Prompt:
The timeline on this one is kind of extended, sorry

October 2015 - Sister announces her engagement and sets the date for February 2017

January 2016 - my wife and I announce we're expecting a baby after 4 years of trying. We waited until after the first appointments so we could tell mother the due date - Sept 21. Now, our 6yo had been a month and a half early, and the doctor warned us it could very well be the case again, so we knew we probably wouldn't make it to the 21st. Sister immediately announces she's moved the wedding up to Sept 3rd, and the chaos ensues. My wife and I knew from the start if the wedding was so close to the due date, we probably wouldn't be able to make it. Neither Mother nor Sister handle this news well, and we argue for several months

July - mother agrees to take my daughter to the wedding and keep her over night so she can still be the flower girl.

August - Mother forgets this arrangement and says she and Dad want to party the night before so they didn't want to be responsible for a child. She told me I was expected to either stay the night, or drive out, drop her off the day of, and either drive back (4 hours round trip) or stay for the wedding. I told her my sister would unfortunately have no flower girl, as my wife is in prodromal labor and cannot make it to the bathroom without several contractions.

The week of the wedding, the entire family keeps blowing up my phone. Sister decided to make it an extended camping trip for the family and wedding party. My parents took 5 days off for the wedding, and spent that time trying a combination of yelling and guilt tripping to get me to go.

Sept 3 - the wedding proceeds and my wife and I are in the hospital (AGAIN) for a stress test because she has been having contractions for 3 hours. We hear nothing from the family.

Sept 7 - my wife is admitted into the hospital. The baby is born at 4:23am the next morning.

AITA for not attending the wedding without my wife? ######

Response: NTA and your entire family SUCK. Sorry you’re having to deal with them! ######


Prompt: I recently got a new job (past month) and my boss has two young toddlers who instantly became attached to me. They have a full time nanny, but because they like me so much they have started hanging out around the work place to “help” me. I don’t mind spending time with the kids and enjoy showing them how I do my job and letting them participate, and my boss has expressed how grateful she is for my patience with them and has started leaving me alone with both of them regularly during my work hours. Then yesterday out of the blue she sent me a pretty blunt text message telling me that she is not happy with my level of efficiency at work and that it, “Should not take four hours to do X amount of work.” I totally agree with her that it is taking me way too long to get work done, at my last job I would get almost 3 times the amount of work done in the same amount of time. I just feel like it’s completely unreasonable for her to expect me to work efficiently at my job when I’m also doing the job of her nanny and babysitting two young children/teaching them how to do everything.Am I being unreasonable? What do I even say to her next time I see her? I don’t know how to explain to her that I can’t work efficiently when I have to pace myself with a four-year-old. ######

Response: NTA and your boss' text gives you the perfect opportunity to point this out to her.  Reply "I agree.  As much as I enjoy spending time with \[kids' names\], it's not possible to watch them and work efficiently at the same time.  Let's talk tomorrow and you can let me know which one you'd like me to focus on." ######


Prompt:
I (M 21) am staying with my mom and her boyfriend (M 50) of 2 years at our family home.

This evening, I was being yelled at told “how wrong I am” and how bad my actions are because I simply forgot to put a kitchen appliance away in the cupboard. I usually put it away, but when I was waiting for it to dry, I forgot about it. It was an honest mistake and I genuinely forgot that I had used it. But I was being screamed at and felt like I was a criminal because I honestly forgot to do something. Me forgetting to put it away did not inconvenience anyone, nor did it impact anyone in any way, so I was genuinely confused. I then tried to defend myself by saying it was an honest mistake, but I was told “that’s not right” repeatedly, and that “we need to put things away to keep the house nice” by mom’s boyfriend.  This is where things further escalated. I said that I didn’t think it was a big deal to accidentally forget something, and pointed out that I cleaned my mom’s boyfriends lunch dishes that he left lying out for several hours after work one day, and that we all forget to put things away. According to my mom and boyfriend, this crossed a line and I am “selfish” for telling him that. In my mind, I was just defending myself and pointing out the hypocrisy, trying to show that I thought my mistake was a common mistake that didn’t warrant the scolding I received. Now, since we were all adults here, and my mom’s boyfriend is not responsible for me, I didn’t see any problem in our exchange. But according to them, I was undermining his authority and should never speak to him like that. I didn’t think what I said was mean or ill at all, I was just pointing out that what I did was very minor, and that other people, including my mom’s boyfriend, have done similar things recently. He is not my father, nor do we any relationship like that as I am an adult, and was when my mom started dating him. So, AITA for pointing out my mom’s boyfriend’s hypocrisy? ######

Response: NTA and you're honestly probably lucky she only started dating him when you were 19. It sounds like he enjoys the power more than the actual intent. Not putting away an appliance is not a reason for a screaming match. ######


Prompt:
So, to preface, I'm a guy who works as a bagger in a grocery store whose name rhymes with ogre. Management is pretty anal about phones, so occasionally when I'm in the bathroom sitting down to do my business i'll check my phone. Most of my coworkers do this. I don't stay in there an overly long time and once I'm done i don't linger, so i doubt this affects my productivity.

This morning my boss saw me on my phone through the crack in the stall, and called me out on it. Fine, i was in the wrong there. But it makes my skin crawl to think someone's watching me do my business regardless of intent, and I'm pretty sure if I was a girl that would be grounds for a harassment lawsuit. ######

Response: NTA and you should def complain to HR ######


Prompt:
I'm 19, living with my parents. I have a small part time job that gets me around $800 a month, I give my parents $400 a month for bills, food and miscellaneous things around the house. I pay for my car registration, fuel and any other bills that directly involve me. I try and save as much as I can, and they know that I have a savings account. My parents are now asking that I contribute more money every month. I told them that I already give them half of the money I get, but they say that I shouldn't be saving up when the money could be used. I don't mind giving them the amount I already give them, but I don't feel like I am willing to give up more than 50% of my wage.

Edit:

* I am currently attending university. ######

Response: NTA and you really should consider moving out. If they’re asking you for more money now it’s only going to get worse. They sound awful with money if their logic is truly to spend everything you have. Who doesn’t understand the concept of saving? ######


Prompt:
Going to try to reword this so it doesn't go against the rules.

My boyfriend has two preteen children, that are very big for their ages. We've been together two years and have had the same problems since the beginning. His kids love me which is awesome, but they're extremely disrespectful to me and don't respect my personal space. From taking and hiding my phone, to locking me in the bedroom. Finally my last straw was last weekend when they were relentlessly jumping into me, wrestling each other basically on top of me,trying to take my phone, terrorizing his pets, terrorizing me, while he did nothing to make them stop. He thinks everything they do is cute and funny and will laugh as he watches his kids rough housing with me,  I ask them to stop and they will not listen to me. He tells me it's not his responsibility and I should get after them myself if I don't like what they're doing. I told him it's not my place and I'm not comfortable parenting his kids, I'm trying to keep a good relationship with their mother and not overstep and feel like it's just not my place to do this. I told him that I have decided to step back and stop being around his children after last weekend, that I can't handle it anymore. He is mad at me for this and has stopped talking to me. I have children of my own and always make sure they stay in line, are respectful to him and his property, and would never expect him to be responsible for correcting my children.

AITA for setting boundaries in this situation and taking myself out of the situation since he will not do anything to stop his kids from treating me like this? ######

Response:
 NTA and you need to do more than just step back. Your partner doesn't care how you are treated by his children. He dismisses your feedback and requests for help.

Dump him and find someone that not only respects you, but also cares how their relatives treat you. ######


Prompt: Ok so my son never had a girlfriend, never had a crush on one. By the age of 16 he still hadn't got a girlfriend even tho he was a handsome guy. I talked to my wife about what her reaction would be if he turned out gay, she said that he will be dead to her if he is. come next year and our son turns out gay. I comfort him and tell him its OK. My wife on the other hand freaks out and storms off to her parents' house and is still there, her side of the family cut contact with us and we will be getting a divorce soon. My side of the family is completely OK with it. AITA for supporting my son? ######

Response:
 NTA and you know it, making this a confirmation post which sucks and almost makes you TA.

This is reddit, gay good, homophobia bad, not sure what you wanna read here ######


Prompt:
So I have 2 daughters (10f,14f) and I have a son (13m). My son and daughter (10f) aren't really in this situation

My 14 year old daughter has never liked pork. Me and my son love to eat it, so it's on the table a lot of the time. And my daughter would sometimes eat the pork, but never really liked it.

About a few months ago my daughter came up to me and told me she has decided she wants to stop eating pork completely.

And of course I've supported her in her decision. I started buying Turkey pepperoni and I would make a steak ormake some chicken whenever we were having pork. I'm just trying to make her happy.

A few days ago my daughter came up to me and asked if we would stop eating pork around her because she feels like we aren't being supportive of her decision.

I told her I absolutely support her, but I'm going to eat it when I want. She then said that by not supporting her I'm a horrible father. And I told her that I have made sure that she doesn't have to eat any of the pork by cooking other meats instead. She then stormed off and complained to my wife.

My wife says that we should just stop eating it all around. But I told her that's not happening.

So AITA ######

Response:
 NTA and you handled it great. You are supporting her decision 100% by buying alternate ingredients and making meals that accommodate her.

She cannot dictate what everyone else in the house eats. ######


Prompt:
So my youngest SIL and BIL, husband's brother, moved into my MIL's house after my FIL died. We thought it was a good idea at first.
She'd have help around the house and yard.

Except that's not what happened.

My MIL cooks for them, washes their clothes and dishes. My husband goes over to mow the yard and do yard work.

So, 3 times a week(pre-covid),I'd take  my MIL out. We'd spend most of the day together. My sister in law HATES these days and always tries to get mom to stay.

She needs help with her 3 children after all. They are all still in diapers and she hates leaving them in dirty ones for so long. She refuses to change diapers.

