Prompt:
I have two daughters 9F and 7F.

My youngest has always been my family’s favourite, especially her fathers favourite because she’s more outgoing and confident, she loves climbing and football.

My eldest is more cautious and anxious, she isn’t as confident as her sister but that’s okay and I’m always telling her people learn in their own speed and have different personalities and skills.

It’s not a secret that my ex prefers our youngest; she looks like him more, she’s got blonde hair like he does and blue eyes and tans easily whilst our eldest looks like me with her ginger hair and dark eyes, he also claims our youngest has more personality.

My eldest has taken to trying to copy her younger sister, my ex believes it’s because she wants her younger sister to look up to her but I think it’s because her younger sister gets more attention.

My daughters spent the weekend with their dad and his girlfriend when he texted me saying my eldest is grounded because she wouldn’t stop crying and screaming at her stepmother.

This isn’t like my eldest so I asked why? Turns out she called my eldest a baby because she couldn’t do something her sister could do and was crying, if there’s something my eldest hates it’s being called baby, they know this!

Well ex’s girlfriend posted saying something like “When your eldest daughter throws a tantrum and you know they get it off their bio mother coddling them 😒😹”

I responded saying that she wouldn’t have cried had they not belittled her and put her sister on a peddlestall.

My ex texted me calling me an asshole for embarrassing his girlfriend and didn’t pick the kids up this weekend.

My mother thinks I should’ve bit my tongue and that I was an AH here too.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Like you said, kids all learn at their own pace. My 5 year old struggles with things my 4 year old does with ease, and vice versa.

Your ex's girlfriend shouldn't have belittled her like that, or taken to social media to voice her opinion *on a child*. Asshole. That's a no brainer.

Your ex shouldn't have let it happen, should have told his girlfriend off for speaking to his daughter like that, should have dragged her over the coals for posting on social media about it, and also shouldn't have essentially punished his kids by not seeing them. Asshole. He could have prevented a lot of this. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway for reasons.

My husband told me recently he wants to send money to his mother every month because she's not in good shape financially.

Thing is, this is entirely my MIL's fault, and entirely avoidable. She has unhealthy spending habits (she blew most of her savings on clothes and makeup because she didn't have as much success dating as she thought she should) and no impulse control. Her house is literally *full* of unopened kitchen appliances, training equipment that hasn't been used once, and piles of useless infomercial shit.

We lived with her for a time when our house was being renovated (which is the reason for my intense dislike but this is not a saga for this sub) and in that time she fell for two textbook scams and an MLM (that I know of). Each time we tried to warn her and each time she told us she knows better than us, she's older and we need to respect her.

In that time I found out that my husband started paying some of her CC bills without telling me. I was furious, chewed him out for hiding it from me and we moved out (yes, we paid our share of rent/bills).

So MIL is in financial trouble again and he wants to help out. I told him I will support him in getting her a carer of some sort or helping her set up a payment plan, but if he wants to give her money, it will come out of his fun/clothing/etc. budget but I will not agree to using our joint household funds. Now he's angry with me, says I don't care about his mother and want to punish him for being a good son.

AITA? ######

Response: Nta. Like you said she put herself in this position because she wanted to not because she’s disabled or sick. And I don’t blame you. I get he wants to be the “good son” but she’s not your financial responsibility. If he really wants to pay for all her things then let him. Just warn him that it better not affect what he contributes in your house and you don’t care if he has to get a second job just to afford your her lifestyle. Also make it clear that your not willing to have her live with you. ######


Prompt:
I had a heated argument with my mother about her lying.

She really likes to talk about me; especially if it's something that SHE thinks is correct, but is in fact a lie.
She thinks that she knows everything about me and that she can read my mind.
Especially in conversations with others where she would talk "for" me.

Today I told her that I really liked the one thing she brought with her about a week ago and wanted to ask her to buy it again sometime.

She looked at my dad and said: "Did you know that she ate it in one sitting?"
I was confused that she would lie about me.
Me: "That's not true."
She ignores me.
I say it again, loudly.
She still ignores me.
Me (yelling because I'm frustrated): "Why would you lie about me? It's not true! You're always doing this! Talking lies about me! Stop it already!"
Then she stormed out whilst saying: "You have cut my last nerve! Leave me in piece!"

I know that I overreacted, but I have tried talking to her so many times without results.

AITA here? ######

Response: NTA. Liars. I hate liars. The truth is the real source here. Liars will lead to be AH’s if they keep going. ######


Prompt:
For context: I am 16, mom is 49.

My mother’s grandfather passed away about a month ago. She was super close to him so it’s been really hard on her. She’s finding that she’s really sad (obviously) and having a hard time coping.

My mom usually doesn’t like materialistic gifts so I usually just write her a letter or a card or craft her something but I have a job as a tutor now so I wanted to buy her a little bit. I did write a card for her and got some other stuff but when I was browsing target I saw this thing called a “happy journal.” It basically consists of ideas to do for self care and happiness and a place to record her moods. I thought it was a thoughtful idea because she’s been sad lately and I wanted to acknowledge she was going through a tough time.

However, my friends told me it’s insensitive and I’m just marketing off of her sadness. I truly thought it was a good idea because she hasn’t been seeing her therapist due to quarantine and virtual therapy isn’t cutting it. I feel like a bad daughter and I’m hesitant to give it to her.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Let me tell you something, your friends don't know their assholes from their elbows. That is a very fantastic gift idea and very thoughtful. It shows you care, you listen and you understand. I would 100% give that gift to her and be proud doing it. Your friends need to find a new "cause" to jump on because this one isn't cutting it. ######


Prompt: Like I said in the title she totaled my car during Christmas break she gave me some money for the car but I was able to buy a decent car with my insurance money, (5,000 for the new car). The new car that I bought, I drove that up until last week when the transmission failed and the cost to fix it would be more than the car was worth, so I said screw it and I leased a new 2020 Honda Civic so I would have a reliable car and she's upset because I won't let her drive it. And with this coronavirus going on it's fairly difficult because the bus only runs at certain times, we dont live by any family and most of our friends live in different towns so they cant pick her up. I offered to pay for her to get an Uber or asked her to try to get a ride from a coworker. I drive her into work at 7am on my way to work, but she gets out at 4pm , I usually and dont get out of work until 6 or 7.  Am I the asshole in this situation? ######

Response: NTA. Let her be upset. Its a leased car. If she totals it again you are fucked badly. ######


Prompt: To get right down to it, my family is descended from Robert E. Lee. We don’t have the last name anymore, but if you have kids, it’s just a given in my family that one of them has to have Lee incorporated in there somewhere. Every year in June we have the “Lee family reunion” that I personally haven’t attended for years. I’m a girl, but I’m the firstborn of my siblings so my first name has Lee in it. I now have two kids of my own, a two year old and a five month old. Both of them are boys, neither of them have Lee anywhere close to their name. I love my family, but to be honest several of them are insanely racist and I just made the decision that I didn’t want to carry on the name or have my kids be any part of their bullshit. Who cares about some dead guy who lost his fight anyways. I’m convinced no one in my family actually cares about the “heritage” or ol’ Rob himself at all, he just happens to be famous so my family is a slut for the name. Obviously it’s been a bit of a hot topic recently. We have a “Lee family reunion” Facebook page, and the elders have been a bit snippy about the name not being carried on lately. Apparently a lot of people think it’s a really big deal and that all the attention shouldn’t be focused on the actions, but the “family” and the “heritage”. AITA for not continuing the tradition? ######

Response:
 NTA. Lee was an enemy general. The rebellion lasted less time than How I Met Your Mother was on the air. This is not heritage, any more than the third reich is German heritage.

Not all history is heritage, heritage is what we choose to continue. Looks pretty obvious what morals they want to continue. ######


Prompt:
 Last night I (24) did chores for my boyfriend (30). He was cleaning out pens and told me to leave when I was done with chores;after I finished I helped him move a feeder and said goodbye. He told me that he was going to come back to the apartment once he was done.

I woke up at 5 am and he wasn’t back yet. I texted me asking where he was and he said that was just got out of the ER. He flipped over the skid-steer. I first asked him if he was okay and than asked why he didn’t call or text me, or even his mother, and he said because I was sleeping.

I went to do chores at 5:30 and him and his mom just got back. He said I was making a big deal over him not letting me know about going to the ER. I said a simple “hey this happened but I am fine. I’ll call you when I leave” but I didn’t get anything.

Am I the asshole of being upset? Keep in mind he posted a Snapchat story about being in the ER before he told me. ######

Response:
 NTA. Last year in the winter my father, mother and I were in a different state for vacation, and during that time my grandmother fell and cracked her head open twice (the first time she actually declined medical treatment so that's why twice).

She was going to my house to feed the cats, and had lost the key in the midst of the accident. She actually had to call my great uncle, get him to get a locksmith to rip off the door lock, and get inside so the cats wouldn't starve.

Nobody told us for two days, until my dad called my great uncle to ask him to check on her because she wasn't answering. Apparently, they decided it was best not to say *anything*, because they wanted us to "enjoy our vacation".

