Prompt:
Basically my sister (14F) and I (20F) wanted a Nintendo Switch, but it costs a lot of money to get one so we decided to split the cost. Overall the switch + games + accessories cost about $420 (ayyy) and as I have a job and I’m older, I agreed to paying for most of it ($300).

We gave ourselves about 3 months to save up money, but by the end of it, my sister didn’t have enough for her $120 share (she was always spending money and hanging out with her friends.)

But I still wanted a Switch so I said I would cover her as long as she paid me back via artwork and drawings. She’s a great artist and she does do commissions, so we agreed that I would pay for her and in exchange, she would create 3-4 drawings for me.

So we bought the switch back in January and we both use it. Anyhow, I asked her to draw me a portrait of my friend for her birthday, nothing too strenuous, asked her 3 weeks in advance and gave her all the info she needed. She never delivered and i was angry, but I just bought my friend another present last minute so I wasn’t too upset.

Anyhow fast forward to February and she did the same thing. Then more recently, I asked if she could draw a character I liked from a TV show and she just straight up told me that she didn’t want to, that she never wanted to, that she didn’t know why I kept asking her to draw shit and that I was not entitled to her drawings.

I reminded her that her drawing for me was literally apart of the deal we had on the Nintendo switch but she said it’s been months since we got it so we should just drop it.

So I did just that and now I’m refusing to let her play the switch, of course she’s angry but I said it was technically my Switch now since I paid for it 100%. I brought it up to my mom and she said I need to be the bigger person here (figuratively and literally) and share it with my sister. AITA in this situation? ######

Response:
 NTA. Sure she's 14 but that doesn't mean she's entitled to your stuff where you've spent the time and effort to earn and save.

There was an agreement, and she failed to keep it. You tried to compromise, and she threw it back in your face. 14 is a good time to start learning about saving money, keeping to your promises etc.

She could have saved money via allowances and spent less money on going out, but she chose not to. ######


Prompt:
Title sounds kinda confusing. Also sorry for any grammar mistakes, I’m french, English isn’t first language.

So right now I’m(15F) living with my brother(27) and his boyfriend(24). It’s temporary tho, I’ll be back with my parents in 2 weeks. I’ve been with them for a week, everything was going great.

Yesterday I got up early and I was bored,  I thought I’d make something. I found easy mug brownie recipe so I made it. I found some powered sugar and there was a tiny bit left, so I sprinkled it on top of the brownie. As I was doing that my brother’s boyfriend walked in the kitchen and saw me. He got angry and asked me what I was doing. He told me that the sugar was expired and made me throw the brownie out. He told me that they were just keeping it because of memories because they got it while traveling. My brother was kinda mad too and told me that I should’ve asked him first before cooking something.

I haven’t apologized and I don’t think it’s my fault. They could’ve kept it anywhere other than kitchen if it’s just a decoration and not actually edible. ######

Response: NTA. Sugar doesn't really expire. And nobody keeps powdered sugar "because of memories because they got it while traveling," and if they did, they wouldn't keep it in the kitchen with all the other ingredients that people use regularly. ######


Prompt:
I'm new here, so please forgive any mistakes I may make.
I have two boys with my now ex wife, who decided that after the birth of our second son that she didn't want to be involved anymore. She divorced me, and I was stranded full custody since she didn't want anything to do with our kids anymore. It was certainly an adjustment, but I found that both myself and our sons, after the initial shock, were both dealing great without My wife, who, to be clear, didn't settle for anything less than perfection.
Fast forward fourteen years. Both of my sons are doing amazing, and so was I. We never moved from the house we lived in with my wife, so it shouldn't have been so surprising when My wife showed up at the door, claiming that she wanted to be Part of our lives again, in her own words.
I, of course, refused to have much to do with her, but if Our sons wanted to know her, then I wouldn't stop them. so I agreed to talk with them, privately, that night. I made sure not to involve my feelings, just that if they wanted to, they could have a relationship with their mom. And they didn't. No much what I tried to say, they refused. I told them to sleep on it, And they agreed. And came to the same conclusion.
When I told my wife about their decision, and, by extension, mine, she got angry. She accused me of 'poisoning ' their minds and told me that she'd take it to court if I still refused to let her see them. I said that I couldn't make them, And that she relinquished her parenting rights years ago. She got angry and hung up, but not before telling me that that I better be expecting a call soon.
I really don't believe her, but still, i appreciate any opinions, And if I'm being too harsh. ######

Response: NTA. Sue her for child support for fourteen years. That'll probably get rid of her. ######


Prompt:
Awhile back, I (18F) had a doctor's appointment regarding some issues about my period. I hadn't had a period for about year, and I was getting worried, because I'm not sexually active.

My mom went with me to the doctor's appointment and into the room with me for the exam. When the doctor was having me lie down to listen to my breathing, she told the doctor that "you know, she has a lot of stretch marks". I didn't bring anything up about that at all during the exam, and it was quiet when she brought it up.

It was really embarrassing, and I tried not to cry, because I didn't want to cause issues at the doctor's office.

It wasn't until yesterday that I brought it up during a talk with her. I told her that I thought it was very rude to bring something up like that and it was mean. I told her that I don't go to her doctor's appointments and tell them about her stretch marks. She told me that she thought that the doctor should know about it. I told her angrily that if I thought it was important I would tell the doctor or the doctor would ask me about it.

My dad was nearby while we were talking and said that I was being rude to my mom who had good intentions and that I shouldn't have said that to her and should also apologize. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. stretch marks are so irrelevant to the whole situation? i cant even fathom why she thought it was relevant. ######


Prompt:
Hello,

So I run a shop with a big window in a very busy street. For the last month, a dog has been pooping around the area of my shop, and the owners do not pick up after it. I've had my suspicions about who it was, and got visual confirmation last week.

The day after I got visual confirmation, I caught them again in the act, and snapped a picture of them. I then confronted them about it, and they basically told me to mind my own business.

So I got their picture blown up and printed with the title THESE PEOPLE DON'T PICK UP THEIR DOG'S POOP, IF YOU'VE WALKED IN POOP THEY ARE TO THANK, and stuck the poster in the window of my shop.

I've been having a lot of amused comments by my customers, but the people in the picture have gone insane, and have come by the shop many times to scream at me. I told them untill they change their attitude the poster is staying up.

Regarding the law, I'm not too sure what side I'm on, but not picking up their dog's poop is def illegal and can carry a hefty fine where I live (France), so I dobt they'll pursue legal action.

Some of my friends have said i'm an AH for publicaly shaming them. The way I see it they brought this upon themselves.

So reddit, AITA ? ######

Response: NTA. Stores do this all the time when they post photos of shoplifters. Public shaming is a strong deterrent. I don’t know France’s specific laws on public photography, but most places allow you to photograph someone in public without their consent, so they can’t even get you there. ######


Prompt:
I’ll keep it short and sweet. So my friend (I’ll call him Steve) is known as a huge flirt amongst our friends. We call him the bulldog, cause he literally takes every chance he gets to flirt with any female in range, even though he has a girlfriend. From buying girls random stuff to just weird and uncalled for compliments, he’s the ultimate flirt.

So anyway, I was at a small get together with some friends last weekend, and Steve was there, without his girlfriend. Steve was all over my girl, but I let it slide because I trust my girlfriend. (This has nothing to do with her, In not upset with her in the slightest) My girlfriend starts drinking pretty heavily, and begins throwing up halfway through the night. I’m taking care of her, and Steve starts to help as well. At first I was happy for the help, but as soon as I walked away to get some water, Steve swoops in and starts rubbing her back, and holding her neck with his hands. He was REALLY close. I didn’t really care, but it gets weirder. I try to come by her side and hold her hair back, but he kind of blocks me off! He put his arm around her to carry her off to sit in her and my tent.

At this point, I really think there is no point at all for him to be helping. If anything, he’s making it worse for her. I mean if I were puking my guts out I’d rather there be nobody around except for maybe one person. Later that night, my girlfriend told me that Steve kept asking for hugs because he and his girlfriend were not in a good spot and he missed her. What?????!! However, she did say that I shouldn’t be mad and that Steve was genuinely just trying to help out the situation. He CAN be a nice and selfless person, but I was a little too weirded out to tell.

Was he just being nice? Am I just being jealous? ######

Response:
 NTA. Steve is a handsy, horny guy, and so long as his target is consenting, whatever. But you, the boyfriend, were at the ready to help out your girlfriend, and he blocked you off to guide her into a private area, confess to her that he was in a bad spot in his relationship, and he needed her physical touch (via hugs) to give him comfort? It's weird to me.

I wouldn't say you're jealous, as you trust your partner. I would say you're suspicious of Steve's intentions, and I think anyone would be. I don't want to make a leap and maybe I am, but it sounds like Steve is trying to groom your girlfriend for some intimacy. Build trust, confess vulnerability, get her comfortable with physical contact, slowly lift boundaries. Steve is a friend that's not really so friendly, as I view it. ######


Prompt:
I’m 22F. Boyfriend “Joe” 22M. BF’s brother “Dan” 25M.

I’ve been living with Joe for 2 years now, and we’ve been dating for 4. Dan is Joe’s maternal half brother and he’s been living with their mom for his entire life—he’s never moved out, until now he has to because their mom finally got sick of him and kicked him out.

I don’t dislike Dan, but I know he’s a slob. He’s getting kicked out of their mom’s house because he never does anything for himself or the house (no cooking, no cleaning—not even after himself, no buying groceries, no paying bills, etc.). Basically he just acts like he’s still a kid who has no responsibility to himself or his home and spends all the money he makes at his job on weed and new stuff for himself.