So, I've intentionally put my sister in law out to give mom a break. I also make a point that mom isn't her maid every time I go over ######

Response:
 NTA and you are a dream daughter in law.  I hope MIL realizes.
Also your SIL and BIL sound awful.  Who refuses to change their own child’s’ diapers.  I bet MIL doesn’t want to say anything for fear of causing an argument but I really think she needs to not be their maid. ######


Prompt:
I graduated before my boyfriend so I've been working for 4 months drawing a decent salary while my boyfriend is finishing up his final semester in uni. We started discussing about our next chapter in life, including marriage and finances plans.
We both plan to pool a fixed amount of our income together into a joint account after marriage, which will further spilt into sub categories such as household expenses, vacation fund, kids' education fund, etc.
Now this is where the difference comes in. The money that I have left after contributing the fixed amount into the joint account and after savings, I wanted to keep the remaining as a personal expandables that I can spend on fun things that I like, for myself. My boyfriend however wanted to pool both of our expendables together, which will fund either of our 'splurge'. That essentially means I have to go through him whenever I want to splurge on myself.
It's fine if we're both frugal or equal spenders. I'm however a spender while he's frugal. I believe in treating myself for the little happiness in life, within my means, to motivate myself for work and for life. He however believes in minimizing spending and transferring the max amount he can from the expandable fund into savings at the end of every month.
If we were to pool our expandables, that is essentially pooling 100% of our income together. He views keeping our own personal money as 'drawing too thick a line' and it isn't couple-like. He wants to view us as one entity. I however foresee future problems and arguments arising from pooling 100% of our money together, due to income inequality and differences in spending habits, which can be avoided if we were to have the joint account and personal money separated.
AITA for not wanting to pool our personal expandables fund and 100% of our income together? ######

Response:
 NTA and you already know it will cause friction if he's frugal and you're a spender. Both are fine once nobody is rude.

If you are pooling let's say 3k each then what you have after that should stay in your personal account and you can add periodically to your joint account. You need to have money on your side for yourself that you use without judgement. I didn't study and work to be judged for my Olaf from frozen socks lol ######


Prompt:
Fiance works nights as a nurse, we’re moving this week to our new home. Last night she went to work around 7PM and I was packing boxes. We had previously agreed we wouldn’t move any boxes that night because 1) I didn’t anticipate getting enough done/packed worth moving and 2) she was worried about me injuring my back because I did in a previous move.

Around 10PM I reached a stopping point and sat down, and came upon a weather report indicating snow Sunday/Monday. This wasn’t considered in our plan for the weekend and was a change in circumstance. I made a judgement call to begin moving boxes myself for the next 3-4 hours, so we would have enough time to get everything moved that wouldn’t fit inside an enclosed car today.

Fiance came home this morning and is extremely angry. She wants me to go undo all the work I did last night and bring the boxes back here. She said I’ve “ruined her move into our new house”. She also called the few family members we were having come over this morning and asked them not to show up. She told me I can do the rest of the packing and the moving myself. For reference I’d say I only did 25% of the work myself yesterday.

So AITA? I was trying to be helpful, and I realize that I went against the agreement we had but I felt the circumstances justified my actions. ######

Response:
 NTA and what the hell? I could understand if she was angry because you put yourself in danger of straining your back. But how did you "ruin" the move? And then she stops family members from coming over and tries to force you into doing it all yourself?

What am I missing here? This can't be the only crazy thing she's ever done ######


Prompt:
So I (16F) like to bake, I buy my own ingredients and make something every week or so. I share with my mom and sister (21F), and sometimes her friends if they're over. Its not like I can eat everything myself anyway. This happens every week ish, for the past year? Year and a half? For a while.

So I few days ago when I finished work (grocery store) I texted my sister to ask if there was any food, or if I needed to buy some. She told me there was food, so I went straight home.

When I came home there was no food, there was meat in the freezer but no time to defrost, no bread, no eggs, not much. Couldn't order food, since it was past 9 pm.

My sister had ordered two pizzas, so I asked if I could have a few slices, I offered to pay for them. She refused, she wanted to eat them for lunch the next day. I offered to pay for the whole pizza, so she could order a fresh one tomorrow for lunch, she refused again.

This wouldn't have been an issue if she told me there was no food, I would have bought something on my way home. But she apperently didn't check. I ate some plain rice with salt, it wasn't too bad. But I'm still annoyed she's been eating my baking all this time, and couldn't spare two slices of pizza. I even offered to pay, she doesn't pay for the baking, even though she makes much more than I do. She's been acting a bit entitled with the baking already, getting annoyed when I didn't make something she wanted or enough for her to take to her friends, so this was extra annoying.

So the next time I baked something and she came to grab some I told her no. I don't want to share. She got annoyed and told me I could have some pizza (which had been in the fridge for 3 days) if it's *such* a big deal. I refused again, I don't get much joy from cooking for her anymore.

My mom thinks it's petty, but doesn't want to get involved. My sister has been huffy about it. But I don't feel like I have to share at this point.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA and what a weird family dynamic where a 16-year-old is accustomed to having to offer to pay for every slice of pizza they ask for from their adult sister. ######


Prompt:
I (28m) proposed to my now Fiance (27f) back in December. We had been dating for over 4 years and already talked about marriage. I knew before I asked the question she would say yes. We had talked about her taste in rings before and she always said she wanted something unique and vintage. Nothing brand new. I was having trouble in finding something i felt confident that she would love. So I came up with the idea to take her on a wonderful vacation to a town in Spain that had a ton of antique jewelry shops. I floated the idea by her and she was very excited. We went on our trip and spent 2 days searching shops for her dream ring (we would have spent more time looking, but she was adamant about the ring she found). We spent another 5 days vacationing, where on our 2nd to last night we went to a fancy dinner and I officially proposed.
When we got back some of her friends were shocked that A.) She picked her own ring and B.) The proposal wasn't a surprise. She knew we were going to be engaged on the trip.
Her family seemed a little weirded out by how we did the proposal well.
She ensures me that she loved everything about the trip and loves the ring, but I cant help but wonder if I spoiled the surprise/magic of a once in a lifetime event.
AITA? ######

Response: NTA and what a lovely proposal. What's important was that she loved it and she loves you and you're gonna spend your lives together ######


Prompt:
I have a 12yo dog, very docile and friendly. I've been quite attached to him even more due to the fact that I lived through many hard times in life where my only companion was him. My friends and family couldn't care less for me during these periods.

A few years ago I begun to get involved with the person who's now my fiancee. When I realized that things would get serious I asked her to be my girlfriend, but I said "Before you commit I have to warn you that my dog is extremely important to me. He sleeps in my bed and I care very much for him. You don't have to accept it, that's why I'm bringing this up before we get serious". She gladly accepted.

A few months later she decided that it was unacceptable to have him on the bed. I reminded her that I warned her first, but we both agreed that when she's with me I'd let the dog sleep on another bed in other room and wash our bed sheets and stuff.

She has this retroactive jealously and I find it quite difficult to live with. We discuss every two weeks because she wants to be the one focus of attention in my life. Now she's trying to 1 - compare her jealously with her having to accept my dog, as if one thing was compensating another, and 2 - trying to limit even the attention I give to my dog during any time of the day. Bare in mind that I'm not a very socially active person, my few friends are all men and I even work at home, so there's not even "that girls from the office" for her to complain.

AITA for not attending to her current demands and saying that's beyond too much? ######

Response: NTA And uh, please never have kids with her. If she can't handle you loving a dog, that would be a nightmare scenario. ######


Prompt:
I (23F) have been dating a 27 year old man for about three months now. The relationship is slow moving but nice- we see each other 1-2 times a week and generally have a great time together. Here's the issue. This dude teases me ALL the time. Constant ribbing kind of stuff, poking fun. I like the banter most of the time, and tend to do it right back. All is fun and games, except for the fact that this dude can dish it out like it's no one's business, but can NOT take it. He pokes fun at everything about me, even to the point where it's made me kind of upset. I've brought it up but it doesn't seem to faze him....but the moment I cross any imaginary perceived line on his side, he goes on like i'm some sort of roast master and that he only teases me in retaliation....which is completely not true, as he usually starts it.

The whole thing is really getting out of hand and is seriously making me question my own actions. For instance, he constantly comments on my outfits (making fun of floral prints, etc.) so when he showed up one day straight from four wheeling, I told him he looked like a barn yard animal and he lost his shit and immediately insulted what I was wearing. When I brought it up, he said he only insults my outfits because I do it to him. Last week we went to a party, and he made me a drink. It was really bitter, and I don't like bitter drinks. I was really tispy, so I apparently kept bringing it up at the table jokingly and asking for sugar. He hasn't talked to me for days and is PISSED that I "purposefully embarrassed him in front of our friends..." coming from the same man who refused to try my cake later that night out of spite. Once I realized I had hurt his feelings by insulting his drink so many times, I apologized a lot and said I would stop the ribbing and watch what I say...but I can't help but feel gaslighted. So what do you think Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA and uh you’re right to feel gaslighted because that’s what’s happening ######


Prompt:
TLDR: Friends borrow/given money. Splurge money. Expect more.

As the pandemic started, I knew several friends that would be out of work. Bartenders/wait staff, etc.

I starting reaching out to help if I could. A few took me up on the offer... many didn’t.

Two in particular really rubbed me the wrong way.

One needed money and I gave it to her. Then I saw in social media her going out and partying. Later she asked for a $300 loan until payday (she had been getting some hours at work). She said LOAN. She set the date. There were expectations set. On that day, I have her until about noon and hadn’t heard anything. FB post.. she’s on her way to Florida for the beach. I text her and ask about payday. She asks if she can just give me part of the money (never acknowledges that she’s literally at the beach and has posted pics of crab legs she’s eating). I mull this over for a few hours and ask for the payment in full. I get a cash app transfer in full and not a single word since (3 weeks now)

Another friend. Had an $800 bill due. I give $500 and she was like “that won’t pay the bill!”  Later she sets up Onlyfans site and invites me to join to “help each other out”. I ignore the message. 2 weeks go by.. she drives to FL and spent the weekend at the beach. Then flew to New England and spent a week posting pics of her and her friends eating, drinking and beach going. This morning “hey!  I’m trying to move ASAP. My car insurance is due .......”
My response to her is still pending.....

