Prompt:
My fiancée and I got engaged last month after dating for 3 years. She’s really great. She’s Japanese but was born in America.

Today she called me into the living room while I was just fucking around with the cat and showed me a text she got from a friend of mine, it was long but essentially said that I have a fetish for Asian women. She got this because my last three girlfriends(including my fiancee) have been Asian. But that’s not because I have a fetish, it’s because I live in a high percentage Asian area and a bit of luck. I’ve dated a lot of white girls and various other ethnicities as well.

My fiancée asked if it was true and I explained, and fortunately she was really cool about it and said that even if I did have a thing for Asian women she didn’t really care at this point since I’ve never done anything weird.

But I was really pissed off with my friend so later I called her and yelled at her that she shouldn’t be telling my fiancée lies like that behind my back, and if she thinks there’s a problem she can talk to me about it. She got defensive and said that she has an obligation to try and help women she knows from making possible mistakes, and she didn’t want my fiancée “trapped” in a relationship where I fetishized her. Keep in mind she’s never mentioned anything about it in the past 3 years we dated.

I asked why she’s even friends with me if she thought I would trap my fiancée in a relationship like that, and she said that she didn’t know for certain but thought she should mention it anyway. She then said that she didn’t do anything wrong and that my being angry is only proving her point. She said to call her back when I’m not being “irrational”.

I’m just fuming right now. AITA? ######

Response: NTA - Your friend sounds like a nosy, uptight weirdo. She may also have a thing for you. ######


Prompt:
This has been bothering me for a while now,

But in short one of my subordinates who is also a good buddy of mine, told me about his intentions of turning his “lifelong dream” into reality, which is basically getting his wife pregnant by another man and raise it as his -he isn’t infertile or anything-, I was horrified when I heard this,and I explained how horrible of an idea this was and that children aren’t means of sexual satisfaction for him and his wife.

And another hour of back and forth talking and arguing and this wasn’t his “lifelong dream” anymore but something he is hesitant about, I was happy with the result, and few days later asked him why his wife thought this was an acceptable thing he said something which mortified me even more apparently his “genetics were inferior” and didn’t deserve to be passed to another generation, at this point I had enough and invited him to my house and told him we should discuss this excessively and he agreed right away, at the end of our meeting he was convinced that this was indeed a terrible thought and I suggested divorcing his wife and he was so supportive of that.

He is filing for divorce but it has been delayed due to the pandemic, his wife knew I had a big part in their separation and she has been texting me rude messages every 2-3 days for months now.

Most people are telling me I helped my friend dodge a bullet but some people are also telling me this wasn’t my business and I  shouldn’t have opened my mouth.

So I’m not sure ######

Response: NTA - your friend seems pretty vulnerable. Good thing you saved him from this one. ######


Prompt:
A little background: I (20) grew up in a family of Christians farmers and handy workers. I was seen as "very smart" so they had high hopes for me. They are really traditional and we are french.

So when I was about 7 I went to my uncle house and didn't want to kiss them ( they thought I was being impolite and rebellious) while my stepbrother did. They screamed at me and kept making me feel guilty for that since I was about 16.

When I was 14, I was diagnosed with school phobia along with social anxiety and saw a therapist. I am now offiacially diagnosed with those, alongside with "high functioning autism" and cptsd which is why I can't stand physical contact.

They said I can't have any of those because they never saw me crying or having a panic attack, and that all autistic poeple are "dumb and drooling everywhere" and I just use that as an excuse because I'm lazy (while forcing me to study subjects i'm not good at).

My mom has a high sense of family and what it means and wants me to texts them (and her) often, to go to their house when I'm not far from home for studies. I am kind of scared of her because she is a huge part in what caused my cptsd.

I'm really lost in what I should do, I was raised to think about family first but that is only one of the traumatic events I went through, being LGBT in this kind of traditional family.

AITA for wanting to cut ties with my family? ######

Response: NTA - Your family seems pushy and emotionally abusive, especially by using a legitimate medical diagnosis as a means of guilt-tripping and accusing you. You do not need any such people in your life regardless of whether they are family or not. If you believe that cutting ties with your family will maintain your mental health and stability, please don't hesitate to do so. ######


Prompt:
My 23 year old daughter and her husband moved in with us a few months ago. I'll call them Josh and Ashley. My husband and Josh do not get along for a lot of reasons. Some of them are valid, like Josh does not contribute financially, he is rude and ignorant, and he has allegedly cheated on our daughter. They also don't get along for a few petty reasons, such as my husband makes fun of him for wearing skinny jeans, Josh is kind of socially inept, my husband is very cold and Josh tries to do this fake affection thing to piss him off.

Well that other day I guess Josh put some makeup on him as a prank while he was sleeping. My husband went insane, called Josh some horrible names, told our daughter he is ashamed of her. He told them they both had to be out by that night or he was going to have the police throw them out. Now I think this is ridiculous, especially when he's married to me and I've certainly played dumb pranks on him, which he was able to laugh off, but I also feel like it is his house as well and I don't have the right to override him. I wouldn't be ok with him having someone I didn't want living in the house. I told my daughter I think it is an overreaction, but she needs to respect her father and now she isn't speaking to me. ######

Response: NTA - Your daughter needs to realize she married a jackass.  Josh intentionally antagonized his father in-law and disrespected him under his own roof.  This man is/was a guest in your home and instead of being grateful, he behaved like an idiot child.  I honestly don't blame your husband for kicking him out.  Don't let your daughter manipulate you into feeling bad about it.  She sounds very immature. ######


Prompt:
So my daughter (20MTF) declared she was going to start her hormones injections and then was planning to get all types of available surgeries (Facial Feminization, Gender Reassignment Surgery, Facial Feminization Surgery) soon after that,

and is asking me to pay for it and she doesn’t want the average doctor to perform it but only the best, so with what she has in mind it totals up to around 190k-200k$ , I refused because although it won’t crush me absolutely but it will definitely hinder me for many years and prevent my travel plans

And I really want her to save up if she wants them so bad, but she called me a transphobic who doesn’t understand what she’s going through.

I’m kinda confused but quite firm on my decision not to pay ######

Response: NTA - your daughter is an adult. I understand her wanting you to help, but to assume you’ll front the entire cost is unreasonable. Plus, calling you transphobic because you’re not paying is really shitty IMO ######


Prompt:
So my husband and I have four kids. The one in question is our 16 year old daughter. I'd like to think my husband and I are quite progressive parents so we let her live her own life. She has a 17 year old boyfriend and they've been going at it for 8 months (I think). He's okay but crosses too many boundaries.

Against our requests he has a tendency of coming to the house unannounced, 'losing track of time' and asking us to give him a ride home at at 11 pm. When we talk to him about this he mutters something under his breath and goes off. When he was staying with us shortly before the whole 'rona mess, he was way too touchy with our daughter in our presence. This went from spanking her whenever she was bending over/leaning on something and openly snogging each other. We also suspect he stole my husband's cologne but that's just a suspicion.

Yesterday my husband and I were doing heavy cleaning around the house (it's been months) and I found a stain on one of the sides of a cushion. I thought it was nothing at first but my husband confirmed it was a cum stain. After a some investigating we crossed out everyone but my daughter. When we spoke to her she admitted that they had sex on the couch. The couch in the living room that all of us use. So we told her straight that he's not allowed in the house again.

She says we're overreacting but we're done. Are we the assholes in this case? ######

Response:
 NTA - Your daughter and boyfriend (especially him) were openly disrespectful to you. On multiple times. And having sex on common furniture??? And LEAVING THAT MESS??? So. Bad.

My only issue is at least if they’re in your house you can keep an eye on them. Banning him altogether may cause problems in your relationship with her.

This boyfriend sounds like a piece of work and most likely won’t be your daughters forever partner (hopefully) but I’d try to explain to her everything that’s happened and offer an apology deal or something to allow him to come back if he changes. Not for him but for your daughter ######


Prompt:
sorry for any run on sentences and grammatical errors.  english isn't my first language and I'm doing this via mobile phone.

so my son is 16 months old (1year and 4 months) and he had immunodeficiency.  he can't get any vaccines due to this an we are constantly in and out of the hospital due to how easily he gets very very sick.

I am on a family group and my aunt posted a picture of "how to decline a vaccine legally" and a link to how Bill Gates is going to microchip everyone with the vaccine.

I tried to relay as much information I have gathered about how this isn't true and I begged them to please get the vaccine once it arrives.

note: I did say if they didn't get the vaccine due to medical reasons it would be a different situation

they (my mother, grandmother and both aunts) then proceeded to tell me they won't get the vaccine as it is "the mark of the devil".

that's when I told them that if they don't get the vaccine they won't be able to visit my son as he has a sever immunodeficiency.

that's when my family blew up and called me names and told me I was a bad mother for even considering it.

so AITA? ######

Response: NTA - Your child, your rules. You have every right to protect him, and their ignorance is not worth the life of your son. ######


Prompt:
So here’s the story:

My aunt called me today and told me she told her coworker that’s I’d be on my way to assist them in setting up their work from home station.

I told my aunt no, that’s not what’s happening because I’m not doing that. That if she needed help, then my aunt could go and help her.

See, my aunt and my family have this habit of not only requesting my help for bullshit but also trying to get me to do things I did not agree to do. Things none of us know how to do but they don’t want to TRY, they just want me to do it.

My mother and I got a new printer and my mother took it upon herself to try and set it up. When she couldn’t, she called for me to help and my first response was “Well... did u read the instructions?” To which she got mad. I took the instructions and told her like look, I don’t know how to do it either so the best I can do is read the instructions, which is the same thing u can do. So we just going to sit here and read em together.