When Joe came to me about possibly renting one of our spare rooms to Dan for awhile, I told him my reasoning above and said I wasn’t okay with it. I thing Dan is nice to hang out with, but I refuse to live with him. I don’t trust him to pay his rent or supplement any of the other expenses in the house like groceries/internet/cable/etc. I don’t trust him to help out around the house or not smoke weed inside. I don’t expect him (or Joe) to cook, because I do all the cooking and I like it, but if he’s not going to help out at all he’s not living with me and eating the food I cook and (mostly) pay for myself.

Joe was upset. He can understand my reasoning, but he thinks we should let Dan move in because he can’t afford to rent a house on his own, and he doesn’t want his brother to be homeless. I still firmly say no and believe Dan should try moving in with his girlfriend or one of his friends.

Joe is now proposing we do a trial run and let Dan move in for a month, and if he doesn’t meet my expectations we have him move out. I told him I’d think about it, but honestly I don’t think it’s worth the hassle because I strongly doubt he’d meet my expectations.

AITA if I say no to Dan moving in, even for a month long “trial run”? ######

Response: NTA. Stand your ground on this one. If you’ve been dating for 4 years, you and Joe are a team. You can evaluate ideas (like this one) on whether or not they would be good for the team. Having Dan move in would definitely not be good for the team! You’d have more stress and less privacy! Once he moved in he probably wouldn’t leave, so a trial is a no go. Can Joe offer to help him with the apartment hunting process instead? ######


Prompt:
I pay for a spotify premium account. My boyfriend and I shared it, until we broke up. When we broke up, I changed my password because he never made any payments on it.

He says I am in the wrong because he has mental health issues and the music is the only way to calm him down.

I dont think I should have to share because I pay for it with my own money, that I work for. I'm currently an out of work waitress so I'm doing odd jobs for my few bills.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Spotify has a free version. He'll just have to cope with the ads. ######


Prompt:
Growing up we were not close with my dad’s family at all. All holidays and special occasions were done with my mom’s family and it was clear as I got older that there was some tension between my mother and my dad’s side of the family. As a teen, I had resentment towards my mom because I felt like she was keeping us from my dad’s family.

Once I became an adult, my mom told me how poorly she was treated by my dad’s family, mainly his sister. It was bad. My dad’s mom passed away a few years ago (she was a single parent) and my dad really does not have much living family left.

I got engaged at the beginning of the year. My dad must have told my aunt because she immediately called me to congratulate us. I had not spoken to her since my grandmother’s funeral years ago. I then received a friend request from her on FB and was very surprised, because that means at one point she had to have unfriended me. (It wasn’t a new account and we definitely were FB friends a few years ago.) Once I accepted her request she took our engagement photos from my FB and posted them on her page for all her friends to ooh and ahh over.  She is one of those people that always has to show off and needs attention and validation from others. She even asked me to send her a close up of my ring, to which I said no.

My fiancé and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. We are currently working on our guest list and I really don’t want to invite her. I feel like she would be there for all the wrong reasons. I also don’t want my mom to be uncomfortable, even though she would never tell me if she was. My mom is a saint. I do feel bad because that is my dad’s sister and I know it would mean a lot to him if she was there.

AITA for not wanting my aunt at my wedding? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds more like the aunt wants to be there for selfish reasons. Your dad might be happier, but if she's treated your mom poorly and y'all aren't close, I don't see a reason for you inviting her to the wedding. ######


Prompt:
My daughter is home right now from uni. We have a great relationship and we talk about random shit. My sister and her kids are also home right now because her appartement is getting fumigated.

To the story my daughter has known that she has fertility problems since her late teend, due to an illness. Luckily infertility and iron deficiency are the only symptoms.

We were talking while drinking a coffee in the living room where my sister was helping my niece with her homework. And I think we were talking about her last boyfriend or something and we were also watching one of those trashy shows on TV. Along the lines of 16 and pregnant. And she was like "uff imagine if I had done that to you when I was 16!" we laughed and then in a rather serious way I said "if that happened now to you tho, I would help you to raise the child no questions asked. Not even questioning who the father is". And I meant it. My daughter laughed and we moved on with our conversation.

When making dinner my sister comes to the kitchen and starts lecturing me about how I should not project my baby crazyness on my daughter. I was confused and she explained that the comment I made was hyper inappropriate specially seeing as daughter had the fertility problems. I toldy sister to keep her nose out of our business and that we have a good enough relationship that even if it was inappropriate, she would have told me herself.

Daughter is sleeping still and I just wonder if I stepped over a line. I like babies and I would like to be a grandma *some day*, but never in a thousand years would I pressure my daughter to become a mom because I want grand babies. ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like your sister is trying to sound super “woke” and sensitive over something that has absolutely nothing to do with her. Your comment was appropriate to the conversation you were having. ######


Prompt:
My granddad was a huge influence in my life. My relationship with my mother was rocky at the best of times and whenever she kicked me out (which was often) he let me stay with him. When I turned 18 I went low (but not a complete lack of) contact with mum and lived with granddad for a while before going to uni, and he made clear that I'd always have a home with him. He passed when I was 22 and left me the lion's share of his estate. My family were upset with this and tried to get the will overturned, and failed, but this is when I went full no contact with them.

Granddad's name was Charles, and when I found out I was pregnant I asked my husband how he felt about using Charles for a boy or Charlie for a girl (fake names but same concept of using the gender neutral version of granddad's name). He said he loved it. So my daughter is called Charlie after granddad. I don't know how granddad would have felt about it, but I hope he'd have liked it.

My siblings reached out, asking me if I would be willing to catch up and maybe stay in touch. I agreed. Many of them hadn't met Charlie yet so introducing her was part of catching up. Hearing Charlie's name caused a pause and then "as in granddad Charles?" and I confirmed it.

My sister, who has a son named Charles, also after granddad, is not happy. She's said it's disrespectful to change the gender of the name and that I should have asked someone for permission because she knew Charlie was born over 5 years after granddad passed away. She said she'd asked granddad for permission before he passed and now we have a Charles and a Charlie. She's started calling Charlie by her middle name as a sign of respect to granddad.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Sounds like your sister has picked up some tricks from your mom! This is a ridiculous thing to fight about, and only someone looking for a reason to peck at other people to establish some sort of control or dominance would complain about it.

My mom lost her oldest brother when she was young. Between her and her several siblings, there are at least three kids with his name as their first or middle name. Everyone just smiles and remembers how much they loved him.

ETA: the idea that she's calling your daughter a different name as "a sign of respect for grandad" is complete BS. Grandad left you most of his estate and frequently took you in. Clearly he loved you and would have been delighted that you named your daughter for him. This is a power move by your sister to show that she can control you. ######


Prompt:
My grandparents took me and my siblings out on a bike ride. And when we got back we made lunch. And I made a sandwich with ham and cheese with mayonoise on the bread. And my grandma procceds to throw away the sandwich I made and said. “You won’t like that” and I said. “Yes I will” she then makes me a new sandwich with what she likes. And tried to give it to me. And i said no thanks I can make my sandwich how i want it” she then gies in a tyrant about how I’m ungrateful. And I just left to go sit in the porch that they have.

Reddit AITA here? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like your grandma is either a control freak or has mental issues. Getting upset over a ham and cheese sandwich with mayo is not normal. ######


Prompt:
I have a special tequila I got as a gift. I really like tequila and it’s my only alcohol that I drink.

My boyfriend drank the entire bottle.... i was upset and asked why the fuck he always has to drink any alcohol if it’s in the house.

He was nice and proceeded to go to multiple stores to find the tequila to replace it but was unable to so he found an equivalent.

Two days later the tequila is gone. He drank the second replacement bottle.

AITA for being upset and concerned? He did buy this second bottle ######

Response: Nta. Sounds like your boyfriends an alcoholic who doesn’t respect you or your things. ######


Prompt: Ok so my son never had a girlfriend, never had a crush on one. By the age of 16 he still hadn't got a girlfriend even tho he was a handsome guy. I talked to my wife about what her reaction would be if he turned out gay, she said that he will be dead to her if he is. come next year and our son turns out gay. I comfort him and tell him its OK. My wife on the other hand freaks out and storms off to her parents' house and is still there, her side of the family cut contact with us and we will be getting a divorce soon. My side of the family is completely OK with it. AITA for supporting my son? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like you've kept a wonderful son and lost a rotten wife. Best of luck to the both of you! ######


Prompt:
I (19f) have cousins that all went to boarding school.

My family is very traditional, and have a long history of sending their children to boarding school. Most of my family members get sent to the UK, US and Canada age 8/9.

When I was young, I got very sick. After that, my parents had separation anxiety when it came to me so I got to attend normal day school.

Some of my cousins resent me though. It’s understandable, I got to live with my parents while they didn’t.

I had started getting pressure to attend boarding school from my cousins, grandparents, aunts and uncles at 13 since I was old enough to ‘handle’ myself and I haven’t had any health scares.

My grandparents had want me to uphold the tradition, but I hadn’t wanted to leave my parents and go to a foreign country. They said that I could go to one in my home country, but I still wouldn’t have been able to see my parents as often.

I still get taunted for my refusal to go although I’m done with high school and am currently taking a gap year.

I was at my aunt’s house for a gathering and I heard my cousin say to another cousin how much of a coward I am since I ‘hid behind my mummy’s skirts’ my entire childhood. They then spoke about how spineless my parents are for not forcing me to go.

I come up to them and start arguing. They continue to say that I broke years of family tradition because I couldn’t cope without my parents as a teen when most of them left theirs at a far younger age.

I lost my temper then. I snap back “at least my parents loved me enough to want me around.”

Dead silence. I leave the room. None of my cousins have contacted me but my parents are asking me to apologise. ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like you touched a nerve with them lol, but those that live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, am I right? ######


Prompt:
I've had a sinus infection the last few days. Mild fever, congestion, light sensitivity, vomiting, etc. Told him I was going to bed early since I wasn't feeling well, 30 minutes later baby starts crying. "Damn, I don't want to get up." So, husband got up, picked up baby, and handed him to me and sat back down. I glared for about a minute, then got up and changed him, made a bottle (cursing rather profusely the entire time), fed him, burped him, put him back to bed and started crying. Husband asked what was wrong and I said that I felt he was no help and it just hurts when I'm not feeling well. He said he didn't know and "isn't a mind reader" and didn't see or hear me get up to change him and feed him and would have done it if I had asked.