AITA???!!!??? ######

Response: NTA and those people are **users**, certainly **not** your friends. ######


Prompt:
Our dog usually eats tinned food or chub rolls, but every now and then she gets a special treat: two packets of ready to eat smoked mackerel from the fish section of the supermarket freezer.

There's usually two or three fillets in each pack. She doesn't get the fillets whole, they're broken up into her bowl. This is easiest to do by hand. I strip the skin off the back, put the fillet back on the packaging, rip the skin apart, then break the fillet up. Every now and then I pop a small piece of fish into my mouth.

When I mentioned this to some of my online friends they said this is wrong, and disgusting. Even though it's from the human section of the supermarket, the fact that it was bought for the dog makes it "off limits" for my eating in their mind.

AITA for eating parts of my dog's meal as I was preparing it for her? ######

Response:
 NTA and this is also such a pure post.

I buy food for myself and my dog begs for it so I give him little pieces bc he is the cutest goodest boy. Is he the asshole for taking those little pieces from me bc I bought it for myself? No way.

Also whoever criticized you for it is delusional and an asshole themselves. Maybe find new friends.

You’re cooking your dog people food, you didn’t just buy a bag of dog food, like that is so sweet, you obviously love and care for your dog.

If you were eating all of your dog’s food and they were starving as a result, then it would be a different story, but this is obviously not the case based off your post. ######


Prompt:
I (25F) have been with my fiancé (26M) for 10 years now, and spent the last week with beautiful weather at his house. For context, his family and I re very close as they have seen me grow up and we have always lived around the corner from each other.

I asked my MIL if she minded if I layed out in the backyard and tanned in my bikini. She said “absolutely not hunny, any time”. So I did. A strapless tanning bikini, but totally covered my bits, I would wear it in front of my own dad, or at any public pool, it was not scandalous in any way.

My FIL and his brother were in the backyard doing yard work, BBQing and some other tasks throughout the afternoon. We chatted, laughed, had a beverage together, both wives were around as well but inside the house. It was a great afternoon until my fiancé’s GREAT AUNT showed up. When she had a second alone with me, she told me it was “completely inappropriate and disrespectful to my relationship with my fiancé to be wearing such little clothing around his father and uncle, how dare I?”

My fiancé had no issues, neither did his mother. His dad and uncle never stared or made me feel uncomfortable. As a 25 year old daughter in law, was I the in the wrong for being in a bikini for an afternoon in the sunshine, in front of my father in law? ######

Response: NTA and the great aunt sounds like a wet sponge. Ignore her. ######


Prompt:
It has been difficult finding alone time with my wife since our kids never seem to leave the house these days, so we have been using my office as a place to meet for sex. It's convenient since my employees have all been working from home and my office is private (floor below me is unoccupied).

One of my daughters had been looking for a way to earn some extra money, so a few weeks ago I told her I would pay her if she helped me organize some of my paperwork and files at my office. I didn't give her a set day. I told her do it whenever she had time as long as she did it before the summer ended.

I thought she would tell me when she planned to stop by, but she didn't. She showed up one day when my wife was there and we were in a weird position.

My wife sometimes like to role play that she is another woman, and that day she happened to be wearing a wig. She was also position so that my daughter couldn't see her face. My daughter didn't recognize it was her mother and yelled at me for being a cheater and then left.

I wanted to immediately give her a call and for us to tell her that the other woman was her mother, but my wife wanted to keep her identity a secret because she was embarrassed about what she was wearing and being caught giving me oral. She said that she would never be able to look at our daughter again if she knew it was her and wanted to instead tell our daughter that we have an open marriage.

I told her I would not let our daughter think I was having sex with other women, so I called her up and told her that it was her mother and if she didn't believe me I would show her the wig and she'd find her mom's car parked in the alley behind my building.

My wife was not happy with this. She says that I've destroyed her imagine in the eyes of our daughter and she will now think of her differently, which I don't believe.

AITA for telling our daughter the truth instead of lying to protect my wife's "image"? ######

Response: NTA and the fact that your wife is willing to let it look like you’re a cheater so she can protect her own feelings is appalling ######


Prompt:
I am 45F and my Husband 50M has a 16-year-old son. He is a good kid, good grades, respectful, does his chores, etc. Last Summer my son said that he wanted a new computer. To his credit, he got a part-time job and saved up for it, and built a pretty nice gaming PC. We are really proud of him, as he saved for it nearly all summer.

My sister and her husband have recently moved in with us. They have a 9-year-old son. My sister has a history of IDK how to put it, being entitled. She thinks her kid can do no wrong and spoils her kid.

Well when they came over, my nephew noticed my son's PC. He asked if he can play on it, my son said not now. That was the end of it for a couple of days. Again, my nephew wanted to play on it. I asked my son if he minded sharing, he said he would rather not since its expensive and doesn't want it to break. This has caused a big argument. My sister says its extremely unfair to my nephew because he doesn't have a system to play on, just his iPad, so my son should have to share. I told her it's his PC not mine, he paid for it so it's up to him. She then accused me of being a 'spineless parent'. I said I'm not, but I'm not going to force my son to share his own computer. My nephew ended up having a huge fit, which she then blamed me for his fit, but gave him 3 more hours of iPad time to quiet him down.

Its been 4 days and my sister hasn't brought it up directly again, just being passive-aggressive. While on one hand, I don't want to make my kid share, because it's his computer, he saved up for it and I don't feel it would be the right thing to do, to force my kid to share. On the other hand, I do feel kinda bad for my nephew, AITA? ######

Response: NTA and thank you for not being one of the "if he's under 18 he doesn't own anything" parents. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend decided to break up with me 2 weeks ago after admitting she’s been unfaithful and she’s pregnant with a child that’s almost definitely not mine.

I was stunned at first I can’t lie because we’ve been together since 2017 and I just never thought she would have it in her to cheat, but hey ho that’s the way it goes sometimes and tbh I’m glad I found out sooner rather than later cuz I am NOT ready to be a father.

With everyone going on I was in survival mode and agreed she could stay in my house for the time being, however things are beginning to tense up cuz she is helping herself to my shit like she’s still in a relationship with me.

I told her she needed to hurry up and find somewhere new to live especially because she’s eating into my resources and frankly I don’t want to be responsible for her financially or otherwise. I’m telling you she’s going through a LOT.

She said she has nowhere else to go right now so I said in that case you’re gonna have to be asking your parents for money so you can contribute financially. It’s not like I’m even asking for rent or utilities but just to cover shit like food and water.

I can’t afford to keep both of us afloat and she has no job so I defo don’t feel obliged to help her out.

Anyway she literally called all of our friends ALL of whom are calling me an evil bastard, so am I the asshole cuz I sure as hell don’t feel like one but they’re saying otherwise? ######

Response: NTA and tell her to go home to her parents.  They can quarantine her for 14 days in the basement.  She is not your problem anymore. ######


Prompt:
I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant, which was unexpected. One symptom that I have is EXTREME gas. I belch like a frat boy 24/7, and I can’t help it. They just slip out. I’ve tried bicarbonate with water, EVERYTHING.

fast forward to yesterday, my fiance and I were laying down on the couch, and as I was getting up, i let out an ungodly loud burp. He looked at me and called me disgusting. He says he can’t look at me the same, as it’s really gross. Prior to getting pregnant, I never burped/farted in front of him. So AITA? ######

Response: NTA and someone needs to tell him to buckle up- does he realize what he's in for watching childbirth and caring for a baby?  It's not all pristine unicorns and rainbows ######


Prompt:
So I have a niece and nephew, my nephew is 3 and my niece is 5 months old. Ever since my nephew was born my sister has just randomly dropped him off anytime she wanted without even asking me first. Most of the time she will drop them off with 20 bucks and expect me to watch them on the spot. I usually just end up watching them because they are just kids and did nothing wrong, but at the same time how are you going to drop your kids off to someone else and expect them to drop everything they are doing for you every time. Just recently she started texting me asking me to when it's late at night and I am in bed, then she will drop them off anyways even if I don't reply.

Now don't get me wrong, I love my niece and nephew, even though my niece always cries when her mom leaves and my nephew needs to learn how to use his inside voice some, but they are great kids and I love them lots.

So now as of yesterday I had just found out one of the people from my second family had just passed away, he was only 40. The reason I told that is to tell this, saw a post on fb yesterday about my mom saying she would watch my niece and nephew again while my sister worked, and my sister replied that she explained everything in text. I know I am a bit of a jerk for snooping through my moms text to her (only the ones from the previous conversation), but apparently my sister knew my friend who was like family to me had passed and proceeded to tell my mom "Your son can watch them for 5 minutes", then she proceeded to b\*\*\*\* my mom out for giving my niece formula when she's told her no in the past.

I don't really feel like it's my responsibility to watch her kids, even though I do enjoy their company and love seeing them, but still is it really my responsibility to watch them.

So am I the jerk here for not wanting to watch my sisters kids whenever she wants me too. ######

Response: NTA and sister is. Tell them you aren’t willing to do it any more unless you have arrangements at least a few days in advance. ######


Prompt: My sister, (27) thinks that i (31M) can’t own a cat because I’m a man, but it goes far beyond that. Whenever she came over she would always throw stuff at my cat or would lock it in a closet, making me search for her for hours and leaving me to put her up for a hotel. She always tells me that the next time she sees my cat she’s going to take her and give her away because it’s “gay” to have cats? We’re having a family reunion at my house the day quarantine is over to celebrate my parent’s retirement and while making preparations, I told my sister that I refuse to let my sister stay at my house. Well she apparently already booked arrangeable plane tickets and worked it out with work but I told her that she should cancel because my cat is apart of my family and if she wants to get rid of it then she can’t participate in the family reunion. My sisters pretty pissed, AITA? ######

Response: NTA and shes an animal abuser/homophobic(?) ######


Prompt:
I’m unsure if this is rude and/or ridiculous, so Reddit can be the judge.