When my aunt got her work from home stuff, she wanted me to help her set it up even though I am also working from home. I told her I didn’t know how, and that she just plug the shit up and see how it turns out. For two days she did nothing until I came and literally just plugged shit into where it fit.

Now I’m literally telling her to tell her coworker that’s all she has to do. She doesn’t want to help her. Her coworker doesn’t want to use common sense.

And now I’m being look at as the bad guy all because I don’t want people to volunteer my time for shit not even I know how to do.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA - Your aunt "volunteering" you to visit someone else's home is incredibly irresponsible right now.

Besides, their company should be providing them with tech support, not relying on random strangers. ######


Prompt:
I know how the title sounds!

I’ve been with my husband since I was 17 and he was 20, his sister is 4 years younger than him.

3 years into our relationship we got married, I’m 28 now.

I gave birth 8 months ago and I’m currently 6months pregnant with our second.

Two years  ago my husbands sister lost her flat, she had a 2 year old so I of course agreed to let her stay with us- rent for her is £200 a month (which barely covers her food) and we specified she would have to tidy up after herself and her child because my husband and I both work full time.

I’ve been off for a while now, I’m still working from home though but no longer go into the office and while his sister has never been the tidiest (she did the bare minimum) she now does absolutely nothing apart from making a mess.

My husband helps out sometimes but, bless his heart, he can burn water and he has no back bone meaning despite only having one child at the moment I’m tidying up after two, three if you count his sister.

My husband wants to give his sister a break since she’s not been late on rent and helps us out sometimes so we can have a day for ourselves (we pay her £11 an hour for that)

Since getting pregnant with our second all she’s done is talk down to me, we’ve had some *heated* arguments, my husband tends to stay neutral.

I’m sick of her, I’ve mentioned it to the both of them - if she isn’t out by January I’m leaving, if she continues giving me attitude she can leave by October.

My husband is now upset for “alienating” his sister who’s trying to get her life back on track (saving for a house, considering going  university and working)

At this stage I don’t care if she starts tidying up after herself, I’m done but now I’m wondering if I’m being harsh and overreacting.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA - you’ve given her plenty of notice to sort it all out. She clearly takes advantage of you and your husband. And im sorry, but if she has been there for two years, that is ample time to “get her life back on track”. You have enough on your plate as it is. ######


Prompt: Last year I worked with someone (as equal peers) in an internship while finishing my masters degree and we became friends. I have been a manager for the past 5 years, we work for the same company but in different departments, and we have continued to speak with each other often and share school work. Today she reached out to me on my personal Facebook account to ask me about one of my open positions knowing that I am the hiring manager. She asked me how much I was paying, and I let her know I could not disclose that information. She then let me know that she was going to apply followed by a wink emoji. Instead of brushing it off or leading her on, I messaged her to let her know that I would not hire her. I told her that “we are openly friends and it would be favoritism”. I have too much integrity to hire someone that is my personal friend. When I told her this, she became angry and accused me of discriminating against her... Being a manager is already garbage, and I feel like she put me in a really tough spot. Being my friend aside, she is not even qualified. I don’t believe in giving handouts, this is a reason why I don’t have many work friends, and this is a good example of why I usually don’t befriend work folks on my personal social medial accounts. Am I being the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA - You’re stopping yourself from being biased about hiring, and that’s true integrity. ######


Prompt:
I’ve been writing porn stories for about 2 years now. It’s not huge but I make $750-$1500 dollars a month from it, sometimes even more, which really helps supplement my income. It’s nothing super super hardcore though some of the kinks I guess could be considered “weird.”

I was talking with my boyfriend of about a year and I just casually dropped this information. He got mad at me! But I didn’t think it was a big deal. He seemed to almost think it was a dealbreaker and that it’s super weird that I do this, that only really strange and messed up people write that sort of stuff. He’s not a prude, we’ve had sex, so it’s just all strange to me. AITA for not telling him about it straight off the bat/earlier? ######

Response: NTA - you’re not cheating, you’re writing. He shouldn’t be offended by what you write regardless if the topic is “weird” to him, everyone has their kinks and it’s not cool to kink-shame. ######


Prompt:
Greetings everyone, I would like to begin by advising that this is my first post here so... bear with me please. With that being said, if I break any rules here please let me know, thank you :)

With *that* out of the way, here we go!

I’ll keep it brief, my name is Jay, and I have a girlfriend who lives an hour away, we haven’t seen each other in a month so online contact is crucial.l, which that being said, I am a person who enjoys getting healthy hours of sleep, meanwhile, my girlfriend goes to sleep at 5:00AM and wakes up like at 3:00PM. And that is the only damn time she makes for me, at midnight and up. Which frustrates me because she makes almost no time for me and time for me. She proceeds to guilt me into not making time for her at night. I’d 100% prefer to sleep and wake up happy to have productive day then listen to my girlfriend ramble about her basic friends and scroll endlessly through Instagram. She doesn’t even care about how I am emotionally/physically/spiritually when we talk etc. AITA?!?

Nor does she appreciate me risking my sleeping hours to listen to her.

Our situations:
-She is rich and the only child in the house
-I am struggling due to a legal situation from my dad and have 4 siblings who live with me

Note: yes I’ve discussed this with her and told her every single detail mentioned here, she proceeds to tell me I’m boring or “boomer” (haha funnies), or simply doesn’t care.

By the way... thanks for reading this at least, it means a lot :) ######

Response:
 NTA - you’re entitled to get some kip and a decent amount to stay healthy.

On a side note you may want to take a look at your relationship. You two seem too opposite and to have values that are clashing on stuff that’s sort of important, which may escalate in future.

Not saying you need to split but just take a look at things ######


Prompt:
I’m a stay-at-home mom with four kids, ages 3-9. Husband has been working from home for the past few weeks. We didn’t have a home office set up before this. He could have chosen the guest room at the back of our house for his work space, as there’s a desk in there. But he said it was too small for him, so he set up in the dining room. He tried to block off an area with room dividers, but it’s not the same as having actual walls. Also, the dining room is (obviously) right next to the kitchen, but also next to our designated playroom for the kids.

His job is fairly flexible, but we try to stay out of his way while he’s working, especially when he has conference calls. I’ve taken the kids to the back room at times when he’s asked for quiet, or we’ve gone for walks.

On this particular day, his call was close to lunchtime and I was making food in the kitchen, while the kids were in the playroom, where I can see them from the kitchen. I did have to keep reminding them to keep their voices and playing quieter, but I actually thought they were doing a good job.

When the call was over, husband came out of his “office” and said, “well, that was the worst meeting I’ve had. They couldn’t be quiet for one hour. That’s all I asked for: one hour.” I couldn’t even respond. I felt like it was all my fault and I was a terrible person for not taking the kids out of the house for that hour. This feeling was made worse by the fact that there was nowhere to escape in the moment. We’re all stuck at home together.

I have friends who’ve made work-from-home spaces in garages so that they’re away from the noise of their kids. I understand that it’s stressful to change his work environment and that the kids are distracting, but my job has also changed a lot, with no school or activities or friend visits to distract the kids.

So, am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA - You've been really accommodating so far, so it doesn't sound like he "only asked" for one hour of quiet. If it bothers him that much he could move to the smaller space for video calls. I also think a lot of people are irritable during this time ######


Prompt:
##### First of all, I really don't want to offend or disrespect anyone with this question. English isn't my first language so really doing my best here.

###### Long story short:
I'm 25 years old, I was born in China and adopted by white Canadian parents when I was 7 months old. I've been living in a big city since then. My origins and my adoption have never tormented me, and to be honest, I sometimes forget that I am not Caucasian like most of my friends.

###### The situation:
People often make comments related to my origins. When the comments are disrespectful, I will react. But most of the times, I have the impression that there is no bad intention, just a lack of education. 3 very common examples:

> Clients that I've exchanged many emails with (they know my very "Canadian" name) and talked over the phone who see me physically for the first time will say "ah I didn't expect that" (refering to my looks vs. my very non asian name).

Or
> People who end up saying "it's impressive you don't have an accent" (wondering why I don't have a Mandarin accent).
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Or
> Other random example just so you understand how insignificant it often is: this weekend at the grocery store, a lady stopped me and asked me which was the best ramen noodles brand while I was walking in the "asian products' aisle.

I am always surprised when I get these types of comments (1-2 x a month), but my first reaction is to feel sorry for people saying that, thinking it's sad they did not get the education I had a chance to have, and that they've never been exposed to diversity and they must be stuck in a very sad world.

###### AITA for not answering these types of comments?
Should I be more offended and say something? Does my lack of intervention makes me part of the whole racism problem? ######

Response: NTA - You're the person affected by these comments, so you get to decide how best to handle them. ######


Prompt:
My Daughter has been in a relationship for 10 months and we really like the kid, he's a great kid, gets good grades and addresses us with "Sir" and "Ma'am" respectively. So, it's not like we disapprove..However, every month it's "Hey mom it's our 1 month can I order us grubhub?" "Its our 2 month, 3 month" ECT. You get the point.
We just moved into a bigger house, so naturally, bills are more. We haven't even received our first round of bills yet and we're apprehensive about blowing money. Everytime she orders it's at least 35 dollars!
So, here's the questionable statement I made. "Guys, I love you both and you know we like having you around boyfriend, so don't take this the wrong way. Not every month is an anniversary and doesn't require spending 30-50 dollars. I know they feel special and that's great but Dad and I can't afford to blow money right now"
There it is..I was met with dagger stares and my daughter exclaimed "Wow mom, thanks for taking a dump on our happiness!" Boyfriend just looked embarrassed and didn't say anything. He's usually the one trying to get her under control. My daughter has a hot head like her Father. Am I the asshole?? I don't feel like I should have to fork out money for food, rides to special locations and go out of my way everytime they make it another month. 14yo daughter btw.