I think it just made everything worse, because we spent like two days panicking and we almost called the police for a wellfare check. People need to communicate about stuff like that. ######


Prompt: I'm a 13M I have a twin sister 13F (comes into context later) our mom had us when she was 15 years old and our dad was 17. My mom is now 28 and my dad is 30. When we were born our dad signed over all the the custody to our mom. When my dad turned 19 and we were 2 he was basically non existent in our lives. 2 days after our 9th birthday our grandma on our dads side contacts our mom begging to get to see us. So we go on a vist with our mom there and bam there is dad. From 9 to 11 was basically redo of a custody battle that was already over at birth. Now we are 13 our mom and dad hate each other but they try to get along for us and our dad takes us out to do stuff every Sunday. With lockdown happening that wasnt possible so we would face time and stuff. Today during the face time season he told us that he is going to get a tattoo on his left side that says "jazmin, jordi [last name here] 03 - 20 - 2007" now as much as I appreciate the sentiment I am extremely uncomfortable with this. But I also feel bad because he has been on record saying how much it hurts us we dont have his last name and he is getting our legal last names tattooed on him if he goes through with this. My father is in a lot better place then he was when we were 9. He has a steady job he can live off of and everything. I'm not saying he might regret it later. I just think it's a bad idea overall. Would I be the asshole if I bring that up? ######

Response: NTA. Kinda feels like your father is doing this as a form of penance for not being there, but if so, he really needs to be open to the fact that you might be uncomfortable with such a thing. Your relationship is still relatively new, and quite complicated; it's not a straight line to a normal parent-child situation and can't really be expected to be just yet. ######


Prompt:
Backstory: my older sister (40) is sick. Has been going blind. Not entirely sure what is wrong. This has been going on for about 6 months now. She has her good days and her bad days. However, her bad days are bad. Doesn’t want to get out of bed, headaches, worse vision, etc.

Now here is where my mom comes in. She is constantly texting/calling us (brother, other sister, and myself) to tell us my sister’s latest status. If we don’t show sympathy or call my sister within 24hrs, we get a group text saying how disappointed she is in us. At this point, I think we have all just gotten numb to her bad days knowing that it will get better in a day or two and she will be fine.

Today, sister texted the family chat saying that her vision has been the worst it’s been since Tuesday. Nobody said anything for 15 minutes. 15 mins is enough time for someone to be taking a shower, making dinner, having sex, whatever. Mom sends a text to me, other sister, and brother saying how disappointed she is in us (yet again) because we didn’t respond in 15 mins. So I absolutely lost my shit on her. I told her that we aren’t glued to our phones, have lives to attend to and that our lives don’t stop the second we get a text message. I told her that of course we feel bad for our older sister, but give us some fucking time to respond before guilting us into it and stop micromanaging our lives. It wasn’t like the family group text changed the subject after my oldest sister texted us. We all just were doing something else. And honestly did not see her text to respond in 15 god damn minutes.

So, AITA for telling my mom to chill the fuck out with the guilt trips? ######

Response: NTA. Kind of in the same situation but with a dialed back frequency. Once you hear someone is sick, they haven’t gotten better and it’s over the course of years, of course it’s sad and tough to hear, but you start to not get phased by it, and you don’t react. Your mom is treating sympathy like it’s a form of currency. All I can say is I’m there if they need anything. I’m not rich, I can’t offer anything of actual value monetarily. I would speak only with your sister and let he know you’re there for her and to just ignore mom. ######


Prompt: I’m a 22 year old girl and a couple days ago my bfs cousin who’s 6 had a birthday party. It was hot so I came in a tank and short jean shorts. When I got there my bf told me he wanted to me to go home and change he thought my outfit was inappropriate for a children’s party. I didn’t believe it was at all. I got pretty angry with him and instead I just left and stayed home. He told me I blew it out of proportion and easily could’ve just changed. Now I’m just sitting here wondering if I handled it the right way or if I should’ve done anything different. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Kids don't give any kind of a shit how we dress, its us that tell them to care.
You didn't have an argument at the party and you didn't cause a scene there either, you just went home and stayed. ######


Prompt: Yes, I am 35 and have a 10yo half-brother from my father's second marriage. I am sort of a quasi-father/brother to my younger brother, My father and his wife were not planning on having kids so they were not prepared. My brother is a really cool kid and he spends a lot of time with me and my wife. His school got shutdown and home schooling doesn't cover the "puberty" discussion. He clearly is on the cusp of puberty. His hygiene consists of a short shower, brushing teeth, rinsing and that's it. It's clear he needs to up his hygiene game. I bought a "bro kit" for his age which consists of deodorant, electric toothbrush, good body wash, facial pads, etc. He needs some, but not all thought I don't think it's ever too early to start. I already know his mom will be upset by it and question it. I know if I try to talk to her or my dad, it will go in one ear and out the other. ######

Response: NTA. Kid needs to learn hygiene or he’s gonna be the smelly kid at school. Why does his mom not want him to be clean? ######


Prompt:
My friend had these really, really dirty (and old ish?) Nikes that she told me she was gonna get rid of, because “cleaning them is impossible and too much work”.

They were not too bad off, just dirty and even in my size! So me being a broke university student asked if I could have them, and she said yes, do what you want with them. I normally save all of my money, so no new shoes in a while, boy was I happy!

She gave me the shoes some days before the lockdown, so we haven’t seen eachother in about two months before this past saturday.

I had cleaned the shoes really intense, and actually used many hours and money on it. We had a little get together with some of our friends (yes, my country is NOT in lockdown anymore, it is very controlled).

At this get together she saw the shoes, and said “oh Thank you *my name*, you fixed up my shoes!”. At this point i thought she was joking, and said something like “yeah, they just needed a little love to shine perfectly white and bright again”.

She then started asking why I had them on, and if I could take HER shoes off - at this point i was like ????, and told her she gave them to me, so i would not take them off.

Most friends are on my side and are saying that because she would have dumped them in the trash and GAVE them to me, they are mine. I sure as hell think they belong to me too, because 1) she gave them to me, and 2) I spend a lot of money and time to fix them and 3) SHE GAVE THEM TO ME.

She is accusing me of stealing them and that i was only “borrowing them”. She left quikly, and some of the others said i was kinda an asshole for not giving them back.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Keep the shoes, ditch the friend. ######


Prompt:
My older sister (17f) goes out at around 9-11pm almost every night to go "get groceries" when, in reality, she just goes to buy herself multiple bags of clothes and snacks and brings back very limited groceries (like a gallon of milk or orange juice). She'll buy the clothes with her money about half the time and she uses my mom's card the other half. My mom definitely spoils her more than me and my twin sister.

Every time she gets home, she honks the horn over and over and over. She will do this for over 30 minutes until either me, my twin sister, or my parents come out to help her. She usually doesn't even have more than 4 bags so I don't understand why she always "needs" help.

She doesn't send a text or anything. She just honks the horn. My mom has told her numerous times to stop doing it because her and my twin sister have anxiety and the sudden honking can easily push them over the edge. It also wakes up people, like me, who like to go to bed earlier. I told my mom last time that I wasn't going to help her next time she did this. My mom was fine with this. I also told my older sister and she replied with "Yeah, ok then" and rolled her eyes.

Tonight at around 9:30pm, she arrived home from the store and started honking again. I was in the living room (not sleeping, just scrolling through reddit) when she scared the crap out of me by honking again. I followed through with what I said last time and didn't move. My parents and sister also decided to do the same thing, but they were on the other side of the house. I watched as she brought in three bags. Three. Bags. THREE. She literally brought them all in in one trip.

She is currently yelling at me for not getting up to help her since I had nothing else better to do. I'm a (wo)man of my word. COULD I have helped? Yeah. Did I want to? NOPE! So AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Keep ignoring her. Nobody needs help carrying in three bags, nor does someone need to go shopping every night. ######


Prompt:
My brother and sister-in-law are both in the medical field. The coronavirus has them thinking about the possibility they leave their two underaged boys orphaned if the unthinkable were to happen. My brother’s wife asked if I would take care and custody of the boys if they both were to pass away for whatever reason. I initially told her I would do whatever they needed me to do, but that my sister who is already raising a family is probably better suited. I’m single with no kids, never married.

Here's the thing: I don’t like my brother. He was a terrible bully growing up who took every opportunity to tease, torment, and belittle me if he wasn’t simply neglecting my existence. He was selfish to the extreme and my parents, who were too busy trying to put food on the table, tolerated it and thus indulged it. We’ve never had a friendly relationship and an episode of utter callousness on his part in our 20’s was the last straw for me; I didn’t speak to him for the next 15 years. His treatment of me has affected me in numerous ways to this day (I’m in my 40’s): my self-confidence, my relationship with my parents, my general misanthropy . . . repeatedly being called stupid and ugly growing up has a way of staying with a person.

My brother’s family and I are more cordial now, but only for my elderly parents’ sake. We interact during the holidays when I put on a good face. Otherwise, I have no interest in having anything to do with my brother or his family. I know that once my parents pass away (I hate even thinking about it), I’ll never interact with my brother again. I simply don't see myself being a part of their lives.  I’m thinking I should let my sister-in-law know this so she can make alternative plans for her kids and not rely on me. AITA for not wanting to take care of her children? WIBTA if I were to tell her this? ######

Response: NTA. Just tell her no, and if she pushes, explain why if you feel comfortable and haven't told her what a horrible person your brother has been to you your entire life. ######


Prompt:
I live with my parents and brother.

My dad has a habit of making jokes. He'll comment about my place being in the kitchen because I'm a girl, or joke about our animals (17 pigs (the livestock kind), 6 cats, 4 chickens, and a dog) not liking me versus another family member, just little mean jabs here and there.

This honestly hurts. I have c-ptsd from a previous abusive relationship where I was repeatedly degraded and insulted, and I hate this. But if I politely ask him to stop, I'm being too sensitive, I'm being ridiculous. It's usually met with a scoff and an eye roll.

AITA for asking my dad to quit? ######

Response: NTA. Just pretend you don't get it. Make him explain every single "joke." Deadpan face and sincerely ask him to explain it. It'll get old for him real quick (I hope!). ######


Prompt:
OK so I (26F) in a bit of a predicament. I love my dad very much, and we have a great relationship. We share a lot of interests and we have a special bond. I have no doubt that my dad has my best interests at heart, but he can be a little distracted at times.

