Prompt:
I have two daughters

Ella (22F)
Lauren (19F)

Ella and her boyfriend (26M) are living with me currently because they’re saving for a house so they’re living rent free, Ella works part time and goes university while Lauren doesn’t  work  and goes university.

Ella doesn’t really wear jewellery apart from a ring her boyfriend gave her for her 22nd in March, she spent all day bragging about the ring.

Lauren came to me crying a while ago because apparently she snuck into Ellas room and took the ring.

She told Ella initially that she left it at the friends but told me she lost it at the beach, I sat Ella down and told her what had happened and offered to replace it.

She refused told me she expected the full £860 from Lauren and she doesn’t care how long it takes Lauren to get the money, it just isn’t possible for Lauren to get that type of money especially just for a ring.

I told Ella no, she can consider it rent from both her and her boyfriend.

She broke down screaming and crying about what a fucking asshole I am and hasn’t left her room since.

My wife is on my side but MIL isn’t and has offered Ella her grandmothers ring which was meant to go to my wife.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA- Lauren didn’t accidentally break something of Ellas in the normal course of her day she made the decision to steal something that she knew was very valuable from her sister and then was careless enough to wear it to the beach of all places and lose it. Could Lauren have been more polite when talking to you sure but she was perfectly with in her rights to be upset and want to be compensated for the value of the ring. She suggested that Lauren pay for it over time which seems pretty sensible to me even if it takes a long time anyone can make £860 pounds eventually. You mentioned that Ella has a part time job but Lauren doesn’t maybe it’s time for Lauren to get one. If you want to charge your kids rent that’s up to you but you shouldn’t roll it out as a punishment and apply it to only one daughter.

I don’t know if we are missing some context here but this whole post makes it sound like you are showing a lot of favouritism ######


Prompt:
Me: 30s/F

Brother (Sean): 30/M

His fiancé: (Ashley): 31/F

Ashley’s sister: 33/F (I’ll call her Kate)

My brother Sean has been dating Ashley for 2 years, and they got engaged about two months ago.

Ashley has always been very kind to me and my family.  But she isn’t close with her blood siblings.  And by not close I mean like... she hasn’t talked to them in years.  Not a single word.  They don’t even exchange birthday or Christmas cards.  I’ve met her parents and they seem fine so I don’t think there’s any big trauma.    I on the other hand, am very very close with my brother and sister.  I couldn’t bear not contacting them on their birthdays or Christmas.

Ashley is one of those people who can wiggle out of any conversation.  Example:

Me: how’s Kate?

Ashley: she’s fine as far as I know.

Me: don’t you want to find out?  I’d want to know how my sister is.

Ashley: oh, would you?

Me: yeah, I would.  She’s your blood relative.

Ashley: yep she is.

Etc. etc. etc.  it’s pretty rude if I’m honest.  Recently she and Sean got engaged.  I was very curious about her extended family, so I did some social media digging and found her sister Kate.  I messaged her, just saying hi and explaining we will be related soon.

Kate seems absolutely fine and like a nice person.  I can't understand why Ashley would write her off.

I told Ashlry I connected with Kate, and she got extremely mad, said I had no right to reach out to her.  Sean also said I was the asshole, but he was a little gentler.

So AITA? ######

Response: Yta- it’s none of your business why she isn’t close with her sister. Stay in your own lane. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend always calls herself her cat’s Mommy. She’ll pick him up and say things like, “Do you love Mommy? He loves Mommy!” And then she’ll say to me, “Aw, he wants to see his Daddy” and just hand me her cat. She calls her Dad “Grandpa” and her Mom “Grandma” to this cat. It’s a cat!

I told her that it’s weird and I can’t take it anymore. It’s so creepy. She’s not the cat’s Mommy, it’s a cat, his mother is a cat. She says “well I raised him from a kitten so I feel like his Mommy” and I said “yeah but he’s still a cat, you are not and will never be his mother.” She actually started to cry.

