Prompt:
Long story short, my mother spent money she didn't have, couldn't pay rent and is now living with me and my wife. She wanted to pay me rent while she lives with us, but I said she didn't have to so she could pay her debt and get a place of her own sooner. So she said she would be cleaning the house to compensate, I said she didn't need to as I've been doing it for years just fine. She insisted, I gave up trying to argue.

One of the reasons I didn't want her to clean the house is because she is too perfectionist when it comes to that, everything has to be shining. Me and my wife don't mind a little mess every once in a while. Another thing I hated while growing up living with my mother is that she has a habit of changing the furniture out of places, but that wasn't much more than a mild inconvenience then; but now it's just being an asshole, since my wife is blind.

Even thought I expected it to be clear, I explicitly told my mother that she wasn't supposed to change anything out of place since my wife was used to things being where they were and that's how she navigated around the house.

It started with the trash can in the kitchen, then the sofa, then the fridge and finally yesterday she cause my wife to trip and bruise her knee by moving the dinner table a few inches.

I told my mother that I  finally had enough and if she couldn't keep up with the rules at my house she would have to go. I talked to my wife later and she says I went too far and would be an asshole if I kicked out my mother. Wife says she doesn't mind it as it was just a bruise. I think it was just a bruise now, next time could be a broken arm. ######

Response: Nta. She's taking advantage of you and risking your wife's safety. ######


Prompt:
So a few months ago my Gf had to get a skin lesion cut out. Just removing an infection about the size of a dime then stitching it back up. She asked me about a week before if I would go with her. I told her I don’t think so because I had just started my last semester of college and had class at the time. She said okay, but a few days later made me feel bad for not volunteering to go with her, so I made arrangements to skip class.
Till this day she still shames me for being selfish saying that the fact that I initially didn’t want to skip class is a reflection of my bad character.
AITA ?? ######

Response: NTA. She's TA, not for asking you to skip class, but for guilting you into it and then bringing up the fact that you ALMOST didn't skip class three months later. It may seem like a trivial matter but it's a red flag about her neediness and desire to shame you into catering to her demands. ######


Prompt:
Sometimes I like to get high then go for a long walk with headphones in and just get lost in the music I'm listening to. It gets me outside, get me moving, and I feel super happy and relaxed when I get back inside.

Yesterday I decided to roll a joint and smoke it as I walk. Usually I do this at night, or smoke before leaving the house if its day time. Yesterday I did not (it was about 3-4pm). I smoked half, walked for about an hour, then decided to smoke the other half. As I'm lighting up and taking a couple puffs, a lady sitting in her yard with a kid (preteen I guess? 12-14 ish) put her hands up with a wtf look on her face and yells to me that I can't be smoking weed out on the streets like that. Now I know she didnt mean legally, as I live in Canada and it's been legal for over a year by now. She obviously meant morally, I assume because her kid was outside seeing this too.

I didnt think it was a big deal, but it immediately ruined my buzz and I spent the rest of the walk worrying that I'm being disrespectful or maybe just unintentionally promoting something negative?  I dont know.. should I just make a point of smoking beforehand or is it okay to smoke outside on a walk the same way one would smoke a cigarette? ######

Response: NTA. She's probably just concerned about her kid and drugs and setting a "bad example" for him. However, I think you should avoid smoking near people if you're walking in public, even if it is legal to smoke anywhere. ######


Prompt:
This has been going on for a while but I think the tipping point happened a couple days ago. She had asked me (22m) if I was circumcised, to which I told her I was not; she proceeded to say things like gross and we’re getting you circumcised in a joking manner...etc.

In that particular situation I could more or less tell se was being serious. And just today she was saying she thinks 7 inches is right right size and anything less would be small,-but here’s the kicker:

She is a virgin and has never stuck a finger in her vagina, whereas I’ve told her I’ve been with plenty of girls that have never commented on my size or uncircumcised penis. (Quite frankly it kinda hurt when she said it would be gross because I take pride in good hygiene downtown)

Initially it was funny and cute but Ive been thinking this is coming from someone who has never even had sex but she has this imaginary expectation of porn penis.

Anyway, would I be the butthurt asshole to confront her and tell her to get more mature? ######

Response: NTA. She's probably insecure, though, and trying to look knowledgeable but she's just coming off as a jerk. ######


Prompt:
I've been friends with this girl for a short while and she has this habit of playing devil's advocate in conversations to see the 'true side of me' as she puts it, her reasoning is that if she doesn't do it I won't give my true opinion.

She's done it since we met, I don't even know who she is since she always seems to be lying. She does it over topics such as depression, evolution, or any other topic that is much lower in weight.

Today we got into an argument about the existence of God to which I blew up because she had been starting these discussions about religion and God for a while, I just took it as a religious person trying to convince me.

When I blew up she told me she was actually an atheist, not a Muslim. I asked her why she continued to make these arguments if she knew she was an atheist all along and she just said that she wanted me to blow up so I could show her how I truly think.

She always cites wanting to be a lawyer and that lawyers do this and I'm just sat there thinking, 'that's really screwed up'. I feel like some sort of lab rat that she finds interesting and wants to extract information from.

I've asked her to stop but she always does it subtly.

I've been thinking of cutting ties recently and this just encouraged me to do it even more. ######

Response: NTA. She's playing mind games and gaslighting you for kicks.  I encourage you to cut ties - while trying so hard (for reasons unknown) to see "the real you", she isn't letting you see the real her.  You deserve genuine friends who genuinely interact with you. If she wants to play devil's advocate, she can say so like a normal person, "But playing devil's advocate, suppose that I was XYZ, or you saw ABC, wouldn't that change your position?" ######


Prompt:
So me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 years now (the first time we went on a date and kissed passed a few days ago, she didn’t even mention it but I did). But I’m not too mad because our official relationship began about a couple months later.

So we have a dog together. She’s upset that I didn’t FaceTime her with our dog saying happy Mother’s Day. We are in a lost distance relationship.

She’s super mad at me saying I never do anything special. But I tried to explain that if we were to celebrate this, we should do it on pet parents day. She says whatever and hung up. I get that I forgot to do that but like, is it really that big of a deal?

Don’t get me wrong, I love my dogs and I understand they can be very difficult to take care of but celebrating it the same day people with actual kids? ######

Response: NTA. She's not a mother, and there's no reasonable expectation that a person should interpret Mother's Day to mean "owns a pet." I am assuming she did not extend you the same courtesy on Father's Day. ######


Prompt:
I have a very close friend, J, we have known each other for over 20 years, lived together, talk regularly, supported each other through ups and downs and since we both lost our parents have said how much we regard each other as family. Truly, we have always said how we feel like sisters.

J is getting married next year, to a great guy and I'm thrilled for her.  She has another friend she has known since school, this friend B is not a great friend.  She was not supporting of J's engagement, was mean about J's choice of outfit as it isn't a traditional white dress and said she doesn't want to be part of the wedding party as she doesn't want to be 'the fun police'.

I saw J this weekend and she said she had something difficult to tell me, she and her fiance have decided to have a family only wedding (when I first heard this I thought, I honestly thought Id be included) mainly because she doesn't want to invite B and J said she can't invite me and not B as that would create drama.

I said she should have whatever wedding she likes, it's her day.  I didn't tell her that I am truly crushed she doesn't include me as her family after so many years of saying I am. I have no blood relatives left, they all died so this is a real blow.

However, this is the AITA bit.  J has said she really wants me there when she gets ready on the morning of her wedding, helping her get ready etc and also to organise her Hen party and help with planning her wedding - but I wont be going. To any of it.

AITA for saying no?  I really want to be part of her day but I think this is just unfair on me.

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tl;dr:  Im not being invited to my best friends wedding because she doesnt want to invite her other friend and doesnt want to upset her and is using a 'family only' wedding as and excuse. Yet she wants me to do all the things I would have done if I were invited and acting as her bridesmaid. ######

Response: NTA. She's more concerned making drama with someone who she clearly doesn't want there, but still wants your support only to leave you out behind the door later? Looks like your friend is not that good of a friend. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account for privacy reasons.

My (18M) girlfriend (19F) found out about 4 days ago that she didn’t get this dream job offer that she got an interview for. I spent the next day and half consoling and comforting her, after which she thanked me and said she felt better. The following night, I found out I got elected to a minor position in this organization I’m involved in. I mentioned it to her, she congratulated me, and then I changed the subject back to what our conversation was. Afterwards, she was more quiet and standoffish, and didn’t really want to talk anymore. This morning, she finally told me that she’s upset at me for making her feel worse about her job rejection by mentioning that I got elected. I said back that I’m sorry about that, but we had stopped talking about her job two days beforehand, and I only mentioned that I got the position for about a minute, and made no more conversation of it past that. She got more mad at me after I said that. AITA for mentioning it? I feel like a dick after hearing her but I also don’t think the manner I went about it was wrong. ######

Response: NTA. She's likely feeling a bit raw and disappointed over the lost opportunity, but you were well within your rights to say that you were elected to a position. It's okay to have success, as long as you weren't being over the top about it. ######


Prompt:
About six months ago I installed security cameras on my property. One indoors to monitor the baby's room and three outdoors: one facing the porch, one my backyard, and one my rear door. I have a hot tub by the rear door.

Having cameras facing front door or porch is pretty typical, right? People use Ring doorbells or what-have-you and don't think anything of it. Because I thought this was fairly standard for 2020, I didn't tell my friends. Whenever I entertained guests, it was always indoors where the only camera is somewhere a guest would never go. Something I should mention is I *never* let guests use my hot tub.

