Prompt:
Quick overview - Been together almost 4 years, he lives in my house, didn’t bring much with him when he moved in, hasn’t contributed much to the home in all the time living here (I replace things that have broken/buy new purchases etc.), he is self employed and doesn’t earn a great deal so only contributes a nominal amount towards bills/food etc. We live in the UK.

Because of the pandemic he’s been unable to work and so he didn’t have to worry about finances, I offered to cover any financial outgoings until he can work again.

Recently he received a letter which he unknowingly dropped on the way to file them away. On finding it, I picked it up to take it to his office. I noticed that it was from our governments tax and revenue department stating they had given him a grant of a few thousand pounds owing to being self employed and unable to work. I handed it to him and didn’t mention anything about it.

Several days have passed and he has not told me about this and I continue paying for everything. Whilst I don’t expect him to tell me everything about his finances, considering the situation one would have expected him to say something, offer a gesture of paying towards the household etc. It’s concerning me as to what he is to do with the money considering he hasn’t mentioned it or spoken to me about it.

Thanks for listening and I look forward to hearing what you think of the situation. ######

Response: NTA for being mad that he’s a general freeloader. You’re saying he barely pays for anything even in normal times. Why would him getting the money from freelance work or the government make a difference? ######


Prompt:
Hello! Basically my bf (23m) and I (21f) are having a disagreement about the word c\*nt. He’s been using it more and more lately, to which I have asked him to stop using it so much.

Tonight, we were watching a TV show where he called the character a c\*nt. I asked him to stop using the word so much, and he said “ill take it into consideration but also I enjoy the word. So unless you have a good reason” he’ll keep saying it. I simply responded that it makes me uncomfortable. His response to that was “then don’t be uncomfortable smh.”

His other arguments for using the word c\*nt are 1) that America has freedom of speech, 2) that he shouldn’t have to censor himself, and 3) that me feeling uncomfortable shouldn’t be a reason to stop using the word. While the word was not aimed toward me, that doesn’t make me any less uncomfortable as I feel that it's a word rooted in sexism. AITA? ######

Response: NTA for asking. But you do have to wonder why you are still with someone that doesn't respect your feeling and basically told you "just don't be uncomfortable smh" ######


Prompt:
I was supposed to get married this September, and as an early wedding gift our friend group decided to buy us tickets to a music festival (Shambhala -we’ve gone the past two years but knew with wedding expenses we probably wouldn’t be able to make it work.) I was so excited about the wedding gift I started crying !

Fast forward to choosing vacation in a department I was recently promoted to. We are a small team so vacation time can be tricky, ideally there would be no overlap of people taking time off. My manager is of the mindset that as adults we can figure conflicts out ourselves.

A coworker and I were requesting the same time off. 4 days of overlap. Me for the music festival, and her for family camping. She has done this camping trip with her kids for the past 6 years so I can appreciate that they all look forward to it. Due to corona virus the festival  was postponed to the same week the following year. So now we know over a year in advance that we will both be requesting the same week again.

So reddit, am I the asshole for wanting to book the week of the festival even though my coworker wants it ? I can’t exactly be flexible, these tickets were a really lovely gift. ######

Response:
 NTA for asking to get priority for that weekend in 2021. That gives the co-worker over 1 full year to slightly alter the schedule for her family camping or come up with an alternative solution that would allow you both to be off for the same 4 days.

It is possible that at some point in the intervening months the festival will be completely cancelled (a lot of entertainment events are going to go bankrupt, and additional waves of shut downs are likely going to happen between now and then). But up until that happens, it is not assholish to ask that your 2021 vacation request be accepted over hers.  I agree with you that for something that has a fixed date, you have less ability to be flexible than she apparently does. And even if she is coordinating with lots of other people, she has more than 1 year to do so. ######


Prompt:
AITA for insisting my girlfriend pays the bill for the plumber I had to call after she flushed a tampon down the toilet?

Hi all. I could really use your insight into this situation.

I (21M) had my girlfriend (21F) over last week. We were watching a movie when nature called to her. She excused herself, and I whipped out my phone to browse reddit. I noticed she was in the bathroom for awhile, but I didn't think much of it. Some poops just take awhile.

She came out of the bathroom blushing, and said that she clogged the toilet. No problem, I would just plunge it, and we could get back to the movie. Wrong. Her movement had clogged the toilet completely.

So I called a plumber the next day, and when he snaked the toilet, out came a used tampon. Needless to say, I was livid. I'm a dude, and even I know that you don't flush sanitary products.

When I brought it up to my girlfriend that night, she blamed it on me for not having a garbage can in the bathroom. Now, I'm a dude, so I don't use sanitary products. When I have garbage, like an old toothbrush, I just bring it out to the kitchen garbage. A bathroom garbage just isn't necessary for a man.

I pointed out that there was multiple solutions to this problem. She could have just told me she needed a garbage, and I could've brought her one. If she didn't want me to know, she could have wrapped it in toilet paper and put it in my kitchen garbage. She didn't have an answer for me there.

We're not talking anymore. So reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA for asking her to pay for the plumber. But going forward, go ahead and get that bathroom garbage. Even if you never see Girlfriend again, go ahead and spend that five bucks on a bathroom garbage. Now you know that women need a garbage in the bathroom. I feel like you should have known this already. Regardless, now you definitely know. ######


Prompt:
This happened in March before bars got shut down. It was the night of my staff party. I (25f) had invited my cousin (18f) a month before and she said she will come. Day of she cancelled. So I went with my brother (23) instead. We arrived and were having a good time when she showed up. The event coordinator talked to me about only being allowed one guest. It was embarrassing, but the coordinator let my cousin stay.
It was an open bar, and around 11pm my brother and I were a bit tipsy. Our cousin doesnt drink. She informed me she wanted to come home with me and sleep over.
My brother and I got into a disagreement. We didnt cause a scene or anything. We went to the lobby. I started crying and said I'm leaving. My cousin knew I was leaving. I went to the sidewalk and called a cab. The lobby was all glass so she could see me waiting at the curb. But she was talking to my brother so I assumed she wanted to stay with him.
I got home and fell asleep. The next morning I woke up to angry texts from my sister, my gramma, and my cousins dad accusing me of abandoning my cousin downtown at night. They were mean text messages. She had told them I abandoned her downtown at night.
1. She knew I was leaving and didnt come with me.
2. I waited 15 mins for a cab to come (Friday night) and she never came outside to wait with me.
3. She had money for a cab
4. She was with my brother who lives close to her.
5. There was an underground train station a block away from the bar that would've taken her practically all the way home. Which I understand is dangerous for a young girl at night. See number 3.
6. Her dad is overprotective, and would've 100% picked her up if she asked.
7. If my older sister did this to me when I was 18, none of my family members would care.
She ended up sharing a taxi with my brother. Her dad hasnt spoke to me since this happened and my gramma and sister havent forgiven me. AITA? ######

Response: NTA for all the reasons you listed plus the fact that she’s an adult who can make simple decisions like that. ######


Prompt:
It's been my dream to be a baker for as I can remember. I recently took a chance and applied for an apprenticeship and ended up getting the job. I didn't talk to my so about it because I didn't think I needed to. We have been together for 5 years but we don't live together. As a result of my new hours we haven't been able to spend as much time together and he is starting to pick fights about it. So I want to know am I the asshole for taking the job without talking to him even though I knew my hours would mean we would spend less time together?

Edit: I'm sorry if this is hard to read I'm upset right now. ######

Response: NTA follow your dream. Seeing you had told him to oubhad applied amd had and interview that was the opportunity to consider lifestyle change if successful. Out of curiosity, why are you guys still living separately? If you lived together uou see each other more. ######


Prompt:
My so called friends won’t invite me to their houses or to parties because I don’t drink. I don’t drink alcohol because my father used to be an alcoholic and I have a lot of health problems. I’ve told my friends multiple times that I don’t care if they drink, but I won’t. They will not invite me places because of this and they make up lies saying “I’m scared of alcohol”. I have no desire to drink alcohol, but I would like to be invited to social occasions.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA find a new friend group, they’re assholes ######


Prompt:
So, my fiancée and I were watching a light horror movie. It was The Babysitter. I’m a horror fanatic, and she suggested this movie. It’s not the best movie, but I have been trying to get her into horror.

First of all, I’ve never seen the movie before. When we were watching, I just made a comment on how the black guy is probably going to die first. She said that I was being really racist and that it wasn’t funny. It turns out that I was right. He did infact die first. I just find it to be a pretty funny trope in horror movies. Not that I agree with it, but I was making fun of it existing.

She still won’t accept my reasoning. So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA film student here. That's not even a joke, that's literally just a well established trope of the horror and slasher genre. As in we talk about that in my literal university lectures taught by professors. It's the same as the final girl trope (always having a 'final' girl left to fight the monster etc) or the trope that anyone who has sex in a horror movie has to die. Obviously she didn't understand this, but you weren't being racist. The film trope might be racist in its routes, but you commenting on it is not and its well established ######


Prompt:
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months, recently I’ve noticed we’ve drifted a bit. It’s like I’m always having to start the conversations every time.

For the past 3-4 weeks I have been refusing to do sexual stuff. I’m only 16, I’m not as interested in it as much as he is. And I’ve told him that I don’t want to and I’m not confident. He said he respects my wishes, and I was really happy about that.

He came over yesterday and was of course expecting to get some action when I told him the night before that those things weren’t on my agenda. He didn’t talk to me much when he realized I was serious. I joked with him that if he came over the next day I’d do something for him, he’s currently over right now and is  mad at me. He’s hiding in my closet and my damn house.

I told him that he should stop expecting stuff like that. He responded that he’s mad that I lied to him, cause of the joke. I said he’s being petty and asked him to come out. He refused multiple times.

AITA for lying?

