school and my fiance (30M) supported me.

When his mom found out I was starting (we decided not to say anything until it was official) she flipped out.

Why? Because I wouldn't be around to do anything they (I drive his mom, sister, 6 nieces, and his foster brothers where they need to go because she won't drive) wanted me to at random times.

"It's inconvenient". I quit my last job because it was an inconvenience to them! Once she starts complaining, my fiance is usually guilted into agreeing with her. I'm just glad he makes enough so I don't have to work but, the problem is, I WANT TO!

I refuse to give up my future because nobody wants to drive!

I'm just waiting for them to learn that I start my internship in the fall! All hell's gonna break loose!

So AITA for "not caring about them and their feelings and needs" because I want to have a better future for my kids?? ######

Response: NTA.  But, sounds like you need to have some serious talks with your fiance. ######


Prompt:
My wife and I were planning to have a baby in the next two years. My wife's friend recently adopted a baby. All of a sudden now my wife wants to adopt a baby. I really don't want to adopt. I'm not even fully sold on a baby.

My wife is really angry and keeps saying I have a heart of stone and other similar thing because I don't save a child's Life.

So AITA for not wanting to adopt? ######

Response:
 NTA.  But you need change the perspective of “saving a child’s life”.  Adoption isn’t what it was in the 1900’s where people abandoned babies or sent them to orphanages because they couldn’t afford them.

You don’t sound like you’re fully on board, so don’t do it.  That will only cause resentment in your part to an innocent child.

Your wife, who also seems to think she’s saving a child—-needs to get her head out of her ass.  That’s not what adoption looks like anymore.  Send her over to the r/adoption to get a true perspective. ######


Prompt:
First some back story... my sister and I have never been close. I’m a bit older than her but because of life I still love at home with our parents and 2 years ago she moved to the other side of the country with her bf. Because we were never close and now she lives so far are basically just acquaintances at this point. When she does text me most the time she’s being snobby and the few times she’s been home we’ve gotten in huge fights because of her toxic behavior.

Recently I’ve over heard convos she’s had with my mom and she is planning her wedding (she’s not engaged yet but has said they are looking at places and he will propose soon but knowing my sister she is the one pushing the want to get married soon). One of the times they were FaceTime she saw me in the background and told me “One of the dates I’m looking at is your birthday”. Every year since I turned 18 I’ve gone on vacation for my birthday she obviously knows this so I told her “if you do I might not be able to come”. She got mad and my mother told me I’m being selfish and even if she plans her wedding on my birthday I better come. It became a huge fight and she doesn’t even have a date set yet.

Also about my vacation... it is the one time of year I get away. I work 32-40 hours a week on top of taking care of my grandparents. Taking them to the doctor, taking them shopping... etc. and where my sister lives isn’t a place I’d want to vacation.
So am I the asshole for telling her that/ would I be the asshole if it is on my birthday and I don’t go? ######

Response: NTA.  But tell her you have thought it over, and you are SO PLEASED that the thinks SO highly of you, that she would honor YOU by having her wedding on your birthday! I mean, why else would she do that? Drag it out...how much sheust respect you to do this...to have her anniversary forever tied to you, honoring YOU...I suspect that if she thinks you like the idea...she will change the date. ######


Prompt:
LTL/FTP, throwaway acc cos family members know my main and I don't need the stress.

My husband and I are choosing baby names. We both have Scottish and Irish heritage -- several family members either having an anglicized version of a Scottish/Irish first name or surname.

We are strongly considering giving our child a Gaelic name. Our top three contenders if it's a girl are Saoirse, Ealasaid, and Marsaili. Two of the boys names we like are less difficult for an English speaker to pronounce -- Eamon and Seòras -- but the other one, Eoghan, might confuse some people.

I DO strongly believe we should give them an English-friendly middle name, think Ealasaid Rose (we haven't gotten that far yet lol), so that they have another name to fall back on if they need it. Husband is on board with this.

My MIL and my sister, however, think that this would be horribly cruel even with the middle name thing and insist we HAVE TO give them a "normal" first name -- Elizabeth instead of Ealasaid, for example. Neither me nor my husband like the way Elizabeth sounds (nor any of its diminutives), and the same goes for Sarah instead of Saoirse and Marjory instead of Marsaili (Marge just makes me think of the Simpsons). The same goes for the boy's names.

MIL has gone so far as to say she will call them by the English equivalent and will make Husband's younger siblings do the same. I told her that's a one-way ticket to No Visits Town, which she handled as well as you'd imagine.

So, WWBTA for giving our baby a Gaelic name? ######

Response:
 NTA.  But kid will hear their name mispronounced every day.  They will have to spell and respell their name every day.  That also doesn't take into consideration when they are older and looking for a job.  There a lot of factors to look at when choosing a name.

As a suggestion, next time you order a pizza or take away, give the order taker your Gaelic name and see what happens. ######


Prompt:
LTL/FTP, throwaway acc cos family members know my main and I don't need the stress.

My husband and I are choosing baby names. We both have Scottish and Irish heritage -- several family members either having an anglicized version of a Scottish/Irish first name or surname.

