Prompt:
Since it's usually just the two of us, my daughter and I are really comfortable at home when iy comes to what we wear or rather what we don't wear. All this was fine because, again, it was just the two of us. When my boyfriend comes around to spend the night or the weekend, we'd dress more 'appropriately' for the duration of his stay and then go back to our normal when he's gone.

With everything that's been happening, I wanted my boyfriend to stay with us because we don't know when it will end. Before inviting him over, I asked my daughter how she felt about that and clarified that this would be indefinite. She said she was cool with it and I invited him. The first week went well and she wore other comfort clothes. Then things completely changed within a day.

The first incident, my boyfriend and I were in the kitchen making breakfast and she came in wearing just underwear and a towel on her head (just came out of the shower). Breasts completely bare and she didn't even care to try cover them up. Instead she just walked in, greeted us casually, grabbed herself a glass of water then left. My boyfriend didn't say a word and I could tell he wasn't entirely comfortable with this so I tried talking to my daughter about but her response was that she wasn't naked.

Now she's been wearing short shorts around the house with just a bra (sometimes) etc. My boyfriend says it doesn't matter anymore because he's used to it now but I don't want him to be used to seeing my daughter like that. It's inappropriate. So I confronted her about this and told her to dress better in his presence but she bit me off about how I should be happy she's that comfortable around him and with her body. We're now constantly arguing over this and I'm wondering if I'm TA ######

Response:
 NTA

That kitchen scene is really weird, why would she walk out in front of your boyfriend with her baps out?

She should feel comfortable in her home, however she is pushing it too far. ######


Prompt:
I'm a guy. Me and my sister still live with our parents. My sister has a girlfriend. I woke at a store that sells a lot of clothes. I get really nice discounts on stuff I buy there. My sister's girlfriend asked me if I could buy a bra for her from there, and then she'd pay me back. Its a specific and fairly expensive kind of bra. She'd save money this way. I said sure and did it. Didn't think much of it.

After I mentioned buying it to my sister, she got very angry at me. Saying its super innapropriate and pervy. She even asked me if I was attracted to her girlfriend (I'm not). She even told me that if her gf ever wore it during sexy time it'd kill the mood since she'd think about me. Our mom is on my sister's side. My girlfriend and all my female friends said I did nothing wrong and my sister is overreacting. I really didn't have bad intentions. ######

Response:
 NTA

That girl asked if you could buy something for her in the store you are working in so she could have a nice discount. You did. If your sister has a problem with that, then she should discuss it with her girlfriend. ######


Prompt:
Context: Since I was born I have had a skin condition which causes my skin to dry easily and even crack open in cold times of year. I also have never been very lovey dovey which my parents blame on me not being allowed to have skin to skin contact with them for the first to weeks of my life due to having little to no liver. I stopped hugging people at 3 and would scream and cry if people new to the family or other young kids would attempt to hug me.

As everyone knows almost everywhere is under lockdown currently, which means my dad who travels for work is home and my mum who travels for fun is also home. I am an extrovert but I still prefer to always be a distance away from people so they don’t accidentally or purposely have physical contact with me. Recently my parents have decided since I am unable to go to therapy to help with my distance issues due to covid(insurance would pay for face to face but not online as they no longer consider it occasional) they would help “fix” it themselves. They have been purposely making me sit in the middle of the couch and cuddle them even though it makes me very uncomfortable and if I am tired enough I panic rather than sit in the lounge chair sofa thing they have for me in the living room. Last night I went to tell my mum goodnight and before I left she pulled me down and forced a hug on me which immediately sent me off, and I told her to not hug me EVER as she knows by now I hate it. She got mad and complained to my dad he went off on me for being upset by such a small thing and that I needed to get over this “don’t touch” me BS, as now that I’m in my teens I should have grown out of it as I am no longer a little kid and the phase should have ended.

AITA for being upset and uncomfortable with this as my entire family except 2 of my siblings are on my parents side with me needing to just accept the hugs and kisses I normally refuse. ######

Response:
 NTA

Tell your parents that their armchair psychology is making everything worse. They are not experts in treating and even though they try to help they are causing a lot more harm than good. Nobody needs to accept hugs and kisses. It's called not giving consent and your parents must respect that. ######


Prompt: So my sister (24) just gave birth to my niece barely two weeks ago, she also has a son, my nephew. After my nephew was born both me and my brother was forced to watch him, if we didn't we would be yelled at or we would be called selfish. Anyway, today she went for a drive with my nephew, didn't bother to take her daughter because she was about to sleep. Now, I know taking care of a six-year-old and a newborn is not easy, but she should have been prepared before she even thought about getting pregnant again (she wanted another baby). I don't think she should just expect us to keep an eye on her or something. Should I tell her this or should I just leave and hope she doesn't do it again? I don't want to get on her bad side, but I don't want to become a personal nanny again at the age of 17 but I also don't want to be selfish. I don't know what to do anymore. She is very emotional and takes things far too personal. So am I the asshole. ######

Response:
 NTA

Talk to her about it, if she keeps being an asshole talk to your parents, if you dont have any other options start saving money and move out, those kids are not your responsability, if she keeps leaving them  without warning you should talk to someone to start giving her warning ######


Prompt: Don't be scared by the title, I'll explain. (I'm a bit new to reddit, sorry if I don't do everything like I should !) So, a few hours ago, my mother took a picture of me. Seems harmless right ? I was dressed, in a normal position, nothing wrong with the picture itself I guess. But here's the twisted part : She took it without asking, to send it to her cousin (A nice woman, but I still don't want her to receive a random photo of me). I asked her to delete it, I dislike having pictures taken of me in general. She didn't delete it, and started getting mad because I was angry at her and talking a bit roughly. My father supported her. It didn't seem weird to them to do something like that. It's actually not the first time she does something like that. Did I overreact? AITA for getting mad at them ? ######

Response:
 NTA

Taking pictures of someone without their consent shows lack of respect and is a breach of privacy. Does not matter if they are for "memories", nobody should take pictures of you against your will. ######


Prompt:
Greetings everyone, I would like to begin by advising that this is my first post here so... bear with me please. With that being said, if I break any rules here please let me know, thank you :)

With *that* out of the way, here we go!

I’ll keep it brief, my name is Jay, and I have a girlfriend who lives an hour away, we haven’t seen each other in a month so online contact is crucial.l, which that being said, I am a person who enjoys getting healthy hours of sleep, meanwhile, my girlfriend goes to sleep at 5:00AM and wakes up like at 3:00PM. And that is the only damn time she makes for me, at midnight and up. Which frustrates me because she makes almost no time for me and time for me. She proceeds to guilt me into not making time for her at night. I’d 100% prefer to sleep and wake up happy to have productive day then listen to my girlfriend ramble about her basic friends and scroll endlessly through Instagram. She doesn’t even care about how I am emotionally/physically/spiritually when we talk etc. AITA?!?

Nor does she appreciate me risking my sleeping hours to listen to her.

Our situations:
-She is rich and the only child in the house
-I am struggling due to a legal situation from my dad and have 4 siblings who live with me

Note: yes I’ve discussed this with her and told her every single detail mentioned here, she proceeds to tell me I’m boring or “boomer” (haha funnies), or simply doesn’t care.

By the way... thanks for reading this at least, it means a lot :) ######

Response:
 NTA

Taking care of yourself, even in a relationship, has to be your first priority. If you haven’t had enough sleep (especially on a regular basis) then there’s no way you will be rested enough to be a good partner to her and a good person to yourself

If the only time she makes for you is 00.00 - 05.00 then that’s an issue, since that is widely regarded as sleepy time by the average person. It’s unreasonable for her to guilt you into being free then.

ETA: If she says she doesn’t care when you need sleep, that’s a red flag. I felt that was important to mention. In no scenario should she be more important then your basic wellbeing and she shouldn’t be pressuring you to treat her as such. ######


Prompt:
For context, I'm sixteen and my brother is eight and autistic.

My brother is developing an infection on his leg that's getting worse every day. Just three months ago, I had to do a major surgery on both legs for this exact infection - MRSA - and almost had to amputate. I can tell that my brother is developing the same thing, but my parents are refusing to take him to the hospital and insist on using various creams on the spot that aren't prescribed and don't seem to be helping.

I've asked both my parents to please take him to the hospital, because I struggled so much with my own surgery and Im hoping if we take him now, we won't have to operate on his legs. However, my mom is insistent that it's no big deal (she insisted this last time when it happened to me too, which is why my legs got so bad before I was taken to emergency). My dad just complains about how my mom would yell if he took him to the hospital and we've argued about this but he won't budge.

I want to take my brother to the hospital, maybe early in the morning before my parents wake up. I can cover the Healthcare costs with the money I've earned tutoring and all the money I've saved all my life from birthdays and holidays. Granted, I can't sign consent forms for him as I'm not an adult yet, but that's only if he needs surgery and I don't think he does yet, though he will if it goes untreated for a week. ######

Response:
 NTA

Take him to the hospital and tell them repeatedly that your parents are refusing to get him medical care. ######


Prompt:
This occurred around a month ago and this incident recently came to light.

I (16M) was out with my friend (17F) at a park and these two girls (I'm guessing same age as us) saw me. They were chatting shit about us in Turkish (talking about how foreigners keep on entering their country, trying to guess where we're from and just basically gossiping about me in particular)

I didn't mind and done my best to ignore them, until one of them yelled "Hey chocolate boy!" at me (reference to my skin color, I'm black).

They didn't know that I knew Turkish (I lived here for nearly 2 years now) and I took my opportunity to make a cheeky comment.

I smiled and casually replied back "You like chocolate huh? Wanna try some?" and I gave them a wink. They were surprised that I understood them, but then their expression quickly changed to disgust at my comment. They gave me a dirty look and quickly walked away.

