Prompt:
I’m my homes Cinderella basically. No, my family isn’t abusive. But all the chores in my house are given to me. Everyone else is exempt from picking up after themselves...I must do it for them. If I’m sick and can’t do it, no one will do it. If I don’t feed the dog, no one will do it. Giant spill on the counter? Whoever did it won’t clean it up. I have to do it.

My sister is the worst out of the 3 people in my family. She will cook something and leave the scraps of food all over the kitchen all day. There’s so much clutter all over the counters there’s no room for anything. Day after day I have to clean it.

I’ve mentioned this to my parents and they don’t give a fuck. My parents are very lazy tbh and if it’s not their problem or if it doesn’t affect them they don’t care. They are so easy on my sister who can do whatever she wants, when she wants. She’s 17 and I’m 22. I’ve asked her to contribute and clean up after herself but she just whines.

So today she made a salad. There’s lettuce all over the counter, chopped tomatoes on the floor, and dirty dishes left all over the table. So I took her mess and her dishes and put it on her room on her floor so she’d finally clean it. She freaked out and asked why it was there and I said “because it’s your mess and if you keep refusing to clean up after yourself, I’ll move the mess to your room so I don’t have to deal with it. It’s ready to be cleaned whenever you are!”

She flipped out and told my parents I messed up her room and they got upset with me saying that I’m causing drama in the house and that my sister is bored being in the house all day and doesn’t need this stress. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Your sister sounds like a spoiled brat. Your parents sound like spoiled brats as well. Stop doing things. Feed the dog but stop contributing otherwise. I understand your parents expect you to do these things but you aren’t a maid or their slave. If they expect it then tell them you want to be compensated for it.

But in general OP it sounds like you need to move out if you can. Your whole family seems lazy and toxic af. ######


Prompt:
I’m immunosuppressed, and my wife is in the hospital for a few days. I’ve been texting her but we decided it was better if I didn’t go in to see her to limit my exposure chances to covid. I’ve been texting her, but I drew her a picture that I wanted to send and I wrote a note to go along with it. My sister works as a nurse at the hospital, so I asked her if she could take it in for her when she gets a chance.

She took it in yesterday, and then she texted me that what I wrote was sweet and that the drawing was good. I asked how she knew and she said she opened the envelope to look at it before giving it to my wife. I got annoyed and said that she shouldn’t have opened it, and that I didn’t tell her that she could open it, and I also didn’t tell her what I wrote so it could have been something private. It happened not to be, but it’s the principle of the thing.

She said that I’m over reacting and it’s not a big deal. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your sister shouldn’t have opened it. It doesn’t matter if it was private or not - you don’t open other people’s mail, even if you’re the mailman, even if the mail is for family. ######


Prompt:
I have a trainwreck sister. She has one daughter who is 13. They live in a small house. My sister does not work and refuses to get a job. She's on welfare and I occasionally buy them groceries, She's fucked up from years and years of meth. My niece was turning into my sister 2.0 and was recently taken away and is now in foster care. Too many calls to the cops and CPS visits.

My sister is devastated. She's been crying and sunk into depression. Her daughter refuses to speak with her. The plan is for her to live with her (loser) father. I felt bad for my sister and dropped off some bagels and cream cheese. She spent about 20 minutes saying that she was a horrible mother, her daughter hates her, etc. I could tell she was waiting for me to assure her that it was untrue, but I didn't because it's true - my sister is a horrible mother and her daughter does hate her for good reason.

I finally couldn't hold it in any longer and asked her why she was even sad? Nothing good was ever going to come from her place and her daughter was clearly on the wrong path. Foster care is better than living in what she was living in.

I could tell that it hurt her, but I was keeping it real. ######

Response: NTA. Your sister needs to wake up and get her life together if she wants her daughter back. ######


Prompt: For context, this is on discord. I’m 18 and my little sister is 12. I recently came upon a server that she’s in, and found out that she had been telling people she was 17. That really didn’t sit right with me, especially considering she was talking to a boy who was 18. They keep flirting and it’s making me worry about her safety, putting herself out there like that when she’s so young. I’ve been thinking about messaging the staff of the server quietly and also telling the boy, but I don’t want to make it a public matter. The reason I’m making this post is that I’m worried that I’ll damage her friendships with people and/or my own relationship with her. I don’t know if this is the right course of action. WIBTA? ######

Response: NTA. your sister might not like you for it, but lying about her age (especially for someone as young as her) can be really dangerous. i think quietly telling the staff and the boy is your best bet. i’m sure that boy would feel incredibly uncomfortable finding out he was actually talking to a 12 year old. ######


Prompt:
Before you think I’m a horrible person, there is a reason. My cousin, Linda, has the most lovely 3-year old ever. I love her with all my heart and I miss them like crazy.

Linda lives about an hour away from me(26f) and my sisters (14, 23, 28, 29). Since all of this crazy mess happened, if a cousin had a birthday in the area we would all drive by their house, beep, and say Happy Birthday. The cousins we’ve done it with have been 9 and 15. Their parents reached out to us before hand that they would like us to come and do this.

Linda has not asked anyone to come to hers, probably distance being a reason. But Linda’s daughter has been having a hard time with not being able to play with others. She has a 6-month sister, and Linda has constantly been keeping the kids entertained. Linda’s mom and sister live right next door to them, but since her sister is an essential worker, they haven’t been able to go over and play.

Linda told me and my sisters about how said her daughter would get extremely upset when her sister and mom would say hi through the window. After they leave, she would need to be comforted because she would constantly ask “why doesn’t anyone want to play with me”.

When my oldest sister suggested we drive over there to say happy birthday from the car, I said we should ask Linda first. My sister said she would rather have it as a surprise. I kept insisting, saying that I don’t think it’s a good idea and let’s at least ask Linda because while it may be fun for the few minutes we are there, we are not the ones that have to console a sad 3-year old after we leave.

My sister got angry at me and uninvited me to go. I understand that they want to do something nice (Linda’s husband actually put together a video of family singing happy birthday for her along with a special message from a princess) but not at the cost of causing more harm than good. I at the very least would like Linda to know so she can decide if her child can handle it.

So AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your sister knows Linda doesn't want this but is still pressuring everyone to do it? Big yikes. ######


Prompt:
Hi! Second time posting here.

Okay so basically– I really really dislike taking photos or videos of myself, and I hate it when others do that too. It might just be an insecurity issue. I just don't feel comfortable when people do it, but even though I tell others that often, I still get dragged in for photos very now and then.

My sister’s a streamer on Facebook. She’s not  INSANELY popular or famous but she definitely has a sort of big following.

A few hours ago she decided to take videos of me and uploaded it onto her Instagram story where her fans could see it. I didn't notice that she did that until she told me about it, and obviously I grew kind of irritated.

I've told her multiple times that I really just don't like when others take pictures of videos of me ( or call me cute, because it makes me uncomfortable ) but she continues to do it anyways. When I told her I really didn't appreciate that and showed that I was kinda annoyed, she teased me ( which she does, a lot, because she says she loves to annoy me ) and laughed, before asking me if I was going to cry about it (for some reason whenever I get annoyed she always asks me if I'm going to cry about it. I guess it's because she thinks I'm a crybaby?)

I feel like I was kind of being a jerk when I got pissed off. After that I sort of thought and felt like I was overreacting because it's just a short video, and there was nothing for me to get mad about but I dunno. ######

Response: NTA. Your sister isn't respecting how you feel about the situation. I second contacting Facebook about getting it taken down. ######


Prompt:
Thieving sister

So my sister (15) has been buying stuff off of our grandmas debit card. I told my mom multiple times to get my grandmas card number change because my sister has the information written down somewhere. She doesn’t change the card, and my sister buys $100 ring as a gift for her girlfriend, which she has shipped to our house. I grabbed the package and told my grandma I’d ship the ring back and get her her money back but my mom and dad just want to let my sister have the ring and pay her back over time... am I the asshole for being pissed at my parents for not taking action on this or am I overreacting? ######

Response: NTA. Your sister is stealing from your grandma and no one is doing anything about it? Bring this up to your grandmother, and then you both should take this to the police. ######


Prompt:
My older sister and I share the house we grew up in as part of our inheritance. To keep this as concise as possible, my sister’s boyfriend and I absolutely do not get along. I genuinely do not think he’s a good person and have no problem going out of my way to avoid him. My sister is well aware of the fact that we don’t like each other, but is constantly setting up scenarios for us to get together and hash out our differences.

Although I don’t like him, I don’t care if she brings him over as long as she lets me know when he’s coming, which she normally does. I got off work yesterday and found him in the living room, and when I asked how he got in he said he used a spare key. To my knowledge we don’t have a spare, just the two keys that both my sister and I have, but I shrugged it off and went to my room. When my sister came home, I asked when we got a spare key and she said she copied her key and gave him one so he could come and go since he stays over often. I was furious, because this was never discussed with me. When they went to bed, I took the key off the ring and I have no plans on giving it back. She’s upset with me because she says that the house is just as much hers as it is mine and I don’t have the right to take things that “aren’t mine”. ######

Response: NTA. Your sister is right it is just as much her house. If this was a discussion about whether he can come over, I would be on your sister’s side. In this case, her giving him a key gives him access to your home and things 24/7 even when she’s not there. Giving someone a key should be a mutual decision between everyone that lives there. ######


Prompt:
Last night I (f15) was talking to my sister (f13) about how I've been looking to make some extra money lately because I've been wanting to buy a new phone and haven't been getting many shifts lately because of coronavirus.