EDIT- I apologized about lying before I posted this. He said he wouldn’t accept my apology. Forgot to mention oops ######

Response: NTA feels like he just wants to use you to get laid, sorry. ######


Prompt:
I (19f) have a nonbinary friend (16m) who I’ve known for years and years, and we’ll call him Corbin. He has become like a little brother to me.

Corbin likes people to rank how much they like something (a movie, food, etc) on a scale of 1-10, or to use an emoji on how they are feeling. Everyone I’ve seen talk to him does this.. except me. He says this helps him comprehend how much they liked or disliked it, or how they’re emotionally feeling. Well he asked me how much I liked a movie I was watching, 1-10, and I said “I liked it”. He then got very upset and told me how I never help him comprehend anything because I don’t do what he asks me. I told him this is because I don’t think in ranked numbers or emoji’s so therefore it’s hard for me to know what to say.

Corbin then says he’s not going to ask me any more questions ever and now is very upset and won’t talk to me.

So. AITA? ######

Response: NTA feelings are complex and can’t always be summarized by a number or an emoji. I also don’t think in terms of rating scales, and I hate when someone asks me to do so. Also, emojis can easily be interpreted in different ways, which defeats the purpose of using them to accurately explain these emotions. That’s part of the reason why so many people have issues communicating via text or email. Tone is hard to convey over written word, and is near impossible to do with a number or icon. I don’t want to call him an AH, but I think pushing someone and not accepting that they communicate differently is both hypocritical of him and rude. ######


Prompt:
Aita for not wanting to live with my “dad”

Sorry for bad formatting
For some background: my mom left my dad when she was pregnant with my brother and i was 1 years old for many reasons. My dad has never been a caring father and i barely know him. He has been abusi ve in the past but not as bad as other kids but still physical ab use. He has a wife and a stepson (13) and two infants. Im 15 and im always blamed when they do anything bad or anything bad happens to my stepbro and biological brother (14)which sucks since they bully me and if i say anything to him about them im a “whiny snitch”.

I have lived with my mom and younger brother all my life but somehow my dad got custody of me for a school year. I was forced to move to a new town and get new friends which is very hard for me and i ended up just being lonely.  And finally this school year ended and i just moved back. My dad never respects my decisions or anything like that. He always trusts fake news and took away my electronic so i wouldnt be a school shooter. When i broke my leg he took away my crutches so i had to jump on one leg for a whole weekend. The only reason i had ever went to his house in the past is because legally they have 50/50 custody.

My grandma asked me if i have enjoyed spending more time with my dad but i was honest and told her no and he isnt even spending time with me i just live there. I woke up to angry text messages from my dad and aunt. My friends tell me that he is my father and that family is family aita? ######

Response: NTA family treats you well and he clearly doesn't. So it's understandable that you don't want to live with him regardless of whether he's your biological father or not ######


Prompt:
My older sister and I are very different. She’s very loud, very “open” and pretty shameless. This is why whenever she comes over to my mom’s apartment (where I am currently living because I had to flee my college housing), she has no problem ripping off her shirt to change or to show us that he boobs are bigger/smaller than the week before (shes 24 and for some reason hasn’t adjusted to the fact that they fluctuate with her cycle I guess??).

I however am a bit more reserved. Because of this, I immediately turn away from my sisters bare tits whenever she whips them out in the middle of the living room. Yes, sometimes I say “[Name], Really?” Or something similar, because it genuinely makes me uncomfortable.

This is not something we grew up doing, either. We had separate rooms and stopped bathing together at an early age. My mom uses the bathroom (#1) with the door open, but only when appropriate and when she’s technically out of direct line of sight. (My sister, on the other hand, will leave the door open in the hallway bathroom where she can be seen, heard, and smelled while taking a fat shit, technically not what im asking about but kinda relevant)

Anyways, so one day she rips off the top, I turn away, she goes off, “We’re all girls! What will you do when you have a kid? When you have to bathe them? Well it makes me feel really shitty when you react like that.”

So, am I being a snob/asshole? This is dumb but its been bugging me... ######

Response: NTA expecting people to wear clothes is fairly normal ######


Prompt:
Alright, so my younger brother is 8, and is still unable to wipe his ass, and my parents don't see it as a problem. My mom went to the store earlier, and my dad was at work. My younger brother calls for me and says he took a shit. I called my mom asking what I should do, and she told me to try to help him, if not do it for him. I really feel uncomfortable touching my brother anywhere down there, or even looking at his privates, so me and my other brothers tried to coach him on how to do it. I might get in trouble if he gets a shit stain in his underwear, too. I've previously gotten into some heat with my dad about this too, as he wanted me to wipe him once, and I refused.

WIBTA for feeling uncomfortable and trying to avoid wiping my elementary aged brother's ass when my parents can't?

EDIT: For those of you asking, my brother has no disabilities, although there has been a rumor here and there about him being really high functioning on the autism spectrum ######

Response: NTA everyone should be wiping their own asses by five. What does he do when he's a t school??? ######


Prompt:
AITAH I told  my husband he was a dick for giving me a workout dvd

Okay, minor AITAH but... I’m 8 months pregnant & we are going thru everything that was in our new nursery.  I(31F) asked him(36M) (husband) to go thru the dvds I:e tooons (those HUGE CD holders) of bootleg movies, porn, past boxing & UFC fights ETC. music too...
but he found a workout (golds gym or something I never signed up for)& he said ‘you might want this’
I called him an asshole (I’m in my 9th month of pregnancy & a little sensitive about my body) but I reacted & he told me it was ‘only for after’ but I was still hurt & I said some mean things ... AITAH? ######

Response: NTA even under normal circumstances that would make someone’s self body reflection plummet into a bad place, it makes you think somethings wrong or that you don’t look good and it’s quite honestly rude under all circumstances unless the person asks for suggestions for workouts. ######


Prompt:
My sister (17) has been sneaking out to meet a boy for the past few days. She snuck out to go to a park near our house  so i was okay with it. I only had to open the door for her when she went out and when she came back but lately she has been staying far too late even after telling me she won’t.
Yesterday, she came in my room and told me she will go to a town near us (about a 20 minute ride) with one of her friends motorcycles, i was not okay with this and told her no but she didn’t listen. I let her out and was really worried about her because of obvious reasons, i texted her multiple times to tell me when she’s coming, she said she’ll be home around 2am. The time comes around and she’s nowhere to be found, i text her again and she says she’ll come back at 4am. I got pissed at her and around 4 i just opened the door and went to take a bath, she came home at 5.
When she came back i told her that i’m mad at her and that i won’t help her sneak out again. She apologized through text.. AITA?

also, i’m ok with her going to the park because basically nothing can happen to her in our really small town and i’m not worried about the boy she’s going with because i know him quite well ######

Response: Nta even if it's a small town anything can happen I used to think that I was invincible in the small quite town I lived in until a man almost kidnapped me walking home at 2am from McDonald's ######


Prompt: So I am 15M I am currently going through a serious depression I have recently started anti depressants and hopefully they will help alongside therapy. My sister who is 21F is a "micro influencer" which is marketing terms for people who have over 50k followers on a platform but don't have enough followers to throw a bunch of money at. Today she made a post on Instagram on her page that has 67k followers saying this. "Somone very close to me who I watched grow into the person they are today is suffering with depression. I have seen them become a shell of there former self what was a person who could always make me slime couldn't even do it themselves. After seeing somone I am so close to experience depression I have fully come to realize the importance of mental health I would like to advise all of my followers to always keep there mental health in mind." That is very much paraphrasing because the original post isn't up anymore. But here I was laying in bed at 2 pm on a Wednesday struggling to find the will power to go and do anything. My sister is sub texting me on Instagram for free engagement. She never talks to me maybe once she was showed any concern and that was when she realized that I lost a lot of weight. Which she congratulated me on not even thinking about the fact I have been borderline underweight my whole life. So I called her on the phone and went off on her for making the post. She took it down but my mom was saying she was just trying to do something nice and I call bullshit she was using a mental health post in increase her engagement rate. ######

Response: NTA even if it was well intentioned, this is a nasty thing to do. Particularly as you mentioned she has not tried to help you in any way. ######


Prompt: So I've been playing guitar for almost 9 years and have gotten pretty good. I figured I would save up some money and treat myself to a nice one after using a $150 craigslist buy for awhile. So i bought myself a $1300 epiphone jumbo size acoustic/electric. It has an electric tuner and stuff and had 2 amp ports but is still acoustic. My friend has been wanting to learn for awhile and hes just been using the one I had to teach him and practice and stuff. When he found out I spent a large amount of money on a really nice guitar he was really angry, saying I should have spent the money on two mid range guitars for the both of us and was selfish for thinking of me and not him. AITA Here? ######

Response: NTA even a little. Tell your friend not to be an entitled dickhead. ######


Prompt:
On mobile, sorry for formatting.

I(21f) has been looking for housing for school I'm starting in the fall but due to all corona regulations it's been mostly chatting with people on a facebook page. I found a property that fit what I needed and scheduled an in person visit to see the property. Since I don't have a car my mother(52f) and stepdad(58m) have offered to drive me.
A couple days before going my mom approaches me telling me that my siblings are coming (15m & 10f) which was expected but also how she wanted to find a hotel and spend some time there as a little "family vacation". I told her it's a bad idea because of the pandemic situation plus all 4 years of my undergrad she has turned my going to school into a "family vacation" that usually becomes a stressful event where most of the stress is placed on me. After telling her it's a bad idea she said being stuck home "fucking sucks" and stomped off to her room.
I don't want her in a bad mood because of this plus they're doing me a favor but I adamantly think it's a bad idea. AITA? ######

Response: NTA especially if you have a lot of cases of corona in your area and heavy restrictions. where I live none of the pools at hotels or the park district are open, parks are closed, beaches closed, etc. A vacation here wouldn’t be much fun. ######


Prompt:
Edit: he also says he feels better and has more energy. I forgot to add this part.

