Prompt:
So for context I had to wake up at damn 8 for online school which sucked ass but had to wake up. I struggled to wake up but finally got up at 7.52.

I got out of my room and went to the kitchen and got a banana quickly before the lesson. I noticed that my (37/39) parents’ door was open on the way to the kitchen but I didn’t look insude because that’s an asshole move.

Well when I had gotten the banana and was walking back I couod hear that they were banging. The creaking and heavy breathing made it 100% clear.

I know it’s a bit weird to not just igbore it but it’s also weird to have sex with the door open in the morning when everyone is waking up. I asked them ”What the fuck are you guys doing? It’s not OK to have sex with the door open when everyone is gonna walk by!” My dad told me to just mind my own business and go back to my room.

I did what he said because I was not gonna argue while they were banging so I just thought whatever. Now I’m attending the lesson while writing this. ######

Response: NTA. It’s gross and uncomfortable and your parents should’ve understood that instead of saying to mind your business. As someone whose mom did this a lot, sorry you had to hear that. ######


Prompt:
So my GF and have been discussing getting married and having kids.

However last night we got into an argument over raising our kids.

She doesn't want them wasting away in front of a TV or being unhealthy... Ok that's fine with me.

However then she says that she doesn't really want our kids to do Easter, Halloween, and Christmas. Her reasons are that all they promote is consumerism and bad eating habits.

However I became angry because while yes I can understand that view, at the same time, it would be robbing our children of experiencing something fun of those holidays.

Her upbringing was not a happy one and she doesn't like the idea of lots of candy or spoiling children with gifts. She grew up with a very absent mother and no father. So she didn't have a very good experience with those holidays.

I can understand her stance, but I think about how much fun finding Easter eggs, going trick or treating is, and the magic of Christmas, and missing those or muting them down to just another day, bothers me.

Well I went to bed angry and so did she. I said well I guess we shouldn't have kids then. I woke up this morning feeling terrible for saying that. However I think the damage is done. I don't think this will work out.

It just sucks because I can feel those great memories and get view on those holidays, I can feel those memories being ripped from me.

Anywho that's it. So am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA. It’s good that you had this conversation now and can break up and move on, rather than later when it’s too late. ######


Prompt: A girl at my school has some political opinions which are questionable at best. She posts said opinions on her blog. One opinion was particularly egregious, and I took screenshots of her blog in case she would delete it, as she is prone to do. I reposted the screenshots to Facebook after she deleted it. She then caught some flak for the blog because my post reached people who didn't know about her blog. People in the comments were trying to explain it to her, and she posted an apology saying she changed her opinions. But, I decided to keep the post up, and linked to her apology in the comments while removing any mention of her from the title and the rest of the post. She says that I'm causing people to dislike her because I posted it, but I'm saying that she's making other people dislike her because of her opinions. I told her I would delete it after a week. So, AITA for posting her opinions and not taking it down? ######

Response: NTA. It’s funny that people post their horrible opinions on the internet and expect to not receive any blowback for the things they say. She decided to post it, so she can reap what she sows. Also, nothing that is even deleted is truly gone from the internet so her bad opinions will forever be available to whoever has the spare time to find them. ######


Prompt:
I live in an apartment. Second floor, covered but outdoor walkway, medium walk from the street. I pay $8-12 from my limited means (I don't have a car, also due to limited means) to have groceries brought to me from walmart.

So here's the issue. Someone always seems to say "Oh could ya come down to the car and get your groceries?" or something of the like. And I think- *no! I checked "contactless delivery." I paid you! I have several good reasons (a bad back and heavy items among them) to pay to have groceries brought to me. Do your job!*

There was at least one time when it was an older woman who complained of hip trouble when telling me to carry them myself. Which I did, cheerfully. But... why are you hiring someone to carry groceries who can't or won't carry groceries? Is it so wrong to just ask for what I paid for? ######

Response: NTA. It’s called delivery. ######


Prompt:
My BF (30) and I (26) work in the IT industry. I work overseas (Germany) so we were in a long distance relationship for a while. We were living together so when I left the country, our place was left under his name. I send him money to pay half of the bills and everything was fine.

First quarter of 2019, his mom died and a month after that, his grandpa whom he's really close with. To make matters worse, the company he works for really sucks and his boss was a dick. He was so stressed out, he would rant about it everyday. Our video chats start and end with his rants. I told him to take a break if he wants to, since my paycheck was enough to cover both our bills. I asked him if he wanted to come and live with me in Germany, and eventually look for a job here. He agreed and he stayed at my place, with me paying ALL of the bills.

Last quarter of 2019, I got sick and was forced to resign. I promised myself I'll look for a new job once I'm well. We started living off my savings. After taking a break for 3 months, I decided to look for a new job but then the coronavirus outbreak came.

I told him to look for a job, but he says he's not ready yet. I just said okay. It's actually fine with me if I'm the one working but what I hate about him is he NAGS me every damn day if there's an update regarding my job application. I snapped and told him that he should look for a job himself. He got mad and told me I was the one who asked him to quit anyway, saying it's my fault that he's now jobless. ######

Response: NTA. It’s been months. It’s unreasonable for him to assume that you’ll just pay for everything indefinitely. ######


Prompt:
A little backstory:

I (15) was very close with my great grandmother, Gram Joe. We were both avid gardeners and artists, and she taught me everything I know about painting. Gram Joe had blood cancer, and was running a bit slow in her last few months. My brother (11), on the other hand, never went to visit her. He would only come with if Gma, grams daughter, was getting us lunch after. And even then, he would sit on his phone and ignore her.

She passed away last November, and I miss her like hell. My biggest regret is I never got to come out to her.

Her will specifically stated that I was to get all her supplies, which were incredibly expensive and well worth the money (30$ brushes, 150$ oil paint sets, canvasses, pencils, everything), which I was very grateful for.

Then comes my father. He took half of the stuff I was supposed to get and gave it to my brother, who already had his things she set aside. Expensive oil paints, brushes, colored pencils, all to the boy who doesn’t like drawing. I was, of course, incredibly upset.

My dad said it was only to be fair since brother didn’t get much, but that’s because she didn’t know what to give! He never payed attention to her, he never went to visit. She didn’t know what he would want. My brother ended up throwing away his stuff. Except for the brushes, which he didn’t take care of properly and are now mangled beyond belief. Thankfully my brother and I are close so he secretly gave me the stuff while throwing away the packaging, but the rage was still there. My brother is very obviously my dads favorite

Most of the rage was because he did that to Grams. I’m a religious person (paganism) and I know damm well Grams knew what he was doing. He violated her will for fucks sakes, that’s not ok!

TL:DR. Favorite grandmother left me all her art and gardening supplies in the will, father then gave half of everything to brother (favorite son) “to be fair”, violating the will. Grounded me for being angry about it ######

Response:
 NTA. It’s awesome your brother gave it back though.

This is the definition of fair doesn’t always have to be equal. You brother had no use for the stuff so it’s dumb to give it to him. ######


Prompt:
I was walking into this grocery store and there was an ~18 year old guy and his girlfriend walking in in front of me. I'm 10 paces behind them when he starts scratching at his b-hole. He looks over his shoulder and makes eye contact with me, but I'm so embarrassed for him that I pretend to be looking just past him and he thinks I didn't see.

I continue walking in behind them and they grab a cart and go toward the fruit/veggie area which is unfortunately where I'm going.

Then it happens. This guy, with his girlfriend on his right, takes his left hand and puts it DOWN HIS PANTS TO THE MID FOREARM and digs in his cheeks for 3-5 seconds. And then he just takes his hand out and continues toward the beef/chicken.

I walk around the other side to make up the distance between us so that I don't have to yell across the store and I say, "Hey man, I just saw you put your hands on your pants... I just need you to wash your hands. "

To my total surprise, he pretended like I was crazy. I expected him to be completely crushed by embarrassment. He kept saying 'Dude, what's your problem?' to which I kept saying 'Dude, just go wash your hands, this is over'. The girlfriend, who I don't think actually thought her boyfriend would do that, convinced the guy to tell them manager. So I ended up having to tell the manager around everybody at checkout that this guy dug his bare hand in his cheeks in the veggie section.

TL;DR   Guy had his bare hand scratching his b-hole in grocery store and I called him out (to wash his hands) ######

Response: NTA. It’s astounding that an adult thought that was acceptable. ######


Prompt:
I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant, which was unexpected. One symptom that I have is EXTREME gas. I belch like a frat boy 24/7, and I can’t help it. They just slip out. I’ve tried bicarbonate with water, EVERYTHING.

fast forward to yesterday, my fiance and I were laying down on the couch, and as I was getting up, i let out an ungodly loud burp. He looked at me and called me disgusting. He says he can’t look at me the same, as it’s really gross. Prior to getting pregnant, I never burped/farted in front of him. So AITA? ######

Response: NTA. It’s an involuntary reflex brought on by your body reacting to the human being growing inside you. You know, the one he helped conceive. Your BF needs to grow up now because Daddy duty is not pretty. ######


Prompt:
So, I own 3 houses that I had bought with an inheritance that my grandad left me and I rent these houses out. This enables me to have a steady income even without having a job so I have quite a bit of money to save and put away.

I rented one of the 3 properties out to my sister and her boyfriend for not a large sum at all.

The first few months they paid every time on the dot and I had no issues. However in the past 3 months I had received no payments and false promises of money that I was never going to receive.

So I removed them from the house and moved in a tenant who was willing to pay. My mother is furious that I kicked them both out and wants me to kick out the tenant who I moved in and move them back in AITA? ######

Response: NTA. it’s always tricky going into something money involved with family. But that being said, that’s what it comes down to. They didn’t pay you. And this is your income that you live off of so you have to do what’s beat for you. ######


Prompt:
Have 2 kids, 12 and 15. It was 12 year old’s best friend’s birthday today, so I drove him over to the friend’s house. They’d be ordering pizza, playing Xbox, generic kid birthday stuff.

