Prompt:
I am involved in a non-monogamous relationship with a couple. I am their unicorn. I have met up with them twice but its easier for me to meet him separately so he came to my house a few weeks ago.

Anyway I try to be friends with the wife outside of sex. I got insanely sick Tuesday night and spent all of Wesnesday and Thursday sleeping. Today I feel better but I started my period! And I mentally slapped myself saying "duh you haven't taken your pill in like 4 days."

So I sent a picture of my package of birth control to my metamour with the caption of "Me on Friday: wondering why my period just started."

She's currently going off on me. Saying how irresponsible I'm being and it's not something to joke about. And don't I know she has endometriosis and has been trying to get pregnant with her husband and can't?  (I actually didn't know this. If she told me before I completely forgot.)

And I'm like.... I'm not trying to get pregnant by your husband... I definitely won't be having unprotected sex with ANYONE in the next 8 days at least. I just thought it was kind of funny because I was essentially dead for two days and taking my pill was not one of my priorities?

Seriously am I an asshole or is she overreacting because of her situation? ######

Response:
 ESH or NAH (can't decide)

I appreciate a little dark humor OP AND I can see where the wife would be upset.

My gut is telling me you might want to quit this particular arrangement and find another, I think the well may be poisoned now. Take care! ######


Prompt:
I am the youngest of 3 and I have 2 older brothers who are 21 and 18 while I am 16, don't get me wrong I love my brothers but I'm just tired of them not taking me seriously cause I'm the young and stupid one.  The 21yo has been the worst when it comes to disregarding everything I say, and any opinion gets shot down as "being less than his" and that he is just so much better than me.

Recently I was helping my brother with his homework cause I am really good at chemistry and he is not.  We were at the kitchen table and my oldest brother was just watching me help him.  I messed up an equation and he just had to run his mouth about how I don't know what I'm doing and tried to push me out of the way.  I full on told him to just leave and that I got this.  He said that I don't know what I'm doing and to let the big kid handle this.  (this is where I might be TA) I said "Oh yeah the big kid?  Your the 21yo still living with mom and dad.  Your expertise in chemistry really helped you move out huh?  Get the fuck out of here I got this."  I could see him FUMING but my other brother told him just leave and he did.

Later that day my oldest brother told me that he "demands" me to respect him and that I will NEVER talk to him like that again.  I told him to then respect me too then and he brought up how I'm a kid and I don't get respect yet so I went to my room and refused to talk with him.  AITA? ######

Response: ESH nothing wrong with being at home when you’re 21 as long as you contribute to the household. Both of you are acting childish and honestly you’re at an age where you aren’t a a child. You’re old enough to drive both of you need to grow up. ######


Prompt:
So I was recently talking to a girl over text after she saw my photo with my cousin on instagram, and she knows my cousin. My cousin then gave her my number, and this is where it all took place.

So we started chatting, when she abruptly asked me how tall I am out of no where. I answered and she sent a sighing emoji telling me that short guys suck (in a nutshell). I figured since she wanted to distinguish a barrier between her type and not her type, I decided that I might share mine.

I asked her how much she weighed, which she then left me on read for nearly an hour. The reason why I asked her how much she weighs is because I pride myself in the hard work I put in to my workout to stay feeling well and to possibly increase my chance at finding the type of women I like.

Anyways... She responds telling me that I’m a dickhead and that she is gonna try to spread this news to everyone at my school to lower my chances with other girls. I did not realize that the question would offend her, and my intentions were good, just trying to make sure that I was gonna talk to a girl that I  would be glad to meet once this whole thing is over.

Anyways, although I may have accidentally hit a sensitive topic without realizing the repercussions, I promise I had good intentions and was not trying to make her upset, so Reddit, Am I the A-Hole? ######

Response: ESH it's fine that she has a preference, but she sucks for insulting short guys. It's fine that you have a preference, but you suck for pretending like you didn't know exactly what you were doing. ######


Prompt:
I’ve been with my husband for 21 years. I grew up with hamsters, ferrets, cats, dogs. He doesn’t like cats and has allergies, so I’ve given him that. I came into the relationship with a small breed dog and we got a large breed dog.. all learning experiences for him, but he loves our dogs. His only allergies that present are to cats.

Recently, our 16-year-old daughter wanted a hamster. She actually made a PowerPoint presentation about why she should have one. She already owns a crested gecko that she has taken amazing care of. She is also a straight A student and genuinely good kid. She also worked and saved money.

After her presentation my husband said no, and then I called him into another room to tell him I think if she is paying for it and caring for it and doing so great with her schoolwork, why not?

So I got her a hamster. He’s not happy with me, because he hates “rodents”.

AITA? ######

Response: ESH I guess? You and your husband should've talked and come to an agreement. However, it did bother me though when I read the "rodent" thing because I had a hamster for almost three years who passed away recently, and he was my best (and a lot of the time only) friend to me and not just a "rodent." I feel like it's important to get your kid a pet during this time when you can't see your friends and everyone is stuck at home so the hamster can get used to everyone in the family. I'm really mixed on this one. ######


Prompt:
Pretty much it. It was a big crowd waiting for a subway. When the subway came. She started cussing under her breath, telling people to move. Then she started shoving people away with her purse.

She started shoving me hard while mumbling smth and so I grabbed her purse and threw it behind her.

I wasn't trying to hurt her, I just got annoyed that she was acting like a princess on a busy day in the subway.

She wasn't schizophrenic or anything. She was just in a pissy mood.

Am I the Asshole? ######

Response: ESH grabbing someones purse and throwing it is not a "quick relfex" lol you threw the purse because you felt slighted therefore everyone is an asshole. ######


Prompt:
I’m currently 28 weeks pregnant. As I’m sure many of you are aware, wearing clothes can feel very restrictive when it’s already hard for you to move. Since we’re on lockdown and I’m not going to work, I decided it would be nice to just not wear anything while here at home. I already do this anyway after work, but now I’m doing it during the day. I also thought my husband would enjoy it.

It turns out however that he instead has gotten really annoyed with me for it. Constantly telling me it makes me look like a slut, and that our neighbors could see me and it makes him uncomfortable. I asked him how it was different from when I normally do it and he said it was only ok because I did it at night during the dark and when we get naked for sex anyway.

I said he was being ridiculous and have been ignoring his complaints for the past week, but today he turned all the lights in the house off and won’t open our curtains or windows. Apparently he got a call from our neighbor saying she saw me in the window and he got really pissed off. I don’t really see the issue but he just won’t let it go now.

AITA for being naked at home? ######

Response: ESH Girl, cover the windows. What type of person calls a neighbor to say he saw his wife naked? Tell your husband that your body is not solely reserved for sex with him and your nudity isn't only there to please him. ######


Prompt:
Each yeah, my neighborhood hosts a potluck for Mother's Day. It's supposed to be a fun way for moms, grandmothers, families, etc to celebrate. Several people have a common food allergy (lactose intolerance) so we usually set aside a separate table for dishes that don't have cheese.

This year a new neighbor (Sally) came and put her dish on the cheese-free table. I asked what her dish was, and it turns out it was something with cheese. I explained what the separate table was for and moved her dish to the main table. Sally wasn't happy I moved her dish, and after a few minutes, I noticed it was back on the table for plates without cheese. So I moved it to the main table again. A few minutes later, I saw Sally moving her plate back to the cheese-less table AGAIN.

At this point, I had enough. I threw her dish in the garbage because I didn't want someone allergic to cheese to accidentally eat it and get sick. Sally made a scene and really put a damper on the event for many of the neighbors. Some people side with me (especially the lactose intolerant people who are glad I was looking out for them), others say I took it too far by throwing the food Sally made in the trash. I was curious about whether I was an asshole in this situation. ######

Response: ESH for partying in a pandemic. Don’t give a damn how many people in your neighborhood have had the virus - it’s risk with terrible consequences. ######


Prompt:
I've been married to my wife for the past year three years and dated her for five before that. She's extremely family orientated. She loves family and being with family. Her picture of a refreshing day is spending the day with family members. Since her mother died pretty young, she became really attached to my mother who likes to baby my siblings and I. She feels like the two of them have a special relationship and she loves it.

Problem is, my mother doesn't like her. Nor does my father. I think they're just really hung up on my previous girlfriend who they were really rooting for. They aren't outright rude to her face and try to be friendly but they can be a bit off behind her back. One example would be their nickname for her which is Fiona. Obviously she loves it and sees it as something sentimental but it's actually just a reference to Shrek.

Today I was on a call with them and my mom asked how Fiona was. I shouted at her to stop using that name (spoken about it before) and warned her against calling her that. My wife overheard the conversation and asked me why I was so upset over it. Eventually I told her the truth and she understandably was angry. I gave her space and she called her dad. I didn't want to eavesdrop on the conversation but she did call me an asshole. I understand that she's upset and rightfully so but to be honest I'm struggling to see the wrong in me lying to her about this. She was happy in the ignorance of what was going on, my kids were happy with their grandparents in their lives and I was happy keeping the peace. Aita? ######

Response: ESH except your wife. Your parents sound awful. Who cares about an ex you had over 8 years ago. You suck for letting this go on for as long as you did! If I was your wife I’d be absolutely heartbroken. ######


Prompt:
I really don't like my wife's parents. Her mom acts dumb for attention, has to be treated like a child, and has emotional outbursts. Her dad is super judgmental, condescending, and doesn't seem to really like his own children. I wish my wife would just go no contact, because she doesn't enjoy them at all, but she keeps saying they are her family and she can't cut them off.

We spent the night at their lake house recently and everyone had been drinking. I guess FIL passed out downstairs because when I came down in the morning he was sleeping on the coach. MIL was making breakfast so I'm sure she heard most of this. I farted, which I guess woke him up and he immediately told me that I'm a fucking idiot and then he began calling me names. He was even using homophobic slurs so I started filming him.

