Prompt:
So a month ago my husband and I moved into our current house that we are renting from this guy. He also lives with us in the third bedroom. This was supposed to be a short term thing but because of obvious reasons we don't know how long we're going to be here. Neither of us has had a roommate before, we were both the first person we lived with other than family.

Anyway this morning I woke up earlier than usual so I made my husband and I breakfast. I made us eggs with toast. I used a total of 6 eggs and 2 pieces of bread. Our roommate came downstairs just as I was putting it on the table and was about to get my husband, and asked why he wasn't getting any. I was kind of surprised because I don't know why he would expect any. But he then got mad and said that he's paying for 1/3 of the groceries so he should be kept in mind if we're making something. The past month my husband and I have just been eating small stuff for lunch and dinner, no big cooking of meals or anything, mostly sandwiches and whatever we can scrounge up so it just hadn't come up yet.

I told him that I didn't make him any and if he wanted eggs there were more and he could make some himself. He said he should get some of what I made because he's paying for it and I should keep him in mind. I told him that what I used isn't more than 2/3 of what we had so it doesn't matter and I'm not going to cook a meal for him, I was just doing something nice for my husband. He said he was going to have to rethink our payment agreement for groceries.

Neither of us have ever had a roommate before as I said, so we don't know whether this guy is just strange or if I was really supposed to make him eggs.

AITA ######

Response: NTA, And I’d recommend taking him up on his offer to reevaluate the splitting costs, it sounds like you might all be happier if you each got your own groceries and were clear about who had what ######


Prompt:
I recently made an online clothing purchase, which I was really excited about. I expressed my excitement to my boyfriend while the package was in transit. Once it arrived, I put on one of the shirts and sent a picture to my boyfriend. He responded “wtf is that?” With laughing emojis and when I said “wow” back, he responded with “you can’t be serious right?”

I expressed to him that I was upset about what he said. I suggested to him that instead of making rude comments he should just say I look nice (even if he doesn’t think so). He seemed baffled at this request and asked if I wanted him to “just be a fake person”.

He tried to clarify that he didn’t mean I looked ugly, only that he didn’t picture me to wear something like that. He said I was overreacting and that I “love to make arguments out of nothing”.

So, AITA for being upset over something so small? ######

Response: NTA, and I think the shirt you picked does actually matter because he may be reacting out of insecurity and trying to make you feel bad for wearing something a bit more revealing. I mean really, a white crop top is not outlandish or strange. I expected you to say it was like some strangly printed blouse or something, but even then it would still be rude. Why would he laugh at you over a crop top, or for branching out and wearing something different? ######


Prompt:
Obligatory on mobile etc. I’ve lived with my flatmate for close to a year now and she’s been in a long distance relationship for maybe 6 months or so. We used to be super close but since she got into a relationship we’ve drifted as she wanted to spend more time with her new boyfriend (this is not the issue at hand).

The problem is whenever he comes over they have the most aggressive, animated, liquid-sounding sex I have ever heard in my life. We have quite a small flat and her bed backs onto the wall where my head is to sleep so I get to hear the full X-rated 6 hour show every weekend. I’ve mentioned this to her before as my radiator was vibrating from the intense passion emanating from her headboard for 4 hours straight one evening and she pulled her bed away from the wall. The issue is, I can hear every slap, grunt, moan, wail, growl that is uttered during these steamy sessions and it’s truly terrifying.

We’re all adults here and I’ve got no problem with her getting some but the issue is sometimes they end up giving each other a round of applause for hours on end. The lack of sleep I’m getting from hearing their amateur porn is becoming a real issue.

WIBTA if I asked them to tone it down? Also, how the fuck do I approach it without sounding like a jealous prude that wants to go join in? ######

Response: NTA, and I think if you are straight up and say "I don't mind you having your fun, but it's legitimately affecting my ability to sleep" and affecting your day time obligations, she'll probably be understanding. ######


Prompt:
For background, i have 2 horses. Both are older (mid to late 20s), but one is very old (nearing 30), small (just above pony size and just under 1000 lbs) and has some back and hip issues. She is still in great shape for her age, is very muscular, and still enjoys riding. We trail ride up the mountains near our barn, usually 1.5-2 hours a ride, and they can be difficult and steep, but she does great with me (I am taller but weigh around 115 lbs).

When I bring friends riding, they ride the smaller, older horse and I ride the younger one. This is because the younger horse is very sensitive and not beginner friendly whereas the older one is not sensitive and great for all levels of riding. Because of aforementioned issues, I am selective about who I let ride her as it’s difficult for her to carry too much weight, especially up the steep hills and for an extended period of time.

I have a friend who is well over 200 lbs, does not know anything about horses, and asked to ride with me. I said no and was honest about why, but still offered for her to come groom them and spend time with them on the ground. She went straight to the body shaming tactic, I was skinny so I don’t understand, the horse is fine if she’s always galloping around with me, bigger people deserve to ride too, she’s shorter than me so it evens out, I’m gate keeping horses, etc. I just told her my horse was an animal with limitations, not a machine, and that I’m not going to sacrifice her welfare to spare her feelings. She was furious and we haven’t spoken since. Some friends (who all re also not into horses) think one ride would be fine and I’m being an asshole about her weight. I strongly disagree, I even agreed with her that bigger people can ride, they just need a horse suitable for their size and my horse is not that. So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, and I say that as a plus size rider. An older, pony-size horse is not an appropriate mount for a heavier beginner. ######


Prompt: My girlfriend has been vegan for about 4 years and we’ve been dating for 5 years. It was rough at first when she became vegan because we couldn’t go to any of our old favorite places and personally, I had no thoughts of being vegan so I didn’t want to eat the things she wanted to get. However, she made a decision to change a part of her life, which was difficult for her too so I told myself the least I can do is fully support her. Every Tuesdays and Thursdays, for the past 4 years, I’ve cooked vegan dinners for her. On Saturday’s, I took her out to vegan restaurants so she could also try different kinds of vegan food. I thought I was supporting her by doing these things but lately, she’s been telling me she’s going to get rid of all the pans and all dairy and meat. She’s basically saying I can’t bring in meat or dairy and cook any of that inside our house. I bought the house 3 years ago and didn’t ask my girlfriend for a penny to live here. I told her that there’s no way that’s happening at my house and she called me an asshole and said it’s our house and told me to go eat outside if I want those things. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA, and honestly it’s kind of a red flag how controlling she’s being. A healthy relationship is built off of compromises and not one party telling the other what to do. ######


Prompt:
A few years ago, on thanksgiving, I had dinner at my grandparents house along with some extended family (aunts, uncles, cousins etc).
While we were eating, my grandma kept making comments about my two little cousins weight gain and how much they were eating. On thanksgiving. Where the whole point is to eat a lot.
They’re two young, active boys who like many other children go through different phases of weight. And they both have appetites.

She kept making the rude comments throughout dinner. Everyone stayed silent when she spoke about them.
Every time one of them would scoop more potatoes on their plate, she would say another comment. She started joking that they were “huge”, that soon they would look like sumo wrestlers and that we would have to roll them away from the table.
I finally snapped and said, “Stop. Shut up about their weight. It’s thanksgiving!”

I understand it was harsh and I had terrible manners. I guess I ruined thanksgiving for everyone else. I could have phrased it in a more tactful way but I was shocked by her comments. My family is still mad at me about it.
But I felt justified in defending my little cousins who just wanted to enjoy their thanksgiving meal.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, and holy shit, they're still mad *years* later? ######


Prompt:
Some background: My husband has been helping his mother pay for rent/bills for a while now since his father has been out of the picture and there's almost no contact. About a year into our relationship, I was asked for help here and there as well.

My parents are still together and they're better off, so I have been fortunate not face anything like this growing up. They've never asked for help from me or my siblings, so maybe I just do not understand my husband's point of view.

Husband has two younger siblings (ages 12 and 16) who still live with his mom, whom he also helps support. MIL was laid off last year and did not want to look for a job so she could 'finally relax' for a bit. This infuriated me since she has two younger children still living with her, yet still had my husband help out with finances. Now with the pandemic, work is hard to find. I told him I understand that it'll be hard to find work, so as long as she's actively trying to find work, I'll be more patient.

My husband is in the Navy so he said he feels comfortable still helping out his mother, but now we're talking about having kids. I told him I refuse to start having kids until his mother can support herself. He's told me I don't understand, but I also do not want to worry about supporting children while we're still worrying about helping his mother out. I told him I can wait as long as it takes, just as long as she's independent before we think about having kids.
AITA? ######

Response: NTA, and he really needs to stop enabling her. She can have a break when she retires like everyone else, she has children to support. ######


Prompt:
I (23f) live with my bf (25m) in an okay house. We’ve been together for 4 years and own 2 cats.

Our cats like to jump into the window in the middle of the night and how they do that is by grabbing the curtain and pulling themselves up, causing the curtain to fall down. One of us usually fixes it, no problem.

Well this morning, I woke up to the curtain on the floor and my bf at his desk. My bf has a routine of getting up and immediately going to his desk to work on art commissions. If I bother him while he’s in the zone, he gets pretty mad. But also during that time, he doesn’t make breakfast for himself and usually waits till I get up to ask me to make it. This morning wasn’t any different.

The thing was that I was naked under the covers and the window uncovered is the one that faces our neighbors yard. Even if it was empty, there’s still a chance of them or their kids coming out of the house at the wrong moment and seeing my bits.

I asked my bf to close the curtain so I could go make him breakfast, but he told me no and to do it myself since the window is closer to me. I told him I was naked and didn’t feel comfortable doing it, and repeated the question.