My friend, L, very adamant about saving herself until marriage. (we are both 21F.) It wasn’t even just for her, she would shame and side eye people who weren’t married and sleeping together, even one of our mutual friends. She wholeheartedly believed that was a sin, as she was very religious.

However, she got boyfriend, and they ended up sleeping together, told me that herself. (Edit: she told me he took her virginity.) One thing led to another and they broke up amicably.

After that, we were hanging out and she went off on a tangent saying, “girls need to respect themselves and not sleep around, that’s what husbands are for.”

Me: “Does that make you one of those girls?”

L: “What are you talking about?”

Me: “I mean, you had sex.”

I explain that is doesn’t have to be shameful and she can just not do it again until she’s married if she pleases. She seemed to be in disbelief that she’s not a virgin anymore. She also seemed upset that I mentioned that to her.

I mean we’re 21, I hope she knows what sex is.

AITA for pointing this out?

EDIT: Oh wow! I didn’t expect this to blow up, haha. I do have one thing to say, when my friend says “sleeps around” also she believes any girl in a relationship that’s having sex is also sleeping around, because she is being unfaithful to her future husband. That was poor wording on my part, I was reusing her words, though. :) ######

Response: NTA And she is a hypocrite. How does she think she can have sex and still be a virgin? ######


Prompt:
We (30/27) have been together for four years. We've both been laid off due to Corona and have been home for a few months now. The thing is that he's become veeeery lazy during it.

I'm constantly cooking, doing housework, try to go for walks with him or doing ANYTHING, but all he wants is sit on the couch, play PS4, watch TV, listen to music, and drink beer. I'm terribly bored and start to feel like his mum.

Anyway, I went running today and when I came back, I was knackered. I hadn't eaten yet, so when he went to the kitchen to make food for the first time in days, I happily went for a relaxed shower and then waited on the couch for the nicely smelling meal.

Finally, he came out of the kitchen with one bowl. I asked if I was going to have some, too. He just looked at me baffled and said "I thought you didn't want any". I thought he was joking, but he continued to eat his massive bowl right in front of me, knowing I was starving.

I asked if he could make me something, too, which was declined. He wanted to play PS4 now, I would have to wait, he said.

We continued to have an argument which ended in both of us ignoring each other.

Am I the asshole here? I can make my own food, but I thought it was inconsiderate of him to not think of me or even ask (as I always cook for him), especially after I worked out and was obviously hungry. And then get so worked up about me asking for some food. This might be me being hangry, so I'd love some perspective.

Thank you! ######

Response: NTA and seriously,  do you even want to be with someone this selfish? What possible benefit are you having from this arrangement? ######


Prompt:
I live one hour away from my parents, in a house with 5 housemates. Without asking, my mom called me to not ask, but TELL me that my sister will be moving in.

My sister? She lives with my parents. She is 18 and a slob. My parents have kept my room as is since I’ve moved out. I sleep in my old room when I come to visit. Once, I found a used condom in my old room because she snuck a guy upstairs. Why my old room? Because it's clean. Her room is not only messy, but musty, because of all the old food/moldy starbucks fermenting in there.

My sister didn’t ask. My mom didn’t ask. I was just told. I live in a small room that cannot accommodate another bed, and the bed I currently have now is a twin. They expect me to continue paying for my rent without pitching in. But most of all, I refuse to share my room with a slob. What do I do? AITA if I refuse?

I told them no. That I would have to ask my landlord and housemates first. My mom doesn’t believe my landlord nor my housemates have a say because I “pay for it.” My response: "Ok so since one of my roommates has a bf and she pays her rent, does that mean he can live with us? No, I don’t think so. That’s not how it works.”

TL;DR: My mother informed me that my slob of a sister will be moving in to my tiny room without asking. AITA for refusing? ######

Response: NTA and quite frankly, it would be inappropriate for you to even ask the landlord or housemates. ######


Prompt:
Lately when my wife gets upset at me for something I do,  she’ll “be upset” for like 10 minutes then she’ll play it off as acting and she’ll say “I got you!” But I don’t like this and I don’t think it’s a healthy way to handle being upset. Instead of talking about it and her telling me what’s making her upset so we can get through it and work on making it better, she does this.

Usually it’s over stupid trivial things, but sometimes it’s over more serious situations too. Her “acting” has lasted sometimes for 30 minutes or more.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA and props to you for being a healthy adult/partner and communicating with her instead of avoiding this (probably) uncomfortable topic ######


Prompt:
My sister and her H are very into kinky sex (I’m not and admittedly don’t know a lot about it) but my sister tells me about it a LOT so I feel like I’ve learned a decent amount. From what I can tell, sharing details with other people is part of the excitement for her. Basically he has a cuckolding fetish where he likes to watch other men having sex with my sister, then after he (excuse the TMI) sucks the other guys semen out of my sister. I’m also a woman btw, I’m guessing she wouldn’t tell me all this if I weren’t...but who knows.

So anyway I recently came across this book on Amazon about “hotwifing” and I linked it to her, saying “since Steve is a cuck I assume he’d get a kick out of this.” No response...odd. I thought maybe I misunderstood the books premise but whatever.

Then I get a response in EMAIL later, with Steve CCed, saying that it’s unacceptable for me to call him “the C word” because that’s a name only those in the cuckold community can use for each other, and that unless I personally plan to cuck Steve (theyre not asking me to, obviously) that I can’t call him a cuck. She said that from now on any communications about Steve have to be said with him on the thread and I need to apologize for the slur.

This feels...extra, I mean...a slur to me is related to race/gender but not a kink that someone chooses. She stopped short of saying this is the N word for the hotwifing community but did say she would liken it to the F word (the homophobic one.)

I didn’t apologize the way she wanted...I said I’m sorry I said it, but this new policy of cc’ing Steve is super weird and I’m worried it might Also be a kink? ######

Response: NTA and people sure have gotten loose with the term slur. I’d ask your sister to save her stories for someone else. Who wants to hear about it, let alone be lectured about their lack of kink sensitivity or whatever when they try to respond. ######


Prompt:
This happened before the whole corona virus ordeal, but my friend, we will call her L, is still upset about this. AITA in this situation?

Awhile ago at a social gathering L and I were discussing her upcoming birthday plans. I offered to host L’s birthday party if she didn’t have other plans, L quickly shut that down insisting she had other plans to go to a cabin.

Also mentioning that she would be inviting other mutual friends of ours to this cabin and I would not be invited to this cabin with them. I’m not offended that I was not invited to the cabin, it’s her birthday and if she didn’t want me there it’s up to her.

And now this is where it gets complicated.

1 week later:

L: what are we doing for my birthday?

(In my mind I was confused, because
1. L told me she was going to a cabin
2. I already made plans to attend a house warming party for a very close friend of mine)

Me: I am attending a house warming party, and I thought you were going to the cabin?

L: We not going to the cabin until the day after my birthday, do you think we could still do something by you for it?

Me: No, I’m sorry but I made plans, if you want to do something during the day I can, but I’m busy at night.

L: you’re ruining my birthday

After she said that I stopped responding to her.
And to clarify, she is still attending the cabin for her birthday, and I’m still not invited for the birthday weekend at the cabin. But I am expected to host and attend her birthday party on the real day?
Also I offered to do something during the day for her birthday, but that still wasn’t good enough!
I ended up doing nothing with her and attended a very nice house warming party, and she looked like she had a blast at the cabin for her birthday weekend, but she still very upset at me?
AITA and should I apologize for not being there for her birthday? ######

Response: NTA and not sure why you’re referring to this person as a friend. ######


Prompt:
Writing on mobile. Sorry for the length, but I wanted to include the messages as they were sent without using imgur.

My mum has a habit of taking photos of me and used to post them to the book of faces without asking. I have always been self concious about my apperance, and now that I'm 36 weeks pregnant and huge, my confidence in my apperance is non existant. I sent a photo of my bump to the family chat because she had been begging me too, and added a note that said

"Btw I know I don't need to say it, but please don't share that photo I put up" (directly copied).

 She then went on a compete rant which is a bit long, but here's the abridged version.

"I hope that I hv proved to all of un that I respect your privacy Hasn’t I I only post my garden and projects That keeps me restricted from the roof tops what I want to share about my pride of my immediate family I only wish my family would recognise and acknowledge that instead of constantly warning me not to breach that confidentiality As far as I’m aware I hv respected that wish By pretending it’s all about me And I seem to never get there Trusted ! Really? The grave Maybe"

(spelling errors ECT copied directly, sorry, her messages are always hard to translate).

I finished by leaving this;

"It's not about trust mum. I've never liked photos of me, now even less, but you said you wanted to see them and putting them here feels very vulnerable. I'd rather not comment anymore if everything I say is going to cause you offense."

So AITA? Do I need to apologise? ######

Response:
 NTA and no you don't.

Sounds like everything is about her. Could explain some of your confidence issues. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway. Names are changed.

I've been best friends with Dan (29M) since we were in high school. He's been married to Cassie (28F) for two years and they recently had their first kid. Dan's dad remarried when we were off at college and Lucifer became his stepmom. Lucifer had a son from a previous relationship.

Recently, with the weather getting nicer, Dan and Cassie hosted a small barbecue with immediate family and friends. I was there, Dan, Cassie, and their kiddo were there, Cassie's parents, Dan's dad and Lucy, and a few other people.