Info: she's paid 200 a month, I had already prepared dinner with more than enough to go around and the questionable statement I made was after 5-6 "but why??" Statements. I shouldn't have down played their day, I was young once and had a first long boyfriend. There will definitely be some family budgeting and personal budgeting talks but I'm hoping this teen parenting thing gets more seamless in 10 years because her 4yo sister is next😂 ######

Response: NTA - You're the parent and honestly paying for dates is something that a 14 year old doesn't really need when there are bills to be paid. ######


Prompt:
I know it sounds bad but hear me out. I am aware that just because you’re in a relationship that attraction to other people doesn’t just stop, and that’s fine!! I’m chill with my bf finding other people attractive and I’m not mad at that.
However, I do suffer with super low self esteem and some other mental health problems which he is aware of and I’m also working on them.

My boyfriend comments on other women often. It’ll always be something sexual as well, which makes me super uncomfortable. It feels like it’s constantly happening like on dates, going shopping, grabbing a coffee, watching a film etc. It kinda wears me down but I also feel like I’m being stupid. I understand he finds them attractive and that’s okay but I have asked him to stop multiple times just because I can’t always brush it off as much as I’d like to and it does mess with my head a bit. He checks people out a lot as well and sometimes it feels as though I can’t have a conversation with him if an attractive girl is walking by because he’s so distracted. When I ask him to stop he always says its just who he is and he won’t stop making comments in front of me because he thinks it’s funny. I tried to ignore it because I figured I am being whiny and overreacting, but one day I was just in a bad mood and he made some dumb comment about some woman's boobs and I once again told him to please stop and that it was upsetting me, I think I probably got too snappy. He got mad at me and didn’t speak to me until I said sorry.
I guess I’m just wondering if I’m being too insecure? Sometimes I don’t realise and just need to hear other people’s opinion. ######

Response: NTA - You're right, people in relationships will still find other people attractive. However, people who are not AHs will not bring up this fact in front of their SO knowing full well that this damages the SO's self-esteem. He's also being disgusting and creepy making sexual comments about other women. He would be TA regardless of whether he was in a relationship or not. And making you apologize for getting upset? Yikes. ######


Prompt:
So evidently my roommate has moved her boyfriend in with us during quarantine. Before this he was here 5-6 nights a week, which I had expressed some discomfort with, but now he straight up lives here. Stores his stuff in the living room, comes and goes without her, etc. None of this was run by me. He also lives in the same town, so I'm not sure why the've decided to stay here but I'm not sure I can kick him out at this point given the state of things.

He likes to hangout in the common spaces a lot without her and do work on his laptop, workout in the living room, cook in the kitchen etc. At night they usually watch TV together in the living room. Previously I've tried to be respectful and give them/him their own space but I've been getting kind of annoyed with it. So recently I've been doing whatever I want. If he's working out in the living room and I want to watch the TV I just go and do it. The wifi doesn't reach my room very well so if I want to video chat I have to do it in the dining room and if he's in there too I just go and do it anyways. If they're cuddled up watching TV and I want to use the kitchen which looks into the living room I just do it.

The reason I could be the asshole is because everytime I do those things he just gets up and Ieaves and goes back to her room. If they're together in the common areas and I show up they usually stop what they're doing and leave. I haven't really made an attempt to rectify this because I honestly don't know the man at all and don't really wanna interact with him anyway. My logic is that if it was just me and my roommate we would have no problem sharing these spaces  which is what we used to do. I also pay about $1200 in rent so I don't think I should modify my schedule for someone living here for free.

AITA for going about my life as if my roommates boyfriend isn't even there even if it seems to make him uncomfortable. ######

Response:
 NTA - you're paying to be there, he's squatting.
You should talk to them about it though. He should keep his stuff in her room, not in the common areas. ######


Prompt:
I \[30M\] live with two roommates - Kate \[32\] and Sean \[27\].

Sean is a genuinely sweet guy, but, uh, kind of lacking on the common sense department, to put it gently. The joke goes that he's secretly 5 years old \[we say that to his face, and he agrees with that statement\]. Until last July, he was juggling Acting school, waiting tables for money and then also got caught in some really obvious pyramid scheme.

How obvious? He has the diagram of the "company's model" hanging over his desk, and it's pyramid-shaped. The poor guy pays 100$ every month for "membership" in his "business", gets nothing in return and is still sticking with it. When he ran out of money, he got his parents to pay it for him. He also stopped going to auditions about a month after graduation, to focus on his "business". Both Kate and I tried to warn him gently multiple times, but Sean kept insisting we were "wrong about it" and "don't know anything". I've never seen him getting so defensive and angry about anything else. We eventually left it alone, though we kept rolling eyes about it whenever he was making "business calls", complained about not having money, etc.

Yesterday, when I got back from work, Sean was on the couch, doing a "business call" \[AKA trying to recruit people to his MLM\]. Afterward, he came to my room to chat, and started complaining about a seemingly "Why do random people keep adding me to random shady groups?". Without thinking, I replied "Maybe they're trying to recruit you to their own pyramid schemes".

Sean got furious, and started ranting about how he's "disappointed" with me not "fact-checking" \[I am familiar with that specific MLM...\], and for not "supporting him", and how he "expected better" of me and Kate. Afterwards he walked out of the apartment, in what I'm pretty sure was an attempt to actively avoid me.

I can't help but to feel terrible about that incidence, but also kind of irritated and annoyed. AITA? ######

Response: NTA - You're just trying to make sure he's not being further taken advantage of, and if  he doesn't want to listen, it's just too bad for him. ######


Prompt:
This happened about a year ago:

I'm female artist, and my niece (6yo) absolutely loves me. One time I let her come into my bedroom when she was visiting and I forgot about the tasteful nude I had pinned to the wall behind my door. It was of a middle-aged naked woman lounging. I created it in a figure drawing class.

My niece saw it and very innocently asked. "Why is she naked?"

 I'd didn't think it was a big deal because I'm pretty desensitized to nudity, so I anwered very plainly.

*"oh yeah. That was a drawing I did. Most artists have to learn how draw naked people. Even if they're gonna wear clothes over top."*

She seemed amused by that.

Well a few weeks later my family all go to a free art musium near by. My niece and I break off and are walking around the rooms, and at one point my niece stops me at a few portraits. She has me lean in and not so quietly whispers. "did- did this artist draw these people naked too?"

I chuckle and say, "yeah, probably."
My niece chuckles with me.

At that point I hear a 'tsk' from a woman near me. I glance over and this older woman is glarring right at me. She speaks under her breath, *"That's disgusting..."* and walks away.

I felt really bad after that. Was it too soon for me to tell my niece that stuff about this aspect of art? ######

Response: NTA - You weren't sexualizing the human body in anyway, you were just telling your niece a simple fact about the art industry and artists. Personally I think it's good that by being so casual about the topic you're showing her that nothing about drawing people while nude is inherently wrong or weird. A lot of people could stand to learn this lesson. ######


Prompt:
So a while ago I hooked up with this girl. She’s pregnant now and her parents kicked her out. Since it might of been my baby I said she could stay with me. But if the paternity tests said I was not the father she would have to move out.

Because of everything going on it took longer than  usual to get the results of the paternity test, but we got it back earlier today and I am definitely not the father.

So I told her that she can continue to stay for a few more days, but she has to leave by Saturday. Now she’s freaking out and crying because she says she has no money and nowhere to go and is asking me to let her stay longer.

I do sympathize with her situation, but I just don’t want her to stay anymore. She’s a nice person, but I don’t know her that well and don’t feel comfortable with her around and in my space all the time. More importantly though if she’s still here on Sunday she will have been here for 30 days which would make her legally a resident and then I would have a much harder time getting rid of her and you never know what issues could arise. ######

Response:
 NTA - you were willing to step up and help if it was your child but since it’s not she’s not your responsibility

Her parents kicking her out makes it sound like she’s young, which is some cases the parents circle back and calm down so maybe have her try reaching out to them?

Don’t let it get to the 30 days tho, I know what it’s like living with someone you want out and anytime the law is on their side it makes it so impossible ######


Prompt:
So this happened maybe 10 min ago at the park, I own a shiba inu, if you know anything about the breed they are not like most dogs in a lot of aspects, I have owned several of them one who I got a little older who had some very bad aggression issues but after years of training and love became one of the best dogs I have ever owned. Also I have worked in humane societies and have a certificate through the AKC to train dogs ( not saying a am the dog whisperer or some crap). This lady walks up to me and asks what kind of dog I have and I tell her a shiba inu and she responds by telling me that is the type of dog her and her husband have been looking into getting and if could tell her anything about the breed? I explained good and bad aspects of the dog for a min or two and asked if she had ever owned dogs before which she replied no and I said I usually wouldn’t suggest someone getting this breed as a first time dog owner which at that point she became noticeably upset and snapped back with telling me that I am extremely rude for telling her she shouldn’t get a certain kind of dog when she doesn’t even know her and walked off.
When I left I wondered if I was being to harsh or not? ######

Response: NTA - you were just giving honest and useful advice. Maybe she can’t handle a difficult breed and it would be bad for her and the dog to be in that situation. ######


Prompt:
I was engaging in a casual debate with one of my fiancée’s friends. He just mentioned with Hartley Sawyer situation that people should be absolutely held accountable to anything they said, even if it was long ago and during a different time.

I disagreed with him respectfully, but he just outright said that there is absolutely no exception. So, you know what I had to do.

I scoured through his entire twitter account and made a program that would detect a bunch of whitelisted words. I found one where he uses the word “faggot” to refer to one of his friends. Keep in mind, he was probably 14 when he posted that. I just sent him the message, and suddenly he got all pissed and said that I shouldn’t scour though his messages and that I’m being a pompous ass.

So, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA - You were holding him to his own standard that you disagreed with.  It tests consistency or points out flaws in an argument.

You didn't publicly shame him, but rather privately messaged him.  Clearly you're not saying that he should be held accountable, but are using an example to make a valid point.

He's just mad because he doesn't want to admit you made a good point and he doesn't want to bite the bullet and say that he SHOULD be held accountable. ######


Prompt:
I am a 16 and my sister also 16 has a girlfriend. My step mom changed my room even though my sister only came in the weekends to a double bed room and put most of my things away in the attic to make room for my sisters thing. She used the other room as a home office.

My sister was supposed to have a sleep over and got permission from her mom without talking to me. I was outside jogging and came inside only to find my sisters girlfriend sleeping in my bed. I was pissed and told the sisters girlfriend to get the fuck out of here or I  will make her.

My sister and her girlfriend refused. I called my dad and he came in and told my sister's girlfriend to get the fuck out or he will be calling her mom to pick her up. She got out of and took her stuff. My step sister was crying saying how she can never have a sleep over and blames me for it. She called me a selfish bich and told me I ruin everything ######

Response:
 NTA - You wanted to sleep in your own bed and were just not thought about at all, sounds like your stepmom isn’t a great caregiver so sorry about that.

No idea why people are saying you’re an asshole, it was your bed and they didn’t offer you any sort of respect at all so by all means do what you can to claim it back. ######


Prompt:
I (F22) and my boyfriend (M26) have been dating for a year and a half now. We quarantined together and are now in the process of moving in together.

This week our city loosened up social distancing guidelines, so my boyfriend wanted to go play a game of pickup soccer with about five of his friends. They said they were all bringing their girlfriends so my bf asked me to come and I said sure.

Now the thing is that I'm actually pretty good at soccer. My first boyfriend ever was actually in a very good European club's academy, and then I dated an MLS player for three years. Obviously they weren't just straight teaching me how to play, but I helped them practice and train and I picked up a lot from them. I also played high school soccer and then club soccer in college.

When we got to the park my boyfriend said we should play boys against girls so we did.

We actually ended up tying. However my boyfriend played really really badly. At one point he took a penalty that I saved, I blocked several of his shots, intercepted many of his passes, tackled him a bunch of times and took the ball from him, and I even nutmegged him once.

I want to clarify that I really wasn't trying to target my bf, I was just playing and everything happened. I didn't go easy on him but I didn't try to humiliate him either.

It was a fun game and I thought everything was fine until we got home. My bf went off on me about how humiliating the whole thing was for him, and how I had no right to play like that against him. He said I was clearly not considering his feelings, and he's been giving me the silent treatment since then. I think I was just playing a game. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA - you shouldn't have to make yourself less in order to make someone who is supposed to love you feel like more.  Your bf should be proud of how well you played.

If your bf's masculinity is that fragile, then his issue is probably deeper than one game. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account.

I own a business in a state where weed is not legal. Recently some new tenants moved into the apartments above my store and since they have moved in, most mornings when I come to work my store smells like pot. I have no problem with people who smoke pot, I've been around it many times at parties, and normally I don't care about it. I personally don't smoke but that's just my preference. The only reason I care is because I don't want my business to smell like pot. Air fresheners do not always cut it.

I want to mention this to my landlord so that they stop. Here's the kicker - the apartments above my store are rented by the Department of Corrections (might be DOJ) and the people living there are either recently released from jail/prison or on parole. I do not plan on reporting it to the police, just my landlord. What he does is up to him.

WIBTA for reporting their pot smoking? ######

Response: NTA - you run a business that could suffer if people walk in and the place smells like bud.  that sucks and is directly hurting you.  I think it'd be a dick move to tell the cops but i feel like you're well within rights to tell the landlord anyway and let them handle it. ######


Prompt:
Sold a second hand computer item, at a bargain price. Just wanted some funds to upgrade.

The buyer was a great guy, and we chat for hours on FB about retro computers. The computer part I sold him was incompatible with his equipment though, and I immediatly offered to refund him in full. I had other buyers for it, and besides, I could still use it myself up until my upgrade was ready.

I urged him to return it, and even offered to pick it up myself.  Didn't hear from him... then about a month after the sale, he's asking me to meet so he can return the item. I refused politely, stating I'd try and contact the other potential buyers who were interested first.

But now wondering if I'm in the wrong here. ######

Response: NTA - you offered to take it back and he didn't respond to your offer despite knowing the part didn't fit. Also sounds a bit fishy to me and I am wondering if you might receive a damaged part back. ######


Prompt:
Tonight I ordered in food from DD.

My building is a bit hard to find because the number is on the side facing away from the parking lot. In my instructions I have written detailed directions to find the building as well as which door to use since only one has a call box.

About 15 minutes after the app texts saying my dasher 'Deborah' is near, I get call. No big deal, occasionally people get confused and need extra help. Instead of being a female as expected, it is an irate man. He proceeds to complain about wasting time and gas driving around for 15 minutes to find my apartment. I ask if he read the driver instructions and where he was so I could guide him to the building. He avoids answering and raises his voice further saying I've wasted $5 of gas money, he deserves a better tip ($5 on a $17 order is what I had already set up) and next time I should go pick it up myself and not be lazy. I tell him to give me the number of the building he is at leave the food and I will come get it.

Getting outside, there is only one car with a female driver who got out of the car and handed me my food without a word. No guy was insight.

Typcially I do not complain about drivers or leave poor ratings (don't think I've left below a 3). However it's unprofessional and threatening to have a male call and berate me over finding my building. I left the driver 1 star and lodged a complaint with the app. It automatically offered me a credit in the amount of the tip left.
Honestly I do not know if it removes
the tip, which was not my intent.

It's been an hour and now I'm starting to second guess if I overreacted by reporting the driver for being unprofessional and communication issues. Should I have just left with the low rating and not complained? I know tough it's right now for everyone and don't want cause someone to lose their income. ######

Response: nta - you left instructions and obviously they could call you if they got confused. if they wasted time driving around, that's on them. and having someone else call to berate you? sounds like they were trying to intimidate you into giving them more money. you gave a decent tip already, that review was deserved. ######


Prompt:
I have a three legged dog, he has been missing his back right leg since I before I got him.

My sister and her boyfriend came to visit me at my apartment over the weekend for some drinks. I've met her boyfriend before but this is the first time he met my dog. As soon as he saw the dog he started calling him "Gimpy". Obviously my dog walks with a limp so I suppose that's the reason.

My sister and I kind of awkwardly laughed the first time he said it even though it wasn't really funny. I told him my dogs actual name, Milo, right away.

Throughout the night he would NOT stop calling Milo, Gimpy. I asked him to stop after the third time but he just started calling him other things like "Mr. Gimp" or just "Gimp". I was just really really bothered by him calling my dog that and after maybe an hour of them being there I just snapped and said really firmly "Stop calling him that, its not his name and I want you to stop".

Sister's boyfriend just laughed it off and told me I'm overreacting and my sister told me to just drop it. They were both just saying the dog doesn't understand and its just a joke.

I just found it super obnoxious and when it became clear he wasn't going to stop, I asked him to leave. I wasn't rude, I just told them I was tired and didn't want to deal with it so get out.

They left, both telling me I was overreacting. My sister called me the next day and asked me to apologize to her boyfriend. She told me I took it too far and embarrassed her by kicking them out. I guess she told my parents because my mom texted me today telling me just to apologize and keep the peace.

I don't think I'm wrong and I don't think I should apologize. So I am asking for a third party view on the situation.

Am I the asshole here?

tldr: Kicked sister and her boyfriend out after he wouldn't stop calling my dog "Gimpy" ######

Response: NTA - you just dont come to someones house and insult their pet. ######


Prompt: I can’t exactly remember how it got to this but my mom and I were talking about the house were living in and she said “And then when you move out I can come live with you” and I said “Oh I don’t really want you to live with me” and she got mad and was like “Do you not care about me and want to take care of me?” And like yeah I do care about her I just don’t want to have her live with me when I have my own house. It’s MY own house. She was talking about how she can’t do her job forever. She’s a 51 year old fitness trainer. Her knees are fucked up and she’s not gonna be able to do it for long and she knows that. She said “I’m not gonna get a new job once I can’t do this one. Are you not gonna take care of me?” I see it as her fault for choosing that as her only job or whatever. Anyways yeah that’s all I gotta say ######

Response: NTA - You have your own life to live and it's not your job to support your parents. ######


Prompt:
AITA for telling my sister her bf sucks
So my sister (20) and I(24) are roommates and she started dating her bf (24) about a year ago. Sister and I have always been close and when she got a boyfriend I was excited to get to know him, but every time we met he was standoffish and would just go to my sisters room. I brushed it off as social awkwardness and didn’t press it. So in a year we’ve had a handful of conversations (again he doesn’t seem to want to get to know me and I didn’t mind). Recently I went on a 2 hour trip with sister, her bf and her bf’s friends. On the trip him and his friends started to saying extremely racist and homophobic things, which really upset me. After this continued on for a while I finally asked them to stop, which turned into a tangent on how I can’t handle the facts. My sister seemed equally irratated but it seemed she let it go by the next day, I however was still horrified. Anyways two days later we meet again I try being cordial and he just insults me, and my sister did not stand up to him so I told him he was being rude and he should leave. He leaves and my sister turns on me for being a “bitch” and being sensitive. I said he has a place why don’t you hang out there, because I don’t feel comfortable with him being around the way he’s been acting (not to mention he constantly has a g*n on him in our house). Next day he’s back and refuses to acknowledge me and I here them complaining about me in her room which obviously hurts my feelings. So after he leaves I confront her about him being so racist and homophobic and rude  and making me all around uncomfortable and she turns it into a screaming match, essentially saying what do I want her to do. Anyways I feel like I should’ve just kept my mouth shut regarding the situation as it seems to have made things worse and I don’t want to fight with my sister but i don’t want to see her end up with someone who is obviously a bad dude. ######