Back in February I had to leave town for a few days and asked a friend to visit and let my dog out and feed her a few times a time. My friend lives only a block away and I compensated her for her time. Unbeknownst to me until two weeks ago, apparently she used my hot tub. Not just her, but two friends of hers did as well. And, they decided to hot tub without clothing.

If it's not obvious, I don't check my cameras often unless there's a reason to. Neighbour told me the day prior that he saw someone get dropped off at my house while I went to do groceries, go into the backyard and then leave. So I wanted to see what they did.

So I have footage of a friend with two other women changing in front of my hot tub, hot tubbing for an hour or so, then leaving. I told my friend that I wish she had asked permission before using my hot tub and told her what I saw and she freaked out calling me a pervert. She says it's my responsibility to tell people I have cameras around my property, even if their usage is benign.

She wants to file charges against me for voyeurism. Sure, I watched the clip but only to see the extent of it and I deleted it after I was done with it. I counter that her friends were trespassing and I didn't permit use of my hot tub to begin with.

Am I the asshole in this situation? ######

Response: NTA. She's lashing out because she got caught violating your trust. ######


Prompt:
Shes 38f(im 29F if it matters), divorced 2 times, 1 kid from each, high school diploma, and a secretary. which i dont find anything wrong with shes getting by fine enough. But she keeps complaining about being single and how no "real man" that meets her standards will step up for her and her kids.

Her standards are mostly not too bad, around her age, respectful not sexist or racist, likes kids but there are a few that seem kinda unreasonable given her life... : never married and no kids, at least a bachelors, high earner so he can support the entire family while she quits to get a degree.

Basically everything she isnt, and something very rare among men in their late 30s. and the reason she wants himchildess may be the worst, she doesnt want to raise another womans kids but expects him to raise 2 other guys kids.

I told her that her wants were a bit hypocritical and she blew up, called me sexist, then went on to call mom about it so Ive been getting angry texts from her now too... ######

Response: NTA. She's just mad because you're right. ######


Prompt:
She says her $40k+ trust fund is for her future. Makes me feel like my income from work is not for us. The whole 'your money is ours, but mine is mine.'

And I am steadily paying for more and more, without any help (aside from TrumpBucks, which are already gone) because her paycheck has been cut by more than 80%, as she teaches private lessons for various musical instruments, and demand is LOW.

I could afford to cover all expenses/bills, but not indefinitely, and she is doing nothing to generate extra income. I also foot a $300/month weed habit for us, of which she smokes roughly 75% of, outside of current/past bill contribution, which is roughly 50/50. I also drink fairly heavily, and this habit is one I may have to curtail, as affording all this will get tricky quick-like.

On top of that, she is also getting pissed at me for doing less than half of the house chores, while she stays home all day, every day. What little work she is doing is done over Zoom/Skype.

Also, last week she said she would take some money out of the trust to help out, but refused to do so today after she called me at work and started yelling at me about bills and chores. I sent her a a few hundred to cover the gaps and she is still acting like I do nothing of worth for "us."

Called me a POS today because I forgot to take the garbage to the curb before I left for work this morning, which is one of the things I usually take care of, along with the kitty litter boxes.

Also of note, she has been threatening to move back in with her parents, as they "actually care about her," which, given everything else, is also highly hurtful to hear.

I realize there is a level of toxicity here, but I guess I want some validation that I'm not fucking crazy and that this is abusive, disrespectful, and entitled behavior. ######

Response:
 NTA. She's financially abusing you, making you share your finances without sharing hers, placing an extraordinary expectation on you, and verbally abusing you while you're taking on two people's financial burden. Plus manipulating you with the threat of leaving.

Call her bluff, let her go to her parent. If you're paying all expenses for the home, she's got no entitlement to stay there. Refuse to fund her weed addiction. Buy your own food and nothing more. Do as many chores as you're capable and comfortable of doing alongside your job, and leave the rest. I strongly recommend reconsidering this relationship. ######


Prompt:
My GFs family is pretty "high class" or whatever you want to call it, they're basically the opposite of my family in many ways both financially and socially. My mum smokes and drinks a lot and is a single mother who has been married twice, while my GFs mum is the opposite. My mum and my family are not educated and most of them have not gone to university but my GFs family are all educated and really value education which my GF does as well. They're just more "well off" if you can say so and compared to my girlfriend I feel a bit stupid in many ways because she literally knows everything and can hold a conversation about anything while I'm just a simple car guy who is a welder.

So yesterday we were talking about the future and she just popped up "when will you get an education? I mean you can't be a welder forever can you"? I told her I don't know... i might go into a specialised field or something which requires education but then she said "it's still not very academic" She joked about how our kids will have one dad who works as a welder and a mum who works in something that is seen as "better". She was being very sarcastic about it and tried to make it seem as if it was not a mean thing to say. She went on and said "if you don't get an education then our kids will probably do the same, they probably want to be welders as well etc" she has previously "talked bad" about people who work in physical field where your body is required and she says that those people are stupid.

She has previously pointed out some things I do and joked about how "white trash" it is such as me smoking weed or liking cars. I have had a long day so I snapped at her and called her a "pretentious bitch". In return I was called an asshole and that she was only trying to help me but she was so rude about it. She is not talking to me right now.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. She's being condescending and classist. It sounds like she doesn't respect you if she thinks people who work in manual labor are stupid, which is also really naive on her part.

My spouse and I, who are from poor/disadvantaged backgrounds, have discussed how it's hard to date someone who comes from a different background as you. Not to say that it's impossible but you are more likely to run into this kind of thing. Worldviews where you see poor people as stupid or lesser are really entrenched by the time you reach adulthood and you might have a hard time convincing your GF otherwise unless she is really open minded and willing to change her position. ######


Prompt:
So my girlfriend recently was hooked onto this stupid tiktok trend where the girl gets naked and goes up to their boyfriend while he is gaming to see what he would do.

Now she being hooked onto the trend wants me to do the same as some of the guys in the tiktoks where they immediately pause their game and jump onto their girlfriends. I play league of legends and the people who play it know that you cannot pause the game and if you AFK or leave the game you will get penalties for it.

She told me either I quit the game or i dont ever touch her again. I told her a very reasonable rule that she thinks its unreasonable with it being, I do not mind spending time with her if she wants it before i start a game for a few hours, but I do mind where she purposely wants me to quit just as I started a match as I do not want to leave in the middle of a game. However I do not mind after the game, I stop playing and spend time with her. She told me she just wants to see me want her and she doesnt care about my game and she finds it very unreasonable.

AITA for saying no I wont quit in the middle of my game? ######

Response: NTA. She's basically waiting until you are doing something else and then demanding your attention. Seems pretty shitty to me. ######


Prompt:
Note: This was 3 months ago

My sister asked me if my niece could try an babysit our children. I assumed it would be cheaper because of a family discount and all that. Apparently it’s not. She charges $10 per hour per child. I have 2 10 year olds. They don’t need that much babysitting. I’m not paying 50% more just for some cousin bonding.

My regular babysitter has been with me for 4 years. She’s turning 18, and has a flat price of $13, plus the experience she has with them. My sister is calling me a cheap “scum-bag” for letting price go over family bonding. The thing is, I’d be perfectly happy for them to bond for free. We do live pretty close.

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She's basically just trying to charge you to interact with your kids. Tell her she's more than free to visit whenever. ######


Prompt:
My 35F wife 37F has a cavity she’s needed fixed since January, but didn’t want to do it as she is afraid of dentists. Me too, so I totally get it. Since then, though, it’s gotten a lot worse.

Now she won’t go because she’s afraid of the coronavirus. Normally I would shrug off not wanting to go right now as overkill but if that’s what she wants, that’s fine. Crowns are expensive but that’s her choice and I’d rather pay for the crown than make her unhappy.

The problem is, it’s gotten so bad that I can’t sleep next to her. Riding in the car is difficult. Our daughter noticed too. When I bring up the fact that her breath is bad, she gets enraged. I’ve brought it up twice in the last two months, but now I don’t want to anymore. She just starts insulting me and making me feel like an asshole for saying anything.

Three times I’ve asked “can you please make a dentist appointment?” In exactly those words, and each time she becomes furious. I’ve been to the dentist myself. Waiting another 8 or 9 months for her to go though is going to be very hard on me.

Also I’m sure at some point this will effect her job. Nobody wants to work around someone whose breath smells like rotting teeth.

I sympathize with her not wanting to go to the dentist, but but I don’t feel like she needs to me mean to me about it. AITA for asking my wife to fix her tooth and her very bad breath? ######

Response: NTA. She will be a in a whole lot of pain soon enough and she will wish she went earlier. ######


Prompt:
this happened last year but it got brought up again recently and opinions are split. more like 'are we the asshole'

context: i grew up in a country where usage of the word 'fag' is very lenient. i also grew up in a family of smokers. this is important because where i live, 'fag' is common slang for a ciggie. i didn't know 'fag' has offensive connotations until i was 11 when someone called me a 'fag' and i asked my mum why they were calling me a ciggie and she explained. all my LGBT friends use it and have no problem with the word when used in the context of a cig.

onto the story: there was this exchange student (Beth) from America who was at our school and she gravitated towards my friend group. one day at lunch a few of my friends had gone for a smoke break and Beth asked where they had gone and i replied 'oh they've gone for a quick fag, they'll be back soon, don't worry'. Beth seemed fine the rest of the day but something was off. the next day she told the group she was leaving because 'certain members are homophobic'. my friends and I knew what she was on about and explained how we meant the word and that we meant no harm. she said fine but didn't want to stay because of the negative connotations so she left the group but we still spoke sometimes in the group chat we had.

a few weeks later she messaged saying she was upset that none of us had apologised to her. we were confused. this is going to sound weird but she didn't seem like she wanted an apology more she just wanted to move on. no one said anything (only I and one other person had 'read' the message) and she got annoyed and left the chat. everyone felt shitty but no one knew what to do so we left it. Beth went back home a few months later and we never heard from her again.

so, AITA?? ######

Response: NTA. She was in your country, she can't possibly expect to enforce American English on you. ######


Prompt:
So for context I (16F) live with my mother and two younger brothers.

