Prompt:
My wife and I were driving to work this morning. We live near the harbour and the port authority has an empty parking lot across the street. There isn't any houses for about 100 or so meters, but we were driving by and saw this lady with a city provided garbage can down there. She was taking all the contents out and throwing it all around (literally everywhere surrounding the garbage can). We told the lady "I hope you're going to be cleaning that up" and she did the scoff and disregarding hand wave.

So on the way to work, we called non emergency to just report it. No answer. I called 911 and told them what happened and that I had tried to call non emergency but no answer. She told me I needed to call back let non emergency know. Okay, whatever, I try again and no answer. I call 911 back and give the details, and after I have given the location, situation and what not, I told him I tried calling non emergency but no one answered so I just didn't know what to do other than call them. He tells me the same thing as before: "Were not going to do anything, you need to call non emergency" (paraphrased). I told him I tried and that I wanted to get this sorted out. He gets aggressive and says (again, paraphrased) "Do not call this number again. We will not discuss this. Do you understand". I say "This is ridiculous that you won't even log it, but fine whatever".

Just headed home to pick up kids, and guess what's spread all over the parking lot with no one or their shopping cart in sight. It angers me that someone has to go down and clean up after her. I get that people go through the garbage, but leaving the mess for someone else is ridiculous.

Anyways...

So, I believe that I might've been an asshole for calling 911, but I also believe that, because I wasn't able to reach anyone at non-emergency, 911 was the only other option. Then again, non-emergency is just that: not an emergency. So I'm conflicted, am I the ass hole. ######

Response:
 YTA. You mean to tell me you called 911 for some trash? 911 is for EMERGENCIES. Stop wasting time and taxpayers money on stupid shit.

ETA: And called more than once at that. ######


Prompt:
My ex and I have split custody of our daughter, I get certain days of the week and he gets the others and we split through weekends.

This year, Father’s Day comes on a day that my daughter stays with me for the weekend up until the week, and I told her that she couldn’t go to his house on Father’s Day because of that and also because it would be too much of a hassle to get her from my house to his back to mine for just one day. My ex texted me today asking why the fuck can’t he just have this one day and I told him straight up. I don’t take any bullshit and I believe it’s only fair. If this happened to me I would let him take her for the day even though it was Mother’s Day. He called me heartless and now my mother is reprimanding me for this. I don’t believe I’m in the wrong because it’s only what the schedule says I can’t help that. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You may be separated but you’re still coparenting. You letting your animosity and a small “hassle” prevent your daughter from seeing her father on *Father’s* Day is just you being petty. If you’re trying to make this hard situation even harder on your daughter then keep it up. Otherwise, learn to coparent. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway since my friend uses reddit.

So I (17f) have this friend (18f) who is totally cringy. She's very obsessed with kpop, like I'd say it's the majority of what she listens to. She's also really really into Chinese tv shows, like cdramas and stuff. Literally the majority of what she consumes is Asian entertainment, even though she's white. Her reasoning is that she want to study Chinese and finance in uni and go on exchange to China, but I don't see how watching cdramas can help you learn the language.

Anyway, recently we were chatting on zoom and she kept on bringing this stuff up. Like we were talking about exercise and she said she's started learning kpop dances for exercise and later on she was telling me about her latest Chinese tv show. That's when I stopped her and said something like "you know it makes you look like you've got yellow fever when you talk about this stuff, right?"

She got kinda quiet and said her usual excuse about the language, but I told her I think that's bullshit. She's either fetishising Asians or she wants to be one and I don't know which is worse. She denied it and changed the topic, but I noticed she got really quiet and ended the conversation quickly. I think I called her out, but she seemed really upset and I feel a bit like an AH. So, AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You managed to insult your friend and two whole cultures and use a racially-charged phrase in one fell swoop for apparently no reason other than that you don't share your friend's tastes.  Go you! ######


Prompt: So I proposed to my fiance around late last year and we are still planning our wedding.However she wanted to do have a big traditional singaporean wedding which could cost upwards of $50,000, and I was against the idea of spending that much money on just one day.So instead of spending a lot of money on the wedding, I bought a nice apartment instead.I am considering just having a reception, so anyway I wanted to surprise her with her an apartment since we both currently live with with our families. I talked to some friends but the reaction was a bit mixed.It is a nice apartment and I have already bought it with my money.I haven't told her about this and wanted to surprise her with it right after our wedding. We have talked about buying an apartment before and she did list everything she wanted, and the apartment that I did buy has all of those requirements. Some say I am going against her back, but I just want to give her a big surprise. ######

Response: YTA. You made two, HUGE financial decisions by yourself that should have been handled as a couple. It’s okay if you don’t want to spend the amount of money a traditional wedding would cost, but the two of you need to come to an agreement on that – you don’t just get to decide that’s how it’s going to happen. And purchasing a home without the input of an adult person who will be living in it is even worse. You may have taken the preferences she expressed to you into consideration, but there’s a reason people walk through and see homes before buying them instead of just giving a realtor a list and saying “find something that fits this, see you on moving day!” ######


Prompt:
When my partner and I sat down for brunch today I jokingly asked why he has a larger helping of food (I’m on a diet and specifically asked for smaller portions). I thought he was just going to refer to my earlier requests on portion control, but instead he replies, “Well, I paid for this food anyway, so I should get more of it”. You could hear a pin drop after those words. I just stared at him in disbelief, and though I hate to admit it, I felt a little teary-eyed from the low blow.

He does earn more than me but, we’ve agreed to contribute 50% of our salary into a joint account for bills and other expenses, including groceries. I know damn well the food on our table came from said account but, I think that’s besides the point. If we’re partners I don’t think it matters who contributes what so long as both people are happy, thriving, and on just basically on the same page. His joke made me feel less than, and like he was rubbing in his higher earning abilities in my face. Also, we’re in an age-gap relationship where he is much older than me, so I guess that fact also makes me feel like I need to compensate more somehow.

He immediately apologized after seeing my stunned expression. He’s been apologizing profusely for the past few hours, and I said I forgive him, but I’m still hella salty. It honestly soured my mood for the day and I’ve just been short with him since. I just want to cool off alone.

WIBTA if I’m still grumpy and short with him hours after what I feel is a low-blow joke?

TL;DR - partner says he gets more food because he paid for it. I’m still salty after he apologized. ######

Response: YTA. You lobbed a bullshit question at his and he sent a bullshit answer right back. Then you got bent out of shape over it. ######


Prompt:
Ok so this happened a few months ago, I have 2 kids, one is 5 and one is 3.
The whole family went over to my brothers house for my Dads birthday, anyway we were having a great time and I put the kids upstairs with some sandwiches while the adults talked.

So later on my brother went to get the kids down to play a board game, and he found that they had broken his gaming console (an old Nintendo one) and there were sandwich bits in the cartridge slot, he held it together in front of the kids but pulled me aside and really chewed me out.
He yelled about how much he loved that console and how it had been with him since he was 6 years old (our Dad bought it for him after a business trip) .

So he got pissed and wanted me to buy him a new one, o don’t get why as it was just a console and the games were old anyway. He demanded that I buy him one to replace it but I told him he needs to grow up and stormed out of the room.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You left a 5 and a 3 year old alone, with food. You’re lucky no one choked. Be a parent. ######


Prompt:
I'll get straight to the point.

I bought a pack of Skittles once that had a promotion running with a code on them saying that you can enter the code on a website and go into the draw to win an Xbox One. I, believing there's no possible way to win these type of promotions, ignored this and enjoyed tasting the rainbow. I left the pack on the table when I was done so if anyone else wanted some they could feel free, and my sister came along to help herself to a few. She saw the promotion and decided to enter the draw to win, unbeknownst to me.

Fast forward a few weeks and BAM what do you know - somehow we've won an Xbox! Now my sister claims that since she entered the draw and I was never going to - this Xbox is completely 100% hers. I argued that since I paid for the packet of Skittles, I have at least 50%, if not more, right to the Xbox. If I hadn't bought the Skittles, it would be impossible for her to enter the draw and hence no winnings. We argued for a bit and then she got angry at me and said I was being TA. We decided to share it obviously but she goes out of the way to say "MY XBOX" everytime it comes up in conversation and I do the same to be annoying.

AITA? And who do you think has more right to the Xbox in a scenario like this lol? ######

Response: YTA. You know you were never gonna enter the damn contest........ ######


Prompt:
Throaway acc.

I was very badly verbally abused as a kid which made me have some kind of trigger to being talked to a certain way. I'm not upset at criticism at all or anything that isn't rude but sarcasm and being rude as a joke sets me off. I always have given people warnings that I don't like to be talked down to, even as a joke.

