Prompt:
So before the quarantine my grandma had declared that my mom (her only child) would get all the money and property and later could decide to split between me and my sister however she wanted. I’m fine with this. I don’t really care considering I figured inheritance should always go to the next in line.

Due to this quarantine, my mom says no one can go out. My grandma, mom and sister all live under the same roof. We all have our own rooms so no one talks to each other that much. My grandma recently had a falling out with my mom because my mom refuses to do any groceries and my grandma needs food. My grandma is a vegetarian and everything my mom has made or brought is non-veg. She also never gets her prescriptions refilled on time. My grandma has to have my moms friend deliver prescriptions. My mom recently had a different falling out with this friend so now he no longer delivers my grandmas prescriptions. During this whole thing I’ve been picking up the slack, paying for and picking up meds and food for my grandma and keeping her company overall.

A couple weeks ago my grandma had it. She decided that my mom wasn’t getting the whole will and that my mom had to split it with me since I am old enough(21) and since she thinks my mom hasn’t helped at all.  After hearing about this my mom is upset with me and my grandma saying I conspired with her and that my grandma is being unfair. She says because she lets her live with us, she does enough and since she pays for essentials she’s doing enough. Again I really don’t care about the inheritance but my grandma says it’s making a statement and I guess my mom did see that I was excited to be in the will. Aita for going along with my grandma? ######

Response:
 NTA What the hell, your mom isn’t feeding her or getting her meds *and* is offended she’s no longer the sole beneficiary? Entitled much?

You’re fine. Carry on. ######


Prompt:
My (f17) sister (f34) and her husband (m37) have been staying at my parents house for a couple of months, mom absolutely loves having my sister at her home she's given her and husband a very big welcome and cooked their favorite meals everyday.

While staying at home, feeling bored I decided to do a "makeover" and give myself an at-home haircut, Honestly, I've never touched my hair before, But not being able to go to the salon has made feel depressed.

My hair was shoulder-length, now it's short, pixie style, I'd say it was a seccuss, cause while we were all sitting having dinner, Everyone started complimenting my "new haircut" eccept for my brother in law (sister's husband),
And because of him being a sarcastic asshole who doesn't mind hurting people's feelings, he had a different opinion on my haircut, and said " Honestly, It could've been worse!".

"Excuse me, I DID NOT ask for your opinion, and everybody knows why".

BIL: Because I hate lying?, unlike everybody else?

Sister started motioning him to stop, but he wanted to escelate.

Dad: We didn't lie, we like it.

BIL : seriously, don't lie about where you got your haircut, you could ruin that person's career!

I was stunned, sis told him to shut up, but he continued to harras me, So I got off my chair and went upsatirs, about a few minutes later he knocked on my door, said he wanted to apologize, what a hypocrite, he lied, he didn't "want to apologize" my sister told him to.

He put on his "sorry face" apologized and told me my hair looks fantastic. And he sounded totally fake while saying that.
I pretended to be "okay" and before he walked out he turned around and said "piece of advice, Do not take a selfie showing your friends your new haircut, they'll envy you" and he sounded...God, I'm so offended, he was very sarcastic so I knew he ment to offend me once again, I know he's an asshole, But Am I overreacting? ######

Response: NTA what kind of person does that?!? Especially a 37 yr old man taking to a 17 yr old! I’m sure you look amazing. And if you’re happy with your haircut, that’s all that matters! I chopped all my hair off in high school once, too. Objectively I looked better with longer hair, but man I loved the ease and convenience and it was fun and funky. ######


Prompt:
I've had a sinus infection the last few days. Mild fever, congestion, light sensitivity, vomiting, etc. Told him I was going to bed early since I wasn't feeling well, 30 minutes later baby starts crying. "Damn, I don't want to get up." So, husband got up, picked up baby, and handed him to me and sat back down. I glared for about a minute, then got up and changed him, made a bottle (cursing rather profusely the entire time), fed him, burped him, put him back to bed and started crying. Husband asked what was wrong and I said that I felt he was no help and it just hurts when I'm not feeling well. He said he didn't know and "isn't a mind reader" and didn't see or hear me get up to change him and feed him and would have done it if I had asked.

Am I the asshole for feeling that he should be more observant and thoughtful? Or should I just constantly tell him what to do? ######

Response: NTA what kind of parent needs to be told to feed and change the babies diaper when baby is crying? ######


Prompt:
I am on a family vacation to my boyfriends hometown so that our baby can meet his side of the family. I have been doing most of the child care as my bf has been working, partying with his fam until 4 or 5 am, and sleeping in till noon when not working..he has been pretty out of sync with me and the baby this whole week and it has been a bit rough for me to be honest.

I love his family but they are big partiers and I am not ...especially now that I am an exhausted new mom.

Tonight I wasn't feeling well so I was still up at midnight and he came in to say that instead of partying just out front like normal (the family all have houses pretty close by) he was going to a party offsite because he wanted to be able to make more noise. I asked him to stay (vivid concerns about the other party but also because I dont want to be here alone).  He said everything would be fine and I shouldn't worry. He brought me the car keys in case I need to leave for any reason. He said he would be home in 2 hours but now it has been 4.

I keep hearing noises and feel un settled in the house. It is big and old and his family has been telling me all week how it is haunted. My baby has been waking up screaming a lot here but it didnt bother me as much until being left alone here.

AITA in asking him not to go and for being mad he went and now jas stayed out longer than promised? I  know partying and seeing his family is important to him, but due to work he gets out here for a weekend every month and parties regularly. He also parties a lot at home so it isn't like this is his only chance. ######

Response: NTA what does your partner actually bring to the table? It sounds like he is a useless parent and inconsiderate partner. This is not how parenthood is supposed to work. ######


Prompt:
So I (20F) am currently living with my boyfriend (21M). We’ve been together 7 months. He’s still working and I’ve been laid off so I’m at home all day.

I have been wanting short hair for a while, but I’ve been too nervous to. But with everything closed, I figured now is a good time. I’ve been debating back in forth but today I said screw it, I grabbed a pair of scissors and went into the bathroom before I could change my mind and gave myself a fairly “butch” cut. I’ve cut my own hair before - it’s not great but it’s not the worst homemade haircut.

I wasn’t expecting my boyfriend to be thrilled as it’s a big change. I didn’t call him ahead because I wanted to see his reaction. However, when he got home he absolutely flipped out. He asked what happened and I explained it to him. Started screaming at me for doing it without his permission, called me a selfish bitch, and said he didn’t think he wanted to be in a relationship with me anymore and left. I’d never seen him so angry.

I’m wondering if I was in the wrong here. I think he’s overreacting. It’s not a tattoo or anything, it isn’t permanent. He could have just said he didn’t like it and I could (consider) growing it back. Maybe I should have told him, but I know he isn’t a fan of the idea and I didn’t want to be dissuaded as I’ve been wanting to *try* short hair for a while. I think I should be able to at least experiment with my appearance.

So AITA? ######

Response: NTA what a psycho. ######


Prompt:
[Slyvy Bear](https://www.flickr.com/photos/69228620@N03/49777975553/in/dateposted-public/) is 16 and sadly it looks like she's nearing the end of her life.

She's struggling to put on any weight and has a bowel tumor. I'm heart broken. I bottle fed her. She's my girl. I'm not ok, I'm not sure I'll ever be ok once she's gone.

My husband wants to bury her at his parents house, with all his pets. I want to cremate her so I can always have her close to me.

Hubby says that's creepy but I don't care and told him that his opinion doesn't matter. He says that he doesn't want a dead pet in the house and I'm being a unreasonable bitch

AITA? ######

Response: NTA we keep dead relatives ashes why not our pets?? I wish I had my old dogs ashes (but it was waaaay too expensive then). You get your kitty cremated and if you want to be extra petty and creepy they make tiny urns for necklaces and bracelets. He thinks it weird to have her in the house wait until you wear her. I’m very sorry for your loss. The loss of a pet in indescribably heartbreaking. ######


Prompt:
I’m 17M and my step sister , Amber is 18F.

My mother has been with my stepdad for 9 years.

I usually spend two weeks of the month with my dad and Amanda usually spends every weekend with my stepdad.

I’ve never gotten along with Amber, we’re extremely different people, we usually avoid each other, when Amber wasn’t out she was in her bedroom moody, she’d throw it in my mothers face that she isn’t her mother and then cry like she was the victim.

Amber is pregnant and her mother doesn’t want her living with her anymore so Amber reached out to my mother and asked to live with us.

I can’t tolerate being around her let alone with a crying baby so I told my mother I’d be staying with my dad and visit the weekends if Amber moves in.

My mother is  extremely upset and my stepdad is accusing me of being immature and making her pick between Amber and me, he told me I’m being irrational and spoilt.

WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA wanting peace and quiet is normal and not wanting to be around your stepsister that is toxic, manipulative, brat is normal. They are making the choice not you to let her stay. Luckily for you have an option to live elsewhere. Take it and run. ######


Prompt: I (24f) am a night owl with ADHD. Everything I have succeeded at doing in life (my degree, working nightshifts, making a profit from my business) has been done when my body functions at it's best (at night). My mother (59f) and my sister (35F) have made it their new obsession to ensure I wake up at the same time as they do and will wake me up if I do not. I don't usually live at home, I live abroad but because of the unusual circumstances - I am at home. They regard my body clock as a character flaw and won't stop giving me unwanted advice that they've found on youtube on how I can change it. AITA ######

Response: NTA wake up tell them to screw off and go back to bed. ######


Prompt:
I (16F) am on my period, I get really horrible cramps and back pain when i’m on my period and medicine to relieve the pain doesn’t always help very much. So I like using a heating pad or something to help with the pain. Yesterday my cramps were very bad so I decided to take a hot bath because I only have one heating pad and it’s not big enough to heat my front and back at the same time. I was also having a lot of overall body cramps and thought a hot bath could help with that too.