My mom sometimes enters the bathroom while I’m occupied in it. This doesn’t happen every single time i’m in there, but over the years she has done it quite a lot.

I take around 30 minute showers. Sometimes she needs to use the restroom or she needs to apply her makeup and she just doesn’t wait for me to finish showering. She shouts at on the other side of the door and says, “I’m going to go in!” I shout back no, yet she does it anyways. To do this she gets a fork and picks at the door lock she can open the door.

The thing is I’m not comfortable with her just walking in when I’m taking a shower. I’m uncomfortable with her seeing me naked at this age honestly. When I told her this she said, “Why? You’re a girl and besides, I saw you naked all the time when you were very young.” I retort that she never goes into the bathroom when my younger brothers are taking a shower and she just says “that’s because they are boys. I can’t do that.”

At this point I’m beyond frustrated so I just walk away. The next day while I’m taking a shower the same thing is about to happen and I just lose it. I yelled “You are so fucking annoying” and my mom is so angry. I’ve never sweared or said anything that aggressive like that towards her before.

When I finish showering she goes on a 15 minute rant saying things like how I disrespected her and that she can do whatever she wants because she owns the house.

I am currently grounded. She took my old tablet, she doesn’t let me watch TV, and I’m not allowed to use the house computer. However, I hid my phone away from her and I only use it while not near me and I’m in my room. She’s very angry at me and says that I will stay grounded until I give her my phone. I’m honestly not going to do that and my phone is the only device I use anyways so I don’t really care.

So Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She was continually violating your privacy and her reasoning was flawed. I’m not sure how she didn’t expect you to lash back at her. She picked the lock too?! You have every right to be pissed at her. She disrespects you’re privacy and doesn’t listen when you say no! ######


Prompt:
My friends and I (20M, we all around 20) go into a group facetime call and just chill and talk on it. Sometimes we play games, but we mainly just talk, we usually call for literal hours.

Theres this one girl in our group call, that has recently started learning how to play the ukulele.

It's great and all, but its really annoying to hear it over the mic, shes not bad, but she makes alot of mistakes, she keeps plucking strings until she finally hits the right one, which is what makes it such an annoyance.

I've literally asked her a handful of times to stop because its really loud over the mic, whenever I do she just starts singing to drown me out.

When were playing games, all I hear in the background is a shitty ukulele and a decent voice.

This past monday, she joined the call and she was holding her stupid ukulele. I clicked on her icon, and muted it. Since then I've muted her during all the calls because it seems like all she wants to do is just play the ukulele, I've realized that she doesnt even notice because she never talks. Not one of my friends in the call said a word about me muting her because I assumed they all agreed it was annoying as fuck.

Today she found out that I was muting her without her knowledge and she bitched and cried about how much of a dick move it was to do something like that, and now everyone is acting like I'm a POS. If everyone had such a huge problem with it, then they should have said something. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She was being rude, you asked her to stop, and she tried to drown you out by singing. ######


Prompt:
Today I got a brand new lego set for the first time in 5 years for my birthday. My step dad gifted it to me. The set is the lego ideas steam boat Willie. After I finished building it I kept it on my desk and I love and play with it as I love Disney.

I have a 13 year old half sister who in the morning took that set and ripped apart the white pieces from the boat and added it to some of her buildings. When I came into my room I was distraught as I loved that set. I told my mom my sister took my pieces from the set. My mom told me that my sister did not do anything and did not took those pieces.

I then went into my sisters room and I counted up the pieces I was missing. I ended up finding most of the pieces but the two exclusive mini figures  I had to destroy most of my sisters set when I founded. I reconstructed the boat but I was crying. My step dad came in and found what was wrong I told her my sister stole pieces from my set he told me he is going to get the same set and he is going to get me another small set to make up for it. I was excited.

Here is where I might have been the asshole. My sister went into her room to see the buildings that she made complete collapsed. She was crying. My mother ran up there and instantly called me to her room and demanded answers. My step dad came in and told her what happened but my mom want's to ground me for messing with my sisters room and ruining her buildings. My sister is crying and thinking I am the huge bad guy.  She says I am a bad person for invading her privacy and ruining her hard work.

English is my fist language but my hand writing is really bad. ######

Response: NTA. She tore your set apart to add pieces to hers, and when you did the same she threw a fit. ######


Prompt: My friend "bought" my knock off apple pen for $20, she still hasn't given me the money for it yet. I never used the pen to draw as I thought I would when I bought it from eBay but I used the magnetic cap as a fidget type of stress reliever and really miss it. I have avoided giving her the charger till she pays me but my friend found a charger that works with it. I keep asking her to pay me and now she just keeps saying that I need to wait. If I don't get the money by the end of June will I be a bad person if I ask her mum to get her to give it back to me? Also I'm sorry if this sounds childish I just want to know if I'm in the right or wrong for it. ######

Response: NTA. She took it with the promise of paying for it and she hasn’t paid it yet. Tell her mom about it as soon as possible so she can’t make up a story to make you in the wrong. ######


Prompt:
So this is a throwaway because my sister is in here. Writing from a phone so excuse the shitty format.

So I(f18) recieved the first gift from my boyfriend this month. We're in a long distance relationship so I was all excited and stuff. He bought me a silver necklace, chocolates, and a dozen pairs of lovely and funny socks.
So me and my sister were discussing the gift and I tell her that we can't share this one. Keep in mind that we always share stuff and gifts and she's free to eat form the chocolate my boyfriend bought whenever she likes. But this gift is from my boyfriend to me and it's so special to me. She then throws a tantrum and calls me and my boyfriend names. She tells me I wish you'd both die. This is all because I told her she won't be wearing MY socks. Maybe she's traumatized or surprised from my response. Plus, she didn't get to date before so maybe she doesn't understand why I said what I said. But this doesn't give her the right to do all of this.

 I tried speaking with her but she acts like I betrayed her. I told her to put herself in my shoes but she won't give me an answer. So reddit, am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA. She told you, her twin, that she hopes you DIE?? Oh my gosh!! That is an ALARMING overreaction. ######


Prompt:
Hello, I am relatively young and my first language is English so flame me if I get anything wrong.

Recently I dated this girl and everything was fine at first, I let her use my belongings (My drawing pad, hoodies and some other items) under the condition that I would get them back eventually. I never asked for the items back when we were dating because I didn’t really have any use for them.

After we broke up, I asked her if I could have the items back and she said sure, I waited 2 days for her to return them but during that period I heard rumours that she was planning to destroy the hoodies and the other stuff, I confirmed this from mutual friends and I asked again if I could have them back but this time she laughed in my face and told me that I would never get them back.

I didn’t know what to do after that so I told her I would call the police for theft, she told me to calm down and she returned the items the next morning.

I got called out for it afterwards because I apparently over reacted and scared the shit out of her, so I was wondering, AITA?

TL:DR
Ex had my stuff, refused to give it back so I threaten to call the police for theft ######

Response: NTA. She threatened to commit a crime so you threatened to call the police. Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes. ######


Prompt: This was years ago. I was a server and one of my fellow servers left his book with 100-ish dollars cash in it and forgot about it, pregnant server found it (in front of me) and decided to keep the cash and cut me in. Being friends with the server who left his book, i yanked his chain about "forgetting something" and eventually just told him what happened, and returned the money I had. I also told him about the entire situation. The pregnant server had apparently meant to keep her share for herself, and was promptly fired based on my testimony. I thought it was all in good fun, honestly. Had no intention to steal, was just messing with my friend. I definitely had no intention of having a coworker fired, but I think in some ways this is my fault. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. She stole from a coworker and promptly and rightly got fired. You do your friend a favour and I hope he got his money back.

There have been many times where I wished justice had come so swiftly to thieving or shady former coworkers. ######


Prompt:
So tomorrow my little cousin is having her 10th birthday party (close family only bc of pandemic). In April, my stepdad passed away from a sudden cardiac arrest. He'd been my and my siblings (19F, 17F, 15M) stepdad for over 13 years, and my 12 year old brother is his son.

My mom is wanting to bring a date to my cousin's party. My siblings and I (except for my youngest brother) discussed it and I was elected to tell her that we'd all rather she didn't. First of all, she hasn't met the dude before. Also, bringing some stranger to a family only event seems super weird. Finally, we think it would be very insensitive to my brother, who just lost his dad 3 months ago, to bring a new dude around.

When my parents got divorced she was with my stepdad and pregnant (on purpose) 3 months later, and honestly, it was kind of traumatizing to go from living with both parents to doing a joint custody arrangement and having a new baby on the way that quickly. My other siblings were too young to remember, but I don't think my youngest brother would handle having a new dude around so quickly well, after his dad dying so recently.

One of my aunties says that we should just leave it alone though because she thinks it's time for my mom to move on, and that I shouldn't "project my trauma" onto my brother. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She sounds super insensitive. Bringing a random internet/blind date for a family event is very weird, especially when it is a birthday party. ######


Prompt:
So, my family has traditions for certain significant birthdays (18,21,30, 50, 75, 90). My next birthday will be my 30th. I'm female. On the 30th my dad takes the kid who is 30, their spouse, and any children they have on a cruise. My sister and I have a somewhat volatile relationship and it gets bad at times, I recently blocked her for over a month and considered not talking to her again.