Everyone was gushing over the baby and how good Cassie was looking. She had a rough pregnancy and has been resting up ever since the baby came. She also had a C-section (this is relevant).

Now, Lucy is a shitty person and Dan has never been her biggest fan. The topic of Cassie's C-section came up and Lucy said something nasty about Cassie not being a real woman and a true mother, for not having given birth naturally. It was pretty hurtful and I could see it on Cassie's face that she was upset.

I ended up blurting out that it wasn't surprising that Lucy had said that, considering she was such a huge cunt, when she gave birth her kid probably just slipped out and fell on the floor. Dan laughed, but his dad and Lucifer were pretty upset. They ended up leaving shortly after.

I know there's some controversy over that particular word, I'm wondering if I went too far. AITA? ######

Response: NTA and nice touch with the name "Lucifer" ######


Prompt:
My husband and I are getting a divorce, it was pretty out of the blue, we had a fight and then he said he wanted one. He said that we didn’t have to go to court, he only wanted a small amount and just wanted it to be over with. He’s currently staying with a friend.

He was a stay at home dad for most of our daughters childhood, and only recently had gotten back to work, however he got furloughed for the quarantine.

I was talking to my parents and they asked how the divorce was going, and I told them the good news that he didn’t want much money. They were unhappy with this for some reason, and said I should volunteer to give him more money. I think that would be stupid, because 1) he’s asking for the divorce, I was perfectly happy, and 2) he specifically only asked for the amount he did.

I then was venting to a friend about this conversation because it frustrated me and then she agreed with them!

I don’t see how I’m in the wrong here, yes, if we went to court he undoubtedly would get more but he doesn’t want to, I’m talking to my lawyer and everything is going smoothly. I don’t see why I should have to give him something he didn’t ask for?

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA and neither is your husband. Everyone else should mind their own business.

It sounds like you're on the way to a civil divorce and hope the best for your future alternative family! ######


Prompt: Every single night, my neighbors would blast loud rap music at all hours of the night. I got tired of it and approached them on their porch. They mocked me and told me to get over it and that it was a free country. So, what I did, originally, was play my own rock music. They knocked on my door and told me the exact same thing I told them. I asked them how it felt for the shoe to be on the other foot and slammed the door. I then stopped the music. The next night, they did the same thing. I knocked on the door and told them if they continued that I would call the cops. They all laughed at me and told me to do it and called me a pussy. I went back to my house, they continued, and I sure as shit called the cops. They arrived and I believe they told them if they continued they would be arrested for disturbance of the peace, because they stopped. For 2 days. They continued, I called the cops back, and they were arrested. I found out later that apparently they had a large criminal record and were arrested for many other things other than disturbance of the peace. I accidentally ratted out criminals. AITA? ######

Response: NTA and man, your neighbors are not only asses, they're dummies.  People with open warrants generally keep a lower profile. ######


Prompt:
I (22F) have been living on my own for about 2 years now, but moved back in with my mom to save money during this time.

When I live alone or with roommates, I rarely ever think about what I eat on a daily basis. But when I’m home, my mom is constantly asking what I’m eating or offering up “healthier” suggestions and I’ve found I feel very anxious eating at her house. She also does this to my sister (21F) and has been a lot worse to her than me in the past. She put my sister on Weight Watchers in like 6th grade. My sister just recently found medical records from that time saying she was not considered overweight until high school.

My mom has a history of bulimia and has been pretty weird about food ever since then. She’s always buying elixirs and protein powders and sugar alternatives and trying to make her food “healthier”.

This morning as I was making my coffee (French press with oat milk) she said that I really should let her make me one of her “coffee drinks” with beef collagen and adaptogens and whatever other shit she was gonna throw in there. Granted, I had not had my coffee yet but I went OFF on how adding processed alternatives to substitute real foods is not “healthy” and the way she micromanages our eating is pretty messed up.

My brother (18M) stepped in and said I was being unusually harsh to my mom and that she doesn’t care what we eat. Of course he thinks that, he’s a “growing boy” in her mind and she doesn’t treat his eating the same as she does my sister and mine.

My sister didn’t want to get into the argument because she didn’t want to bring up poor feelings from our moms bad ED days and overall upbringing.

AITA for calling her out?

tl;dr my mom has an unhealthy relationship with food that she projects onto my sister and I. I finally called her out on it today. ######

Response: NTA and look up orthorexia. I'm not diagnosing your mom of course but it sounds awfully like that. ######


Prompt:
today my stepdad refused to let my little sister put makeup on him and when i asked him why, he said it's because men aren't allowed to use makeup. i told him that it's 2020 and dozens of men wear makeup, to which he replied those people weren't "real men". i asked him to elaborate and he said that since they chose to play a feminine role, they weren't men.

i'm a lesbian and while my parents know that, they don't want to believe it and refuse to let me talk about it or properly come out to them. i asked him if me dressing masculine (which is something i do, simply because i like the look on me) makes me less of a woman. he said yes.

i called him out on his bullshit and told him he’s being ignorant. then i left the room. now he acts like i'm being dramatic and should stop ignoring him. am i the asshole? ######

Response: NTA and keep ignoring him to your heart’s content. You have no obligation to listen to him if he refuses to listen to what you have to say just because of his old timey shit views. The world has changed and he refuses to change with it. ######


Prompt:
Here's the situation... I recently had a baby. When I found out I was pregnant I decided to buy a house as my apartment is a 1 bedroom and much too small. I found a building with 3 seperate apartments, which I planned to move into the 3 bedroom on the bottom floor.  I closed on the house in March and informed the tenant about my plans to move in.

Because of covid I agreed to allow them to stay a few month's longer,  but now the covid in our area has subsided for the most part and business are opened back up.

I wouldn't be in such a hurry except that I've had several complaints from neighbors and my other tenants about the property.  These people have at least 8 cars parked in the front of the house at a time, most of them unregistered and no inspection.  I received an Order to Remedy Violation from the town zoning officer.  And the entire yards looks like a scrap yard with all the car parts and tires laying around. One of my good tenants told me she plans to move if they aren't gone soon because she can't stand the "ruckus" that goes on every day.

There are also repairs needed to the plumbing and windows in the basement that they are not allowing me to get to.

I feel like they are taking advantage of my kindness and my property. I know it's hard to find a place that quickly and move out but we don't have a lease and in my state I'm only required to give the 30 days. ######

Response: NTA and its probably going to take a while to get them out if they dont voluntarily comply, the sooner you start the better ######


Prompt:
Backstory here: I'm Indian, so I wear saris basically everywhere because my parents are really strict about my heritage. Second, I have eczema, so my lower body is covered with scratches, dry skin and scales, and the sari helps cover it up.

So, I'm at my Indian-American cousin (male) to a beautiful American woman's (who we'll call Laura) wedding. Its in India so I pack mostly saris, lehengas and one maxi gown with stockings. (There are a lot of events: mehendi, haldi, thaledivasum, madhereveppu, wedding rehearsal, after party, evening party, two receptions, the ceremony, etc)
So for the haldi, I'm wearing a yellow net sari, which mostly everyone wears for haldi (because they smear turmeric on the bride and the women)
To my shock, the guests were mostly American women wearing short dresses. The bride pulls me aside and asks me to change because she felt MY dress was too gaudy, and hands me a short dress with a diamond pattern. See, I wouldn't have been averse to changing if she had given me a longer dress, but she gave a mini dress which showed off my legs, which were covered in scars, scales, scratches, etc. So, I refused, but I told her that if she could find me a longer dress I would change. She told me I was a bitch for dressing up like that for a haldi, as it obviously was too extravagant for small events.
I left, and that night I was called by a lot of the bride's family members and friends (don't know how they got my number) and told me I was an asshole and things like that because I wouldn't change after the bride had very politely given me a dress and asked me to change, and accused me of trying to upstage her.
So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA and it’s weird of her to hold an event specific to your culture and not want you to wear the clothing that is entirely appropriate and traditional for the event. ######


Prompt: Husband and I have been struggling financially for a while now. I’ve tried making up a budget that lists our income, expenses, due dates, and balances on credit cards, but he won’t use it. We sold his car to pay off some bills a few months ago, used our tax return to pay off more bills, and I assumed that this stimulus money all went towards bills as well (we have separate bank accounts and I don’t have access to his). Well, today, we got a huge package. I had no idea we ordered anything so I was confused. It was a PS4. He bought a PS4 without even talking to me about it. While I’ve been wanting one for years, they cost so much that I’ve just accepted that I wouldn’t be getting one until they came down in price and we were more stable. I asked him how he paid for it and he said he’d put it on the GameStop credit card (that we had JUST paid off a couple of months ago!). He said it was a combination anniversary gift for me and early birthday present for him. He doesn’t understand why I’m mad because I had said I wanted one. Am I the asshole for being mad that he got it? ######

Response: NTA and it wasn't a gift for you. It was for him. ######


Prompt:
Client Refuses to Pay Me for Commission, Says I’m Twisting Her Arm

Can somebody back me up here?

One year ago I was contacted for a commission for voicework. I won’t give the client’s name. She had also separately commissioned a scriptwriter as well. That writer did not produce the script for over 6 months, but once they did I had the recordings done in under a week.

I sent them to the client, and then waited for a response. Of course a lot of big developments started happening in my life shortly thereafter. Proposing, moving to England, having a baby. Up until yesterday I’d forgotten about the commission. But upon remembering I sent an email to the client. I stated that I felt I’d been more than patient and wanted to know why I hadn’t been compensated. I also warned her that if I was not compensated, I would refuse to work with her again and tell my colleagues not to either.

I got a message back this morning stating that I shouldn’t expect the terms of a deal to stay the same after a year of no communication. That she feels uncomfortable that I’m “twisting her arm” like this. Then she goes off on how 2019 was a really rough year for her and criticizes me for “threatening” her after a year.