A few months ago I got toxic shock syndrome from my tampon and had to be rushed to the hospital. It was pretty bad but luckily I ended up being completely fine.  But since then I’ve only been using pads, having tss was super painful and very scary, so I guess that experience has made a little bit weary of using tampons because I do not want to risk getting it again.

Anyways I took a bath to relive my achiness and cramps, didn’t have a tampon in so a little bit of blood would occasionally leak out into the water. Now my period is pretty light so it wasn’t a lot of blood just a little bit.

After my bath I rinsed our the run like I always do, and there was nothing left in it. My mom asked how if i had used a tampon for my bath (she was worried because she doesn’t want me to risk getting tss again) I said no. Then she got really grossed out and said it’s not ok to do that and the tub is gonna have blood all inside it now and that’s gross and I shouldn’t have done that.

Like I said I always rinse the tub out after I use it, and I told her I would be willing to use soap and actually clean the tub out if she wanted me too. She just got kinda upset and grossed out by it all.

So AITA for that? should I just not have taken a bath? ######

Response:
 NTA wait until your mom finds out your asshole was sitting in that water too. She’s going to freak!

Sorry your mom is crazy. ######


Prompt:
As you may have guessed, I’m a vegetarian. My parents always include vegetarian options for me when they have me over for dinner.

I’m having my parents over for dinner once quarantine is lifted and I told them I’d be making vegetable lasagna as the main course.

My dad wanted to have meat lasagna, but I told him I will never cook meat in my house. I never complain when my family eats it, but I don’t want to make it myself.

My dad said they’ve (my parents) have always catered to my vegetarianism and I’m selfish for not offering a meat option. I explained I wasn’t comfortable but he insists that I need to “grow up” and stop forcing my diet on others.

AITA here? ######

Response: NTA vegetarian food is suitable for meat-eaters; the reverse is not true. I'm sure he's eaten loads of vegetarian meals in the past and he can bring his own meat dish if he wants. He could bring ground pork to put on top of his lasagna. ######


Prompt:
Long story short, this man borrowed quite a lot of money, and disappeared. So I called his parents and they paid me by their own money (I SWEAR they said he gave them that) and now he’s asking me my bank account for paying it.
I seriously don’t know what to tell him now ######

Response:
 NTA unless you don't communicate now. Just be honest. You were put in a bad situation. Don't lend money to friends.

If I do, I either give it as a gift or exchange for some work like dog sitting. ######


Prompt:
My daughter (preteen age) loves this TV show (I’m going to be vague for anonymity) and I applied on a whim. We got invited on the show and did some fun competitions for an episode. We didn’t win but my daughter still talks about it all the time.

My daughters father is not very involved. He shows up with ridiculous presents every once in a while but we don’t hear from him unless I encourage my daughter to call him. If it weren’t for his child support check showing up once a month, I wouldn’t know if he was dead or alive. He and I don’t talk.

I didn’t tell him about the show. The way I see it is that I have full legal and physical custody of my daughter and I don’t need his permission for anything. However, he found out about the show from his father (my daughter told him) and called me yelling at me for taking her on the show and not asking for his consent. He accused me of exploiting her for fame and misusing his child support. I ended up hanging up on him because he wouldn’t stop yelling. Am I the asshole for taking her on the show without telling or asking him? ######

Response: NTA unless this show is exploitative somehow, it's hard to say without knowing what it is but assuming it's not trashy reality then it's probably fine. If he wants to make these decisions about his daughter then he should be in her life. ######


Prompt:
My ex and I broke up last year. We had a very good run and over the years his friends became my friends too. There is a photo on my Instagram of me, him and a friend of ours at one of our other friends' wedding. I think it's a very sweet photo that captured the the memory of that night, so I never deleted that one photo despite having all other photos of my ex removed. Today, my ex texted me asking me to delete said photo. I told him I'm still considering whether I will, as the photo involved another person and I like the time that it represents (i.e. when everything was alright and well).

I'm leaning more towards deleting to be nice, say 65:45. But if I refused to delete the photo, would that make me the asshole? ######

Response: NTA Unless the photo would be called a “Picture of him” and not a picture of you and your friends ######


Prompt:
I (M16) really don't like kids and they usually don't like me. I don't have any experience with them and I think in general it's better if I'm just not around them. I always make this clear.

My sister (F24) has two kids (F4 and M6). Yesterday she wanted to go do some activity with her friends so she stopped by my house (I was home alone) and asked if she could leave them. I said absolutely not because I had homework and didn't want to spend my afternoon taking care of two little kids. After some arguing back and forth she said that she was just leaving them, and I said I would in no way watch them besides making sure they didn't die.

She eventually just drove off because she was going to be late and left them there with me. I kept my promise and I did nothing with them. I just did what I wanted to while I watched them.

All I did was play video games and listen to some music (100 gecs) that happened to be fairly explicit. I thought that was that and eventually my sister came and got her kids.

However today I got an angry call from my sister. Apparently the kids have been repeating some of the explicit lines from the music I was listening to. My sister was pissed off and asked for an apology but I refused. She then talked to my parents and they've grounded me and told me I was an asshole to let kids listen to that kind of music. AITA? ######

Response: NTA Unless she was having an emergency, she should not have left them with you after you specifically told her you would not do anything but the bare minimum with them. (But hey at least they didn’t break an expensive clock so good job there!) You may be grounded for now but I doubt you’ll ever be asked to babysit again, so that’s a plus. ######


Prompt:
I've been running for a few years, but have had a bad time health-wise this year (not the C-thing). Because my fitness has declined further than I like, I've gone back to the beginning of a Couch To 5k programme to build myself back up, using an app on my phone to guide me.

A part of this is intervals, e.g. repeating a pattern of running and walking as prompted by audio cues from the app. Last week was 60 seconds of walking with 15 seconds of running.

Someone who was sharing the outside space with me seemed to think I could do better, and that I wanted his instruction/encouragement to get 'better'. He matched my pace and was telling me to "keep going" and "you can run longer than that".

I told him "thanks, but I'm doing c25k". Then the next time, "I'm doing intervals." After the third time I snapped and went "piss off and leave me alone already".

Apparently that made me an "ungrateful bitch" (which he yelled at me again today), but he at least fucked off. AITA for phrasing it the way I did? ######

Response: NTA ungrateful bitches unite! ######


Prompt:
I (26f) and my fiancé (27m) moved out of my father's house. Now to get context.

My father was not really a father to me growing up. He would mentally abuse me and sometimes verbally. We even got into fist fights.

My fiancé moved and my father tried playing "I'm a good guy". A week later, when the lockdown starte, he started showing his true colours. When my fiancé nor my dad could work, I begged for food parcels and so did my fiancé. My father refused to beg.

Then my fiancé found another job and began our search for a different place to stay. In the meantime, my father was also getting money in from asking friends and family but that money never went into the house. No food bought etc. My fiancé spent most of his money making sure we atleast have enough to eat till the next food parcel. My father was enjoying his chips and sweets.

We found a place and moved out immediately. I had also went and changed the address for the food parcels. My stepmom asked me if the food parcel is going to go to them and I said that dad needs to apply for the food parcel. They aren't happy with it.

AITA for changing the address to the food parcels? ######

Response: NTA too proud to beg himself but more than happy to use others to accomplish the same goals.  The parcels are for those who signed up. He didn't sign up.  He had a chance to but didn't because others were doing it for him ######


Prompt:
So I (28 F) have been with my bf (30 M) for over 8 years. Recently I’ve had Some problems with mental health issues and have been getting help for it. I’ve been keeping a diary to help me express what I’m feeling.

I’ve explicitly told my bf that it’s filled with private thoughts about myself and that I don’t want him reading it, and that if it’s about him, I’ll always come to him, but for now I just need a safe space to vent my thoughts.

It’s been about 7 months since I started writing in it and it’s help, but now I think he’s been reading.

Not only have I told him multiple times that’s it’s not his business as well as I’m entitled to some privacy, I’ve noticed that he’s been acting like he knows what I’ve written. For example

If I wright about how I don’t like how my legs look? He’ll start complimenting them the next day!

It’s been a few weeks and I’ve started to notice a pattern, but I didn’t want to outright say anything because

A. I’ve told him multiple times not to read my diary and
B. It may just actually be a coincidence

So to catch him in the act, I put in my diary that I was thinking of cheating on him, and I had a date that night at McDonald’s with some dude. Knowing my bf he would either confront me then and there or show up at the McDonald’s to confront me

I wanted to teach him a lesson not to read my things so when the time came, I told him I was going to McDonald’s.  He let me go and when I got there I put a sign I made on the table that said

“Caught you” and “why did you read my diary”

When he showed up to the McDonald’s to “confront me” he got pissed because I lied to him and made him think I was cheating.

I told him that he also lied by not admitting he read my dairy. He’s now pissed at me and I just want to know, AITA?

TLDR ; I tricked my bf into thinking I was cheating so I could prove he was reading my diary, then he got pissed at me when he fell for it. ######

Response: NTA to quote rihanna, he's only sorry he got caught (violating your privacy after you tried to set boundaries and express your needs multiple times). write in it that you're thinking of breaking up with him because of the disrespect and let him read that. ######


Prompt:
I live with my girlfriend at the moment but we’re hoping to move to a bigger apartment in the next couple of months.
Our rent is quite low and very affordable for me at the moment so it’s spilt 50:50 and I have no problems with that.
However, the places we’re looking at are a bit more expensive. She earns about double what I do so obviously has a bigger budget than me. I haven’t said anything yet but she’s been sending me links to places that are gorgeous but just totally out of my reach financially.
WIBTA for asking her to pay a portion of the rent that’s relative to her paycheck and I would pay a portion relative to mine? ######

Response:
 NTA to ask, if she says no, then you need to tell her you can't afford it.