Usually people understand. However, sometimes I will go over to a friend's house and their siblings will be in the "its cool of me to be playfully rude and say fuck a lot" phases. I let their siblings know too and they seem to understand until they do it. One of my friend's brothers (19) said something along the lines of: "My god, how can you make that mistake? You're so fuckin dumb" during a video game and I snapped. I told him that if he ever calls me dumb or anything of the sort ever again I will make him regret or something like that. He looked scared and I feel bad. It happens a lot when people flippantly say rude stuff they don't get is rude. I feel like an asshole because its hard for me to control this kind of response when people talk to me like that. ######

Response: YTA. You know you have triggers and are not seeking help to better cope with that. ######


Prompt:
I'm 14 years old and I've never EVER liked vegetables. When I was a baby my mom said I would only eat meat and pasta had that hasn't really changed. I've never really worked to hard in school. When I was 10 I got into a really good school but i have no motivation so my grades have really gone down. on to the problem. Lets get on to the problem

It was 7:30 4/21/2020 and I sat down for dinner with my family. The vegetables for today were cauliflower. Recently I have been eating my vegetables like green beans, peas, carrots,  and  asparagus. But I could not get myself to finish 3-4 cauliflower. My siblings and parents all finished eating and took there plates to the sink, I didn't because I still had food on my plate. About a hour and a half pass, I still had not eaten them. My mom got so fed up with it she took my phone, laptop, headphones, food that I liked, stuff in my room, and then sent me to bed at 9 o'clock telling me that I was failing school and I was throwing my like away. I now didn't have a way to join my classes online and she knew that. I went to bed. This morning my alarm didn't work. When that happens my mom always wakes me up. I always wake up at 7 30, she woke me up at 8 10 and asked me if I was going to school that day (I have never skipped school) and gave me my laptop and headphones for today, I don't know if she will take them back later. I then sat down in a chair and she asked me if I would get out of her chair. That is the story up till now. Am I the Asshole? ######

Response:
 YTA. You know this is not just about the vegetables. It's about you not taking the opportunities your mom is working hard to give you to improve yourself and your life. She's hurt and frustrated. Your choice to sit at the table for over an hour and not eat the cauliflower is just the perfect vignette for you and the choices you're making right now compared to your mom trying to help you and be patient with you.

You're 14 and it's hard to know what matters in life. Graduating high school is a prerequisite to pretty much every career. You can make the choice to do that now while you have a family and no responsibility for bills and all your peers are doing it, or you can choose to do it later in life when it will be much more of a struggle. I get your hormones are messing with your brain and being cooped up with your family might feel overwhelming, but you need to cut your mom some slack for being frustrated that you aren't doing your work. ######


Prompt:
**Reposting because the mods locked my last post because of the fake names I chose for people.**

My husband (29M) and I (27M) live in the same neighborhood as my parents, my brother and his wife. We walk to each other's homes for dinner on a pretty regular basis.

My SIL (we'll call her "Jill") is, for lack of a better term, insufferable. Jill has been married to my brother "Jeff" for 3 years. Jeff is an engineer and Jill does not work, but will often talk about how she stays home with "the baby," which happens to be their german shepherd. This is especially annoying to me and my husband, who adopted a baby boy last year and who also both have full time jobs.

Jill is the kind of person who loves to say small jabs whenever she gets a chance. She also LOVES to talk about "how lucky she is" because since my brother has such a good, high-paying job, she'll "never have to work a day in her life." It's *insane* to me that she can brag about this around her husband's family, of all people. But that's just her mentality.

Last night, my parents, Jeff, and unfortunately Jill came over to our place for dinner. We started to talk about the the unemployment rate as a result of the current pandemic. Jill then said, "Well, fortunately for both of us, Jeff is still able to work from home, so we're gonna be just fine!"

I don't know why, but this comment just rubbed me the wrong way, and I blurted out, "Man, I'm pretty sure the reason I'm gay is precisely because of women like you."

My husband later told me that my comment was awesome, but Jeff and parents told me that it was unnecessary and rude. I told them that Jill is always bragging about how she's basically able to mooch off of Jeff and I had finally had it. They still think I was being an asshole though.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. you kind of sound like a catty gay misogynist lol (I'm gay) ######


Prompt:
While the company I [21F] intern at was preparing to switch to wfh protocol, my boss’s [38?M] wife [3?F] came into the office to help him move his computers and stuff more quickly. I saw her car idling outside the building and stopped to say hello. She snarked back something about telling it to my coworker, who would drunkenly repeat it back to her later. I asked what she meant and she said that only losers hate trophies.

I pretty much knew she was talking about something I said to my coworker about finding my boss attractive. He’s a normal to good looking dude, but so smart and cool and pretty much the perfect catch if he were single. I told my coworker in confidence that he is so great that he didn’t seem like the type to go for a trophy wife.

I know his wife has a good career, but it’s in a female dominated industry that is also both her parents’ profession. She gets raises every year for doing the same thing slightly differently, where my boss is a go getter who is always looking for the next challenge. She can be reactive and kind of rude, like she was to me that day. My boss is laid back and hates to hurt people. All the partners think she’s a riot and grossly tease my boss for “landing” a woman like her, but other interns find her to be a bit sharp. Like I see the obvious attraction but was just surprised a guy like him who is so down to earth and genuine could fall for her looks when they seem so mismatched.

I guess my coworker repeated this to the wife (I guess to curry favor???) because she was so snarky to me. My boss has been short with me over email, where he was once friendly. It’s been long enough now that I can’t ignore the shift in tone and am wondering if it was that big of a deal.

AITA for telling a coworker my thoughts? It’s not like I made a move on him for him to me acting awkward or for his wife to be mad. ######

Response: YTA. You insulted a woman because she has good looks, and you did it in the workplace. You definitely fucked up. ######


Prompt:
Ok so I've met some pretty good liars in my life. I've been through horrible situations where people lied to me for months and now I'm generally skeptical of people until proven otherwise.

My bf on the other hand is an innocent until proven guilty type of guy and he prides himself on his honesty and loyalty. He trusts me entirely and never made me feel uncomfortable.

Well today it came out that I don't feel the same. I am actually uncomfortable with his 'no password sharing' policy and I do think he could either be a great, amazing person or an amazing liar. It just seems too convenient that someone who claims they never lie also has boundaries that mean I can never know whether or not they are lying.

So while I told him I clearly trust him enough to take that risk, I can't be 100% sure of things. He flipped out, told me I'm insulting him and his integrity,character etc. He said he did nothing to deserve being not trusted. I told him it's not him, just my past, I trust him mostly but I can't help feeling some doubt. He's now very upset, demands an apology and that I trust him entirely. I'm not sure I can do that. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You have no right to make your trust issues his problem when you say for yourself he’s done nothing to warrant your mistrust. ######


Prompt: I have a son [16M] and a daughter [15F]. In the same weekend, my son was broken up with by his girlfriend and my daughter was broken up with by her boyfriend. They were very upset. Since they were going through the same thing, they decided to be there for the other and spend more time together. They are spending all day together talking, crying, eating, watching movies, playing video games, etc. I've heard them say things like they don't need a relationship as they have each other. I think its getting unhealthy. Like they are becoming too dependent on the other. Or even trying to replace their ex with their sibling in a sense. I saw them laying next to each other with their arms around the other's shoulders. That was the final straw and I told them earlier today its enough and they both need to spend some time apart, try to be happy independent, and stop relying on the other. I sent them both to different rooms but they are begging me to let them be in the same room again. ######

Response: YTA. You have issues, mate... ######


Prompt: I’ve been FWB/best friends with this girl for 7 years, since we were 20. We’re monagomous, stay over at each other’s, emotionally support each other and definitely not the typical arrangement. She just graduated with a PHD and due to covid couldn’t really have a party so she was doing a dinner at her place. I’ve made it clear to her that we have no future together and she can’t really expect me to meet her family members and such. And since her parents were going to be there and I didn’t want awkward questions so I skipped it. She later called me sobbing saying that she feels like I use her and that I ruined her night. I kind of feel like a asshole, but I’ve told her before not to expect me to come to these sort of events. And we’re not really in a sort of commuted relationship so I feel like she can’t really expect me to be there for her all the time. I don’t really want to hurt her feelings any further but I also want to draw some boundaries. ######

Response: YTA. You forgot the “friends” part of FWB. And why are you guys being monogamous if this isn’t going anywhere? You do need to draw boundaries, but you’re drawing them in all the wrong places. ######


Prompt:
I broke up with my GF a few months ago. I started dating a girl lately, but I always said that I might still have feelings for my ex. So the dates turned out more like friendship which was okay for us both. We started talking about amusement parks and soon decided that we would go there together. So she bought a ticket for about 50€, which is a considerable amount for her. I myself didn't have to pay for the ticket because I am a club member of said park.

When we messaged via WhatsApp she always said how she couldn't await our "dates", asked for massages in return for nice things from her, etc. It seemed to me as though she would go further than just friendship.

Because of dating her, I once more realized that I still have feelings for my ex and it somehow felt wrong. And so I decided that it would be better to end all the dating with her. I sent her a message explaining the situation and that I fear that it will only get worse once we go further than just friendship. She quickly replied that I was misinterpreting things and that she always said that there won't be more coming from her. That is true, but literally she just said, that *she* won't do more, but it always sounded to me like an excuse for not taking the first step and that she would be grateful when I take the first step.

In the end she said, that I should pay her back the ticket fee. I proposed that she could ask another one to go with her, but apparently she found no one. So she insisted that, but I did not and instead blocked here, because it turned into a constant rant about how I misinterpreted things and how unfair it was.

AITA for not paying her the entry fee back?

Emotionally I'd say yes, I am the asshole. But rationally I'd say I am not, because I was being honest and I didn't ordered her to buy the ticket. ######

Response: YTA. You flaked on plans that cost her money out of pocket. Simple as that. ######


Prompt:
I'm 17. When I was 16 my parents bought me a 2000 Subaru outback that was reasonably taken care of. I really liked my car and was very grateful to my  parents for getting it for me. A year later (now)my brother is 16 and they bought him a 1994 Jeep that is really nice and is in super good condition. It looks new. I'm happy for my brother because he loves his Jeep and is very excited about it but I'm really upset with my parents right now because that got him a waaayy nicer vehicle than mine. I don't want to seem ungrateful for what my parents have done for me especially considering I wouldn't have vehicle without them but I want to confront them about it.

I don't think it's just my imagination because when I was telling my friend about his Jeep her dad said he would throw a fit.  He is very big on respecting parents and I haven't heard him say stuff like that. I'm unsure if anything will come out me doing this so I'm not sure if its worth anything other than to let my parents know that I am upset. I think that is assholeish because I would only cause drama and a possible grounding. I want to though. I am very confused about my feelings right now because I'm crying but somehow really mad and nervous feeling? WIBTA ######

Response:
 YTA. You each got older used cars, and you are both lucky to have gotten your own car at all.