Onward, my husband and I are not very social people and I have difficulty getting noticed when sister is around. I'm not sure she hogs all the attention on purpose,but nonetheless she does. My brothers can be great or big problems. My sister brought many people on her cruise with her, I did not go. I couldn't afford to. I want to this cruise to be about me and my husband. My sister will make is about herself and her daughter (6y/o). To avoid conflicts,I decided it would be just us and parents, no siblings or extended family. I discussed it with Dad and Husband and we decided it was for the best.

My sister threw a fit. She took it as a personal attack against her! She accused me of purposely making her sad and allowing her to participate in my birthday. She yelled screamed and cried about how mean I was being and how much she'd been looking forward to it. She basically threw a temper tantrum (she does this every few weeks, she's 32). The rest of the family understands,  most weren't coming anyway.  When I told her Mr reasoning she told me I need to change and be more outgoing so she could come and. threatened. to get to get details from my dad and book herself and her family anyway (Dad know not to tell her details)

 I don't want to upset but this is my 30th birthday and my husband too since he is only a month and a half older than me.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. She sounds ridiculous. And I don’t think you need to explain yourself because you don’t owe her answers, but if you wanted to I would leave it at “sorry sister, for my birthday I want to spend quality time with my husband and parents. I’m glad that for your birthday you were able to have a bunch of people on the cruise with you, making it special for you. What would make my birthday special for me is to make it more intimate.”

She sounds whack and childish. ######


Prompt:
Backstory: I (20F) live with my cousin Skylar (24F). We've been butting heads forever but it's a family renal.

She can be really cringy and it irritates me that she thinks everything she does is absolutely original, everything from wearing black nail polish in middle school to cutting cropped shirts. Last week she dyed her hair split half blond and half pink, it looks good but she hasn't shut up about how she hasn't seen anyone do their hair like that. For reference we live in a small town that is either suburban area or desert so it's not like there's a lot of style diversity.

Issue: We've been getting into arguments about personal space, mainly her live streaming in the living room daily because she expects me to keep quiet. Yesterday I was cooking and Skylar started streaming, make it seem like she was helping out but she was getting in the way. I asked her to record somewhere else and she left and said "no one wants to see your shitty food anyway basic b*tch."

Asshole Moment: I blew up followed her and told her that she's fucking cringy, with her not like other girls bull.  She's still live and say to them "this is what I go through for being different, just because OTHERS envy originality". I just straight up laughed and spent 30 seconds pulling up a Brad Mondo video of girls doing split dyed hair and told her she's almost 25 following teenage girl tik toc trends acting like she's a fashion icon.

So about a thousand people saw this and she continued streaming crying. People are calling me an asshole and our family doesn't want to be involved but want to apologize for sake of peace. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She sounds entitled and full of herself. People like that need a wake up call, you did her a favor. ######


Prompt:
So this happened yesterday.

My (14F) mother (43F) was mentioning report card and tests yesterday due to you-know-what.   She eventually decided to go through all our old report cards. Now would be a good time to mention that I have a brother who is 9 and we suspect is mildly autistic.

So we go through them and eventually my brother joins in looking through them. So I find some of mine and I say something like “oh my god I got such good exam scores.” And I showed my mom and my brother that I got three 10s on some years and how I never noticed.

My brother then find his and his scores are more around 5/6. And he gets upset and goes down to his room. My mom then pulls me aside and said “you shouldn’t try to be better than your brother and don’t me a show off.”

I told that I can talk about my achievements all I want. I’ve previously also had to not mention my individual class scores when I got top of my class.

She got pretty upset and grounded me but I’m allowed keep my phone because of you-know-what. ######

Response: NTA. She shouldn't be grounding you for being proud of your achievements. It sounds like there's sone blatant favoritism going on. ######


Prompt:
Throw away account. Okay so I’m at a crossroad atm. A friend and I moved in together last year, but now we’re going to separate apartments. We got along really well, and moved out due to the fact that she got a boyfriend and wanted to move in with him.

Anyways, when it came to the security deposit, I offered to help her clean it since we split the security deposit. My friend insisted that her and her mom clean it since her mom is a professional cleaner and would clean better than me. Once again, I offered to help but they said that they don’t mind doing it.

A few days later, I get a text from my friend, asking if I could give her an extra $200 from my portion of the deposit since her and her mom spent five hours cleaning the place. The conversation went like this

Her: Hey! So mom and I were talking and think it’d be fair if you gave us $200 for cleaning the apartment

Me: Wait, what? Uhh no. I offered to help clean it. Had I known you were gunna charge me, I wouldn’t have had your mom clean it...

Her: Wtf, it took us five hours. My mom has a $80 an hour rate to clean houses.... we spent five hours cleaning it. $200 from the deposit is a steal.

Me: Like I said, no. I’m sorry but if you brought up that you were gunna charge me, I would have cleaned the house myself.

Now my friend is mad at me because to her, I’m being unfair. I told her she was being unfair because she should have told me that they were gunna charge me in the beginning. Also, the deposit was $1,000 so I’d only get $500. If they took $200, then I’d only get $300.

Tl;dr- Would I be the asshole if I didn’t pay my friend and her mom to professionally clean the apartment? ######

Response: NTA. She should of discussed payment before doing the cleaning her mother being a professional knows that and should of made sure costs were discussed. Your "friend" is trying to take advantage after the fact. ######


Prompt:
I (M27) went to high school with a girl (F27) but we lost contact for a few years. In January this year she randomly added me on Instagram and we got talking. She went on about how she always thought I was cute and that she had a crush on me. She definitely knew I liked her back then.

After speaking everyday for a month we decided it would be nice to go on a first date and have a proper catch up, face to face. However, due to our busy schedules we decided to do it when we weren’t in a rush to be anywhere. This is when COVID decided to make an appearance, which further delayed our plans.

Up until 3 weeks ago we were regularly FaceTiming and everything seemed to be going well. On that day 3 weeks ago, she messaged me and seemed a bit distressed. I responded and basically let her know that I was there to talk about anything she wanted and calm her down.

Here is were is gets a bit weird. She sometimes has delayed responses for days at a time, and I’m cool with that because I hate texting/social media. However, a week goes by and she still hasn’t opened my message, then another week, and today she eventually opens it. Low and behold, her response is an image of her kissing another guy. Actually, it’s the dad to her baby. That I had no clue existed.

Obviously I ignore this message, because I’m a bit flustered. She then proceeds to send a message saying ‘I decided to try with so and so again because I think it’s best for our baby.’ I tried to be as humble as possible and said ‘ I didn’t even know you were a mum, you should have just let me know in the first place, but all the best.’

Her response ‘see this is why I lost interest. You never message me back, and when I was down, you ignored me.’ I literally replied to her message 3 weeks prior. I ignored her again and she basically says that ‘ I didn’t fight hard enough for her.’

Like dude, we weren’t even dating. So why would I fight for you or chase you? I’m 27.

I’ve blocked her now, but AITA here? ######

Response: NTA. She should have disclosed the fact that she had a baby and still had a thing with the father of her child. You're not obligated to keep messaging her in light of this new (bombshell) information. This isn't high school anymore, the little games aren't cute even then, and they sure as hell aren't now. You dodged a bullet. Find a different, better girl who won't play games with you. ######


Prompt:
I’m sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language,

My friend has been a friend of mine for a long time, because she didn’t have a car I used to give her rides to fun activities we could both do like partying, going to the mall, going to the beach, you get the idea.

Well one day she got pregnant from an unknown guy in a party and she decided to keep the baby and jokingly said to me that I’m going to be the baby’s uncle (oh boy).

Well, I didn’t mind helping her from time to time, taking her to doctors appointments, going with her to the mall to get her some baby clothes, things that I honestly didn’t enjoy, I even had to miss work sometimes to help her but I knew she was in a tight spot and helped her anyways. This became something of a routine.

A month ago, she texted me that she needed me to take her to a doctors appointment for a routine check the next day in the morning (7 am). She sent the message at 10 pm and when she  sent it I was already with my friends getting ready to go partying, well, I told her that and that I wouldn’t be able to go, when I told her, she started calling me demanding that I took them home so I can rest and take her and the baby to the doctors appointment, when I said no she got angry and started saying things like “you are not really a good friend” “I should take her baby more seriously” “it’s time to grow up”  and I decided to ignore her from that point and we haven’t talked since.

Well one mutual friend found out about it and said that I’m really not a good friend and that I should have told the rest of the group so we could had decided what to do in the moment. But the thing is I hadn’t Had fun in such a long time because of me helping her that I didn’t want to do that and from that moment the group has been divided between the people who think I’m an asshole and the rest.

Before you ask, the rest of the group doesn’t have a car.

If there’s any grammar or spelling mistakes please let me know

So reddit AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She should grow up and learn the responsibility that comes with the choices she made. Being her only friend with a car does not make you her automatic chauffeur. Live your life. She's gotta figure hers out. ######


Prompt:
AITA for not helping out my stepmom in caring for my father?

My father and his wife have a 22 year age gap. I don't really have much of a relationship with my dad and maybe call him once a year on his birthday. His health has worsened in the last few years and now needs assistance to perform his day to day normal activities

Their daughter is 13 and obviously can't help much. Since they live in another state, I've tried to offer help by sending them money. I even told his wife that maybe it's time he is sent to a nursing home. She got really offended at the idea and told me that she wouldn't abandon him.