INFO: Have you actually discussed budgets yet? Seems strange to be looking for an apartment together without knowing what the other can afford. ######


Prompt:
One of my son’s best friends has been coming to stay with us a lot since they became friends. My son loves sleepovers and I don’t have an issue with hosting (a lot of his friends can’t as they live in trailers).

This one boy, Jackson, is great. He’s a lovely kid, but his mom sends him over without pajamas and he sleeps in his birthday suit!!!! in our beds :/

I was fine with this on a one off basis, but he’s starting to come over more now and I don’t want him to set an example of my son.

WIbTa if I mentioned this to his mother. ######

Response: NTA to ask but if it’s an issue and the kid is as awesome as you say, buy him pj’s of his own and keep them for his use. Make as little fuss about it as possible so he won’t be embarrassed. I wouldn’t doubt that his mom doesn’t have any to provide. ######


Prompt: So I'm(15M) and I have 2 moms. I was adopted at 5 months old into a family with 2 older siblings and 2 moms it's my normal. I dont take lightly to homophobic people or people making fun of anyone for being gay. Well today I was playing video games with a couple of my friends. We were playing gta v and everything was fine. Until one of the guys made was trash talking someone and called them a f*got I told him that was out of line. He didnt respond for a bit and when I thought everything was over he said "you know I get it your parents are gay but you dont have to a be sensitive ass bitch online because of it no one likes a sjw." I said "I'm a sjw because I dont like using slurs??" He said "no but you shouldn't judge other people for using them and just keep to yourself." I said "no I'm going to call you on your bullshit when I fucking want to." He said "alright whatever you say p*ssy." At that point I was done and said "oh ok I'm a p*ssy I dont remember being the one who banned someone from my discord server for having a opposing opinion on something but oh no I'm the p*ssy. Are you forgetting about just a couple weeks ago you were dming me talking shit on alex for having a mental breakdown in the general text chat the other day and I tried to stay out of it." Another friend said "wow you cant just be exposing dms like that!" I said "no he fucking asked for it and I know the only reason you are defending him is because you want to be mod on the discord server you tell me all the time that if you get closer to him he will give you mod." Basically I ruined a friend group and had everyone turn on each other. ######

Response: NTA Time to find better friends bro ######


Prompt:
She has started doing this thing where when we order food she will tell me she doesn't want something I am getting, a milkshake for example. We get our food and then she'll ask for a bite. No problem. But it never is just one bite or even half of my food. She'll finish all of it. After this kept happening, I thought I could just order two of whatever I was getting and that would work. Wrong. If I order an extra for her after she tells me no she never eats it, so it goes to waste.

The same thing happens if I cook. I eat meat and she does not and has not for years, but she recently started wanting some of it and then would eat it all herself the same way she was doing with our takeout. If I ask her if she wants me to fix a portion for her, she says no because "she doesn't eat meat" and will even get upset at me for asking because I am "trying to get her to eat meat."

I do meal prep for myself, and the story is the same for that too. She eats the meals I have prepared for lunch.

This happens all the time now, at almost every meal. It never matters what I do or how I try to plan ahead because the result is always the same. I finally got so fed up with having to always find something else for myself and started refusing to give her any of my food. I told her if she wants her own then let me know and I will get it but otherwise she can't have any of mine. I tried to be reasonable and compromise, but she has given me no choice.

She thinks I am an ogre for refusing to share food with her since she is having my child and I need to support her, but all I am asking for is for her to stop taking all of my food after I have given her every chance to have her own! AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA though she is hopefully unintentionally so

Try and explain calmly to her why you don’t want to share anymore. That her sharing means you don’t actually get the food you’ve made or paid for. That you have absolutely no problem buying her or making her the food but when she shares you end up with very little of the meal ######


Prompt:
My wife is a klutz, and she completely misses things that are so blatantly obvious to me that it's driving me crazy. Things like leaving glasses of liquid within reach of our one-year-old who, assuming this isn't normal, is obsessed with getting into anything and everything she shouldn't get into. My wife leaves her $800 phone sitting on the couch and then complains for days when she can't find it after the baby stashed it somewhere. I am aware that she likely has adult onset ADD.

She frequently sets full cups of liquid on the center console on my car, only to act so surprised when it spills when I make a turn, or she gives non-sealed drinks to the baby in my car and can't understand why I expected her to anticipate the obvious outcome. This is a problem I've witnessed for eight years of knowing her, and I thought she'd outgrow it, but she hasn't.

Last weekend she decided to take my $1000 laptop, which I use for work, and let my niece have a zoom call with her preschool class. That's fine I guess, but it's the fact that she left it on a night stand where my one year old could reach it and push it onto the floor, snapping the power cord off inside, that bothers me. She walked away from an expensive item, knowing it was within reach of our destructive child, and does not think I am entitled to be as angry as I am at her. She blames everyone else, even my five-year-old niece somehow. Most of all she's now mad at me for yelling at her in front of my family (where we happened to be when I discovered it was broken.) I think I'm entitled to be mad because, as an adult, I expect her to anticipate things like this and prevent them from happening, but she never does. Am I the ass hole? ######

Response: NTA This sounds like it could be potentially harmful to your child. She should go to a doctor and get herself checked out. ######


Prompt: I chose to lock up with my family while my state is on lock down. Mistake. My stepfather is an ass. Man has never once said thank you in his life and will complain about everything and anything. He rides my ass 24/7 and makes me feel about 2 feet tall. Well I decided to make us a nice dinner. Stuffed boneless chicken, herb rice, baked potatos, all the fixens. The works. This man stood over my shoulder and cried and whined the entire time. He wanted cheese rice instead. Why wasn't I stacking the chicken in the stove. I was gonna overcook the chicken it needs to be 150 instead of 165 no one wants overcooked chicken. My potatos were "Wrong. Just wrong". He kept saying that. "Wrong. Just wrong. I cooked in the navy". Finally he kept snapping at me to pull up my "Sorces" on how to cook chicken and I snapped and pulled the tray out of the stove and told him to cook his own f*cking meal then I left and took a shower. I get that that was childish but like half the family has spent days locked in their room to avoid his crying needy whiny bullshit so I don't get why my family is mad at me. I am so sick of playing mommy to a 50 year old man. ######

Response: NTA this seems like a perfectly logical response to his shit ass attitude ######


Prompt:
My brother(single dad) and I live next to each other. He is still working outside of the home but I am not so his daughter has been hanging out with us while he’s gone. She is 13 so she can be home alone but obviously a 13yo home alone for 40+ hours a week isn’t the best idea.

Anyway, I have a 5 year old that recently got an easy bake oven that we struggled to use. She made a few “desserts” that didn’t turn out. We only had one packet of cake mix left and 13yo niece offered to help 5yo make it.

Suddenly I have a crying 5yo on my hands because she and Niece were  able to make the cake...and Niece ate the whole thing. 5yo didn’t get a single bite and now we have no more mixes left.

I thought it was very rude so I sent Niece home for the day. And told her she could come back tomorrow IF she apologizes to 5yo. She gave a half assed apology but defended her actions by saying she made it so she get a to eat it and went home.

Today she came back over and I told her that I wanted a real apology and for her to realize what she did was mean. She got huffy and went back home.

I get a text from my brother asking why Niece is home crying saying I banned her from ever coming back over. I explained the situation and he reponded “omg this is so petty, why are you manufacturing drama between kids?”

AITA? ######

Response: NTA this isn’t a sharing problem is a “my 13 yo niece just took advantage of a 5 yo and doesn’t feel bad about it” problem. It’s the 5 yo’s oven, the 5 yo’s mixes, and the 5 yo’s last chance to make a cake that comes out well and to experience that win after several failed attempts. Enter 13 yo who takes over the show, bakes the cake, and proceeds to eat the whole thing. Niece is a brat and her dad is defending her poor behavior. ######


Prompt:
I own a house and recently rented a room to an acquaintance, we’ll call them Sam. COVID happened, they lost their job, but I’m “essential”  so I’m still working, meaning they’re at home all day with my pets- 3 cats and a dog.

When Sam first considered moving in, I introduced them to all of the pets and said that you really have to be an animal lover to live with this gang. They’re all rescues and the dog is a 70 pound boxer/pit mix who has tons of energy and wants to be with people all the time. Not a dog you can just toss in the backyard and ignore. Sam assured me they love animals.

Since moving in, Sam has been super weird about the pets- slamming the door shut so the dog can’t greet them, shoving him away when he approaches, leaving him out in the backyard unsupervised, etc. This dog loves people, but Sam so openly dislikes him that I feel like I have to keep him in my bedroom with me whenever I’m home, so I’m no longer using 2/3s of my own house and the dog’s separation anxiety is through the roof. Sam is similarly weird with all of the cats except one, who they keep locking in their room so that the cat scratches up the carpet and meows until I let him out in the middle of the night.

Sam hasn’t been able to pay rent since moving in, which I was flexible about, given the circumstances. But they aren’t eligible for unemployment and haven’t been actively job hunting or picking up extra hours at their side hustle(they actually decreased their hours), so I don’t know how long it’ll be before they can pay rent again. They’re on a month-to-month lease, so I can end it whenever I want to with appropriate notice.

I don’t expect everyone to be an animal lover and I keep my dog under control when around people who don’t want him in their face, but I’m getting tired of feeling like the pets and I can’t relax in the house.

WIBTA If I end their lease after just a few months? ######

Response: NTA This is your home, and your pets. He has been disrespectful to the point of causing damage to your home and to the mental well being of your pets and yourself. It's just f'd up that you can't just come home happy and be comfortable with your pets. Let the guy go and give your fur babies extra love. ######


Prompt:
Okay so immediately that title makes me look like a total fucking douche, but let me elaborate.