Do a price lookup, 2000 Subaru Outback vs a 1994 Jeep \[insert model here\]. Did they spend significantly more on one of your cars than the other?

Also did you and your brother have input in what car was bought? ######


Prompt:
My step brother and me have never gotten along. He's very opinionated (atheist, feminist, Marxist, lgbt, etc) and always makes his opinions known, usually causing massive drama at family gatherings. Mum says he has histrionic personality disorder. I'm not sure if that's her diagnosis or his psychologist's.

Anyway, I recently found out he refused to go to his cousin's wedding because it was religious. And I'm not a religious person, but my fiancé is. So I decided to tell my fiancé we should have a religious wedding. My fiancé is over the moon but I'm just trying to stop my step bro attending. Am I the asshole for that? ######

Response: YTA. You don’t want him to come? Don’t invite him. Simple ######


Prompt:
I (20M) work at a big grocery store. Lately, this woman has been coming in during my shits, and she wears kind of provocative clothing (think hot pants and a belly shirt). Mind you, it’s still cold in my state and most customers come in fully dressed and wearing masks, so she sticks out. It’s become a bit of a joke between my coworkers and I.

Anyway, my friend “Kelsey” and I were stocking near the back of the store, and we saw the lady walk past. Her shorts were pulled up between her cheeks, and we were kind of joking back and forth about it (not so she could hear, obviously). I told Kelsey “that’s one for the spank bank”, obviously just joking around.

She didn’t say anything at the time, but she later complained to our shift lead. He pulled me aside and say not to make sexual references at work. In my opinion, we were just joking around, and I was obviously being sarcastic. I didn’t really think of it as a sexual reference.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You don’t think *spank bank* is a sexual reference? If that’s true, you should probably stop using phrases you don’t know the meaning of. ######


Prompt:
I (20M) have responded very well to this lockdown. I live in the UK.

I've tuned out all the news (blocked it all) and have isolated myself further from even calling friends. I've focused on myself and went deeper and deeper into the depths of my mind. I've underwent a voyage into my mind. An odyssey of sorts.

I'm mentally and emotionally growing. I'm figuring things out that would take years to figure. I've confronted the darkest corners of my mind, and came into the light.

My sister (22F) on the other hand has struggle because she can no longer party and meet up with friends. She started crying and I told her that she needs to confront her demons ans go deeper into her mind like I did. I then said "I'm grateful for the lockdown". She then call me AH and left.

Maybe I was AH idk? I just feel she Is wasting the opportunity to go deep into her mind like I did. I meditate 2 hours a day to go into my mind and see my worst memories... and I have come to the other side. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You don’t sound like you’ve grown emotionally, because if you had then you wouldn’t be ‘grateful’ for a lockdown that is hurting millions of people. Fuck off with that ‘odyssey into your mind’ shit and realise that your sister is feeling very isolated and alone rn like most people, and telling her to just meditate and get over it is unhelpful. ######


Prompt:
My brother is 40 and to the best of my knowledge has never had a girlfriend or a boyfriend. I suspect he is gay though. He's never married. He announced last year that he was going to be a father and we were shocked. I thought maybe he got someone pregnant. No. He hired a surrogate and even more weird is that he used a donor sperm and paid for a procedure to select the gender. His son is due in August.

I told him he was incredibly selfish. He has an okay job, but no support system. If something were to happen to him, that child would end up in foster care. Our mother is in her 70s, our other brother doesn't want kids and I am in no position to raise a child. I told him he's treating this baby like it's a pet. ######

Response: YTA. You don’t know the details of your brother’s life. Heck, you don’t even know major things about him like whether or not he is gay (and I suspect you are holding the idea that he might be against him). Society needs to get over this stupid idea that men can’t genuinely want or love children.  He doesn’t owe you any justification for how he chooses to become a father. ######


Prompt:
So some context, me (26m) and my gf(25f) were talking tonight about her childhood. She was watching a video on childhood ptsd and I was kind of eaves dropping in on it.

Now she had an awful childhood filled with abuse of various kinds. She’s always seemed rather tolerant to life despite this and seems to be indenial about how it must effect her as an adult.

So I thought it would be a good idea to open her up on the topic on if she thought she had ptsd from it. She expressed concern that she sometimes feels emotionally detached from most of it, and wonders why it didn’t cause her more issues. I personally think thats just creating an emotional block, and that she must have something going on internally she won’t confront or lies about.

She didn’t like me insisting that she must have something deeper inside of her. And she said she’s not bothered by not being a part of her moms life cuz she dealt with it a long time ago. It didn’t seem like she wanted to get more involved with discussing what was wrong with her, so I’ll admit I DID continue to press buttons to see if she would talk more.

This concerns me because I will probably have a child with her one day and who knows what she’s capable of after being in a family like hers... and acting like she’s fine. So i told her ‘Well if we have children one day and you ever act like your mother to them or lay a finger on them, I will leave and not allow them in your life.’ And that finally struck a chord in her and she got upset with me for saying that.

I don’t think I’m the asshole because I was stating my opinion on the matter, and trying to help her. She thinks I’m an asshole for trying to summarize her experience, and that making the comment about children was uncalled for and felt insulting.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA. You don’t get to tell people how they deal with their past abuse. Period. My wife has her own abuse history, and I know next to nothing about it. We’ve been married 12+ years. I’ve known her for 20+ years. I’ve never pushed it and never doubted her ability to be a good mother.

You push her.

You forced your thoughts on her.

Congratulations, you have now abused her. Should she leave you now based on your own criteria? ######


Prompt: So my boyfriend was abused as a child and he has a big fear of putting his face near sinks because his mom used to semi drown him as punishment by putting his head under the kitchen sink. I’m a big believer of washing your face twice a day and while he does wash it in the shower, that means he only washes his face once per day and he breaks out often because of it. I told him today that he has to start washing his face in the sink and that he can just splash water on it to make it easier. He rejected and said he wouldn’t do it at all. I told him that I wouldn’t be going to get groceries with him if he didn’t because I think his fear needs to be dealt with once and for all because Im sure we’re both tired of it. He got really upset and told me to leave for a bit and so I did. He was really rude about it and it hurt. I told my sister and she said I’m the asshole in this but I genuinely did it out of love and want for him to get over his fears. Aita? ######

Response: YTA. You don’t get to tell him how to deal with his trauma. This is something therapy can help with but not something you should be forcing on him. He already washes his face in the shower. You seem pretty controlling and you should definitely apologize and back off. ######


Prompt: I (50M) and my wife(45F) have a daughter (16f). A few months ago she was kicked out of school for involving in a fight with a fellow classmate. We tried to send her to counselling , but she refused. She has been repeatedly rude to us for not fault of ours. We did not even ground her after she was kicked out of school.I told her that if she continues with her behavior , i would sell her cat. She complied for a while . But again last week she started insulting us and picking up a fight with us. I had enough. I sold her cat ,while she was at a friends house.If i didn't i would have undermined my own authority. When my daughter found out , she went to stay at her grandparent's house(my parents). They shouted at me for selling her companion , who she had since 7 years. AITA for selling the cat? My wife and her parents agree that , this was the best thing to do. ######

Response: YTA. You don’t get to sell a family pet that’s been around for 9 years just because you’re a shitty parent. Her behavior is your fault and it’ll only escalate from here ######


Prompt:
Didn't want the title to be long but I'm also asking if I'm TA for not including him into our plans for our father's birthday.

My brother is your typical last born who's spoilt and a party animal. He's also a troublemaker and has a tendency of ruining things so my siblings and I didn't include him when we called our father for his birthday last week. It was just a call to sing happy birthday then have a bit of chit chat afterwards. He didn't even know it was his birthday yet he lives with him.

Anyways, a few days later my dad calls and tells me that his health is getting worse and would like to get his will up and running but he wanted me to write it for him. He gave me a few guidelines of what he wanted and I wrote it based on that. Though dad never mentioned this, for my brother's will I added that he can only access his inheritance when he's 31 (he's currently 20) and if he's gotten formal education in the form of a degree (any). My father read through it and he also agreed that it was a smart idea to make sure he didn't just blow it.

I foolishly told my husband about all this and I suspect he was the one who told my brother (they're close). Now my brother's been messaging me calling me an asshole (used another word) for trying to control him with the will since my father hadn't thought of the requirments before and he's also chewing me off for treating him as the 'black sheep of the family' by not involving him in the call. Aita? ######

Response: YTA. You don't write in your wishes in someone else's will. What happens to the money if your brother does just fine in life but never gets a formal degree? At that point you've solidly screwed him out of his inheritance. ######


Prompt: The other day I commissioned an artist to draw my character. I paid $60 for the full body shaded which is a bit pricy (for me) but I assumed maybe this artist takes a long time like 6-7 hours which is why they price it like that, so I understood why. They sent my a sketch not long after I paid and I approved it expecting to wait a while for the finished art. Well what ended up happening is that they sent me the finished artwork early in the next day and I was like that was fast?? The artist said they work quick and plus I got in early on their queue. Out of curiosity I asked them how long it actually took them for the drawing and they said just under two hours..... I know what you’d may be thinking that I should be happy I got the fast service but hear me out. I felt a little bit scammed because I paid $60 only because I thought this artist probably takes a lot of time, so it is worth it to pay a high price for it. But they didn’t even draw for a full two hours... I asked the artist if I could have a partial refund maybe because it clearly did not take that long. They told me straight up no and seemed kinda annoyed with me. Idk I just feel like the price wasn’t justified. I talked to my friends and like half of them said they understood and the other half said It was a dick move even just for asking. But to be fair the ones that said it was a dick move were also artists so they are biased. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You don't only pay for the actual time it took someone to finish the painting but also for their experience which is why the hourly wage of some artists is higher than others - plus, if you paid 60 bucks and are happy with the end result, it should not matter how much time it took them to finish the painting/drawing. You pay for the end result, not the time. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend and I have been together since we were 13 (we’re 20 now), and she’s had her cat for the duration of our relationship. I’m gonna go ahead and say this now: I don’t care for cats since I’m allergic to them and hers was no exception. I’m not really an animal person in general, but if I were to get one it wouldn’t be a cat. They’re disgusting and they creep me out.