She wants me or my sister to come down to their state to help her out. I honestly don't know how. We are currently caring for our mom and stepdad. Our stepdad is going through chemotherapy, and we are looking after him and mom.

It's just not possible for us to move to another state right now.

I understand that she is doing it all alone. But I don't know I can help. She's not willing to move him to a home.

AITA ? ######

Response: NTA. She should either be looking at nursing homes or in home nursing for him. You cannot be expected to pick up and move in with a dad you barely talk to when he has a wife that can take care of him. You are nice to offer money to help out. Especially considering how much you are helping out your mom and step dad. ######


Prompt:
I have always been a fairly small guy, and at 5'8 weighed about 125 lbs. I was also fairly weak for a while. My girlfriend often teases me about this (completely jokingly, she means no harm by this at all) as she has been lifting regularly for over a year now, and was definitely stronger than me.

Recently the teasing has been getting more frequent, so just to spite her, I've been using the extra time in quarantine to start lifting with a few dumbbells in the house. It's been a bit over a month and although I'm still below average strength, I've overtaken my girlfriend in the amount of weight we can lift.

I can tell that this slightly upset her and she asked me that now that I've proven my point am I going to stop lifting. The thing is now that I've begun this journey, I actually really enjoy the routine and the process.

My girlfriend thinks that I'm an asshole because I did all of this just to get back at her, and though I did start with that intention, that is no longer my motivation.

AITA for lifting just to make a point and then not stopping? ######

Response: NTA. She should be excited you started lifting so you two could workout together. It’s also good for your health. She’s the asshole for all the teasing, sounds like it was too much or went too far. ######


Prompt: I'm a trucker, so I'm on the road 6 days a week, working about 12 hours a day, and I keep my truck clean inside. My wife works 12 hours a week, and the house is constantly a mess, and when I say something to her about it, it usually pisses her off, then she says she'll do it, but never does. Am I being an asshole by asking too much of her to simply keep the house cleaned up? ######

Response: NTA. She should at least clean for herself considering that she is the one living with the mess most of the time. I can't understand how someone could be ok surrounded by a mess and dirtiness. ######


Prompt: I was driving down Colfax which is a main Street in Denver the other day and I saw a lady taking pictures of a homeless person that was wearing a winter coat in 75° weather and passed out on their stomach like a starfish at bus stop in front of Sprouts which is a more annoying version of trader joes. It could have been for any number of reasons from alcohol drugs or heat exhaustion. But there was some typical Denver white girl in yoga pants who had an old film camera taking photos of this possibly dying person as some sort of artistic endeavor. I saw this for my car window, rolled the window down and started calling this lady a cunt and telling her what a piece of shit human being she was. I pulled over around to the other side of the street called the police and waited for them to arrive. Am I the asshole for calling somebody out using a clearly in need human being for some sort of black and white artistic experiment? Also, she had no intention of helping, told me to fuck myself and went back to taking pictures of graffiti and other bullshit. The police told me she was crap but didn't do anything illegal. ######

Response:
 NTA. She seems to lack the depth and warmth to be a cunt, however.

Good on you for calling for help and behaving as a *human being*. ######


Prompt:
Girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, living together for 2, she's 20F and I'm 21F

From what I've been told she was raised in a household where it was very "waste not want not"(?) And anything that so much as touched your plate got ate, no matter how full you are.

My girlfriend lives by that, she physically can't help it, I once watched her eat an entire plate of food, despite saying she was full less than half way and then be sick and continue to eat because she didnt want food wasted.

She has been getting counselling for the last 3-4 months but progress takes time.

Her mother recently came to visit us, we told her the issue and what we're doing is very small plates.

So, she insists on cooking and dishing up and every time it's been huge plates.

Her argument is that my girlfriend is an adult, obviously true, but she can't help it.

We've talked and argued several times.

I had enough and asked her to leave, she left after arguing about how my girlfriends an adult etc.

My girlfriend is fine with it, she never had a relationship with her mother anyway.

My mother said I was an AH and said that MIL was right, we should've set boundaries and not let her cook and I shouldn't have been involved.

We tried not to let her cook and it didnt work.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She said your gf is an adult, and then decided that gf doesn't get to decide what size plate to use for dinner in her own home. Nice woman. ######


Prompt:
My mother has two children, me (28M) and my sister (30F)

I’ve been with my wife for 7 years, she (34F) has a 9 year old son, I picked up the fatherly duties as his dad wasn’t around and he views me as his dad which I’m really happy about.

My mother is obsessed with having grandchildren, I always thought she saw my son as her grandson.

My wife and I Skyped my mother last week for her birthday (my sister and her husband were on the call too) when I mentioned the present I had delivered.

She said, maybe as a joke, “*the only present I want off you is a grand baby*”

I said that she’s already got one, my son- my wife and I are  considering adopting too.

To sum up what she said; he isn’t biologically mine, she wants a child who’s biologically related to her.

It’s literally impossible for me and my wife to have a child together.

I told her to call me when she isn’t so up herself.

Apparently she’s upset and my sister wants me to apologise for being so snappy and ruining our mothers birthday over a harmless comment that didn’t even offend my son.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She ruined her own birthday by being a bag. My older sister has a 15 year old step daughter that we "got" when she was 2. My mom insists that she's the best grandkid ever because she was potty trained before she started coming round. You keep being a good dad, OP. It doesn't matter where your kids come from. ######


Prompt: One of my high school best friend is getting married and it’s a big deal for her we’ve talked about this as long as I can remember. I’m really happy for her but I am a full time college student and I work on top of volunteer work for my major. I would really like to help but if I’m being realistic it’s an extra thing I can’t really deal with at the moment. She is very upset with me and doesn’t understand why I don’t have time to help. Yesterday she texted me that if I can’t start helping more she no longer wants me to be one of her bridesmaids. I told her I completely understand and to be honest I was upset but I can’t promise her time I don’t really have at the moment. Me saying I understand if she doesn’t want me to be a bridesmaid anymore apparently upset her more and my friends are now all upset with me and want me to basically beg her to be a bridesmaid. I would like to be apart of her wedding but I don’t want to beg her for it and promise to help her when I honestly don’t have the time so AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She probably thought threatening to remove you from the party would cause you to focus on her more. You agreed with her, which made her more angry because her attempts at manipulating you didn’t work. I think you were totally reasonable. ######


Prompt:
My friend posted a massive status on Facebook after discovering her bf cheated on her. She then called me crying basically saying the same thing. How her boyfriend cheated on her with another woman, how devistated she is, how she is a strong woman who doesn't need that, how men can never be trusted and finally how she would never do that to anyone she loves. I listened to it all, listened to her cry and feel sorry for herself. If it was any of my other friends then I definitely would have reacted differently but I know this girl way too well, she is my best friend and we have are always honest with each other.

She then was looking for reassurance but I didn't give her it. Instead I said this:

"Sorry if you are looking for a pitty party or for reassurance then you have definitely came to the wrong place. It's hard to feel sorry for someone who themselves cheat on every person they have been with and brags about it. Now you know how it feels to be cheated on. Sucks he did that? Of course it does but it's hard to pitty someone who does that shit themselves. Mate I do love ya but in all honesty I can't feel sorry for you right now. I have never agreed with cheating, don't like him doing it, never liked you doing it but I can't feel bad for you because you are being a huge hypocrite... sorry".

She was really insulted about that. She started screaming down the phone how I'm meant to be her friend but what I said was bitchy and what assholes say. Claimed I slut shamed her and said I was an asshole. Personally I don't see that as slut shaming at all when she has literally bragged about getting with guys behind their gfs backs and being with guys behind all her exes backs. She has never felt bad about any of that and actually was proud of her actions. So why should I feel sorry for someone who does that themselves?

AITA for saying that?

Edit: She is my best friend and I love her like she is my sister but that doesn't mean I agree with everything she does. ######

Response: NTA. She probably needed to hear that. ######


Prompt:
As stupid as this all sounds my mil tried to get my wife to divorce me over a sandwich AND part of the family AGREED with her. I and my wife do not in any way think I am the TA but why not let strangers on the internet decide?

When I first started dating wifey MIL was actually nice to me, she was a decent human being. However I always felt she thought me and  wifey were going to break up. Turns out I was right because the second we announced our engagement the shit hit the fan. She started screaming at my wife about not consulting with her first before getting engaged( she knew we were thinking about marriage before hand). She started picking fights with me for no reason. If I didn’t open the door for my wife, I didn’t have any respect for her. If I didn’t offer MIL to wash the dishes quick enough, I was going to be a terrible husband. She showed her toxic colors, you know the drift.

Here’s the part where I might be the TA. MIL came to visit us and I offered to make everybody sandwiches. Mil said she wanted a spicy one. I told her we had no spicy sauce and she insisted on having a spicy sandwich. She told me to go buy some than proceeded to tell me exactly what brand a kind of spicy sauce she wanted. Of course I was done with dealing with her shit but trying to still be polite. I told her nicely that I would not go buy some for her but she could go buy some if she wanted. That did not make her happy. Half and hour of banshee screaming later we kicked her out.

So of course MIL told everyone about the incident, where I was the bad guy who was abusive towards an old lady. Most of the family fortunately did not believe her BS but I did get quite a few angry texts and calls from other family members. Recently A family member texted me about how much a TA I was and I was like, I have free time why not post it on reddit? So AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She prioritises a spicy sandwich at the expense of wasting your time. Just because she's your elder doesn't mean you are obliged to do everything she says. ######


Prompt:
This happened a while back but I’m bored so here goes-

 I had mentioned to my neighbour across the street that I was going to buy a sofa bed for our office to use for overnight guests. She offered us a small one she had in her basement that she never used. It was old but in good shape but the mattress had to be replaced. Said great, thanks, and I bought a new mattress for it (she knew I was putting money into it).