My friend Charlie and I recently rekindled our friendship, among rekindling our entire high school friend group, after the group broke up and went no contact for roughly 8 months. The group consisted of about twenty people and went strong from Freshman year until just before Senior year, so about 3 years.

Anyway, while conversing with everyone one on one and rebuilding connections with different people, it comes up that one of my closest friends from those days, Charlie, has been voicing that I owe him $400 fucking dollars in GAS MONEY from the days when he’d drive me and other friends in his car, like sophomore year, so ya know, 2 years ago. He literally wants money for actions that he never asked money for. Not one time in our friendship or in our endeavors did he ever mention wanting gas money or any type of payment.

And it’s not like we were just using this dude for rides; for reference, Charlie and I used to have a system where every time we went out to eat, we’d take turns paying for each other’s meal. It was just a cool courtesy tradition thing, and neither of us thought much of it. Charlie was one of my best friends, but this is ridiculous.

If I genuinely felt I owed him $400, I’d pay him no question. But I do not believe I owe him a fucking dime. He offered to be the one behind the wheel all those times, despite other friends of ours also having cars and licenses. Frankly, this sounds like a cash grab for absolutely no reason.

And yes, he is completely dead serious and has voiced this directly to my face as well. He refuses to move forward until I pay him. He doesn’t want payment from the other friends he also drove around, literally just me.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA this is ridiculous and greedy and a few years too late. If he doesn’t want to move forward unless you pay up then dump and be glad that the trash took itself out. Good riddance. ######


Prompt:
Hi everyone.

I live in a small town in the southern US with my wife and two daughters (8 and 10). My wife and I own property on the same block we live on and we rent those properties out. I’ve been a landlord for over a decade and usually, it’s not a bad experience.

My wife and I receive unemployment and are therefore not relying on money from our tenants right now. We are not requiring them to pay rent for the time being, as long as they abide by rules set in place by our state’s governor. This is outlined in an e-doc they’ve all signed.

Our next door neighbors have been fucking abysmal. They have 15-20 people over all day, every day, grilling out and chasing their guests’ unleashed dogs down the block. It’s unsafe, unsanitary and it breaks the guidelines I set for waiving their lease. I’ve had two discussions with one of the tenants about this behavior and both times they apologized and said they’d follow the rules more closely. No luck.

Today my girls ran upstairs bawling their ever loving heads off. One of the neighbor’s friend’s big dogs had gotten into our yard again, and this time into my girls’ (newly built, with very fragile young sprouts) garden bed and trampled everything. My girls are going through enough right now and they have worked so hard on this thing. I just saw red.

I stormed over and I have to admit got *incredibly* testy with the tenant, saying “I’ve warned you twice. I’ll expect rent on the fifteenth or you can get the fuck out and be someone else’s headache.”

I came back home and my wife was asking what happened. I told her and she was appalled. She said I had every right to be angry, but it’s a garden, the plants will grow back. She said re-instating rent was a horrible thing to do and it seemed like it was more about power than controlling the situation with their behavior.

My wife is a pretty reasonable person, so I’m taking that pretty hard. Am I being a bastard? Give it to me straight. ######

Response: NTA this is not just about the garden, they're blatantly disrespecting rules set in place for their safety when you've been nice enough to let them live rent-free for the time being ######


Prompt:
So the last month and a half I've been lead to believe I had type 2 diabetes from my doctor and the clinic I go to. At first this confused me as I'm only in my twenties and active on account of my job. Also I only went because I needed to have a work related injury looked at and was confused when they told me I needed to have a blood test done. Which I'm not sure was needed since it was a wrist injury and nothing else seemed wrong.

Anyway they said I did have type 2 and they would begin me on pills and other things I need immediately. Never did I question them as I thought they had my well-being in mind. But weeks after starting the medication I didn't feel good and I knew it was medication they had me on.

So I scheduled an appointment with my doctor and told them I didn't feel well ever since starting my new medication. Instead of lowering my dosage they raised it and told me I may need to start on insulin shots if I didn't get better. This confused me and I decided instead of going to my regular clinic I would dip into my savings and go to a different one. Low and behold they told me I didn't have type 2 or anything wrong besides my wrist.

Learning this I confronted my doctor and was simply told that they made a simple mistake and luckily nothing went wrong. So I reported my doctor and my local clinic. However I found out later that alot of people who rely on said clinic can't afford to go anyhwere else. So now I'm wondering if I was wrong to report the doctor and clinic in the middle of a pandemic and causing people to lose their only source of medical care?

So AITA for reporting my doctor and clinic and basically causing people to lose their medical care? ######

Response: NTA this is malpractice giving you those meds could have killed you. How many other “mistakes” has he made. ######


Prompt:
Am I the asshole for running away from my house.

So I’m a 17 M who lived with his parents. So my parents are very overprotective. My mom has life 360, checks my phone always, takes my phone at night, strong curfew and stuff like that. At 17 my curfew is 10.
 So yesterday my girlfriend wanted to FaceTime me and talk. SHe is dealing with the loss of his mother from cancer and is having a very hard time dealing with it. We were talking for a very long time when I realized that it was 11 at night. I really did not care because I could tell that she was very upset and I want to comfort her. About and hour later my mom barges in and before I can even say anything she takes my phone and tells me I’m grounded.i tell her that I was talking to my girlfriend and trying to help her deal better. She says she does not care because I went over curfew and says I’m gonna get in even more trouble for talking back. I don’t know what happend but I just flipped. I yelled at her, I was just done. I took my phone and ran away from the house and ran it my girlfriend house. Now my mom is blasting my phone and saying she is coming to get me and I will never be let out of the house again.

Reddit Am I the asshole. ######

Response: NTA This is how so many people go No Contact with their parents. ######


Prompt:
I've been saving up in order to move out in order to escape my mother for my own sanity. While checking my online statements with my bank app I found out my mom has taken over $700 out of my account, not counting the 200 i loaned to her.

To say I was pissed is an understatement but I'm too afraid to confront her, so I just decided to move all my money into a new account without her knowledge.

Yesterday our dog got hurt and now she's limping, my mom took her to the vet and came home around thirty minutes later, demanding to know where all my money is.

I asked her what she was talking about and she started yelling at me, saying that 'you need to put the money back' and 'i need it in case of emergencies like this!' I tried telling her that if she needed money I would loan it to her and she just needed to ask but all I got back was 'You live under my roof, the least you can do is help me without me having to ask for it.'

My family is devided, they know cuz afterwards my mom called my relatives to complain about me, on if I'm an asshole or not for moving the money without my mother's knowledge.

AITA?

(Edit: I am currently 18 and work full time. I pay rent and part of our phone bill while having chores. I told her I'd pay for the dogs appointment but my mom is refusing until i put the money back) ######

Response: NTA this is financial abuse.  You are not your mother's atm or her emergency money fund, she is the parent not you. ######


Prompt: I just found out that my husband agreed to be written into his sister's will saying we will adopt her two daughters if anything happens to her and her husband. This has never been discussed. He works away all the time so it would actually be me looking after them. I know it's a 'hopefully it'll never happen' thing but still I feel I should have been consulted. And none of my OH family can understand why I'm pissed off about this. I want it removed but they say it'll never come to that anyway. AITA? ######

Response: NTA this is definitely something to be discussed before it's put into a legal document. ######


Prompt:
I (26M) am about to propose to my GF. We talked about it so she kinda expects it to happen. Still, I want to keep the surprise of when and where I would ask her.

The actual problem is that I am not really good with jewelry and style. Even in the past when I gifted some piece of clothing to her (for some bday for example), we always shopped together.

She always seems happy about it and I usually say that spending that time together is part of the gift and a treat to both of us.

Since an engagement ring would remain for life, I was thinking to propose using a "replacement ring" (for example a toy ring or a cheap one), which she can even hold on to as a memory, and ask her to buy the ring together in our first "fiancee" shopping.

I was thinking to say something along the lines of "Will you marry me? I want to be with you for the rest of our life. Starting this Saturday so I can get you the ring you deserve".

I was speaking with my sister yesterday and when I told her, she said I am TA because I am too lazy to get her an actual ring and if so don't know my GF tastes maybe I don't know her enough to marry her.  I was taken aback and left wondering... Am I TA if I follow my original plan? ######

Response: NTA this is actually pretty common especially since you know it’s important to you to have her involved in choosing the ring. ######


Prompt:
Me (M) and Gf have lived together for 3.5 years in a house her parents bought and we pay the mortgage for, with roommates and what not.
She got a dog when we moved in, and after some time, I did too.
I paid for my dog (W), but because i was expecting to be out of town now and again, she put W in her name, and never switched her into my name. W is my dog, no question. We have a bond, just like gf has with her dog. Hell, W barely listens to anyone but me. Shes my best friend.
Gf and i had a fight, and she kicked me out immidiately, knowing with the pandemic my only real option was a local motel.
She says shes not splitting the dogs up, which i think is mostly spite. Our dogs are amazing sisters. But I think that its not fair that 1. She gets two dogs and i get none, and 2. That W, who has more of a bond with me than anyone else, would be separated from me.

To add: I have bought most of the food for both dogs, and have put thousands into gf's dog when she needed to see the vet, and like i said, i was the one who actually paid for my dog. I get it was stupid to let her be put in gfs name.
No point of putting relationship stuff in here imo.