He got up from his chair angry, cursing at me and telling me I was pulling “a fucking power move” on him and he kept saying it while putting the curtain up. It hurt my feelings pretty bad. I changed into my clothes and made breakfast right after.

He refuses to apologize to me still cause he feels like I was in the wrong since the window is closer to me, but I see it as me asking a simple task that takes seconds to do. AITA? Was I pulling a power move? ######

Response: NTA, and he can make his own breakfast from now on. ######


Prompt:
My 8 year old brother is one of the worst people I’ve ever met and he’s only 8. My parents are too busy getting divorced to discipline him. I know he’s going through a tough time but he’s become incredibly mean. I don’t know if anyone else has every had their feelings hurt by a literal child but I have. He insults me every chance he gets, makes trash around the house that I have to clean up and harasses my pets. He likes to lie and take my things. He likes to rip things up. He especially likes to bring up my past relationships (I’m a female, 17) and say it’s my fault they ended because I’m a “cold hearted bitch” or that I’m a slut for “kissing so many boys”. I’m over all these relationships of course but it still bothers me that he says these things. Sometimes he says them in front of my current boyfriend of a year and I think it’s inappropriate, no one needs to be reminded of my past relationships?
So now I’ve decided not to talk to him for the time being but I’m afraid that will do more danger than go for him psychologically and what not but it would save me a headache if I just ignored him for a fat minute. ######

Response:
 NTA, and frankly, his behavioural issues are deeply concerning. The fact that he harasses your pets is a big red flag that he needs professional intervention sooner than later.

Edit: I'm in no way suggesting that the burden of that care would be on you; hopefully your parents will arrange support for him soon. ######


Prompt:
Ok so I may sound like a total a hole in the title but hear me out

Disclaimer for bad grammar I’m upset and writing this quick.

Ok so for the last 3 years I have been aware that my brother goes in my room while I’m at school (he gets home an hour early as he’s in elementary and I’m in 8 grade middle school).

Now I don’t like the idea that he goes in my room but he also takes my stuff all the time. Wether that be a old toy of mine or my coveted  legos (yes I’m a little old for those go off). The worst part is my parents never tell him to give anything back or try and tell him that it’s not ok. Apparently cause he’s young he is t held responsible.

All this has brought us today where on our couch I found the bottom half of my Isabelle amibo that I was gifted. At this point I was pissed because I had cleaned his room the day prior for him because it was disgusting (I’m talking it took me almost 2 hours and still is not the best).

Now I asked him in front of my dad why he stole it from my room and where the other piece was, and as usual when he gets in trouble he just closed his eyes and stoped responding.

So I gave him an ultimatum, if he doesn’t tell me where the other piece is or I find it before tonight ends I’m taking back everything he’s stolen from me. This includes a significant portion of his LEGO toys.

I don’t think I’m being unfair as I’ve told him to stop a multitude of times and to cut it out and this was my breaking point. I don’t really need many of these things he’s taken so I may just donate them all if I can.

So would I be the asshole here?

Extra info: I’m 14 and he’s 6.
. I still enjoy legos however don’t use the ones he’s stolen as often anymore.
.He’s asked me for things in the past such as       some of my stuffed animals and other bigger things. ######

Response: NTA, and for the record, 14 isn't too old for Lego. Some adults will spend hundreds of hours and dollars on them. ######


Prompt: My dad's almost 50. The girl was a college cheerleader for a sports team, and the daughter of a family friend. As far as I can tell she's like 24 at most, and she could have easily passed for younger. Like, if I saw her in my high school I would have totally thought she was a senior or something. I'm 15. My dad was talking about her and was like "oh, she's hot" and was basically being really weird. I think it's kinda creepy to say things like that when there's that big of an age difference, not to mention the whole family friend thing. I told him as much. He got mad at me and said "what's the problem, we're all adults, it's not creepy at all". I personally think that that saying things like that definitely gives creepy old guy vibes at the very least, and that it's very inappropriate and disrespectful to say things like that about the daughter of a family friend. Like, life's not a porno, man, have some standards. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, and as someone who turned nineteen and was horrified to realize I was considered, “fair game” by friends divorced dads, thank you. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway maybe future account

I am a 15 year old girl who has a mom. A few years ago my dad cheated and guess what we are divorced. Anyway my mom does not like me for having a relationship with my dad and expect me to hate him for cheating. Anyway a few weeks ago my mother adopted my sister who has the same exact name to me and gave her last name. So have the same exact names woo hoo.

Anyway today my mom was talking to her friend who is right next to her my mom got a brand new apartment so my friend mom asked for my sister but I thought she was asking about ME so I went in. She looked really confused. I then told her that my mom replaced me with a shiny new "toy" and that she pretends I don't exist. I am just stuck here because of a custody agreement.

My mom came out and so me and was immidietly  embarrassed.  Her friend asked about me and she called me a failure. At this point her friend stopped and told her that she was not fit to parent and that she does not want to be a friend with her. Anyway she left. At home my mom yelled at me for making her loose a friend and that she hates me now. I think I might have ruined my moms only friend ship  which might make me the bad girl ######

Response:
 NTA, and as for the custody agreement, get your dad to dispute it. “Yeah my mom adopted a girl to replace me, *literally gave her my exact name,* and has made it clear that she considers me a failure because I don’t hate my dad so I’d really not like be forced to spend time with her.”

You’re also old enough for the courts to take your opinion into heavy consideration. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway and vagueness for reasons.

I work in a very niche industry. I've been certified in my job & worked at the same employer for 12 years. My employer has a new(er) certification program for the certification level below mine - it works by 4 months of classroom training and 2 weeks of on-the-job training under a preceptor.

I was one of the preceptors.

I learned from a preceptee that an insane amount of my fuckups were recorded without my knowledge and included in various training videos. Other people are included too, but I appear so much that I have a not-very-nice nickname among students. I verified this was actually the case through my own investigation.

I asked the training department to stop using me in training videos. They refused and it was said that they have the right to use the videos since there was no expectation of privacy on my part. In response, I've quit precepting until they take me out.

This causes a reasonably big issue in the training program since I'm the only preceptor in this area and they aren't in a position to train more. This is delaying students graduation from the program and some are quite upset since they weren't scheduled to be in the city so long and have to wait longer now.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, and also it's illegal to record you for such purposes if they didn't tell you, or it's not on your contract or any other document you had to sign. ######


Prompt:
I (M18) work at a fast food restaurant (this was about 6 weeks ago btw, but has been playing in my mind every night). The store wasn’t very busy with only a few customers seated eating their food. A young and attractive girl walked up to register to order her food, and my coworker began taking her order whilst I was left to clean the dining area.

I noticed a man seated in a stall looking a little strange, and pointing his phone towards the girl. I positioned myself behind the man and saw that he was filming the girl, zooming in on her legs/thigh area.

I immediately stood in front of the camera and asked the man if he was filming the girl. He looked up at me and angrily said “she‘s my girlfriend”. I didn’t initially believe him but then the girlfriend approached and sat down opposite the man, and called him ‘babe’. I apologised and said I was unaware and promptly left to save myself any further embarrassment.

Replaying the situation in my head since then, the man was significantly less attractive than the female and perhaps I just wrongly assumed that they weren’t together because of this? I’d hate for me to seem like a classic ‘white knight’ who thinks women need protection from men or something, I just didn’t want any creeps filming unaware girls.

AITA For stepping in too early, or was it just an honest mistake? ######

Response: NTA, an honest mistake. As a woman, I would want someone to do what you did, even if they were mistaken and it was actually my partner. ######


Prompt:
Just before COVID I movies into an apartment with someone I knew through a friend. He’s a really great guy and I pay half the rent, and as long as I pay my half, he cannot enter my room. This is just because I am a very private person, and is nothing personal against him. A few days ago I had gone shopping, and returned to find him searching through my files on my computer in my room, with my closet door opened. I ask him what he’s doing and he gets mad at me for having firearms (I had both real and airsoft in my closet) and certain applications and files on my computer. I told him that he couldn’t go through my stuff as per our agreement, which was written on paper and signed by both of us. He claimed that it was void as I has not payed my half. I pulled up my banking app and showed him that I had indeed payed my half. He got very defensive and claimed that he was not going to have “illegal items” in his apartment (All of my firearms were legal) or a “gay motherfucker” living with him (I’m Pansexual, he looked through my files and history on multiple applications and websites). Many of these files and web application histories contained very personal things which not even my family or closets friends knew, including alternate and private accounts. Currently I have no other places to stay, and have since installed a personal lock onto my door. He hasn’t apologized or said anything to me for the past few days. I told him that unless he apologized I would be pressing charges for privacy invasion.
AITA in this situation? ######

Response: NTA, although depending on where you live, you might not get very far on the privacy invasion charges. Also, I'd recommend verifying that the actual lease doesn't prohibit firearms of any sort as that could potentially get you in trouble with the owner of the apartment. ######


Prompt:
 I had two sons from my first marriage that are now teenagers. I’m remarried and 6 months ago we had a baby girl. This baby is my wife’s first. I totally get what it’s like to be a worried first time parent and it’s not like I’m not worried about certain things, but with others, it’s my third time around. I’ve been there. When the baby projectile vomits, I’m not gonna panic. I don’t judge her for being so, but I think it bothers her that I’m not and she worries that I’m not going to do things right.

When the baby was born, she kept reminding me to support the head. I told her I know, don’t worry, she’s okay. Then as she got older, she kept rattling off facts about temperatures for bath water, how to put her to bed, etc. I was really being as patient as possible and listening.

