Prompt: Needless to say, I've bee dating this girl for a month and granted sometimes she likes to dress a little tomboyish every now and then but she lives an hour away and when she gets ready to leave my place to head home, I always find her putting on one of my outfits and trying to wear it when she heads home and I'm not just talking a shirt, I'm talking a shirt, pants, underwear, hat, etc, etc. Just last week she started to put on my belt and when I saw her I told her please not to use my belt because it's $40 and I use it every day because I only have the one. Well, guess what, she still wore it without me knowing and I have yet to see my belt back and he acts like when I bring this up that I'm so inconsiderate and she's going to bring it back and try to make me feel bad for being upset about her wearing my stuff when she shouldn't be touching it at all especially if she hasn't even asked if she can. Like when I found her wearing the whole outfit I kinda snapped and just asked her in what part of the world is it okay to put on someone else clothes without even asking and just start wear it when you leave to head back home and think there's nothing wrong with it and its okay. So when I snapped a little-told her a simple rule that I was taught growing up is #If it's not yours then don't touch it. Especially if you haven't even asked if you could touch/use/borrow the item that's not even yours in the first place." Well after gave her think a small bit of advice she started acting like a smart ass and saying sorry, just sorry for trying to look good for a job interview that I have. Sorry. (The outfit she was wearing what a untuck Buttondown with pink flamingos and levis boot cut khakis. That didn't even look interview worthy) So am I the Asshole. ######

Response:
 NTA

Run from this kleptomaniac as fast as you can. ######


Prompt:
This seems like a straightforward YTA kind of thread.

See the thing is I turned 21 when everything was in lockdown. It was a bummer but I get it. My close friend (26f) and I had this plan to visit the city, reserve a nice room and celebrate and postpone it. It was suppose to be next week then my friend announced she'll probably get her  period next week, so we have to cancel.

That seems odd, right? Well my friend can, but refuses to wear tampons. They make her feel immoral. One of the big activities was visiting a water theme park but if she gets her period, she can't go swim. Again, no matter what she'll refuse to wear a tampon even for an hour.

This sort of irked me because whenever we plan a trip for her birthday she makes sure she books the room during the earlier days of the month to avoid this problem. For my trip she booked it on a later week. She says simply we can just reschedule, because she gets weeks off, but for me my work isn't that easy. I need to put my request in at least 2 months in advance. I also take care of my ill grandma and had to pull some strings to make sure my sister would be her caretaker these days.

My friend seems to have no care about any of this. I've told her we could just skip the park but she says that's what she's looking forward to the most. I'm upset and stressed right now and I don't know if I have a right to be. I know it's not something controllable but she's often so aware of this and it feels like she put all my concern on the backburner. ######

Response:
 NTA

Ruining the whole trip because your 26yr old friend is too disappointed that she won't be able to go to the water park? I know it can be easier said than done, but I'd try and get a new friend. Preferably one with a mental age older than 12. ######


Prompt:
Sorry it’s a long one!!

I’ve worked in front of house and restaurant/bar jobs for years now and I’m good at what I do, I always try to be polite and organised and get on well with customers. I was 17 at the time of this.
But, a few years ago I was working in a country pub which was always especially busy on Sundays, we would regularly have over 70 tables per shift.
I was front of house one week where we had a Christening party of 50 coming in for a meal- booked in at 1pm. To cater to this I made sure I didn’t take any book in’s around that time and sat no one in that section of the pub. However, it came to 1pm and no one had arrived from the party, time went on and it was 2pm- I decided to try calling the numbers they had given me and left voice mails. It was then 4pm and still no one had arrived or contacted us about the book in after we had called them multiple times at this point.
As we were so busy it was rediculous to keep a whole section of the restaurant unused and made me look unprofessional turning people away saying we had nowhere to sit them. I called the Christening party a final time at 5pm and told them they had missed their booking and began seating people in the Christening section.
At 5:30 almost 30 cars arrived and people started filing in saying they were a part of the party and trying to shove past me saying how they needed to be seated. I then had to stop all of them saying how they had missed their booking and there was no way I could seat them now. This was met with screaming abuse from the mother and I’m assuming her mother too (which were both Karen’s in case you were wondering). They were shouting how they had booked this months in advance and I should’ve held their tables even if they were a bit late and I should kick everyone out of the section they were meant to be sitting in.
I simply told them they could wait in our bar area till a section is clear or they could go home but I wasn’t going to kick people out.
WITA?? ######

Response:
 NTA

Restaurant in Germany are only required to hold your reservation for 15 min past the booked time. I don’t know the policy where you are from but four fucking and half hours is way way to late to still insist on a reservation. ######


Prompt:
Me and my boyfriend, both 21, have been together for about a year. I was visiting him when we went into lockdown so I’ve been staying with him and his family. For the most part I really get on with them, his parents have made some disapproving comments about me but I’ve enjoyed it here for the most part.

This coming Sunday the local church will be hosting its usual mass, and with my boyfriends parents being extremely religious, are obviously going. I’ve never ever been to church, and was brought up told to choose my religion (or none at all) when I was old enough. My boyfriend isn’t that religious either, but goes to keep his mum happy. I told him I didn’t want to go because in all honesty I think it’d just make me uncomfortable, and he told me it was just an hour of my life and to just go and “sit pretty”, which kind of pissed me off. I’ve been through a lot in my life and, although I greatly respect religions and religious people, I don’t believe in it at all.

He told his mum and it’s started some kind of war in this house, with my boyfriends younger brother saying he’s not going if I’m not. I was never rude about any of it at all. His mum is saying I’m not of the same “social status” as his family and he therefore shouldn’t be with me. My boyfriend is pissed at me saying I should’ve just went along with it to keep the peace. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Religion is a personal thing. You believe what you believe.

Noone has the right to demand another person goes and "sits pretty".

In my book, anyone who judges someone's "social status" as a reason to look down on them is not a true Christian anyway.

They want you to play a part. In short, to be someone that you aren't. They should be ashamed and you should decide if you really want any of these people in your life long term. ######


Prompt:
Recently my sister and her husband just had another baby. In the past they have been very clear about not posting pictures of their kids on social media. When they texted the extended family to announce the birth, they added a couple of picture and asked no pictures be put on social media.
Well today. Scrolling Facebook I saw my aunt had posted one of the pictures of the baby along with it’s full name, birthdate, height and weight. This aunt has posted pictures of the kids in the past, but I’m not sure if the parents have discussed this more with her or not. The parent don’t have any social media so they won’t find out about the post unless someone tells them. I also feel it’s important to know that her Facebook is public, so anyone can see the photo, not just her friend list.

So WIBTA if I told the parents? I feel they should know but I know my aunt will be upset if she finds out I told on her, and there’s a good chance she would find out. ######

Response:
 NTA

Reguardless of if this aunt heard of or knew the rules the parent(s) of the child should be informed.

It doesn't nesisarily need to be anything brutal; just a kind reminder and a request for a takedown of said photo and information.

If the aunt then refuses, do as you see fit. Pretty sure you can just report it to facebook and the reasoning behind it and it should be able to be removed. ######


Prompt:
Seven years ago, my biological sperm donor cheated on my mother with a college aged girl that was like two years older than me. I cut him out of my life, went FULL no contact since he was a real bastard and I found it incredibly creepy that he was now "dating" someone that was basically my age. I haven't kept up with his life, I made it really clear to everyone in my family at the time, I want nothing to do with him and if they wanted me to still come to family things on my dad's side, that was my condition.

Everyone respected my boundaries, until recently.

Turns out, Sperm Donor got married to his 25 yr old GF, and had a kid. But surprise, surprise, their massive age gap relationship wasn't all roses and they got divorced pretty quickly later. Not my problem, but now ex-Wife is getting remarried and gave Sperm Donor full custody over their 5 yr old. Sperm Donor was a pretty shitty parent with us, so unsurprisingly, I doubt he's too keen to be a single dad at near 60.

Here's the problem. Gran and Auntie want me to "develop a relationship" with the five year old half sibling. It's still my "blood" apparently. I want nothing to do with his midlife crisis lovechild, and neither does my brother. And honestly, to me, it feels like Sperm Donor is just trying to get free babysitting/weasel his way into our lives again. I've lived through seven years without him, and I'm happy to die this way. I'm thirty now, I have no interest in getting to know my five year old sister.

Am I the Asshole for refusing to get in contact with her? ######

Response:
 NTA

rather an absent sibling than a sibling who can’t help the hate the harbor for how they came to life. ######


Prompt:
Backstory:

My (16F) dad and mom (both 37F&40M) got a divorce two years ago because my father cheated on my mother, her (the mistress) and my dad got married two months after my parents got a divorce.

My parents have joint custody of me and my siblings (17M & 16M (my twin brother), we’re all close and decided we wanted to visit our father, his wife and her kids (16&15F, the father passed) every two weeks since it was either that or we’d have to spend our holidays with them (mother’s orders) which we all didn’t want.

I don’t like the two teenage girls and neither do my brothers, they’ve called us the n word multiple times (our dad is Italian while our mom is black, my stepsisters&stepmom are white), usually stay out late, smoke etc.

Story:

We were at my dad’s house, my brother (twin) and I were playing video games in the living room, my stepsister (16) wanted to watch tv even though she has a tv in her room, we told her to give us half an hour since we hadn’t been playing for long, my stepsister called us both ‘ghetto n——‘ out of nowhere and my stepmother came downstairs to ask what happened.

I explained to her what happened and she told me “Anna (random name), I’ve talked to you about this, stop being weak.”

I asked her if my stepsister would be getting a consequence and she told me no because I was being weak, then added “for a black girl”.