Edit2: I'm his primary caretaker as well. I didn't think it important to mention earlier but he has dementia and does revert back to child like behavior at times.

My dad is 77 and has a whole slew of health problems. A good chunk of them relating to his poor diet. He primarily eats fast food and rarely eats vegetables. Every meal has to have meat in order for him to consider it a "real meal". He's allowed me to do grocery shopping for him and I've been buying him veggie nuggets, burgers, pork, etc. (Ex: morning star buffalo chik'n patties). He can't taste the difference and enjoys what I make him. I also blend a ton of veggies into pasta sauce and he can't tell he's eating healthier food. It's not entirely vegetarian though. When he wants to order out, I get him what he wants. I only give him veggie food when I'm cooking.

His recent dr appointments and blood tests have shown improvement in his health. My brother tells me I shouldn't do that and just let him eat what he wants, even if it's making him sick.

AITA for slipping my dad healthier alternatives and getting more veggies in his system? ######

Response: NTA especially because you're not feeding him a constant vegetarian diet + you don't stop him from having meat when you order in. I'm of the opinion anyway that if you're cooking a meal for someone then you make the rules- provided you don't violate their food requirements by feeding them things they're allergic to etc. If you're cooking and want to add veg to his meals then you're well within your right to, especially if he hasn't raised any complaints. ######


Prompt: I'm 18, living with my mom through the summer until I move away for college across the country. I offered to pay for dinner if my mom wanted to go out to eat now that my state has lifted most restrictions. I suggested we go out to eat at a local vietnamese place (because they have amazing pho and the owners are a super kind older couple and I know their business has been struggling lately). Immediately my mom bursts out with "Why should we go there when they made the virus?" and snickered. I told my mom to take me back home and that I wasnt going to go to dinner with her. She threw a huge fit and went on a rant about how i need to learn to take a joke and that I was being a brat. ######

Response:
 NTA esp because you were the one who was going to pay for dinner + there’s no way you would have had a fun time after a comment like that. Treating someone after they do something not cool is basically a reward.

And as an Asian (South), I thank you for taking a stand for Asian people who have been unfairly targeted because of the virus, casual racism like what your mom said is still racism. ######


Prompt: My friend "bought" my knock off apple pen for $20, she still hasn't given me the money for it yet. I never used the pen to draw as I thought I would when I bought it from eBay but I used the magnetic cap as a fidget type of stress reliever and really miss it. I have avoided giving her the charger till she pays me but my friend found a charger that works with it. I keep asking her to pay me and now she just keeps saying that I need to wait. If I don't get the money by the end of June will I be a bad person if I ask her mum to get her to give it back to me? Also I'm sorry if this sounds childish I just want to know if I'm in the right or wrong for it. ######

Response: NTA either way, but did your friend give you a reason for not paying yet? ######


Prompt:
So recently I (23F) went with my brother (18M) so that he could get an STI test because he has a new partner (21M). He has been meaning to get tested for some time because he had a hookup awhile back that, afterward, told him he should get tested for syphilis. I said I'd go with him to make him feel more comfortable.

So on the way to the clinic, he told me that "man I really hope I don't have it, I don't know if [partner] can afford penicillin right now". So I ask, "why would he need any? Have you done stuff with him?" He said yes.

"Well did you tell him that it's a possibility?" He said no, that he's extremely anxious about bringing it up. I went quiet because I was dumbfounded. I didn't know what to make of this info.

I can't fathom that he would mess around with someone he presumably really likes (his words, not mine), and not tell them that he possibly had an STI. Honestly I'm disgusted and revolted that he would even think about doing that and the more I think about it, the angrier I am. I feel that not disclosing your potential STI status is taking your partner's ability to make an informed decision to sleep with you.

So, WIBTA for telling him that was a really shitty thing to do? Or WIBTA if I didn't tell him? ######

Response: NTA either way but you should still say something thats INCREDIBLY irresponsible on your brothers part. If hes to uncomfortable being honnest about these kinds of tbings with sexual partners he shouldn't be having sexual partners. ######


Prompt:
Made a throwaway account because a lot of people who follow my main account know me personally, and this would wreck my life if it became public information.

Also, english is not my first language, so please forgive me if I make any mistakes.

My wife and I have been married for 5 years, together for 11. I love her more than my life. She always wanted to have a kid between us, not through adoption or other medical procedures. While I was not against those ideas, I understood where she came from since she was adopted into a broken household and does not like the idea of it. Having a child who was biologically ours meant everything to her.

Last week, I came to know that I had developed an extremely rare and painful disease, and one of its side effects is infertility. I was honestly devastated. As an indian man, I have been brought up in a positive household, and encouraged to make mountains collide for the happiness of the people close to me. The fact that I couldn't grant my wife something so personal to her devastated me.

I genuinely tried my best to tell her, but each time, I would just break down crying, but I got closer to confessing each time. I had planned to tell her the news by today, and wrote a letter just in case, as a way to ensure that the news gets out even if I wimp out somehow.

Unfortunately, she came to know about it through medical reports 2 days ago.

Obviously, I knew we were going to divorce....but I wanted to end on a less worse note. I have never seen a person as disgusted and disappointed in me, as I saw my wife. It made me very upset. She thought I would never confess to her, but I only wanted some time to let it out, I promise.

Sorry if things comes across as jumbled, I can't really think a lot and my eyes get blurry if I try to proofread. ######

Response: NTA Due to the time scale. You held onto this news for a week, which is reasonable for you to come to terms with it yourself before sharing it. ######


Prompt:
I’ve had my horse for a few months now.

He’s very young and green (green means not trained much). He’s getting ridden by many of my friends who I trust to ride him at the barn. There is a girl and her mother who are very jealous about me owning a horse.

This girl and her mother have been nothing ,but vile to me. Her daughter is a self centered bitch and her mother just lets her get away with it! Her mother asked my coach about riding my horse. Coach said ask my mother. She asked my mother about letting her daughter ride my horse. I refused because a girl who has not been nice to me cannot ride my animal. All of my buddies get to ride my horse because they have been kind to me. My mother tells her no and the mother goes off asking why not?

They’ve been giving me glares when I’m in the aisle.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA dude. Coming from that world myself I know how it is. Worse than dance moms. It’s your horse, you and your mom have the right to choose who rides the horse, especially in the early years of her/his training. ######


Prompt:
Woke up this morning to a group text my roommates are trying to kick me out. I want to know if others would think I’m an asshole in this situation or if my roommates are butthurt about what I did.

I live in a house with three other guys (four of us in the house). Last night around 2 am this drunk girl shows up to our house, screaming, banging on windows, banging on doors and crying for one of my roommates, lets call him Aaron. Aaron just ghosted this girl recently.

He goes outside and tries to console her and calm her down, and they start screaming at each other. She’s throwing shit at the windows, and my other two roommates get up to see what is going on. I’m just laying in my bed and staying in my room. I don’t want to deal with it.

They all get the girl to calm down, then they come banging on my door. They want me to pay for a Uber to take her home so that she gets the hell out of there. It’s $25 to get her home.

I’m told them hell no?

They started arguing with me, asking me to just help out so that the situation would be over. They assured me they would pay me back. I brought up the fact that I’m still waiting on $20 back from Aaron. I’m not too sure they could pay me back if they can’t come up with $25 between the three of them them to send her home. I said no, told them to get out of my room, and locked my door.

The screaming continued, and police ended up being called by my neighbors. They were given a noise citation, and arrested the girl. Everything quieted down until this morning.

All my roommates are pissed at me for not helping him get rid of this girl. I told them that it wasn’t my responsibility. I don’t know this girl. They want me to pay part of the noise citation or they want to “vote me out” of the house.

I know I could have made my life a little easier by paying for the Uber, AITA for not doing it? ######

Response: NTA Dude, move out. They can’t afford the place without you anyways. You don’t have to lend money to anyone ever if you don’t want to. Now if it was a girl you rejected sure buy the girl an Uber ride. ######


Prompt:
 My girlfriend was hanging out with a friend and was drunk by the time her friend left. She came upstairs and hung out on the couch with me. I was looking for food on Uber eats. I asked if she wanted anything. Her response was, "I can't imagine eating anything right now. Just get food for yourself." I took her statement at face value. She was drunk but she was also high on coke which definitely will curb your appetite. When my food came she was hungry. I offered her my dumplings, she declined. I offered to order her food, she declined. I offered to cook her food, she declined. She was so upset I didn't get her food when I ordered my food. On top of everything my food sucked, it was Chinese food that was overly salty. From her perspective she "needed me in that moment and I just wasn't there for her."

 The following day she wouldn't talk to me at all. I think she's being unreasonable but I want a non-biased perspective. If you think I'm the asshole please tell me.

Apologies for the dirty laundry of a story. Thanks! ######

Response: NTA dude your girlfriend is extremely immature. ######


Prompt:
I own and run a webshop selling a food product. I started it in 2017. I also work a full-time job to sustain it - only this year do I stand to make an actual profit. I say that just so you know I'm not some greedy business owner who is rolling in dough.

I have a generous refund policy for people who aren't satisfied, even if sometimes people abuse it. Yesterday a lady contacted me saying that she received and was charged for $22 worth of merchandise and that we must have stolen her info to purchase the product with her card, sending it to her.

I looked at the details through our credit card processor. The order was placed using the same email address that the lady used to write from. FYI, for security reasons, the full credit card details aren't available to us - just the last 4.

The credit card processor captures the IP address for fraud analysis, and the IP address used to place the order was near the lady. The lady received an order confirmation plus 3 separate tracking updates, all to the same email she was contacting me from. The product was delivered about 10 days prior to her email claiming fraud.