We are strongly considering giving our child a Gaelic name. Our top three contenders if it's a girl are Saoirse, Ealasaid, and Marsaili. Two of the boys names we like are less difficult for an English speaker to pronounce -- Eamon and Seòras -- but the other one, Eoghan, might confuse some people.

I DO strongly believe we should give them an English-friendly middle name, think Ealasaid Rose (we haven't gotten that far yet lol), so that they have another name to fall back on if they need it. Husband is on board with this.

My MIL and my sister, however, think that this would be horribly cruel even with the middle name thing and insist we HAVE TO give them a "normal" first name -- Elizabeth instead of Ealasaid, for example. Neither me nor my husband like the way Elizabeth sounds (nor any of its diminutives), and the same goes for Sarah instead of Saoirse and Marjory instead of Marsaili (Marge just makes me think of the Simpsons). The same goes for the boy's names.

MIL has gone so far as to say she will call them by the English equivalent and will make Husband's younger siblings do the same. I told her that's a one-way ticket to No Visits Town, which she handled as well as you'd imagine.

So, WWBTA for giving our baby a Gaelic name? ######

Response: NTA.  But just be prepared for you and your kid to always have to pronounce it for everyone until they die. ######


Prompt:
Ok let me elaborate. We had a baby recently and my boyfriend has an older son who has high functioning autism. Things in the household have been tense due to space being cramped and of course adjusting to a new baby.

One night, my boyfriend's son kept turning on the kitchen light while I was trying to keep the baby down because it was the middle of the night and I was sleeping in the living room. I thought he was done in the kitchen so I turned off the light. He wasn't done and got an attitude with me. I told him I was sorry, I thought he was done. He then made the comment "you and dad don't deserve that baby."

I don't believe in violence and I certainly don't condone child abuse but I had to resist the urge to smack that boy in the mouth. I told my boyfriend to talk to his son and he yelled at me not to tell him how to raise his child. I told him I wasn't trying to do that but that I shouldn't have to tolerate that kind of disrespect. He later told me to just ignore his son and while I see his point I still think he needs to tell his son not to talk to me that way.

I have the right to be a mother to my child in a non hostile environment. On top of this, his family save for his mom has done nothing but judge and criticize me while I'm learning to be a mom. I have PPD but I'm sure it was made worse by all this. So AITA? ######

Response: NTA.  But it sure doesn’t seem like you’ve picked the right man to have a child with. ######


Prompt: Freshman year of college I lived in a triple room with 2 other girls. Roommate 1 was nice and quiet not part of story. Roommate 2 was liked to party and go out. Typical college freshman behavior. Well Around the start of October and it’s 2 am. I hear her and  her friend sneaking in didn’t think much of it not my business. Well her friend another freshman (male) starts screaming he wants his dad and starts basically sobbing and breaking down. I turn on lap to see what’s up as I’m awake by this point. Well they both dropped acid and he’s having a bad trip. He lays down in my bed shaking and I say I’m calling Police. My roommate yells at me saying she’ll get in trouble for having lsd on campus and if I was her friend I wouldn’t call. Well at this point I’m crying thinking a dudes about to die on my bed so I call cops. Kids fine and taken in hospital my roommate is given a write up by ra for drug use but that’s it. She moved out the next month and wouldn’t talk to me because I called police to help her friend. Atia for doing what I thought was right ######

Response: NTA.  Better to have a guy get in trouble than having him be potentially dead in your house.  Your roommate only cared about herself. ######


Prompt:
Everything I ever heard out of this woman was about the "Boren Clan" and how she's a "Proud Boren." Forget that she got married and took her husband's name, and her kids have the husband's name. It's all about the Boren clan.

So, when I had my kid, all I heard from her was this and that trait are from the "Boren Clan." It wasn't "Oh, look, THIS, just like dad" or "THIS, just like mom." It was "THIS, just like a Boren. The baby is a true BOREN." Anything that was not "Boren" she was confused on, because "That's not on my side." She would literally say "That's strange. I've never seen a Boren with freckles. Where could they have gotten that from?" My response of "Some in my side of the family have freckles," was met with "Really? That is weird. Boren's don't have freckles." I don't know if she's playing stupid or is genuinely confused on how genes work.

This has been going on for years and I kind of lost it this weekend. I essentially told her last time I checked, a child has two sets of genes: one from the mother and one from the father. But if she wanted to throw the grandparents, then there would be 4 sets of genes fighting for dominance. But at the end of the day the genes that matter are SO and MINE, and she needs to stop making it sound like my genes don't exist.

My SO found out and said I was mean in my response. But was I? Was I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA.  Because, you know....science. ######


Prompt:
So I'm typing this on the hospital and I haven't actually asked him to split the bill yet. We were at a beach earlier and he tackled my when I wasn't looking (basically a boys will be boys incident except it was totally random. I didn't instigate him. I was sober. He was drunk. He tackled me from behind so I didn't have a chance to react. Compound fracture. Surgery tomorrow.