When all this stuff with the world started going on, things got a bit worse. Things came to a head yesterday when I was trying to feed the baby and she was trying to tell me how to make a bottle. I gently turned to her and said “I know why you’re panicked, but I’ve done all this before, I know what I’m doing.” She for really upset and said that I was trying to say I was better at this and undermining her fears, which I’m not. I’m just saying I have parented before,so I know what to do. She then said it was wrong for me to say that because I shouldn’t remind her of my past like that and I should be supportive. Things have been strained since.

Was I wrong here? ######

Response: NTA, also, you shouldn't "remind her of your past like that"? Does she expect you to pretend your sons don't exist and you never had a relationship before her? If so that's a bit worrying and she needs to get a grip. ######


Prompt:
Okay, so the title makes me sound like a Karen, but please read before you Judge. About half a year ago People moved into a house down the street, they seemed like they were going to be okay neighbors they would wave while unloading their belongings and seemed to be like the others. about a month later thought they decided that they were going to use their back yard as a shooting range.

At first I was fine with it (I am a strong 2A supporter), although the rest of the neighborhood had issues with said shooting (they are all around retirement age and liked the peace that was the old neighborhood). As a result they all tried to call the Sheriffs dept at one point or another. To their dismay As we are in an unincorporated county zone, they are within their rights to shoot as long as they have a sufficient Shooting Berm.

As of this month the fact that they have not received a complaint they have decided to shoot into the night, at one point not stopping until 2am. This is where I have an issue with it as I live with my Grandfather who is recovering from a series of strokes and my 2 and 4 year old niece and nephew who are hard to get to sleep and stay asleep so they will not be cranky the next day. as a result I have looked into the counties noise ordinances and found that they are in violation of those laws.

 WIBTA if II used my decibel meter to record the violations, and got written complaints from my other neighbors to force them to stop shooting during the night? ######

Response: NTA, 2am is ridiculous ######


Prompt:
Basically, I help organize a comedy club in our small city that donates proceeds to charities. Lots of comedians big and small come to perform and it’s become a big hit locally. It’s 100% a volunteer-based thing and not at all formally organized.

Once in a while we have amateur nights and even rarer we have “mini roasts” where audience members volunteer to be roasted by comedians.

Anyways, this past weekend one of our regulars is this 19yo kid with a slight speech impediment. I’ve gotten to know him pretty well since he’s volunteered with us before and wants to do things related to comedy for his career.

Well we had another roast night and he quickly volunteered. He got roasted. Some stuff was on his impediment but he laughed his ass off the entire time. His friends filmed the whole thing.

So not even 24hrs later I get a frantic call from this kids mom telling me that her and her husband plan to sue us for “ridiculing” their handicapped son. She apparently saw the video on his social media and without talking to him already decided to sue us for discrimination. I explained he volunteered but she said we should know better than to let an “obviously handicapped” person be the subject of “mean ridicule.” She said we had a duty and instead we trivialized/mocked his disease and suffering in front of dozens. She also told us to remove the video of the clip we have on our own social media pages.

I do feel a little bad. She talked at length about how they used to be in and out of hospitals when he was younger and how the comedians didn’t respect their pain (I guess she’s referring to the parents, not the kid). But at the end of the day we didn’t force anyone to volunteer and nothing was against his personal consent. AITA for ignoring this woman’s complaints? ######

Response:
 NTA, 19 years old, he made his own decision (and by the sound of it he fully enjoyed it)

Does he have any other issues than his speech impediment? If so then that MIGHT get dicey in some regards but either way it was a consensual transaction of well-meaning ridicule. Roasts are fun, that's why they've been doing them for decades. ######


Prompt:
I [F19] have kept in touch with my ex boyfriend [M18] since we broke up almost two years ago. We follow each other on Instagram and like each other pictures, that pretty much the extent of our communication.

Ex recently got a new girlfriend. I got a DM from him last night saying that his gf told him that he can’t follow any girls who don’t follow her on Insta, and she also has to be following them. He said that if I don’t follow her and accept her follow request, he’d have to unfollow me.

Some things about my Instagram: I have about 50 followers, and they’re all either friends from back home, or friends I’ve made in college. Basically, I know all of my followers. I don’t know who his new girlfriend is, even though we went to high school together. Not sure if this is relevant, but she has about 10k followers and is following 500+.

I read ex’s DM last night, not knowing what to do. When I woke up this morning, he blocked me on both of his accounts (one public, one private “finsta” account).

I feel like shit because I liked seeing what he was up to and all the traveling he did. But I can also see why his new girlfriend didn’t want him following his ex anymore. AITA for not following her, even though I don’t know who she is? ######

Response: NTA, 100%. That is *creepy* of her. She seems incredibly controlling, and that’s not healthy for him. Losing touch with people might actually help him realize that this is problematic of her. You did the right thing. ######


Prompt:
Last night, my (33M) 2 step-children (aged 10 and 11) were watching some funny YouTube videos on TV and since my wife (37F) was already watching, I decided to join in as well.

A clip played where a man was trying to jump from one parking pole to another. He lost his footing and landed right on his crown jewels on one of them. My step-children were laughing and I admit, it was pretty funny.

I joked "Well, he's not gonna be having children anytime soon." My 11 year old asked what I meant and I was about to explain before my wife interrupted and changed the topic smoothly.

Later that evening when the kids were asleep and it was only us two, she berated me for making inappropriate jokes like that in front of children. I mentioned that normally kids their age would be beginning to learn about these sort of things and there was nothing bad in doing so anyway.

She got mad and said that that's not how she wants to raise HER kids (strong emphasis on her) and I shouldn't even begin informing them by joking about it. I got quite angry at what she had said and I reminded her that they're MY children as well and she can't just exclude me out like that.

It went back and forth like that which led to a big, nasty argument (we exchanged a few VERY NASTY words) that ended up with her crying and me feeling like a total asshole at the end of it. I tried to apologise by making her breakfast in bed but she just completely ignored me and continued to sleep, which makes me feel even more bad.

We haven't spoken to each other since. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, 10 and 11 year old kids should know these things. ######


Prompt:
I moved into an apartment on the ground floor of a house which is split up into three apartments. The house next door is owned by a couple with several kids.

The woman who lives there has a temper... A few times, when I've been hanging out with friends in the back yard, she's yelled at us over stuff. Playing music with cusses where her kids can hear, being too "slutty" with each other, which was awkward... Etc.

As far as I can tell she never does this in front of her husband or kids. Her husband isn't home often, it seems.

Then, a while later, I was out getting my mail when four people walked by, the neighbor lady, her husband, and two older people who I think were either her parents or her husband's parents.

The husband asked me if I knew there was water leaking from the hose in the front yard of my house. He seemed friendly and like he was trying to be helpful.

I said I hadn't known, maybe the maintenance guy left it on.

But then I got a really weird feeling about how the woman that has said so much nasty stuff was standing with her family acting really chill in front of them.

I said "Hey, excuse me, aren't you the lady who's called my friends and I sluts, (homophobic slur), and (c-words) ? I was hoping to talk to you at a calmer moment.

She said no right away.

I then, knowing full well that she was that lady, said "Oh sorry, perhaps I'm confused. There's a lady who lives in that house, mid 40s, heavyset with chin length brown hair, smokes out back every night, who's said all those things and more, and I really don't appreciate it. Do you have a sister? A roommate?"

She cut me off and said maybe it's better I leave, and so I did. I heard fighting from that house that night and I think it was because of what I said, her husband and the older couple seemed shocked by some of it.

AITA for calling my neighbor out on front of her family? ######

Response:
 NTA, “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better.”
(Edited to add- Quote is by Anne Lamott, I dropped the quote earlier with quotation marks but without the name of author because I couldn’t think of the author off the top of my head. I assumed it would be understood it was not a quote of mine based off that and anyone could search for the author if they so desired to take the time to do so. Thank you for the gold and also thank you for sharing appreciation of my sharing the quote as advice to OP. I didn’t expect it to resonate as well as it did on here although it has with myself and my social groups over the years. Cheers everyone!) ######


Prompt:
AITA for cutting off a decade long friendship. I was friends with this guy (“F”) since 9th grade. He was my first high school love because he was such a nice guy even though we never kissed or anything, it took years to get over him. He moved away and I transferred for junior year to another high school but we still kept in touch. I always looked up to him as a nice guy and always told him he’ll find a good woman someday. We used to do this 4-way on the phone with this friend and his girl.  The friend (“P”) is in one of the northern states.

Fast forward to now, I’m now 27 and I was jogging and he called. I answered and he was doing a 3-way with P. P has moved to FL. After the convo he says if he can give P my number, I’m hesitant but I say okay, seeing it would be awkward to say no while the guy is on the line. P text me about how’s I’ve been and how I look like now. I wasn’t too sure where he was going but we exchanged a few text and that’s it.

So a few days later, F calls me and tells me, “P was asking me if he had a chance to hook up with you, I told him take his chances.” I felt so disrespected. 1. Lack of respect for me because I never told him I’m searching for someone to hook up with and 2. I had a bf and I felt he was so disrespectful to him and my relationship. I definitely didn’t hold back she gave him a piece of my mind and told him that we are no longer friends.

Now he constantly calls and when I finally picked up, he said I’m in the wrong because he apologized. I’ll never get over it and I’m not even a little bit  interested in being friends with him again.

Reddit wise ones, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, “friends” don’t give your number to people who want to hook up with you when you’re in a relationship. Even if you were single it would still be weird to do, but him KNOWING youre in a relationship and telling P to go for it is morally wrong ######


Prompt:
Note: I do not know the people that live here. We speak different languages. I have had zero communication with them over 2-years. These people mean nothing to me. I am simply staying here while I apply for actual apartments.