I responded by saying, “I’m weak yet you don’t have enough respect for yourself to leave a man who forgot to tell you he had a wife and kids.” since she wasn’t aware my father had a family while he was cheating with her.

She went ballistic and my brother (17) who had just woken up had to hold her back, I feel kind of guilty but I also don’t.

Now I’m waiting for my dad to get home.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Racism is never excused and it's clear where the step daughter got her attitude from.

Please keep us updated on what your father says. ######


Prompt:
About six months ago I installed security cameras on my property. One indoors to monitor the baby's room and three outdoors: one facing the porch, one my backyard, and one my rear door. I have a hot tub by the rear door.

Having cameras facing front door or porch is pretty typical, right? People use Ring doorbells or what-have-you and don't think anything of it. Because I thought this was fairly standard for 2020, I didn't tell my friends. Whenever I entertained guests, it was always indoors where the only camera is somewhere a guest would never go. Something I should mention is I *never* let guests use my hot tub.

Back in February I had to leave town for a few days and asked a friend to visit and let my dog out and feed her a few times a time. My friend lives only a block away and I compensated her for her time. Unbeknownst to me until two weeks ago, apparently she used my hot tub. Not just her, but two friends of hers did as well. And, they decided to hot tub without clothing.

If it's not obvious, I don't check my cameras often unless there's a reason to. Neighbour told me the day prior that he saw someone get dropped off at my house while I went to do groceries, go into the backyard and then leave. So I wanted to see what they did.

So I have footage of a friend with two other women changing in front of my hot tub, hot tubbing for an hour or so, then leaving. I told my friend that I wish she had asked permission before using my hot tub and told her what I saw and she freaked out calling me a pervert. She says it's my responsibility to tell people I have cameras around my property, even if their usage is benign.

She wants to file charges against me for voyeurism. Sure, I watched the clip but only to see the extent of it and I deleted it after I was done with it. I counter that her friends were trespassing and I didn't permit use of my hot tub to begin with.

Am I the asshole in this situation? ######

Response:
 NTA

quite correctly, they were trespassing. Pretty sure you don't have to tell people that aren't supposed to use the facilities about the cameras. Different case if you allowed people to use your hot tub. But you don't. ######


Prompt:
I (30f) took on full support of my step-daughter (16f) about 2 years ago. We get no help from her actual mother in any way because laws are complicated. Up until 2 years ago I would have said her mother, her father and myself had a shockingly good working relationship regarding my daughter. Then 2 years ago we got a call from a concerned friend that caused us to take my daughter full time.

Since then it has come to light they were hiding that her mother is an alcoholic, that her mother let her friends and boyfriends abuse my daughter emotional and physically, and that she was spending all of our child support on boyfriends while telling friends we were doing nothing for my daughter at all.

A couple weeks ago my daughter overheard my husband and I upset that her mother had claimed our daughter on her taxes even though she didn’t spend a single night sleeping in her house. Since then my daughter has decided she can ask her mother for all kinds of toys and such because her mother “owes her 4 thousand dollars of support.” I have discussed with her that manipulating people and using people is very wrong, but she says her mother deserves it. I can’t say I don’t agree, but I am concerned that I am just very angry with her. So I am turning to a third party. Am I the asshole for not stepping in for forcefully and making my daughter treat her mother better?

Edit: My daughter does have a therapist but it has been interrupted by covid-19 as she refuses phone therapy. We are doing our best until everything opens up again. ######

Response:
 NTA

Please get therapy for this girl, to help her deal with the abuse.

Perhaps you should check with an accountant, too, and also r/legaladvice.  If there is any way to fix the taxes, go for it.  Since the child was living with you, why didn't you and your DH claim her also?  If so, then the IRS would have straightened it out. ######


Prompt:
I've just come home from spending a long weekend with my family for the first time since the pandemic. I usually go see them once a month but for obvious reasons I haven't been there since Feb.
Now, for some back story. I come from a single parent household. It's always been my mum, my sister(20f) and I(24f).
Ever since I can remember, I've always been the fat sister. My younger sister has always been beautiful and fit and I have always been compared to her.
A while back I went into a bit of a rough time with depression and I gained a lot of weight. Since the lockdown started I have been dieting and exercising, I have been really happy and have set myself a goal to be on my healthy weight by August next year, everything is going according to plan, I have told my family this but they still insist on making me feel like "the fat one" even though there are so many other aspects of me as a person, I feel like I will never be anything more than "the fat one" I came home and my mum (who is very religious) started sending me bible quotes and telling me that I clearly don't love myself, and that I'm going to die of a heart attack soon.
While my sister spent the whole weekend shaming me for every single bite I took.
After my mum's messages I told her that I loved her but I was going to take a step back from them as I felt like the whole dynamic is turning very toxic and I can feel myself slipping back into that depressed person that I worked so hard to put behind. So I left the family group chat and now everyone is angry at me. They say they are only looking out for me but I can't help but think that's just not the case. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Please don't make the mistake of thinking because you were raised by a single parent, they are then owed gratitude in the form tolerating their abuse.

Your family is toxic, and it's plain as day to me that they don't respect you. They may respect life choices you make, or a path you are on (career), but they don't respect *you*.

Don't give them the ultimatum of the boundaries. Put them up. If they can't respect the boundaries you set, then you may have to ask yourself if you aren't better off without them. Especially if they can so easily push you back into depression. ######


Prompt:
For Mother’s Day this year I decided to give my mother plane tickets to japan (her home country) for us to go on a girls trip together. I thought this was a nice gesture, since she loves going visiting japan. We never really go on girls trip and since I could actually afford to pay for it myself I thought it would be a nice experience. My mom was so overjoyed and excited to go! She hated that I spent so much money on her, but she loved the gift.

However, my dad was not happy about this.

I once mentioned my plan to give her the tickets to him prior and he said that it was a great idea. However on the day of he got extremely upset and when I confronted him about it he told me that I shouldn’t plan things with my mom without his approval. According to him, when I mentioned to him about my plans, he thought that he could go to. He was angry that he was not included in our mother-daughter girls trip. On Mother’s Day, during the confrontation he claimed “What about me? What am I going to do?”. He then claimed that it was him that married my mom and not me and then proceeded to ignore the both of us the rest of the day.

Today, I learned from my mom that my dad forbade her from going on the trip with me. When I asked my mother why she didn’t stand up to him she replied with “I really wanna go on this trip with you, but I don’t want to disobey your father”. She has decided that though she wants to go on the trip, she cannot go unless she has permission from my father.

I have a great relationship with both my parents and I’m not completely sure of why my dad is acting this way. I don’t like how my mom is treated like his property instead of his wife and needs “permission” to do the things she wants. But that’s their marriage and that’s how she decided she wanted to be treated so I can’t do anything about that.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Please be sure to give your dad a nice, thoughtful gift of NOTHING for father's day.

No wait, give him a bill for any money you lose because your mom "isn't allowed" to go. (Nonrefundable tickets, etc.)

What a selfish, horrible man. ######


Prompt: My girlfriend is pretty pissed at me. She likes playing Tiktok videos out loud on her phone constantly. It is honestly a really big petpeeve of mine when people play videos out loud on their phone, I can't really explain why. It just always feels obnoxious. I asked her if she could wear headphones or earbuds or play it somewhere else. She felt this was unfair, and that I was being controlling. To me it felt like a simple compromise. I know this doesnt seem like an important issue, but it caused a big argument. Am I being unfair by letting my petpeeve get in the way of her entertainment, or should she consider my sanity when playing videos out loud? ######

Response:
 NTA

Playing *anything* loudly on one’s phone is obnoxious, especially if it’s bothering others. If you have space, could either she or you go into another room? Either that, or she needs to use headphones. ######


Prompt:
I’m getting married in exactly 8 months. My mother is very excited, I’m the first daughter out of 5 to get married.

My grandmother, my mother, my aunt and my cousin all wore the same wedding dress, unaltered, not tailored, just the same dress. It looked beautiful on all of them because they’re all beautiful women, but I don’t have an interest in wearing it. It’s not my style and I would feel bad altering it to make it more my style.

When I got engaged, my mother was so excited that i was gonna wear her dress, and freaked out when I told her I wasn’t going to. She told me I breaking tradition and it was bad luck, but told me I can’t alter it, so I’m kind of stuck in a corner. I decided I was going to wear the dress of my choosing but wear her veil. That was not good enough for her and she won’t talk to me about wedding things because it “breaks her heart”

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Perhaps you could wear it for a photo shoot with your mom or maternal relatives? It could be like a lovely reunion with photos and a special thing as you all age. That might make your mom chill a little. Even the least controlling moms can get a little nutty when you marry- you’re growing up and changing and that can be suddenly hard. She might be feeling a bit rejected. She will get over it. ######


Prompt:
So a few days ago, one of my friends (who lives less than a half a mile away from me) sent me a picture of the sky because it was super dark. And here is the ensuring conversation verbatim:

Friend: it's going to storm really bad
Me: I don't think it'll be that bad but I'm still excited
F: dude go fuck yourself
M: ???
F: it's rude to be excited for storms because they give other people really bad anxiety and panic attacks (goes on to divert conversation to book they're reading)

And I'm confused because they know I absolutely love storms and find solace in them. Even when there are tornadoes sirens going off, I enjoy them. I am aware that my friend doesn't enjoy storms but should that really stop me from even talking about my love for them? ######

Response:
 NTA

People have anxiety about everything. If you weren't able to enjoy things that gave other people anxiety, no one would be able to enjoy anything.

Lots of people like storms. Nature is cool ######


Prompt:
I've been running for a few years, but have had a bad time health-wise this year (not the C-thing). Because my fitness has declined further than I like, I've gone back to the beginning of a Couch To 5k programme to build myself back up, using an app on my phone to guide me.

