Prompt:
I’m 22F. Boyfriend “Joe” 22M. BF’s brother “Dan” 25M.

I’ve been living with Joe for 2 years now, and we’ve been dating for 4. Dan is Joe’s maternal half brother and he’s been living with their mom for his entire life—he’s never moved out, until now he has to because their mom finally got sick of him and kicked him out.

I don’t dislike Dan, but I know he’s a slob. He’s getting kicked out of their mom’s house because he never does anything for himself or the house (no cooking, no cleaning—not even after himself, no buying groceries, no paying bills, etc.). Basically he just acts like he’s still a kid who has no responsibility to himself or his home and spends all the money he makes at his job on weed and new stuff for himself.

When Joe came to me about possibly renting one of our spare rooms to Dan for awhile, I told him my reasoning above and said I wasn’t okay with it. I thing Dan is nice to hang out with, but I refuse to live with him. I don’t trust him to pay his rent or supplement any of the other expenses in the house like groceries/internet/cable/etc. I don’t trust him to help out around the house or not smoke weed inside. I don’t expect him (or Joe) to cook, because I do all the cooking and I like it, but if he’s not going to help out at all he’s not living with me and eating the food I cook and (mostly) pay for myself.

Joe was upset. He can understand my reasoning, but he thinks we should let Dan move in because he can’t afford to rent a house on his own, and he doesn’t want his brother to be homeless. I still firmly say no and believe Dan should try moving in with his girlfriend or one of his friends.

Joe is now proposing we do a trial run and let Dan move in for a month, and if he doesn’t meet my expectations we have him move out. I told him I’d think about it, but honestly I don’t think it’s worth the hassle because I strongly doubt he’d meet my expectations.

AITA if I say no to Dan moving in, even for a month long “trial run”? ######

Response: NTA The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior & it doesn't sound like he'll be homeless, he'll just be with roommates who are not family. That might be the best thing for him because then he'll have to pay bills and take care of himself. ######


Prompt:
So some back story - I was originally renting a 3bed/2bath house with one other person, we will call them RM1. Total rent was $2700/month. I paid $1400 and they paid $1300 bc I had the larger room. While it was just the two of us RM1 utilized the spare bedroom as a closet and additional storage.

A 3rd roommate eventually moves in to the spare bedroom, call them RM2. I now pay $1000 and they each pay $850.

My SO moves in to share a room with me. This is discussed with RM1 & RM2 prior and they are happy with it bc we are all good friends. RM1 wants a decrease in their rent with another person moving in so we land on my SO and I paying $1100 (collectively) and RM1 & RM2 each paying $800 - RM2 was fine staying at $850. Everyone is happy.

This is where things get complicated. We receive the renewal notification via email and rent has gone up $55/month. No biggie we thought, we will just split it four ways. Nope - RM1 wants me and SO to cover it. When we disagree RM1 then counters and wants us to pay that and her rent to go down an additional $50/month. So our rent would be $1255 and RM1 and RM2 each pay $750. This is not based on anything and is just an arbitrary $50.

A few things to note - me, my SO, and RM2 share a bathroom and RM1 has her own bathroom. I also pay the $35/month dog fee for my dog and RM1’s dog.

They seem to be stuck on the fact that we only pay $550 each and they are paying $800, even though we share a space, closet, etc. I told them that we feel the $300/month to have an extra person in the common area is more than generous so we refused to accept their proposal. AITA?

TL;DR roommate wanted to renegotiate rent after coming to an agreement to which I refused ######

Response: NTA the $55 increase should be split amongst you, and RM1 should contribute half the pet fee. ######


Prompt: Background. I am a 19 year old female and live with my parents while I go to college. One night I am messing around on my computer in the dinning room. My step-father walks behind me and stops. I look around on he has his face right next to my neck kinda smelling me. I say "stop it" cause it's weird. He walks off saying something like "shut up" in a slightly annoyed tone. I felt some guilt for reacting like that. He then walks outside saying to my mom that I'm in a mood or something. I'm wondering if I was overrating but he know I don't exactly like being touched. We had an issue like this before where after I said I didn't want to be touched he said "get a fucking life." My mum said that I hurt his feelings so I apologized. So am I the asshole, and should I apologize this time? ######

Response: NTA thats creepy ######


Prompt:
He would physically beat me every week at school, I remember once he got scissors and ruined my hair before.

He would fallow me into the bathroom and throw things like heavy books at me, and I would come home with bruises.

But  when it came to draft day we were the same age, except I was gay, and  barred from military service while he was forced into it.

fast forward to today 4 years after he was drafted he started to post about how awful it was on facebook.

He  said something like "how is it fair that women vote on things that can  effect millions of young boys lives it isnt fair, it was the worst 2  years of my life"

I left him a  comment saying "How did it feel while you were in there, being  physically intimidated everyday, knowing it could have all been avoided  if you were born different. Thats how you made me feel everyday when we were young, they shaved you, and beat you when you didnt listen, poor  diddums you arent against people being mistreated because of the way  they are born, you are against you being mistreated because of the way  you were born".
"Oh but of course at your little camp there wasnt any "faggots" like me, and Im sure you loved your new haircut you sure loved haircuts when you gave them to me".

I got banned from his group, and he sent me a messenger with homophobic language.

EDIT:sorry if my English is poor its not my first language. ######

Response: NTA that’s karma at its finest. ######


Prompt:
Hello, using a throwaway account and on mobile.

When I was 14 my parents finally bought a house and we were able to move out of our trailer. In the trailer I had my own room because I’m the oldest and my sisters shared a room. The house we moved into had 3 bedrooms and a garage. Before we moved in, my mom asked me if I would be ok sleeping in the garage so that all 3 of us could have our own rooms. I was told that the garage would be converted into a bedroom. I said yes because it seemed cool at the time. So we moved in and at first I shared a room with one of my sisters until we could convert the garage. When we finally did convert the garage, I found out the only thing we were doing was sealing the door shut. I didn’t get an A/C or anything. Since I didn’t have A/C and it was south Texas, I wasn’t allowed to shut my bedroom door all through high school, which led to some awkward moments. Because of the window in the kitchen into my room and my door always being open, I had to go to the bathroom to change. And the laundry room was in there, so people walked through my room at all times of day and night. After a few weeks it stopped being cool and fun and I hated it, but I didn’t get feel like I could say anything at that point. Now I’m in college and every time I come home I have to sleep on the couch because the garage is just storage now. My bed frame broke about 6 months before I left for college and my parents figured I was about to leave, so I just slept on a mattress on the floor. Now I don’t have an actual bed in there, so my parents just converted it back to storage.

AITA if I’m upset that my parents only presented me with the choice to sleep in the garage and made it seem like the best choice and if I’m upset that I spent 4 years living miserably because of my room? ######

Response: NTA that’s insane that they treat their child like that. I would have an adult talk with them and let them know how much that hurt you ######


Prompt:
We've been going out just over 3 years and are 29 and 30.

He makes significantly more than me (3x my wages) And recently got a massive £700 bonus which is more than my regular wages are. (I'm looking for a new job before anyone says) I'm not interested in having any of his money, we split dates 50/50, but there have been things happen where he's displayed kind of odd behaviour which comes across as selfish and something happened last night.

We were hanging out at his, he has a lot of beer in the house (3 crates and lots of other special bottles)  I was going to go to the shop to get some and he said, "Nah it's raining, you can buy some off me." And I actually had to pay him £5 for 4 cans of Carling (cheap beer which would have been about £5 in the shop.)

The thing is, if it was the other way around I know I would've just given him beer and not thought about money at all. I would definitely not 'sell' him beer. Even if I was poor. When friends/family come to mine I just give them drinks if they want them. I buy my bf treats too, I bought him a video game this month and have one in mind to buy him when he's finished it. He's bought me stuff in the past but as I said that doesn't matter I don't care about getting stuff, I just thought the drink thing was super stingy. It's not the money it's the notion. For example if he had said nothing and I'd gone to the shop and paid that would have been fine.

AITA for being annoyed that he made me pay for them?

TL:DR: My bf who is on 3x my wages and recently got massive bonus made me give him £5 for a few beers and I know I wouldn't have 'charged' him if it was the other way around. ######

Response: NTA that’s honestly super fucking bizarre. I cannot imagine the logic in his head to justify this. ######


Prompt:
I know the title sounds AWFUL, but hear me out. Throwaway in case she’s on reddit. This story happened before pandemic hit.

My roommate is a sweetheart most of the time, and I like to think that we’re pretty good friends. However, since she was randomly assigned to our apartment, I understand that she has different boundaries than I do which I respect whole-heartedly. She locks her bedroom door when shes not home, and while it does kind of sting that she’d think me or other roommate would do something nefarious, I get it. Our doors have two locks on them; both have a key, but one is flimsy. She stayed the night at her partners house one day, and has a stand alone alarm clock that she uses instead of her phone.

Well, evidently she forgot to turn off the clock and at 7AM it started beeping. I had gotten done working a night shift and was BONE tired. All I wanted was the alarm clock to go off. I called and texted her 3-4x, but she didn’t pick up. So, I went upstairs, picked the bedroom flimsy door lock with my fingernail, and turned the alarm off so I could rest. She came home and was pretty upset asking what I was doing in her room, despite me telling her that the alarm went off for a long time while she was gone. She ended up locking herself in her room and things were tense for a long while after, and I have passed her locking both locks in her room as of recently.  At one point she was on the phone upstairs telling her friend how I broke into her room (thin walls). I feel awful.

Was I an asshole for essentially breaking into her room so that I could turn her alarm off? I feel like theres a weird dynamic shift now. ######

Response: NTA that’s a bullshit move on her part she should be apologizing to you for the disturbance ######


Prompt:
This occurred around a month ago and this incident recently came to light.