I said to her that I wanted to sell a dress that I had brought online, because I didn't like it as much as I thought I would and saw it as an opportunity to make some money. She said that I shouldn't sell it and *give* it to her because she likes and would wear it (I have had this dress for a few months and only worn it once, but I have never heard her say anything about liking or wanting the dress). I told her that I would prefer to sell it and make money. She ended up saying that I care more about money than my family and that I'm being selfish.

I think that because I own the dress I should be able to say who I sell or give it to, even if it does come across as selfish. I feel like she is guilting me into giving her the dress and keeps bringing my parents financial situation into the argument, saying that she wants the dress so much that even if I did sell it she would go out and buy a similar one with my parents money knowing the would make me feel bad. I also know that had the situation had been reversed she would have not given the dress to me.

I feel like we're both probably right in some way, but it has become a huge fight and I just want to know if I'm being the asshole. ######

Response: NTA. Your sister is being a brat. Your dress, your decision. Tell her she can buy it from you if she wants it that much but otherwise I ay go for it. Nip that emotional blackmail right in the bud. ######


Prompt:
I work in a supply warehouse and was given the option to buy medical grade masks for personal use. The only restriction is that we were only allowed to buy 1 mask per person living in the same house as you.
I live with my parents, so that meant that I could buy 3 masks. I gave one mask to my dad (who is 65 years old, diabetic and still working full time) one mask to my sister (who works part time buying groceries/picking up prescriptions and provides household assistance for the elderly. She also has an asthmatic son and a diabetic daughter) and kept one mask for myself because I am working full time and have been the person going grocery shopping for our household.

When my mom found out that I didn't have a mask for her, she blew up. Yelling at me for being selfish because I didn't get her a mask. I explained about the limit on how many masks I could buy, and reasoned that since she was laid off and hadn't left the house in 3 weeks, she didn't need a mask. Also I would be able to purchase 3 more masks in 2 weeks, so I would be able to buy her one then.

My dad has sided with my mom, and said that since the limit was for each member of the household, then I shouldn't have given my mom's mask to my sister. ######

Response: NTA. Your sister is at far more risk and far more in need of a mask than your mom is. I would’ve done the same thing. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account as my Family knows my Main.

My sister and I are around the same age. I (25F) and she (22) never really got along. From a young age it was clear that she was the favorite child. She got everything she asked for and more. I think it made her entitled and spoiled.

I am currently going to college, and live on my own in a small 2 room apartment. I won some money a while back and work besides studying, so I am pretty well of. I am not home most of time.

My sister and her kid still live with our parents. She doesn't go to work since she's a single mom. Now she decided she wants to go back to college ( which I genuinely support) in th ecity I live. It's a 5 hour drive from our parents hometown. She doesn't want to go to work, and does not want to hire a babysitter. The Father of the Child is still in the picture and offered to take my niece in. My sister refused and said she didn't want to be separated from her child.

Without ever asking me, my parents and sister decided that my sister and niece would move in with me, and I would cover all costs on my own. She is already enrolled in class. They also decided she and her kid would move into my bedroom and I would sleep on the couch. I was also supposed to watch my niece. I said no. My apartment is really small and even though I am well of, I can't comfortably support my sister and niece financially.

My parents, grandparents and other relatives all called me and screamed at me for not supporting my sister and niece. My sister is already enrolled in class. Cancelling would cost a lot of money. My parents want me to pay it, since I am the reason she can't attend classes. Since then, I muted my phone and cut off all contact from my Family. I talked with my Friends and they all called my the Asshole for not supporting my sister. Am I really TA? ######

Response: NTA. Your sister is an adult and it’s not your responsibility to assist them. ######


Prompt:
I’ll keep this short.

So my sister and BIL are having a baby. She’s 4 months along.

My sister has BPD and she’s been getting serious mood swings but still absolutely refuses to see any doctor/therapist about it. I’ve known my BIL for years (since college) and he’s told me recently how tough things have gotten with my sister.

The breaking point came last week when BIL texted me saying sister has started to throw things at him. He said he came home with take out but got the wrong sauce or side or whatever, next thing he knew she was flinging silverware at him. When he tried to leave she grabbed a heavy bowl threw it at his face (it missed but still).

I immediately offered a place for him to get away. He took me up on the offer and stayed for 1 night while we tried to get my sister professional help again. She made a surprising 180 over the next day after BIL left and started calling all our relatives/family saying I’m trying to intervene and destroy her marriage.

She told our family and relatives that I was now conspiring with her husband to leave her while she’s pregnant. BIL has gone back now but things are still dicey and I told him to call me if things get out of hand again.

Both my parents called me today to say I’m betraying family. After I told them of her recent unhinged actions they said if I really cared I would make sure BIL stays with my sister who’s the real vulnerable one, not give him an “easy out” from marriage. They also said it’s obvious I didn’t care about her wellbeing or else I would’ve taken HER in instead of him. It’s true I never offered to take her in.

AITA if I don’t do any of this and just let BIL stay with me when he feels like it? I can’t help but feel like no one takes my sister’s terrible actions seriously in my family and I know if I were in BIL’s shoes I would want a place where I can distance myself from all that. ######

Response:
 NTA. Your sister is abusing him. She could have seriously injured him if had been hit in the head, and this is just in regards to a situation he told you about.

BPD isn’t an excuse, nor is being pregnant; she needs to take responsibility for her actions and seek professional help.

Phrase it to your parents like this: the main issue is that she’s having violent outbursts. If she doesn’t do something to control it now, who’s to say that something potentially way more serious will happen when she’s responsible for a baby?

Your sister needs help, but not the kind your parents seem to want to give. ######


Prompt:
     I (19F) have two twin 3 year old sons that I gave birth to in highschool, two years before I met my fiancé. Their father (19M) is also heavily present in their life. For a little background, I am Sicilian and Greek, and their father is Korean. Safe to say, they look very not white.
     My fiancé, however, looks very white. Curly blonde hair, pale skin, blue eyes.
     Whenever me and my fiancé go out with them, no one assumes that he is the father, which has never bothered me, my fiancé, their father, or my boys. Even now, as I am in the last few weeks of our first pregnancy together, we haven’t had any problems with our family. My fiancé and his parents are ecstatic for our baby girl, and so are my boys and their father. The only person it does bother is his older sister.
     Three days ago, while we were setting up the nursery in our apartment, his sister began talking about how I was not fit to be a good mother, and all the “complications” that would come from her being raised by a “dirty white”
mother and surrounded by “halfling brats”; along with how she wanted nothing to do with my sons lives, only our daughters because she needed “actual guidance”.
     Of course, I went mental. I told her to get out of our apartment and how she could return her bridesmaids dress at her nearest convenience.
     My husband says I went too hard on her, and how she is just overprotective of him. I explained that she was blatantly disrespectful to me and our sons, and how I wasn’t going to tolerate it. He attempted to compromise and told me I needed to apologize, even if I don’t forgive her.
     AITA for refusing to apologize, or let her back in the wedding party? ######

Response: NTA. Your sister in law needs to know/learn that racism is not ok, and you fiance should not excuse it. ######


Prompt:
I'm 13, my sister is 23. We have a great relationship and I'm even kool with her boyfriend.

Last week I was supposed to spend at her place, as we hadn't seen each other during the lockdown. Her bf would be there 3 times (they don't live together).

It was all good till their "night activities" woke me up in the middle of the night. Her flat is large and out bedrooms are at the opposite ends of the hall. So that meant they were loud.

I hoped it'd end soon, but they were in for a ride. I tried headphones with music, I didn't hear them, but couldn't sleep with loud music blasting. I didn't say anything as it was their first night and thought they'd tire each other out.

Well, same thing next night. I was knackered the morning after, plus I learned the boyfriend would probably come around more than 3 times.

At the point I started to ponder getting back to my parents, as I have insomnia and it could mess my entire sleep schedule.

I told my sister I forgot helping my friend with chemistry and my mum picked me up.

She couldn't wrap her head around and constantly asked me. She probably knew I was lying as we know each other well. She asked me if she had done something wrong, I told her no and we'd do the same thing next month (her boyfriend would be abroad), but she wasn't having it.

Eventually I told her, I couldn't sleep as I heard them shagging and she was shocked.

She even brough it up at our family dinner, which was super embarrassing, because I hadn't told my parents. And it looked like she was mad at me. My paretns didn't want dive in, but told her it'd be good if It could be arranged that I wouldn't sleep there when her bf did.

She got upset, calling me nosy and eventually left earlier. She's not replied to my messages or calls.

AITA for telling her the reason? ######

Response: NTA. Your sister has no right to be mad at YOU. You're 13!! She should NOT be having loud sex whilst you're there (nor anyone!). ######


Prompt:
My daughter (9F) recently got her period a few days ago, and my husband who was in the medical field thought it would be better if we both talked to her together.

We did the whole birds and bees talk, and that she shouldn’t feel uncomfortable asking dad to buy pads and tampons for her.

We wanted her to feel comfortable and get used to it.

Dad did the explaining while I went out with my daughter to go buy her pads and teach her how to use them.

Both of us thought this was okay, and our daughter seemed completely fine with it.

She never seemed to be uncomfortable, and seemed genuinely kind of relieved.

I was talking to my sister the other day though, and she blew up at me. Telling me dads shouldn’t be the ones teaching this. I shouldn’t have told him, and it was my responsibility alone.

My sister told me it was an invasion of my daughters privacy, and most of my immediate family agrees with her.

I’ve never thought of periods as something other than something that happens biologically.