Edit:
I am willing to sign away any chance at recovering anything else from the relationship, vehicles, house stuff, etc.
Am currently in the process of finding my own place, I have no intention of making my dog crash in a motel or at friend's houses until i find a place.
Second edit:
My dog is very high energy and anxious. I take her on long runs (10km plus at times), and it has always been expected that i calm her down when anxious and what not. Any lawyers willing to pm me advice, hit me up lol. ######

Response: NTA This is a property issue. You could probably judge Judy your dog back, but it'll make a bunch more tension. That being said it doesn't sound like you're going to be spending much time with these folks. ######


Prompt:
Gday all

I’m 21, just turned 21 a week ago or something. I’m also Australian where being 21 means sweet fuck all, whereas I know in the US it’s a big deal. Over here when we turn 18 that’s like your 21. Anyway.

Despite being 21, my mother still likes to tell me when I get home from work (full time, 8-14 hour days, tradesman so manual labour) to go have a shower, she’ll still tell me to brush my hair, brush my teeth all that very basic stuff.

I’ve often said rather nicely she doesn’t need to tell me these things. I’m 21, I can manage my own life quite easily, and I will do these things at my own discretion at the times I please.

Last night she said it again, I had got out of the shower, got changed and was walking to my room, where my hairbrush lives. On the way there she said “go brush your hair”. Which was exactly what I was going to do anyway.

I considered this the last straw, I had a proper word with her about the fact that I’m 21 now, she NEEDS to stop this, and it’s no longer a joke. I NEED to be able to grow up myself, and she doesn’t need to continuously say for me to do very basic things like I’m 10 years old.

This resulted in a massive argument. I ended up walking away, I’m not one to argue if it’s going nowhere, and then I drove to a mates place.

Was I the asshole for finally putting my foot down and sternly saying what I thought needed to happen?

Cheers! ######

Response: NTA things probably won’t change a whole lot until you move out ######


Prompt:
I, f13, have a 29 year old step mom after my dad cheated on my bio mom and impregnated her. He cheated because of selfish and personal reasons involving me. They now have 5 kids together, Alyviya, who's 9, Madden and Maverick, 7, Alaiya, 5, and Maxx, 4. My mom also has remarried, but I get along with my step dad and his kid. Because of some messed up custody, I spend the school year with my dad and the summer with my mom. I mostly keep to myself, study, and just kinda drift along. My dad and his wife are fine with ignoring me, and it works out fine. They have their kids and their worries, and I'm not one of them.  Anyway,  a couple  nights ago they told me that dad's wife's cousin had passed away and that they would be leaving to a closeby state. I thought they were going that least take the older ones, but no. I have to take care of five kids under 10.  My dad hit me with the usual stupid crap about how they're my siblings and how I'm obliged to take care of them, with wife nodding stupidly along. Then, they just leave. No instructions or anything. I just gave them a refried dinner and let them watxh TV until about 9, told them to go to bed, ad that was it. They refused, of course. I gave up at one point.  At noon, I'm exhausted and I figured that they were just late or stuck in traffic. By 6, I was feeling murderous and checked their vacation. They're halfway across the country at a known vacation spot. I text them, and they just give a little lie and stop answering. When I threatened to call 911 for child neglect, they came back and refused to talk to me for "ruining their vacation." There were some choice words exchanged, and basically I told them I wanted to move to my mom's full time. So, reddit, AITA?

Sorry for format, on mobile

TL;DR - dad and stepmom left me with their five kids under ten because they said they  had to go to a funeral, when instead they were halfway across the country on vacation. ######

Response: NTA they’re neglecting you as well as your half siblings. You’re also not old enough to really be a long-term caretaker... ######


Prompt:
Myself (F, 25) and my husband (M, 29) have been discussing having children and I’ve recently gone off of birth control to start trying. I had a very traumatic childhood and do not want that for my children. I was raised mostly by my grandparents. My grandfather has since died but my grandmother is still alive. I reconnected with my mother over the last 10 years and we have a pretty good relationship at this time. My mother is currently living with my grandmother.

 My whole side of the family is very religious. Jehovah’s witnesses. They have decided to shun me ever since I left their religion. My brother left before me and they shun him as well. My mother seems to think once we do have a child things will be different and they will want my child in their lives, especially my grandmother. I told her that I have no intention of letting my child have a relationship with any of the family members who are shunning me. She seemed surprised and I think it upset her that I said that.

 I don’t want to teach my children that what my family is doing is okay. I don’t want to expose them to that religion and have them force fed information. I know if they have a relationship with my grandmother she will not respect any boundaries I put in place in regards to religion. I don’t know if my viewpoint is healthy or if I would be harming my children by not allowing them to have a relationship with my side of the family (other than my mother and brother). So WIBTA if I keep my future children away from their maternal side of the family because of how they treat me? ######

Response: NTA they’ll be your kids and it’s completely up to you how to raise them. On top of that, it’s a responsible decision to protect them from learning harmful behaviours like shunning family members without valid reasons. ######


Prompt:
I (19f) have cousins that all went to boarding school.

My family is very traditional, and have a long history of sending their children to boarding school. Most of my family members get sent to the UK, US and Canada age 8/9.

When I was young, I got very sick. After that, my parents had separation anxiety when it came to me so I got to attend normal day school.

Some of my cousins resent me though. It’s understandable, I got to live with my parents while they didn’t.

I had started getting pressure to attend boarding school from my cousins, grandparents, aunts and uncles at 13 since I was old enough to ‘handle’ myself and I haven’t had any health scares.

My grandparents had want me to uphold the tradition, but I hadn’t wanted to leave my parents and go to a foreign country. They said that I could go to one in my home country, but I still wouldn’t have been able to see my parents as often.

I still get taunted for my refusal to go although I’m done with high school and am currently taking a gap year.

I was at my aunt’s house for a gathering and I heard my cousin say to another cousin how much of a coward I am since I ‘hid behind my mummy’s skirts’ my entire childhood. They then spoke about how spineless my parents are for not forcing me to go.

I come up to them and start arguing. They continue to say that I broke years of family tradition because I couldn’t cope without my parents as a teen when most of them left theirs at a far younger age.

I lost my temper then. I snap back “at least my parents loved me enough to want me around.”

Dead silence. I leave the room. None of my cousins have contacted me but my parents are asking me to apologise. ######

Response: NTA they were insulting you over and over like what did they expect you to do? ######


Prompt: This ones petty I know but my friend (17m) was sending selfies from girls we know to our group chat full of friends (also all 16-17m) last night. He screen shotted the selfies of these girls in make up and sent them to our group chat of about 15 of our guy friends and saying stuff like “which one is worse” and they look goofy and they shouldn’t have posted those photos and stuff like that. I called him out and said it was weird and gross for him to do that. Almost everyone in the group chat took his side saying that if they post it online publicly we are allowed to make fun of it. And that everyone sends photos of people calling clowning on them and it shouldn’t be different just because they are girls. I kept arguing that sending photos of girls you aren’t friends to a group chat of all your guy friends to clown on them was a gross thing to do. They didn’t really get it and just claimed I was white knighting and it wasn’t really a big deal. They told me I should drop it but it doesn’t really feel like a thing we should let slide. Am I overreacting and should I just drop it? ######

Response: NTA they were being jerks. Also, what if the conversation was shared somehow? How would those girls feel?! You did the right thing. ######


Prompt:
This happened last year and I only just found this subreddit. Also first ever post so go easy on me.
Last year one of my colleagues got diagnosed with testicular cancer and needed to go through chemo.
Chemotherapy makes all of your hair fall out in clumps and eventually you wind up bald. Some of my colleagues, both male and female, decided to shave themselves bald to show support.
However, I hardly know this colleague (I had only been with the company 2 months) so while I expressed my support and hope he pulls through, I wouldn't be shaving my head.
When shaving-day came around, both the colleague and a few others that had shaved themselves expressed they were hurt I hadn't shaved bald and asked what was up.
I said I still absolutely support him in every way, but I'm just not shaving myself bald. He seemed offended and the now bald gang said I was being a dick and I might as well laugh in his face. When I asked how come they aren't giving some of the others the same lecture, apparently it was because they were women and "needed" the long hair.
I'm almost certain I am in the right and they're being unreasonable, but I need a sanity check. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA They sound like ridiculous mob of assholes to turn something that's supposed to infuse positivity into something to fight about. ######


Prompt:
Hello, using a throwaway account and on mobile.

When I was 14 my parents finally bought a house and we were able to move out of our trailer. In the trailer I had my own room because I’m the oldest and my sisters shared a room. The house we moved into had 3 bedrooms and a garage. Before we moved in, my mom asked me if I would be ok sleeping in the garage so that all 3 of us could have our own rooms. I was told that the garage would be converted into a bedroom. I said yes because it seemed cool at the time. So we moved in and at first I shared a room with one of my sisters until we could convert the garage. When we finally did convert the garage, I found out the only thing we were doing was sealing the door shut. I didn’t get an A/C or anything. Since I didn’t have A/C and it was south Texas, I wasn’t allowed to shut my bedroom door all through high school, which led to some awkward moments. Because of the window in the kitchen into my room and my door always being open, I had to go to the bathroom to change. And the laundry room was in there, so people walked through my room at all times of day and night. After a few weeks it stopped being cool and fun and I hated it, but I didn’t get feel like I could say anything at that point. Now I’m in college and every time I come home I have to sleep on the couch because the garage is just storage now. My bed frame broke about 6 months before I left for college and my parents figured I was about to leave, so I just slept on a mattress on the floor. Now I don’t have an actual bed in there, so my parents just converted it back to storage.

AITA if I’m upset that my parents only presented me with the choice to sleep in the garage and made it seem like the best choice and if I’m upset that I spent 4 years living miserably because of my room? ######

Response: NTA they just manipulated you into something that you wouldn't have accepted otherwise. A dick move on there part ######


Prompt:
I (22) live in mature student accommodation while I do my Masters. One of my housemates and her husband (early 30s) got pregnant after moving in.