I (16M) was out with my friend (17F) at a park and these two girls (I'm guessing same age as us) saw me. They were chatting shit about us in Turkish (talking about how foreigners keep on entering their country, trying to guess where we're from and just basically gossiping about me in particular)

I didn't mind and done my best to ignore them, until one of them yelled "Hey chocolate boy!" at me (reference to my skin color, I'm black).

They didn't know that I knew Turkish (I lived here for nearly 2 years now) and I took my opportunity to make a cheeky comment.

I smiled and casually replied back "You like chocolate huh? Wanna try some?" and I gave them a wink. They were surprised that I understood them, but then their expression quickly changed to disgust at my comment. They gave me a dirty look and quickly walked away.

My friend (who doesn't know as much of the language as I do) asked what I said and I told her. She called me immature for doing so and said that my comment was "unwarranted and inappropriate".

In my opinion, I don't think I messed up that bad. They were being racist and I decided to make a joke out of it. But now that I got this story off my chest, I want to see if I'm the asshole because of it. ######

Response: NTA that's what they get for being rude and racist ######


Prompt:
I know this girl who tends to exaggerate a lot of things. I was getting sick of it so when she claimed that she has a black belt in Karate and still regularly practices Karate at a high level I took the opportunity to catch her in a lie.

I knew she was lying because I actually have a bit of martial arts background (a lower level though) and have friends and family who have black belts in various martial arts and some of what she said as well as her coordination and activity levels didn't add up.

My friends scolded me afterward, they said that it was obvious that she was lying but it was also obvious that she was only lying because she's insecure and just wants to impress us.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA that's the thing about lies they eventually come out. Thing is I don't know much about self defense...yet my favorite memory of 3 rd grade was when I made the 6th grade kicking show off land on is ass. By walking up and grabbing his swinging foot and pushing it up...ah the look on the 6 graders faces that day... ######


Prompt: We are stuck at home and I've been helping my 13F daughter and 11M son work on homework while I work from home.  It's just the three of us and our house isn't huge, so there's lots of bickering at this point.  Today, my dad asked if the kids could come over and mow their lawn to make some money for treats.  I said that as long as they got their homework and chores done, I didn't have a problem with it.   Well, the time came around to head over to do it and my daughter hadn't done any of her homework.  She already has two Fs from missing assignments from previous weeks that I have been nagging her about (probably overly so).   My son finished all of his homework and chores by noon today and then took the dog for a walk.  He has straight A's at this point because I've been nagging him just as much as her, if not more.  So my son got to go mow the grandparents' yard and get $20 while my daughter didn't.  It's almost four hours later and she still hasn't done the assignments that are due today.  Am I the Asshole for allowing him to earn money and not her? ######

Response: NTA that's not favouring the child, btw does she even want to mow a lawn lol ######


Prompt:
I a (15M) enjoy cooking and baking and have always wanted a stand mixer since it would make life easier in the kitchen and have told my mom this multiple times and had wanted one for my birthday.

As time goes on my birthday rolls around and my uncle comes to visit use and had brought me a present. I didn't open it until he left as I wanted to spend time with him and not look like a greedy child only wanting the gifts.

When he leaves I open the gift and there it was. A decent looking WHITE stand mixer (that's important for later) and was around £80 in value. I used this multiple times in the kitchen and enjoyed using it as it was a great tool for the kitchen.

A few months later I wanted to make some croissants and asked my mom. She said yes. I went to the kitchen looking for the stand mixer and it was gone. I looked everywhere for it and couldn't find it. I asked my mom where it was and she said she gave it away to charity. I WENT MENTAL

I said a few hateful words saying how stupid she for giving away MY birthday present away for FREE when it wasn't cheap. She said I was in no position to tell her what she can and cant do as it was her kitchen and apparently HER STAND MIXER. I was done at that point and asked why would she even do something like that and her answer was.

It didn't fit in the kitchen since it was white, not black.
I gave up at that point and went to sleep as I had nothing to do. And two weeks later she bought another stand mixer which was almost double the price same brand, same wattage but black. Now, since this wasn't my mixer I was not allowed to use it anymore, so now my mixer is gone and I cant even use the new one anymore

I went on another spree of saying mean words to her and she teared up, my 3 siblings say I over reacted and now I feel guilty
So AITA
(Sorry if this story was too long I had to get a lot of my chest since I was angry)
Edit:cleared up a misconception ######

Response: NTA That's just straight up theft. You should tell your uncle what she did. ######


Prompt:
Last night my partner had a uni exam that went quite late. I cooked dinner and we ate it upstairs in bed.

This morning I saw that he peed into one of the tupperware containers we keep food in after finishing his dinner. I told him it was absolutely repulsive because that's where we keep food. He said it shouldn't matter because it's just salt water and hed wash it out. I told him it was disgusting and he should throw out the container or mark it because I dont want to use it anymore.

He BLEW UP and told me I was overreacting and using anger to get my way. He then scrubbed the container and mixed it in with the other Tupperware so I couldnt mark it.

Now we aren't speaking. He says my reaction was way over the top and all guys do this. I say its gross that he peed in the container and even grosser for trying to hide it from me so that I have to use it.

So internet people, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA that's gross as fuck.

1. He peed in a container used for food.
2. He actively fucked with your ability to choose not to use that container in future.
3. Has he considered wearing diapers since he's apparently not toilet-trained yet?
4. If he's just whipping it out and pissing wherever he likes, how many piss splatter droplets are all over your house that you don't even know about? ######


Prompt:
Hear me out.

For reference, my (23f) family is quite large. I was also quite large until I moved out at 18 and lost 65 lbs (29kg). I went from obese my entire life, to having a normal BMI and finally being healthy.

My older sister (27f, also severely obese) has a 2 year old son. He is currently 50 lbs (23kg). He has a hanging stomach and actual fat rolls.

I live in a different country than my family (I moved) so I don't see them often in person, but I see pictures on social media. Every picture it seems he is only getting bigger. Now that it's summer, they're posting pictures of him without a shirt on and you can just see how huge his stomach is and how he has back rolls. It breaks my heart and frustrates me because I know what it's like to grow up obese and how difficult it makes your life.

In almost every picture, he is eating some sort of junk food. Whenever they call me, they're giving him some candy/chips in the background. It seems they just feed him bad foods all day every day. I try to give them advice on nutrition but they don't want to hear it. They embrace the "I'll eat what makes me happy" lifestyle and know almost nothing of nutrition at all.

Finally, I kind of snapped and told them he's fat and they need to pay attention to his health. My mom and sister got so pissed off that they actually blocked me on social media and called me an AH for making fun of a 2 year old. I didn't mean to make fun of him, I just care for his health since I know how the extra weight can bring you down both physically and mentally. Also I of course did not call a 2 year old fat to his face as it's not even his fault that he's obese, it's the adults fault.

What do you guys think? AITA? ######

Response: NTA that's child abuse. ######


Prompt:
I work for a property management company, and today we went to do a cleanout of a house that had been evacuated by the previous tenants. Living there previously was a foster mom with six children.

We opened the garage door, and it was filled floor to ceiling with rotting trash and crap and smelled absolutely foul. We cleared out a pile of mattress  and found the carcass of a deer in a tub-I would say based on the decomposition it had been there for about three months. The floor was covered with bits of torn insulation and mice droppings. It took two entire dumpsters to clear out the garage (a neighbor mentioned that once every two years the tenants would rent a dumpster to clean out their home-maybe around the time of scheduled visits?)

The laminated flooring in the living room was so water damaged and moldy that it was coming up with my boots as I walked across it. Every single window screen was broken and the windows were almost too dirty to see through. The entire house reeked like something died inside mixed with disease and unkempt pets; we had to make several trips outside because we couldn't handle being inside for too long. The carpets were extremely stained, matted and filled with food crumbs and the ants that were attracted to them.

I could go on, but I think you get the idea.
Edit: And we haven't BEEN in the basement yet. I'm scared.

I took videos and a lot of pictures, so I can provide evidence.

Honestly I feel like I WBTA if I DON'T report it, but obviously I don't know this woman or her situation, but I just can't handle the thought of those kids living like that. I also feel somewhat conflicted as this is something I learned through access of my job, but I feel like your right to privacy goes out the window when kids are involved. What do you think?

Edit: Just made the call. Social worker will be calling me soon. Thank you for speedy NTAs! ######

Response: NTA that's appalling, please do report it ######


Prompt:
I’m fully aware having sex with any kind of protection isn’t 100% fool proof. But for me I personally don’t want to do birth control. I have terrible memory and it’s expensive- and I have no health insurance or regular medical provider so getting it would be a hassle to begin with.

I prefer condoms + pull out method. I happIly buy the condoms. And for a while my bf seemed to be okay with it. But then he started going soft very easily and attributed it to the condoms. He hates them. Apparently he’s above average in thickness and length and nothing fits him right. He’s persuaded me several times to go raw with just the pull out method and he enjoys it a lot more. But I honestly can’t because in the back of my mind there’s his precum and possible pregnancy around the corner.

We’re both 20 and are in no way in any position to take care of a child. It’s gotten to the point where I’m just... forget having sex. If he has to have it raw... I just can’t do it. I have too many concerns to enjoy it.

AITA..? ######

Response: NTA that's a major flag. Tell him condom or no sex, if he has a problem tell him don't let the door hit you on your way out ######


Prompt:
I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month know. We have gotten very emotionally close and slept together one time.
Last night he texted me that he had something serious to tell me, something he should have told me before. I reassured him that he could trust me, and this exchange went back and forth for about half an hour. My heart was racing because I had no idea what he was going to tell me.