The door to this building automatically locks when you leave UNLESS you stick a rug in the door and prevent it from closing. Generally speaking, you should take your keys with you, because if you go outside you aren't getting back in.

This one guy NEVER takes his keys. Yesterday, four times he went outside to smoke, forgot his keys, and spent five minutes banging on my wall to get me to open the door. It was 2am. I was sleeping.

The fifth time I got so pissed that I am simply pretending I am not home. He has been banging on my wall for 3-hours now, and I have just put headphones on. It is really fucking loud, but why should I have to do anything for his stupidity? It is now 1:30pm. He started banging at 11:30am.

AITA for not letting him in? ######

Response:
 NTA,
Understandable accidentally leaving your keys inside once but doing it 5 times a day, at that point he needs to learn the hard way ######


Prompt:
So evidently my roommate has moved her boyfriend in with us during quarantine. Before this he was here 5-6 nights a week, which I had expressed some discomfort with, but now he straight up lives here. Stores his stuff in the living room, comes and goes without her, etc. None of this was run by me. He also lives in the same town, so I'm not sure why the've decided to stay here but I'm not sure I can kick him out at this point given the state of things.

He likes to hangout in the common spaces a lot without her and do work on his laptop, workout in the living room, cook in the kitchen etc. At night they usually watch TV together in the living room. Previously I've tried to be respectful and give them/him their own space but I've been getting kind of annoyed with it. So recently I've been doing whatever I want. If he's working out in the living room and I want to watch the TV I just go and do it. The wifi doesn't reach my room very well so if I want to video chat I have to do it in the dining room and if he's in there too I just go and do it anyways. If they're cuddled up watching TV and I want to use the kitchen which looks into the living room I just do it.

The reason I could be the asshole is because everytime I do those things he just gets up and Ieaves and goes back to her room. If they're together in the common areas and I show up they usually stop what they're doing and leave. I haven't really made an attempt to rectify this because I honestly don't know the man at all and don't really wanna interact with him anyway. My logic is that if it was just me and my roommate we would have no problem sharing these spaces  which is what we used to do. I also pay about $1200 in rent so I don't think I should modify my schedule for someone living here for free.

AITA for going about my life as if my roommates boyfriend isn't even there even if it seems to make him uncomfortable. ######

Response:
 NTA,
This is your space just as much as it is hers and he is infringing upon that. He hasn’t got a right to act like you’re making him uncomfortable when he is sweating on the area rug your Mom bought you when you moved out. ######


Prompt: My sister is 6F. We have a pretty large age gap. For about two years she’s been using the word “yerchother” as a replacement for “each other”. As in: “we are playing with yerchother”. It’s pretty cute so no one corrected her for so long. But today I heard her saying it and I corrected her because she’s getting older. She’s starting to learn how to read! I don’t think it’s any different than if I corrected a kid for saying “buyed” instead of “bought”. But anyway, my dad heard me correcting her and freaked out. He said that she doesn’t need to have correct vocabulary. I think he’s just trying to hold on to the past. She’s in school and it’s just a mistake that will get corrected eventually, so I figured why not do it now, instead of her getting red pen marks on her paper later. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA,
As long as you were being polite there is nothing wrong with teaching a kid how to do things properly. It can and will effect her in the future. ######


Prompt: A little background, my som is almost 2 and I post very little about him on social media, not too many photos, because I don’t want his face plastered all over the internet. Anything I do post about him is all private due to my privacy settings so only the people I want to see it can. My SO and I have told all of our family members this multiple times, but for some of them it has fallen on deaf ears. My SO grandmother announced my son’s birth on Facebook with a photo before my son was even an hour old and before we even had the chance to tell everyone. And now my SO’s grandmother has my son as her profile picture and cover photo on Facebook, and after asking her to remove it several thousand times it is still up as well as several other photos of my son all with the privacy settings on public so anyone that searched her page could see them. Would I be the asshole if I reported the photos to Facebook to have them taken down? My SO thinks it would be rude of me, but I am just desperate. ######

Response:
 NTA,

You've got your hands full right now, dealing with this should be the least of your worries. I'm sure this has been distressing.

How truly disrespectful for a grandmother to put such undue stress upon a new mother and to do so in a very public way. Your initial plea should have sufficed. I'm sorry that you're having to go through this with all else happening around you. This was a clear boundary for you and it's one she should have recognized. Social media privacy is a big deal. Do what you need to to protect your child.

I suspect this won't be the last of your run ins with grandma so keep your backbone sturdy. You'll need it.

Good luck, congrats on your new baby and be well! ######


Prompt:
So a few months back my cat Figaro had been acting a little strange, like not eating and just sitting there not doing anything, and I (12M) immediately told my mom that we should get him to the vet, so that’s what we did.

Now mind you Figaro is/was 9 at the time, so he had quite a few more years in him, and at the vet the doctor checked him out and he said the only real issue was that he basically was constipated and just needed a few days for it all to get flushed out.

Come next week he’s still not eating and my whole family is sort of panicking, so we decide to take him in one more time, and the same thing happened. The doctor said he was just constipated.

Then a few more days go by and nothing has changed. Two days later we find out he had major heart failure and had to be put down. Me and my mom were furious. Because the worst part was if that doctor would have taken the goddamn time to actually look instead of just say “Oh yeah he’s just constipated give it a few days”.

Anyways, we IMMEDIATELY took our business to another veterinarian in the area, and some friends of ours who also go to that vet have been saying we over reacted and should give them another chance.
So Reddit, AWTA?

Edit 1: sorry if my grammar and or English is a little fucked rn it’s 2 in the morning lol ######

Response:
 NTA,

I hate when doctors just brush things off. I know we can’t always be right and we will make “human” errors. But yeah, I don’t blame you for being upset about it and switching. ######


Prompt:
Before I start, I'm F18 and all the people in the story are around my age. Also, english is not my first language, so I'm sorry for any mistakes.
So, not while ago, this guy (M20 I think??) followed me on IG, and we had some mutual followers so I decided to follow him back. Soon after that I got a message from him saying he wants to hook up and a photo (dickpic). I immediately blocked him, of course. But because it wasn't the first message like that I've received, and I'm seriously annoyed with how some guys think they can do whatever they want without consequences, I decided to try something dfferent. With a little research, I found his mom on FB, and decided to message her. I apologized for messaging her out of the blue, and aksed (just to make sure I got the right person) if he was her son, with a picture of him. When she answers, I plan on telling her about the dickpic. She still didn't see the message though, so I guess she won't see it at all (probably because we aren't friends on FB and she doesn't know about the Message request thingy). But that's not the point now. Some of our mutual friends are calling me an asshole because I did that, telling me I overreacted, that I embarrassed him and that it was not such a big deal.
Right now I'm not sure if I did a right thing.
So, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA,

And, my response to unsolicited dick pics is I find really diseased ridden penises and send them back to them. If they are going to send me gross things, they can have the same reaction.

I’m petty, though. And I’m a nursing student, so the pictures don’t bother me too much. ######


Prompt:
Hello there! I'm a very friendly person and I'll chat with anyone and I always keep things light, casual, and non-committal because I love my space and privacy.

I logged into Facebook after YEARS off and decided to join my neighborhood community group of homeowners. Afterwards, a few of my neighbors requested to add me as a friend. I had no problem with that.

We would casually chat over posts and comments, nothing ever more serious than 'Star Wars is awesome!', etc.

A neighbor who had requested me posted something about minimalism and I commented that I used to live in a tiny home and how great it was. She mentioned she and her husband did, too and we both have Huskies so we LOL'd online about how much vacuuming we have to do.

She then immediately sends me a private message (1st time she comminutes privately) and says:

'Please don't message on my personal Facebook page like you know me.'
'I have never met you in my entire life'
'You have a lot of audacity or you're just rally (sic) lonely'

I replied back 'I've obviously upset and offended you and that wasn't my intention. I'm going to unfriend you now'.

She replied back 'I already unfriended you' and I replied 'Thanks' and that was that.

I'm so baffled. I have a bit of social anxiety and I would hate to make someone feel uncomfortable. I ended up deactivating my Facebook and making my Instagram and Twitter private.

AITA here? I'm not sure what I did to elicit such a reaction from a neighbor. ######

Response: NTA,  she could be a weirdo,  or she could be living with a jealous and abusive partner who saw the post and had a problem with it. ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend (we have been dating 3 years) is Hispanic, and his mother(call her M) only speaks Spanish. I know very little in Spanish, but I’ve been learning the language so I am able to have full conversations with her soon. But I wanted to get her a Mother’s Day gift that was a bit more special than I’ve done previously, more than just some flowers/jewelry. I have a friend who speaks Spanish and I was going to have her help me write a note in Spanish for M so I would be able to really tell her how I’m so appreciative of her bringing me into her home and always treating me as a daughter, and that she’s done an amazing job raising her sons.
I thought it would be a nice surprise to drop the note off at her house with her gift.
I talked about this idea with another friend of mine and she laughed and said it was kind of insensitive. I asked how so and she said that it’s not my language and that since I can’t even speak Spanish fluently it’s a try hard move.

She got that thought in my head now and now I don’t know what to do. Would this be an insensitive thing to do? I just wanted to create a gift for her where I’m able to show my appreciation for her but I don’t want it to come off wrong. ######

Response: NTA,  it would be a lovely thing to do. ######


Prompt:
Most of your schools probably have had the fundraisers where you sell their wrapping paper or food or something and they give you a prize.