I haven’t slept in weeks and haven’t been able to do my uni work. I am living on this baby’s schedule. I pay a lot to live in this housing and it is against our legal contract to generate noise loud enough to disturb other tenants. I understand that they can’t move out any time soon but I think it’s selfish to have a baby in student housing and they should move out when this is over. WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA they have those rules for a reason. It stinks for them but there are apartments for families, student housing isn't the place to bring a baby home to. ######


Prompt:
13 F here. I've got 4 close friends, all 13. And, like 13 year olds, we like to be play videogames together. The problem is, I'm the only one with a pc, and enough controllers to play all 5.

None of my friends have anything to play on, so they all wanna visit me when we wanna do something together. That's fine, I like them, and I love playing with them. We always have a lot of fun. But every time we're at my place, they screech, scream, yell, curse, and make huge messes. I have a brother, who's room is right next to mine, and he always lends me enough controllers to play, as I only have one. And I repay him with 4 hours of non-stop screaming.

I'm not saying I don't scream too, I'm no better than them. But my parents are beginning to grow tired of it.

On top of the noise, they make huge messes. A girl brings popcorn, and they fight about it until the floors covered. Another girl makes coffee, and there's coffee grounds everywhere. Another girl makes hot chocolate, and she drips chocolate all the way from the machine to the bin. Another girl gets impatient, and begins looking through my stuff, and completely covers my bed with random stuff from my shelves "to look at it"

I spend hours after they leave, my parents give me a lecture about visiting someone else next time, and I ask them to maybe go visit someone else next time?

They all get a no.

I'm just so fucking tired of dealing with this shit like 3 times a month. But I don't want to say no.

WIBTA? ######

Response:
 NTA they don't have a right to trash your place. Set ground rules and if they can't follow them they can't be there.

You shouldn't be having anyone over at the moment anyway (though this might depend on location) ######


Prompt:
Ok so I'm probably TA but frankly IDGAF and I'm posting this anyways.

Backstory:My parents divorced when I was around 5 and my mom remarried instantly (I think its cause she didn't want to be alone the days I wasn't there).  I am an only child but her husband had 4 kids all around my age, so at 5 I now had "siblings" who were 6,5,3 and 2.  At first it was alright but as time went on I hated it, they would all gang up on me and it was always a 4v1.

So I spent a lot of time at my mom's and with them, they excluded me a lot saying how I wasn't one of them and it was always tense.  Our parents tried to make it work they really did, but the kids wanted no part of it and I didn't want any part of it after the constant fighting and bullying.  At 8 or 9 I started playing a lot by myself in my room.  At 14 I asked my dad if i could live with him but he had a bad living situation and couldn't afford to have me and he wanted me to at least have a good home which I respected.  After years you'd think id see them as siblings but I felt nothing but indifference for all of them cause I can't remember having a single good moment with any of them.

I moved out the second I turned 18 and I split rent with my dad, I got accepted into a GREAT college.  I don't want to give out the name but if you watch college football they are one of the 4 teams that made the playoffs this year.

Well now college is shut down and I ended up moving back in with my dad for the time being.  I was visiting my mom and I told her about the college, she was proud of me but my step sister (the oldest and 1 year older than me) asked why I didn't tell the rest of the family about me going to a good college.  I told her I did tell my family, she got confused and I told her I told my family.  She finally got that I meant not her or her siblings/dad.  She called me a dick and left the room and my mom said I was being rude and practically kicked me out of the house. ######

Response: NTA they didn't make you feel apart of their family, you spoke to the reality. Your mum is an ass for kicking you out ######


Prompt:
My ex (20) and I (22F) were together for 5 years. In February, they said they wanted to marry me. The past two months (in quarantine), they’ve been talking about how they actually DON’T like me anymore and need some time to think about where this relationship is going. During that time, there were long stints of us “giving each other space” which meant going no contact for a week, two weeks, etc.

I was heartbroken of course. I was devastated, and I took the time they were “taking time for themself” to take time for MYSELF too. I processed my emotions and got really comfortable with the possibility of them leaving me. Well, lo and behold.

Two days ago they dropped the bomb and said they didn’t want to be with me anymore and gave me all the reasons why. I said “You need to know this is permanent. I have no interest in being your friend after we break up and if you leave me like this after five years I’m done.” And they essentially said YUP LATER!

So the next day I changed my relationship status and made a post publicly about how we had decided to end things, it was amicable, etc. just because so many people knew us as a COUPLE (after being together for FIVE YEARS).

Well they had the audacity to text me about how they’re pissed I moved on so fast and how they didn’t WANT to leave me, they HAD to leave me. I told them that’s fine, but they left me so they can’t exactly tell me how to feel and how to move on, especially after I had really been working through the POSSIBLE break up for over a month. They also told they’re pissed I’m advertising myself as single. I said “But I am single? You left me remember?”

What am saying is AITA for “moving on so fast.” This was my first REAL relationship and I genuinely want to know if I’m being an ass here. Thanks everyone! ######

Response: NTA they can't expect you to pretend you are not single after they broke up with you. ######


Prompt:
I (21F) had a tough time in high school. People ignored me or made fun of me for being different. I suspect they knew I wasn't 'normal', but I can't prove it. All I know is they didn't like me and treated me terribly. They called me a freak and the r-word. They told me I'd never make anything of myself, kicked me when I was walking off the bus, and other things like that. I ended up going to college out of my home state to start over. It cost me the last friendships I had. I hoped at least some of them would change and I'd be able to talk to these people as their equal a few years later.
Then last week happened. So a lot of them were posting about how we should be more tolerant and accepting of those that are different from us. I was tagged in some of these posts because it was a social media challenge. I don't do those, but I decided to DM those that tagged me and ask if they really believed it, and if they did, then why didn't they treat me right. I got some mixed responses. Some completely ignored me and others claimed I was lying about being mistreated.
After realizing they hadn't changed, and they probably never will, I went through all my social media accounts and unfollowed everyone I went to high school with. I texted one person from those times that I was doing this since he was the only one that didn't completely cut ties. I told him I wanted to save my mental health, which is more important than any of those so-called friendships. He responded with I was an AH because people in high school loved me, that I'd regret cutting ties with them, and said I was a liar for claiming they'd ever say those things. In his words, they'd never do that because people in my high school were so nice to him! Well, of course they were, he was the class president every year I was in high school! That's what I wanted to say, but I didn't respond and blocked him temporarily until I calmed down. I'm wondering if I was in the wrong for any of this. What say you? ######

Response: NTA they bullied you for all of Highschool and know their acting like they were nice for their own gain ######


Prompt: I have to sublet my apartment because I just bought a house. I close later in June & don’t want to overlap rent & mortgage so have been trying to get rid of it as quickly as possible. After posting on Craigslist, I got a few messages from people interested. One couple toured last week and told me that they’d get back to me within a few hours but that they were 99% sure they’d take it. 24 hours goes by and I hear nothing. Finally at 11pm the next day (Thursday) I get a response from the guy that they are interested but want to come sign the lease on Monday. Not ideal as they didn’t put down a deposit so I’m leery of “holding it” but I said ok great we can meet Monday. Sunday at 4pm I text and say “Hey hope you’re having a good weekend - just wanted to see what time works to meet tomorrow?” 6 hours later, he texts me “oh sorry I’m out of town so it will need to be Tuesday.” Annoyed but whatever, I say “ok well can we do 11am on Tuesday?” He replies “I’m not sure, I’ll have to let you know tomorrow whether that works for me”. So Monday night he calls and says “hey just wanted to let you know we still definitely want the place but can’t come until Wednesday”. I’m really fed up and let him know I’ve had other interest and that they need to sign. He is like “ok we’ll try really hard to come tomorrow but Wednesday at the latest”. Meanwhile, another woman and her husband who toured over the weekend text me this morning that they’re interested and want to sign today. So I agreed they can have the apartment if they come today and sign before these other guys can come Wednesday since I still haven’t gotten a solid time nailed down. It’s been a week and they’ve dragged their feet without putting down a deposit or anything so I feel justified even though I verbally told them they could have the apartment. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA they are dragging their feeting and taking advantage of your kindness. They are lucky you let them pull you along this long, especially with no deposit to hold the place. First one to sign gets it I say! ######


Prompt:
\*my wife has approved this description of events, so it is less biased\*

My wife and I spend a lot of time at her Aunt and Uncle (aged 80+) cabin in Colorado. We come up to help them take care of the house and yard, and we are both pretty handy so we help fix things that inevitably break around the place. We typically spend 3-4 days of the week here during the spring/summer months, and 1-2x/month during the fall/winter (we can both work remotely so no issues there).  The small cabin has 2 spare rooms, as well as a loft with no bathroom. There isn't a guest bath that's unattached to a bedroom.

This weekend her parents and sister are coming up to the cabin. They come up rarely, and her sister comes up maybe once year.  Her sister is single. She's been told she's selfish in past relationships, and from the outside looking in, I have to agree. We've stayed at her place when visiting her, and she told us to bring our own bedding, towels, food, etc. My wife also had to bring her own cleaning supplies to make the room decent.

We arrived at the cabin last night and slept in the bedroom we always stay in. This afternoon, we got a call from my MIL telling us to move our things up to the loft (which has 2 twin beds and is above/open to the living room) so my SIL can stay in the bedroom. I don't think this is fair given that we come up more often, do more work, are married, and were already here this weekend. There is also not a bathroom to use that doesn't involve us walking into in-laws bedrooms. When my wife told her mother that she didn't think this was completely fair, her mother yelled and told her to deal with it because the sister never comes up and doesn't feel welcome. To be fair, we have always prioritized going there because we know how much help the Aunt/Uncle need.