I dropped him off around lunchtime, and on the way back I noticed that the McDonald’s had reopened after the lockdown (and I’d been craving a burger). I went through the drive through and got 2 meals for me and 15.

When I got home it turns out that 15 had got too hungry to wait and had heated up some leftovers. He ate the chips and drink, but said he’d save the burger for dinner. I said fine, and didn’t think anything of it.

Few hours later, 12 is dropped back home and it’s dinner time. I’m serving up the pasta I’d made (which admittedly isn’t his favourite) my older one takes out his burger and microwaves it. 12 is then upset that 15 got Mcdonalds but he didn’t, and my partner agreed saying it was unfair.

The way I see it 12 got his special treat in the form of the Dominos so that was him done for the week. 15 hadn’t had any junk food in ages as me and the partner try to cook healthy and keep unhealthy food to once every 2-3 weeks.

My partner disagrees, because we so rarely get McDonald’s that it was in a tier above pizza but I really don’t see the logic in that. One kid got dominos and the other got McDonald’s so in my eyes they’ve both been treated fairly. ######

Response: NTA. It’s also a timing thing, when you were at McDonald’s you had only one mouth to feed! How were you supposed to know he’d wait for later to eat it. Tell your family to chill lol you’re doing fine ######


Prompt:
Recently, my little sister(10F) has been getting into Minecraft, she has played it at her school as well as on my computer a couple of times which she seems to enjoy, which is fine. However I(18M) am also into the game as I have played it ever since I was 11 and just earlier today she has been begging my parents to get the game for her, but they think that she can play on my account without checking in with me first to see if I’m fine with it.

So I get called downstairs and mom tells me to log into my account, I ask “Why?” and she tells me it’s so that she can play the game. I ask “Can’t you buy the game for her?” and she replies with “Well, you’re an adult, you shouldn’t be playing it anyway” (I recently celebrated my 18th birthday) so I ask “why can’t you just buy the game for her?” and she says it’s because she doesn’t want to spend that much money (the game is 26.95 USD, I feel that it’s important to mention that she bought a stable for her horse for about $9000)

I tell her “well, she can play the demo version to see if she likes it or not” so she has downloaded the demo version now and this is pretty much where we’re at now.

I don’t want to just give away my account as I still play the game, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's yours, she needs her own.

You might want to also explain to your parents that "playing on your account" is essentially playing AS YOU.  Any people who know you, would assume it's you. *edit: Assuming play on multiplayer servers, etc.*

Also:

>“Well, you’re an adult, you shouldn’t be playing it anyway”

This really kinda makes me sad for your mom. ######


Prompt:
 AITA: Backstory, I come from a big Mormon family. My mom has 5 siblings, and 5 step siblings. My dad has 8 siblings. I left the Mormon church a five years ago. I have a bad relationship with my dad, two of my siblings and my dad's whole family. Most of them haven't talked to me in years, and when my little brother died 2 years ago half of them didn't talk to me at his funeral. I am close with a lot of my mother's family excluding a couple of her step siblings and one of my aunt's.

I don't want to invite my dad's side of the family if they can't even talk to me at my own brothers funeral. On my mom's side of the family I have one aunt that is a raging bitch. She hates me for reason's I don't know. Hell she hates almost everyone for reasons we don't know. At my brother's funeral she told me my bf (we had only been dating 6 months, and she had never met him or even heard of him) was using me, she said this in front of my whole family. Then the next Christmas she bought every niece a Christmas present besides me, (I don't care about the present, it was the spite that hurt me). My bf and I are talking about getting married soon, and I've talked to a few family members who say I have to invite her and her family. Her husband is the only one who treats me good, her kids and their spouses don't even acknowledge me .I'm sure if I don't invite my dad's side of the family he won't even come to my wedding.  It has become a huge debate, and to be honest I don't feel the need to spend extra money for 60 people who don't even treat me well.. AITA for excluding my whole dad's side of the family and her family from coming to our wedding? ######

Response: NTA. it's your wedding. you should only invite people that you want to be there and are comfortable around. ######


Prompt:
Me - (29M) my wife - Laura (26F) old friend - Shawn (31M)

So my wife and I actually got married in December 2016 so this situation is really fucking bizarre.

An old friend of mine recently got in touch with me after we lost contact many years ago and he saw that I’m married. I didn’t tell him this because we weren’t talking at the time and he got really offended that he wasn’t invited to my wedding.

I told him that there wasn’t a wedding. My wife and I were only engaged for 6 months and took our daughter who was 6 months old at that time and eloped. The only people there were us; our kid and our witnesses were the registry office people. We literally got married on our own terms as we didn’t want a huge reception.

Shawn has used the argument that we used to be really close and that I’m an AH for not considering him as a witness even though joke of my family or friends or Laura’s were there. He also said were assholes for just eloping meaning our marriage must be shit. He then brought my now 3 year old daughter into this and I swiftly blocked him.

I’ve recently brought up this bizarre exchange with my mom and she thinks that Laura and I should have had a proper wedding instead of the registry office reception with our daughter that we wanted. A few others have agreed with her but Laura says they’re idiots for dictating what they think a “real wedding” is and her family and our friends are on our side.

Who’s the AH here? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's your wedding not theirs. why they gotta have it their way. Your long lost friend is also a drama queen. Guy should just be happy that you are happilly married.

Your wife is cool for calling them idiots. ######


Prompt: My brother split with his gf about 2 months ago and he has been living with me. Before my brother moved in, it was just me and my dog. Anyway, he has three small children who I love to spend time with but he has them on his days off. They usually sleep Friday and go home Sunday. He also has them before or after work depending on the shifts he is on. Because they are at my house all the time my dog has to stay in the kitchen alot because he doesn't like kids. Also the kids have done damage to my house and my things. I recently told him that we need a schedule so that he can still have the kids over but also so I can have some time without the kids being there. I work 12 hour shifts so I want a couple of days where I can chill out with my dog and do things I can't really do when the kids are around. So I spoke to him today bout it and he is unwilling to compromise at all. He has said he wants the kids all the time which I understand because he loves them but I really need my own space. He has said he isn't willing to try the schedule and he just keeps saying he will move out. I don't want him to move out I just want some space. ######

Response: NTA. It's YOUR place that your brother is staying in and should respect your house rules and personal space. You're not kicking him out, you just want to work things out. He should show some gratitude by taking you into consideration. ######


Prompt:
Just under a week ago my mum's credit card got cloned, meaning she had to cancel it and get a new one. She asked if she could use mine for the time being and I (18f) said sure she can use contactless, there isn't much in it my account and I trust her.

For context, my brother (13m) without going into too much detail has done some very questionable things that have led to him being kicked out of one school and suspended numerous times from another.

The issue comes when my brother needs a new pair of trainers because there is a hole in his old ones. The contactless limit where I live (idk if it's different elsewhere) is £45. My mum and brother are leaving the house when my mum turns to me and says "Can you give me your pin in case the trainers are over that amount". Now I know I'm not supposed to tell anyone my pin but realistically I would probably give my mum the pin, but my brother is standing right there and I really don't want him to hear it because it wouldn't be that hard for him to take my card and use it, so I say no. The amount itself isn't really an issue because there is enough in my account and my mum said she would pay me back, but it isn't really that hard to find a pair of trainers under £45 anyway.

My brother starts going off on one about how I'm selfish and he won't be able to get any trainers now thanks to me. My mum is really not confrontational so she just kinda stands there. In the end they both went and brought a decent enough pair of trainers for like 30 quid or something, but my brother's still not speaking to me and my mum says I should've just told her it.

I mean I'm legally an adult now and I don't feel like I'm obligated to tell her anything but AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's your PERSONAL IDENTIFICATION NUMBER.

Personal. It's not SWNFIN, or Shared With Nosy Family Identification Number.

Identity theft is no joke. Please make sure your important documents are in a safe place. ######


Prompt:
I've recently turned 18 a few days ago btw.

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(I was \~13-16 at the time) I really love riding my bicycle, but i live in California where drivers are shit and I have been hit by a car twice while on my bike (Both of them drivers fault) The first time wasn't too bad but it hurt like a bitch, the second one was a bit more serious and i was covered in blood, had to use crutches for about 2 months, and cannot walk in a straight line without a lot of effort. Of course with that kind of shit you sue, and I was told we got \~$6k. I come from a poor single mother family and have never had more than $300 so I was really happy. For the past few years I've been told many many times that i would get all the money when i turned 18 so I have been anxiously waiting. I recently turned 18 so i asked my mom about when i would get it and she said she would give me "a little bit of it". I was very shocked and she isn't willing to even split it 50-50. If it was for bills or debts it would be a bit more understandable but she said she wants to buy herself a new car (Nothing wrong with her current car) and again I was shocked. Am I the asshole for wanting most or at least 50% of the money? ######

Response: NTA. It's your money. Unless your mother had to pay out for medical expenses, and it doesn't sound like she did - you deserve the money. Sue her, too. ######


Prompt:
I don’t drink, I haven’t for nearly two years.

My dad likes to drink a lot, my brother is a straight up alcoholic in denial our family/his wife have tried to help. But he claims he’s fine.

When both of them drink they became even bigger sexist, racist assholes. They make sexist comments about women, gross homophobic jokes about the LGBT community and throw around the N Word more than they should (we’re white that word should never leave their mouths)
I am a pansexual woman.

My brother hangs out with me a couple times a week because we have a lot in common and like hanging out, but every time he comes over he brings at least two six packs of beers. He leaves empty bottles all over the place, once in the shower. My bins are in my parking lot (literally two feet from his own car) but even if I ask he won’t take them to the trash when he leaves. It thoroughly annoys me because I don’t like having any of it in my house.

