Prompt:
Throwaway as my sister uses Reddit

I have a 25 year old sister and I am 13. A few years ago my sister moved out and she got her new apartment. I got my own room and got owner ship of the bathroom and closet in the room. Recently my sister has been staying in the guest room off the house as she was evicted.

My sister does not like to use the other two restrooms in the house because it is not private as I have another 10 year old step sister. My sister likes to use my restroom because it is private and I don't like it. She uses up all my shampoo and all the toilet paper leaving me with none.

She takes bath while I am sleeping and studying. So now here is where I might be an asshole. Today I was trying to study and my sister opened up my room and came in and told me she is taking a bath. I refused and told her to fuck off. My sister started screaming at me and telling me to let her use the restroom as I am monopolizing it. I went and blocked the door.

My sister tried getting me out by moving me and started crying. I told her to get out you disgusting bitch. My sister called my mom and told me that I am monopolizing the restroom. My mom agreed that I was right and my sister can use the other restroom as my sister is a guest. My sister yelled at me for being a mysgonstic because I did not let her use my restroom. So aita for calling my sister a disgusting bitch after she tried using my restroom ######

Response: ESH. Your sister sucks for being a whiny brat. Especially as an ADULT. But you suck for swearing and calling her a slur at the EARLIEST AGE. ######


Prompt:
So, my mother (39F) brought a new dog about a year ago. She knew I (19F) was uncomfortable with getting a new dog given that we already own 2 cats. When i first met it she could tell i was pissed but decided not to address it and told me the dog was named 'Lucy'.

I got more annoyed over this as time went on with her not bothering to train the girl, and eventually I decided I'd do something to fuck with her. Whenever I addressed her, I instead of saying 'Lucy' I would either say 'Obama' or 'war criminal'. I even got my siblings in on the joke and it kept going until eventually my mother asked me to 'please call her Lucy, this joke isn't funny'. I didn't listen to her and we all kept going.

It has now been a year since we got our little war criminal and Obama seems to love her new name. She know doesn't respond to being called Lucy, despite my mothers efforts.

She says this was horrible and I've damaged our relationship by embarrassing her so much, but I feel that my actions were completely warranted. So AITA? ######

Response: ESH. Your mom should train her dog. You are being petty and ungrateful if you think you can have a say in who your mother adopts into her household. You are 19, it is your mother’s house, she can do what she wants. ######


Prompt:
Around two years ago, my mother slipped on a patch of ice in the parking lot at her job. She fractured her ankle in the fall, and needed surgery to have a plate put in. She went through physical therapy and can function without issue during her day to day activities. Her ankle is achey and can swell during rainy days, it is my understanding that this isn’t uncommon for people who have had similar injuries.

Anyway, all this time later worker’s compensation is finally setting and she’s appalled at the amount she is being given. She keeps saying, to everyone who will listen and to myself more times that I can count, “This is something that’s going to be with me for the rest of my life, my life will never be the same, and that’s all they came up with?”

I’m sick of it. I feel like she should just be grateful that she doesn’t have a permanent limp or something. AND it’s not like she’s getting nothing. They paid her while she was out for months, and she’s still getting a settlement that’s not exactly small by our standards.

So this morning when she was ranting through the same spiel, I stopped her and told her I refused to feel sorry for her because she wasn’t “ruined,” and that she sounded entitled. I also reminded her that my partner was in a much more serious accident and broke his spine, and his settlement wasn’t THAT much more than hers. She huffed and called me a bitch, now she won’t talk to me. AITA? ######

Response:
 ESH. Your Mom for complaining non-stop, you for not being more supportive. Keep in mind that there is something called maximum healing. Once an injury like your mother’s reaches this point, it begins to slowly get worse. The swelling is most likely painful and could indicate permanent circulation damage. She could be dependent on a cane within a few years. It also sounds like she has suffered emotional trauma from the accident. Has she seen a therapist? What has her physical therapist told her about future mobility?

I would like to also point out that most of the people responding sound as if they have no real experience dealing with a permanent injury. AND yes that sounds like what this is. Your Mom is not really complaining about the money. She is mourning her loss of freedom. This injury means she has to consider the weather when she wants to go shopping, take a walk or participate in any activity that requires standing for longer periods. It will overtime effect how others, including employers view her. All of this has occurred to her and is adding to her stress. So yeah, it could make her a little bitter to have received such a small settlement. ######


Prompt:
I am 20, living with my parents and at the moment I am the only person in my house working; my parents and younger brother have been staying home. I’ve made it a point to ONLY leave the house if I’m going to work or to do something alone, like go on a walk. We were all tested for COVID on Tuesday and all results came back negative.

The part of the state we are living in has not gone into “Phase 2” yet but it should be happening soon. Part of Phase 2 includes hair salons opening up. I am naturally brunette but have been blonde for the past few years and my hair isn’t looking it’s best but obviously there is much worse shit going on in the world so it’s not a big deal in the slightest.

However, my dad told us today that his friend, who he hasn’t seen in like 2 months, might be coming over tomorrow. My mom and I were obviously like wtf because we’ve all done our best to socially distance and stuff and his friend coming over is a stupid move imo. So, I told him that I’m going to schedule a hair appointment (my hair girl texted me and said she’ll be opening up as soon as phase 2 starts) as soon as I can and my dad started telling me that I’m being stupid, my hair can wait, etc. I told him I could say the same thing about his friend coming over— they haven’t seen each other in 2+ months so they can wait. This all turned into a big disagreement. I don’t see an issue with me going to get my hair done when the governor says it’s okay to do so. AITA? ######

Response: ESH. Your dad is TA for obvious reasons, wanting to invite his friend over and compromising all of you. You're TA because you are fighting fire with fire. It's just kind of a petty comeback and it didn't do anything to dissuade him. ######


Prompt: So I(21m) have a twin brother and he brought two pet parrots against my parent’s will a couple years ago. My parents are retired and not in the best of health and the birds wake up early every single morning and make constant noise. My brother however couldn’t be bothered as he continues to sleep in his room until 10 or 11 am while the birds have me and my parents up at 7 am every day. Not only this but the birds need food on mornings and my brother refuses to wake up early to feed them so either me or my dad has to put food and water for them every morning. Also in the evenings we wash their cages and put more food for the bird for the night time( this is around 5 pm). My brother has this habit of not only waking up late but taking a nap around this time so again we have to tend after them. Before he brought them home he assured us that he would be the one that would he seeing after them but it’s a whole different story now and we’re getting fed up. In addition to this he says he’s planning to buy more he use he “ likes them” but refuses to see after the one he already has. What the fuck?? Every time I bring up the topic of selling the birds he throws a huge bitch fit. My mom however defends him in this saying that birds are what brings him joy and it’s not my place to get rid of them because they don’t belong to me. I’m at my wits end with this. I like pets as much as the next guy but enough is enough. Am I the asshole here??? ######

Response: ESH. Your brother should take care of his birds, but you can't sell them or give them away if they're not yours. If your mom defends him, and it's her and your dad's house, then it sounds like you either need to let it go or move out. ######


Prompt:
Hello!

My mother and I are having an argument right now over my stimulus check. For background information: I’m 24 years old. I graduated from university in Fall 2018 while I was in college my mother claimed me as a dependent. I don’t dispute that I was. I lived at home rent free while commuting to school in one of her cars. It makes sense that she’d claim me.

Once I graduated I got a job and moved out in April. She wouldn’t claim me for 2019 since I wasn’t dependent on her. Fair.

My mother files my taxes for me since I first got a job in high school and this year was no different. I have no idea how to file and since she’s an accountant she does it for me. She initially had no problem filing for me this year.

Due to coronavirus, the IRS pushed the tax deadline back until July so my mother wasn’t in a rush to file. However, due to the stimulus payout needing either a 2019 return or a 2018 return we decided to file my taxes for 2019 so I’d be eligible for a check. I got my state and federal refund quickly but never received a stimulus check. I dig around to see why I didn’t receive one and the only thing I could come up with is the fact that I was claimed as a dependent on my mother’s tax return in 2018. Since she hasn’t filed for 2019 I think I’m still listed as her dependent despite me filing as unable to be claimed this year.

I’ve mentioned this to my mother twice and asked her if she could file her taxes so I could get a stimulus check too (she already received one). She blew up on me the second time and called me ungrateful for asking since she already filed my tax return for me, and said “nothing is ever good enough for you,” before hanging up.

Perhaps I am in the wrong here, but it’s the difference between me getting $1,200 I need now versus getting it in months time/next year. AITA? ######

Response:
 ESH. You’re an adult and should be filing your own taxes. This would have eliminated the entire issue. However, your mother is likely a) trying to claim you for 2019 or b) has already filed, claimed you, and is trying to cover her own ass.

File your own taxes. TurboTax isn’t that expensive and it will tell you if you have already been claimed for the taxable year once you submit electronically. If this is the case, you’ll need to file, pay taxes if you owe, and then submit a claim against your mother.

First rule of filing taxes: file early. ######


Prompt:
My daughter just turned 16 last month and she’s a very pretty girl who also happens to have made some bad decisions. She was a gifted kid but got mixed with the wrong group and started smoking pot - she has been diagnosed with ADHD, moderate severe depression, and severe anxiety. This was all last year and since then she is on medication, in therapy, and has overall been doing a lot better including grades-wise. She has been asked out a lot but never even had her first kiss because she was nervous. We come from a different culture and her dad is always touchy with her because that’s how we show affection but it made her uncomfortable when she was little and now she doesn’t let him hug her until he gets permission because he used to just sneak up on her and hug her or kiss her cheeks even when she asked him not to. This has been fixed as well. We finally gave her permission to date this year but she didn’t care because we used to be really strict about this kind of stuff so she stopped talking to boys romantically when she was 15 because it was more hassle than it was worth.