MIL came out and started telling me that her daughter must be gay because I'm so womanly, and she just kept screaming at me to stop filming. My wife finally came down and they both started verbally abusing her. MIL began to cry about how ungrateful she is and how she never should have had her. I posted this on the internet and now they are threatening to sue me. I did take it down, but my wife is furious and says she is going to lose her parents over me. ######

Response:
 ESH except your wife.  Grow up dude.  And if you don't like them don't see them.  Kinda hypocritical of you to go to their lake house and take advantage of their hospitality when you three despise each other so much.
I empathize with your wife. ######


Prompt:
My Mother in law (MIL) chewed me out on the phone for not being more sympathetic towards my sister in law (SIL) after she experienced her sixth miscarriage. We have expressed condolences after each and every miscarriage but apparently, I didn’t sound “sorry enough” this time around. I reminded her that SIL has a beautiful daughter and said something along the lines of “perhaps she should spend more time with what she already has instead of spending so much time grieving for what might have been.”  Needless to say, it didn’t go over well.

They are both aware that we (my husband and I) ourselves have fertility issues (I’m flat out infertile) and they have often pestered us about it, often asking “when are you going to adopt?” or “Why haven’t you tried IVF yet?”

My husband wants me to call my SIL again (which I’m Okay with) and to call back and apologize to my MIL (that, I’m not so cool about). AITA for balking about apologizing to my MIL? ######

Response: ESH except the SIL. I don’t see any point apologizing to the MIL. Toxic group the lot of you. ######


Prompt:
I know the title sounds bad but hear me out.

First off, the baby is ok, he cried a lot when I dropped him but it wasn't a huge fall and he didn't land with his head.

I \[25M\] and my wife \[24F\] have a 2-month baby. Usually, during the night, I am the one that changes his diapers, while she goes to the sink to empty her breast a little so the baby doesn't drown. However, I sleep with earplugs so my wife just wakes me up to change him, no problem there. Last night though, she thought he didn't need his diaper changed but went to the sink and left the baby on top of me (that's how he sleeps, on top of her). I was sleeping and somehow I moved and the baby fell off the bed. She yelled a lot at me and I yelled back. Later when the baby was calm, a huge argument raised and now she isn't speaking to me. Her mom is also mad at me for dropping the baby. So reddit AITA? ######

Response: ESH except for the baby.  Both of you need to follow the ABCs of safe sleep.  Non-optional. [https://www.nationwidechildrens.org/family-resources-education/700childrens/2014/09/the-abcs-of-safe-sleep](https://www.nationwidechildrens.org/family-resources-education/700childrens/2014/09/the-abcs-of-safe-sleep) ######


Prompt:
This account is a throwaway

Recently my son had a child with his now ex. He told me he is not planning to raise the kid or being involved with the kid and he is just sending child support. My daughter overheard this and came to the room saying he is not a man because he does not want to raise a child.

My son is 19 daughter is 27. I then in the moment brought up my daughter's abortion saying that she is a not a women because she did not take responsibility and raised the kid she helped create and chose to get rid of it. My daughter screamed and said it's not the same thing and left.  So aita for bringing up my daughter's  abortion after she told her brother that he is not a man because he chose not to help raise the kid he helped create. ######

Response:
 ESH except for honestly, your son.

When a woman is pregnant, she has two choices, keep or abort the baby (I'm counting giving up the baby for adoption as "keeping").

The guy has two choices, be part of the baby's life, or not (but still fulfill his legal financial obligations).  He's giving child support, he's actually fulfilling his requirements.

This thread can get thousands of comments arguing the pros and cons of the different choices he side gets, what's fair, is the man TA for not being part of the baby's life, etc.  If this thread takes off, I'm sure a good chunk of the comments won't be relevant to the main question.

In short, your daughter is TA for going off on your son for choosing one of his options, and you are TA for shaming your daughter for choosing one of her options. ######


Prompt:
So this happened before quarantine but my boyfriend still gives me shit and calls me an asshole for it so I need other people’s opinions on this situation.
My boyfriend (20M) and I (19F) go to different universities so we don’t usually see each other because we are a about 2 hours apart. When he visited my apartment on the weekend, we were in my room telling each other about random people we interact with during school and he told me about this girl (let’s call her Debby) who is his classmate in one of his classes. Debby constantly asks him to get food or drinks together and study after they partnered up for a big project, even though he always dodges the question. He told me he never told her that he has a girlfriend but in my head I was just thinking like if the memo is no then NO?? When my boyfriend left to go take a shower, I searched up debby’s Instagram and shot her a dm along the lines of “hey this is __’s girlfriend and he’s been telling me how you always pester him to go out even after you guys finished your project so I mean this as nicely as possible but can you please back off?”  My boyfriend found out about this and he’s been mad at me for dming her randomly because they happened to have mutual friends that they hang out with and things are awkward now. So reddit, AITA? ######

Response: ESH but the girl. You decided to attack the girl WHO DIDN'T EVEN KNOW THAT HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND instead of having a conversation with your boyfriend about why he isn't telling her about you.cthis is a problem with you and your boyfriend. Not the innocent girl. ######


Prompt:
For some backstory, my mom is a lesbian and is now engaged. My future stepmom has an ex wife of 15 years who has caused a LOT of issues in regards to their daughter and grandchildren, along with trying to break up my mom and stepmom. She would often accuse my stepmom of stealing and cheating on her despite clear evidence that she wasn’t

I added said ex wife on Facebook a bit ago to see what kind of person she actually was instead of relying on hearsay (she mostly just posted memes)

My birthday was yesterday and she posted on my timeline:

“Happy birthday, although I don't know why you sent me a friend's request. However I can give you a lot of info so your mom won't deal with what I dealt with for 15 long years. 😁”

This implication made me upset for a solid 2 hours; my stepmom has been nothing but loving and loyal to my mother and I

I finally responded this morning:

“What the fuck makes you think that's an OK thing to say about my parents? Especially hiding it under the guise of wishing me a happy birthday?? Just cause your relationship faltered with my stepmom doesn't mean they're not at their happiest”

Am I the Asshole? ######

Response: ESH but mostly this is on you. You’re dealing with a bitter ex but you asked for this interaction when you friended her. Stalking her on Facebook was a mistake but now know what you need to know. Stop interacting with her. ######


Prompt:
I am 14M and my sister is 17F. Recently, under quarantine, tensions have been high. I have been dieting and doing exercise to lose fat. I am really short and scrawny, but I have a belly. A few years ago, my sister started to tease me about it, as she can eat shit and not exercise but stay in shape. I have started to not expose my body, wear loose fitting clothes and tshirts when we go swimming.

Last week, I wore a tshirt that was a bit tight, and my stomach stuck out a bit. The conversation went like this. S=sister  Me=me  M=mum
S: Look at those rolls, fatty
M: Laughs
Me: Well at least I'm not going to fail all my GCSEs and my maths 3 times
*silence for a few seconds*
My sister runs out and to her room
M: That was over the line, you know she's sensetive about it
Me: Did you even hear her?
M: Yes but you don't care about that do you?

At this point, I just want to leave it behind, but we haven't spoken in weeks and I want to know if I was wrong, so AITA? ######

Response:
 ESH at different levels. Your mom is the worst for laughing at what your sister said and then choosing sides. Your sister has been doing this for a while so she goes second. Your reaction is justified but still quite petty.

Hopefully you'll be able to explain that what your sister has been saying is mean and pretty immature as an older sister.

EDIT: just want to add. You're 14 and still growing! I hope you don't take what is being said to heart. It's your body and nobody else should have a say in that. ######


Prompt:
I’m a clerk at one of only three places in a pretty small town that’s open right now and sells tobacco products.

 Recently an older woman came in and said she recognized I was the one usually working there in the hours her husband buys cigarettes and he’s been repeatedly warned his health is in jeopardy if he doesn’t quit, so if she gives me $500, would I agree to never sell him another cigarette.

I needed $500, and I’ve lost family to complications of smoking, so I said sure. I took the money and his photo.

But here’s the dilemma. Today he came in. He seemed really bent out of shape and was definitely in the throes or nicotine withdrawal. He demanded I sell him a cigarette. I told him I couldn’t (and explained what had happened) and said he should go home and talk to his wife directly.

He said he was aware of what his wife had gone around doing but he’d bid her up if I revoked the ban. I said that wouldn’t be fair to his wife and he really needed to talk to her about it. Eventually he left, since I was the only one in the store, so there was no one else to complain to.

He came back again today and begged me to sell him any cigarette, and even tried to bum one off a loiterer. I felt really bad for the guy.

He’s an adult and I’m starting to wonder if I’m an asshole for accepting the lady’s deal in the first place. He should be able to make his own decisions and his addiction really isn’t my business.

But she seemed genuinely concerned for his health (and he definitely didn’t look the picture of health.) I only wish someone cared enough about me to shell out $500 to three different stores in the name of my health. Plus it’s a dangerous time to be filling your lungs with smoke.

But... yah. I’m conflicted. AITA? ######

Response:
 ESH

You for accepting the bribe in the first place.

Her for offering it can cutting off her husband

While I’m personally against the entire concept of smoking and tbh applaud the wife for her creativity at solving the problem, quitting is a personal decision and shouldn’t be forced on someone.

To quote the phrase, you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves.   Best case scenario, he quits for a while and goes back to smoking.   Worst case he has serious health issues caused by quitting cold turkey. ######


Prompt: I (a woman) have a 9 year old son with my ex wife. We got divorced 5 years ago and he lives with his birthmom and her girlfriend for 4 years. Although I am not his birthmom, I am his adoptive mom and has the same legal rights as a father would have with shared custody and i have him every other weekend. My son has always called both of us mom and his stepmom her own name. They has started insisting that he should call her mom as well. This make me feel like the "extra mom". Am I just being to sensitive? ######

Response:
 ESH

All of the parents here suck, it should be left up to **HIM** as far as his comfort level and what he wants to refer to the parental figures that didn’t birth him as.