A part of this is intervals, e.g. repeating a pattern of running and walking as prompted by audio cues from the app. Last week was 60 seconds of walking with 15 seconds of running.

Someone who was sharing the outside space with me seemed to think I could do better, and that I wanted his instruction/encouragement to get 'better'. He matched my pace and was telling me to "keep going" and "you can run longer than that".

I told him "thanks, but I'm doing c25k". Then the next time, "I'm doing intervals." After the third time I snapped and went "piss off and leave me alone already".

Apparently that made me an "ungrateful bitch" (which he yelled at me again today), but he at least fucked off. AITA for phrasing it the way I did? ######

Response:
 NTA

On  a personal level that's just creepy to start running alongside a stranger and encouraging them. You politely tried to decline this person and they kept on you, no need to keep up the niceties then.

Also as an athlete, it's so strange that he assumed to know your training plan without asking you, and that he could train you better than you could train yourself. In general when you see someone working out, you never know their level of fitness and how this particular exercise integrates into a larger training plan. I remember once I joined a new running club, and everyone was much faster than me. I ran with the only woman who was running my pace and said something like "its so nice to meet someone my pace, everyone here is so fit." She replied with something to the effect of "yeah I'm happy to run with you, but I'm not always going this pace, I just finished a 200+ mile race this weekend so I'm taking an easy day." Its rude to assume you know how someone should be training without even talking to them, this guy definitely over stepped those boundaries, and then didn't respect you when you made yourself clear. ######


Prompt:
On Twitter a video originally posted on tik tok has gone viral of a man building his wife a coffee table. In the video the wife says how she wanted a expensive coffee table but the husband says he will just build it for her.

I liked 2 retweets of the video. The first one says “I want a bob the builder a** husband” and the second one was “men forever asking can we cook, can y’all do this?” because UHM who wouldn’t want a husband who can build coffee tables?!

Here’s the issue! My boyfriend saw that i liked those tweets and accused me of wanting another man who can build me coffee tables. My response was “.... can you not build stuff?” because i thought he was really good at those things. He told me that i didn’t like those tweets because of him and told me to go find a “bob the builder a** dude” since i wanted someone else.

He said i liked the tweets because of the guy in the video.... i’m super confused because the guy is literally building his WIFE a table and i thought it was super cute too! I think every girl whether or not she has a boyfriend would love a husband who can build things. That doesn’t mean she wants someone that isn’t her boyfriend.

He has now blocked me and called me a hoe. So, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Oh, snap!  He blocked you and CALLED YOU A HO, and you’re not describing him as your EX-boyfriend?  Girl, you better think long and hard about whether to pump the brakes on your relationship with this jealous, insecure little boy.

That’s the kind of guy that develops into a woman-beater ... be careful, for real. ######


Prompt:
I don't know how to feel about this situation so I'm turning to internet strangers who at least won't know my name if I am the asshole in this situation.

My husband and I have 2 kids. Because we both work in healthcare there's an increased chance we could both die in the current situation. We decided to update our will and decide our children's guardian. My brother lives in the same city as us with his wife and knows our kids the best of all our close relatives.

I asked him to be our children's guardian if both of us die.

He replied, "Whoa, that's a pretty big ask. "

I said, " I know. Obviously take some time to think and discuss with Ann. We would definitely be leaving money for the kids' needs, but they know you two the best. If we both die, we don't want them in foster care and we want them to be with thd people that know them best."

He immediately replied he didn't need more time and definitely wouldn't be able to take them. I said ok and stopped the conversation there,  but I was upset. I understand it's a lot to ask, but isn't that what family is for? To back you up when things go seriously wrong?

I didn't bring this up again with him. A week ago , he calls me and asks for a significant amount of money. Because of the current situation he and his wife are out of work and they have a lot of loans and other bills to pay. We couldn't give them this amount of money without dipping into our savings.  Normally I would have bit the bullet and after discussing with my husband given  him as much as we could. But now that I know that if things get bad for us, he won't be there to help me, I'm not really motivated to help. He got angry at me and accused me of refusing only because he wouldn't take guardianship of the kids. I told him that now that I know that there may not be any back up if something happens to us, I don't think it's a good idea for us to make ourselves financially unstable too. He hung up and I haven't bothered to call him since. ######

Response:
 NTA

Now in brothers defense, it is possible he refused for good reasons, like he knows how unstable he and his wife are with money (I am actually facing the same problem with SIL).  But your kids have to come first.  Setting them up with enough money to be safe and secure is where your priorities have to lie.  If your brother is willing to end a relationship just because you wont lend him money one time, then that is on him not you. ######


Prompt:
22F and 24F

Best friend of 9+ years. I live in NYC and she lives elsewhere.

She wants to move to NYC because she hates her current city and job. She is depressed and her mental health is suffering.

She would need to sign our lease (3 bed) by June 1 to be our third roommate for a Jul 1st move in. The landlord said since she is the 3rd roommate, she doesn’t have to meet income requirements since we both do.

I told her I will not let her live with us unless she has a job. I trust her but that is simply a huge risk. We are about to go into a huge recession and moving to one of the most expensive cities in the country with a few grand in savings and no job is simply reckless.

She is upset with me. AITA for telling my depressed friend she cant be my roommate? ######

Response:
 NTA

Nothing tears friendships apart faster than money. Don't put yourself in a situation where that can easily happen. ######


Prompt:
I (15f) am getting tired of my sister (20) constantly stealing my stuff, mostly my art supplies. My supplies was a couple of pallets and paint brushes, I paid for all of these myself, I don’t have a job yet so it’s hard for me to buy new supplies so I use my supplies cautiously.

It started when I was using my paint supplies on a project that I had to finish. My sister was playing with my niece. I left to go to the bathroom and feed my cat and when I came back, she stole one of my pallets and excessively stacked paint all over it. She was also using my most delicate/expensive paint brushes. I quickly grabbed the paint brush away and I got pissed off and yelled at her for grabbing my stuff. She quickly tried to make me a bad person for “ruining her bonding time” with her niece (even though she was the one painting and not my niece).

I left to go clean up my brushes and when I came back, she started painting that same pallet on top of my project and let my niece use a sheet of paper to paint. This time, she took out her own box of paints and brushes. She used her own brushes for her and my niece, but continued to use my paints.

I took away my stuff and put them in my box and my sister tried to make me the bad person by saying that “niece just wanted paint” and “I wouldn’t let niece use my stuff”.
I would have gladly let them paint with my pallets if they just asked, but they didn’t

Note: my sister has her own money to be able to buy her own stuff and has 3x more supplies than I do. ######

Response:
 NTA

Nothing is worse than someone purposely taking something precious from you when they have plenty of their own. Your sister is just being an entitled mooch and is trying to gaslight you into feeling guilty about it.

She is trying to play the niece card and it's BS. Ask her why it's so important that the niece use *your* supplies when your sister could just as easily provide her own supplies for this oh-so-important "bonding" moment.

Also, if she keeps this up, go rummaging through her supplies and do the same back. See how she likes that. Tell her that since it's okay for her to use your supplies, it must be okay for you to use hers. ######


Prompt:
So I get a snap from him, saying he “missed me”. I admit, I shouldn’t have been so rude because I said, “Miss me? You never talked to me and when you did you were insulting me or my appearance” And he said “I’m sorry if I hurt you” which is one of my pet peeves. And he kept pressing me asking me to forgive him and how he’s trying to be a better person. So I just proceeded to write a big ass paragraph about how I never wanted to be associated with him and I told him to never reach out to me again, then I promptly blocked him. I know this was high school, but shit like bullying sticks with you. My self-esteem was at an all time low when he picked on me. He was one of the main reasons I had to switch schools in the first place. So AITA?

Edit: fuck it I got more to say. When I left that school I graduated with straight A’s, got involved in local theatre productions and I’m happy with the way I turned out. I’m not about to bring that guy back in my life

Edit 2: Ngl, this ordeal reminds me of that Tom and Jerry episode where Tom can’t go to heaven unless Jerry forgives him. ######

Response:
 NTA

Not only is he not entitled to forgiveness, but even if you do find a way to forgive him, he is not entitled to any sort of relationship. You have moved on, and he should, too. ######


Prompt:
My(23F) brother(28) is dating this guy(20). He told me and our parents about it a year ago. I was kinda weirded out about the age difference but they’re both adults so I didn’t say anything.

I visited my brother often and I got close with his boyfriend too, we became good friends. Last time I visited them(this was few months ago before all this stuff was happening by the way),my brother wasn’t home, so me and his boyfriend were hanging out. I was on his laptop and going through the photos, I wasn’t snooping, he was sitting right next to me, doing something.

I came across an old photo of him and my brother. He looked reaally young. I asked him about it and at first he kind of freaked out, but he finally told me that they’ve been dating for longer than they told us. He told me that they have been seeing each other for 6 years. So he was  14 and my brother was 22.

I was really shocked and disgusted. I left, he called me few times but I ignored it. Few hours later my brother started calling me. I answered and told him that I was disgusted with him and I didn’t want to see him anymore. He said that they weren’t even really dating and they started dating when he was 18, basically bullshiting me.