Am I the asshole for feeling that he should be more observant and thoughtful? Or should I just constantly tell him what to do? ######

Response:
 NTA. Sounds like you are shouldering more of the "mental load" in the relationship, even if he does help out when directly instructed to. Having to be the one in charge of assigning tasks (remembering appointments, feedings...the critical but monotonous minutia of life) is exhausting and often thankless work. Definitely worth a longer conversation with your husband.

You can't expect him to read minds, no, but you can expect him to have common sense. ######


Prompt:
Last year I (28F) decided to go back to school and my fiance (30M) supported me.

When his mom found out I was starting (we decided not to say anything until it was official) she flipped out.

Why? Because I wouldn't be around to do anything they (I drive his mom, sister, 6 nieces, and his foster brothers where they need to go because she won't drive) wanted me to at random times.

"It's inconvenient". I quit my last job because it was an inconvenience to them! Once she starts complaining, my fiance is usually guilted into agreeing with her. I'm just glad he makes enough so I don't have to work but, the problem is, I WANT TO!

I refuse to give up my future because nobody wants to drive!

I'm just waiting for them to learn that I start my internship in the fall! All hell's gonna break loose!

So AITA for "not caring about them and their feelings and needs" because I want to have a better future for my kids?? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like they need some bus passes. ######


Prompt:
(shit title - sorry)

Four years ago our neighbour said she was looking for land to rent- her kids wanted a trampoline. Wife and I offered our yard because a) we had the space and weren’t using it for anything and b) why not be a good neighbour?

And they’ve been good. The kids don’t bounce if we’re outside having a barbecue or have guests over, for example, and only a few times have I seen a horde of neighbourhood kids all bouncing in there. Normally it’s just the two kids and every winter it all gets dismantled and removed.

Last week I arrived home from work and saw that the trampoline had been replaced with a new one. It’s gigantic. Takes up a lot more space than the old one did.

I waited a few days for the neighbour(s) to come and explain but they didn’t so when I saw them I mentioned that it would have been nice if they’d asked me first if it’d be ok to have something that big in the yard.

They think I’m overreacting because I was fine with the last one and this should be no different. I’m annoyed they didn’t ask before moving in this monster, which swallows considerably more yard than the last one.

I'm happy the kids are having fun, but I think I should have been asked, even if I would have okayed it.

Am I the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like they are taking advantage of your generous nature. ######


Prompt:
My (18M) sister (19F) today has worked a shift at work (6AM-11:15AM). She works in a supermarket, stacking shelves and transporting large amount of items. Of course, when she gets home, she’s really tired (as well as a complication from mono earlier this year, she gets tired easier than a normal person). Our mum comes home at 15:00, (finishing work at 14:00 and looking around the shops for an hour). She comes home and complains at my sister for having ‘tired eyes’, which she explained that she had just woke up from a nap. She then complained at us both, saying we are ‘lazy’ and ‘just like our father’ (who works 12 hour Manual labour shifts daily, so he isn’t lazy). So I defended my sister, and said I am lazy, and I’ll admit that, as I don’t do much, but she shouldn’t call my sister lazy, after being tired after working  a 6 hour shift, doing heavy exercise. After this she said she was sick of how we are treating her and left the house??
So are we the assholes? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like there’s more going on there with your mother. ######


Prompt:
So I bought a pair of shoes that cost £120, when they arrived they had black marks on them (they're red shoes). The shoes normally come with a card that has the shoemaker sign them as a quality control measure. This pair did not come with that so I imagine this process was skipped, or they were shipped hoping no-one would notice.

I emailed the company straight away no response. I emailed them again a few days later. No response. I emailed them the week later again no response. I finally opened a PayPal case. I suggested a further discount to account for the defect. Now they finally replied to my email roughly 3 weeks later and stated that their email system was done. They suggested that they could collect the shoes and offer me a replacement. However this was only if the shoes were still in a salable condition, however I had tried the shoes on a few times in the house and the bottom of the shoes weren't in a salable condition (I've not worn these outside but there were still marks on the sole). Again they stopped replying when I showed them a picture of the sole.

Now fast forward to today, turns out they didn't respond to PayPal either. The case closed in my favour and I got a full refund. No instructions to return the shoes either. Just a full refund. Something I didn't ask for, I only suggested to PayPal that they give a partial refund.

My brother and gf are telling me to keep the shoes and the refund, and say that I shouldnt waste more time in emails etc. I was thinking of emailing the business and returning part of the refund.

WIBTA if I keep the shoes and the refund without trying to give some payment back? ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like the company was too lazy to provide decent customer service and the price they paid was the Paypal reimbursement. You tried; they didn't. Keep your cash. That said, if you truly can't get past your guilt, then instead of giving the money back (to this foolish corporation) you could instead donate to a charity that speaks to your values. ######


Prompt:
To start with, both my parents and grandparents are now dead. But while my grandma was alive, she told me she wanted me and my brother to have our mums share of their house when she went. Her reasoning being, her other children, my aunts and uncle, would all be giving their children, my cousins money from the house, and as our mum wasn't alive, we wouldn't benefit as much as the others.

She also saw me more as a daughter than a granddaughter as my parents were pretty useless, and she raised us more as her own children. We are also at least 20 years older than the other cousins, so are much nearer in age my aunts and uncle rather than our cousins.

I then found out, that my aunt D, had persuaded my grandma to change her will so we didn't get anything from her, as in her words, we had already had our inheritance from our parents, (£30'000 from my mums pension, nothing from my dad) so we didn't deserve any more than that. My mum had been given £120'000 from an ex husband a little while before she died, but she spent it all on heroin, so we didn't see any of that.

So am I being the arsehole and being greedy for just wanting the money my grandma wanted me to have? Or am I in the right? I feel very betrayed by them, and can't seem to get over it. ######

Response:
 NTA. Sounds like someone needs to be cut out. Your aunt wants to be greedy then she can be greedy without you in her life.

Sorry, these stories irk me. Greedy people irk me. ######


Prompt:
My friend gave me his old Nintendo switch. I know my daughter, Jessie, has been wanting a regular switch for awhile. She just has a switch lite.

Right away her eyes lit up and said she would give her old switch to her cousin, Kelsie. Kelsie had to share one with her brother so the girls weren’t able to play online together often. Giving the switch to Kelsie made a lot of sense to me because she and Jessie are best friends and now they don’t get to hang out together at all.

So we thought it all worked out great, except my brother. He thinks by letting my daughter choose who to give the switch to I am helping the girls exclude his new stepdaughter.

My brother got married last summer and his wife had a little girl named Rachel. Rachel is a nice, but sometimes Jessie and Kelsie prefer to play alone just the two of them. My brother doesn’t like that. He wants them to be as close with Rachel as they are with each other. He would try to get them to do activities together and have play dates all the time.

When the lock down happened he was pretty bummed out because we had to cancel all that, but he tried to keep everyone in contact with phone calls and that’s how Rachel found out about the switches and that they were still playing without her.

He says that unlike Kelsie Rachel doesn’t have access to a switch at all since they are sold out everywhere. He thinks I really should have thought of Rachel right away and encouraged my daughter to give her old switch to her so she could play and be included.

Then he went into how I am setting up my daughter to make these choices that exclude because our other sister (Kelsies mom) and I do the exact same thing with his wife. He said she’s very disappointed we don’t invite her out with us more often. If I’m being honest my sister and I also prefer to hang out just the two of us most of the time, but we do invite our sil out sometimes.

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Response: NTA. Sounds like some serious projection from your Brother because of other issues. Unfortunately your daughter only had 1 Switch to give, so she naturally gave it to her best friend, someone that she wants to play games with. It is what it is. Not everyone gets what they want. ######


Prompt: For a little bit of context I understand it's not a bit deal we all have those dreams and I am over reacting on my part by just wanting to be alone for a little bit. My wife tells me she had a dream where we were all at my best friends house and i had to walk outside to do something. During this time she initiates having sex with my best friend. Come to find out I had my head taken off by a semi. When she brings it up she gets a big old smile and says "yes I had sex with him". The smile is what hurt me the most. So I go downstairs and after about 5 minutes she come down and starts hugging me so I push her away (Not violently or using any force or anything, I'm not an abuser). Then she goes upstairs cussing up a storm stars slamming doors and everything. I'm still currently downstairs becuase even though it's a dream it doesnt mean it doesnt hurt especially since it's with my best friend who I've known since kindergarten. Thank you for your time. ######

Response: NTA. Sounds like she was trying to get a reaction out of you. It’s one thing to have a sex dream but to wake up and rub it in your SO’s face? Weird, man. If I were her, I would’ve kept that to myself. ######


Prompt:
I’m getting married next year and will be going dress shopping (once out of lock down) my mother has decided she also wants to try on wedding dresses along side me.
I’ve told her no because it’s my big day and I want the attention and fun to be on me as it’s the only time I’d buy a dress of such importance.
She’s said I’m being unfair and unreasonable and it’s just a bit of fun. ######

Response: NTA. Sorry, but if she's not going to let the focus be on you during the dress shopping is she going to let it be on you on your big day? ######


Prompt:
Throwaway ‘cuz I have older kids on reddit.

So my 10 year old is suuuuuper into his iPad gaming. Roblox, Minecraft, Fortnite.... you get the picture. Anyway, one of his favorites has those app subscription services where they give you “points” and allow you to sell your stuff in exchange for $5/month.