I  responded stating that I wasn’t trying to threaten her, but that these are are consequences of going back on our agreement.  Am I the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA and INFO - Is voice acting your main source of income? This doesn't really matter because you offered a service and she should pay for said service. Its just basic Economics. However, it does clarify a few things like why she didn't pay at first or why a year occured before any action was taken.

I understand you got really busy with marriage, moving, and pregnancy, and that makes her even more of an asshole for her reaction. ######


Prompt: so I rewrote this because the original was hard to understand warning (I’m bad at typing) I been saving up money to get a PS4.i can’t work because of everything going on.i almost have enough to buy the PS4 and my uncle said he would cover the rest(about 80$)my bf is staying with me to use my internet to do online school until school is open again or until school ends.he thinks I should let him take the PS4 that I want to buy to his house.i live with my uncle (I might make post why later)my brother has a PS4 to but he works all day and when he gets home he plays on his PS4.My brother doesn’t like anyone in his room when he’s gone.My boyfriend is worried that people will come into my room all the time or try and take it if I buy it and keep it at my house.he said I could just play it at his house when I go over there.his house is in the other side of town and I hardly go over to his house he comes to mine more.he said that his brothers are bored and they could play on it.i love to game and I been wanting to get a PS4.he thinks I won’t use it because I would just be on Hulu all day.he got upset because I told him it didn’t make since for me to buy it and for him to keep it at his house.i thinking of not buying one now I was going to go tomorrow when my uncle was off to get one.AITA ######

Response: NTA and in fact I'm questioning your boyfriend. You are buying it, it's gonna be yours but he wants it at his house for him and his siblings to play? Yeah red flags. ######


Prompt:
Hello,

I am female and 18 years old. Currently I am working part time as a waitress while attending High School. My sister (20) has depression, epilepsy and a trauma which is causion something called dissociation. Because of this she can't go to College or work anymore. She is living with her boyfriend.

My mother and my father (they aren't together) are giving her money monthly.
My mom always tells me to give my sister money because she can't work and has no income.

Maybe I am just the A but I don't want to give her money. I am not one if her parents and not resposible for her. I work for my own money to afford my clothes, sometimes food, going out with friends and stuff I'd like to buy.

My mom is often mad because of this. Her reason is: "You are working and you have money. She can't work so help her."

My dad doesn't know about this.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA and if the parents are so worried about her having money they should apply and see if she is qualified for disability support if she is so server that she can’t do anything for herself ######


Prompt:
I randomly started flirting with this acquaintance, what started as flirting progressed to sexting, nudes and to eventually hooking up multiple times etc. I was fine with it, until i saw how much of a HYPOCRITE he is.

He’s been posting so much dumb shit on snapchat about girls who send nudes, how hookups are “morally and religiously long as you should devote your body to one person only” and things along those lines. I called him out publicly on snapchat by posting the sexual texts he sends me “i want to see both views when you drop it low” and worse.

He then calls me ranting about how much of a bitch I am, and how unnecessary that was etc. His friends are telling me to delete it, so word doesn’t get around to his religious parents who might disown him because he isn’t abstinent.  I hate hypocrites, but I’m starting to feel bad. AITA? I would be willing to apologize If i’m in the wrong, i just need an unbiased perspective. ######

Response: NTA and if he has a problem direct him to Luke 8:17 ######


Prompt:
Long story short, my fiancé has always been a drinker. He has a drink every night to wind down after working swing shift while he plays video games. His drink consists of a 20oz Yeti cup filled with ice. Then filled 2/3 with Jim Beam followed by Dr. Pepper. He’d typically just have the one drink about 11pm when he got home and come to bed about 2am.

Over the last year, his drinking has gotten crazy. He now drinks 3 of those cups a night, every single night. He stays up past 4am getting wasted while playing his game and yelling the whole time. I get up for work at 5:30 am so it’s very disturbing to sleep in our bed. Many nights I sleep on the couch. After playing and drinking, he goes and wrecks my kitchen heating up food. I used to make allowances because he was still able to get up for work and he’d let me sleep in one weekend day and take care of the kids that morning. And I don’t think I really realized how much he was drinking.

But now we’re both home, his drinking really bothers me. As I watch him fill his cup with liquor I feel repulsed. Because I know that the more he drinks, the more obnoxious and verbally abusive he becomes. Every night I’m called a bitch or a whore. And if I say anything, he says he can’t joke with me. But I don’t find it funny nor do I see how it’s a joke when I’m literally just laying there trying to sleep.

The other night I snapped. My stove was covered in queso. He had kept me up all night with his yelling and all the kitchen noise. I told him it’s us or alcohol. Previous talks asking him to slow down his drinking only made him drink more so I’m at my wits end.

His response was to say he will drink more now and maybe if I got drunk, he’d like me better. So I walked away. And I haven’t spoken to him since unless absolutely necessary. I know alcoholism is a disease and it runs in his family. I’m conflicted with wanting to be happy and feeling guilty for the ultimatum. So AITA? ######

Response: NTA and if he can't see AND acknowledge and DO SOMETHING about his problem, don't feel the least bit bad about walking away from this before you marry him ######


Prompt:
TL;DR — my husband started a YouTube channel, which I fully supported but I asked him to not record me and told him I didn’t want to be in his videos and he flipped out and deleted the whole YouTube channel. AITA?

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My husband started a YouTube channel. He got a wild, hare brained idea that it was a good idea. He told me about it, showed me his first video, I told him it was very funny and I supported him 100%. He said it was going to be a “funny, relatable, YouTube channel for dads”, I told him it was a great idea, and fully supported it. Until he tried to secretly record me and post it. I told him as he was recording me (as soon as I realized he was) that I do consent to being put on videos that are displayed for the public. And it wasn’t a sexual video or anything like that. It was literally a video of me sitting at the kitchen table eating a bowl of lucky charms. I don’t care what it was about, I point blank said I didn’t want to be in his videos. I still supported him making the channel, and told him I could support him without being in the videos. He then said he was going to post it anyway, made a comment about posting videos of our kids. I was adamantly against that — I don’t want our kids displayed for world to see. It’s just nothing something I agree with personally because I don’t want anyone to look at my child in an inappropriate way and unfortunately, the world we live in, the Internet is a child sex offenders hunting grounds. I just don’t want my kids to be out there like that, plain and simple. Anyway, he flipped out. Told me I didn’t support him, he was tired of it always being an issue if it wasn’t my way. Which it’s the complete opposite. He behaves like a child when he doesn’t get his way, always trying to guilt me into things. We fought for a while about it and I finally just walked away. He deleted the entire channel and refused to speak to me the rest of the night. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA and I’m glad to hear you don’t want your kid’s being on YouTube either. Seems like so many family vlogs exploit their kids for views. ######


Prompt:
Hello all! This a quick one:

My husband and I live in predominantly white neighborhood where I, a woman of color, continuously gets stares and whispers whenever I’m out walking without my husband, who is not a person of color.

My guy wanted to go for an evening stroll before dinner. I thought that sounded like a great idea. He then said he was gonna take a can beer and if I wanted one. I said no thanks, I’ll have it when we come back. He pushed the issue, asks why I won’t have one. I jokingly said because I’ll definitely get some looks and I just want to enjoy my walk. He gets offended and says that no one will look at me it’s fine. I then seriously state I will since I can’t even walk around the neighborhood without getting them. He then says I’m overreacting and no one cares if he does it. I then point out the OBVIOUS difference between us. He was dead silent during our walk and dinner.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA and I'm sorry this happens. A long-time friend of mine is black, married to a white woman. He has always had more white friends (I'm white; I've known him for 25+ years) than people of color, and we all live in predominantly white suburbs. His house is on a corner with a big picture window. Someone called the police on him once because they "saw a black man in a nice house." He's an assistant state's attorney and the police were embarrassed when they stopped by. I was appalled when I heard the story. ######


Prompt:
My husband and I both suffer from depression. For the past few years, I’ve been able to manage mine pretty well with medication and regular therapy. He is on meds and tried therapy once a few years ago but didn’t like his therapist so he stopped and never found a new one. His depression has just gotten worse and worse.

For the past few years, he’s just been miserable. Constantly negative, complaining, etc. I’m empathetic because I’ve been there with my own depression, but now that we’ve been stuck at home with each other and our child 24/7 for the past two months, it’s getting old. I’m frustrated and drained.

Last night, after he complained to me for over an hour about how much he hates his job, I finally got frustrated enough to tell him that he needs to find a therapist, because his constant dumping on me is exhausting. He accused me of being selfish and unsupportive and said that I should be there for him. I tried to make him understand that while I do love and support him, I just don’t have the energy or capacity to be his one and only outlet. He stormed off and hasn’t spoken to me since.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA and I'm going to get down voted big time for this,but I've been there: he's wallowing. No amount of sympathy will be enough. He's almost a psychic vampire feeding off your energy. He needs a wake up call. If not that, you need to go to therapy again to learn to cope with him. There might even be support groups for you. ######


Prompt:
I’m an only child and so is my husband and we have a small house and kids. Our parents often put down our tiny, full house. My in-laws arrived shortly after we bought our house with furniture that didn’t fit in their condo even though our house is barely larger than their condo, I wasn’t consulted. My dad gave us an bunch of his furniture he didn’t want. Ok, free furniture, but there’s stuff I don’t like, like a giant chest filled with my MILs student art that must be kept and a case of ivories. I don’t want to be a person who has ivories. But now it’s starting to really irritate me. His house is at least double the square footage of mine with one person and thee unused rooms! And every time I see him he tells me to take more of my dead mom’s stuff, my dead grandma’s stuff. He pushed a big cross on me even though I’m not Christian and the gave it to my kid when I said no thanks. Today he called me and “offered” a large freestanding mirror that has been at my aunt’s house the decade+ grandma has been dead. “No thanks, I don’t have any space for it” and he gets angry. How it’s nice and “I guess she’ll give it to Goodwill”, sniff sniff. Now we have to provide homes for grandma’s stuff in other people’s houses? He has three unused rooms!
AITA for saying no and if they treasure this crap they can find room for it? ######

Response: NTA and I'm a similar position. I have no room for anything in my house but especially not outdated ugly stuff, sorry. "Sorry, I don't have the space" is a perfect response. You're not obligated to take things just because it has sentimental value for your parents. ######


Prompt:
My swimming instructor said I passed all of the requirements for the first part of my course. Then he said the last part of my course required  me to do a practical test at another swimming location the next day. I drove all the way to the new swimming pool about 30 minutes away and went into the swimming centre. I saw my swimming instructor and other swimming classmates. My swimming instructor said “sorry, I forgot that your swimming level (I am doing bronze star) doesn’t require an practical test. The practical test is only for those doing bronze medallion and above.”
So me and my family went home.
Then weeks passed and I still have not received my bronze star certificate in the mail.

