Prompt:
He wants me to drive his family member to the airport tomorrow at 5:30 am.

Here's how that conversation went:

Me: What time does Jim leave tomorrow?

Bf: 6:45.

Me: WOW that's early.

Bf: Yeah you're going to need to get up at 5.

Me: What? Me? What are you talking about?

Bf: I have to work at 7:30, so you need to drive him.

I had no idea that any of this was going on. My boyfriend didn't ask me. He just *informed* me that this was happening. Also, maybe I'm mistaken, but if my bf went to sleep at 9:30 and woke at 5, that's 7.5 hours of sleep and totally fine. The airport is like 15 minutes away and he'd get to see his family member off.

I really don't want to do it because I'm pissed that he wouldn't even ask me. I'm big on asking permission, out of respect. If he had asked me, I'd gladly do it. I'm a person. Not an extension of himself. I'm not *obligated* to do anything for him. He doesn't think he should have asked, apparently. I told him why I was mad, and he thinks it not a big deal and I still need to do it.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that’s very presumptuous of him. And if he doesn’t have to be at work until 7:30 he can drive him. Also there’s taxi and Uber. ######


Prompt:
As the title suggests, I can't believe I'm actually making this post. Throwaway account obviously.

I (23F) have always disagreed with my mother (60F) on various things politically, but I'm not going to detail them here because I don't think they are very relevant to the discussion at hand. She's just a really conservative woman is the background I'm trying to provide here. We are not religious.

Anyways, today I walked downstairs to make breakfast for both of us in my nightgown (just a plain one, nothing funky, not see-through obviously) and shorts. My entire chest was covered to the neck nor was I showing shoulders. She stared at me for a while, and commented that I should not walk down like "I'm not wearing anything underneath" as my dad (63M, we have an ordinary relationship) may see it and get ideas. I was shocked and said, 1 I am wearing nothing revealing (not a bikini suit) and 2 it's very disturbing that she would suggest my dad would get incestuous thoughts from looking at his damn daughter. She got defensive and backtracked saying it's just not in accordance with her views and "men would be men" and to which point I had enough and blew up at her, saying I couldn't believe she would suggest her husband and daughter would have such thoughts just because I wore something that is as short to my thighs. I said "If it bothers you SO MUCH I'll just go change into long pants and a shirt in this 40 C summer weather". Now she's saying I over-reacted and put words in her mouth and think I'm the AH. My dad is not home yet and I am honestly way too embarrassed to bring this up and hope that she doesn't either. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that’s super creepy. I hope your dad and you have continued to have a normal relationship. ######


Prompt:
Me and my Bf been together for 4 years we have our own place but the funny thing is 2 of his friends are roommates who live right next to us. My sister came by last week so I could watch my niece (7 months) while she went to work but my Bf came out the room in nothing but his underwear my sister was rightly embarrassed and left quickly I told him that he can't do that and he should at least wear pants and doesn't have to wear a shirt. He told me he refused to be uncomfortable in his own house. I tried to talk it out but he brushed it for fine. His friends come over in the living room just talk I come out the room with the tighest shirt i own and his favorite pair of panties he likes me to wear and fix a PP & J sandwich (you can still see the kitchen from the living room) I can feel the death glare in the back of my hard and walked back to our room. After that he sent to boys home and hell broke lose

AITA?? ######

Response: NTA, that’s hilarious and I’m so glad you were brave enough to pull that off. Double standards suck and he’s a hypocrite. Great way to teach him lol ######


Prompt:
My (F32) husband (M45) and I have been together for 9 years. The entire course of our relationship he has obsessively cleared his search history, text messages, emails, Instagram, etc. It has always bothered me but he has always insisted he has nothing to hide he just has bad OCD and prefers everything to be clear. In hindsight, I wish I had pushed a bit more, but knowing him and knowing how bad his OCD can be, I believed him. We share finances, I have access to his email (both our emails are linked on Gmail sign in), etc. For the longest time, he made me feel that any suspicion was just in my head and that I have trust issues, etc. Additionally - though we have an active sex life, I have a higher libido than he does and generally I feel we lack a sense of intimacy.

I don't know what came over me, but a few days ago I snooped on his Instagram while he was in the shower. I found a message with a user I don't know (private account, clearly a throwaway username) where they had been sending hot models back and forth to each other. In the last message, my husband sent the user a link to a model's Patreon and asked him to send her $ and he would reimburse. (I presume so a charge to Patreon wouldn't appear on our cc statement).

I sat on the information for a few days, trying to process and talk myself off the ledge. Ultimately, I confronted him. I felt betrayed, hurt, confused...I feel like I've been gaslit our entire marriage and I don't know how I will ever trust him again. He thinks I am overreacting to the Nth degree, that "everybody" does this (this is what Instagram is for, apparently), etc.

He really wants me to move on and is sulking, feeling hurt by my snooping on his phone. I am heartbroken, unable to look him in the eye, feeling like we won't be able to come back from this since I don't know how I can trust him again.

AITA?? ######

Response:
 NTA, that’s called cheating. He very clearly has been doing it for a long time, and I know it’s a Crap situation. But he doesn’t care as much as you want him to. Right now, he’s fussy because you’ve caught him-the guy clearly thinks he’s entitled to talking to whoever he wanted for very clearly distrustful reasons.

In fact, he was actively covering it up. For a long, long time. Constantly gaslighting you and manipulating you along the way. I am honestly, truly sorry. I know reddit has a habit of going straight to divorce papers-but you’ve gotta do some more digging. And breaking apart is honestly sounding like it’s the best option for you. You’re not a side fling for him to pull along while he rattles away at his other options. ######


Prompt:
So it’s about 1:15 AM and I check my Instagram before bed. I watch my girlfriend’s story and say something about it to her.  She says “you’re just watching my story now?” To which I say, yes. It’s the only story I’ve watched today.

“I post very relevant things.  Sometimes to the point where I can’t believe you haven’t watched...”

I told her that I care more about the in person relationships I have and that it bothers me that we even value social media to the extent we do. I’m your partner, not your #1 fucking insta-follower.  Sorry I moved across the country and got a job here so we could be together and NOT have to only communicate over social media... and if were still across the world, I wouldn’t want your insta story to be my main sense of connection to you.  Goddamn, we’re fucking 30 years old. How is this an issue?  This is the primary thing she ever gets mad at me about.  Am I the asshole here for not giving a shit about Instagram stories or am I missing something? ######

Response: NTA, that’s a very odd reaction to that. ######


Prompt:
I am a 16 year old male. I live with my joint family which consists of my mom (40) and dad (41) grandfather (68) grandmother (68) great grandmother (91) and also my great grand father who passed away last year at the age of 96.
We live in a very small house with respect to the number of my family members.

Hence, I dont have my own room in my own house.
My grandfather has a liver disease since a year and a half after a bypass surgery. My grandmother had a knee surgery recently and also has another one this year. My great grandmother does not have any diseases but is quite old. My mother has to take care of them and so she does not work. My father owns a business that is not doing that well currently thanks to covid-19. I was studying for an extremely important exam this year which I had to ace to get into a good college. And because of that exam I could not even go anywhere for some fun because I had to STUDY. For reference the last movie I went to see with my friends was about 3 years ago.

When the day of my final exam came, our nation went into quarantine and my 2.5 month holidays went down the drain. I now am looking after my grandparents and helping my mother in housework alongside studying for my 1st college year. Everyday I have to sit infront of my grandfather for hours just to be there if he needs anything. I havent met my friends since months and my privacy is literally 0.

I am completely fed up of everyone in my house. They feel that it is my obligation that I should look after my family. I literally have to sleep in my grand parents' room beacuse there is no room for me. I have 0hours to myself alone and the only time I get to think about myself is in the bathroom.

STILL MY FAMILY THINKS THAT I AM LIVING A LUXORIOUS LIFE AND THAT I AM UNGRATEFUL AND I AM LAZY AND UNHELPFUL BRAT.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that's rough buddy ######


Prompt:
This happened about a year ago:

I'm female artist, and my niece (6yo) absolutely loves me. One time I let her come into my bedroom when she was visiting and I forgot about the tasteful nude I had pinned to the wall behind my door. It was of a middle-aged naked woman lounging. I created it in a figure drawing class.

My niece saw it and very innocently asked. "Why is she naked?"

 I'd didn't think it was a big deal because I'm pretty desensitized to nudity, so I anwered very plainly.

*"oh yeah. That was a drawing I did. Most artists have to learn how draw naked people. Even if they're gonna wear clothes over top."*

She seemed amused by that.

Well a few weeks later my family all go to a free art musium near by. My niece and I break off and are walking around the rooms, and at one point my niece stops me at a few portraits. She has me lean in and not so quietly whispers. "did- did this artist draw these people naked too?"

I chuckle and say, "yeah, probably."
My niece chuckles with me.

At that point I hear a 'tsk' from a woman near me. I glance over and this older woman is glarring right at me. She speaks under her breath, *"That's disgusting..."* and walks away.

I felt really bad after that. Was it too soon for me to tell my niece that stuff about this aspect of art? ######

Response: NTA, that's kind of endearing actually ######


Prompt:
Okay, hear me out. I live in a complex that is built in a circle so its like a track. A lot of people use it to run, walk, etc. I've always used it to run/walk as well. I live in Florida so I usually wear leggings and a sports bra or a tank top. I literally only wear it because it's insanely hot here.

This woman always gave me dirty looks when I'd walk by her apartment (she'd be sitting on her porch.) There are a few maintenance guys (not sure if that is the correct title for them - but that is what everyone calls them) that walk and ride around on golf carts throughout the day. I soon realized that the dirty look woman is married to one of the maintenance workers. I am always polite to them, but have never talked to them by any means.