This sounded like a great idea to kiddo, as he has over 1000 things in his inventory that he doesn’t really use anymore. He set out to ask for permission, to which I immediately said “no”. I explained how those things tend to be kinda scammy, from making it hard to cancel, to making it hard to use the benefits, etc. 10 was sure that this game is one of the good guys and he wouldn’t have any issues.

So then mom mode kicked in. I told him if he wanted to even try to change my mind, he’d have to work for it... and even then the answer would probably be no. After three revisions and a whole week of effort, he gave us an extremely good persuasive essay, complete with research, facts, etc. it was so good that hubs and I were actually convinced to let him try.

Signed him up this morning. Yeah, it’s a scam. Because of some fine print he can’t sell ANY of his 1000+ inventory. He is crushed, so so so so upset. We did send a message to their customer service, but chances of getting money back is low.

I know it would help him feel better if I just gave him his $5 back out of my own wallet, but I really feel like this is a learning moment. So, Reddit, AITA?

Update: so I probably used “scam” improperly... the app in question is Roblox, and basically the ads seem to just say “you can sell your items with membership”, but the limitations aren’t super clear, at all. So it is not a true scam, just misleading fine print, imho. Also, I was estimating his number of items, he seems to have nearly 100 hats alone! (Sorry for the estimation, I’ll be more precise next time I can get my hands on the iPad again.) He’s spent hundreds of dollars on Roblox over the years, mostly on items. ######

Response:
 NTA. Sometimes kids need to learn first hand about crap like this. Especially in this day and age where scams are legit everywhere. Now he'll think twice about tossing his unwavering loyalty to a company that doesn't care about him.

All he lost was $5 and the rose colored glasses he had on for this app/company. No harm done really tbh but I bet he learned something that'll stick with him.

And to the people saying not the A... y'all know you can't coddle and shield kids from their dumb actions forever right? Ya gotta let kids learn stuff. :/ ######


Prompt:
My (23F) lecturer (40sM) is a nice man - he genuinely cares about our wellbeing and wants us to do well, however he is an absolutely TERRIBLE teacher in every other aspect.

He drastically changed our most recent assignment the WEEK before it was due. It was worth 50% of our grade. I was the top of the class...I’ve never received below a Distinction on any of my assignments. I struggled through his “updated” assignment for days on end - I spent a good 3 hours on the day of submission crying because I simply didn’t understand what he was expecting us to achieve (I also experienced what I can only describe as a panic attack, it was scary and not something I think Uni should cause). I received a P1 on that assignment. It’s going to pull my grade and my GPA down. I’m beyond upset - I genuinely tried my hardest to fulfil his vague guidelines.

My friend whipped her assignment together the day of submission and got a Distinction. My entire group is convinced that he knows my previous grades and decided to be harsher when marking my work. I sent an email asking for more detailed feedback as I couldn’t understand what I did wrong, however he has not replied.

We have been given our next assignment - it is beyond vague. I have not spoken to a single person who actually understands what is expected. I’m extremely anxious about what is going to happen during marking. I have told him I’m nervous as I do not feel like the assignment is clear - he told me that if he manages to please me then he’ll know he’s done well as I’m the hardest to please within my year. He made this comment in front of 6 other students. I was embarrassed and hurt by this.

I want to contact our head of school and make a formal complaint, however I also don’t want my Lecturer to hate me even more and completely sabotage my future grades. WIBTA for complaining, or is it justified? ######

Response: NTA. Something similar happened in uni, but in my case a lot of people reported the professor and eventually she was replaced. If you're not learning then might as well report him. ######


Prompt:
My roommate and his girlfriend have been on and off for quite some time. When they fight and break up, she gets drunk and messages me about how much she hates him, and he tells me how much he hates her. When I dont respond to her, she gets upset and starts disrespecting me with insults. He has told me that she is very vindictive and has stolen jewelry amongst other things from him, and has even made false reports to the police about him abusing her. I've over heard them arguing before and heard her say things like, "I will ruin your fucking life".

After learning what kind of person she is, I don't feel comfortable being around her. I cannot tell him who he can and cant have over, but if he is not in the apartment, I do not want to be alone with her.

Now that they're back together again, she only comes over on weekends. He sometimes leaves around 330am and she will stay until about 7-8am instead of leaving when he leaves. I have talked to him about this, and he has continued to ignore me and shrug it off. I find it disrespectful.

Recently, he got a second job delivering pizza. He left for his shift about a half an hour ago, leaving his girlfriend here. I told him I do not want her here, but he ignore me again.

Fed up, I told him I was going to have the police remove her, or I would stop paying my part of the rent.

She is gone now.

My friends agree with me, but sometimes I feel like they just agree because we are friends. I need some non bias opinions.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: Nta. Someone who steals and makes false allegations isn’t someone you should have to deal with in your home. You need to move out and find a new roommate ASAP. ######


Prompt:
About 6 weeks ago as we were leaving our house we saw a pet rabbit on the road outside our house. It was already dark out. We get home 2 hours later and it's still there.

We park the car and I go onto the road to see if I can catch it - it runs right up to me so I pick it up and take it inside. It's late now so I decide to look for the owner the next day.

We ask around our neighbours. No one knows who's it is.

So we just keep it.

Last Friday my partner was talking to a little girl outside our house, he was playing with our cat and she said she used to have a rabbit that's the same colour but she lost him. This is the rabbit we found.. Identical colouring.

So she runs off to get her mum to ask if she can have the rabbit back. Mum turns up and says yes so I hand over the rabbit and the food I'd bought for it.

This morning at about 5.30am I wake up early and go sit in my garden. Suddenly the rabbit runs up and sits next to me. I pick it up and take it inside. I hadn't tidied up its food dish yet (yes I am lazy for that one) and it just ate and ate like it hadn't eaten in days. I gave them the food!!

Also it was still dark. I went out on to the street and no lights are on in the houses (I didn't look to see exactly which one they lived in but I know the rough area.. All lights off in all of them) so they've obviously let the rabbit out all night.

WIBTA if I keep the rabbit and if they ask tell them I haven't seen it. I feel bad for the little girl but I'm really angry at the mum. My feelings towards the mum don't matter though, just want to keep the rabbit safe. ######

Response: NTA. Someone in that house is releasing that rabbit intentionally but couldn't outright admit it.  Glad it found you! ######


Prompt:
My stepson is 11 and at his school they have these annual events (father-son camping, mother-daughter cooking etc). Late last year they held a mother and son race where the mother had to run across the field and piggy back their sons back to the other side and then tie our legs together and just sprint back across.

A week prior my stepson Dylan was talking about it and how he thought it was ridiculous and embarrassing. When I looked at their poster for it, it looked fun so I convinced him to sign up for it. Later that day I called his mother Julie but she didn't pick up so I left a voicemail talking about the event and asking her to get back to us if she is available. Five days past and still no word from her. Being honest when she didn't respond, I saw it as an opportunity for Dylan and I to bond but since I respect Julie as his mother I sent her an email (doesn't use social media) with the poster and talking about how Dylan has signed up for it. Two days passed and still nothing. So I went to Dylan and told him that his mother hadn't gotten back to me but if he was okay with it, I was willing to step in since it was too late to pull out. He was a bit disappointed but still fine.

The day came and it was a blast. Tiresome but definitely worth it. It was just so much fun and I made a few friends there who were also stepmothers. And obviously we won 1st place and got two medals. Dylan also enjoyed it and feels way more comfortable with me now.

While I was browsing the school's website last week, I saw a picture from that day with me running and Dylan cheering on my back. It was a cute picture so I downloaded it and made it my profile picture. Turns out one of Julie's friends showed her the picture and now she's going on a rant about how I shouldn't have done that and how I've overstepped my mark as his step mother. When I told her I called her and sent an email she went on saying that I should've sent her a text or called her again instead of just once. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Someone has to act like a Mother if she's not going to. ######


Prompt:
Someone in my Facebook friendlist has been posting abhorrent racist contents against black people ever since the movement started (posts that implying black people have a lower IQ than other races, using dehumanizing curse words in our native language to describe black people as a whole, etc...).

WIBTA if I screenshot his posts and send them to his employer (which would likely end his career)?

For more context, I have no personal bad history with the guy, so it's purely because I think what he has been posting is very very wrong, and not because of personal revenge or something. ######

Response: NTA. Some people just need to learn the hard way. I'd do it if I were you too, anonymously. ######


Prompt:
Right now, I am the only one who works, albeit from home, but I workover 40 hours a week. My husband is laid off, and we have a 3.5 year old.

BACK STORY: Prior to all of this 3 months ago, my husband was a couch sleeper. He is the type that just falls asleep easy. So 6 days out of 7 I would be the one getting up with our daughter every night, and we take turns with putting her to bed.

Now that I am the only one who works, I told him that he should be getting up with her most nights, because I get up in the AM, and also sleeping downstairs would allow our kid not to wake up to my alarm, and I wouldn't have to wake him up in the AM when I came downstairs to have coffee and start work.

He didnt like that, and thought it is only fair to split nights. Funny he thought it was fair before he was laid, that I got up with her every night.

They sleep in till 8-9am every day.

Now yesterday my dog tried to lunge at another dog going in our driveway and when I pulled her back, I somehow screwed up my back. Can barely walk. It was my night on the couch last night but he didnt want to go to bed so he was downstairs till 1am playing is video games so I didnt fall asleep till after 1am. I would have went upstairs but being in pain, I couldnt. I also had a crappy nights sleep.

So this morning, my daughter woke up at 8am and he told her to leave him and wake me up. I took her and hobbled upstairs and got into bed with him. He got mad that I woke him up, and that I was trying to lay back down. He started yelling at me.

I told him it was 830am, not 630am, and I work all week and so I deserve to be able to sleep in, since they both sleep in every day, and my back hurts and I had a crappy nights sleep.

He isn't speaking to me

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Some dads need to get past the idea that they babysit their kids when its convenient to them. Parenting is 24/7. ######


Prompt:
Trying to keep it short as I'm on mobile and typos galore, plus keep to the main points.