Response: NTA - you have your concerns and you told her about them, and it's clear she's complicit in him and his friends' behaviors. There was going to be a clash eventually. If she's screaming at you to tell her what to do, then clearly she doesn't want to break up with and doesn't see the racism and homophobia as dealbreakers. ######


Prompt:
I(19F) got a summer job at a caffè that is a part of an insurance and car company. My customers are basically the employees and their customers. All the employees get free drinks and they can treat whoever they want and so can I so yesterday my friend(17F) came by for a cup of coffee. She was sitting at the bar and chatting with me for almost 2 hours and when she left two male coworkers, let's call them Ben and Carl, sat down for a drink and started talking to me.
Ben(36M): Hey Carl, did you see that hot friend of hers that came by?
Carl(40+M): Yeah of course. She's pretty hot. Hey, OP, she's 20, right?
Me: No, Jesus Christ she is younger than me, she's still a minor.
Ben: Damn she has curves for someone her age.
I was disgusted beyond belief. Their conversation continued although they knew she is a minor..
I said to them that they are disgusting pigs because she could be their daughter(ironically, they both have young children). As my 2 female coworkers were sitting at the bar today, Carl also sat down for a drink but he sat down on my seat(that's the only place where I as a waitress can sit).
Me: Sorry but you're in my seat.
Carl: Oh, so you want me to get up?
Me: It's okay, you can stay if u want.
Carl: You know, when I was your age I would rather never sit down than disrespect someone older than me like you just have.
Coworker: Kids today are sadly nothing like we used to be.
I didn't say anything to them but God was I pissed off. You disrespect my MINOR friend, talk about her curves even though she is young enough to be your daughter and after all that you want to be treated with respect?? I don't think I'm the asshole here but apparently my female coworker thinks so. So, redditors, AITA? ######

Response: NTA - you have to be respectful to earn respect. ######


Prompt:
My sister and I were paying the ALL utilities/food and giving my mom $300 towards the mortgage, and she was covering the rest. Summer 2018, we get evicted from our longtime home as she wasn't paying the mortgage. I took out two private school loans to get us a place to live during my last year of college. Basically I took out money for what would be room and board for Jr and Sr year. I used that money and put a large upfront payment on an townhouse for us to rent while I finished college.

College finished, I got a job making $73k/yr. During senior year of college I was able to save up a bit of cash, seeing as we are living on loans. I used that cash as downpayment/closing-costs and bought back our foreclosed home from the bank.

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Its going to be a year since we moved back in, and I am absolutely miserable. My sister and mother both lost their jobs. My sister has picked up job doing writing but it equates to like $12k/year. My mother is collecting widows social security, and a pension, its like $30k/year.

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I'm footing the entire mortgage and electricity bill. I am fucking miserable, and I can't stand living with them anymore. I'm fairly certain they're miserable too but I don't know how to fix it for them. I want sell the house separate from them financially, but there quality of life would suffer greatly. Maybe live in poverty areas, if not be completely homeless. WIBTA if I did this? ######

Response:
 NTA - you have given your family a lot, and it's okay to say it isn't working out.

Don't split the value of the house though, that is your money and investment. They have been living rent free for a while.

Good luck! ######


Prompt:
English isn’t my first tongue so bear with me people

And yes there is a post in r/advice speaking about my problem

I (18 f) am a food photographer (very amateur one but working on it). My family uses me way too much for free gigs which i am trying to stop.

One day i was going to ask my mom something about ordering some gear and she just interpreted me and said “(my name) i am very proud of you that you volunteered to your aunt to do a photoshoot for her to be born son”

I didn’t volunteer but mom was sure her sister didn’t lie so i was kinda forced to do it as a really care for mom’s feelings.

Fast forward the day after he was bored i was called by my cousin asking when i will shoot the baby
I was half asleep and i told her i had an exam and an online lecture (true)
She told me they are expecting me to come and i was like ok whatever

Today i had some good sleep and went to their house at the afternoon to see the baby and attend a small religious celebration (not christian) and when i first arrived with my camera and a small soft box

My cousin snapped at me telling me i am not using that strong light on her bro (girl i know my business)
And i was like yeah sure
And then i was told by the family that they don’t want me doing the photoshoot as they already did it(i was actually happy when informed because babies aren’t my forte) but they were pissed telling me I didn’t keep my promise to them and so on so on

After the celebration i went home to study my other exam(pray for me) and got my equipments and left

Well they didn’t call me the AH but i knew they think about me like that and i am quite sure I wasn’t an AH but i want your opinion people ######

Response: NTA - you have a special skill they don't have and they want to use you for it as much as possible to avoid paying for photographers who specialize in family/baby photos. Since they assumed you would do it, or you were signed up against your will, they're getting mad at someone else's words, someone else's promise for your work, when you didn't explicitly agree to it. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account sorry for the formatting on mobile

So some back story my mom was married to my stepdad for almost 15 years. He was like a second dad to me and my step brother and sisters are like siblings to me. Last year out of the blue him and my mom got a divorce. He sat me (19M) down and we had a conversation how nothing between us would change and I was still his son.

So during the pandemic I needed a place to stay after the university I went to shut down. I knew my mom and her boyfriend live in a small apartment so asked if I could stay with my stepdad. Of course he said yes. So now it’s been something like two months. So last week my mom and her boyfriend got engaged after dating for about a year.

After hearing the news a called them to congratulate them. As soon as she answered she tore into me about how inappropriate and disrespectful to her and her fiancé it was for me to be staying with her ex husband and his family.

Now all this week I’ve been getting bombarded with opinions for family and friends about what they think and they are very divided mainly by moms friends and family and everyone else. But AITA ######

Response:
 NTA - you have a relationship with a person who was in your life playing some sort of parental role for 15 years. I don't know what your mum expected, but if it was that you would cut all ties with him simply because she's the one with the biological connection to you that was an unreasonable expectation to have. You needed to move somewhere and it's great that your ex-stepdad is still here for you. She should be pleased that you still have support from him and not flip out at you for it.

On a side note, you're an adult and you can stay wherever you like - neither your mum nor your family and friends should be wading into your decisions like this. ######


Prompt: AITA for reporting my car stolen. A lot of things happened so I'm going to try to summarize. Long story short my brother in law has been in and out of jail most of his life. He has had his driver's license suspended due to multiple running from the law and driving under the influence. He seemed to be wanting to turn a new leaf in his life and has had "bad luck ". I was willing to loan him my car with rules. They are as followed. He was not to drive his girlfriend was to drive him everywhere. They where to help keep up the car. And finally they where to not to smoke in it. They also lived with us for about a year. During this year neither one of them held a job for more than a couple of months. Would isolate themselves until they wanted to "borrow" money. Also the car would reek of cigarettes and the seats be so nasty you couldn't tell what color they were.  It all came to a head when they went MIA in my car for two months. I asked them for my car and It was a lame excuse as why they couldn't have it back I also received in this time tickets from another state over. I told them to have my car back a week ago or I was going to report it. Still nothing. The police called today and my car was on the other side of the state ( three and a half hours away.) Am I the asshole for calling the law  and reporting my car stolen. ######

Response: NTA - you gave him guidelines to follow, which he obviously didn’t follow. Heaven only knows where your car was for the two months it went missing. I would have called it in sooner! ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend and I live together, and she’s usually pretty relaxed and easy to get along with. But today she put on a smaller tank top, and some shorts, looked in the mirror and asked if the top made her look fat.

Now my girlfriend isn’t fat per se, but she’s a little chubby. She’s still attractive, but she’s not a 2% body fat supermodel. Neither am I, but I don’t get upset if someone points it out.

I said she looked great, and she said that I didn’t answer the question. I asked if she really wanted to know the answer and she said yes. I said the top was a little small, and not super flattering. She then got mad and said that was rude and then started crying.

At this point I got annoyed, and said she shouldn’t ask trap questions if she’s going to cry about it afterwards. I gave her a perfectly nice answer in the first place, and she wanted an honest answer.

She claimed she wanted “support”. We’ve been fighting all day about it.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA - You gave her your honest opinion and gave it in the nicest way possible.Don't ask questions you don't want answers to. ######


Prompt:
(24M)

Yesterday afternoon, a new neighbour in our flat knocked on our door. It was a young woman and she asked if we had any sugar at home she could borrow to use for her baby's milk for the day, since she can't go out to buy any and her husband is working.

I told her that I had some sugar left, but it's only enough for the apple pie I was planning to make that evening. She said that she really needs it since her 2 year old baby refuses anything else to eat, and that it would be a kind gesture if I could give up my apple pie for another day.

I kindly refused and I mentioned that if she really needs it, I can go out and buy it for her **(I meant with her money)** but I'm not looking to give my sugar away.

She wasn't happy and sarcastically thanked me as she was leaving. I just closed the door and continued about my day.

I'm always one to doubt my previous actions and I question myself as to whether I was right or wrong, so I told my parents.....and they told me I was selfish for not helping someone out and that they expected better from me as a gentleman.

I'm here for judgement. Was I selfish? Was I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA - you even offered to go out and get sugar for her. I agree with most other people here....why on earth is she putting sugar in a 2-year old's milk??? ######


Prompt:
Over the months, I've finally had time to paint and so I've made money off painting art commissions. I ordered a Switch and its meant to arrive some ime this week, and so I withdrew some cash so I can pay for it (cash on delivery)

Now the problem is, my family has seen the wad of cash and has gradually borrowed money from it that it went from 12k to 2k. It's fine because I'm tracking the package and it wont be here 'til Monday, so I still have time to withdraw more cash and thankfully, I still have enough even if they don't pay me by then if my tracking is correct. And usually they notify me first and ask nicely.