I went to the swimming pool and told a staff member I haven’t received my certificate. Then she told me to write my mobile number down so my swimming teacher can contact me. Weeks had passed and I did not get a phone call from the teacher.

I went to the swimming pool one day and happened to see my swimming teacher so I said that I still haven’t received my certificate. He said “that’s not my problem if you haven’t received your certificate”. I’m not the type to argue so I just left it there and came home and told my dad.

My dad said to email the swimming organisation and say that I haven’t received my certificate. They replied back and basically didn’t believe me. Then i had to reply back explaining the whole story, I even included the part where my teacher said “it’s not my problem”. Then finally the swimming organisation replied back and apologised. I received my certificate about two months late.

Then the following year I had that same swimming teacher again to teach me swimming. He basically ignored me the entire time. AITA for going to great lengths to get my certificate? I mean I did pay around $100 for the course. ######

Response: NTA and I'd even report him again if he's treating you different than the other students. It's not your fault he was a jerk. ######


Prompt:
I (M34) bought my boyfriend (M32) a 2018 Macbook Air on sale a few months ago because he needed a new computer. It did not come with a warranty. Two days ago, he got annoyed at me that I asked him to come to bed (it was 2am), slammed the laptop shut and came.

Then, he discovered the next day that his slamming the laptop shut broke the screen. He started demanding that I pay for it because "I provoked him" and because I was so stupid to buy a laptop without a warranty. I told him he should learn not to have temper tantrums.

He has a stable, salaried job. I understand that he doesn't want to pay to fix it, but I don't see how this is my problem. ######

Response:
 NTA and I would be very wary of staying in a relationship with this person. I am not at all a “throw the whole man away, yes the whole man.” kind of person but him blaming you for his violent reaction and then demeaning you is something that abusers do. He doesn’t have to hit you to be abusive.

I would not pay to fix the laptop and at the very least would require him to talk to someone about anger management. ######


Prompt:
So my wife and I have been married for 5 years. We have two children, a five year and 5 month old. She has acknowledged her alcohol problem in the past, but when she gets to a certain point, she throws caution to the wind and gets completely wasted. She gets mean and absolute hateful.

Tonight, I took time off work to drive her two hours to see her best friend that she hasn’t seen in a year. When we get there, it’s cinco de Mayo, so her friend wanted tacos and margaritas. The margaritas were STRONG. I, knowing I had to drive in three hours, didn’t drink. Our kids were with us. My wife, on the other hand, got shitfaced. Come time to leave, she had another canned margarita in hand about to open it in the car. I took the can and told her it’s illegal to drink in the car. She got pissed. She finally calmed down, but she was still super drunk. She took her frustrations out on our five year old and made him cry his eyes out in the back seat. We got back home and she was about to start up again and get even more drunk.

I had enough of it. I took the can she was about to open and said no. Not tonight. You’ve had enough.

She became belligerent saying she married a dictator. I feel I have a right to keep the peace in the house especially since we’re both responsible for two children. She is still going off on me (going on two hours) and my five year old is in his room screaming. She’s screaming she wants a divorce. My response is that if her abuse of alcohol is that important to her, then fine. She can have her divorce. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA And I hope you can get the child therapy. That sounds like such a stressful situation for a kid to go through, and it sounds like the poor child has had to deal with a lot beyond just this one incident. ######


Prompt:
I'm in an LDR and my gf has been lonely and uncomfortable in her cramped studio apt during COVID lockdown. This woman she goes to grad school with knew that and gave her the key to her place while she's out of town for the summer, but they're not really friends, more like colleagues, and she assumed my gf was only going to stop in from time to time to get some work done in a quiet place. She even asked for a little money to go towards rent, and my gf paid her fifty bucks.

Little does she know, my gf has been sleeping there every night. The place is bigger and nicer than my gf's and she feels safer there because the neighbors don't scream at each other all night. When she first starting going there I thought she was staying at a *friend's* place, but recently she revealed the true situation to me on the phone and then confessed that she also read this woman's diary, which was just sitting right there on her desk. I was shocked; I said it was an invasion of privacy and asked my gf how she would've felt if someone she trusted with her apt key read her diary. She said she wouldn't have cared.

She called me an asshole for judging her, and she later justified the diary thing by saying that she's been so lonely she just needed to see if someone else felt that way. She said I should've taken her side and empathized with her instead of being cold and judgmental, and she's still pissed about it. But I stand by my judgment! Is reading someone's diary just not as bad as I think it is? ######

Response: NTA and I guarantee your girlfriend WOULD be pissed if someone read her private diary. She's just trying to save face. ######


Prompt:
AITA - I ordered takeout, picked up my food, and the resturaunt called as I was pulling into my driveway.  The person from the restaurant told me she gave us an extra bag of food and asked me to drive back and drop it off at the restaurant. I told her that I really didn’t want to drive back and drop the food off and she just hung up on my mid sentence.

Am I the asshole?

I know I wouldn’t want food that someone took away from the restaurant and brought back. ######

Response: NTA And I cannot believe they would take a good bag that had been in your possession and now a different temp and hand it back out again. I’d go so far as to call the health department to find out if that is even allowable. ######


Prompt: I might be the Ah for putting up with it for so long. Anyways, I work for a landscaping company. For the past year, we've been getting paid late, and when we do get paid the checks often bounce. At first we would start getting paid a couple days late, then it went to a week late, and then almost a month late. One of the managers went 2 months without getting paid. One time one if my coworkers asked my boss "are we getting paid today?", and my boss replied "is everyone gonna ask me that..." wtf? To the main story. Last friday, he gives me my check. I got to the bank to cash it on sunday. It bounces. I could have called him, but didnt have the energy to deal with it. Monday comes around. Hes in a good mood, and says "howd everyone's weekend go!" I said "would have gone food if the check you gave me was good" he stared at me, and said "if your check bounces, then you can call me, and I'll take care of it" I snapped. And said "dont act like you didnt know that check wasnt gonna bounce. You knew damn well it would. I'm getting paid a month late. I expect my check not to bounce everytime I want to cash it" he threw his arms in the air, and said "if your not happy with how things are going, then you can quit!", so I got in my truck, and left. He called me when I was half way home, and apologized, and sad I'm a good employee, and he cant lose me. Idk, I love my co workers. That's one of the main reasons I've stayed as long as I have. I could get another job pretty easily, but idk. ######

Response: NTA and i absolutely would not go back. And make sure you get paid for all the time your boss hasnt paid you for yet ######


Prompt:
So I basically (17f) had been diagnosed with ADHD a year ago . I'm pretty school smart but I don't notice many Things around me and I have a problem with sitting or doing the same thing for more then 30 minutes . After I got the diagnosis from my therapist . I wanted to proceed to book other sessions to see what I can do to help minimise the issue . It started affecting my studies . My mother didn't believe me and told me I was doing this for attention and not to tell anyone about it . ( In our culture mental health is a taboo topic ) I wasn't happy about it I tried to retaliate anything . But it was no use and my father whose a doctor tried to convince her but nothing .
So suddenly today she heard one of her friends had a daughter with ADHD so she told her about and proceeded to tell all her colleagues like it's something to flaunt I guess . And now she believes I have it .
I was pretty furious since she had forbidden to go my therapist for almost half a year and continued to call me an attention seeker whenever I braught it up .
The fight was bad I was screaming at the top of my lungs in the end and shut myself in my room . Now she's acting like she's the victim and all she did was try to help .

So reddit AITA ???

Sorry for the grammar mistakes ######

Response: NTA and honestly, your mother should grow up. At 17, you’re more mature than her and I hope you will be able to get help, maybe through your father. ######


Prompt:
Hi, everyone.

So I live with a roommate, and we’re both grad students, so constantly busy. This summer is going to be particularly busy for me, because I have two classes, an intensive German workshop, and am working on both PhD and Fulbright applications. Because of this, I don’t foresee me leaving my desk this summer. My roommate is also taking two classes. The other day, my roommate told me that her boyfriend would be coming up from Florida to visit for 5 days. She also told me that I would need to be gone from the apartment for at least one night so they could have sex, and asked if I could go stay with my boyfriend. I told her no, because I was busy and had class and would feel more comfortable doing my classes and schoolwork at home. She told me I was an asshole, and has gotten her friends and parents to also tell me I’m an asshole.

AITA for telling her no? ######

Response: NTA and honestly kind of funny that she thinks you should leave so they can have sex. I assume this apartment has walls so thats all the privacy you’re entitled to when you have roommates. ######


Prompt:
Some background. My wife’s siblings are incredibly entitled along with her stepdad and sometimes her mother.