On one hand, at least my daughter learned, and has a supportive dad. On the other maybe it was wrong of me to bring dad into this. ######

Response: NTA. Your sister has an outdated and frankly damaging view of things. My guess is that your daughter was totally okay with it because she was raised by parents who don't see any part of anatomy or biology as taboo or off-limits, and that is a very good, healthy thing which she will hopefully carry forward in her own future family (if she chooses to have one). No one should feel like there is anything gross or wrong or taboo about their body or that they can't discuss things with either/both parents. I hope I've raised my sons to be dads like your husband is, and I hope they find partners like you who are open to them being involved. ######


Prompt:
Me [19M] and my sister [19F] had some big problems a year ago. She started acting really creepy towards me. She walked in on me while I was showering a couple of times. Then one morning I woke up to her naked in my bed, spooning and humping me, while her hand was on my penis. Our parents refused to believe me for a while until she admitted to it. She got therapy and cut out the behavior. It was obviously very uncomfortable and traumatic for me. I had tried to move on from it as my sister was acting better.

Anyway recently I caught my sister on my phone. After I got it back, I used my computer to see that she had sent and deleted pictures to herself from my phone. The pictures were nudes of myself. I was so shocked and upset that she would do something like that again after everything.

I wanted to delete the pictures off her phone but she has a password. So I called her girlfriend (they have been together for 6 months) and asked if she knew. I broke down and explained everything. She was shocked obviously. I deleted the pictures. Her gf is the only person to believe me and truly support me about it actually.

Anyway her gf broke up with her citing what I told her. My parents are furious at me for sharing this personal information with someone outside the family saying it could ruin my sister. They say I could destroy all the progress she has made. ######

Response:
 NTA. Your sister fucked up and you did her ex a solid by telling her information she needed to know if she was going to be in a relationship with her

I’d recommend counselling, for everyone, and distancing yourself from your family would probably be for the best, if you can ######


Prompt:
A bit of back story: About a month ago me and my friends were out and while my friend was driving he spun out his car and we got pulled over.  I didn't know at the time but the fucker at a wax pen on him, we all got sent to a holding cell for our parents.  They let me and my buddy off light cause we had no idea and we were just passengers to the whole thing.  But my buddy got his license revoked and is practically grounded till senior year (we are sophomores).  Word got around about the wax pen and EVERYONE at my school knew about it.  As for my sister, she is a year older than me and our parent's go on trips for their anniversary and she and a couple of her friends did a couple lines of cocaine.  I didn't find out till I overheard them in the kitchen and she made me promise not to tell.

My sister has teased me constantly over this wax pen, I don't even like smoking weed and I didn't even know he had it.  I get called a "stoner" and all sorts of things, and whenever m in my room she bangs on the door saying that I'm smoking in there, its annoying as hell.

At dinner we got into a little argument over something I don't even remember but she said something like "I bet you want to go smoke a big fat fucking joint huh?  You drug addicted loser".  I had enough of her calling me a stoner or whatever when SHE was the one who actually has done drugs.  (this is where I might be TA) I said "Oh yeah?  At least I didn't do this"  and then did the hand motions for snorting coke.  Mom and dad were in the living room so they didn't see it.  She called me and AH and went to her room without even finishing dinner.

Apparently our brother who's 2 years younger than me knew what I was doing and told on her.  She got grounded and my sister is PISSED at me, I don't feel like I did anything wrong cause I wasn't the one who snitched and she was constantly provoking me.  AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Your sister forget the rule about people in glasshouses throwing stones.

She played herself here. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend and I were doing long distance, so we didn’t get to see each other often. When everything was shutting down both our employers made it so we could work online. We thought this would be a good opportunity to get some quality time with each other. So I went to stay with her.

My sister found out recently and has asked if she and her daughter can stay at my place for the time being.

My sister and her daughter currently live with our parents and our younger sibling. Our parents are a bit pushy and very strict about keeping things tidy. My sister says it wasn’t so bad before, but after being stuck at home with them they are driving her completely crazy because they are getting on her about her parenting (niece she a bit ill mannered for her age). So she needs some space away from them.

My mom has since confirmed they are not getting along right now.

To be honest though I just feel uncomfortable with them staying there without me. So many things could happen without me there. Especially with a little kid running around. I mean so many things could happen with me there too, but at least I would be there to quickly take care of anything that goes wrong. Not saying she definitely would, but she would be able also to go snooping through all my things and I don’t like the idea of that.

When I told her it wouldn’t be possible she said I was being a dick and a sucky brother since I should have offered it two months ago when I left to live with my girlfriend in the first place and knew she didn’t get along with our parents. ######

Response: NTA. Your sister doesn’t become magically entitled to your house just because she’s bickering with your mom. She needs to find her own place. ######


Prompt:
So I (16F) like to bake, I buy my own ingredients and make something every week or so. I share with my mom and sister (21F), and sometimes her friends if they're over. Its not like I can eat everything myself anyway. This happens every week ish, for the past year? Year and a half? For a while.

So I few days ago when I finished work (grocery store) I texted my sister to ask if there was any food, or if I needed to buy some. She told me there was food, so I went straight home.

When I came home there was no food, there was meat in the freezer but no time to defrost, no bread, no eggs, not much. Couldn't order food, since it was past 9 pm.

My sister had ordered two pizzas, so I asked if I could have a few slices, I offered to pay for them. She refused, she wanted to eat them for lunch the next day. I offered to pay for the whole pizza, so she could order a fresh one tomorrow for lunch, she refused again.

This wouldn't have been an issue if she told me there was no food, I would have bought something on my way home. But she apperently didn't check. I ate some plain rice with salt, it wasn't too bad. But I'm still annoyed she's been eating my baking all this time, and couldn't spare two slices of pizza. I even offered to pay, she doesn't pay for the baking, even though she makes much more than I do. She's been acting a bit entitled with the baking already, getting annoyed when I didn't make something she wanted or enough for her to take to her friends, so this was extra annoying.

So the next time I baked something and she came to grab some I told her no. I don't want to share. She got annoyed and told me I could have some pizza (which had been in the fridge for 3 days) if it's *such* a big deal. I refused again, I don't get much joy from cooking for her anymore.

My mom thinks it's petty, but doesn't want to get involved. My sister has been huffy about it. But I don't feel like I have to share at this point.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your sister could easily have shared with you and seems to have a pretty entitled attitude for an adult who earns more than you. You don't owe her what you've put your time, effort and money into. ######


Prompt:
So my girlfriend and I live together, and my sister is staying with me mostly against my will, because otherwise she would be homeless and I can’t really in good conscious do that.

My sister used to be bulimic and anorexic, she’s mostly better now. She still eats kind of slow but other than that seems fine.

Today my girlfriend was wearing this cute dress even though she can’t go anywhere so I told her she looked nice. We were in the kitchen and my sister was in the living room with the tv on, so in earshot but it shouldn’t have been all up in her face. I gave her(my girlfriend) a kiss and she complimented me, then I went on with my day and went back to work.

After dinner my sister told me that she rather I not compliment my girlfriend in front of her and said it makes her feel bad. I think this is pushing the envelope on what I’m willing to give in to body issues. When I was a teenager I had to eat in my room so she wouldn’t see me eating, and I had to never talk about weight, which while annoying was slightly understandable. But I’m not going to walk my girlfriend into our bedroom, compliment her, then walk back.

I told my sister that while I feel bad that it upsets her I’m not going to stop complimenting my girlfriend. If she has a problem with innocuous conversation she can stay in her bedroom. She got mad and said that I didn’t care about her body issues.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your sister cannot live her life always avoiding triggers. ######


Prompt:
So a little bit of context; I (14M) live in NYC and have 2 siblings: my sister (23F) and my brother (8M).  We live in a brownstone where my parents have the biggest bedroom, I have the second largest, my brother has the third largest, and the other 2 bedrooms function as guest bedrooms.  My sister lives in a college dorm, and only spends breaks at home.

So until my sister went to college she lived in the second biggest bedroom (where I currently stay in), I stayed in the third largest (where my little brother currently lives in), etc.  However, once she went to college we all 'moved up a bedroom'' I guess, and now when she visits she usually stays in one of the guest bedrooms.  One thing to note is that my bedroom is quite a bit bigger than the guest room.

Until now there's never been a problem with that arrangement.  Recently though my sister had to come home due to current events, and it looks like she's going to stay until summer break ends.  In light of this she wants her old bedroom back.

My parents agree with her, and say since she's "older" she should have more space, and I ought to be more understanding and whatnot.

I absolutely refuse.  All my stuff are in this room, I've stayed here for the past 5 years, and frankly, IDGAF that this was originally her bedroom.  However, my parents are basically making me, and in reality there's not much I can do about it.  So reddit, for my peace of mind, AITA for not wanting to give up my bedroom for my older sister? ######

Response: NTA. Your sister can stay in the damn guest room. ######


Prompt:
I was with my former spouse for many many years. Turns out he was unfaithful to me for almost every one of those years. He ended up confessing he was in love with my sister and wanted to be with her as well. At first I was crushed and dumbfounded. I felt powerless to stop the situation.  Eventually I left my spouse. I tried seeing other people just to have another family member of mine manipulate me with the guy I was seeing at the time and they got together behind my back. He dumped me and kicked me out of the room we shared.

I didn't stop trying to see people.. but I kept it more casual, less commital. That was until I met my current bf of almost a year now. I decided that he made me happy and recently decided to move. My sister claims I abandoned her, my ex spouse and their kids. AITA for moving on with my life ? ######

Response: NTA. Your sister and ex husband are diseased worm ridden AH though. She should have thought about the consequences of her actions before spreading her legs for her sister's husband if she didn't want to feel abandoned. And that disgusting nematode ex husband is no better. As it stands now, she can shove her opinions where the sun don't shine. You're NTA. You've had awful taste in men so far but still NTA. ######


Prompt:
My sister in law has a horrible habit of making impulsive decisions at the drop of a hat, usually requiring my wife to get her out of situations and pick up the pieces.
She also has a habit of adopting animals just because they look cute and giving them away as soon as they grow up, or prove too much to handle.

