Prompt:
Because of Covid a course I was about to take in college decided to change its format. This course is lab based but professors decided we could work at home, designing the experiments and sumbitting a lab report.

I was assigned with only one classmate and we have been worked really good, however, two weeks ago we started our last experiment.

I texted him three times during those 2 weeks and evey time he told me he hadn't started his part and that he would do it tomorrow.

Last friday we had an online presentation about this last experiment. I texted him on wednesday morning and he texted back on thursday night, saying that he'd rather we use my data because his wasn't finished (looks like not even started), but he offered to help with the PowerPoint, which he didn't because he didn't even know what I did.

But, since we had worked well in the previous experiences I just write his part of the presentation and I decided to let all this slide.

Now he have to submit our report tomorrow and I wrote him yestersay, and he hasn't responded. I have already finished the report but I intend on sumbitting it with my name only and talk to the professor. I wouldn't tell my partner so that he thinks I will make his work.

So, WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA. Be proactive and email your lecturer/tutor to explain the situation as well. It helps to have a record of any time you tried to contact him as well. ######


Prompt:
So my husband (50) and I (47F) have four kids, two 13 year olds, a 15 year old and an 18 year old. Both me and my husband work long hours, especially now because both our companies have been affected by everything going on. Despite this, my husband or I try to cook a healthy meal every night for the family. Usually we try and cook at home 6 nights a week and then eat out or sometimes get fast food on Fridays.

Sometimes though neither of us really want to cook, so we dont. We call these nights "fend for yourself night". The kids can really just make whatever they want, as long as they don't tear up to kitchen. This probably happens maybe once or twice a month at the most.

 I personally think that the kids are old enough to cook their own food or make a sandwich. But according to a woman I know, I might as well be starving them. Shes very much a helicopter mom to her three kids, (15F, 17M, 20M) and still does almost everything for them. Even the 20 year old. I find this ridiculous but they arent my kids so I mind my own business. We were on the phone the other night and she asks why I am talking and not busy cooking. I told her that I was very tired from work so we were having a 'fend for yourself night' and I had just had cereal. She starts getting very agitated with me and asks me why I am starving my kids. I told her that my kids usually help cook every night so if they want, they can cook something but they probably are going to have cereal as well. She started getting very mad at me about not cooking my children a meal and how they are not going to be able to eat because I am such a bad and lazy mother. I ended up ending the call by telling her that maybe in her family her almost adult children cant cook a simple meal, but my children are more than capable of doing so. I do feel bad whenever both my husband and I are too tired to cook a meal for my kids but I feel like they should be old enough to get their own food right? AITA for 'starving my kids'? ######

Response: NTA. At those ages your kids are more than old enough to prepare their own meals. ######


Prompt: First time post so be nice please! And obligatory on mobile. So my(16f) mother(44f) has never been ideal with finances or keeping living spaces. This has happened throughout all my childhood but the financial aspect was worsened when she married her husband 5 years ago(29m). He's a generally unsocialable unpleasant man and has issues keeping jobs. He got into drywall about 4 years ago and has maintained that line of work but is constantly burning bridges and his work isn't very consistent. My mother either works with him or watches my 3 year old brother because his former babysitter has fallen ill recently. Recently he hasn't been getting much work and only went back to work last week. Basically they drain money. Their money goes to paying his brother for working for them, gas, groceries, and God knows what else it just doesn't stay in their account.  We were formerly living in a hotel which was expensive so I was more lenient but we are now living rent free at my grandparents house. I've been working about a year, and make between 400-500 a paycheck though I was laid off once lockdown hit but went back in May. Last month my mother and her husband borrowed 400(from my savings) to renew the title and registration to their car. Since then they've continued to borrow bits of money probably its up to about 500 now. The thing that has made me irritated and question  is they were supposed to get some money today because her husband sold some stock but still had me buy meat for dinner instead of him. I'm now considering telling her I won't lend her anymore money unless it concerns my brother or gas. It may be important to note she owes my older brother(25m) 2 grand. I don't want to be ungrateful or put them in a bad spot but I want to go to college in a year and they can't afford to pay for it. I honestly need the money for my future. Sorry everyone there's probably more detail than necessary I just want to be thorough! So WIBTA? ######

Response:
 NTA. At this point I would just get my own account for savings where they won't have access to (especially if they're just helping themselves to it). Not sure if you need to be 18 to do so but if not, just cash it all out and secure it somewhere safe.

As for your family, I would discuss with them about your concerns and that they should manage their finances more responsibly. It would be wise to tell them you're no longer lending money in a civil manner because if you just up and cut them off unexpectedly there could be some backlash you'd have to deal with. Explaining that it's for your college/tuition expenses could help them understand. Best of luck for your future! ######


Prompt:
Hey all, so my school is having final exams this week. The Spanish exam was on Monday, and it was online. Essentially, our professor accused us of cheating.

He told us over a zoom call that he knew several students used google translate on the exam. He then said that google had given the school a list of all the IP addresses of students (LOL) that connected to google translate during the exam. He then said anyone who cheated could go to him to retake the exam to get a C at max, or else he'd submit all the names to the administration for disciplinary action.

He was clearly lying, so i sent private messages to everyone in the class saying that it was a bluff on his part and telling them not to turn themselves in. Several of my classmates got mad at me and said i was enabling cheaters.

AI really TA here? ######

Response: NTA. At the end of the day it was a bad bluff that was obviously a lie. That said it's pretty obvious if you use Google translate because it tends to get syntax wrong, so your teacher should be able to pick out the cheating by hand. ######


Prompt:
My nephew is staying with me for the summer.  My brother is a single parent and I have the summer off work so to help my nephew is staying with me just for the convince and so the 13 year old isn't alone all summer.
My nephew has his own cell phone and I thought the Dad still had it locked at night. So my surprise I caught my nephew on his phone at 1 a.m.  Told him smarten up and go to bed.  Texted his dad just to figure out what is going on.  His dad told me to take the phone away and look threw it.  I am not a parent so I was a bit uncomfortable.
Well I found out my nephew was on discord talking to significantly older people.  There were several inappropriate interactions.   The person he kept messaging tried to voice chat 5 times the frist night I had the phone.
Now my nephew is now pissed cause he banned from discord and his phone.  Saying I had no right to go threw it.
AITA for going threw his phone and enacting the ban. ######

Response: NTA. At first glance i disagree with the fact that 1 am is a time to go to bed (but it is your house, your rules), then, as you have talked to his dad abou taking his phone (and who told you to go thru it) and you found out that he was talking to people who would have tried to take advantage of him being a minor, you did the right move, you protected your nephew. He has the right to be mad tho, but you did it for the greater good, he might not understand it today, but he will in the future. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend and I have been living together for a while now. She loves baking bread, I'd say it's safe to say that it's one of her hobbies/passions. As a result we always have delicious bread in our home. I think it's amazing and I'm really lucky.

For the sake of this post I feel like I have to include that I never bake bread. We both cook but I never bake. I never ask her to either she just does it because she enjoys it. She usually bakes bread once or twice a week.

We live in a country where people have been stock piling idiots so supermarkets have been out of toilet paper pasta and apparently also yeast. About a week ago my girlfriend told me that she's out of yeast. She seemed to be bummed because she started being more experimental with her bread baking since we went into lockdown. So I made it my mission to get her yeast. I called every supermarket and finally found a bakery that was happy to sell me some. I picked it up yesterday and wrapped it up as a little present. I wanted to give it to my girlfriend tonight but when I told one of my mates about it today he said that it would be an insulting present. He said it's sexist and my girlfriend might think I want to imply that I expect her to make me bread. He also said it's a bit like gifting her a gym membership when she didn't ask for one.

I'm really unsure now because I DO NOT expect her to bake for me. I genuinely thought she'd like it but I absolutely do not want to offend her.

WIBTA if I give her the yeast wrapped up as a present? ######

Response:
 NTA. At all.

As a bonus, throw in a couple flours too.
(Just  to play on the old gift of flowers/flours) ######


Prompt:
I met my best friend 9 years ago and we've both gone through a lot together. His GF died 7 years ago and I helped put him back together. He was there for me when my parents died. We're like brothers and friends and family have commented that we're like an old married couple. Even during lockdown we've pretty much called each other every day.

I've been with my GF for 3 years and he's been with his for 4 years. Next year we're celebrating 10 years of friendship and about a year ago we decided to take a trip together and we chose Japan as the destination. We've been saving up for it (as well as buying a house each) the entire time and I've also been saving up airmiles as well as using a credit card to get something called a companion voucher, essentially I get a free plane ticket. As such, we've got two 1st class tickets and have split the cost in half. We're hoping to travel next Autumn as we met in September.

My GF never seemed to care about the trip at first and we've been on smaller trips together as a couple, but as of late she's started to get angry that I'm going with him and not her. I finally hit the required spend on my credit card and got the voucher so was pretty excited, now she'd demanding that when I buy the ticket I take her and not him. I refused point blank.