I’ve cut him off completely. Only person who knows the actual reason is my best friend. She says that I’m kinda overreacting and since they’re both adults now there’s no point in having this reaction. ######

Response:
 NTA

Not gonna lie, if my adult brother hooked up with a kid, I'd have a similar reaction. ######


Prompt:
yea yea i know we’re all sick of leg shaving posts here but i need a second opinion.

i’m currently living with my dad for various reasons after not living with him for a few years. he’s been dropping hints the past day or two that he wants me to shave my legs (ex. commenting on it, offering me a fresh razor) but i don’t want to for various reasons like razor burn. and also we’re not going anywhere where i’d show my legs so why does it matter?

today when i got out of the shower he asked me if i finally shaved my legs and i said no. he said that he thought my legs were “unsightly” (i have dark thick hair and pale skin so i admit the hair does show up quite a bit). i told him about razor burn and ingrown hairs. he replied that “i’ve never met a woman before who didn’t shave their legs”. i answered that most women do not shave their legs when they don’t need to for the aforementioned reasons. he just repeated the same thing. then i started to get mad and i said “i don’t like seeing your arm hair but i don’t ask you to shave it so why do you keep asking me” and he said “don’t get on my case”.

i was really upset at this point, because it felt like he was valuing his aesthetic preference over my comfort. i told him that and once again he said i’m the only girl he’s ever seen who doesn’t shave my legs. i went to my room and now i’m sitting here alone, and i wonder if i was too harsh on him or could i have explained it better. he sounded really exasperated which admittedly made me more upset so i was yelling a bit. maybe i am an asshole but i think he’s one too for not listening to me. i even said “go look online about reasons why women don’t like constantly shaving their legs” and he said “i’m not doing that.” or maybe i’m just making excuses. i don’t know, i’m so frustrated. that’s why i want second opinion(s).

so reddit AITA? and what do i do if i am or am not? ######

Response:
 NTA

Not all women shave their legs and just because your father hasn't met any of them, doesn't make it not true.

Also, your body. You don't have to do anything with your body that you don't want to.

I'd tell your father that you are aware of his preference but it is your body and you will shave your legs if/when you choose to and you'd appreciate it if he'd drop the subject. ######


Prompt:
So, for a bit of context, I’m black and there is a total of one ethnic salon in my town and I had gotten box braids for the spring. The front part of my hair grows pretty quickly so I made appointments before I had the track schedule because they would’ve been full if I hadn’t then and there. One of my appointments was scheduled on a day I had a track meet.

I asked my coach about it and she asked if I could reschedule and I couldn’t, since my lady was fully booked from now until May. I told her that there was one ethnic salon in town and this one specific lady was one of three there and she’s the only one who knows how to deal with my hair texture(both my parents are white) and I actually trust her with touching my hair. She said yeah I could skip I’d just have to make up for it in practice.

Somehow this cake up how I was able to skip and I explained, my most of teammates said I pulled “the race card” on coach but the rest of my teammates agree for the reasons above. It’s hard to find good, reputable hairdressers that I actually want to touch my hair and know how to deal with it.

Was I the AH in this situation or was I at least justified? ######

Response:
 NTA

Not all hairdressers are created equal. ######


Prompt:
So this one surprisingly will be a short post, because if I go to detail I will need at least 20000+ words because I don’t want to give some details and leave out others and also it hurts as fuck to write such a painful story.

Basically my (24f) girlfriend was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer just before quarantine which had spread to almost everywhere and her life expectancy is a year at most, and with her doctors’s help and even after the quarantine we discussed if she would be able to make our travel plan with her condition in around October and the doctor told us there was an 90% chance she could , and we made a perfect plan to make all her checklist and travel dreams come true -which sadly none of which she has yet done-.

But fast forward and I find her phone and find out that she was cheating for about half a year on Mr and the last time she contacted the affair partner was the day of her diagnosis.

When I found out I just confronted her and told her “she deserves this” and left.

She has been calling me daily ever since and begging to make the travel thing -and it makes me really sad to see her like this but still she was cheating for a year and a half on me-

So I dropped all the plans with her and when I told her,  she was absolutely crushed and so was I.

This has been fucking with me ever since.

AITA Reddit?

I’m just so depressed and mentally drained at this point ######

Response:
 NTA

Nobody deserves cancer but your words were said more out of hurt than malice.

I level with you and think you have a right to be happy regardless of you ex's current condition. She showed how little she cares when she cheated, you have every right to care just that much.

To top it off, she seems to care more about her travel checklist than you.

She will be leaving with regrets. ######


Prompt: So my girlfriend's sister has opened an online store selling creams, misc hair products/ jewelry, and prints. I was pretty suspicious of what she is selling as she has a habit of putting the cart before the horse when trying to start up these little businesses of hers (she has a history of creating and abandoning small business ideas). She let me know she orders the cream from a supplier and resells it but claimed to make everything else herself. I've never known her to draw or anything artistic  so I looked into the prints and.. She is simply taking them from another artist online and rebranding it with her name before selling it. I tried to talk to my girlfriend about this who asked her sister but.. She just denied it and insisted its her original work. The artist online I found has been doing this for a while however and her sister only just started selling her goods... Am I the asshole if I alert the artist? ######

Response:
 NTA

No. Not at all. That is someone elses labour she is passing off as her own. She is litrally taking money from that person. ######


Prompt:
My ex girlfriend and I officially ended things this January after a long drawn out break. Things had been on the rocks for a while. We were initially FWB but decided to be serious after about 2.5 years of doing so. The transition to serious relationship didn’t go well and she wanted an open relationship. She insisted it was more for me as she has a low sex drive and didn’t like feeling pressured to sleep with me more now that we were exclusive.

She works as a waitress and everyone knows the situation the world is in right now. While we were a thing i would cover her rent/phone bill and usually some other things because I’m a dumb ass.

Anyways, she’s baffled I no longer want to help her with her bills given the state of things and her career.

I told her that it is no longer my problem if we are not together. She is accusing me of “forcing” her to prostitute herself to me to pay her bills. I told her if that’s how she saw out relationship then it’s best to stay separated.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

No reason to expect you to keep paying her bills when you're not with her anymore. ######


Prompt:
I (21M) have made the decision to go to therapy. I have many issues I need to sort out. This pleased my sister (24F) cos she's been to therapy and talked about so many benefits to it.

So I have many issues I want to sort out. But I want two distinct factors in my therapist:

1) I want a male therapist

2) I want an older male, someone over 50

This is because one of my issues I want to sort is my own issues with my masculinity - what it means to be a man in today's world. I also have "daddy issues" that I need to sort and would feel more comfortable with an older male, rather than someone my own age.

Anyway when I said this my sister said I was an AH and sexist. However she specifically sought out a female therapist so idk why she is having these double standards. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

No point in therapy if you're uncomfortable with your therapist. ######


Prompt:
Given that we are quarantining together, things are really coming to a head. I (24M) am housemates with “Kelly” (25F). I’ll clarify quickly that there’s no romantic connection, Kelly is a friend of my cousin, and we’ve been housemates since we graduated from college. My friend “Kayla” used to live with us too, but she left in March to quarantine with her family.

Now, on to the issue. Kelly grew up in a single parent household, but her biological dad (who she’s never met) is apparently Palestinian. Her mom is white American. Kelly has always been sensitive, for example she blocked my number and social media when I threw away some moldy vegetables she was trying to sprout in a cup. She tends to blow up, calm down, and apologize a few days later.

I’m a big martial arts fan, and I’ve lately gotten into Krav Maga. I practice in our backyard, and I watch videos on my phone. She said she’s offended by it because she’s Palestinian, and I can’t do it anymore. Usually I’d just go to the gym or something, but I don’t have that option because of the Rona.

We got into a big fight, and when we run into each other in the house we don’t even talk. I’m also a minority (my parents are from Honduras) and I honestly just think she’s being too sensitive to something that doesn’t matter. I haven’t stopped practicing.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

No idea why the origin of martial arts would matter. I guess you would be very limited if you were only allowed to use martial arts from Honduras. ######


Prompt:
I will try to not make this too long, also on mobile, blah blah blah.

So yesterday I(13) was making some ballon dinosaurs and I was using scissors to cut the paper, stupidly I left them out last night and went to bed. I am woken up by my step dad throwing open my door and yelling about how I left the scissors out. My first thought was instantly ‘someone is seriously hurt’, but he continues to say “Your sister just cut off all her hair”. He continues to say that I’m and idiot and I am so stupid, I was in shock (kind of) so I don’t recall what he said word for word. He also said “How do you like to be woken up by being called an idiot or stupid” or something like that. I barley got out a word and the he slammed my door so hard my shelf shook.

I have not left my room as of me typing this but she’s a three year old how could she have cut off all of her hair? And how did she? Yes with scissors, but shouldn’t he be watching his kids?

TL;DR: I left some scissors on the kitchen table, my sister got them, cut off “all of her hair” and my step-dad told me by yelling at me and name calling.

So reddit AITA for leaving the scissors out?

Also I might get in serious trouble and can’t get to my phone or laptop meaning I might not reply to comments later today. ######

Response:
 NTA

My older kids have left scissors out before, resulting it a younger sibling cutting their hair.

Do you know what I said to the older kids?

“Ugh, guys! You’ve got to remember to put the scissors away when you’re done. They’re dangerous for little kids. “

Then I got the little sibling’s hair cleaned up. Honestly, on the scale of big deals this is like a 3.