He finally tells me that he was born intersex, and his parents decided for him to have surgery as baby. He said he has felt a lot of insecurity around it and was afraid I wouldn’t accept him. I was surprised and a little hurt that he wouldn’t have told me that before we slept together, but I was very kind and understanding in return because I have a friend who is intersex. It didn’t change how I felt about him.

Finally he asks if he can call me. When he does he asks if he call tell me one more thing, “April fools”. I was pissed and told him that it’s not something funny to joke about. He has apologized in a genuine way, but I’m not over it. I feel like it was tasteless to joke about that, and he really made me have empathy for him and the joke crossed a line(especially since we have slept together). AITA for not getting over his joke? ######

Response: NTA that's a bad prank. ######


Prompt:
 My brother and his wife are having a hard time with paying their rent right now, so they asked if they can stay with us for awhile.

After talking it over with my husband we agreed that they could move into our RV and we could hook up the water and electricity from our house. It’s not a huge RV, but it’s got one full size bed and two twin size beds that their kids can sleep on.

My sil is very insulted by the idea of living out in our driveway when we have “plenty” of space inside. My brother was also upset because family would let family stay with them. He also doesn’t like that he would be the one responsible for taking the RV to the nearby rest stop area to drain the black tank.

They both said they would much rather prefer to stay in our living room or that we could put our kids and one of their sons in our sons room and they can share our daughters room with their younger son. Or maybe have some of the kids camp out in the living room.

None of those options appeal to us. With everything how it is and us all being stuck at home my husband, our kids, and I have gotten on each other’s nerves more than a few times. We feel like taking away our kids private spaces would be really disastrous.

As for the living room my husband and I are both working from home, so we need our own separate areas to focus. My husbands job works with other branches in other countries so he’s often working really late at night or really early in the morning in the living room. So having people sleeping in there wouldn’t work out well.

If they were just staying for a few days we probably could make due with them staying in the living room, but they will likely need to stay with us for weeks, if not months. ######

Response: NTA that was what you were willing to do, they should be grateful. It’s understandable why you need your whole house. ######


Prompt:
We are both 25. I'm a fat guy,  I have been fat since the start of the relationship. My weight has fluctuated a bit but I'm 10 pounds lighter than when the relationship started and working on losing more.

I wear a 38" waist in jeans and an XL/2XL in tops... for my birthday my girlfriend bought me a bunch of (expensive) new clothes that are WAY too small for me.

She bought me jeans in a 28" waist and tops in a medium.

She told me that I can wear them when I lose weight and hopefully they would motivate me.

I mentioned once to her that when I was around 16/17 I was skinny and wore a 28, but I'm not sure it's feasible to get that skinny again. I'm not sure I even want to, I was borderline underweight. I gained the weight due to giving up sport and extreme depression and binge eating disorder that started at age 21. I don't binge anymore but I'm still fat.

She never consulted me on what I want to look like and I just feel kind of hurt and disrespected. I just feel like she's basically told me "happy birthday you fat fuck" lol..

I think she must be really disgusted by my body to do something like that. It's not her fault, my body really is disgusting, but I guess there's always a part of you that hopes your partner is attracted anyway.

Our sex life is not the best- it was okay at first but now she doesn't initiate much. I never take off my shirt around her.

I tried to act pleased with what she bought but obviously she saw I was upset. She has made comments about my weight before and I can't help feeling like she knew it would hurt me.

Am i the asshole for getting upset at a gift? Was she just trying to help? ######

Response: NTA that was just a nasty gift. She didn't even get you one thing that you could wear now for your birthday ######


Prompt:
Me and my friends are in college. We don't have that much money but it's enough and we aren't exactly poor. One day, we went out to eat and I said I'd pay for their meals because I was having a good day and felt like it. I ordered food for 10 Euros. 2 out of my 3 friends ordered a very expensive fish and together their food cost 80Euros. My other friend just got a burger and a sprite. I didn't really check the price of what they wanted to eat, because we were playing uno and I wasn't really paying attention. When the bill came, and I saw that their food + drinks was really expensive, I refused to pay for their food. I would have had enough money to pay, but I think that it's unacceptable to buy something so expensive when someone else is paying. We weren't even close friends, we met a few weeks ago and talked every 2 days. They ended up paying for their own food and I still payed for my other friends (Burger and a sprite) food. May I add that this was just a normal restaurant, basically everything else  was at a normal price.

TLDR: I refused to pay for two friends meals because their food was way to expensive.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA that was incredibly rude to pick food that was quadruple the price of your food. If these are new friends I’d consider this a red flag regarding continuing these friendships. ######


Prompt:
My close friend and I are dating 2 girls that are also close friends.

When it comes to relationships, my friend is a psycho. He made her delete every guy off of her Snapchat, he has her location and her instagram log in and her Snapchat log in. He has 0 trust for her, cusses her out all the time, she can’t do anything without asking his approval first not even going out with her parents, he doesn’t even let her wear shorts outside. She has to filter everything she says because he takes everything the wrong way and cusses her out. She’s been very patient for the past 6 months they were dating, but the entire 6 months they fought a lot every single day.

Of course, I knew about everything because my girl would tell me and my friend would tell me. I’m also friends with my girls close friend too and I care about her.

Basically, her life is hell and she has to censor everything she says and has anxiety 99% of the time because he cusses her out if she doesn’t answer his call right away or doesn’t respond to his text within 2 minutes.

I felt really bad so I had a talk with her and my girl (they came to me for advice I didn’t insert myself) and basically I told her that he’s not going to change and if she can’t handle this for the next  6 months and the 6 months after that, then she should break up with him. And that same night after talking to me, she did break up with him. I feel like shot but I’m happy for her because that relationship was ruining this girl and my friend too he would get really crazy. I just feel bad for helping cause him pain. AITA for breaking bro code? ######

Response: NTA that was an abusive relationship going nowhere good. Also, the "bro code" is nothing more than a stupid by product of a sit com and it's ridiculous and kinda unrealistic. It almost ruined a group of friends I was involved in and my demand to abolish it saved us. ######


Prompt:
This happened about a month ago but I've still been arguing with my family about this. I was babysitting my 11 year old cousin and he had never seen the Lion King before, to my dismay as that was my favorite movie growing up. I thought I was doing him a favor, introducing him to a cultural masterpiece.

Turns out he didnt care less and was playing on the iPad the entire time anyway. But where the problem arose was when I didnt think to skip over Mufasa's death scene??? Never in a million years did I actually think that was even a thing, but alas when his parents come to pick him up and ask what we did and I told them what we watched, they questioned me if I made sure to skip over that scene. I was like "uhh.. huh?"

It caused a huge scene and a big fight that still hasn't been resolved. I really didnt even say anything, it is mostly one sided about how I am so irresponsible and opening up their kid to that sort of violence is going to ruin his life. The most I said was "this generation is going to grow up weird as fuck if you control every aspect of their life like this, what's next he is not allowed to ride bikes with his friends without you driving in your car next to them??".

I obviously would never tell someone how to raise their kid, but he is also 11..I'd understand their position more if he was like 4 or 5, but like he has definitely seen far worse at that age.. right? ######

Response: NTA that scene is a watershed moment in childhood entertainment. It still fucks me up to this day. Kids absolutely need to see it. Plus the movie makes no sense without is. ######


Prompt:
So I work in the ER- and a few weeks ago we had a larger patient in a room close to the nurses station. You can hear everything in that room that is said at the nurses station. The nurse taking care of him was one who I find immature and just an overall bad nurse.
So this patient asked the nurse to be turned in the cart- our Er carts are small and uncomfortable. So the nurse comes out of the room and to the station and proceeds to say “alright I’m gonna need 12 people to help me with big boy down there.” “Alright sir, hold on I’m gonna need a fork lift.” To which I was appalled, at how inappropriate this nurse was. So normally I would tell the charge nurse but she was laughing along! So I texted my manager and they said they would take care of it. The nurse got written up.
Well this week word got out I was the one who reported her and her and her catty friend group have been giving me shit all week.
Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA That poor patient! It's hard enough needing to be a patient at a hospital without being verbally abused while there. ######


Prompt:
I (24f) just left an abusive relationship in the end of February. I moved in with my family because I had nowhere else to go. I just found out that I'm pregnant and told my sister (20) and my mom. I haven't told the rest of my family yet because I want to get a doctor's appointment to confirm and to make sure everything is ok first, but today I decided to tell my brother (22). After I told him, he told me that my sister already told him. I super pissed at her because it wasn't her news to tell. I feel like she violated my trust in so many levels, not to mention stealing a special moment from me. She won't tell me who all she has told about my pregnancy and I'm really hurt. I have a very high risk of losing the baby and I feel like the more people know, the more it will hurt when I lose the baby.

Am I the asshole for being angry at my sister?

I apologise for the bag formatting. I'm on my phone and this is one of my first posts. ######

Response: NTA that kind of information should be assumed private unless told otherwise. Especially with close family. Your sister knew better. ######


Prompt:
Since getting engaged, my fiancé and I have been struggling to nail down the basics, including the venue and of course, the date. Our families both have pretty busy schedules and finding a date that suited both families and was in the reasonable future has been quite challenging. Fortunately, finally settled on January 30, 2021 (COVID permitting), one of the very few weekends that both our families are available to travel and attend our wedding.

