Prompt:
Sorry for anything misspelled or the format being weird I'm on mobile

Ok so I'm a 17(F) I was born on May 9th my sister (Mia 14(F) not her real name) was born on May 13th. Ever since she was born we've shared a birthday party. That includes the cakes and the presents, the cake is usually an issue for me because I cant eat cake it makes me sick so I don't eat it so I've never really had a birthday pastry.

Ok onto the story.

Yesterday me and my cousin we're talking when we got onto the subject of birthdays and she told me how she loves getting presents and eating a big cookie (shes tge same as me and cant eat cake so my mom makes her a big cookie). When this conversation unsued

Me "I don't really like my birthday"

C: "how come?"

Me: "I always hear about how all of you got presents and got to eat cookies and stuff and how the whole day you didn't have to do anything (for birthdays my mom uses the rule that the birthday girl/boy doesnt have to help with ANYTHING this includes my 26 year old sister.) Mom usually makes me clean something then rushes off to go spend time with Mia."

C: "stop being an a**hole! Be grateful you even got presents!"

Me: "I never got presents most of it was either for the whole family of something that Mia broke"

C: "shut up"

Then she walked off and that was that. I was just wondering am I the a**hole for thinking this? Should I really just shut up and be grateful I'm here? I dont know what to think anymore and I'm going to my friends house Friday so we can have a late birthday thing with me and her family.

So Reddit Aita?

Tl;dr my entire birthday is spent with everyone praising my little sister ######

Response:
 Definitely NTA and your mom seems to be very biased in a negative way towards you.

>(shes tge same as me and cant eat cake so my mom makes her a big cookie).

>for birthdays my mom uses the rule that the birthday girl/boy doesnt have to help with ANYTHING this includes my 26 year old sister.)

Is this something you can raise to your mom at all? Seems like a middle child syndrome! ######


Prompt:
This is the stupidest thing I've ever heard, and I'm still pissed from work. I'm a girl.

My new job is a very labor intensive job, moving heavy objects, pushing carts, packing shipping boxes. It's summer in the south on top of that, so it's hell hot. So of course I'm sweating with all the manual labor and the lack of ventilation in a metal sweatshop for 8+ hours a day.

I have a 'normal' type of deodorant, a 24 hours active sense one. Though, due to circumstances I can't get to the store and I ran out. I have a backup, a men's old spice one, I bought it because I like the smell. Very pine woodsy. It's a good cover all, and no matter how much I swear it works wherever my normal one I use when I know I am not going to be sweating alot, because I don't want to force people to smell my body odor of onion bagels.

So because of how much I sweat, I've been using the old spice one.  No more B.O! Everything was fine, my male co-workers, I work with mostly teenage boys, never noticed. Until today where do to an absence in the second shift I got to work in the less labor intensive area.

Today I sat down with the girls to unwrap CDs , and one of them commented how it smells like a guys here.

Me: oh yeah, I used old spice. I'd rather you not smell me, lol.

This girl, we'll call her Anna, freaked the fuck out. A few  seemed bothered and one of them told me it reminds her of her dad.

Things were said such as 'its unnatural, there's perfectly good girls deodorant!" And " are you gay?" And basically how I was a bitch because normal girls use floral deodorant and things designed for women and men had their own things made for them.

To me, it's fucking deodorant. I've know a few girls to do use ax, so why is this a thing? Still, I can't help but wonder if I'm a minority here.

AITA for using the 'wrong' deodorant? ######

Response: Definitely NTA and I suggest you up the anti by wearing Axe body spray. Then they’ll beg you to go back to old spice ######


Prompt: So this happened a few years ago but I always wonder if I was in the wrong. My brother (21M) and his girlfriend (20F) has been dating less than a year when my fiancé and I started writing our guest list for our wedding. We decided to invite my brother’s girlfriend even though they had only been together for a short time. GF found out I had invited a friend which happened to be a former classmate of hers (this girl was also a fiancée of one my partner’s friends and had been together for 2 years) and asked me to uninvite this girl because this girl was her sworn enemy and apparently she had once been with my brother. I told her that whatever was going on between GF and this girl wasn’t my business and I didn’t want to make things awkward and uninvite her when I didn’t have a problem with her. GF then started accusing me of choosing this girl over her and disrespecting her and although initially my brother didn’t care, he also eventually agreed with his GF and neither of them showed up to my wedding. I was devastated and conflicted on whether I should have just uninvited my friend to keep peace between me, my brother and his GF or whether that would have just been the start of GF making demands and getting her way. ######

Response:
 Definitely NTA

it's your wedding' you can invite who you want. It would be bad enough for your brother to ask you to unnvite someone but his girlfriend who you barely know? Ridiculous ######


Prompt:
Okay, this is kind of of a weird one. I have been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. I want to preface all of this by saying that I love her and that this post makes her sound worse than she is. She is one of the most genuine, sweetest, and hardworking people I have ever met. But, this whole situation has been so off putting to me and I don’t know what to do about it.

My girlfriend can be a bit clingy in general which, frankly, I have always found a bit cute. But, when she goes to the bathroom she always wants me to join her. At first I thought it was cute she wanted to spend time with me so much but I didn’t realize it was something she was going to expect every time. It started as just sitting on the side of the tub while she peed. Which could be inconvenient depending on if I was in the middle of something but I didn’t mind too much. But, starting a few months ago she started going number two and also dealing with her period stuff in front of me too. I’ve tried to excuse myself because the sights and smells. But, it hurts her feeling when I do and it always ends up in a fight about something unrelated. So, I’ve been dealing with it to keep the peace. She doesn’t mind if I go on my phone or do something else in the bathroom. But, even so, I just don’t want to witness/smell/hear those moments and it’s starting to impact my attraction towards her. I’ve tried talking with her but it seems to be really important to her for whatever reason. WIBTA if I stopped doing this? ######

Response:
 Definitely NTA .   I'm curious  . . . . you both haven't been dating that long.  Who was her bathroom buddy before you?   Did she just start doing this with you or has she always been this way?

It's pretty neurotic, and also covertly controlling.  I'd suggest she see a therapist because, nope. ######


Prompt:
Earlier today, my aunt and her young (seven year old) daughter came to visit to celebrate my father's birthday, with masks and gloves and all that, and I was wearing a short sleeves shirt because it was hot out. My scars are incredibly noticeable, so I wasn't really surprised when my aunt came to me and demanded that I put on a long sleeves shirt because it was making her uncomfortable and she didn't want her daughter seeing that.

I apologized but said it was too hot for long sleeves, plus that her daughter wasn't even paying attention to me. My aunt then said that I should be "ashamed" of myself for allowing her daughter to see such a thing.

I didn't want to argue so I just walked away at that point. My aunt and her kid left not long afterwards but called my mom to complain about it. Neither of my parents blame me for it and say that she shouldn't have said what she did, but I'm curious as to whether or not she was in the wrong or if I should have just sucked it up. ######

Response: Definitely NTA - You're scars are a part of you and you shouldn't be shamed into covering them just because it makes other people uncomfortable. ######