Should you have put them away? Of course! But that doesn’t justify his abuse. ######


Prompt: Husband and I have been struggling financially for a while now. I’ve tried making up a budget that lists our income, expenses, due dates, and balances on credit cards, but he won’t use it. We sold his car to pay off some bills a few months ago, used our tax return to pay off more bills, and I assumed that this stimulus money all went towards bills as well (we have separate bank accounts and I don’t have access to his). Well, today, we got a huge package. I had no idea we ordered anything so I was confused. It was a PS4. He bought a PS4 without even talking to me about it. While I’ve been wanting one for years, they cost so much that I’ve just accepted that I wouldn’t be getting one until they came down in price and we were more stable. I asked him how he paid for it and he said he’d put it on the GameStop credit card (that we had JUST paid off a couple of months ago!). He said it was a combination anniversary gift for me and early birthday present for him. He doesn’t understand why I’m mad because I had said I wanted one. Am I the asshole for being mad that he got it? ######

Response:
 NTA

My mom has this story she tells me: when I was a toddler she and my dad got into a fight over money, as a way to make up he bought her a ruby necklace. She had to pawn it for groceries and it made her even more mad bc of how plainly he showed that he just didn't get it ######


Prompt:
Posting on behalf of my sister (F15). Like a lot of people, she has a first name and a middle name. For the purposes of this post, let’s say her first name is Chloe and her middle name is Rosa. Both names were chosen by our parents. She likes to be called Chloe, and this is what her friends, teachers, extended family etc call her. However, our mother (F53) refuses to call her Chloe, and instead refers to her as Rosa. Our mother will not explain why she does this, and gets angry or goes silent when asked (usually by myself of another family member) to call Chloe by her first name. Chloe doesn’t like to be called Rosa, and has expressed this to our mother, but to no avail.

Chloe doesn’t want to make our mother angry, and feels guilty about asking to be called Chloe as it upsets our mother, so just lets it slide most of the time. I don’t think my sister is the asshole here, but some other opinions would be appreciated, and also opinions on whether we would be assholes if we took this situation further (for instance, if we ignored her every time she refers to Chloe as Rosa, or told her we wouldn’t be helping out around the house until she respects Chloe’s desire to be referred to by her first name?) ######

Response:
 NTA

My little siblings are twins and have very similar names (think Ned and Teddy) and when they were little we started calling one by his middle name because their teachers and friends had started collectively calling both of them their names equivalent of ‘Neddy’. They’re 14 now and go by their proper names and we all respect it because that’s what they prefer.

If your mother wanted Chloe to have her middle name as the first name she should have named her that way in the beginning. Now that you are an adult you can change your name to Princess Banana Hammock for all it matters and she should respect that or find herself ignored until she calls you by your proper/chosen name. ######


Prompt:
So I’m 6 months pregnant and I was talking to my friend who has two kids on the phone today. She asked how I was doing and I mentioned that my feet were really hurting today, and she said I should get my husband to rub them.

I told her that he doesn’t like giving foot rubs, and I usually use a baseball and roll my foot on it. She said something along the lines of “so what if he doesn’t like foot rubs, you’re pregnant, he should be giving them”. I said again he doesn’t like doing it and gets annoyed when I ask too often. He gives them once in a while.

She said to play up how much it hurt, whine all the time about how much my feet hurt, maybe cry when he says no, and she said that’s what she did when her husband didn’t want to give foot rubs. I thought it was sort of manipulative to do that and I said that it’s kind of unhealthy to be doing that kind of thing, either he’s going to do it or not but you shouldn’t be faking pain to have him do it.

She then got mad and said it’s not unhealthy, she was just doing a little harmless acting, and not to judge her relationship when I’m the one complaining about my feet(which she asked how I was doing in the first place).

I told her I didn’t really feel like talking anymore, and she then said I’m not the judge jury and executioner on what a healthy relationship(I don’t know that the phrase really works here but that’s what she said)is and to stop being so self righteous.

I’m wondering if I just should have let it go from the beginning, because she’s not usually so... combative so I think I must have crossed a line. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

My guess is you hit a sore spot there. It IS unhealthy and wrong of her to manipulate (yes, you're right there imo, she was manipulating him) her husband into giving her footrubs. You calling her out on that made her so uncomfortable she lashed out. You've done nothing wrong. ######


Prompt:
So these idiot roommates of mine, both of them, make a point of leaving the door unlocked, despite the shitty neighborhood we live in, because...

- ratchet social etiquette? Who are we to not put our complete trust in the degenerates and/or drug addled lunatics around us?

- to avoid the degradation and hassle of using their house keys to enter the house?

- attaching your home key to your car key on some sort of ring or keychain is for “lames”?

My possessions are more exponentially more valuable to me than they are, so essentially in accommodating their hoodrat behavior I would be screwing myself on both ends of the risk/reward spectrum.

So fuck that.

When they do the dumb shit and they come back to find the door locked and I’m either online gaming or in bed, Im in zero rush to stop what I’m doing to be accommodating.

I subscribe to the philosophy of Family Guy’s Spider-Man: “everbody gets one.”

But if you’re not family, if I wouldn’t bleed for you, if I don’t owe you shit you will not make habit of inconveniencing me. Period.

Does that make the asshole?

P.S. for bonus points, one of the roommates is a mother who leaves the door unlocked in the home her daughter frequents. Because that shit’s safe af ######

Response:
 NTA

My freshmen year the same thing happened to me, he ended up complaint and I got my own room. ######


Prompt:
My fiancé and I have been together almost six years. He came to the relationship with a very cute but very spoiled cat he has always indulged. The cat has essentially “trained” him to meet his demands by meowing loudly and being a general pest.

I’ve always been good to his (our, really) pet. Feeding him, scooping litter, affection and play, buying him monthly supplies and even contributing to his medical costs. I’m a good cat mom and he tells me so. Believe me, I care about the furry bastard and his well-being.

So kitty always has access to food and fresh, clean water and a plethora of other creature comforts. Despite this, he will often meow incessantly around 5am and scratch and knock things over because he decides he wants something.

I always give him more dry before bed and check he has what he needs. Doesn’t matter. Sometimes he’ll chomp through all his food, decide he wants a faucet drink or wants his food bowl shaken or he’ll make our lives hell.

TLDR: I’m sick of dealing with this every night. I’ve never had such a demanding cat and have stopped giving into it all the time. If I know he has what he needs, I’m no longer jumping out of bed to “tend” to him.

I tell my fiancé it’s practice for learning how to ignore a child’s tantrum and honestly, he should have been more mindful when he was a kitten/young cat not to reinforce this behavior.

He says ITA but after 30 minutes, the cat finally STFU and he’s sleeping peacefully. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

My cat used to do this, but I had enough of missing sleep from being woken up at 3 AM. Eventually, I got a tambourine so when I heard the meowing, I opened my door and shook it

If you cave, they know it works. They train you. Theyll bother you until you wake up and do what they want. I'll give them what they want during the day, but at night they better leave me be. Now they dont try to wake me up anymore. ######


Prompt:
Long story short, my father has drinking problems - he has been getting drunk every day for 10 years. As his drinking got worse, he had to close his small business and now works as a secretary for a smaller wage. Everything he earns goes on alcohol and smoking and so does my mom's money which she gives him to drink.

Until I have moved out, they have lived entirely on my monthly scholarship which is less than 250 euros and expected me to pay bills and buy them food after wasting their money on this addiction (mom never drinks, but refuses to break up). After I moved out, mom had emotional meltdowns every day. Now that I am jobless, I have to live again with them. Since she had no money to pay the bills, the municipality has threatened to cut the electricity off. It's very unsure whether I will live here for 1 more month or 12 more months. I may pay the bills this month because I need Internet connection to attend college, but can I live this life forever? Can THEY live this life forever, avoiding being responsible humans? I have talked to them several times, but it leads to nothing. They have a very fatalistic view on life and think everything is meant to be this way because it's their destiny.

 She thinks the same as most people her age in my country, that children, regardless of age, have to give parents financial aid because they have raised them for so many years. If my parents were jobless I would gladly give them financial aid, but since they work and spend father decides to be an alcoholic and my mom sacrifices her needs for my amazing father, it angers me that they choose to avoid their responsibilities and expect me to be their saviour my entire life. ######

Response:
 NTA

My advice: help them pay the bills while your there so no drama happens and so you can keep going to college.

Once you leave cut help. She can pay the bills if she doesn’t give him the money for booze. She has the power to have a better life. And so does he. ######


Prompt: I(16m) live with my dad and grandfather. My older brother lived with us until he turned 18 last year and moved it to our moms. My dad and grandfather make me go to bed at 8pm and also take my phone and every electronic regardless if they bought it for me or not. I also do all the daily and weekly house chores(Dishes, mowing the lawn, vacuuming the house, etc) and I’m tired of doing it and having my stuff taken. My dad was upset when my brother moved out because they did the same thing to him until he left and my dad doesn’t want me to move out at 18. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Move out and start living your life as an adult ######


Prompt:
My ex wife and I got divorced because she was cheating on me. We had one child, my daughter who is now 3. We got the divorce finalized in January and she voluntarily gave me full custody.

We haven’t been in contact since. I didn’t block her because I wasn’t planning on preventing her from being part of my daughters life if she changed her mind. Today she texted me that it would have been nice to hear from me for Mother’s Day. I responded that she’s not really a mother, she just gave birth. She got pissed off and she blocked me. I feel like I perhaps shouldn’t have said that and I went too far, but at the same time she cheated and I don’t really feel bad.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Mother’s Day is to celebrate and show appreciation for moms. You’re not wrong. Giving birth doesn’t make you a mother. Actually being a mother is what makes you a mother. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account.

For my grandmother's birthday I made her a triple layer chocolate cake. I spent all day looking for every ingredient so I could make it special and from scratch, because of how many layers it had it took me a few hours to make. When the cake was done I was proud of my work (I'm not the best cook) and I thought it was pretty good besides being a bit on the dry side. But hey I really did try to make it good.

Soon as I show it to her she begins to criticize everything about it saying I should have done it this way and I should have done it like this instead. She told me every single thing I did wrong with making it then saying that she should've made it.