AITA? It’s a cat, she’s not his mother, it reminds me of that drawing of a human that’s pregnant with a cat. It’s just weird and it wouldn’t take that much effort for her to stop being so weird. It’s embarrassing when my friends are over and she’s like “oh he wants to see Daddy!” When referring to a cat. ######

Response: YTA- It’s harmless. People say it all the time. There’s no actual issue here, you’re just being controlling. ######


Prompt:
*My stepdaughter moved out when she was 19, she got a flat with her boyfriend a year later*

*I moved in with her dad the same year with my daughter (12F) and everything's going great, I've never seen eye to eye with my step daughter, I don't approve of her job as a cam girl but she says it pays very well and is very open/almost proud of her job, I'm not in a place where I can criticize*

*She (21F) recently found out she's pregnant and her boyfriend wants absolutely nothing to do with her or the baby*

*She still works while she isn't showing,I'm not sure if she can continue while she's pregnant (?) she could continue to paying for a flat if she wanted*

*she told her dad she wanted to move home and go college and university, meaning she would stay at home until she finished, she would hire a babysitter*

*Her dad jumped at the opportunity without even asking me, he's always been trying to make up for not being there while she grew up- he had weekend visitation*

*She's never approved of our relationship, we've never seen eye to eye, she loves my daughter though,me and her father are trying for a baby and I don't think having added stress of having her around for however long will help*

*I said if she stayed she would have to pay rent and until she finished college, at latest*

*my husband wants her to save up instead since we don't need extra money, claiming I'm an AH for only having "shallow" reasons to push his daughter away, and for not being supportive of him trying to have a better relationship with his daughter*

AITA? ######

Response: YTA- is your daughter going to have to pay rent through college as well? Or is she exempt because she’s YOUR daughter? I’d tread carefully, you don’t have a child with him yet and as much as he may consider your daughter his daughter too, he has an actual biological daughter whose life he wasn’t very present in and that type of guilt can be taken advantage by his daughter. It’s going to seem like he wasn’t very present when she was a child and now that he has the opportunity to be there for her he’s choosing his new wife and her daughter creating a new family for himself that she is not welcome into. Don’t dig your own grave ######


Prompt:
My 12yo nephew is getting a bit of a unibrow and bushy and seems to be unaware of it. So are his parents. I don't want him to be teased and doing something stupid like shaving it, so I pointed it out. I said "dude, you need to fix those brows. You need them waxed and trimmed" and it's something I do regularly like shaving my face. He resisted but he let me do it after I showed him pictures of really bad unibrows.

His dad (my brother picked him up) later on. Later I get an text from his mom asking what the fuck did I do to his eyebrows. I told her I fixed them. The funny part is that she instantly noticed that his eyebrows were done she saw them. She said I had no right to do it. I told her he's 12 and is old enough to decide himself. It's not a tattoo and even she has to admit he looks much better. ######

Response: YTA- if he had asked you to because he was self conscious it would still be questionable without consulting his parents but you created an insecurity just so you could fix it. 100% AH move. ######


Prompt:
So around when my son was 10 or 11 I told my wife that I thought he would be gay when he was older. (Or was already gay I reckon since you are born with a sexuality.) She thought I was being ridiculous. Now I want to make sure I say, neither me and my wife are bigots, neither of us care at all if our kids are gay or straight. I just believed my son would be gay based on a lot of factors.

Finally she told me to drop it and I said okay okay, how about this? Let's bet on it. Bet $50. She kind of rolled her eyes and agreed to it.

Well lo and behold! Our son now 17 came out as gay a few days ago. First of all I am very happy for him that he came out, and of course we told him we love him and all that, but also I was over the moon that I had won the bet. After he went back to his room I just kind of looked at my wife expecting her reaction. She was like what? I was like so how about my $50 ha ha?

She had forgotten about the bet! She remembered it when I reminded her. She was just kind of like "oh brother" about it. She still has not paid me the $50. Now I know it might be silly but a bet is a bet. I asked her to pay up again this morning and she got really angry at me. We had a huge fight. It is causing a big interpersonal conflict between us.