My friend (who doesn't know as much of the language as I do) asked what I said and I told her. She called me immature for doing so and said that my comment was "unwarranted and inappropriate".

In my opinion, I don't think I messed up that bad. They were being racist and I decided to make a joke out of it. But now that I got this story off my chest, I want to see if I'm the asshole because of it. ######

Response:
 NTA

Sure, unprompted, that would have been pretty lewd and inappropriate. But it was in response to a racist remark being flung at you. What do they say; play shitty games, win shitty prizes?

You keep being awesome ######


Prompt:
I (26F) currently live in a 4bed flat, I have one son who’s 2, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 17 months and we decided we were ready to move in together.

My boyfriend (37)  has two children, 13 and 10.

Currently my rooms are; sons room, my room and study where I work and my sons toys stay otherwise it’s a lot of clutter which I hate.

The spare room has a built in wardrobe,  could fit two single beds and a vanity, we could even put a tv up on the wall.

I told my boyfriend the plans for the room, asked if he agreed and he did agree, we’ve got the whole room set up and showed it to the girls, saying it’s probably only temporary anyway as we are thinking of having another child and I want a garden.

The eldest (13) started yelling  about how she deserves her own space and how it’s a joke to expect her to share a room with her younger sister for two weeks of the month.

My boyfriend has been told by his ex that we can’t just cram them into a spare room, I don’t believe we’re doing that and now the eldest is refusing to visit.

I work from home so I really do need the study, my boyfriend wants me to work in our bedroom.

I’ve refused, I shared a room growing up and I’m fine plus it’s only temporary.

So now my boyfriends upset with me, his ex is upset with me and so is his daughter.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Sure, everyone having a room to themselves is nicer than sharing, especially in your teenage years. But as you've said, it's only temporarily. You need your work space and with younger kids in the house, working in the living room is not really an option. Do I even have to comment on working in the bedroom? There are tons of articles recommending you separate your resting and your working space for psychological reasons.

Don't cave in. It's your house. ######


Prompt:
I (f,21) have been buying icecream from our local icecream shop since the corona crisis forced it shut. They now deliver. I love their icecream and I want to support local buisinesses now as much as possible, which is why I buy from them as opposed to the supermarket.

Their icecream is however really expensive. I can get one 150 ml cup for the same price as I could get a liter bin of icecream in the supermarket. Even Ben en Jerry’s is about half as expensive as this icecream. I pay about $30 for 1500 ml (But it has super intense and very experimental flavours, great quality).

Now that I ordered their icecream (I order 10 small cups once per two weeks) my mom has been asking me for a cup, which is fine by me. A second one, also fine. But yesterday she asked for her fourth cup and I said no. She has been acting like i refused her love or something, but i simply don’t want to give away all my (expensive) icecream. I look forward to it, and even though I don’t mind sharing some of it, I do want most.

I also ask her everytime I order if she wants some for her and my dad too. She always says no. (And then asks for mine).

I feel really bad now because she makes a big deal out of it, and it’s just icecream. But then again, I asked her if she wanted any and she said no. I feel entitled to my icecream.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 NTA

Stock some basic ice cream cups from the supermarket and give those to her when she asks. Super premium ice cream is your bliss, but if she doesn't want to buy it herself, she can eat the basic brand. ######


Prompt:
I’ll keep it short and sweet. So my friend (I’ll call him Steve) is known as a huge flirt amongst our friends. We call him the bulldog, cause he literally takes every chance he gets to flirt with any female in range, even though he has a girlfriend. From buying girls random stuff to just weird and uncalled for compliments, he’s the ultimate flirt.

So anyway, I was at a small get together with some friends last weekend, and Steve was there, without his girlfriend. Steve was all over my girl, but I let it slide because I trust my girlfriend. (This has nothing to do with her, In not upset with her in the slightest) My girlfriend starts drinking pretty heavily, and begins throwing up halfway through the night. I’m taking care of her, and Steve starts to help as well. At first I was happy for the help, but as soon as I walked away to get some water, Steve swoops in and starts rubbing her back, and holding her neck with his hands. He was REALLY close. I didn’t really care, but it gets weirder. I try to come by her side and hold her hair back, but he kind of blocks me off! He put his arm around her to carry her off to sit in her and my tent.

At this point, I really think there is no point at all for him to be helping. If anything, he’s making it worse for her. I mean if I were puking my guts out I’d rather there be nobody around except for maybe one person. Later that night, my girlfriend told me that Steve kept asking for hugs because he and his girlfriend were not in a good spot and he missed her. What?????!! However, she did say that I shouldn’t be mad and that Steve was genuinely just trying to help out the situation. He CAN be a nice and selfless person, but I was a little too weirded out to tell.

Was he just being nice? Am I just being jealous? ######

Response:
 NTA

Steve sounds predatory in his actions towards women. ######


Prompt:
My parents announced that after everything has calmed down, they want to move to another town about four hours away from here. I don't want to go with them for a few reasons:

1. I'll be a junior in high school next year, and I don't want to start over at a new school and leave my friends behind, just to change everything again when I go to college two years later.
2. The town is in the middle of nowhere and doesn't sound like a place I'd like.
3. I don't want to leave my grandparents, who raised me.

My grandparents said I don't have to go if I don't want to, and that I can stay with them. Technically my parents could make me move with them, but they really can't because my grandparents are giving them money for the move and bills. My grandparents said they would not give my parents anything if they forced me to move with them, so my parents would be stuck here anyway.

My parents tried to convince me that the new town would be great, and told me that I should tell my grandparents that I wanted to move away, so that we could get the money. I feel bad because my parents aren't all bad and I love them, but I'd rather stay where I am. Would I be the asshole if I made my parents go without me? ######

Response:
 NTA

Sounds like you're being reasonable about it. ######


Prompt:
Due to her work schedule, my daughter's mom can only see her 4 hours a day through the week and on weekends. The past week alone, there were 4 times she was too busy/didn't have time to pick her up, reasons given were that stayed up all night drinking with her brother last weekend and slept til 5 the next day, had to spend the next day doing the errands she was supposed to do instead of sleeping, laundy, and a date.

I told her I didn't want to her it anymore, since she easily could have prioritized seeing our daughter, and she starts calling me an asshole and saying I don't understand what it's like to be a single mom, or how busy she is. (I'm also a single parent, for the record)

Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 NTA

Sounds like you have primary custody. If she wanted to see her daughter, she would. Instead, she drinks to excess and stays up late ensuring she won’t be able to see her.

You don’t get to complain when you’re the only thing standing in your way. ######


Prompt:
I attend a university where community building & bonding is extremely important. Everyone is family in a sense and we just love to have fun and help each other out. We have a ton of orgs on campus, and each org has a GroupMe account, so does most classes as students use them to share answers, asks questions and just talk. These GroupMe’s are also used to wish each other good luck, happy holidays and to campaign for on campus elections. For example, when I pledged my sorority I had several people in my GM chats congratulate me even though we’re not necessarily friends. It’s also not normal for people to wish each other a happy holiday. (Happy founders day, happy thanksgiving, happy St. Patty’s day and so forth)

Well, this past Easter we had an issue where a Muslim student was really upset that people in her GroupMe chats had been wishing each other a happy Easter. She said it was extremely disrespectful to her and her religion and that she would leave each and every chat she was in because of it. Then she went on Instagram to further say that anyone who wished a happy Easter in a chat that she was in was disrespectful and should’ve known better. I was confused because while I am Christian I come from a dominantly Islamic family and I had never heard from any of them even the elders that something like this was an issue. She claims that she doesn’t go in her chat wishing a happy Ramadan or other Muslim holidays so we shouldn’t be wishing each other a happy Easter as it was a slap in the face for her. I really just don’t see it that way though. I know that no one would blink an eye if she was to say happy Ramadan or some other Muslim holiday. I wasn’t upset, just more annoyed with the social media and GroupMe tirade she went on.

AITA for not seeing an issue with wishing people a happy Easter on GroupMe? ######

Response:
 NTA

Sounds like someone who just wants to be outraged. ######


Prompt:
I'm a 29 year old mother of a 6 year old son. He had been just the normal kid growing up, curious and enthusiastic as ever. Lately I have noticed him roleplaying feminine characters while playing, favoring more feminine attitudes and toys/games.  That was completely fine by me and his father and we never discouraged it.

However three days ago I was online clothes shopping and thought it would be a fun idea to include my son and help me choose and pick colors/styles for mine and his clothes. He was very happy to do so and helped me choose my clothes. When we were looking through the kids section of the online store, he showed interest in both boy-ish and girl-ish styles so I thought it would be a good idea to encourage him to pick whatever he wants. He picked 3 t-shirts and one dress and I had them all ordered. I didn't explain to him that dresses are for girls and didn't act as if him picking a dress was weird, I just wanted t get him what he wants.

Later that day I was talking to my husband and mentioned the incident to him, he got absolutely furious. He told me I'm encouraging a little boy to be insecure of his identity and "masculinity". I told him that was ridiculous and that our son doesn't even understand what masculinity is, he's just a kid and he has no clear "identity" yet. He got mad and has been acting weird to me since, as if I'm a danger to our son. Should I have explained to my son that dresses are for girls and that he's a boy?

TL;Dr: bought a dress for my son like he wanted and my husband got mad at me for not explaining to him that it's for girls. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Sounds like someone else is insecure about his own masculinity... ######


Prompt:
I (33/f) was recently dating a guy (29/m) and spending a lot of time at his house. He lives with his brother (33/m) and his brother's girlfriend, K, (28/f) was there quite often.  She and I had quite a bit in common; the biggest thing being we are both in long term recovery from substance abuse ( I go to NA and she goes to AA).  We found each other and Facebook and had quite a few mutual friends. Over the past few months we've gotten really close and I like this woman a lot.