It's very apparent that either 1) She is scamming and ordered it herself, or 2) someone in her household ordered it - someone with whom she is so close that she shares credit card and email info. Certainly I didn't steal her info, and it would be absurd if a stranger did that, as the product was sent to the lady using her own email. It's also possible that she has memory issues and has simply forgotten.

I relayed the above info and asked her to please check with household members. I told her that if she confirms, I can send her a return label, whereas usually I would just refund without a hassle. I usually am quick to refund, but this just seems so flagrant.

AITA for not just refunding her on the spot, and for suggesting that it's highly unlikely anyone but her (or someone in her household) deliberately purchased this? ######

Response: NTA dude you run a busines not a charity ######


Prompt:
So my freinds found out about a way to get American Netflix when we are in Australia. And one of my freinds didn't want to tell me. But the other one convinced that friend to tell me. So they told me and I was happy. I went home to my dad and told him all about it. He then proceeded to tell me about how it will never work, and if it does he will pay me a hundred dollars. It worked and we watched a movie from American Netflix  and it was great. I then told my freinds all about my hundred dollars I got. And I was so happy

They then said I owed them 25 bucks each, for them telling me. We never agreed to this in the first place and I felt cheated. I obviously disagreed, but they corned me into doing it untill I just started crying and I gave them  both the money the next morning. They asked if my parents where ok with, and they weren't so I said no. Then they gave the money back. Only because my parents weren't ok with it.

So please tell me Reddit AITA? ######

Response: NTA Dude get some new friends ######


Prompt: I (F26) live in the UK, and had a baby 3 weeks before lockdown. The first week I spent with my baby in hospital and he needed NICU, the second week I spent with my husband having family come and visit. Week 3 was just a tired breastfeeding haze with a few visitors. Then we went into lockdown. Since then it's just been me and my husband looking after our baby who is now 4.5months old. Myself and my friends are all nurses. My friends are now pestering me to join them for lunch out as restaurants are now opening. I don't want to go, my baby hasn't had even a cold yet I don't want to test them out with coronavirus first thing and the thought of having to watch my baby on a ventilator again scares me. My friends insist that I 'need to leave the house sometime' and that I 'can't keep hiding' which I feel is unfair as weather permitting I will meet them at a distance outside for a walk or a cuppa. Now things are re-opening it scares me more than ever as everyone is getting so lax about transmission. I've argued with my friends about this they think I'm being unreasonable and are insulted that I would think any of them could be a danger to my baby. So reddit AITA? ######

Response: NTA Don’t see how you looking out for your child is an issue. And nothing against your friends but as nurses, those are the people most at risk for coming into contact with the coronavirus. Do what you think is best for your family. ######


Prompt:
35(f) here who met an amazing lady back in February. I'm mom to cool cat 9 year old daughter. Lady moved in relatively quickly, partially in due to that old lesbian stereotype, and also because 'Rona.

For the most part the transition went smoothly. Daughter's dad and I share 50/50 custody and have great friendship. Every Friday my daughter and I like to have a "girls night" of just her and I doing stupid shit.

We've been including girlfriend in these Friday night romps and she's been mindful of letting us have our space. Until last night. Daughter wanted to watch movies and sleep on pull out couch with me.

Girlfriend was pissed. She said she wanted to sleep next to her person, which is me. Well I'm that little person's person too. I told her I loved her and that one night of me sleeping on pull out watching movies with my kid shouldn't be an issue. I sleep in bed with GF every night of the week.

Today I'm getting the silent treatment.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA doesn't sound like shes ready to date someone with a kid ######


Prompt:
I really don't know whether I am just being petty here so I figured I'd ask. Also I am 16M, my Sister is 14F and my Stepbrother is 13M.

So my parents divorced 6 years ago and 3 years ago my mom remarried to my now stepfather and they merged our families I think that is what they call it. My Stepdad has 2 sons one who is now 13 and another who is 19.

Now there are 4 rooms in our house, the Master is used by my parents the middle room was used by my older stepbrother, the smallest room is used by my sister and the final room is used by me and my stepbrother, my stepbrother moved out however to college so I got his room last year which I was happy about since I dislike my stepbrother and we don't get along so sharing a room was horrid, but I was always promised my own room once the oldest stepbrother went to college so I suffered through it.

Now my mom is pregnant and last week they took the smallest room from my sister to make it a baby room, moved my sister in to my room and moved me back in with my stepbrother, as you might imagine I threw a fit but I was told to drop it as such I told my dad I want to move to his house where I have my own room, when my sister heard she immediatly asked my dad as well since we are very close and she doesn't want to live alone with our youngest stepbrother, he said yes and since we're both over 14 we can decide where to live ourselves.

My mom on the other hand is extremely hurt and upset and feels like we're abandoning her over something extremely petty. I got to be honest I feel pretty bad for her but I am 16 and I can't even have alone time with my girlfriend, friends or alone time in general because I have to share a room with my stepbrother Who I don't even like, so what did she think would happen, I feel like I always get screwed over tbh.

So am I being a petty asshole or am I right? ######

Response: NTA Does your Dad have any step kids living there at his house? ######


Prompt:
Okay, so, it's background info o'clock.
I'm 19, M, disabled. I'm autistic, have ADD, and a massive sensory processing disorder (SPD).
Basically, SPD means i'm very sensitive to sensory stimulations and can overload very quickly. I also have prothesis to protect my ears from sound (it's basic but sufficient when I'm not too overloaded).

I was on the bus earlier and had my prothesis on, so I couldn't hear people very well. I also have a small deficiency in my left ear. A middle-aged woman started talking to me on my left side. At first I just did not hear her. That offended her and she taped my shoulder, which made me jump because, I don't like unsolicited contact from strangers (again, autism). I look at her confused and she goes, mockingly:

"Are you deaf, or what?!"

That rubbed me the wrong way because I don't like the idea of someone making fun of deaf people, plus I really didn't want to interact with her. So, I had an idea. I took my phone in Notes and typed:

《Sorry, I can't hear you. My hearing aids battery are dead. Can you sign ?》

She looked at me, blushed heavily and just very loudly "uh, no, it's nothing." and walked away. I was satisfied but then realised that it's kinda rude to impersonate a disability that I don't have, and maybe she wanted to communicate something important to me ? Sure, she walked away but I can't be sure it was nothing. I think I maybe should have avoided that interaction in another way. I don't know. What do you think, AITA ?

(English is not my first language and I'm on mobile) ######

Response:
 NTA didn’t hurt this woman and taught her a lesson about being rude about disabled people in public.
Edit: not to say that you are disabled, but I’m sure she’d complain if she thought somebody didn’t look like they needed a hearing aid, wheelchair, etc. she seems insensitive to anything that could set a person back.

Edit #2: hey guys- I’m getting a lot of corrections about the disabled part of my comment and I hear you!! I’m not trying to dismiss the way OP navigates life and I understand how my words actually may have done so.  Please keep any hostility out- I’m listening! ######


Prompt:
We are muslims and unlike them, I sorta neglect my religious tasks. Sometimes I don’t pray, and sometimes I’m not fasting in this ramadan. So basically, after each feast, my roommates go pray together, and they ask me to join them. I prayed with them before but yesterday and the day before I said nah, I’ll pray by myself (in reality I don’t want to pray cuz I’m lazy), and when I said so, they get annoyed as if I did something rude. One of them even told me that dude cmon pray so you can enter heaven, and so god doesnt punish you. Mate I get it but don’t push me like this or at least be indifferent about me, it’s my problem.

Bonus: When I was living with my family before moving to college, they didn’t enforce me to be completely religious. They told me to do it on if I’m willing to. No matter how much I skipped prayer, they never shamed me for it. ######

Response: NTA definitely. Your religious practices are none of their business. ######


Prompt:
So I’m a new mother, my son is 3 weeks old. Forgive me for any mistakes, I didn’t sleep much last night.

My sister lives with us, we own our house, she doesn’t pay rent, she lives with us because she can’t afford to live on her own. I had hoped she’d move out before I gave birth but she didn’t.

I normally feed our son in our bedroom or his room, but yesterday my husband and I were watching tv, and I was holding him and he got hungry, and I was tired and didn’t want to go upstairs just to feed him and be stuck alone. My sister was out buying groceries(that we are paying for) so I didn’t think it would be a problem.

She came home in the middle of me feeding him and freaked out saying it was gross to do that in the living room and to go somewhere private, and she didn’t want to see my tits(her words).

I didn’t have the energy to explain why I didn’t go upstairs so I just went into the bathroom with him. But now she’s making comments whenever I’m holding him like “don’t take your tits out here”. I’m just tired, I don’t think it was really that big a deal, and werrr fucking paying for the house. Also, would I be an asshole if I told her to go fuck herself because I really want to. ######

Response:
 NTA Definitely tell her to go fuck herself. How about next time she wants to eat something she goes and sits in the bathroom?

If she's got a problem with you feeding your child in your own home she can easily find somewhere else to live. ######


Prompt:
im in a Facebook group where people from my city and nearby areas will post pictures of places they've been and outdoor activities such as hiking, fishing, skiing, airsoft or others. I posted in the group chat "I'm going to this mountain on this day, anyone interested in coming" and someone commented saying that she's interested. I texted her and I asked if she wanted to go and she said yeah i'll go hiking anywhere. I asked if she had any friends interested in coming and she said its late and we can talk later (it was like 11 pm). Next day I texted her "hey so which day works best?" and she blocked me. I thought that was pretty fucking rude, like if she didn't want to come or couldn't she could've just said so. Whatever i guess.