Been with my partner about a year. Stayed at his parent's house a few times. His sister is in another country so his nephews stay with his parents. They've also stayed with us during school holidays.

Everytime we are under the same roof the 7 year old nephew wants to sleep in our bed. It leads to an almost daily argument.

Just went to bed just now and the nephew appeared with his blanket. I took his blanket and put it back outside so he could take it to his own bed. A few minutes later my partner appears saying the nephew is going to sleep with us tonight. Sometimes I give in so I just said up to you, but my face must have said otherwise as partner directed nephew to the nephew's own bed but looked upset at me about it.

A few nights ago this during the daily argument I was really stressed I just went off, not shouting, but stating it is REALLY weird in my culture for kids that age to sleep with non blood relatives, plus at his age even with parents. I asked my partner should I make a Facebook post to ask if it's okay and show him all the comments that will say "no that's weird as hell" etc. That's when he said OK and dropped it for that night.

Selfishly I admit I want some time away from him, and sleep is the only time.

But more than selfishly, in my opinion it's just REALLY REALLY weird.

I'm 32F, partner 35M (we are in a serious relationship),kid 7M. I'm European and he's South East Asian. Just to add more facts.

I play with his nephew all day. We take him on trips. I buy him treats. I'm not being mean to him but I don't want him in my bed.

This happens everynight and makes me feel like an absolute devil woman though.

So AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Societal norms aside, it's not kind of your partner to not take your comfort into account in a pattern like this. ######


Prompt:
It’s a really nice day out so my mom said she was going to sit outside.

I have been excited about tie dying some old clothes as a fun craft. My mom is not creative at all and never really likes things like that so she just didn’t take any interest. I had all my equipment and was getting ready to roll up the clothes, she came out yelling at me because I’m gonna get dye everywhere - I tell her that I’m not dyeing it yet, I’m just rolling it. I have a separate container for dyeing. Then she starts getting angry about the water from the dye going down the drain, even though I told her I was gonna rinse everything in the bathroom. After a while, I just dropped the whole thing and didn’t dye anything. Just went to my room. My mom is now pissed at me for leaving her to sit outside by herself but I was trying to do my own thing and she kept getting me down about it. ######

Response: NTA. So your mom expects you to drop what you're doing to sit outside with her, because she doesn't have any interest in your hobby? She probably started that argument to get you to lose interest in tie dying and sit by her ######


Prompt:
So, I’m a teacher at a smallish school in a big(ger) city. I teach junior high, mostly 8th grade classes, and we all know that that’s the age kids start to find themselves and forge their own paths. I had a student this past year, let’s call them Jack. Jack is a young man who was born a girl. One day, he came to me with his best friend after school, and tearfully confessed he wanted to change his gender and go by “Jack,” and not his given name (one thing to note is while “Jack” isn’t the name he actually picked, the situation is similar to changing his name from “Jacqueline” to a shorter nickname, Jack). It very feasibly could have been a regular nickname, and in fact he’d been going by that name at home for a few years now.

The problem starts when I notified admin. I told my principal that Jack wanted to go by this “new” name and new pronouns, and at first, everyone agreed. Then, I guess Jack’s dad threw a fit (mom was okay with it though), and so ya teachers were told to stop referring to him as Jack and by he/him pronouns - one teacher went so far as to send a mass email to the entire staff claiming this was “just a fad” and Jack would regret it down the road. I didn’t stop calling him Jack, nor did I stop referring to him as he/him, but when I contacted parents, I was VERY careful to avoid pronouns, but I still referred to him as “Jack” in our conversations, which they never seemed to even notice.

While in the teachers’ lounge, I slipped and called him “him” in conversation, and was berated by coworkers, then talked to by admin for being “disrespectful.” I feel like I didn’t do anything wrong by continuing to call him by his preferred pronouns and an already established nickname, especially since I never did it in front of any other students or staff, and to lessen the blow to Jack’s mental health/self-identity. So I’m wondering, I’m I the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA. So what if is a fad? Let the kid explore the identity during youth. If it just a fad it will pass like any other fad, as long as no life changing decisions are made kid will be fine, and if it isn't, they are just being people the child cannot count on. ######


Prompt:
I live one hour away from my parents, in a house with 5 housemates. Without asking, my mom called me to not ask, but TELL me that my sister will be moving in.

My sister? She lives with my parents. She is 18 and a slob. My parents have kept my room as is since I’ve moved out. I sleep in my old room when I come to visit. Once, I found a used condom in my old room because she snuck a guy upstairs. Why my old room? Because it's clean. Her room is not only messy, but musty, because of all the old food/moldy starbucks fermenting in there.

My sister didn’t ask. My mom didn’t ask. I was just told. I live in a small room that cannot accommodate another bed, and the bed I currently have now is a twin. They expect me to continue paying for my rent without pitching in. But most of all, I refuse to share my room with a slob. What do I do? AITA if I refuse?

I told them no. That I would have to ask my landlord and housemates first. My mom doesn’t believe my landlord nor my housemates have a say because I “pay for it.” My response: "Ok so since one of my roommates has a bf and she pays her rent, does that mean he can live with us? No, I don’t think so. That’s not how it works.”

TL;DR: My mother informed me that my slob of a sister will be moving in to my tiny room without asking. AITA for refusing? ######

Response:
 NTA. So they never asked just assumed that what they say will happen. You shouldn't even have to run and hide behind your landlord or housemates, just tell them no and why. If they can't handle the truth then they need to change not your decision.

Just my opinion: I grew up with my family telling me i "have to do" something for them. I stood up for myself telling them no that's not how it works, ask if I can do it or don't bother coming to me. You should learn to do the same if that's how they are. ######


Prompt:
This argument happened over FaceTime but it was pretty big and my dad is furious at me and has been sending angry text messages so I’m taking it here.

I (32M) was FaceTiming my dad (57M) and his girlfriend (27F) on Tuesday when they surprised me that my dad had proposed. I don’t like my dads girlfriend and to be honest I think she’s only with him because he’s fairly well off. My dad cheated on my mum with the girlfriend and I’ve heard she was pretty ruthless in going after my dad and wouldn’t take no for an answer. I held my tongue and congratulated them and that was that.

Later that day I was skimming Facebook and his girlfriend has written this long Facebook post saying how excited she was to be getting married and that after 10 years together, she didn’t think he’d ever propose, how it had been a difficult start and lots of people didn’t accept their relationship (no shit, he was married) but she hopes everyone can be happy and accept they’re in love.

This pissed me off. She didn’t accept my parents were in love when she pursued my dad did she? So I commented saying maybe she would’ve been engaged before now if she had started dating a single man instead of running after married men.

My dad FaceTimed me this morning and BLEW UP saying he’d noticed his girlfriend upset and she’d eventually said something. Apparently she deleted the status but lots of people saw it. My dad is furious at me and says I need to apologise. I probably didn’t help by asking if she would apologise to me for ruining my family and destroying my mother.

My dad is now saying unless the next thing he hears from me is an apology, he doesn’t want to hear from me. I mentioned this to my girlfriend (32F) and she’s very diplomatic and doesn’t say anyone is an asshole so I’m not sure if I’m in the wrong and should just apologise.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. So they got together when he was 47 and she was 17? Why do you have any contact? She isn’t the bad guy here no matter how easy it would be to see that. She was a kid and he was a disgusting predator. ######


Prompt:
I live with three roommates, were supposed to split bills four ways. Not my ideal living situation but I was unexpectedly moving after a breakup.

One of my roommates, Lucy, has not paid her share of the electric bill in months, she says she just hasn't gotten around to setting up the service (venmo) we all use to pay our shares to me, so I can pay the bill.

Every time I ask for money, she has an excuse. She can't set up venmo, since her phone is dying. She doesn't have cash on her. She can't write me a check because she doesn't have a checkbook. She says she has the money and will get around to sending it.

Last week, I was going to the grocery store and doing some other errands and I asked if anyone wanted a lift for errands. Two of my roommates, Lucy and Anne, said yes.

On the errand run, I had an idea. I know which bank Lucy uses, I saw she had her bank card on her at the store. And wed be coming up by one of their branches. I pulled into the ATM drive through lane and said "Lucy, while we're here, could you get us the $330 you owe for utilities?"

She was like "did you come here just for this?" And I said yeah, I need the money for utilities this month and the last few months.

She got mad at me for tricking her, and I said I wasn't planning it or anything, I was just driving by the bank and remembered she needed to go to the bank to get me utilities money.

The cars behind us started honking and getting impatient and Anne was saying to just withdraw the money so we could go. Because it seemed like OP wasn't going till she did.

Lucy did, and we went home. But later, she got really mad at me and Anne, saying the way we'd pushed her for money at the atm was practically like a robbery.

I feel like it wasn't, like there were no threats or anything.

AITA for tricking my roommate to going to the ATM to get utilitiy money she owed us? ######

Response: NTA. So she had money but planned to not pay her share anyway? Fuck that. ######


Prompt:
My grandfather died at the age of 83. He had like 5 or 6 brothers/sisters, so the family is quite big and almost everyone (4 generations) came to his funeral.

Everyone met at the cemetery reception/outside. There were more people than I could even count, and I didn't even know half of them. So, as people gravitated together in groups of the same age, it didn't take long to get really awkward. Imagine meeting a third cousin for the first time in such a situation.

So, with the intention of breaking the ice, I did a couple of jokes, nothing inappropriate, just enough to people crack a smile, and it did work, the tense/awkward atmosphere got way better. Except for my sister, who kept crying copiously all the time, so I left her alone, everyone did.

On the inside and during the ceremony I was totally silent. Nevertheless, after the fact, my sister called me asshole for making jokes at that time.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. So long as they weren’t offensive or at your grandfather’s expense. ######


Prompt:
I'm going on a six month deployment with the military and will be exiting my current lease with roommates.  This is something I have been planning so I can save money while I am away and have storage figured out with my family for the items I will be keeping.