The pain is excruciating and he texted me saying that he was sorry and if there was anything he could do then ask. I have insurance through work but there's a copay that will likely cost $3,700. AITA if I ask him to split the bill? ######

Response: NTA.  At all!  I would go so far as to say that your friend is the asshole if he doesn't offer to pay at least half of your bill, since he was so reckless as to injure you unthinkingly.  If he is truly a good person, he won't even kick up a fuss about your request.  In a perfect world, he would pay your entire co-pay, so asking him to foot just half of the bill should not be a problem. ######


Prompt:
I just wanna say that I have nothing against this guy and I want to help him where I can. But as of lately, what I thought was a one off thing has turned into probably around 2 or 3 times a week now.  This guy who happens to be disabled (visually impaired I believe) comes by my workshop and asks to use the toilet.

We only have one toilet available so it’s just common courtesy to keep it clean and hygienic.

He does his business and I go in about 30 mins later and find the toilet is an absolute mess. Shit all on the bowl and just stinks. He leaves as quick as he came in and I’m stuck with his artwork.

A few days later same thing, asks to use the toilet and because of his disability I allow him. Came back a bit later and it’s the same deal. Piss and shit everywhere.

Today he comes in again I allow it again. I assume he went for number 2 again because he was in there for a while. Bit cleaner this time but fkn stunk out the joint.

Now i personally wouldn’t go into some randoms shop/house and nuke their toilet. And I’m kinda at the stage of saying no to him now because I don’t know him (and it’s gross cleaning up after him). But I don’t want to be a dick and say no and he ends up soiling himself.

WIBTA if I stop the disabled guy from destroying my work toilet multiple time’s a week? Or is there a better alternative to this?

Edit: sorry I should’ve mentioned he is a random off the street. I see him walk around locally so I know of him, but don’t know him personally.

Also we only have 2 toilets, 1 male 1 female ######

Response: NTA.  And you be up front with him.  You tell him in no uncertain words that every time he uses your bathroom, he leaves it in a very unsanitary condition.  Furthermore you are not obligated to let a stranger use your bathroom but you do so anyway.  Tell him this in private but do not mince words.  You are sicking of cleaning his artwork. ######


Prompt:
Hi, so today, I(16M) and my family was talking about something that can't be mentioned in this subreddit. I said that I wanted to say what I thought about that subject, and my sister started giggling about how I was going to say something stupid probably taken from a youtube video. My dad laughed with her and insinuated that I was going to say something dumb, and my mom said how she was going to see if I was her son, insinuating that she is smart. I really got offended since my whole family was saying that I was dumb, and I really don't think so. I have really bad grades since I started studying in Switzerland (in German), and that's my 4th language, so I get 3 and 4 out of 6 regularly. After that, I took my dishes, cleaned them and came to my room (I had already finished my dinner). Everyone says that I should come back and that was being rude. I am now in my room and I wonder, AITA here? P.S.: sorry for grammar errors, I'm not a native speaker.

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Edit: 30 min later, my mom knocked and apologised, my sister was embarrassed and my dad didnt say anything. Thank you all for the advice!  ######

Response: NTA.  And if your family really are a-holes (I’m assuming what you’re not repeating is that they said something racist or similar), then the good news is that you’re already 16 and can get out of there soon enough.  Keep your space from them now & work on your plan for the future. ######


Prompt: AITA? Today husband was waiting for me in the car while I took my kid in or a dr appointment. While waiting, he needed to use the bathroom and decided to use my coffee cup to relieve himself. We both have reusable cups and mine was empty and his had a small amount of old coffee that he isn’t going to drink anymore. Also, dr office is a short walk away and would let him use the bathroom if he asked. Am I unreasonable I be pissed that he used my cup to piss in?  No matter how much he cleans it, it just seems totally inconsiderate to use my stuff like that. ######

Response: NTA.  And btw, that’s HIS cup now.  He either gives you his (though not sure I would trust that now), or he buys you a new one. ######


Prompt:
I'm a young'un and live with my father and sister, we have two chihuahuas and I recently brought up how I was slowly teaching them the "quiet" command, where once they are barking and quiet down you give them the command "quiet" and a small treat, just to keep form excessive noise, because during the day they will bark until you intervene.

My da' is heavily against teaching them this command and says it goes against their natural instincts, he believes it's inhumane and wrong to teach them the "quiet" command, I reminded him it'd only be on command so they can still bark as a warning for intruders or knocking and such, but he insists that it's wrong to teach them. He says they "can't" be trained the command because they're too small or something along those lines. ######

Response: NTA.  All dogs should be trained to be quiet on command.  Your father is wrong on several counts. ######


Prompt: My ex and I still have regular (almost daily) contact because of our daughter who just turned two. I spent most of our relationship wondering if we were even a couple. Coworkers would ask me and I’d tell them “as far as I know, we still are.” My family and my friends are not his biggest fans because of how he treated me during and after our relationship. He always spun things around to make them my fault, he pretty much went no contact with me once I was pregnant, he asked about my appointments and such but never asked how I was, never came to see me, didn’t hug or kiss me at all throughout the pregnancy. We spent nearly 2 years as a “couple” but only talked about our daughter. He’s berated me for my parenting choices (extended breastfeeding) and told me I’m just sensitive when he made jokes at my expense. Last week I went with him and our daughter on a short drive and he asked me if I’d ever thought about getting back together with him to which I responded “no” rather quickly. AITA for not being more kind about this? I wouldn’t get back with him either way, but I almost feel bad for possibly hurting his feelings. ######

Response: NTA.  After your relationship, a quick no should get your point across. ######


Prompt:
So this past week my 8 year old daughter has been begging me to shave her head. This just started after her 17 year old cousin did it. I've always considered myself a supportive mom and let my kids do whatever they want (within reason of course)

She had extremely long, blonde, gorgeous hair just like I do. She was fully aware that I was going to support her decision, school was cancelled for the rest of the year and she won't go back to school until August (possibly September) so her hair will have time to grow out.