This is an expensive trip, and after buying a house I doubt I'll make this trip again for at least a couple of years if ever. AITA for taking my best friend rather than her? ######

Response: NTA. At all. Your girlfriend seems pretty jealous, and entitled. It’s fine that she wishes she could go, but to demand, or to even ask, that you take her instead of him is completely unfair. You planned the trip with him. You saved for it with him. The trip is in celebration of YOUR friendship. ######


Prompt: A few months ago, despite taking birth control and using condoms, I got pregnant. It’s always been a dream of mine to have children but after a diagnosis of some pretty severe mental and physical illnesses I decided not to have children biologically. This was a heartbreaking decision to make but I knew I never wanted to make a child suffer like I do. My boyfriend was aware of this decision and agreed that if we ever had children we would adopt. After I became pregnant I completely broke down, my mental health deteriorated and I cried as I scheduled an abortion. As soon as I told my boyfriend this he got angry, he was yelling and crying and begged me to reconsider. One minute he was calling me a bitch, the next he was telling me he loved me and wanted to have a baby with me. I told him that there were just too many reasons why this would be unsafe, I’d have to come off of many of my medications and would almost definitely end up with either psychosis or PPD. He started ignoring me and didn’t say one word to me for over a week, the day after I had my abortion he broke up with me. Now I’m living with my parents for a while and every few days a member of his family will text me to tell me that I murdered his baby. Am I really a murderer? I thought I made the right decision, but now I’m wondering if I was being crazy and selfish. ######

Response: NTA. AT ALL. you made the right decision, and it was YOUR decision entirely. I'm so sorry you're going through this. you did NOT kill a baby, you saved a life - yours. ######


Prompt:
We're not prudes. We've experimented with other couples and stuff like that over the years. We're both 32 and have been together for more than a decade.

Recently, she was furloughed and she just kind of started camming. She didn't ask me about it the first time, she just did it.

When she finally brought it up to me, she asked if I would be okay with it. It wasn't until I hesitantly said yes when she said she had already cammed up for guys.

On one hand, I'm kind of turned on by it. On the other, I'm kind of repelled by the thought of potentially hundreds of thirsty guys on chaturbate masturbating to my wife.

I want to allow her to retain her autonomy, but I'm not comfortable with it. She tells me I'm overreacting, that it's not sexual for her and it's just for money.

And we could certainly use the money.... I just feel... I don't know. She's upstairs as we speak with her legs spread for other guys while I'm... here. Typing this. It doesn't feel good, and she doesn't want to listen. ######

Response: NTA. At all. That’s definitely something most people would be uncomfortable with their SO doing. Even if it’s not sexual for her, she still has to act like it is. You’re in a relationship, you don’t just do something like that without talking to you SO first. ######


Prompt:
I’m an East Asian girl, and he’s white. When we first met, he told me he’d never date someone of my race but he thinks that I’m cool. I thought it’s whatever, he can be attracted to whoever he wants. Eventually, he asked me out and I said yes. We’ve been dating for 5 months now.

Last night, we were hanging out and he jokes that ‘it’s nice to have a submissive woman around’, because I come from a traditional family. I didn’t think it was funny. I told him that he’s being racist and disrespectful. He told me to lighten up and I’m being petty over nothing. ######

Response:
 NTA. At all.

Your boyfriend is a massive asshole. He was the first time he said he’d never date “someone of your race” and he’s an even bigger one now.

I rarely say this based on so little information, but dump his ass. ######


Prompt:
Trying to make this quick and not put too much into it.

We have a 6yo daughter together. In May on Mother's day, my husband did nothing to have her give me a gift or even say the words to me. I want to say he got me a $1 bag of candy from the store and tossed it at me very nonchalantly like it was another day.
I feel almost as though I should treat him the same. I was hurt by it at the time but didn't want to make a scene about it.

Today being father's day is harder for me. I lost my dad a few years ago. My husband does not talk to either one of his parents. Which is a choice of his that I very much respect (but I would be pretty PO'd if he used that as an excuse to ignore mother's day for the mom of his kid)

I feel a little guilty about ignoring it. Do I go do the same? Get him a candy bar and call it a day? Or have our daughter shower him with some praise? ######

Response: NTA. At 6 your daughter could draw a card if she wanted and a bar of candy back is still acknowledgement of the day. ######


Prompt:
I ( 18F) live with my mother and I recently asked for a key to lock my door because my family members keep barging in, my mom refused even though she clarified she trusts me completely because I live under her roof and she wants access to every part of the house "what if there's a fire and you fall asleep and I wouldn't be able to reach you because the door was locked?" she volunteered as a fire women so this is a legit concern she has.

 I worked hard to convince her: I told her my therapist said it was a good idea and she said it doesn't count because my therapist had a boy and she probably gave him a lock because she didn't want to catch him masturbate (which is *not at all* the reason why her *pure* daughter wants a fucking lock) and I got her friend  to help me on my crusade. She relented and allowed me to lock the door after 8 pm and here is why I might be TA, I didn't ask when to return the key in the morning because I wanted to have as much time with the lock as I can, I assumed she would just ask me to give it when she  feels like it, and in the meanwhile I locked the door even in the morning because it was nice  (the first night was heaven, I could hear my younger sister trying to barge in only to fail because the door was locked ) and honestly- because I think my mom is being controlling and ridiculous. So my mom called me and as soon as I unlocked the door she was there demanding the key saying "the experiment was over" because I broke the rules (kept the key and locked the door in the morning), I told her she was just looking for an excuse to take the key and screamed at her that it wasn't fair, so she screamed at me back and told me I'm not allowed to close the door now. I am shaking with rage, I am not a baby ever sense I turned 18 I've been trying to let her know I'm an adult and she treats my repeated "I'm 18" arguments like it's a joke. AITA for purposefully breaking the rules? ######

Response: NTA. At 18 you should have every right to lock your door. I don’t know what the rest of your home life is like, but I moved out at 18 for similar, albeit less egregious issues. Some parents will always treat you like you’re 5 no matter what. It’s toxic and stifling. Moving out was one of the best decisions I ever made. ######


Prompt:
Pretty simple story.

I’ve told my(16M) sister(14F) several times to stop touching my stuff, yet she still does it. I’ve told my parents, yet they do nothing

Today I finally got to play my switch after a couple weeks. I had to study for school and a couple tests

It turns out that my sister has been using my game for weeks. She’s spent over a hundred and fifty hours playing it.

I got really pissed. She was once again using my stuff. So, I just deleted it. When I told her, she got super mad. She said I was being unfair.

I just told her that I did nothing wrong. All I did was use my game on my console. Nothing wrong there, is there? Then, my sister proceeds to tell my parents. I somehow got in trouble.

I feel like my parents are definitely being somewhat sexist or ageist. I’ve complained to them many times, and they do absolutely nothing, but when I handle it myself, they get mad.

So, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Assuming that it's your switch and your game, then you have first call to play it. If your parents want your sister to play the game, they can get her a switch and the game, too.

A lot of people in this thread don't seem to understand that there's only one save slot on Animal Crossing: New Horizons. So, in order to play his game, he had to delete her island. ######


Prompt:
So, I’m a bit lost. My family is angry at me and my friends are saying I was in the right.

Due to me being an idiot, I now have a second switch. I thought my first Nintendo switch was broken, but turns out the problem was with my tv. So both work fine. I figured I’d sell my first one and put the money towards paying off my credit card or getting a ps5.

My dad, upon hearing this, immediately suggested I give the switch to my brother. Give. For free. He can’t even afford a game for the console, let alone the console itself. Am I also meant to give up my games to him?

My brother made my teenage years hell. He stole from me, threatened me, he is the reason I moved out 5 years ago and never looked back. I admit, I’m bitter. So very bitter. So when my dad suggested I give him the switch, I laughed and hung up.

Now my family are angry I’m not willing to give up a perfectly functional Nintendo switch, that I’m not using, for free. Apparently i’m being selfish. Am I the asshole? I don’t owe him anything, but I’m really biased about this so I could be wrong. ######

Response: NTA. Assuming both were bought with your own money and owned outright, it's irrelevant what kind of relationship you had with your brother. At minimum, your dad is TA for setting this sort of expectation. ######


Prompt:
I know the title sounds bad but please hear me out.

I (55m)have two kids, Ana (30f) and Alex (27m). Their mom isn't in the pictue. I have a relatively high earning job so I was able to save up for both of them to go to college which amounted to about $100k each kid.

The thing is, Ana got a full scholarship for college where both her tuition fees and living expenses were paid for but I had to pay for my son's education and living expenses with the money I saved up.

Both my children knew I had $100k for their college education but since my daughter got a full ride, I told her I'd hold on to it until she either wants to use it for her wedding or a downpayment for a house.

So last week Ana asked for the money to buy a house and I gladly gave it to her but a few days later I got an angry call from Alex accusing me of favoritism and how I'm being unfair. I explained to him that I just gave her the college fund I was saving up for her, which was the same amount as what I've given him for college. He still thinks I should've split the money evenly so it would be more fair. I have no idea how he knew about it but I think my wife (their stepmom) told him.

Ana has since told me that her brother has been calling her every now and then demanding for his half of the money. So both my kids are fighting now.

My wife told me that I'm being a bit unfair and that the money is tearing the family apart. I told her that it was always Ana's money and I already gave Alex his share to pay for his college expenses.

Both kids are college educated with good jobs so it's not like Alex desperately needs the money.

So reddit... AITA? I think that splitting the money would've been very unfair to Ana, who worked hard to get her scholarship but what do you guys think?

Edit: I spent a bit over $100k on Alex's education cause not only did I pay for his tuition fees but I also paid for his rent, bills, food, and everything in between. ######

Response: NTA. Assuming Alex did in fact get his $100k. ######


Prompt:
She came to me the other day and sat me down and said she’d like to stop taking birth control pills. I said ok we can use problems, no condom. She said no she doesn’t wanna use condoms. When I asked why, she said they don’t work 100% of the time (which is fair I guess but no birth control method works 100% of the time); and that the deed doesn’t feel as good. So I said ok what do you suggest. She said she’d like for me to get a vasectomy. Apparently she did her homework and my insurance covers the entire procedure which is fair enough I guess but I’m only 21 and I’m not quite ready to give up my fertility. She said that’s not an issue because vasectomies are reversible. I said not all of the time. She got frustrated and said she’s sick of the burden being on her and I said how can that be so when you used B.C. long before you met me, and I’ve always said if you want to get off it then I’ll support you. She said so support me and get the vasectomy. I said absolutely not, if you want to go and get your tubes tied that’s o.k and I won’t stop you but I’m not ready to sterilize myself yet.