Last week my brother and I planned a “sleepover” to get stoned and hang out, our usual thing. I told him please not to bring alcohol over because I didn’t want it here. The next day my brother cancelled the plans because he was “busy”

Queue videos on Snapchat of him at a mates drinking. Fine he got a better offer.
But it hurt, I know he cancelled our plans because I asked him not to bring booze but I’m also not comfortable having alcohol in my house anymore because when he starts drinking he’s an asshole and likes to start fights about issues he knows I care about i.e woman’s right, gay rights, sexism etc. He makes rude comments and when I get upset or argue against it he tells me to “calm down it’s just a joke” but I don’t find it funny.

I don’t want alcohol in my home but I’m worried it’ll hurt my relationship with him if I don’t allow him to drink at mine.
Should I hold my ground or give in and just let him drink so I can have a relationship with my brother (I’ve already been disowned by my sister for various reason) ######

Response:
 NTA. It's your house and you have ample reason.

Also, if this severely damages your relationship with your brother, that is entirely his issue. "My sister won't let me leave empty bottles all over her house and insult minorities anymore? Forget her!" He doesn't sound like the best of siblings. ######


Prompt:
This is pretty self-explanatory. I was working out in my living room when I heard something on my back porch knock over. Thinking an animal was getting to some of the vegetables I had in pots out there, I quickly ran outside without thinking to put a shirt on (since I've been working out at home, I don't feel the need to put on a shirt and I'm more comfortable that way).

Found an overturned pot, put it back up, made sure everything was good and went back inside to finish my workout. I wasn't outside for more than five minutes. Well my next-door neighbor saw me out there, and I guess it made him uncomfortable. He complained to my mom, and she told me just to try not to do it again. I still think thats unfair. Even though I usually wear a shirt, its my back yard and I should be comfortable. I'm not walking around the neighborhood or anything. Plus, I'm sure he's taken off his shirt while mowing his lawn or doing yard work. My mom says to just let it go, but I'm pretty pissed about being told what to do in my own yard.

AITA?

ETA: Not that it makes it less creepy, but our yards are only separated by low bushes, so we can both see each others yard pretty clearly ######

Response: NTA. It's your home and you can do what you want. People exercise outside of their home - like walking on sidewalk/on trails, or even at the gym - in that same kind of outfit. ######


Prompt:
Recently, my little sister(10F) has been getting into Minecraft, she has played it at her school as well as on my computer a couple of times which she seems to enjoy, which is fine. However I(18M) am also into the game as I have played it ever since I was 11 and just earlier today she has been begging my parents to get the game for her, but they think that she can play on my account without checking in with me first to see if I’m fine with it.

So I get called downstairs and mom tells me to log into my account, I ask “Why?” and she tells me it’s so that she can play the game. I ask “Can’t you buy the game for her?” and she replies with “Well, you’re an adult, you shouldn’t be playing it anyway” (I recently celebrated my 18th birthday) so I ask “why can’t you just buy the game for her?” and she says it’s because she doesn’t want to spend that much money (the game is 26.95 USD, I feel that it’s important to mention that she bought a stable for her horse for about $9000)

I tell her “well, she can play the demo version to see if she likes it or not” so she has downloaded the demo version now and this is pretty much where we’re at now.

I don’t want to just give away my account as I still play the game, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. It's your game. Sharing your account risks her making changes to settings and existing worlds and using your servers. There's nothing wrong with not wanting other people touching your stuff and your parents shouldn't expect it from you (and clearly the issue isn't whether they can afford it). They're just going to give your sister a sense of entitlement if they tell her she automatically has the right to use other people's things. Since she doesn't have the game I do think it'd be nice if you kept letting her play, but you're not an asshole if you don't. ######


Prompt:
My friend gave me his old Nintendo switch. I know my daughter, Jessie, has been wanting a regular switch for awhile. She just has a switch lite.

Right away her eyes lit up and said she would give her old switch to her cousin, Kelsie. Kelsie had to share one with her brother so the girls weren’t able to play online together often. Giving the switch to Kelsie made a lot of sense to me because she and Jessie are best friends and now they don’t get to hang out together at all.

So we thought it all worked out great, except my brother. He thinks by letting my daughter choose who to give the switch to I am helping the girls exclude his new stepdaughter.

My brother got married last summer and his wife had a little girl named Rachel. Rachel is a nice, but sometimes Jessie and Kelsie prefer to play alone just the two of them. My brother doesn’t like that. He wants them to be as close with Rachel as they are with each other. He would try to get them to do activities together and have play dates all the time.

When the lock down happened he was pretty bummed out because we had to cancel all that, but he tried to keep everyone in contact with phone calls and that’s how Rachel found out about the switches and that they were still playing without her.

He says that unlike Kelsie Rachel doesn’t have access to a switch at all since they are sold out everywhere. He thinks I really should have thought of Rachel right away and encouraged my daughter to give her old switch to her so she could play and be included.

Then he went into how I am setting up my daughter to make these choices that exclude because our other sister (Kelsies mom) and I do the exact same thing with his wife. He said she’s very disappointed we don’t invite her out with us more often. If I’m being honest my sister and I also prefer to hang out just the two of us most of the time, but we do invite our sil out sometimes.

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Response:
 NTA. it's your daughters switch, she can decide who gets it and who doesn't. besides that, the two girls probably wouldn't include her anyways, even if she got the switch.
they're both not TA as well, they're just kids and want to play. they (and you) can decide who to spend time with. absolutely nothing wrong with that.

brother is TA for trying to create a bond between the girls (and the mothers) while ignoring everyones feelings. you could try to include your SIL more but you shouldn't feel forced to do it just because of your brother. ######


Prompt: My dad had an affair and has been with his girlfriend for about 6 months now (for context my parents are still married and my mum knows about the affair). I was talking to him on the phone today and he mentioned that he wanted me to meet his girlfriend. I told him that I didn't want to and perhaps with a little bit more time I'd be open to it. He seemed to be offended by it but I didn't waver on my answer. Am I the asshole for telling him I don't want to meet his mistress? ######

Response: NTA. It's your choice and he should respect that. Especially in a situation like that he should be thankful for the possibility of you two meeting. ######


Prompt:
AITA?
TLDR; husband can't stand tattoos and won’t let me get one- I’m about to just do it- but he might just break over it.

Hi, I’m F25 and my husband M25 have a good marriage, we’ve had normal marriage problems but I’d like to think we did a good job resolving them through good communication and positive change. (Four years)

Every few months though, we’ve been having the same fight. I want my first tattoo and he doesn't want me to get one at all. The solution here isn’t as easy as “ f him, be a free independent woman, it’s your body, ect”.

1st problem is one of the positive changes in our marriage is me making an effort to make decisions together instead of alone. (ITA story below)
2nd problem is we are both children from strict Mormon backgrounds- though we aren’t Mormon anymore- a lot of his issue is he was made to believe people with tattoos are trashy, immature and criminals.

I’ve tried to compromise. On his end I can’t get one till I’m 30 (um, ok.. dad?). On my end, it’s got to be something small and where people can’t notice it easily. He thinks if I wait till 30 I won’t want one anymore because mature new moms don’t get first tattoos.

I’m about ready to just do what I want where I want, but I’m also not ready to put a rift in our marriage again. AITA if I get one?

Tattoo: just a black, thin line contour of a violet, it’s stem and 1-3 leaves on the end behind my ankle bone.

ITA story: I really wanted a dog he never did- he told me no but told me I could still do it- but it was a feeling of betrayal when I chose to get a puppy. I admit it was selfish, but I wish it didn’t make him feel like I didn’t love him/respect him. He resented me for three months even when he gained real love for that dog after one. ######

Response:
 NTA. It's your body he doesn't get to "let" you decorate it however you see fit.

Also, coming from someone who is tattooed from neck to feet your husband can jog on. Tattoos don't make people criminals. Only committing crimes does that. ######


Prompt:
So I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months now and we’ve been having sex for a few months. Most subjects we agree on pretty much completely and if not it’s not a big deal, everyone’s different. One of the topics that have come up is abortion and she says she is pro choice which I am too. My lizard brain didn’t think this through and assumed if we had a slip up we would go that route because that’s how it was in my past relationships.

Today on a car ride she mentioned she’s pro choice but personally wouldn’t be able to have an abortion which is fine, that’s her choice. I told her that it’s my fault that I didn’t bring up the subject and that it was wrong of me to assume, but right now I’m in college and still have 3 more years left. I think I might want kids someday but I couldn’t have them now. I told her I don’t feel comfortable having sex anymore for awhile at least because I don’t want an accident to happen even though we are generally pretty safe.

Because if something did happen right now I’m not sure if I could stick around. And wouldn’t want to put anyone, especially her in that situation.

Right now she’s upset that I’ve had sex with her before but won’t right now and saying that I’m being unreasonable.

AITA for not wanting to have sex? ######

Response: NTA. It's your body and it sounds like you have some stuff to think about before you're ready to have sex with her again. ######


Prompt:
First of all I'm a 19 year old male and my mother is in her late 50's. When I became a teenager the relationship with my mother and I began to weaken but for the most part we still remained civil to each other. There's never been any physical abuse or anything like that but there's definitely been times we've both said things we shouldn't have and by the time I was old enough to move out I had been diagnosed with some mental disorders such as severe depression and anxiety that I believe were fueled by my mother.

 A few months ago, I found a pretty reasonable 2 bedroom apartment near my job and moved in with a roommate. It was nice that I didn't have to come home to a toxic environment every single day and since I've moved out I've stopped seeing a counselor and have reduced the number of medications I take. I still kept in contact with my mother and the rest of my family and she still convinces me to visit home every couple of weeks or so. Mostly I take the opportunity to visit my father, who I've always gotten along better with, and do laundry. The visits usually aren't too bad but I'm definitely happy when I finally find an excuse to leave.