So, yesterday I was working out on the tennis court which is near their apartment. Her and her husband were sitting on the porch. She is giving me the dirtiest looks and is making me pretty uncomfortable but I try to ignore it. Before I leave she says, "Do you like get off on having the maintenance men check you out all day?" To which I replied, "Actually yes it makes me super wet. They are what keeps my sex drive high." She looked shocked and her husband starting laughing and then she smacked him on the arm.

I came back and told my mom this story and she said I should be more sensitive and obviously the woman is insecure. Now I kinda feel bad. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA, that's hilarious. Yes, she is insecure, and that's sad. But she tried to made that insecurity your problem, so you have every right to hand it back to her and make her deal with it herself.

Sometimes I think that women like that really want to control their partners, but they can't so instead try to control all the women around their partners. They are both controlling and deluded. ######


Prompt:
So imagine this: my mom comes into my room, flops on my teddy bear and just falls asleep. I sit there, letting her sleep and minding my own business for two hours. Then it's time for me to go to sleep.

So at this point I've tried to wake her up twice already but she only complains and goes back to sleep before I can say anything else. Since it's my mom, I left it be. But now it's time for me to sleep so surely she'd understand that she has to go right?

But she doesn't go, instead she tells me to just sleep in bed with her. For context, my family lives in a small house so when I was younger, I slept with my parents, before eventually moving into my own room. My mom is a very clingy person and tends to barge into my room very often, for very weird reasons. (Won't say more, but it's nothing bad on my end. Just super weird.)

She wasn't there when I was younger so I think she tries to amend that by doing things like this. Normally I understand, but I can't lie and say it's not uncomfortable for me.

This time I stood my ground, told her again I didn't want her sleeping with me. Eventually she left without a word. And I feel fucking bad about it.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that's a very reasonable boundary to set. ######


Prompt:
This has been on my mind for quite some time now, so I decided to get an outsiders opinion.

Some backstory:
I don’t know how to write this out without sounding arrogant so I’m just gonna be straightforward - my family is a bit wealthier than my best friends. I don’t mean anything drastically, we both live comfortable lives, but my mom can give me and my siblings some extra joys of lifes. This has become a bit of a friction point between me and my friend, she’d throw some remarks here and there but never responded, because I don’t even know what I could say.

Recently, I found out that my grandpa, who I am extremely close to, has cancer. It’s stage two and treatable, but it felt like getting punched in the throat when I heard.
A week ago he started chemotherapy, and I been very concerned, because on the phone he sounds very weak.
So, when I was talking to my friend about it, she said “well, at least if he dies, you’ll get even more money” .
I was speechless... My grandpa is battling cancer and her mind is still on money. I asked her if she could please stop focusing on that for just a minute, to which she responded that I wouldn’t get it, cause I am not poor. ( Again, her  family is not poor, her parents have average incomes) She then called me a bitch for being so insensitive and hung up.

I felt like I am not the AH in this, but the more I think about it, the more I feel like one.
AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that was very much not the right response to hearing someone has cancer. ######


Prompt:
For the past 2 years me and my gf have been dating, she has never known what she wants to eat. Me or her sister can ask her what she wants and she will respond with "I'm not sure, what sounds good to you?" Then I'll begin listing off all the options around us fast food wise. She will proceed to tell me no on everything I say, to which I then start naming things we can buy at Walmart and she starts saying no to those things as we would have to "wait forever for them to cook" or she doesn't "feel like X meat"

This morning I'm going over the options again, and of course things play out about like this and she calls me mean for pointing out that she never knows what she wants.

AITA?

Edit: to respond to the person asking what I said, all I said was "you never know what you want to eat". I never get an attitude with her about it, and she knows I'm not mad. Or atleast I hope she does lol

Edit 2: it's a Christmas miracle, she said she wants pizza ######

Response: NTA, that sounds incredibly annoying. Stop giving her a million options and just pick without her if she refuses to weigh in with ideas. ######


Prompt:
Residential zoned area, less than .5 acre property, zoning ordinance  limits max of 4 dogs, noise ordinance specific for dogs.

 Neighbor moved in with 3 dogs, now has 11 (all ages, diff breeds).  Dogs barking from 5am-11:30pm.

 We told her nicely about the noise but she refuses to do anything.  Smell from feces is unbearable.

We filed complaint with Zoning Dept.  Neighbor now is mad that she has to give up some of her dogs.

Are we assholes because we don't want a 'kennel' next door to our home with 11 dogs that bark constantly all day? ######

Response: NTA, that sounds a lot like animal hoarding, so she might have other issues to contend with. I wish you luck but from my experience with living next to a neighbor with that condition you're in for a long, bumpy ride. ######


Prompt: Where to begin? So at the age of 16 my parents forced me to get a job and i was excited to earn money but when my first check came my parents demanded that i give them my whole check, so i did. This went on for 2 years. Along the way i would ask my parents for money to buy things such as games and clothes and was always told that it was used either for paying bills or buying food. Mid way through the second year i accepted that i would never see a dime of my work and became content knowing that at 18 i would move out and keep working. Along the way i got so fustrated with my parents that i would hardly talk to them when i turned 18 i moved out without telling my parents where. They called me a month after moving out and asked me if by them giving me my money if it would fix things but i told them that i did not want my money and that they were dead to me. Im 32 years old now and havent spoken to them since i was 18. Mind you i worked 4 hrs a day 6 days a week at night while going to school for 2 years and in the summer it was full time. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, That said if you’re thinking about it 14 years later and asking this question on reddit, we all know it’s not about you not wanting your own money. ######


Prompt:
I’m a closeted lesbian, since my family is Christian and since I live in an asian country I keep it to myself. I’m not ashamed about who I am but I am afraid of people’s reactions.
Anyway I told one person, a friend (let’s call her Lana).When I told her she was surprised but eventually accepted me.
A few months later I had a work party to celebrate a new employee joining. I invited Lana to join. We were having a good time, then I got up to go to the bathroom. When I returned to the group, I heard her loudly telling my coworkers and my boss that I was a lesbian and she even used the “F word “to describe me. When she saw me walking towards the group she changed the subject.
Not wanting to cause a bigger scene I waited until after the party to confront her. She told me that I was “hearing things” and that I shouldn’t trust my own eyes and ears because I was probably drunk.  I wasn’t.
So I stopped talking to her. A few days later she called me and admitted she said it but said that she won’t apologize for telling people the truth.
After that day I reflected on our friendship and realized how toxic she was. And her l
narcissistic tendencies.
But some of our mutual friends that she told the story to said that I overreacted, that I am an asshole for not accepting her “apology”. ######

Response: NTA, that person is not your friend!! ######


Prompt:
I was married to Jason for thirteen years and we shared two children, Hannah is twelve and Noah is nine. Our marriage ended rather abruptly but it didn’t come as a big surprise. We hadn’t been happy for years.

Jason began dating Emily who is fifteen years his junior shortly after the divorce. They’ve been married now for three years and she’s thirty so it’s not like he married some college kid but I still have an issue with her lack of maturity sometimes.

This was all very hard on Hannah. She doesn’t like Emily and is in counseling to deal with her jealousy towards her. The truth is I don’t like Emily very much either but I do expect my kids to be respectful.

Hannah came to me crying last night and told me that when she was at her dads this weekend she put Emily’s toothbrush in the toilet. I guess Jason found her doing this and he said it was really funny and to let him see the toothbrush. He scrubbed the toilet and I guess she thought they were going to prank Emily together but when he was done he told Hannah to brush her teeth with it.

Now I fully understand how wrong Hannah was but I can’t get the image of her crying and gagging while being forced to use the toothbrush out of my head. He then made her tell Emily what she had done and do chores to earn money to buy a new toothbrush. I’m fine with that but actually making her out it in her mouth pissed me off.

I’ll admit I don’t know if this was all about Hannah. Jason’s been a different person since he met Emily and it’s hard to watch him fawn over his gorgeous thirty year old wife. I called at one in the morning and I could tell I woke him and I went off on him. I told him how selfish he is and how he puts Emily before our kids. Still I feel like some of this was motivated by my own feelings so AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that is just horrifying. What she did was wrong, but HE is the adult and the punishment doesn't fit the crime. ######


Prompt:
I don’t know how I’m the asshole. But, hey.

My fiancée and I had a small fight. I wanted her to sleep earlier because she usually sleeps at 3. I wanted that because I really want to cuddle with her when I sleep.

I’m not really religious or superstitious, but she wanted us to go to this Chinese restaurant that has pretty weird and “true” fortunes. She begged me to go just for the fortunes, and we went today. When she read her fortune, I just laughed. It just said “Lose your next argument, and then you shall be more free”. I mean, it’s pretty funny and ironic.

She got mad at me laughing somehow. That I was being demeaning to her. Idk

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, that is funny and ironic. And if all you did was chuckle then I think she may be overreacting ######


Prompt:
So my gf and I have been live together for about 6 months, she moved a few hours away from her home to live with me. This was her moms first visit here this weekend.

I’m currently on night shift for a few weeks, I work 7pm to 7am with 2 hours drive time to and from. I went to bed around 11 and the gf’s mom was coming that day, she got here around 12. My gf told her to be quiet since I’m working nights so sleeping during the day.

At around 12:30 she comes in my room, wakes me up and tells me “stop being so lazy, you don’t need to sleep all day, now help carry my bags from my car”. I flipped out, told her to fuck off and grab her own bags and stay out of my room. I had about 1.5h of sleep so far so not in a good mood. Well let’s just say she turned into a miserable cunt all weekend.

So aita here? Did I go too far ######

Response:
 NTA, telling you you’re being lazy after you’ve only been at home a few hours and had less than 2 hours of sleep is totally disrespectful to you in your own home.