My step-mom and I also have a good relationship, but she can be a very firm and headstrong woman, where my dad is a little softer. They have two sons together, (M15 and M17), who I also have a great relationship with but as any mother would, she sometimes favors them over me. This has bothered me in the past, but as I'm not her real daughter I've made my peace with it.

The other day I was visiting them and having dinner and we somehow got into the subject of wills and testaments, and it was kinda revealed that if my stepmom dies, my dad inherits everything and will likely pass things to my brother. It got me wondering, if my dad dies, will she inherit everything to do with as she pleases? Because in that case, I suspect that everything will go to my brothers.

My dad means everything to me, and the thought of him passing is a thought I don't think if I can avoid it, but what kills me even more would be if he died and I would have nothing of his. I don't really care about money, I care about the things we've bonded over together. For example he has a small library that we've spent countless hours in, which my stepmom and brother has had no interest in.

So the question is; WIBTA if I brought up my inheritance with him? I don't want to come off greedy, I really don't, but I'm afraid that I will inherit nothing from my dad.

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TLDR: If my dad dies, I will likely inherit nothing, WIBTA if I brought up my inheritance with my dad? ######

Response: NTA. Just make sure you bring it up the right way. I would tell him that the conversation from earlier has you wondering about his own will and you were curious about who he was leaving things to. I would express your interest in the library. Say that while what he does is entirely up to him that there are sentimental items that you would be interested in. Things that you would not want to sell off, but rather keep in the family. Things that have meaning beyond monetary value. ######


Prompt:
Background: I was a late bloomer and had my first kiss and lost my virginity at 27. I was overweight and unconfident in myself, until I got therapy and started working out. About a year ago I reached my goals, and I am going to brag, I look fucking good.

I got way more attention from women after that, and since I was late to the game I decided that I wanted to experience the hookup life. So I would go to bars and use dating apps to hookup.

One of my friends, Sam, who I have known since I was in my early 20s absolutely despises that I do this. Sam calls me immature for hooking up with girls at my age. Usually I keep my mouth shut, and she stops talking about it.

A couple of days ago Sam heard that I am planning to hookup with a few girls after everything opens back up, and she flipped out on me sending me this long text calling me immature, creepy, etc. This time I didn't hold my tongue, and I told Sam that it's none of her business what I am doing. I told her that she is a hypocrite, since she had her hookup phase in college as well. I explained that just because I didn't have to opportunity to experience that during college like everyone else doesn't mean I am going to miss out because she is uncomfortable. My last line was "I am going to keep doing what I am doing, so drop it because I don't need this toxicity in my life."

She hasn't texted back, but word has gotten around in my friend group about our confrontation. They agree its none of her business, but most of them say I was too hard on her and she is just "looking out for me." So reddit did I go too far? Was I the AH? ######

Response: Nta. Just make sure you are getting std screenings to be safe and use protection. You don't want a one night hookup to be a 18 year to lifelong commitment. ######


Prompt:
So, I (17M) was just relaxing at home with my little brother (11) and my mother’s girlfriend’s son (7). My mom and her girlfriend left the house without any warning and didn’t tell me or the two little ones where they were going. This is pretty normal, they usually will come back with grocery’s or tell me they went to go run some errands when they get back.

I had ordered lunch for pickup and when it was ready I left the two children to go grab my lunch. I told them I’d be right back and where I was going, and also told them to call me if something went wrong and if something REALLY serious went wrong, call 911 first and not me.

When I got back home with my food, the car my mom and her girlfriend took for the day was in the driveway. I walked in the door and immediately started getting questioned by my mom’s girlfriend about why I left the kids there. My mom was fine with it, my little brother has stayed home alone for short periods of time before and it’s not a problem. My mom’s girlfriend was upset because her son is only 7 and something really bad could’ve happened.

I told her that her child isn’t my responsibility, especially when she hasn’t notified me or even asked me to watch after him while she was gone, and that she should find a babysitter if she’s that worried about me leaving for 5 minutes.

So, am I the asshole for leaving her son alone without proper supervision or is she just being irresponsible by leaving her child with me without telling me? ######

Response: NTA. Just like you said, if she expected you to be in charge of her kid she probably should have asked you to do so. ######


Prompt:
Some backstory:
     So last November I (18F) moved in with my now ex-boyfriend (22M) to an apartment with 2 other people. These two people are married and we were friends with before moving in together. The husband (20M), we'll call him John, is in the military and his wife (20F), we'll call her Abby, worked part time at some store.
    Recently John came back from a deployment and immediately upon him getting home she got pregnant. Now since she's been pregnant the chores that need to be done around the house haven't been getting down (dishes, trash, etc.). Now we don't take turns doing these chores but previously we had a talk and its a general rule that you wash your own dishes and if you see the trash needs to be taken out just take it out. But about a week and a half go John and Abby decided to cook and left their dishes in the sink, which is no biggy, but by the 3rd day they were in the sink I confronted John while he was sitting in the kitchen and asked if he was going to clean up the dishes.
    He responded with "well Abby and I have both cleaned up the kitchen by ourselves why don't you."
   I said "well they're not my dishes, why doesn't Abby just wash them"
    He drops in the excuse that she's pregnant and doesn't want her doing a whole lot (which I understand) so I just left it alone. And my ex ended washing the dishes later that day because they had piled up and it was getting annoying.
   Now this isn't the only situation that this has been an issue. But I told my ex that I'll be moving out because I don't feel respected and he says I'm in the wrong. ######

Response: NTA. Just imagine how it is going to be when they have a baby. ######


Prompt:
Okay so this is pretty funny I know
I got fired today from a studio I was working in as a tattoo artist. I did not get a proper reason to why and my boss fired me over text. I'm pretty upset over it and I lashed out on him because he sees me almost everyday yet did not have the guts to do it face to face. He also did not complain about anything I've done (nor my tattoos) and just couldn't seem to give me an actual valid reason so I'm still confused.

I can't sue him because we don't have a contract and I'm a freelancer (most tattoo artist in my country are freelancers)

I also had to find another job because he didn't forward any clients to me (I still don't have enough of my own clients to provide for me.) Anyway I didn't really lose any money over this.

Okay to the point-
I had a really great pair of scissors and I brought it to the studio for the staff and for me to use because the studio had only very shitty scissors and no one bothered to buy any new ones. (Also I would bring baked goods and whatnot all the time, made sketches for my boss to tattoo... I did A LOT in that studio)

So my scissors are the most popular ones in the studio right now and i want them back.

I want to take them back without telling anyone.
I know it's pretty passive aggressive of me but I feel like this was really unfair and screw the owner??

So WIBTA if I take them back without anyone knowing? They are used by everyone so they're not really only mine when they're there. ######

Response: NTA. Just go back and say tell whoever is there you are getting your stuff since you’ve been terminated. Then just get your scissors and anything else that’s yours. ######


Prompt:
So for a while now I’ve owned two horses, mine and my daughters (13F) and they’re about 4 now.

2 years ago my sister got her daughter a horse, my niece is 12 now.

They usually only visit Fri,Sat & Sun for about 2hours so I usually let them into the field of a morning, groom them and put them away of a night which I charge £30 every two weeks.

(The field isn’t attached to our house, it’s on the other side of the road.)

We’re planning on moving, its a 5hr 12min drive meaning my sister couldn’t  drive here as frequently and she can’t afford to rent the field her daughters horse is in currently.

I told her I’d keep her horse up here for her daughter for £160 a month which includes caring for the horse.

She’s offered to sell me the horse.

I’m considering it, I did say I’d be willing to pick her daughter up for the weekends but that isn’t possible as the weekends are my nieces fathers custody agreement.

I’ve been getting called/texted by family members saying what an AH I am for exploiting family/stealing my nieces horse when I can afford to do it for free especially while she’s going through a hard time (her parents divorced)

WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA. Just because they have personal stuff going on doesn't mean their pets are your responsibility. Horses are expensive to keep and maintain. If she's willing to sell you the horse then ok but if the family is so concerned about their struggle them why don't they pitch in and pray for the costs? ######


Prompt:
So first and foremost I must say my parents are amazing but their siblings and parents aren't as great as my parents are. When I was younger I had always wanted to be with my Aunt's and grandparents to spend time with them yet they would always ignore me in favor of my cousin who was a year older than me. At that point in my life it was only my cousin and I being the children in the family. Fast forward a few years and it was no longer just my cousin and I. It was My cousin, her brother, my sister, and I. I was sorta hoping that with two new additions they would no longer be able to focus on purely one person. I was right. They focused on my sister, and both my cousins always forgetting I was a part of the picture. This always lead to awkward holidays where everyone was having fun and I felt stuck like I was talking to strangers.

Now a days, my grandpa passed away and the family was devastated. all of them posting stuff on Facebook like "I've lost all ties to this family" or "My family is falling apart". It also just so happened that I had finally finished school and landed myself a nice job that lets me travel yet it's only now after I've left that they are trying to build a relationship with me. My parents asked me to please just try to talk to them and be nice but I always respond with "Why should I be there for them if they were never there for me?"

I feel like I'm justified in thinking this but I still feel a little like an asshole. Everyone tells me that I need to get over it because they are blood. But blood doesn't always mean family right?

So AITA?

TL/DR: AITA for refusing to talk to my family because they were never there for me? ######

Response: NTA. Just because they are technically family does not mean you have to be close or have a relationship with them. ######


Prompt:
Sorry for formatting, also English is not my first language.

Throwaway cause she knows my username. I know the title sounds bad.

I (f, 20) have had a boyfriend since 2018, pretty damn healthy relationship. I'm also bisexual with a preference for men.

Basically a few days ago a gay girl (f, 19) told me she liked me. She knows that I'm bi. Our conversation went something like this

Gay girl (gg): Listen here, (my name), I have a crush on you.

Me: Okay? But you know that I have a boyfriend.

GG: That's all you're going to say?