Recently, somehow, someway, she managed to obtain a fox. A fox that's barely older than a baby.

Foxes are illegal to own where we live, even with a permit, and she knows this. I don't know alot about foxes, but I do know that they are very high maintenance and hard to take care of, plus my sister in law has a tendency to neglect the animals, which often leads to call a regarding the welfare of the animals.

I texted her shortly after I found about, saying that foxes were illegal to own, but to not let him out because he probably couldn't defend or hunt. She replied that she knew perfectly well what she was doing (spoiler alert! she didn't) and to mind my own business.

I brought up animal control to my wife, but she flat out refused. She said that she'd never forgive me if I called them.

But I was concerned for the Fox and, in the end, called animals control, who took away the fox, gave my sister in law a fine (17,000) and now she's facing jail time. She's furious, and so is my wife, who is now refusing to talk to me, even though it's been a week since the whole ordeal.

An input? ######

Response: NTA. Your SIL is an asshole and so is your wife for enabling her. ######


Prompt: To preface my father passed away about 2 months ago. I was incredibly close with him, I moved states away from my mother to rebuild a relationship with him after their divorce. I went through all of high school living with him and lived a city away throughout college. He was my biggest supporter. So I (23M) am having to go through all the processes of insurance and retirement my father had set up in his name. He had 2 policies with one life insurance company that had me and my 2 siblings, so it was all split evenly between us 3. But he also had another where I was the sole beneficiary, as well as the sole beneficiary of his retirement. My siblings had never really been close to my dad. My sister hadn't spoken to him or seen since last June. My brother who is a habitual liar and kind of shitty person, only really saw him on occasions. And most times it was when he needed something. Thought out my childhood they were never present they had both ran away numerous times. Sometimes we wouldnt see them for a year or more. But my dad always helped even if it costed him loads of money. This is where my dilemma comes into play. My mom is telling me that my dad left the rest of it in my name for a reason, and not to go against his wishes by giving them any. Would I be an asshole if I didn't? ######

Response:
 NTA. Your siblings will probably disagree (of course) but you earned that with your extra care and love you showed him. If the cats not already out of the bag I’d keep quiet about the extra inheritance you received just to save drama. But if they already know just stand your ground, as an adult you made the effort to respect your father, they did not. Your mom supports that as well despite any guilt you may feel, he did give it to YOU as a reason.

And also, I am sorry for your loss. ######


Prompt: My sister is special needs and autistic (I'll call her Rose) and I love her dearly and do everything I can to help her while I still live at home. My sister is pretty well-functioning but not enough to be on her own because she'll never remember to eat, drink fluids, chores or any basic hygiene she may need. Now my mother always told me that she never wanted her in a home or group home if something were to happen to her. My sister's dad wants nothing to do with her on account of her disability. We're all still pretty young now and I don't have to worry about this for awhile because our mom is still young but if something we're to happen to her she has it in her will for me to take care of the rest of my siblings and to make their choices until they are of age. My other sibling's dads could take them in but for Rose her dad doesn't want her and he'll only take in my brother and my younger sister has her dad. If the time comes when we are older I don't know what to do for her. My boyfriend and I have talked and said he'll be fine if she lived with us for awhile but I'm scared something will happen to her because I don't have the time to attend to her health like I do now. So AITA for being not wanting to take her in when I'm older because I can't give her what she may need? ######

Response:
 NTA. Your sibling is not property, she can’t be willed to someone.

You didn’t say how old you are, but at some point you will need to have a frank, adult conversation with your mother about accessing resources to care for your sister as you cannot and should not be expected to take on that responsibility in lieu of living your own life. ######


Prompt:
My sibling has a small dog that they want to register an an emotional support animal (ESA) by using this website that states it is a legitimate site for registering your pet as an ESA. I had made a comment saying that if they wanted to do that, they needed to do it properly and get approval from a therapist as most websites like that are total scams and just end up with people printing off a piece of paper to ‘certify’ they have an ESA.

They got upset and continued to argue it was a legitimate website. I then asked why they wanted the certification as I hadn’t known they were struggling with any mental health issues (I was genuinely curious). Here’s where I got mad. They said they only want the dog certified so it can fly on planes without being in a cage!!!

As someone who has a mental illness and is in therapy for it and struggles everyday, I found that offensive in a way. They were abusing a system created to help those with legit illnesses just so their dog could fly in their lap. I told them that wasn’t a smart idea and it took away from legitimate ESAs and just perpetuated the problem of falsified ESAs and service dogs. They got upset and said it was fine because everyone else does it and they don’t want the dog to be in a carrier for hours on a flight. I continued to explain why that wasn’t smart and was bad for the people who really need these type of certifications. My parent stepped in and agreed with my sibling as well saying that they weren’t directly harming anyone. I just left the conversation and it hasn’t been brought up since but I know they still plan on doing that anyways.

AITA here? ######

Response: NTA. Your sibling is abusing the system. My mother in law is blind. People like your sibling make things more difficult for people who actually need to have a dog with them for legitimate purposes. ######


Prompt: I'm 16 and my mom and I don't have the greatest relationship, but it's not exactly bad. We are just very on and off. However, recently we've been trying to work more as a team and be more open with each other. Well, it's currently Thursday and I had an online therapy session on Tuesday. My therapist and I were having a conversation about sex so that she can understand if I exhibit sexually deviant behavior ( I don't lol). She asked me if I had been sexually active. I was honest and said yes ( An important thing to note: I have a boyfriend and our relationship is incredibly strong. We've been dating for just under a year and we talk to each other about everything. So neither of us ever do anything we're not comfortable with). Being 16, I can legally decide to not have a parent/ guardian present at my session. I chose not to have my mom there, as it was an incredibly private session. Right about the time the therapist had asked the question, my mom came into my room to borrow a shirt and she heard all of it. After my session, I went to talk to her and she was a mixture of shocked, angry, and idk what else. She kept saying that I was too young and shouldn't be doing it. I then started to get frustrated because I feel that it's MY relationship and I can do whatever I'm comfortable with. I kind of started to feel bad for not telling her, but she also shouldn't have walked in on MY therapy session. I'm not particularly mad at her, but I'm frustrated that she's getting mad at me over my private information. So, lay it on me Reddit. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your sexual activities aren’t the business of your mother. You get to decide what information you share in regards to your relationships and what you do with your own body. The fact that she came into your room while you were engaged in a therapy session shows a total lack of respect for your privacy. ######


Prompt:
First post on this sub, basically, I was set a 1500 word essay by school amidst the lockdown, a task set to me. We'll call dad P. P got sent the email (aswell as me) so as to make sure that the assignment got through to me. P asks what project I am doing, and I tried to explain that I wanted to make all choices myself, as I wanted to write about male mental health, a very personal issue to me, and a problem in my school. I finished my essay, and I am very proud of it, and ready to submit. P is now insisting that I show him my work before submitting, and when I asked why, he replied that he is a key role in my life and helps me all through school. P has not been supportive of me, and has rarely made the effort to help when I needed it. In my essay I criticised the lack of parental and school support for men with mental health issues, and I know this isn't a worldwide case, just in my area etc, I did not name specifics I just knew if he was to see it he would get angry, and force me to change it. He is now threatening to not let me go to the school that I chose, it's a free school, so no expense to him, but he said that due to my awful attitude of not showing him my work, he wants me to go to a school which is closer by, and more tightly run. P has said that if I dont show him my work, he will not hesitate to start punishing me. AITA for not sharing?

TL;DR not showing my dad my personal work, dad threatens with all sort of punishment ######

Response: NTA. Your school work is your business. He has no right to DEMAND to see it ######


Prompt:
I (21F) was on the phone with my grandma and she was telling me how she has a weasel/ferret animal holed up in her stable, and she needs to call an exterminator.

She lives in a different country and we were speaking a different language. The world for the animal doesn’t have a direct translation, but it sounds like “co*n”.

I asked her,(not in English) “So when do you think the extermination will come for the *koona*” (that’s roughly how the word is pronounced.

I was in my room but I went out to the kitchen to make tea when I said that sentenced. My English speaking roommate looked at me funny but I didn’t think much of it.

I went back out and she said, “You shouldn’t say slurs like that. It’s not your word to say and I thought you knew better.”

I look at her, still very lost. “What are you talking about? I wasn’t even speaking English, you don’t even know what I said.”

She explained what she thought I said, and told me it’s very insensitive that I throw that word around.

So I tell her, “I didn’t say that word. What I said was weasel. Why would I randomly switch to English and say a racial slur to my grandma?”

She doesn’t let up, and proceeds to call me insensitive and that I need to learn to be more politically correct.

I tell her, “Just because words sound similar, it doesn’t mean I said what you think. My word, which means weasel, also has a different ending. Can we drop this conversation?”