We had one of them come over to my school and I looked at the catalog. If i sold 10 dollars worth of goods i got a prize that was worth like 25 cents. If i sold 25 dollars wroth of goods i got something worth a dollar. If i sold 50 dollars worth of goods i got something worth 5 dollars. If i sold 100 dollars worth of shit i got something worth maybe 10-20 dollars (couldn't find the price of this one online). I can't remember the rest this was all like 5 years ago.

The person was making a presentation telling us how we can raise money for the school. He asked if we had any questions and I then asked him "what percentage of the sales actually go to the school and not to your company?" and he said that "well we can't answer this question but i can tell you a lot of it will go to the school thanks for the question" and before he could say next person i butted in  "what's the point of me spending hours if not days trying to get 100 dollars worth of sales when i can just mow my neighbors lawn for an hour and get 20 bucks to buy the shitty prizes online for a cheaper price?"

Everyone starts laughing at this point and he basically refused to answer the question and told me to sit down. Principal came over and pulled me out and told me to sit in the office and told me i was extremely rude and disrespectful to adults. I became sort of a legend my middle school for this, though i was put on probation and they told me if i ever pulled this shit again i'd be suspended. Fuck my middle school ######

Response: NTA,  even as a parent i dont suport school fundraisers these days for that reason. Kids bust ass for nothing, school gets some small percentage. ######


Prompt:
So for some reason I’m the only kid (19F) on my mums side of the family that’s in the adults only group chat. I think it’s a mistake my Gran made it when she created it. Anyway, this has led me to get to hear the crazy ramblings that go on daily from my grandparents.

A couple days back we were talking about how hot it is out lately. We were joking about global warming when my Gran comes out with this dumpster fire of a message: “Or is it the fact that the air pollution has reduced so dramatically that there is not so much muck between the sun and the surface of the earth. Whatever is the reason, you can be sure that the Chinese are definitely to blame. I hate China. If I could get rid of everything in the house that did not have some influence from China, I would. However, that would mean our house would be very empty!”

I showed the message to my mum and we both shared a surprised pikachu face. Then with the guidance of my mum (so I don’t just call her a racist old bigot) I respond with: “I understand where your views are coming from Granny but we’ve got to remember we can’t judge a country/race just for a few people’s mistakes. It’s like Germany. It’s a beautiful place where a lot of good things have come from, but we all remember the mistakes they made in the last century. Hope you had a good bank holiday weekend and enjoyed the sun.”

The groupchat went SILENT after that, and now my mum has got a string of emails along the lines of “oh you must think we’re horrible people that never do anything right” from my Gran. I font feel guilty about calling her out but I do for making it awkward for the rest of my family and my mum. ######

Response: NTA,  but you might be better off leaving the group chat. Granny isn't gonna change. ######


Prompt:
some background information:
My family owns two houses, one in Pennsylvania and one in Brooklyn. Me (M19) and my sister (F21) are staying here in Brooklyn because we didn’t want to go up to Pennsylvania with the rest of my family. My other sister and both my parents are in Pennsylvania. They wanted to go up there to get away from you know what.

Ever since my sister and I were by ourselves, my mom calls me 4 times a day and asks me to see if my sister is okay because she never answers my moms calls or texts. I was getting seriously annoyed because pretty much every call or text I got from my mom was her asking for me to check up on my sister. It reached a boiling point when she called me at 9AM this morning which woke me up. She told me to check to see if my sister was ok because she wasn’t answering her calls. This is where I might be the asshole. On the phone with her after I checked up on my sister I told my mom to not call or text me again if she is going to ask me to check up on my sister. She isn’t going out (everyone knows why but we can’t say it). If my sister doesn’t answer her calls or texts it’s probably because she doesn’t want to talk to you or she’s just sleeping. My mom got seriously pissed at me and hasn’t texted or called me since then. I just think it’s so annoying how I’m literally being woken up because my sister doesn’t bother to answer her phone and my mom resorts to me checking on her and this is happening like 4-5 times a day. PLEASE NOTE my sister doesn’t have depression or any mental/physical disability she is perfectly fine, just fucking lazy.

So AITA for telling my mom to not contact me if it’s about my sister? ######

Response: NTA-your sister seems to have little regard for your parents' concerns and they need to take that up with her. Why not have an agreed-upon check-in time each day with your parents, both of you at the same time on Facetime and be done with it. You are lucky to have parents who trust you to stay in Brooklyn by yourselves; show them that they did not misplace their trust and reassure them at least once a day that the two of you are doing fine. There isn't a whole lot else to do if you are staying inside. ######


Prompt:
I don't have the happiest home life, my dad and mom got into a lot of fights because he was cheating on her. I don't know why they're still together honestly.

He's also been angry at me a lot for academics, I've been studying from home and he thinks I'm being lazy and stupid

He and she fight a lot, and when that happens, I just kind of mentally shut down. Like let my eyes unfocus, stop paying attention to my hearing or other senses. Just relax into my own mind. It honestly feels like an out of body experience a little, I feel untethered from my own body, like I'm floating through empty space. It takes a while to come back too; like I feel kind of like I'm deep deep underwater and anything that someone says or does is blurred and delayed so much by the time it gets to me.

I know that sounds super weird but honestly it's the thing that's keeping me sane through this shit.

But I think it's been making my dad and mom really mad, when either of them is angry with me and I go to that place, they get furious, they yell at me for being a "fucking vegetable" and accuse me of being messed up in the head. Tried to shake me out of it once. Been telling their friends that I'm autistic. I don't think I am.

I know it makes them mad but it's honestly the nicest thing I can do for myself, I'm so sick of their shit. If I can't go somewhere physically, I guess the next best thing is to leave there mentally.

AITA for going to that other mental place when there's anger at home, even if it makes my dad and mom mad? ######

Response: NTA-You’re doing what you need to do to survive in that type of situation. I used to do the same thing. ######


Prompt:
For starters, I just wanna say that I love my MIL and we get along most of the time, but she’s really been getting under my skin lately.

My husband is an only child and his mom chose to take on a very traditional role as a mother. She didn’t work when he was little, did all the cooking, cleaning, etc., which is completely fine if that’s what she wanted to do. However, since I am now pregnant I have had to deal with increasing amounts of judgments and micro-aggressions from her.

Some examples:
1. Whenever she comes to visit she immediately starts cleaning and doing my husband’s laundry, all while questioning why the house isn’t better kept
2. She’s always talking about how people criticized her for not making my husband do any chores and how he turned out great. I love my husband and he’s perfectly capable of doing chores but it’s pretty clear that the lesson he learned is that it’s not his responsibility to help around the house, and only does chores if I specifically ask him too.
3. She is constantly judging my decision to continue working after becoming a mother, making comments such as “why would you have a child if you’re just going to go to work all day and send them to daycare?” I know she wants to come stay with us for a while after the baby comes and I’m grateful for the help but I almost don’t want her to because I don’t know if I’ll emotionally be able to handle the parenting criticism I think will come my way.

Today, she made a comment about how women are less successful in team based sports and esports because women are naturally more caddy and emotional. I was already in a bad mood for the aforementioned reasons and responded by telling her that her comments were extremely sexist. She didn’t really say much back and moved on to a new topic but I could tell I hurt her feelings. AITA? ######

Response: NTA-you need to put your foot down right now. If she's allowed to say these sexist things in YOUR house, your kid's going to be influenced as well. Do you really want your MIL to be telling a granddaughter she has to clean up whilst the grandson goes playing? Unless you want this to repeat, you need to shut it down now. ######


Prompt:
So I'm gay. I've come out to my parents when I was 14. My mom was distraught and my dad didn't seem to care. My mom was mad at me for over 2 months, but eventually came to terms with it. Though she does make passive aggressive remarks saying she can't wait for me to marry a girl and whatever, she still asks about my bf from time to time and she's still amicable towards me so it's all good. My dad and I .. don't talk to often. Only when we work on things together do we really talk. He often makes comments on what traits are attractive in a girl, what kind of girl to marry, etc etc. When I was 15, I told my dad in a sort of awkward way "dad I'm dating Mike, he's been my boyfriend for 2 years" and he seemed to just brush it off and continued to talk about girls and well I didn't correct him going forward.

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Last night, I told my mom me and Mike would be moving in together and were probably gonna get married soon (we're 23/23). I know it seems a bit early but we've been dating each other for like 10 years now and well, we still like each other so that's probably a good sign. My mom was extremely upset as although she still supported me, she still hoped that "I'd change my mind and marry a girl" but again, she's not aggressively harsh towards me and we're still on good terms so it's not a big deal. My dad however... apparently just found out I was gay. He was extremely upset with me and asked me why I didn't tell him sooner so he could change my mind/prepare for this. I sorta just told him well dad... I did... twice but he apparently had no memory of this. He was furious at me for not giving him time to prepare for the "loss of his son" and well, I kinda expected this eventually (a lot earlier honestly). AITA for not pressing this matter earlier? I've been comfortable with my sexuality for a long time, and I guess I could've pressed in the fact as over the past 8 or so years, I've sorta been leading my dad on by not correcting him. ######

Response: NTA-You did tell your father multiple times. It’s not your fault he brushed you off because you were telling him something he wasn’t willing to hear. ######


Prompt:
I went out to dinner with my husband and our neighbors. My husband is a native Spanish speaker and I am mostly fluent. During the dinner, I got a few texts from the babysitter saying that my son had diarrhea in his pants and was crying from an upset stomach. Another came a few minutes later saying he didn’t have a fever and the babysitter had it under control and we didn’t need to come home early. I saw the texts after the second one came in so I got the whole story at once.