Two days ago I found her coming back in at 5am and when I asked her where she was she was honest with me since she knows I won’t tell her father (he has anger issues). She met a boy who is turning 19 next month on Instagram, spoke to him for a month, FaceTimed him daily, and then met up with him. He was her first kiss (technically she has been kissed before but they were not consensual so she calls him her first). I took her phone and electronics away and I can’t even talk to her right now because I’m mad. She told me she knows she messed up but that she just wanted to experience it and had made him show his drivers licence and everything and would never let him pressure her (she’s very strong and mature since she grew up quick as a child). I haven’t spoken to her much out of disappointment. I got into several heated arguments with her over this. Am I being an asshole? ######

Response:
 ESH. You've essentially trained her to do this. This sort of overly strict parenting teaches children deception. Of course she isn't going to be open with her parents when her father has anger issues and trouble respecting boundaries. It sounds like her relationship with you is at least good enough to have a frank discussion when caught red-handed, so that's something. Trying to forbid her from dating was a huge mistake. You have pitted yourself against a biological imperative, and that's not a fight you can win. Forbidding romantic interest isn't ever going to make it go away, which means you put her in a position in the past where she literally couldn't help but break the rules. It's just a matter of degree.

Now she's rebelling, and mature or not, she's putting herself in potentially dangerous situations by sneaking out in the middle of the night to meet people from the internet. Trying to clamp down on her is going to make her regret admitting anything in the first place, and it's going to make her hide things more. You need to have open lines of communication, but historically you have drawn lines in the sand. Frankly, at this point, I don't know how you salvage a situation like that with a teenager. It's definitely above my pay grade. You should be talking to a professional. ######


Prompt:
I recently posted this on r/tifu and they made me wonder if I'm TA

My ex's wedding was in February. And like you could guess, I wasn't personally invited nor was I told anything about it from him even though we spoke daily. Well I found out about it from his grandmother (we're close) and she suggested I 'gate crash' and that she would cover for me (think she doesn't like the bride). I was interested in going because I wanted to find some closure since we had broken up rather quickly a few months before and I still wasn't over him. So I said yes.

The day came and his grandmother 'sneaked' me in and we watched the ceremony. It was beautiful. I shed a few tears but it really solidified things. I was ready to leave afterwards but his grandmother pushed me to go to the reception as well and sit next to her at the family table. Pretty awkward but I went. I was still mingling with the family, standing up, when the bride and groom came. They came and greeted and she congratulated me on the pregnancy. I thanked her and said something about how I couldn't wait to co parent with the two of them. Turns out that she didn't know that I was pregnant (5 months at the time) with his child the whole time. She lost her shit and ran out. He tried to run after her but then her dad came and started a scene. Lucky for me, my ex's brother came and helped get me out of there as soon as possible.

My ex still asks for updates but I recently heard from his grandmother they broke up and got an annulment. The 'bride' weirdly still follows me and comments/likes my pictures so I think she's fine with me but still, AITA? ######

Response: ESH. You're TA for gatecrashing a wedding you weren't invited to. That's never cool. Grandmother is the TA for sneaking you in. Your ex is TA for not telling their bride you were expecting his baby. The only innocent person here is the bride tbh. ######


Prompt:
So this prof apparently “likes” my last name and he insists on calling me by it. I don’t dislike my last name but it’s just awkward to be called by it in class. It feels like I’m in the military. I told him not to but he did it again.

So I decided I’d do the same. I called him by his first name. He straight said “that’s disrespectful, call me Professor __.”

I chuckled.

I wouldn’t feel bad at all if this was someone other than the professor. It’s kind of like how it’s usually acceptable for teachers to drink coffee in class even if it’s not ok for students to.

So you tell me. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: ESH. You're fighting fire with fire, and no good can really come out of it. ######


Prompt:
Hello, throwaway because I don't like to post.

I (21M) recently moved in with my girlfriend (21F), her friend (22F) and her gay friend (22M), while we are looking for a house, was supposed to be temporary, about 3-4 months. It has been three weeks of her gay friend making sexual comments about everything he finds a joke in.

I'll die in a video game and sign "fuck me". Every. Single. Time. he makes sure I hear him say "I'll be in the bedroom", "maybe later", "top or bottom",  etc...
I was working on Excel for my job and my girlfriend asked if I wanted to come get lunch, but I was busy and said "I'm pretty deep in a project right now". He yelled "deeper, daddy". From his bedroom.

I couldn't stand it, but bit my tongue because my girlfriend likes him and he never touched me. But Saturday night we stayed in and had a few drinks watching Netflix. Her gay friend came back around midnight and opened her door while we're cuddling to talk to her. He brings up how he loves "daddies" and knew he was going to say something, he always calls me daddy. "This skinny guy wanted to call him daddy, but he just doesn't have the look. [My name] has the daddy look, I'd call him daddy."

And I couldn't take it anymore. I told him "you're the type of gay people that everybody hates, shut the fuc* up".

He instantly started crying and my girlfriend is furious with me. She knows I hate it and she brushes it off everytime. I told her that you would never let me make those kinds of comments towards her female friend. She says that's different because we're both straight, which I think is absolutely irrelevant.

I can definitely see that I went too far with my comment and might wana apologize for going too far. But they all think I'm being homophobic and should remember that I'm a guest.
I just don't think it is too much to ask to not make sexual comments towards me.

AITA for yelling at my girlfriend's gay friend? ######

Response: ESH. You're both adults. You could have told him he was making you uncomfortable. Yes, he took the comments a bit far without checking in with you, and that was wrong. But you should have calmly told him you didn't like those comments before you blew up on him. ######


Prompt:
For some backstory, my mom is a lesbian and is now engaged. My future stepmom has an ex wife of 15 years who has caused a LOT of issues in regards to their daughter and grandchildren, along with trying to break up my mom and stepmom. She would often accuse my stepmom of stealing and cheating on her despite clear evidence that she wasn’t

I added said ex wife on Facebook a bit ago to see what kind of person she actually was instead of relying on hearsay (she mostly just posted memes)

My birthday was yesterday and she posted on my timeline:

“Happy birthday, although I don't know why you sent me a friend's request. However I can give you a lot of info so your mom won't deal with what I dealt with for 15 long years. 😁”

This implication made me upset for a solid 2 hours; my stepmom has been nothing but loving and loyal to my mother and I

I finally responded this morning:

“What the fuck makes you think that's an OK thing to say about my parents? Especially hiding it under the guise of wishing me a happy birthday?? Just cause your relationship faltered with my stepmom doesn't mean they're not at their happiest”

Am I the Asshole? ######

Response: ESH. You shouldn’t have added an ex you knew liked to cause drama, had you not then this whole situation would have been avoided. She’s the asshole for obvious reasons. Delete her, move on, and don’t add anymore of your mums ex’s on Facebook. ######


Prompt: hey reddit, so recently my best friend passed away due to personal issues going on in her life. i was really sad about it, and wouldnt call with my bf at all since i was sad and just couldnt get over the fact she had died. he noticed that i never wanted to call and asked what was wrong, and i told him that it was personal. he wouldnt stop bugging me about it so i eventually told him that my best friend had died. he replied with this; "so your best friend is so important that you wont call? are they really more important than *me*?" and this was the end of the fucking line. i honestly couldnt believe he was implying that he was more important than my DEAD best friend. i replied with "you're such a god damn idiot. of course my dead best friend who has been with me through everything, and even helped me through times when i felt like i wanted to end it all, is WAY more important to me than you will ever be. you havent helped me through shit and you dont even care about what i say. you're so idiotic my god." andddd he just kinda went silent. i kind of do feel like an asshole for calling him an idiot though, so reddit, AITA? ######

Response: ESH. You should have let your boyfriend know that you needed time to yourself to deal with this, rather than leaving him in the dark. He was a massive dingus for responding the way he did. ######


Prompt:
My son moved back in after moving out for a short time.  He asked if his girlfriend come move in too.  This was supposed to be temporary.  A few months at the most and rent was to be paid weekly.
My husband and I agreed.  It has been over five years now.  She can't keep a job so has not paid any rent in over a year.  We pay for everything from her cigarettes to her tampons. Before that there would be times where she would pay off and on.  Mostly off.
She doesn't help out around the house much although if you ask her she does everything and is the hardest worker you would ever meet.  She also talks, swears and complains constantly. As a matter of fact, I can hear her complaining right now.
I have actually heard her out in the kitchen complaining that we left a mess.  WE didn't move in with her.  Unfortunately, my son is not much better since he's been with her but I love him dearly and don't want to hurt our relationship.  I know my husband and I have made the situation worse by enabling them.  I just don't know what to do and am ready to find a cave to go live in. ######

Response:
 ESH. You reap what you sow. And you've let them both ride this gravy train for 5 yrs. You can't let a situation happen and continue to allow it to happen and then be upset about it, if you're not going to do anything about it. You're not teaching them anything except how to use ppl and manipulate the ppl that care about you.

The reason she can't keep a job is because she doesn't HAVE to. Its surprising what kind of "work bs" you'll put up with when it means keeping a roof over your head. You know you suck for enabling this and allowing them to walk all over you.

Stop acting like you have no control over this situation and do the proper thing and kick them out.
(and you're buying her cigarettes? Seriously. Wtf is wrong with you?) ######


Prompt: hey reddit, so recently my best friend passed away due to personal issues going on in her life. i was really sad about it, and wouldnt call with my bf at all since i was sad and just couldnt get over the fact she had died. he noticed that i never wanted to call and asked what was wrong, and i told him that it was personal. he wouldnt stop bugging me about it so i eventually told him that my best friend had died. he replied with this; "so your best friend is so important that you wont call? are they really more important than *me*?" and this was the end of the fucking line. i honestly couldnt believe he was implying that he was more important than my DEAD best friend. i replied with "you're such a god damn idiot. of course my dead best friend who has been with me through everything, and even helped me through times when i felt like i wanted to end it all, is WAY more important to me than you will ever be. you havent helped me through shit and you dont even care about what i say. you're so idiotic my god." andddd he just kinda went silent. i kind of do feel like an asshole for calling him an idiot though, so reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 ESH. You must not be very close to your boyfriend if you couldn't even tell him your best friend died. You didn't communicate a very critical life event to him.