Since that conversation she’ll ask me again and again if I’ve thought about it. At first I said yes and my answer hasn’t changed. But she won’t quit so I just say no or ignore her. It’s so annoying. She won’t entertain IUDs and to be honest her reasoning for being against condoms is kind of suspect. So she asked again just now and I said no please quit asking me. No matter how many times you ask I’m not changing my mind and that’s that.  Now she’s really angry at me because she thinkings VaSeCtOmIeS aRe So MuCh EaSiEr and I should suck it up but if I’m being honest the more she badgers me about it, the more convinced I am not to budge. So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Asking your 21 year old BOYFRIEND for a vasectomy when there likely hasn't even been much discussion of marriage, children, the future, and etc. is a ridiculous request. You're still young, so it makes total sense that you wouldn't want to spring into something that could go really wrong. Getting your tubes tied at your girlfriend's request is not supporting her, as she put it, it's *sacrificing*. Honestly, she seems really manipulative. I hope things work out for you. ######


Prompt:
So my roommate had the guy shes been seeing over last, and during the night he was sick. They both think it was food poisoning from the sushi they had for dinner, but I and asked her to give the bathroom a wipe down with a lysol wipe anyway; to be clear there wasn't any vomit anywhere, I was more worried about contact points like taps and doorknobs.
She got upset with me because me asking this caused her to worry that it was something more serious and since she works with vulnerable people she called into her work to ask if she should be taking extra precautions because of this, her work said no, that she was probably fine.
But now she is upset with me because we hadn't previously agreed upon a cleaning procedure when someone is sick, and she doesn't think its necessary to expect someone to lysol a bathroom after someone has been sick.
She also works out of the house, while I'm working from home currently, so I could do the cleaning instead, and I did offer to do it once she got upset with me about the time, but shes still upset at me for bringing it up while she was getting ready for work, and the argument and her calling her work took time from that so she was running late, and it's still a new job for her.
I'm sorry I caused her to worry, or potentially be a bit late, but I didn't want to have to wait until she got home from work to ask if the bathroom was cleaned,  and I didn't expect the question to turn into an argument that took so long...
I'm going to clean the bathroom today while shes at work, but am I the asshole for thinking cleaning a bathroom after someone has been sick is common, and asking her to do it since it was her friend who was sick? ######

Response: NTA. Asking her to clean up was totally fair, especially during a pandemic. Plus, even if it was just food poisoning, it’s still a good idea to disinfect *vomit* ######


Prompt:
Throwaway as I feel this is so ridiculous and don't want it on my main account.

I recently ordered some new clothes and one of them is a top with a love heart on it. The love heart is coloured in 7 different colours making a rainbow look. I got it because it looked bright and cheerful.

Today I came downstairs wearing it and my husband asked why I'm wearing a rainbow top when I'm not gay. I told him you don't have to be gay to like rainbows but he got annoyed and said he wasn't going out with me in public wearing it as people would think I'm a lesbian. I told him if people think that then I have no problems with it and that I was wearing it whether he liked it or not. In the end he refused to come out shopping with me and has been acting like a toddler who's taken a tantrum since I got home.

He made similar comments when I got a pixie cut 3 years ago which I absolutely loved but I've grown it back since as he said he wasn't attracted to me with it. Apart from that he never makes homophobic comments and seems to have no problems with gay people. ######

Response: NTA. Ask your husband why his masculinity is tied to your perceived sexual orientation. ######


Prompt:
My dad has lived in our neighborhood for 20 years and has become best friends with our neighbor down the street. Me and the neighbor's daughter are both 15. We've been best friends since we were 4. I started crushing on her in middle school but was so nervous about telling her.

I finally told her. I was super super nervous but told her I wanted to talk. I told her I can't keep this a secret anymore and that I think she's amazing, funny, sweet, and beautiful. I told her I had a big crush on her and asked if we could go on a date. She started crying saying she's so happy I finally asked, she was really nervous too, and she's felt the same way for so long. I was happier than I ever have been in my life. We planned a date.

I told my dad and he was pissed. He says I'm being selfish and could hurt his friendship. He says I'm not allowed to date her. My feelings for her are so strong and I love her so I don't see myself being able to respect this rule. ######

Response:
 NTA. Ask your dad why you being in relationship with her would hurt HIS friendship.

It doesn't make sense imo. The girl likes you so def NTA. and Y W B T A if you suddenly decided to break things off with her just because your dad is acting weird about it ######


Prompt: He says "we have two incomes so we split the rent two ways and that's how it works" but I don't feel like that's right. I'm paying rent for his wife... They're my friends and I don't want it to become an issue but I'm beginning to feel taken advantage of... I know we aren't supposed to post about interpersonal conflict so I tried to keep it just about the math. Sorry if this is against the rules, but I really need to figure this out. ######

Response: NTA. Ask for the square footage of the apartment. Split rent any shared space (family room, common area, bathroom and kitchen) by three. Split their bedroom by two? ######


Prompt:
The bride and groom have no issue, no dad (who is in church leadership, has no issue. Only my mother, who is the church secretary has an issue with me bringing my service dog, Cain, to the wedding, "because the church has carpeting and leadership won't like it".

She sent me a text saying "What are you going to do with Kain during the wedding? You can't bring him in the church". A long, drawn out phone call (because she kept yelling and I kept hanging up) and finally I called my dad, and asked him to talk to church leadership about bringing him.

She's never been very supportive and has a way of dismissing my diagnoses as "just my depression" or I'm "overreacting". She has also been acting as if Cain is just a very expensive pet, not a medical working dog. He's mobility service dog for my agrresive uncontrolled Rheumatoid Arthritis, Spondyloarthropy,  Fibromyalgia and balance issues.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. As you say, this is a legitimate service animal and so there is no risk that he does anything to the carpet. ######


Prompt: My wife and I had our second baby two months ago. We were pretty indecisive with a name and nothing really shined for us.  Eventually one of the options grew on me and turned into my top choice. My wife also liked it but was concerned because a former coworker/friend had used the name for her daughter about a year prior.  The name isn't rare but also not one of the most common.  Now, she was fairly close with this coworker when they worked together over two years ago and they remain in contact via Facebook and texting. They have only seen each other once in the last 2+ years since my wife left the job despite only living 15 minutes away from each other and my wife doesn't expect this to change.  The coworker recently told my wife that she was very upset we used her baby's name and also the same spelling and she is slowly getting over it.  Personally I feel obligated to avoid names of family members or close friends but not coworkers that I don't even hang out with outside work.  AWTA? ######

Response: NTA. As you noted, "former coworker" is several steps removed from the circle of people whose baby names thou shalt not steal. And the odds are she didn't invent this name, she was also inspired by someone else who had it. ######


Prompt:
My uncle recently died and when we went to discuss the will he left a majority of his belongings to me. I know what your thinking, why would he leave it to me? He never got married and never had children but, me and him were practically best friends what he did have though was a girlfriend. My uncles girlfriend obviously didn't love him and was using him for money. The two of them had a 30 year age gap and she had given birth to a other man's children (twins) while in a relationship with him. My uncle did love the twins dearly so he left them a trust fund the details about that are unknown. Anyways, my Uncle left me A LARGe sum of money and his girlfriend is angry that I am not giving it to her. Since she was his partner. My Uncle also left his house and the majority of his belongings to ME. Due to his age he updated his will frequently so if he wanted to leave his money to her he would have.

My mother is okay with this because his girlfriend was never respectful to the rest of the family, not even my grandmother.so it's not like she would have lasted long. I understand that the children are innocent so I plan on giving her SOME money, but she wants everything, including the house.
Ok so, would I be the asshole for accepting the money
Sorry if I worded it badly ######

Response:
 NTA. As you note, your Uncle had plenty of opportunity to leaveher the money and chose not to - it's extremely telling that he made arrangements for her kids but not her. To me, that makes it clear he had no intention of leaving her anything and instead left it to you.

Accept it and do what you want with it, it's yours. If you want to give some to/for the kids, by all means do so, but don't let her or anyone else pressure you into giving her more. ######


Prompt: I am just wondering if this was wrong for me to say. I’m on letrazol and I have endometriosis, the letrazol forces me to ovulate and is giving me some nasty side effects. To avoid being on it as long as possible, I asked if my partner to avoid masturbating and instead just hold out for our sex every second day. He got angry at me and said that evidence proves that masturbating doesn’t affect fertility. he has extremely low sperm count as it stands so I wanted to have th best chance possible with both of our issues. I said to him that we probably can’t consider these studies credible as we both have fertility issues so our situation is different. He told me that I don’t care about how he feels and that I only care about getting pregnant. I’m usually extremely understanding with him but I don’t understand how I can understand how he feels if there’s nothing that’s affecting him? I’m just confused and really lost, if I’m wrong in this please tell me. ######

Response: NTA. As you know, they advise against having sex every day because it reduces sperm quality, if he’s jerking it, he’s doing the same thing. If he can’t keep his hands off his dick while you take drugs with horrible side effects, I posit that he’s not as committed to the baby plan as you are. ######


Prompt:
    So for a little bit of back ground, Me(18F) and my friend (18M) who we’ll call John for the sake of this, dated back in middle school and ever since then we’ve had a rough on and off friendship. He’s asked me out over a dozen times even when he’s had other girlfriends and he still hasn’t taken the hint, he constantly asks for sex from me and I’ve humored the idea once or twice thinking he was joking. But apparently he wasn’t.

   He has been dating this girl who we’ll call Jane. They have been off and on and throughout most of their relationship and I was NC with John for about six months due to other issues. But back to the story, yesterday he texted me asking for a handjob or a blowjob because he was bored so I asked him if he was being serious and he said yes, and I asked him if his gf knew about this and he said no. Then I commented that I had more respect for his gf who I’ve never met than he does.