So after a year and a half or so I sold the couch and I had also listed a bunch of other stuff on FB because we were changing up the house and moving the guest room and getting a queen bed for it. The couch wasn’t worth anything, there are tons of free couches like it listed on kijiji, FB etc but I wanted to get back what I could from the mattress purchase (it was a $200 mattress and had been slept on once). I ended up selling it for $75.

Neighbour saw my FB ads and she comments on one of the pics saying that if I’m getting rid of the sofa bed she wants it back.

I didn’t respond and then that night she sends me a FB message, “As per my comment, blah blah want the sofa bed back if you are getting rid of it”.

I responded that i no longer needed it so I sold it to recoup some of the cost of the new mattress.

She then blocked me on FB.

Was I TA here by selling it and not offering it back to her first? I had tossed the original mattress. It literally did not occur to me at all to ask her if she wanted it back. ######

Response: NTA. She only wanted it back because it has "value" ######


Prompt:
AITA for wanting to retake my wedding photos?

Last summer I got married. My cousin is a photographer who lives in a different part of the country and she flew in to take the photos for my big day. There was never any discussion of it costing money, that it would be a family thing. She even stayed at my house while she was here. Family came from all over the country as we are quite a large family and it is rare to see us all in one place. She got tons of photos and she gave us a few of the ones that were took. Everything seems normal, until months go by and she still hasn’t sent over the rest of the photos. I’ve messaged her numerous times for her to send the wedding photos to me. Sometimes she responds, other times she doesn’t and just likes the message. I’ve offered to pay her money for the photos which she has declined to accept. I’m not sure what the issue is on her part at this point. It’s been a year and I still only have the handful of photos she sent over the day of the wedding.

I am considering hiring a photographer and getting some wedding photos taken again so I can have some to frame in my house. My only issue is I only have so many photos taken with my family and I’m disappointed because they won’t be the same as the ones taken on the wedding day. It will be impossible to recreate the photos we took when we were getting ready and leading up the whole day. I’m going to now have to get photos retaken and then when I post them on social media which then she’ll know I got them retaken. I feel like these wedding photos have driven a wedge in our family. ######

Response: NTA. She needs to send them to you, and it's weird she won't, especially if you offered to pay for them. ######


Prompt: So back in March when schools moved to online, my neighbor (who’s very old fashioned) asked me for my wifi password so her middle school daughter could use it for her schoolwork. She told me she was on a waiting list for charter spectrum and they would get it set up in April. She offered to pay me for the time being, which I declined. Fast forward to July, I figured the daughter doesn’t need it for school anymore since it’s summer and I was experiencing slower speeds. I decided to change the password. That night the mom “randomly” comes over with a gift card and asked if it is ok to still be on the WiFi. I asked her if her daughter already started school again or was taking summer classes and she dodged the question a few times. We ended the conversation pretty awkwardly and I’m not sure what to do now. ######

Response: NTA. She needs to get her own WiFi. ######


Prompt:
She came to me the other day and sat me down and said she’d like to stop taking birth control pills. I said ok we can use problems, no condom. She said no she doesn’t wanna use condoms. When I asked why, she said they don’t work 100% of the time (which is fair I guess but no birth control method works 100% of the time); and that the deed doesn’t feel as good. So I said ok what do you suggest. She said she’d like for me to get a vasectomy. Apparently she did her homework and my insurance covers the entire procedure which is fair enough I guess but I’m only 21 and I’m not quite ready to give up my fertility. She said that’s not an issue because vasectomies are reversible. I said not all of the time. She got frustrated and said she’s sick of the burden being on her and I said how can that be so when you used B.C. long before you met me, and I’ve always said if you want to get off it then I’ll support you. She said so support me and get the vasectomy. I said absolutely not, if you want to go and get your tubes tied that’s o.k and I won’t stop you but I’m not ready to sterilize myself yet.

Since that conversation she’ll ask me again and again if I’ve thought about it. At first I said yes and my answer hasn’t changed. But she won’t quit so I just say no or ignore her. It’s so annoying. She won’t entertain IUDs and to be honest her reasoning for being against condoms is kind of suspect. So she asked again just now and I said no please quit asking me. No matter how many times you ask I’m not changing my mind and that’s that.  Now she’s really angry at me because she thinkings VaSeCtOmIeS aRe So MuCh EaSiEr and I should suck it up but if I’m being honest the more she badgers me about it, the more convinced I am not to budge. So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She needs to do some research on vasectomy reversal. It can be between $4,000-$10,000 with a 30-70% success rate. If you want to have children in the future or aren't 100% sure you don't want any children, permanent sterilization should not be on the table. ######


Prompt:
My friends and I (all 20M) had plans to meet up for the first time in 2 months due to the restrictions being eased recently in my state and planned to meet in a park to kick a ball around and just catch up.

My girlfriend (20M) of 3 years asked to come before and I said no because I wanted to spend some time with just my mates and I feel like there is a bit of a different dynamic with her being there. She began to get very upset but I still didnt invite her.

She brought up that yesterday she invited me to see her 3 of her friends (they still saw each other regularly despite restrictions) which I did, we got along well and had a good time.

She claims that I am embarrassed by her but I dont think that that's true I just dont think this is the type of event to invite her to as it's just a group of 6 of us who have all been friends for 7 years.

I told her I would apologise to her and try to make it up to her if I was wrong so reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She needs to be okay letting you have some tim alone with your friends. That being said, invite her next time. ######


Prompt:
My sister and I have been fighting for a while because she never gets me so much as a card for my birthday, and I always would get her an actual present. When I brought it up to her before my birthday in September she said that it’s because I make more than her so it’s only fair that I “give back”.

So I didn’t get her anything this year, which caused a huge fight in January when it happened. Then we didn’t talk until now, but we recently bought my husband a new car which sparked another argument because she said that if I have enough for a car I have enough for a present for her.

The point isn’t that I can’t afford the presents, it’s that she never does anything for me. She keeps going on and on about how I make more but I’d be happy with a card or a drawing or something cheap.

My mom thinks I should just buy her something to shut her up but I think that would be enabling her.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She needs to be grateful for what she has. ######


Prompt:
So  growing up I had one of the most loving mothers one could as for, maybe  even a little too much. Except for times when she had her episodes. She  has schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and some other mental ilnesess I  forgot about. But for most part, she is very normal and sane, due to her  meds. But that's the problem. She never was a very religious person,  but every year, without fault, she will have this desire to connect to  god for some reason. She then start going to church at least 3 times a  week, and it seems to give her some comfort, so I don't even mention it.  But what surprises me is that everytime she finds a church, they tell  her she doesn't seem to have any condition regarding her mental state.  And that is true, because of her meds. Some time later they'll convince  her that with god on her side, she doesn't need to keep taking those  meds that are making her get fatter and fatter. God is all powerful and  will help her get through it.

Do I  even need to say it? After a couple weeks without the meds she is  completly changed, she doesn't recognize me anymore, start hearing  voices, seeing things that are there. When she gets like this, she  thinks I'm the devil or some evil spirit.

Yesterday  I moved to another house. The bills are coming up, it's all in her  name, she doesn't have any money. Most likely she will end up on the  streets in a couple months, and I don't care. I've had enough of this  shit. Last time she got better I told her if she stopped taking her meds  I would leave her to tend for herself, and so did.

So AITA for leaving her when I know she can't take care of herself? ######

Response: NTA. She may not have a choice about her chemical imbalances but treatment is a CHOICE. She is the only one that can make that choice. If you saved her now it would only enable the illness to thrive. This way she might hit hard times but it may be what she needs to lead her back to treatment and back into your life. ######


Prompt:
I'm a 13 yo female, my mom was a cheater and a liar during her marriage with my dad. She ended up just up and leaving when I was 9 and nobody knew where she went. Those months were the best months of my life, I loved my dad. She came back a little bit before Christmas after she missed my birthday. The fucked up thing is that she left again on Christmas Day! I've hated her since and always wanted to live with my dad. She would always yell at me for no reason and get me in trouble. I do have a younger sister, but she never gets in trouble for anything.

Fast forward a few miserable years, I'm in 6th grade so around 11 or 12. I attempted to end my life due to my mom's bullshit. She always made me feel like I was nothing. I thought it would all be over, but my attempt failed luckily. I was put into counseling and told my counselor everything. My dad has always known that I wanted to live with him (my parents have 50/50 custody). I get to decide who I want to live with full time in my freshman year of highschool ( I'm going to be in 8th grade)and I told my mom I was gonna choose my dad. She told me that that wasn't going to happen and that it would stay 50/50.

I told her my reasons for wanting to leave and she said I was lying. That none of that happened. I was livid with anger and told my dad what she said. He confirmed everything I said and she wouldn't believe it. I told her my mind was made up and ever since she's been trying to buy my love, but she still yells at me and does everything she's been doing. I'm still going to live with my dad, but now I feel kinda bad for her.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She made terrible choices. Protect yourself from her. ######


Prompt: So my wife calls me into the room and proceeds to say "Hey Google, how do I get my husband to stop being annoying?" and starts laughing. I suppose in her defense this was said somewhat jokingly, so I just rolled my eyes and walked away. In the next room, I ask our other Google home the same thing about my wife. I was also half kidding, and knew I was going to get the same answer of "Sorry, I can't help with that." Then my wife walks into the room and starts talking about how that's not nice and starts demanding an apology from me. Needless to say, she didn't like the apology I gave, and went on to tell me she hopes a wild animal attacks me while I'm out for a walk. Better judgment would suggest that I shouldn't have said any of that but AITA for not giving a sincere apology here? It seems to me like she thinks she can demand an apology whenever she wants, and I just have to bow down to her and say "Yes, dear." ######

Response:
 NTA. She made a silly joke, you laughed it off, like a good sport. You made the same silly joke, and she decided to turn it into a fight with you. Sounds like she was baiting you to begin with and an argument was inevitable because she was looking for one. Tell her to fuck off.