I am not at all following anyone who says you’re the ass hole after she verbally attacked you without provocation in this way, that’s utterly fucked - the only  more appropriate response that jumps to mind would have been something like “How dare you speak to me in that way, who do you think you are, this is my home, I worked all night, leave here this instant and do not come back, you are not welcome.” ######


Prompt:
Hey everyone,

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now I am in a bit of a tricky situation and don’t know how to handle it. My GF borrowed my almost new drone, because she wanted to make some short videos of her new sport activities for me.

I had previously given her a very detailed instruction on what to do and what NEVER to do at all like disabling the automated Anti-Crash system. Well, she disabled it, because with it on the drone will never go lover then 0,5m and she needed it to follow low.

While following her, the drone hit a bench at Full Speed, repair impossible, about 3.200€ to replace it.
Now here is the thing: She is not included in my drone Insurance and has non herself so she has to pay it from her own money. While her Job is not bad, that Money would take her savings of almost 2 years while my job pays way better and I save the sum up in 2-3 month depending on Workload.

I feel bad for having her loose all her hard earned money while it’s kinda nothing for me to pay it but on the other hand I don’t feel like I should have to pay for the damage I did not do.

I will probably decide by your answers what to do. ######

Response:
 NTA, technically she should do the right thing and reimburse you, but maybe offer to let her pay you back in installments?
If the money really is "nothing" for you to pay out of pocket and you wanted to be nice and not take all her savings she'd probably appreciate it but it really depends on whether you'd be comfortable with that. ######


Prompt: I am trying to save a good emergency fund so I can move out of my parent’s house. My brother is 8 years old than me and more established in his career and everything—he wants to buy a house to live in with his fiancée. He knows I have an emergency fund saved (our family is pretty open about money + finances) and he came to me and he asked for $5,000 so he could have enough to make the down payment. I said it was an emergency fund and I didn’t want to delay moving out because it took a while to save up that money. He said it’s not a big deal and he can pay it back in two months. I said no again and he went and told our parents, and they said that I’m living in their house so I should pay my brother the $5,000 as rent to them back-dated. I said that we’d never talked about rent and this was being sprung on me and I don’t understand, if they want me to move out, why they want me to give up my emergency fund. I said that if he can’t afford the down payment then how is he going to pay for the house and they all groaned and rolled their eyes, my dad said “what have you been reading, money self help books?” And pointed out family helps each other. I would be happy to help if I thought I could give it up without missing it but I think I would, if he took the $5,000 I wouldn’t be able to afford to even pay my deductible for health insurance if I got hurt and my parents definitely aren’t paying for that. So AITA ######

Response:
 NTA, Take care of yourself first, really. The fact that they all groaned and rolled their eyes and  mocked you for being fiscally responsible shows that you need to keep your money. Don't let them guilt you into it.

Especially if they aren't willing to help him themselves. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway because he knows my reddit. I (20M) and my boyfriend (21M) have been together for about a year now. I love him to death, but he never takes off sweatpants. He wore sweatpants to my best friend's wedding, to Easter, to Christmas, to meet my parents, to meet my grandparents, and he wears them for every date night out. It makes me feel crappy because I try to put effort into my appearance when we go out, and he never does the same. Every time I bring that up he gets angry at me.

Now that restrictions in our country are being lifted, we can go out to see friends and family again. Today, we were going to my parents' house to have lunch, and he, as usual, put on sweats. I pulled him aside, and said,
"Babe, can you please wear something nice to see my parents? I put in effort to my appearance to leave the house, and it would be nice if you did the same."

He then went off at me, calling me an asshole for trying to control how he looks, and says if I can't accept his "grunge aesthetic" then we can't be together.

I have nothing against sweatpants, but in my culture, it is considered taboo and inappropriate to wear sweatpants in most social situations (except the gym). Am I the asshole for wanting him to just put some effort into his appearance when we leave the house together? ######

Response: NTA, sweatpants just aren’t appropriate for some occasions. Like who the hell wears sweatpants to a wedding? ######


Prompt:
Alright so. Within the span of a few months of moving into our new house, with a generous three toilets for each family member, my mother has clogged her own toilet. And refused to unclog it. Or even make an attempt. She insists it's too far gone for her to deal with, but refuses to accept any help in fixing it, mine or a professional's.

Instead, she's been using my toilet. And clogging it. And then leaving it for me to find.

Today, at a wonderous 1:30 A.M, I attempted to use my toilet. Only to be abruptly snapped out of my sleepy daze when I felt toilet water rise and brush my asschecks. This is the fifth time she has done this and left it unattended for me to find, usually at some ungodly hour of the morning, not to mention stomping in and out of my room unannounced at all hours to use my toilet.

So, out of anger, I stomped into her room unannounced and had a pretty heated argument with her. She said she felt humiliated about clogging the toilet. I said she should grow up (which might have been a bit uncalled for, especially considering the hour.) She tried to insist I should just go downstairs and use my dad's toilet. Which he never cleans. And he cannot aim. There are sticky piss puddles down there. The cat's litterbox is in there too. It reeks.

I told her she picked a man who can't aim his own piss and if she needs to shit so bad she should be the one braving his pig-sty.

She's been telling all her friends about how I humiliated her in the middle of the night/berated her/etcetra as well as going on her guilt-trippy rants about how she's ""Apparently such a pig, wah wah wah, my son doesn't love me."" Despite me never having said anything of that sort. I just want to be able to pee without worrying about my mother's feces gently caressing my butthole

I'm aware this is really, really petty but quarantine has driven me insane, especially since my mother and father and I have such different views on what's considered clean. ######

Response: NTA, start locking your bathroom, tbh. But leave her access to a plunger and put a plumber's business card on the fridge. That shits gross, what the hell. Congratulations on being a more put together adult than your parents. ######


Prompt:
So my brother has been seeing this girl for about 5/6 years. For the past 4 they’ve lived with my parents and I’ve had the ~absolute pleasure~ of bearing witness to every single fight.

She buys the wrong brand of toilet paper? Screaming match where he berates her and calls her stupid. She forgets to tell him she picked up an extra shift? He calls her repeatedly at work and yells about what a lying cheating terrible person she is. And he cheats, anything walks by, he sleeps with it.

Well today she had enough. She left him saying that she makes him miserable (something he tells her even though she’s the most amazing sweet person ever) and she can’t do it anymore.

My parents don’t know the depth to the terrible entitled monster they raised, and said it was both of their faults and she could continue to live in the hues bedroom if she wanted. I pointed out to my mom that she doesn’t do any of the things he’s said and told her she could start apartment hunting with me.

Now my parents are telling me I should back up my brother and I shouldn’t be backing her, that I should support my brother and try to help him feel better. He’s a terrible monster, he degraded her and made her feel worthless. And on top of everything, he started her on coke.

So AITA for telling my parents he deserves what he’s getting and I hope he learns his lesson?

Edit: they support the apartment hunting idea, but think I should still do more to console my brother and make him feel like he didn’t do anything wrong, when in reality it was literally his fault. ######

Response: NTA, sounds like your brother got what he deserved. Good on you for recognizing his shitty behavior and calling him out on it ######


Prompt:
I'm married and have a 10yo son and a 11yo step-son. I don't have much of a relationship with my step-son's mom. I don't think she likes me. Fortunately, my son and step-son grew up together so they get along, go to the same school and hang out with the same friends. I went to go pick up my son from the park and my step-son was going to be picked up by his mom for the week. I didn't want to leave my step-son all by himself at the park so I stayed. His mom was suppose to be there at 4PM and it was already 4:30PM with no word from her. I tried calling, texting and emailing. Nothing. My husband on a plane so he wasn't going to pick up.

I ended taking both kids back to our house. Around 5PM, I get a call from my step-son's mom bitching at me over taking her son back home. I explained that we waited an hour and tried to contact her. I didn't want to leave him all by himself at the park. She said I had no right to do that and I should have moved mountains to get my husband on the phone to discuss. There had been a miscommunication between her and my husband as my husband - he was in a different timezone when they coordinated his pickup so he was off by an hour. She used that hour to go to a spa hence her unavailability. My messages got buried under other messages. She said she was scared that something happened to her only child and I should have contacted her again and it was an asshole thing to do. ######

Response: Nta, sounds like she’s unreasonably mad over a miscommunication ######


Prompt:
I have an old highschool friend who hasn't talked to me in a few years but one morning out of the blue he calls me. It's great and all, I was glad to hear from him and was wanting to catch up, but he seemed against catching up and was more focused on wanting to meet up and talk to me about his new job as a "financial advisor". This really stuck a nerve with me as the first thing after years of not talking, he wants to ensure that "this isn't a job pitch or anything".

I mentioned we should get food sometime and shoot the shit but he again seemed hesitant to accept, told me he would send me an email, and we'd get the times in order as we agreed a certain day a week out would work. I never get an email, he never tries to catch up, and texts me on the day of of how hes "excited for our meeting at 1" so he's choosing the time without contacting.

AITA for just saying "no, sorry but I can't do it anymore" now? As a friend I used to know i feel bad for canceling, but also I feel like the first person in his contact book he called and didn't want to deal with excess. ######

Response:
 NTA, sounds like one of thode World Financial Group "Financial advisors" which is just a glorified MLM.

Same thing happened to me, i just told him off. ######


Prompt:
I've been laid off and have spent a lot of time at home cleaning and organizing. Husband is working from home and mentioned that its nice that everything is so clean and we can actually enjoy our days off instead of always having something to do. So we tossed around the idea of hiring a cleaning service once a week or once every other week to catch up on the cleaning we miss. Mostly vacuuming, dusting, and occasional deep cleaning in the kitchen. We work opposite schedules and find it hard to do this cleaning because we either have our toddler or one of us is asleep.