Me: Yeah? What am I supposed to say?

GG: Don't you like me back?

Me: No. You know I'm okay with my relationship.

GG: But you said you're bi! ((((here she started getting mad))))

Me: I am bi but my relationship is healthy and I don't have any feelings towards you

GG: ((((started yelling things I didn't understand and that I'm homophobic))))

Of course after that I hung up without saying bye. Yesterday her friends started messaging me that I'm an asshole for not giving her a chance. I don't want to give her a chance cause I'm happy and I tried explaining that but they still insist that I'm an asshole. After her friends started messaging me I called her and told her to tell them to stop that because thats fucking harassment. She said they were not going to stop so I told her that I don't even like her as a person right now.

so reddit

AITA for not liking a gay girl? ######

Response: NTA. Just because someone shares the same sexuality as you doesn't mean you have to feel a mutual attraction to them. ######


Prompt:
Even though I live in a wealthy neighbourhood, people seem to not want to bother putting up fences for their dogs or even if they do put their dogs in the front Yard without being leashed to anything.
Usually it’s not that big of a problem but, today it was.

As I was walking my dog, another dog ran out of it yard and came towards us. He wasn’t barking or anything, I think he just wanted to say hello but, I’m very cautious of other dogs and I just kept walking. The dog followed us past a few houses (so for at least a couple minutes), and stopped to pee, we kept walking about a minute later I heard yelling looked back. A man was running frantically at the dog, a car was coming down the way and swerved out of the way. The man (the owner) sternly yelled at the dog, was able to grab it and take it home. To be clear I was down the road by now and while I saw what happened I wasn’t close at all.

I went on with my walk and about an hour later on the way back, passed the house with the dog. As I had passed the house and was halfway passed the next house, the man that opened came out of his house and started calling after me. At first I didn’t realise he was calling after me and kept walking but when he continued to yell “hey” I tried around and said “me?”

He started going off about how it was my fault his dog was almost hit by a car. I should have caught his dog and brought it back to his house.

I countered his argument and said “actually if you had been keeping a close eye on your dog, he wouldn’t have wondered off. It’s your responsibility to watch after your dog and not mine.”

The man huffed at my argument, waved his hand at me and walked away. AITA?

To be clear a lot of the reason I didn’t bother with the dog is because I assumed the owner was close by and would call the dog back to him. Plus it wouldn’t have been easy to grab the dog and walk him back to his house as he didn’t have a leash and I had a dog if my own I was walking ######

Response: NTA. Just because someone decides to be irresponsible with the animals that he keeps doesn't mean the rest of us need to pick up the slack. If he doesn't want his dog to run away, he needs to invest in a leash and/or a fence, and not to rely on the passersby to watch their animal for them. ######


Prompt:
These past few weeks, my mom has been trying to convince me to leave my son with her because she’s been lonely because my dad died recently but my wife and I refused because Of what she did that last time we left our son (8m)

My mom has become a very big conspiracy theorist and we left our son with her for a month because we wanted to go on a trip together. When he went back to school, they were talking about 9/11 and he immediately piped up “my grandma said the zionisy jews did it” we got a call from his teacher asking what is my mom teaching him. It embarrassed us both and I called her up asking what the fuck is she telling my kid. She just tried to defend herself with “it’s true, Besides do you know how many Jews died in 9/11? None!” I just hung up so that’s why I’m wondering if I did the right thing in refusing? ######

Response:
 NTA. Just because she's your mom doesn't mean she needs alone time with your son.
Not only should we still be distancing from those we dont live with....she is trying to indoctrinate him.
No 8yo needs hear 9/11 conspiracy theories. ######


Prompt: I really like to draw and my mom supports me on that. Recently she got me a new sketch book when she went out, I've had the book for 1 month or so then a couple days ago she told me that she looked through the book, I was visibly upset ( I've told people before that i do not like it when they look through my sketch book without  my approval) I told her in the nicest way possible that was my book and it's not hers to just flip through whenever she wants.  Then she starts  yelling at me telling me that she bought it and she could look through it whenever she wanted. I try to defend myself telling her that I would decide if I wanted anyone to see it but she kept cutting me off. I was pretty pissed and left. I feel like I might be the asshole because shes my mom and she encouraged me to draw when my family wouldn't accept it as a career choice. I know this is not as dramatic as other posts but please I want to know AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Just because she helps you financially doesn’t mean you don’t deserve privacy. Honestly parents that think just cause they pay they can snoop in your stuff are the worst. ######


Prompt:
I [20 M] live with my mum and brother [8]. I've wanted a switch since it came out but life and other hobbies have gotten in the way. Over the quarentine my expenses have gone down since I no longer have to buy food at uni, and I should have enough pocket money to pay off the rest of this year's fees and to get a Switch.

However, my brother's been very uncooperative with studying as he wants to play videogames all day instead. Because of this my mum has told me to not get a Switch, as she wants to cut my brother's gaming time and feels that even if I were the one to get the switch with my own money, he'd still see it as a reward.

I've already decided to not got the Switch to keep the peace, but am I the only one who feels it's unfair that my brother's misbehaving is directly affecting what I can do with my own money?

INFO EDIT: I could absolutely keep it in my room and restrict his access to it. If I was really commited I could probably have it without him ever knowing (although I probably wouldn't go that far) ######

Response:
 NTA. Just because it is in the house does not mean you or your mother have to let him play it, especially if he isn't fulfilling his responsibilities with school work.

She's asking you to sacrifice something you want to make it easier on herself to parent. It's nice that you're willing to do that, but letting an 8 year old control how the house works is never going to end well. ######


Prompt: I am a 28-year-old female, married (almost 4 years) and we have 2 1/2 year old at home. My husband and I have been kicking the idea of getting pregnant again so that our daughter has a sibling and friend to grow up with. My older sister (29) just got married last November and after their cruise in February wanted to “start trying.” Heard no news from them in March so we started trying ourselves because I really wanted another baby and really wasn’t sure if they were serious or not. Fast forward to April we found out we are pregnant. We just told my parents last weekend (middle of May) and now my sister is upset and calling me selfish for not waiting until after they got pregnant first before trying ourselves. She says that I’m going to steal the spotlight and when they get pregnant no one will care. (Side note back in 2018 I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks so that’s why this time I waited before telling anyone) I'm excited that I am pregnant, but I definitely don’t need all the excitement for round two, when she does get pregnant I am going to be so happy for her, I just wish she would be happy for me as well. AITA for not waiting till my sister gets pregnant with her first before trying for our second? ######

Response:
 NTA. Joy for babies isn’t like pie, it doesn’t run out. Your sister is being silly.

Edited to add: the entire pie discussion that has unfurled totally made my day. What entertainment! OP should serve pie at her baby shower. ######


Prompt:
This is so stupid I can't even believe I am typing it out on my mobile but here it is folks cabin fever maybe getting to me so I need some nonbias perspective on this.

So my BF and I are gamers, currently, both of us are WFH. Now, normally gaming time is limited for both of us because of long hours at work and weekends are reserved for downtime. We each have our own systems I have a ps4 pro he has an Xbox one. I personally don't like the Xbox platform (I have my reasons) while he is a lot more versatile. So I will stick to gaming on my ps4 while he bounces in between the two.

Usually, he will every once in a great while play on the ps4. But lately, he's been playing only been playing it for the last two weeks it's to the point where I don't even get a chance to play. Plus the ps4 is in our bedroom he will play into the wee hours of the morning while I'm trying to sleep (I never do this to him). He knows I don't like the Xbox, I also am not into the type of he has for it I like RPGs and buy these, while he buys more strategic games or MMO first-person shooter games which admittedly I hate lol. Idk why but I get very disoriented while playing them. Not only this but he's gone in and beat some of the games I was playing so now I have to start all over.

When I've hinted I would like to play on the ps4 he will say oh just a bit longer, or why don't you go play a game on the Xbox. Basically just brushing me off and it's starting to really aggravate the piss out of me. WIBTA if I told him he needs to stop playing on my ps4 constantly and finishing my games? And also that he's being rude playing at night in the bedroom when I am trying to sleep? ######

Response: NTA. Jesus. He's not even making his own save files!? Not cool. ######


Prompt:
I was with my former spouse for many many years. Turns out he was unfaithful to me for almost every one of those years. He ended up confessing he was in love with my sister and wanted to be with her as well. At first I was crushed and dumbfounded. I felt powerless to stop the situation.  Eventually I left my spouse. I tried seeing other people just to have another family member of mine manipulate me with the guy I was seeing at the time and they got together behind my back. He dumped me and kicked me out of the room we shared.

I didn't stop trying to see people.. but I kept it more casual, less commital. That was until I met my current bf of almost a year now. I decided that he made me happy and recently decided to move. My sister claims I abandoned her, my ex spouse and their kids. AITA for moving on with my life ? ######

Response: NTA. Jesus, your family members are husband-stealing vultures. You are right to get as far away as possible. Enjoy your happy, healthy relationship without toxic people from your shitty past coming in and ruining it. ######


Prompt:
my partner when they were younger had issues with some older men saying they hoped they shaved their genitals. My partner mentioned something today about how bare female genitals make them uncomfy and said anyone who wants to be with someone who shaves is a creep. I asked what purpose pubic hair served, cause I honestly didnt know, guess its hygenic or somethin' cool. My partner then began to say people shouldnt shave, and it was weird if they did. I argued that if someone wants to do something to themselves like shave they can, its the individuals choice.

This was a bad thing to say. I was being accused of supporting something very gross and accused of being one. I denied and tried to clarify that i simply supported ones choice over their own hair situation and nothing beyond that. This went back and forth for a good while. And my partner asked if i would prefer if they shaved, to which i responded "I dont care, its your choice."