My husband asked what was wrong and I quickly told him in Spanish because I didn’t want to talk about poop at the table, but I also didn’t want to just say that our son had an upset stomach because he’s been having some digestive issues so it’s important for us to know what’s going on. I also wanted to make sure that he didn’t want to head out early under the circumstances even though the sitter said she had it handled.

Well the husband of the other couple didn’t not take it well. He called us rude and demanded to know what we said. I tried to explain that my son was having a health problem and I didn’t want to toilet talk at the table, but he didn’t believe me and said that we were obviously talking about them. We both tried to reassure him that we weren’t, but he refused to speak to us for the rest of the meal. We ended up just making awkward small talk with his wife who looked like she was very embarrassed. However, when I retold this story to some friends, some said we shouldn’t have spoken Spanish in front of them because it was rude and it’s only natural to worry that we were talking negatively about them. Am I the asshole for speaking Spanish about my sons accident/illness at the dinner table? ######

Response: NTA-They were being ridiculous. I can understand them making that assumption but they should have believed you when you explained the situation. The husband was being all dramatic for nothing ######


Prompt: I 27(M) have been dating my girlfriend 24(F) for six months. I love wearing sweatpants when ever I can my favorite ones are my grey ones. Lately she started to ask me to change to a different color which I would brush off. Well yesterday she told me it was inappropriate to wear them outside the house. Now here where I might be the ass I told her since we were talking about things that bother us I told her not wearing a bra bothered me. She told me that that’s not the same and that it was The responsibility of men to not stare at her. I replied with it not my responsibility if woman want to stare at me. She got mad and left. So AITA? ######

Response: NTA-She’s correct it’s not her responsibility to make men not stare at her. You’re correct that it’s not your responsibility if you get stared at either. She doesn’t have to like your clothes but she doesn’t get to tell you what to wear. When she does it’s only fair you get the same opportunity to tell her what she should be wearing. ######


Prompt:
My older sister and I play pranks on each other occasionally. They’re usually minor stuff, like once she gave me ‘ice cream’ but it was frozen mayonnaise and once I taped down the spray tool in the kitchen so when she turned the faucet on it got her wet. Nothing major and nothing dangerous, just normal sibling fooling around.

On Sunday I woke up and my wheelchair wasn’t by my bed. Naturally, I kind of freaked out. I woke up pretty late and I could see my parents car wasn’t in the driveway, so I ended up calling my sister and asking her to come in to my room to see if she was home. She did, and pretended to act really confused.

Apparently her idea for the ‘prank’ was to pretend I’m not disabled. So she came in, I asked where my chair was and she was like “What do you mean? You can walk.” It didn’t take very long to figure out she was joking, but I didn’t find it funny and said so. She was on the verge of laughing the whole time. After asking several times for her to drop it, she didn’t. It was clear she thought it was absolutely hilarious and I didn’t.

I ended up calling my mom, who was out grocery shopping. Now my sister is grounded and she’s mad and says it’s my fault for being a snitch and not having a sense of humor. While it technically is my fault she’s in trouble, idk if I did anything wrong and if I was too sensitive or if she’s overreacting and it was a bad prank. ######

Response: NTA-Pranks aren’t funny when they go too far such as taking your wheelchair. ######


Prompt:
For context, my two friends (20F) and myself (19F) are all queer. This happened a while ago, but it still bothers me.

I’ve only been in two serious relationships and both of them have been with cis men. Still, I identify as a pansexual as their gender doesn’t matter to me.

In my first relationship, I didn’t really notice that my friends were acting any different from when I was single. After a while, things become more obvious. They’d stop talking about girls when I joined the conversation and switch topics. They didn’t want to tell me about their crushes, but I didn’t really mind, it’s up to them whether they want to tell me or not. But then it got more serious, I couldn’t talk about any issues concerning LGBTQ+, because apparently I couldn’t relate to them.

Now on to the main story. Pride is celebrated in my country and it’s a big deal for the community. We’ve wanted to go for years, but there was always a reason we couldn’t go. Except for this year, all three of us were free and I was really excited about it. I had noticed though, that they hadn’t brought it up for a while, so I asked them about it. They didn’t think I intended on going, because ‘I’d been living the straight life’. I told them that I still identified as pan and wanted to be treated that way. They answered that to be treated as pan I should be acting as pan.

That made me so angry. I thought our community was inclusive and I at least expected that from my own friends. I told them they were being biphobic/panphobic and that I didn’t even wanna go with them anymore. Basically they didn’t think you could be biphobic/panphobic when you’re queer. I said that they should be ashamed of themselves and I walked away. We’re still friends, but they still believe that I was an asshole for saying that, but I don’t know, am I? ######

Response: NTA-our community is supposed to be inclusive. But the reality is, a lot of members of the LGBT community are biphobic and transphobic. I would suggest looking into resources that can educate your friends on the validity of your sexuality so they stop trying to gatekeep, however it is not your job to educate them. ######


Prompt:
Looking for some other opinions to help with my perspective.

My wife saw an area rug she liked on Craigslist. It was described as in good condition and was close to where we lived. The seller was asking $40 and my wife called and asked to come see it. The seller was about 10 minutes away, and my wife arranged a time to go meet.

Her story upon returning with the rug was that she arrived at the destination to find the rug on the porch and the seller not home. When she unrolled the rug to look at it, she decided it was in poor condition and not worth the seller’s asking price. To be fair, she is a career interior designer and well capable of making this determination. However, she decided to leave $5 and take the rug to use for a different purpose than initially intended.

After she explained this to me, I insisted she return the rug or get agreement from the seller that she could have it for her $5 offer. I explained that taking something that was not hers for a not agreed on price was theft and, regardless of how inconvenienced she felt, it did not give her the right to unilaterally decide on all the terms of the sale without the sellers consent. Her claim is that the seller was inconsiderate for not being there at the agreed time and making false claims about the condition of the rug gave her the right to take it for whatever price she felt acceptable.

She wound up returning the rug but treating me horridly for more than a week for ”not backing her” in this situation. I will add that she did all of this in front of our teenaged daughters and I felt strongly it set a very poor example. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA-No matter how your wife tries to justify it that was theft. ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend and I got into a big fight this past month where I discovered he and his ex were having less than friendly contacts with each other. They had basically slept together and kissed each time they parted ways.

We were on a break and agreed to work things out again. My boyfriend agreed to set boundaries but he wouldn’t tell me what they were after he had met with his ex for a talk. It’s been almost a month since and I still feel paranoid and distrustful of him and had already told him about this and me needing him to tell me the boundaries that were set. He told me to just have faith and trust him and so I did. We had a talk about this just two days ago. Prior to this I had made it a rule that he has to inform of when he will be seeing his ex again and kept it again after he refused to tell me their boundaries.

Just yesterday he went on a dinner with his ex where I suggested he should not pick up and dropped off the ex. He disagreed and tries to defend his decisions by saying that his friends does the same to him and asked why can I pick up and drop off my girl friends but not him. That it was a friendly thing he was doing. We ended up having a big fight. I tried telling him none of my friends were my exes who had asked me to sleep with them or had confessed to wanting to get back together with me and that it was obvious why. I told him he had to work for my trust as I still doubt he understood me.

My boyfriend apologize to me after he had gone on the date and ignored me all night saying he understands why I’m upset and that he won’t do it again. I told him it is a pattern of him doing the deeds and apologizing after and that I was fed up. He in turn said he’s getting fed up with my pattern of angry outbursts at him and my paranoia and controlling attitude.

I’m a bit floored by his response. ######

Response: NTA-lot of red flags here, he’s not over the ex and I guarantee he probably whines about you to her. Your best bet is to drop him as he will never fully commit to you so long as she’s around and from his behavior, it’s clear she will always be around ######


Prompt:
I've lost my son 2 months ago, He was only 25,he was disabled, he had cerebral palsy since birth.

My husband and I loved him so much and gave him all the love and care he needed to make through the difficult times.

Since his death I have been getting a lot of "advice" on how to move on in life and pretend like my son didn't even exist.
Just like what they did when my husband passed away two years ago, my Brother in law (husband's brother) has always been a total asshole to me, one week before my husband died he told my husband to not worry about me cause I will marry again.
He told this while he was dying!
My husband was a great man, he was a donor, He cared for our son and always wanted for him to be happy.

When my son died, right after we got back from the funeral, my BIL, and his wife stayed at my house for a whole week

He said "why are you still so sad for your son? You should be happy for him, you should be happy for both of you, Him not having to deal with his disability anymore  and you being free, now you can go live your life without having to have to take care of a disabled person"
"It wasn't like he was gonna make it to 50 right?"

I felt just awful, I got so angry with him, I told him he was an asshole and told him to get out of my house, he started running his mouth again and said "I know you're just acting out cause you're grieving, but that does not excuse your shitty behavior towards me and my wife"

Before he left, I told him to hand me the spare key to my house that he STOLE from my husband before he died, he lifted it up then instead of giving to me, he tossed it in the trashpin.
His wife was laughing on her way out, And I just stood there feeling awful, I cried my eyes out that day, and wished my son was there to comfert me.