Apparently this was just hypothetical to him because I did some research and he was surprised when I brought him numbers. (Any cleaning service would be after the current situation). He barely looked at the sheet, handed it back and said he thought we would just hire his mom if we ever needed.

What?

I said no, because we used to live with his parents and his mom is nosey, she has a full time job, and his family has a tendency to over stay their welcome. Husband looked taken aback and asked me to explain. I brought up all the times she would take it upon herself to do our laundry that was in our bedroom with our door closed. "Cleaned" my work spaces, and generally disregarded implied boundaries. I also tacked on that his dad follows his mom everywhere and has a similar disregard for boundaries. He agreed about his dad but seems miffed that I don't want his mom in our home, hired and unsupervised. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, sounds like him and his mom have poor boundaries if he assumes she will do it. He’s a grown adult mommy shouldn’t be cleaning up after him. ######


Prompt:
I f16 and my brother m29 usually get along well but since i was about 10 years old all responability of his daughter f8 has fallen on me. I love my niece so much, shes always been the sweetest kid and i love to play with her, shes like my mini me, but for 2 weeks straight its just like  havinv my own kid.
My brother and his ex have split custody and we have my niece 2 weeks out of the month and while shes in i do everything! Getting her ready in the morning, cooking for her, doing her hair, helping her wash her hair in the bath, doing all homework and bedtime reading and playing ALL DAY. I dont mind helping out with her but its expected of me and it can get really Frustrating, especially when i have to stay home from plans and babysit without pay so he can go out. So WITBA if i told him its not my job to raise his child? ######

Response: Nta, sounds like hes taking advantage of your kindness, tbh. ######


Prompt:
Quarentine is making us pathetic y'all.

I have a killer headache and was laying on the couch watching something on Disney plus with the only tv in our house.

My SO asks me if he can play on the PS4 with his friend. I was in the middle of an episode and told him no, I was watching something.

Some quick background here, he plays this game with his friend every night for several hours, and even plays all day sometimes (on the one tv in the house). 99% of the time, I don't care and will stop what I'm doing so he can play. I have other things to do and even like watching sometimes. But this time I didn't feel good and just wanted to watch tv.

I honestly feel like it was unfair of him to try to demand the tv while I was in the middle of something. He'll have all night and his friend will be there later too. He ended up telling me I was being selfish and didn't know how to compromise, which he knew would upset me, and now he has the damn tv because he made me feel bad. He says I should have just given him the tv and watched something on the computer instead. The point wasn't that I wanted to watch something, it was that I wanted to use the tv and don't think I should have had to stop what I was doing just so he could play, since he'll play later too.

AITA for not wanting to stop in the middle of my episode and give him the tv? ######

Response: NTA, sounds like he needs to learn how to share. It's funny that he called you selfish and unable to compromise since that's exactly how he behaved. ######


Prompt:
So the background to this is that I'm pretty sure I have IBS-mixed type, basically I swing from constipated to diarrhea frequently. Nothing is normal, everything hurts and sometimes the urge to go comes on suddenly and painfully. I am in the middle of getting tests started but it's slow going due to covid.

My husband's generally supportive as long as it doesn't inconvenience him personally. The other day, however, was a real surprise. We were on our way to visit at a park with guests, which we can do where we are. Before we entered the park, I received the signal to go, abruptly and painfully, and asked if we could detour slightly to a gas station.

He flipped his lid, yelled that I needed to get my s*** together, pun intended, and then ignored me until we were face to face with our friends. Then he proceeded to give me crap for being on the phone and dangled chocolate at me before snatching it back and saying "you're not hungry, are you?"

I ended up excusing myself, leaving the park on foot and walking about 0.8 km to the bathroom and back. When I got back, our guests were in the middle of leaving. I apologized for leaving and was assured it was totally understandable. After they left, we had a fight. He says I'm TA for being a problem all the time and that I was rude to leave, and I say he's TA for not stopping when it was urgent and that nobody should have to apologize for having to emergency poop. This is the first time he's really been an ass about this in 4 years, but it really stuck with me.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 NTA, sound alike your husband is manipulative and controlling. Who treats their partner this way for something they have no control over. Your husband is TA here and you should not be treated like that

As for the IBS can I offer a small piece of advice while your waiting for tests......keep a food journal which you document everything you eat in and the days your IBS flares up. Also IBS can be exacerbated by stress so that may be something to keep track of in the diary also. This may give you a better handle on it as it's a painful and embarrassing condition ######


Prompt:
My ex girlfriend and I officially ended things this January after a long drawn out break. Things had been on the rocks for a while. We were initially FWB but decided to be serious after about 2.5 years of doing so. The transition to serious relationship didn’t go well and she wanted an open relationship. She insisted it was more for me as she has a low sex drive and didn’t like feeling pressured to sleep with me more now that we were exclusive.

She works as a waitress and everyone knows the situation the world is in right now. While we were a thing i would cover her rent/phone bill and usually some other things because I’m a dumb ass.

Anyways, she’s baffled I no longer want to help her with her bills given the state of things and her career.

I told her that it is no longer my problem if we are not together. She is accusing me of “forcing” her to prostitute herself to me to pay her bills. I told her if that’s how she saw out relationship then it’s best to stay separated.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, sorry you lost a friend in this but she's totally in the wrong here. You were supporting her because you thought you were in a committed relationship. It's pretty clear now that wasn't the case ######


Prompt:
I (21f) work at a store with a lot of vendors who bring in their own product. A lot of these vendors are white men in their 60s+, who borderline sexually harass me and the other female staff, are racist, homophobic, rude to service staff, pretty much every negative white conservative baby boomer thing you can think of. They will sit in the store and talk loudly about pro gun rights the day after mass shootings, and pin blame on other races. Ex) “its usually the muslims who do the shooting”

They aren’t even supposed to stay in the store. We sell their product for them, all they do is bring it in.

I’m pretty tired of the rude and condescending behaviour towards me, especially since I have been a supervisor for a year now and worked there for a few years. When they come to pick up their cheques, a lot of them will bark at me and interrupt me helping customers to demand their money, or not say anything but just rub their fingers together and stare at me. I’ve also gotten comments like “oh I looove being handed money from a woman” when I give it to them.

Now when vendors approach me impolitely, I’ve gotten in the habit of saying “what’s the magic word?” and smiling while I hold their cheque. I make eye contact and patiently wait for them to say “please” before I give it to them. It puts them on the spot for being rude, but its also extra and unnecessary. Although there’s nothing else I can do about their inappropriate behaviour. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, sometimes it’s the little victories that gets us through the day. ######


Prompt:
I (m17) have a fungal infection around inner thigh and genital area. I apply my anti-fungal cream before I fall asleep. Because of lockdown my step-sister's University closed and she (19) moved back in the house. Her Mac's charger broke, and recently she has been using my charger. After having dinner she left her laptop in my room to charge and we watched an episode of Witcher in Netflix together and then I went to bed.

As usual I started to apply my anti fungal cream around my genital. I usually get erection while rubbing the cream. Suddenly my step-sister walks in(without knocking) and I froze like a deer caught in headlights, with an erection and pants down. My step-sister screamed and my parents came and she told that I made her feel uncomfortable. In my defense I said I was applying anti fungal cream and she should have knocked. Now, my parents want me to apologize to my step-sister and promise that it won't happen again. I have refused to apologize because it was her fault for not respecting my privacy.

So, AITA for not apologizing to my step-sister when she caught me with an erection and pants down.

PS: sorry in advance if there are any typos, typing from mobile ######

Response: NTA, someone doesn’t knock. It’s all them. ######


Prompt:
So, I own 3 houses that I had bought with an inheritance that my grandad left me and I rent these houses out. This enables me to have a steady income even without having a job so I have quite a bit of money to save and put away.

I rented one of the 3 properties out to my sister and her boyfriend for not a large sum at all.

The first few months they paid every time on the dot and I had no issues. However in the past 3 months I had received no payments and false promises of money that I was never going to receive.

So I removed them from the house and moved in a tenant who was willing to pay. My mother is furious that I kicked them both out and wants me to kick out the tenant who I moved in and move them back in AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA, so they were squatters in your house and you have to keep them there?

Owning an "investment property" is not about charity.. Its about gaining back what you paid for and then setting up for your own retirement.

Question though - how come you received an inheritance from your grandad so that you could purchase property and your sister did not?  Your mum may also feel that you should be supporting your sister given you have had this money come through. ######


Prompt:
I know, this title is ridiculous. How on earth could I be an asshole when seeking medical attention? I’m not sure but my coworker seems to think I’m the world’s biggest asshole.

So around 11pm yesterday I started having trouble breathing, I chalked it up to asthma. Well I then got sick to my stomach. At 7am I called the Covid screening and they sent me over to healthlinks and they sent me to the ER. By this point I could barely speak.

I contacted my bosses and hr to let them know what’s up as I had a 10:00 shift. I had messaged everyone around 8:30am what was up.

It took three hours before I could breath on my own. I see I have a Snapchat from a coworker I used to consider a friend. I opened it and it was a wall of text about how selfish I am for not showing up and how all I do is sit at the desk (that’s my job)

What’s important to know is that I was off work from February until June 1st because of health issues and I’ve only been back working for a week.

I tried to explain the situation not that it was any of her business and she went off more, I won’t repeat what was said because character limit. But I sent screenshots to HR because they were nasty texts.