Again the wrong move. I am now disgusting and dont love my partner. They asked why i didnt stand with them on this, i told them it was because theyre advovating for social norms to be that we tell people to NOT shave instead of letting them make their own choice. As of this moment in time thats where we stand.

AITA for not siding with my partner, even though I disagree with what theyre saying? ######

Response:
 NTA. Jesus, you are allowed your own opinion!
Sure, pubic hair does serve a biological purpose and the pressure for women to be clean shaven is ridiculous and unrealistic but many women prefer to do it for their own reasons and you are only advocating for personal choice. ######


Prompt:
I've been diagnosed with S.I.H. my brain is nearly constantly inflamed and my veins are full up of blood or something else . either way , my brainstem is very inflamed and this causes me to hear things constantly, along with pain, feeling sick, hearing loss, fluid building up in my head , seizures, brain fog etc .

my parents have been treating me worse the sicker i get .

when i tell them what my illness is , they ignore it , then a few days later repeatedly ask why i am the way i am, like they just dont get it.

when i tell them im having a headache they say 'oh it's that computer you're on' - matter of factly, COMPLETELY ignoring my diagnosis when stabbing headaches are one of the core symptoms .

when i explain my muscle seizures , they have mocked me by copying me when im having an episode and call me 'crazy' even though i cant help it .

they also keep yelling at me for talking loud which i cant help because my hearing is affected also .

i also get insulted for being a 'lazy bastard' because i am bed bound 20 hours a day because im sleep deprived because the hearing things keep me up for hours on end , only after about five hours of lying down , do they fade enough to not make me really anxious and stressed.

ive also had them threaten to hit me because i forgot what bin to put something in . i tried to explain the memory loss and how a doctor says i have a type of dementia (which is a symptom of S.I.H when it is chronic) and i forget things. they gaslight me by saying 'well i forget things too, so how can i still feed myself?' and whatnot.

WIBTA for actually raising my voice and getting assertive with my parents? ######

Response: NTA. Jesus Christ, this is a messed-up family situation. I'd say you wouldn't be going far enough by just being assertive, do you think it would be physically possible for you to find a place of your own? Otherwise, I know people like this and even if you do get them off your back by standing up for yourself it'll probably only be temporary. ######


Prompt:
Hi all! I'm pretty sure I'm the asshole here but I wanted to be certain and maybe get a bit of advice on how to move

Me [20F] and my bf [20M] were eating lunch in the kitchen today. We were reading funny Reddit comments to each other and I found an interesting fact on bees and decided to share it.

This for context: "Male honey bees are called drones and their only purpose is reproduction. They don’t even have a stinger. When they succeed in mating with a queen, their genitals explode and they die. If they don’t succeed in mating with a queen, they are dragged out of the hive by the worker bees (female) before winter, and die."

I told him this pretty excitedly because I thought it was the kind of cool slightly gross fact we love to share. He didn't think so and started getting aggressive over how it's a gendered offensive comment and I should basically know better. I tried to defuse it but it didn't work.

He started talking about how it was unfair that men were getting attacked just for being male and that people are using animals to make extrapolations on men. I tried to explain it was a cool bee fact but he blamed me for reading gendered comments from shitty subreddits. He started going on about job inequalities and how women get more benefits and he stalked out of the kitchen.

Later when he walked by me he said "Hi, Slut" really angrily.
Now I'm sitting here 7 hours later and he's still furious at me.

I'm pretty sure it was my bad from the start and I should have picked better things to share, but I feel his reaction is a bit unfair as well. AIT (only) A? ######

Response:
 NTA. Jesus Christ someone is insecure and projecting hard. Does he often blow up at you and treat you poorly over nothing just to make it feel like your fault?

Edit to add: someone who calls you a slut does not love you by the way ######


Prompt:
I was in a discussion with a few friends and peers, many of whom work in jobs adjacent to the comic book industry, and someone brought up how rare it was for comics, franchises and characters made by people of color to find any kind of financial success, and they then added the qualifier that even fewer of them are made for the same "communities" as their creators. Someone specifically started asking for recommendations of works made by people of color in order to be able to support them.

I then pointed out how *Astroboy* debuted in 1952, made by, for and about the Japanese, and plenty of manga and anime are exported that do not at all attempt to hide the fact that they take place in Japan with a mostly Japanese cast and staff; if anything, there was even a period of time where western-made works attempted to present themselves as being Japanese because of a perceived cachet attached to the nation.

Some objected because they said that the characters in many anime and manga are drawn to "look white" with large eyes and hair and eye colors that ethnic Japanese individuals can't achieve, I countered by saying that many Japanese works include distinct aspects of Japanese culture to the point where no one could be confused about the characters being anything but Japanese. Someone else said that the Japanese have not faced the widespread discrimination other people of color have and did not need our "help"; I countered by saying that the Japanese hold the rare distinction of being one of the few ethnic groups in America to have ever been forcibly imprisoned and that they were effectively colonized following WWII.

This started a bit of a hullabaloo in the group chat and I was privately asked to drop the subject, and I relented, but the chat kept on going on for hours after I stopped paying attention.

If it's at all relevant, I am actually a Hispanic man and a "visible" person of color (as opposed to, say, being highly "white passing"). ######

Response:
 NTA. Japanese people still face discrimination outside of Japan. The other person has to define what they mean by people of color if Japan doesn't count and defend why.

Whiteness is a very specific construct that other groups can become, like what happened with the Irish. Jewish people can pass as white and still be persecuted as nonwhite.

Also look up the ainu people of Japan.
Sure the Japanese aren't persecuted in Japan but Mexican people aren't persecuted for being Mexican in Mexico either.

Edit: They might specifically mean Americans (or whatever country your in) of color, in which case it would make more sense. Of course homogeneous societies will still have media that's popular in their society made by their people. But even then Japan is still really unique in having popular media widely disseminated outside their borders. Not a lot of famous Iranian television over here. ######


Prompt: Every single night, my neighbors would blast loud rap music at all hours of the night. I got tired of it and approached them on their porch. They mocked me and told me to get over it and that it was a free country. So, what I did, originally, was play my own rock music. They knocked on my door and told me the exact same thing I told them. I asked them how it felt for the shoe to be on the other foot and slammed the door. I then stopped the music. The next night, they did the same thing. I knocked on the door and told them if they continued that I would call the cops. They all laughed at me and told me to do it and called me a pussy. I went back to my house, they continued, and I sure as shit called the cops. They arrived and I believe they told them if they continued they would be arrested for disturbance of the peace, because they stopped. For 2 days. They continued, I called the cops back, and they were arrested. I found out later that apparently they had a large criminal record and were arrested for many other things other than disturbance of the peace. I accidentally ratted out criminals. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Ive called to cops on people playing music i actually liked, loud as fuck at 1230am while my newborn was trying to sleep.
I actually had to play my black hand and told them we can get into some gangsta shit if need be, but i decided to just get them jammed up for being hoes.

I totally understand. ######


Prompt:
When I was a kid I was an avid gamer. My favorite toy as a child was my NES.When I moved out of my parents house, I left many of my old systems with the instructions that I wanted to save them for the future when they built value. My mom never believed me and years ago gave my original NES to her grandson and my nephew. I was livid but wasn’t going to get mad at my nephew. Come to find out (my nephew actually told me) that it is a SUPER rare edition worth thousands of dollars to the right buyer. Now, of course, I want my system back, but I feel a little bad about it. AITA?

Just to be clear, no one has CLEARLY told me “no” as of yet, but we shall see how it goes. ######

Response: NTA. Its unfortunate your mom did that, but I think a solution could be to offer to get a new console for your relatives with some of the money. Definitely talk to them about what they would want- Heck, you could even get them one of the new NES Classic Editions! ######


Prompt:
So, my family has traditions for certain significant birthdays (18,21,30, 50, 75, 90). My next birthday will be my 30th. I'm female. On the 30th my dad takes the kid who is 30, their spouse, and any children they have on a cruise. My sister and I have a somewhat volatile relationship and it gets bad at times, I recently blocked her for over a month and considered not talking to her again.

Onward, my husband and I are not very social people and I have difficulty getting noticed when sister is around. I'm not sure she hogs all the attention on purpose,but nonetheless she does. My brothers can be great or big problems. My sister brought many people on her cruise with her, I did not go. I couldn't afford to. I want to this cruise to be about me and my husband. My sister will make is about herself and her daughter (6y/o). To avoid conflicts,I decided it would be just us and parents, no siblings or extended family. I discussed it with Dad and Husband and we decided it was for the best.

My sister threw a fit. She took it as a personal attack against her! She accused me of purposely making her sad and allowing her to participate in my birthday. She yelled screamed and cried about how mean I was being and how much she'd been looking forward to it. She basically threw a temper tantrum (she does this every few weeks, she's 32). The rest of the family understands,  most weren't coming anyway.  When I told her Mr reasoning she told me I need to change and be more outgoing so she could come and. threatened. to get to get details from my dad and book herself and her family anyway (Dad know not to tell her details)

 I don't want to upset but this is my 30th birthday and my husband too since he is only a month and a half older than me.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Its not like you've singled her out saying out of all your siblings you don't want her in particular to join in on the cruise. You've drawn a line in the sand saying its just going to be you, your hubby and your folks. Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. ######


Prompt:
So recently I (25M) made a post on my facebook about how my student loan debt was nearly whipped. Paid off my first one last year, and as of right now, it looks like I can get this last one paid off by the time I get out of the army at the end of this year.

So naturally I wanted to share the good news with everyone.

What I wasn't expecting was a bunch of old friends complaining and accusing me of being an asshole because they weren't even close to paying off their debt.