He reaction sucked. Dude lacks empathy.

Throw the whole relationship away if this is how you talk to each other. ######


Prompt:
I (24m) dated my ex-girlfriend (20f) for about 8 months. I thought I had found my soulmate and wanted to marry her. Fast forward to me finding explicit photos of cheating on me with some mutual friend (33m). Turns out this friend was married to a lovely lady and was having multiple affairs. I immediately confronted her and ended things abruptly. She cried and begged for me to take her back but I could not be with someone who betrays me like that. It was like ripping off a bandaid but once the pain left the wound began to heal.

Unfortunately I have to see my ex-girlfriend face-to-face 3 times a week because we both work at the same place. Mind you these are long shifts and there is a lot of tension between us. I usually don't talk to her unless it is urgent. A few weeks after the break I heard through the grapevine at work that mutual friend's wife found out about the affair and started divorce proceedings. Not only that but the wife found out what ex-girlfriend did and began to ruin her. She told the managers, her co-workers and managed to tell her family what she had done. The wife was brutal. Not only that the wife printed out those explicit photos and put the word home wrecker on them and sent them to her family, friends and co-workers through FaceBook.

She was shunned by her co-workers, ignored by her family, and many friends cut ties with her. She is all alone and I get to see her go into a downward spiral at work. I would be lying if I said I did not enjoy it even though I had no part in it. She reached out to me at work and said she was sorry for she did and how it affect me. She also said that she did not deserved to be crucified like that. I laughed right in her face said "you get what you deserve" and walked.

She has become very cold with me now and refuses to speak to me. I wanted to know if I am the AH here or not? ######

Response:
 ESH. You know you were an asshole to her and wanted her to feel bad - that was the point of laughing in her face and telling her she got what she deserved. It might be justified assholery, but assholery nonetheless - you weren't exactly taking the high ground here. You were probably the least assholish out of everyone involved though.

The wife went nuclear and while I totally sympathise, it was the husband who owed her his loyalty, not your girlfriend and her response was not a particularly classy one, especially getting her family and employer involved.

Your girlfriend and the husband obviously also suck, but that goes without saying. ######


Prompt:
Due to reasons, I’m staying at my parents’ house  till i can go back to my city. Unfortunately since none of my other siblings are home, i’m tasked with caring for my sister. She has autism and down syndrome. She’s also 19, and very very moody. I had to buy groceries, and my mom made her tag along with me.

From the minute we stepped foot in the store, it was non stop bullshit. Random grunts, and mini tantrums over NOTHING. What could’ve been a quick trip, turned into almost 2 hours of agony. Now here’s where things took an even worse turn.

As we were at the checkout, she suddenly throws a tantrum. Starts crying (it sounded fake, no tears) LOUDLY. Starts flailing her arms, gesturing wildly. At this point i’ve had enough, and she wouldn’t budge. So i walked out with everything, got in the car, and circled around the lot a couple of times. I found her at the same spot in front of the store, still crying, which pissed me off even more. We got back home, and she was still crying. I told my mother what happened, and she got pissed. AITA?

Edit: forgot to mention she’s non verbal. ######

Response: ESH. You handled the situation like an asshole, but why the fuck did your mom make you take your sister to the grocery store in a pandemic in the first place? That goes precisely against the social distancing guidelines and put your entire family at heightened risk. ######


Prompt: So I am 18M I live in a 3 bedroom apartment with my sister(20F) and my other sister(23F). Our PARENTS pay for the apartment and they let us live in it. We 0 expenses towards the apartment. Now both my sisters names our on the lease but mine isnt. The reason for that was because I didnt live her when they first moved in the 3rd bedroom was always ment for me to move into but I was 17 when they moved in. We are working on putting me on the lease. Now keep in mind my parents pay for EVERYTHING for us. My parents own a bunch of companies and have enough money to support us. All of us were going to college but our semesters got canceled. So we basically just live in a apartment in walking distance of our college for no reason. Today I ordered pizza and left the box with 5 slices still inside on the table. Well my 23YO sister yelled at me for leaving trash on the table I said it still had food in it and she then told me to put it in the fridge then i said no I'm going to eat it in like a hour why would i put it away? She then went on a rant how I never follow the house rules. She said the next time I dont follow rules she is making me move back into our parents until college starts again I said she cant do that she doesnt even pay for the apartment the only people that can kick me out is our parents or the landlords. She tried to say our parents put in as the head of the house but that never happened. ######

Response: ESH. You for not respecting shared spaces, and her for threatening to kick you out of a place she doesn't even own over pizza. Legally speaking, she could try to kick you out because you aren't on the lease though, so do be mindful. ######


Prompt:
My son moved back in after moving out for a short time.  He asked if his girlfriend come move in too.  This was supposed to be temporary.  A few months at the most and rent was to be paid weekly.
My husband and I agreed.  It has been over five years now.  She can't keep a job so has not paid any rent in over a year.  We pay for everything from her cigarettes to her tampons. Before that there would be times where she would pay off and on.  Mostly off.
She doesn't help out around the house much although if you ask her she does everything and is the hardest worker you would ever meet.  She also talks, swears and complains constantly. As a matter of fact, I can hear her complaining right now.
I have actually heard her out in the kitchen complaining that we left a mess.  WE didn't move in with her.  Unfortunately, my son is not much better since he's been with her but I love him dearly and don't want to hurt our relationship.  I know my husband and I have made the situation worse by enabling them.  I just don't know what to do and am ready to find a cave to go live in. ######

Response: ESH. You don’t know what to do? Be the adult and tell them five years is long enough and they need to find somewhere else to live. ######


Prompt:
I’m (17) quite slim although I don’t think I’m underweight (99 last checked pounds, 5’5) and I have a friend (19) who is quite obese. Now I never made any comments about her body as it can come off as offensive + I hate it when people comment about mine.

However for the past couple of weeks she’s been making small comments here and there about how lucky it is to be skinny, complaining about not having the ‘ideal body shape’ and how my cherries are so ‘small’ it must be so easy for me. One time she also bought a shirt I picked out because I didn’t have enough cleavage to look good in that style.

Well yesterday while we were eating lunch with a bunch of friends (her friends, I don’t really know them but I don’t mind their company) she told me jokingly that I should ‘eat more’ so that men can tell that I’m a woman and not a kid. She laughed and some of her friends did too however the others looked a bit uneasy.

I felt really embarrassed and angry since I find it hard to gain weight and have taken years to actually like the way that I look so I told her that she should ‘eat less and stop pushing your insecurities onto me just because you don’t like that you’re obese’. She then yelled about how rude and inconsiderate I was to be body shaming her and that I can f*ck off since men prefer curvy women anyways to which I said ‘not with that sh*tty attitude they don’t’ before paying for my dish and walking out.

Now I’m getting text messages all over saying I shouldn’t body shame other people and spread hate after she posted on her social media crying. I don’t think I’m the asshole here but I could be so am I? ######

Response: ESH. You both body-shamed eachother and are just tearing eachother down. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway title sounds bad

I bought animal crossing recently as a reward for getting a raise and other stuff. I love this game. Unfortunately my girlfriend demanded me to let her have the game so she can try. I refused and said hell no. I told my girlfriend she will hog the game card and won't let me play it at all.

She has done this with other games. I refused and also said you never return my games when I ask for it back and you say you lost it and I have to storm your room in order to find them. I told my girlfriend to buy your own fucking copy of animal crossing as your are a grown women who has a fucking job. My girlfriend then stormed out of my room and called me a fucking selfish pig. ######

Response: ESH. Yeesh. You guys are definitely that couple that *nobody* wants to be around. ######


Prompt:
So my sister (14) ALWAYS steals my (16F) clothes, like I swear every time I go into my closet or jewelry chest there is always something missing.  Her friends who live next door, have a pool in their backyard and she is always over there swimming with them, for the longest time my parents didn't let her wear a 2 piece swim suit and she said that she looked like a 5 year old when she was the only one in a one piece.  I never told her she could use mine (we are pretty much identical when it comes to size) but she would always steal my pairs ALL the time.

I don't know when but I guess they recently loosened up on the rules for her and she has bought her own 2 piece swim suits now.  She came home the other day in a 2 piece suit that I KNOW I own, same style, same color and same design, I got pissed and told her to stop taking my shit.  She told me that it was hers and to get off her ass, I didn't believe her and she told me that mom loosened up the restriction for her.  I checked my closet and it was there but I was still kind of annoyed cause she bought the exact. same. pair. as the one I had and she had to know that I hate when she takes my clothes and I just see this as her trying to rile me up.  She told me to apologize and I said that she shouldn’t be shocked when I accuse her of stealing when she doesn’t it all the time.  AITA? ######

Response: ESH. Yeah your sister shouldn’t be stealing your clothes so often, but you should own up to it that she was telling the truth and your swimsuit was still there. ######


Prompt:
I got with my ex when I was 21 and he was 32, it was unhealthy but I had problems going on at the time, he had two children who at the time were 2 and 5months (Amy and Nina) , biological mother wasn’t involved with the children and I was never told why.

I raised the children as my own for ages, I did everything for them until they were 12 and almost 11, before I separated from my ex, I initially considered trying to remain in their lives but it was difficult and I wanted nothing to do with him.