I could see why she’d be upset if I was home with the sniffles, but I couldn’t breath, I was throwing up, those are corona symptoms and I would have been sent home anyway even if I did show up. ######

Response: NTA, Shes not upset because you had trouble breathing shes upset because she thinks you're lying. Assuming you haven't lied before since you didn't mention that in your post, shes an asshole. ######


Prompt: Like I said in the title she totaled my car during Christmas break she gave me some money for the car but I was able to buy a decent car with my insurance money, (5,000 for the new car). The new car that I bought, I drove that up until last week when the transmission failed and the cost to fix it would be more than the car was worth, so I said screw it and I leased a new 2020 Honda Civic so I would have a reliable car and she's upset because I won't let her drive it. And with this coronavirus going on it's fairly difficult because the bus only runs at certain times, we dont live by any family and most of our friends live in different towns so they cant pick her up. I offered to pay for her to get an Uber or asked her to try to get a ride from a coworker. I drive her into work at 7am on my way to work, but she gets out at 4pm , I usually and dont get out of work until 6 or 7.  Am I the asshole in this situation? ######

Response: Nta, she’s proved herself to be unreliable behind the wheel. Tell her to save up and get her own car. Someone always has to take public transport sometime when a household only has one car. ######


Prompt:
Here's a little backstory. My boyfriend dated his now best friend 3 or 4 years ago. They shared some traumatic experiences together and he says he feels like they recovered together. He also says that they're happy as just friends and haven't fooled around since they were together.

So the best friend's brother was having a destination wedding in Mexico this week, but its been pushed back to July due to the (bad thing). The best friend's parents are freakin loaded and offered to pay for her and a guest to attend the wedding. When the invitations were sent out at the beginning of the year, she asked my boyfriend to go with her. He obviously said yes. They were both single at the time. They paid for his flight and he'd share her hotel room.

When the wedding was pushed back, the parents reached out to him to tell them they'll figure out new flight times once a new date was confirmed. I think it might be inappropriate for him to go now. We've been dating for a few months and she just started seeing a new guy. I brought it up to my boyfriend and he said that she usually waits a long time before someone she is dating to meet her family and he still wants to go. He's excited for the beaches and the open bar. He acts like I'm just jealous and its totally fine for him to be his best friend's date. I want to trust my boyfriend, but this just feels like a lot of red flags.

AITA for asking him not to go? ######

Response: NTA, she’s his ex and it’d be disrespectful to your relationship ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend and I have been living together for a while now. She loves baking bread, I'd say it's safe to say that it's one of her hobbies/passions. As a result we always have delicious bread in our home. I think it's amazing and I'm really lucky.

For the sake of this post I feel like I have to include that I never bake bread. We both cook but I never bake. I never ask her to either she just does it because she enjoys it. She usually bakes bread once or twice a week.

We live in a country where people have been stock piling idiots so supermarkets have been out of toilet paper pasta and apparently also yeast. About a week ago my girlfriend told me that she's out of yeast. She seemed to be bummed because she started being more experimental with her bread baking since we went into lockdown. So I made it my mission to get her yeast. I called every supermarket and finally found a bakery that was happy to sell me some. I picked it up yesterday and wrapped it up as a little present. I wanted to give it to my girlfriend tonight but when I told one of my mates about it today he said that it would be an insulting present. He said it's sexist and my girlfriend might think I want to imply that I expect her to make me bread. He also said it's a bit like gifting her a gym membership when she didn't ask for one.

I'm really unsure now because I DO NOT expect her to bake for me. I genuinely thought she'd like it but I absolutely do not want to offend her.

WIBTA if I give her the yeast wrapped up as a present? ######

Response: Nta, she's said she's out of yeast and not happy about it. You've listened, thought and hunted down some yeast for her. I think she'll be fairly pleased. ######


Prompt:
I have a daughter who will be 27 in two months, and lately she has been constantly lamenting the fact that she is so "old" and has not found "the one." I know that this is likely a result of so many of her friends having gotten married within the last two or so years, including her younger sister who married her longtime boyfriend last fall. I am sure it also does not help that she has served in the wedding party in many of their weddings.

My daughter has had her share of relationships with really nice guys, in my view, so it's not like she hasn't had her chances. It's just she's never had a relationship last more than about nine months. She might have had one longer than that but certainly never over a year.

Recently when I was talking to her she asked me if there was something wrong with her. I've gotten similar questions in the past, but this time I decided to try a different approach. I told her I had noticed how she treated some of her boyfriends and couldn't blame them for deciding to call it quits. She is really great with her friends and family and not self-centered, but the opposite is true with her boyfriends. She is very demanding and extremely high maintenance, and I think she can be petty. She demands so much of their time and attention that there is nothing left for them, which is why most guys try to avoid girls like her. No matter how pretty or smart she may be it just isn't worth all the headaches.

I feel like this was all something she needs to hear. Most of the guys she is interested in aren't going to put up with this type of behavior (and especially not guys in their late 20s and 30s), so if she wants those guys then she needs to rethink some things and learn not to be so demanding and bossy.

Both my wife and my daughter think I am TA for saying this, but I don't think telling the truth and giving an honest opinion makes someone TA. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, she's not going to like it but she needs to hear it from somebody. She probably has from her exes, but she also probably brushed it off. She can't brush off your criticism though and that might be why it's stinging a little more. It's in her best interest to address this behavior even if it sucks to accept. ######


Prompt:
Background I grew up poor I often had to wear dirty clothes because we couldn't afford to wash them, had to walk everywhere because we couldn't afford to take the bus or get a car, had 1 package of Raman for dinner, luckily our financial situation has improved and I've fattened up considerably I have been friends with "Susan" a few months now and she never knew me or my family before our circumstances improved now on to the issue

So me and Susan were talking about a mutual friend who recently lost his job and can barley afford rent and food and the conversation went like this

Me: yeah it sucks that Sam is having hard times and has to downgrade his lifestyle been there done that

Her very sarcastically: sure mark you and your Xbox 1 and weight have definitely been there before

Me voice raised: the duck you mean by that you don't know my past or the things I've been through

Susan just kind of shrank back and said something along the lines of you just don't look like the type and she was just trying to "check my privalege"I then told her it was shitty to assume things about people's past when you don't know i haven't seen her since and am now wondering if I over reacted

Edit sorry for format and grammar typed this in a hurry please keep the judgement on this post and nothing else ######

Response: NTA, she's just shown you who she is - superficial, narrow-minded and judgemental - avoid her and don't apologise. ######


Prompt:
This is all from last year, so lessons were still happening.

I own a ranch, and aside from other animals I have several horses. During the summer I offered riding lessons for kids, and a lot of people took them because they were cheaper than other places. When my neighbor (now 15f) was eight, she would often come over and watch the horses through the fences on the paddock. With the blessing of her parents, I gave her free riding lessons in exchange for helping take care of the horses.

She's great with the horses, and last summer I even paid her to help out with the kids riding lessons. She helps out most weekends and sometimes she comes by after school. Sometimes I even let her take my horses trail riding with her friends, as long as she's being responsible.

Last summer, the mother of a kid I was teaching asked her if she takes riding lessons with me. She said yes. The mother apparently mentioned that my prices were too high, and asked her how much she had paid for lessons. She told the mother that she didn't pay, she just helped because she lived so close.

The mother came over to me and asked if I could give her kid free lessons because I had given them to my neighbor. I told her that I wouldn't, because my neighbor was helping me in return. She then said that I was discriminating against her daughter because they didn't live close to me and couldn't help out. She also told me that I'm gross for "exploiting a child for free labor".

The way I see it, it's a win-win. My neighbor gets to hang out with the horses (which she loves) and gets a guaranteed summer job, and I get some help with my horses. Still, the mother was adamant that I'm definitely an asshole here. I do feel like kind of a jerk, because her kid lives too far away to come very often.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, she's being entitled because she is not being catered to. It doesn't matter if you were paying your neighbor's kid to learn to ride, she doesn't get to demand diddly or squat. If she has a problem with how much you charge she can go elsewhere. ######


Prompt:
For the first time in ages (because of corona) me and my girlfriend went to a VERY nice fancy restaurant. This is important because normally I woudn’t make a fuss but since the food was so nice and very expensive i made an exception.

We go to the restaurant (she is driving). When get there they are about to close, they say we can’t dine, but we can take food away. We order similarly 1 starter, 1 main each. We split the bill 50/50.

We take the food to the car and while she is leaving the car park i check they got our order right. Her starter and main are there. But only my starter is their and my main is missing. I tell her they got the order wrong, while checking to see if they charged for us for the missing main: they did.

I ask her to go back and get my main. Keep in mind we are 1 min drive away from restaurant. Yet she said she can’t be bothered and i should deal with it. We argued for about a minute and then i said ‘ ok but then i get half your main’. She said no and i gave up.

Then when we got home she went for a shower. So i eat my starter and half her main. When she found out she got annoyed and told me to leave her house.  I said ok fine, it is late anyway.

Next morning she text ‘how am i going to make it up to her’.

So aita and should i have to make it up to her? ######

Response: NTA, she was driving and made the decision that your food wasn't worth going back for. She shouldn't expect you to be able to be full on just an appetizer dish. I do hope you called the restaurant back about the order, though. ######


Prompt:
Katie and I were really close friends in high school. We are now in our mid 30’s and I got married a year ago, she is getting married this fall.

A bit of backstory: i moved three hours away from our tiny hometown and she stayed there. I would always make time to hang out with her, at her or her parents’ house, when i was home, which was frequent in my 20’s. As i got older and more settled with a career and relationship, i started going home less often. The last time I was home it was only for a few hours and I told Katie if she wanted to see me, she would have to come to my parents house. She said she would, then an hour later made an excuse and never showed.

When I was planning my wedding, of course I wanted to invite her. She RSVP’ed yes for her, her longtime boyfriend, and her daughter. They never showed up. I could already feel the friendship had run its course before the wedding, and this just kinda proved it. We have not spoken since. I’m not mad, as I realize friendships sometimes just fizzle out, i just wish she would have at least told me she wasn’t coming or apologized after the fact or *something*.