Look, I'ma pretty competitive guy, but if I post something sharing some good news thats happening to me, I'm not competing by saying 'Ha suck it nerds, I'm better at managing money than you.' I was simply sharing good news and what to me is a huge milestone in life. ######

Response: NTA. Its no different than posting that you graduated, or own a home, etc. They're just jealous and insecure of themselves and are taking it out on you. ######


Prompt:
My daughter was showering. She is 18. I was home (I'm the dad). I heard a scream so I knocked on the door. She let me come in. She was crying. She was in the shower facing away from me and explained what happened. She was shaving her pubic hair, slipped, and cut herself bad. She was worried that she needed stiches and she said that it was really bad.

She said she cut her labia and the skin right next to her vulva. She asked me if I could look to see if it was bad enough that she needs to go to a hospital and get stiches. I said yes so she faced me. There was a lot of blood and it looked bad and very painful but I told her she doesn't need stiches. I looked up the best thing to do. I got the supplies, and gave her them and told her instructions. I then talked to her through the door while she addressed her injury.

Later when my gf got home I explained what happened. She didn't even seem worried about my daughter, she was just weirded out that I saw my daughter naked and looked at her vulva/labia area where the injury was. Saying its so weird and inappropriate. And that this shows her that I need to have stronger boundaries with my daughter. I only saw my daughter naked for like 2 minutes total, and only looked at the injury for like 5-6 seconds. All I was focused on was helping my hurt daughter. ######

Response: NTA. Its funny because no matter how injured I am I'm not showing my parents my dick. So this amount of comfort and trust is wild. Good parenting honestly. ######


Prompt:
I have a dog that has very high prey drive who chases rabbits and squirrels in my backyard. I have a privacy fence and always stand outside to supervise my dog when he goes out.

Neighbors recently moved into the house behind me and have been letting their cat roam the neighborhood. The cat has recently started coming into my fenced-in yard and it has felt comfortable getting closer and closer to my house.

I informed the neighbors that my dog has strong prey drive and could very likely seriously harm their cat. It is easy to check the for the cat during the day, however at night I'm terrified the cat could be in my yard. The cat has no fear of dogs at all it seems.

I asked the neighbors to not let their catch roam. They told me it's by fault I have an aggressive dog and I should take my dog out on a leash. I told them I have a privacy fence and it's not my problem if they choose to let their cat roam. It is also against the law in my city for domestic cats to roam.

AITA for telling them to keep their cat inside and off my property and refusing to leash my dog to take him out? ######

Response: NTA. It’s your property! They should not allow their cat roam, much less if it’s illegal in your area like you mentioned. I would advise you to audio and video record your next interaction with the neighbors of you explaining that. It could help you in a civil suit. ######


Prompt:
So my mum started randomly coming into the bathroom to wash her hands, brush her teeth, go to the toilet etc while I was in the shower. I asked her to stop because it made me uncomfortable. she said she would stop but recently she’s been coming in more and more casually again and i got pretty annoyed at her.

Me: can you please stop coming in while I’m in the shower? I told you it makes me uncomfortable.
Mum: I’m your mother and this is my bathroom too
Me: look can you just hurry up and leave because I’m just wasting water here and I won’t get out until you’ve gone
Mum: you’re being so rude! you shouldn’t talk to me like that!

so whaddya think? AITA? ######

Response: NTA. It’s your personal time and not to mention it’s just creepy and disrespectful to come in while someone is in the bathroom. However if you’re taking super long hour plus showers she might just be doing it because she’s tired of waiting for you to finish. Have a conversation with her though because even if she is doing it because you shower so long it’s still super weird and not okay to intrude on someone like that: family or not. ######


Prompt:
Short and quick post.

I am 15M and have been saving my money (£500) for about a few months. This money is in cash in my secret safe in my room. My parents are key workers meaning they still have a steady income. Last week my mum offered to clean my room which was somewhat sketchy but I agreed. At the time I wasn't thinking about the money until I wanted to buy something from my local shop. Surprise surprise when I checked, the money was gone. I was quite furious and confronted with my mum. I asked her where it is and she said that she would put it in my savings (which I can't even touch till I'm 18). I haven't spoken to my mum since then and I'm not intending too.

AITA for being mad tho? ######

Response: NTA. It’s your money. Out of curiosity though, how do you get this money? ######


Prompt:
Yea I get it “you’re lucky your parents still love each other” well they both abused me so it doesn’t really feel like one happy family here. I’m 23 and had to return home from college. I never heard my parents until I was maybe 17? Whatever, knocked on the door because I was trying to get ready for work and at 17 it startled me.

Now 22, I have heard them multiple times. Usually if they hear me get up it stops, but it’s more about how they handle it. They always do it when I’m getting up for work despite me telling them the night before hey I have to go in early, and the house is dead silent and the walls are thin. When my boyfriend and I do it we put the TV on, because that’s what you do when the house is silent at night and everyone can hear.

I would of never ever brought it up because it is so awkward but, every time I try to sleep at my boyfriends my mom tells me I’m a disgrace and an embarrassment to the family. She says my boyfriends mother must look down on me. So I finally had enough, and said that the reason I like to get out at night and stay at my boyfriend’s or friends is because they make me uncomfortable. I said I give them plenty of opportunities to do it when I’m not home, and my younger brother also leaves the house a lot. Listen I get it, it’s their house, but I’m sorry I would never want my kids hearing us have sex. I’m just saying don’t bitch at me for going out when I’m 23 if you’re going to disrespect me. Idc how old you are, it’s gross and no one wants to hear there 60 year old parents. ######

Response: NTA. It’s your house too, and if you leave for work and have constantly told them you can hear they could choose to be quiet. I know a lot of parents who don’t want their kids hearing. Your mom sounds fucked up though, so bringing it up may have not be the best move because she probably isn’t receptive to criticism ######


Prompt:
for context: i 19M am a really big, overweight and somewhat hairy guy. when i am home, i love to be without a shirt because i get pretty hot (especially now with spring being here) and really sweaty, plus it's more comfortable.

i lived alone up until january this year. i pay all my bills and go to work everyday. in february, my uncle went homeless and needed a place to stay, so i decided to give him a hand just so he had somewhere to stay. he sleeps in my living room since i only have 1 bedroom. he cooks and cleans everyday, so i have no problem with him not paying rent until he gets a job.

with it getting warmer now, along with the stay at home orders going on, im home more often, and when i'm home, i absolutely hate wearing a shirt. i of course will wear something if i have company mostly because i do get self conscious, but other than that i go shirtless. since my uncle moved in, i don't go shirtless around him often, but i've grown to be more comfortable around him and not care if he sees me without a shirt. recently he asked me if i please wear clothes around him because it makes him uncomfortable to look at my body. it kinda hurt but i told him it's my house, and if he didn't like it, he can go. i don't get up in his business or hang around him. i spend 90% of my time in my room and only see him if i go to the kitchen to get food or talk to him for like 5 mins, so he doesn't see me frequently. i thought about it and maybe he has a point? i just want some unbiased opinions about this. ######

Response: NTA. It’s your house and you were kind enough to let him live there rent free. If you spend most of your time not around him anyways it shouldn’t matter to him at all. ######


Prompt:
I (23F) bought a house last year in a fairly well-off area (not a neighborhood though). My cousin (21F) has been living with me for the past 3 months because of financial issues: she pays a bit of rents and helps me do housework around the house. She's a really nice person in general.

On the Fourth of July, she brought her boyfriend (22M) of 9 months over. He's a really responsible, nice person that I enjoy having around. We ate dinner and then he showed my cousin fireworks that he brought over, and he said he was going to use them in the backyard. I told him no and we could do it after dinner somewhere else, because my two dogs (one is a puppy and another is an older, more frail dog) are terrified of loud noises and I didn't want him damaging the grass. While me and my cousin went to wash the dishes, the boyfriend snuck outside and used the fireworks!

When I confronted him about it, he said that he wanted to make us happy and that the dogs being scared would be OK because the fireworks were beautiful.

I got angry at him and told him that he was not welcome in our house anymore because he couldn't wait 30 minutes. He got very disappointed and went away, and my cousin got extremely mad at me because he just wanted to show us the fireworks.

Am I the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA. It’s your home and he didn’t respect that.

I would be so annoyed if someone came to my home and did that....also who says it’s ok for the dogs to be scared because something is beautiful. Dogs don’t care if it’s beautiful they’re still scared ######


Prompt:
So before the quarantine my grandma had declared that my mom (her only child) would get all the money and property and later could decide to split between me and my sister however she wanted. I’m fine with this. I don’t really care considering I figured inheritance should always go to the next in line.

Due to this quarantine, my mom says no one can go out. My grandma, mom and sister all live under the same roof. We all have our own rooms so no one talks to each other that much. My grandma recently had a falling out with my mom because my mom refuses to do any groceries and my grandma needs food. My grandma is a vegetarian and everything my mom has made or brought is non-veg. She also never gets her prescriptions refilled on time. My grandma has to have my moms friend deliver prescriptions. My mom recently had a different falling out with this friend so now he no longer delivers my grandmas prescriptions. During this whole thing I’ve been picking up the slack, paying for and picking up meds and food for my grandma and keeping her company overall.

A couple weeks ago my grandma had it. She decided that my mom wasn’t getting the whole will and that my mom had to split it with me since I am old enough(21) and since she thinks my mom hasn’t helped at all.  After hearing about this my mom is upset with me and my grandma saying I conspired with her and that my grandma is being unfair. She says because she lets her live with us, she does enough and since she pays for essentials she’s doing enough. Again I really don’t care about the inheritance but my grandma says it’s making a statement and I guess my mom did see that I was excited to be in the will. Aita for going along with my grandma? ######

Response: NTA. it’s your grandmas decision and there’s nothing wrong with being happy your grandma thought of you and wants you in your will. ######


Prompt:
I have a gluten intolerance, which I was diagnosed with last year. I get quite sick if I eat a lot of gluten. As a result of this, I tend to buy gluten free snacks out of my own pocket, as I'm the only one in the house who has this. I tend to buy gluten free bread/pittas, crackers, cakes and pasta, enough to last me a couple of weeks usually.