This morning, my brother just casually dropped he took money from my wallet this morning while I was asleep. I got pissed and said "you people aren't entitled to my money". He got pissed too and said I shouldn't be acting like that, that he has been earning far longer and he never got my selfish attitude, and that he at least said she took it right now because she didn't want to wake me up.

AITA for my attitude over my money? ######

Response: NTA - you earned your money - I can't believe they took *10k* from you! That's absolutely ridiculous. Yeah he had been earning for longer, so he should have his own money and not have to take yours! ######


Prompt:
My sister and I have been fighting for a while because she never gets me so much as a card for my birthday, and I always would get her an actual present. When I brought it up to her before my birthday in September she said that it’s because I make more than her so it’s only fair that I “give back”.

So I didn’t get her anything this year, which caused a huge fight in January when it happened. Then we didn’t talk until now, but we recently bought my husband a new car which sparked another argument because she said that if I have enough for a car I have enough for a present for her.

The point isn’t that I can’t afford the presents, it’s that she never does anything for me. She keeps going on and on about how I make more but I’d be happy with a card or a drawing or something cheap.

My mom thinks I should just buy her something to shut her up but I think that would be enabling her.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA - you don’t owe her a bday gift just because you make more money.

You can give the gift if you wanted to out of your own kindness, but you shouldn’t be guilted into it. ######


Prompt:
My wife and I just heard from our agent that we received a full price offer on our house within a week of listing.

What should be a happy occasion turned out to be a fight....

We’ve been working furiously to get the house in proper order to ensure a quick/full price sale. We’ve spent nearly $5k on painting, cleaning and upgrades.

Our to do list didn’t get finished by the time we went on the market, and there are a few detail jobs still left to be done. However, that didn’t prevent us from listing, and getting a full price offer quickly.

We were basking in the glow of this news tonight, when my wife told me that she still wanted to get the last few projects done to ‘clear my conscience’. I told her that I thought that was a waste of time, and that we’d already spent enough time/money/effort to get the result we ultimately wanted, which was a quick sale.

Am I the asshole for not wanting to spend more time, money, and effort when we’ve already achieved our goal? ######

Response: NTA - you don’t need to keep running once you finished the race ######


Prompt: I’m a 30 year old male with high functioning autism. The other day my brother told me to stop fucking around and get my shit together so I can get married and have kids. I told him that we already had this conversation. I don’t want kids. I pass for normal but I had difficulty with learning and social interactions growing up. They don’t understand how difficult it really is. If I am going to get married it would be to another autistic person which raises the likelihood of our child having it too. I don’t want to take the chances of my kid being what I am or worse off. I’m also pretty unhealthy. My L5 is messed up and I’m in constant pain. My dad suffered from constant pain from a leg injury he had. He missed out on a lot of my childhood before he died of a heart attack when I was 7. I don’t want to have a kid and have them be without a dad. My past partners have all been autistic and super irresponsible. No one that I would trust raising a child. Similar to my mom who had a everything will work itself out mentality which led to my siblings getting into a lot of trouble. My brother wasn’t happy about this and stormed off because his kids needs cousins. You want the best for your kids and I don’t even see my kids having an ok life so why would I try. The kid would likely be mentally retarded due to both parents having the gene. The person I’m seeing is basically a child in a adult woman’s body. I have no trust in her. Even if I took better care of myself I still have a lot of health issues that could take me out before the kid grows up. Am I the AITA for not wanting to bring a child into a shitty situation? ######

Response: NTA - you don't owe his kids cousins. ######


Prompt:
So I (25m) and my fiance (29f) are renting the house we live in from my mom (51f) with no written rental agreement. My mom wants us to assume the mortgage from her and we live here for the next 17 years until the mortgage is paid off.

The problem is that fiance and I both have to travel an hour or more to work and mom is using the house as her personal storage unit. Also the house needs a lot of work done to it because whoever added the additions to the house did a terrible job. We don't want to live in the house because we don't have room for our stuff and it is causing our relationship to have unnecessary arguments.

We want to live closer to work especially since I have to be to work at 5am. Whenever we say anything to mom about moving she replies "you won't ever find a better deal than what I'm offering, assuming the mortgage is your best option to own your own house." The last time I mentioned moving she said "how can I afford my camper if you move?"

So reddit WIBTA if fiance and I move? ######

Response: NTA - you don't need to be trapped in a house you dont want to live in, just because it's your moms. Let her rent it out to someone else. Get your own place, that suits your needs better, free of her stuff and closer to your work. ######


Prompt:
I live in a 4 bedroom apartment with 3 other guys. I haven’t had any issues with any of them up until now when the roommate on my side started dating this girl and she basically moved. This doesn’t particularly bother me but her kid is living here now. He didn’t ask any of us if this was okay (obviously I would’ve said hell no regardless). Kids are, by nature, noisy. She’s like 6, so she’s gonna play and be a kid. However, I didn’t sign up to live with a kid.

I was going to talk to him about it and let him know that it wasn’t cool that the kid lives here. But I think I’m just going to report it to the leasing office. He didn’t give us the decency of asking, so I figure why should I?

For God sakes, he doesn’t know any of us that well and they leave her to sleep in the living room (our common space) and all of her stuff is out there. I would be worried for my kids safety and be super uncomfortable with that - you never know what kind of people you’re around.

Am I the asshole here if I report him? ######

Response: NTA - you don't know each other that well and he didn't ask any of you.  So, IMO, TTA and they should have at least talked to everyone before they moved in. ######


Prompt:
Posting for a friend without Reddit:

I recently attended my child's wedding. His father and I split many years ago when he had an affair and got another woman pregnant. My ex husband has since passed away.

My child has a relationship with this half sibling and the kids that came after them. They attended the wedding.

AITA for not acknowledging them? Another wedding guest called me out for not speaking to them. I don't speak to them because I simply have no relationship with them (didn't recognise them until pointed out) and it is a painful chapter in my life.

Not that I wish them any ill will but I don't care to make small talk with my ex husband's kids. They are adults now and probably also don't want to make small talk with me either. This wedding guest seemed to think I was being rude.

AITA for this? ######

Response: NTA - you don't have to make conversation with people for appearances sake. If the kids aren't going to be hurt by your behaviour then you're not being assholeish. ######


Prompt:
So basically, this blonde girl kept giving me 50% off my Subway. I wasn't sure if it was a glitch or not but I noticed whenever she served me specifically my bank statement would always show my charge as half the price of what I normally pay. I suspect she was doing this purposely and it was meant to be a sweet gesture... And because of this, I avoided mentioning it to her as I thought it would come off as tone-deaf if I pointed out that she was undercharging me (if she was doing it on purpose).

This happened for about a month. And then one day their franchise owner was in the store doing a routine checkup on his staff members. He noticed me and immediately began snapping his fingers at me while calling me buddy sternly in order to get my attention. He asked me if I had come in the day before and then accused me of not paying for my sub the day prior (in front of his staff and customers). He then said he'd let it slide this time and that I could have yesterday's sub for free, but for me not to let it happen again.

I assume he's implying that he thinks I'm a thief. I walked out and checked my bank statements (which all said I had paid). So I can only assume he's alluding to his staff member giving me 50% off.

Am I an asshole for accepting what I presume would be this girl's staff discount?... ######

Response: NTA - you didn’t ask and it’s not your fault the girl did that. That manager was very much out of place. ######


Prompt:
My daughter is home right now from uni. We have a great relationship and we talk about random shit. My sister and her kids are also home right now because her appartement is getting fumigated.

To the story my daughter has known that she has fertility problems since her late teend, due to an illness. Luckily infertility and iron deficiency are the only symptoms.

We were talking while drinking a coffee in the living room where my sister was helping my niece with her homework. And I think we were talking about her last boyfriend or something and we were also watching one of those trashy shows on TV. Along the lines of 16 and pregnant. And she was like "uff imagine if I had done that to you when I was 16!" we laughed and then in a rather serious way I said "if that happened now to you tho, I would help you to raise the child no questions asked. Not even questioning who the father is". And I meant it. My daughter laughed and we moved on with our conversation.

When making dinner my sister comes to the kitchen and starts lecturing me about how I should not project my baby crazyness on my daughter. I was confused and she explained that the comment I made was hyper inappropriate specially seeing as daughter had the fertility problems. I toldy sister to keep her nose out of our business and that we have a good enough relationship that even if it was inappropriate, she would have told me herself.

Daughter is sleeping still and I just wonder if I stepped over a line. I like babies and I would like to be a grandma *some day*, but never in a thousand years would I pressure my daughter to become a mom because I want grand babies. ######

Response:
 NTA - you didn't even bring it up, you indicated that if a hypothetical situation that she brought up was to happen then you would be supportive

I've no idea how that could make you TA

People are strange! ######


Prompt:
I’ll do my best to keep this brief.

Earlier this week my parents came to visit my wife and I because we recently had another child. While they were visiting, my father used a word, which I won’t repeat, but it ends with a hard R, and I told him he can’t use that word in front of my children or in my home. Good time to mention my father and I are both white, my wife and children are not.

After some pretty low powered excuses for why he’s not a racist and how it’s just a word, I eventually said to him “You know, you may not think you’re a racist, but at the very least you’re complicit, so you should really drop the white supremacist bull shit, because your white fucking bloodline dies with me.” This is when he stormed out of the house, and out of the yard slamming every door he came across. I’ll mention, it was also the date on which my older brother would’ve turned 34 had he not passed two years ago.