No one should be forcing him at all. ######


Prompt: Not too long ago, I fell in love with veganism and I honestly feel much healthier and happier ever since. I learned how to cook a variety of different foods but the thing is, my children do not eat the things I cook. They are really ‘meat reliant’ and refuse to eat dinner without meat (ok I am overreacting a bit but most of the food they eat includes meat). Ever since I stopped cooking meat for them they started ordering more and more Junk food. The only person who eats my food is my old daughter \[15F\] but she doesn’t really enjoy it and does it just because she’s scared to gain weight. My son and husband on the other hand gained a lot of weight these past few months. It didn’t shock me honestly but I am honestly worried about their health, especially my son who is just 10 years old and now and has 54 kg (height 4 feet 7⅛ inches) so he is obviously overweight. My husband also gained a bit of weight. I don’t want my son to end up obese like my husband and I am honestly worried, but at the same time I don’t want to give up on cooking vegan food. My husband told me today that I should stop thinking about myself and should start cooking food they like since the majority of the family don’t like the food I cook now. With work and house caring I already have little time to cook and I really enjoy the food I currently make. I unfortunately don’t have time to cook for both them and myself and I will have to give up cooking for myself if I decide to cook what they want. That’s why I refused what my husband told me. AITA for this? ######

Response:
 ESH (of the adults, that is) and you clearly have a lot of deeper issues that you need to work on. Something more fundamental than who cooks what is broken here. Meanwhile your kids are suffering over this disconnect—not because of the food itself but the way you and your hubby are making power plays through it.

If things weren’t already fucked up somehow, you could fix this pretty easily by offering to make most of the meal and giving hubby and the kids the responsibility of fixing their own protein. That’s a reasonable compromise. So why isn’t it already in place?

And I’m getting a weird vibe over the obesity and weight loss thing. What’s up with that? It’s one thing to be concerned for your family’s health and another to wrap up controlling behavior in concern. ######


Prompt:
Due to reasons, I’m staying at my parents’ house  till i can go back to my city. Unfortunately since none of my other siblings are home, i’m tasked with caring for my sister. She has autism and down syndrome. She’s also 19, and very very moody. I had to buy groceries, and my mom made her tag along with me.

From the minute we stepped foot in the store, it was non stop bullshit. Random grunts, and mini tantrums over NOTHING. What could’ve been a quick trip, turned into almost 2 hours of agony. Now here’s where things took an even worse turn.

As we were at the checkout, she suddenly throws a tantrum. Starts crying (it sounded fake, no tears) LOUDLY. Starts flailing her arms, gesturing wildly. At this point i’ve had enough, and she wouldn’t budge. So i walked out with everything, got in the car, and circled around the lot a couple of times. I found her at the same spot in front of the store, still crying, which pissed me off even more. We got back home, and she was still crying. I told my mother what happened, and she got pissed. AITA?

Edit: forgot to mention she’s non verbal. ######

Response:
 ESH (except your sister). Did your mom actually try to ask your sister if she wanted to go to the store or did she just force her along because she's non-verbal and couldn't dispute it? It doesn't sound like your sister wanted to be at the store in the first place and was overwhelmed and stressed out. It may have seemed like tantrums over "nothing" to you, but you have to understand that someone with autism lives a very different sensory experience from you. When I go to the grocery store, even the fluorescent lights vaguely fluctuating can make me start to panic and I'm """high functioning""" (for all the good that term does). Did you try to calm her down or give her time to relax, or were you dragging her along and ignoring her distress while continuing to put her in noisy situations? Was the store busy?

It doesn't sound like your parents have helped instill a very good communication method for your sister and it seems like she doesn't know how to communicate her distress outside of having these meltdowns. Please, for her and your good, [research ways to communicate with non-verbal individuals](https://autisticadvocacy.org/2014/02/color-communication-badges/) (never look at autismspeaks or the national autistic society) and try out some of these methods with her in the future. Going through the world without being able to express herself must be deeply frustrating for her. ######


Prompt:
My wife a little while back mentioned to me that she had made a deal with our daughter who just turned 14 that if she gets straight As on her report card she will take her to get her ears pierced again.

I was assuming my wife just meant a 3rd pair of holes as our daughter already had 2 and said it was fine.  Well last night at the dinner table our daughter was discussing with her mother about getting her ear pierced all the way up for achieving good grades.

I asked my daughter how many piercings she was planning on getting and was told about 6 more on one ear. Myself just responded back saying that ain't going to happen and then it was revealed that her mother said she could. I told her that I say no and she needs both parents approval.

My wife chatted to me about it later and said she made the deal to motivate our daughter to study but did not think it would actually happen. She told me that she is not happy about the piercings either but can't take back the deal.

I told my wife that I thought the number of piercings were way too much and thought getting them up in the cartilage was not a good idea. My wife acknowledged my concerns but basically said I would look like an Asshole if I tell our daughter she can no longer have the piercings. ######

Response: ESH (except for the child of course) - your wife should have let you know, and you shouldn't have undermined the kid's mum in front of her. Sounds like the two of you need to communicate more clearly as the kid will feel like she's getting punished now even though she didn't do anything wrong. ######


Prompt: Throwaway account for obvious reasons. Here’s a backstory: My brother (16M) and I (18F) have a horrible relationship. We live in the same house with my parents, and we rarely speak to each other. I’ve never ever touched any of his belongings because frankly why would I want to. He has nothing that I want to do with. Lately, he’s been touching my belongings and has went in my room twice to do God knows what. I haven’t noticed anything off in my room, however when we were younger he would tell me how he used to put deodorant (and who knows what else) on my toothbrush if I got on his nerves or made him mad. This resonates with me as he has slammed my bedroom door shut and I’ve seen him leave my room and ignore me when I ask what he wants. I’ve told my parents about this and they talked to him, but he told them I was being annoying and left. They haven’t tried again after that. So recently, I bought a keypad to hook on my door, but I told my parents to pay for it as they can’t seem teach him to respect other people’s belongings and that I shouldn’t have to resort to this if everyone just minds their own. So WIBTA for making them pay for my lock on my door? ######

Response:
 ESH - Your brother shouldn't be going into your room and touching your stuff. You're parents also should not be allowing him to do so.

If you wanted your parents to pay for it you should have asked before doing so, you can't just buy something and then demand people give you money for it.  You're 18, which means that you're an adult and if you want something, you pay for it. ######


Prompt: Throwaway account for obvious reasons. Here’s a backstory: My brother (16M) and I (18F) have a horrible relationship. We live in the same house with my parents, and we rarely speak to each other. I’ve never ever touched any of his belongings because frankly why would I want to. He has nothing that I want to do with. Lately, he’s been touching my belongings and has went in my room twice to do God knows what. I haven’t noticed anything off in my room, however when we were younger he would tell me how he used to put deodorant (and who knows what else) on my toothbrush if I got on his nerves or made him mad. This resonates with me as he has slammed my bedroom door shut and I’ve seen him leave my room and ignore me when I ask what he wants. I’ve told my parents about this and they talked to him, but he told them I was being annoying and left. They haven’t tried again after that. So recently, I bought a keypad to hook on my door, but I told my parents to pay for it as they can’t seem teach him to respect other people’s belongings and that I shouldn’t have to resort to this if everyone just minds their own. So WIBTA for making them pay for my lock on my door? ######

Response: ESH - your brother shouldn't be going into your room and doing god knows what with your things. However, you bought the keypad and THEN told your parents they would have to pay for it. If you wanted to go this route then you should have spoken to your parents first. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway for obvious reasons, mandatory apology for the bad formatting.

I (19f) have a friend, lets call him Thomas, basically hes been on a paypig website, ( men will pay money to have women insult them or humiliate them) on this website its mainly anonymous, a fake screen name and a few photos, and there aren't many gay guys he can profit from, that being said hes asked to use my pictures to essentially catfish these guys. At first i didn't have an issue with this, he said we'd split the profit 50/50. He would ask me to send pictures with my finger on my nose, things like that because the guy wanted to know if it was really me etc. No big deal.

Hes made about 2000 dollars since this has started, and we've split it evenly. I asked him to stop using my photos because the requests for photos he'd been asking me for were getting extreme and making me uncomfortable.( pictures of me trying to lick my toes things like that) He agreed and understood.

Im just finding out that hes been getting photos off my snapchat stories, and my instagram to use and send to these guys while still making money. I asked him about it and he said hed send me 100 dllars out of the 1000 he made. I asked for the 500, because A) Its me in the photos and B) because i asked him to stop. He sent me the money and has been really passive aggressive.

AITA? ######

Response: ESH - you’re both terrible ######


Prompt:
For context - I'm back in my hometown, staying with my parents, grandfather and sister in a small apartment which has only two bedrooms. Needless to say, this has led to cabin fever.

Today, my sister came to me with some news related to her job offer (they have delayed the joining date and reduced the salary) and I wasn't properly sympathetic because I was in the middle of some work (total asshole here, I agree).

Later, when talking to her and my mother things got heated because I hadn't displayed proper empathy to my sister. My mother got angry, and when she gets angry she starts screaming. She started telling me off and complaining about how much my sister and I fight.

Now, my parents have a very contentious marriage. I have grown up witnessing bitter fights every day, and my mother's constant complaining of my dad not living up to her expectations.

Back to the situation - I got fed up with my mother's screaming and I said well you shouldn't complain about us, you and dad fight too so how is this different.

Me saying this was unforgivable, and I have no right to comment on their marriage.

AITA? ######

Response:
 ESH - you don’t win arguments by saying the meanest thing. But obviously, it’s clear where you learnt this behaviour.