She doesn’t say anything else and we both went to our separate rooms. AITA for how I handled it? ######

Response: NTA. Your roommate is an idiot trying to be woke. In English someone would have thought you meant calling an exterminator for a raccoon if you said coon after you explained yourself. Ignore your roommate. That’s utterly ridiculous she even made the assumption of what you were talking about in your language. ######


Prompt: AITA - I live in a rental house that the owners used to live in before moving so it's pretty nice. There is an in-ground pool that has a heat function, but because of electricity cost my roommate and I rarely use it. I normally swim year around at my gym, but due to the current situation I have started swimming at home using the heat pump. When I told my roommate that I wanted to start using the heat pump he complained about cost and I agreed to pay for any increases to the electrical bill (based on the average of this month last year). Since then he has been swimming every day. I told him if he was going to swim then we needed to split the bill evenly. He refused saying that whether he swims or not I would be using the pump and heating the pool and that I agreed to pay for it. I think if he's getting benefit from it, he should contribute. I'm tempted to just turn the heat off, but swimming is such a good low-impact exercise that I've relied on since injuring my knee last year. ######

Response: NTA. Your roommate is a real wank but you’d be shooting yourself in the foot by shutting the heat off. Don’t cut off your nose to spite your face. ######


Prompt:
First time ever writing in!
Background:
I rent a room in a house shared by 4 people. We’re all college students and didn’t know each other prior to renting(we each pay rent to the landlord separately.) I’ve lived here for a little over 2 years now and have definitely become friends with my roommates. Last year, one of them decided to get a cat. We were all fine with it and the landlord didn’t care, so she adopted a sweet little guy from the humane society.
I’ve never been a huge cat-person, but sometimes I’d feed/play with him if she wanted to leave for a few days. We all have a friendly relationship, but I wouldn’t say we’re close. Also relevant, I love plants and have quite a collection of beautiful house plants. When she got the cat, I moved them all to my room and make sure to keep my doors closed because some of them are toxic to animals.

On to the story:
A few days ago, I went to work-I’m a receptionist at a medical office and am the only one in my house that still physically has to go to work every day. When I came home, the entire house was in a state of panic. One of my other roommates had gone into my room to borrow a pair of scissors and accidentally left my door open. At some point, the cat walked into my room, chewed on my pothos and got really sick. He was taken to the vet and is currently recovering and is doing just fine.

My roommate now wants to charge me for the vet bill because my plants made her cat sick. Although yes, I did know that they were toxic to animals, I’ve had some of these plants for years and wasn’t going to get rid of them because she wanted to bring a cat into our home. I told her that it’s unreasonable to blame me for HER pet going into MY room. I took precautions by always closing my door.

I told her that if she wanted to blame anyone, it should be our other roommate who left the door open.
Now she’s mad at me for ‘getting her cat sick’ and my roommate is mad at me for blaming them. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your roommate got the cat knowing you already owned toxic house plants. You did the right thing and moved them into your room away from the cat. Is the cat is solely hers even though you all take part in playing/minimal care? If so, she (because it is her cat) should split the bill with your other roommate who left the door open. If you were hoping to keep the peace, I'd offer to get a lock for the door but I would not pay that bill. Good luck! ######


Prompt:
 I’ll keep this short and simple. Me(29m) and ex(29f) have a 3 year old daughter. We split custody 60/40 and I pay $1000 in child support. I've always worked remotely and I’m stable in my current job so it’s not likely that I’ll be laid off. I’ve always saved just encase though.

Due to current circumstances, My ex was laid off. She asked me if she can borrow someone money until everything dies down. I asked how much and she said $6000. I said no, that’s too much. We got into a fight about it. She said I’m an asshole for not helping the mother of my child during this “situation”. We’ve been fighting about this for the past week. Anyway it ended with me take custody of our daughter and her moving into her parents by the end of the month. AITA for not loaning her money? ######

Response: NTA. Your responsibility is to your child not to your ex. And $6000 is clearly not just for the child. That’s excessive. If she needed money she should ask her parents or other people before she asks you. ######


Prompt:
I've been paying for my netflix account for about 8 years. In that time, I've let my dad use my netflix account. I told my dad a couple months ago I was thinking about cancelling my netflix account since I havent used it in months. (Me and my S.O always watch netflix together and use his account). My dad said "do what you gotta do". I cancelled it and he texted me saying he wants to take over my account and change everything over to him. I told him he should just start his own Netflix account. Theres only a couple days left on my Netflix account, and I get an email stating the billing had been updated. I attempt to log in and it states my email is not associated with any account(he changed the email too). On one hand, I understand it's just a netflix account and he didnt want to lose everything he watched or his profile, but I also had a profile I didnt want to lose. It would be there if I ever started my account again which is my right since I've paid for it for 8 years. Also, I feel like its rude he did it when I asked him not to. I called Netflix and they said theres nothing they can do. So, AITA?

Tldr: cancelled Netflix account that I've been paying for. My dad asked to take over my account and I said no and he did anyway.

(Sorry for formatting. On mobile) ######

Response: NTA. your reasons are totally valid and your dad is a jerk for doing it after you specifically asked him not to. ######


Prompt:
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, so I know his family decently well. My boyfriend's family is from NC. We live in NY, separate apartments. His grandpa (who also lived in NY) just passed away on Sunday. They planned a funeral for Friday in NY. I told them 3 of his siblings could stay here since I have a 2 bedroom and my boyfriend has a studio.

As of yesterday 6/24, governor Cuomo started a mandatory quarentine for people coming from NC, among other states. This brought to my attention how had NC is with covid right now. They live in a city in NC, so it's not like they're exactly safe. Their city has twice as many new cases everyday as New York city. All of New York city has less new cases per day.

If they get caught being here from NC, they could be fined $2000. I think it is wrong of them to think they're the exception to this rule. This rule is in place so more people don't die or get very sick. I told them I had to reconsider housing them.

They planned this funeral before Cuomo put the order in place. Their other family is coming from Miami (another covid hot spot).

Am I the asshole for changing my mind because I learned how bad covid is where they live? ######

Response:
 NTA. Your reasons are perfectly understandable.
If anything it's selfish of them to expect you to go through with it. Your well being is at risk. Financially and healt wise. ######


Prompt:
2 years ago, I (26f) inherited a home in Barcelona from my Spanish grandmother. I work remotely so I made the decision to move there for a few years, enjoying the culture and of course, lack of mortgage/rent. But I came home to the US to ride out this pandemic with family.

My friend, Sofia (25f) in Barcelona has to move out of her apartment as it’s being sold, and she is having trouble finding another place during this time. She’s asked me if she can stay at my place for a few months and just pay the utilities. If she really needs to she can move in with her boyfriend, so she would not be homeless, it’s just not ideal as he has roommates.

The problem is, Sofia is a major stoner and chain smoker as well. No matter if it’s prohibited, she has always smoked both weed and cigs inside her apartments (she’s had 3 since I met her), blasts music and has get togethers all the time. Most of my neighbors are all elderly. I hate the smell of weed (as well as cigs), and it’s still technically illegal in Spain. I don’t trust her to actually follow what my rules would be. So I gently said no and explained that.

Sofia thinks it’s pretty fucked up to say no to this with everything that’s going on, that I should have more trust in her, and that my home is just sitting there empty so it’s an extra slap in the face.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your property, and it's for you to decide who you trust to take care of it. ######


Prompt:
So my mum started randomly coming into the bathroom to wash her hands, brush her teeth, go to the toilet etc while I was in the shower. I asked her to stop because it made me uncomfortable. she said she would stop but recently she’s been coming in more and more casually again and i got pretty annoyed at her.

Me: can you please stop coming in while I’m in the shower? I told you it makes me uncomfortable.
Mum: I’m your mother and this is my bathroom too
Me: look can you just hurry up and leave because I’m just wasting water here and I won’t get out until you’ve gone
Mum: you’re being so rude! you shouldn’t talk to me like that!

so whaddya think? AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your privacy is important. If she doesn't respect it, then she can do better. Also, how old are you, and do you have some family member you can talk to about this? ######


Prompt:
Today when my sister in law came over (she's also our neighbour) her 10 year old son also came along and instantly started tellimg me about his tik tok account which has many followers.Initially, I was happy for him but then he asked me if he could download tik tok on my phone, so that i can like his videos. I told him that he can just send me his ID and I'll like his videos later since my phone might not have enough storage rn. He just forced me to download it and even started to seize it from me..since i didn't look forward to any kind of arguements or fights i told him I'll download the lite version. He agreed but my phone didn't have enough space for that either coz online school is going on and phone storage is full of notes, pdfs and stuff like that. I told him I'll download later and he started throwing a tanrtum demanding i delete some of my stuff rn i said everything i have on my phone is needed and nothing is unnecessary so i won't delete anything. He went through my gallery and started selecting my friends' pictures to delete them.. i was furious at this point coz i don't click much photos it's just a couple or three at special times. So i grabbed my phone and went in my room. My sister in law saw this and was furious at me for ruining her son's day. I told her I'll definitely like his tik toks later and i have some  assignments on my phone and I'll install tiktok as soon as I'm done with them..she was mad at me for lying about assignments and not giving importance to her son's wishes and went home without having lunch :( Am i the asshole for this?

Edit - Thank you everyone for telling me I'm not the asshole. I was really frustrated about this since my sister in law also misbehaved with my mom when it wasn't even her fault. ######

Response:
 NTA. Your phone, your business. You can say no just because you don’t want the app. conversation done.
They sound entitled ######


Prompt: I am just wondering if this was wrong for me to say. I’m on letrazol and I have endometriosis, the letrazol forces me to ovulate and is giving me some nasty side effects. To avoid being on it as long as possible, I asked if my partner to avoid masturbating and instead just hold out for our sex every second day. He got angry at me and said that evidence proves that masturbating doesn’t affect fertility. he has extremely low sperm count as it stands so I wanted to have th best chance possible with both of our issues. I said to him that we probably can’t consider these studies credible as we both have fertility issues so our situation is different. He told me that I don’t care about how he feels and that I only care about getting pregnant. I’m usually extremely understanding with him but I don’t understand how I can understand how he feels if there’s nothing that’s affecting him? I’m just confused and really lost, if I’m wrong in this please tell me. ######

Response:
 NTA. Your partner very much sounds like someone that doesn't actually want a child. And even if they do, they also plan to let you shoulder the majority of the load when a child comes along. They're already letting you take on too much of the load right now by making you plead with them not to masturbate when anyone with some sense would know it's a bad idea. I feel like you should very seriously consider having a child with this person. Dealing with this level of selfishness while tending to a child will breed a lot more resentment that may lead to a break up. Having that break up post having a child will make everything harder.