My mother and I have always had different ideas when it comes to personal space and boundaries. There have been multiple times where she has tried to force herself into my apartment when I've specifically asked her not to come over. And today I wake up from a nap to see her standing in my doorway watching my sleep. When I asked how she got in and why she was there she simply said the door was unlocked. She had called me once, which I didn't hear because I was asleep, before deciding she needed to come in because I didn't answer. Her purpose for needing to get into contact with me was that she wanted me to go get ice cream with her of all things.

WIBTA for letting her know she is officially unwelcome from my home or is this common among everyone's parents and I'm just overreacting to the situation? ######

Response: NTA. It's your apartment. You can set any boundaries you want about guests and your mom doesn't have the right to ignore them just because she's your parent. Establishing and enforcing strict boundaries is the only way to deal with parents who think that they can still do whatever they want with their adult childrens' time and space. ######


Prompt:
So I sometimes make desserts, majority cakes, but I haven’t really been able to do so in the past few months because of school and work. However, because of the things currently going on in the world, I’m not working at the moment so I’ve had a lot of free time recently. Just two weeks ago, I was finishing decorating a two tier cake i had made when my cousin suddenly showed up at my house. She was instantly amazed at the cake i just made and starting making comments  like “hurry up and finish so i can post it on my Instagram.” Well, when I finished she proceeded to take a picture and post it. After that my family and I all ate the cake together and called it a day. Well apparently after she posted the picture, one of her friends responded to it asking if i would be able to make a cake for her sons birthday, which is today. The thing is my cousin not only didn’t ask me before saying yes, but she also didn’t let me know of this whole situation until 9a.m this morning! The boy’s “party” started at 3 today and I absolutely refused to make the cake after my cousin called me frantic on the phone claiming she forgot to tell me. Well because of this the boy didn’t have a cake for his birthday today and my cousin went around telling the whole family I refused to make a cake for a little boy, making me look like the bad guy.

AITA for not making the cake? ######

Response: NTA. It's very sad that the little boy didn't get a cake, but it's your cousin's fault, not yours. ######


Prompt: My mom sent me a video on Facebook known as the "plandemic" video. Basically this video has unproven claims about Dr. Anthony Fauci and the handling of the Covid-19 pandemic. I went to the YouTube channel and saw many other "conspiracy" videos such as how 5G can cause cancer. I decided to report the YouTube channel for being misleading and it got taken down today. At Mother's Day dinner (of all times and places), I brought up how the channel got shut down. She says that I was disrespectful for reporting the channel and that I am essentially her censor. I, however, don't find anything wrong with my actions as these conspiracy theories can be really harmful. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA. It's up to YouTube whether they take down something for false information. To be a censor, you'd have to actually be censoring. In this case, that's YouTube, not you. Reporting misinformation wherever you find it is a public service. ######


Prompt:
Here's a little backstory. My boyfriend dated his now best friend 3 or 4 years ago. They shared some traumatic experiences together and he says he feels like they recovered together. He also says that they're happy as just friends and haven't fooled around since they were together.

So the best friend's brother was having a destination wedding in Mexico this week, but its been pushed back to July due to the (bad thing). The best friend's parents are freakin loaded and offered to pay for her and a guest to attend the wedding. When the invitations were sent out at the beginning of the year, she asked my boyfriend to go with her. He obviously said yes. They were both single at the time. They paid for his flight and he'd share her hotel room.

When the wedding was pushed back, the parents reached out to him to tell them they'll figure out new flight times once a new date was confirmed. I think it might be inappropriate for him to go now. We've been dating for a few months and she just started seeing a new guy. I brought it up to my boyfriend and he said that she usually waits a long time before someone she is dating to meet her family and he still wants to go. He's excited for the beaches and the open bar. He acts like I'm just jealous and its totally fine for him to be his best friend's date. I want to trust my boyfriend, but this just feels like a lot of red flags.

AITA for asking him not to go? ######

Response: NTA. It's totally reasonable to feel jealousy or uncertainty in this situation, if your boyfriend doesn't feel the same way, I'd have a talk with him. ######


Prompt:
This happened a few months ago and my brain keeps sending it back to me. I was traveling and I stopped at a rest stop that’s well known for having lots of bathroom stalls and they’re always very clean. There’s probably about 30 stalls in the women’s restroom, and usually not even a line because there’s so many stalls.

Anyways, I get to the restroom and this time, there’s a line. I patiently wait until I’m about 15 people from the front. Two workers come to the line and announce “there’s a lot of stalls open in the back” No one moves.

So the worker other worker says “you don’t need to wait in line, there’s a ton of open stalls”. Again, no one moves.

So I hop out of line, walk past those in front of me, and head to the back of the restroom. I see about 2/3 of all the stalls are empty.

On my way to the back of the restroom, this random woman grabs my arm and says I need to wait my turn. I say there’s plenty of stalls and there’s room for everyone. She starts pinching my arm and says there were people ahead of me and I need to get back in line. I was so surprised I just yanked my arm away, directed her to an empty stall, and then went in one myself.

By the time I came out, there was no line and the workers were much more aggressively directing incoming people to empty stalls.

Yes, I technically skipped 15 people in line, but they were being sheeple and mindlessly following. I don’t like to waste my own time. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's the same as when you're at the grocery store and they open a new register and no one moves. First come first serve.

Also, if a random person pinched me because I didn't "wait my turn" I would have freaked out. ######


Prompt:
I am very interested to learn how everyone sees this.
My father is dead now for about 10 years. He had been a banker and had offered an (ill advised) investment opportunity - back in the 2000s - to a sort of friend, I'd say more of a buddy, if that makes sense.
The friend made an investment of 500 €, which seemingly was a lot to him at the time (important later).

My father went back to the US and forgot all about his previous life in Germany, where this plays out, he later died there too. He left most of his earthly belongings to his two brothers.

The friend never forgot about his 500 € investment into this stock, the respective company went bankrupt in the late 2000s, without him even noticing. When I met him on the bus only recently, he approached me and asked me to pay him back 'his' 500 €. I was a bit shocked since I didn't even know about his investment - apparently my father had told him this was a totally safe investment opportunity where he'd get back his money any time.

I refused to pay or even split the loss, telling him that the real heirs of my father's estate were in the US. I actually tried to reach out to one of these uncles but was unsuccessful. Apparently the 'friend' is hard pressed for cash after the restaurant his brother maintained had to close, leaving him unemployed and later working as a package delivery driver.

AITA for not paying the friend? He has been giving me death stares every time I saw him since, occasionally trying to make me feel guilty by saying things like: "Well, this money doesn't hurt you like it hurts me."

I do not feel responsible for my father's idiotic investment tipps which he gave to people, plus the people's decisions to follow through with them. Am I under a moral obligation to seek out the guy and pay him? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's the nature of investments that sometimes they just don't work out. It's a gamble, and he chose to take it.

Think of it this way. If the investment had paid off really well, would he be offering you money in gratitude for your father helping him gain some wealth? Most likely no. ######


Prompt:
Okay, so, it's background info o'clock.
I'm 19, M, disabled. I'm autistic, have ADD, and a massive sensory processing disorder (SPD).
Basically, SPD means i'm very sensitive to sensory stimulations and can overload very quickly. I also have prothesis to protect my ears from sound (it's basic but sufficient when I'm not too overloaded).

I was on the bus earlier and had my prothesis on, so I couldn't hear people very well. I also have a small deficiency in my left ear. A middle-aged woman started talking to me on my left side. At first I just did not hear her. That offended her and she taped my shoulder, which made me jump because, I don't like unsolicited contact from strangers (again, autism). I look at her confused and she goes, mockingly:

"Are you deaf, or what?!"

That rubbed me the wrong way because I don't like the idea of someone making fun of deaf people, plus I really didn't want to interact with her. So, I had an idea. I took my phone in Notes and typed:

《Sorry, I can't hear you. My hearing aids battery are dead. Can you sign ?》

She looked at me, blushed heavily and just very loudly "uh, no, it's nothing." and walked away. I was satisfied but then realised that it's kinda rude to impersonate a disability that I don't have, and maybe she wanted to communicate something important to me ? Sure, she walked away but I can't be sure it was nothing. I think I maybe should have avoided that interaction in another way. I don't know. What do you think, AITA ?

(English is not my first language and I'm on mobile) ######

Response:
 NTA. It's so insensitive to ask someone if they're "deaf, or what?!", regardless of whether they are wearing prosthesis. You taught her a lesson and hopefully she won't be so offensive in the future. I think that's a small win for the deaf community, and I'm sure they'll give you a pass for this one. Anyone feel free to rebut my statement if it is out of line!

Edit: spelling ######


Prompt:
So about a month ago my sister told us she’s infertile. It’s a shame and I feel bad for her but life goes on. I’m the of my generation to have kids in my family, so my parents have been badgering me to send them pictures and videos because they can’t visit.

Yesterday my husband was asleep on the sofa with my son in his arms and the cat sleeping next to him and I thought it was really cute so I took a picture and sent it to the family group chat(my parents, grandma, two brothers and sister). My mom sent a bunch of hearts and my brothers sent one word answers like “cute” and “nice”. My sister didn’t respond and I honestly wasn’t even thinking about her being infertile when I sent it, I mean it’s been a month.

My sister then left a voicemail that was a long rant saying how it was insensitive and rude and I should have thought about what I was sending.

I don’t think I did anything wrong, it’s been a month and the world doesn’t revolve around her, I’m not going to be thinking about her problems all the time. She must see babies all the time on social media.