The only slight conflict with the date is that my grandmother’s birthday is the following Tuesday, on February 2nd. My grandmother lives pretty far from my immediate family and myself, and even when I was growing up we didn’t celebrate her birthday beyond a phone call. However, since the wedding date we picked is so close to her birthday, my mom is insisting that we make our wedding reception a split party between our reception and my grandmother’s birthday party. She wants to have a separate cake for my grandmother beside the wedding cake and everything. I love my grandmother, but our wedding reception will also have my fiancé’s family, our college friends, and work friends in attendance who have never met my grandmother. None of her friends will be there and I feel like it would be weird to celebrate her birthday with a bunch of strangers. Also, not to be self centered, but I kind of want my wedding day to be about me and my fiancé, particularly since we’re the ones paying for the venue, food, and entertainment. I want my grandmother to feel celebrated and loved, but I also want to have my special wedding day.

So, AITA for telling my mother no and that we should celebrate my grandmother separately? I don’t want to be a bridezilla, so I’m willing to negotiate, but I just feel super weird about it. ######

Response: NTA that is so weird. What does your grandmother think? ######


Prompt: My husband (28M) and I (26F) have been talking about his interest in music and movies and he admits that he think men are better/more interesting in movies and in music. They’re better writers, singers, musicians, etc. He doesn’t think women are incapable of being just as good as men or better, he just says he hasn’t found any female artists that impress him as much as men do. Which is upsetting enough I guess. But he also says the few female artists he does like, he won’t play when I’m around because he doesn’t want me to start playing more female artists all the time since he doesn’t like a majority of them. So obviously I’m pissed. I feel like he’s just manipulating when me he does that. Who’s the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA That is seriously messed up. Its fine if all his favorite artists are male, but its really dickish to take that 5 steps further to "women aren't as good of artist or writers because I personally haven't found a work by a women I like as much as mans" Thats the exact reason that we know JK Rowling as JK not Joann, and it is bullshit.

And to say he wont play female artists around you just so you don't play the music you like, thats manipulative as hell. If you don't dump his ass I'd just constantly have my phone in my pocket blasting female power anthems every time we hung out. ######


Prompt:
My(23F) brother(28) is dating this guy(20). He told me and our parents about it a year ago. I was kinda weirded out about the age difference but they’re both adults so I didn’t say anything.

I visited my brother often and I got close with his boyfriend too, we became good friends. Last time I visited them(this was few months ago before all this stuff was happening by the way),my brother wasn’t home, so me and his boyfriend were hanging out. I was on his laptop and going through the photos, I wasn’t snooping, he was sitting right next to me, doing something.

I came across an old photo of him and my brother. He looked reaally young. I asked him about it and at first he kind of freaked out, but he finally told me that they’ve been dating for longer than they told us. He told me that they have been seeing each other for 6 years. So he was  14 and my brother was 22.

I was really shocked and disgusted. I left, he called me few times but I ignored it. Few hours later my brother started calling me. I answered and told him that I was disgusted with him and I didn’t want to see him anymore. He said that they weren’t even really dating and they started dating when he was 18, basically bullshiting me.

I’ve cut him off completely. Only person who knows the actual reason is my best friend. She says that I’m kinda overreacting and since they’re both adults now there’s no point in having this reaction. ######

Response: NTA that is really creepy. Think about how that boy's parents would feel if he was dating a 22 year old man. Really sick behavior, even if their relationship turned out to be positive; dont let it fool you, any sort of sexual relationship with a minor (not even a late minor a "just hit puberty" minor) is abusive and disgusting ######


Prompt:
Aita for insisting on using my sister's internet for one hour for a big job interview? Backstory: she had already said yes and it was planned and everything, now she just texted me that her boyfriend is going to be home unexpectedly so I basically need to find somewhere else. Her boyfriend and I have never had an argument or anything, he is just really possessive of her. And before you ask, he was like this before the current situation too. If I was over visiting her (rare occasions) I would have to leave before he got home just because he doesn't like other people there. I don't have any other options for internet for my interview since the city library is closed. Aita for telling her boyfriend to suck it up for an hour so I can get a good job? Edit:I also want to note i live in a very small town. No Starbucks or McDonald's or any other source of internet besides the city library which is closed. I would go somewhere else if I could but that would mean going to the next city (about 40 minutes away). I have very very few options here.

Edit edit: wow I wasnt expecting to get this much response so quickly. So I'm going to add some things.

Yes I had bad vibes about their relationship before this but after reading all the input I definitely realize just how bad it is and will be working harder to try to help her with this any way I can. I've already sat down and we had a heart to heart convo. Thank y'all for opening my eyes to just how bad her situation is.

I do have data to occasionally get on internet, like on Reddit, but it isn't a good enough signal to handle an hour long video conference interview. Luckily everything ended up working out okay. ######

Response: NTA That is extremely unhealthy behavior he has and you should be very worried about your sister. Normal people do not act like that. ######


Prompt:
This happened a few months ago, but my brain won't let this one go.

So I was hanging out with some friends. Two guys, one woman. We're all in our early 20s and have had our fair share of romance in life. The topic of sex popped up and we start talking about some of our past experiences. One guy joked about how having sex only made his dick bigger and bigger. We all laughed and he said that he wished that's how it works. My female friend (let's call her Sarah) piped up and said "Yeah, for women, it's the complete opposite. The more sex you have, the bigger your labia gets and the looser you become." There were some chuckles, but then I asked her if she was serious. She said she was.

Now, this is a big myth. I was surprised a woman who has had some experience actually believes that. I basically told her this, and then she started getting annoyed, asking "how me and my dick knows about that". I said the same way I know anything about female anatomy- I've read up on it. The whole "women get looser" thing is something sexist dudes made up to slut-shame women. My other friends were silent on this. She then just said: "Whatever, I'm not in the mood for this kind of mansplaining."

So I'm at a loss here. AITA for explaining something that I feel like people should just know about? ######

Response: NTA Thank you for trying to bust this myth. ######


Prompt: So my parents and I were talking about my future and I told them how I want to get married and have a few kids and that I already have names picked out. My mom told me ‘good luck’ and how she didn’t even get to name any of us kids that she birthed. She told me she wanted to name me *name* but her MIL was against it and was being sarcastic telling my mom she could just call me that on her own but my name would be what it is now and that it’s tradition for the mans parents to pick a name for your kid. I was annoyed by this but said I wouldn’t let that happen to myself or my kids and if I’m going to be carrying a baby for 9 long hard months and then birthing it out of me then id definitely be the one naming it along with my husband. Also apparently it’s tradition to not know your babies gender but like I said I’ll still know I just won’t tell anyone until it’s born. I’m pretty superstitious when it comes to the evil eye so I told them my pregnancy would be very discreet and lowkey and that no one would know I’m even going into birth until after I’ve had my baby. But they thought me insisting on naming my own child was rude and disrespectful to my future in laws. ######

Response: NTA Telling you that you can't name your own child is a shitty, disrespectful tradition. ######


Prompt:
My parents divorced when I was 5, my dad remarried almost immediately (like within months after the divorce) and my mom remarried when I was 9 or 10 can't really remember.  My dad's wife had 4 kids who were at the time 7,5, 3 and 2 while I was 5 when we all moved in together.  Now I didn't live full time with them, I was half at my mom's half at their place and they were the same way and were only together for about 2 weeks out of the month.  It was not a good situation when we first moved in, everything from the time the youngest could walk was always a 4v1.  Every vote was always against mine, every argument with 1 became an argument with all 4, and some other stuff that made me really hate going over to my dad's if they were over.  While my mom's husband had a kid my age too I get along with her WAY better than I do the kids at my dad's house.

I was recently talking with my friend's while I'm at my dad's on the phone, my door was slightly open at the time.  My friend said something like "I didn't know your brother was on the baseball team".  I corrected him and reminded him that he is my step brother not my brother and we dropped the conversation and went on with the rest of the day.

When I was done though, my dad told me to quit it with the step sibling stuff and to just call them my siblings.  I told him I'm just being literal in what they are, but he is practically forcing me to call them my brother and sisters now.  AITA? ######

Response: NTA tell your dad if they ever treated you like family then maybe you would speak about them differently. ######


Prompt:
So I haven’t worn a bra in like 3 years, I’m only a B cup and I just find them uncomfortable. It’s not like I’m wearing see through shirts or anything but I guess yeah if you look you can see the outline of my nipple.

I’ve been working at this job for almost two years and it’s never been an issue but yesterday an older coworker approached me and asked if I could start wearing a bra to work because she doesn’t like me “throwing my body around”. I basically told her yeah sorry but no, I don’t even own a bra and it’s not part of dress code from what I’ve ever noticed.

She huffed and walked off but now I’m about to head into my shift today and I’m getting anxious on if I’m in the wrong here. AITA for not wearing bras? ######

Response: NTA tell her to stop looking at your boobs... ######


Prompt:
We have a friend who came out openly as a lesbian two years ago (we're all 15 y/o now) and ever since the beginning of the last school semester, she's been touching me.

She was always hugging me from behind, or pinching my butt, or squeezing my breasts. At first it didn't bother me because my friends and I all playfully do this to each other, but then I started to notice that she was doing it more frequently to me than them.

Whenever we sat down, she always found some way to sit next to me, and always found some way to put her hand on my knee.

Our group likes to do "air kisses" - where you kiss the air on each side of someone's cheek - but more than once, she has "accidentally" kissed my actual cheek. But she never "accidentally" kisses any of our other friend's cheeks...

Right before they canceled school, she made a beaded bracelet for everyone in our friend group, but mine and hers were the only ones with hearts on it.

I'm too afraid to tell any of my other friends what she is doing to me because I don't want them to think I'm homophobic. COVID has been a safe haven for me because it gave me an excuse to avoid her for many months.

But we're all supposed to hang out tomorrow and I don't know if I can keep doing this. She's touched me so much that even as I write this I can think forward to tomorrow and already feel her touching me again.

Will I be the asshole if I tell her to stop?