Yesterday, i got an invite to join her wedding group on Facebook and a request to send her my address so she can send an invitation. WIBTA if I just ignored the invite to join the group to get an invitation because i don’t want to go?

Keep in mind this is not the actual invite, this is just address gathering to send invites. ######

Response: NTA, she wants your wedding gift, ie money ######


Prompt:
My gf and even her friends would make a big deal when we started dating that i never posted pictures of her as i don’t use social media often, and she would ask constantly why i never wanted to post any. I post pictures of her frequently now, post her on Snapchat stories every week, and she is in my profile picture for most social media’s.

Now it’s been almost a year and she still has no pictures of me on any platform online and there’s little trace of me existing in her life online (even though we live together). I even asked her about it since she made such a big fuss that i post about her.

I’m wondering if I’m in the wrong for being upset that after this long there’s still no pictures of us together on her social media, especially since guys message and try to flirt with her all the time, even people who used to be my friends in highschool. ######

Response:
 NTA, she wanted you to show the relationship on SM but she makes no attempt to ? That sounds very shitty to me.

Have you asked her why she doesn’t post anything? ######


Prompt:
Background I grew up poor I often had to wear dirty clothes because we couldn't afford to wash them, had to walk everywhere because we couldn't afford to take the bus or get a car, had 1 package of Raman for dinner, luckily our financial situation has improved and I've fattened up considerably I have been friends with "Susan" a few months now and she never knew me or my family before our circumstances improved now on to the issue

So me and Susan were talking about a mutual friend who recently lost his job and can barley afford rent and food and the conversation went like this

Me: yeah it sucks that Sam is having hard times and has to downgrade his lifestyle been there done that

Her very sarcastically: sure mark you and your Xbox 1 and weight have definitely been there before

Me voice raised: the duck you mean by that you don't know my past or the things I've been through

Susan just kind of shrank back and said something along the lines of you just don't look like the type and she was just trying to "check my privalege"I then told her it was shitty to assume things about people's past when you don't know i haven't seen her since and am now wondering if I over reacted

Edit sorry for format and grammar typed this in a hurry please keep the judgement on this post and nothing else ######

Response: NTA, she tried to check your priviledge but ended up showing how superficial and judgemental het thinkkng is, thus checking her OWN priviledge instead ######


Prompt:
Growing up, I was the sort of father figure figure for my younger sister and brother, so I am overprotective by nature, I'll admit that. However, I hate my sister's fiance for reasons unrelating to the fact that he's saying my sister.

Over the seven month span that they've been together, the fiance has called me a 'f#ggot', and used multiple slurs against me relating to my sexuality. He has called out younger brother a 'r#tard' because of his autism, and mocked him when he thought nobody was looking. I ignored the slurs against me but I did get very angry about the R-word comment and I did attack him over that. I take responsibility for attacking him over it, but I do not regret it.

The other thing that worries me is that he has multiple domestic abuse charges against him. I know people deserve second chances, but he's got a very long rap sheet going for him.
Yesterday, my sister called me and said that they we r going to start planning a wedding. And I said that I was happy for her, but also asked why she was Allah with marrying a guy that used slurs and insulted her brothers, especially our younger brother, who is very sensitive when it comes to certain things.

She said that I was being dramatic and that he'd been joking, but I wasn't having it and told her that I wasn't going to the wedding unless he swore not to say those things, and that our brother (who relies on me a lot) wasn't going if he was just going to be demeaned.

My sister said that I hadn't made any attempts to get to know him, which isn't true, and that it was only a joke, but I said that was a bad joke to make and also that I wasn't going to entertain him because he was a 'd#ck'.

Rightfully or not, she got upset and hung up on me.

Was I wrong for calling the fiance that? Was she wrong? Was everybody wrong? ######

Response: NTA, she sounds very blindsided by him and i'm sorry you and your little brother have to deal with this. the so-called jokes are supposed to be funny to everyone involved. INFO: do you get the feeling he may be somehow mistreating your sister? the domestic violence record is rightfully unsettling. ######


Prompt:
I had this friend (I’ll call her Ellie) and for the last months or so if our friendship she was very open to me about her concerns about her mental health. I am no expert and I told her that, but I always gave her places and recourses that would help her more than I could (I obviously would help in any way I could)

One night I get a message from her, and she is freaking out, full blown panic. She messages me vague things such as ‘I don’t know why I’ve done this’ and ‘this is your fault’ and then she says ‘I’ve slit my wrists’. I’m in complete shock, I’m frantically messaging her saying apply pressure. She goes quiet for a couple minutes. I’m panicking. I’m telling my dad I don’t know what to do.

I get a photo sent to me from her of her wrists. They don’t look cut, it looks like she used a pencil to draw on her arm. I didn’t want to be insensitive and I assumed I seen the photo wrong so I just replied; ‘get help and apply pressure’. She replies ‘ahah you’re so fucking stupid, it’s pencil marks, I wouldn’t cut myself’.

The next day we were all going out with friends and I told her how it made me feel, helpless and panicked. She laughed in my face and said I don’t care.

I’ve not messaged her in a while, and our mutual friends think I over reacted. Did I? ######

Response: NTA, she sounds like a really abusive and  manipulative person. Being in that situation it's a very traumatic experience and it's not something someone should joke about. ######


Prompt:
I'm a 13 yo female, my mom was a cheater and a liar during her marriage with my dad. She ended up just up and leaving when I was 9 and nobody knew where she went. Those months were the best months of my life, I loved my dad. She came back a little bit before Christmas after she missed my birthday. The fucked up thing is that she left again on Christmas Day! I've hated her since and always wanted to live with my dad. She would always yell at me for no reason and get me in trouble. I do have a younger sister, but she never gets in trouble for anything.

Fast forward a few miserable years, I'm in 6th grade so around 11 or 12. I attempted to end my life due to my mom's bullshit. She always made me feel like I was nothing. I thought it would all be over, but my attempt failed luckily. I was put into counseling and told my counselor everything. My dad has always known that I wanted to live with him (my parents have 50/50 custody). I get to decide who I want to live with full time in my freshman year of highschool ( I'm going to be in 8th grade)and I told my mom I was gonna choose my dad. She told me that that wasn't going to happen and that it would stay 50/50.

I told her my reasons for wanting to leave and she said I was lying. That none of that happened. I was livid with anger and told my dad what she said. He confirmed everything I said and she wouldn't believe it. I told her my mind was made up and ever since she's been trying to buy my love, but she still yells at me and does everything she's been doing. I'm still going to live with my dad, but now I feel kinda bad for her.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA, she sounds like a narcissist. Get as far away from her as she can. She chose her path and thinks that you owe her anything, but you don't.

I'd let her try to buy your love though. Squeeze her for whatever she's worth, because once she sees that you're choosing your dad she'll probably leave again. That's how narcissists are. ######


Prompt:
I've posted here before about my oldest brother. English is my third language and I'm on my phone, so I apologize in advance.

(Background, kind of)
My mom (43) and dad (43) broke up when I (16f) was 9. Without going into too much detail, my dad was very verbally abusive towards my mom and physically and verbally abusive towards my oldest brother. I recently learned that I have 2 new half brothers (oldest 2, youngest 8 months) and I feel the need to make sure that they live the happiest life possible and that they never witness what I had to witness.

Now, my dad married my stepmom not long after they met (only around 2 years) and even though I have no problem with my dad moving on, seeing as I don't care what he does anymore, I really dislike my stepmom as she came in to the picture the year after my mom and dad broke up and she thinks that she has a right to an opinion about the (very little) amount that she saw and heard even though I genuinely believe that she has no right to any opinion when it comes to that situation. I told her this and it turned into her treating me like I'm 2 and her saying "he's my husband, I have the right to an opinion." and me telling her that she needs to apologize if she wants contact again,she refuses to do so.

Tl;Dr My stepmom thinks she has the right to an opinion about my dad being abusive in the past, I tell her no, she treats me like a child and I want apology that she refuses to give.

Edit: To clarify, we actually had a great relationship and we spoke almost every day. ######

Response: NTA, she should keep her opinion to herself if she doesn't know everything ######


Prompt:
I am an avid crocheter, and I normally make baby blankets or toys for people in my life when they have kids. I enjoy it, and it helps me relax after work. Not long ago, I decided to make a complicated afghan for an charity silent auction because I really like what they do and with their current situation they have had to cancel most of their fundraising events.

My problem comes here: My aunt has decided that I should give her this blanket for a baby shower that's she's throwing for a coworker, and told this coworker that it was a done deal already. Apparently she's very excited about using this blanket (which I made for a charity auction remember) as a decoration in her nursery.

This blanket took me three months to make, two thousand yards of various yarns, and a lot of frustration. It's promised to the silent auction and I will not break that promise. My aunt has instead told me to "just make another" since she's already promised it to her coworker. For free, because she's family I might add.

I do not want to make this blanket again especially for free so that someone I've never met can have it.  But now I'm being bombarded with messages saying how disappointed this coworker is going to be and the baby deserves an heirloom and how I'm going to make my aunt look bad, etc. etc. Anyone who knows me knows that I hate the "but we're family" argument, but it's different when its directed at you.