AItA? ######

Response: NTA. It's sad that she can't have biological children but she does have a young child she is biologically related to and it's her nephew, your son. Does she want you to suddenly pretend your family doesn't exist because of her news, or would she rather that she was excluded from future family chats because she no longer wishes to acknowledge the existence of her nephew? ######


Prompt:
Got some degree of background, I (30F) was pregnant and miscarried. I now have to have the left over tissue removed from my body. I was only 9 weeks at the time, but I’m obviously hormonal and I’m sad.

My husband (31M) was never excited about the pregnancy. To be honest, it was unexpected. We have no other children and weren’t planning on it any time soon.

I scheduled the appointment and asked if he was available during that time. He confirmed he was, but as the conversation continued he kept bringing up how he was trying to make plans with a friend who’s in from out of town for that evening. I told him I didn’t want to do that.

He still wants to go hang out with his friend. Am I just hormonal? Or is it reasonable to expect him to be a source of emotional support after that? He just saw this friend two weeks ago. ######

Response:
 NTA. It's reasonable to expect him to be a source of emotional support after that. Whether he was excited about the pregnancy or not is actually beside the point - he's supposed to be there to support the woman he loves while she goes through something difficult.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Hang in there. ######


Prompt: Ordered a custom product, told them what I wanted down to the design and colors and paid a design fee. It was a custom gift for my wife and another one for my daughter. A month after it came, they listed the product I had them make for my daughter as a buying option for everyone visiting their site using a photo of my daughters gift as the image on the page. I said something and they refunded my design fee for that product. When they listed the first they decided they would no longer charge the design fee on thing that they would relist or people would pay extra to keep it off their for sale page. Two days after that I check their site and they listed the item I had made for my wife for Mother’s Day. For her it was a personal item and now it’s for sale, no mention of a refund. Feel like i need to take their 5 Star perfect reviews down a notch with a review telling everyone to never have them make something personal. ######

Response:
 NTA. It's quite dishonest for a company that claims to let customers personalize products, to use those personalizations to make new products, especially without giving you credit. Maybe they have fine print somewhere that says they reserve the right to do that, but it doesn't make what they are doing any less deceptive.

The gifts you had designed for your daughter and mom are no longer personal, unique. Kind of reminds me of people who steal someone else's tattoo design. ######


Prompt:
I (f17) live with my mom and my step dad. my step dad and I have never gotten along, and it's progressively gotten worse as I've gotten older.

he frequently insists that my anxiety and depression issues are fake and I'm doing it because I'm desperate for attention. he says extremely mean things to me, like calling me a charity case, a dick sucking whore, and worse.

as much as I hate him, my mom keeps him around for financial "support"(he blows all his money on stupid things)

my mom says I have no room to complain because he offered to buy me my horse. Although that was a kind gesture, around November he completely cut me off because he says I don't do enough. I am now over 1k in debt with horse bills(board only, my horse has proper vet care).

I recently got a job so I can cut myself off financially from them, and he has tried to manipulate me into quitting. saying things like "your mom needs you to stay here", lying about losing my cats, and telling me I'd be r*ped at work.

today was the straw that broke the camel's back. my mom is very aware of what he puts me through, and she got her government check today. she went out and bought him a new phone "because she wanted to do something nice for him". I explained to her how upset I was because he's done nothing but abuse me.

I think at this point, if she's still with him when I move out. I'd highly consider cutting ties with her.

AITA for feeling like this and thinking about ending the relationship we have? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's probably the best thing you can do if she's enabling his emotional and verbal abuse of you. He's trying to get you into the same victim role he has your mom in.

Stay safe! ######


Prompt:
So a throwaway account and bit of backstory here, bare with me...

I do almost all the cooking in the house, no problems at all as I enjoy doing it. Every weekend we align what time we're eating etc, additionally I give them notice just before, I (usually) set the table and more often than not I'll be sitting at the table waiting for my wife and kids to come while the food gets cold.

Sometimes they really are just coming from a bath or something, but other times its simply a case of they will start doing something else in the last minute (e.g. jump in the pool just before, start a game etc - this time it was unpacking the dishwasher while dinners on the table) - the usual response is "it'll only take a minute"
Well yesterday evening everyone turned up late again, I don't say anything - my son barely touches his dinner then asks my wife if he can have corn chips instead. She goes to get him a bowl of chips (again I don't say anything but am noticeably annoyed) She asks whats wrong, and I say it's very similar to turning up late to dinner, it shows a lack of respect (towards me) for taking the time to prepare a meal than not eating &/or letting it go cold. My daughter was only eating the roast chicken (nothing else) and my wife says that's just as unhealthy - where I return to say that's rubbish.
She then says "of course you're always right, your opinions always correct etc etc" where I then turn and say this isn't fair in front of the kids, I angrily get up - leave the table & meal half eaten and haven't spoken to her since.
I already know this is being picky, but it bothers me as it feels like a lack of respect - Even if it's not that important, I feel if she knows it bothers me then after so much time she would just prioritize it as its important to me.
So I suppose that's it - AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's pretty disrespectful to ignore the effort you've made. Sitting down for dinner should be part of a routine with kids, and parents should reflect that.

 Also giving a kid a pack of chips cause they don't want dinner? Not healthy or helpful. ######


Prompt:
Over the coming few weeks I've (25f) been tasks with a painting project in the house. That's fine however I have pretty bad ADHD, and not getting side tracked is really hard. On top of that I have sound sensitivity and a macaw who will screech randomly. I find that I can allow myself to stay focused and in the zone if I start quietly listening to podcasts or music with my headphones. That way it drowns out unpredictable noises but it's not so loud that I can't tell if someone is trying to talk to me.

You could say i should just put one headphone in but that splits my focus in too many directions. it also doesn't help drown out the screeching of our macaw.

Mom on the other hand likes to talk. Usually it's about a recipe she wants to make or something she found on facebook. it's rare for it to be about me or the project at hand.

I let her know that I have my headphones in and that I likely won't hear her fully but that doesn't stop her from speaking up randomly. She doesn't try to get my attention first by saying my name, so by the time I put my brush and paint down, and take out my headphones, I miss most of what she's saying and have to ask her to repeat it.

This gets her really annoyed and she tells me to take out my headphones, and to not wear them because she wants to be able to talk to me without worrying if she'll be fully heard.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. It's perfectly reasonable to wear headphones when doing something mundane like chores. Your mom is being rather obtuse since she knows you have ADHD, so any reasonable method to cope with it shouldn't be a problem. Just say to her, "Mom, we can either talk, or I can get my chores done. Pick one." ######


Prompt:
We are both in our early 20s, together for 2 years and live together

His work schedule is a standard mon-Thursday 8-5. We usually go to bed at very reasonable hours and get good amounts of sleep.

He used to smoke weed in high school/college but stopped when he got a job that required drug testing. He recently got a new job that doesn’t test so he started smoking again.

I have nothing against smoking, but I do have an issue with how it’s changed our lives with each other. He will smoke as soon as he comes home from work, he’ll play some video games, we’ll eat dinner and then he falls asleep. For the past few weeks he’s been falling asleep between 7pm and 9:30pm. The other day he fell asleep right after dinner at 6:30.

The problem is, between dinner and bedtime was our time to hang out with each other. We would watch a movie or hang out or do naughty things. We haven’t done any of that lately because he’s sleeping so early.

The next morning he will wake up groggy and drowsy because he’s sleeping so much. I’ve tried talking to him about it and he says that it’s not because of the weed and if he is sleeping early it’s because he needs it. I told him it’s not normal for him to get 12 hours of sleep and then be tired again at 7pm. Also this didn’t start until he started smoking again.

Now he thinks I’m mad about the weed and I’m sincerely not I just hate the fact that we don’t get any time together anymore and I’m getting very frustrated. AITA for being mad about this? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's perfectly reasonable that you want your significant other to spend some time with you, and this is preventing that. Maybe there's another underlying reason for his exhaustion, but to me it seems like this isn't a regular relationship - just cohabitation.

 I feel like the real issue here is communication and you fix that, you can solve the other problem ######


Prompt:
We are all teens if that changes anything. A few times a week me (male), one other guy, and 3 girls go jogging together. We are all neighbors. Me and the guy don't wear shirts and the girls don't either they just wear their bras.

My girlfriend was reluctant to join but she decided to come once. Afterwards she told me she didn't want me jogging shirtless with other shirtless girls. She said it makes her feel bad because the girls are attractive, have bigger boobs, are wearing short shorts, are showing cleavage, and they might like seeing me shirtless. I reassured her I only want her but she insisted I stop. I refused.

She says she won't break up with me over it but that I'm being an ass by continuing. ######

Response: NTA. It's perfectly fine to go jogging like that with your friends. Wear what you're comfortable with. Your girlfriend's jealousy shoudn't affect the way that *you* dress. ######


Prompt:
Long story short, my boyfriend spends a moderate sized chunk of money on things like patreon and onlyfans so I got annoyed and told him something along the lines of "Why do you spend all this money on random women when I'm right here and we could use this money to go somewhere together", it also makes me feel bad when I see him replying to these models tweets about how hot they are and how he'd love to fuck them, even though we follow each other

Anyway, my comment annoyed him and he snapped at me and said "why the fuck does it matter how much i spend".

Am I being unreasonable with this? I feel ignored because I am here to do all that stuff with if he wants.. ######

Response: NTA. It's one thing to watch porn. It's another to tell specific people you want to fuck them. ######


Prompt:
My parents passed on in the 1990s when I (16M) and my sister (18F) were teenagers. They died when a trucker ran a light and into their stationary car. My sister insisted on splitting the family inheritance as she wanted to elope with her musician bf to NYC and I was forced to move out from our family home, which was sold. Fortunately, we lived in a pretty nice area and along with some insurance payouts we inherited about $800,000 each after taxes/fees.

In the early 2000s, my grandparents passed on and we inherited about $150,000 each.