TL;Dr I have a lesbian friend who touched me so mucb that I want to tell her to stop touching me, but our group is a very touchy-feely group and I don't want my friends to accuse me of being homophobic. ######

Response: NTA tell her to quit sexually harassing you ######


Prompt:
About a year or so ago, my wife asked me for advice on how to invest her IRA contributions in the stock market. Note: she was very hesitant to take my advice, and thought investing was like betting, because she thinks it is the same thing as gambling. Without pressuring at all, she took my advice anyways on what to invest in (low to moderate risk stuff). She then proceeded to mention it to me nearly every time the market had a bad day in a very whiny and complaining voice. When I reached my limit in patience after numerous such complaints, I said this is making me feel guilty and responsible, and maybe we shouldn't talk about this, and you do what you want to do with your IRA funds ( i.e. if you want to sell, do what you want.)

She proceeds to get super defensive and say how it "wasn't her intention" to make me feel bad. Fast forward a few months to today, she again raises how she wants some more "tips." I say I don't want to be involved at all. She then proceeds to get angry at me, including for bringing up the past incidents mentioned above, and continues to focus on "I didn't mean to make you feel guilty" as if that's the only thing that matters. I repeatedly say that it's not really about what you intended, it's about how you speak, the context, and how that can make me feel in light of that. Now she's in another room and we aren't talking.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA tell her to hire a financial advisor ######


Prompt:
My cousin had to make a delivery for work—8-10 hour drive or something like that. I told him he could crash at my place on his way back as it was about 4 hours closer than his house. When he got there, I told him to help himself to anything in the kitchen. He slept on the couch(I have a spare bed but that’s where he prefers I guess) and when I woke up the next morning for work he was surrounded by some trash and a few dirty dishes.

I get home from work and there’s even more trash and dirty dishes surrounding him. I go to the kitchen and it’s been pretty much raided. All of my breakfast bowls(I had ) were gone, half the box of hot pockets was empty, both big bags of chips were eaten, 2 litre coke had barely any left, all of my oatmeal pies were gone(I only had 1), my box of protein waffles were gone, he even ate like 3 of my GF’s veggie burgers.

He was only here 1 night and 1 day! He arrived Thursday at around 10pm and left Friday at 5pm. Why did he need to eat that much??

When I called him out he just said “dude what, you said I could eat anything” I said “yeah anything—not everything! I’m trying to limit my grocery store trips now I’ll have to go again this week. Come on dude, what the hell” he offered to give me money but I declined it.

Later his mom called my mom and said when he got to her house  he was acting weird when she was asking about me. So my mom called me to ask for the details. I guess I pissed him off but was I really wrong here? ######

Response: NTA take anything you want means dinner (and breakfast and lunch depending on how long they’re staying) and maybe a couple of snacks. He also broke the unspoken rule of don’t take the last of anything (at the very least ask first) and leave enough for the host/whoever bought he food to have some too (that doesn’t mean 5 drops of soda that means at least 1 glass). ######


Prompt:
I (23F) have been dating a 27 year old man for about three months now. The relationship is slow moving but nice- we see each other 1-2 times a week and generally have a great time together. Here's the issue. This dude teases me ALL the time. Constant ribbing kind of stuff, poking fun. I like the banter most of the time, and tend to do it right back. All is fun and games, except for the fact that this dude can dish it out like it's no one's business, but can NOT take it. He pokes fun at everything about me, even to the point where it's made me kind of upset. I've brought it up but it doesn't seem to faze him....but the moment I cross any imaginary perceived line on his side, he goes on like i'm some sort of roast master and that he only teases me in retaliation....which is completely not true, as he usually starts it.

The whole thing is really getting out of hand and is seriously making me question my own actions. For instance, he constantly comments on my outfits (making fun of floral prints, etc.) so when he showed up one day straight from four wheeling, I told him he looked like a barn yard animal and he lost his shit and immediately insulted what I was wearing. When I brought it up, he said he only insults my outfits because I do it to him. Last week we went to a party, and he made me a drink. It was really bitter, and I don't like bitter drinks. I was really tispy, so I apparently kept bringing it up at the table jokingly and asking for sugar. He hasn't talked to me for days and is PISSED that I "purposefully embarrassed him in front of our friends..." coming from the same man who refused to try my cake later that night out of spite. Once I realized I had hurt his feelings by insulting his drink so many times, I apologized a lot and said I would stop the ribbing and watch what I say...but I can't help but feel gaslighted. So what do you think Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA sweetie. Dump this man like the trash he is. If he cant respect you enough to understand his comments have gone too far and then tries to gaslight you into thinking *you* started things, then he doeant deserve to be in a relationship as that's very abusive behaviour. Run from this abusive immature idiot before it's too late! ######


Prompt: I (m,23) have zero tolerance for people who are late. I have been dating a girl (22) for a few months now. She is always late, usually 5-10minutes but sometimes 15-20minutes. It drives me nuts but I dont say much. Yesterday we had a date, she did not show up I was calling her but she was not picking up the phone. After a while I decided to go back home. After 50mins she calls me and says she went to the beauty salon to get her hair done so thats why she was not able to pick up the phone and she was late. She went really mad when told her that I already left. She called me AH, because she spent all the time to look beautiful to me but I did not wait and just left. So, AITA here? ######

Response: NTA Stop dating this girl, she doesn't respect you or your time. Very selfish. ######


Prompt:
I’m my homes Cinderella basically. No, my family isn’t abusive. But all the chores in my house are given to me. Everyone else is exempt from picking up after themselves...I must do it for them. If I’m sick and can’t do it, no one will do it. If I don’t feed the dog, no one will do it. Giant spill on the counter? Whoever did it won’t clean it up. I have to do it.

My sister is the worst out of the 3 people in my family. She will cook something and leave the scraps of food all over the kitchen all day. There’s so much clutter all over the counters there’s no room for anything. Day after day I have to clean it.

I’ve mentioned this to my parents and they don’t give a fuck. My parents are very lazy tbh and if it’s not their problem or if it doesn’t affect them they don’t care. They are so easy on my sister who can do whatever she wants, when she wants. She’s 17 and I’m 22. I’ve asked her to contribute and clean up after herself but she just whines.

So today she made a salad. There’s lettuce all over the counter, chopped tomatoes on the floor, and dirty dishes left all over the table. So I took her mess and her dishes and put it on her room on her floor so she’d finally clean it. She freaked out and asked why it was there and I said “because it’s your mess and if you keep refusing to clean up after yourself, I’ll move the mess to your room so I don’t have to deal with it. It’s ready to be cleaned whenever you are!”

She flipped out and told my parents I messed up her room and they got upset with me saying that I’m causing drama in the house and that my sister is bored being in the house all day and doesn’t need this stress. AITA? ######

Response: NTA Stop cleaning up after them. I guess you should keep feeding the dog but stop everything else. Everyone else needs to pull their own weight. ######


Prompt:
Okay, so some backstory. My parents are pretty well off, and with everything happening have been pretty lucky to have kept their work and consistent pay checks. I (21F) am married, moved out, finished college this semester, and completely financially independent from my parents, although my husband and I still go to their house for dinner about once a week. I have 2 brothers, one older and one younger, and i’m close in age to both of them. Neither are financially independent. My younger brother (20) still lives at home and my older brother (23) still has about a year left in college and my parents pay for his rent and food. They paid for my rent and food until I got married. They paid my tuition all 4 years, and they’ll pay my brothers tuition until he graduates. (we go to a school where tuition is 5-6k/year)

While at their house for dinner, I mentioned that my husband and I got our stimulus checks, and my dad said that we should give him $200 since he would have gotten $500 per kid (or $1500 plus $2400 for he and my mom), to make it “fair”

My husband and I could really use the money, and feel like since i’m not financially dependent on my parents that we shouldn’t have to pay them anything. WIBTA if I told him I won’t pay him?

info: I don’t mean this to sound like I don’t appreciate everything they’ve done for me, because I do and I have told them that. I couldn’t work through college because I had a full course load and my program required 20ish hours/week of unpaid work as a graduation requirement. However, my parents offered to support me through college from the start. ######

Response: NTA Stimulus checks are to help boost the economy and get out of a tight spot. Not a way to have to pay back a father who wasn't forced to pay for a kids living expenses and tuition past 18. ######


Prompt:
I’ll keep it short and sweet. So my friend (I’ll call him Steve) is known as a huge flirt amongst our friends. We call him the bulldog, cause he literally takes every chance he gets to flirt with any female in range, even though he has a girlfriend. From buying girls random stuff to just weird and uncalled for compliments, he’s the ultimate flirt.

So anyway, I was at a small get together with some friends last weekend, and Steve was there, without his girlfriend. Steve was all over my girl, but I let it slide because I trust my girlfriend. (This has nothing to do with her, In not upset with her in the slightest) My girlfriend starts drinking pretty heavily, and begins throwing up halfway through the night. I’m taking care of her, and Steve starts to help as well. At first I was happy for the help, but as soon as I walked away to get some water, Steve swoops in and starts rubbing her back, and holding her neck with his hands. He was REALLY close. I didn’t really care, but it gets weirder. I try to come by her side and hold her hair back, but he kind of blocks me off! He put his arm around her to carry her off to sit in her and my tent.

At this point, I really think there is no point at all for him to be helping. If anything, he’s making it worse for her. I mean if I were puking my guts out I’d rather there be nobody around except for maybe one person. Later that night, my girlfriend told me that Steve kept asking for hugs because he and his girlfriend were not in a good spot and he missed her. What?????!! However, she did say that I shouldn’t be mad and that Steve was genuinely just trying to help out the situation. He CAN be a nice and selfless person, but I was a little too weirded out to tell.