So, AITA for making my aunt look bad? ######

Response: NTA, she should have asked you before promising away an object she didn't even own. Family doesn't excuse actions. You can also tell her "But the coworker isn't family" because that doesn't even apply to them. Either way, NTA, your Aunt is trying to take advantage of your skills to make herself look better. ######


Prompt:
My sister (17) has been sneaking out to meet a boy for the past few days. She snuck out to go to a park near our house  so i was okay with it. I only had to open the door for her when she went out and when she came back but lately she has been staying far too late even after telling me she won’t.
Yesterday, she came in my room and told me she will go to a town near us (about a 20 minute ride) with one of her friends motorcycles, i was not okay with this and told her no but she didn’t listen. I let her out and was really worried about her because of obvious reasons, i texted her multiple times to tell me when she’s coming, she said she’ll be home around 2am. The time comes around and she’s nowhere to be found, i text her again and she says she’ll come back at 4am. I got pissed at her and around 4 i just opened the door and went to take a bath, she came home at 5.
When she came back i told her that i’m mad at her and that i won’t help her sneak out again. She apologized through text.. AITA?

also, i’m ok with her going to the park because basically nothing can happen to her in our really small town and i’m not worried about the boy she’s going with because i know him quite well ######

Response: NTA, she should be open about her time of return, plus it's better for her to stay in these times. ######


Prompt:
little backstory here: I (28F) have a little sister (14F) who we'll call Lily, who is extremely afraid of dogs. Her dog phobia happens only with big dogs, after a Rottweiler knocked her to the ground when she was 10. Also, my sister is living with me as my parents have gone abroad, and we both are extremely close. We live in a big house which can easily accommodate 3 people.

This happened a week ago.
My aunt was going through a messy divorce, so she moved in with me, and asked me if she could bring her dog with her. Now, this dog is extremely large, and tends to get overexcited with children, and taking in account Lily's fear of dogs, I refused.
At first my aunt took it well, and gave the dog to my cousin (her daughter), who lives 3 hours away and says she'll look after it. So a week ago, my aunt asks me if she can bring the dog for visits outside our house. I agree, as long it's in the backyard, and the dog is on a leash. I reminded her not to let him inside the house. Lily agreed, and said that she has no problem as long as the dog does not come close to her.
My aunt brought the dog over, and Lily just stayed inside. I played with the dog a bit, and then I went to the kitchen to cook dinner. Suddenly I hear Lily screaming at the top of her lungs, and I go to the living room. She's climbed on top of the sofa, and the dog is at the bottom of it, barking at her. My aunt is telling Lily to come down and it's just a silly fear, the dog won't hurt you, etc. I was furious. I immediately took the dog outside, and screamed at my aunt for what she had just done. I kicked her out, and now she's staying with her daughter.
My mom called me yesterday and told me that I had no authority to do that. I told her I did, and that any sane person would do the same thing. My cousins all called me and told me that I did a heartless thing, that my aunt's daughter doesn't have space for my aunt, and that she needs a home.
I don't feel like I'm the asshole.

So, Reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA, she scared the shit out of your sister on purpose, and just as importantly she willfully lied to you and did not keep her word.  Absolutely not, she agreed to conditions with no intention of keeping to them, this person cannot be trusted.

EDIT: In response to the posted update, this story is starting to sound incredible, and if it’s true, I would be blocking this person’s contact in all channels, that’s so wildly inappropriate as to strain credulity.  You absolutely do not owe this selfish person an apology and the stated reaction from your parents is shocking.  I’m curious though - your parents actually left your sister in your care, went abroad and then just decided to not return?!  That seems like some... not parenting, at all, as in hard core child neglect, possibly criminal if you were not stepping up.  Or did they plan on her joining them? ######


Prompt:
I'm 13, my sister is 23. We have a great relationship and I'm even kool with her boyfriend.

Last week I was supposed to spend at her place, as we hadn't seen each other during the lockdown. Her bf would be there 3 times (they don't live together).

It was all good till their "night activities" woke me up in the middle of the night. Her flat is large and out bedrooms are at the opposite ends of the hall. So that meant they were loud.

I hoped it'd end soon, but they were in for a ride. I tried headphones with music, I didn't hear them, but couldn't sleep with loud music blasting. I didn't say anything as it was their first night and thought they'd tire each other out.

Well, same thing next night. I was knackered the morning after, plus I learned the boyfriend would probably come around more than 3 times.

At the point I started to ponder getting back to my parents, as I have insomnia and it could mess my entire sleep schedule.

I told my sister I forgot helping my friend with chemistry and my mum picked me up.

She couldn't wrap her head around and constantly asked me. She probably knew I was lying as we know each other well. She asked me if she had done something wrong, I told her no and we'd do the same thing next month (her boyfriend would be abroad), but she wasn't having it.

Eventually I told her, I couldn't sleep as I heard them shagging and she was shocked.

She even brough it up at our family dinner, which was super embarrassing, because I hadn't told my parents. And it looked like she was mad at me. My paretns didn't want dive in, but told her it'd be good if It could be arranged that I wouldn't sleep there when her bf did.

She got upset, calling me nosy and eventually left earlier. She's not replied to my messages or calls.

AITA for telling her the reason? ######

Response:
 NTA, she pushed for the truth and so you told her.
She's probably really embarrassed, give her a few days and she'll respond eventually. ######


Prompt:
My sister-in-law is high risk immunosuppressed, shes been told to limit social contact for 12 weeks (8wks left) but shes been nipping to the shop etc.

Today shes invited herself and her 6 year old daughter over to our garden for a social distance cuppa. This would be fine if it wasn't for the 6 year old being incredibly naughty.

I have an 8mo and a 3yo, I dont want them playing with my niece, if not for their own safety for the safety of my sister in law. But idk how to social distance kids. Especially ones that aren't mine and wont listen. My wife disagrees and says I'm being irrational, theres no way to stop my sister in law coming over and "shes been stuck inside and wants fresh air".

I dont get it. Am I overreacting? AmItheAsshole? ######

Response: NTA, she of all people should be staying home, and the fact that she hasn’t been means more risk for you and your family which means more risk for everyone you come in contact with and so  on, its really not a hard concept to grasp but everyone thinks they’re above it for some reason ######


Prompt:
So, a little bit of background.

My sister proposed to my mom the idea that her friends come up to our summer house for a week. My mom was super reluctant to say yes. But, on top of that, my grandma is here. My grandma said as long as they socially distance and we take their temperatures that it is ok to have them up here.

Well, my sister knew (and I just found out) that one of the friends families are hosting a pool party with about 20-30 ish people. My sister didn’t tell my mom because she knew if she did it would be cancelled. Obviously. I found out through a friend of mine and promptly told my mom in genuine fear of our health and especially my grandmothers. I had no motive other than that because I had some mutual friends I was happy to hang out with. My sister is now telling her friends what I did and now I feel guilty. I may be the Asshole because I ruined my sisters big plans. But I still feel like I did the right thing. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, she needs to understand shes putting you guys at a huge risk. Parties are one of the main reason this virus is spreading ######


Prompt:
Alright, context before you guys hate me: my parents are quite wealthy but I (F24) left home when I was 17 because they didn't agree with my career/life choices and I worked a lot to support myself for a few years until they recently accepted my choices and started helping me as I went back to school to pursue my dream degree and only work part time. I still pay for most of my expenses because I have a nice job where I've been for three years but my parents now do give me a small sum of money to cover school expenses. I am aware that I am very privileged but the money my parents give me is only for school things only and everything else I pay with the money I earn myself.

Now, tonight we were at a house party and it was getting late (about 3am) and I decided I'd take a cab home because I was wearing a rather short dress and didn't feel safe walking home although it was only a 20 minute walk to my place. My friend said that I was a spoiled rich b\*tch because I could afford to take a cab home while she had to walk longer to her place.

It did piss me off because she doesn't work although I did already offer her to get a position at my job after she dropped out of university and now pretty much lives of social welfare.

So I told her that if she had a job, she could afford to take a cab home and she got really pissed. A few of our friends also thought I was really rude while some others said I was right but probably shouldn't have said that in front of everyone.

I felt that I was justified as she did try to embarrass me in front of everyone and is constantly criticizing how much money I spend on things every time we got out and complaining about how she can't do the same while she's not even trying to better her life. So, was I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA, she made her choices, her turn to live with what that means to her. ######


Prompt: I live in an apartment complex right next to a creek trail. I walk my dog on it almost every day. It’s really nice, except for the fact that my upstairs neighbor never picks up after her dog. I’ve seen her out the window neglecting to pick it up when her dog poops. It infuriated me because it makes the trail smelly and unpleasant. I know her dog’s size and shape of poop and I have stepped in it multiple times. Now, I might have cut her some slack if she was a nice person, but she is not. She glares at me when I walk by, and is overall very short-tempered. When I asked her about the shit once, she told me to fuck off. Not to mention the fact that she makes an ungodly amount of noise at 12am which often keeps me up. Basically, I had had enough. The next day, before her usual walk time, I made a bunch of little flags using sticks and paper, and put her dog’s name on them. Then, I walked down the trail and put a flag on each of the deposits. I watched from my window as she passed each shit, looking confused and angry. Later, I got a knock on my door, and opened it to find Pam, irate and saying that I had been immature and petty, which I admit I may have been. However, it was very satisfying to see her get what was coming to her. I know it wasn’t very nice, but do the ends justify the means? ######

Response: NTA, she made her bed, now she can lay in it. If you wanted to take it a step further I would recommend reporting her to your management company. Id be willing to wager they have rules about picking up after your pets in place to upkeep the cleanliness of the complex. ######


Prompt: So my wife calls me into the room and proceeds to say "Hey Google, how do I get my husband to stop being annoying?" and starts laughing. I suppose in her defense this was said somewhat jokingly, so I just rolled my eyes and walked away. In the next room, I ask our other Google home the same thing about my wife. I was also half kidding, and knew I was going to get the same answer of "Sorry, I can't help with that." Then my wife walks into the room and starts talking about how that's not nice and starts demanding an apology from me. Needless to say, she didn't like the apology I gave, and went on to tell me she hopes a wild animal attacks me while I'm out for a walk. Better judgment would suggest that I shouldn't have said any of that but AITA for not giving a sincere apology here? It seems to me like she thinks she can demand an apology whenever she wants, and I just have to bow down to her and say "Yes, dear." ######

Response: NTA, she literally said the same thing to you. ######


Prompt:
Been with my girlfriend for 2 years. I’m about ready to jump out of this relationship but for the sake of my sanity I want to ask on here so I know if I’m truly the arsehole or not.