My girlfriend and I moved in together at 18, and I was always under the impression that she would leave the cat with her parents since she knew how much I didn’t like them. Long story short the cat came with her and while I wasn’t thrilled about it, I allowed it to stay under the conditions that it wouldn’t sleep in our bed, it wouldn’t sit on the furniture, and it wouldn’t go into my office space.

Over the course of the last two years, I would come home from work and my girlfriend would be chilling on the couch with the cat after I’d asked her not to. I’d get ready to climb into bed and there’d be cat hair on my sheets so I know she let it into the bedroom. Not to mention, she has what I feel like is an unhealthy obsession with this thing. She’s constantly talking to and cooing at it like it’s a person and it drives me up a wall. For a while, I just slept in my office so I wouldn’t have to deal with an itchy face and puffy eyeballs.

With us being stuck at home now, it’s even harder for me to have my own space. The straw that broke the camels back was when I went into my office and found her cat sitting in the window. I’ve asked time and time again for her cat to stay out of my space and I feel like she deliberately disrespects my wishes, so I found a walk-in surrender shelter today and dropped the cat off. I haven’t told my girlfriend, and being that it’s an indoor/outdoor cat I hope she just thinks it ran away. I love my girlfriend, but her cat was legitimately our only source of conflict. ######

Response: YTA. You don't love your girlfriend. You gave away her beloved life long pet. And it sounds like your relationship lacks normal communication. You just assumed your girlfriend wouldn't take the cat with her when you two moved in together and you just gave away her cat without any discussion. ######


Prompt:
A friend of mine is getting married to this chick through an arranged marriage. He is really naieve when it comes to women and to top it off he doesn't know that much about her. Call her Nikki. Now, my buddy's mom actually told me and my girlfriend that if we know Nikki or people in her family to let us know, mainly because in Indian arranged marriages it is about marrying the whole family not just two people.

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I didn't know her like that but from what I do know is that she was a regular at frat parties when we went to school. And from what I know too that she was super into white guys. And just on FB she untagged herself from a lot of photos but she is friends with a ton of the guys.

I told my buddy, hey man I know your girlfriend said she went to school and that she spent all of her time studying and never partying... but here is what I found. And that her story that she is a virgin I really doubt that, for a fact she said she never drinks but there are pictures of her with alcohol. And that he should know.

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This spread a lot in his family, but now they are deciding to stick it out anyways, and some people in his family are REALLY upset with me for bringing this information to light? Mainly his cousins. I just followed his mom why am I the bad guy? ######

Response:
 YTA. You don't know anything about her virginity, and it's creepy to tell a friend you "doubt" his fiance is a virgin and that you think "she was super into white guys."

>she is friends with a ton of the guys

*clutches pearls* ######


Prompt:
A bit of backstory:My sister does cross country at our school and from the times of like 12-3 she is working out and running almost every day.  She usually wears a sports bra (could be a tank top, all I know is that some belly shows on them) and she makes their protein shake and needs the blender in the kitchen (I don't know much about any of that type of fitness so forgive me if I mess up any words).  My friends more than one have told me my sister is hot and they would go for her if I wasn't their friend, I usually just sign cause I hate those conversations and I know they are serious.

Well I had one of them over the other day, my older brother was out doing whatever he does and my parents were at work, while my sister was in the kitchen making her protein thing.  I thought my friend was in the bathroom but when he wasn't in the bathroom he was full on flirting with my sister, and it still grosses me out a bit but I could tell he was checking her out.  I came out and he got all scared that I noticed and we went up to my room to keep playing games.  I told him that I could see him checking her out and that isn't cool.  He said he gets it, but he left like 15 minutes later cause he was embarrassed.

My sister was done for the day and asked why I made such a big deal about her flirting with my friends.  I told her (and I quote) "Cause 1, he was checking you out and that is gross.  And 2, cause you flirting with my friends soon turns to all my friends coming over for you and yeah no fuck that."  She told me to stop being all uptight and relax and that won't happen, I told her I wasn't in the mood to argue, but to stay away from my friends.  I then went to my room till my dad came home with dinner.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You don't get to tell your sister who to talk with and date. If she wants to chat with, flirt with, or date one of your friends, you will just have to accept that. If your sister tells you that she is uncomfortable with the way your friends are behaving towards her, then you can tell them off. But only then. ######


Prompt:
Me (18M) and my boyfriend (20M) have been dating for a few months now. Before quarantine kicked in we lived together on the same floor at our university hall. The food there is catered, and both of us would always go for the vegan option. When I asked him if he was vegan too, he said he was, and we both kinda got really into it.

We were both in Facebook groups for vegans in our city that gave tips for cafés, recipes, etc. and a lot of the time he would fight with non-vegans online. He would get mad at people and talk about the rampant exploitation and torture of animal lives.

Safe to say, I was VERY surprised to find out than he was eating meat after we both went home for quarantine. He’s gone back to his childhood home and his parents refuse to cook vegan food. We were talking on FaceTime and I asked him why he doesn’t just buy vegan food for himself, and even offered to help pay for it if it was a money thing, but he was dismissive of it. I called him out for it by calling him a hypocrite for parading around his care for Animal Rights just to turn around and eat meat. He got mad at me and said he would go vegan again when quarantine was over, but for now, his situation is “easier”. He hung up shortly after.

I feel like he is still mad at me. Maybe quarantine has been wearing me down emotionally, but veganism is important to me and finding out it wasn’t as important to him as he presented himself to be... it feels like a betrayal. I don’t know if I should apologise or drop it fully or break up or what. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA. You don't get to decide how or what another person eats, ever.

To be fair, there's an element of ESH because you both sound like the worst stereotype of the pushy, obnoxious vegan. ######


Prompt:
*My stepdaughter moved out when she was 19, she got a flat with her boyfriend a year later*

*I moved in with her dad the same year with my daughter (12F) and everything's going great, I've never seen eye to eye with my step daughter, I don't approve of her job as a cam girl but she says it pays very well and is very open/almost proud of her job, I'm not in a place where I can criticize*

*She (21F) recently found out she's pregnant and her boyfriend wants absolutely nothing to do with her or the baby*

*She still works while she isn't showing,I'm not sure if she can continue while she's pregnant (?) she could continue to paying for a flat if she wanted*

*she told her dad she wanted to move home and go college and university, meaning she would stay at home until she finished, she would hire a babysitter*

*Her dad jumped at the opportunity without even asking me, he's always been trying to make up for not being there while she grew up- he had weekend visitation*

*She's never approved of our relationship, we've never seen eye to eye, she loves my daughter though,me and her father are trying for a baby and I don't think having added stress of having her around for however long will help*

*I said if she stayed she would have to pay rent and until she finished college, at latest*

*my husband wants her to save up instead since we don't need extra money, claiming I'm an AH for only having "shallow" reasons to push his daughter away, and for not being supportive of him trying to have a better relationship with his daughter*

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You disapprove of her work and lifestyle but you want to turn her away when your husband, her father, is willing and gracious enough to help her pursue higher education to better herself? It would be one thing if she would have assumed that you are free childcare for her baby and hoisted that workload on you, but you pointed out in your post that she’s taking care of that by hiring a babysitter. Also, your husband’s reasons for wanting to help his child, whether they come from regret of not being a very present father or not should be respected. ######


Prompt:
My relationship with my boyfriend has been going through a difficult stage for the past few weeks, and whenever I need someone to talk to about it, I almost always talk with my friend Camila. My boyfriend has made a couple of noteworthy mistakes in our relationship, but I still feel like we both genuinely care about each other, the good in our relationship far outweighs the bad, and we genuinely have a chance of working through our issues through communication and understanding. My friend, on the other hand, is suspect of everything my boyfriend does, and insists that I should "punish" him whenever he does something wrong. I've listened to my friend express her opinion about the topic, but it got to the point where her negativity became really excessive, and I told her I didn't want to talk about it anymore.

Instead of listening to me, she decided to double down by telling me "y'know, I honestly think you should just leave him. You can do way better!" I got angry with my friend, and left her house. Later on, she called me, and we discussed what happened. I told her that I feel like she should be respectful about when I don't want to talk about my *own* personal life. She said that I owe it to her to hear her out when she has a new point to make (suggesting I leave him), because she has been there for me and listened to me for hours. She then asked me: "if you saw that I had a drug addiction that was killing me, would you stop talking to me about it just because I asked you not to talk about it?"

Is my friend right? AITA for getting angry with her? ######

Response: YTA. You didn’t say you just wanted her to listen to you and didn’t want any advice. Maybe if you don’t want to set parameters for talking/listening and her “advice” never aligns with your values then find another friend to vent to. Her analogy is right. If that’s how she sees it that’s how she sees it. And to be honest I would be grateful to even have someone listening to me about those types of problems. ######


Prompt: I hated my grandma, she was a real bitch all the time. She played favorites all the time and treated me like trash compared to my siblings, she gave me really awful gifts compared to my siblings and cousins around Christmas and the holidays. So I was pretty hype when she finally kicked the bucket. My brother overheard me and told my parents and now I’m grounded for 3 months, am I the asshole? ######

Response: YTA. You didn’t hurt her, she’s dead. She doesn’t care if you don’t like her. You’re doing stuff to hurt the family that’s left behind who might not have the same screwed up relationship that you did. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway. This took place awhile ago but the fallout is still hot. My father had health problems for the last few years and he recently succumbed to them.. During this time my brother had gotten married and was on his honeymoon.