Well, my ex has been struggling with depression and insecurities and broke up with me on Saturday (which just so happened to be my birthday).  I am not sure if we are getting back together or even if I'm interested in getting back together with him at this point. I'm still very much in my feelings about the break up.

Regardless of my feelings towards my ex, I'd like to remain friends with K.  We shared a lot of silly things such as a shared sense of humor, similar style, vaping, and media taste. The biggest thing however was our recovery. Because of the pandemic in person meetings have been cancelled and we now do meetings over Zoom. So she is the only person in recovery that I've seen since early March and the therapeutic value of one addict helping another is unparalleled. This is in our literature, but I've found it especially true in my life.

I'd like to message her on Facebook and let her know that even though my ex and I are no longer together I'd like to remain friends. Possibly get coffee or hit meetings together when we are able to. I have no plans to say anything disparaging about my ex, because I do think he's a good person and care about him, but that doesn't mean things will work out between us.

I do see where this could make things awkward for a lot of parties involved and wonder if I reach out wibta? ######

Response:
 NTA

Sounds like a healthy friendship so long as you maintain distance from her bf and your ex, at least for now! ######


Prompt:
This happened two years ago when my daughter was just 9 months old.

I'm Australian but I live in the UK. I went back to Australia to visit my family and introduce my daughter to some elderly relatives who couldn't make the trip anymore. Obviously I knew that flying with a 9 month old would not be easy so I prepped as well as I could. I packed her favourite teddy, brought books and and some toys.

On the plane I sat next to an older couple. They gave me the stink eye as soon as I sat down. During take off my baby cried. They sighed. A bit later she cried again. The woman next to me asked me to shush my baby. I told her I was doing my best. At some point I needed to pee so I asked a flight attendant if she could hold my baby (she told me I could do that when I was boarding). The guy sitting next to me told me I shouldn't be flying if I can't take care of my baby by myself.
It went on and on with their complaints. Then the woman told me that the decent thing to do would have been to bring earplugs for the other passengers and that next time maybe I shouldn't fly with a baby since it's disrupting everyone's experience. At this point I was fed up. I told her that they should have brought their own earplugs since I am not the first woman to fly with a baby so it could have been anticipated. And that my baby was a child therefore couldn't control herself whereas they were grow adults who should know how to behave themselves.

The guy behind us must have heard because he leaned forward and told me that it is generally considered rude or disrespectful to fly with a baby. I told him flying is a form of public transportation and if he wants to control his surroundings he should have chosen a private jet.

I was quite upset at the time probably because I knew I was the hated one on the plane. I still think about it sometimes and I decided to settle it now.

AITA for bringing a baby on a plane?

Edit typo ######

Response:
 NTA

Sometimes people with babies need to fly. Sometimes babies cry. Such is life.

As long as the parent is doing their best to keep their baby quiet I take no issue with them. If you had ignored your kid completely and popped on your own noise cancelling earphones *then* you'd be an AH. But you were trying to keep her quiet. And these people gave you the stink eye from the off, even when she was quiet. They were never going to be happy, and a couple of pairs of earplugs would not have changed it.

> The guy behind us must have heard because he leaned forward and told me that it is generally considered rude or disrespectful to fly with a baby.

I've been on flights that have actual cots for babies. So that is bullshit. The airlines actually support you doing it. ######


Prompt:
I went out to dinner with my husband and our neighbors. My husband is a native Spanish speaker and I am mostly fluent. During the dinner, I got a few texts from the babysitter saying that my son had diarrhea in his pants and was crying from an upset stomach. Another came a few minutes later saying he didn’t have a fever and the babysitter had it under control and we didn’t need to come home early. I saw the texts after the second one came in so I got the whole story at once.

My husband asked what was wrong and I quickly told him in Spanish because I didn’t want to talk about poop at the table, but I also didn’t want to just say that our son had an upset stomach because he’s been having some digestive issues so it’s important for us to know what’s going on. I also wanted to make sure that he didn’t want to head out early under the circumstances even though the sitter said she had it handled.

Well the husband of the other couple didn’t not take it well. He called us rude and demanded to know what we said. I tried to explain that my son was having a health problem and I didn’t want to toilet talk at the table, but he didn’t believe me and said that we were obviously talking about them. We both tried to reassure him that we weren’t, but he refused to speak to us for the rest of the meal. We ended up just making awkward small talk with his wife who looked like she was very embarrassed. However, when I retold this story to some friends, some said we shouldn’t have spoken Spanish in front of them because it was rude and it’s only natural to worry that we were talking negatively about them. Am I the asshole for speaking Spanish about my sons accident/illness at the dinner table? ######

Response:
 NTA

Someone is insecure (it’s the other husband) and is projecting his insecurities on you.

Yes it’s generally rude to carry on full conversations in another language in front of non-speakers... but in this circumstance it was truly appropriate and not rude in the least. ######


Prompt: There's this candle company that makes candles based on different locations and the majority of them are jokes. The one for Ohio is unscented and says something to the effect of the state being boring and uninteresting. I decided to share it with my family, especially my sister, S, because she lives there. When S saw it she immediately went into a long paragraph about how Ohio was a great state and how the meme was offensive to her and her girlfriend's family. I tried to laugh it off and say it was just a joke and that she shouldn't take it so personally, but then she quotes Until Dawn at me: "It was just a prank, Han." Like seriously? Over a candle? I told her to stop being so melodramatic and get over herself. She comes at me with how she found it offensive and I should apologize. I didn't even make the candle and people make fun of other states all the time. I don't think I should have to apologize for this, but idk. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Someone has a 'total sense of humor failure' ######


Prompt: I really like to draw and my mom supports me on that. Recently she got me a new sketch book when she went out, I've had the book for 1 month or so then a couple days ago she told me that she looked through the book, I was visibly upset ( I've told people before that i do not like it when they look through my sketch book without  my approval) I told her in the nicest way possible that was my book and it's not hers to just flip through whenever she wants.  Then she starts  yelling at me telling me that she bought it and she could look through it whenever she wanted. I try to defend myself telling her that I would decide if I wanted anyone to see it but she kept cutting me off. I was pretty pissed and left. I feel like I might be the asshole because shes my mom and she encouraged me to draw when my family wouldn't accept it as a career choice. I know this is not as dramatic as other posts but please I want to know AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Some parents just don't understand transfer of property! If she bought something for you, that makes it yours! Even if she bought it! ######


Prompt:
So my parents love movies like fast and furious and movies with lots of action and guns. (Die hard ect..)
They do occasionally pick a different movie but that’s incredibly rare and so it’s normally a die hard clone or a movie with some super buff guy shooting a gun.

I’m not a huge fan of those types of movies and would rather watch something animated like a studio ghibli film (I’m going through the Netflix library atm) or something with a complex story or that is kinda strange.

For the past week they have been telling me to broaden my horizons and watch a movie with them and I’ve been saying no as I absolutely despise all the gun/car heavy movies they pick.
I hate the genre as a whole and so have just been watching things in my room.
(This is a issue as my parents have a no food in room rule and so when I get hungry I have to stay out in the lounge)
Recently we got in a fight about it as my parents are getting annoyed we are not hanging out as a family so I suggested I pick the movie, so I decided to put on a ghibli film.
Dad automatically said no and asked me to change it and Mum agreed.

I then got kinda annoyed and in the heat of the moment called them hypocrites for telling me I need to broaden my horizons while not letting me pick a movie. And I told them I was sick of gun heavy movies.

My parents and me are now kinda on edge and I’m wondering if I actually fucked up and should apologise.

(I’m 17) (female) ######

Response:
 NTA

So they told you to make a choice, and then told you that you couldn't make *that* choice? They're T A. ######


Prompt:
My ex and I broke up 6 months ago because he cheated. I asked him to reconsider but he said nothing could change his mind and he doesn't want to see me ever again. I respected that and didn't b try to contact him after.

A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant. At first I was still hurt by his words and actions and I didn't want him to think that I'm using the baby as a way to get him back so I decided to wait for the first trimester to be over before telling him.  But when I tried contacting him I realised I had been blocked everywhere. I didn't know his new address but from my mum I found out where he worked now. So last week I decided to drop in because I'll be moving away before the baby arrives and he should probably know he'll have a son soon.

So I showed up and told him and he was less than thrilled. He said I should have told him earlier when something could have been done about it still and he wasn't happy I showed up at his work. ( I didn't go in, I waited at his car).

He is very displeased with the whole situation. I'm not sure if I'm TA because he did tell me to never contact him again and when I tried it didn't work. And running after him just wasn't my first priority especially because I knew I'd keep the baby no matter what. ######

Response:
 NTA

So he cheated on you, blocked you, and is upset you didn't tell him you're pregnant with his child?

I have a feeling he's the asshole, not you. Hopefully you find a partner who will love that child as their own. Stay strong. This is a terrible situation regardless of who the asshole is ######


Prompt:
I'm at the Outer Banks on vacation with my large extended family (mom's side, about 20 people) and I am using a prescription face medication that causes my face to be dry. If I go in the ocean, my face will get very painful and I will have a burning sensation for a few hours.

However, for the past few days, my family has been insisting that I go in the ocean and that I'm not enjoying the vacation. My mom is threatening to take away my computer if I don't.

So, I said that I saw a jellyfish, and they all cleared out. No one else was affected, they didn't tell anyone. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Smart thinking actually ######


Prompt:
Backstory: I passed my driving test in April last year and ever since then have been parking my car in the allocated parking space outside the house. (The house does not have a driveway).