I'm sorry because I feel like the severity of my comment isn't what you came here for but just thinking about how your partner is acting here paints a very clear picture of his behavior once a child is around. One that I would hate for you to ignore. ######


Prompt: So, this happened way last year, but it's still been on my mind, and some clarification would be nice so I can make up my mind and tell them "I'm sorry' and whatnot. When I (16m at the time, 17m now) lived with my parents, they'd constantly peg me to clean the entire house for them, do their laundry, and even go as far as to make me watch my 3 very little siblings (3f, 2m, 1m) almost every day while they went out on dates. Sometimes, they'd force me to watch them even as soon as I came home from school while they sat down and watched netflix. I'd say things like "I have plans with friends," or "I need to do my homework," but they didnt even care. This eventually lead to my grades dropping, considering I had no time at home to myself to do work I needed. The only time I would be able to work, would be late at night, but even then I would probably be putting my siblings to sleep as my parents were too busy watching movies or going out on dates. Because of my grades dropping, they'd take away my phone, my ps4 and PC, and even my TV, and use it as an opprotunity to make me do whatever they wanted, using 'You're not doing anything, anyways' as an excuse. This took a heavy toll on me, as I not only stopped being able to take on large amounts of stress, but I often found myself pulling off numerous attempts to off my own life, only to no avail, and just staring at the roof crying late at night. Eventually i was pushed too far, and I snapped at my mother, which she said 'I gave birth to you' and I replied "You shouldn't have.", and I felt abit like TA here. Things got too heated there, and I ended up moving away and back to my Grandparents, who've been the nicest people I've known in my teenage years, but I'd just like to know if I was TA in this situation, so I could apologize to my mother for all the things I said when I snapped. ######

Response: NTA. Your parents were abusive. They neglected you and your siblings and then forced you to step in as a surrogate parent for your siblings. ######


Prompt: My parents always think im a careless person like sometimes i forgot bring my wallet, forget where i place my key. They always remind me anything , always lock the door before going out, and i never forget to lock the door so why always remind me of that. sometimes people forget, its normal i think. They almost regulate everything in my life including my daughter, for example my daughter (Chloe) throwing tantrum dont want to take a bath, and i just want to trick her to take a bath with my way and it may take some time to beg her to take a bath. Not with my mom, she want my daughter immediately take a bath like forcing her , and chloe will cry out loud. I prefer to beg her to take a bath than to calm her down when she cry. So im moving to new house with my wife after 3 years living with my parents. they ask me to install CCTV in my house considering me and my wife are working so the house can be monitored online. The problem is my parents want to have access on my CCTV too. They said to prevent me from being careless like forget to turn off the gas stove or leaving it while cooking something and help monitoring my house. I feel like i dont have my privacy if they can monitoring my house everytime. so i lied to them that it can only monitored by one phone, so since i already added it to my phone, i cant set it to another phone. AITA here? ######

Response: Nta. Your parents sound like control freaks. But you shouldn't beg your daughter to to anything. If there are rules or regulations she has to follow them. You are her "boss" not the other way around. ######


Prompt:
So my(16f) sister(23f) was studying abroad in Italy but the whole corona virus thing happened and she had to come back. She left all of her stuff with her roommate who lived there, including her computer.

My mom lent her her computer for about a month because she wasn’t really using it, but now she needs it for work so I was the next candidate. My parents were already planning on buying me a new computer since the one that I’m using now is a very old model and cannot stand many programs I may have in school next year (i will use this for all high school and college). So they decided to buy it and immediately give it to my sister. She has been using it for a month now and will use it until she gets her stuff back.

Now, I would be fine if she was just using it for necessary stuff like school or looking up things seeing as she has a TV on her room and a phone. But my mom said that she would use it as she would use it as if it was her own which means watching movies, going on YouTube, etc. This would also be fine if it wasn’t, well.. my sister.

She has a very long past of mistreating all and every electronic device that she’s had and I admit I was very nervous to hand her my computer. When I voiced my concerns to my parents, my mom got mad at me for being an ungrateful child and basically screamed at me for even thinking about it. I wouldn’t really have made this post if that comment didn’t make me so sad.

I kind of already know that I’m in the wrong here, but I’d still like an outsiders opinion. Also this is my first post ever. I hope I didn’t make any mistakes. ######

Response: NTA. Your parents shouldn’t have said the computer was for you if they’re just going to give it to your sister. Also, no offence to your sister but she’s 23. She can earn money and buy herself a computer. If you were to try and earn money to buy a computer then it would take you much longer because 16 year olds are paid far less for the same amount of work as people over 18 ######


Prompt:
I (f/20) am planning to move together with a friend (same age) of mine next summer, once I have graduated.

My parents do know this said friend, as we know each other since high school. At first, my parents once I confronted them about my plans, didn't say anything and were actually even happy that I won't live lonely on my own.

Later this day, my mom (with who I don't have a really good relationship, see my last post) came to me and asked me to stay with them until I turn 23. Her reasoning behind it is, that I have to pay them money (approx. About 500€, as they won't get child support from me anymore) so they're able to live themselves as they're in big debt. I'm already "used" to the fact that I have to pay them some money, as I already pay about 150€ each month to them.

I have no interest in staying any longer in my parents house as I have to, for the sake of my mental health. On the other hand, as I wouldn't live with them anymore, I wouldn't see a point of paying them money, that I have earned.

Am I thinking selfish or is my mom just trying to find a reason for me to stay? ######

Response: NTA. Your parents need to start figuring out a way to get themselves out of debt that doesn’t include you. You shouldn’t feel obligated to stay. ######


Prompt:
Growing up my mom was big in to charity work (not donating money but giving things to people who they thought needed it), it might sound like a good thing but a lot of the times it was taking something from me (yes most of it was given to me by her but they didn’t limit it to things purchased by her) giving it to someone who they felt needed it more eg taking my spare phone and donating it to one of the workers around my block because they needed it more.

This has eaten at me over the years and has completely put me off any kind of human philanthropy, I do a lot of work for animals ( I prefer being around animals than humans if that helps)

Recently There’s been pressure for me to be more generous and do more charity work for people that need it (given that there’s a pandemic) and I’m getting shit for choosing to donate to animals instead

And ofc if someone who I know and like is having a hard time I do reach out and try to help wherever possible but am not into giving away shit to random people

So AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your parents didn’t quite hit the mark in helping you develop charitable approach they hoped for. By taking your things, they made acts of charity something that created resentment and possibly guilt. Instead they should have focused on creating charitable experiences that create human connection or a sense of purpose. Thank you for your work with animals and I hope you are able to find other positive charitable experiences as well. ######


Prompt:
I (17f) get uncomfortable around my father often as he is very touchy and (in my opinion) often inappropriate. He will often playfully smack my butt if he is walking by me in the house, put his hand on my hip or butt if we are taking a picture, or pat my butt if we are hugging. He also implies that I am sexually involved with all of my male friends.

I’ve outright said to him that this makes me uncomfortable months ago but he is unrelenting with being touchy so now I just push his hand away or avoid him in the house.
Now that we are all stuck at home, it’s difficult to avoid him and if I push his hands away or move when he’s close to me he becomes upset, leaves the room and will either not speak to anyone or be rude to other members of the household.

The very few times I’ve had friends over he’s implied that I am trying to have sex with all of my male friends and it is uncomfortable for everyone involved.

My mother knows he makes me uncomfortable but thinks it’s my responsibility to make sure he doesn’t get upset and thinks I should put up with it. His presence has made me increasingly anxious and upset for about 4 years and now it’s exacerbated by the current situation.

So, AITA for not wanting to be around him when he makes me uncomfortable as it upsets him?

EDIT: Thank you all so much for the kind words and advice. I’m really happy to know that I’m not overreacting. I will try to update soon enough if I can get in contact with someone I trust. ######

Response: NTA. Your parents both suck. Your father for being a creepy asshole and your mother for making it your responsibility to accept his behavior. He has no right to touch you in anyway that makes you uncomfortable. Period. Please consider talking to a trusted adult about all of this. ######


Prompt:
AITA for not wanting to my brother to move in with me?

I (f24) rent a house from my parents with my husband and my daughter(6 years old) my brother(26years old) is being discharged from the navy for some mental issues (extreme depression and substance abuse issues) we have an extra room in our house that my parents offered to him without talking to me.
 The reason I dont want him here is because I was abused by him for a long time as a child, I have just started going to therapy to finally face that trauma since nothing was ever done for me as a child when I finally told my parents. My parents didn’t even let me put a lock on my door since he’d usually come in while I was sleeping I thought it was a reasonably measure. My dad still claims he was never told until I was an adult. I dont want my brother around my daughter and I dont want to be around him while I am finally working on dealing with this.
AITA if I tell him and my parents that I dont want him here? ######

Response:
 NTA. Your parents are very ignorant. They seem like they don't care about your emotions at all. They didn't even ask for your permission. Why don't they just let him move in with them?
Don't let your brother move in. Keep your daughter safe from experiencing the same things you had to go through. ######


Prompt:
Hey everyone I am very conflicted about this as everyone around me has called me TA and a bad sister.

My brother (16M) and I (18F) don’t get along. Although it is only a 2 year age gap we are polar opposites.