So last night, I got out my husband's clippers and shaved her head for her. She smiled the whole time and loved the end result.

The next day, I took a photo to send to my mom and only my mom. My mom decided to forward it to a bunch of other family members, who got back to me. 90% of them agree that I'm the asshole for not saying no to her and setting limits for her, and also told me that I'm setting her up for bullying.

Here's the thing - it's literally her hair will grow back. She knows. I asked her if she regretted it and she is extremely happy that she did it. As for bullying, she knows how to stand up for herself and that hair doesn't define her beauty.

I personally don't think I'm TA but I want to know everyone else's views on this. ######

Response:
 NTA.  Additionally, good momming: you've shown your daughter a few good lessons:

1. Think long and hard before you make drastic changes.
2. Advocate for yourself.
3. Modern beauty standards are bad for self-esteem.
4. Consent is essential.
5. She's in charge of her own body.
6. Do what makes you happy.
7. Stand up to people who try to tell you how you should look/feel.  You're in charge of that, not them.
8. Any change to yourself will piss someone off.  That's their problem, not yours. ######


Prompt:
My daughter and I are on the same medication, same dosage. We take it at the same time every day (early afternoon) because of side effects. She is too young to carry it with her or remember to take it herself, so I carry it.

I don't particularly enjoy carrying a purse, so on days when I know we will be out when it's time to take meds, I will just bring one of the bottles (because I can fit one in my pocket comfortably), either mine or hers. I then add an extra pill from the other bottle when I get home to keep them even.

However, when I went to drop off my daughter at her dad's house, I accidentally brought the pill bottle with my name on it instead of hers. I told him that he could just use mine, no big deal, and that we both take pills from either bottle because again, it's the exact same medication and the exact same dosage. I would understand if he wasn't comfortable using my pill bottle because it isn't technically her prescription, but he lost it at me and accused me of stealing her meds and shuffling pills around to hide it. He thinks there is more of a risk for me to give her the wrong dose because I'm not keeping the pills separate. I think he's being ridiculous. One pill is one pill coming from either prescription bottle. I'm not going to somehow give her extra pills. Am I the asshole for having this system and for continuing with it because it makes my life easier? ######

Response: NTA.  A pill is a pill is a pill.  My husband and I both take the same medication and same dosage.  When we travel we take one bottle and make up for it when we get home.  I don't see why he's upset. ######


Prompt: I watched my sisters kids yesterday so that she could go to what she called a 'hot tub party' I dont have kids of my own so im not 100% certain of what to do and she didn't leave me a list. She didnt answer any of my calls or texts and she payed me 5 dollars for 2pm to 11pm. I dont want to sound shallow because I'm fine with watching her kids for free but she said she'd pay me $30. The biggest problem is that i dont want to enable her. I think that if you have kids, that the part of your life where you have no cares and act like a college girl, should be over. And she does this all the time. At the same time, if shes going to do it, then someone needs to be there to watch the kids because it isnt their fault. ######

Response: NTA.  A hot tub party during a pandemic? Even without the monetary thing your sister is a huge AH. ######


Prompt:
Hear me out.

For reference, my (23f) family is quite large. I was also quite large until I moved out at 18 and lost 65 lbs (29kg). I went from obese my entire life, to having a normal BMI and finally being healthy.

My older sister (27f, also severely obese) has a 2 year old son. He is currently 50 lbs (23kg). He has a hanging stomach and actual fat rolls.

I live in a different country than my family (I moved) so I don't see them often in person, but I see pictures on social media. Every picture it seems he is only getting bigger. Now that it's summer, they're posting pictures of him without a shirt on and you can just see how huge his stomach is and how he has back rolls. It breaks my heart and frustrates me because I know what it's like to grow up obese and how difficult it makes your life.

In almost every picture, he is eating some sort of junk food. Whenever they call me, they're giving him some candy/chips in the background. It seems they just feed him bad foods all day every day. I try to give them advice on nutrition but they don't want to hear it. They embrace the "I'll eat what makes me happy" lifestyle and know almost nothing of nutrition at all.

Finally, I kind of snapped and told them he's fat and they need to pay attention to his health. My mom and sister got so pissed off that they actually blocked me on social media and called me an AH for making fun of a 2 year old. I didn't mean to make fun of him, I just care for his health since I know how the extra weight can bring you down both physically and mentally. Also I of course did not call a 2 year old fat to his face as it's not even his fault that he's obese, it's the adults fault.