I lived for 2 years with my grandparents before moving out for college. My money was mostly put into an index fund for me and I went on to finish high school and a STEM degree in college. I graduated, found an honest job, and live a simple single life in the same small city where I was born. A couple of years back, I finally bought a 3-bedroom suburban house while still working as a manager at a local company.

My sister didn't bother to attend college and proceeded to blow her entire inheritance in less than two decades. During that period, she also had two children, worked only occasionally, her bf vanished when the money was gone, and she was arrested for selling drugs repeatedly.

Over the years, I have bailed her out of jail, lent her $$,$$$, and sent presents to her kids who are now almost 20. Neither of her kids are attending college and they are all working in odd jobs. I estimate that I have lent her almost $100,000 to tide over 'hard times' over the years. Money which she has no hope of paying back. While my grandparents were still alive, they also sent her money repeatedly for "their great-grandkids".

Recently, my sister asked if I could pay for movers to move them in with me for "awhile", as she cannot afford to pay rent in NYC any longer, and since I have "two empty bedrooms anyway". She also asked if I could help sponsor her kid's college tuition as they really need it.

AITA for refusing her request? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's not your job to finance her poor choices. She's right about one thing--those are **your** two empty bedrooms and you'd like them to stay that way.

Do not invite the drama in because it will *never* move out. ######


Prompt:
To paint the picture it's a first generation ipad, which basically has no support for any of their apps anymore including YouTube and most of the app-store apps. The main thing that they can be used for is internet surfing but even then they don't have much proccessing power to load modern websites which take so much power.

I made a reference to this in the description saying that people think they are bricks in 2020 but ive been using it for Spotify which is pre-downloaded. It's not like I'm selling a broken iPad. It can be used as a music hub or even something for a computer enthusiast to jailbreak or whatever they want.

The seller is requesting a return of the item based upon the fact that she can't run YouTube on safari and so they have decided it's broken.

I have tried to explain that if they had done the slightest bit of research on google then they'd have found that they should be buying atleast the second generation iPad which still supports YouTube. I've also offered to send her links to the huge amount of videos on YouTube which go over what they can still be used for and what they can't be used for.

If the response is NTA Ill continue to stand my ground, but I'm being the asshole then I'll issue the refund. I need all of your opinions please ######

Response:
 NTA. It's not your fault the buyer doesn't understand what she purchased. She should have done her research or asked questions before purchasing it.

Stand your ground. ######


Prompt:
my mom dropped her phone in the toilet at WORK the other day. she put her phone in rice for 40ish hours, and today, she USED THAT RICE TO MAKE LUNCH.

i told her there's no way im eating that, because her phone was in it. even if it hadnt dropped in a toilet, its DISGUSTING. she said its okay, since she disinfected her phone after it fell in the toilet and she washed the rice before making it.

i still absolutely refuse to eat it, she said that im being nitpicky and that its not a big deal. AITA??? ######

Response: NTA. It's not the worst but it is gross and it is weird to expect you to eat it. If she is fine with her phone germs she should eat it, not put it on you. Just make a sandwich and let her enjoy. ######


Prompt:
My brother can't drive because he gets seizures. I drive him wherever he goes. He wants me to drive him to a protest nearby, but it got really out of hand last night with people being maced and dragged out of their cars and being beaten by cops. He wants to take video as legal evidence in case protestors get arrested, so he'll bring a 360° camera.

I told him that I wouldn't be driving him because it's unsafe, and he got irritated and said he'd rather I drive him than him getting into an Uber with a stranger. I told him that it's my car and I don't have to do what he says, and he told me that if I'm preventing him from doing the right thing then I'm complicit in white supremacy. AITA? He doesn't have any friends he can bum rides off of. ######

Response: NTA. It's not safe for healthy people, much less so for one prone to seizures. Side note: him saying not driving him means you're complicit in white supremacy is totally not okay and you should address that with him. ######


Prompt:
Hi, so today, I(16M) and my family was talking about something that can't be mentioned in this subreddit. I said that I wanted to say what I thought about that subject, and my sister started giggling about how I was going to say something stupid probably taken from a youtube video. My dad laughed with her and insinuated that I was going to say something dumb, and my mom said how she was going to see if I was her son, insinuating that she is smart. I really got offended since my whole family was saying that I was dumb, and I really don't think so. I have really bad grades since I started studying in Switzerland (in German), and that's my 4th language, so I get 3 and 4 out of 6 regularly. After that, I took my dishes, cleaned them and came to my room (I had already finished my dinner). Everyone says that I should come back and that was being rude. I am now in my room and I wonder, AITA here? P.S.: sorry for grammar errors, I'm not a native speaker.

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Edit: 30 min later, my mom knocked and apologised, my sister was embarrassed and my dad didnt say anything. Thank you all for the advice!  ######

Response: NTA. It's not rude to remove yourself from a hostile situation. Just because they were having fun, doesn't change that it was hostile to you. They're the rude one's, for ganging up on you, and putting you down. Since when is that what a "family" is supposed to do? ######


Prompt:
Obligatory mobile apology for formatting and spelling

This year my grandmother (mother’s father, not that that matters) is turning 80. For her 80th my mother and I are making her a quilt. The plan is to have all of the family members sign a block of the quilt and then for us to stitch over it.

For our purposes family is defined as her siblings (full and half), her descendants (all living generations) and all of her descendants spouses.

We are choosing not to do significant others that are not already “common law married” (ie been together for 10+) years because it’s a lot of work to make a quilt and it would be awkward to have a name that is no longer part of the fam on there.

We sent a single square to my brother (22) to sign and he called and was pissed that we didn’t send one for his gf (23). They’re both fresh out of college (graduated this semester) and have been dating for 2 years. We told him we don’t want her name on their because she isn’t part of the family by the definitions we set for the purpose. He told us he’s not going to sign his then.

While it might be worth noting, grandma does not like the gf because she is overly dependent on my brother, it is not the deciding factor. We have family on the quilt that she also does not like but is either her descendant or a spouse of her descendant. The gf is simply not included due to the relative brevity of the relationship.

AITA for not wanting her name to be on the quilt I’m making? ######

Response: NTA. It's not like you only selected his girlfriend to be excluded. You all made a blanket rule (hehe) that she just so happens to fall under. ######


Prompt:
Okay so long story short, I'm basically flat chested A cup. My boyfriend and I argue alot, and one of the things he constantly points out it that I don't wear a bra.

They're uncomfortable for me because they're always too big, they look and feel stupid on me and I just hate them. He commented in an argument that I wore one when we first dated. (I wore a pushup to look good in the dresses I had)
...Which I stopped wearing after he saw me naked. By then theres no point. He'd seen what I really look like.

I lack alot of confidence when it comes to my body, and every time I want to go out he demands I wear a bra, nothing low-cut, nothing tight. He makes comments about not wanting people to stare at my nipples.

I wear baggy clothing around him all the time, and he still complains.

Reddit, am I the asshole for not wearing a bra? ######

Response: NTA. It's not his body. ######


Prompt:
Hi, this is my first time ever posting on Reddit, so please excuse any mistakes I make.

I (17F) keep getting into little arguements during summer with my mom (57F) over not wanting to shave my legs. Having hair on my legs doesn't really bother me, to me it's just... there. I also get occasional acne or mosquito bites on my legs, so it tends to hide them.

My mom is completely different on this, with her reasons for wanting me to shave being a) "it looks bad" b) "people will make fun of you" and c) "it makes me look like a bad parent".

A is pretty subjective, I don't really care how others think I look and just do whatever I want appearance wise (within reason). B is something I don't mind, cause people are gonna pick on you for some little reason, no matter what.

C makes me feel upset cause I don't get how me not shaving my legs = her being a bad mom. She says it'll make people think that she doesn't look after my appearance or something, but it still doesn't make much sense.

My mom has little to no body hair cause of having radiation treatment for cancer a little after I was born, so she doesn't have to deal with it. I think it's very strange of her to bother me over my hair though.

Final thing I have to add to this; after she brings up shaving, she'll start calling me names like "Hairy Mary" and ask if I've shaved every time I shower. I think it's childish of her to resort to calling me names to bully me into shaving.

Sorry for this disjointed post, I'm not very good with putting things into words. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. It's not her body, she needs to shut the fuck up. ######


Prompt: DH (M42) and I (F41) have been married almost 18 years.  We have our issues, but one there's one that keeps coming up that I really frustrated with.  DH is upset that I'm not expanding our family's social horizons by making friends for us to do things with.   DH is an extrovert who wants to be around people all the time.  I'm deeply introverted and I just don't have that need. It's not that I don't value relationships, I just don't need much.  I have said that it doesn't make sense to put the burden of making friends for the family on the introvert when the extrovert is more suited for the task.  He says it's a wife's job.  That feels sexist to me.  WIBTAH if I pointed that out to him? ######

Response: NTA. It's not anyone's "job," what the hell? If he wants friends he can make some himself like an adult, but after that response I can understand why that might be difficult for him. ######


Prompt:
My mom and I (18F) have always had an extremely close relationship. Basically I have always talked to her about everything and she is someone I look to for guidance.  I started dating this guy (18M) at the beginning of college. My mom, being pretty religious, has always made it clear she wants me to wait until marriage to have sex. I agree with her on most things, but not this. I think it is my decision when I want to have sex and with whom.

Anyway, I started taking birth control about a month ago because I planned on having sex with my boyfriend. But we got sent home from college so it never happened. But I’m still taking the birth control because we probably still will.

Anyway, my mom saw my birth control and asked me if I’m having sex. I said no. She then accused me of lying for days. Eventually, we talked and she finally believed me when I told her I’m not yet but am planning to.