Up until the last month or so, I have had no problems with parking my car here. Since the lockdown my neighbours parents have been visiting virtually everyday, this is not my problem. My problem is that they insist on parking in my space if I’m not home when they arrive. My neighbours have a car, meaning their parents cannot park in their space... there is, however, visitors parking opposite our houses.

So the way I may have been TA is because I got home around 9pm after a long hard day and couldn’t park my car because, you guessed it, the neighbours parents were in my space. Not knowing what else to do, and being fed up because this is happening virtually every day now, I parked directly behind their car blocking their exit, but other neighbours could still get out. I feel the need to note that had they come and ask, I had every intention of moving my car, I just wanted to show them how annoying it is seeing as asking them politely clearly hasn’t worked. Anyways, fastforward a few hours and I was exhausted (the neighbours parents still hadn’t left but I wanted to go to bed) so I moved my car on to the visitors parking and as I was walking back to the house I heard a voice say “finally, I can go home now she’s moved the car”.

So, AITA for wanting them to knock on my door and ask me to move my car to show them it’s annoying not being able to park/ pull away easily?

Edit: can I please just point out that 1) they are designated spaces in each houses tenancy agreements and 2) the tenancy agreement also states that our visitors must park in the visitors parking spaces. ######

Response:
 NTA

Since it's your space per the lease, call and have them towed next time. ######


Prompt:
I am currently 21 and going to graduate college soon after the summer semester. I'm currently getting towards the end of the spring semester. My mom passed away 5 days ago at 46 yrs old, so I notified all my professors and they all gave me extensions and were very understanding and compassionate, including the professor in question.

This is what the professor told me. I'll call her Prof. She said that as long as I can turn everything in by the last day of school, there will be no point deduction.

Recently we had a take home test due (since school is now totally online). Part 1 was multiple choice, part 2 was free response (short answers, sketches of depositional environments etc). I have not completed it yet and it was due yesterday. One day ago. In the online class video chat today, everyone had questions about flaws in the exam, what they got wrong etc. They wanted her to release the answers. Usually if a student hasn't taken the exam, the teacher waits until they take it, then they can release the answers. Prof said: ok I can release the answers right now and go over them. The person that didn't take the test will get an alternate assignment. She then talked about the answers to part 1.

She didn't discuss answers to part 2. However I got an email saying, in summary:

Parts 1 and 2 will each get 50% point deduction for lateness and seeing the answera. This is almost 8 points off of my final grade. It is meant to be fair to others. I can understand part 1, but why deduct from part 2 when I didn't get any answers?

I'm so mad right now I'm shaking. Will I be a jerk if I write that she was not helpful in this situation in her university evaluation? I will of course answer other questions fairly, like for example she does a good job answering questions. I won't lie and say she was bad at that just because I am mad. However, commenting about her compassion or whatever could hurt her career. ######

Response:
 NTA

Simply taking points away isn't an alternate assignment. Not only was she too lazy to make one for you, she lied about it in front of the class to look better. ######


Prompt:
My SIL and BIL had a....quick romance. They started dating after a month of knowing each other, got engaged after 4 months of dating and got married a month after being engaged.

They'd planned on a year engagement but wanted to move in together. (Sex. They wanted to lose their virginity. Think Westboro Baptist 'Christian')

So, they announced that they were going to get married in a week via text message. They informed my parents in law that they would use their  back yard and insisted that we all pitch in to help.

So, my hubby and his parents took off work to clean and renovat a rather neglected back yard. I was able to cut my hours to help as well.

I sewed her dress and her maid of honor gown. If those had been commissioned gowns, they'd have been 1,500 or so USD each. I didn't charge her for my time or material.

My husband bought a few thousand dollar worth of material to build a dance floor, upgrade the porch and other stuff.

Their 6th anniversary is happening soon and we got a text from my SIL. She pointed out that money is tight right now(shouldn't be but see another post about that). She asked me to please send money for the anniversary and too send money that I forgot to send for their wedding gift.

I pointed out that the gowns and WEDDING was her gift. She texted back that a dress to be worn once was hardly a good wedding present and I was a bitch ######

Response:
 NTA

SIL sounds very entitled.

Who sends people money for their 6th wedding anniversary? ######


Prompt:
So my 2 step sisters who share a room, I guess they haven't gotten along and arguing a lot. My mom and step dad's solution is to break them up in the room and move me and my step brother into a room. I have had the same room since we all first moved in and I was like 7 or something. I have protested this hard, cause I am 17 and don't want to share a room with a 15yo who always smells bad. Like I'm not trying to be too mean but he smells terrible and refuses to shower.

I asked my mom why one of them couldn't share a room with their brother cause they are all related while I'm not, and she told me to just suck it up. Since I had the smallest room I have to move out of my childhood room to my step brother's room. It sucks but its gonna happen next week, I am pretty mad cause I did nothing wrong and I AM the one getting punished while the 2 who are at wrong are getting a reward. My mom and step dad are telling me to grow up and suck it up but I don't think I'm doing anything wrong. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Shit parenting, shit situation. Fight with your brother a lot. Byt their logic, that should get you your own room. ######


Prompt:
So, I have pretty horrendous eyesight. Well, I used to, because I got LASIK pretty recently. Because of this, I have a habit of leaning closer to the TV or laptop screen or whatever while I’m watching TV. When I say leaning I’m just sitting straight upwards and not leaning back into the couch or bed or whatever. Even after my surgery I haven’t lost the habit and I just lean in when I get really into the show. Idk why but it’s always bothered her. First she said that my posture was bad but when I pointed out to her that my posture is great (by virtue of me sitting with my back straight upwards) and the fact that hers is far worse than mine (her back is curved because of this), she backed off of that excuse. But then she never let go of the issue. For the life of me I don’t know why she has such a problem with it. I should also note that I’ve asked her if I’m blocking her from the screen and she says that I don’t. But she just. Won’t. Stop. It’s gotten worse and more frequent because we’re at home more now and we spend a lot of our time watching Netflix together. I’ve asked her to please stop, I’m doing nothing wrong, etc etc.

So today she was doing it again. I asked her to stop and she does for a while. Then I get up to pee and when I come back she grips my shoulder and pulls me backwards and at this point I can’t help myself and yell at her to leave me alone and eff off and I don’t know why it bothers you so much that I’m sitting straight up or leaning forward, it’s not hurting either me or you. She actually burst into tears and said she’s going for a walk and some fresh air. She hasn’t been back for a while and now I’m getting a bit worried. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

She’s physically controlling how you sit. Not OK. ######


Prompt:
So a few years ago I moved out and my mom would occasionally bring me food, napkins, toilet paper, etc. when she visited. She would also sometimes give me money, nothing big, just enough for 2-3 days of food. This was all done without me ever saying that I'm short on money or needed it or wanted to borrow it.

Now I have moved in with my partner and am financially way better than I was. She still often visits and still brings us food from their local butchery and similar. The only difference is that now my salary is the same as hers and my partner's salary is higher than my mom's and mine. So now she thinks that since I'm better off financially, I owe her the money she gave me. I disagreed with that, because I even told her numerous times that I did not want to take the money and she always insisted on giving it to me.

Over the years those small amounts probably do sum up to half my monthly salary and it's not that much of a problem for me to return it. But I don't feel like I should be obliged to, because she gave it to me on her own will and not because I asked her to. And the way she handled it, acting like I'm trying to, quote: "get out of a debt by never bringing it up".

I also always make sure to bring a small gift when we visit her place. It's usually, again, groceries or something small that I know she needs/will appreciate. I have more than returned what I "owe" her by now.

I'm from Europe so it's also kind of a custom to bring something when you visit, not sure if this is a thing elsewhere. So us bringing each other "gifts" is also pretty normal and expected.

AITA for not wanting to give her the money back? ######

Response:
 NTA

She's your mother and she was helping take care of you, even though you asked her not to. You don't owe her that money back, as that was not the agreement at the time. ######


Prompt:
A few years ago when my daughter was 13 she begged and begged me for a dog till I was so fed up that I gave in. It was a huge mistake but at the time I didn't think it would be since my daughter promised that since it was her dog that she would take care of it and I would just buy it what it needed.

I finally got her a puppy from a neighbour who's dog had just given birth and my daughter was really excited and we both loved the dog.

My daughter was great at first with the dog, took him 3 walks a day if she could and feed him, she did everything right. After a while though she's been doing hardly anything. I understand she has school and a life of her own but I have work and I'm not at home a lot. I can't tell you how many times I've come home to my daughter just watching TV while the dog hasn't been fed or walked all day, and I come home at 9pm. I have enough time in the morning to feed the dog before I leave and maybe a quick walk. But I'm so sick of hearing myself telling her to do the rest. People have also told me they have spotted her not picking up after the dog when she finally does walk him.

I loved the dog so so much, please don't think I didn't. He was part of the family but there was really nothing I could do. Countless times I have told my daughter that if she doesn't look after him then he'll need a new home, she'll care for him a few days after that but then falls back into doing nothing again. I feel sorry for the dog and I just want him to be happy so I gave him to a friend who I know would take amazing care of the dog, plus she has 2 other dogs to keep him company. She says we can visit him anytime we like so it's not like my daughter will never see him.

My daughter isn't speaking to me and I am thinking maybe I've screwed up. It's hard as well because my daughter thinks I didn't care about the dog if I could just give it away like that but it was seriously a really hard decision and one I wish could've been avoided. ######

Response:
 NTA

She's saying you didn't care about the dog? She's the one who would not walk or feed the dog.

You warned her many times. She can still see to the dog.