It’s been 14 years since, I have a family (my youngest is 5) now and my stepchildren have children, I have to be honest I loved my ex’s children but I don’t regret what I had to do.

I guess my ex never told his children that I wasn’t the woman who gave birth to them because not too long ago Amy  reached out to me to tell me that I owed them and she  resented me for leaving me with their batshit dad and that they wanted to meet up.

I met up and explained to Amy and Nina  that I was only the stepmother and...they didn’t believe me, at all which lead to some tears and both of them reaching out to my stepchildren to tell them that they’re siblings.

Amy posted on my fb wall, messaged my husband, posted pictures of my youngest (5) saying that how they want to meet their sibling, it got crazy!

I tried to sympathise but they’re adults now! I messaged them saying I wanted nothing to do with both of them and that they need to back off especially as I’m not their birth mother.

My husband thinks I’m a little harsh because they clearly idolised me.

They still haven’t stopped calling me.

AITA? ######

Response:
 ESH. Wow. What a horrible situation. These poor young ladies - how could it have gotten to this that they dont even know who their birth mother is. Totally fucked up.

Your not their biological mother so you don't owe them anything. However, you did help to create this situation. You (both) clearly were never open with them about what had gone before.

Honestly, you can walk away from this but I hope you will find it in you to be a better human being and try to help them to understand what is /has gone on.

Your ex must be bat-winged crazy alright. ######


Prompt:
I have backyard that I built a fence around about 3 years ago when we got our dog.

My neighbor has 2 boys, around ages 10 and 12. Long story short, my neighbors boys somehow managed to put a HUGE hole in the side of my fence, no idea how they did it. This was about 3 weeks ago. My neighbor apologized profusely and said he'd get it fixed as soon as possible and pay for the repair.

My dog, being the explorer that he is, is small enough to fit through this hole. Whenever he has to go to the bathroom, I usually let him out in the back and he comes in once he's done. Unbeknownst to me, he's been going over to the neighbor's yard through the hole and shitting on his lawn.

Neighbor calls me yesterday and tells me that I need to come clean up the dog shit (they also know that I'm the only one on our street who has a dog). I told him I'm not gonna do that, because the only reason my dog is shitting in his lawn is because his boys made a huge hole in my fence. I also reminded that he said he'd get it repaired "ASAP" and he still hasn't, so until he does, it's not really my problem. I suggested that maybe his boys can clean up the poop if he doesn't want to.

AITA? ######

Response: ESH. With the COVID going around, I don’t know if repairmen are even available. Your neighbor, however, should have fixed it by now, even if he had to do it himself. That being said, your dog shitting on other people’s properties is your fault. It doesn’t matter who created the whole in the fence - the dog is your responsibility, not the fence’s. Both you and your neighbor could have come up with a temporary solution, putting a piece of furniture or cloth to block the hole. ######


Prompt:
This was a Skype call. I'm not sure if it's the most relevant but it's relevant to the story. I'm a 24 year old guy with good gaming knowledge, I've won at more than 40 different video games. I'm currently playing a game and she is playing a game, I'm a total newbie to this.

Here's the thing: she was playing a game and I wasn't really paying attention, she was playing a MOBA game (League of Legends) and I was playing a game (Starcraft 2).

I'm not even sure if it's the wrong game but she starts talking about how terrible the MOBA is and how the starcraft 2 player just "played like a motherfucker". I got really annoyed and started to tell her that I have won more than a thousand games on MOBA on my account. She gets really pissed and tells me that I don't know anything about gaming. I told her that I have won at so many different games, but I don't know anything about the ones she was playing.

She replied that I am not a real gamer. I told her that I know more than her and she gets really mad and starts to tell me that she was right. I told her that I don't care about what she thinks about my gaming knowledge. I still don't know why she insulted me. I told her that she didn't even know what my username was.

I don't really care about her opinion on my gaming knowledge but I do care about the fact that I have won so many games on this game.

Am I an asshole? ######

Response:
 ESH. Who the fuck cares who's a real gamer? Jesus christ, what is with the whiny children trying to prove this crap?

Go outside. ######


Prompt:
TL;DR: I took someones test for them and they are refusing to pay. Would I be the asshole if I emailed his college?

BACKSTORY:

Since the whole pandemic has happened, people are taking online tests which leads to them wanting to cheat. I go to a good university and have been contacted through acquaintances of friends about helping them on their tests. I offered tutoring for free but they were only interested in the actual taking of tests. I initially had moral qualms with this but it was quickly dismissed by them cheating in one way or another and this way I would get money in my pocket. I made it very clear from the start that I could not guarantee any grade but they insisted I take their test.

DILEMMA:

This week I was asked to do a test that was approximated at 1 hour long by a person we will refer to as Joe. I agreed to take it, and the test ended up taking 3 hours as it was a "take home test" with the intention of the student going online and seeking advice per each question. I notified Joe of this after the test and it was agreed that Joe was going to pay double. Earlier today I received a message from Joe stating that he was disappointed in the B I received on the test as opposed to an A. I felt bad and told Joe that I would be reducing the price back to the original instead of the double we had agreed to. He stated that he would not be paying since he was not satisfied and could do it for cheaper on Chegg. We both exchanged some "choice words" and I told him that if he was not keen on paying the money I would be notifying his school about his cheating. Would I be the asshole if I emailed his school?

\-As a side note I am done doing peoples work for good. ######

Response: ESH. While I’m against cheating and consider you ratting him out as the correct choice, I wonder what you would do if he reciprocated in kind by notifying your uni or workplace that you cheated on behalf of him. ######


Prompt:
So I (28m) am currently living with my GF (26f) of 2 years cause of quarantine and after the restrictions were lifted in the area, we decided to keep living together for a bit longer. I'm a personal trainer and a fitness model and my GF is a model.

So cause of the lockdown, my gf started following this weird Vegan girl. She does everything this chick does, from her diet and workout, which was fine, to nor shaving. I didnt like it but I decided to just stay silent about it. I'm a pretty vain guy and I like to keep myself as good looking as possible (I'm shallow, I know) so before you come at me... Yes, I also shave all over my body.

I was fine with it until she initiated sex. I told her, as nicely as possible, that I didn't find her body hair attractive so I passed on that. She started yelling at me with the whole "my body, my rules" and I told her I didn't force her to shave, I just didn't like the idea of it. I NEVER said anything bad about it btw, just that it wasnt my cup of tea. I then said if that rule applies to her, it applies to me too and I slept on the couch.

The next day I decided to go to my best friend's house, who's roommate was a tattoo artist (lockdown restrictions are lifted). I've been talking about getting a tattoo on my chest for the longest time but my gf always discouraged me and told me I'm not allowed to get one. I already have a half sleeve btw. I got a tattoo of a lion and I absolutely love it.

So I came home and my girlfriend saw it and went ballistic. She yelled at me for being an asshole and cried. She asked me "how could you do this to me?" And then I told her... My body, my rules. She stormed out and locked herself in the room and hasn't come out since.

I'm on the couch right now thinking about if I took it too far.

So Reddit... AITA? ######

Response: ESH. Toxic af. You both are too old to behave like this. ######


Prompt:
To be clear I dont intend to pick up the phone and just start complaining to him about her. The issue is that he and my MIL think I'm a bad provider for my family because we frequently have money troubles. My wife however ...likes to spend money, as in last year in 7 months she spent 18000 dollars out of budget that I can confirm. So when we fall on hard times (because i can't keep money in savings) she borrows money from her father who is trying to retire and it isn't fair to him. She does this without telling me until after.

I don't really want to cause problems with her and her parents but at this point maybe it'll help her and us if she has to accept responsibility and not just "listen to me overreact"

Additional info: she doesn't work and by my estimate in 8 years she over spent about ...170k-280k dollars. ######

Response: ESH. The problem is your wife, dude. Don't go running to her daddy to fix it, either get your marriage in order or get a divorce. ######


Prompt:
So this all started about a year ago, one of my close friends had her house broken into and had a large amount of valuables stolen. By the looks of it, the burglar had planned it out and taken his time. The burglar is still on the loose and the police don't currently have any suspects, I doubt he will ever be caught. So after i heard this, I decided to take measures to protect my family and my home. I decided to install strike plate covers, motion lights, and security cameras. A few days after i had installed them, my neighbor noticed them and had asked me to take them down saying that they were "Creepy and Intrusive", I told him no and even showed him the cameras to prove that they were not recording his property. Ever since then we have heard grumbles form the neighbor and others, and were even excluded from the neighbors 4th of July party. Fast forward to a week ago, the same neighbors car was broken into and was caught on my cameras. The neighbor asked for the footage and i literally laughed at him and told him that it would be too creepy and intrusive of me to give it to him, he got extremely mad at me. I ended up copying the footage to a hidden thumb drive and deleting it off of the DVR, i only did this so that if i actually needed it then i would still have it.

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I asked my wife and she says that even though what i did was sort of childish, I was still in the right. So reddit, Was i an asshole? ######

Response: ESH. The neighbor was wrong to ask you to remove something from your property that wasn’t effecting him, but if his car bring broken into was captured by your camera, his property is, in fact, being taped. And then to refuse to turn the footage over to help someone who was robbed his really petty. ######


Prompt: Our kids are playing in the sprinkler and my husband took the leaf blower and started blowing it all over them to dry them off. The loud blower was very close to the children. The kids were having fun with it. I scolded him to turn it off because it would cause ear damage. He was hostile and called me an idiot in front of our kids, and continued to us the leaf blower in this way. Was I in the wrong to yell at him to stop having fun with kids for the sake of ear health. ######

Response: ESH. The kids were only having fun and if it’s for just a short while I don’t see how it could have a major impact. Teenagers who listen to loud music everyday is definitely more dangerous than a few min of leaf blower. He definitely should not have called you an idiot ######


Prompt:
Hey everyone,

So my boyfriend and I have been together for two years, I live in Germany, he's Dutch but works in Germany, this Easter he wanted to go see his family in the Netherlands, I was fine with it, I love his family, they're really nice and sweet and honest people.