Then she said that she would like to know when we do decide to so we can talk before hand, I know it’s just going to be her last attempt at trying to discourage me. I told her it’s my decision and she doesn’t need to know when and now she’s mad. AITA? Since it’s wouldn’t be any trouble for me to just tell her, but I don’t think it’s her business. ######

Response: NTA. It's none of her business. ######


Prompt:
I'm not a native english speaker and my parents are immigrants. They don't speak the language fluently so whenever I'm talking to them on the phone I have to speak our native language. This however upsets some people, who for some reason feel uncomfortable about this.

In particular one of my ex-roommates told me that she was irritated by me speaking another language in our house and that it felt like I was shittalking her (which I have never done...I'm not the gossip-y type and I have more important things to talk to with my parents on the phone than my roommate).

I tried avoiding this by going outside whenever I wanted to talk to my parents, but even then sometimes I couldn't go outside (it was raining or similar circumsances) and people outsidereacted even worse to me talking in another language on the phone (one guy insulted me and spit on the floor after hearing me talk on the phone).

What am I supposed to do? I just see it as a private conversation with my parents...they're both nice people, just a bit old. ######

Response: NTA. It's none of her business what you're talking about (whatever language) and how fucking self-centred do you have to be to worry that people are talking about you all the time? ######


Prompt:
I am a woman who changes her hair a lot, over the last two years I've had a short pixie cut, grown out to a more shaggy pixie cut. I've dyed it all sorts of colors.

A few weeks ago, I was in desperate need of a haircut, I was on the edge of mullet-y. I had one booked then all the hairdressers closed up shop, I'm sure you can guess why.

I tried to trim the back of my own hair with scissors and it was a mess. So I decided screw it, I'll buzz am undercut. I let my roommate try with his clippers, and honestly it looked terrible. He did an ok job but it just didn't work with my face shape, all that hair on top and none below gave me a mushroom-head.

So I told him, fuck it, buzz the whole thing. And I loved how it looked.

I also bleached my short hair and dyed it pastel pink because I wanted to still look girly in some way.

I love it so much.

But my boyfriend really didn't like it, he said he likes the feel of hair and thinks it will feel like "touching a man"

And my parents lost it at me, they're afraid I'll never get another job, that I look like a lesbian, etc...

I told them that I am happy with my job and not looking for another, and anyway I work in tech which is not really known for traditional formal dress.

My parents were still pissed though.

A couple of my friends also think it was dumb of me and expect I'll regret it in a few days.

AITA for buzzing my hair unexpectedly? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's just hair.  It grows back.

Also, *you look like a lesbian*? Wtf is that about?  Assholes. ######


Prompt:
I own and run a webshop selling a food product. I started it in 2017. I also work a full-time job to sustain it - only this year do I stand to make an actual profit. I say that just so you know I'm not some greedy business owner who is rolling in dough.

I have a generous refund policy for people who aren't satisfied, even if sometimes people abuse it. Yesterday a lady contacted me saying that she received and was charged for $22 worth of merchandise and that we must have stolen her info to purchase the product with her card, sending it to her.

I looked at the details through our credit card processor. The order was placed using the same email address that the lady used to write from. FYI, for security reasons, the full credit card details aren't available to us - just the last 4.

The credit card processor captures the IP address for fraud analysis, and the IP address used to place the order was near the lady. The lady received an order confirmation plus 3 separate tracking updates, all to the same email she was contacting me from. The product was delivered about 10 days prior to her email claiming fraud.

It's very apparent that either 1) She is scamming and ordered it herself, or 2) someone in her household ordered it - someone with whom she is so close that she shares credit card and email info. Certainly I didn't steal her info, and it would be absurd if a stranger did that, as the product was sent to the lady using her own email. It's also possible that she has memory issues and has simply forgotten.

I relayed the above info and asked her to please check with household members. I told her that if she confirms, I can send her a return label, whereas usually I would just refund without a hassle. I usually am quick to refund, but this just seems so flagrant.

AITA for not just refunding her on the spot, and for suggesting that it's highly unlikely anyone but her (or someone in her household) deliberately purchased this? ######

Response: NTA. It's hard to take a firm stance these days with people finger happy at a keyboard. You made the right choice. ######


Prompt:
I attend a university where community building & bonding is extremely important. Everyone is family in a sense and we just love to have fun and help each other out. We have a ton of orgs on campus, and each org has a GroupMe account, so does most classes as students use them to share answers, asks questions and just talk. These GroupMe’s are also used to wish each other good luck, happy holidays and to campaign for on campus elections. For example, when I pledged my sorority I had several people in my GM chats congratulate me even though we’re not necessarily friends. It’s also not normal for people to wish each other a happy holiday. (Happy founders day, happy thanksgiving, happy St. Patty’s day and so forth)

Well, this past Easter we had an issue where a Muslim student was really upset that people in her GroupMe chats had been wishing each other a happy Easter. She said it was extremely disrespectful to her and her religion and that she would leave each and every chat she was in because of it. Then she went on Instagram to further say that anyone who wished a happy Easter in a chat that she was in was disrespectful and should’ve known better. I was confused because while I am Christian I come from a dominantly Islamic family and I had never heard from any of them even the elders that something like this was an issue. She claims that she doesn’t go in her chat wishing a happy Ramadan or other Muslim holidays so we shouldn’t be wishing each other a happy Easter as it was a slap in the face for her. I really just don’t see it that way though. I know that no one would blink an eye if she was to say happy Ramadan or some other Muslim holiday. I wasn’t upset, just more annoyed with the social media and GroupMe tirade she went on.

AITA for not seeing an issue with wishing people a happy Easter on GroupMe? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's hard to believe that people like this actually exist.

>She claims that she doesn’t go in her chat wishing a happy Ramadan or other Muslim holidays

Does she not understand that she's free to do so? ######


Prompt: So, I'm in high school and a few of my friends are Non-binary or trans and I try to be supportive, I have a good relationship with my parents and so I tell them a lot about my friends including referring to my friend (Let's call him Fred) who asked me to use they/them pronouns by those pronouns, it confused my parents so I asked Fred if there was anything else they'd prefer to be called instead of they/them and he blew up at me saying I outed them to my parents when my parents don't even know and that I was being disrespectful, I've never had any friends like Fred before the last year and it was never explained to me how to refer to them in front of my parents. A while back Fred sent me a post with no context saying that I was a horrible person and Fred says I'm horrible when he changes his name and pronouns and I don't use them because he didn't tell me that was what changed and I feel underappreciated. I want to continue to be friends with Fred, not only because I love hanging out with that friend group but also because I enjoy hanging out with Fred, so many of my other friends are telling me that Fred is toxic and I don't know what to do. Am I the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA. It's good you referred to Fred by the chosen pronouns. It's good you refer to Fred by those pronouns when talking with others.

It's important, obviously, not to out Fred to anyone. **However**, crucially, it's Fred's responsibility, not yours, to make the situation clear as to who knows about their gender, and who is not to know. If they give you a blanket statement on which pronoun applies to them, I think you're right to use that in all contexts if given no instructions otherwise.

Obviously it sucks if that's led to them being outed. But that's a case of them accidentally outing themselves, not you outing them, and that's their own mistake. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway.

I'm getting married early next year. I've already chosen my bridesmaids who I love immensely and all of them excitedly agreed. A couple days ago, I called one of my bridesmaids to chat about the planning and I told her I'd chosen a color for the dress. She asked about the shoes and I said I didn't care if they wore heels or flats, I just preferred that they were beige to look uniform in the pictures. She was instantly upset. At first I thought she just didn't like that idea but she followed it up with the statement that "black people don't wear beige." I was instantly confused. I've never heard that before.

I asked why not and what was wrong with beige and she responded  "well obviously that's not 'skin tone' for ME." I tried explaining that I wasn't trying to match skin tone, I really just thought it looked nice with the dress. None of us (in the bridal party) have the same skin tone so I didn't even consider it "matching" anyone. When I explained that, she remained unconvinced. She also knows the other members so I pointed out that it wasn't their skin tones either but she insisted I didn't understand and was singling her out. We haven't spoken since.

So WITA (Was I The Asshole) for suggesting beige shoes for my bridesmaids. If I am out of touch, I apologize. I wasn't intending to offend. Because my bridesmaids have different skin tones, body types, heights and hair colors/textures, I am trying to find a balance between being flexible enough that they feel comfortable and having them look like they are all part of the bridal party by looking somewhat uniform. I actually wasn't married to beige and honestly don't really care if they wear different color shoes, but now I'm just confused and I want to know if I messed up. Either way, I'm going to reach out to talk to her about it and (regardless of my ruling) apologize - at least for making her feel singled out. ######

Response:
 NTA. It's beige shoes. You want them to have beige shoes. It's not like you told her "skin colour shoes... You know a nice caucasian taupe". It's just beige shoes.

Talk to her more. ######


Prompt: So my sister and her BF recently bought vapes. She bought hers for her own money and I don't care that she's vaping. What I care about, though, is that she vapes in our room (we share a room). So we've gotten in an argument about her vaping here. I really hate the fake fruit smell and it's giving me a headache. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. It's a shared space and you should feel comfortable in it. She's TA. Those headaches can turn into serious migraines if you have a chemical scent sensitivity and you should probably keep an eye on it, they aren't fun ######


Prompt:
I'll keep this short and use fake names. Also I'm not a native English speaker, so I apologize in advance for any mistake.

Lily Jones (F27) is my best friend since pre-school. I've known her family since I was 5 years old. Her mom Linda (F51), her dad Joe (F53) and her two younger siblings. As far as I knew her parents were happily married and Lily adores both of them. Joe is a professor in a university.

A couple of days ago, a co-worker (F32) put a picture of her and her parents in her whatsapp status with a short message about being her parents wedding anniversary. I was surprise to see that was Joe, aka Lily's dad but the wife in the picture was not Linda. I thought this may be a mistake, or just someone who looked an awful lot like him. So I message my co-worker and asked something like "Your dad looks familiar, by any chance is he professor Joe Jones that works in x university, I think I attended one of his conferences" and she confirmed it.