Was he just being nice? Am I just being jealous? ######

Response: NTA Steve was taking advantage of your girlfriend. It is generally considered good to protect a friend or partner who is not sober from people who might take advantage of them in that state. ######


Prompt: I(16m) have two younger brothers. One is 7. And to put it simply he is addicted to the PS4, specifically fortnite. He hounds our parents for money for Vbucks and has to have the PS4 constantly or he throws a fit. Or he sits in the room when someone else is on it and just trash talks. So basically I’m getting the PS5 when it releases for my good grades/Christmas and because he keeps throwing a fit My mother is considering getting him his own PS4. I’m the only one who doesn’t deal with his crap and he knows it. So when I heard she was considering it my first thought was OMFG you can’t be serious. She hates the fact I don’t want to have anything to do with him because of how he treats me and he has lied to cause issues for me and most of the time she takes his side. Yes she takes the word of the 7 year old over the 16 year old. I just don’t know what to do anymore. AITA? ######

Response: NTA start recording this stuff and talk to them. Print out signs of gaming addiction show and highlight behaviors that match say your concerned what's happening and that your brother needs help. ######


Prompt:
I'm an artist and I found a following online. I'm starting to make some serious cash for what I do and it's been helping me save up so I can finally move out of my parent's place.

Due to the quarentine, this has basically become my full time job which means I spend a large portion of the day in my room. I also work well into the night since there are fewer distractions, so I tend to sleep in until 10 each day.

I don't neglect home responsablilties and I do come down for a few hours each day. However my mom wants me to be down as often as she is and wake up much earlier too. No matter how much I tell her about what I do she doesn't understand that I actually work, and that my success hinges on my output.

She says that I'm just neglecting her feelings. That I'm just using this art thing as an excuse to avoid her and be lazy.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA Sounds like your mother needs a hobby and some friends. If she needs you for serious reasons like medical needs, you gotta be available for that but other stuff should be able to wait, as if you were actually away from home and not there to do it. ######


Prompt:
My cousins "James" and "Lydia" have 9 children. They are a wonderful family, and we spend holidays together. My husband and I suspect that their youngest "Grace" has Down syndrome due to very subtle physical features, motor delays, and her mother's age when she had her, but we haven't said anything to anyone else in the family.

When we were over to their house for Thanksgiving, I was fussing over all the kids like usual, and things went wrong when I got to Grace. I did the whole "Wow, you're so big!" thing and asked Lydia, "Is she walking yet?" Lydia very harshly snapped, "No. But nothing is wrong with her." Honestly, it was a little shocking and I was caught off guard. All I said was "Okay. But if there was, you know we would never love her any less." That was the end of that, and I thought everything was okay. Then, we weren't invited to the family Christmas.

I recently was talking on the phone to James and brought up to him that we had gotten all the kids Christmas gifts. He then told me that Lydia is still very upset that I asked if Grace was walking yet and that she expected an apology before we would be welcome over again. I'm planning on apologizing anyway, but I really don't think I did anything wrong. AITA? ######

Response: NTA sounds like your cousin is overly sensitive. It’s a normal question which doesn’t need an apology at all. Unless the baby is three years old, asking “are they walking yet, talking yet, sleeping through the night yet” are all normal questions. ######


Prompt:
So about 5 weeks ago, this girl and I matched on tinder, and we both really liked each other! From then on,  we have been chatting, pretty much nonstop, throughout lockdown over Instagram.

Yesterday, she told me we were too different and she wouldn't be able to date me (crushing). She did say, however, that she really wanted to remain just as close, text as often as we do, and remain friends, to the extent that we hang out irl once lockdown has ended.

Initially, I was quite hurt because I really did like her but accepted that we try and be friends. I did this because I did really like texting her.

 However, throughout the day we've been texting just as much and flirting to the same extent. Although I enjoy it, I don't think its sustainable, because I feel like shit texting her, knowing she doesn't want anything other than friendship. I get pits in my stomach texting her when I think about it.

AITA because I'm throwing away this friendship because it's not leading to something romantic (which is why I started it in the first place) ######

Response: NTA sounds like she's leading you on and keeping you around as a fallback crush. Don't waste your time. ######


Prompt:
My father and his family lost their home and had no place to live. He has a teenage son, my half brother, who is 15 and a known smoker. Because they had nowhere else to go, I offered them to stay at our other house we usually rent out to other people. The house is situated within our property, just next to our home.

Prior to my dad moving in, my mother and my sister moved in with us 6 months ago after my stepdad passed away.

We have many spare bedrooms in our home so them moving in wasn't a problem. .

This is where the conflict arises :

I don't charge rent from my mom. I don't let her cook. I cook for 5 people in our home (my husband, my mom, my toddler and my sister). It's just my way of looking out for my mom because that's what she did for me when I was young and struggling. She raised me as a single mother for years..

My dad has a problem with this because I am charging him and his wife the same rent I charge other tenants (it's a well furnished house). He thinks I'm playing favourites between parents because I don't charge my mom any money. He thinks he should pay less rent as compared to other tenants because I'm his daughter.

 Apparently, he doesn't like to be reminded of the fact that he charged me rent the one time when I was very sick and had to move in with him and his wife when I was in college. I had a part time job, and struggled to pay my bills with my illness. I wasn't shown any consideration.

He also has a problem because my husband doesn't help him out with his groceries. He is older now, 71 and thinks we should be the one getting him his groceries. We don't think so, his wife is 50 and he has a young son. They can be the ones doing the grocery shopping if he's to fragile to move around.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA sounds like a case of “you reap what you sow” ######


Prompt: So my brother is a twitch streamer he isnt huge but he averages around 100 to 150 concurrent viewers during stream. He does it full time while going to college. When he streams I(14M) use it as background noise and normally lurk. Today I decided to say something in chat and he ignored it which whatever streamers ignore messages all the time but I talked in chat every couple minutes. Never brought up any affliction with him never said he was my brother I was just acting like a normal viewer. He then went on a bathroom break for the stream and went and knocked on my door telling me to stop talking in his twitch chat. I asked why and he said becuase my mods on my stream know who you are. I asked why that's a problem I am friends with one of his mods none of them said anything about me being there. Well he went back to his room and went back to streaming. I then said something in chat and he muted me for 48 hours. Am I missing something here? I didnt ask for mod. I didnt bring up that I was his brother so people in his chat would pay attention to me I just watching a stream like i would any other stream. ######

Response: NTA sorry lil dude, idk what the hells  up with your brother. If I ever stream I hope my siblings watch but that’s just me. ######


Prompt: So a coworker of mine and I happen to share a lot of the same friends. Today we were talking about some of our friends, and she starts describing this one friend she has. He sounds familiar so I say that he sounds familiar, I have a similar friend and start describing him thinking it might be the same person. I said he was smart, really funny, black, tall, and sporty. She then looks at me funny and said that she didn't know I was racist. I was really confused I said what? She said that since I said my friend is black that makes me racist. I was so confused and flabbergasted so I just went to do other things. I've been thinking and do I just not know what racism is? Is saying someone is black racist? I am still confused ######

Response: NTA some people are just so scared of being racist they get ridiculous. ######


Prompt:
Hello!
My sister said I could use her throwaway account so I didn’t have ties to my personal one. Also on mobile.

My husband’s sister, my SIL, is due to get married next month. The venue is allowing her wedding but they had to heavily adjust the guest list. My daughter was set to be the flower girl and my husband and I would just be attending as a guest. I was cut from the guest list. I understand as I have never been made to feel welcomed in the family and we’re not that close. Why take up a spot when she has plenty of other people she wants around?

Well due to obvious reasons, and my husband’s job banning travel (the only travel he is allowed is a work related trip here in the near future), he told my SIL they would no longer be able to attend. My SIL then decided that I would be the one to bring my daughter to the wedding but I still wouldn’t be a guest. I would just be driving her 12 hours to another state and hanging out at the grandparents home while everyone else is at the wedding.

Here’s where I feel like TA.
I informed her that I would not be sending or traveling with my daughter because 1- am immune compromised, 2- I have school (online) and a work from home job that demand my time as well, and 3- there are family members who my husband is no contact with and he would not want her around these people without one of us present.
This information caused her to massively flip. She said I was salty because I was cut from the guest list, she now no longer has a flower girl, and I’m ruining a very special family picture she has in mind. She was going to have a family photo taken at my MIL’s grave with everyone in wedding attire. I mentioned that my husband wouldn’t even be in the picture because he wouldn’t be able to attend but she just kept blaming me.

I’m honestly starting to overthink this to where I’m feeling like an asshole and maybe I should find a way to get my daughter there.

So Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA So much not the asshole and she so much is the asshole that I worry that you have to ask this, as you seem to have gotten used to a high degree of assholeness from her. ######


Prompt:
Some years ago I was driving to work when I was struck by another vehicle who... let’s say the other driver (Jackass) should not have been driving at that time. I’ll always remember him laughing his fat ass off as the ambulance pulled away.

Long hospital stay, multiple surgeries, fired from my job, lots of unkind gossip; and my kids/husband/parents and I suffered.

I managed to claw my way into a good job now but went through a lot of shit first.

Although Jackass has never apologized to me, his pastor  (my dad’s stepbrother’s wife’s nephew) reached out to me to express he’s “sorry” and “in a program”. He asked me not to proceed with the lawsuit as it’s not “Biblical”.

Their “church family” harassed and bullied me a ton over the years, to the point that law encirclement & my kids’ schools have had to get involved.

I just settled the lawsuit for max $$ though I have perm scars, PTSD, and physical limitations as a result of my injuries. There are people who refuse to be around me bc of being grossed out by my scars.

Pastor called me again, reiterated Jackass is sorry, and that for his “recovery” I am somehow obligated to forgive him in front of his very large congregation. I told Pastor to go fuck himself and have let everyone know that I’m afraid of Pastor and of Jackass.