Well about 2 weeks later I made a new post about a place I'm going hiking too, which requires some equipment which i've been able to get from my brother. I said we can share some. She unblocks me and tells me she's interested in coming and I responded back with "sorry but I'm not interested in you coming"

She asked me why and i told her its pretty obvious and i don't want any drama on this trip. She kept spamming me with texts saying i need to let her go and i told her "its no and I'm not changing my mind" and i muted her. She gets all bitchy in the post about it and people responded back with "i think he's wise to not want to take you"

Some people said i was petty for this since i was taking basically everyone else who wanted to go except for her. I think what she did was rude, and reason enough to take her but more so i don't trust her, and i don't want her starting drama and shit so fuck her. She's really really immature especially for someone 5 years older than me (19 and 25) ######

Response: NTA definitely she sounds weird ######


Prompt:
I have three friends who are college-aged — two
girls and one man. They were walking in our local park the other day, and this 50 year old man starts telling them “Ive been looking for y’all; I met one of you last week and remembered your energy. I knew you guys were here way before I saw you”. He then proceeds to put his hand out and “read” them all. He apparently tells them some accurate characteristics about themselves.

My friends were so intrigued that they exchanged contact info with this man and went to his home the next day. Apparently, he has two college-aged sons and a wife that completely support and believe everything he says. He proceeds to tell them things like he has the cure to the coronavirus, he time-travels, can read anybody, and has met aliens. He mentioned a blue and red Kachina. This all sounds crazy to me, but my friend insists that it was extremely profound and a life changing spiritual experience. I am one of the most spiritual people she knows, and she desperately wants me to come back to meet him.

To me, I think it’s pretty crazy that they went to a home of an older random stranger that approached them at the park. I find it weird that a 50 year old man has time to text three kids/young adults all day. He even said to them, “I feel like you’re going to bring many people”; it’s giving me cult vibes. My friend says I’m one of the most open-minded person she knows and thought I’d be excited and feels I’m being judge mental. AITA? ######

Response: NTA definitely gives off some crazy cult or kidnapping vibes, I’d be super cautious for your friends and let them know all your thoughts on the subject. ######


Prompt:
My property ends about 2 feet from my neighbor’s property. Because it’s so close we have not made a big deal when he walks in our lawn a bit or needs to set up a sprinkler in our lawn to water the side of his house. I didn’t even come t when he drove his truck into his back yard multiple times over the course of a few weeks.

But recently I think he’s taking it too far. He hired a tree removal company to take down a tree in his backyard and told them it was ok to drive their large trucks through my lawn to get there without asking us. He got a new dog (German Shepard) and put the stake leash right on his property line so the dog is very far into my lawn. I have a young child who is afraid of dogs and he refuses to play in our lawn because the dog is so far into our yard.

For reference, he has a decent sized front yard and back yard (1/4 acre or so total) and the majority of our lawn is the area where he keeps encroaching.

He is a new neighbor so we started nicely just letting him know where the property line is so he didn’t have to wonder and we said nothing when he drove his truck back. But i have now twice had to ask him to get his dog off my lawn. He makes a big huff about it and is clearly annoyed.

I want to be neighborly but I also want him to respect that he can’t do what he wants with my property. My husband thinks we should just ignore it. I think we need to gently ask him to keep his vehicles and animals out of our yard. ######

Response: NTA definitely and never underestimate the value of a good fence. ######


Prompt:
I’m sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language,

My friend has been a friend of mine for a long time, because she didn’t have a car I used to give her rides to fun activities we could both do like partying, going to the mall, going to the beach, you get the idea.

Well one day she got pregnant from an unknown guy in a party and she decided to keep the baby and jokingly said to me that I’m going to be the baby’s uncle (oh boy).

Well, I didn’t mind helping her from time to time, taking her to doctors appointments, going with her to the mall to get her some baby clothes, things that I honestly didn’t enjoy, I even had to miss work sometimes to help her but I knew she was in a tight spot and helped her anyways. This became something of a routine.

A month ago, she texted me that she needed me to take her to a doctors appointment for a routine check the next day in the morning (7 am). She sent the message at 10 pm and when she  sent it I was already with my friends getting ready to go partying, well, I told her that and that I wouldn’t be able to go, when I told her, she started calling me demanding that I took them home so I can rest and take her and the baby to the doctors appointment, when I said no she got angry and started saying things like “you are not really a good friend” “I should take her baby more seriously” “it’s time to grow up”  and I decided to ignore her from that point and we haven’t talked since.

Well one mutual friend found out about it and said that I’m really not a good friend and that I should have told the rest of the group so we could had decided what to do in the moment. But the thing is I hadn’t Had fun in such a long time because of me helping her that I didn’t want to do that and from that moment the group has been divided between the people who think I’m an asshole and the rest.

Before you ask, the rest of the group doesn’t have a car.

If there’s any grammar or spelling mistakes please let me know

So reddit AITA? ######

Response: NTA dear god run.  'It's time to grow up' is a ridiculous thing to say when it isn't your child.  It's time for her to grow up. ######


Prompt:
Am I The Asshole for not giving my boyfriend’s sister in law a quilt?

A little bit of context: I have anxiety, and when I get anxious, doing something where I can see results really helps me. So, my boyfriend got me a baby quilt to sew whenever I have one of my attacks. It’s a cross stitch, and takes a lot of time. Him and I decided for me to finish it and we would keep it for if we were to ever get married and have kids.

My boyfriend’s brother isn’t by blood. The brother, “J,” and his family adopted my boyfriend in middle school and my boyfriend’s family wasn’t good and taking care of him. Because of this, my boyfriend feels indebted to J’s family.

J recently married his wife, and she is pregnant. I was sewing my quilt once when they FaceTimed us, and my bf showed it to them, telling them how much work I put into it.

SIL immediately jumped on it, saying how great of a baby shower present it would be for her. My boyfriend and I explained that we would be keeping it for our first child, but I stated I’d be more than happy to make her one when this one is done.

She flipped her lid and started screaming at my boyfriend that “he should be grateful J’s family took him from the dump” and that “he needs to get everything he can for them” because “he owes them.”

My boyfriend stood his ground in front of them but later cried to me saying that I should give them the quilt after I finish because they’ve done so much for him. He kept saying I could always make another one.

I refused. I’ve been working on this quilt for MONTHS. Cross stitching is really hard and hurts my hands when I do it too much, but it really helps with my anxiety. I’m also really attached to the blankets because it’s the first thing I’ve ever sewn, and I really want it to have family value. Now everyone in my bf’s family is making me out to be a horrible, selfish person.

AITA for not giving my boyfriend’s SIL the blanket? ######

Response: NTA damn she's entitled. So is your bf's family. They chose to adopt him, and now they demand things in return. Nope. Stand your ground, and support your bf  as he stands his ground against them too. ######


Prompt:
So background my parents split due to him having an affair when I was 8, now almost 28. We moved to east coast, dad stayed on west. My siblings and I never really had a relationship with him growing up, now we talk once every couple months. My brother had a baby last February and my dad and his wife came to visit in November. He stated he wanted to move here and build a relationship with us and his grandchildren. I was really excited as I don't have much family and I've always wanted our relationship mended. The plan was for him to move out alone and stay with my brother for 3 weeks while he got an apartment set up and then bring his family out. Well he called and stated he wants to bring his wife and step son with him from the get go and then he'd look for a job and place. My brother told him no he isn't okay with that because he has a kid and that'll be too stressful and too many people in his house. Well he told me last night that since I was so excited and wanted him here, my husband and I have to let them live with us. We're pregnant with our first and due in July. I said no way in hell was I moving 3 people in when I'm about to have a newborn. How is that fair? I was told I'm being unreasonable and my dad feels hurt that no one will take them in. If we weren't pregnant, I wouldn't have an issue with them temporarily staying.

Aita for not letting them live with me thus preventing them from moving here right now? ######

Response: NTA dad needs to realize just because you’re excited about STARTING a relationship with him doesn’t mean he gets to start out by LIVING with you. He needs to accept that you’re an adult with a family of your own that comes first. Just because this way is more convenient for him it wasn’t the original plan. He needs to accept that and earn his right to be in your life. Making demands and guilty tripping you isn’t the best way to go about building a relationship. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway

I am a 16 year old boy and I have a 17 year old half sister. My half sister thinks she is some kind of queen cause no one ever told her no. Anyway I am being bullied by my half sister for being asexual. She keeps saying shit like I bet you are asexual cause no one ever loves you. You are probably a sexual cause you are an incel. These are some of the more nicer comments. I had to deal with this for three years

While I was watching my tv show my half sister came in and started bullying asking why are you asexual. I then snapped at her and told her I am asexual cause I don't want to sense any love from people like you your face MADE me asexual cause of how ugly your face was. My mom came down and scolded me and told me to apologize to my half sister for making her feel bad about her self but I refused and I told my mom no I dealt years with her shit if she can dish it out she can probably deal with it.

I then told my half sister that I will only apologize after you admit that you bullied me for years. My mom knows this but refuses to acknowledges this. My half sister refused and told me she was always right and I was always right and I did not apologize. My half sister is crying in her room right now and swearing. ######

Response:
 NTA Could you have handled this situation better? -Yes.

Do I understand you 100%? - Also yes.

(Do I think she kinda deserved to hear these nasty things? - Also yes)

I mean you even offered to apologise under reasonable conditions. ######


Prompt:
I (18F) got into an accident and totaled my car. Keep in mind that I bought myself that car and paid for my own insurance. The accident was my fault but not entirely. I ran a stop sign that was covered by trees and hit a parked car to avoid hitting a moving one. The house owner at the corner said that I’m the fourth person to get into an accident because of the same stop sign in under 3 months. Thankfully, no one was hurt.

My insurance decided to buy off my totaled car for $2000. I gave the money to my parents to put away to get myself a new car. On top of that, I also gave them $3000 from my savings for my car (I give them my money to put away because I don’t trust myself to not spend it). My parents were livid that I got into an accident. Although nothing came out of their pockets other than my insurance rising that I pay for, they decided to punish me and use the money that my insurance gave me AND my savings to buy my brother (23M) an new car.