If I was you I would focus less on being right in an argument and really work on learning to respectfully communicate. While, so far, in a family who all fights the same toxic way, you probably haven’t seen any real consequences of your behaviour (or anyone else’s behaviour). But in reality, this will greatly impact your ability to have healthy relationships in the future. It won’t be easy because your parents have set a default, but you can do it if you really try to change. Good luck. ######


Prompt:
so i (f38) am a spinster. I live alone, don't have a husband or kids, and i like it that way. My sister (f34) is different, though. She's very [W.A.S.Py](https://W.A.S.Py) and tries to be perfect. She has a husband and 2 kids, and doesn't work. I have no problem with her lifestyle, until now. Her oldest is 12, and her youngest is 2 years.

So her and her husband got evicted, and since she is my sister i let her stay at my place. It started off fine, but it went sour quicky. Her oldest kid doesn't bother me, he mainly just plays video games on his phone or sleeps, and he's very respectful towards me. But her youngest is the devil in disguise. He constantly screams, tries to ruin or play with my things or just annoys you.

Yesterday, while i was sleeping and my sisters husband was at work (he works at a grocery store, i make money by selling paintings.), i was awoken by the sound of her youngest son just screaming happily and went up to see what the little demon was doing now. He was drawing in one of my books. I have alot of books about witchcraft and feminism from the 1960s-1990s that my aunt gave me that i value alot because she died and they are my only memory of her that aren't in my head or on a picture. I became  enraged and started yelling at him. He started crying and ran to the room where his and his brother sleeps. I then spent then entire evening trying to restore the book back to normal.  Later, his mom came to me, says he's sad and said i should apologize to him and say that i didn't mean the things i said. I absolutely did and i feel not one bit sorry for the kid, and that damaging property is a vaild reason to be yelled at. She called me a  asshole

AITA? ######

Response: ESH - you could have scolded without cursing out the child. At his age, it isn’t really his fault yet, if he’s a demon child, it’s because your sister condones and allows it. You should have cussed her out, you’re an asshole for yelling at the wrong person. And your sister is a mega asshole. You save her and her children from homelessness, and her thanks is to allow her toddler to vandalize your property. She is neglecting to watch and correct her child, and is being cruel to the sister that saved her ass by allowing your things to be damaged through that neglect. If you want any hope of saving your relationship with her, she needs to leave. The longer she’s there, the more you’ll resent her. And tell her to watch her fuckin kid, Jesus Christ how hard is it not to let your toddler color in heirloom books? (And before anyone gets all up in my shit, I have two daughters, I wasn’t perfect, but books are sacred and they were taught to respect them from a young age. As well as other peoples’ property.) ######


Prompt: So my friend wanted to buy a Switch and I told her if she found an extra to lmk and I'd give her the money. She said she found someone through letgo and basically was saying how friendly the guy was and he was sending her pictures and he was trying to get rid of them etc etc. When I told her how much was he asking you she said the price that he paid for because he was trying to get rid of them, when I was telling her how is she paying because he was located about two hours away from us she told me that he was going to be shipping it overnight and he would take cash app or venmo and I was telling her that she should really just do PayPal goods and services in case of anything and I kept telling her this over and over but she was adamant about venmo so I gave her the money and she paid for the guys to switches and then he ghosted her. Would I be the asshole if I made her give me my $325 because she didn't listen to me and got screwed over because of it? ######

Response: ESH - you both ignored the clear signs that it was a scam, you told her all the reasons it was a bad idea...and then gave her your money to lose. ######


Prompt:
I am the youngest of 3 and I have 2 older brothers who are 21 and 18 while I am 16, don't get me wrong I love my brothers but I'm just tired of them not taking me seriously cause I'm the young and stupid one.  The 21yo has been the worst when it comes to disregarding everything I say, and any opinion gets shot down as "being less than his" and that he is just so much better than me.

Recently I was helping my brother with his homework cause I am really good at chemistry and he is not.  We were at the kitchen table and my oldest brother was just watching me help him.  I messed up an equation and he just had to run his mouth about how I don't know what I'm doing and tried to push me out of the way.  I full on told him to just leave and that I got this.  He said that I don't know what I'm doing and to let the big kid handle this.  (this is where I might be TA) I said "Oh yeah the big kid?  Your the 21yo still living with mom and dad.  Your expertise in chemistry really helped you move out huh?  Get the fuck out of here I got this."  I could see him FUMING but my other brother told him just leave and he did.

Later that day my oldest brother told me that he "demands" me to respect him and that I will NEVER talk to him like that again.  I told him to then respect me too then and he brought up how I'm a kid and I don't get respect yet so I went to my room and refused to talk with him.  AITA? ######

Response: ESH - this sounds like siblings arguing and you both sound like kids ######


Prompt:
I met her 27 years ago. We lived next door to each other for 3 years and she was a very good neighbor to have. Very nice. We reconnected 2 years ago and she's been to several of my parties. But she's really bad about inviting like 20 people to come with her and I'm invaded.

Don't get me wrong! They're super nice people and when they come, they're taking out my garbage, washing dishes, they're great! But it's a little daunting to be expecting maybe 15 people and having 40 turn up.

But that's not the real problem. Even though we were neighbors, I never really understood just how...stupid she is. I mean like verging on brain damaged. She's just really, really dense. I had her over a couple of times last year and it was, just...unbearable. She has a REALLY loud, abrasive HAW HAW HAW!! laugh that just sets my teeth on edge. She constantly interrupts you when you're talking and it takes FOREVER to explain literally ANYTHING more complex than "food tastes good" to her. She also tends to get really, really drunk very quickly. She's also a 'close talker' and cannot seem to modulate the volume of her voice.

If it weren't for this virus, I'd be fielding daily messages, calls and texts from her wanting to come over and hang out. I usually just make excuses or pretend I'm not home. I keep hoping she'll get the hint, but, nope! Like I said, she's just not very bright.

Am I the asshole for ducking her? ######

Response: ESH - she sucks for being do inconsiderate, but you also kinda suck for hinting and not just telling her you don't want to be friends (gently, without telling her she's a moron). I mean, whats the worst that could happen? She stops liking you? Isn't that the goal? ######


Prompt:
Throwaway as my sister uses Reddit

I have a 25 year old sister and I am 13. A few years ago my sister moved out and she got her new apartment. I got my own room and got owner ship of the bathroom and closet in the room. Recently my sister has been staying in the guest room off the house as she was evicted.

My sister does not like to use the other two restrooms in the house because it is not private as I have another 10 year old step sister. My sister likes to use my restroom because it is private and I don't like it. She uses up all my shampoo and all the toilet paper leaving me with none.

She takes bath while I am sleeping and studying. So now here is where I might be an asshole. Today I was trying to study and my sister opened up my room and came in and told me she is taking a bath. I refused and told her to fuck off. My sister started screaming at me and telling me to let her use the restroom as I am monopolizing it. I went and blocked the door.

My sister tried getting me out by moving me and started crying. I told her to get out you disgusting bitch. My sister called my mom and told me that I am monopolizing the restroom. My mom agreed that I was right and my sister can use the other restroom as my sister is a guest. My sister yelled at me for being a mysgonstic because I did not let her use my restroom. So aita for calling my sister a disgusting bitch after she tried using my restroom ######

Response: ESH - She shouldn't be consuming all your toiletries or using it when you are sleeping, but it sounds like you are being petty too so, no offense but i think you need to grow up. Try actually talking to her and meeting in the middle. It's a skill you'll need to learn to use eventually, might as well start now. ######


Prompt:
First of all, I made my first Reddit account specifically to post this question, so please don't think I'm a troll! This has been bothering me for about a month now.

My BF and I have been together for 2 years and we are starting to talk about possibly getting engaged. He very casually mentioned that he doesn't believe in diamond engagement rings because they're just a ploy for jewelry companies to take all of your money, and it's unfair that the guy has to bear the burden of such an investment. I get that they're expensive, and I kind of see where he's coming from. But I have always wanted a diamond engagement ring! My heart broke a little when he said he didn't believe in them because I have always dreamt of wearing one.

Part of me thinks he's just trying to get out of spending the money. Neither of us are struggling financially. He doesn't buy me a lot of stuff otherwise, and I'm perfectly fine with that because I am able to support myself and buy my own things. But this is really important to me! So, I told him that I would only agree to marry him if there's a ring.

I have never seen him so angry. He screamed at me and called me a spoiled B\*\*\*\*. I told him there are ways to get around the burden of the price. For example, I can take on more of the wedding costs to even it out. I don't want to actually pay for half the ring because that kind of diminishes the gesture, but I'm more than happy to pay for other things until we are square. And it doesn't have to be a huge ring! But he refused to compromise and has been very cold towards me ever since. Suffice to say, we have not (yet?) gotten engaged.

So reddit, AITA for wanting a diamond engagement ring? ######

Response:
 ESH - honestly, this is not a ring problem. This is a both of you putting petty ideals over getting along problem.

If he has a problem with the symbolism and expense of diamonds, why would you still feel like a diamond ring he only gave you because you basically threatened to end the relationship over it would be a symbol of anything good?

If you care that much about the symbol, why the hell is he not willing to do it? I get that it's not meaningful to him, but there are plenty of industries I see no value in that I'd spend money on to make my partner happy. Diamonds are expensive and needlessly so but on the scale of wedding expenses they're hardly all that crazy.

If neither of you is willing to compromise, you've both ended a relationship over petty jewelry. No one does that unless there's other issues at play. ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend (25m) and I (22f) have been together for just over a year.
We have been in a semi long distance relationship for most of that time, as I moved away from our home town to the city for college around 3 months after we got together.
We still see each other at least 3 days a week, as it’s less than two hours drive.