Honestly I was hurt by what she said because I really thought it wasn't that bad. My family thinks that I HAVE to make her another one because of how bad of a gift it was and that it was an awful cake. I really don't want to do it again but everyone is making me feel awful about it for not doing it and I feel inclined like I have to do it. So, Reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

MOST EMPHATICALLY *NTA!!!!* Never waste your time on ungrateful recipients. They will *never* be happy. Grandma sounds like a piece of work. I'll bet there are a lot of other things she constantly criticizes and she's got everyone under her thumb. Don't cater to her. It'll never end. It'll never be good enough.

Just tell her that you obviously aren't a good enough cook to suit her and that you'll give someone else the opportunity to bake her a cake. ######


Prompt:
I been married to my wonderful wife for about two years. I have a college age daughter and she has two high school age children.

I struggled with addiction throughout my late twenties and early thirties. I did many rehabs and detox centers. This is no secret, many people know about my downward spiral.

I got my life in order and still receive services such as therapy, medication and meetings. I’ve been clean and sober for years and was able to finish college and start a business.

I returned to my hometown and reconnected with my high school love. She is divorced. She knows about my past and she understands. Eventually the ex husband found out we were dating and told her family about me. Her family was not pleased at all. Her ex and her family tried to discourage her from seeing me. He told his children and they refused to live with us when we got married. They would bully my daughter and say horrible things about me. I was disinvited from their high school events and family reunions.

My daughter is very bright and is attending a private Ivy League school. I am paying for her tuition and assisting her with her finances.

My wives oldest is graduation from school and has her hopes in attending the same university as my daughter. Her grandparents approached me without my wife knowing and asked if I would support my step daughter with tuition. Her father and grandparents say they can’t afford to help her out. They mentioned that “she is my daughter too” and I have an obligation to help since we are all “family”.

I stated that since finances are tight maybe she can start at a community college and for her to get a job to help with expenses. I stated also I can’t help since I’m already paying for my daughter’s school.

Her grandparents were livid. My wife doesn’t know about this. I just don’t feel like shelling out thousands of dollars to get my wive’s family approval. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Mixed families are tough business.  Every family is different and whatever your situation.

You’ve been married for two years, it’s not like you saw these two girls grow up at step sisters and you were father figure to them since they were babies or young children.

This is for your wife, her ex husband and her side of the family to solve for.

Does your wife support your daughters education?  Will her parents provide funds for your daughter?  What are family finance like right now, are you already supporting them majority of the way? ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend and I are both 29 and his sister is 18. Well we live in a 2 bedroom apartment with our 1 year old and in the same complex his mother lives with his sister. We used to take her to school and most days she would ditch and not go. They baby her so much, she doesn't clean after her self and she doesn't even know how to cook. She has been spending the night because her mother is an alcoholic and she gets hostile and kicks her out. She has a boyfriend that is 21 and is a pain in the ass. He is loud and obnoxious, always trying to show off and very delusional. He is obsessive over her so he is always coming over and stays the night sometimes also. He rides a motorcycle and he parks near our door and always revving his engine being super loud. He doesn't treat her good and I hear them fighting over the phone a lot. They stay all day watching netflix, making a mess, bringing random friends over, and her bf is just fucking annoying (nobody likes him). Two days ago I told them to go somewhere so I can clean the whole apartment and they got butthurt and they haven't came over.

I am pissed cause my bf wants her to move in with us. I am an adult with a child and I want my own place. I need my privacy. I want to be able to get out the shower in a towel and not have her bf there on the couch like he lives there and having to clean up after them cause I know my bf is gonna keep on babying her. ######

Response:
 NTA

Maybe your boyfriend should clean up after them for a while, so he can put his money where his mouth is. ######


Prompt:
I am (30F) and my boyfriend is (32M). He is white and originally from England. I am originally from Mexico. My identity is indigenous Mexican as both sides of my family’a descendants have been in Mexico for a long time. As far as my boyfriend knows, both sides of his family have been in England for centuries with some ancestors coming from Europe but his ancestry is predominantly white European.

Anyway, we’re both working from home and he thought it would be fun to trace his family history. He got really far back and it confirmed what he already knew that his ancestors were white European and cake form other countries to settle in England. He was excited as he got to see where his ancestors came from.

I decided to do the same. I learnt that generations of my family are indigenous Mexicans and that I had some mix from South America. I managed to track one line all the way back to the Inca Empire. I tried to go as far back as I could in my Mexican line to see if maybe it extended to the Maya but it was too far back to succeed. Anyway, I thought it was really cool to learn that some of my ancestors came from the Inca Empire and went to Mexico.

Well, my boyfriend took this information and started explaining European colonisation to me. I told him I already know what it was and why my Incan ancestors came to Mexico. It was presumably because the empire fell. He didn’t listen to me and said that I didn’t understand my family history and where my cultural beginnings came from and basically explained it to me as if I had no idea what he was telling me. I got really irritated and told him “I don’t need you explaining to me about my cultural background. I’m not stupid.”

I walked away in a huff and my boyfriend said he was just trying to help me “understand” my ancestry. He said I was an AH for mildly snapping at him and maybe I could have said things nicer. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Maybe later he can explain to you what it's like to have a period. ######


Prompt:
I (m17) have a fungal infection around inner thigh and genital area. I apply my anti-fungal cream before I fall asleep. Because of lockdown my step-sister's University closed and she (19) moved back in the house. Her Mac's charger broke, and recently she has been using my charger. After having dinner she left her laptop in my room to charge and we watched an episode of Witcher in Netflix together and then I went to bed.

As usual I started to apply my anti fungal cream around my genital. I usually get erection while rubbing the cream. Suddenly my step-sister walks in(without knocking) and I froze like a deer caught in headlights, with an erection and pants down. My step-sister screamed and my parents came and she told that I made her feel uncomfortable. In my defense I said I was applying anti fungal cream and she should have knocked. Now, my parents want me to apologize to my step-sister and promise that it won't happen again. I have refused to apologize because it was her fault for not respecting my privacy.

So, AITA for not apologizing to my step-sister when she caught me with an erection and pants down.

PS: sorry in advance if there are any typos, typing from mobile ######

Response:
 NTA

Maybe do a passive aggressive apology. “I’m sorry you opened my closed door and walked into my room without knocking and found me applying antifungal cream to my genitals.”

Edited:

Well, this blew up, lol. And my first award! Thank you! ######


Prompt:
It's another day at my gym where I work out everyday, The customer service  there is excellent the atmosphere is really good and even the drinks  don't disappoint even though I carry water with me all the time.

However there was this incident that started on February, it carried on for 3 exhausting days. You can get your own personal trainer you obviously  know what that means you can also receive a massage from him if you wish  to pay. He massaged me for several sessions and I became close pals  with him however one guy took a photo out of context as he was passing  by the locker rooms (because that's where the massage takes place) Took a  photo where I wasn't wearing a bra and the personal trainer was looking  away. I didn't notice the photo being taken as I was looking the other way

He then tried to frame it as "She flashed her breasts at him that's a harassment" The photo was  blurry so the managers believed he was pulling it out of his ass. The  manager then came up to me the other day told me about it I audibly  gasped, the dude who framed it was at the gym at the time and I went up to his face and almost had a breakdown on him. we shortly got seperated and I filled a report at him for being unprofessional and that he harassed me.

He got banned from ever having a subscription to that gym ever again, the  managers asked other women about this and if he tried to frame them as  well but they explained that it didn't happen but his behavior was  off-putting compared to other guys, he wasn't sociable sometimes glanced  at a few asses but he wasn't "Alarming" according to their experience

I  thought about it day after day, we even joke about it now, but AITA from getting him banned in the first place, could he actually saw it as a coincidence or did he had a gripe with Women.

Also I'm just friends with the masseuse for now, I'm single and 30 years old. (He's 32) ######

Response:
 NTA

Management made the right call and I'm surprised you even feel the need to ask. This person completely violated you by taking a photograph of you, without your knowledge or consent, in a state of undress. That would get ANYONE barred from a gym, and so it should. You did the right thing by alerting the gym to this predatory behaviour and removing a person who is obviously a threat to other gym members. I'm sorry you went through this. ######


Prompt:
My mom died when I was 13 years old and
My dad remarried when I was 15
His new wife and stepsons. Was the boss
Anything and everything he will do it
I no longer was his son, or problems
They made fun of me , was always giving everything by my own father. He takes them out to any restaurant and buy them anything
I was the outsider  this go on for 3 more years and I left for college and in college every year he will take his new family on vacation and always  tell me he   paying for your my college.

I'm now 28 years old and have a high paying job plus $640,000 the bank

My father call me in February telling me how he got $30,000 in hospital fee left to pay from his surgery and is having problems paying the it off and said no I don't have the money why don't you ask your stepsons. He said son
Yours stepbrother are 19 and 15 please understand that and you and your wife have jobs and plus your in laws help you a lot with your sons. Please help, I just cut the call

He call me every week and wife and in law
about me helping him

My wife think I'm unreasonable because I got all this money in my account and can't help my dad

I tell her , he made me feel like a outsider and put his new family first and never look back for me and he spends a lot of money on them and I'm not helping him

Am i the Asshole ######

Response:
 NTA

Lots of these replies are about you reaching out to your dad and finding out why he treated you so bad. You know you are just a reminder of your mother. And for that pain your dad avoided and shunned you.

You have every right to tell him what a jerk he was to you and how badly he treated you and how he is a disgrace to all fathers out there. Hell, to all humans.

To your wife.. please tell her this isn’t about mending a simple broken fence this was your father systematically treating you less than family. He treated you less than a dirty sock on the side of the road.

You can contact that hospital and pay on or all of that bill if you want. (Don’t give him the money). I’d cut him off for a long time and explain to your wife that you want not part of him or that family in your life. I mean your step mom never spoke up for you? F her too.