Now he's calling me to say that wants me to come over and help his wife decorate his son's birthday party. ######

Response: NTA-I’m so sorry for your loss. You need to take care of yourself right now and a big part of that is not allowing people who don’t care for you around. ######


Prompt: My girlfriend asked me if she could access my Facebook to untag me from old photos. I said no then asked why. She showed an example it was a photo from about 10 years ago with me in a club with a girl hugging me and leaning on my shoulder. It was an ex but she didn't know that. I don't take many photos so I value people tagging me in theirs. ######

Response: NTA-Everyone has a past. She has no right to try and alter yours because she’s feeling insecure or controlling. ######


Prompt: He threw a fit after me and my mom were cleaning my sisters room, and I accidentally dropped a glass. He then unloaded the dishwasher, re-arranged the kitchwn dish layout, and moved my moms cups to a place where she can barely reach them. I sent him that, and he responds "They where there for half the time we lived here" I go "Well it hurts her back to get them, and she shouldnt have to climb to get them. I get payed to do the dishes, she does them 2/7 days a week, and he does them once a month, if that, and me and mom do 97% of cooking. ######

Response: NTA-But I think your mom needs to say something and put her foot down, he may not listen to you. ######


Prompt:
I (22F) went to visit a friend who needed some help from Thursday morning to Sunday evening. I asked my mom to look after my cat (visit in the evening, feed/give water/scoop litter) while I was gone. I always look after her dog when she's on vacation, so it was fine.

When I came back I found out she had reorganized my kitchen, including the insides of the cabinets. She threw out my 'normal' brush I use to scrub dishes (the one next to the dish soap, on the counter) and dug out my other brush (all the way in the back of the cabinet with cleaning supplies) and had used that to wash her coffee cup thursday to sunday. Apperently she thought it was a back up brush?

Problem is I use that brush for deep cleaning the litter box once a week. She was disgusted (understandably so) when I told her, and wanted me to apologize for not warning her about the brush.

I didn't apologise, she had no reason to go though my cabinets and reorganize my kitchen, she doesn't live here. There was no way she could have used the wrong brush if she didn't insist on snooping.

That was Sunday, we haven't talked very much since then. AITA for not apologising/not telling her? ######

Response: NTA-. Your mom is ego centric. She's blaming you for her pulling out something from your cabinets after rearranging your kitchen. ######


Prompt:
A few days ago, my SIL and brother had a kid. They wanted me and my mom to visit, (we social distanced and stayed outside). My mom brought a bag of presents and I bought one of those rattle toys.

My SIL was really mad because she felt like I didn’t get my nephew enough things, she also said the rattle looked cheap. My brother and I never got along and he stayed silent the whole time.

I’ve been saving for college and thought it was a nice thing to do but that was clearly not understood.

She never liked me and called me ‘child-hating’. She honestly really hurt me and I don’t think I’ll be visiting them again any time soon.

My mother also thought I was ‘way out of line’ for getting her something that wasn’t very expensive. We aren’t rich and just wanted to do a nice thing.

SIL said that it’s basic etiquette to bring nice things for a newborn and I clearly don’t understand that.

I’m starting to feel like shit, I don’t want the kid to grow up hating me because his parents don’t like me.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA--

WOW. Your SIL and brother sound entitled. Receiving a gift and saying that it looks cheap or that it's not good enough? Politely receiving a gift is something that you learn at like age 3.

OP, you are not TA. They should be lucky you even got them a gift. The thought counts. You don't owe them anything. ######


Prompt:
Recently, my church has started a new initiative wherein they encourage members to do "one good deed a week". Absolutely fine, nothing wrong with that at all.

However, they are also encouraging members to take photos/post online/tell people of their good deeds. This, in my mind, goes directly against what the Bible says.

The specific verse I'm thinking of is Matthew 6:1 "Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven." (NIV).

Which I take to mean - do good deeds, but not so you can show off about them, because it's good to do good things. Treat people well, take care of them etc, but don't then showcase how amazing you are for doing them.

So, WIBTA if I sent that particular verse to the same church group chat where people are showing of their church-sanctioned "one good deed a week"? ######

Response:
 NTA-- religious hypocrisy is gross. Fair warning though, you may want to soften it with a little intro like "Hey everyone, so glad we're doing these wonderful things for the community but l'm uncomfortable with how we are advertising the good works on social media.... (insert bible verse)"

I'm not saying that because I think religious hypocrites deserve coddling, but because religious hypocrites tend to be very sensitive when called out and if this is a primary social group for you that you want to keep, tread lightly. ######


Prompt:
I’ve been living in my home for just a couple years now. I’ve tried to spruce up my yard a bit with flowers and plants in the past, but they always end up dying rather quickly. I have a few empty decorative pots around the yard, and I don’t mind that they’re empty. I kind of like that they’re empty because it’s better than constantly looking at dead flowers.

I recently had a new neighbor move in next door. I’ve had a couple of annoyances with them in the last few months, but nothing too major and no confrontations have been made. They mainly are just not mindful of others’ space and have done things like put their belongings in my yard, let their dog wander in my yard, and constantly want to talk to me any time they see me come or go from my house. I will say though, my new neighbor has really put some work into their yard since moving in, and they are clearly better with plants than me. That being said, my neighbor has taken it upon themself to start planting plants in my yard. They did not ask me beforehand if they could do it, and they didn’t tell me after they did it either. I can appreciate the thought behind gifting someone flowers, but since I am already annoyed that they cannot seem to respect my space and property, I do not see this as a nice, neighborly sentiment. So a few days ago I dug the flowers up and tossed them in the bushes.
The next day my neighbor noticed and came pounding on my door to yell at me about the flowers. I told them that they were in my yard and therefore my flowers and I could do whatever I wanted with them. However, I still can’t help but feel like I’m in the wrong after seeing them have such an emotional response. AITA?

TLDR; my neighbor planted flowers in my yard without asking me and I dug them up. AITA? ######

Response: NTA-- it seems like it should have been a nice gesture? But they're invading your space in a lot of other ways, too. Hopefully they'll back off-- but consider, if you can, a fence. ######


Prompt:
I(22F) have a month old son. He’s an angel child for the most part. He only cries when he’s hungry or needs a diaper change.

However, recently he’s gotten to where he doesn’t like to be alone. And by alone I mean he doesn’t like to be put down. Which was fine at first. But now that I’m all healed from him ripping my vagina to my butthole, I’d like to do housework and shower and whatnot.

I used to pick him up EVERY time he cried or whined. But since I’ve learned the difference in his cries, I’ve stopped doing that. If he’s changed, fed, dressed, and loved, I’ll leave him to whine by himself.

After he’s all taken care of, I give him his pacifier and put him in his swing. He’ll whine for awhile(no more than 5min at the most), but eventually falls asleep or just hangs out looking around doing baby things.

Don’t get me wrong, it breaks my heart hearing him fuss and resisting the urge to pick him up. But he’s just whining. He’s not actually crying and doesn’t need anything.

Anyways, I’ve been told I’m teaching my son that I don’t love him and that he’ll be all alone in the world. I’m a bad mom for letting him fuss. And I’m an asshole for allowing him to sit there and whine.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA-- as long as you are talking about literally five minutes. That's about as long as a one month old should be allowed to try and self soothe. It is incredibly important during these early months of life that he learns that when he cries, he'll be taken care of. That's how secure attachment is developed and the impact will last a lifetime. So don't get sucked into the idea that he should be allowed to 'cry it out' for hours and hours, but fussing for a few minutes is totally fine. I have found r/Parenting very helpful for advice on this kind of thing, as well! ######


Prompt:
In my last 1½ years of high school I was a morgue assistant while also going to classes to be a vetrinary tech. I was a vet tech in a animal hospital for exotic pets for almost 2 years after high school.

I'm 23, in my 3rd year (out of 5) in school for a medical field. Since I have that experience I have a lot of the "hand skills" and am very good at the skills required to perform procedures, but I lack some of the backend knowledge.

The reason I didn't want to tell anyone about my experience is I didn't want to get any sort of passes. I know I have holes in the bit of knowledge I do have and I want to get rid of bad habits. That, and being a morgue tech is going to attract judgement I really don't want.

That experience does make me look like I know what I'm doing a lot more compared to classmates. I have a lot of experience with suturing, I have a lot of experience with placing especially difficult IV, I've participated in intubations, I've worked in surgery, I have experience with sterile procedure, I have lab experience, etc. To them it's just like I'm naturally good at it (which is far from the truth).

I've just chosen to ride the wave of my classmates thinking I'm naturally good. I eventually got in a situation where I had to tell a classmate that I had some prior experience without getting into exactly what I do, and now they're angry I didn't tell them before.

AITA here? ######

Response: Nta- your past experience is no ones business. However, if they asked you how you’re so talented and you conceal that information then that would be lying ######


Prompt:
Backstory: When I was 15, my dad came to see me and he gave me a pretty large sum of money. I used it to buy a computer for myself because I was the only one in my class who didn't have one. When I told my mum she freaked and she made me return the computer and give her the money so she could use it to take care of me.

Ever since then, anytime I make a mistake, she tells me I'm evil and I'm wicked and me buying the laptop instead of giving her the money was just proof of my wickedness. She tells me pretty often that I ruin everything I touch. I've been enduring this for 5 years because I made a mistake but I'm really fed up with it.

Yesterday I used her card by accident to pay for something and as soon as I realized my mistake, I refunded her money and apologized profusely. She proceeded to lecture me for almost 4 hours about how I'm the worst thing she ever did, I'm evil and my heart is full of wickedness.

I'm planning on moving out soon and I don't intend to tell her where I'm going because even though she's not abusive but I can't relax around her and I want to relax. I will let her know that I'm okay so that she won't worry. I just don't want her to know where I'm moving to.

WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA- Your Mum's abusive and I'd get out ASAP. ######


Prompt:
So I'm(15f) desi and if you're familiar with desi culture, the paler you are, the prettier. So there's a lot of colorism.

My dads side of the family is rather dark while my moms side is on the fairer side. I'm in the middle.

I got out in the sun a lot and if I don't constantly exfoliate my face, I look rather dark. Not terribly so, but darker than normal. My family tells me to take care of my skin more because "You're getting so dark, you're starting to get ugly", which I completely don't believe, because, what the fuck? So I'm just like "Yes aunty okay I'll do that" and leave it. There's no use trying to teach an old dog new tricks, right?