A few weeks ago my boyfriend told me he wanted me to move in with him.
I thought about it for a while and decided that yes, I wanted to live with him and that commuting to college would be manageable especially as we have reduced campus hours currently due to COVID.

Last night though, he mentioned that he was looking forward to being able to put more money towards saving for a house deposit once I had moved in an was covering half the rent.

I had never expected to have to split his rent. My assumption had been that due to the increased cost associated with my travel to college, along with having to leave a fairly well paid part time job in the city and also the amount of time I would be spending commuting, almost 4 hours a day twice a week, that we wouldn’t be splitting the rent “equally”. I’d obviously still split bills and things, but not the rent as all these costs would end up with me financially disadvantaged by moving.

He got really angry when he heard this, saying that he wasn’t just going to have me free load and that we’d always been a partnership.
I agree that we’re a partnership but I’m very firm on this. I won’t be increasing the cost of his rent by moving in so why should I have to cover all the costs of me moving?
AITA for refusing to pay rent? ######

Response: ESH - He shouldn't clarified all of this before you moved in but you also shouldn't be surprised that you have to pay rent. If y'all can't sort out something basic like this, you're going to have a rough time communicating in the future. ######


Prompt:
I recently posted this on r/tifu and they made me wonder if I'm TA

My ex's wedding was in February. And like you could guess, I wasn't personally invited nor was I told anything about it from him even though we spoke daily. Well I found out about it from his grandmother (we're close) and she suggested I 'gate crash' and that she would cover for me (think she doesn't like the bride). I was interested in going because I wanted to find some closure since we had broken up rather quickly a few months before and I still wasn't over him. So I said yes.

The day came and his grandmother 'sneaked' me in and we watched the ceremony. It was beautiful. I shed a few tears but it really solidified things. I was ready to leave afterwards but his grandmother pushed me to go to the reception as well and sit next to her at the family table. Pretty awkward but I went. I was still mingling with the family, standing up, when the bride and groom came. They came and greeted and she congratulated me on the pregnancy. I thanked her and said something about how I couldn't wait to co parent with the two of them. Turns out that she didn't know that I was pregnant (5 months at the time) with his child the whole time. She lost her shit and ran out. He tried to run after her but then her dad came and started a scene. Lucky for me, my ex's brother came and helped get me out of there as soon as possible.

My ex still asks for updates but I recently heard from his grandmother they broke up and got an annulment. The 'bride' weirdly still follows me and comments/likes my pictures so I think she's fine with me but still, AITA? ######

Response: ESH - grandma is a trouble maker, he should have told his fiancée and you knew damn well what you were doing. ######


Prompt:
So I have a coworker (25/30F) called “Amy”. She’s single with no kids.

My boss (30/35M) called “Jake” is married to my COUSIN and has two kids.

Amy is in love with jake the way a lion is in love with a zebra. She’s always always trying to start anything with him or anyone else for his attention. I’ve done so good at ignoring it or just letting it slide. Amy and I have the same position so at first I thought maybe she just liked him but at some times I will feel like she does it to try and get a raise or promotion. She already has gotten one but from mine and other coworker perspectives not by doing a good job.

The other day on our zoom call (usually we are in an office) Jake was talking to us and one of his kids was yelling in the background. Amy slyly says “cant your wife take care of that? She must not be doing her job very well”. No one laughed. Jake went to go help the child and came back and she goes “dang you’re such a good daddy. “Kelly” (jakes wife) is a lucky girl”.

And those things we all are kinda like ehhh you should stop. Jake either laughs or goes along with it.

But then later when a few people dropped the call and there was about 3 of us on she told Jake “whenever this is over I can’t wait to see you in the office. We are going to need to get coffee to go over some things”

I snapped guys.

I told her in front of everyone she needed to respect his marriage and stop trying to be a home wrecker. I also told her she’s not as pretty as his wife anyways.

She dropped the call and no one has heard from her since. Yes I’m in trouble at work lol ######

Response: ESH - even if you could make the argument that you would be justified in saying to Amy that it makes you uncomfortable to have Jake's wife talked about like that (because you're her cousin), you didn't say it like that, and you most certainly were not justified in bringing Amy's looks into it. That crossed the line from being unprofessional into just flat-out poor judgment on your part. Pick your battles, pick your moments. ######


Prompt:
A couple years ago I was in a serious relationship with my then girlfriend. The time came and I bought a nice engagement ring for her. The ring had one big diamond in the middle and then two smaller diamonds on the side. Costed me an arm and a leg but it was the only ring that caught my eye so I bought it. My then girlfriend knew about the ring because of the fitting but she never wore the completed version of it nor did I end up proposing to her. Our relationship ended and I kept the ring because it's still a nice ring.

I met my now fiancée 3 years ago and then proposed to her last year with that ring. She loved the ring and always bragged about it to her friends. Last night we were trying to pull an all nighter watching movies. I don't know if anyone has watched Leap Year here (shitty movie) but we got to the end where Declan proposed and my fiancée couldn't stop analyzing the way he did it, comparing him to me. We started talking about the way I proposed then moved onto the ring. She thanked me and said something about how beautiful it was and I accidentally said something like "I'm just glad I didn't sell it five years ago". She questioned me about what I meant by 5 years and sell so I told her the truth. She went all mad and told me that I was a cheap asshole trying to give her a hand-me-down ring. She took it off, opened the window, tossed it out and locked herself in our bedroom.

I'm still outside now, hours later, trying to look for the bloody ring/giving her space. I don't even knoe what I'm going to do when I find it. Do I give it back or do I keep it for the next girl? (just kidding! It's a joke). I sort of understand where she's coming from but really? It's still a nice ring and I spent months trying to think of a special to engrave on it just for her. Aita? ######

Response:
 ESH - dude, I get it for the saving money. But she will never see the ring as something you bought for her. It will ALWAYS be the ring you bought for your ex. That’s the issue. I’d be hurt and wouldn’t be happy wearing a ring someone bought for someone else.

Also she shouldn’t have thrown it out. That’s ridiculous.  I hope you find it. ######


Prompt:
My mother is having mental health issues so I took in my 10yo brother. I'm a single 27yo male and my brother is 25 and married with no kids. Moving in a 10yo and trying to manage a mentally ill person and working full-time is draining and I am doing this with no help. I've asked  my brother for help - mainly taking are of our brother on the weekends and he refuses. His weekend is his weekend to spend with his wife or to go golfing or ride their motorcycles. He doesn't want to be bothered. I find that ironic because both he and his wife post a lot about how family is everything. They took a break from social media and I used that opportunity to call them both out, but mainly my brother. On my brother's page, I explained that our mother had a psychotic breakdown and could no longer care for our brother and Kyle (the 25yo) refused to life a finger to help, even just a little for a little time. I left another one on his wife's page saying that my brother became a dick after marrying her but it was cool because they'll eventually eat each other alive.

It took a few days for them to find out about the posts and a lot of people saw it. They thought it was a joke at first. My brother DM'd me eight times and I didn't bother reading them. I know he is mad. ######

Response: ESH - did airing your family's dirty laundry on social media help? I doubt it. ######


Prompt:
So my girlfriend has this habit of interrupting as though as soon as she gets a thought she absolutely *has* to share it then, no matter what, I put up with it as one of her quirks and don’t give it much thought.

We met up with some of my friends who we don’t see often lately since the birth of our son and we were mid convo when she interrupted and one of my friends girlfriends loudly spoke, not quite yelling, asking her not to fucking interrupt and my girlfriend apologised but my friends girlfriend called her a rude fucking bitch; my friend called her out for this behaviour.

When we got home my girlfriend burst out crying and hid in our room for a while but now she’s angry that I didn’t defend her.

My friend called out his girlfriends behaviour and it’s only fair that she got annoyed with my girlfriend interrupting, I shouldn’t have to step in.

I did text my friend and we agreed he wouldn’t bring his girlfriend around anymore.

AITA? ######

Response: ESH - Being rude by interrupting people isn't a quirk and should be something you discuss. If it was literally one time that she did it and the other girl reacted like that, that's unnecessary but just letting her get away with it all the time and interrupting you is disrespectful. Her thoughts are not more important than someone else's in every conversation and she should learn that. ######


Prompt:
A very well loved resident (nursing home) passed away several months ago. Our normal procedure afterwards is to call EMT to take the body, clean the bed, leave the light on and keep the door open until the family shows up to gather their belongings. Most of the time it's all said and done within a week or so. We do it this way to prevent the room from getting musty and stale plus it helps with the cleaning along with some old folkey bs about "dead air" regardless a rule is a rule.

Due to the way the resident passed and the fact their family lives several states away my coworkers don't want to see the room and it seriously upsets them to even walk past. Our boss keeps putting the whole situation off at first giving the family three months to show up and then taking their sweet time to find a place to donate the belongings to. It's now been over six months and this room is still a problem.

My coworkers all believe in ghosts and they swear the room is "haunted" on top of just being creepy so they keep closing the door so they don't have to see it. I'll come along and re open it since that's the literal rule. This has been going on non stop for months and every time I open it they accuse me of not caring about them and being too hung up on stupid rules and it's lead to some pretty rough arguments our boss breaks apart by reminding us they are "working on it" and a few coworkers are beginning to nag me about dropping the situation and saying how it's not my problem.

I refuse because it makes us look bad. Even if I don't like it and agree it's a dumb rule it's what we've done for years and we can't make an exception because a bunch of grown adults in a field taking care of the elderly are afraid of ghosts. My priority is the ones still living and continuing to do things as written. AITA for failing to see why anyone would change a several year old process to spare the feelings of a few workers? ######

Response:
 ESH  One, if grown ass adults believe in ghosts, they should probably pick a different field where they aren't going to be driven batshit by daily routine.