AITA for wanting my $50? I mean, I called it. I deserve the money. ######

Response:
 YTA- I’m glad you’re not a bigot but this is something so silly and tbh kind of dehumanizing for the kid. I’m a lesbian and it would break my heart hearing my parents bet if I was a lesbian or not.
I’m not wishing you Ill will or saying your a bigot but this does come off as insensitive. Even if there were factors playing into it, you were probably basing it off of certain stereotypes and if your son wasn’t gay that would still hurt to say.
Not the worst thing I’ve read a parent do though but still an asshole move.
Consider how your child might feel too and consider your wife’s feelings too because it seemed you were stuck on this idea and proving it right rather than seeing your son as a human being. ######


Prompt:
I didn’t pay for it all me and my brothers chipped into it and helped buy her a new car (which is essential to her right now). My wife doesn’t need a new car right now as much she she might want one. Her car is a little old (2012) and has had some problems but I fixed those issues.

My wife’s angry and bitter right now. She also has her own job, so I don’t think it’s my responsibility to buy her a new car right now. I make more money than her but still, she doesn’t absolutely need one right now.

She told me she can’t believe she’s been asking me for awhile and I “go behind her back” and do this for my mom, like she’s just a stranger.

Who is in the wrong? ######

Response: YTA- I’m a little shocked at all the NTAs. Are these people married? And would they be ok if their spouse spent $4k without discussing it? $4k is a lot, especially if your immediate family unit doesn’t have enough to comfortably buy a new car. ######


Prompt:
A few months ago I flew with my 2 twin sons (aged 11) back to the UK from a trip in the USA.

I had booked economy tickets for the 3 of us. We were all booked to sit together in the left 3 seats. However when we boarded, someone was sat in my seat and it turned out that for some reason my seat was double booked.

The air hostess asked if I would like an upgrade to business class, to which I said yes. It's rare that I fly in business and I didn't want to pass up the opportunity. I left my two kids in economy who were then sat next to the guy who had my economy seat.

The kids were fine with it and didn't complain at all.

However when I told my wife about this she was very angry as 'something could have happened to the kids' as they were sat next to a stranger and it was my duty to protect them. She feels that I was greedy and I should have given the upgrade to the person who had my seat. I thought she was being ridiculous but even up until now she keeps bringing it up and we've had many arguments over this. AITA? ######

Response: YTA- I would never have done that. Anything could happen, your wife is right about that. Kids get scared when turbulence gets bad and need a hand to squeeze. What if they just wanted you to buy them a drink. The stranger could indeed be a creep. It just wasn't cool. ######


Prompt:
I have been running around a lot lately amd my hamstrings are getting kinda tight. I was stretching them in my backyard in a sports bra + shorts. When I was turning over I noticed the neighbour looking out his window at me. As soon as he saw me look he left the window. The next time I looked he was back when he noticed he left the window. This happened one other time and then I went inside. So I texted the neighbour's wife what's up later that evening. Next time he sees me (he works from home) he says that wasn't cool and he 'was just cleaning the house' and wasn't looking at me.

AITA for texting her? ######

Response: YTA- get over yourself. You seriously texted his wife? Ridiculous.😂 ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend usually cooks for the both of us, and she's an AMAZING cook, really. Lately however she's been very busy with work, while I've had a lot of free time. At her insistence, I finally decided to do the cooking last night.

Now, I wouldn't consider myself an amazing chef, but I know my strengths and weaknesses. I made a simple dish - spaghetti bolognese. Can't mess that up right? Well apparently you can. My girlfriend started ripping in to it like she's fucking Gordon Ramsay on kitchen nightmares. The pasta was 'bland' and 'unseasoned'. (Bullshit btw, I put a whole tablespoon of salt into the water it was cooked in.)

Here's where I lost control. Instinct took over - I grabbed the salt shaker, took the lid off, and dumped the whole of its contents all over her pasta. She was PISSED. (I don't know what I was expecting.) She dumped her bowl in the sink (with the pasta), and went straight to bed.