I told them that it was my money and that they had no right to do that. All they said was that if I hadn’t gotten into an accident, the car they bought for my brother would’ve been mine. Now my insurance is a lot more expensive than what it was before and they said that with a new car, it’s going to be more expensive. I said that it was my car that I bought and I was paying for insurance and that there was no need to punish me for something that didn’t affect them financially. They don’t care and gave the car to my brother anyway, saying this is what I get for not being careful when driving a car, I don’t get one at all.

AITA for getting upset? ######

Response: NTA contact the police that is theft and I believe if its 5k and up it counts a federal ceime. Maybe let your parents know you are going to the police station to report the theft of your 5k which is a federal crime ######


Prompt:
I’ll try to keep this short... my fiancé and I have been together for 5 years now. I knew very early in the relationship I had no intention of taking his last name. After the first year or so of dating when we talked about the future I mentioned I wouldn't want to take his last name because I like my last name. I’m second generation Italian and my last name reflects that. It’s an important aspect of who I am and my fiancé at the time understood. I said I probably would be fine if any kids we had had his last name and we dropped the conversation since it was so early in the relationship.

Fast forward four years we are obviously much closer to actually having kids then when we had that initial conversation. I mentioned today that I’m not sure I want the kids to just have his last name. I explained that it didn’t seem fair for them to be half genetically mine, and for me to carry them for nine months but for their names only to reflect him. I listed some options other people do, hyphenating the names, using one last name as a middle name, making a new combined last name, etc. To be clear this would only be for the kids I’m not asking him to change his name.

He said this wasn’t fair because he had already “compromised” by saying I could keep my name and that I told him the kids could have his last name so I can’t change my mind. I told him I’ve changed my mind as we have matured and the prospect of kids has become more real (which in my mind seems more fair then holding me to an off hand comment several years ago) but he is still extremely upset and not talking to me.

So reddit, AITA for not wanting to just use my fiancé’s last name for our kids? ######

Response: NTA Compromised by letting you keep your name? Ummmm wtf Is that? ######


Prompt:
So this happened yesterday.

My (14F) mother (43F) was mentioning report card and tests yesterday due to you-know-what.   She eventually decided to go through all our old report cards. Now would be a good time to mention that I have a brother who is 9 and we suspect is mildly autistic.

So we go through them and eventually my brother joins in looking through them. So I find some of mine and I say something like “oh my god I got such good exam scores.” And I showed my mom and my brother that I got three 10s on some years and how I never noticed.

My brother then find his and his scores are more around 5/6. And he gets upset and goes down to his room. My mom then pulls me aside and said “you shouldn’t try to be better than your brother and don’t me a show off.”

I told that I can talk about my achievements all I want. I’ve previously also had to not mention my individual class scores when I got top of my class.

She got pretty upset and grounded me but I’m allowed keep my phone because of you-know-what. ######

Response: NTA completely justified for being proud in yourself, hopefully you can keep the grades up :) just be mindful that not everyone likes being shown up. ######


Prompt:
A bit of context, my parents are divorced, but they always agreed what they do for one child, they do for the other.

My older sister got a private tutor and also had driving lessons for 2 yrs which my parents split the cost for between them, but my dad refused to do for me because he said that maintence should cover the cost. I ended up not being able to get a tutor, but my mum managed to pay for driving but at a huge financial cost.

While my sister has been at university, my dad has been giving her over £300 a month to help her. But he has told me he won't do the same for me because I was planning on working abroad and I had been told that if I worked abroad after graduating, I don't have to pay off student loans. I have found out since that I was told wrong and I will still have to pay it off and I emailed him telling him, but he never responded.

When he told me he wasn't going to help, I was upset and went up to my room. His girlfriend came up and told me that I was being a brat about it. She also told me that he was probably going to lose his job which was why he wasn't helping me. Which would be a valid reason, except this all happened a few months ago and he's still not lost it, and he would've lost it by now, especially with the current situation, if he was gonna lose it.

My mum emailed my dad after finding out his girlfriend called me a brat saying she didn't want me near her again which he didn't reply to, but she did calling me a liar, and I quote " if she (me) thinks the hat fits, she can wear it". My dad is still with her and it feels like he has chosen both her and my sister over me.

My relatives are telling me that I'm making a big deal out of nothing and it's not his fault that he upsets me because he has aspergers so he doesn't realise that he's upsetting me, but after everything went down, I emailed him specifically telling him why and how it hurt me. Are my relatives right and I'm being an asshole and should just let it go? ######

Response: NTA clearly your parents couldn’t keep to their word on what’s done for one will be done for the other. It’s normal to want to distance yourself especially after the way you’ve been treated and that won’t make you an asshole. ######


Prompt:
About 3 months ago I (24) began seeing a man (27) We are polar opposites (I'm a city girl, he's a country redneck). We've been sexually active the entire time.

About two weeks ago I started throwing up and feeling really weird. I took a test. It was positive. I haven't had an OB confirm it yet.

The issue he is very pro-life and I am very pro-choice.

Here is the other issue: this man is from a very small town, conservative Southern Baptist background. He doesn't really believe a lot of medical information. He says sunscreen will give him cancer and lets himself burn and uses weird home remedies to cure ailments.

He also told me he does not believe that you can get pregnant via the pullout method. He thinks as long as he pulls out, it's good. I've tried to explain that is incorrect but he won't listen to me.

This is an accident. I am on birth control (which failed obviously) but I am afraid he won't believe me if I tell him. I don't want to terminate, but I can't raise a child alone (grad student with too much debt) and he is in the military and leaving for 4 months in two weeks. I am also supposed to be beginning grad school in a new city in the spring. If he won't accept the child, I can't keep it. My mom was a single mom and I do not want to bring a child jnto the world that feels unloved or abandoned. He's also been talking to his ex and will be stationed two hours from her house.

Would I be the asshole for terminating without telling him or should I tell him I took the positive test and see how he reacts? Is he required to know even if he may not even believe it?

Tdlr; WIBTA for not telling my partner I'm pregnant and terminating on my own accord?

Edit: I'd like to clarify I have been with no one but him so this child is definitely his. In case it comes up ######

Response: NTA clearly this relationship wasn't going to go anywhere anyways and it would probably be a stressful environment growing up for the child. ######


Prompt:
I got a cousin i do not like even tho i am the only family he's got.
My mother is attached to him and reasonably so, and she decided to give him my netflix account to use.

Everytime during mid day i cannot use netflix because my brother uses it and cousin hogs it up mid day till night. I do not want to pay extra for four screens although i can perfectly afford that.

Last time this happened i disconnected all accounts and it stopped till now,  i have voiced this to my father and he gave cousin some excuse as to why netflix stopped working but my mother be it as she knows i don't like him, still gave him the account info.

WIBTA to cancel Netflix or in it's behalf, change passwords and only let me, my brother and my mother's TV have it without the credentials.

I really, really, don't like him. ######

Response: NTA Change your password. Simple fix and you won't have to cancel it. ######


Prompt:
I've lost my son 2 months ago, He was only 25,he was disabled, he had cerebral palsy since birth.

My husband and I loved him so much and gave him all the love and care he needed to make through the difficult times.

Since his death I have been getting a lot of "advice" on how to move on in life and pretend like my son didn't even exist.
Just like what they did when my husband passed away two years ago, my Brother in law (husband's brother) has always been a total asshole to me, one week before my husband died he told my husband to not worry about me cause I will marry again.
He told this while he was dying!
My husband was a great man, he was a donor, He cared for our son and always wanted for him to be happy.

When my son died, right after we got back from the funeral, my BIL, and his wife stayed at my house for a whole week

He said "why are you still so sad for your son? You should be happy for him, you should be happy for both of you, Him not having to deal with his disability anymore  and you being free, now you can go live your life without having to have to take care of a disabled person"
"It wasn't like he was gonna make it to 50 right?"

I felt just awful, I got so angry with him, I told him he was an asshole and told him to get out of my house, he started running his mouth again and said "I know you're just acting out cause you're grieving, but that does not excuse your shitty behavior towards me and my wife"

Before he left, I told him to hand me the spare key to my house that he STOLE from my husband before he died, he lifted it up then instead of giving to me, he tossed it in the trashpin.
His wife was laughing on her way out, And I just stood there feeling awful, I cried my eyes out that day, and wished my son was there to comfert me.

Now he's calling me to say that wants me to come over and help his wife decorate his son's birthday party. ######

Response: NTA change the locks. Copying a key is stupidly easy. ######


Prompt:
Hey everyone, here´s my dilemma.

I have a cat, he´s half a year old. I adopted him when he was around a month old. His original name was going to be "Howl", but I started calling him "Bastard" aound a month later after his adoption.

 I don´t hate my cat, he´s basically like a child to me. I call him that affectionetly, obiously. But my roomate (Who i´ll be calling Blue) dislikes my cat´s name. Whenever she hears me caling my cat for any reason (ie, "Bastard, come here" or whatever) she´ll tell me to use his original name because "callling animals insults is a mean spirited thing to do".

The thing is, he now only answers to "Bastard" and not "Howl". Blue has tried to teach him to answer to his original name, but he doesen´t care.

Also, I´m the one who feeds him, changes his l¡itter and buys his food. I´m his owner, so I feel like I should be allowed to choose his name.

So, am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA Cats don't care what you call them. I call my cat (who is my best buddy) Big Black Bag of Fat. ######


Prompt:
Hey everyone, here´s my dilemma.

I have a cat, he´s half a year old. I adopted him when he was around a month old. His original name was going to be "Howl", but I started calling him "Bastard" aound a month later after his adoption.