   Later that night I decided to say fuck it and used my friends fake account to text her saying that he’s been trying to sleep with me and that it’s been like this for a while. He then texted me frantically begging me not too and that he loves her and he’ll do anything for me to not tell her. Then he started texting my friend begging her not too. I don’t think I’m quite the A-hole here because I was in the same situation and I never would have known that my ex was cheating on me if nobody had told me, aita? ######

Response: NTA. As the saying goes, play stupid games win stupid prizes. He has maturing to do and his girlfriend deserves to know so she can find someone that values her. ######


Prompt:
For context, I’m a 16M and have an iPad Pro, which is quite pricy, and I don’t want to have it broken or scratched up. This is why I prefer to watch him with my tablet if he wants to use it, because I can stop him if he gets too rough. Not only that but I have personal shit on there that I don’t want to be shown to my family. It’s **PASSWORD LOCKED** for a reason!

My parents are almost always great, a little strict but never too overbearing.

What happened was that I was upstairs, playing with friends online, and I come downstairs afterwards and look for my tablet as I wanted to watch videos or just do anything on it.

To my surprise my brother was playing a dinosaur game on it, which was frustrating purely because I had not been asked if it was ok for him to do so. I saved up so much money for the tablet and it’s annoying to have it used without my permission. I ask my parents about it, and say I would have liked for them to ask first and they state:

Mum: “You must share your tablet”

Me: “I’m happy to do that but I would like to be asked beforehand so I can watch him”

Mum: “You’re being ridiculous, we bought it so we choose what to do with it.”

Me: “But thats not fair, it’s my tablet, so I choose of he can play on it”

Mum:”No, it’s to be shared, he will play on it if he wants”

This led to it being confiscated. I’ve already decided to change the password on it so only I can open the tablet.

Am I overreacting? Help me Reddit ######

Response: NTA. As soon as people give something to someone as a present, it stops being theirs. Doesn’t matter how much money they spent on it. That’s the concept of a gift. It’s yours, you decide what to do with it. ######


Prompt:
( On a throw-away account because she has my main account)

So my girlfriend has been talking about moving into her apartment for about a year now. I've thought about it and I don't think it's a good idea because she doesn't have a bathtub

I have a health issue that causes me a lot of pain. Pain that I've discovered can be soothed by hot baths and a medical bubble bath. I of course can also take medicine that helps but the one prescribed for me to take when I'm in pain makes me feel all woozy for the rest of the day, which is not ideal when I have things to do.

I specifically moved into an apartment with a bath that I currently share with a roommate. My roommate recently decided to move when our lease ends, which is making my girlfriend even more insistent about me moving in with her

I've told her my concerns and why, and suggested she move onto my lease if she wants to live together or that we could find a new place with a bath. She refuses and is calling me selfish for not moving in with her just because her apartment 'isnt't nice enough for me'

It's gotten so bad that every time we text or call, she starts arguing about it and I'm afraid this is going to kill the relationship. I don't want the reason that I lose someone to be that she doesn't have a bath tub in her home.

Am I being selfish for refusing to move into her apartment? Am I the A-hole for not just giving in so that I can be with her? ######

Response: NTA. As someone with a chronic illness/chronic pain, I very much recommend you DO NOT stay with someone who doesn't support even minor accessibilities. ######


Prompt:
If things are safe, We will get married in September. We want a small wedding. We only want 25 couples (or 50 people).  And because the wedding will be at a hall with an open bar we want everyone to be over 21. We invited my step-sister(shes 16 years older than me ) and her husband, but when we received the invite her plus one was my 23 year old autistic nephew. Not her husband.  “Johnny” my nephew has never spoken a word in his entire life. But he does make loud noises, constantly. He can’t sit still and if they want to calm him he plays with a very loud fire truck.

I love Johnny but my wedding is not where I want him. I remember about 8 years ago Johnny was at a wedding and yelled during the moment of silence.  When his parents moved him outside you could still hear him

Also Johnny ONLY wears baggy grey sweats.  I want my guests to wear certain colors and grey is not one of them

When I explained this to my stepsister she called me a terrible person.  My friends support me but my family are refusing to come if Johnny is not invited.

AITAH in this situation? ######

Response: NTA. As someone whose career has been centered around caring for those with developmental disabilities, I am all for inclusion. That said, dragging a severely autistic individual to an event where they will be uncomfortable and disruptive isn’t fair to them. Your sister sounds as though she’s putting her desire to be seen as a “great mom” ahead of her child’s comfort. ######


Prompt:
My(45M) wife (38F) is just home from the hospital after an acute hypertensive crisis (BP 213/145).

Back story: She was hospitalized 4y ago for the same issue and it was brought under control.   We had a child 19m ago and during the pregnancy she consciously discontinued her treatment (medication and apnea machine) due to side effects and inconvenience of treatment. Despite repeatedly asking her to see her Dr (we are in Canada, no cost) and asking her to resume treatment she always laughed and blew me off and did nothing.

Fast forward to Thursday. My wife feels dizzy, I demand she take her BP and it’s 195/140. I insist she goes to the hospital as she could have a stroke or a heart attack. She argues and says she will just take her medication.  I point out it’s been over a year and she shouldn't guess doses if she’s that much in distress.  She relents and goes to hospital. After a night of treatment it eventually gets brought down to a manageable level and she comes home.  This morning she asks if I have any “negative feelings towards her about this” and I state that I am angry and upset that she had the tools to prevent this and willfully ignored them and brought this crisis on herself. And further it’s not fair to the kids (we have 2) that she did this either.

She burst into tears is and refusing to talk to me. AITA for calling her out on her behaviour? ######

Response: NTA. As someone who’s chronically ill, it sucks having to maintain yourself to get to some sense of normalcy - but if you’re a wife and a mother, it goes beyond you at that point. And during a pandemic no less? Not cool. ######


Prompt:
My wife has a problem with accountability, and I feel it stems from narcissism. At times,  I'll tell her she did something, and she'll gaslight and/or deflect. Or she'll say something, contradict it later, then when I call her out, she'll backpedal or outright deny she said it. So to make sure I wasn't crazy, but also to keep consistency and have proof for either of us, we had a discussion, and as soon as I saw where it was headed, I secretly started recording on my phone. I figured now, there would be proof of everything either of us said, so there shouldn't be an issue.

Wrong. Very wrong. She contradicted herself, so I brought up the video. I played the footage where she contradicted herself, and she blew up. Saying that I was AH for recording our conversation. And saying that I set the entire thing up. But I say it's just more gaslighting. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. As someone who has lived with a narcissist spouse for 15 years I can totally relate. She is definitely gaslighting you. She knows it but she will not stop. Even you recording and showing her the evidence will not change her mind.

This should sum it up for you.

Narcissist's Prayer

That didn't happen.
And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
And if it was, that's not a big deal.
And if it is, it is not my fault.
And if it was, I didn't mean it.
And if I did.
You deserved it.

Run...As fast as possible. ######


Prompt:
I have a group of friends from my old college, and we've been doing video calls often. A couple of my friends have a new friend John, and he'll join for zoom. I was nice to him at first but honestly he's been kinda creepy to me, like wanting to get my Snapchat even though I say I haven't used it in years and don't even have it installed. Or go out with me after the quarantine is over, I've said I'm not interested and he just pushes it. So I haven't been too nice anymore, I'll just answer him with "fuck off"

Anyway I know some of the other girls in the group have picked up on the weirdness. I think the guys who first invited John are more oblivious. I had a conversation with two of my girl friends saying I was so done hanging out with John.

On the next call, John was saying, not even to me, but at the group, that he wanted to take me out to some place after quarantine. I just hung up. I called my actual friends on another service and some of them left the original call to pick up, and I said I was done hanging out with John, but if they wanted to hang with me now or later I'd be down.

They stayed on the call and a couple more of my friends joined too, till it was everyone but John and two guys in the new call.

I don't know video call etiquette but I don't see what I did as anything worse than walking out of a party like "I'm out guys, anyone coming with?"

But it's caused an argument in the friend group, the two guys who didn't pick up my call said it was petty and catty of me to split off a new group without John and if I wanted to leave I could have without doing that. Most of my friends are coming with what I did though, they're kind of feeling bothered by the stuff John says.

AITA for leaving the video call and making another without the person who was hitting on me ######

Response: NTA. As long as you aren’t being two faced, which it seems like you were pretty clear by telling him to fuck off multiple times, I see nothing wrong here ######


Prompt:
I live with my girlfriend and her roommate, we’re going to get our own place when her lease is up. We like to shower together, not just for sex, but it’s intimate and fun to do sometimes. We probably shower together twice a week.

Her roommate asked me to stop yesterday because it’s annoying to her. She has her own bathroom with her own shower so I don’t see how it could be annoying. I asked why and she said it’s gross that she knows we’re together like that and it should be confined to the bedroom.

I told her I’d talk to my girlfriend and my girlfriend thinks we shouldn’t stop. Would we be assholes if we continue? ######

Response: NTA. As long as you aren't having super loud sex and making a ton of noise you aren't doing anything wrong. It'd be a bit different if she had to share a bathroom. Is her room close to your bathroom? ######


Prompt:
Since I (17M) was 6 every so often my father and I would go camping, we’d go all the way to Wales and while there we’d go hiking/caving/fishing - whatever really and it’s become a tradition.

Last year my dad married my stepmother Kerrie but she’s been in my life since I was 13.

Kerri has two children who are 9 and 6 and my dad and her are having a kid.

My dad texted me saying that the children wanted to come along with us and that he believes it’ll be a good “bonding experience”

I know if they tag along it’ll be all about them as they’re clumsy and call me selfish I just don’t want them to tag along.