The problem is, if I store it in the kitchen, even if it's on my own shelf, it gets eaten by my stepmum or brothers without them asking me. A week's supply will be gone in a day. I've tried explaining that this stuff is my supply for the week and they're gluten free, please could they not be eaten. I was ignored, and the bread I'd brought was gone when I went to make lunch during my working from home break.

I bought a little mini fridge, and kept the bread, cakes and pasta in that for my use. I'm being called selfish for doing this, as they should be for all of us. I've also been told that the smell could attract rats, which seems silly since they're in a fridge. My point is that these are specific foods for my allergies, paid for out of my own pocket, and I put in money for rent and food for the family too. I consider these my own food items as I purchased them myself.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. It’s your food, they shouldn’t have been eating it to begin with. If you do have a rat problem, that only happens if you leave open food around (and it seems like shes just threatening it and it didn’t actually happen) ######


Prompt:
I met my biological father 3 years ago (I’m 27 now) and we’ve been mending the relationship. We’ve become close friends and I’ve forgiven him for the mistakes he made leaving in the past. I was formally adopted by my step dad at age 3 and he and my mother have been raising me with my two sisters my entire life.

All that aside, my two sisters are angry that I would invite my bio dad to my wedding because they’re concerned that it would upset my step dad. They were both angry that I met my bio dad in the first place because they feel I shouldn’t need anyone else.

I understand their concern, but I feel like that’s a convo I should have with my step dad and mom. My sisters getting mad on their behalf just makes me want to elope. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. It’s your day. Invite who you want. It’s also not a conversation your sister’s should be having with you. Talk to your mom and step-dad instead. ######


Prompt:
alright I've been working on a comic book for a bit, and I had used another Reddit page to look for an artist, I found a lot of good ones and I was about to choose them, but then I realized with the number of issues I would need and their prices, there would be no way for me to afford them.

In walks my buddy, who has been like a reviewer for my comic, I've sent him scripts and concept art to give me his opinion on, then two weeks he sends me a text while I'm on vacation and its a drawing of one of the three main characters...well it looked amazing, I was blown away, then last night he sent me two more sketches of other characters that have appeared and I swear it was like looking at a real comic book drawing.

I asked him after the first sketch if he'd want to be my artist for the comic, he said of course and that he while being supportive of me looking for an artist actually wanted to do it himself. so basically we made an agreement.

Well, my girlfriend's sister told me that I was being cheap not using these professional artists and instead was giving my buddy the job, she said these guys probably needed the job more than my friend and that I should tell my friend I changed my mind.

I told her no, and that I feel the comic would work better with two people who genuinely love the comic and not someone who's only gonna draw it on commission.

in my mind, I want like a Jack Kirby to my Stan Lee, Greg Capullo to my Scott Snyder, and Gary Frank to my Geoff Johns (if your not big into comics these are great teams that gave there all to there comics).

I even told her that it's not like my friends drawing for free when we finish the comic and end up selling it, I'm splitting the profit with him 50/50, and if we aren't able to sell I'm still paying him for his work.

But am I the asshole for going with my friend that I know, then an artist I don't? ######

Response: NTA. It’s your comic and if your buddy can deliver the result you want then that’s great. ######


Prompt: Like I said in the title she totaled my car during Christmas break she gave me some money for the car but I was able to buy a decent car with my insurance money, (5,000 for the new car). The new car that I bought, I drove that up until last week when the transmission failed and the cost to fix it would be more than the car was worth, so I said screw it and I leased a new 2020 Honda Civic so I would have a reliable car and she's upset because I won't let her drive it. And with this coronavirus going on it's fairly difficult because the bus only runs at certain times, we dont live by any family and most of our friends live in different towns so they cant pick her up. I offered to pay for her to get an Uber or asked her to try to get a ride from a coworker. I drive her into work at 7am on my way to work, but she gets out at 4pm , I usually and dont get out of work until 6 or 7.  Am I the asshole in this situation? ######

Response:
 NTA. It’s your car and you’ve offered other solutions to try and help. Ultimately it’s her responsibility to get herself to and from work.

It would be kind of you to let her but I can see why you’d be hesitant, I don’t think it makes you an asshole you’ve said no. ######


Prompt:
Okay I know this is weird. Me and my SO just moved into a new 2 bedroom apartment. We planned to make the second smaller room an office. One of our neighbors from the apartment next door introduced herself as we were moving our stuff in. She’s very chatty and outgoing and we hit it off right away.

She says we seem cool and she wants to ask us a favor: if we could make the east bedroom our master bedroom and make the master bedroom our office. She says this is because the walls are super thin and her room is right on the other side and she could always hear the previous tenants having sex. She said she put up with it then but now that we’re new here and haven’t moved anything in yet, it wouldn’t be a big deal for us to use the other bedroom. That way she wouldn’t be bothered and we wouldn’t have to feel like our privacy was being violated by knowing someone can hear. “Win-win,” she said.

But the thing is the master bedroom is obviously larger than the second bedroom and has two closets. In the smaller room we wouldn’t even be able to fit half of our bedroom furniture. But I’m super non-confrontational and i hate feeling like someone would be mad at me, and don’t want to make an enemy out of our neighbor right off the bat. My SO thinks she’s overstepping and should mind her own business.

Would we be assholes if we moved our bedroom into the master bedroom anyway, even though she asked us politely not to? ######

Response:
 NTA. It’s your apartment. You’re an adult with a lease. You can do whatever you want in the apartment wherever you want to.

Put your bed in the dining room. Put your living room in the master. Decorate the whole apartment in bells.

It doesn’t matter. Because it’s YOUR apartment and it’s none of THEIR beeswax. ######


Prompt:
My older sister has autism and my parents have made me her caretaker since I was around 7th grade. We were made to go to the same classes in school except language class where I chose Chinese and she chose Japanese. When younger my sister did not have any friends outside our friend circle but me so she’s very close and dependent on me to help her make friends and socialize. To this day she still wants me to answer her questions for her sometimes because she does not want to talk to some people.

I understand that my parents loves both of us but cares more about my sister. She is not independent neither was raised to be someone to care for herself. One of the reasons why I dislike my parent’s way of raising us. Finally I told them this is too much for me because I have my own life to live and I can’t take care of her if I’m not self-reliant. I told them if I can’t swim and you expect me to help another person drowning we’d both drown.

Their response was “You’re being selfish, you only think about yourself.”

AITA for telling them I have to take care of myself first before caring for her? ######

Response: NTA. It’s unfair for your parents to place that kind of burden on you. Do you have any other family or close adult you could talk to about the situation? ######


Prompt:
I’ve been applying to jobs for a bit now. Recently, I had a Zoom interview for a position in my town. The listing said nothing about commuting or going to another office.

During the interview, the interviewer said “So I know the ad said the job was in x town, but it’s really in y town. Would that be a problem?” That town is an hour and a half away from me one way. I would not have applied for the position and have my location range on the job site set for a certain way. I said “Well, yes. I assumed it was for your x office since you put that town on your ad.” They said “Yes but we wanted more applicants. I personally travel between all of our offices often.”

Good for him, but a 3 hour daily commute would not work for me. I told him I could work for x office if there was a position available. Interview ended not long after.

I went to the online job board I applied on and reported the job for being misleading. It was removed the next day. My husband says I overreacted by having it removed. I think it’s unprofessional to do that. Was I an asshole? ######

Response: NTA. it’s shady to do that and waste people’s time ######


Prompt: I have gestational diabetes so I’ve had to learn to use the lancet device and glucometer. Every chance he gets, my husband tries to grab the lancet device before me when he knows it’s time for me to do it. Today, I refused and he is furious and hurt. He says it’s a way for him to be involved in my prenatal care but the fear and anticipation of the needle are way worse for me when I’m not holding the lancet. ######

Response: NTA. It’s ridiculous he wants to be the one to stab you with the needle just so he can feel like he’s involved. Tell him to rub your feet instead. ######


Prompt:
Hello Reddit. I figured this would be the perfect place to ask because abandoned and mysterious are some of this site’s favorite popcorn.

I have recently bought a property in rural Pennsylvania. It is hundreds of acres way outside of a town with under 1000 people. There’s a huge forest and as I was exploring for the 50th time I came across a beautifully preserved house that seems like it was abandoned around the ‘70s. The house was well built and doesn’t actually have too much damage. Stone siding and metal roof so there were no gutters or cleaning needed. I’ve asked the locals about this house, the old owners of the property, libraries. Still no information at all. The house is a typical two story stone home. Maybe about 2500-3000 sq ft. So I guess it is my house now that nobody seems to know about somehow including the old owners who farmed a small portion of the land for 40 years.

In the house is a lot of utility and furniture pieces. So much beauty. I was considering scrapping the whole place and using a lot of the doors, hardwood, bookshelves and furniture in another house I am renovating. My SO says I’m an asshole when I came back with my truck loaded with a door and a small chandelier. My mom says and I’m an asshole too and my dad says it’s good so these things don’t rot. I imagine if it had been discovered it would’ve been trashed already but maybe people are more respectful than I think and I’m taking away explorers opportunities.

WIBTA for scrapping it all or am already the asshole for jacking the door and some shelves? Thank you. ######

Response: NTA. It’s on your property and you have a use for it elsewhere.  You’re entitled to move objects on your property from one place to another. ######


Prompt:
My sister and I are both staying with our mother, because she’s very sick and needs help, and we both want to be there with her before she passes. We’ve both been here about a month now. My husband and I are here with our daughter and she is here alone.