What do you guys think? AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.  50lbs on a two year old is ridiculous.  There's a difference between baby fat and fat fat.The parents may be content with an obese lifestyle, but they shouldn't be encouraging all those potential health problems when he's too young to understand the potential consequences.  Continued enabling will surely only make it harder for the child to maintain his weight in the future through no fault of his own.

Edit:  Just to be clear, I am specifically referring to normal 24-month-olds and am not speaking in reference to children with medical conditions.  Given OP's edit, I stand by what I said initially in this specific case. ######


Prompt: So school is online at the moment so we use zoom. We have to have our webcam and microphone on at all times unless we ask to turn it off. Well I(15M) was in class and I had my door open. Well my sister(20F) walks by my door in  short shorts and a sports bra. She is in her own house no big deal. Well she was in the frame of my camera for a second and my friends being them dmed me on zoom heart eye emojis. So I just played it off like nothing happened well then she walks right into my door frame and was about to ask me a question but I slammed the door on her face and locked it. Once I got out of class I apologized saying I was trying not to get 20 15 years olds to see you dressed like that. She was still really mad at me. ######

Response: NTA.  “Sis, it was either slam the door, or know that 25 horny 15 year olds were fapping to you tonight.  You choose.” ######


Prompt: My (30f) husband (33m) loves tennis. I’ve had 2 failed pregnancies, first one was last year (bad heart at 19 wks), second one was yesterday (10 wk embryo stopped developing). So I need to go to the hospital tomorrow afternoon to have the tissue removed. My husband asks if he can play tennis in the morning since it’s a nice day. He will still drive me to the procedure. Context: last time I lost a pregnancy at 19 weeks, he  played golf the day after we got the bad news. I’ve since then told him I wish he hadn’t done that and I don’t want him to play tennis this time. My reason? This is crushing for me. This is not/should not be a happy time for us. No he cannot go out and have fun. It’d be like if his granny died and I asked can I go to the spa. Don’t make me suffer alone. So I said no to tennis this time and he still wants to that he asked me again and again. I’m at my wits end. I’m about to have something taken out of my body and am I the asshole for not wanting my husband to go out and enjoy his favorite hobby? ######

Response:
 NTA.
I had a D&C last months at 12 weeks (trisomy 18) and my husband stuck by me the whole time.  I had to take misoprostal the morning of the procedure and basically spent the car ride as a nauseous, sad ball of cramping.  I might have had a lot of difficulty driving and it takes several hours to arrive at the hospital on time.

I understand if he is using sports to manage his emotions but FFS there’s a time and place.  Right before your wanted pregnancy is terminated is not the  best fucking time especially if your partner has requested it and needs you there.

Edit.  I can’t believe some of these comments saying OP is the ah because “she’s trying to make her husband miserable”.  My husband had an emergency appendectomy and I had just come off of a 12 hour graveyard shift straight to the ER.  I didn’t even think about fucking off right before his surgery to get some much needed food or sleep let alone to play a fucking game. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway, don’t want to be harassed by prolifers.

Had an abortion last February. Birth controlled failed, we both didn’t want to be parents.

It got brought up the other day and he was like “yeah Linda was shocked you had one.” (his mom) and I was really confused why he told his ultra conservative mom about it?

When I told him it made me uncomfortable that he told his family without telling me he said it wasn’t a big deal.

Here’s where I might be an asshole. I said it’s not his medical procedure to disclose in the first place and given it’s something people are heavily opinionated on I don’t think it’s fair he talked about it without telling me first, I told him I understand if he needed to vent about it but at least give me a heads up I guess? Especially to super pro life people I see for holidays? I haven’t told anyone in my family and I only told one of my friends who was curious about them. it’s just uncharted territory I guess. But he didn’t say sorry and said he didn’t see the big deal. I asked him if he regrets it or is upset by it and he literally says “no I don’t care, it just came up naturally”

AITA? I literally have no idea. ######

Response:
 NTA.
How could your boyfriend even think it is “not a big deal”?   I realise given both your families religious beliefs, it wasn’t an easy decision for you to make... and am sorry you had to go through this.

Your boyfriend is a massive AH for telling his family without consulting you first. ######


Prompt:
I live with a family member who will ask me the same question over and over because "people change their minds" and they're checking to make sure I haven't changed mine. When I get angry and explode over it, they get angry back and call me "ungrateful" because someone loves me enough to be concerned about me but I give them shit for it and don't appreciate it. They accuse me of not having the basic courtesy and respect to answer the question they are asking, even IF they've asked it already. Each day, there are at least 3-4 things about which I am asked repeated questions and it leads to us constantly tense and arguing.

For example, we got takeout and there were leftovers. I explained that I was not going to eat them because I didn't like the food so they could have them or throw them out. The next day, they ask me if I'm going to eat them and I say no again. That evening, they say they didn't eat the leftovers because they left them for me to have the next day. I get mad (and admit I might yell) that I already said I wasn't going to eat them. Next day, I am asked again if I am sure I won't eat them and so on.