I made the choice to be the one to inform my brother of the news. Our mother died years ago, so I am the only one left in our family that's closest to him. I told any other distant family members to refrain from letting him know until I say it's okay.

I decided in all fairness, that he should get to enjoy his honeymoon with his new wife, and I decided not to tell him until he gets back.

We had a few gatherings and then the funeral happened. Some people were wondering why my brother wasn't there and I explained the situation that he is on his honeymoon. A few people thought it was the right thing to let him enjoy it, others thought I should have told my brother, so I guess that is where the divide began.

A few days after the funeral my brother came out and I quickly texted him that our father died. He almost immediately called me up and was freaking out, understandably. I expected he would be surprised, but he sounded flabbergasted as if our father had no health problems prior to his death. I told him that this was going to happen eventually.

He asked when the funeral would be and I explained to him that we already had it and then he started screaming at me on the phone and cursing at me. I hung up on him until he could calm down.

However since then, I have made repeated attempts to call him back but he has refused my calls. I understand he has the right to be mad but he should also understand I did it so he wouldn't be stressing over what would be a happy time in his life. ######

Response:
 YTA. You didn't tell him until **after** the funeral? That's the most messed up part of this. Not all funerals have to happen immediately.

Edit: Just to note. Not telling your brother your father died until after his honeymoon? Debatable. Scheduling a funeral immediately and excluding your brother because "you wanted it all over?" Not remotely debatable.

Edit2: Changed the language so that I can account for religious exceptions. ######


Prompt:
English isn’t my first language, sorry if this is confusing to read.

I have been living with her and my best friend (M23) for a few months. Since she is a party girl who’s rarely at the apt at night and I had classes we rarely saw each other until now because we are stuck here.

This girl has some weird food habits. She peels hotdogs. She won’t let food touch on her plate and eats all of one thing, then all of the next. She acually won’t eat rice or beans because she can’t eat the grains one by one. She disassembles the pizza, eats the condiments separately and disposes of the tomato sauce and bread part... and many more. I used to think it was funny.

Two days ago I made spaghetti for dinner. She told me that she won’t eat pasta with any kind of sauce and that even the smell of tomato sauce made her sick so I cooked the sad, sauceless spaghetti the way she liked and put the sauce on the side. At dinner, she started picking the ”pieces” of the spaghetti and eating them one by one. With her hands.

I asked her what the hell she was doing and she became defensive. She told me she always washes her hands before eating so I told her it’s still gross and that I don’t want to see this and that either she leaves the table or I do. She left and locked herself in her room. My friend then told me that was not nice and we talked about it during dinner. I don’t think I’m wrong, but since she isn’t very good at dealing with her feelings, I figured I should apologize and suck it up.

Yesterday I tried to apologize to her but she’s ignoring me. She’s been eating everything with her hands ever since. I don’t know what she’s trying to do but it makes me sick and when it’s meal time and she starts eating with her hands I say the same thing I did: either you leave or I do.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You definitely need to just get over it. If you feel like you need to leave that is your choice and it might be the right one, but to make demands on her in her own home is out of line. ######


Prompt:
For some context, my fiance and I live together in a one bedroom apartment.  With quarantine, I've been working from home, and he's been working the overnight shift.  As a result, we're always together for all but a few hours of the day.  This has been really wearing on me.

Today, a package I ordered arrived, and he immediately started pestering me about what it was.  Normally, this isn't really an issue, and the item itself isn't anything of note (water flavor drops), but I didn't really want to answer him.  Looking back, I just wanted to create a bit of privacy and space.  He kept asking and when I wouldn't tell him what it was, he declared that it, "Wasn't funny anymore," and then left the room and gave me the silent treatment until he had to leave for work several hours later.

I know if I had told him, it wouldn't have been a big deal.  AITA for not telling him? ######

Response:
 YTA. You created a completely unnecessary problem. If you need space, you need to talk to him about needing alone time in either the bedroom or the living room.

You picked an unnecessary fight. ######


Prompt:
Her birthday is mid July, we close mid June.

To clarify, I for apologise for the delivery of the message. I recognize I should have said I'm occupied with planning a move and all of my extension cash has been going to save for this house.

I don't know what we will actually have available in funds or how settled we will be in the new place. I just felt like it was a little selfish or inconsiderate to think about splurging on a birthday after such a large purchase.

Am I the asshole for pointing this out? ######

Response:
 YTA. You couldn’t say “I’m planning a sweet day for you” and then like make her breakfast in bed and get her flowers? That’s easy and cheap.

You could set up a Skype birthday dinner with her friends or family.

But noOoOoOo you had to throw in her face the down payment on a home that’s not her present, and is as much for you as it is for her. How thoughtless and inconsiderate. ######


Prompt:
I (20M) went for dinner with my family (parents in their 50s) right before the lockdown. Anyway, there was a fairly attractive waitress (looked to be in her 20s) serving us.

Afterwards, she left her phone number for me with a smiley face saying she found me cute.

For several reasons, I was quite irritated by this. First and foremost, my parents teased me about this which made me feel uncomfortable.

Secondly, it seems very unprofessional and personal. I am a customer, and she is the server. She doesn't know me, and this was a very forward thing to do.

I'd ideally just like to have had my food without any issues.

So after finishing i asked to speak to the manager and filed a complaint. I checked on facebook for the page of the restaurant and I saw someone leave a bad review for the place.. lo and behold it was her. She got fired.

My sister said I was an AH for doing this but I think I was well within my rights. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You could’ve just thrown the number away and continued on with your life. Definitely the asshole. ######


Prompt:
I invited my GF to hang out with my friends. They're all a bit older than her and I. Anyways.We went outside our house and there they were, I greeted them and then they said hi to my girlfriend, I looked at her and her face was very red... she said hi but looked incredibly nervous. We all walked along and one of them talked to her and she just was not herself and I could see that from the way she was acting and talking- she was very very nervous. She does have anxiety as well but I never thought it would be embarrassing like this-which I told her afterwards.

When they all went home i said to her "that was so embarrassing" and she said what? "the way you acted, you could've at least talked more" she was so mad and went our to the garden I tried talking to her but she was upset. I realise now I might have been the asshole but is was genuinely embarrassing to me it has happened before as well. But it was much worse. She had a full blown panic attack when meeting my family at the table.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You could see that your girlfriend was uncomfortable and instead of helping her out or just cutting her some slack, you focus on yourself and your pride. ######


Prompt:
So! My girlfriend of a few months works in HR and we both live in a big capital city. For context I used to work in journalism.

She randomly messaged me saying John Smith (it’s a public figure who runs a newspaper in our country and pretends to be a Man of the People) apparently has a chauffeur drive him everywhere. I guess she told me because I used to work in journalism and have pretty left wing views. When I asked how she knew she said she’s in a closed chat group for some HR people in our city and someone working there posted for HR advice relating to it.

I said I didn’t believe her and got her to send a screenshot of the post to me. She did after a bit of reassurance and - well it was real alright!

So I said in my opinion she should send the info in to a gossip website (and sent her the link) and she wouldn’t do it, she was pranging out in case they somehow identified her as the “leaker” lol and kicked her out of the chat group.

So I sent the info and the screenshot in to the gossip site and now she’s annoyed with me. She said she uses the HR group a lot for work stuff and they’re really strict about kicking people out and finding out where leaks come from. I’ve told her she’s just being paranoid but she’s not having a sense of humour about it.

I’d argue given said public figure genuinely does present as a “man of the people” the public also deserve to know re the chauffeur life he lives lol

Tl;dr am I the asshole for submitting some info about a public figure to a gossip column that my girlfriend found through her private work chat ######

Response: Yta. You convinced her to share a screen shot and then posted it to a gossip site after she asked you not to. If you didn’t do a good enough job covering up where it came from, you could affect her career in HR negatively. ######


Prompt:
I was the best man at my best friends wedding about 4 months ago. I’d never been to a wedding before but had a great time and it was amazing seeing my best friend since childhood get married. I’m have a pretty nervous disposition, so the fact I’d be making a speech at some point during the day, I drank a bit more than I should’ve done.

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 3 years, and have decided that we’re going to wait a bit to get married as she’s been through a lot recently. I’m not big on the whole marriage thing so I told her that was absolutely fine and we’d wait.

The wedding reception rolls around, I make my speech, I take advantage of the open bar. My girlfriend was also in the brides wedding party so she was off with her friends most of the day. It got to 10pm and I was pretty drunk, so my girlfriend found me and took me outside to have some fresh air. Whilst we were there we had a super amazing deep chat about life, and I thought to myself, why not, let’s propose. It was outside but we were still in eye-view of everyone in the reception, and a few people were already looking to make sure I was okay as they knew how drunk I was.

I proposed expecting her to be overjoyed but instead she started crying and ran inside. My best friend came over and asked what the fuck I thought I was doing proposing at his wedding, and his new wife was pissed because instead of enjoying her wedding she was now having to console my girlfriend who was pissed off that I’d even thought of proposing whilst drunk. My girlfriend decided we needed to take a break and the majority of my friends aren’t speaking to me, but I was drunk and I do love my girlfriend. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You can't use "because I was drunk" as an excuse for your actions. Also, your GF had told you she's not ready, why put her on the spot at someone else's wedding? ######


Prompt:
So my girlfriend has very little self control when it comes to food. I do all the cooking so I make sure to keep it pretty healthy l. But when we eat she will always go for seconds if there are any, and will almost always complain about being too full afterwards.