Apparently Kerrie has a whole girls week planned with my sister (14) already.

I texted my dad back saying that I wouldn’t come with because it would just feel like a chore, he’s been texting me begging to reconsider that he wants Kerrie to have a break etc and that he’s already in an awkward position but he told me he’d try and drop the children off with my grandparents.

I told my sister (not my dads daughter) to vent and she thinks I’m an AH for refusing to go and putting my dad in an awkward position according her I should suck it up and accept my new siblings.

AITA? ######

Response: Nta. As harsh as this will sound to some ..your dad decided to marry this woman and take on her kids. You didn't. Okay so she's been in your life since you were 13, but he's your dad and you need time alone without someone else's kids as a distraction. ######


Prompt:
My brother is big into activism, especially about racial identity. He talks a lot about white privilege and stuff like that. Fyi, we are Indians from Kashmir, and I'd say our entire family honestly looks pretty white-- pale skin, colored eyes (which is somewhat common in Kashmir/north India, I think), and hair that's more brown than black.

Anyways, he was writing an essay for the school paper, which for whatever reason publishes even during summer break, and he wanted me to proofread it, as he considers me a better writer than him. He has a line where he says, 'as a person of color, I've often felt judged for my brown skin'. This stood out to me, because *our skin isn't brown.* It's pale af. Like the color of milk. So I told him he should remove it. He asked why, and I told him, 'bro, you basically look white. We \[our family\] all do. Our teachers are shocked when they hear our names, so are our neighbors and everyone we know. Everyone will cringe if you keep this.'

He got defensive and started denying this, then stormed off angrily. I was just proofreading like he asked, and just told the truth to try to help him out-- he looks white af, and to act like he's dark skinned makes me cringe. And I think it'll make other people cringe too. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. As an East-Asian, this is very weird to me. Like he's marketing himself as a victim overcoming something he actually hasn't. ######


Prompt:
Hi everybody,

I live in Germany (so please excuse my grammer and vocab) and here it is forbidden by the law to purchase, use or be in posession of fireworks from the 01.05 to the 28.12 of the year.

Across the street there is an american family living, and on July the 4th they decided to shoot some fireworks. Since it is summer, darkness doesnt fall till around 22:00 (11pm). Around that time my neighborus started shooting of fireworks. I dont mind them having their celebration, but after 45 minutes of ongoing firework (around 1 rocket/minute) i called the police on them. In Germany we have a law which regulates the "Nachtruhe" (Nightrest-time). It states that after 22:00 (10pm) you are not allowed to listen to loud music/tv.

I myself sleep from 10 pm to 6am every day. So i was disturbed in my "Nachtruhe" and woken up by my fellow american neighbours. At first i did not thought anything of it, but since i was unable to sleep and neither did they tell us about them planning to be loud past 22:00 at all. nor did they tell us till when they are going to shoot of fireworks i called the police after 45 minutes (I hoenestly wouldnt care if they were loud for 10 minutes and than got inside, but it is a dick move to make noise for >45 minutes).

I dont know any of them personally/dont have their phonenumber and didnt want to get dressed just to get over to their house to talk to them. Tbh i didnt want to talk to them at all, because it is just an a-hole move to be that loud at that time on a regular german day.

They now have to pay a fine for being too loud and for the illegal posession and usage of fireworks which is around 300€. (By German Standards this is a really really cheap fine, it could have easily been 10.000€).

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So reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. As an American (who has lived in Germany), I think it’s ridiculous that your neighbors would think that’s ok. There are so many other ways to celebrate the 4th of July that don’t involve breaking laws and annoying an entire neighborhood. Good for you for reporting them, hopefully they learned a lesson. ######


Prompt:
My dad and I aren't especially close. I was mostly raised by my mom, and I don't really see or talk to him too often. A large part of that was due to his ex-wife/my ex-stepmother. She was an awful, abusive person and she drove a wedge between me and my father. Thankfully, they divorced last year. My father and I were slowly beginning to repair our relationship.

Recently, my father began dating someone new. I'd heard about her from family members, but he never directly told me about her. Let me say now that I have no qualms about my father dating. This isn't that kind of story. Who he dates is strictly his business.

Not too long ago, my father invited me to his house. After the experience I had with my ex-stepmother, I wasn't really keen on meeting his girlfriend yet, so I asked if anyone else would be coming over while I was there. He told me no.

When I got there--surprise! Turns out his girlfriend was *already* there. So, no, technically, no one would be coming over. Now, his girlfriend seemed like a lovely woman. While I was there, I tried my best to act cordially towards her, but I was extremely uncomfortable.

Later, I told my dad that I was happy that he'd found such a nice woman, and that she seemed like a pleasant person. However, I have no intention of meeting her ever again. Who he dates is his business, and I have no relation to her. After my ex-stepmother, I do not want to have any contact with anyone he dates.

He told me that I needed to let go of the past, and that I was being narrow-minded. I admit that this is perhaps a bit unfair to his new girlfriend, but I really don't want to involve myself in his dating affairs. AITA for telling him that I didn't want to meet her again? ######

Response: NTA. As an adult (I'm assuming you're an adult cuz I don't see mention of your age) you get to decide who you want/don't want in your life. You shouldn't be forced to talk to/ interact with anyone due to "family obligation". ######


Prompt:
I (M) have 3 kids with my ex wife. My daughter (17F), who is the second oldest, is turning 18 in November. 18 is a significant milestone, so I think that when your kid turns 18 you should get them a major gift. When my son (21M) turned 18, I got him a motorcycle.

So with all this happening, I thought it would be nice to ask my daughter what she wants now so I have plenty of time for it. She and my younger son are staying with my ex-wife for the time being, so I called her to talk about it. She said that she wants full body laser hair removal. She told me the estimated price and it was less than what I paid for my son's motorcycle a few years ago so I agreed and said I would cover it.

Later that night I get an angry call from my ex-wife. She overheard everything and didn't like it. She was saying that I shouldn't be encouraging my daughter to be "vain" or "narcissistic" and that she thought cosmetic surgery was a scam that "preys on women's insecurities". I responded that our daughter will be an adult at this point and that even then, she was being unreasonable. I explained that even if she didn't personally like it, it would make our daughter happy and that's what matters here. She wasn't swayed and said that I was being inconsiderate to her by going ahead with it.

To be honest, I'm not entirely surprised she reacted like that. My daughter has always been very girly and put a lot of effort into her appearance. My ex-wife has always bot liked this and would try and encourage her to focus less on how she looks. Personally I've never had an issue with her and I just want her to do what makes her feel good, just like my sons with their different interests.

I've already put the money aside for it and I've called my daughter again promising I'll cover it despite her mom's objections, so I'm not changing my mind. But I'm interested in getting some outside perspective. ######

Response: NTA. As a woman, if I could afford laser hair removal I would 100% do it. Shaving constantly is the worst, and it can cause irritation of the skin. If that’s what she wants, who care what your ex thinks? It’s not like you’re suggesting it to your daughter. ######


Prompt:
This whole argument is really weird to me. Basically, I'm on my period and my boyfriend said offhand he was glad he didn't have to deal with that and said something along the lines of, "I bet you wish you had a dick." To which I responded, "no, not really."

He seemed kind of taken aback by that and pressed the issue of exactly why I did not want to have a dick and I basically told him male genitals seemed really uncomfortable and awkward to possess, like I don't want some meat and a nut sack just chillin in my britches. Hard pass. He got weirdly offended by this and said I was being sexist??? I told him that I observe him scratching his nuts or rearranging his junk multiple times a day and that it would make me crazy if I had to constantly attend to my genitals like that. He got so mad about this to the point he stormed off to let me "think about" why what I said was so upsetting.

I don't get it though? Not 5 minutes earlier he was trashing vaginas and periods, but that's okay, for reasons? Y'all help me out lmao ######

Response:
 NTA. As a penis owner they can be very awkward at times. And let’s be clear, you were not being sexist. Seems more so that he was.

Sounds like he’s looking for an argument and will take any excuse to get it. ######


Prompt:
I have a ten year old dog named Max. I’ve had him since he was a puppy and ever since I got him I’ve called him ‘baby’ when I talk to him. For example when I get home from work I greet him by saying “Where’s my baby?” or if he’s just been from the groomers I tell him “Look at this cute baby” and stuff like that.

Just to make it clear, it’s a term of endearment that I use when talking to him. But I don’t think that Max is equivalent to a human baby and I never thought that I was a mom just because I have him for a pet. When I tell other people about him I say “Max is a shih tzu” or “Max eats potatoes”.

Now I have a one year old daughter, Mia. I never call her ‘baby’ when I talk to her, I usually just use her name. I say “It’s time to eat, Mia” or I tell my husband “Can you get Mia’s shoes?” and not “It’s time to eat, baby” or “Can you get my baby’s shoes”. When other people ask me questions like “How is your baby?” I know that they’re referring to Mia so I tell them “Mia’s doing great”.

At a get together at our house my SIL caught me telling Max “No, baby you can’t eat that” and was horrified that I call my dog ‘baby’, saying it might confuse my actual baby. When I told her that I always call Mia by her name she got upset and said that I am basically telling Mia that I consider Max to be my child more than her and I should think about my parenting before I traumatize her.

As far as I’m concerned I’m not neglecting Mia, I’m taking care of her well and it seems over the top to jump to the conclusion that I will scar her for life just because I don’t call her ‘baby’ and I use that term to refer to Max when talking to him instead. But I know I might be biased because I do love my dog to bits.

Am I the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA. As a mother of 4, I can tell you, none of them care what I called them as babies, they're just happy if I get the right name on the right child the first time and don't have to resort to "D-Mi-T ... WHOEVER!" ######


Prompt:
Ever since I was little, I’ve loved rainbows. The basic red, orange, yellow, green, blue, violet type. My wardrobe when I was little was extremely colorful.