I have online classes since I'm in uni and I don't want to study here because I don't have the available material and notebooks and I don't have a desk here.

We were supposed to be home on Monday, my boyfriend's car was at the workshop here and we had to wait until Wednesday till the car was fixed in the morning.

He then asked me to stay here another day because he wants to see his family one more day, as the prior night they had a small argument, I said yes sure, but I'm done delaying getting home and Thursday is the max, he says okay, I have a few packages arriving Friday, and online classes I have to attend early in the morning.

So today came and we showered, I finished getting ready and went downstairs and saw him gaming, he said he doesn't want to leave until Saturday, and I said it's not fair to keep telling me we're gonna leave "tomorrow" everyday and changing his mind and I have online classes and packages tomorrow and promised a friend I would see him this week.

He got really pissed and started packing angrily, saying he's pissed and shit. I don't get it I just want to go home.
So reddit, AITA? ######

Response: ESH. Stay the fuck at home. I normally visit my family for Easter, too, but like a reasonable person i stayed home. He can visit them later. You can see your friend later. ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend (25m) and I (22f) have been together for just over a year.
We have been in a semi long distance relationship for most of that time, as I moved away from our home town to the city for college around 3 months after we got together.
We still see each other at least 3 days a week, as it’s less than two hours drive.

A few weeks ago my boyfriend told me he wanted me to move in with him.
I thought about it for a while and decided that yes, I wanted to live with him and that commuting to college would be manageable especially as we have reduced campus hours currently due to COVID.

Last night though, he mentioned that he was looking forward to being able to put more money towards saving for a house deposit once I had moved in an was covering half the rent.

I had never expected to have to split his rent. My assumption had been that due to the increased cost associated with my travel to college, along with having to leave a fairly well paid part time job in the city and also the amount of time I would be spending commuting, almost 4 hours a day twice a week, that we wouldn’t be splitting the rent “equally”. I’d obviously still split bills and things, but not the rent as all these costs would end up with me financially disadvantaged by moving.

He got really angry when he heard this, saying that he wasn’t just going to have me free load and that we’d always been a partnership.
I agree that we’re a partnership but I’m very firm on this. I won’t be increasing the cost of his rent by moving in so why should I have to cover all the costs of me moving?
AITA for refusing to pay rent? ######

Response:
 ESH. Sounds like some very important discussions never happened.

On one hand, yeah. He should cknsider your commute costs.

On the other, you should know better than to think youre gonna live somewhere rent free ######


Prompt:
Recently I started driving a manual transmission, I used to ride a motorcycle but it’s been years so there’s been a bit of an adjustment. For reference I live in a large city that is synonymous with bad traffic, so most drivers are pretty aggressive. Today I wanted McDonalds (don’t judge) and currently only the drive through is open. There were about 4-5 people in front of me, soon I had about 6-7 people behind me.
Everyone else in the line was literally bumper to bumper. I chose to leave a car length of space between me and the car in front of me. So the car in front of me might move 12 inches 4-5 times before I moved up a full car length. Maybe I’m just a total noob with the stick but I need almost a car length to safely release the clutch all the way.
A truck 2 cars behind me did not like this at all, he starts tapping his horn, then leaning on it and then screaming at me to move. I admit with my old car I would have just squeezed closer to the car ahead of me. I hate confrontation so I ignored him, and waited for the lady ahead of me move up further. Then everyone else in line also started laying on their horns. I’m not sure who the extra honking was directed at but I was happy to get out of there.
IMO anyone who yells, screams and lays on the horn is an asshole but maybe I’m a jerk too. So reddit AITA for leaving a car length of space in crowded drive through? ######

Response: ESH. Sorry you are a massive noob with that manual. There is no reason you should need that much space to transition safely on the clutch. You need to practice with your car more, because that  is potentially dangerous. ######


Prompt:
Pretty much it. It was a big crowd waiting for a subway. When the subway came. She started cussing under her breath, telling people to move. Then she started shoving people away with her purse.

She started shoving me hard while mumbling smth and so I grabbed her purse and threw it behind her.

I wasn't trying to hurt her, I just got annoyed that she was acting like a princess on a busy day in the subway.

She wasn't schizophrenic or anything. She was just in a pissy mood.

Am I the Asshole? ######

Response:
 ESH. she was very rude, but you need to learn to keep your cool. Your response was childish.

>She wasn't schizophrenic or anything.

How do you know? ######


Prompt:
I'm M24 my gf is F23 and her friends are f23 and just finished their first year of law school. They're always talking about how much money they're gonna make and always debating on issues and I join in a lot of the time and its a good discussion.

Recently we were talking about our governments assault rifle ban and I chimed in a few points and one of the girls basically said that I don't know anything about the law and was being a bitch. I told her that just because she's in law school doesn't mean she's a genius and she retorted back to me that its the best law school in the country and they'll all be making more money than me.

I just laughed and said that the job market was saturated with lawyers and its extremely hard to get in a firm now and told her to have fun being unemployed and having 100k worth of debt.

My Gf laughed although her friends were calling me an asshole, my Gf said I was a bit of an ass but I disagree. She came at me so I went back at her.

AITA? ######

Response: ESH. She was being an elitist jerk, but your response was childish. It sounds like you felt insulted and came up with the first response you could think of that would cut her back. ######


Prompt:
This happened years ago but a post here today made me remember it. I used to play games regularly with same group, one of which wasn't the best sport. We will call her R. Anyways one member loves the game ticket to ride, I HATE it. They wanted to play one night and I said due to hating the game (not not enjoying as in I would rather do dishes with my toothbrush) I would sit out and socialize.

Everyone was okay with this because they had enough players except R who went off about how I had to play because it was game night and everyone always plays ect several people stood up for me but she wouldn't back down. I told her I only play one way and it's against the spirit of the game and basically ruins it. She thought I was making it up and insisted.

I played and ruined the game for everyone. Some people laughed because I warned them. She was enraged. She yelled at me, called me names said I couldn't play games with them anymore ect I said I just wanted to sit that one out! She accused me of ruining their fun on purpose which yeah I kind of did do but my first choice was to NOT play. ######

Response: ESH. She sucks because she shouldn't have went off on you for not playing, not backing down, and for throwing a tantrum when you ruined the game. You, because you really didn't have to play (no matter what she was saying) and ruin the game. The only reason you played was to get her to stop pestering you to play and also piss her off in the process. ######


Prompt:
My [M33] girlfriend [F32] is curled up under the blanket right in this moment. We just had an argument about me being the strict parent, the one that says No and her being the Yes cool parent.

It all started yesterday. We took a little walk with our toddler [M2]. It's cold outside (3 or 4 celsius) mom says she cold, I think it's okayish. We pass a puddle of water, kid wanted to play in it. I say No and we move along just fine.

Edit 2 : when I say No, it is always followed by an explanation. I don't believe in the authoritarian style of parenting

Heading back home, he wants to go in the puddle and mom says... you get it, yes. He's been playing in the puddle for 4 or 5 minutes. I'm starting to get cold, and if I am, the kid is also.

Edit 1 : it's a private property with a lot of trucks and he wasn't dressed properly (our mistakes) for the temperature.

She's trying to end the activity, but he's having fun. A meltdown occur screaming and kicking. She's trying to talk to him about his emotion, to reason with him. It goes about 2 or 3 minutes. I got to sweep in, pick him up and end this situation that goes nowhere. I'm not happy, it could have been avoided and I feel she undermined my first decision.

Back to an hour ago, I'm trying to explain my point of view. I feel that your undermining my decision. I feel that I always have to be the one ending the meltdown. I feel that I'm the only one here saying No.  Our views on parenting are not so far appart, but me always having to say No is starting to affect my relationship with my kid. She says that she can't start saying No because it would be against what she believe in. I had enough , I told her that she need to start acting like a mother.

She's under the blanket in our room sobbing.

I do feel like an asshole, but am I?

P.s. sorry for bad english, not a native speaker.
P.p.s. our relationship isn't usually rocky. We've been together for 5 yrs.

Edit 3 : SO is F, not M. Mistake. ######

Response:
 ESH. She shouldn't be letting him get soaking wet when it's that cold. And it's not fair that you feel like you always have to be "bad cop".  I'm on your side there. But you went way overboard telling her to "start acting like a mom".

Talking to a 2 year old about their emotions is good parenting. My son is 2, sometimes he has totally age appropriate moments and gets frustrated or mad and cant communicate it well. Getting down on his level and talking to him helps him learn to communicate his feelings properly. Learning to process, express and deal with negitive emotions is important at this age. That IS being a good mom. ######


Prompt:
Hi all!

My wife and me just found out we are going to have a baby, we have tried several times.

The thing is, my wife is a weed addict, she smokes 7 days a week the whole day and I told her that if she smoked weed while pregnant I would leave the house.

This was because last pregnancy I found she smoked weed several times through the pregnancy.

I'm surprised she's so addicted to it that the next days she smoked weed, this has been 4 days after I told her that I would leave if she smoked.

I demanded her to give me her weed or i'll leave, which she did, the problem is next day she asked me for it, but I dumped it all on the trash, so she got mad and stopped talking to me, and she actually went to buy more to her dealer.

She returned and smoked weed in the house 2 times that day, not giving a fuck about me and my child.

What should I do? I have tried to talk to her several times, telling her that I would not leave because she is obviously addicted and she needs help, and that she could talk to me anytime she had the urge to smoke or we could find professional help, but she got sad and mad and started crying and changing topics and leave, she's blaming this on me, when I'm just telling her that it was her choice to keep smoking weed or to care for our baby.