We’ve been watching a movie every night for the past week or so. Last night we watched John Wick, I guess spoilers if you haven’t seen it. My husband cried a little during the part when they kill his dog, not like full out sobbing, just a little bit. Afterwards he told me it was because he was thinking about living without me, which I thought was really sweet. Anyway, after the movie my husband put our daughter to bed, and did something else. My sister and I were just talking and she made a comment where she said something like: I can’t believe you married that baby. I was pretty annoyed at the comment but gave her the benefit of the doubt and asked what she meant.

She pointed out that he was crying at the beginning of the movie. I asked why that meant he’s a baby and she said crying at a movie, especially when it’s not even sad is childish. I told her that I didn’t appreciate comments like that, and she basically blew me off and said it was a joke.

I didn’t talk to her much today, and she finally around 4 said she was sorry in the most unapologetic, sarcastic tone. I acknowledged it but then skipped the movie tonight. She then told me that I’m overreacting and it was a one joke and to calm down. That we should be friendly with each other before our mom dies. I think that if she wants to be friendly she should apologize for real. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. It’s ok to cry at movies. A lot of them are meant to invoke emotions. Would she be saying that if it was you or is she poking fun at toxic masculinity? ######


Prompt:
So I’m from another country and lived and worked in to US for a few years. My mom sends me food packages every month with food, snacks, candy etc from home. This is for fun and she always sends way to much, but that’s just my mom 😁.

So I usually share with either friends, colleagues, neighbors or other people  that come over.

I started a new job a couple of months ago and this was the first time I brought something here (it was a type of cookie). I explained to the people there in the moment why I brought it and put in in the break area for everyone to grab when/if they wanted.

Another colleague started later that morning and a while after she came in she say the food I brought and asked who brought it. I said it was me and started to explain why when she interrupted me and asked if I took her allergy (gluten allergy) into account. I said sorry no and explained why I brought this. She said I was extremely rude for not thinking of everyone. And that it was better to not bring anything if not everyone could enjoy it. She said I was very selfish and don’t think about others. I gave a half-assed apology and told myself not to bring anything again.

Am I the A-hole for bringing the food, not thinking about dietary restrictions?

If I would have bought something (for example for my birthday) I would definitely take all dietary restrictions into account, but this was just something I had left over ######

Response: NTA. It’s not your job to conform to every ones diet. I have type 2 diabetes and I work also. I don’t go around on the days people buy food for everyone or whatever bitching about the fact they got sugar and bread and all that. Yeah it sucks. It oh well. That’s my business. Your co worker has a complex and should get over herself. ######


Prompt:
A few years ago a friend of mine was given the whole set of a manga collection (around 20 books or so) from a family friend. She wasn't overly interested in manga so decided to gift them to me for my birthday.

I LOVE this series; it's one of my favourites and I was planning on taking this set to university with me in a few months. However earlier today this friend messaged me, in a group chat mind not PM, asking if she could have the books back. She claimed that the original owner wanted them back, so she wanted them back to return to the owner.

To be honest I don't want to give them back; they were originally a present to my friend who gifted them to me, and I feel that both my friend and the original owner are being rude to ask for them back.

WIBTA if I said I want to keep them?

Quick Update: I talked to my friend about it and she had never wanted to ask for them back in the first place. Her family is rather strict and believes that "you should always help your family no matter what". The original owner (her family friend) had been harassing my friend to get the books back, and only asked me to get them to stop nagging her. ######

Response: NTA. It’s not your fault the original owner wants them back. They were given to you and now they belong to you. You can do as you please with them. ######


Prompt:
Alright, here's the situation:

I am doing shit on my laptop, it needs updates and all that, since I just recently bought it and freshly installed Windows. I set the language on English despite German being my mother tongue.

So my sister comes by and she sees my new laptop. She wanted to see it so I gave it to her. Then she asks why I changed the language on English. I tell her that it's because it's easier to follow good tutorials written in English, and that I find it annoying to translate English to German to search for it.

She then went on to question why I had difficulty translating and I say sometimes translating isn't as easy as she thinks. I then went on with pretty shit examples, which she translated.

So I tried to justify me choosing English for some time, which only semi worked.

After that, she said I could always search those things in English even on a german machine, which she proved. She then said that I was probably only doing it to show off, which was when I got really angry.

I told her that it's because I like it on English and I questioned her why she had to be such a prick about it. I told her that I found the way she talked to me very condescending and mean. She then told me that I should calm down and that I should understand her position. She said that she knew my reasons were wrong and that she knew she was right. I should have said earlier that it's because of preference.

In her view I was kinda angry from the beginning, that's what she told me, and that I was getting unreasonably worked up.

I know this is pretty trivial and shit, and we're both over it as it happenwd some time ago. But sometimes I can't help but think who was the asshole.

So I wanted to ask AITA for being annoyed and angry at her after this, or is it her. ######

Response: NTA. It’s not even hers, how controlling can she be? ######


Prompt:
My mother brought in a pet and over next 5 months we had it it was going good and I started to develop a small bond ( yeah it sounds cheesy) with the pet. All of a sudden he’s gone and she got rid of him and didn’t tell anyone. I just live in the house but I do everything for the cat, and she was mad at him I guess because he did things like climb tables and scratch things.

Am I in the wrong for feeling mad that she just got rid of him with no warning, no heads up and I don’t even know where? She is trying to reimburse me with the money I spent on food but I don’t even want that. ######

Response: NTA. It’s not at all cheesy to form a bond with your pet, even after a short time. Your mom sucks for getting rid of the cat without telling you and not letting you have any say when you were the one taking care of it. ######


Prompt:
So
About a month ago my girlfriend broke up with me. All that was explained to me was that she found someone else and wanted to end things amicably.
As far as I'm concerned, things ended amicably and there are no hard feelings regarding it to my knowledge.

A couple weeks later she texted me and was asking how things were, I maintained a relatively normal conversation, but told her that I was also involved with someone else. She started sexting me, describing in detail what she would have wanted to do with me had we stayed together. After a bit of this, I ended the conversation, and she sent a final message along the same vein. I did not reply. She openly admitted to being aware that I don't tolerate cheating, but continued anyway. Last I heard, she's really mad at me for not responding, but also kinda upset that she picked the other guy (according to a mutual friend, he has some mental issues. Don't know what, Don't wanna know).

So, am I the asshole for not responding, as she claims? ######

Response: NTA. It’s in the title “ex-girlfriend”. Tell your mutual friends you don’t want to know anything about her ######


Prompt:
When I was 13 I got into baking. I was an amateur for sure, but I liked finding new recipes and trying them out. My dad had this *extremely* annoying habit of eating stuff while I baked. Basically, here’s how it went: I’d do my chores and get permission from my mom to bake. I’d start baking, and sometimes my dad would walk by and take a large ball of cookie dough off the tray while I wasn’t looking and eat it. I always got annoyed with him, and he’d laugh like it was a joke.

He’d ask me who bought the ingredients and I would say mom, who got them at the store. Then he would say yeah but who made the money that bought them? And the answer was him (since there are 4 kids in my family and my mom is a SAHM). And then he’d say that since it was his money he had the right to eat them.

It sounds silly but this seriously annoyed me as a baker. This was back before I had a job, and my usual allowance was $2 a WEEK if I did all my chores. So, realistically, it’s not like I had the money to buy the ingredients myself. $2. A. Week. My dad made a six-figure salary but my mom tried to convince me that a $2 allowance was a lot.

Anyway, when my dad took cookie dough, I’d get annoyed and always tell him not to, and he’d remind me that it was his money. I mean, it was, so I saw his point, but I think it’s rude to take dough from a baker without asking when they’re not even done with it. I would never do that to someone.

It could be that my dad didn’t realize how rude it was since he basically never did any cooking (or dishes or laundry, either, actually—he saw that all as my mom’s job). He made bread occasionally, but as far as kitchen stuff went, that was it. I feel like he really should’ve realized that it was disrespectful of my hard work on a recipe to “steal” dough from me before I was done, though. We always argued about it and each thought we were in the right. Which of us was the asshole? ######

Response:
 NTA. It’s his money, but it’s your work. As a fellow baking enthusiast, I can understand how your father’s actions can make you feel. Also, Isn’t he worried about salmonella poisoning?

Maybe you should start making pastries like croissants or Chouquettes or even eclairs. The raw dough tastes really bland and kinda gross, but the finishing product is amazing. ######


Prompt: I'm 16 and my mom and I don't have the greatest relationship, but it's not exactly bad. We are just very on and off. However, recently we've been trying to work more as a team and be more open with each other. Well, it's currently Thursday and I had an online therapy session on Tuesday. My therapist and I were having a conversation about sex so that she can understand if I exhibit sexually deviant behavior ( I don't lol). She asked me if I had been sexually active. I was honest and said yes ( An important thing to note: I have a boyfriend and our relationship is incredibly strong. We've been dating for just under a year and we talk to each other about everything. So neither of us ever do anything we're not comfortable with). Being 16, I can legally decide to not have a parent/ guardian present at my session. I chose not to have my mom there, as it was an incredibly private session. Right about the time the therapist had asked the question, my mom came into my room to borrow a shirt and she heard all of it. After my session, I went to talk to her and she was a mixture of shocked, angry, and idk what else. She kept saying that I was too young and shouldn't be doing it. I then started to get frustrated because I feel that it's MY relationship and I can do whatever I'm comfortable with. I kind of started to feel bad for not telling her, but she also shouldn't have walked in on MY therapy session. I'm not particularly mad at her, but I'm frustrated that she's getting mad at me over my private information. So, lay it on me Reddit. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. It’s her fault for walking in on a therapy session she knew was private. If she stayed long enough to hear everything, the intent to disturb your privacy was there. She doesn’t have the right to judge anything she heard when she was the one in the wrong. ######