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My girlfriend has been having worries about her roommate moving out as she only comes home maybe once a week.  The roommate has been staying at her boyfriends house and only comes home when my girlfriend works a night shift.  She has also been pressuring her boyfriend for marriage.  This has led her to believe marriage may be soon and the roommate will move out.

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When I return I would like to have as much money saved as possible and purchase a home.  Recently my girlfriend asked what I would do if her roommate moved out.  This question caught me off guard and I asked what she meant.  The gist of it is that she is unwilling to get another roommate, but would like to stay there by herself.  She can't afford rent on her own and asked for me to help pay.  The logic is that I will no longer be paying rent so I can help her out.

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Before I leave I had asked if I could stay at her house for about 3 weeks before my orders begin.  Both her and her roommate are fine with this although it will be tight.  During this period I've said I would pay my share and contribute any way I could.  They both shrugged it off at the time and didn't seem concerned.

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We've been together 3 years with a breakup after the first year.  She is amazing and I would like to help her if possible.  If it comes down to it and she can't afford rent then I wouldn't let her go homeless.  She has a large savings fund, has the ability to move, and could find another roommate for six months while I'm gone.

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I think it's unreasonable for her to not make an effort and expect me to pay but AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. So let’s be clear.

She has large savings. The ability to move. The ability to get a roommate... are you really concerned she would be homeless? If she is homeless with all those things going for her she is either daft or very lazy. Neither of those things are attractive in a partner.

What this comes down to is she wants to live in her apartment by herself, but not pay the amount needed to live by herself. You should be saving money, friend. Why would you pay for an apartment you are not living in? And why are you coming to Reddit to answer this problem.

If you said to your friend or family member. Hey. I’m getting deployed, and my girlfriend that I don’t live with wants me to pay half of her rent. Not because she is in financial trouble, but because she wants to live by herself for a while while I’m gone. What do you think of that situation? They would probably tell you not to do it.

Also, I’m not sure how long you will be gone. But does this involve you signing a lease? Because if she decided she wants out of the relationship while you are gone, you are still obligated to pay half the rent, and she gets that whole place to herself. ######


Prompt: We've been together for 16 years and have always had multiple dogs. We currently have 4--2 Akitas, a Rottweiler and a Westie. About a year ago, her grandson was bitten by his dog (at his home) and ever since then my wife has become increasingly hostile to our dogs (No lasting damage to the boy). Now she has them barricaded in the back yard and a small section of the kitchen whenever she is home. She was the driving force in buying each of these dogs. She picked out every one of them. She named them. I love them all like crazy. I don't like seeing them treated differently. She says it is not because of her grandson being bitten by another dog--rather, they are just dogs and she is tired of fur/sweeping/cleaning. I told her the time to have figured that out is before you got 'em and now they are members of the family (And have been for 8 years, 7, 6 and 2...so not a new situation). She thinks I am picking the dogs over her. Hell, maybe I am. But, problems and all, they are total love. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. So let me get this straight. Your grandson, at his own home was bite by his own dog, not one of your dogs and now your wife wants to suddenly start testing then like garbage? Yea you’re not the asshole and honestly i would pick my dogs over her any day because that’s absolutely ridiculous. When you get a dog you have to already know they’ll shed and you have to clean up after them so i don’t understand why she’s now using that as an excuse to get out of taking care of them. Those are your fur babies and should not be treated like crap. NTA ######


Prompt:
Context
Me 16m and my brother 12m get along pretty much well.
He will more often than not though *always* leave a dish or crumbs or idk something left over on my bed after he was in there for a little bit and its gotten annoying.
So for the past idk month or so whenever he left something on my bed instead of throwing it away or taking it to the kitchen I just have been moving them to his bed and hoping that'd make him stop.
Well today this happened but he left a contained of raspberries on my bed. So lile usual I moved them.
Well cue a few hours later he goes back and sees them there. And pulls back the bed sheet to reveal the juices leaked and left a stain on his mattress. He gets mad and goes to the other side of the house.
This includes him telling my mom what happened and her getting mad at me for not putting stuff back that he leaves behind. I tell her I tell him to and he doesn't but she just walks off hearing nothing of it
At this point i felt bad for the stain so i went and got some peroxide and a crappy towel and got to work.... Voila stain is gone in like 2 minutes.
He's still mad at me as is my mother but idk what to do about it at this point
Reddit AITA? ######

Response: NTA. So if it had leaked on your bed that would’ve been ok? He’s a kid and needs to learn responsibility. Maybe you should have a heart to heart about this with your mom. ######


Prompt:
AITA?

So first some background... I’m a short woman (5’2” ish) and my husband is pretty tall (about 6’3”) so when we go out together he usually asks me to wear heels which I don’t really mind depending on where we are going/ what we are doing.

So anyway, one day we are going to the mall and it’s early fall so I put on my only pair of ankle boots with a heel and off we go. My husband and I are chatting in the car and everything is fine and then we reach the mall. My husband has parked the car and we get out and make our way inside the mall. We’re walking through the first store when I see my husband’s whole demeanour change and as I’m trying to talk to him he is obviously not in a good mood. So of course I ask him what’s wrong and he snaps at me that my boots are “making too much noise when I walk”. I kinda laugh this off and jokingly ask if he’d prefer me to walk around bare foot to which he says I should go back to the car and change into the Wellington boots that I keep in the trunk. He’s actually serious but the boots are filthy, caked in mud and it’s just not something I really want to do. So I explain that I wouldn’t be comfortable doing that and I don’t think it’s appropriate to wear dirty boots around the mall and he is really mad. He makes us leave before we’ve even done any of the shopping that we went there for and proceeds to use the entire journey home to make me feel terrible for not changing the boots. AITA for not just changing them? He won’t explain why it was such an issue but it obviously upset him so maybe I was in the wrong? ######

Response:
 NTA. So  he makes you wear them then complains about the noise they produce? What a ridiculous man. Your husband sounds controlling and petty, and this whole post reads like a glaring red flag. I am easily overstimulated by noise, so I can understand to a tiny degree *but* I would never get angry with someone over something like this, and he's in a public place where there's going to be a lot of noisy footfall.

The fact that he demands you wear heels is also fairly alarming. Long term, repetitive use of heels can and will cause a lot of foot and ankle problems as you get older. ######


Prompt:
Me and the gf decided to watch an episode of this show we are watching and about 30mins in I go to check my phone to reply to a message and she slaps the phone out of my hand on to the bed.

I huffed and said can she not do that and as soon as I picked the phone up she did it again.

I got annoyed and said to her sternly I did not like that she did that and she thought I wasn't being serious the first time and said it was just a joke.

I told her I didn't find it funny because I was just replying to a message and also she could damage the phone. She said I was just mindlessly scrolling through my phone and that I'm being ridiculous if I think her slapping my phone could actually break it because we were on the bed.

She's now sad because I flipped at her about it and that I'm over reacting because she can't understand how I don't find it funny.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Slapping anything, anywhere out of anger or annoyance is a total no-no. Doing it a second time after being asked not to is even more of a no-no because it's physical aggression *and* violates a stated boundary. Getting "sad" at you being upset over her doing those things is manipulative and, for me, would be edging very close to a third-strike, game-over situation for me. I would straight up tell her that I will not be guilt-tripped into feeling bad about calling out inappropriate behaviors - she's a grown up and should use her fucking words. ######


Prompt:
So I live in a small flat with just one other roommate (female). Three months ago, she started dating this new guy and recently he's been staying over just about every night and staying through the day as well (sometimes even while my roommate is at work). He works ridiculous hours and often finishes work past midnight and wakes me up almost every time he gets home. My roommate has also given him his own key, so that he can come and go when his shifts start and finish.

I recently confronted my roommate about this, stating that I shouldn't have to deal with him waking me up when he doesn't live here. She told me that he's too tired to drive back to his house, which is over 30 mins away, and that it makes more sense for him to crash at our place and to stay throughout the day until his next shift the following night. Also, given that they both work so much, the only way they get to see each other (in her eyes) is for him to come to our place, rather than for her to go to his.

I don't necessarily have a problem with him sleeping at my place if he feels it's too dangerous to drive home. I don't want him to get in a car crash. And I definitely don't have a problem with the boyfriend as a person, as he seems like a really friendly, respectful guy. My only concern is that he's basically living here when he isn't contributing to any bills. I asked my roommate if she would consider limiting his visits to 4 days/nights at the most, but she refused to consider it.

Am I being unreasonable and should I just let them be happy? Or is my roommate being selfish?

So in summary, AITA for asking my roommate to stop inviting her boyfriend over so much? ######

Response: NTA. Six days a week is excessive. He sounds like a nice enough guy, but he should at least be offering to contribute to bills. ######


Prompt:
This is an awkward one... so making it short

I am a 22 year old guy living with parents right now. My 84 year old grandmother, after the death of her husband, became depressed and her health declined rapidly. She has become quiet and frail, with the intelligence of a baby, and she cannot even eat or go bathroom without help.

My parents were out for a while and they've asked me to keep an eye on grandma till her caretaker arrives. She was supposed to come by 4.30pm. Grandma was sleeping so it should have been a breeze, or so I thought.

Around 3pm, grandma peed herself. She was not on diapers because she could make noise when she needed to go, but this time she did it on her bed directly.

I cleaned her up. When I say cleaned, I don't think you need more hints. I kind of carried her off the bed, pulled off her pants and you know, wiped her clean and changed her a pair of clean pants. Hey she is an old woman and could not help herself, so I help her, nothing inappropriate, or so I thought.

Both my parents and the caretaker gave me very weird looks after telling them what I did. I wasn't scolded or what, just told that if there were a next time, to call the caretaker instead and she would come sooner. My mother also said that it was incredibly rude and disrespectful to touch my grandmother as a guy, even if she barely had much awareness.