NTA. She didn't take responsibility and is taking it out on you. ######


Prompt:
My wife and I have custody of my son, she’s legally adopted him now. His mother was opposed to abortion but also is staunchly against having children, so she was going to give him up for adoption. I wanted my son, so I took full custody.

He had her last name, and she failed to inform me of his birth so he got a first and middle name of her choosing. The name she picked was pretty out there, think something like that post about the girl named “qurstyle” or whatever it was but for a boy. I’ve always wanted my son to have my grandad’s name, and since I had full custody I went through the courts to change it.

She no-showed despite being notified and that was that. Additionally, she hadn’t paid child support at all, which was taken into consideration. His middle name is now the first name she picked since it seemed wrong to completely rob him of any connection to her.

That was 3 years ago. We recently went through the process of having my wife legally adopt him which his mother cooperated for. But now that it’s done she’s giving me shit about changing his name, saying it was important to her, yada yada yada despite her not having even visited him ever. I don’t want to block her as when my son is older I’m planning to tell him about his mother and give him the option of seeing her if he wants, and I have to be able to contact her for that.

My wife obviously fully supports me, but his mother is giving me so much shit about it. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

She's not there. The child can change the name back or choose to go by it later if it means anything for him. ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend and I have both hit hard by the economic effects of COVID-19. I was laid off from my job, and my boyfriend's company has furloughed most of its employees indefinitely. We are both very anxious about our future, and every dollar we receive from unemployment and our stimulus checks is going directly into savings, with a small portion left over for a discounted monthly rent payment we've negotiated with our landlord. Our goal is to have a year's worth of expenses covered in case we're both out of work for a long time.

To try to save money, we're living off of what we have on hand in the pantry, so basically various combinations of rice, canned beans and tuna and dried peas/lentils/etc. I'll be the first to admit that these aren't the most fun/flavorful meals, but we need to be financially responsible right now, and we have more than enough food to last us until the end of summer.

My sister has been living with us since February, when she left her job because of conflict with her boss. This was supposed to be a temporary arrangement while she looked for a new job, but obviously, given the current situation, she may be here for a while. Unfortunately, she isn't eligible for unemployment because she left her job at will and she has zero money right now, so my boyfriend and I haven't asked her to contribute anything to the household financially and have been sharing all our food with her.

Everything was fine for the first week or two after the lockdown, but lately my sister keeps complaining that she's sick of eating nothing but rice and beans and keeps saying it isn't fair that we won't order a pizza or buy some "real food" from the grocery store once in a while. I tried to cut her some slack at first because I know this is a stressful situation for everyone, but eventually I snapped and told her she was being ridiculously entitled (especially since she's living with us for free!) and we all have to make sacrifices. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

She's living in YOUR HOME. For FREE. She should be grateful about that instead of complaining. ######


Prompt:
It was a couple of us together, my friend started dating this chick. We live in Colorado, but before his girlfriend lived in LA. She was telling us about how she used to live in L.A that she knew a lot of stars, I am not going to name who. But talked about how she hooked up with certain producers. And then said that her boyfriend is lucky that she is with him.

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This really irked me because my friend is a nice guy and often keeps quiet even when he is uncomfortable. So I just went in and said, 'oh did you actually date these guys or did they just hook up with you once or twice?' She started to get defensive about this, and she was like its more complicated then that. I started pressing more into it as well, and then I said that from my understanding you didn't get those guys. Those guys slept with you and ghosted you and only invited you to parties because you would bring your other female friends.

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She got really flustered and angry,  my friend didn't say anything. I just said hey I got to go. My friend's girlfriend definitely see's me as an asshole. And said what I said was misogynist. I don't see it that way at all. I didn't like her thinking she was above my friend or whatever weird power dynamic she was trying to do. ######

Response:
 NTA

She's emotionally abusing her boyfriend by bragging about how many guys she slept with and telling him he should feel lucky, because clearly she's just "lowering her standards." Your friends might have felt awkward about the exchange, but their silence says more on their willingness to condone such behaviour than anything else. ######


Prompt:
I had a heated argument with my mother about her lying.

She really likes to talk about me; especially if it's something that SHE thinks is correct, but is in fact a lie.
She thinks that she knows everything about me and that she can read my mind.
Especially in conversations with others where she would talk "for" me.

Today I told her that I really liked the one thing she brought with her about a week ago and wanted to ask her to buy it again sometime.

She looked at my dad and said: "Did you know that she ate it in one sitting?"
I was confused that she would lie about me.
Me: "That's not true."
She ignores me.
I say it again, loudly.
She still ignores me.
Me (yelling because I'm frustrated): "Why would you lie about me? It's not true! You're always doing this! Talking lies about me! Stop it already!"
Then she stormed out whilst saying: "You have cut my last nerve! Leave me in piece!"

I know that I overreacted, but I have tried talking to her so many times without results.

AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA

She wasn't willing to listen to you and ignored you. Sometimes, yelling, though far from a good thing, is the only way to get through people. ######


Prompt:
For context, I bought a new cast iron skillet and still trying to get the hang of using it to cook a nice melted cheese sandwich.

I thought that I should be sweet and make my wife breakfast. I’ve did this for a number of occasions these past couple of weeks but today was the one that made me rather pissed.

She came into the kitchen and started asking why is this toast is slightly burnt; the french toast has not absorbed enough egg etc. She then proceeded to give me feedback about how I should do it. I just told her that “Look, I just wanted to make a nice breakfast and still trying to get the hang of it. I’m really not trying to be a top chef here.” AND...she got pissed with me.

This is not the first time and each time I just brush it off. But it all just got to me today but I know that if the position has been switched, I would be told off for trying to tell her what to do. ######

Response:
 NTA

She was being ungrateful and rude. ######


Prompt: I (m,23) have zero tolerance for people who are late. I have been dating a girl (22) for a few months now. She is always late, usually 5-10minutes but sometimes 15-20minutes. It drives me nuts but I dont say much. Yesterday we had a date, she did not show up I was calling her but she was not picking up the phone. After a while I decided to go back home. After 50mins she calls me and says she went to the beauty salon to get her hair done so thats why she was not able to pick up the phone and she was late. She went really mad when told her that I already left. She called me AH, because she spent all the time to look beautiful to me but I did not wait and just left. So, AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA

She was at least 50 minutes late.  That's extremely disrespectful of your time.

This isn't going change.  Find someone else to date. ######


Prompt:
its been going on for a while, but durring the lock down her complaining about not being able to find a 'man up to her standards' has gotten the better of me(26f).

Her wants:
roughly her age
Never married
No kids
high paying job
no exes drama
fit/stays in shape
loyal
doesnt mind spoiler her and their kids.

Now thats not an unseasonable expectation on its face but she(36f)...

1 marriage ended in divorce
3 kids by 3 different guys, yes one is the ex husbands(middle kid)
VERY low paying job, needs welfare and mom's help to get by since her baby daddys are dead beats
lotta baby daddy  drama
60 pounds over weight
far as i know shes never been a cheater though

Shes still been trying online dating during the lock down, but she says shes keeping it to just talking with hopes of meeting after the rona. Which i do think is the responsible way to do it and Im very glad shes handling her search that way.   But she keeps complaining, usually via text, every day how theres no good guys that meet her standards.  most the high earners have a kid or ex wife, or dont have time to work out due to his job.

So I told her, in private of course, that"you needs to be realistic. 99% of high earning mid 30s men dont want someone with multiple kids by multiple men, that has no income and is overweight. the '1%' of men look for the '1%' of women.  If she wants a new husband she'll likely have to settle for medium income and probably at least an ex if not a kid". She called me a bitch for trying to tear down her dream. now mom is upset with me for being too 'mean'.

was i an asshole and went too far? ######

Response:
 NTA

She wants a textbook perfect guy when she's a textbook mess. ######


Prompt:
Hey everyone,

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now I am in a bit of a tricky situation and don’t know how to handle it. My GF borrowed my almost new drone, because she wanted to make some short videos of her new sport activities for me.

I had previously given her a very detailed instruction on what to do and what NEVER to do at all like disabling the automated Anti-Crash system. Well, she disabled it, because with it on the drone will never go lover then 0,5m and she needed it to follow low.

While following her, the drone hit a bench at Full Speed, repair impossible, about 3.200€ to replace it.
Now here is the thing: She is not included in my drone Insurance and has non herself so she has to pay it from her own money. While her Job is not bad, that Money would take her savings of almost 2 years while my job pays way better and I save the sum up in 2-3 month depending on Workload.

I feel bad for having her loose all her hard earned money while it’s kinda nothing for me to pay it but on the other hand I don’t feel like I should have to pay for the damage I did not do.

I will probably decide by your answers what to do. ######

Response:
 NTA

She used it in a manner that you warned against and she broke it. She is liable for it. Wether you want to try and pursue the money is up to you, I wouldn’t call you an ah for expecting a replacement so long as you’re nice about it. ######


Prompt: So, my mum called me and asked me if I wanted to have some Sparkling/fizzy water from the supermarket. I’d have to go with her since her arm is injured and she isn’t strong enough to carry a sixpack. I told her I’m fine and I don’t need any. She said ok, and then came home from work in a fussy mood. I asked her if she’s ok and she said how she wanted fizzy water. She hardly ever drinks it. I told her that if SHE wanted some, she should have told me since I would have gone to the shop with her to get some. I go to my room, and my mum is still upset. I go to her room like an hour later and ask if everything’s ok. She says “I’m thirsty” , while theres a massive glass of water next to her. I point it out to her. She proceeds to say “it’s not the same”. I again tell her how, if SHE wanted sparkling water, she should just tell me up front “ I would also like some sparkling water” and I’d happily go to the shop with her. Now she is acting like I’m an AH. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

She sounds mad at you not going along with her and like she's trying to make you feel guilty or annoyed ######


Prompt:
My older sister and I share the house we grew up in as part of our inheritance. To keep this as concise as possible, my sister’s boyfriend and I absolutely do not get along. I genuinely do not think he’s a good person and have no problem going out of my way to avoid him. My sister is well aware of the fact that we don’t like each other, but is constantly setting up scenarios for us to get together and hash out our differences.