 I don´t hate my cat, he´s basically like a child to me. I call him that affectionetly, obiously. But my roomate (Who i´ll be calling Blue) dislikes my cat´s name. Whenever she hears me caling my cat for any reason (ie, "Bastard, come here" or whatever) she´ll tell me to use his original name because "callling animals insults is a mean spirited thing to do".

The thing is, he now only answers to "Bastard" and not "Howl". Blue has tried to teach him to answer to his original name, but he doesen´t care.

Also, I´m the one who feeds him, changes his l¡itter and buys his food. I´m his owner, so I feel like I should be allowed to choose his name.

So, am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA cats are bastards. I have 3, they are little shits but I love them ######


Prompt: So hear me(M37) out here on this issue with a family member. My wife and I have two kids who are 2 and under. This family member has the same thing but one of her kid has some health issues. Their little girl has a G-tube and some breathing problems that seems to be getting better. Every time my wife and I do stuff with our kids and wife posts it on social media, family member would comment with stuff like: " Imagine doing that with two kids and one with issues" or "Try getting out of the house in the morning with the oxygen tank, etc..." Or if we are together and kid is doing something that her other one can't she'll mention "Could we not have your kid do that so that mine won't want to do it?" I think the other day was the last straw because my wife posted a picture of our kids at my parent's house with their Grandma because we both had to work(no WFH option for us) and she made a post about how because her kid has health issues and can't see their grandparents (because of what's happening) so people shouldn't be posting things like that. It feels like she's using her kid's health problems to make backhanded comments or us feel bad about doing things. So Reddit, WIBTA if I call her out on that? ######

Response: NTA can't you just block her on social media? ######


Prompt:
So this is a throwaway because my sister is in here. Writing from a phone so excuse the shitty format.

So I(f18) recieved the first gift from my boyfriend this month. We're in a long distance relationship so I was all excited and stuff. He bought me a silver necklace, chocolates, and a dozen pairs of lovely and funny socks.
So me and my sister were discussing the gift and I tell her that we can't share this one. Keep in mind that we always share stuff and gifts and she's free to eat form the chocolate my boyfriend bought whenever she likes. But this gift is from my boyfriend to me and it's so special to me. She then throws a tantrum and calls me and my boyfriend names. She tells me I wish you'd both die. This is all because I told her she won't be wearing MY socks. Maybe she's traumatized or surprised from my response. Plus, she didn't get to date before so maybe she doesn't understand why I said what I said. But this doesn't give her the right to do all of this.

 I tried speaking with her but she acts like I betrayed her. I told her to put herself in my shoes but she won't give me an answer. So reddit, am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA can't believe she's acting like that at 18 ######


Prompt: My (16f) sister (22f) keeps taking my clothes and wearing them in front of my friends. This wouldn’t bother me if they weren’t BRAND NEW outfits. That makes it so that when I go to wear the clothes everyone thinks I’m wearing HER clothes. I ended up going to my parents for help because no matter how I react she will not stop raiding my wardrobe. She is constantly telling me all the things she does for me (rides to school, dance class etc.) but I do chores to scrounge together the money to buy decent clothes I like, she has a full time job, doesn’t pay rent and can go buy the clothes SHE wants. I don’t see why she should be entitled to my wardrobe especially when I do all my own shopping. Am I the asshole for involving our parents/ not letting her wear my clothes? ######

Response: NTA can you buy a lock and put it on your room/closet door? ######


Prompt: I am a 22f living at my parents home due to the state of the world. We live in a nice neighborhood out side of city limits. Each house sits on about three acres so there’s a fair amount of room between houses. Growing up the neighborhood was quiet with very few, if any, disagreements.  Within the last few years a new family moved in with teenagers and money to burn. They have several golf carts, 4wheelers, and motorized bikes the kids and friends like to race up and down the street. Last fall a kid fell off their golf cart and cracked his head open in our front yard. After that the racing stopped.  In the last few weeks it started again. Racing in the dark with out lights, reflective clothes, or even helmets. As the kids are a bit older they’ve added trucks to the mix with kids up and dancing in the bed of the trucks while it’s moving. I have talked to the mom about my concerns, and she said she tells them to stop when she sees it, but she also likes to be a mean girls “cool mom” and allows the kids to basically do whatever. As this is occurring more frequently (at least 3 nights in the last week) I am considering calling the police the next time it happens. I hate to waste the officers time, but I am worried that another kid will wind up severely injured, or worse.  If I call the cops, AITA? ######

Response: NTA call the cops they could kill someone. ######


Prompt:
Not mine, but my friends. "I have 2 adult kids. Both have graduated from college, but are currently living with me due to the situation and such. Neither have jobs since they both got laid off at the beginning of all of this. I'm happy to have them both back at the house, it was getting lonely since my husband passed not to long ago. I had saved up roughly 50k for each for college. My one kid, who we'll call J, and my other kid, who we'll call S, are twins. J got a scholarship that covered most of her school expenses, but I paid for rent, food, etc. I was super proud of her. S also went to college, though she didn't get a scholarship, which I was fine with. I was also super proud of her. I didn't want either of them to start out life with a bunch of student loans, so I was happy to pay for both of them since I could afford to do so. S also worked part-time to help pay.

Now that they are both out of jobs and living with me, J has started asking about the rest of her "rightly deserved money". She wants it, I don't know if its to save or spend, but she claims that its not her fault she got a scholarship and that I didn't have to pay as much for her as her sister. I was planning on either doing renovations, possibly moving (my house is kinda big now that its just me), or going on a vacation in a few months (depending how things go) with the money. Obviously, after they both move out and get new jobs. I told her this and she got super mad. She kept going on and on about how it was her money. S stepped in and said that she should be grateful for all the help I've given both of them. Now J is mad at me and S and J are fighting. Was I wrong for not giving her the money? Should I give her the money?

I'll also add that I've not asked either to pay rent, food, etc while they have been living with me. So, whatever money they had at the begging before their job loss, they should still have most of. ######

Response:
 NTA by any means.

A "college fund" is not a gift to the child him/herself. It's precautionary savings the parents set aside in the event it's needed to fund their child's tuition. If it's not needed, the child doesn't get it. The child is not entitled to it at all. They didn't earn it, they didn't make the sacrifice to save it. The parents did. It's a fund that parents setup as a favor should it be needed.

Don't give her the money. It's yours, not hers. Heck, even better, simply explain that you're gonna roll over that money into a "Wedding Fund". And if she never gets married, then again the money is still yours.  And if she does get married, write the checks to the actual vendors as the bills roll in, and not directly to her. Because it's obvious that she's just trying to grab the money. ######


Prompt:
This happened a few months ago and my brain keeps sending it back to me. I was traveling and I stopped at a rest stop that’s well known for having lots of bathroom stalls and they’re always very clean. There’s probably about 30 stalls in the women’s restroom, and usually not even a line because there’s so many stalls.

Anyways, I get to the restroom and this time, there’s a line. I patiently wait until I’m about 15 people from the front. Two workers come to the line and announce “there’s a lot of stalls open in the back” No one moves.

So the worker other worker says “you don’t need to wait in line, there’s a ton of open stalls”. Again, no one moves.

So I hop out of line, walk past those in front of me, and head to the back of the restroom. I see about 2/3 of all the stalls are empty.

On my way to the back of the restroom, this random woman grabs my arm and says I need to wait my turn. I say there’s plenty of stalls and there’s room for everyone. She starts pinching my arm and says there were people ahead of me and I need to get back in line. I was so surprised I just yanked my arm away, directed her to an empty stall, and then went in one myself.

By the time I came out, there was no line and the workers were much more aggressively directing incoming people to empty stalls.

Yes, I technically skipped 15 people in line, but they were being sheeple and mindlessly following. I don’t like to waste my own time. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA by a mile.

You WAITED to see if anybody in front of you would take the open stalls before you jumped in. If you were like, boxing people out or hurrying to cut them off, then I could see this random woman's point of view, I guess, but they literally could be doing the same thing as you. ######


Prompt:
My older sister (17f) goes out at around 9-11pm almost every night to go "get groceries" when, in reality, she just goes to buy herself multiple bags of clothes and snacks and brings back very limited groceries (like a gallon of milk or orange juice). She'll buy the clothes with her money about half the time and she uses my mom's card the other half. My mom definitely spoils her more than me and my twin sister.

Every time she gets home, she honks the horn over and over and over. She will do this for over 30 minutes until either me, my twin sister, or my parents come out to help her. She usually doesn't even have more than 4 bags so I don't understand why she always "needs" help.

She doesn't send a text or anything. She just honks the horn. My mom has told her numerous times to stop doing it because her and my twin sister have anxiety and the sudden honking can easily push them over the edge. It also wakes up people, like me, who like to go to bed earlier. I told my mom last time that I wasn't going to help her next time she did this. My mom was fine with this. I also told my older sister and she replied with "Yeah, ok then" and rolled her eyes.

Tonight at around 9:30pm, she arrived home from the store and started honking again. I was in the living room (not sleeping, just scrolling through reddit) when she scared the crap out of me by honking again. I followed through with what I said last time and didn't move. My parents and sister also decided to do the same thing, but they were on the other side of the house. I watched as she brought in three bags. Three. Bags. THREE. She literally brought them all in in one trip.

She is currently yelling at me for not getting up to help her since I had nothing else better to do. I'm a (wo)man of my word. COULD I have helped? Yeah. Did I want to? NOPE! So AITA? ######

Response: NTA buy an air horn and start using it to get her attention to see how she likes it. ######


Prompt:
My sister has been working overtime lately , and since my parents are elderly I have been watching my nephew (11).
Because she works long shifts, she has been dropping him off for two days at a time.

My sister is a really Type A personality, I’m not saying that to insult her or anything, it’s just how she is. She has my nephew’s days planned to a T, and even brings him with all of his breakfast, lunch, diners and snacks for the time he will be with me. I have told her that this isn’t necessary, but she does it anyway.