AITA for not wanting to cater to my SIL? ######

Response: NTA there’s no reason to bend over backwards for someone who has no better reason or claim to the room. Sounds like MIL wants to avoid a temper tantrum and it’s easier to try and force you guys to move. ######


Prompt:
My fiancee and I are scheduled to get married next month, but for obvious reasons that's all in question right now. My state has started the process of reopening, but everything is still up in the air as to when restrictions will be fully lifted.

Now to the problem. We picked a date that has major personal significance to us. It won't occur on a weekend again for another 5 years. So we have a choice to make: give up our date or put off the wedding for another 5 years. Neither of us is keen about either of those options.

I've recently been thinking about option 3: go through with the wedding as planned, just with some changes. Weddings are still allowed to be performed as long as the only people there are the officiant, the couple, and the parents or witnesses. WIBTA if I kept my date but uninvited everyone other than our parents? I've thought about maybe setting up a live stream for everyone else and just having the reception once everything calms down. I'm feeling a lot of conflicting emotions about this whole mess and just need some objectivity. ######

Response: NTA There’s a fucking global pandemic happening and it’s YOUR wedding. You can have a reception/celebration whenever things open back up. But if I was invited to a wedding that was supposed to happen soon I would 100% anticipate not going. ######


Prompt:
Some background: I'm a trans guy. Deadname means the name I do not use anymore.

About a month ago my friend made an Instagram post about how much she misses everyone and dedicated a little section in the comments for specific friends saying what she missed about them.

In my section she puts my deadname in parentheses next to my preferred one. She obviously did not have to do this and her reason behind it was she had a friend with the same name as me so she had to specify. I tried to tell her she could've put my last initial instead.

She has lots of friends/followers who could've seen the post and that makes me very uncomfortable. I don't want people knowing my deadname at all.

She kept telling me no one cares and that most of her friends that saw it were LGBT+ which still does not make it right. ######

Response: NTA there was no reason to put that and you were uncomfortable ######


Prompt:
Hi reddit, I(23m) am a cosplayer, and i attend many local events. Anyway, there was one cosplay that I did where I was a woman(Brazil Escola), and I wore a ton of makeup and a wig. Because i already look pretty feminine, I looked almost like a woman.

I eventually saw my friend(24f), who didn’t recognize me at first, and i didn’t know that she was going to be here today. She told me that cosplaying as a woman was disrespectful and that that I shouldn’t have done that. I told her that she needs to stop being sensitive and i’m not doing anything wrong. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA there is nothing wrong with it, so long as you don't use it afterwards pretending to be funny by pretending to be the stereotypical woman, but I doubt you will. ######


Prompt:
So a while ago I hooked up with this girl. She’s pregnant now and her parents kicked her out. Since it might of been my baby I said she could stay with me. But if the paternity tests said I was not the father she would have to move out.

Because of everything going on it took longer than  usual to get the results of the paternity test, but we got it back earlier today and I am definitely not the father.

So I told her that she can continue to stay for a few more days, but she has to leave by Saturday. Now she’s freaking out and crying because she says she has no money and nowhere to go and is asking me to let her stay longer.

I do sympathize with her situation, but I just don’t want her to stay anymore. She’s a nice person, but I don’t know her that well and don’t feel comfortable with her around and in my space all the time. More importantly though if she’s still here on Sunday she will have been here for 30 days which would make her legally a resident and then I would have a much harder time getting rid of her and you never know what issues could arise. ######

Response:
 NTA The situation is shitty for her, but you have no obligation to allow her to stay.  You’ve been kind and given her notice she needs to leave.  As you pointed out, after you pass that 30 day mark you will be obligated to follow laws if she refuses to leave.

Has she talked to any fiends or family since she has lived with you?  Perhaps she can couch surf until she gets it figured out. ######


Prompt:
TL;DR - parents want me to keep the door of my room open while my girlfriend is visiting, insist that I must "earn being treated like an adult" (their words).

I am a 23 year old man. I lived in the dorms for my first three years of college, and moved back in with my parents this semester because I got an internship and my childhood home is closer to it.

During my three years living at college, iet my girlfriend. We're in a committed relationship, see each other every day, will probably get engaged soon -- yada yada yada, haha. We are both accustomed to a environment with privacy. I had a dorm, and she lives with her parents who are pretty lax and have a lot of respect for boundaries.

Since I moved back in, when my girlfriend visits and we are in my room, my mom knocks on the door and tells me to keep it open. It was a bit shocking and frustrating at first, and against my better judgement I chose to just ignore the new rule and hope that they relaxed a little after a while.

Tonight, my mom confronted about it after my girlfriend left. She said that I lived in a "our house, our rules" arrangement, and that I had to "earn being an adult." This last part got me a little heated -- I don't feel as though being an adult is something earned, and if it is, then I have done everything I need to earn it. The rule makes girlfriend feel uncomfortable and not very welcome, and now she's a little hesitant to come over.

I understand that they are doing me a favor by allowing me to live with them, and that the homeowner is entitled to set the rules. It"s just that I think this particular rule is unreasonable and even sort of rude to my girlfriend. And I find the comment about not having earned being an adult disrespectful to me.

Anyway, that was a pretty long post over a pretty simple dispute. Am I the Asshole for not wanting to follow this rule? ######

Response: NTA the phrase “earn being treated like a adult” rubbed me the complete wrong way. If you have a done steps (like college, job, manage yourself well, able to balance) then you’re a adult. What it sounds like is your mom is one of those people who also see their children as just that, a child and never lets them really grow. ######


Prompt: My husband is trying to make me add his mom on Facebook. I don’t want to. I’ve told him no several times but he just won’t lay off of me about it. I know she’s hounding him about getting me to do it, but I just don’t want her on my page. At first he said she wants to see pictures and videos of the baby and that by not adding her I’m “keeping the baby from her”, but we have a shared album on our phones we both add things to to where she can see them whenever she wants. I also told him that he’s free to send her anything I post related to the baby that he thinks she’ll like. He said that’s not enough. He’s now saying I’m being disrespectful to his mom by not adding her and he doesn’t give a fuck that I don’t like her. I feel it’s disrespectful of him to keep asking me after I say no and trying to force me to add her. AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA the people in here a freakin NUTS. If you don't want to friend someone you don't have to. None of you guys would tell her to be friends in real life with someone she doesn't want to be friends with, so why does that not extend to her social media. Yes, its her MIL, but that really doesn't mean much other than she's her husband's mom.

 MIL is an AH for continually pestering and stressing your husband for something she's been told no on. Which in turn is zapping friction in your marriage and household. No means NO.

Your husband is also an AH for not being supportive in your decision to not friend his mom, you said she already has access to media where she can see her grandchild, so at this point there's no argument other than he said so. I'm not saying your husband is toxic, but his response TO this whole thing is toxic. ######


Prompt: So the bf (m 35) and I (f 24) were going to a pool and I have gained a bit of weight since buying most of my suits. I went from an anorexic 95lbs to about 135 in the span of under 2 years. I don’t look bad but I still struggle with my body image a lot. Most of my suits are still Xs and I’m technically a medium now. Anyway long story short I have like 2 mediums and both of them show a lot of my ass. (Ive actually gained weight since I bought them too) He said “well god d*** can’t you wear something that actually covers your ass?  There are going to be kids around.” So I went and started trying on the ones that are too small and obviously I’m upset because I look fat in all of them. They cut into my hips and stuff and I look bad. He doesn’t understand why I’m upset with him, even though I explained that the two mediums are the only two that actually fit and that I’m too big for the others. So I just wore one of the bottoms that doesn’t cut in as much but covers more of my ass (kind of). Obviously it’s my own damn fault I gained weight, I’m well aware of that. I plan to go on a diet soon. I haven’t had a ton of money to go buy suits lately so I just got the two mediums cheap on amazon. They are cheeky rather than traditional ones. Am I the asshole for being upset with him? ######

Response:
 NTA the only ass you need to get rid of is your future ex.

PS tell your future ex that kids have butts and know what they look like

PPS keep your very slight curves and find a man who drools over them ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend (f20) and I (m22) have been together for 3 years. About a year into our relationship, she was diagnosed with ADHD. It made a lot of sense as to what why she did a lot of the things she did, and we agreed that she’d go on medication to make her better. About a month ago, she went off her meds. I tried to be supportive but she’s started doing a lot of things that in all honesty just get on my nerves, the main one being hyperfocusing.

She loved reading as a kid, and is currently doing a Publishing degree but has really struggled since her diagnosis with concentrating whilst reading. Her newest hyperfocusing endeavour is attempting to read 100 books before quarantine finishes. She’s so far read over 50, I’m proud of her, but it is literally ALL she does.

A few days ago I told her that she needed to slow down a bit, not only to give herself a break but to spend more time with me. We ended up in a pretty heated discussion about whether she should go back on her medication, to which she argued she’s doing fine without them, which she clearly isn’t. Her parents have texted me saying I’ve upset her and her friends have said I need to try and understand her and her ADHD more. I do try but it’s difficult when she’s being like this. AITA?? ######

Response:
 Nta the nature of mental disorders leads people to not believe they need help for them.

I have adhd. Currently unmedicated and pretty useless.

If one medication gives her bad side effects have her doctor try a different one. Theres multiple choices. If she wants to live her best life she needs balance

Also hyper fixation for those who dont experience it: You forget to eat, you ignore homework, you ignore your bodily needs sometimes.

Its not just reading. Its all she does. If its anything like me you sit down and start something then realize you havent moved in 7 hours. Its not healthy. I once hyper fixated on an art project and spent 9 hours straight on it. I didn't eat or drink or use the bathroom. I hardly even remember the time being spent.

She isnt ok like this. It makes life really really hard.

However you cant shove pills down her throat. Shes in charge of her own body. ######


Prompt:
I (21F) had a friend who constantly meets random men online, which is ok but many of the guys she's met have ended up threatening her or stealing from her. We were talking about dating apps when I said the guys she meets make me uncomfortable and I don't really want to be around them. She seemed to understand and was ok with it.