As far as I know (and I've known her since I was 5) Lily doesn't know she has any older sister or that her dad has any other family. And as far as I know her parents are married, so I'm really confused right now.

I screenshot the conversation with my co-worker and her whatsapp status but I've been on the fence about sending this to Lily. Would I be the asshole if I send her this? ######

Response: NTA. It's a confusing situation, but your friend should know what's going on and deserves the truth. They would probably be more mad if you kept it from them, I know I would be ######


Prompt:
 We've been dating for about 18 months now and living together for just over 8. Her apartments closer to both of our works. Her sister (S) moved in 2 months ago as she's pregnant, her husbands in the army and the rest of the families in a different state.

My GFs a nurse and has been working some pretty long hours, to take the load of my GF I've been pretty much doing all the cooking, washing and cleaning.

I have a lot of work to do so I'm just pretty much keeping to myself and not really trying to inconvenience anyone. I eat around after every 3 hours so whenever I eat I also make a little something for her as well.

So the problem is that whenever GF gets off from work she always ends up having to giver her sister a massage which I suspect is because she's pregnant but I don't know. GF and I got into a sort of whisper argument where she called me an AH as I should help S out when she's in pain.

Her reasons for:

* AH move not helping a pregnant women when she's in pain
* GF is stressed & tired with having to work long hours and would rather spend what little time she has relaxing
* I give GF massages when she's sore so whats the difference
* And I give good massages (mom was a masseuse)

My reason:

* Its a bit weird giving someone you're not close to a massage

We kind of agreed to continue the conversation  in the morning when she wakes for her shift, bit I need to know whether I'm in the wrong or not so that's why I'm here. ######

Response: NTA. It'd be inappropriate. She might as well ask literally anyone else. ######


Prompt:
About six months ago I installed security cameras on my property. One indoors to monitor the baby's room and three outdoors: one facing the porch, one my backyard, and one my rear door. I have a hot tub by the rear door.

Having cameras facing front door or porch is pretty typical, right? People use Ring doorbells or what-have-you and don't think anything of it. Because I thought this was fairly standard for 2020, I didn't tell my friends. Whenever I entertained guests, it was always indoors where the only camera is somewhere a guest would never go. Something I should mention is I *never* let guests use my hot tub.

Back in February I had to leave town for a few days and asked a friend to visit and let my dog out and feed her a few times a time. My friend lives only a block away and I compensated her for her time. Unbeknownst to me until two weeks ago, apparently she used my hot tub. Not just her, but two friends of hers did as well. And, they decided to hot tub without clothing.

If it's not obvious, I don't check my cameras often unless there's a reason to. Neighbour told me the day prior that he saw someone get dropped off at my house while I went to do groceries, go into the backyard and then leave. So I wanted to see what they did.

So I have footage of a friend with two other women changing in front of my hot tub, hot tubbing for an hour or so, then leaving. I told my friend that I wish she had asked permission before using my hot tub and told her what I saw and she freaked out calling me a pervert. She says it's my responsibility to tell people I have cameras around my property, even if their usage is benign.

She wants to file charges against me for voyeurism. Sure, I watched the clip but only to see the extent of it and I deleted it after I was done with it. I counter that her friends were trespassing and I didn't permit use of my hot tub to begin with.

Am I the asshole in this situation? ######

Response: NTA. It wouldn't have been a problem if she hadn't gone behind your back in the first place. It's a little weird to use your friend's hot tub without permission, naked. Not to mention inviting friends. She put herself in that situation. ######


Prompt:
I (20F) live with my parents and older brother. I’ll be honest - I do not like him. We do not get along. He’s annoying and intruding and loud and I could go on. I try to just ignore him.

For April fools day yesterday, as a “joke,” he decided to hide the pain medication I take to deal with my periods. I have horrible periods, especially the first couple days (which yesterday was) and the pain can be debilitating and make me cry if I don’t have the pain meds to help (even then, I still have pain, I’m just able to function).

I basically couldn’t find them all day yesterday then this morning he gave them to me and said “April Fools!!” His prank was hiding this on me since I “relied on them so heavily and need to see I don’t need pain meds to get through the day.” He said that’s what I get for keeping the meds in the kitchen (which I do because they need to be taken with food and/or water)

I was fucking pissed. He saw me crying and wincing in pain and hid them from me? I told him to fuck off and that this would be the last conversation we’d have for a while. I’m ignoring him but he keeps texting me like “come on really?” And giving ME dirty looks in the hallway like I’m the one who did something wrong.

My parents are staying out of it as we’re both adults. They say f how I want to deal with is by ignoring him then it is what it is.

AITA? I don’t think this was a joke. I think this is over the line. ######

Response:
 NTA. It wasn’t a joke, and it was over the line. Your parents suck for acting like what he did was fine and needed to be worked out between you. He wants to act like a child, he should be treated like one. I loathe people like him who think he has the answer to everything and feels that he has the right to take action against someone’s will. I wouldn’t talk to him either, possibly ever again personally. If he offered a genuine and heartfelt apology I might consider it.

I suggest finding someplace, preferably locked, that you can hide your medication since your AH brother wants to play thief and doctor. ######


Prompt:
My ex and I broke up a month ago and we met up to exchange each other’s belongings. I was with her for three years.

One of my things I had left at her’s accidentally was my necklace that belonged to my grandfather, valued around $600. I asked her several times to remember to bring it and she said she would.

We meet up and she completely forgets the necklace and even tells me she lost it. This is heart breaking because it has a lot of sentimental value and I haven’t lost any of her belongings. I beg for her to check her place again but she insists she lost it, it is gone.

I asked her to front me $300 if she lost my necklace to help pay for a new one. I’m not expecting the full cost of the necklace. She says absolutely not, and that it’s tough luck she lost it. She said this makes me seem like a gold digger asking her for the cash. She comes from an extremely wealthy family ($300 is nothing) and I come from a lower middle class household.

AITA for asking her to front the money for a sentimental item of mine SHE lost? ######

Response: NTA. it wasn't just a necklace, it belonged to someone who meant a lot to you and asking for half the price to replace it is still a nice offer. ######


Prompt:
My cousin had to make a delivery for work—8-10 hour drive or something like that. I told him he could crash at my place on his way back as it was about 4 hours closer than his house. When he got there, I told him to help himself to anything in the kitchen. He slept on the couch(I have a spare bed but that’s where he prefers I guess) and when I woke up the next morning for work he was surrounded by some trash and a few dirty dishes.

I get home from work and there’s even more trash and dirty dishes surrounding him. I go to the kitchen and it’s been pretty much raided. All of my breakfast bowls(I had ) were gone, half the box of hot pockets was empty, both big bags of chips were eaten, 2 litre coke had barely any left, all of my oatmeal pies were gone(I only had 1), my box of protein waffles were gone, he even ate like 3 of my GF’s veggie burgers.

He was only here 1 night and 1 day! He arrived Thursday at around 10pm and left Friday at 5pm. Why did he need to eat that much??

When I called him out he just said “dude what, you said I could eat anything” I said “yeah anything—not everything! I’m trying to limit my grocery store trips now I’ll have to go again this week. Come on dude, what the hell” he offered to give me money but I declined it.

Later his mom called my mom and said when he got to her house  he was acting weird when she was asking about me. So my mom called me to ask for the details. I guess I pissed him off but was I really wrong here? ######

Response: NTA. It wasn't cool for him to take everything. He should have respected your hospitality amd bought his own food if he was really that hungry. ######


Prompt:
I imagine this is going to be a bit of an ESH, but here's the context:

I have a nonbinary coworker, I'll call Ash, who unfortunately had their deadname printed on our weekly schedule for the first few weeks of their employment. They made it very clear to everyone they don't like to be referred to by it, and go by they/them pronouns. I myself am trans (though not entirely out at work), so I'm pretty sensitive to people using the wrong name/pronouns for someone.

Another coworker (Jessica) thought it was a great joke to annoy Ash by referring to them as their deadname and the wrong pronouns. Ash, as well as some others, had asked her to stop multiple times, she didn't. I got fed up, and started referring to Jessica as he/him and by the wrong name. She was visibly annoyed whenever I did it, but nothing ever came of it and she has since been fired for unrelated reasons.

Thining back on it, I do feel kinda shitty about it as one of my positions is that a person doesn't need to *earn* the right to be referred to by the correct name/pronoun, and I feel like I compromised my ethics on this. ######

Response: NTA. It was very insensitive of Jessica to do that. And it wasn't that cruel on your part to give her a taste of her own. I feel like it was more of a lesson to show her what it really feels like to be treated that way. A lesson she really needed to learn. I wouldn't let it bother you. I'm sure Ash appreciated someone sticking up for them. ######


Prompt: AITA for reporting my car stolen. A lot of things happened so I'm going to try to summarize. Long story short my brother in law has been in and out of jail most of his life. He has had his driver's license suspended due to multiple running from the law and driving under the influence. He seemed to be wanting to turn a new leaf in his life and has had "bad luck ". I was willing to loan him my car with rules. They are as followed. He was not to drive his girlfriend was to drive him everywhere. They where to help keep up the car. And finally they where to not to smoke in it. They also lived with us for about a year. During this year neither one of them held a job for more than a couple of months. Would isolate themselves until they wanted to "borrow" money. Also the car would reek of cigarettes and the seats be so nasty you couldn't tell what color they were.  It all came to a head when they went MIA in my car for two months. I asked them for my car and It was a lame excuse as why they couldn't have it back I also received in this time tickets from another state over. I told them to have my car back a week ago or I was going to report it. Still nothing. The police called today and my car was on the other side of the state ( three and a half hours away.) Am I the asshole for calling the law  and reporting my car stolen. ######

Response: NTA. It was stolen. Do not let these people back in your home. ######