EDIT: maybe don’t say “fuck off” though. Use better words obvi. Good luck OP. ######


Prompt:
I (17 pre everything mtf) have recently realised that I would be comfortable in life as a transgender woman. Unfortunately due to conservative parents I’m going to have to wait until I move out to transition.

When I realised this, the first person I told was my (now ex) girlfriend (17), a little bit of background she is clearly of Asian descent but her parents are white as snow, it’s clear to everyone shes adopted. She seemed supportive at first (using correct pronouns and my chosen name) she even said she would stay with me through my transition, I told her not to spread the word because my Dad could ship me off to conversion therapy if he heard about this.

At first I was happy to have told her but when I woke up I was flooded with messages from literally everybody in my year. Some where nice offering make up tips and the like, but some where calling slurs such as tranny or trap. And then I realised that there is a high likelihood that this is all going to get back to my Dad via people in my year telling their parents about the situation and then I’m royally screwed.

I messaged my ex asking if she told anyone. She claimed to have only told a few. I then asked where literally everybody in my year knows now. She told me to grow up and how accepting people are. I then reminded her of my VERY conservative dad and she responded with an eye roll emoji. That really pissed me off so I said “At least my biological parents give a shit about me and didn’t just sell me out to some random ass family” she left me on read after this and according to her friend she was crying on FaceTime.

In hindsight I could see she meant well by telling her friends but I specifically told her not to because of the consequences that would unfold if the word got around. I feel like an asshole for what I just said but I suppose it’s up for you to decide. ######

Response: NTA. She literally risked your life by outing you like that. I wish you a happy, healthy, *safe* new home. ######


Prompt:
Okay, so I’m writing this on behalf of myself and my housemates (7 of us total). Recently, it was one of my housemate’s birthday and invited a handful of people over including this girl. He let her sleepover at our house along with some others because they were all drunk and would’ve had to drive home.
In the morning, everyone leaves except the one girl. She continues to stay in our house all day- while she knows none of us except the former birthday boy who was passed out all the next day. She wakes up and starts drinking one of my housemates bottles of whiskey without permission and then goes to the grocery store. She buys a handful of random shit like a carton of eggs, cream cheese, coffee creamer, a wrap, a container of sauce. Note that she asked us if we wanted anything before leaving.
She wanders around the house all day and leaves and comes back again and ifs visibly fucked up. She even said to me that she’s been “going all day.” Then finally she gets the hint that it’s weird she’s there bc we don’t know her. She leaves and then has to come back for her phone– again bc she was drunk all day.
We don’t hear from
her until a few days later, she tells the birthday boy that she wants us to venmo her for that shit back. Like dude– we don’t know you, you were fucked up at our house, and left shit. We ate most the groceries so what should be done?
Am i the asshole for not eating the shit / then not venmoing her? ######

Response: NTA. She left it there, she could have taken it with her. No one asked her to buy it. Tell her the whiskey she drank without permission is her payment. ######


Prompt:
I honestly don't know if I did the right thing. I live by myself, and my little sister was over for the weekend, and this has been eating at me, so I need judgment.

My sister (12) was ranting about how she feels her parents (she's my stepsister) always favor our little sibling, and she had _quite_ the list of examples.

Personally, the way her parents, my parent and step parent, made it clear how I was the least favorite child has damaged me quite badly, as in, I needed therapy and all the shit. I wanted to be there for my little sister, so I told her that, while it broke my heart that I cannot fix it for her and she is stuck in the same situation I was stuck in, I know how she feels, and that I felt the exact same way when I was younger, and that I am also seeing that her little sibling is being favored over her, so she is not just imagining things. I told her that I am always there for her, she can call me whenever she needs to vent, and if she really can't take it anymore, she can always schedule to come over to my place to spend a bit of time away from her parents to just let it all out.

I am now wondering if I shouldn't have just tried to affirm her of the fact that her parents love her a lot. As in, I _tried_ talking to them when I was going through it, but they are seriously not aware of the fact that they are treating different children differently, no matter how many examples you have. I mean, I _am_ convinced that they love her, but I just think that they don't realize that they are doing this to their daughter.

I am kinda scared that by telling her that they put me through the same thing, I may have planted a seed that might drive a wedge between them, while it might have been better for her and her parents to just try to smooth it over. So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She left having been heard, believed, respected, and with a safe place to use again later. ######


Prompt:
Am I the asshole for freaking out on my girlfriend for making me think she’s pregnant?

For some context, we’re both 17 and going into our senior year of high school. My parents had me at a really young age and it sort of derailed their lives. For this reason, I’ve been so scared of having kids of my own, especially at a young age with the fear of not being adequate to care for them, or it stunting my dreams. I’m not sure if I’ll even want kids ever. I’ve expressed this to her and explained how terrified I am of parenthood. She and her niece (16) decided to play a prank on me where they send me a picture of a positive test and tell me she’s pregnant. I was skeptical at first, but I called her and she was believably crying and eventually told me when I said I had to tell my mom and ask for guidance. Once she told me it was a joke, I hung up and wouldn’t take any of her calls. She expressed remorse and I’m starting to feel I may have overreacted a bit, however I feel like this isn’t just some irrational fear, there’s some deep rooted psychological problems involved in this, and I don’t think she understands. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She knew that was a deep fear of yours and chose to exploit it for laughs. You cant trust this girl. Dump her. ######


Prompt:
I live in an apartment that I moved into in September 2019. Since arriving, I have had probably close to 20 packages show up at my door addressed to someone I've never met. Let's say the name is Autumn. The packages all have my address and Autumn's name. Since they're not addressed to me, I just leave them outside and eventually they've all been picked up. I've never seen anyone pick them up, but they're always gone in 2-3 days.

At first I thought it must be the previous tenant who forgot to forward their mail, but I've never gotten a piece of mail addressed to Autumn. I do get mail addressed to previous tenants occasionally, but never a single piece addressed to her. I even mentioned this to my building manager, and she said she's never heard of Autumn. It's possible that she lived at this address with someone else and was just never on the lease, but still, she's never lived here.

My guess is that she has her packages sent here because we have a gate with a code, as opposed to other apartment buildings in my city which are open to the street. Almost all the packages have been marked on the outside as expensive cosmetics brands. I get that she doesn't want her stuff stolen, but it kind of pisses me off that a stranger is using my address as a free PO box. Like, if she can afford to order expensive makeup 2-4 times a month surely she has a little extra cash for a PO box, right?

On top of it all, this means that a stranger who has never officially lived in my building is still using our gate code to gain access to the building frequently. Which is in itself kind of skeevy, right?

I've considered leaving a short "please stop having your packages sent here" note, but haven't acted yet. ######

Response:
 NTA. She is massively, for obvious reasons no one has to explain.

Every time you get a package like that, take it inside so she can't get it. That breaks her scheme right there. They aren't yours, but you can and should take them inside and then eventually make a trip to UPS or whoever send it and explain that the address is yours, but the person's name who is on the package doesn't live there and it must have been an error. Have it sent back to the shipper.

If you catch the deliver guy while he is there, refuse delivery and insist it goes back with the delivery guy. If this is through USPS, go to your USPS location and ask to fill out the form preventing mail delivery to your address for that person's name.

If she can no longer get her packages from outside your apartment this scheme of her's stops working and she will stop putting your address in. She might put someone else's address but at that point it's not your problem.

And as to why she is doing it, have you ever considered that it's someone buying merchandise with stolen credit cards, putting a fake name and your address for delivery and they pick it up from your place to avoid the stolen goods being tracked to where they actually live? You could be being used in an illegal, fraudulent scheme. ######


Prompt:
We have a friend who came out openly as a lesbian two years ago (we're all 15 y/o now) and ever since the beginning of the last school semester, she's been touching me.

She was always hugging me from behind, or pinching my butt, or squeezing my breasts. At first it didn't bother me because my friends and I all playfully do this to each other, but then I started to notice that she was doing it more frequently to me than them.

Whenever we sat down, she always found some way to sit next to me, and always found some way to put her hand on my knee.

Our group likes to do "air kisses" - where you kiss the air on each side of someone's cheek - but more than once, she has "accidentally" kissed my actual cheek. But she never "accidentally" kisses any of our other friend's cheeks...

Right before they canceled school, she made a beaded bracelet for everyone in our friend group, but mine and hers were the only ones with hearts on it.

I'm too afraid to tell any of my other friends what she is doing to me because I don't want them to think I'm homophobic. COVID has been a safe haven for me because it gave me an excuse to avoid her for many months.

But we're all supposed to hang out tomorrow and I don't know if I can keep doing this. She's touched me so much that even as I write this I can think forward to tomorrow and already feel her touching me again.

Will I be the asshole if I tell her to stop?