Broke the latch on my fence gate, which I repaired today, Fathers Day ironically. That was Wednesday. After my mom and dad returned home (about a 6 hour drive), he texted my wife saying he was very sorry he left without saying goodbye to her or my kids. Today he finally texted me to wish me a happy Father’s Day and day he loved me. Honestly, I’m still pissed. My father has a history of pulling crap like this and then pretending nothing happened so that I look like the jerk for not ignoring the fact that he was in the wrong and wants to move forward without apologizing or even acknowledging he has done anything wrong.

There’s plenty of other examples of this kind of behavior from him in my past that I decided to forgive and forget (even though he never apologized) after my only brother died, but I am not going to tolerate racism and if he wants a relationship with his son or grandkids, I think he should apologize and I’m ignoring him until he does. Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 NTA - you did the right thing.

Plus:
> because your white fucking bloodline dies with me.

Savage!  You hit a racist where it hurts.  Hopefully loving his grand kids can get him to realize that the racist crap is just crap ######


Prompt:
My swimming instructor said I passed all of the requirements for the first part of my course. Then he said the last part of my course required  me to do a practical test at another swimming location the next day. I drove all the way to the new swimming pool about 30 minutes away and went into the swimming centre. I saw my swimming instructor and other swimming classmates. My swimming instructor said “sorry, I forgot that your swimming level (I am doing bronze star) doesn’t require an practical test. The practical test is only for those doing bronze medallion and above.”
So me and my family went home.
Then weeks passed and I still have not received my bronze star certificate in the mail.

I went to the swimming pool and told a staff member I haven’t received my certificate. Then she told me to write my mobile number down so my swimming teacher can contact me. Weeks had passed and I did not get a phone call from the teacher.

I went to the swimming pool one day and happened to see my swimming teacher so I said that I still haven’t received my certificate. He said “that’s not my problem if you haven’t received your certificate”. I’m not the type to argue so I just left it there and came home and told my dad.

My dad said to email the swimming organisation and say that I haven’t received my certificate. They replied back and basically didn’t believe me. Then i had to reply back explaining the whole story, I even included the part where my teacher said “it’s not my problem”. Then finally the swimming organisation replied back and apologised. I received my certificate about two months late.

Then the following year I had that same swimming teacher again to teach me swimming. He basically ignored me the entire time. AITA for going to great lengths to get my certificate? I mean I did pay around $100 for the course. ######

Response: NTA - you deserve your certificate - you paid for the course. ######


Prompt:
My mother has two children, me (28M) and my sister (30F)

I’ve been with my wife for 7 years, she (34F) has a 9 year old son, I picked up the fatherly duties as his dad wasn’t around and he views me as his dad which I’m really happy about.

My mother is obsessed with having grandchildren, I always thought she saw my son as her grandson.

My wife and I Skyped my mother last week for her birthday (my sister and her husband were on the call too) when I mentioned the present I had delivered.

She said, maybe as a joke, “*the only present I want off you is a grand baby*”

I said that she’s already got one, my son- my wife and I are  considering adopting too.

To sum up what she said; he isn’t biologically mine, she wants a child who’s biologically related to her.

It’s literally impossible for me and my wife to have a child together.

I told her to call me when she isn’t so up herself.

Apparently she’s upset and my sister wants me to apologise for being so snappy and ruining our mothers birthday over a harmless comment that didn’t even offend my son.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA - You could say to your sister something along the lines of "A birthday is just one day. My son is going to be my son for the rest of my life. Her comment ruined the day and if she doesn't realise that, it could ruin a lifetime relationship with her grandchild." ######


Prompt:
For context. In 2006, when I was 8, my dad begun an affair with the mother of my best friend, who we’ll call Alison. My mum found out because of something I had said about them spending time together and filed for divorce some time after. My dad moved in with this woman, and although I still saw him three times a week, i was absolutely devastated because I felt he had left me. 2 years after he left, my dad died, creating a massive rift in my life.

Despite my dads will declaring he wanted to leave everything to me and my brothers, Alison practically demanded she keep everything and because my mum was so wrapped up in her own grief, and mine and my brothers, she gave up fighting it. She also paid off the life insurance on the house my dad and Alison had bought, because Alison asked her too. Also, despite my mum paying for the entire funeral cost, Alison planned the entire thing alone, and went against his wishes, we now have no headstone or grave as a result and that kills me every day. My entire family despises Alison, she stressed my dad out a lot and the doctors believed stress contributed to the heart attack which killed him.

Yesterday I was in the local supermarket and saw her, with her daughters. I tried avoiding eye contact with her as I do every time I see her, but instead of just leaving like she usually does when we run into eachother, she came over and tried to talk to me. I just said “not a chance this is happening” and turned around and walked away.

I do feel bad about the encounter as I never intend on being rude but she taunted me with my dads death for years, and a lot of the trauma I have experienced is because of her so I struggle allowing myself to feel bad.

AITA for ignoring her? ######

Response: NTA - You cannot fake being nice to someone you care nothing for.  You were civil. You didn't curse her out or flip her off which by the way are things I would have done. ######


Prompt:
We were stuck in line for a half hour to get into a store and he wouldn’t stop looking over at the pretty woman in a super short dress reading a book called “sex and rage.” He made multiple comments about her book but it was very clear he was looking at her sexually - she was very pretty and showing a lot of skin (no hate, just fact).

WIBTA if I told my bf that that made me uncomfortable today that it was so blatant and for so long and even commented on? I mentioned in line he kept staring and he didn’t say anything in response but I don’t see him responding to this well since he’s not very empathetic or emotionally mature. ######

Response: NTA - you can’t be wrong for expressing how you feel as long as you’re doing it in a good way. That situation would make anybody in a relationship feel uncomfortable/annoyed ######


Prompt:
So my GF and have been discussing getting married and having kids.

However last night we got into an argument over raising our kids.

She doesn't want them wasting away in front of a TV or being unhealthy... Ok that's fine with me.

However then she says that she doesn't really want our kids to do Easter, Halloween, and Christmas. Her reasons are that all they promote is consumerism and bad eating habits.

However I became angry because while yes I can understand that view, at the same time, it would be robbing our children of experiencing something fun of those holidays.

Her upbringing was not a happy one and she doesn't like the idea of lots of candy or spoiling children with gifts. She grew up with a very absent mother and no father. So she didn't have a very good experience with those holidays.

I can understand her stance, but I think about how much fun finding Easter eggs, going trick or treating is, and the magic of Christmas, and missing those or muting them down to just another day, bothers me.

Well I went to bed angry and so did she. I said well I guess we shouldn't have kids then. I woke up this morning feeling terrible for saying that. However I think the damage is done. I don't think this will work out.

It just sucks because I can feel those great memories and get view on those holidays, I can feel those memories being ripped from me.

Anywho that's it. So am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA - you both have the right, whether people agree or not, to raise your children how you think best. I don’t agree with your wife at all as your children would be deprived growing up and feel excluded from everyone else. But that’s her opinion and if you guys can agree, then it might be time to split ######


Prompt:
My friend (22) was upset his girlfriend (20, still in college) cheated on him with his best friend and broke up with him right before he was going to break up with her.

He showed me his cellphone with about 30 pictures of his now exgf topless and doing other things, mainly oral. He looks at me and laughs, “I’m gonna make this b*tch famous on pornhub. He looked dead serious and said he wasn’t kidding.

I tried to explain to him how illegal this is and even without his face being in any of the pictures he would definitely face charges. I also mentioned how this would ruin her reputation because she goes to school with me and people would definitely find out. He told me she’s a slut so her reputation is already ruined. I took special note of how he didn’t even acknowledge my warning about him facing charges.

So when he went to the bathroom I grabbed his phone  (it was already unlocked) and deleted the pics. I’m pretty sure I got them all. I don’t know if his icloud backed them up but I didn’t go digging around for that. I told him what I did and ran out of his apartment door as he was screaming but unable to chase after me.

AITA for deleting potential revenge porn? ######

Response:
 NTA - you are obviously not the asshole.

Whether the girl cheated or not is irrelevant - revenge porn is cruel and over-the-top response.

Fingers crossed you got all of them.  This girl may never know what you did, but it was a really good thing. ######


Prompt: I have a friend who wanted wall sconce lights made.  He wanted 10 made and had a budget of $250USD.  This means that I would be doing them at a loss but as a favour I agreed.  I did one to his specifications and it was too long, he asked for the remainder to be done shorter.  I made them shorter and tested them in my own home to make sure the proportions were correct.  He harrasses me to finish them quickly (despite being for an airbnb that will get no bookings during a pandemic) and I finish them.  He then takes three weeks to pick them up.  After picking them up he tries them out and they dont work because he is using long lightbulbs that butt into the wood of the lightboxes.  I express that I am sorry that that happened but recommend he jjust buys shorter lightbulbs at $3-$8 a piece instead of making me do work valued at $450 for free because he was incapable of giving me correct measurements.  He is furious and I refuse to budge.  AITA? ######

Response: NTA - you are literally doing him a favor for barely anything. He has an easy fix for it to that'll barely add on to his cost. Instead, he wants you to spend hundreds of dollars fixing his mistake? Drop him as a friend. He takes advantage of your kindness, harrasses you to get it finished only to be too lazy to take the time to pick them up, and they won't be getting any use anyway. You did the job and well if the only complaint is his lightbulbs, which he measured inaccurately, don't fit. ######


Prompt:
On Twitter a video originally posted on tik tok has gone viral of a man building his wife a coffee table. In the video the wife says how she wanted a expensive coffee table but the husband says he will just build it for her.