My girlfriend has a 14 year old son. I try hard to foster a good relationship with him especially because my old man was nowhere to be seen when I was growing up. He is usually disrespectful to me and plays up the fact that I’m with his mum but am not his father.

By all rights everyone in her family (mum / dad etc) has acknowledged her son needs a councillor and help because his behaviour is THAT obvious (more so in front of other people he’s rude to me) but she has always maintained I need to ‘deal’ with her sons attitude to me because ‘he just wants to feel like he’s got control’. I tried hard to overlook the disrespect and maintain good ties but it’s getting harder and harder as her son gets older.

Girlfriend and I went out into my garden for a fag. Girlfriends son decided to barge past and start breaking the shed in my garden. Why, I have no fucking idea. He says he was bored. I told him to stop being a twit. He looked at me, smirked, said you’re not my dad and you can’t tell me what to do.

I looked over at my girlfriend since he normally saves that line for when she’s not around and she simply ignored him.

I snapped at her to sort her son out since I’m not his dad and went inside. I’ve just had enough. She came in raging and screaming that I need an attitude adjustment and that Im a total cunt. ######

Response: NTA, she is enabling her son’s poor behavior by yelling at you instead of him.  No sense in being in an unhappy relationship. ######


Prompt:
Shes 38f(im 29F if it matters), divorced 2 times, 1 kid from each, high school diploma, and a secretary. which i dont find anything wrong with shes getting by fine enough. But she keeps complaining about being single and how no "real man" that meets her standards will step up for her and her kids.

Her standards are mostly not too bad, around her age, respectful not sexist or racist, likes kids but there are a few that seem kinda unreasonable given her life... : never married and no kids, at least a bachelors, high earner so he can support the entire family while she quits to get a degree.

Basically everything she isnt, and something very rare among men in their late 30s. and the reason she wants himchildess may be the worst, she doesnt want to raise another womans kids but expects him to raise 2 other guys kids.

I told her that her wants were a bit hypocritical and she blew up, called me sexist, then went on to call mom about it so Ive been getting angry texts from her now too... ######

Response: NTA, she is be super hypocritical. I’m a single father and I’ve been ghosted after I mention I have a kid. You nailed it on the head with your points. In my experience it isn’t the norm for men almost in their 40’s to be single and not have a kid. Also a huge hypocrite for not wanting to raise someone else’s kids but wanting someone to raise hers. She’s also limiting herself at a chance for a romantic relationship imo. ######


Prompt: I have no issue with crazy hair colors and even approved my daughters hair to be colored once for her birthday at three years old. However, that color was chosen specifically so it would wash out within a few days. My ex and his girlfriend keep coloring my five year old’s hair with Overtone and every time she comes back home to me she has a new hair color (our schedule is week on/week off). They haven’t been telling me they’re going to color her hair and I’ve asked many times if they could do a less permanent option because her hair is very delicate. Yesterday she came back to me with the most splotchy hair color imaginable and I finally looked her father in the eyes and demanded that he stop doing this. He doesn’t see the issue because “she asked his girlfriend to do it so they did”. AITA for wanting them to wait until she’s older to start making these decisions and use wash out colors for now instead? ######

Response: NTA, she is a child which means she doesn't get everything she wants. Your Ex has to be a parent and tell her no, especially now that you have made your opinion known. But you have to realize that by allowing it once when she was 3 and you make it sound like it hasn't stopped since then. That you set a precedent for 2 years that it's OK to color her hair. So you are definitely going into an uphill battle. ######


Prompt:
I (25F) am currently stuck in my apartment with my 2 other roommates (Dave, 27M; Sarah 24F). We all met through mutual friends and have a good roommate relationship, we aren't close friends but in normal times we do things together occasionally.

Recently we've been sharing food costs and everyday a different roommate does the cooking and we all eat. We each have certain foods we don't like and are allowed to take a pass on that food being cooked. For one of my roommates (24F) she expects meat at every meal and will actively avoid vegetarian or vegan foods. It's not a health thing it's a preference thing and she has told us as much.

Well my one roommate (Dave), went grocery shopping the other day and came back with some Chorizo that I had requested for making Shaksuka. It turned out really good and Sarah expressed interest in having the meal again. She had never had Chirozo before and so she dug the wrapper out of the garbage to see what spices were in it. It's then that we found out Dave had accidentally bought 'soyrizo' rather than the meaty kind. Sarah was livid and starting saying I was trying to trick her into being vegan. (Note: none of us are vegan or vegetarian nor have ever been). Dave and I told her it was an accident but she wouldn't hear it. She's been ignoring us since last night and has since stated she will be cooking her own food and will be taking her pans into her room so that we won't 'contaminate them with tofu'.

I understand her frustration but the whole thing was an accident that I unfortunately can't undo. I think this while thing is just a misunderstanding but it's getting hostile in the apartment and I'm starting to feel like the asshole. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA, she has no medical reason to need meat at every meal. It sounds to me like she has a vendetta against vegetarians and is using their language (i.e. contamination) to prove some kind of point to herself. It's really strange that she is doing that with people who are not vegetarian. This is odd behavior and I'd be surprised if you don't experience similar issues from her in the future regarding other things.

Edited to fix spelling ######


Prompt: This is my first time ever asking my mom (or anyone) to babysit. on Friday I asked my mom to watch my 4month old daughter for 2 hours on Saturday so me and hubby could get yard work done, she agreed then an hour later called to inform me she was going for a day trip Saturday with her friend and if the trip didn’t go through she could baby sit for me. Alright I was a little annoyed but left it at that. Saturday evening I talked to her and found out she didn’t actually go but also decided to not babysit. She told me she would come over in the morning, this morning she called to tell me that she was out at her friends until 3am and that she was too tired to babysit so she would come over next Weekend. I told her it’s fine and that Ill just look for someone else to watch her next time. She called me crying ”how could I do that to her” I’m actually pissEd. AITA for not wanting to ask her to babysit again? ######

Response: NTA, she had a chance to redeem herself, she ruined it. It's her fault she lost your trust. You're doing the right thing, your mom sounds irresponsible. ######


Prompt:
Today I got a brand new lego set for the first time in 5 years for my birthday. My step dad gifted it to me. The set is the lego ideas steam boat Willie. After I finished building it I kept it on my desk and I love and play with it as I love Disney.

I have a 13 year old half sister who in the morning took that set and ripped apart the white pieces from the boat and added it to some of her buildings. When I came into my room I was distraught as I loved that set. I told my mom my sister took my pieces from the set. My mom told me that my sister did not do anything and did not took those pieces.

I then went into my sisters room and I counted up the pieces I was missing. I ended up finding most of the pieces but the two exclusive mini figures  I had to destroy most of my sisters set when I founded. I reconstructed the boat but I was crying. My step dad came in and found what was wrong I told her my sister stole pieces from my set he told me he is going to get the same set and he is going to get me another small set to make up for it. I was excited.

Here is where I might have been the asshole. My sister went into her room to see the buildings that she made complete collapsed. She was crying. My mother ran up there and instantly called me to her room and demanded answers. My step dad came in and told her what happened but my mom want's to ground me for messing with my sisters room and ruining her buildings. My sister is crying and thinking I am the huge bad guy.  She says I am a bad person for invading her privacy and ruining her hard work.

English is my fist language but my hand writing is really bad. ######

Response: NTA, she did it to you, you did it back. That's a little thing called karma. ######


Prompt: A few days ago I (20m) was out at the supermarket getting a few things when a girl came up to me and asked for my number saying I look "cute". Problem is I'm gay as you can probably guess from my name. Me never experience this before tried to be as polite as possible and told her "thank you I'm flattered but I'm gay, sorry about that". I thought all would be good after that but she got upset and started ranting about how all the guys are turning gay and proceeded to call me a f_g and tr_nny for some reason (I'm not trans at all so that was confusing. I having the true blue potty mouth I have called her a c_nt and told her good luck finding a guy who wants to put up with c_nt like you. When i got home I told my sister what happened and she called me TA saying that I have no right to call a woman a c_nt and that I should consider myself lucky she would even ask me for my number. So I'm here getting the opinion of the people, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, she deserved it and your sisters TA if she thinks c_nt is “worse” than what that girl called you. You were just minding your own business, you didn’t ask to be approached and then berated for your sexuality. ######


Prompt:
My father left when I was very young and I was raised primarily by my mother, she died a few years ago and I've had no interest in ever getting in contact with my father. My GF has always wanted me to get in contact with him because she thinks she's some sort of therapist and all my "issues" come from a lack of a father figure.

Without checking with me she tracked him down, told him I want to get in contact and then gave him my number. He called me and I told him to piss off and blocked his number after he told me how he got his number.

We got into a massive argument where I said she had no right to meddle in my life, called her a cunt and hung up. I have no intention of speaking to her until we're allowed outside again and I'm considering just breaking up over this.

Her friend texted me to tell me how upset my GF is and that I'm a horrible person so doing this to her. ######

Response:
 NTA, she crossed a major line.

You're totally justified in being upset. She may have been trying to help, but it was in no way her place.

Hope everything works out for you, with or without her. Take some time to cool off then make your decisions, but you have the right to he pissed. ######