Step-uncle (whom I’ve never liked) just called to ask me to reconsider - apparently MY calling the cops and filing the lawsuit has caused both Pastor and Jackass to have trouble at their jobs. Apparently Jackass wants to get his citizenship & Pastor wants to be a foster parent and claim my refusal to forgive blocks both.

Step-uncle’s family never ONCE reached out to see how my family and I were doing. But they organized a meal train and a free lawyer for Jackass.

I maintain that IDGAF, I never heard any compassion or remorse from Jackass or his church; why should I care about their ego now.

Who’s TA here? ######

Response:
 NTA so many times.
I'm very sorry for everything you had and have to go through. ######


Prompt:
A few days ago, a bunch of people had gotten nudes of my girlfriend. I hadn't found out about it until my friend had showed me that he had gotten one. Obviously, I confronted my girlfriend about this, who seemed pretty upset. Apparently she had been trying to send a picture to someone, misclicked, and accidentally sent the nude instead. The person she sent it to in question ended up sharing it with a bunch of people. At least, that was her reasoning for it.

Obviously, I got really angry. First of all, she needs to be more careful, and second of all, why does she even have nudes of herself on her phone?! She never sends me nudes so I feel like the only real explanation was that she was going to send nudes to other people anyway. Admittedly, I lost my cool a little, and I yelled at her and called her a cheater.

She didn't speak to me for two days, until I confronted her again. She told me that she was really upset that I was so angry over a small "mistake". I don't think my reaction was that unreasonable considering she did send nudes to other people but I'd like a second opinion. ######

Response:
 NTA so many people in the comments are turning this into a "you don't own her body she can take nudes of herself as much as she wants" "why aren't you mad at the guy who shared them" *when that clearly isn't the discussion here*. Your girlfriend should file a police report against the guy as it's definitely against the law to share someones naked pictures without their consent.

I find it very VERY suspicious that she accidentally sent a nude to someone, and even more suspicious that that person is a male, and even more suspicious that she didn't tell you right away.

It might be too late now but your first reaction when you found out should have been to tell her to show you the conversation with him. If the messages were flirty then it was obviously on purpose, if the messages were like memes or about work or whatever then maybe not. If she did it on accident then surely the first message after the nude would be something along the lines of “OH MY GOD, I’M SO SORRY I DIDN’T MEAN TO SEND THAT” **The fact that she didn't volunteer to show you her message history with this guy right after she found out you knew tells me she did it on purpose.**

I'm sorry bro but I'm pretty sure she did that shit, and you shouldn't be with someone like that. If you need to be sure then reach out to the guy she sent it to and ask him to screenshot the convo. I know it's fucked up because he's the only 100% established asshole here, but at least you could get some closure.

[EDIT] oh and everyone in this sub, keep this same gullible energy when the next boyfriend is caught sending dick pics to some girl and she exposes him. “babe i swear, it was an accident!!” ######


Prompt:
This happened a while ago but I’m still hearing about it in the family group chat.

Couple months ago my sister in law found out she was pregnant and her views on pregnancy and motherhood (as well as other things) are really strange, at least to me. For instance, the shape of a belly (mild) and how boys and girls should be raised (stereotypes all around). Then as her pregnancy progressed she made her views on birthing very clear: anyone who has a c-section is not fit to be a mother.

I was very confused because I was born via c-section and so was my oldest. I asked her why does she think so, she said that it was the easy way out and a mother should feel the pain for her baby, be one with the baby, and all that. My partner (their sibling) reminded her that I went through a c-section and SIL said, “well, my point still stands, doesn’t it? No offense (my name) but you are a bit absent in your oldest’s life. Is your career really that worth it?”

Me not being a stay at home mom has been a bit of a heated argument with this family for a while. My mil and a couple of the other sister/brother (it’s a big family) in laws haven’t been okay with it. My partner has no issue with it and either do some of the other in laws, and now she’s brought it up again!

So I told her the truth about her pregnancy: she doesn’t know who the father is. She keeps seeing her ex despite being with her current boyfriend of about 2 years. There’s not special about either one of them but she claims that she “just can’t quit him,” the other guy. Honestly wanted to barf.

She got super angry with me and threw a wooden spoon at me. She then stormed out and I got the brunt of it from the others. It’s still happening in the group chat and my father in law is asking if I could just apologize and get it over with since her due date is happening soon. I’m not that interested in apologizing but if you guys think I am I’ll do it. It’s much better to hear about it from a non family member ######

Response: NTA SIL deserves much worse imo. Since the family is pressuring you to apologise, are they also pressuring SIL to apologise? ######


Prompt:
My mom and I had a pretty rocky relationship while I was growing up, but the past 5 years or so has been great and we talk on the phone almost every day.

Yesterday at 4 I called her to wish her a Happy Mother's Day, and she was short with me from the beginning. I asked her how she was and she admitted she was sad that she spent all day waiting for me to call. I explained that I had been busy, and I was worried earlier when I had free time that she would be sleeping. I spent about 5 minutes trying to talk with her, but she just kept giving me one word answers or not responding at all. At the very end when I gave up and asked to speak to my dad, she gave me a sarcastic "Oh, of course you want to talk to dad."

I thought things would be okay with a little time, but late last night I realized that I never updated my relationship status on Facebook. I didn't make a big post. I just changed the status, and even though it's viewable to friends, it's not showing up on everyone's timeline so it has gotten minimal attention. We've been married for months (a small ceremony with just us, our pastor, and the couple that mentored us) and all our close family and friends already know, but it's news to old high school and college friends, for example.

I woke up this morning to multiple messages from my mom written in the middle of the night about how could I be so hurtful, why do I have time for Facebook but not her, why couldn't I send her a card or a gift or do something special for one day, why did Mother's Day have to be the day I made the big announcement, etc.. AITA? ######

Response: NTA shes being ridiculous and is having these lofty exectations. ######


Prompt:
I'm 18 years old, and when I tell people my parents are assholes they usually dismiss me as another spoiled bratty college student.
Except over the past two years I've come to realize how toxic they are.

They're the type that turns me into the black sheep of the family whenever I have a different opinion or value from them. They never talk it out, just fight about how childish I am and how they thought I was better than that (Example: My position on abortion).

They constantly use degrading actions and terms to try to get me to do what they want. I'm 167lbs (75kg) and 5'9" and they constantly call me a pig or say nobody would ever date me because they want me to get thinner. I exercise and I try to eat healthy, but once a month a girl wants a freaking chocolate bar and then if they see it it just turns into a 40 minute speech about how gross I am. It also frustrates me that they don't live up to what they preach.

I can never talk to them for more than 10 minutes without them starting a fight or criticizing me which is why I always stay locked in my room.

But here's the thing, financially they sacrificed so much for me. I'm aware that providing financial support doesn't mean that they're good parents, but they've fed me and given me decent life. My mother bought me a trip to Egypt last summer and it was great. My father paid for my braces for 5 years while he had a broken tooth all that time. But having a relationship with them is eating my mind away, specially since I lost my job  and they use money as way to control me.

They don't care for themselves and choose to care for me and I don't want to dishonor all they've given me, but they've been one of the main reasond I've had intense panic attacks and developed Depersonalization Disorder. AITA for planning on moving far away from them and then cutting off contact completely? ######

Response: NTA shelter and food is what they signed up for when they chose to make you,they had to do that, don't let them verbally abuse you for that ######


Prompt:
I’m pregnant with my fourth baby. My older sister and her partner who aren’t pregnant yet (not trying yet either) but plan to fall pregnant at some point this yr asked me tonight if I have any baby names. I said not really yet, because I don’t want opinions. My sister jokingly said “yeh ok, you never tell me anything” so I reluctantly said “well I do have a boys name chosen, it’s Henry”

Straight away her fiancé said “no can’t have that one, that’s my dads name” his dad past a few yrs ago. I get it, that name means something to them but I don’t think that means he can tell me I can’t use it. I said “ well sorry it’s the only name we like”
I even said that they can both be Henry. My sister said “don’t worry I think she is having a girl anyway”

I have two boys already. I struggled badly to find names for them- my oldest wasn’t named for two weeks. This time I fell in love with the name Henry almost immediately. I will be finding out my NIPT results in a few days. I feel like I’m likely to have a boy more so than another girl as I have two boys.

After his comment I overheard them talking about it- made me feel so awkward and if I’m honest- pissed off! This is why I didn’t want to tell them names. I also should add that my little sister is also pregnant. She has found out she is having a girl and when she told my older sister that they are thinking they will call her Frankie. My older sister apparently said “oh that’s my name for a girl” she told my little sister that she could “have” the name.