Please get therapy just to help you and your wife understand how his actions can have repercussions for you later.

Good luck ######


Prompt:
Yesterday morning my girlfriend was being pouty and generally sour. When I asked her what was wrong she said that she was upset because I had not cooked her breakfast or brought her flowers or any of the things I do for her birthday or our anniversary.

Befuddled, I asked why I would do any of those things for mother's day, as we have no children? She thought that because we have two dogs she qualifies for mothers day. I laughed and told her that until she has a human child she doesn't qualify for mother's day. I had sent cards and flowers to my mother and grandmother so I guess she was expecting some too? She's still upset about it this morning.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

LOL what?! I have two dogs as well and felt silly when someone told me "Happy Furmother's Day" - That's a bit much if she was *that* upset with expecting this sort of treatment with owning dogs..... ######


Prompt:
We've been going out just over 3 years and are 29 and 30.

He makes significantly more than me (3x my wages) And recently got a massive £700 bonus which is more than my regular wages are. (I'm looking for a new job before anyone says) I'm not interested in having any of his money, we split dates 50/50, but there have been things happen where he's displayed kind of odd behaviour which comes across as selfish and something happened last night.

We were hanging out at his, he has a lot of beer in the house (3 crates and lots of other special bottles)  I was going to go to the shop to get some and he said, "Nah it's raining, you can buy some off me." And I actually had to pay him £5 for 4 cans of Carling (cheap beer which would have been about £5 in the shop.)

The thing is, if it was the other way around I know I would've just given him beer and not thought about money at all. I would definitely not 'sell' him beer. Even if I was poor. When friends/family come to mine I just give them drinks if they want them. I buy my bf treats too, I bought him a video game this month and have one in mind to buy him when he's finished it. He's bought me stuff in the past but as I said that doesn't matter I don't care about getting stuff, I just thought the drink thing was super stingy. It's not the money it's the notion. For example if he had said nothing and I'd gone to the shop and paid that would have been fine.

AITA for being annoyed that he made me pay for them?

TL:DR: My bf who is on 3x my wages and recently got massive bonus made me give him £5 for a few beers and I know I wouldn't have 'charged' him if it was the other way around. ######

Response:
 NTA

Lmao you’ve been together for 3 years and he charged you for a few beers? Wtf kind of cheap bs is that ######


Prompt:
so i come from a very traditional muslim family in turkey and since i'm 17 now my family started to put a lot of pressure about getting married bla bla. i'm closeted and my parents are super homophobic and religious. so today randomly the idea of having kids was brought up.

i accidentally told that i won't have any which sent my mom to a breakdown. she started shouting at me cause she won't have grandchildren, calling me selfish. (i didn't talk ab adoption cause she is really against it for some reason?)

whatever i shouted hat she was the one being selfish and that it's my life & i get to choose what i do (that was the safest thing to say without outing myself) she started crying and called me ungrateful. i was pretty confident that i was right but then my sister (who knows i'm gay) and she told me that i acter irresponsible and hurt her feelings?

so am i the asshole for making my mum cry just by telling her i won't have kids ######

Response:
 NTA

Listen closely. You didn’t make your mother cry.

Her inability to accept you as an individual who makes different choices than her is what made her cry when you shared part of your valid and wonderful choices for yourself.

Your mother is choosing her traditions and prejudices over the happiness of her own child and using emotional upset as a bargaining tool to manipulate you into behaving how she wishes, at least on the outside.

You will have to decide how much you want to hold back and not share so you don’t have to deal with family uproar, and how much you want to shine a light and illuminate your family’s dysfunctional emotional behavior.

You aren’t an asshole for saying or choosing what you like.

But it might be more diplomatic to say you went to the doctor who said children aren’t possible, if you are really serious about a childfree life, or adopting in the future. ######


Prompt:
I've been with my gf for a while and we are both 16. Her parents keep asking me to tell my gf to do things. Like they'll tell me to tell her she needs to study, finish her homework, eat less junk food, go on her phone less, wake up earlier, etc. The first few times I told my gf "your parents told me to tell you x" and she would just complain about her parents being annoying. We started joking around about me being her parent and I'd jokingly say things like "take out the trash young woman" or "go to your room".

Her parents kept asking me to tell my gf things. I usually didn't even bring up to my gf what her parents are saying after a while. Then they'd call or text and ask if I told her and if I can ask her again as she still isn't doing what they want. I told them " I'm her partner not her boss. I'm not going to try to parent her. If I'm worried about her I'll talk to her privately but I'm not going to monitor stuff like if she is sleeping in late or not studying enough. It isn't my job to do that." They called me disrespectful and said I should be looking out for my gf. ######

Response:
 NTA

Like you said, it's not your job, it's theirs. Her parents are super creepy. ######


Prompt: So this happned a few months ago but my brother still wont talk to me about it. Basically here's the story, I moved away for college and obviously school is expensive so like most students I was struggling financially. One of my classmates who I got along with worked at a strip club and told me I should try it out because the money is good and she could recommend me. Fast forward a bit and I'm working at the club, money is great, hours are nice and best of all it's basically paying for my schooling and then some. I ended up telling my brother this one day and he went on to tell our mom that I work as a waitress which is whatever. Except that since then she kept talking about how they should come visit me and stop by the restaurant I work at, my brother kept making up excuses why they shouldn't do that and finally I had enough of playing this game of pretend and just told her. My mom wasn't thrilled but she seems to be more understanding. My brother though was furious with me and basically has not spoken to me since then. So AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Like Missy Elliot said, “... just stay ahead of the game”.

I’ve known a few strippers (I was a late night cook for years in Vegas). Smart women. You do you. Just stay safe. ######


Prompt:
So, that’s is a throwaway, the fact I’m gay has nothing to do with the story, English isn’t my native language, and I’m on my phone.

Let’s get to the actual story; and introduce the characters. Salvi is my boyfriend, mom is my mother, dad is my father, Marie is my sister, I’m 20, as is Salvi.

So, as a child, my mother was hyper-conscious about my weight. It translates into me being on diets from the age of seven. As an early teenager, I struggled with an eating disorder, and the road to recovery has been a messy one. At the age of 18, I decided to move out with my boyfriend, and we lived in our own apartment. Note: my father wasn’t really okay with the diets, but he never opposes my mother, which has causes tensions.

Okay, so my parents house is being sold, so they asked if they can stay at mine until they find a new place, and I agreed. That was two months ago.

Like three days in, my mother started commenting about how I had gained weight, and that I should eat less, and it’s been making me feel worse, and worse, and I’m starting to enter old habits. I’ve tried to tell my mother that I am an adult, I can know what to eat, to no avail.

Last night, after a certain remark, I snapped, and told my mother that she could either stop fucking remarking, or she could leave (and by extension my dad), and it escalated into a huge argument, and they both left to my sister’s.

My sister called me up to tell me that I was an asshole for how I handled the situation, and that I should apologise, and that my mother just shows love in weird ways.

Salvi will support me either way, but he prefers they don’t come here.

So Reddit !! AITA for snapping at my mom? ######

Response:
 NTA

Let me get this straight - you're graciously letting them stay at your place for two months and she's been bitching at you since day 3?

Not only were you right to put her in her place, but I would absolutely would stick with not letting them stay if she continues her toxic behavior. ######


Prompt:
when i confronted him about this, he said i was overreacting, and that "ive changed" because honestly, i used to think it was funny, and im embarrassed of myself. luckily, ive learned and grew as a person.

and he also defended it by saying "its not in bad context, and its not hurting anyone", and i personally think the context doesnt matter. i tried telling him that saying rasict and Homophobic slurs isnt funny and you shouldn't say them, but he said i tried "pushing my agenda on him".

so i would just like to know, AITA for confronting him and saying its wrong, or am i overreacting? ######

Response:
 NTA

Leave that group. Don’t be part of that chat group. ######


Prompt:
Okay, so, this is an ongoing thing now dating back to my pregnancy with our baby (1). My husband likes to leave and go do his own thing, which is fine; he needs a break. Parenting is hard and we already have a 5 year old.

The problems:
-the day after we brought our baby home from a very traumatic birth (I hemorrhaged and almost died) my husband left to go to the next town over and was gone for hours.

-I had postpartum depression. He constantly left me home by myself with both of our kids for hours. He was never affectionate and just acted like he didn’t like me and our family anymore.

-he lied to me. A lot.

-he still leaves to go do things on his own for hours at a time. He offers to take us sometimes but our baby can’t hang out that long and he knows it, but he isn’t willing to leave when he’s tired and he also won’t carry the baby (25 lbs) so I have to hold him for hours while standing up.

-he says he can’t watch the kids for me to do anything on my own. The few times he has had our baby, the baby acts like he doesn’t know who he is, for good reason. He only knows his mom and brother honestly. I’ve caught him being too rough with the baby before too. He also pops him already which I do NOT think he’s old enough for.

-I haven’t even got to take a shower by myself in a year. I always have to bring the baby in with me.

So we occasionally argue about this stuff because sometimes I bring it up and it makes him feel bad so he leaves. AITA for being upset and bringing it up to him? ######

Response:
 NTA

LEAVE HIS SORRY ENTITLED BUTT.

This guy left you for hours after a traumatic birth where you could have died.

He lies.

He refuses to watch the kids for you to get a break, while he continuously gets to.

Your baby barely knows him.

Its basically like you are already a single parent anyways.

This way he will be forced to be a parent and take care of them on his own. ######


Prompt:
Residential zoned area, less than .5 acre property, zoning ordinance  limits max of 4 dogs, noise ordinance specific for dogs.