Nonetheless even if im being calm and trying to help her IM FUCKING MAD inside because thats my fucking son inside there and I DO want to leave her sometimes because this weed issue has been going through all our marriage, I was fine when she smoked 1 day or two, but the whole week at all times? Im fucking sick of it, but i love her and when she's not all smoked up I like to hang out with her.

AITA for leaving my house? and leaving her? obviously i would take care financially and lovingly of my son when she delivers. I just don't want to be married someone that prefers drugs than her son wellness and his husband ######

Response:
 ESH. She has a lot of obvious problems and needs help, and you shouldn’t feel bad about trying to get her help. You *should* feel bad about having another baby with her when you *knew* this would be an issue and hadn’t done anything about it yet. That was very irresponsible of you, and you can’t fix that by walking out now.

By all means do what you can to get her help. But you don’t get to throw up your hands and leave if it’s not working because this is your problem too. ######


Prompt:
I have backyard that I built a fence around about 3 years ago when we got our dog.

My neighbor has 2 boys, around ages 10 and 12. Long story short, my neighbors boys somehow managed to put a HUGE hole in the side of my fence, no idea how they did it. This was about 3 weeks ago. My neighbor apologized profusely and said he'd get it fixed as soon as possible and pay for the repair.

My dog, being the explorer that he is, is small enough to fit through this hole. Whenever he has to go to the bathroom, I usually let him out in the back and he comes in once he's done. Unbeknownst to me, he's been going over to the neighbor's yard through the hole and shitting on his lawn.

Neighbor calls me yesterday and tells me that I need to come clean up the dog shit (they also know that I'm the only one on our street who has a dog). I told him I'm not gonna do that, because the only reason my dog is shitting in his lawn is because his boys made a huge hole in my fence. I also reminded that he said he'd get it repaired "ASAP" and he still hasn't, so until he does, it's not really my problem. I suggested that maybe his boys can clean up the poop if he doesn't want to.

AITA? ######

Response: ESH. Put a tarp over your side and pay attention to where you dog is. If the dog is unsupervised in the neighbor's yard, you have no idea if there's a gate open to the road or other opportunities to escape and get lost or hurt. ######


Prompt:
So my brother Jared (28) had a birth defect that had cleared up by the time he was 2 years old. I had a stroke when I was fairly young and I'm still struggling with the aftermath 20 years later. Jared is 4 years older than me.

We got into a fight and things got very heated very fast. I told him that he didnt know what I was going through, he would never be able to live through what I've lived through, and that he wasn't aware when he was going through his birth defect so he can't possibly understand. He proceeded to tell me that he could've died in his infancy, which is well known by my family and my parents treat him like an angel because of that.
I told him "ok you might have died but you're alive, and at least you don't have to live with the consequences that your birth defect brought you" and he told me I was an asshole.

A few days later I'm talking to my parents and they tell me that what I said was wrong on so many levels and that I shouldnt have brought up Jared's birth defect, and that I should apologise for being so mean to Jared. I refuse to apologise until he acknowledges the difference between the way he lives his life versus the way I live mine.

AITA? ######

Response: ESH. Playing the “who has it worse” game is immature and ridiculous. ######


Prompt:
A little context, my wife and I live in a house that's less than 0.1mi from her parents house.  Any time I say or do something that really pisses her off she tells me to leave and/or stay somewhere else for the night.

Now, I could go to my parents(they live about 8 miles away), but why should I let my wife kick me out of my house when she's the one that's pissed off and she lives closer to someone she can stay with?

Note:  I openly admit to being an asshole most of the time, however I'm looking for peoples' opinion for this circumstance. ######

Response: ESH. Nobody should be kicked out of their home. You guys have a toxic relationship. Go to marriage counselling and learn to resolve conflicts the healthy way. ######


Prompt:
My Mother in law (MIL) chewed me out on the phone for not being more sympathetic towards my sister in law (SIL) after she experienced her sixth miscarriage. We have expressed condolences after each and every miscarriage but apparently, I didn’t sound “sorry enough” this time around. I reminded her that SIL has a beautiful daughter and said something along the lines of “perhaps she should spend more time with what she already has instead of spending so much time grieving for what might have been.”  Needless to say, it didn’t go over well.

They are both aware that we (my husband and I) ourselves have fertility issues (I’m flat out infertile) and they have often pestered us about it, often asking “when are you going to adopt?” or “Why haven’t you tried IVF yet?”

My husband wants me to call my SIL again (which I’m Okay with) and to call back and apologize to my MIL (that, I’m not so cool about). AITA for balking about apologizing to my MIL? ######

Response: ESH. MIL for grading your amount of sorry and you for discounting your SILs struggles by saying she should just be grateful to have one kid. Your struggles with fertility don't give you the right to be callous nor should your in laws pester you about your own fertility. ######


Prompt:
I've been balding for like 5 years. Not fully bald, just mostly losing hair at the crown of my head. I don't like to admit it too people but I am insecure about it. I wear a baseball cap around almost everywhere. Going to stores, at the house, everywhere for the most part.

I don't see the problem with it. I like the way I look with a hat while also wishing I had had more hair but not much I can do. I am 40 and my wife thinks I am too old to be doing what I'm doing.

She'll take my hat off if were sitting down watching tv and told me she doesn't care that I'm losing hair. I don't like to talk about it at all. She's the only one who gives me shit about wearing a baseball cap everywhere. I genuinely like the way I look wit hit on.

But yesterday she made a joke about my lack of hair and it pissed me off. She's obsessed with the topic. So I made a comment along the lines that we all can't be perfect, mentioning her flat chest (her biggest insecurity).

Now she won't talk to me and is genuinely mad at me. She told me what I said was hurtful because I obviously meant what I said and that she doesn't care if I am balding or not.

I don't think I did anything wrong. She just keeps giving me shit about wearing a baseball cap almost everywhere. ######

Response: ESH. Maybe sit down and have a talk with her that her comments really bother you. She might not realize how much it hurts you. If she still jokes about it, try couples' therapy. ######


Prompt:
I am 14M and my sister is 17F. Recently, under quarantine, tensions have been high. I have been dieting and doing exercise to lose fat. I am really short and scrawny, but I have a belly. A few years ago, my sister started to tease me about it, as she can eat shit and not exercise but stay in shape. I have started to not expose my body, wear loose fitting clothes and tshirts when we go swimming.

Last week, I wore a tshirt that was a bit tight, and my stomach stuck out a bit. The conversation went like this. S=sister  Me=me  M=mum
S: Look at those rolls, fatty
M: Laughs
Me: Well at least I'm not going to fail all my GCSEs and my maths 3 times
*silence for a few seconds*
My sister runs out and to her room
M: That was over the line, you know she's sensetive about it
Me: Did you even hear her?
M: Yes but you don't care about that do you?

At this point, I just want to leave it behind, but we haven't spoken in weeks and I want to know if I was wrong, so AITA? ######

Response:
 ESH. Literally, all of you.

Your mom is the biggest asshole for letting shit escalate to this level and for not coming down on your sister for an inappropriate fat joke.

Your sister is old enough to know better than making an inappropriate fat joke and if she's gonna give it out, she should be able to take it.

You're still young, you suck less than your sister, but "well you're gonna fail all your exams" is still a pretty shitty thing to say to someone. I get that she was being a bitch, but people are going to take shitty digs at you in life and you can't always just fire back, quite often it's just not worth it. ######


Prompt:
I live with my girlfriend. I own a Switch but don't play it much; I was, however, excited for the new Animal Crossing game, so I bought it at release and still have yet to play it. My girlfriend asked if she can play it since I'm busy with work for the foreseeable future and I didn't see a problem with it.

So she's clocked about 150 hours into this game so far despite only being out for a few weeks. She's neglected my home and no longer cooks. All she does from wake to sleep is play on her phone or play Animal Crossing.

We had a good dynamic until this started: we'd each cook meals for each other and us together, we'd both do the chores, etc. I think it was fairly split 50/50. But now I'm doing 100% of these things and it's draining when I have work to do, too.

I told her I didn't want her to play my Switch anymore because of these reasons and she said okay but didn't change. I reminded her a few more times of what we talked about and still no change. So I flushed the game cart down the toilet.

This has raised all types of Hell. It's my Switch, my game, my home, I can do whatever I want with my property, but I want to know if I'm the asshole for this. I don't know how this game saves data, whether it's saved to the cartridge or to the Switch but she's been telling me her 150+hr town is gone now and I don't quite know if that's the case.

If it makes any difference, she has no income so she can't buy another copy of the game. I'll buy a new copy when I'm ready to play it myself. ######

Response:
 ESH. Lack of maturity on both sides. There were better ways to handle it. Flushing something you knew would upset her sounds like something a shitty parent would do before bragging about it on Facebook. *i hAd to teaCh Her A leSsON! My HOUsE, MY RULeS!*

And good luck with all of the weeds growing down there now..... ######


Prompt:
My wife and I are getting divorced and haven’t lived together for six months. It was her choice not mine.

During a digital clear out I decided I don’t want to see the wedding photos anymore. She has the physical prints in our old house and I have a hard drive with the digital copies. Below is the full text, AITA:

ME: Can you please let me know if you want copies of our wedding photos before I delete them?

HER: You are so childish [NAME]! I honestly thought you couldn't get any worse. Your a grown man. Yes ofcourse i want a copy. We were married, we have children. The children will want to see photos when they are older. You really need to stop being so immature. Stop thinking about yourself all the time and start putting the kids into your head before you ask such stupid questions. I don't want a reply to this as I really dont know what to say!

ME: Perhaps it is childish and ignorant to expect someone to retain memories of a past life which has been utterly destroyed.