Since lockdown I’ve been working from home with her.  I’ve been pretty shocked at how much she snacks. She’ll often have 3 or four bowls of cereal a day.

I make sure we are stocked with fresh fruit but she will always ignore them and go looking for something carby.

This afternoon she made herself some crackers and cream cheese and some blue cheese. Then 10 mins after finishing went to get herself some bread as well.
I mentioned that she should give it some time to see if she’s actually hungry or choose some fruit instead.

We just got in a massive argument where she said I was shaming her and treating her like a child.

She’s been putting on quite a lot of weight at the moment and I feel if I don’t say anything it will just spiral out of control. ######

Response:
 YTA. You can express your concern once or twice. Repeatedly bringing it up and monitoring her food intake is definitely patronizing.

If it spirals out of control, it spirals out of control and your gf will deal with the consequences. Perhaps that might motivate her to reflect on her eating habits.

However, you continuously trying to control her eating habits like this will only build resentment and probably cause her to eat more unhealthy food because of stress. If you keep away foods she likes, I guarantee you that she'll sneak food in and eat it when you're not around.

People don't change because others pester them to. People only change when they feel the need to. ######


Prompt:
I'll get straight to the point.

I bought a pack of Skittles once that had a promotion running with a code on them saying that you can enter the code on a website and go into the draw to win an Xbox One. I, believing there's no possible way to win these type of promotions, ignored this and enjoyed tasting the rainbow. I left the pack on the table when I was done so if anyone else wanted some they could feel free, and my sister came along to help herself to a few. She saw the promotion and decided to enter the draw to win, unbeknownst to me.

Fast forward a few weeks and BAM what do you know - somehow we've won an Xbox! Now my sister claims that since she entered the draw and I was never going to - this Xbox is completely 100% hers. I argued that since I paid for the packet of Skittles, I have at least 50%, if not more, right to the Xbox. If I hadn't bought the Skittles, it would be impossible for her to enter the draw and hence no winnings. We argued for a bit and then she got angry at me and said I was being TA. We decided to share it obviously but she goes out of the way to say "MY XBOX" everytime it comes up in conversation and I do the same to be annoying.

AITA? And who do you think has more right to the Xbox in a scenario like this lol? ######

Response:
 YTA. You bought some sweets.

Your sister bothered to enter a draw.

The Xbox is 100% hers.

If someone gets a bus to the shops and buys a lottery ticket, the bus driver can’t claim any credit if they win based on ‘but they wouldn’t have got to the shops without me’. ######


Prompt:
I’m currently dating one of my employees, we’ll call her Scarlett but I just went through a drawn out divorce and she doesn’t want people to think she’s only succeeding in her career because she’s sleeping with the boss so we haven’t told anyone. There is another woman who works for me and we’ll call her Nicole.

Nicole and Scarlett do not get along. I think Nicole sees Scarlett’s success and thinks it all has to do with being beautiful and charismatic but there is a lot more to it. She’s honestly one of the smartest most driven people I’ve ever met.

I work late a lot but I always let my employees go on time. I was in the office at about six, Scarlett was there as well and I thought everyone else had gone home. I went into the break room to get something out of the refrigerator and I didn’t turn the light on. I heard footsteps, thought Scarlett was the only person there and decided to scare her.

Well I scared Nicole. We were both embarrassed but I apologized multiple times though I’m sure Scarlett smirking in the doorway didn’t help. Anyway Nicole kept whining about how much she hates being scared and that her father used to do that (I have a kid, all fathers do that) but she kept acting like t was so traumatic and I finally told her she needs to calm down.

She called out sick for Monday and now I feel like it’s because of what I said and I kind of feel like an ass. ######

Response:
 YTA. You behaved completely unprofessionally towards an employee (notably, partially as a result of an ongoing unprofessional relationship), and then you followed up by being a braying jackass when she didn't immediately get over it.

Crucially, you have no CLUE why this was traumatic to her. This sort of scaring by fathers can be playful. It can also be part of abuse. She has no responsibility to justify her reaction to her boss being outrageously unprofessional

I'd add that- depending on the context- dating an employee you have supervisory authority over without reporting the relationship could very easily get you both fired. It opens up your employer to all sorts of liabilities if you show favoritism (which is very much suggested in this post), or have a falling out that gets ugly, etc. This is again context dependent- the larger the organization, the more likely this is to be true. Consult the applicable HR policies. ######


Prompt:
On mobile. Sorry for any formatting mistakes.

My (18m) girlfriend (17f) is bisexual. I love her a lot, but it took me awhile to get used to the fact that she finds more than one gender attractive. And tbh, I’m still not crazy about it but I deal with it because I love everything else about her. She really is amazing.

The other day, we were talking over FaceTime about a couple from school that broke up because the one of them came out as bi. She started to talk about how happy she was that I accept her for who she is and how I’m okay with her being bi. And that’s when I decided to be honest with her and I responded with “actually, I’d be happier if you weren’t tbh. Because there’s a bigger chance of you leaving me because you found someone else and I don’t want to lose you. Especially to a girl.” And she just said “oh” and I asked her what was wrong. And she just said “it’s nothing” and hung up. She hasn’t really talked to me since and she’s been practically ignoring me.

Personally, I think she’s overreacting. She’s always encouraging me to be more honest about my feelings with her, but the one time I do, she isolates herself from me. I was just being honest. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. you basically implied that her being bi meant she was incapable of being in a committed relationship. also, why would you even care more if you “lost her” to a girl? fragile much? you really need to look into your own biphobia if you want to be with her, otherwise she deserves better. ######


Prompt:
So, I have this friend, John, who's a bit shorter than average, around 1,70m (5' 7'' for you in the US). He's a good dude, great sense of humor, very sociable, if not a bit loud on occasion. I brought him to meet some of my gf's friends a few weeks ago and we all had a great time.

I met my gf and her friends again last weekend and I asked them how they liked Paul. There were 3 of them and the first 2 responded positively, but there was this one girl, Eva, who said: "he's a typical short guy, comes on a bit strong, but he's alright".

I told her to not let him catch her calling him short, cause he doesn't take it kindly when people joke about his height.

She laughed and said "Well, yeah, that's how short-man syndrome works".

I asked her what she meant and she told me that "we have a term to describe the phenomenon where shorter guys act more aggressively to overcompensate for their lack of height: short-man syndrome".

So I told her "we also have a term to describe people who talk shit about other people's height: c*nt".

Naturally, I got a horrified did-you-just-drop-a-c-bomb-on-my-friend look from my gf and Eva got offended and called me an asshole, but I just told her to stop making fun of other people's bodies.

She said she wasn't making fun of his body, just his personality and she now sees why we're friends.

I responded that if she really was just making fun of Paul's personality, she wouldn't have called him "short" 3 times in 3 sentences, but she just told me to go fuck myself and left.

I ended up getting an earful from my gf for talking like that to her friend, but she agreed with me on this, plus she liked how I stood up for my friend, so it's all good.

Anyway, was I the asshole here? Should I have just let this slide? ######

Response: YTA. You asked for their opinion then got mad and lashed out because she answered your question.  She was a bit rude for saying  "typical short guy" but the mature thing to do would have been to say that was rude of her to stereotype,  not press her for an explanation then lash out for doing exactly what you asked her to. She should learn to be more considerate but you and Paul need to grow up. ######


Prompt:
My brother has started dating a single mother few months ago.

I have quite large Instagram meme page, and me and my brother like trolling each-other so I started uploading more and more single mother memes

Nothing hurting or such

Just dumb stuff like this

https://imgur.com/a/JJoR8Ba

And then I found out my brother has previously shared my meme account with his gf. And his gf has called me and she was hurt and was asking if I had anything against her and she would like to clear it up and that she would like to have a good relation with me because things are going good with my brother
, I apologized

Am I an asshole? ######

Response: YTA. You aren’t making fun of your brother. You are making fun of an innocent bystander. ######


Prompt:
I asked my girlfriend if she could lend me money for weed, £50 and that I would pay her back next when when I get paid. She said no since she is against weed and drugs in general, I asked why and then she said "well I will lend you money if you give me the double amount back, so £100 because I will put an interest rate"

I told her that was ridiculous and a bit petty and that I will just give her back the same amount. I'm desperate for some weed so I agreed to do it but then I went on about how selfish she is. She called me an asshole because I agreed to it and that's just how she "lends" out money especially when it is going to take such a long time to give it back. She literally has enough money in her bank. I got angry at her and told her its stupid that she is trying to make money out of me.... she then went on telling me how much of an asshole I am and that if I don't have money for weed I should wait it out instead OR do it this way.

AITA here? ######

Response:
 YTA. You aren't entitled to the money she has saved, especially when you want to use it for something she doesn't like.

You wanna know why she has money in the bank while you're down to zero until you get paid? It's because she doesn't want to spend money she doesn't have on something unnecessary. ######


Prompt:
When my husband and I got married last year, we threw the wedding together quickly to coincide with another event. As the date approached, we realized that we never planned a honeymoon. We met while traveling and thought it would be insane to not take a honeymoon, but we weren't financially prepared and put the whole thing on my credit card. We had never funded a trip on credit, but it was totally worth it so I didn't mind. While I paid off my card, he took over the bills,/groceries except for my half of the rent(this wasnt a conversation, just happened automatically because all my money had to pay off what we owed). We have a tradition of taking a trip every year for new years, which end up being another $6,000+. I had gotten so close to paying off the honeymoon, and dug myself right back into a hole. Every paycheck, I would dump nearly the entire thing into my debt. He had a family emergency in February, and I paid for us to fly out to be with them. Recently I finally paid off all the debt, and I am so excited to actually have money in the bank. He's been paying about $700/month in the past 10 months toward our bills, while I've paid back over $15,000 in that time for the trips we took. WIBTA if I expected him to keep paying the bills so I can finally save some money? We have never cared at all who pays for what. We definitely dont bother with 50/50, but I have been paying so much more for so long, I just feel like it might be my turn to catch a break.