AITA for this? ######

Response: NTA. Sitting in urine covered clothes can lead to skin breakdown, infections, hospitalization or even worse. As awkward as it might be, you did the right thing and potentially saved your grandmother a lot of pain and suffering down the line. ######


Prompt:
It's an open secret in my office that my boss, one of those raving fundamentalist types, puts things like ideological conformity first and foremost when doling out opportunities for advancement.

Yes, I know that's technically illegal, but we're in the middle of nowhere, Arkansas and half the time the police won't even respond to a burglary in progress, let alone petty shit like this. Plus I wouldn't put it past them to side with my boss, given how common people like her are around here.

I got the idea of maybe faking a religious persuasion along the lines of what my boss holds, purely for the sake of climbing her little list of who to favor?

It's kind of scummy, sure, but it's the only way to advance around here - trust me, I've tried looking for other work in my field, and there isn't any unless I move completely out of state - and it's not like she should be using this as a criteria anyways. ######

Response: NTA. Since it shouldn’t be relevant anyway, lie your heart out. But FYI the police are not the ones who respond to or investigate this type of discrimination. ######


Prompt:
My brother and I are extremely close, he got engaged a few months back and we are all happy for him and his fiance. I am also close with his fiance, she is a sweet girl but suffers from chronic migraines at least 4 times a month (these are so bad that she literally just sleeps all day when these hit) and is very depressed.

A couple days back she learned I was hiring and reached out to me to ask if I would consider hiring her as I own a small business. I told her I would think about it but ultimately decided no as her chronic migraines would mean she would not be able to come into work at least 4 times a month meaning I would have to re-distribute her responsibilities to my other employees which is not fair to them.

I told her I would not be hiring her, and she asked me why so I was honest with her and told her that I would not be able to accommodate her for the days she is off as my current employees only get 1 sick day per month. This caused her to throw a fit and explain that her disability is none of my business and that it would not be fair to discriminate against her because of this, she also told my brother this and things have been pretty tense between us although I expect this to blow over.

Am I the asshole for not agreeing to hire her? Laws in my country are very strict to the point where if I hire her I would not be able to let her go because of her disability unless I pay her out. I would essentially be stuck with a part time employee earning full time salary which I can not afford nor do I think is fair to me or my employees. Am I wrong?

EDIT; I feel I should include that I am not just assuming that she will not be showing up to work for at least 4 days. She used to work at a different place that ended up bankrupting because of COVID-19 and throughout her career there she would never go in to work when she had her chronic migraine episodes (because she physically/mentally couldn't). ######

Response: NTA. Should've just told her that you don't like to associate business and family. Would've been more understanding and the drama would've been avoided. ######


Prompt: I(15F) have been babysitting my lil brother O(4 months) since he was a newborn because my mom and her boyfriend both work nights. I used to have a schedule where I would alternate nights with my other brother J(17M) and for about the first month I got irritated a few times but it wasn't enough to deter me. J eventually got a job so he dropped off the babysitting schedule so lately it's been me babysitting O from midnight to 9 almost every day. Along with this because they work nights they need to sleep during the day where they pass him off to me again and when their not sleeping they tend to go shopping 2+ hours without him. I am getting paid for none of this despite the fact that I'm more of a nanny at this point. I like to think I'm a go with the flow kind of person but lately my sleep schedule has been severely messed up and as someone with a history of mental health issues I've been getting more and more exhausted the longer this goes on. At this point I mostly just want a break but I don't wanna seem ungrateful or bratty for not helping out. ######

Response: NTA. Short of a truly dire situation, minor-age children should absolutely NOT be relied on as regular childcare for other minor-age children. Watching your baby brother for maybe and hour here and there is one thing, but entire days/night? AW HAIL NAW! If your mom and her bf couldn't afford daycare while they were at work, or couldn't at least change their schedules so one of them could be home, then they had NO business having a baby. Doing so was a completely selfish choice on their part. ######


Prompt:
My sister has recently created a new instagram account that she only lets her friends follow, I thought nothing of it but one of our mutual friends sent me a screenshot of the account.  It was nothing but posts about her talking shit about me, our cousin, and a couple of her other friends.  I went to confront my sister about this and basically told her if she has a problem with me she can say it to my face.  When I showed her the screenshot she said she can saw whatever she wants about me or anyone.  I told her to take down the posts or the account, and my sister told me that she won't do any of that.

My friend recently sent me another screenshot and it was her full on her going over the full conversation we had and her talking shit about me again.  I knew I wasn't gonna do shit so I straight up told my mom that she was making fun of me on an instagram account, my mom nearly tore her head off and she had to delete the account in front of her lol.

My sister called me a "fucking snitch" and said that I had to go get mommy to deal with her issues.  I just told her to not talk shit on me and this wouldn't have to happen. ######

Response: NTA. Shes being mean, she gets what she deserves ######


Prompt:
I live in a shared house. When I'd buy groceries they would magically disapear or whenever I would cook my (older female) roomie would ask me to share.

Neither of us like cooking or doing dishes. I agreed to cook if she would wash the
 dishes. She never washed the dishes.

So I've been ordering doordash like 3x a week. My housemate sits in the living room watching tv 24-7. I have to go through the living room to get to the front door. Everytime I get food she asks what I ordered. (If I have left overs I share.)

Recently my aunt said I am rude for ordering food and not offering to buy the women some. (Honestly, it seems like my aunt is always trying to start petty fights with me.) Am I obligated to buy my housemate food?

AITA for not wanting to buy her food? ######

Response: NTA. She’s your roommate you aren’t obligated to buy her anything. She’s not your child. ######


Prompt:
Basically
I was home alone so I thought "I'll clean my room".
I've put some of my anime music on my TV, it wasn't even loud, and started cleaning.
5 minutes later my neighbor ring my bell and started yelling on me saying that I'm listening Satan's music and I should stop doing that because it's bothering her.
I've just said "You don't hear me complaining about you listening to your church music at 7 am every day" and then she got angrier saying that I was possessed by the devil, that she is gonna complaint to my parents to take me to the church, that's why I never get a girlfriend, and why I have depression and stuff like that...
After all that I've just said "Ma'am you should take care of your life and I'll take care of mine, and be careful Satan's love people who takes care of other people's life's".
She left angrier saying that my parents will know about that.
So in the end I was asshole in all that situation?
PS.: I'm 24 y and she must be 50/60 I think. ######

Response: NTA. She’s the asshole. Probably racist too if she thinks Japanese is “Satanic.” ######


Prompt:
So I (20M) am friends with her (20F). She moved from America with her family around a year ago for permanent here to England.

One of the things she was surprised by was the usage of the word cunt. She came with me to a lot of parties and would hear the word used a lot by both guys ans girls.alike.

She definitely was shocked by it.

Well we face timed yesterday and she said that when lockdown is over and parties happen again, she is going to "take a stand" whenever she hears the word used in a social setting.

I told her that's a bad idea as the cultural connotation of the word in the UK, especially among younger people, is massively different to America. It's the equivalent of telling people to stop saying the word mate, that it wouldn't go down well if she tried to police that word.

Example of the times shes disliked use of the word, at parties people would say "hey up cunt" to one another (noone said it to her but she saw other people say it to others), "you daft cunt" (in a joking maner) etc.

Well I told her my view that cunt is one of those things she just has to accept is different here and she got upset and called me ashole. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She’s the asshole for not believing a person from the UK about what’s common IN the UK. Though I’d love to hear how her taking a stand against its use works out for her. ######


Prompt:
I'll try and keep it as brief as I can. I own my house, and have a tandem driveway with a rental house. The owner is an older lady who inherited the house when her mom died (she's about 75 and lives downtown). For the past 10 years, a new tenant moves in, I become friends with them, and then they leave because the landlord won't do anything to fix the house. She also won't allow anyone to pay for improvements (example: they wanted to rip up and replace the moldy carpet in the bathroom and she wouldn't let them). There's termite damage, water in the basement, and all of the locks are broken. The house is falling apart and hasn't had a single improvement for at least 60 years. I hate the rotating door of tenants that are moving in, getting fed up, and moving out. The latest tenant just told me they're moving (ill miss them!)... and I want to report the house for code violations after they leave.

The landlord hasn't registered the house as a rental, and never gives them their security deposit back... even when the tenants try and fix the house as much as they can. I hate this rotating door of new neighbors. SO. I want to report all of the code violations to the city, knowing full well that the owner doesn't have the money to fix them.  I'll be honest--- I want the city to tear down the house, buy the lot and start a neighborhood garden.

AITA for reporting the house and creating a hardship on an older lady on a very fixed income? ######

Response: NTA. She’s running a scam on renters and making it the community’s problem. She’s not even part of that community if she lives in a different area. I’d go a step further and say you have a morale obligation to report the house and protect future renters from the deposit scam. If I were in your position, I’d ask to be allowed in to your neighbor’s house while it is still theirs. Take pictures and make specific notes of code violations. Maybe you can convince them to stay or at least wait a while to see how this plays out. ######


Prompt:
Ok I'm on mobile so please bear with.

***I am so sorry if this is triggering for someone dealing with an eating disorder.***

My sister (30) had bulemia when she was in college but no longer suffers from it. (I mean no one completely gets over it but it doesnt affect her day to day anymore).

I (23F) have developed an anorexia when I was 15 too, however mine still impacts me in day to day, I've been in Therapy for 5 years already.

She recently broke up with her long term boyfriend and has gotten back into fitness and gym, especially during lockdown she went for runs more often as an excuse to leave the house. She has lot weight and seems genuinely happier in herself and I'm happy to see her more confident in her self.