Due to recent events, I don't go outside and I wash my face more because "self care" and my skin is unusually pale, but it does have a beautiful healthy glow, which I'm proud of. Not the pale part, the healthy glow part.

So during a family video call, one of my aunts says my skin looks nice, and then they all start raving about my skin. And then they start talking about how pale I am. They say that my skin looks nicer like this, that my skin should be like this all the time, that I would be so much prettier if my skin was always this pale. And I'm kinda like *slight eye twitch* haha okay thanks let's move on.

*And then* one of aunts has the nerve to say something along the lines of "Finally, your skin isn't dark like your dads anymore." So I just kind of smile and hang up. This is the same aunt that said she would "Fix her nose too is something was *wrong* with it" like mine, when I said I wanted to get a nose job because I felt like my nose was too big, but I wouldn't because plastic surgery is haram.

My mom got mad at me and said my aunts were complimenting me and I had no right to get angry and even my dad said I was overreacting. I don't know, I hate all this "paler = prettier" bullshit, but I guess they *were* complimenting me, so I don't know. AITA? ######

Response: NTA- your mother should understand why you were upset. I would be upset too if I were you.  Next time you have a video chat you should wear a ton of bronzer and act like nothing is new. ######


Prompt:
My (24m) girlfriends (23) mom recently decided to invite herself over to our house once a week because she has virtually nothing better to do but sit around at our house and complain about most things in her life. When she is over she wants to see our three month old baby.

My girlfriends sister is in town right now from Nebraska and she had plans to spend time with her sister alone because her mom favors her sister more than all of her other kids. But instead of doing that, her mom invites her sister, her kids, and herself over to our home tomorrow morning to sit around. In no world is our home big enough for it but my girlfriend said yes, but told her mom I would stay in our room.
I suffer from anxiety around groups of people no matter the size and have been feeling a little down lately. The COVID pandemic has also prevented me from seeing my family at all this year.

Her mom threw a fit and said I’m acting like I don’t like them, when I reminded my girlfriend that not only has her mom never had a conversation with me, she also fails to realize that with myself working forty plus hours a week, I rarely get time to relax with my girlfriend and our son alone. I also pointed out that my family always talks to my girlfriend over the phone quite often, and genuinely likes talking to her.

Her mom said that’s crap, but also ignored the previous statement about my depression and anxiety. So reddit. Am I the asshole for not wanting to be uncomfortable in my own home and letting them have family time without me?

Side note, my girlfriends niece also lives with us, and that would add to the number of people in our already small living room. ######

Response: NTA- your mother is failing to realize that there are things she can’t understand like anxiety and etc. your just trying to feel okay in your own home, and your at the very least making an effort by letting as many people into your own home. And if the MIL won’t try and make an attempt with you with less of a crowd around, she can’t expect you to be absolutely social in a large space. ######


Prompt:
I am a 15 year old  boy with three siblings.  One of them is a girl. For the longest time me and my brothers 14 and 13 had to share a room and my sister always got her own separate room. The girl is 12 years old. Now that we are moving in with our mom new husbands my mom promised me that I would finally get my own room.

The other two boys are happy because they get more space and those boys are best friends. My sister is obviously gets her own room cause she is girl. So when we moved in we realized that it's a three bedroom house and my mom lied. Us boys are furious as we have to share the small room and my sister gets the second largest and my parents the master. The room is enough to fit us and our stuff has to go in the attic to make space.

This is a huge issue as none of us kids are going to have a proper area to study and we are fucked if one of us has a nightmare and screams in the middle of the night which was an issue in the past. I complained and tried asked my mom if we wear going to have at least the master bedroom in which she refused and told me it's my husband and mine room then told me that you should be grateful that you are having a place to stay and sleep as the homeless person don't even have a house to sleep in ######

Response:
 NTA- your mom lied. It should go

master: 3 boys
medium: parents
smallest: sister

Or at the least swap you guys and your sister. Your mom is being very selfish and uncaring ######


Prompt:
This happened a long time ago - when I was about 14 and on a family holiday to a holiday park kind of place (Center Parcs for anyone in Europe). When I was a young teenager, I was kinda chubby and didn’t get much attention from boys like some of my friends did.

So anyway, one Valentine’s Day, my family wrote a fake card from a ‘secret admirer’ guy asking me to meet him at a the central place (where all the bars and restaurants etc are). Straight away I thought it was BS and laughed it off saying yeah whatever. Well over the course of the day, my whole family (mum, stepdad and sister) basically convinced me it was real, promising they didn’t send it and just genuinely trying to convince me to go to the place we were supposed to meet. Eventually, I thought I’d just go when my younger sister said she’d come with me and we’d just hang out in the area. I wasn’t completely convinced but was convinced enough to go.

Sure enough, we get to the place, hang out for a bit and no one shows. All of a sudden, my mum and stepdad show up and they all start laughing saying it was a prank. I tried to laugh along but obviously I was completely humiliated. I think the worst part is that they still occasionally bring it up and laugh about it. Recently, I told them I thought it was a horrible thing to do and I actually don’t find it funny at all. They all make out I’m being being an asshole and can’t take a joke or that I’m too sensitive.

So, AITA in the sense that I should just get over it? ######

Response: NTA- your family is honestly horrible for pulling a stunt like that. Fuck them and their feelings. You’re entitled to feel the way you do because your family, who you’re supposed to trust, decided to pull some asshole shit like that. That’s not funny at all. It further brings down any self esteem that may have had and probably created some trust issues in your immediate family. I’m sorry that happened to you. ######


Prompt:
My dad and I aren't especially close. I was mostly raised by my mom, and I don't really see or talk to him too often. A large part of that was due to his ex-wife/my ex-stepmother. She was an awful, abusive person and she drove a wedge between me and my father. Thankfully, they divorced last year. My father and I were slowly beginning to repair our relationship.

Recently, my father began dating someone new. I'd heard about her from family members, but he never directly told me about her. Let me say now that I have no qualms about my father dating. This isn't that kind of story. Who he dates is strictly his business.

Not too long ago, my father invited me to his house. After the experience I had with my ex-stepmother, I wasn't really keen on meeting his girlfriend yet, so I asked if anyone else would be coming over while I was there. He told me no.

When I got there--surprise! Turns out his girlfriend was *already* there. So, no, technically, no one would be coming over. Now, his girlfriend seemed like a lovely woman. While I was there, I tried my best to act cordially towards her, but I was extremely uncomfortable.

Later, I told my dad that I was happy that he'd found such a nice woman, and that she seemed like a pleasant person. However, I have no intention of meeting her ever again. Who he dates is his business, and I have no relation to her. After my ex-stepmother, I do not want to have any contact with anyone he dates.

He told me that I needed to let go of the past, and that I was being narrow-minded. I admit that this is perhaps a bit unfair to his new girlfriend, but I really don't want to involve myself in his dating affairs. AITA for telling him that I didn't want to meet her again? ######

Response: NTA- Your dad shouldn’t have surprised you by having his girlfriend there. You’re already building back your delicate relationship and this hurt your trust. Prepare yourself because if he gets married again this woman will be an unavoidable part of your life (so long as your father is in your life). He finds this woman special and so he wants them to meet you. He was wrong for surprising you with her but he probably knew you wouldn’t meet her unless he made a surprise arrangement. Sounds like you have a long road of healing your relationship with your dad and this is something you both need to talk about with each other. ######


Prompt:
My younger brother doesn't do any of his chores properly. Parents asked him to do the dishes: there were plates in the cabinet with dried on food. They asked him to vacuum: he would just kind of push it in one path, one direction and left all kids of weird track patterns. They asked him to mow the lawn: he purposely broke the mower. When they gave him a manual push mower: he did it like with the vacuum.

Parents do some of the stuff but even I have to clean up after him. Parents say "we cleaned up after you, it's no different than that".

Yesterday this shift happened again and I refused to clean up. My Dad joked about how apparently learning to clean up after somebody else even when it shouldn't be your job is good experience to have before entering the workforce. Bruh wtf. My parents had to get the work done.

AITA for refusing to do chores? ######

Response:
 NTA- Your brother is learning that if he does something half assed, he can get someone else to do the work for him. Your parents should have him redo the chore until it's done right so that he starts doing the chore right the first time.

If your parents keep this up, if your brother ever has roommates they will hate him for this. ######


Prompt:
My brother and his girlfriend are expecting their first child, she’s very early on in the pregnancy.

We had a family meal not too long ago and I asked my brothers girlfriend how she was handling the pregnancy and if she was concerned about the babies future health?

She paused and asked what I meant so I told her; my sister has type 1 diabetes, both my parents have type 2 along with heart problems, my parents and sister have eye sight problems, my mother suffers from borderline personality whilst my father has an addictive personality (alcohol and gambling) one of my brothers has BPD, two of my brothers have autism as well, my grandfather had schizophrenia and my aunt had epilepsy.

Apparently my brother had told her precisely none of this and now she’s freaking out and considering terminating over it.

I’ve been getting texts from family that I’ve crossed a line and shouldn’t have told her, that I should’ve pulled my brother aside and asked him if he’d told her, some are telling me if she goes ahead with ending the pregnancy they don’t want to be in my life.

I myself have decided not to have biological children due to my family’s medical history.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA- Your brother is denying her some very important information. There's a chance this child could have challenges later in life. There's a chance this child will be 'normal'. If I was the gf I'd be very grateful for the information, and would take this time to research ways to be prepared in case the child develops issues later on. ######