ME 2nd: There is a 64gb memory card in the camera which will be sufficient. Can you put it in an envelope along with my wedding ring. ######

Response: ESH. Jfc. Just put the photos on a memory stick and post them to her. You’re clearly not able to be civil to each other but you jointly own the photos so if you don’t want them, give them to her and she can throw them out if she doesn’t want them. This doesn’t have to be an epic saga 🤷🏻♀ ######


Prompt:
My roommate has said I'm a selfish cunt and that I should even move out so I guess I want the internet to say the same thing.

Yesterday a dog showed up and was barking under my window at my cat, who was in my window. I made a commotion and my roommate, who is a dog lover, got up and she got the dog.

We spent the morning walking around the various houses asking if it was their dog. The dog was attached to a cut cable lead. No one recognized the dog.

Fast forward, the dog was fine UNTIL she came in contact with my cats. After that, she wouldn't stop whining nonstop over and over and over and tried getting to my cats, who I had to lock up in my bedroom. This continues. The whining stops for a second but then starts back up. We have a fenced in yard, she barks nonstop if she's out. When not whining at my closed bedroom door, she is frantically pacing the house and whining then going back to my bedroom. She's a medium sized hunting dog.

This morning, after hours and hours of listening to her whining and pawing at my bedroom door, I let her out the front door. She came back after running around. I did this three other times. The last time she did not come back.

I had full intentions to take her to the shelter today. The one for my county is not taking animals and the one a county over is closed until tomorrow. I know a lot of dogs roam around us so I guess I was hoping by letting her out the front, she would just naturally go home. My roommate says I'm a selfish bitch and she wants me to move out because I only care about myself because that dog needed our help. My anxiety is already at fucking 11 with everything else that's going on, I didn't even know you had to pay to bring a dog to the animal shelter so I was already nervous about that. AITA? Should I just move out? ######

Response:
 ESH. it’s not your dog; it was forcing you to lock your cats away and was nonstop whining / causing an annoyance. i understand why you’d be upset and want the dog out immediately.

*however*, that does not give you the OK to send the dog right back out into the streets where it is vulnerable to harm from not-so-nice folks. you should have found somebody willing to take the dog for the time being asap. ######


Prompt:
I (22F) have lived in an apartment with 3 other people (all 22F) since August of 2019. For the last year, my roommates have been rude and condescending to me. They’ve belittled me for having what I see as a normal college experience, such as spending time with friends and going out on weekends. They are all extremely Type A and only focused on school. I was not, but I was generally a good roommate and a good student. But, they were particularly rude and passive aggressive about specific cleaning things. For example, if I left dishes in the sink, I would get a text in our group message saying something passive aggressive, like “just remember to clean up after yourselves!” One time I was putting away dishes from the dishwasher while one roommate watched, before taking over and saying “It’s okay that you didn’t do this right. It’s just that you have a more creative brain, while I have a logical brain.”

Since the pandemic hit, I unofficially moved out, by taking a suitcase of clothes to my friends’ apartment and staying here for the past two and a half months. I’ve been really happy here and have been validated that I am a good roommate, I was just living with the wrong people. Now, the lease in my old apartment (to which I still paid rent for the past two months) ends at the end of this month. I went in and moved all my things out, and cleaned my bedroom and my bathroom. My roommates want me to come back and help them clean the common areas after they move their things out. I think it would be one last middle finger to them if I didn’t show up to help, seeing how they micromanaged and condescended my cleaning for two years straight.

My friends/new roommates encouraged me to block their numbers and not help clean. My mom thinks I should help them, or forfeit my security deposit if I don’t help. WIBTA if I didn’t help them clean? ######

Response: ESH. I know how shitty roommates can be. But, you still lived there for two years. Swallow your ego and help them clean. ######


Prompt:
I went on a 3 week long international trip with a group of ~15 other recent college graduates (last year, pre-coronavirus). We all mostly knew of each other, but weren't really friends ahead of time.

Early on in the trip, "Kimberly" was particularly loud about what a picky eater she was. She would proudly exclaim that she only liked chicken nuggets. It quickly became frustrating as after every meal, there would have to be this big discussion about what new food she ate and how gross it was. It's worth noting that this wasn't some exotic destination... admittedly, I'm pretty picky myself and had a lot of fish and chips on the trip.

This continued for most of the trip, most horrifyingly while we were visiting an indigenous village and she loudly went on about how disgusting the food was while the villagers that prepared the meal were serving her. On one of the final days, we were all out looking for food and proposed about 5 different spots that she all turned down ("Can't we just find a McDonalds?"). Finally I snapped, and said to her- "You should consider yourself very lucky that you grew up wealthy enough that you had the choice to eat chicken nuggets at every meal and didn't have to just be grateful that any food at all was put in front of you. Many of us worked for months on end to save up money to enjoy this trip as a once in a lifetime experience and listening to you complain about the food every day has been very exhausting."

She stormed off and the group mostly awkwardly split up at that point. Later in the night, she pounded on my hotel door and lectured me about how dare I call her a rich girl, no one likes me, I was the one that ruined the trip by getting injured earlier on, etc.. I tried talking to one of the other girls the next day, who pretty much just said that everyone else wants to stay out of it. AITA? ######

Response: ESH. I get your frustration, but it's not a "rich" thing. I've known kids who grew up poor who were *incredibly* picky eaters. Actually I'd say I probably know more of them that are than the reverse. ######


Prompt:
Sorry for any bad formatting, I'm on mobile, And I'm so pissed off right now.

My (M43) stepdaughter (F13) has been living with us for eight years now and she lacks a massive mount of respect for me and for everybody else.

She's so aggressive and loud and does not like being told to do anything. Especially by me.
Always reminding me that I'm not her dad
And that I have zero power over her and no right to tell her what to do.
Her behavior is totally out of control,
My 9yo does her homework, helps her mom with the kitchen, takes care of her pets...

But she, the 13yo does absolutely nothing.
She almost set the house on fire three times!!!
Either by leaving the oven on, by leaving candles near a flammable item, or by overloading oud electric outlets, maybe those were accidental, But learning that something very familiar happened when she was at her father's made me feel anxious.

Last night, she started acting out cause she did not like what was for dinner, said she didn't like the meal, my daughter said that she liked it so she lashed out on her and called her "stupid" I decided to intervene and told her to apologize to her sister, She yelled and said "she is NOT my sister" and said that her dad was right about me, and she ran to her room.

I got very pissed off, I looked at my daughter and she looked sad, wife tried everything with her, But nothing worked.
that was it, I walked in her bedroom and snatched her laptop while playing with it, She yelled for me to give it back, I told her not until you apologize to me and your sister, and your dad can keep his opinions to himself, I don't know what he said about me and I don't care.

She curled up in her bed crying, I left the room giving her sometime to think about what she said, and I'm still waiting for her to apologize, But I don't think she's gonna do it, and even if she is, she'd fake an apology just to get her laptop back. ######

Response:
 ESH. How do I say this? We (parents/adults) do this thing where we enter a relationship with someone, we fall in love with them and they become very important to us.  We accept them as our partner and we value their opinion.  But we also do this thing where we expect our children to develop the same attachment and respect for our partner.  Hopefully they will, but you can't force it.  your wife obviously recovered from the relationship with her ex much faster than your stepdaughter did.  It may have been several or many years, but that doesn't mean that she has dealt with it yet.  Think about it like this, that relationship was a few years of your wife's life, It was step daughters entire life(at that point) and if she had not recovered when you got with Mom adding more feelings about another person into the mix probably just made it harder.

She does not want you to be her dad.
She has not developed that attachment.
You trying to assume that role is going to push her further away.
When you tell her what to do instead of your wife it makes her feel like you have taken control of her life.
It makes her feel like your wife ( her mom!) values your opinion more than hers.

Discuss boundaries and rules with your wife. Have your wife enforce the rules, rules she agrees to.  You need to work on developing that emotional bond with your stepdaughter, not be the heavy.   That doesn't mean she gets to be disrespectful to you, that is an entirely different animal.

*I am not any sort of healthcare professional, I do not have degrees in anything.  This is my observation / experience when dealing with my children and significant others and their children. * ######


Prompt:
So a little backstory, when I was 7, my mum had a baby with another man who wasn't my dad, and she decided to give the baby up to the father and his family.

So fast forward 4 months ago and I get some messages on instagram from my sister who is now 16 and this honestly made me happy. I cried tears of happiness. We talked for a few days and she told me how she would really like to meet. I told her I want to meet her as well, but she also wanted to meet our mum. I told her I don't think it would be a good idea but she kept pushing because my mum is also on instragram and she told me she would message her instead. That stressed me out because I know that would really upset my mum.

I told her I'm happy to meet her myself but if she keeps pushing to meet our mum then I want nothing to do with her and could possibly also call the police on her. She got really mad and started insulting me and my family. I did try to calm things down a little but a messages calling my dad a cuck and my mum a slut was really the last straw so I blocked her. Now I'm just sitting wondering if I did the right thing ######

Response: ESH. Her insulting your family like that was completely uncalled for, but you had no right to tell her she couldn't contact your mom and zero grounds for threatening to involve the police. ######


Prompt:
She decided to put away a bottle of edibles in the pantry, then they somehow were moved to the dinner table. It's a pastel pink colored bottle. The kids could easily mistake them for candy. I have pre teens and 2 younger kids.

My one year old was able to open the bottle with ease. Thankfully none of the kids consumed any.

I yelled at her quite harshly because I'm exhausted from work all week and am very irritable when sleepy. I told her they need to be in the medicine cabinet or somewhere more secure. You don't just leave any kind of drug just accessible to kids.