I want to be clear that I’m not trying to insult her, but the meals that she packs are pretty boring. Frozen sausage biscuits for breakfast, a turkey sandwich for lunch and a pasta dish for dinner.
My nephew is actually a very adventurous eater, and I love to cook, so he always asks me for some of what I’m eating instead of his own meal.

We have used this as an activity that we can do together. We have cooked all sorts of things from sushi to curry to tacos.

He is enjoying our meals so much that he has started to be a bit of a brat to his mother at home about her cooking. I think this has more to do with his age than anything, but my sister is blaming me. She says that I’m “spoiling” him, she’s angry at me for wasting her money, and thinks I’m turning her son against her. I think maybe she’s overworked and being ridiculous!

We have been arguing about this since Friday. She is demanding that I only feed him the food that she brings over, or she will not let me baby sit him. Then she gets mad and blames me for putting her in a “tight spot” because I’m not a reliable babysitter. Is this really such a big deal? Am I the asshole for not feeding him these prepared meals? ######

Response:
 NTA BUT...

>He is enjoying our meals so much that he has started to be a bit of a brat to his mother at home about her cooking.

You need to talk to your nephew about his behavior. If she's overworked, maybe there's a reason she can't be as "adventurous" with food as you can. He needs to understand that. I don't know what he says to your sister, but it must hurt to be overworked and then insulted by your child for not being able to work harder when it comes to food. ######


Prompt:
Background first. I am not an expert on genetics and health but in our family, we are capable of fasting for a very long period without getting sick. I can go up to 3 days drinking only water, eat a huge meal fit for 3 days, then fast for 3 days again without any side effects.

I normally stick to 2-3 meals a day but when there is a dinner event, like buffet, I would fast 2-3 days before and surprise everybody when I eat big amounts of food later(I am rather small 156cm and 51kg).

We were going to hold a small party in our dorm to celebrate the release of lockdown(Yes, it is legal to gather in my country now). We ordered lots of food, and I was going to fast again before the party.

Before the party, a dorm mate of mine asked how I could always eat so much without getting fat. I explained to her that I would simply eat nothing for 2-3 days and eat everything on the day of event. I did warn her that not to do that, not everyone could and it could be dangerous.

Turned out she only listened to the first part of the conversation, starved herself for 2 days and fainted right before the party. She hurt her hips and had to be absent resting in the campus nurse office during the party.

She was and is still angry at me for my "shitty suggestion", but I simply answered her question, I did not suggest for her to starve herself and even specifically told her not to. Her friends are also siding her and blaming me for making her starve and not even bother to give her an apology. I am not apologising for her stupid actions.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA but... That's not a healthy habit. I understand skipping a meal to build appetite - that would be intermittent fasting - but fasting 3 days? It's not genetics and you are not gifted, you have trained your body to do that. It's an eating disorder. Your friend fainted because her body wasn't used to it, not because she was born without a talent for fasting. Evidently it doesn't weigh on you as much as others, but it's unhealthy. Maybe consider picking up a workout routine and simply workout a little more (but within reason!) when you want to build up appetite or stay in shape - or just... Eat a normal amount of food at events. It's okay, you know. Take care.

Source: a recovered anorexic. ######


Prompt:
So, my family has traditions for certain significant birthdays (18,21,30, 50, 75, 90). My next birthday will be my 30th. I'm female. On the 30th my dad takes the kid who is 30, their spouse, and any children they have on a cruise. My sister and I have a somewhat volatile relationship and it gets bad at times, I recently blocked her for over a month and considered not talking to her again.

Onward, my husband and I are not very social people and I have difficulty getting noticed when sister is around. I'm not sure she hogs all the attention on purpose,but nonetheless she does. My brothers can be great or big problems. My sister brought many people on her cruise with her, I did not go. I couldn't afford to. I want to this cruise to be about me and my husband. My sister will make is about herself and her daughter (6y/o). To avoid conflicts,I decided it would be just us and parents, no siblings or extended family. I discussed it with Dad and Husband and we decided it was for the best.

My sister threw a fit. She took it as a personal attack against her! She accused me of purposely making her sad and allowing her to participate in my birthday. She yelled screamed and cried about how mean I was being and how much she'd been looking forward to it. She basically threw a temper tantrum (she does this every few weeks, she's 32). The rest of the family understands,  most weren't coming anyway.  When I told her Mr reasoning she told me I need to change and be more outgoing so she could come and. threatened. to get to get details from my dad and book herself and her family anyway (Dad know not to tell her details)

 I don't want to upset but this is my 30th birthday and my husband too since he is only a month and a half older than me.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA but your sister is and still found someway to make it about her. ######


Prompt:
33F, married, financially stable and happy with a couple cats and a senior dog

My mother (67 F) is a cancer survivor and was recently diagnosed with another, more aggressive form of tumor. Considering her history with treatment, the prognosis isn't good.

She and I aren't close. She has untreated mental health issues (I suspect BPD) that made my life hell growing up, and even in my adult years she's often tried to control my life to make it more like hers. One thing we've always disagreed on is the topic of babies. My mother *loves* babies (but not children, who have opinions) and has desperately wanted to be a grandmother from the moment she found out she was having a daughter. Unfortunately for her, I'm childfree. I like kids. I even work with babies, and I'm good with them. But I've never wanted one, and I'm an only child.

I called her after the diagnosis came in to check on her, and - in tears - she declared that now is the time that I *have* to give her a grandbaby. The doctor is giving her about a year to live, perfect timing if I get pregnant now apparently. She says this is the only thing that would make her feel better about dying.

As usual, I said no. I don't want a kid. My spouse doesn't want a kid. That's it.

Now, several of my mother's friends, who in the past had supported my decision, are calling me up to say I'm TA for refusing her dying wish. They're pointing out that my spouse and I could afford a child (true) and that we already have more space in our home than we need (sort of true), and therefore the only thing that's stopping me from popping out an infant in 9 months is, in their opinion, that I'm a horrible selfish child.

To be clear, I'm not going to change my mind. A lot of factors have gone into my decision not to have babies, and a few old people calling me a self-absorbed bitch won't change that, but I'll admit that perhaps I am, in fact, a self-absorbed bitch.

What say you, reddit? ######

Response: NTA but your mother and her friends sure are. You should never have a child because someone else wants you to. I’m sorry your mother is ill but to demand you have a child so she can be a grandmother is an incredibly selfish thing to do. You do you. Don’t have kids or do based on what you and your partner want, everyone else can shove their opinion right up their arse. ######


Prompt:
Hi. So.

My full name is Elizabeth. I have gone by Elizabeth since I was very small. Of course, throughout the course of my life, people have wanted to shorten it. I have no issue with most nicknames so it doesnt bother me, though I do prefer the full version.

There is one nickname that bothers me, though, and that nickname is Liz.

I HATE that nickname. I'm okay with Lizzy, Ellie, Eliza, Lily, Tess, Libby, any of the million and one nicknames that go with Elizabeth, but I cant STAND LIZ. The reason why is a whole other story.

And everyone, of course, calls me Liz and refuses to stop. Even one of my best friends calls me Liz. I've asked her multiple times to quit, both politely and less politely. She just does it out of habit at this point.

Some of my coworkers recently caught wind of the fact that I hate being called Liz. So of course, the freaking nickname is all they refer to me as. They think its funny.

I know it's just teasing and maybe I'm getting a little too upset, but this is a lifelong annoyance. It's not that hard to use literally any other nickname except for Liz. It's not that hard to just use the full version. I dont feel like I'm asking that much.

I've tried to laugh it off and politely correct them but it never changes. Some people have told me to just ignore them until they call me by my name but I feel like that's really rude and besides this, we are on good terms.

So now I turn to strangers on the Internet. WIBTA if I ignored my coworkers calling me until they call me literally anything other than Liz? ######

Response: NTA but you’ve told them your name.  Silence till they use it.  Call people by their name; don’t arbitrarily change someone’s name without their consent. ######


Prompt:
My (f17) sister and her (m37) husband are currently staying with us, My sister and I get along very well, But her husband is a jerk, he's a sarcastic asshole who doesn't care about other people's feelings, This is one of the many reasons why I don't like him so much.

So last night BIL was laying on the couch watching CNN, While I was scrolling through reddit and having a bit of fun, My sister shouted from the kitchen when she was done with the dishes and told my BIL to take the trash out, He turned to me and said:

BIL: (my name) go take the trash out.
Me: But she TOLD you to take the trash out!
BIL: Yes, I'm not deaf, I heard what she just said, But I'm TELLING YOU NOW to take the trash out, I suppose you're not deaf either, are ya?

I tried to keep my cool and ignore him.

Me: I'm sorry, I thought that this is a man's job!.

BIL: You're a girl??? (Sarcastically)

When he said that I knew he was making fun of my new pixie haircut that I did at home cause I couldn't go to the salon and wanted to try something new.

Me: Are you still making fun of my haircut?.

BIL: Will you do it if I said no?

Me: Unbelieveble!

I get off the couch, took the trash from under the kitchen sink and head out.

On my out, BIL suggested that I dress up and take a selfie of myself next to the trashpin and post it on facebook, you guys have no idea how humiliated that made me feel, I don't care if it's a social media trend, he just humiliated me, he once asked for my opinion on a political matter than he made fun of me, and called me a liberal dum dum, made fun of my new phone case, and criticized my cooking which is the reason why I don't cook anymore.
I told my sister and she said i was just overreacting and that she'll get him to take the trash out next time. ######

Response:
 NTA but you’re giving way too much of your energy to this guy.  He’s a jerk, and you know he’s a jerk.
Telling him, “Don’t take your insecurities about being a 37 year old curmudgeon living at his wife’s parents place out on me.” Just give it back to this guy.  He’ll shut up. ######