(I don't know his opinion yet, as I can't decide if I'm being ridiculous and selfish or not, so I haven't brought it up.) ######

Response:
 YTA. You are stressed financially, but haven't discussed this with your partner, while the issue is going on for 10 months. You only have yourself to blame.

Start making a budget, determine what comes in, and what comes out, and how you want to spend it. Discuss this with your partner. ######


Prompt: So my step daughter (20)  moved in with me, my husband (her father) and our two children (13F & 15M) at the start of lockdown because I don’t know, she wanted to. She’s was adopted by my husband and his ex wife because her  biological mom died when she was almost 5, and had been a druggie and things like that. She never had a dad. So it is understandable that she has some mental heath issues because of it. Sometimes she’ll just think too much and cry randomly, and other things. so she’s in therapy. She also sometimes has overreactions to anger and stuff. So here’s the situation. The other day I wanted to go out with my daughter for our daily walk, just mother  and daughter. We do this 3-4 times a week. This time, (she has never asked before) my stepdaughter asked if she could come too, she could really do with a walk because of her anxiety and blah blah blah. I don’t think she should’ve asked because she still had chores to do and it was meant to be just me and my daughter. She said she would really like to come, but I said she hadn’t done her chores so she couldn’t come. She looked upset but just went off to her room. When we got back, I was tidying some stuff and went to check if her room was clean and found her crying. Honestly, I thought it was pathetic because it was only a walk and she could have just gone on her own after her walk. I walked back out, told my husband and he called me a massive jerk and went to go and console my stepdaughter. So AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You are practically story book levels of a terrible stepparent. ######


Prompt:
This happened a few months ago but lockdown is making all of us dwell on our past possible mistakes so why not.

My daughter (6F) has a type of ichthyosis which is a genetic skin disorder that basically makes parts of her skin very very dry and scaly. I'm used to her getting some funny looks in public and luckily she's still too young to really notice but I definitely do.

I took her shopping a while ago because her friend had a new pink headband and they're best friends so she had to match, obviously, and so we went into a shop that sells accessories. My daughter spotted the wall of headbands and ran over to have a look. There was a teenage girl standing there, probably about 16, and when my daughter ran over, the girl kind of jumped and then immediately went to stand at the other side of the shop (the shop was super small so it was only a few feet away). I got pissed that the girl had seen my daughter and immediately felt like she had to get as far away as possible, so I looked at her and said "she's not contagious, you know." The girl gave me the stink eye and said "I was giving her space to look at the headbands, you weirdo" and then left the shop.

Honestly I have no way of knowing if she was telling the truth. People often think my daughter's condition is contagious or don't want to be near her in case she sheds on them (she won't.) But I do sometimes wonder if I was too harsh because my daughter didn't seem to notice that anything had happened. ######

Response: YTA. You are insecure about your daughter’s condition and therefore automatically assuming that people’s actions are due to that. If I was in a tiny shop and someone’s child ran over to where I was I would move away too. She didn’t want to look at the headbands in a tiny cramped shop with a 6 year old trying to do the same. I would say her action was polite because she was giving your child the “right of way” and space to look at the headbands even though she was there first and your child probably should have waited her turn. ######


Prompt:
My ex and I are currently going through a divorce, been separated since April of last year. We’ve met with a mediator and we agreed that he’d have our toddler full time, while I’d only have her Friday evening through Sunday night. He hires a babysitter for the days he has to work, which she charges him a rate of $60 a day.
      Lately he’s been asking me to watch her on the weekdays here and there(which I was fine with at first), but now it’s become constant. When I tell him “no” he tends to get all salty like and I’ll have to remind him about the terms of our agreement. I’d also like to add in the fact that when he does drop her off on the weekends, there will be days when he drops her off a couple of hours early because of work(which really isn’t any of my concern because our relationship is over, he needs to adult and figure that shit out). So would I be in the wrong if I asked him to shoot some cash for watching our kid on the days and time that are written and have legally been agreed upon to be his(the full time parent)? I obviously wouldn’t charge him the whole $60, was thinking like $30. I figure this is one of those, “you scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours” situations. ######

Response: YTA. You are a parent, watch your child. If needed get the custody and child support agreement modified (strongly recommend that). ######


Prompt:
My daughter (15) had come to me to tell me that theres a possibility that social services or police might contact her and I would have to be there too. This is all because her best friend (also 15) had been telling her about how she had been abused by a relative. They have been texting about it, and my daughter had told a teacher instead of telling me about it first, which I understand that she was worried. This caused social services to be involved and the parents of her friend who didnt know about the abuse, contacted my daughter.

So as she was telling me about this, many days later after actually reporting it, I told her she shouldnt have reported it. I said that she should have convinced her friend to tell a teacher or someone because I didnt want my daughter involved. I tried to explain to her that if the abuser and family found out that she reported it then maybe they could do something bad to her.

By the end of the conversation she was crying, which is unlike her because I didnt realise she would be so sensitive about it. I told my sister about this whole situation and she thinks I'm right for saying that she shouldnt have gotten involved and not wanting my daughter to get too close to that friend anymore. However my daughter is upset about this all, so I'm not sure whether what I said was really that bad. I'm just trying to protect her, and dont want her involved and exposed to bad things. ######

Response:
 YTA. You and your sister. You didn't realize your daughter would be "so sensitive" about her friend being abused? And your sister thinks your daughter shouldn't be close to that friend? Wow....just, wow. You need to take a really good step back and literally think about what you're saying.

Because of your daughter, her friend may and can get help that she DESPERATELY needs. And you think your daughter did the wrong thing?

I'm just going to stop there, because this triggers me so bad that Im not going to be able to remain civil.

Edits: thanks for the awards!

I do want to also add for the OP now that I've been able to take a breath...I understand your fears and concerns about the abuser. However, your daughter still made the right choice. Her friend obviously trusts her A LOT to confide such a thing to her. That being said, you don't want her "exposed" to certain things? Bit late for that. All you should have done is offered your support. ######


Prompt:
Two weeks ago we had taco night. My mom made a bunch of meat, beans, corn, etc. My brothers got to the kitchen about ten minutes before me to make their tacos and as I entered, my little brother was finishing making his fifth taco and used up the last of the beef. I was pissed because they didn’t save me any and the meat is the best part of the taco.

I told them to give me some meat and they ignored me and went to the living room and started eating. I went to my mom to tell her what they did and she didn’t even care. She didn’t tell either of them to give me some meat, so I had bean tacos instead. Not terrible but I was kind of mad about the selfishness.

Flash forward to yesterday morning and my mom made eggs and bacon. I got to the kitchen first, followed by older brother, then my little brother about ten minutes later. I took one third of everything that was made, and my older brother took the rest even though he asked me if my little brother had eaten yet and I said no. What a dick move.

Anyways, my little brother comes and sees that nothing was left, and tells our mother and all hell broke loose. She yelled at us that he hadn’t eaten yet, he is to eat first from now on, and that we shouldn’t have eaten it all. She then made him a separate breakfast.

I think this is unfair because she didn’t do the same for me. I couldn’t even convince her to. Furthermore, I took my fair share, whereas he took way more than he should’ve. I called her out on it and she wouldn’t respond. Then my brothers said I was TA. I disagree. What does Reddit think? ######

Response:
 YTA. You and your siblings are adult men asking like toddlers - no wonder your mum is going up the wall with this. I highly doubt this is the only thing you and your brothers squabble about like this.

Here's how you fix it:
Either buy your own food or move out. You're an adult and are no longer entitled to Mum's cooking. ######


Prompt:
I live in an eight-unit apartment building for the last year. It's quiet. except for this woman who lives above me. I work early mornings so I go to bed at 8PM. All late night long she's slamming cupboards, doors, moving shit, etc. all night long. This is LOUD. I did mention it to her and suggested that if she needs to slam things then maybe get some felt coverings attached to her doors/cupboards. She said next time she would be quieter. Then it goes back to banging, slamming, etc. I have no idea what she's doing late at night and don't care. I do wear earplugs and use a noise machine.

She keeps on doing it so I set my alarm at 3AM and went to her door and knocked on it. She was mad as Hell. I apologized and told her that I would be quieter next time I wake her up early in the morning the same way she said she would be quieter the next time she wakes me up late at night.

EDIT: It's not like she ends her slamming binge at 9PM. I am awoken to a door slamming, something heavy dropped on the floor, a cupboard slammed, etc. at 11PM, 12:30AM, 1:45AM. I assume she goes to bed around 2AM because that's when it's silent and by then I have to leave for work in an hour. So I get ready and knock on her door. ######

Response: YTA. You actually set an alarm to wake up to go and bother her? It would be one thing if she woke you at 3 AM due to her loud noises, but you are creating additional drama by preemptively scheduling a confrontation. ######


Prompt:
My daughter (26F) got married December 2019 to her partner of 6 years.

My daughter came out 13years ago but started dating a boy when she was 14, they dated for 4 years when she got pregnant and things ended between them, he isn’t involved.

My daughter eventually told me her mother had convinced her she wasn’t normal and that’s why she started dating a boy.

When my daughter introduced her then girlfriend to us I’ll admit my wife was a little cold towards her then girlfriend and she’d occasionally try to set my daughter up with men, they spent three years of only arguing.