She's now mad at me for yelling at her....... Simple as that. ######

Response:
 ESH. Her for obvious reasons. You because you shouldn't be screaming at your wife, especially when your kids could possibly hear. You have every right to be angry. But screaming at the object of your anger does literally nothing to help anything. What did yelling solve that a quieter conversation wouldn't have? The way I see it, you not only upset your wife (who was probably--hopefully--already highly upset with herself about her mistake), you might have upset your oldest kid, whom you aren't even sure understands the situation, and possibly your younger kids if they somehow heard the yelling.

It's one thing if it was a small outburst in the moment ("Holy shit hun, how could you leave edibles in reach of the baby?!") it's another if you went on a tirade, which it sounds like you did. ######


Prompt:
My daughter recently moved back in with us after her relationship with her husband ended following his discovery of an affair she was having with a co-worker.

Her husband is a good man, and I will be sorry to see him leaving our family. He did not deserve this. She admits as much, but I wanted him to know how sorry I was that things ended this way.

I have been very hard on my daughter since she moved in. As much as she claims to recognize her mistakes, I don't believe her. She is in shock right now because she got caught and lost both men, but she hasn't learned her lesson.

When I called her husband to apologize, I told her she was going to listen to the conversation because she needed to see the damage she had caused by her selfishness. I also wanted her to know how disgusted I was with her and how deeply ashamed I am of her and of her being my daughter. I told her husband that if given the choice I would rather keep someone like him in our family than my own daughter because of her behavior.

All of this had the effect I intended, but her mother things I was unnecessarily harsh with her and may do damage to our relationship. I told her mother that right now I was considering disowning her unless she showed some remorse and change quickly.

She needs tough love right now in my view and consequences. I don't think trying to accomplish either of those things makes me an asshole, but does it? ######

Response: ESH. Her for cheating, and you for trying to control and discipline an adult child in hopes that she learned her lesson.  It's all fine trying to mend everything and let her exhusband know that you love him and consider him part of the family still, etc etc... but to call him and make your daughter listen REEKS of forced control and manipulation.  You can support your ex son in law and also not support your daughter without any skin off my judging back.  But the way you did it is really, really gross. ######


Prompt:
So yesterday my gf and i went to the beach with her friend.
My gf is southern european (italian) and her friend is Northern European(Danish),when we arrived at the beach her friend offered her sunscreen ,my gf refused her offer and she said”i am italian i can handle the sun”,my gf has VERY pale skin that burns easily under the sun yet she tried to impress everyone by being “a badass who’s immune to sunburn” and of course she burned.
When i saw how red her face was i started laughing hysterically and i said “Being southern European doesnt make you immune to sunburn,play stupid games win stupid prizes”
Now some of our friends say that i am a huge asshole for laughing at her,i disagree.
She is super mad and she won’t talk to me ,so reddit AITA? ######

Response: ESH. Her for being needlessly stupid and stubborn, you for being over the top in making fun of her. ######


Prompt:
So to cope with everything and make sure I'm being productive I have started making schedules, for example itll be like 8am wake up, do work from 9 am to 12pm, call boyfriend 12pm to 3PM, hang out with my mother 3pm to 5pm etc.
I generally make them in the evening the day before and check with everyone who is on it if my schedule is okay for them for example if I want to call my friend at 12 I'll ask her does that work for her or does she want me to shuffle things around.
I do the same with my boyfriend, and I know everything has been hard on him so I try to make sure we get at least 4-5 hours of call a day (I go to bed at nine and normally walk up at nine so in a twelve hour day he generally gets about 40% of the day). I will send him the schedule the day before and ask him if its okay for him, however he has a problem with going to bed late and waking up late thus missing his schedule time, he then asks if I can stay on the phone with him an hour later and if I say no he gets in a grump and gets slightly annoyed with me. I understand why he gets annoyed with me not wanting to change my schedule but this is something that me and my therapist have talked about to help me control my stress. He also sometimes gets annoyed if we have less than 3 hours call time a day and I just dont know what to do coz then I feel bad coz I know he doesnt talk to his family or his friends that much so I'm kinda the only person he talks to during all this so I know it's not fun for him if I'm busy. So am I the asshole for not rearranging my schedule for him? ######

Response: ESH. He’s too needy and you’re too rigid. ######


Prompt: Our kids are playing in the sprinkler and my husband took the leaf blower and started blowing it all over them to dry them off. The loud blower was very close to the children. The kids were having fun with it. I scolded him to turn it off because it would cause ear damage. He was hostile and called me an idiot in front of our kids, and continued to us the leaf blower in this way. Was I in the wrong to yell at him to stop having fun with kids for the sake of ear health. ######

Response: ESH. He was doing something fun with the kids, you raised a concern about it. No problems there. But because you were scolding him instead of raising the concern like you were both part of the same team, he felt attacked and got defensive. He called you a name because of it. That makes you both the asshole. ######


Prompt:
I (f/18) woke up one morning covered in blood. This wasn’t a shock. I went to the bathroom, cleaned up a bit, and went on my day. Right before I left the bathroom I noticed some blood inside the toilet but I didn’t think anything of it—it was inside the toilet seat right?

A few minutes later my dad calls into my room inquiring if my “aunt” is in town.

I, immediately knowing where this is going, shortly respond with a “do you want me to clean it with a toilet brush?”

My dad gets upset and asks me why I think that is okay. I tell him I had flushed once, and there was some blood left over. He says he doesn’t care and that blood is not something  he should see. I bring up the fact that my father is a firm believer in the “if it’s yellow let it mellow” and NEVER flushes the toilet and that if he is worried about stains on the toilet bowl, blood doesn’t stain.

He then says that he won’t be made a bad guy of. I ask again if he’d prefer me to srub the toilet with a brush every time I go throughout the week. He did not respond, instead, he flushed the toilet and when he saw that there was still blood left over after the flush he turns to me and says
“If I see blood in that toilet or under the toilet seat again your grounded. So you should better scrub.”

Guys.....AITA?? ######

Response: ESH. He should flush and you should clean up your mess whether it's in the toilet or not. Natural or not, no one wants to see his urine or your period blood. ######


Prompt:
I have a 25 year old son who I think has some growing up to do. He still blames me for everything that goes wrong in his life and he is incredibly rude to his stepmother. My marriage to his mother wasn't bad in the sense that it was volatile, but we were never in love. We were young and pressured into marriage by our parents, but I think she is absolutely amazing. There was cheating on both sides. I'd actually consider it more of an open marriage, we just never discussed the open part.

My son has expressed that he is angry at me for cheating (but not her?) and he thinks I owe him an apology. If I was going to apologize to anyone it would be my ex, but I don't think either of us need to apologize. We still have dinner every once in a while and she knows that I'm happy for her.

All my son does is whine about how I cheated on his mom. He was always close to her, but he cannot get along with her new husband so I think that is weighing on him, but he recently got caught cheating on his wife. They are going to stay together and they are in marriage counseling, but they came over for dinner last night and again he demanded an apology? ######

Response: ESH. he got caught cheating on his own wife and still expects you to apologize? Also if you don't discuss the openness of a marriage, it ain't open. ######


Prompt:
My brother and I are classmates and are now working on a math project together. We got our subject 4 weeks ago.

At the start, we split the project into two parts, one that was purely math and the other that was the programming part. We agreed that I would take on the math part and he would take on the programming part since we happen to be more at ease with our respective parts. We had also agreed to still work on the other person's part, even if it is just to double check their results.

These last two weeks, we haven't made nearly enough progress. I've been stuck on the same problem since then, and having a rather important exam coming up, I didn't have as much time as I would have liked. He doesn't have that exam but still hasn't worked at all on the project.

I talked to him about it, and we agreed that for the next few days, I'd work on the programming part and he would work on the problem I was stuck on. I have since made significant progress with our program. He has worked a bit on the problem I was stuck on (made a graph in Geogebra) and got a result that was clearly false (we both agree on that).

Now he wants us to switch in the last moment, so that he can finish what I started and I work on the problem where he made no progress whatsoever (mostly because he spent close to no time on that). So I would be stuck with the same original problem and he would literally have to add a few lines in the program I have been working on. On top of that, I haven't been able to study nearly as much as I should have on my exam because of this project.

I snapped at him (probably too harshly) and told him that no, I wouldn't switch with him and that he should maybe try to do something on his own for once (this is where I believe I may have been the asshole). He got angry and hasn't spoken to me since.

So AITA ? ######

Response:
 ESH. Harsh snap, slacking... though, when programming, there comes a point where it actually impossible to proceed, because the coder does not have the blueprint to continue coding.

Can’t program if you do not know what exactly you need to program. ######


Prompt:
I (f/18) woke up one morning covered in blood. This wasn’t a shock. I went to the bathroom, cleaned up a bit, and went on my day. Right before I left the bathroom I noticed some blood inside the toilet but I didn’t think anything of it—it was inside the toilet seat right?

A few minutes later my dad calls into my room inquiring if my “aunt” is in town.

I, immediately knowing where this is going, shortly respond with a “do you want me to clean it with a toilet brush?”

My dad gets upset and asks me why I think that is okay. I tell him I had flushed once, and there was some blood left over. He says he doesn’t care and that blood is not something  he should see. I bring up the fact that my father is a firm believer in the “if it’s yellow let it mellow” and NEVER flushes the toilet and that if he is worried about stains on the toilet bowl, blood doesn’t stain.

He then says that he won’t be made a bad guy of. I ask again if he’d prefer me to srub the toilet with a brush every time I go throughout the week. He did not respond, instead, he flushed the toilet and when he saw that there was still blood left over after the flush he turns to me and says
“If I see blood in that toilet or under the toilet seat again your grounded. So you should better scrub.”

Guys.....AITA?? ######

Response: ESH. Guys who get this offended by period are ridiculous - that said, clean up after yourself. You saw the blood still there and purposely left it. ######