TL;Dr I have a lesbian friend who touched me so mucb that I want to tell her to stop touching me, but our group is a very touchy-feely group and I don't want my friends to accuse me of being homophobic. ######

Response:
 NTA. She is making you uncomfortable, and that's not okay. You have a right to feel comfortable in your own skin and around your friends. Not wanting to be overly groped by someone who happens to be a lesbian doesn't make you homophobic, it just makes you a person who doesn't want to be overly groped.

I wouldn't necessarily call her out in front of everyone else. But perhaps let everyone know that you're uncomfortable being touched (AKA, don't announce "\[Friend\], don't touch me" when you're in front of everyone). If she gets upset, that's not on you -- because if she truly sees you as a friend, she should respect your wishes. ######


Prompt:
I recently re-connected with a friend from high school when her husband was accepted into a masters program at the same university where I am attending grad school. We were both really excited when we found out we would be living in the same city.

However. She is vastly different from the person I used to know. She was SOOO ambitious in high school and both of us had dreams of attending medical school and maybe even going into private practice together. (I know, I know, we were young and naive when we made these plans and people change). Sometime in college (we went to different schools), she met a guy, married him, and dropped out of school.

She is now a "stay-at-home mom." I say this in quotes because her mother also lives with them and basically takes care of the grandchild. This friend likes to complain how hard she has it because they have to live on her husband's stipend from grad school and how she thinks clipping coupons and applying to welfare is "humiliating." Apparently, she never envisioned herself being so "poor."

I have heard this story so many times my ears want to bleed. After the 5th iteration, my patience wore out at about 3 minutes into her whining. I'll admit, I not-so-kindly suggested that she get a job if she feels that her current life is beneath her. She proceeds to accuse me of being anti-feminist (did not follow that argument) and for having a holier-than-thou attitude because I happened to get "lucky" and got into medical school. There was also something about hating against religion because she and her husband are Mormon and, evidently, women are not expected to work. She stormed out of the coffee shop and I got to enjoy my latte in peace.

AITA for how I responded? Should I have just sat there and nodded along? I have never been so brusque with a friend before, but her entire woe-is-me mentality was INFURIATING. ######

Response: NTA. She is an arsehole for complaining ad nauseam about something that she *could* change but isn’t *willing* to change. ######


Prompt: my (18) sister (23) does this thing where she’ll take the rest of the pads when there’s not much left and doesn’t tell anyone. i’m fine with her taking the pads but i just want her to tell me beforehand so that i can ask mom to buy pads. she doesn’t tell me until after i ask her where the pads are. she has done this multiple times before btw. this morning, my period decided to come early and when i asked where the pads were, my sister went into her room (the pads are supposed to stay in the bathroom) and gave me two pads. now that i have money to buy pads,  i’m thinking about going to the store tomorrow, buying pads, and hiding them. i know my sister will be mad and my mom will be on her side but it’s honestly annoying that she doesn’t say anything about the lack of pads when she knows she isn’t the only household member who gets a period. ######

Response: NTA. She is also hiding them... ######


Prompt:
So, I (22f) love to sleep. My mom is working from home and spends most of her time in the kitchen. I wouldn’t call myself a night owl per sé, but I would say that no matter how late I stay up, I can end up sleeping until pretty late in the morning. My mom doesn’t like this. She usually doesn’t like when people are asleep while she is awake. This was a quality that partly led her to divorce my dad since he worked night shifts and slept during the day.

When she started getting up at 4:30 every morning, she decided to let go on getting everyone else up since that was an unreasonable time for me and my stepdad for obvious reasons. That being said, if I’m not awake by 9:30 am, she often comes in my room to vacuum, go through my closet to find laundry, start conversations, open my windows (she also doesn’t like knowing that someone’s curtains are closed when it’s daytime), and try to get me out of bed when I’m nowhere near awake. Her claim is if I don’t want her to do that, then I should be going to bed at the same time as her every night (8:30pm) that way I don’t feel tired in the mornings or sleep in.

About ten years ago, locks were installed on all of the doors in the house when my stepbrother stole the household phones and cell phones to get back at us for not sharing our phones when he broke his out of anger. After he moved out, I was told that if my door was locked for any reason other than to get dressed, the door would be taken off it’s hinges. I was 13 at the time and haven’t been told anything different since it was a fire hazard when my moms room was on the opposite side of the house. Renovations have happened since and that is no longer the case.

I want to start locking my door to keep my mom out of my room while I’m asleep, and I’ll get up when I want to get up. But if I do, I’m worried I’ll lose privacy since I’m technically still under her roof.
Reddit, WIBTA if I started locking my door? ######

Response:
 NTA. She has unreasonable expectations. You'd think she would have realized that after it contributed to the divorce. I really don't understand why should everyone conform to her weird schedule.

You said she's working from home and spends time in the kitchen. How does someone sleeping and not making noise cause a problem for her? Is she lonely or something?

Lock your door and see what happens. If she tries to retaliate, try having a rational discussion with her. You're 22, not 12. She should respect you instead of trying to control the way you live your life. A different sleep schedule is really not a valid cause for concern here.

I also think it's weird to insist on keeping the curtains open. ######


Prompt:
 My daughter (20F) started a diet a few weeks ago where she doesn’t eat after 7PM. I’ve read mixed things on this, but nothing dangerous. She is active, eats healthy on the regular. So, she’s not starving herself. So, I didn’t say anything on it.

Then she got into a fight with her dad yesterday. This whole “no one can leave the house” is great for relationships I tell you. She’s refused to talk to him or be in the same room as him for days. She took a nap today and woke up at like 6:30 PM. My husband was in the kitchen cooking. Now, I was not downstairs at the time but I guess he stayed in there for an hour cooking dinner. She could’ve easily gone in there and gotten something to eat for herself and gone back to her room (he was using the stove but the microwave and counter space was still available). My husband has also been cordial and trying to work out their fight. He also says he didn’t stay in the kitchen on purpose, he didn’t know she was refusing to go in there because he was. He was simply making dinner for himself, me and our youngest (my daughter never eats what we do, she always eats her own thing by her own choosing).

Anyway, my daughter comes upstairs around 8, whining that she’s “starving” and that it’s her dad’s fault she can’t eat. And how dare he be in the kitchen. I told her that she was being ridiculous. I said she could’ve gone in there while he was or if she really is that averse to him right now, for one night, she can eat after 7. It’s okay. She won’t fall apart. She said I don’t understand dieting. I said maybe not, but this diet sounds stupid if you can’t break it once so you don’t starve. She then got mad and I said she was being childish. She went to her room and hasn’t come out. She texted her little sister, who showed me and apparently I’m an asshole.

So Reddit, am I an asshole here? ######

Response: NTA. She has the option to eat at any point but chooses not too. You’re not a bad person for pointing out the obvious if she’s going to complain about the limitations she set on herself. ######


Prompt:
I have three three vehicles I drive. Two of them I owned before marriage, and one of them I bought after we married. Two of the vehicles (a jeep and a car) are manuals. The third vehicle is a large truck (Ford Super Duty) that I had lifted.

My wife has never driven any of my vehicles because she can't drive a manual and doesn't really want to learn and feels uncomfortable driving my truck because of its size.

She would like for me to get rid of one in exchange for something she feels comfortable driving even though she has her own car. Her argument is that we need another car she can drive in case something happens to hers. My counter has been that she can drive my cars but she chooses not to either learn how or spend time getting comfortable with them. This isn't a case of not having cars that can be driven.  She thinks I am missing the point and being an AH by refusing to get something she doesn't have to learn to drive, but I think she is being a bit difficult to please by refusing to meet me halfway and take me up on my offer to get her comfortable with one of the vehicles.

She also has been very adamant lately that I need a car which is "appropriate" for a baby and has been pushing for me to make this change sooner rather than later, but I think this point isn't relevant right now. We're not close to having kids, so there is no point in making a change when that is likely several years away.

Edit to add: I also think the car or jeep is suitable for a child. I don't even agree with her view that one of them cannot be used for kids.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. She has options - She could learn to drive a manual; she could drive the truck (maybe offer to have the lift kit removed if/when she gets pregnant) so it's more accessible; she could buy her own extra car. There is no reason the entire burden of making a change should fall on you other than the fact that she just wants it that way. She wants a change then she needs to be willing to make it herself. ######


Prompt:
This happened a while ago, I work at a local pizza place, and it was dinner rush. I manage the phone, counter, and oven because we were understaffed

During rush a lady comes in and orders food, I get everything ready and ask if she wants a bag, she says no. I tell her the usual thank you for coming have a nice night.

I then go to answer the ringing phone to place them on hold so I can service the next person at the counter when she yells out ‘actually can I have a bag?’ Because everyone else is busy getting deliveries or making pizza I grab a bag, open it, and hand it to her over the counter where she’s standing. The store has one of those high glass protection counters, like subway, and she was at the end of it so I just jumped to give it to her when she didn’t move down towards the register.

I again tell her to have a nice night and enjoy her food, when she just stops, stares at me and beings yelling at me telling me I could of come around and placed the food she was holding into the bag, she immediately walked out cursing under her breath, all my coworkers and customers in the store just kind of stopped and looked at her because we were all in shock.

I then go and take the order of the people on hold and the counter when another call comes in, it’s someone requesting to talk to the manager because ‘she received the worse customer service she’s ever had and she will never come back, and she’s been coming here for years and has never come across someone like me with such an attitude, and that I need to be reprimanded by someone’ my manager just gave her a ‘yes, I am sorry and will talk talk to her about it’ I didn’t get reprimanded, everyone just kind of laughed it off, I’m only asking because when I told my mom she said it was rude of me to not walk around and put the ladies food into the bag. ######

Response: NTA. She has obviously never worked in food service or customer service in general. ######