You suck, because you're making a petty point, on a petty rule, just because it's "a rule".  It's not a rule that has any actual need, reason or logic behind it...any more than your co-workers idiotic belief in ghosts, you opening the door for months on end, in exceptional circumstances because it's a rule (which was never meant to be carried out this long) is just a daft as them wanting the door closed because of ghosts.

Your boss sucks because he should tell you to knock off this shit and mind your place and if 90 percent of people are bothered by the door being open and you're the only one who isn't, suck it up cupcake and close the door. ######


Prompt:
We casually saw each other for a month and became official a month later, thankfully we never got around to having sex because I have bad experiences with men trying to con their way into my bed only to drop off the face of the Earth later on.

I found out by accident when going through his medicine cabinet looking for aspirin and came across his HIV meds, so I confronted him and he admitted he's been positive since his senior year of high school when he slept with a teacher's assistant. He swore up and down that he's been taking his meds every single day and would never put me at risk but he didn't want to tell me because he knew I would leave him. Fuck yes I would, asshole knew I lost a cousin to aids and don't screw around with that.

So I broke up with him and have been trying to figure out how to be tested because what if he had cuts or open wounds I didn't know about? Now his family had been calling me constantly because he's depressed, I point blank told his dad if he infected me he'll be dead. Silence, his dad had no idea what I was talking about? Apparently he kept it a secret from *everyone* and now he's calling me because everyone doesn't want him touching anything and his sister refuses to let him see his niece and nephew anymore. ######

Response:
 ESH
He should've disclosed his status once you guys got serious, but the misinformation, ignorance and shaming is egregious here. Not letting him see his niece and nephew??? No one wants him touching anything? Where do you guys live that this is the prevailing thought upon learning of his condition? I guess we don't have to wonder why he didn't tell his family... ######


Prompt:
I asked my girlfriend if she could lend me money for weed, £50 and that I would pay her back next when when I get paid. She said no since she is against weed and drugs in general, I asked why and then she said "well I will lend you money if you give me the double amount back, so £100 because I will put an interest rate"

I told her that was ridiculous and a bit petty and that I will just give her back the same amount. I'm desperate for some weed so I agreed to do it but then I went on about how selfish she is. She called me an asshole because I agreed to it and that's just how she "lends" out money especially when it is going to take such a long time to give it back. She literally has enough money in her bank. I got angry at her and told her its stupid that she is trying to make money out of me.... she then went on telling me how much of an asshole I am and that if I don't have money for weed I should wait it out instead OR do it this way.

AITA here? ######

Response:
 Definitely YTA she didn’t want to lent you money for drugs, you begged and she offered you a deal which you accepted and now your having a cry about it! Might be time to rethink your budget, habit and also grow up.

Oh and by your replies your definitely need to stand back and look in the mirror, you ask if YTA and then argue why your right like your arguing about the money

Edit to add and fix typos ######


Prompt:
I was talking with my friend who is very sheltered and didn’t know there were people who weren’t straight or cis. Anyway, we were talking and at some point I said “me and my girlfriend have been dying to see each other again” and she said “I thought you hated when girls referred to there girl-friends as girlfriends?” I said, “I do but I mean she is actually my girlfriend like we are in a relationship” she was very confused and so was I, so the following conversation occurred.
K: why are you dating a girl if you’re a girl? Only males and females can be attracted to each other
Me: well no actually, men can be in romantic relationships with men and women can be in romantic relationships with women
K: that doesn’t make any sense. Why would you date someone you don’t like?
Me: well... you shouldn’t. We do like each other, that’s why we are dating. You can feel romantically attracted to the same gender. You can be gay, or bi, or pan, or poly, or omni.
K: what do all those mean and what are you and your “girl...friend”
*i explain*

2 days later
K: this is K’s parents and apparently you told our daughter about the gays.
Me: yes I did is there a problem?
K: yeah we didn’t want a corrupt gay daughter but now because of you we might not be able to fix her
Me: she isn’t gay, and she isn’t corrupt
K: we will be blocking you off of her phone now please do not speak to her at school

I feel like I did the right thing but I also feel like maybe it wasn’t my place to teach. So AITA ######

Response:
 Definitely NTA.

You answered questions from a curious person, and properly. You haven’t ‘corrupted’ her or hurt her in anyway.

Her parents being homophobic is not your fault, so don’t beat yourself up over it. And, unless she tells her parents everything that happens in her day(no teen really does), then I see no problem with talking to her during school.

You may even want to tell her about your parents calling you. ######


Prompt:
Ok people of reddit I need your help. This situation is weighing heavy on my heart and noggin and I’m completely unsure what to do.

I am dog sitting for an owner and it is very clear to me and others that have seen the dog that this dog is being neglected.

Here is the information/facts I have:
• dog is only fed once a day because owner is at work and doesn’t want to come home to accidents
• dog has no toys, bed, cage or dog treats
• dog’s spine, ribs and hips are visible (there is no fat on the dog’s body)
• dog has ring around neck under collar possibly due to collar being tight and being rubbed raw
• dog is locked in garage/laundry room when dog is “too excited and is overwhelming” by the owner
• dog is hardly walked and doesn’t get much exercise (which is why dog is “overwhelming” because dog doesn’t get energy out)
• dog’s nails are so long that when taken on a walk they drag on the ground
• dog’s teeth are black and breathe smells like poop

I know the dog is in the teens of age but acts like a 2 year old with plenty of love and energy. Very nice dog overall; doesn’t bite, just wants to be by you at all times and is very sweet.

I’m getting mixed responses from family/friends being: “it’s not your place” “you don’t know what health conditions dog has” “you should say something to the owner” “you should report owner”

I personally am an absolute dog lover. It breaks my heart seeing a dog treated like this. I don’t understand why people get pets and then treat it awfully. I feel I need to be the dogs advocate.

Help me out here... should I leave it be or should I report the owner? I feel there’s so much wrong that I can’t just pick one thing to say to the owner. ######

Response:
 Definitely NTA.

When it comes to abuse, you have to report it when you see it. It is hard to report someone because we fear the consequences, but you're one of the few people, if not the only one, who can help this dog have a better life. ######


Prompt:
My 3 year old daughter loves to spend time at my mom's house but my mom has never been the "good" parent, she has always tried hard to be the fun one no matter what. Over the last year or so she ha taught my daughter my daughter many bad habits that have been hard to break. Some notable ones are, she taught her to fight by putting up fists and asking her if she wants to fight. My daughter now will come up to you and say let's fight then punch you in the jaw. She has taught her pee outside because she's little enough to not make it a problem. But now to the point, the last straw. This morning I dropped her off there to play while mom and I worked. When I got there she instantly tried teaching her that "someone stop her she's dancing like a stripper" song. I sternly told her not to teach her that and left it at that. An hour later I got a Snapchat from her of my daughter singing it. I told her again it doesn't matter if you say she can only sing it there. She will sing it in public and I don't want that. I got no response. After work my wife calls me and tells me my mom called her and asked our daughter to sing her the song. Further proving she made her memorize this. Then my mom called my wife a bitch for telling her not to fucking teach her this stuff.

Her calling my wife a bitch was the last straw. I went to her house and told her exactly what I thought. I told her our daughter is not going there any more until she thinks about what she is teaching her. As I was leaving my mom told me if she sees my wife in public she's gonna beat her ass.

At that point I flipped. I screamed at her to act her age and stop being a shitty person.

Now I can't sleep thinking maybe I should have defended my mom even a little. AITA?

Also sorry for the long post. ######

Response: Definitely NTA. Your mum has zero respect for you or or wife, which she has demonstrated repeatedly. You need to find alternative child care ######


Prompt:
Some context: I have a strict "no lending" policy on money, I won't let anyone starve, but I'd rather buy you lunch rather than give you the money. It's something my parents taught me and it helps to weed out who's just lying to get a fix of whatever.

Due to lay-offs, we are all struggling, but I have a savings account with some emergency money. I've literally starved to be able to put some money aside every month, and it's not much, but it's something to fall back on.

Last month, one of the guys I work with started sending me texts asking for money. I said no, he asked someone else and got it so I didn't feel too bad about it. This month, as soon as we got paid, he started the texts again, and again, I said no. I know he's good for it, I'm sure by the end of the month he would pay me back and we're friends. I even pay for drinks when we go out because I know he doesn't have much.

Here's the thing though. I work 12/14 hour shifts. I work myself to the bone to be able to save up and I don't spend money on myself, aside for bare necessities. And this guy, even though he's a good worker, doesn't. He misses work half of the week, gets in late and, even though his schedule is always the same, he sends a text everyday asking what time he gets in, even on my days off.

Now, there are a lot of reasons why I shouldn't lend him money, he gets financial aid from the government and wastes it all on weed, he mooches of other people for places to crash, food and alcohol and takes stuff from work to take to his dealer to pay for more weed.

But none of that matters to me. Even if the money was for something important, what really makes this a solid No is the fact that if he just showed up for work he would have money for his stuff. And even though I could lend him some bucks, why should I have to? I do feel bad for him, and in my mind I keep arguing with myself about it, so I want to know, am I being an asshole here? ######

Response: Definitely NTA. Your money, you earned it, you decide where it goes. The end. ######


Prompt: I (17M) program as a hobby. I've been pulling all nighters working on a project with my friends and on my free time I play CSGO and Hypixel Skyblock. My mom recently put locks on my laptop and blocked certain programs that are essential to my hobby (vscode, unity, etc) Luckily for me I found a loophole that allows me to bypass her locks by creating a new windows account using a throwaway email. She's always been like a helicopter parent and I've gotten used to it but it still pisses me off that she treats me like I'm 12. ######

Response: Definitely NTA. You wouldn't have had to bypass in the first place if she would loosen up ######


Prompt:
When I say every single time, I mean every single time she does it in front of me and it's becoming a problem with the family because they think I'm being disrespectful and she's old and doesn't get it. Even my husband is like "I agree with you but she won't budge so just let it go"

No I dont think I will.