Today, I still love rainbows and love to incorporate that into my home decor and outfits. I’m cis and straight, so my rainbows aren’t connected to LGBTQ, though I do support them.

While out shopping with a few friends, a new girl in the group mentions how brave I am for wearing rainbow in public when it isn’t even pride month. My sweatshirt had rainbow stripes. I informed her I was straight, and she seemed to be fine with it. Later however, I receive a text from her telling me I shouldn’t be wearing rainbows if I’m not apart of LGBTQ. She said it would leave people to believe I like women, and in doing so lead them on. I’ve thought about it, and can’t decide if I should stop or not. ######

Response: NTA. As a lesbian I don't automatically assume everyone wearing a rainbow is lgbtq+. There are homophobic people though that could target you for wearing a rainbow, so you might want to consider when and where to wear rainbows. That of course depends a lot on where you live. ######


Prompt:
My(30M) brother(20M) and our parents always had a horrible relationship. Parents are conservative christians, brother is gay, you get the picture. I didn’t really have a close relationship with him either since I was in university in another country already when he was 10.

The day he turned 18 he packed his stuff and left without saying a word to them. I talk to him occasionally, but he hasn’t talked to our parents in 2 years.

I’m home now and yesterday was his birthday. Our parents remember it and they started saying that what he did was incredibly wrong, disrespectful, he didn’t love them etc etc. I genuinely asked if they really thought he’d love and respect them after years of them treating him like shit and said that it’s their fault that they don’t have a relationship now. They got mad,Dad blew up, he started yelling and saying that I was talking bullshit and I was being disrespectful too, taking his side. ######

Response:
 NTA. As a Dad I get really sad when I see posts like this. How can you ever love your own son less for something that is out of his control? I could never ever imagine not loving my son with everything inside me.

More parents need to also realise that children are under no obligation to love their parents unconditionally. You need to earn that love.

I hope your brother is ok. ######


Prompt: This happened today and I feel like it was justified. So I’m standing in line at the supermarket, and this bigger guy is behind me. There’s a really long line, and I was up next to put the groceries down after about 10 minutes of waiting. The entire time I’m waiting, I hear him complaining about how long the line is and how everything is taking so long. Once the guy in front of me gets done and there’s room to put up my groceries, I finally get ahead to put my stuff down. I’m trying to do it quickly so this guy can finally have enough room to put his stuff on conveyer belt. I dropped a few things on the ground as I was doing this, and I hear him say pretty loudly, “You’ve got to be fucking kidding me.” I gave him the death stare, pointed at him and said; “I’m trying to do this shit quickly to get out of here so I don’t have to listen to your fat fucking mouth complain every 36 seconds.” He looked stunned, and didn’t say a thing after that. The cashier chuckled a bit after I said that, and I finally got out of there. Listening to that guy complain the entire time I was there was driving me nuts, and his comment lit the match for me. Was this justified, or AITA? ######

Response: NTA. As a cashier, having someone tell off an annoying customer in front of me makes my day! ######


Prompt: I am a pretty good artist and my classmates know it. They have no problem paying for my art except for one girl. She is the teachers' pet and the one that always reminds everyone of their mistakes. One day, she came to me asking if I could draw a horse for her. I told her that it'll be 2 KČ, which is the price of two croissants in the Czech Republic. (It's about 0,085 USD) And she said that it's too expensive and that we are friends (we are not) and that I drew free drawings for my friend and that it can't be THAT hard to draw. I told her if it's not that hard, she can draw it herself and that I drew it free for my friend because her dog died. She screamed at me calling me many names. AITA for wanting the price of two croissants for hours of hard work? ######

Response: NTA. Art isn't free and your price is very cheap. ######


Prompt: I really like to draw and my mom supports me on that. Recently she got me a new sketch book when she went out, I've had the book for 1 month or so then a couple days ago she told me that she looked through the book, I was visibly upset ( I've told people before that i do not like it when they look through my sketch book without  my approval) I told her in the nicest way possible that was my book and it's not hers to just flip through whenever she wants.  Then she starts  yelling at me telling me that she bought it and she could look through it whenever she wanted. I try to defend myself telling her that I would decide if I wanted anyone to see it but she kept cutting me off. I was pretty pissed and left. I feel like I might be the asshole because shes my mom and she encouraged me to draw when my family wouldn't accept it as a career choice. I know this is not as dramatic as other posts but please I want to know AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Art is very personal for people and you have every right to not want your sketchbook randomly flipped through. Your mom bought the book FOR YOU as in it was a gift, legally she has no right to the book as it was gifted to you. A common fallacy in parents is thinking buying something for their kids= it belongs to them, the parent, which is simply not true.
Keep doing you, don’t compromise on the integrity of your privacy because you have the right to it just as much as anybody else. ######


Prompt:
I (23f) live with my bf (25m) in an okay house. We’ve been together for 4 years and own 2 cats.

Our cats like to jump into the window in the middle of the night and how they do that is by grabbing the curtain and pulling themselves up, causing the curtain to fall down. One of us usually fixes it, no problem.

Well this morning, I woke up to the curtain on the floor and my bf at his desk. My bf has a routine of getting up and immediately going to his desk to work on art commissions. If I bother him while he’s in the zone, he gets pretty mad. But also during that time, he doesn’t make breakfast for himself and usually waits till I get up to ask me to make it. This morning wasn’t any different.

The thing was that I was naked under the covers and the window uncovered is the one that faces our neighbors yard. Even if it was empty, there’s still a chance of them or their kids coming out of the house at the wrong moment and seeing my bits.

I asked my bf to close the curtain so I could go make him breakfast, but he told me no and to do it myself since the window is closer to me. I told him I was naked and didn’t feel comfortable doing it, and repeated the question.

He got up from his chair angry, cursing at me and telling me I was pulling “a fucking power move” on him and he kept saying it while putting the curtain up. It hurt my feelings pretty bad. I changed into my clothes and made breakfast right after.

He refuses to apologize to me still cause he feels like I was in the wrong since the window is closer to me, but I see it as me asking a simple task that takes seconds to do. AITA? Was I pulling a power move? ######

Response: NTA. Are you sure this is the guy for you? He's got some anger management issues and treats you like a servant. He waits until you get up so you can make him breakfast every day and thinks that you asking him to do ONE really easy, really reasonable thing for you is a "power move"?  Sounds misogynistic. This is about more than shutting the window, think hard about it... ######


Prompt:
Hello! Longtime listener, first time caller.

I (29m) work a property management job that I hate. I have to evict people and we’re in the midst of a pandemic. It’s really soul destroying.

I got a message from an old friend that offered me a job once he purchased a new business to oversee two similar stores and run them how I see fit. This would still be considered a small business and, as previously referenced, we are in the middle of hard times. I wanted to make sure that I had some concrete evidence that this was a secure move before I brought it to my fiancé’s (29f) attention, so I asked do profit and loss reports to ascertain if this was a good idea.

Turns out the second store net $100k last year in a pretty small town and their sales etc. are doing well this year, in spite of the chaos. At this point I felt comfortable enough to at least put it on my fiancé’s radar. My best friend, my fiancé and I went to a nice dinner last night and I brought it up. She was PISSED. She said that if something like that happened to her, she’d have “called me same day on her lunch break, this just makes her feel like I keep stuff from her” and all this stuff.

We have a pretty rigid schedule with our budget as we are trying to buy our first home by the end of next year. This job change would further advance those goals, but knowing how she is about details and thorough questions, I elected to wait until I had enough info to give her and she was not pleased.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Are you saying “detail orientated” because you don’t want to say “control freak”?  Either way, I think gathering information and being equipped with knowledge is a good thing and for what it’s worth, I think you went about things in a practical well thought out way ######


Prompt:
I (21F) live with my boyfriend (24M) he eats alot and all the time he is snacking on something, but recently I've drawn a line. He has started eating food in bed, like chips and candy. It's gotten so bad he will fall asleep while eating. Last night I rolled over to a smushed candy bar that fell out of his hand and got chocolate all over our sheets. He always apologizes and says this is the last thing he will eat but he always gets more. Tonight I got mad when he had chocolate again and he told me it's ok he is awake and it's all he will have tonight. Not even 10min later he gets up to use the bathroom and brings back a honey bun I just roll over at this point and try to sleep but the smell of food is keeping me awake. He finally fell asleep and as soon as I started to doze off he woke up (not even 30min later) and went to grab some chips. I smelled them as soon as he opened them and I called him out of continually eating in bed and making a mess he got defensive saying he is sitting up and not making a mess and I told him if he wants to eat we have a perfectly good living room and kitchen and I'm tired of our bed room smelling like the food he brings up in the night. He told me I was exaggerating and finally I got up to sleep on the couch. He is now mad saying I'm making a big deal out of this and that if it's so important he will stop. But I've mentioned this so many times that it bothers me and he hasn't stopped.

Am I the asshole for telling my boyfriend I hate him eating in bed then going to sleep on the couch when he doesn't stop ######

Response:
 NTA. Are you aware you’re in a relationship with Homer Simpson.

Also- he falls asleep snacking? Frequently? Does he ever brush his teeth? Seems like really gross behavior and poor hygiene. ######


Prompt:
The wife has a strong passion for cooking. She cooks every night, with the exception of Friday where we go out to eat (or order in right now because of the current situation)

We have two daughters, who are 13 and 17. Usually as a family we clear the table, put the dishes in the sink, put leftovers in the Tubberware, and wipe down any spills or messes. The girls tend to make a mess at dinner so it teaches them responsibility, and me and my wife can’t do it all by ourselves.

Last night, wifey made lasagna with garlic bread and some Italian salad. She rarely cooks lasagna since it is a mess to clean up. Anyways we finish dinner, and the girls disappear out of nowhere and head to their rooms, which left me and the wife to clean up everything.