Although I don’t like him, I don’t care if she brings him over as long as she lets me know when he’s coming, which she normally does. I got off work yesterday and found him in the living room, and when I asked how he got in he said he used a spare key. To my knowledge we don’t have a spare, just the two keys that both my sister and I have, but I shrugged it off and went to my room. When my sister came home, I asked when we got a spare key and she said she copied her key and gave him one so he could come and go since he stays over often. I was furious, because this was never discussed with me. When they went to bed, I took the key off the ring and I have no plans on giving it back. She’s upset with me because she says that the house is just as much hers as it is mine and I don’t have the right to take things that “aren’t mine”. ######

Response:
 NTA

She shouldn't have given him a key without talking to you first.

He doesn't live there, so shouldn't be there if she's out of the house.

But realistically? They're not going to stop. She's just going to make him another key.

If sharing the house with her isn't working for you, then you might need to talk to a lawyer about forcing a sale of the house.

She can take her half of the money, you'll take yours and you can both live in separate homes. ######


Prompt:
I will try to not make this too long, also on mobile, blah blah blah.

So yesterday I(13) was making some ballon dinosaurs and I was using scissors to cut the paper, stupidly I left them out last night and went to bed. I am woken up by my step dad throwing open my door and yelling about how I left the scissors out. My first thought was instantly ‘someone is seriously hurt’, but he continues to say “Your sister just cut off all her hair”. He continues to say that I’m and idiot and I am so stupid, I was in shock (kind of) so I don’t recall what he said word for word. He also said “How do you like to be woken up by being called an idiot or stupid” or something like that. I barley got out a word and the he slammed my door so hard my shelf shook.

I have not left my room as of me typing this but she’s a three year old how could she have cut off all of her hair? And how did she? Yes with scissors, but shouldn’t he be watching his kids?

TL;DR: I left some scissors on the kitchen table, my sister got them, cut off “all of her hair” and my step-dad told me by yelling at me and name calling.

So reddit AITA for leaving the scissors out?

Also I might get in serious trouble and can’t get to my phone or laptop meaning I might not reply to comments later today. ######

Response:
 NTA

SHE SHOULD HAVE BEEN BEING SUPERVISED BY HER PARENTS IN THE FIRST PLACE

It takes time to cut it off, if he had been watching her properly or noticed the scissors out she wouldn’t have done it. ######


Prompt: My girlfriend broke up with my last night out of the blue. She said she woke up one day a couple months ago and said she wasn’t happy in the relationship and she wasn’t getting what she wanted out but she waited until last night to tell me. A few months ago we went to get some pottery at a local store. She wanted to buy a gift for some people. But she left her wallet, so I offered to pay if she paid me back. Well she never paid me back. I want to leave the receipt with a civil message asking for the money back on her door step.  Is this asshole-ish? ######

Response:
 NTA

She said she'd pay you back. A break-up doesn't change anything here. ######


Prompt: So me (m18) and my ex girlfriend (f18) of a little over 8 months broke up about two weeks ago. For context, the breakup was pretty mutual and peaceful because we are both getting ready to go to college and didn’t think we could do long distance. Since then, she made a tik tok with several pictures and videos of me followed by some videos of her crying as a way for her to “cope” apparently. So far it has over 1700 views (I know it’s not a lot for tik tok but still wow) and it has been growing everyday. I have had over 20 people, from friends to people I barely talk to, send it to me asking if I had seen it and told me how inappropriate they thought it was. I totally agree and I asked her, with an emphasis on this, POLITELY, to take it down, and she doesn’t want to. I talked to a mutual friend of ours about it and I could not seem to reason with her, or my ex, that she should take down the video, and they kept turning it back on me as if I was the jerk and should let her do what she wants even though I do not feel comfortable with the video being up. AITA for wanting her to take it down? ######

Response:
 NTA

She posted pictures of you without your permission. Super simple, she should take it down. Additionally, tik tok tends to assume things and you could end up getting a bad name because of what she posted. ######


Prompt:
My older sister and I are very different. She’s very loud, very “open” and pretty shameless. This is why whenever she comes over to my mom’s apartment (where I am currently living because I had to flee my college housing), she has no problem ripping off her shirt to change or to show us that he boobs are bigger/smaller than the week before (shes 24 and for some reason hasn’t adjusted to the fact that they fluctuate with her cycle I guess??).

I however am a bit more reserved. Because of this, I immediately turn away from my sisters bare tits whenever she whips them out in the middle of the living room. Yes, sometimes I say “[Name], Really?” Or something similar, because it genuinely makes me uncomfortable.

This is not something we grew up doing, either. We had separate rooms and stopped bathing together at an early age. My mom uses the bathroom (#1) with the door open, but only when appropriate and when she’s technically out of direct line of sight. (My sister, on the other hand, will leave the door open in the hallway bathroom where she can be seen, heard, and smelled while taking a fat shit, technically not what im asking about but kinda relevant)

Anyways, so one day she rips off the top, I turn away, she goes off, “We’re all girls! What will you do when you have a kid? When you have to bathe them? Well it makes me feel really shitty when you react like that.”

So, am I being a snob/asshole? This is dumb but its been bugging me... ######

Response:
 NTA

She knows it makes you uncomfortable yet she continues to do it. ######


Prompt:
I’ve been with my girlfriend coming up to 1 year now. Her best friend has been having a 3 month affair with a married man. She knows he is married.

She found out she was pregnant a month back and he has completely disappeared into thin air. He has blocked or deleted her from tinder and she never got his real name (they both went by aliases) and now she is desperately searching for him on Facebook but nothing even in the ballpark has come up.

The guy offered her abortion money and offered to go with her. She refused because she has a 3 y/o and she wants a sibling for her baby.

I can’t say I didn’t see him disappearing. He’s a piece of shit coward for having an affair in the first place and so of course he’s gonna abscond from a pregnancy from his side chick too. From my perspective it’s fairly obvious he was using my girlfriends friend and she should have either known that or have been prepared to deal with the consequences.

My girlfriend is very worried about her friend and keeps talking to me about it and asking what I think even though I’ve made it clear I don’t approve of either of their trashy behavior. I told her ‘well what did she expect?’ She keeps asking me if I think ‘as a man’ is it possible he will come back. I said hell no. Sometimes especially within the context of a couple talking let’s be frank we won’t always be politically correct.

She flipped her shit and said that my attitude towards her pregnant friend is misogynistic and I’m being heartless. I don’t think I am and I feel I’m allowed to have an obvious opinion such as that. ######

Response:
 NTA

She knew what she was getting into and you're being honest I get it's her friend but that's no excuse for her behavior ######


Prompt:
So my(25m) sister(19f) is staying with me during quarantine because I live in her college city and our mom is across the country. I live in a two bedroom apartment, but the second bedroom I had been using as a game room/office.

Our mom sent her some money for a bed when she moved in, but my sister spent it on a new computer. Since then she’s been sleeping in a sleeping bag on the floor. For about a month now she’s been whining that it’s uncomfortable and I’d just been ignoring her. Apparently she texted my girlfriend about it because when I talked to her she said it’s “inhumane” that I’m making her sleep on the floor and I should buy a cheap bed for her.

I don’t see why I should have to since she can move back with my mom, or sell her computer and buy a bed. She was given money, it’s not like she didn’t have a chance.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

She knew what she was doing when she used the bed money for a computer. She blatantly thought she could then force you to buy her a bed. She doesn't deserve to be rewarded for misusing your mother's money. ######


Prompt:
I've dated a girl for a few months. I'm her first since her husband of 2 weeks died a year ago this July.
She wants to bring this kid along, but doesn't want her husband's family to know she's dating, so we can't flirt, hold hands, kiss etc. with him around.

Because of that, I said we can't bring him unless she can tell him about us. She can't tell him, but already promised the kid he'd join us. I told her she'd have to go without me if she's gonna bring him.

It might be worth to mention she's got a couple of friends with us to disguise the fact that she's travelling with her new boyfriend.

So, am I the asshole here, or is my decision fair? ######

Response:
 NTA

She isn't ready. ######


Prompt:
A few days ago, my (16F) mom (50) told me that she recorded me singing in the shower from outside the door. Later, one of her friends was over and asked me if I would sing. My mom said that she showed him the video. I didn't say much then, but today, I brought it up and told her she shouldn't record me without my permission or send it to other people.

She almost immediately started screaming at me, saying she never said anything about showing someone else, and that she recorded it for herself because I never sing for her when she asks. It seems like a pretty big deal to her. I get the feeling now she's going to be mad at me for the next few weeks. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

She invaded your privacy and when you called her out on it she reacted in a very belligerent and disingenuous manner. ######


Prompt: my wife has been avoiding me for a couple months now. I thought it was stress. I lost my job, and was fully at home for nearly 3 weeks, and she started working more. Thing is, she would be 2-3 hours late coming home from work. One night, she didnt come home at all. I felt bad for her working so hard, so I made everything here as easy as possible while I looked for a new job. I ended up getting a new job fast enough that we didnt miss a paycheck, but she was still so distant, and still working extra. on my second day of work at the new job, she left for an errand the moment I got home. We have 2 daughters (1 and 2 1/2), so I went to get them from a nap, only to see my wifes ipad open, and receiving messages. some about me, but mostly about the guy shes been seeing for the last 2 weeks. I didnt mean to see them, but I couldnt look away, and she is furious at me for seeing them. I was served divorce papers yesterday, and have been getting messages from her friends saying that im the worst for reading those. Im thinking that if I hadnt seen them, I never would have known about the other guy, and her plan to take the kids to him. so, AITAH for reading my wifes messages? ######

Response:
 NTA

She had the iPad open not closed. So you didn’t go out of your way to look into what she was doing. She’s just using that as an excuse for her cheating. ######


Prompt:
I’m FTM, when I was 14 I came out as transgender to my parents.