My son is ftm, he realised he wasnt a girl at age 6, and from there I supported him all the way until he figured it out. He's now 19 and will medically start transitioning in a few years I'm very proud of him. Family outside of us (parents) and siblings thought he was just a tomboy all this time and he only recently made the decision to come out to everyone else. Mother-in-law who always pushed for him to be "a girly girl" and thought something was wrong with him for not being feminine like his sisters is now misgendering him at every turn, texting us and lecturing us and giving unsolicited advice about his identity THE JOURNEY OF WHICH HE CHOSE TO LEAVE HER OUT OF. She also seems to think him being trans is now my fault because since I defend his pronouns so hard, maybe I pushed them which........okay. It's gotten to the point where she'll say things over text like "maybe if you buy her dresses" and I'll say "he doesn't like dresses." Over. And over. And over. And over.

Now she thinks I'm being disrespectful but I don't know what she wants me to do? Let her misgender him? A lot of family is telling me I'm being petty for no reason, but I don't think so??? I don't think I'm being an asshole for DEFENDING MY CHILD but a lot of people seem to think so. My husband thinks straight up blocking her would be an even bigger dick move because she's "just old" but that's where I'm headed. ######

Response: Definitely NTA. You would be doing your son a disservice not to speak up. ######


Prompt:
Sorry for anything misspelled or the format being weird I'm on mobile

Ok so I'm a 17(F) I was born on May 9th my sister (Mia 14(F) not her real name) was born on May 13th. Ever since she was born we've shared a birthday party. That includes the cakes and the presents, the cake is usually an issue for me because I cant eat cake it makes me sick so I don't eat it so I've never really had a birthday pastry.

Ok onto the story.

Yesterday me and my cousin we're talking when we got onto the subject of birthdays and she told me how she loves getting presents and eating a big cookie (shes tge same as me and cant eat cake so my mom makes her a big cookie). When this conversation unsued

Me "I don't really like my birthday"

C: "how come?"

Me: "I always hear about how all of you got presents and got to eat cookies and stuff and how the whole day you didn't have to do anything (for birthdays my mom uses the rule that the birthday girl/boy doesnt have to help with ANYTHING this includes my 26 year old sister.) Mom usually makes me clean something then rushes off to go spend time with Mia."

C: "stop being an a**hole! Be grateful you even got presents!"

Me: "I never got presents most of it was either for the whole family of something that Mia broke"

C: "shut up"

Then she walked off and that was that. I was just wondering am I the a**hole for thinking this? Should I really just shut up and be grateful I'm here? I dont know what to think anymore and I'm going to my friends house Friday so we can have a late birthday thing with me and her family.

So Reddit Aita?

Tl;dr my entire birthday is spent with everyone praising my little sister ######

Response:
 Definitely NTA. You were born on separate days and so it is appropriate to have separate celebrations.

Have fun at your friend's house at the celebration they're throwing for you! ######


Prompt: I am a 22f living at my parents home due to the state of the world. We live in a nice neighborhood out side of city limits. Each house sits on about three acres so there’s a fair amount of room between houses. Growing up the neighborhood was quiet with very few, if any, disagreements.  Within the last few years a new family moved in with teenagers and money to burn. They have several golf carts, 4wheelers, and motorized bikes the kids and friends like to race up and down the street. Last fall a kid fell off their golf cart and cracked his head open in our front yard. After that the racing stopped.  In the last few weeks it started again. Racing in the dark with out lights, reflective clothes, or even helmets. As the kids are a bit older they’ve added trucks to the mix with kids up and dancing in the bed of the trucks while it’s moving. I have talked to the mom about my concerns, and she said she tells them to stop when she sees it, but she also likes to be a mean girls “cool mom” and allows the kids to basically do whatever. As this is occurring more frequently (at least 3 nights in the last week) I am considering calling the police the next time it happens. I hate to waste the officers time, but I am worried that another kid will wind up severely injured, or worse.  If I call the cops, AITA? ######

Response: Definitely NTA. You have secondary reasons to back yourself up—noise complaints and whatnot. However, the biggest reason is, like others have said, regarding these kids’ safety. One has already seriously been injured. Now it seems the others are getting wilder in spite of it. Please call the next time it happens. It truly would be for the kids’ sake. ######


Prompt:
I'm due in the fall and where I live, visiting restrictions will probably be lifted so it's caused a rift between me and my MIL.

Title says it all. I just wouldn't be comfortable with my legs spread apart screaming in front of my husband's mother. He's 100% supportive of this and says he's not going to let her come. She's been very vocal about how disrespectful I'm being for not letting her see her grandson's first moments. I've tried to be reasonable with her and calmly explain how stressful it will be for us and even offered to let her visit us first once we're home, but she kept begging to witness the birth.

I've gotten texts from her family echoing this, saying they should be allowed to see my child if they'd like to. I'm having second thoughts now, but I am worried for my family's health if we let them all in. I wouldn't be able to take it well emotionally if they were watching me, and some of his family are nutcases quite frankly... lots of anti-vaxxers and MLM pushers on his side :/. AITA here though? Is it okay if I just want to give birth with him and the doctors? ######

Response: Definitely NTA. You can have whoever you want in the room, and disallow anyone you want. Make sure to let the medical staff know to restrict access to anyone you don't specifically say is allowed in. ######


Prompt: my six year old daughter died a couple months ago and the mourning process is already difficult enough. my ex-best friend keeps texting me about my daughter and he says things such as “it’s a damn shame” and he’s in “pain” but he never even met my daughter! it’s tearing me to pieces so i blocked him! a bunch of our mutual friends say i’m being insensitive but i’m the one who lost my child. AITA? ######

Response: definitely NTA. there is nothing worse than when someone takes a tragedy that happened to someone else and make it about themselves. i’m sorry for your loss. ######


Prompt:
So my cousin and I(both 22F) are only 6 months apart and her birthday was in early March. A few days ago in the family group chat she sent her cashapp and asked for family to send their birthday gifts there. 1) once you then 18 in my family it’s very rare to get a birthday gift from everyone. 2) she’s 22 with a job and her birthday was almost 3 months ago. I didn’t respond and she messaged me privately asking why I haven’t sent her anything since I have cashapp. I told her I don’t get a birthday present from that side of the and don’t beg them for it way past my birthday. She then brought up the fact that I get an “extra gift” at Christmas from my uncle. Which yes is true but it’s not actually from him, it’s from my “dad” since my uncle was the one who inherited his estate after he passed. I didn’t respond and she replied that she KNOWS I have enough money to spare to send her a birthday gift. While yes I have received SOME of my inheritance my husband and I are about to close on a house and the money is going towards that and for furniture. I did not receive enough to just go around handing out money. I also know that any money she gets will be spent on drugs. She lives with her boyfriend and his family rent and bill free.
So AITA? I felt bad after it all went down but I feel like it was a low blow bringing up my dads money. ######

Response: Definitely NTA. She’s super entitled and shouldn’t be asking for money as a gift, and definitely should not be begging for it. I get that there’s a crisis going on, but having a birthday 3 months prior and trying to guilt trip people, especially family, into giving money, is messed up ######


Prompt:
Throwaway because my parents browse this sub

So today my father set a challenge for me and my mother.

Who ever completed the 5km loop around our house would get anything they wanted( as long as said item was under 100 euros)

So I can do 5k in 27 minutes while it takes my mother 40 ish minutes so I was sure I was gonna win.but my mother has a habit of letting me run off, then calling one of her friends to bring her home after about 1km, so it seems like she is this super fit "model", while she makes me look like a fat lazy bastard.

So we set off and I tailgate my mother so she cant cheat and I tail her for about 4km and then i sprint the last 1km and win, but my mother was fucking furious, she went off at me saying I "belittled her and made her look unfit" and is demanding that my dad gets her a present because "it's not fair to get your son something and not your wife"

So reddit, aita for tailgating my mother? ######

Response: Definitely NTA. She’s got issues ######


Prompt:
I live in an apartment that I moved into in September 2019. Since arriving, I have had probably close to 20 packages show up at my door addressed to someone I've never met. Let's say the name is Autumn. The packages all have my address and Autumn's name. Since they're not addressed to me, I just leave them outside and eventually they've all been picked up. I've never seen anyone pick them up, but they're always gone in 2-3 days.

At first I thought it must be the previous tenant who forgot to forward their mail, but I've never gotten a piece of mail addressed to Autumn. I do get mail addressed to previous tenants occasionally, but never a single piece addressed to her. I even mentioned this to my building manager, and she said she's never heard of Autumn. It's possible that she lived at this address with someone else and was just never on the lease, but still, she's never lived here.

My guess is that she has her packages sent here because we have a gate with a code, as opposed to other apartment buildings in my city which are open to the street. Almost all the packages have been marked on the outside as expensive cosmetics brands. I get that she doesn't want her stuff stolen, but it kind of pisses me off that a stranger is using my address as a free PO box. Like, if she can afford to order expensive makeup 2-4 times a month surely she has a little extra cash for a PO box, right?

On top of it all, this means that a stranger who has never officially lived in my building is still using our gate code to gain access to the building frequently. Which is in itself kind of skeevy, right?

I've considered leaving a short "please stop having your packages sent here" note, but haven't acted yet. ######

Response: Definitely NTA. PUT A STOP TO THAT. You don't know what's in the packages and if it's illegal, you could be an accomplice ######


Prompt:
I moved to this flat a year ago, like most of the Londoners I rented a room in a house share. We don't have any living room which restricts me socialising as much as I desire. That is the main reason I wanted to move out initially.

Since I moved here, I requested from landlord to change just the bath as it was rusty and you can't clean it as more you try to clean more rusty it gets. Couple of months ago he called me on a Sunday saying, he is refurbishing the toilet and the bathroom whole together. It was nice of him to do some investment in the flat which  let's his tenants to have humane environment.