WIBTA if I name my baby Henry? ######

Response: NTA she’s not even pregnant and they can’t guarantee it’s going to be a boy. Also, that’s very strange how this sister somehow has names picked out that both you and your little sister want to use.... ######


Prompt:
So my cousin and I(both 22F) are only 6 months apart and her birthday was in early March. A few days ago in the family group chat she sent her cashapp and asked for family to send their birthday gifts there. 1) once you then 18 in my family it’s very rare to get a birthday gift from everyone. 2) she’s 22 with a job and her birthday was almost 3 months ago. I didn’t respond and she messaged me privately asking why I haven’t sent her anything since I have cashapp. I told her I don’t get a birthday present from that side of the and don’t beg them for it way past my birthday. She then brought up the fact that I get an “extra gift” at Christmas from my uncle. Which yes is true but it’s not actually from him, it’s from my “dad” since my uncle was the one who inherited his estate after he passed. I didn’t respond and she replied that she KNOWS I have enough money to spare to send her a birthday gift. While yes I have received SOME of my inheritance my husband and I are about to close on a house and the money is going towards that and for furniture. I did not receive enough to just go around handing out money. I also know that any money she gets will be spent on drugs. She lives with her boyfriend and his family rent and bill free.
So AITA? I felt bad after it all went down but I feel like it was a low blow bringing up my dads money. ######

Response: NTA she’s honestly being greedy, asking months later is also petty as fuck. My uncle makes more money than the rest of our family but he gives regular gifts and I’m just grateful for anything I’d never pull a “I know you have cash give me some! You owe me for my birthday” ######


Prompt: My friend "bought" my knock off apple pen for $20, she still hasn't given me the money for it yet. I never used the pen to draw as I thought I would when I bought it from eBay but I used the magnetic cap as a fidget type of stress reliever and really miss it. I have avoided giving her the charger till she pays me but my friend found a charger that works with it. I keep asking her to pay me and now she just keeps saying that I need to wait. If I don't get the money by the end of June will I be a bad person if I ask her mum to get her to give it back to me? Also I'm sorry if this sounds childish I just want to know if I'm in the right or wrong for it. ######

Response: NTA she’s a theif ######


Prompt: I had no idea she was a single mother. Even still, her snide daily remarks in the office were getting on my nerves, so good riddance. For two years I rode a bicycle to my office. I'm talking full gear, spandex, elbow guards, helmet, just the works. After locking my bike I walk into my office, still in full bike gear, and change clothes in the men's bathroom. A forty nine year old woman with a rat-like swarthy face and cuntish demeanor never misses her morning opportunity to comment on my man buns, which I find enraging but it's impossible to avoid her wrath because her cubicle is adjacent to the hall in which the only men's bathrooms are located. The whole office hears her squawking but because I also have a man bun style of haircut, it was always ambiguous enough not to draw heat since NICE MAN BUNS could be referring to my hair because she also has a stupid foreign accent and a rather fat unshapely bottom herself. Well, since March we've been working remotely for obvious reasons, and she posted a snide comment in our Skype for Office group chat in a team meeting. She outlined that she misses my steaming man buns strutting around the office, still sweaty from my morning bike ride. I instantly sent a screenshot of her words along with the wink 😉 face to the HR department filing a sexual harassment claim, and she was gone from the group chat the next day and I couldn't look her up in the internal Microsoft Outlook company directory, and then someone told me she was terminated and can't find a job, and also that she's a single mother. Woops. Am I an asshole for getting this woman fired for commenting on my ass cheeks? ######

Response: NTA She’s a grown woman who needs to learn how to conduct herself in the workplace. You didn’t get her fired, she got herself fired. ######


Prompt:
For my birthday I wanted to have dinner just with the two of us, no other family members were invited.

So on the night he picks me up and on our way to dinner we get a call from her. She has been out drinking with a friend and wants a ride. She could have asked her friend for a ride home or easily gotten a taxi as it wouldn't have cost much. She then over speaker phone starts saying I was the one who told you to call her (me) and make plans. My dad goes yeah but I was planning on ringing her anyway. She then starts saying about her kids (all of which are adults) that they wouldn't do that to him. Which is false because her kids did that many times when they started dating because they didn't like my dad.

So we arrive to pick her up and I am sitting in the front seat. She opens up the door and tells me to sit in the back. Nothing else was said like happy birthday or even hello. I didn't want to start an argument so I just moved to the backseat.

She then complains about how she told her friend she was out with that she was doing dinner with us and of course she couldn't then ask for a ride home.
This was untrue as he had let her know that it would just be the two of us. Then she turns to me and is all like so what's so wrong with me coming out to dinner with you guys. I repeat that I just want to spend time with my dad as we don't get to see each other very often. She then repeats about her kids and that it is super hurtful that we wouldn't invite her.

On the rest of the drive to drop her off she continues to try guilt us into letting her come with us. Luckily my dad refuses and says that she is not coming.

For context they have been together 3 years and it is a very rocky relationship. Neither myself or my brother (both adults) get on that great with her. She tolerates me but will not even talk about my brother and hates it when my dad talks about him. ######

Response: NTA she's probably just jealous of your relationship with your dad. ######


Prompt:
I (15f) am getting tired of my sister (20) constantly stealing my stuff, mostly my art supplies. My supplies was a couple of pallets and paint brushes, I paid for all of these myself, I don’t have a job yet so it’s hard for me to buy new supplies so I use my supplies cautiously.

It started when I was using my paint supplies on a project that I had to finish. My sister was playing with my niece. I left to go to the bathroom and feed my cat and when I came back, she stole one of my pallets and excessively stacked paint all over it. She was also using my most delicate/expensive paint brushes. I quickly grabbed the paint brush away and I got pissed off and yelled at her for grabbing my stuff. She quickly tried to make me a bad person for “ruining her bonding time” with her niece (even though she was the one painting and not my niece).

I left to go clean up my brushes and when I came back, she started painting that same pallet on top of my project and let my niece use a sheet of paper to paint. This time, she took out her own box of paints and brushes. She used her own brushes for her and my niece, but continued to use my paints.

I took away my stuff and put them in my box and my sister tried to make me the bad person by saying that “niece just wanted paint” and “I wouldn’t let niece use my stuff”.
I would have gladly let them paint with my pallets if they just asked, but they didn’t

Note: my sister has her own money to be able to buy her own stuff and has 3x more supplies than I do. ######

Response: NTA She's perfectly allowed to share her own art supplies with anybody she wants. She does not get to claim yours are community property. ######


Prompt:
My (25M) girlfriend (25F) of a year and a half just moved into my apartment two or three weeks ago.

She usually orders takeout, but last night she decided she wanted to start cooking for herself.

I walk into the kitchen and see she has a piece of raw chicken in the sink, so I ask her not to do that since it'll get bacteria on the sink and anything else that goes in there. Instead of taking it out and using the bowl I sat next to her, she picks it up and turns on the faucet trying to wash it, as I saw my life flashing before my eyes, splashing water all over the place, and I say you're not supposed to wash chicken because it spreads bacteria, as she says "what bacteria?". She then takes one hand off of the chicken and uses it to turn off the faucet, the whole time I'm saying she could have gotten salmonella all over the sink/counter/faucet as she takes the chicken to my cutting board table I use to cut fruit, places the chicken down, and walks over to the fridge (without washing her hands), opens it with her still wet hand, as she starts rummaging through the fruit/vegi drawer.  I tell her she's going to have to wash the handle now and any think else she touched because that could become a breeding ground for bacteria as she yells "stop pissing me off and just leave me alone, I guarantee you any chicken you've eating at a restaurant was made the same way ". So I did.

I went to the bedroom and an hour later I hear her eating and talking on facetime when she tells the person how "I went psycho over some f\*cking chicken", "followed her around telling her how to cook her own dinner" and how I "need a reality check".

I feel like ass for bringing it up since she was only trying to cook herself dinner, and I'm not generally a germaphobe, but this is just one of those things.

AITA/a germaphobe psycho who needs to chill? ######

Response: NTA She's going to get food poisoning or give it to both of you. ######


Prompt:
I have a tiny hole in my wall right above my bed. My girlfriend (17, im 18) absent-mindedly was scratching it and i jokingly said "haha don't scratch my wall off" thinking she'd stop. She didn't. She kept scratching it and i said something like "im serious please don't break my wall" as the hole was getting bigger. She kept on doing it though so I was a little upset because like ?? its my wall lol and i directly asked her to stop breaking it. Then she got defensive and completely shut me out and is now sulking on her phone. AITA?

edit: misspelled a word ######

Response: NTA she's an asshole who doesn't respect you or your home ######


Prompt:
My [18M] close friend [18F] is someone I have always found attractive (in addition to being fun to hangout with). I didn't think I had a chance with her and didn't want to ruin the friendship so I hadn't made any moves.

She sent me a picture of herself completely naked on snapchat captioned "I want you". I was stunned and super excited. I took a picture of myself naked. After the picture was taken but before I sent it, I saw she had sent another message to me. I sent the picture before reading the message.

The message said " Omg that was obviously meant for the girl I've been talking to". She then opened my picture. She then called me a pervert saying she didn't want to see that. She said its disrespectful. I explained I thought she wanted me but she said that picture was obviously not meant for me. Now she is mad and is "taking a step back" from the friendship. ######

Response: NTA she was the one that sent a completely unsolicited nude, you were under the impression from that that that's what you guys were doing ######


Prompt:
Alright, context before you guys hate me: my parents are quite wealthy but I (F24) left home when I was 17 because they didn't agree with my career/life choices and I worked a lot to support myself for a few years until they recently accepted my choices and started helping me as I went back to school to pursue my dream degree and only work part time. I still pay for most of my expenses because I have a nice job where I've been for three years but my parents now do give me a small sum of money to cover school expenses. I am aware that I am very privileged but the money my parents give me is only for school things only and everything else I pay with the money I earn myself.

Now, tonight we were at a house party and it was getting late (about 3am) and I decided I'd take a cab home because I was wearing a rather short dress and didn't feel safe walking home although it was only a 20 minute walk to my place. My friend said that I was a spoiled rich b\*tch because I could afford to take a cab home while she had to walk longer to her place.

It did piss me off because she doesn't work although I did already offer her to get a position at my job after she dropped out of university and now pretty much lives of social welfare.

So I told her that if she had a job, she could afford to take a cab home and she got really pissed. A few of our friends also thought I was really rude while some others said I was right but probably shouldn't have said that in front of everyone.

I felt that I was justified as she did try to embarrass me in front of everyone and is constantly criticizing how much money I spend on things every time we got out and complaining about how she can't do the same while she's not even trying to better her life. So, was I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA she was nasty to you first. Don't dish it if you can't take it. ######