My sister was 5 when I came out, she’s now 18.

I’m now 27, married with a daughter (I don’t know if I need to clarify but we used a donor and my wife got pregnant)

My parents helped pay so we could afford the bills etc that came along with trying for a baby.

A month ago my sister told my parents she’s pregnant, they couldn’t  handle it and she asked to live with me, which me and my wife agreed upon.

Last night we were talking about mum and dad and I apologised for their behaviour, it’s just a shock as she’s their only daughter.

She, literally, said “they should accept me being pregnant, like they accepted you being trans”

This, by itself would’ve been frustrating but for the past month she’s been misgendering me- I realise she’s clearly bitter over our parents accepting me and not her pregnancy.

I asked her to leave this morning and after a few tears she’s moving in with our aunt, who lives hours away so she won’t be able to see her baby daddy.

My wife thinks maybe I overreacted because the subject (being trans) can be a little sensitive for me and she’s pregnant and scared.

My aunt thinks I’m a complete twat.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

She got pregnant while very young, not in a serious relationship or financially independent and still living with her parents. I'm not trying to judge anyone else here who may have been in a similar situation but in this case, it doesn't sound like particularly responsible behaviour to me.

So she's trying to compare her being irresponsible and making a mistake to you not being cis, which isn't something you can control.

It's kind of like saying "they should accept me getting pregnant at 18 because they accepted you having blue eyes." One is a behaviour. The other is part of who you are.

Not to mention that the way she's saying it, combined with her misgendering you, makes her sound transphobic, because she's implying that being trans is a bad thing.

Is her misgendering you a new thing? I wonder if she's somehow being radicalised.

Edit: reconsidered my phrasing and changed the word "unmarried" in the first paragraph to "not in a serious relationship or financially independent" ######


Prompt: Last night we decided that I am going to come to her apartment around 8. When I got up today it was raining and the bus was a bit late so I arrived  to her apartment around 8:10. When I knocked on the door she told me through the door that she is just going to take a quick shower. Her showers always take an hour and this was no exception. I was waiting for an hour in the rain, because she wanted to take a shower before opening the door. After she finally opened the door I was horrible. During the day she keeps asking me why I am not joyful as usual. After telling her many times that I had to wait for an hour in the rain she said: "You that I always take a shower first thing in the morning. You should have come at 9". I was defeated and just went back to my place. AITA for acting the way I did? ######

Response:
 NTA

She could have let you in before her shower.

For future reference, a good general plan is to not wait for another person for longer than 15 minutes.

In this case, the minute she left you in the rain so she could take a shower, she prioritized her desire for a shower over your comfort and you should have just left. ######


Prompt:
A girl i had been sleeping with recently got pregnant. She however had been sleeping with dozens of other men and she only slept with me once, while she slept with them all the time. I wore a condom as well so the chances of it being my baby are incredibly slim so she hasn't been able get me for child support but she claims that its mine because the baby is white and she's white and all the other men she slept with are black. (she claims that but i know thats a lie, I've seen her with white and asian men) I basically told her to fuck off whenever she tried to contact me wit the baby.

She wants to take a DNA test to prove wh the father is so she can get child support. Its without a doubt not mine but she wants me because I'm the most financially stable and can pay the most. She is pretty poor and so is most of the city i live in. DNA tests can often costs $300 to $500 gerneally which is like 3-4 of her weeks salary. She wants me and all the other men to go on the Maury show so she can get the test for free. I told her to fuck off and I'm not doing that. She keeps contacting me about it and i got sick of it so i blocked her. Her friends keep contacting me to and i tell them to fuck off and i block them too

A lot of people keep telling  me i need to either pay for the test or go on the Maury show because its unfair for a struggling mom on such a low paycheck to have to pay for that. I saw fuck that and fuck her for being such a whore she doesn't even know who the father is. Its not mine and I'm not going to waste time being on this show, not to mention i don't want the publicity from being on that bullshit show. I don't care if she has to spend that much money on a paternity test, its her own fault ######

Response:
 NTA

She cant tf ake you to court over paternity if she feels so strong about support. ######


Prompt:
Okay I know this is weird. Me and my SO just moved into a new 2 bedroom apartment. We planned to make the second smaller room an office. One of our neighbors from the apartment next door introduced herself as we were moving our stuff in. She’s very chatty and outgoing and we hit it off right away.

She says we seem cool and she wants to ask us a favor: if we could make the east bedroom our master bedroom and make the master bedroom our office. She says this is because the walls are super thin and her room is right on the other side and she could always hear the previous tenants having sex. She said she put up with it then but now that we’re new here and haven’t moved anything in yet, it wouldn’t be a big deal for us to use the other bedroom. That way she wouldn’t be bothered and we wouldn’t have to feel like our privacy was being violated by knowing someone can hear. “Win-win,” she said.

But the thing is the master bedroom is obviously larger than the second bedroom and has two closets. In the smaller room we wouldn’t even be able to fit half of our bedroom furniture. But I’m super non-confrontational and i hate feeling like someone would be mad at me, and don’t want to make an enemy out of our neighbor right off the bat. My SO thinks she’s overstepping and should mind her own business.

Would we be assholes if we moved our bedroom into the master bedroom anyway, even though she asked us politely not to? ######

Response:
 NTA

She can move her own bedroom if it bothers her that much, this neighbour has a real cheek! ######


Prompt:
My roommate got pregnant and asked me to move out so her bf could move in and they could turn my bedroom into a nursery for the baby.

That made sense to me and I had absolutely no problem moving out. My paychecks have been a little unstable anyway, so I had been using my savings to pay rent. So ending the lease early was actually really helpful for me so I can build up my savings again.

I thought I would just go live at parents house for awhile. They are staying at another house they have in different part of the country. They’ve said I can stay there for free as long as I take care of the place and do all the basic upkeep.

The plan was that I would officially move out at the end of this month.

Two weeks ago though my  roommate and her boyfriend got into a big fight and broke up. I don’t know the details. I just know that he doesn’t want to live here with her anymore.

After that my roommate asked If I wanted to stay. I said no because with a baby around the corner (her due date is in early July) I don’t think it will be a pleasant living situation. So since then she has been trying to get a new roommate by posting all over online, but so far no one contacted her about it.

Earlier today she came up to me very seriously and sort of pleaded with me to stay. She said she hasn’t been able to find anyone interested in moving in and she won’t be able to afford rent next month unless someone moves in and doesn’t know what else to do.

I totally get she is in a very tough and scary position now and I do feel sorry for her, but staying at my parents just makes more financial sense for me. It would only hurt me financially to continue to stay here and pay rent. ######

Response:
 NTA

She asked you to move out for the sake of her new family, but what if that didn't work for you? Would she have still let you stay, or would she be more interested in her new plan?

You gotta take care of yourself girl. There are definitely tons of people looking for places to live right now. No shortage of potential roomies.

 If her savings really don't allow her to pay a single month's rent without a roomie, she's got much bigger problems coming her way.

You do NOT want to be around for that, because she'll likely need to be floated money in the future. Plus, her relationship sounds like it's going to be very ON/OFF. Let her deal with her own mess. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend and I live together, and she’s usually pretty relaxed and easy to get along with. But today she put on a smaller tank top, and some shorts, looked in the mirror and asked if the top made her look fat.

Now my girlfriend isn’t fat per se, but she’s a little chubby. She’s still attractive, but she’s not a 2% body fat supermodel. Neither am I, but I don’t get upset if someone points it out.

I said she looked great, and she said that I didn’t answer the question. I asked if she really wanted to know the answer and she said yes. I said the top was a little small, and not super flattering. She then got mad and said that was rude and then started crying.

At this point I got annoyed, and said she shouldn’t ask trap questions if she’s going to cry about it afterwards. I gave her a perfectly nice answer in the first place, and she wanted an honest answer.

She claimed she wanted “support”. We’ve been fighting all day about it.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

She asked you a question, heard the polite answer, refused it and then couldn’t take the honest one ######


Prompt:
I have a daughter who will be 27 in two months, and lately she has been constantly lamenting the fact that she is so "old" and has not found "the one." I know that this is likely a result of so many of her friends having gotten married within the last two or so years, including her younger sister who married her longtime boyfriend last fall. I am sure it also does not help that she has served in the wedding party in many of their weddings.

My daughter has had her share of relationships with really nice guys, in my view, so it's not like she hasn't had her chances. It's just she's never had a relationship last more than about nine months. She might have had one longer than that but certainly never over a year.

Recently when I was talking to her she asked me if there was something wrong with her. I've gotten similar questions in the past, but this time I decided to try a different approach. I told her I had noticed how she treated some of her boyfriends and couldn't blame them for deciding to call it quits. She is really great with her friends and family and not self-centered, but the opposite is true with her boyfriends. She is very demanding and extremely high maintenance, and I think she can be petty. She demands so much of their time and attention that there is nothing left for them, which is why most guys try to avoid girls like her. No matter how pretty or smart she may be it just isn't worth all the headaches.

I feel like this was all something she needs to hear. Most of the guys she is interested in aren't going to put up with this type of behavior (and especially not guys in their late 20s and 30s), so if she wants those guys then she needs to rethink some things and learn not to be so demanding and bossy.