I go to the top university in my country and am studying to become a doctor. I have been a pretty strong student my entire life and I’ve never done drugs before.

My brother on the other hand is barely passing any of his classes, has no ambitions in life, and is always high on some drug (usually weed).

Because of this my parents have made it very clear that when they pass, it will be up to me to take care of my brother. But the thing is I don’t want to.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my brother but I don’t like him. He has no respect for me and he thinks it’s funny when I get upset. Some key examples are: he’ll call me a fat whore anytime I do something he doesn’t like, he’ll sneak into my room to steal my snacks and clothes, and most frustratingly, he knows my parents won’t do anything about it.

When I told my parents I refused to take care of him they blew up. They called me selfish and told me with my future salary, taking care of him financially would be no issue. However, I stood my ground and simply told them if I’m the one going to school for 10+ years, I’ll decide how I want to spend my money.

This has now caused a rift in my family and my parents are now worried for my brother when they pass.

TLDR: my younger brother is irresponsible and my partners want me to support him financially when they pass.

So Reddit AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your parents are spoiling your brother instead of helping him get his shit together. Expecting you to do the same just because they can't be assed to send him to rehab or get him therapy is just lazy and selfish of them. ######


Prompt:
Bg: I'm 17 years old. I live with my mom and dad but for the past few months, my sister's 3 kids have been living with us. They have no manners, are disrespectful, and are destructive. For example, they scribbled over my expensive drawing tablet (their mom blamed me), ripped up the dining room chairs, and threw things at my parents along with saying I'm Satan (which was funny but still). I will be only mentioning 2 of them (P:6; R:4) as the other is a baby. I watch them from morning to 4 PM as my parents work. I hate kids btw. My parents always threatened them with punishment but never follow through. They yell at me when I try to enforce rules. Their mom decided to move to a far away state and rarely calls. My parents let her do whatever because it's for the kids. They stopped parenting me when P was born. Note: they aren't like this because they miss their parents. The parents let the walk over them and trashed our house before.

So both decided to tear up the toilet paper and throw it in the trash. Big. Problem. My mom told them they had to use the trashed paper. Then she left all the fresh toilet paper in reach even after they told her they weren't using it. So I took all the toilet paper and put it on the high shelf (Possible Asshole Move 1). We finally got the baby down to sleep. They decided to play roughly and loudly after I warned them 5 times. I told them the next time I came out of my room one of them would go take a nap. R kicked P so I sent him to their room. He proceeded to kick stuff and throw himself down knowing the baby was asleep in the room next to him. After a few more minutes of that and warnings, I sent him downstairs, which is a mini basement with a washer, dryer, some baskets, etc. (PAM 2). AITA for this? I'm just sick of having to take care of them all the time.
I do feel guilty because everyone around me is getting on me like I'm supposed to be the perfect mom and the kids started crying. ######

Response: NTA. Your parents are putting you in a impossible situation and it's not fair. ######


Prompt:
I've been diagnosed with S.I.H. my brain is nearly constantly inflamed and my veins are full up of blood or something else . either way , my brainstem is very inflamed and this causes me to hear things constantly, along with pain, feeling sick, hearing loss, fluid building up in my head , seizures, brain fog etc .

my parents have been treating me worse the sicker i get .

when i tell them what my illness is , they ignore it , then a few days later repeatedly ask why i am the way i am, like they just dont get it.

when i tell them im having a headache they say 'oh it's that computer you're on' - matter of factly, COMPLETELY ignoring my diagnosis when stabbing headaches are one of the core symptoms .

when i explain my muscle seizures , they have mocked me by copying me when im having an episode and call me 'crazy' even though i cant help it .

they also keep yelling at me for talking loud which i cant help because my hearing is affected also .

i also get insulted for being a 'lazy bastard' because i am bed bound 20 hours a day because im sleep deprived because the hearing things keep me up for hours on end , only after about five hours of lying down , do they fade enough to not make me really anxious and stressed.

ive also had them threaten to hit me because i forgot what bin to put something in . i tried to explain the memory loss and how a doctor says i have a type of dementia (which is a symptom of S.I.H when it is chronic) and i forget things. they gaslight me by saying 'well i forget things too, so how can i still feed myself?' and whatnot.

WIBTA for actually raising my voice and getting assertive with my parents? ######

Response: NTA. Your parents are horrible people, you need to try and get out of there. ######


Prompt:
So my parents love movies like fast and furious and movies with lots of action and guns. (Die hard ect..)
They do occasionally pick a different movie but that’s incredibly rare and so it’s normally a die hard clone or a movie with some super buff guy shooting a gun.

I’m not a huge fan of those types of movies and would rather watch something animated like a studio ghibli film (I’m going through the Netflix library atm) or something with a complex story or that is kinda strange.

For the past week they have been telling me to broaden my horizons and watch a movie with them and I’ve been saying no as I absolutely despise all the gun/car heavy movies they pick.
I hate the genre as a whole and so have just been watching things in my room.
(This is a issue as my parents have a no food in room rule and so when I get hungry I have to stay out in the lounge)
Recently we got in a fight about it as my parents are getting annoyed we are not hanging out as a family so I suggested I pick the movie, so I decided to put on a ghibli film.
Dad automatically said no and asked me to change it and Mum agreed.

I then got kinda annoyed and in the heat of the moment called them hypocrites for telling me I need to broaden my horizons while not letting me pick a movie. And I told them I was sick of gun heavy movies.

My parents and me are now kinda on edge and I’m wondering if I actually fucked up and should apologise.

(I’m 17) (female) ######

Response:
 NTA. Your parents *are* hypocrites, and they don't like having to confront that. This is a prime example of "do as I say, not as I do".

 But in the spirit of making the quarantine tolerable for everyone OP, maybe you could suggest to them that you all try broadening your horizons together, and watch some well-reviewed films that are outside all of your comfort zones once in a while. Maybe you'll find some overlap, and movie nights can be more fun for all of you. ######


Prompt:
I’m 19, sister in question is 9. I became paralyzed a couple of years ago and now rely on a wheelchair, it’s basically my legs. I’m completely non-ambulatory, meaning I can’t walk at all or anything and I rely on my wheelchair not only for basic movement but for a sense of independence. Just some perspective before starting.

I started college last fall but currently I’m living with my parents due to the virus. For most of the day I’ll be in my chair but there’s not a ton to do so I’ve started taking more naps. During one of these naps, my younger sister decided she wanted to play with my wheelchair and took it out of my room. I’m a pretty heavy sleeper so I didn’t wake up, but around half an hour later when I did wake up and I saw it was gone I kind of freaked out and started yelling (not like horror movie screaming but using a raised voice so my family in other rooms could hear) to ask if someone took my chair. After a couple of minutes, my mom came in and told me my sister was playing with it because I wasn’t using it. I asked for it back, and told my mom that I don’t want my sister playing with it in the future.

My mom wasn’t happy with that, saying that it really wasn’t a problem because I was asleep anyways and that I’m being overdramatic. I responded by saying that I’m sure she wouldn’t want to wake up and see that her legs were missing, even if it was somehow temporary. She ended up saying that I can deal with it because ‘kids will be kids’ or find somewhere else to live. So I shut up because I don’t particularly want to be kicked out. Honestly I don’t really think I was overreacting, but her reaction to it makes me wonder if I was. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your mother’s behaviour is appalling. She should have talked with your sister. ######


Prompt:
I’m 19, sister in question is 9. I became paralyzed a couple of years ago and now rely on a wheelchair, it’s basically my legs. I’m completely non-ambulatory, meaning I can’t walk at all or anything and I rely on my wheelchair not only for basic movement but for a sense of independence. Just some perspective before starting.

I started college last fall but currently I’m living with my parents due to the virus. For most of the day I’ll be in my chair but there’s not a ton to do so I’ve started taking more naps. During one of these naps, my younger sister decided she wanted to play with my wheelchair and took it out of my room. I’m a pretty heavy sleeper so I didn’t wake up, but around half an hour later when I did wake up and I saw it was gone I kind of freaked out and started yelling (not like horror movie screaming but using a raised voice so my family in other rooms could hear) to ask if someone took my chair. After a couple of minutes, my mom came in and told me my sister was playing with it because I wasn’t using it. I asked for it back, and told my mom that I don’t want my sister playing with it in the future.

My mom wasn’t happy with that, saying that it really wasn’t a problem because I was asleep anyways and that I’m being overdramatic. I responded by saying that I’m sure she wouldn’t want to wake up and see that her legs were missing, even if it was somehow temporary. She ended up saying that I can deal with it because ‘kids will be kids’ or find somewhere else to live. So I shut up because I don’t particularly want to be kicked out. Honestly I don’t really think I was overreacting, but her reaction to it makes me wonder if I was. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Your mother's reasoning does not make any sense at all. She's basically comparing your wheelchair to a toy which it isn't. It's something that you need in order to be able to get around and function. Would your mother feel the same if your sister either hurt herself or damaged the wheelchair while she was playing around with it? ######


Prompt:
This was a good while ago but I just realized maybe I could confirm what I thought.

My Context: I wrote a story and it was one of the best I had written in a good long while. My mom loved it and wanted to post it to Facebook. I was excited, I love sharing my stories! So she posts it and then later I go on Facebook for the first time in a while to see my story with no credit. All of the comments are telling my mom how amazing of a writer she is. I wrote it, not her, it really hurt my feelings. It felt like she took credit for my work. So I told her she needs to credit me. She argued that she wanted genuine reactions without credit or context. But that's not how it came off.
Also during this time, she tried to get me to make a big piece of art for no money. I'm her family, I dont need money.