Another example is when they go grocery shopping and want to do my grocery shopping for me. I say no and explain I want to go myself to pick out my own food. They'll ask several times that day. Then, they won't go that day in case I'll have a different answer the next day. They'll ask several times Day 2. Sometimes, they accept no and go grocery shopping for themselves. Other times, they wait to go until Day 3 in case I'll change my mind on Day 3.

It drives me up the wall to have to answer the same question numerous times because someone won't accept my answer. I FEEL like an asshole because I know that they're asking me because they care. However, it's DAILY with MULTIPLE things I am re-asked about. ######

Response:
 NTA.

the person isn't concerned about your wants, their objective is is for you to do what they want. it's super obnoxious.

first repeat: "I've already answered that question."

second repeat: "You asked me that twice already, maybe you should get your hearing checked."

third repeat: "I'm concerned with how much you seem to be forgetting things. I think this is something to bring up with your  doctor." "We've already talked about this. do you need me to make that doctor's appointment for you?"

do it every time.

edited formatting ######


Prompt:
This is my first post on this subreddit so here goes nothing.

Hey I’m a (18M) and never had dated before. Never even kissed a girl. Haha embarrassing right? My mom absolutely forbade me from dating in highschool saying “focus on grades, not girls.” I went along with this notion and did pretty well for myself.

Now I have wrapped up my first year of college and have witnessed three of my crushes end up with boyfriends and can honestly not take the heartache anymore. I want to start dating.

I’m a premed major and my classes take a lot of time and effort but I feel like I can add a girlfriend into the mix and do fine. My mother doesn’t want me to and believes I should keep “close friends “ and after undergrad I could ask one of these “close friends “ if I want to date.

I want to ask out this girl who is in my major but don’t want to be viewed as a “bad son” for having a secret girlfriend.

What makes it worse is that my older sister attends the same small university I do and if she saw me with a girlfriend she would tell my mom about it.

TLDR: WIBTA if I got a girlfriend behind my mother’s back? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Date the girl. As long as you can balance it and you feel ready, do it. Your mother should not have this much control of you as an adult.  And base on the fact that she just want you to "keep them as close friends then choose them after" makes me feel like she either completely forgot how dating works, or never had to date anyone ######


Prompt:
I raised 3 kids pretty much on my own. When my oldest was 17, she got pregnant and  had a baby boy that she was no way ready to care for (her words). I adopted him and have been raising him on my own. I had talked to her about birth control and safe sex in the past, but this time I made sure to actually get her on birth control. She  moved out and over the years my other biological children did as well. Then when my daughter was 22 she got pregnant again. This time, she claimed she wanted to raise the child and tried, but eventually felt too overwhelmed and asked me to take him. I adopted this child and have been raising him. She still sees the boys a lot, they know she’s their bio mom, but that I’m raising them.

Since then my daughter has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and has been in and out of treatment. Last year, she (then 25) got pregnant again. I told her that I could not raise another child. Financially, emotionally, etc., I’m drained. I said that she needed to decide whether she was ready or to give the baby up to someone else (she told me when it was too late to abort). She tried to convince me otherwise, to at least help her raise the baby and I said no. She ended up giving the baby up for adoption and I never met him nor do I have contact, because I knew I’d get attached.

My daughter still resents me for this. She has an open adoption with the child and is doing a bit better herself but says that she wishes I had helped her more. She has guilted me at every turn and made me seriously wonder if I did the wrong thing. ######

Response:
 NTA.

> says that she wishes I had helped her more

You've adopted and are raising two of her children, how much more "help" does she expect?! ######


Prompt:
I got a Johnny Walker black label I usually share with people that don't like whiskey or wanna mix it with coke.

I currently live overseas so I only have a couple of bottles of a bourbon I particularly like. It's very expensive where I live and I don't know when I'll be able to go back to the States to get more.

WIBTA if I tell my friend she can't have my bourbon if she mixes it? ######

Response:
 NTA.  "I have JW if you're mixing, Maker's if you want it neat."  Perfectly reasonable.  And anyone complaining about JW Black as a mixer is nuts.

If you felt the need to be even more generous, a basic bourbon is going to be better for matching the flavor, but since you're not in the states I know that's not necessarily easy. ######


Prompt:
My (18f) boyfriend (21m) has been struggling with money recently due to quarantine. His hours at work were cut so he’s having trouble keeping up with rent and bills. Recently, my parents offered to help him. He was reluctant to accept help at first but eventually accepted $400 and was able to get through the month with that extra money.

Now, 2 weeks later he’s asking for $350 more. He’s saying he’ll pay it back to my parents, but what irks me is he’s asking for this money so he can change the exhaust on his car to make it louder. I completely blew up at him because in my eyes he’s taking advantage of my parents’ generosity and asking me to lie to them if they ask what he’s spending it on, as he knows they wouldn’t give him the money if they knew he was spending it on something he didn’t really need. His argument is that he’s going to pay the money back, so it shouldn’t matter.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA.   You boyfriend is absolutely taking advantage of your parents.   Think about whether this is the type of man you want to be with. ######


Prompt:
AITA? My Niece, 9, is addicted to her smart phone. Everyday whenever I see her, she is I glued to it (tiktok and games) for hours.
We are very close, she lives next door, and we do a ton of stuff together (kayaking, Minecraft). We are good friends, and I try to be the cool uncle but I often take a father role as well, as hers sadly is a pos that has 0 to do with her life.