Anyway, she will constantly tell me how much weight she lost in numbers and what she eats (and doesn't eat). Point out things in her body that she doesn't like and will consistently ask me how she looks. One instance she kept saying "be proud of me, be proud of me" and I had to tell her that I'm proud of her dedication and how much happier she is but I am not comfortable with commenting on someone's weight and prefer is she didn't constantly talk about the benefits of losing weight.

She got upset and told me I was being selfish and parents agreed with her too. I guess I am being selfish but I need to put boundaries. Aita for "being too sensitive"? ######

Response: NTA. she’s not respecting boundaries. this is clearly affecting you emotionally. i’m sure there’s plenty of other people she could talk to about this ######


Prompt:
Picture it....
With all of my extra time, I have become ( or so I think) a master landscaper- working nonstop on my yard.
Its today, April 1.
I causally look out my front window with my dog. Something has his attention, and I notice an old woman walking her dog, who’s not so casually sniffing around my yard.
This dog is going to shit on my pride and joy yard. The empty soul of a gambler in me, takes the money line that this dog is going to shit in my yard and I parlay it with she’s not going to pick it up +500.

The dog begins to circle. Here we fucking go!!! Game on.
The little Dude finishes up and the owner- no surprise, continues on with her walk.
With the limited social contact I’ve had, I’m excited for the opportunity to introduce myself to this old lady.
I grab a bag, pick up the dogs mess, follow her down the street and give her back the mess she didn’t pick up.
Me: Excuse me, hi. Yes
You left this on my yard.
She acted like she had no idea what had happened
“Oh my, really? I can’t believe that. I don’t think it was me.”
Me: I watched you let it happen, and then you walked away.  Here, you can have this back. ::hands bag of shit to old lady:: have a nice day!

While walking back to my house, I felt like an asshole. Did I really just chase an old lady down to scold her for not picking up dog shit? Who am I?
It’s fucking gross that people don’t pick it up, it’s infuriating to me since I always pick up after my dog.
Am I the asshole?

TL:DR an old lady let her dog shit in my yard, I chased her down to give it back to her. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She’s guilty. She lied about it. You were pretty darn polite about the whole thing and bet she won’t let her pup poop on your lawn again ######


Prompt:
A long story pretty short, my dad gave my mother a necklace with a pink diamond in it when they got married, which he got from a housewife he worked as a butler for years before that. She gave the necklace to me when I got married but the clasp was broken so I couldn't wear it.

I was planning to give it to my daughter but after having four boys my husband and I have let that go and I thought it would be nice to give it to my niece for her next birthday. I asked her to make sure she even wanted it since she's not much of a jewelry person but she was surprisingly excited for it and we sent it in to get fixed.

There was an unnecessary fight between my niece and my sister about her current boyfriend which resulted in her cutting my sister off. Since I was behind my sister (but definitely not involved) I was also unfortunately cut off and somehow got most of the name calling.

Now I'd completely forgotten about the necklace until this morning when the jeweler called and said my niece was there to collect the necklace and wanted to make sure it was okay. I thought about it and decided to rather hold off giving it to her since she cut us off and I'd never actually worn it before. I told him I didn't send her and that I'll collect it tomorrow. Am I an asshole for doing this? ######

Response: NTA. She’s got some balls on her still going to just pick it up like it’s all good. ######


Prompt:
For context, I am a White and Japanese 17 year old non-binary person. My dads father came from Japan and met my paternal grandmother a White woman. My dad married my mother (an blue-eyed irish polish white woman) and had me. I came out with curly, (My mother) dark hair (My dad) and blue eyes (My mother) I am pale.

My maternal grandmother (White, Catholic woman) has always been pissed off about my mom having a kid with another race. She refuses to accept my Asian culture.

I am visting my grandma, and I have been missing my dad's cooking  (He's an amazing cook) and I asked my grandma if we could go to a Japanese store to get some food items I needed to make stuff. She sighed and huffed "When are you going to realize you're not Asian" I corrected her saying I very much am Asian she told me I didn't look like it. I told her that I got that from my mother, she told me I am in no way Japanese and I should stop appropriating their culture.

I got mad and stormed off, I really wasn't in the mood for aruging. She has met and seen my dad, but my paternal grandfather died from a heart attack before I was born, and neither me nor my maternal grandmother has met him.

I have tried talking to her about it, but she always fires back with "But you look white, therefore you are white" I really don't know what to do or say to her. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She’s being racist and close minded. Even if you look white you seem to have been raised with and by Japanese culture...it’s in your heritage and upbringing. It’s not like you’re a totally white person who just became obsessed with anime and now pretend they’re Japanese to like fetishize Asian ppl or something. Just tell her Japanese heritage is a part of you and how you were raised and there’s nothing she can do or say about it...and then refuse to argue with her about it. ######


Prompt:
My friend posted a massive status on Facebook after discovering her bf cheated on her. She then called me crying basically saying the same thing. How her boyfriend cheated on her with another woman, how devistated she is, how she is a strong woman who doesn't need that, how men can never be trusted and finally how she would never do that to anyone she loves. I listened to it all, listened to her cry and feel sorry for herself. If it was any of my other friends then I definitely would have reacted differently but I know this girl way too well, she is my best friend and we have are always honest with each other.

She then was looking for reassurance but I didn't give her it. Instead I said this:

"Sorry if you are looking for a pitty party or for reassurance then you have definitely came to the wrong place. It's hard to feel sorry for someone who themselves cheat on every person they have been with and brags about it. Now you know how it feels to be cheated on. Sucks he did that? Of course it does but it's hard to pitty someone who does that shit themselves. Mate I do love ya but in all honesty I can't feel sorry for you right now. I have never agreed with cheating, don't like him doing it, never liked you doing it but I can't feel bad for you because you are being a huge hypocrite... sorry".

She was really insulted about that. She started screaming down the phone how I'm meant to be her friend but what I said was bitchy and what assholes say. Claimed I slut shamed her and said I was an asshole. Personally I don't see that as slut shaming at all when she has literally bragged about getting with guys behind their gfs backs and being with guys behind all her exes backs. She has never felt bad about any of that and actually was proud of her actions. So why should I feel sorry for someone who does that themselves?

AITA for saying that?

Edit: She is my best friend and I love her like she is my sister but that doesn't mean I agree with everything she does. ######

Response: NTA. She’s a huge hypocrite if she thinks her cheating is any different, and honestly deserved to get a taste of her own medicine. Whether she wanted to hear that or not, it seemed necessary at this point. Maybe it’ll prevent her from doing it again in the future. ######


Prompt:
So, I have a younger sister. She is twelve, and I am eighteen (I'm a high school Senior). Ever since we were younger, she has always asked me to do small tasks for her (such as bringing her an object, or throwing something out for her). At first, I didn't really mind. I didn't want to be mean, and it wasn't that big of a deal, so I kept doing it. However, her requests have become more frequent recently.

She always asks me to put her devices on charge (such as her phone, tablet, and headphones), fetch her water, and other such tasks for seemingly no other reason than because she's too lazy to do them herself. Whenever she asks me fetch her objects, the said objects would always be close to her, and the fact that she refuses to get them herself is just mind-boggling to me.

I tried to refuse her several times, saying that she can do it herself and that she doesn't need my help, but whenever I do, she would throw a fit, saying that I "have to do it", because it's "part of a routine". I just don't understand why she's being so stubborn. I know that she's younger, and still a kid, but I feel like this behavior is immature, even for her age. We have gotten into a few fights about it, and she doesn't seem to understand why this irritates me. She thinks I'm the one being stubborn and unreasonable. I just want her to understand that I can't do things for her all the time. Even if they are little in hindsight, I don't wanna feel obligated or forced to do them. It doesn't feel fair to me.

Am I being unreasonable here for not wanting to comply with her demands? Am I the one being immature? Am I in the wrong here for not wanting to do small tasks for her all the time? ######

Response: NTA. She’s 12, so she’s definitely old enough to do things like get a drink or plug up her phone. Asking for favors like that once in a while is common, but it shouldn’t be such a frequent occurrence. ######


Prompt:
I might have overreacted, but here goes. I (25f) have a 30 year old sister, and she is very controlling and loves telling me what to do, as well as our two brothers. Bit of a control freak who involves herself in everyone's business. She's a bit obsessed with my hair, it's thick and hers is very thin, so you know what I mean there, wishes she had hair like mine. She's always touching it, playing with it, stuff like that. Whatever, doesn't bother me that much.

We're all still at home, I definitely cannot afford to get my own place for another while and she is looking for a house close to the family house and her work. There have been instances when I am in the bath washing myself, and she will come in to wash her hands or brush her teeth. I don't think she comes in with the deliberate intention of this, but she still does it and the last time I lost it. When she is standing there doing her stuff, she will watch me washing my hair. This isn't prolonged or anything, but she still does it. Standing at the sink doing whatever and watching me.

The last time this happened I lost it. Screamed at her to fuck off and that she's a creep and a pervert. She's always been the golden child, so I got told off by our mum to stop shouting and sister had the gall to tell me to stop shouting as well and to watch my language. I might have overreacted but I think it's unfair to just stand there watching your own sister, naked in the bath having a wash and commenting on how she washes her hair, not having any boundaries for someone else's privacy and dignity. I know that she didn't come in deliberately to watch but that's not the point. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She's watching you wash your hair in the shower/bath and commenting on it? That's incredibly creepy and a huge invasion of privacy. ######


Prompt: I'm a trucker, so I'm on the road 6 days a week, working about 12 hours a day, and I keep my truck clean inside. My wife works 12 hours a week, and the house is constantly a mess, and when I say something to her about it, it usually pisses her off, then she says she'll do it, but never does. Am I being an asshole by asking too much of her to simply keep the house cleaned up? ######

Response: NTA. She's the one at home making the mess, and not cleaning up after herself while you are out earning an income; assuming you are not a total slob at home.  The reason she is getting pissed of is because she knows its true and doesn't want to deal with it.  Keep engaging. ######