I liked 2 retweets of the video. The first one says “I want a bob the builder a** husband” and the second one was “men forever asking can we cook, can y’all do this?” because UHM who wouldn’t want a husband who can build coffee tables?!

Here’s the issue! My boyfriend saw that i liked those tweets and accused me of wanting another man who can build me coffee tables. My response was “.... can you not build stuff?” because i thought he was really good at those things. He told me that i didn’t like those tweets because of him and told me to go find a “bob the builder a** dude” since i wanted someone else.

He said i liked the tweets because of the guy in the video.... i’m super confused because the guy is literally building his WIFE a table and i thought it was super cute too! I think every girl whether or not she has a boyfriend would love a husband who can build things. That doesn’t mean she wants someone that isn’t her boyfriend.

He has now blocked me and called me a hoe. So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA - you are allowed to have your own opinion. If boyfriend(now ex?) doesn’t agree, he should be able to have a civil conversation about his feelings towards it. ######


Prompt:
I've been with my gf for a while and we are both 16. Her parents keep asking me to tell my gf to do things. Like they'll tell me to tell her she needs to study, finish her homework, eat less junk food, go on her phone less, wake up earlier, etc. The first few times I told my gf "your parents told me to tell you x" and she would just complain about her parents being annoying. We started joking around about me being her parent and I'd jokingly say things like "take out the trash young woman" or "go to your room".

Her parents kept asking me to tell my gf things. I usually didn't even bring up to my gf what her parents are saying after a while. Then they'd call or text and ask if I told her and if I can ask her again as she still isn't doing what they want. I told them " I'm her partner not her boss. I'm not going to try to parent her. If I'm worried about her I'll talk to her privately but I'm not going to monitor stuff like if she is sleeping in late or not studying enough. It isn't my job to do that." They called me disrespectful and said I should be looking out for my gf. ######

Response:
 NTA - you are acting like a respectful partner. This parent-child relationship sounds incredibly controlling, like they are passing you the torch of "shaping her into a respectable young lady"

creepy to the max.

You are young and I don't know if the relationship will last - not because of her parents, but like normal relationships come and pass - but you ARE looking out for her, by respecting her as her own person and not giving in to her parents pressure.
That is the very best you can do as a partner, so continue to do that ######


Prompt:
I [16M] started dating my girlfriend 2 years ago. I also got super super into baking around that time. I bake a lot. My girlfriend loves desserts. So I've given her a ton of stuff I bake, all kinds of different stuff. I often try to bake something new and then she gets to try something new. I honestly love baking way more than eating it. My girlfriend is the opposite.

Well recently she gave me a scrapbook she made. She had counted every thing I baked her apparently, and she gave me this scrapbook after I baked her, her 100th dessert. It was filled with a picture of every dessert I've baked and pictures of me baking  and her eating. She wrote a paragraph about each item I baked. Each item was dated too. She had been working on this for 2 years. She also wrote a long letter on how proud she is of my baking hobby, thanking me for the sweets, and telling me how much she loves me. It was the sweetest gift I've ever gotten and I honestly cried.

I showed my mom and sister expecting them to think its cute but they were pissed. They were angry I've spent so much time baking for my girlfriend and not them. I just got into this habit and I loved making my girlfriend happy as well since she loves desserts. ######

Response: NTA - you and your girlfriend sound sweet and your family sounds bitter ######


Prompt:
I (15f) am getting tired of my sister (20) constantly stealing my stuff, mostly my art supplies. My supplies was a couple of pallets and paint brushes, I paid for all of these myself, I don’t have a job yet so it’s hard for me to buy new supplies so I use my supplies cautiously.

It started when I was using my paint supplies on a project that I had to finish. My sister was playing with my niece. I left to go to the bathroom and feed my cat and when I came back, she stole one of my pallets and excessively stacked paint all over it. She was also using my most delicate/expensive paint brushes. I quickly grabbed the paint brush away and I got pissed off and yelled at her for grabbing my stuff. She quickly tried to make me a bad person for “ruining her bonding time” with her niece (even though she was the one painting and not my niece).

I left to go clean up my brushes and when I came back, she started painting that same pallet on top of my project and let my niece use a sheet of paper to paint. This time, she took out her own box of paints and brushes. She used her own brushes for her and my niece, but continued to use my paints.

I took away my stuff and put them in my box and my sister tried to make me the bad person by saying that “niece just wanted paint” and “I wouldn’t let niece use my stuff”.
I would have gladly let them paint with my pallets if they just asked, but they didn’t

Note: my sister has her own money to be able to buy her own stuff and has 3x more supplies than I do. ######

Response: NTA - Yes, your sister wanted to paint with your niece, that's cute and fine, but not of they're using your supplies. Those are your belongings, and she should have asked in the first place. (maybe you could win some cool aunt bonus points and get your niece one of those cheap lil paint sets for kids?) ######


Prompt:
This isn’t a shitpost, I’m still reeling and tbh even if I am the asshole I’m so incensed I don’t think I can regret what happened.

However my bf thinks I was indeed the asshole so I’m here for sake good ol’ fashioned judgement.

We have a shared laundry room in my apartments, I was dealing with my basket of clean laundry and was folding as I was going. I had 2 baskets, 1 full of jumbled bedsheets and blanket and 1 for my folded laundry ready to take up.

There was a lady there with her kid,she was sitting completely ignoring her kid on her phone. The kid was running around and pulling things, pushing buttons, twisting settings on random machines etc.

She didn’t once stop to tell her daughter to behave. At one point she crawled on her belly halfway under some benches and when she came back out she was covered in dust and filth.

I carried on with my folding giving the girl death glares cuz she kept looking over to my basket and asking her mom if she could ‘touch the blankie cuz it’s pink’

Her mom kept grunting without looking up. I turned around to sweep in the dryer to make sure I hadn’t forgotten anything and lo and behold when I turned around the kid had handfuls of my blanket in her grimy ass hands.

I yelled (didn’t mean to, I just said loudly ‘WHAT are you doing??’) and the mom *immediately* got up and started to cuss me out. I was pretty pissed cuz I only have 1 blanket to sleep with (everything in storage elsewhere rn) and so I snapped back that she was a bad parent and negligent.

The kid literally wasn’t bothered, she was back to crawling and the mom literally looked like she was gonna throw hands so I left. I told my bf this on the phone fuming and he said I acted like an asshole and a Karen. ######

Response: NTA - yes it is hard being a parent but the mother should have at least been paying some attention to her daughter, and shouldn't have shouted at you for your reaction. It also isn't just your clothes she has messed up. If she was letting the daughter turn the washing machine dials she could easily have changed the settings of an ongoing wash to a higher temperature making colours run, or off sensitive to something that could damage the clothes. ######


Prompt:
This one is pretty straightforward. My husband and I have been married for two years. Ever since our wedding night, my MIL has been talking about grandchildren. Nonstop. I understand she’s excited. It’s a thing mother in laws do. Whatever. Up until December, I would just shrug it off. I wasn’t ready for a baby and neither was my husband. We were happy building our careers, and - sure - having a baby was a definite long-term plan of ours, but we just weren’t ready. Not yet.

Well, in December, I found out I can’t have children. My husband and I were pretty crushed. After that, my MIL’s small remarks about “grand babies” made my heart sink. Around the new year, my husband and I asked her to (please.) stop asking and making comments about us having children because it made us uncomfortable. And she did! It was great.

Then corona hit and, well, up until very recently, I hadn’t seen anyone but my husband in months. He and I have started to accept the fact that we may never have a biological child,  and we’ve even discussed adoption/other options at length. It’s been a process, but we’ve been communicating about it. It’s been really good for us.

The first time I saw my MIL post-quarantine, last week, she immediately made a comment about how since my husband and I have spent so much time together, she’s bound to have a grand baby for the new year. Before I could even think, I snapped, “no, and you probably never will because I’m infertile.”

She looked crestfallen and was mortified. I didn’t mean to snap at her like that, but it just came out of me. Initially, my husband was super supportive and kept telling me that this was on her, and we had asked her to stop asking. Now, he wants ME to apologize, saying his mother keeps crying on the phone with him because she thinks I hate her. So... I have to apologize? I know what I did was abrupt. I own that. But, I don’t think I should apologize.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA - yeah you snapped, but she was pushing it by constantly going on about grandkids. I don't think you should have to apologise but it's also not a cut all contact type of moment.  If you're able to have a conversation with her and allow her to apologise maybe you can all move past this. ######


Prompt:
So a little back story my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. I stay at his house 5 days a week and mine 2. I am renting to own my place and he owns his. I have 3 kids from a previous marriage. Now my prior marriage ended when my child’s father had a year long affair and then kicked myself and our children out of our home and moved his mistress in resulting in my and my children being homeless and sleeping in our car in the Walmart parking lot.

Now my boyfriend and I were having a talk about our relationship and the future and I asked about moving in someday since I stay there 5 days a week and he said yeah you probably can’t live here because I don’t want to give you half of what I own if you decided to leave. Then I asked what if we stayed together for 50 years and he said that his house would go to his sister and that she would probably let me still live here if I needed to but he wanted his stuff to stay in his family.

Now that terrifies me because I never want to be homeless. Then I told him that I wanted another child and he said “why do you can put me on child support when you leave and still get the house because it will go to my kids and then you’ll be here and probably sell it out from under him”

Now at this point I’m really questioning why he’s giving me such rude answers because we’ve been together awhile and I just want to know if we have a future together and he’s calling me a gold digger. I haven’t spoke to him in a few days and he’s left several mean voicemails saying I’m overreacting and that “this proves it to him how I am” AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA - wtf? You sure you want to live with him OP?

Have you discussed i dunno a possible prenup?

Your boyfriend sounds like a child tbh. ######