One day later, we were going to hang out and I was going to drive us to another city about an hour away. She showed up with a guy she'd just met online. I was kind of mad because we'd literally just had this conversation and she didn't even tell me she was bringing him. It was kind of a long trip and I'd never met the guy, so I said I didn't want to go with him and we should go another day. She went home and we haven't talked since. If she would have asked me, I might have gone anyway even though I was extremely uncomfortable, but I felt a little disrespected as a friend and afraid for our safety.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA the LEAST she could’ve done was give you a heads up I’d be uncomfortable too ######


Prompt:
My uncle recently died and when we went to discuss the will he left a majority of his belongings to me. I know what your thinking, why would he leave it to me? He never got married and never had children but, me and him were practically best friends what he did have though was a girlfriend. My uncles girlfriend obviously didn't love him and was using him for money. The two of them had a 30 year age gap and she had given birth to a other man's children (twins) while in a relationship with him. My uncle did love the twins dearly so he left them a trust fund the details about that are unknown. Anyways, my Uncle left me A LARGe sum of money and his girlfriend is angry that I am not giving it to her. Since she was his partner. My Uncle also left his house and the majority of his belongings to ME. Due to his age he updated his will frequently so if he wanted to leave his money to her he would have.

My mother is okay with this because his girlfriend was never respectful to the rest of the family, not even my grandmother.so it's not like she would have lasted long. I understand that the children are innocent so I plan on giving her SOME money, but she wants everything, including the house.
Ok so, would I be the asshole for accepting the money
Sorry if I worded it badly ######

Response: NTA the kids have a trust, they will be fine. He wanted you to have the money so take it. ######


Prompt:
For context. In 2006, when I was 8, my dad begun an affair with the mother of my best friend, who we’ll call Alison. My mum found out because of something I had said about them spending time together and filed for divorce some time after. My dad moved in with this woman, and although I still saw him three times a week, i was absolutely devastated because I felt he had left me. 2 years after he left, my dad died, creating a massive rift in my life.

Despite my dads will declaring he wanted to leave everything to me and my brothers, Alison practically demanded she keep everything and because my mum was so wrapped up in her own grief, and mine and my brothers, she gave up fighting it. She also paid off the life insurance on the house my dad and Alison had bought, because Alison asked her too. Also, despite my mum paying for the entire funeral cost, Alison planned the entire thing alone, and went against his wishes, we now have no headstone or grave as a result and that kills me every day. My entire family despises Alison, she stressed my dad out a lot and the doctors believed stress contributed to the heart attack which killed him.

Yesterday I was in the local supermarket and saw her, with her daughters. I tried avoiding eye contact with her as I do every time I see her, but instead of just leaving like she usually does when we run into eachother, she came over and tried to talk to me. I just said “not a chance this is happening” and turned around and walked away.

I do feel bad about the encounter as I never intend on being rude but she taunted me with my dads death for years, and a lot of the trauma I have experienced is because of her so I struggle allowing myself to feel bad.

AITA for ignoring her? ######

Response: NTA The cut direct - actively snubbing someone socially - is to be reserved only for extreme cases. But in extreme cases, it is considered appropriate to do, and you are in an extreme case. ######


Prompt:
I am a full time security guard and a full time college student. I work for a private company, that has a strict no trespassing rule. We have a basketball court on the property and during rounds tonight I found two men (Caucasian males earlier 40’s) and two young boys (maybe around 10yrs old) playing basketball. I told them it was private property and asked them to leave(I’m in the security vehicle at this point). One man seems bummed but is like ok. Then this other man starts screaming at me (5ft female) saying he was a long time resident of the town. I said be that as it may this is private property and you need to leave. Still screaming he says your not gonna let me and my kids play basketball? I said no there’s a strict no trespassing rule. The guy aggressively walks towards my security vehicle and screams “you must really like your job huh”. I laughed and told him “it pays my bills”. He got angrier, and I told him if he didn’t leave now I was going to call the local police dept and have him trespassed. He screams “I heard you the first time you fucking loser”. I followed them off the property to make sure they had left.

Some side information, the strict trespassing rule is because if someone that is not an employee is injured there is concern they could sue the company. If something like that we’re to happen and it was discovered I knew people were there that did not belong there, I would be fired.

So AITA? ######

Response: NTA The conversation was over at private property. Seems like you were polite enough. ######


Prompt:
This has been going on for a while but I think the tipping point happened a couple days ago. She had asked me (22m) if I was circumcised, to which I told her I was not; she proceeded to say things like gross and we’re getting you circumcised in a joking manner...etc.

In that particular situation I could more or less tell se was being serious. And just today she was saying she thinks 7 inches is right right size and anything less would be small,-but here’s the kicker:

She is a virgin and has never stuck a finger in her vagina, whereas I’ve told her I’ve been with plenty of girls that have never commented on my size or uncircumcised penis. (Quite frankly it kinda hurt when she said it would be gross because I take pride in good hygiene downtown)

Initially it was funny and cute but Ive been thinking this is coming from someone who has never even had sex but she has this imaginary expectation of porn penis.

Anyway, would I be the butthurt asshole to confront her and tell her to get more mature? ######

Response:
 NTA The commentary about your body is frankly inappropriate and unkind and it would be equally gross for you to do the same to anyone else. Also having an uncircumcised penis is not gross. This is clearly her own anxieties surrounding having sex and it is manifesting in this, but honestly there is no excuse good enough to make these kinds of comments.

If she is otherwise amazing, I would sit her down and say that the comments about you being gross for being uncircumcised need to stop. You don't find them funny, and rather hurtful and you have to assume she doesn't want you to feel like that. Assuming she responds like a normal person (Omg I am so sorry it wasn't my intention to make you feel like that) maybe you can talk about where the comments were coming from. I think it's highly likely they come from a place of anxiety, but that's not a blank check to say shitty things. ######


Prompt:
Ill try to make this brief.

My grandma is in her late 60s, was diagnosed with MS 40 years ago. She has difficulty speaking and holding conversations and recently has been showing signs of deterioration.

She had 18 cats when she burned her house down and 13 passed. She had to give up 3 living ones  aland was allowed to keep 2 when she moved into government living facilities due to emotional support. This was 15 years ago.

Recently one of her cats passed away and the other has two paws in the grave. Im worried she will be close to follow since she so attached.

Anyhow the neighbor didnt spay the stray they let roam and its having kittens. After running the idea through my mom i decided to get one of the kittens, potty train it and get its shots, introduce it to my cats, and then give it to her.

She was super excited and asked what they looked like. At the time they were days old so all i could tell her was 2 grey and 1 black/white.

Every other day for weeks she has called and changed her mind from grey, to black...to grey...to black. And it takes her a good 10 minutes to spit out the reasons she wants X cat.

Anyways they are 8 weeks ajd the neigbor brought them over. He said i have first dibs, but a young couple wanted the 1 grey and his son really liked the black/white one.

Now this doesnt matter but the available grey one is my favorite. It looks like a little panther. I told him to let whoever wanted specifics to get their choices and i would give my grandma the 3rd one regardless.

I honestly couldn't remember the last color she landed on.

Well my gf got home and i told her and she said "im pretty sure last time she called she wanted the black one"

AITA for leaving it as is and giving her the darker grey one or whichever isnt chosen by the other two interested parties? ######

Response: NTA the coat of the cat doesnt matter. ######


Prompt:
My younger brother doesn't do any of his chores properly. Parents asked him to do the dishes: there were plates in the cabinet with dried on food. They asked him to vacuum: he would just kind of push it in one path, one direction and left all kids of weird track patterns. They asked him to mow the lawn: he purposely broke the mower. When they gave him a manual push mower: he did it like with the vacuum.

Parents do some of the stuff but even I have to clean up after him. Parents say "we cleaned up after you, it's no different than that".

Yesterday this shift happened again and I refused to clean up. My Dad joked about how apparently learning to clean up after somebody else even when it shouldn't be your job is good experience to have before entering the workforce. Bruh wtf. My parents had to get the work done.

AITA for refusing to do chores? ######

Response: NTA the brother should learn how to do it right godammit ######


Prompt:
So a couple of years ago my twin brother Ric and I met his now wife Nikki through mutual friends. I liked Nikki and asked her out, she said yes, we had coffee and a great time. I asked if she wanted to go out again, she apologized and told me that she thinks I’m a great guy that’s why she gave going out with me a shot but for some reason it’s Ric that she’s attracted to (Ric and I are identical twins).

I didn’t expect that but it was fine because it wasn’t as if I fell in love with Nikki at first sight and was already planning the rest of our lives together. I also thought it was cool that there’s this awesome girl who likes my brother because Ric was always the quiet and introverted one and didn’t go out much. So I set them up, they clicked instantly and last month they got married after dating for a few years.

A lot of the wedding guests know how Ric and Nikki got together so I didn’t think it would be an issue when in my best man speech I joked that Nikki knew which twin she wanted from the get go and recounted how her shooting me down during our date led to me setting her and Ric up. Nikki laughed while Ric said that I became his favorite brother after I set them up (we have no other brothers).

However, after the wedding my girlfriend was mad and told me that it was completely unnecessary to bring up that I went out with Nikki. She said it’s disrespectful to everyone and I should’ve just said that I set them up. I think it’s more amusing to know the whole story and that my girlfriend is over reacting (it was one time and literally all Nikki and I did was drink coffee and talk) but I wanna know how people who don’t know us look at this. ######

Response: NTA the bride and groom were fine with it. It’s their day, and if they’re happy then great! Sounds like a hilarious story, your girlfriend is just upset you spoke about going out with another woman. ######