My wife was particularly upset because she had spent to much time cooking (she could have made one of those Stouffer’s frozen lasagnas and a bagged salad kit) and was tired and had to do twice the work we would usually do.

So tonight we decided to put our daughters to work and cook dinner for everyone. We printed out instructions for them, my 17 year old was handling the stovetop and the 13 year old handled the oven. They had no help whatsoever (except for small tips here and there)

As we were eating, they seemed cold and didn’t want to talk to us. The 13 year old thinks we overreacted and “her friends never have to help clean the table” We were originally planning to make the girls clean the table by themselves but felt bad and cleaned it as a family.

I honestly feel bad now, maybe we should have just made them clear the table by themselves instead of having them cook, put my wife thinks I was fair since the girls now know how much effort their mom puts into cooking and how tedious it is. ######

Response: NTA. Ar those ages, they should be helping out! ######


Prompt:
On the last day before lock down I called in to work because I needed to get my nan an ambulance. She could only maintain consciousness for 10-15 seconds at a time. I've lived with her for 3 years and became her carer when she was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis.
My nan tested negative for the virus twice so we realised that it was a rapid decline in her health. She went into hospice care and was put on end of life.
My boss had sent me a few emails, I replied to all of them cordially, and asked him to mark any important emails as such as my nan is dying.
My nan died on 7th April this year and on the 8th, I announced it online because I have people who always had my nan's presence in their life and I said that I would be leaving social media to sort out the funeral, the estate and the likes.
I got tagged in 8 posts, 1 per day for 6 days and 2 on the last day from managers asking me to put on my uniform and hold up a sign and shout happy birthday to my boss. I saw the original post and I thought, I don't really have time and I'm not in the right mindset to do this.
One of my managers kept tagging me in posts saying "come on, you've only got a few days to send your video in. It can't be that hard." And "it'll only take 5 minutes." But they posted saying that we needed to have on clean and ironed uniform. For a 10 second video.
I'm looking to be promoted and I'm trying to make a good impression with everyone at work and I think by not doing it, I've made people feel like I'm not bothered about the team. My closest friends at work think it's perfectly understandable but management seem to have a different opinion. I just couldn't bring myself to pretend like it's business as usual when my nan's ashes are sat in my living room. ######

Response: NTA. Anyone with the slightest amount of empathy can understand you are not in the frame of mind to be partaking in such frivolous shite. ######


Prompt:
Growing up, my sister had never been supportive of me. We were never very close. I ended moving out very early because we got into a yelling match about her not picking me up from the airport because she got drunk.

A year ago, I moved to a different state for a job and broke up with my then bf. When she came down to help me move, she told me I was a bitch for not letting my ex move in with me because he "loved me". When she went back home, I learned through said ex that she had invited him to dinner and he was going to go. I texted her and told her I was really disappointed that she did that and as my sister she should be supporting my decision to leave a toxic relationship. She then told me I was a disrespect brat and she couldn't believe how entitled I was and that she was disgusted I would even say something like that to her. She then called me a stuck up bitch for shoving it in her face that I'm more successful than she is... When all I did was tell her I felt disrespected.

I decided to cut ties with her and deleted her off social media. When I come visit, I steer clear of her as much as I can. But when I tell people I don't talk to her, they all tell me I'm a brat and need to keep her in my life and forgive everything she does BECAUSE she's my sister... So AITA for cutting ties with her? ######

Response: NTA. Anyone that tells you that you need to keep someone in your life because they are family is toxic as hell in their own right. Your sister sounds like a grade A bitch and you were right to get rid of her. ######


Prompt:
My parents and I have been having an argument. My parents sat me down and asked me about my grades. I told them all the ones that I know. Some of my teachers don't post the grades to Google Classroom so I don't know what some of them are. I have 4 confirmed a's (3 are above 95%) and 3 b's. I'm in 8th grade. Right now I get 2 30 minute sections of game time per day after I do school, homework, and the extra 1hr of math that my mom tells me to do. Our school has a placement test for high school that helps the teachers decide what math class to put us in. I ***chose*** to be put into the 'lower' (i don't know a better word) math class. I've been not doing as good as my parents want me to in math. This happened during the grade conversation. My parents after hearing that I chose to be put into that math class got very mad that I didn't want to go the the higher math.

About an hour after I told them the grades that I know and that I was going to the 'lower math', they told me to study more. I've been studying more, about 2-3 hours each day+studying during classes. They cut my video game time down to 1 30 minutes after they have checked to see if I've done all my homework. I got mad and asked them why, and my mom said, "We are done talking about this." After that I went and studied math for an extra hour to try to make them happy. They are still mad at me for having the grades that I have atm. I'm studying more, but they don't seem to see it.

AITA for getting mad in this argument enough that my parents had to shut me down?

sorry for rambling ######

Response: NTA. Anyone ever feel like these parents didn’t get those kinds of grades themselves? ######


Prompt:
##### First of all, I really don't want to offend or disrespect anyone with this question. English isn't my first language so really doing my best here.

###### Long story short:
I'm 25 years old, I was born in China and adopted by white Canadian parents when I was 7 months old. I've been living in a big city since then. My origins and my adoption have never tormented me, and to be honest, I sometimes forget that I am not Caucasian like most of my friends.

###### The situation:
People often make comments related to my origins. When the comments are disrespectful, I will react. But most of the times, I have the impression that there is no bad intention, just a lack of education. 3 very common examples:

> Clients that I've exchanged many emails with (they know my very "Canadian" name) and talked over the phone who see me physically for the first time will say "ah I didn't expect that" (refering to my looks vs. my very non asian name).

Or
> People who end up saying "it's impressive you don't have an accent" (wondering why I don't have a Mandarin accent).
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Or
> Other random example just so you understand how insignificant it often is: this weekend at the grocery store, a lady stopped me and asked me which was the best ramen noodles brand while I was walking in the "asian products' aisle.

I am always surprised when I get these types of comments (1-2 x a month), but my first reaction is to feel sorry for people saying that, thinking it's sad they did not get the education I had a chance to have, and that they've never been exposed to diversity and they must be stuck in a very sad world.

###### AITA for not answering these types of comments?
Should I be more offended and say something? Does my lack of intervention makes me part of the whole racism problem? ######

Response:
 NTA. And you sound like the most awesome person ever.

In a way, I can relate. I have a daughter with Down Syndrome. She gets lots of stares, and more than a few awkward comments. I can usually tell from body language and expression if someone is being cruel or just well-meaning clueless. ######


Prompt:
i’m 22 years old and in graduate school. my only i come is from part time stipend as a graduate assistant. i don’t have a car, and i’m currently saving towards that as well as dental and optometry work. in order to save, i severally cut down on my food/fun allowance. i live on a very strict budget and after a year of saving i finally half about $2000 saved up.

my dad asked me for money saying that he is in debt and people are on his neck. he doesn’t plan to return the money. for some reason he thinks i’m well off because i don’t complain about my hardships even though i’ve made several comments on my facebook and to him directly about how i desperately need a car because i’m in a small town with no transportation, i don’t live close to family and i have no way of getting around. i also have medical expenses that need to be covered.

he has these ways of guilt tripping me or making me seem selfish when i deny his request. and i know that the requests will never stop coming. for example my sister who is 26, has about 1000$ in savings because she’s constantly helping out. i’m still in grad school. all my mates have their parents paying for their car and healthcare, while i have to save tooth and nail to make it through and save for my needs.

am i an asshole for denying to help my dad, even though i have $2000 in savings but i desperately need that money for my expenses? i did offer him $50 and i wonder if that was disrespectful? ######

Response: NTA. And you might want to think about making a few complaints to your dad about your financial situation and hardships. If your dad is in debt with "people on his neck," it's not like he's in debt from buying too many groceries. He's got to deal with the consequences of his actions, and it's not up to you to bail him out. Don't feel guilty. Do not, under any circumstances, let your dad know that you have savings built up. Your financial situation isn't something you want to be discussing with your dad, as it doesn't sound like it's a safe topic. ######


Prompt:
My husband and I have been together for more than 10 years. He is an alcoholic that has only recently admitted his problem and stopped drinking.

For years he would not acknowledge the problem. He went to rehab once, one state away. He came home early because he "didn't actually have a problem ". Years of him passing out, puking everywhere, hiding vodka around the house, lying about drinking lead to him spending the night in his car after I kicked him out.

About three months ago, he didn't come home from work. I called and texted and got no response. I grabbed the kids and drove to the store to get dinner, and happened to find him. Dear hubby was parked on the side of the road, car running, passed out in the driver's seat, with 4 bottles of open alcohol in the seat next to him. After waking him up and taking him home, I left to my parents house with the kids.

He started going to AA. He looked into getting a sponsor. He stopped drinking. He apologized. The kids and I moved back home. Coronavirus happened. AA is shut down. He came home from work today, and he smelled (slightly) of alcohol.

I told him he smelled like alcohol and asked why. He began yelling at me. He called me names, told me I was trying to control him. He called me fat, and told me he didn't live me. When I started to cry, he asked if he hurt my feelings and I said yes. He responded "Good. I want you to feel the way I do."