Her context (to the best of my ability)(im still using I for myself and she for my mom): I wrote a good story, she wanted to share it. She wanted a genuine reaction so she posted it without credit but then I got mad. To her, it feels like I dont trust her. Do I really think she would take credit for my work? Why would I think that? She just doesn't get it. Even after I changed it to give myself credit, she was still offended because I "accused" her of stealing my work.
And why should she have to pay for artwork I made, it's for a friend and a family member! Why do I demand to get paid?

The story context doesn't matter and the artwork was a T-shirt design for a retiring coworker (who I have never met). I didn't have the proper programs to draw what she wanted so that's why I raised the price even higher.

I hope I gave enough context, if we need more I can come back and edit it. ######

Response: NTA. Your mother sounds like the student that always mooches off your homework. If I were you, I’d probably try and maybe report the post or something, or point out who the real writer was. ######


Prompt:
My mom is graduating from her PhD program. She’s been using a hand me down MacBook Air for over 5 years, and it’s basically falling apart at the seams. So as a surprise my bro and I got her a brand new MacBook Air.

My mom has a lot more money than me. She can easily buy herself a laptop but she doesn’t like to spend her money. The laptop was a big expense for me but it was a special time in her life, she genuinely needed it and I knew she wouldn’t get it for herself, so I didn’t mind.

Ever since the laptop arrived she’s done nothing but complain about it. It’s too slow (but every time I check it it works fine). The first few days she refused to even open the box to unpack it. She’s been saying she would rather have the money instead and joking (partially) that she would use it for Botox.

She’s been saying she wants me to return it or buy it from her bc I don’t have a computer. I got fed up and asked if she was sure and she said yes excitedly  thinking she’d get the money. I told her nope. That I needed that money. I told her to go to my brother for his portion of the money if she wanted but I have more important uses for the money.

I feel guilty because it is a gift and I feel If I could afford to I would just give her the money and brush it off. But I’m also hurt by her attitude. One time she was eating toast with the laptop on her lap and I told her to be careful to not get crumbs in the keyboard. Out of retaliation she purposely started breaking the bread apart over the computer. I’m willing to go out of my way for a need she genuinely has but I can’t afford to buy luxury items for her that she can easily shoulder the expense for.

She’s sulking at me now and said “you shouldn’t force things on me I don’t want.”

Am I the asshole for not giving her the money? ######

Response: NTA. Your mother sounds like a spoiled child, not like a grown woman. ######


Prompt:
So before I start I 1000% know I’m petty but I wanna know if I’m TA because she’s now crying and I feel like I’ve gone too far...

So the other day she lost something, we were both looking for it and I was actively searching in front of her for this thing. During the search I got a text from my best friend that he’d been hit by a car while on his bike. Obviously I was crazy worried and other still looking for the thing my mind obviously wasn’t on the task anymore. My mum started to shout at me that I don’t care about her and her stuff. I explained what had happened and why my mind was wondering. Her response was ‘he’s just a friend, I don’t really care right now.’ Obviously this really annoyed me.

Fast forward to right now. I’m currently looking for something of mine, I ask for her help. Not even a minute in she stops completely. I ask what’s up and she says she’s not bothered about my thing right now as she just got a text from her friend. Her friend had just been called a ‘fat cow.’ I said ok. She gave me daggers and I said what do you want me to say? No different to what you did to me the other day? She is now crying and has left the room?

AITA?

TLDR: Mum said she didn’t care about my friend so I said the same. ######

Response: NTA. Your mother seems extremely dramatic to cry over you not caring that her friend got called a fat cow. Your mother is also a HUGE AH, for completely dismissing your worry for your friend and saying she doesn't care. ######


Prompt:
I (17f) have a variety of socks. They range from the regular knee high patterned ones, to knit socks, to old fashioned lace ones. I don’t collect them or anything, I just like having different kinds of socks. I live with my dad (56m), and he knows that I buy socks fairly regularly. He doesn’t have an issue with it.

Since the world went to shit, I’ve been stuck at my mom’s (52f). The other day, I was on amazon, and I got recommended these really nice looking socks, with little stars sewn on them, and lace along the top. I ordered them (with my own money) and they got here yesterday.

My mom found the box, and opened it before I even knew it arrived. She found them, and then came into my room and started screaming at me. She told me that I shouldn’t be buying stuff to wear during sex or something, and I was confused. Apparently the socks were actually stockings, which isn’t sexual in any way in my opinion, but my mom thought otherwise.

She told me I was being a slut for buying these things, and told me that she was going to look for any more “slutty clothing”, and proceeded to go through my clothes, throwing anything she deemed sexual out. This resulted in most of my clothing.

My crop tops, shorts, socks with any sort of lace on them, and underwear that wasn’t boy cut got thrown out, leaving me with very little clothing left. I called my dad and told him about it, Mom overheard and told me it was my fault for buying “sexy socks.”

AITA for buying “sexy socks”? ######

Response: NTA. Your mother is ridiculous. First of all, she has no right to throw out your property. Second of all, to call your own daughter a slut is abhorrent. I hope your father has your back. ######


Prompt:
sorry if formatting is weird

So my mother was a middle school teacher and she would tutor this boy who was around 13 or 14 years old. He would come over our house for tutoring.So, they ended up having sex and mom get's pregnant.

At that time, me (19M) and dad didn't know about the affair and thought the baby was dad's. We were with throughout the pregnancy and birth.

How we ended finding out was my mom left her phone at home while she went to the grocery store. A text message popped up and it was a nude photo from the boy she tutored. I ended up going through her phone to see tons of dirty text messages and nude photos between her and the boy.

I showed the pictures and text messages to my dad and needless to say, he was devastated. We decided that we should turn the pictures in to the police for not only the boy but for other future victims as well.

We confronted mom about this and she admitted that she had been sleeping with this kid for a while and the baby wasn't dad's. She begged us not to turn it in to the police but we told her we already did.

A few days later, the school found out and they fired her. The boy's parents got wind of this as well and they are pressing charges. My mom is currantly sitting in jail.

As for Dalton (half brother), I can't look at him the same again. The rest of the family are calling me an asshole for not wanting to be around him and for turning in mom but to me, he will always be a reminder of my mother's infidelity and crime.

So reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Your mother is guilty of statutory rape, you did exactly the right thing by turning her in

It’s understandable you’re going to have difficulty bonding with your brother given the circumstances, and it sounds like your still reasonably young yourself. Remember though, the circumstances of your brother’s birth are not his fault. Think how difficult life is going to be for him growing up given what happened with his parents. Maybe when you both grow up you won’t be close, siblings don’t have to be. But there’s an opportunity to form a relationship here and you need to judge your brother for who he is and what he does, not what your mother is and has done ######


Prompt:
Last Thanksgiving, my mom (53F) and I (24F) got into a fight about how my aunt treats me and my younger cousin who is transgender (13M).  Side note: my mom adopted my little cousin several years ago, and he came out as transgender last year.  He prefers to be referred to as male, which I will do in this post.

My aunt is homophobic, and she has ostracized me from our family for over a decade for being a lesbian, so my mom asks me to tone down my lesbianism when we visit by not talking about girls, who I date, or anything pertaining to the LGBT community.  I have accepted this and typically do so to keep her happy.  My mom is a peacemaker and does not like to fight or upset anyone, and she thinks I should respect my Aunt and keep this to myself.  Last Thanksgiving, I felt my mom crossed a line because she told my cousin that he had to go by his dead name at my Aunt’s and by female pronouns.  This obviously made him really uncomfortable.  It was also not easy for me to do, as I didn’t want to upset him and found it difficult to revert back to his dead name and opposite pronouns suddenly after calling him the other name for months.  My mom refused to allow my cousin to tell anyone that he was transgender because “kids would be there” and that he would be grounded if he told anyone.  She was angry at me for continuing to call him by his chosen name because I refused to switch back.  I was super pissed on his behalf because I feel his coming out should be his decision, and that my mother should stand up for us more at holidays to my aunt.

WIBTA if I refuse to hide my lesbianism to placate my aunt, as well as insist she treat my younger cousin with respect to his pronouns and chosen name?  I understand that my mother doesn’t want to upset her sister, but as both a straight and cisgender woman I don’t believe she understands where my cousin and I are coming from and why we want the freedom to express ourselves freely when visiting family. ######

Response: NTA. Your mother is asking your cousin to purposefully dehumanize himself. Being trans and being gay is nothing shameful, and shouldn’t be hidden because “there are kids around”. News flash. Some kids are gay, and some kids are trans. ######


Prompt:
I (f,21) have been buying icecream from our local icecream shop since the corona crisis forced it shut. They now deliver. I love their icecream and I want to support local buisinesses now as much as possible, which is why I buy from them as opposed to the supermarket.

Their icecream is however really expensive. I can get one 150 ml cup for the same price as I could get a liter bin of icecream in the supermarket. Even Ben en Jerry’s is about half as expensive as this icecream. I pay about $30 for 1500 ml (But it has super intense and very experimental flavours, great quality).

Now that I ordered their icecream (I order 10 small cups once per two weeks) my mom has been asking me for a cup, which is fine by me. A second one, also fine. But yesterday she asked for her fourth cup and I said no. She has been acting like i refused her love or something, but i simply don’t want to give away all my (expensive) icecream. I look forward to it, and even though I don’t mind sharing some of it, I do want most.

I also ask her everytime I order if she wants some for her and my dad too. She always says no. (And then asks for mine).

I feel really bad now because she makes a big deal out of it, and it’s just icecream. But then again, I asked her if she wanted any and she said no. I feel entitled to my icecream.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA. Your mother is a grown woman. Why can't she go buy her own ice cream? ######