Both my wife and my daughter think I am TA for saying this, but I don't think telling the truth and giving an honest opinion makes someone TA. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

She asked to know what was wrong, you gave an honest opinion. If she thinks she’s hopeless and genuinely wanted an answer well she got one, maybe “the one” will be able to put up with all her needs but for now, you just gave advice that you believe will help her. ######


Prompt:
Background: I dated this guy for 2 almost 3 years. At first everything was fine he is literally the smoothest guy I’ve ever talked to, then all of a sudden something happened with his apartment. He said the lease expired and his landlord was doubling his rent if he renewed it, being 19 at the time I believed him. To make a long story short he drained my bank account, destroyed my car, and left me with PTSD (diagnosed). I now have a restraining order against him. Onto the story.

Approximately a year after we broke up I got an executive chef job at a new restaurant, at this restaurant we had a server who was like a ray of sunshine was personified. Shortly after she turned 18 she started talking about this cool older guy she was hanging out with. She I figured by older she meant 21 or so and just kind of rolled my eyes as she didn’t immediately say anything too alarming.

Then one day she said his name, now his name is really uncommon in the area we’re from, it’s also spelled weird. I asked how it was spelled and she told me, then I asked his age and he was 26 at the time. Finally I asked for a picture and lo and behold it was him.

We were slow so I had one of my line cooks take over and told him to call me if I was busy and same to one of the hosts at the front for her. I went over everything he did to me with her and at the end told her to make her own decisions but he really wasn’t a good guy.

Since that day I’ve had mutual friends of ours and his family (brother, that’s how we met) that I’m friends with tell me that I’m awful.
From their perspective he’s a changed man and I ruined his chance at happiness and I overstepped boundaries. He’s been telling the mutual friends I did it to make him miserable and they’ve been believing him.

From my perspective I was protecting a young girl from making the same mistakes I did.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Seriously.  If I had the mental fortitude and rapport with my exes new significant other I'd have warned her.

Not because I hate him.  I really hope they are actually happy.

But because he used, abused, and manipulated me into never wanting to be in a relationship with a man again and I never want someone else to go through that.

I really don't care about him and his life.  He can be happy or miserable, IDGAF, I just want people to know what they are getting into.

Maybe he has changed, but I doubt it.

Either way you're NTA for telling her what happened to you.  It is absolutely your own business who you tell about your trauma. ######


Prompt: Me (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) were in the middle of foreplay when I pulled back his for skin and saw it was a little bit ( just a little bit ) gross. I asked him if he could clean it before we went any further and he responded by saying “can we not just have sex then go shower?” To which I said that’s unsanitary and I didn’t want to. He then threw a hissy, stated the mood was gone because of me and he didn’t want to have sex anymore. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Seriously, wtf. He needs to clean that shit. I never get offended when my gf has asked me (it's happened a couple times) to wash up before sex. Sometimes we even shower together and then have sex once we're fresh and clean. ######


Prompt:
For context, he (23m) isn’t playing for me (23f) specifically, just playing because it’s his hobby.  A few hours a day and it’s not generally popular music, usually songs from games or films and 9 times out of 10 they are what I would call ‘Cowboy Themed’.  He also does the singing in the appropriate accent for the song (we are English).

We live in a very small flat, our kitchen and living room are one and the only other rooms are the loo and bedroom.  He plays in the living room and when he starts I tend to get up and go and sit in the bedroom.  The reason for this is because it’s not really the type of music that I like, and he does it LOUD.  It’s very overpowering to be in the same room as.

He’s recently mentioned that he thinks it’s rude for me to leave and that I should stay and listen.  I thought this was a bit uncalled for, especially considering I don’t even put the tv volume above 15 if it’s something only I’m watching and he’s in the room, and I’ve also watched a video on my phone with sound out loud (not through headphones) precisely once during the time we’ve lived together while we’ve been in the same room, and he asked me to mute it within 30 seconds of it being on because ‘the woman’s voice is annoying’ which I did immediately.  I generally make an effort to not be overly loud when doing anything with others present as I was raised that this is rude.

I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong, but I think I need another perspective on this!  Thanks 😊 ######

Response:
 NTA

Seriously though, you married the annoying guy at parties who whips out the acoustic guitar?

That's on you. ######


Prompt:
Obligatory mobile apology for formatting and spelling

This year my grandmother (mother’s father, not that that matters) is turning 80. For her 80th my mother and I are making her a quilt. The plan is to have all of the family members sign a block of the quilt and then for us to stitch over it.

For our purposes family is defined as her siblings (full and half), her descendants (all living generations) and all of her descendants spouses.

We are choosing not to do significant others that are not already “common law married” (ie been together for 10+) years because it’s a lot of work to make a quilt and it would be awkward to have a name that is no longer part of the fam on there.

We sent a single square to my brother (22) to sign and he called and was pissed that we didn’t send one for his gf (23). They’re both fresh out of college (graduated this semester) and have been dating for 2 years. We told him we don’t want her name on their because she isn’t part of the family by the definitions we set for the purpose. He told us he’s not going to sign his then.

While it might be worth noting, grandma does not like the gf because she is overly dependent on my brother, it is not the deciding factor. We have family on the quilt that she also does not like but is either her descendant or a spouse of her descendant. The gf is simply not included due to the relative brevity of the relationship.

AITA for not wanting her name to be on the quilt I’m making? ######

Response:
 NTA

Send him one last message. “We all decided together who would be included in the quilt project.  You agreed that significant others who are not married and haven’t been together for at least 10 years would not be included.  You may have changed your mind, but we haven’t.  If you don’t want to be included, we’re sad about it, but we aren’t going to fight about it.  If you change your mind, we need your square by next Friday in order to get it sewn in.”

And then if he doesn’t sign it, just put a blank one in that he can sign later after he gets over himself.  You might want to put a couple blank ones in anyway for descendants that haven’t been born yet. ######


Prompt:
Back story, I (47m) have been married for 21 years wife (50f), we had 4 kids the oldest passed two years ago. So for lockdown it’s 3 kids 15,19,21 wife and me. My work payed off everyone but the Management team. Which I’m a part of, we were all asked if we had a vehicle as preference is given to those who can help running stuff from place to place. (Don’t want to give away too much identification to my store). I said I didn’t have a vehicle because my marriage is not a real one of two humans working together to make the best life, it’s my wife and her stuff and whatever I can earn for her and the kids, she doesn’t work, inherited a large sum 8 years ago and refuses to help with the bills. The car was purchased by my wife and therefore is hers, I should add she also owns a second vehicle.
  When I told my wife that there’s a better chance for me to stay working if I have a vehicle she said well of course you can use it, you need to work. That was a month ago, this week I asked my daughter to have the car home so I could go to work and my wife freaked, saying  it’s not my car and the bosses are rich enough to pay for my transport.

So fine, if I can’t use her car, she can’t use my PlayStation, which means no streaming service or televised entertainment at all in the living room for anyone.

AITA for diving to her depths? ######

Response:
 NTA

Sell the PlayStation (when you're able to) along with anything else you own that might fetch some money.

Buy a cheap-but-decent car.

Leave your wife. Obtain a divorce.

Start living a better life. ######


Prompt:
My friends and I (20M, we all around 20) go into a group facetime call and just chill and talk on it. Sometimes we play games, but we mainly just talk, we usually call for literal hours.

Theres this one girl in our group call, that has recently started learning how to play the ukulele.

It's great and all, but its really annoying to hear it over the mic, shes not bad, but she makes alot of mistakes, she keeps plucking strings until she finally hits the right one, which is what makes it such an annoyance.

I've literally asked her a handful of times to stop because its really loud over the mic, whenever I do she just starts singing to drown me out.

When were playing games, all I hear in the background is a shitty ukulele and a decent voice.

This past monday, she joined the call and she was holding her stupid ukulele. I clicked on her icon, and muted it. Since then I've muted her during all the calls because it seems like all she wants to do is just play the ukulele, I've realized that she doesnt even notice because she never talks. Not one of my friends in the call said a word about me muting her because I assumed they all agreed it was annoying as fuck.

Today she found out that I was muting her without her knowledge and she bitched and cried about how much of a dick move it was to do something like that, and now everyone is acting like I'm a POS. If everyone had such a huge problem with it, then they should have said something. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Say that you *did* tell her, but she started singing to drown you out. :P ######


Prompt:
I’ll try to keep this simple. I (23M) have been dating (23F) for about 5 months now, and our relationship has been official/public for most of that time. She is extremely supportive, generous, and I think, a great girlfriend overall. I am not a big social media user, but my she loves Twitter. I don’t have Twitter, but as she spends hours on it everyday, I got curious and decided to look her up. Sort of teasing, I asked what her username was, and she said, “Are you looking me up? Don’t look at my Twitter.” I assumed she was being lighthearted in turn and just teasing. Well, I managed to find her handle and after about 5 minutes she made her account private.

Now, I try not to be sensitive, but I admit I was a little hurt. I didn’t realize she was being so serious about this. I asked her if I was going to see something offensive, she said no. I asked if she was doing things she didn’t want me to see, she said no (which is obviously paradoxical).

Her position is that Twitter is “her space.” I replied that no, it’s actually the most public space you can get, which is why I’m confused that she doesn’t want her BOYFRIEND to see what she’s doing.

We are at the point in our relationship where we’ve talked about our past. I know she has met/sexted guys via Twitter. I understand that everyone has a past, and everyone has a right to privacy, but this just feels icky to me. I am still fairly new to the relationship thing, and I am genuinely not trying to have trust issues here, but to me this feels like a red flag. My girlfriend seems to think I am making a big deal out of nothing. AITA? Do I just need to chill out? ######

Response:
 NTA

Run. ######