I don't know if ITA. On one hand he has lied to me about 10,000 about drinking, so my question may be justified. On the other hand, he has been doing great with not drinking during isolation. He made it sound like I broke his heart when I asked why he smelled like alcohol. He felt accused and distrusted . I feel terrible for causing him to feel that way, but at the same time, u feel like my question was justified given his history. AITA for not trusting him? ######

Response: NTA. And with a reaction like that, I think you were probably correct in your assumption that he was drinking again. He needs to have a conversation with his sponsor asap.  If you have the sponsors information, you might want to give him or her a call and ask them to get in touch with your husband and explain what happened. ######


Prompt:
(Reposted and edited due to previous issues)

Yesterday, while I (19F) was on a walk with my little brother (10M) and I told him that he has ADHD. My parents got him diagnosed last year and while they have been making efforts to help succeed in school, they get mad at him for exhibiting textbook symptoms of ADHD. I moved away for college last fall and haven't seen the full scope of things, but since I've moved back home, my parents have been yelling at my brother for not being able to finish tasks, calling him stupid, and grounding him for weeks over trivial issues. I talked to my brother about it and he's told me that while I'm away the yelling is more frequent. I decided that I would give him an explanation behind what was going on, mainly because I feel like he deserves to know, and it would explain things to him, rather that keep him thinking that "mom and dad hate me and I don't know why". I explained to him that having ADHD doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes your thinking process a bit different.

Fast forward to today,  and while I was out on a walk, my brother confided  to our parents about what  we talked about on our walk yesterday. My dad told me that I was selfish for telling him and undermining their parenting and yelled at me for half an hour, and my mom won't come out of her room to even talk to me. So AITA?

TLDR; I told my brother that he has ADHD after my parents have been mistreating him because of his symptoms. ######

Response: NTA. and when honestly your parents decided to BE parents they should’ve considered that their children aren’t going to be perfect ######


Prompt:
Im on mobile.

Me(F15)
Mom(F36)- “Mom”
Stepdad(M34)- SD

 So i’m visiting my mom this week (my dad has full custody and i just visit my mom sometimes) and it’s that time of the month. I’ll try not to go into too many details but basically yeah i dispose of everything the way it needs to be disposed so i didn’t think there would be a problem.

My mom came up to me last night and said i made my stepdad “uncomfortable” for “making him look at my feminine products”. i instantly got embarrassed and told her i’ve always made sure i disposed of everything properly. Then she says, “oh no, not the thing itself but the wrapper” Which confused because like, it’s a wrapper? I’m a 15 year old girl, sorry i have a period?

She asked if i could start throwing it away in the garage trash so he wouldn’t have to see it in the bathroom trash. we have 3 BATHROOMS. One in their room, one in the hall upstairs, and one in the hall downstairs, i always use the one downstairs because my room is in the basement. If he doesn’t want to see it he can use one of the two other bathrooms. I told her i wasn’t gonna stuff my trash in my pocket and walk to the garage just because he can’t handle looking at a wrapper. She claims i’m being ridiculous and stubborn and that he shouldn’t have to walk upstairs anytime he’s in the living room just because i won’t throw my trash in a different place. I told her he can get over it.

AITA?

TL;DR: my stepdad is apparently uncomfortable with my feminine product wrapper and refuses to use one of the other two bathrooms we have so my mom is forcing me to throw my trash in the garage. ######

Response: NTA. And we can all see there's a good reason your dad got full custody. ######


Prompt:
My wife (30F) just gave birth to our first baby boy. Her father, 70M, often says the n word and is just in generally not very accepting of the black community. He has gotten so much worse in the past week with all of the current events: throwing the n word around left and right and just being discriminatory. I guess that this is just the “old generation” but nonetheless that is completely a dealbreaker for me.

I have put up with family gatherings with him for our entire relationship. If it was my father I’d cut him off immediately but I can’t make that decision for her so I keep my peace. I have told him I don’t like the word respectfully but he just keeps doing it. I’m old enough to make to decisions, my child is just born and will absorb what is around him.

I told my wife I do not want him around our son unless he refuses to say the word. He says he will say whatever he wants because he’s 70 years old and my wife agrees and thinks I am being controlling. I think I have good morals and want what is best for my kid. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. And no, it’s not a generational thing. Lots of people from that generation know not to say it. 70s is not that old anymore. ######


Prompt:
Loaned niece $1000 for her wedding expenses a few years ago; my sister asked for the loan on her behalf because she was too proud/shy... but when I said yes niece thanked me profusely. Niece has never paid any of it back, but sister paid just over half of it for her until I said STOP because it's not her debt (my sister barely makes ends meet).
FFWD to now; no family get togethers lately due to COVID, so no bday gift (usually a card with around $100) for niece back in March. After recently dropping off a gift at sister's for another family member, niece tells her mother "Oh, well, Uncle didn't get me anything for my bday".
I admit that I still think about the money owed -not hurting for it, but just the principle of the thing and that I feel taken for granted ...miffed that not even an attempt has been made by her to pay ANY of it back. So I was thinking 'fuck it' and would skip her $ present this year (maybe she would subtly get why, perhaps?). I'm pretty annoyed that she would bring it up to her mother like that; she is 25 years old now! However, in the interest of not causing a rift with my sister (or possibly the rest of the family), I am debating giving her belated birthday $ at the next family function... thoughts? ######

Response:
 NtA. And no gift.

Make sure your niece knows why, though.

Are you positive she knows it was a loan and not a gift? Because if she knew then she should pay back the full $1000, with your sister being paid back as well. ######


Prompt: So I bought some of my moms favourite food for mother's day. We were eating together when my sister took the last peice of cake(which was meant for my mom) and I said don't eat that. She responded by stating that 'why do I care what she eats' and I proceed to tell her I paid for the food and it's meant for mom. She started ranting about how unfair it was and I'm not letting her eat in peace and stormed off . My mom also supported her stating that I should not have said anything and let her eat the cake (it was her favourite raspberry cheesecake). Aita? ######

Response:
 Nta. And it’s a typical mom
Respond of I won’t eat it so my children do. And your sis is an ass for not saving a piece for your mom when your the one that paid for it. Maybe next time just cut out a piece for your mom, put it in the fridge with your moms name. Out of site out of mind thing. ######


Prompt:
I work remotely (all the time, not just because of COVID-19). I make over two-thirds of our household income and am generally really busy during working hours. My husband is currently “working from home”, but his job is such that he doesn’t have to actually do anything. He’s been sleeping until noon, playing video games, smoking weed, and going out to do fun things with friends.

A lot of mornings I’ll be at my computer working and he will come in and want me to take a “sex break”. I don’t like doing this - I’m only a few months into my job and some of my responsibilities are time sensitive. I also struggle to enjoy sex when I know I should be doing something else so it would end up as me providing sex for him (which is not uncommon in our relationship, really). I usually tell him I’m working and then he will watch me and if I do so much as look at my phone while I’m waiting for something at work he will say something like “oh you’re soooo busy” and get grouchy.

I’m really, really annoyed by this and have told him that I can’t just fuck off from my job to have sex with him. I’ll offer to have sex later when I get off work, but by then he’s usually off fishing or high. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. And it really sounds like your husband should stop acting like a child. If he want's to have sex, he should wait until you're in the mood and not get high.

Edit: this honestly reads like any Seth Rogen movie :D Tell your husband to get his shit together. ######


Prompt:
My parents are both working and that leaves me in charge of my 3 younger brothers, its not that bad and my only responsibility is to basically make sure they don't burn down the house and make lunch and sometimes dinner. I was making this stew thing that was sitting in a crock pot close to all day. I made enough so that my parents could have some when they returned. I put the stew in a pot and put it on the dining table. My brother who is the oldest of the 3 is 11 and can dish them up cause I had to go back and finish my essay for school.

I finished the paper and when I was gonna go get a bowl cause I was hungry the older 2 were wrestling or something and accidentally knocked over the whole pot of stew. We have a dog so even if I could just eat the meat it had dog hair all over it. It was discouraging that all the work I put into it just for it to be knocked over cause they weren't aware of their surroundings. I think I maybe TA here: I said in a loud voice but I wasn't yelling "Are you 2 fucking serious? You guys are almost in middle school and still don't know your fucking  surroundings? Come on you both KNOW better, get out of the kitchen you'll just make it worse." They had a face that just said that they think I'm crazy for getting mad at them and that they don't feel bad.

I thought it was all done and I was in my room when my mom came home. I guess my youngest brother (9yo) didn't like me cussing and told my mom. She took away my phone for 3 days cause cussing at my little brothers is a big no-no and that I could have just cleaned it up without being mean to them. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. And if your mother is going to take away you for phone for cussing them out then don't look after them anymore. You were doing your parents a favour by babysitting your siblings, they disrespected you, and YOU are the one punished? It seems like this is all on their terms, not yours. If you are to be treated like a child, then you shouldn't be expected to be an adult and babysit them. ######


Prompt:
I know the title seems bad but bare with me.

Last February my grandad passed away, he lived with my grandma and my aunt and he used to be the person they both relied on heavily. After his passing my grandma kinda gave up in life and stopped eating, sleeping and such, it got so bad that she started having hallucinations where she saw “little girls asking for food”.

We decided to bring her to a doctor who diagnosed her with severe depression and a mild senile dementia and prescribed some medication for them.

My family for various cultural reasons think that either you are completely sane or you should be confined in a mental hospital, there is no inbetween.

Once back home after a couple of days I checked in with my aunt to see if the medication started working or if there was any side effects we should worry about and she told me not to worry. At the end of the week I checked again and to my surprise grandma was getting worse, I asked my aunt what happened and the told me they were not gonna give her the medication since grandma “was not mad” and “just needed family support”.

At this point I decided to go every morning and evening to eat with her and help out, I prepared breakfast and dinner for her and following the papers the doctor gave us I slipped the medication into her food.

After a week or week and a half we started to see some progress, less hallucinations, she started to eat and sleep more by her own will...

My family saying that thanks to the family support she got better and that medicine wasn’t at all needed and how this proved she was not “mad”. I got fed up with the bs and told everyone what I had done.

All hell broke loose and I was banned from grandma’s house and everyone stopped talking to me for being the one who said my grandma was “mad” (never said so, just said she needed help). AITA? ######

Response: NTA. And if they continue to deny her medications, you need to involve adult protective services to intervene. ######