Today, was the same of her hiding inside on her phone while everyone else is outside. I asked my sister if she wants me to set a screen time limit. She said yes, and told me 3 hours. I did.
My Niece is upset at this and is pouting in silence.
I tell her it’s no big deal, 3 hours is plenty of time, and it means more time for fun and doing real stuff. She then gives me the nastiest glare I’ve ever seen from her and lunges her head forward almost threatening.
At this moment, I took her phone and said, “excuse me? I don’t think so. Maybe you need this taken away for awhile.”
Well then she immediately bursts into tears and my grandmother says to me “you’re a bully”.
She admittedly did not see the glare. My sister who also did not see it piles on, and consoles her daughter while telling me I’m out of line.
For clarity I pay for and supply the phone.
I then tell them they are reinforcing negative behavior, undermining me and that taking away a phone is not cruel. Well I died on that hill, and I’m still pulling of chunks of tar and feathers. AITA? ######

Response: NTA.   The cellphone is one of the most addictive devices ever invented; the reaction you got is common.   The true AH here is your sister for bad parenting and not backing you up when she asked you to limit your niece's screen time in the first instance. ######


Prompt:
Residential zoned area, less than .5 acre property, zoning ordinance  limits max of 4 dogs, noise ordinance specific for dogs.

 Neighbor moved in with 3 dogs, now has 11 (all ages, diff breeds).  Dogs barking from 5am-11:30pm.

 We told her nicely about the noise but she refuses to do anything.  Smell from feces is unbearable.

We filed complaint with Zoning Dept.  Neighbor now is mad that she has to give up some of her dogs.

Are we assholes because we don't want a 'kennel' next door to our home with 11 dogs that bark constantly all day? ######

Response: NTA.   She knows what she did was illegal. Keep an eye on her.  She’s going to break the laws again. You can be sure of it. ######


Prompt:
Me (f22) and my fiancé (m23) are getting married in 2 months and have difficulty securing a rental property in this economy.

We found a perfect two bedroom home with a garden and a driveway for a affordable price in the city. We rang the number on the ad and was put through to this woman, from the start she seems unbothered and very dismissive like she wanting to get us off the phone and generally unhelpful. She took our details verbally and said she would get in contact with the landlord with our and get back to us.

A week goes by and nothing, we were pretty keen on the property so we called for a update and she said she will send us a email to fill out (asking about our income and such)... like wtf why didn’t we do this when we first called. We filled it out and sent it to her within 10 mins. 3 weeks go by and nothing again, no update or anything. Very annoyed at this point we requested to deal with another staff member who called us back within 30 mins and told us the landlord accepted another offer.

Honestly I really felt like she wasted our time, so I looked online for her boss’s email and sent him a very upset email about the unhelpfulness and rudimentary service we received from her, I expressed it has really dampened our first impressions of the company as a young couple.

I received a email back the next day apologising and he even showed me very similar properties on the same street and said If we was interested he’d personally deal with it.

We rang up today interested and found out she has been dismissed and the person we are currently dealing with said they will help us as much as he can if we promise not to send a email to his boss loool.

So AITA for essentially getting her dismissed. ######

Response: NTA.   She got herself dismissed, you didn't do that.  There's no reason that people should expect their bad job performance to go unnoticed and unreported.  At the risk of sounding corny, that's one of the things that keeps commerce running. And she did clearly **know** she was doing a bad job with you, as you complained multiple times and she didn't even apologize or try to fix it. ######


Prompt:
I own a house and recently rented a room to an acquaintance, we’ll call them Sam. COVID happened, they lost their job, but I’m “essential”  so I’m still working, meaning they’re at home all day with my pets- 3 cats and a dog.

When Sam first considered moving in, I introduced them to all of the pets and said that you really have to be an animal lover to live with this gang. They’re all rescues and the dog is a 70 pound boxer/pit mix who has tons of energy and wants to be with people all the time. Not a dog you can just toss in the backyard and ignore. Sam assured me they love animals.

Since moving in, Sam has been super weird about the pets- slamming the door shut so the dog can’t greet them, shoving him away when he approaches, leaving him out in the backyard unsupervised, etc. This dog loves people, but Sam so openly dislikes him that I feel like I have to keep him in my bedroom with me whenever I’m home, so I’m no longer using 2/3s of my own house and the dog’s separation anxiety is through the roof. Sam is similarly weird with all of the cats except one, who they keep locking in their room so that the cat scratches up the carpet and meows until I let him out in the middle of the night.

Sam hasn’t been able to pay rent since moving in, which I was flexible about, given the circumstances. But they aren’t eligible for unemployment and haven’t been actively job hunting or picking up extra hours at their side hustle(they actually decreased their hours), so I don’t know how long it’ll be before they can pay rent again. They’re on a month-to-month lease, so I can end it whenever I want to with appropriate notice.

I don’t expect everyone to be an animal lover and I keep my dog under control when around people who don’t want him in their face, but I’m getting tired of feeling like the pets and I can’t relax in the house.