 Neighbor moved in with 3 dogs, now has 11 (all ages, diff breeds).  Dogs barking from 5am-11:30pm.

 We told her nicely about the noise but she refuses to do anything.  Smell from feces is unbearable.

We filed complaint with Zoning Dept.  Neighbor now is mad that she has to give up some of her dogs.

Are we assholes because we don't want a 'kennel' next door to our home with 11 dogs that bark constantly all day? ######

Response:
 NTA

Keeping the dogs in that condition ("Smell from feces is unbearable.") is animal abuse.

You did the right thing. ######


Prompt:
Last night I was watching a bad movie with some friends and acquaintances on discord. We were making fun of it and at one point this Arab stereotype popped up on screen. One guy started making racist Muslim jokes directed at me cause I am. I laughed it off and said [don’t care, plus you’re white](https://youtu.be/ZboBh58wdFg) suddenly he said “don’t send that shit. It’s fucked up” I asked how and he got mad because he said people always send him that shit online because he’s white. He then went on a stupid rant about straight white dudes get shit on the hardest and blamed for everything. I didn’t feel like arguing so I just said “did someone accidentally put pepper on your boiled chicken sandwich” he then left the call. It’s weird why he got offended when he’s made worse racist jokes in the past about me and I thought it was funny.

Was I the asshole ######

Response:
 NTA

Keep sending him white boy memes until his white boy brain explodes. ######


Prompt:
So a throwaway account and bit of backstory here, bare with me...

I do almost all the cooking in the house, no problems at all as I enjoy doing it. Every weekend we align what time we're eating etc, additionally I give them notice just before, I (usually) set the table and more often than not I'll be sitting at the table waiting for my wife and kids to come while the food gets cold.

Sometimes they really are just coming from a bath or something, but other times its simply a case of they will start doing something else in the last minute (e.g. jump in the pool just before, start a game etc - this time it was unpacking the dishwasher while dinners on the table) - the usual response is "it'll only take a minute"
Well yesterday evening everyone turned up late again, I don't say anything - my son barely touches his dinner then asks my wife if he can have corn chips instead. She goes to get him a bowl of chips (again I don't say anything but am noticeably annoyed) She asks whats wrong, and I say it's very similar to turning up late to dinner, it shows a lack of respect (towards me) for taking the time to prepare a meal than not eating &/or letting it go cold. My daughter was only eating the roast chicken (nothing else) and my wife says that's just as unhealthy - where I return to say that's rubbish.
She then says "of course you're always right, your opinions always correct etc etc" where I then turn and say this isn't fair in front of the kids, I angrily get up - leave the table & meal half eaten and haven't spoken to her since.
I already know this is being picky, but it bothers me as it feels like a lack of respect - Even if it's not that important, I feel if she knows it bothers me then after so much time she would just prioritize it as its important to me.
So I suppose that's it - AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Just start cooking for yourself and leave them all to fend for themselves for a while (assuming your son isn’t like 4 and your wife is totally enabling him).

You’re right, your wife shouldn’t undermine you at dinner either since you cooked. Either way eat what’s made or don’t eat. (Or at least make something yourself) ######


Prompt:
We went over there at least 4 times trying to talk with them in over a year, but the response was always along the lines of “we can make noise from 10 to 10”, and when I asked to keep them in the back so they wouldn’t react to anything that moves, they said “I don’t want to take away their view.”

Now I bought a dog whistle after a year of dealing with two small shrieking dogs that bark at everything.

It clearly didn’t help, so it was a useless attempt, but I heard a neighbor yell, not them, “you can whistle all you want, it’s not gonna help anyway, they did take the dogs inside though and it stopped.

I really don’t know what to make of this, why did they yell that, I took it in a provocative way, but perhaps it was meant differently.

I know it’s hard to ask opinions on something you didn’t experience, but as a whole, I don’t have a clue what it meant.

I also don’t know who yelled it because it but they were other neighbors visiting the owners of the dog.  (They don’t care about social distancing either)

Is that a hostile or an affirmative way of letting me know it won’t do much, it was true, it didn’t.

Am I an asshole for trying to quite the dogs myself this way by buying and using a whistle? (It sure felt that way)

I also yelled at them in the past when I was too frustrated and couldn’t take that as well, but I feel like a knucklehead doing that, I want it to stop, but I don’t want to be a dick either. ######

Response:
 NTA

Just because you don’t have to go out of your way to not annoy your neighbors until 10 doesn’t mean you’re allowed to do anything you want all day every day. If it’s obnoxious, it’s obnoxious and you should call the police and file noise complaints anyway. They shouldn’t be leaving their dogs out all day. ######


Prompt:
My mother left when I (18F) was 9 years old, seemingly never to be heard from again. I was sad about it of course, but not *too* sad as we never got along. She was very cruel to me, and she very obviously favored my brother (20M). She always took his side when we fought, she always wanted to spend time with him and not me. Basically every memory I have of her is her reprimanding me for something.

She has recently... resurfaced. After not hearing from her for nine whole years, I got a phone call. She asked if she could see me and I said no.

Well, I ended up telling my brother and he says I'm being unfair and I should give her chance because she was abused by our father and it's not her fault. I don't know if she was abused (never saw anything suspect) but even if she was, that still doesn't excuse the way she treated me, in my opinion. And she owes me an apology at the very least. Truthfully, I just don't want her in my life. Even if she gave me an apology, I don't want to bother with her. She caused me so much pain, I literally grew up thinking she didn't love me. I kind of still think that tbh, I found out she has been sending letters and birthday cards to my brother the entire time, and not me.

So... AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Its your decision. She left, you dont owe her anything just because you share blood. Toxic people are toxic people family or not. ######


Prompt:
sorry if formatting is weird

So my mother was a middle school teacher and she would tutor this boy who was around 13 or 14 years old. He would come over our house for tutoring.So, they ended up having sex and mom get's pregnant.

At that time, me (19M) and dad didn't know about the affair and thought the baby was dad's. We were with throughout the pregnancy and birth.

How we ended finding out was my mom left her phone at home while she went to the grocery store. A text message popped up and it was a nude photo from the boy she tutored. I ended up going through her phone to see tons of dirty text messages and nude photos between her and the boy.

I showed the pictures and text messages to my dad and needless to say, he was devastated. We decided that we should turn the pictures in to the police for not only the boy but for other future victims as well.

We confronted mom about this and she admitted that she had been sleeping with this kid for a while and the baby wasn't dad's. She begged us not to turn it in to the police but we told her we already did.

A few days later, the school found out and they fired her. The boy's parents got wind of this as well and they are pressing charges. My mom is currantly sitting in jail.

As for Dalton (half brother), I can't look at him the same again. The rest of the family are calling me an asshole for not wanting to be around him and for turning in mom but to me, he will always be a reminder of my mother's infidelity and crime.

So reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Its a lot of emotional shock, and whether you should turn someone in?  If the sexes were reversed here there wouldn't even be a question.  They'd want him locked up and the key thrown away.

As far as your half brother, that's tough, its nothing he did wrong, but its emotional trauma for you.  He's also in shock, the man he though was his father isn't, and his mother is now in jail.  You should see a therapist, but I think cutting off your half brother is a little harsh. ######


Prompt: So this happened a few years ago but I always wonder if I was in the wrong. My brother (21M) and his girlfriend (20F) has been dating less than a year when my fiancé and I started writing our guest list for our wedding. We decided to invite my brother’s girlfriend even though they had only been together for a short time. GF found out I had invited a friend which happened to be a former classmate of hers (this girl was also a fiancée of one my partner’s friends and had been together for 2 years) and asked me to uninvite this girl because this girl was her sworn enemy and apparently she had once been with my brother. I told her that whatever was going on between GF and this girl wasn’t my business and I didn’t want to make things awkward and uninvite her when I didn’t have a problem with her. GF then started accusing me of choosing this girl over her and disrespecting her and although initially my brother didn’t care, he also eventually agreed with his GF and neither of them showed up to my wedding. I was devastated and conflicted on whether I should have just uninvited my friend to keep peace between me, my brother and his GF or whether that would have just been the start of GF making demands and getting her way. ######

Response:
 NTA

Its a day to celebrate your relationship - if divorced parents can put aside years of rivalry/abuse/hatred to be at their kids wedding together, your brother's gf can put aside her petty highschool drama for one day for you ######


Prompt:
So this isn't a big problem but both my mother and brother see me as an ass hole for not sharing my PlayStation with my older brother(22) who used to own his own playstation but sold it when he was stuck for money and every day when wake up he is playing it (shared room) and if I am on it and leave the room for 10minutes or more he goes on it and doesn't even ask not only that but he uses my account instead of his own because he stupidly bought things and won't make his own account because he already bought stuff

     AITA!?? ######

Response:
 NTA

It’s your PlayStation. It’s up to you to decide if you want to share. He’s an adult if he wants one he can buy one. ######


Prompt:
I'm a student who was looking to move to a different room/studio. I found a great place and texted back and forth with the girl who needed to find a new tenant. She told me the room was mine and to send over my info sheet and that the agency would then send me a contract. I sent in my info and qaited for over a week with no response, I kinda concluded that they might have given the contract to someone else.

I look for a new place, found one and signed the contract this Friday. Now the other girl texts me saying it's weird that the agency haven't responded and that she'll swing by their building today. I inform her that I have signed another room since I didn't hear back from the agency. Now her and her sister are acting like I'm the biggest asshole in the world cause they now don't have a tenant for next month. I was always taught that before a contract is signed there is no deal but they seem to think I've broken a promise or something. ######

Response:
 NTA

It’s not your fault or problem that they didn’t follow up, it’s theirs. You’re the client, if they cared they should have ensured you were taken care of. ######