When the work done he decided to extend the job get the kitchen refurbished too and fit another room in the kitchen so that he can rent more rooms.

It was the last drop. I had been looking for flats for couple of months and just before the lock down I found a decent room which is smaller but have a living room and a small garden just 20 pounds more than I am paying now and since I got an increase on my wages I can afford it. And the house hold seems so friendly and nice people. I will be sharing with 2 more people whereas I would share with 4 more people if I stay.

When I agreed with my new landlord, I gave a month notice to my landlord and he flipped out. He said he paid 10k for his house just because I have asked. He said it's not fair of me letting him down. He offered 50 pounds discount as well. He wanted me to extend my notice for 2 more weeks, luckily my new landlord was fine with it so I accepted to extend. I told him that I asked him to change the bath a year ago not to put another room in the kitchen.

I understand him that he did all this investments and there is already an empty room in the house but I think I deserve to live where the heaven I want to live.

AITA for letting down my landlord? ######

Response: Definitely NTA. Not even close to TA. The rusty bath was always the LL's responsibility from the beginning and the fact he's even trying to lord this over you is laughable. ######


Prompt:
A little background: I (20) grew up in a family of Christians farmers and handy workers. I was seen as "very smart" so they had high hopes for me. They are really traditional and we are french.

So when I was about 7 I went to my uncle house and didn't want to kiss them ( they thought I was being impolite and rebellious) while my stepbrother did. They screamed at me and kept making me feel guilty for that since I was about 16.

When I was 14, I was diagnosed with school phobia along with social anxiety and saw a therapist. I am now offiacially diagnosed with those, alongside with "high functioning autism" and cptsd which is why I can't stand physical contact.

They said I can't have any of those because they never saw me crying or having a panic attack, and that all autistic poeple are "dumb and drooling everywhere" and I just use that as an excuse because I'm lazy (while forcing me to study subjects i'm not good at).

My mom has a high sense of family and what it means and wants me to texts them (and her) often, to go to their house when I'm not far from home for studies. I am kind of scared of her because she is a huge part in what caused my cptsd.

I'm really lost in what I should do, I was raised to think about family first but that is only one of the traumatic events I went through, being LGBT in this kind of traditional family.

AITA for wanting to cut ties with my family? ######

Response: Definitely NTA. No one should ever be under any obligation to kiss or hug anyone if they’re not comfortable with it. Your family don’t seem to be very open to recognising your needs so to make yourself more comfortable and make your life your own I would say that if cutting them off will make you happier then do it. ######


Prompt:
First some back story... my sister and I have never been close. I’m a bit older than her but because of life I still love at home with our parents and 2 years ago she moved to the other side of the country with her bf. Because we were never close and now she lives so far are basically just acquaintances at this point. When she does text me most the time she’s being snobby and the few times she’s been home we’ve gotten in huge fights because of her toxic behavior.

Recently I’ve over heard convos she’s had with my mom and she is planning her wedding (she’s not engaged yet but has said they are looking at places and he will propose soon but knowing my sister she is the one pushing the want to get married soon). One of the times they were FaceTime she saw me in the background and told me “One of the dates I’m looking at is your birthday”. Every year since I turned 18 I’ve gone on vacation for my birthday she obviously knows this so I told her “if you do I might not be able to come”. She got mad and my mother told me I’m being selfish and even if she plans her wedding on my birthday I better come. It became a huge fight and she doesn’t even have a date set yet.

Also about my vacation... it is the one time of year I get away. I work 32-40 hours a week on top of taking care of my grandparents. Taking them to the doctor, taking them shopping... etc. and where my sister lives isn’t a place I’d want to vacation.
So am I the asshole for telling her that/ would I be the asshole if it is on my birthday and I don’t go? ######

Response: Definitely NTA. Doesn't even really matter what day it is, if you don't want to go then there's no real reason to do so, but especially on your birthday? That's ridiculous and inconsiderate of them. ######


Prompt: My step mom has been my step mom since I’ve been 5. We have a decent relationship but it’s been rocky as of lately. I caught her purging after meals for the last few months. I don’t know if it began during quarantine or I just noticed because I’m always home. My step mom has always been critical of my weight and my half sisters. She criticized us for years, but since I was in sports and stuff I was always fit, I didn’t receive it as bad as my sisters. Last night, she screeched at my sister for eating past 8pm and called her fat and that she will never amount to anything because of her lack of “self control.” She started attacking me too because I defended my sister and called me piece of shit and that I looked like a man. I ended saying that she also doesn’t have self control because if she did, she wouldn’t need to throw up after she eats. That caused a big fight between us and my dad got involved and well, I’m in big shit now. ######

Response: Definitely NTA. Based of this I’d say your step mom is actually pretty abusive. Berating anyone for their weight is disgusting on its own, let alone her hypocrisy. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account for privacy reasons. Also, english is not my first language so I want to apologize in advance for any mistakes.

For context, I’m 18F and he’s 20M. We have been together almost a year now, and from time to time we disagree on how frequent we should be having sex. This happens because he has a much higher libido than mine. He wants to do it every day if he can when I’m good with 1-2 times per week.

The issue was this morning. We were sleeping together in my bed, and he wakes up and starts to kiss me, like a shower of kisses! And I was really happy, because that is a nice way to wake up, feeling so so loved. It started taking a turn when he began taking of my shirt, groping me, etc.

I started to feel a little uneasy, because I thought he was just kissing me to show me he loves me, but instead it was to turn me on so we could have sex. So politely, I said to him: “Hey, I haven’t even woken up, I don’t want that”. He told me to relax and lifted my shirt (i was laying on my stomach) and began kissing my back and reallyyyyyy rubbing himself against me.

I tried to relax, because I know if I reacted badly it would really hurt him, so I played along. That was until he asked me if he could make love to me. I told him no, not harshly, just no.

Right then, he laid besides me and looked really sad. At first he started pouting (literally), and after a couple times of Me asking him what was wrong, he told me that I never want it, and that it makes him feel bad because he feels like he’s doing something wrong when we do it and that he feels like he should apologize for even trying.

I told him that that is not true and tried to make him feel better. It didn’t work, he just asked me to take him to the door (we don’t live together) and that was that.

So now I’m wondering if I should have just went along with it or what I could have done to make him feel better. WITA for rejecting him? ######

Response: Definitely nta! That's awful that he kept trying when you weren't into in and for making you feel bad for saying no. You dont owe him sex and it's sad because all he's going to do it make it so you don't want to kiss him at all because you'll worry it'll just be him trying to have sex and not just being romantic. I think you should warn him of that, his sex drive isn't more important that your feelings ######


Prompt:
My uncle is a doctor, and makes good money. My Dad told him I needed money for school and asked for 1,000 bucks. He even had me thank him for the money and told everyone how my uncle helped him pay for school.
Turns out it was all a sham, my Dad used that money for drugs. My Mom showed me solid evidence of that, and I am horrified. I knew my Dad was an addict, but it didn’t occur to me that he was ripping off my uncle.

So WIBTA if I told my uncle what happened? Knowing him he probably wouldn’t sweat the 1,000, but I feel really guilty holding onto the knowledge. It might stir up shit between my uncle and my Dad, but I think he deserves to know. ######

Response: Definitely NTA, Your Uncle needs to know the truth and your Dad needs serious help if he’s doing drugs. It’s not fair that your uncle had his money used to fuel your Dad’s drug addiction ######


Prompt:
So  we have a daughter who turned three in January. Personally, I think  she's pretty advanced for her age. She has complex conversations with us  and can even read simple words already. She's now home with us all day  while we work because of recent events. She's definitely getting more screen  time than we would normally allow because we have to work, and she  discovered Scooby-Doo. I bought her the first two seasons of the  original version of the show that began in 1969. ("Scooby-Doo, Where Are  You?") At the time, my wife didn't say anything, even during the early  watching. I was pretty excited because this was one of my absolute  favorite shows when I was her age, and it kind of still is.

However,  my wife has decided that my daughter is no longer allowed to watch  Scooby-Doo. She is concerned that the scenes are too anxiety-inducing  for a child my daughter's age. I've spoken with my daughter and she  seems to clearly understand the monsters are just pretend people in  costumes as gets revealed at the end of each episode. She hasn't had any  nightmares or anything like that. She's always laughing at Scooby's  antics during the episodes. And she likes to pretend now that she's  Daphne as she goes around the house.

Now  that my wife has said she can't watch Scooby, my daughter is pretty  upset. She loves the show and is constantly begging to watch it now. I  typically present a united front with my wife, and I've been doing so  and not letting her watch the show now. But I have told my daughter that  if she can convince Mommy I'll let her watch the show. I'm having a  tough time reconciling that there's anything wrong with watching  Scooby-Doo and taking ownership for the decision not to let her watch  it.

AITA? ######

Response: Definitely NTA, it seems your daughter understands the show and isn't scared of it or anything. You should try talking to your wife about how she doesn't get nightmares of anything and you don't see the harm in letting her watch. ######


Prompt:
I (22f) have a prosthetic glass eye. This guy isn't my boyfriend, but we have gone on a few dates.

We were hanging out when this happened. I accidentally rubbed my eye wrong, and my prosthetic fell out. He screeched and jumped away. I didn't take offence - he didn't know and I could imagine being shocked seeing what looked like someone's actual eye fall of it's socket.

I thought that would be the end of it, but he seemed pretty shaken up that I have a fake eye. He asks me why I didn't tell him on our first date, so he wouldn't have wasted his time. Stuff like this freak him out, and he never would have gone on dates with me had he known.

I was pretty hurt, but it wasn't like he was my boyfriend. We weren't even talking about "becoming official". So far, this was just a few casual dates. ######

Response: Definitely NTA, I get him being surprised but that dude was just being an ass. ######