WIBTA If I end their lease after just a few months? ######

Response: NTA.   Just know that if you terminate the month to month and he doesn’t leave, many jurisdictions are not allowing evictions, so you’d likely have to continue living with him for at least a few months, and that could end up being really awkward and unpleasant. ######


Prompt:
I made some BOMB ass Mole Verde for my mom on Mother's Day (Family Recipe) and I had enough left over to bring to work with me. I decided to ask some of my coworkers if they wanted to try it. They LOVED IT! Yay!

One of my coworkers is notorious for calling herself the "Whitest Mexican Girl" because she makes "traditional Mexican food from scratch" (It's not traditional or Mexican) and asked if she could have the recipe. I told her I'd have to ask my grandma for permission to share but probably not.

I get a text from her later that night saying she had an allergic reaction to my Mole and she needs to know exactly what was in it so she can figure out what she's allergic to.... She also asked for me to bring more so she could try it again to confirm that it was in fact my food that gave her the allergic reaction...WTF?!

We do potlucks all the time so we're all aware of allergies and she's NEVER mentioned being allergic to ANYTHING in the 3 years I've been working with her. I'm convinced this is just a charade to get my gmas recipe and I had to beg my gma to teach ME! ######

Response: NTA.   How bizarre of her.   I would just google some generic mole recipe and send her that just so she stops talking about it.  Maybe tell her that she should ask her doctor for a referral to an allergist. ######


Prompt:
I'm working at home now taking calls about people's loans. I got a call from some woman asking some info about her payment history and then requested a copy. So I said I'd send her a full payment report. And then *click click* "Done"

Silence for a bit. And the she asked "Are you sending it?"

I told her I just did. And then she got a little irritated. "That's it?" she said in an irritated tone.

"Yes, I already sent it." She then said "what's with your attitude?"

I said everything in a very neutral tone so I was confused. I simply said "Everything is done. Do you have any more questions?"

She then ranted at me a bit about how I was apparently acting cocky because I did that "too quickly" and easily. So I simply explained to her that it takes only a few clicks to email the info she had requested. And then she screamed "that's not the point!" and screamed a bit more and swore at me before hanging up.

All I did was send her the info she requested in a quick manner. I'm confused. So am I an asshole? ######

Response: NTA.   A lot of people are short-tempered nowadays.  Don't lose any sleep over it. ######


Prompt:
   I’m 16 years old and very open with my parents about sex. My mom often likes to have boyfriends and my dad loves it. I’m great with that. My mom invites a dude over, I go to stay at my boyfriends house.
   I’m very uncomfortable around adult men for various reasons. Even my mothers collection of guys make uncomfortable comments about me sometimes. It makes me feel sick inside.
   Recently she brought up having a live in boyfriend someday. I told her I’m 100% not ok with having another adult man in the house. I figured it was a decent request telling her to put it off for two years until I go to college. I don’t want to constantly be uncomfortable in my own house. I’d feel I’d have to dress covered up, lock my own door at night, and basically hide away constantly to protect myself.
  She says I have no rights to call the shots as a minor. She resents me at the moment, and thinks I’m being completely unreasonable. I can understand her point of view but I can’t help but feel I have the right to comfort. I’m honestly so scared at the idea but I feel really guilty for hindering this. ######

Response:
 NTA.
You have every right to be comfortable in your own home. ######


Prompt:
She snapped me late last night. My "friend." She asked if I would get a letter notarized for her. I thought it was a strange request, because I live in Colorado and in this state the signature must match the ID presented.

I asked her to elaborate on the letter. She said the letter said I am the landlord and her boyfriend lives on my property.

First of all, I'm not a landlord and her boyfriend doesn't live on my property because I don't own property.

Backstory: she lives in public housing and the housing authority found out that her boyfriend lives with her. To prevent eviction, she had to submit letter today that stated her boyfriend lives elsewhere.

She basically asked me to perjure myself. I said no.

But if she was a true friend, she would never have asked me this. Am I right?

I'm angry with her. I don't feel sorry for her. And I do hope she gets evicted.

And I feel like the asshole! ######

Response:
 NTA.
Her request was for you to commit fraud. Decent people don't ask others to commit fraud so they can cover up their own illegal activities.

Don't write anything for her, and seriously reconsider your "friendship;" it sounds more like you're an accessory than a friend to her. ######


Prompt:
Today, my dad decided to pick up Popeyes for lunch today. He asked me(16) and my sister (12) and my mom if we wanted chicken. I said yes, my mom said yes, but my sister said she wasn’t hungry, no. So my dad decided to get fries and 10 chicken wings.

Fast forward to when there was one chicken left. I took it, and started eating. My sister ate more than half of the fries and one whole chicken wing after saying she wasn’t hungry. So she asked me if she could have the wing, but I said no, she had a bunch of fries, and a wing after saying she didn’t want any. So I have her a generous amount of chicken. She ate it, but still got mad at me for not giving her the whole chicken.

She called me a “greedy swine”, and cursed me out in front of my parents, and stormed away. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA.

Your sister was unnecessarily rude, and your dad should know better than to actually think your sister wouldn’t want any once he brought it home. ######