Sadly my pug (Otis) passes away last week. My wife and I are pretty torn up. He was an amazing dog who loved just about anyone, who’d give him food. Word soon got around to my In-Laws who at first felt sorry, but then after learning how he died (he had chronic heart problems) were saying we were stupid to trust modern medicine and if an animal is born weak it should die. The final stray was when me and my wife were in a zoom call with my SIL, and she said the following, I can’t believe you guys are hung up over your dumb dog. He was a dumb bitch who deserved to die. I. Saw. Red. I told her to shut the FUCK up and that she needs to stop being such a bitch all the time. It’s been a couple of days and my wife wants me to apologize for causing “drama” in the family. The way I see it is they’re the ones being inconsiderate assholes. So reddit, AITA ######

Response: NTA and honestly fuck them. Pets are quite often family members too and it sucks to lose them. I think your response was 100% warranted. ######


Prompt:
So basically what happened is that last night I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone in a discord call and then he started cuddling his dog, which he's had for a long time. I don't hate his dog or anything and I understand he loves his dog and I'm completely okay with that. But then I was talking to him and he ignored me and was talking to his dog and said "I love you more than *insert my name here*.

I never had a dog, so I can't say that I understand the strong love between a human and an animal, especially one he's had since he was a kid and that his dog is important to him. But since he was already ignoring me it just annoyed me and was uncalled for because there's a lot of times I feel like he doesn't love me at all. He just told me not to leave the call but I left anyway.

about two hours later I call him back and he asks why I left because he didn't remember and I told him.  He thought I was being ridiculous because it was just a joke. But he sounded serious and just told me not to leave which tells me he knew exactly what he said would upset me. He then told his mom about how I was upset and she agreed that I was being stupid about getting jealous over a dog and was just being insecure, which honestly embarrassed me. My boyfriend then started calling me crazy, so I left the call again and he texted me saying "there you go being crazy again.

Was I in the wrong here? I feel stupid about it after I got some sleep but I just want to know if I was being an asshole. ######

Response: NTA and he is so toxic and immature. First he says something pointless just to hurt you, then he pretends not to remember, then he brings his fucking *mom* in to invalidate your feelings. You weren't "jealous of a dog," you were hurt because he intentionally said something to make you feel unloved. Being single is better than being treated like this. ######


Prompt: I pay for my own Hulu account and I let my mom watch tv on it which is fine because that’s my mom. I was at my boyfriends and signed in on my account on the tv in his room, but his sister took the tv into her room and has been using my account. I found out because I was looking at my watch history and there were a bunch of shows I don’t watch on it. I asked my boyfriend and he said she took the tv today. Am I the asshole for removing the tv from my device history? She’s been complaining and texting me to let her use it again. Calling me selfish and how she just wants to watch tv because she’s bored. Mind you she’s 17 with no job and always is asking me for favors. I don’t feel bad but she texted me a long message about how the tv went out while she was in the middle of the show. This happened once before on the downstairs tv and his mom wanted me to sign in for her so she could finish her show because she didn’t want to pay for her own account...I didn’t. I don’t feel like an asshole and my boyfriend said it’s not a big deal, but she keeps bugging me to let her back on. I don’t think I’m selfish or stingy. I work my own job and can afford it. ######

Response: NTA and good on you for not enabling that behavior. ######


Prompt:
This is pretty self-explanatory. I was working out in my living room when I heard something on my back porch knock over. Thinking an animal was getting to some of the vegetables I had in pots out there, I quickly ran outside without thinking to put a shirt on (since I've been working out at home, I don't feel the need to put on a shirt and I'm more comfortable that way).

Found an overturned pot, put it back up, made sure everything was good and went back inside to finish my workout. I wasn't outside for more than five minutes. Well my next-door neighbor saw me out there, and I guess it made him uncomfortable. He complained to my mom, and she told me just to try not to do it again. I still think thats unfair. Even though I usually wear a shirt, its my back yard and I should be comfortable. I'm not walking around the neighborhood or anything. Plus, I'm sure he's taken off his shirt while mowing his lawn or doing yard work. My mom says to just let it go, but I'm pretty pissed about being told what to do in my own yard.

AITA?

ETA: Not that it makes it less creepy, but our yards are only separated by low bushes, so we can both see each others yard pretty clearly ######

Response: NTA and good for you for standing up for yourself. A sports bra is more covering than a bikini. Thank goodness you haven't taken up sunbathing /s. Do not ever let a man's discomfort with you doing perfectly normal things keep you from doing it and shame on your mom for trying to toe the line in 2020. ######


Prompt:
My roommate and I were close friends when we first moved in together a year and a half ago. Not long after we signed our 2nd year lease, the friendship went downhill and a big argument led us to agreeing we would end our friendship but continue living together until the lease was up.

Most of the time we function well as roommates only. Other times, like today, she gets emotional about something or other and picks a fight with me, which usually ends up with me trying to remove myself from the situation and her following me around the house yelling about how no one cares about her feelings, I treat her like shit, she helps everyone out but no one supports her when she needs it, etc.

She doesn't have any friends besides her mom. She was laid off in March and hasn't seen anyone except for me since then. Due to our proximity and years of familiarity, she sometimes slips back into acting like we're friends again, but I would rather we didn't. I know she's very lonely.

The thing is...she's right. I don't care about her feelings. Not anymore. I wish her well in life but she is and always has been an emotionally draining person and I am done being the one that's drained. When she directs her frustration at me, I don't have the capacity to do anything except stare at her blankly until she wears herself out. That's what makes me feel like an asshole. Her social/life situation sucks, but we BOTH agreed to end the friendship and I don't feel it's my responsibility anymore to make her feel better. ######

Response: NTA and good for you for setting boundaries in your friendships! It’s not an easy thing to do. ######


Prompt:
I’m pretty sure I already know the answer to this, but here it goes anyway:

After 20 years of being a content screw-up, I finally decided to better myself and finish college. After earning my bachelor’s, I immediately went to grad school and earned my MBA this May.

Anyway, around the same time I initially decided to go back to school, my bro-in-law also decided to go back. He decided to pursue an associate’s degree in a trade.

Seeing as how he wasn’t working while he was going to school, he finished in two years. However, I was working full-time so it took me 7 years to finish both my bachelor’s and my MBA (I had finished most of my generals my first go-around 20 years earlier). I only say this because he would always make comments about how I’m ‘sure taking my time’ and how he finished way before me.

My family had a little celebration for me a few weeks ago and he kept making comments about how I’m finally his equal (emphasis on finally) and joined the ranks as a college graduate.

I didn’t say anything (nor would I) because I don’t want to diminish his accomplishment. At the same time, I can’t help but feel annoyed that he doesn’t seem to get that I had to put in a lot more work to get my degrees.

I guess it bothers me that I feel this way. After all, to him, his associate’s degree is a huge deal (and it is).

So, AIT(elitist)A?

TLDR: My bro-in-law keeps equating his associate’s degree to my master’s, and it bothers me. ######

Response:
 NTA and good for you for not bothering to push back or try to put him down. Take the high road and let his insecurity/self-ego-boost go unchallenged for the sake of family harmony.

Well-done on earning two degrees while working full time, that’s a commitment and a lot of work. Wishing you both success in your fields! ######


Prompt:
Okay, so I (15F) know the title sounds misleading, but please read through the whole post.

My aunt (we'll call her Sarah, 54F) is a very sweet person. She's been a "cool aunt", the one who gives us candy while we were kids, etc.

But as we grew up we kinda saw all her toxic traits, like holding children to unexpectable levels, bossing us around, being a bit racist (she wants my sister, who is a gorgeous brown black colour to put on a lot of whitening things, doesn't want anyone in our family to marry a guy/girl who is black, etc.)

So during quarantine, around the beginning of summer, we found that she had a non malignant tumor in her small intestine, and she underwent surgery in the area where I'm staying. She normally stays in another state, but now stays with us for some time.

Now, there's a kinda miraculous thing: there was no tumor, just a growth, which they scraped out, but now she's resting at home.

Now, most of the time I like having her around, and I love her, but she's bossing me around, making me clean every place, over feeding me (actually overfeeding me) and that was all kinds okay, but the last straw was when she would keep calling me to clean, to study (it's summer vacation) and when I complained of back pain (I'm having my periods) she completely brushed me off, saying little kids don't have anything like that, I'm [Sarah] the one who has pain, etc.
I felt really bad because she was invalidating my pain.

So I told her that even teenagers feel pain and things like that. I was actually yelling, and then my mom screamed at me because she says that Sarah is a patient and things like that. I don't really feel terrible, because each and every second of the first two months of summer were spent in taking care of Sarah and my dad (who's diabetic and has trunkal neuropathy.) I just feel like I don't get a second to myself. Also, I cook the meals along with my sister here.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA and from what you’ve described it sounds like the adults in your home need to start acting like adults ######


Prompt:
So a month ago my husband and I moved into our current house that we are renting from this guy. He also lives with us in the third bedroom. This was supposed to be a short term thing but because of obvious reasons we don't know how long we're going to be here. Neither of us has had a roommate before, we were both the first person we lived with other than family.

Anyway this morning I woke up earlier than usual so I made my husband and I breakfast. I made us eggs with toast. I used a total of 6 eggs and 2 pieces of bread. Our roommate came downstairs just as I was putting it on the table and was about to get my husband, and asked why he wasn't getting any. I was kind of surprised because I don't know why he would expect any. But he then got mad and said that he's paying for 1/3 of the groceries so he should be kept in mind if we're making something. The past month my husband and I have just been eating small stuff for lunch and dinner, no big cooking of meals or anything, mostly sandwiches and whatever we can scrounge up so it just hadn't come up yet.

I told him that I didn't make him any and if he wanted eggs there were more and he could make some himself. He said he should get some of what I made because he's paying for it and I should keep him in mind. I told him that what I used isn't more than 2/3 of what we had so it doesn't matter and I'm not going to cook a meal for him, I was just doing something nice for my husband. He said he was going to have to rethink our payment agreement for groceries.

Neither of us have ever had a roommate before as I said, so we don't know whether this guy is just strange or if I was really supposed to make him eggs.

AITA ######

Response: NTA and don’t share groceries with a roommate that’s a recipe for discord. ######