My wife worked hard while my daughter was growing up, we both did, and it’s one of my many regrets that we weren’t around for our daughter as much as we should’ve been, my wife wasn’t around for many of the big moments in our daughters life (first breakup, first period which I had to teach our daughter about, school plays)

My wife started trying to make up for her behaviour and has educated herself on the topic, they’d been going shopping and spending days together and they seemed closer than ever.

My daughter  phoned me requesting I come to the wedding, but not her mother and telling me it wasn’t her call to make.

I asked several times and got told no, when I told my wife she spent an entire week crying in bed.

When I asked my daughter why I got told; we’re not there yet and I may have forgiven her but it’s just not something I think I’ll move on from.

Then why tell her mother she forgave her? I refused to go to the wedding without my wife, we still paid 50% and looked after our  granddaughter.

We still talk every day and she’s not bought it up but my sister keeps bringing it up every chance she can and insists I’m the asshole.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You actually did defend your wife's behavior by siding with her, by excusing her. And the fact that she won't apologize even now says she still feels she was right. You stood by her, therefore you agreed. ######


Prompt:
Me(15m) and my sister(22f) play the same online game which I will not be saying what. The game has 3 currencies and works like this:

1 is for the in-game stuffs, rewarded by clearing dungeons and tradable in the player market. 1 is for the cash shop, purchased with real life money, not tradable in game and can only buy items in the cash shop. The 3rd one is a currency that can buy both in-game stuffs and a limited selection of cash shop stuffs, also can be traded in the player market.

I have been playing around with the 3 currencies, having multiple accounts, tracking the market prices and making a "cheat sheet" out of it, where I figure out the time to buy things with 1 currency and sell them in another, and profit from the difference in between. I have been making a good profit of it in the game, and even traded some of them with real life money, not much but it's the sense of achievement that counts.

My sister who plays the same game has been jealous that I have become a "rich player" without spending too much money. Ever since she lost her job she had been trying to do what I did but never had the patience for it. She had been asking me for my cheat sheet but I won't lend her, I don't want competition in the game and they are MY hardwork.

Today we had an argument as she accused me for having no life and a hacker(no I don't), then tried to tear up my cheat sheet. I got mad too and called her a jobless loser who fails at everything and can't even win her little brother in game without begging. She actually broke down and cried.

What happens exceeds the word count, I just want to ask right now AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You 100% escalated the situation. Go apologize, help your sister with the game (it's a game bruh), and move on. ######


Prompt:
Decided to make an account for this because she’s pretty hurt but I really feel like I haven’t done anything wrong?

I’ll get to the point. Both my gf and I really love music, we both play multiple instruments and we first bonded over the kind of music we love.
So she likes to bake often and usually during that we turn on the radio pretty loud and dance together for awhile. So she had just put something in the oven and we were kinda swaying together listening to music and she says, “These are my favorite times with you, I’ve never met someone I can connect with like this.”

I just smiled and didn’t say anything but then she goes, “do you agree?” And so being honest I said, “yeah these times are great but I’ve done this kind of thing with all my exes too so there are different instances for me where I feel especially close to you.” And she kinda goes “oh okay.” But I could tell she was a little down so I tried to lighten the mood but sarcastically saying, “c’mon babe it’s not like you’re special or anything”, because that’s how we usually joke around with each other but in this case she got really quiet and hasn’t come out of the bedroom since.

I don’t know it just seems like an overreaction to me? I was so clearly joking. But if I’m the asshole I’ll apologize. ######

Response: YTA. Yikes man, "I've done this with all my exes" followed by "you’re not special” are statements you should not say to your partner when they feel they’re having a special moment with you. You owe her an apology. ######


Prompt:
Was checking out at the self-checkout. Realized I had two extra frozen meals that I did not need. Crazy time right now - just wanted to get out quickly so I set them on top of the candy rack in front of me.

Store manager confronts me. She says “are you planning on putting that back”? Like for fucks sake, am I back in school? Is this not what she has paid employees for? I said “I’m in a hurry, sorry” and bolted. ######

Response: YTA. Yeah absolutely and lazy too. ######


Prompt:
Throwayay for obvious reasons, and I’ll try to keep this short. Also, this is not relationship advice, I just want to know if I presented things in a bad way.

A while back I started searching for some new jobs out of boredom basically. To my surprise I managed to land something that requires me to relocate to another country, let’s call it B. The country I’m on right now, country A, is pretty shitty compared to B.

Now the thing is I’ve been married to my wife whom I love dearly, but we haven’t had any children yet. When I told her what I did we had a fight because she says her family is here and she cannot separate from them. My position is that this is an amazing opportunity with many costs supported by the employer and the pay is great too. Negatives would be: learning the language to gain access to other jobs, especially for her (for me English is enough), and distance from family (about 3000km). She says she would be homesick within a month and she will not leave with me at all.

As a final point I told her I hate being tied up to other people’s lives and that it was her family’s choice to remain in country A. I feel that ultimatum was kind of harsh, so I’m asking you AITA? ######

Response: YTA. Wtf, dude. You can't just unilaterally decide to apply for jobs in a whole different country without consulting your wife, and you absolutely cannot demand that she go with you to a place where she doesn't speak the language or know anyone. If you don't like your life being tied up with other people, don't be married anymore. Then you can go wherever you want. ######


Prompt:
My roommate's gf moved in with us when lockdown started.

The other day I was getting ready for bed, brushing my teeth, taking a shower ect. She knocks on the bathroom door and says she needs to use the bathroom. I was about to get in the shower and ask if she can wait a few minutes and she says it's fine. I take pretty quick showers so figured it would be okay. I start my shower and after a few minutes she knocks again saying she needs to use the bathroom. I say I'll still be a few more minutes and she says she really needs to go but I still have soap in my hair and need to wash it out. She keeps knocking and I'm getting kind of annoyed at this point so I just ignore her. I finish my shower, shave and brush my teeth. When I open the door she was stading by the door frame and pissing herself. I realize it's partially my fault and offer to help her clean the floor but she's really embarrassed and walks away to clean up. When my roommate learns about what happened he gets super upset at me for not stopping everything that I'm doing to let her in. I apologize to his gf and she seems to be fine, really embarrassed but not mad. My roommate is still really angry at me. I feel like a grown woman shouldn't be pissing in her pants, she could have found some other option if she was THAT desperate and I didn't say anything to her to make her feel bad but roommate is still mad at me. ######

Response:
 YTA. Wtf is your problem? Why didn't you let her go before the shower and why would you piss around shaving after when she told you how bad she needed to during the shower? It would have taken 20 seconds to let her pee at any of the moments where you weren't in the shower.

I mean, I would have probably peed in a bucket before I pissed myself, but you're definitely an asshole. ######


Prompt:
So my friends and I \[all 17M\] were talking on discord while playing league of legends. We were about to win but my friend did something stupid causing us all died. I got mad and jokingly cursed my friend's dead mother and hoped he would join her in the grave. When I did this though, he ended the call and fucking exited the game which meant we were 4 against 5 and lost. I texted my friend wtf is wrong with him and why the hell did he exit but he left it seen and then blocked me. Some of my friends said that I overreacted and should apologize but others agreed with me that he overreacted and shouldn't have left the game. None of my other friends get mad when I do these jokes with them. In a way I can sympathize him because his mother died not too long ago and his relationship with his father is horrible so maybe that's why he is this sensible and can't take a joke.  I still believe he overreacted though. What do you guys think?

Edit: For the people saying it's just a game and I can just replay it. It doesn't work like that. When you lose a game you lose stuff which makes your division lower and it becomes harder to climb back up. ######

Response:
 YTA. Wtf is wrong with you? You did this over a video game? Horrible.

Edit: in response to your edits- you are still, without a doubt, the ultimate asshole.. my god. ######


Prompt:
Hey, so, we are feeling bad and guilty for deciding the euthanize our daughter’s kitten instead of paying for surgery.

We adopted a kitten from a shelter for our daughters birthday in mid March. Late last week she started throwing up, wasn’t eating, wasn’t drinking, and was lethargic.

We took her to the vet and they felt something hard in her stomach or intestines. This kitten loved playing with small toys and LEGOs found on the floor.

They did an X-ray and found she was full of poop but couldn’t see if there was something else causing an obstruction so the plan was to keep her overnight, hydrate her with an IV, give her an enema in the morning and do another round of X-rays.

We got the call the next day saying that the X-rays still aren’t showing anything definitive and that surgery was needed. We were in $600 at this point and the surgery would have added another $1000.

We opted to go with euthanasia instead and feel terrible for making this decision since we could have afforded the extra $1000 out of our savings, but we feared that the kitten would possibly do it again if she ate something she shouldn’t have. We’ve had several kittens and cats and have never had this problem before. However, we feel terrible for our heartbroken daughter. Are we the baddies? ######

Response:
 YTA. Wow. "I just murdered a creature I promised to take care of because it got a little inconvenient and I couldn't be bothered to just clean up some toys to make sure it didn't happen again." You really need to ask if your the bad guy here??

You better fucking not have told your six year old you suspect it was her toys that caused this issue. She'd probably feel like *she* killed her cat. ######


Prompt:
My brother has started dating a single mother few months ago.

I have quite large Instagram meme page, and me and my brother like trolling each-other so I started uploading more and more single mother memes

Nothing hurting or such

Just dumb stuff like this

https://imgur.com/a/JJoR8Ba

And then I found out my brother has previously shared my meme account with his gf. And his gf has called me and she was hurt and was asking if I had anything against her and she would like to clear it up and that she would like to have a good relation with me because things are going good with my brother
, I apologized

Am I an asshole? ######

Response: YTA. Wow, yeah that was pretty cruel of you. Especially since your way of trolling your brother was to attack his girlfriend. Immature, not a good look. ######