Now, I'll admit that I may have been an AH here, but I think this is more of an ESH, with her being the slightly bigger AH for disrespecting me and making me clean the sink. What do you think Reddit? ######

Response: YTA- from your other comments she was just commenting on the taste and maybe even offering advice on how to cook in future. You didn't 'overseason' the food you deliberately wrecked her meal and made it inedible. So yeah YTA ######


Prompt:
A few months ago I flew with my 2 twin sons (aged 11) back to the UK from a trip in the USA.

I had booked economy tickets for the 3 of us. We were all booked to sit together in the left 3 seats. However when we boarded, someone was sat in my seat and it turned out that for some reason my seat was double booked.

The air hostess asked if I would like an upgrade to business class, to which I said yes. It's rare that I fly in business and I didn't want to pass up the opportunity. I left my two kids in economy who were then sat next to the guy who had my economy seat.

The kids were fine with it and didn't complain at all.

However when I told my wife about this she was very angry as 'something could have happened to the kids' as they were sat next to a stranger and it was my duty to protect them. She feels that I was greedy and I should have given the upgrade to the person who had my seat. I thought she was being ridiculous but even up until now she keeps bringing it up and we've had many arguments over this. AITA? ######

Response: YTA- children under 13 that fly alone are watched over by flight attendants. There’s reasons for that. Why wouldn’t you just give the other person the seat and sit with your kids. ######


Prompt: So I'm 18M and I live with my older sisters(20F/23F) our parents pay all our expenses and we go to college and stuff. Well today we had to go grocery shopping but since only one person can go at a time I was picked to go. When my sister(23F) texted me the list I asked if I can not buy the tampons and someone else can go later. She asked why I said I'm embarrassed to buy tampons. She told me to grow up and just buy the tampons. We augured back and forth till eventually my sister(20F) just went in return I have to clean her bathroom. AITA? ######

Response: YTA- As a girl, if I saw a guy buying tampons I would think “how sweet he’s doing that for her.” ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend and I have been together since we were 13 (we’re 20 now), and she’s had her cat for the duration of our relationship. I’m gonna go ahead and say this now: I don’t care for cats since I’m allergic to them and hers was no exception. I’m not really an animal person in general, but if I were to get one it wouldn’t be a cat. They’re disgusting and they creep me out.

My girlfriend and I moved in together at 18, and I was always under the impression that she would leave the cat with her parents since she knew how much I didn’t like them. Long story short the cat came with her and while I wasn’t thrilled about it, I allowed it to stay under the conditions that it wouldn’t sleep in our bed, it wouldn’t sit on the furniture, and it wouldn’t go into my office space.

Over the course of the last two years, I would come home from work and my girlfriend would be chilling on the couch with the cat after I’d asked her not to. I’d get ready to climb into bed and there’d be cat hair on my sheets so I know she let it into the bedroom. Not to mention, she has what I feel like is an unhealthy obsession with this thing. She’s constantly talking to and cooing at it like it’s a person and it drives me up a wall. For a while, I just slept in my office so I wouldn’t have to deal with an itchy face and puffy eyeballs.

With us being stuck at home now, it’s even harder for me to have my own space. The straw that broke the camels back was when I went into my office and found her cat sitting in the window. I’ve asked time and time again for her cat to stay out of my space and I feel like she deliberately disrespects my wishes, so I found a walk-in surrender shelter today and dropped the cat off. I haven’t told my girlfriend, and being that it’s an indoor/outdoor cat I hope she just thinks it ran away. I love my girlfriend, but her cat was legitimately our only source of conflict. ######

Response:
 YTA- Animals are a lifetime commitment and honestly if a cat is a deal breaker you should have been an adult.

This is controlling abusive behavior akin to destroying someone's thing because you're upset at them, made so much worse because you put an innocent animal in a vulnerable position where it's scared, alone, stressed, and now lives in a sterile unfamiliar place until they maybe get adopted (harder for older cats)

You took a living creature your GF loves and without telling her abducted it and intend to set it up in a shortened lifetime of loneliness.

Tell her where he cat is and at least give her the chance to leave you and take care of her cat. ######


Prompt:
I very recently had my first daughter, she’s 9 weeks right now.

I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, he has a 10y/o and a 9y/o with an ex - they’re still very much friendly and split custody equally.

I want to move back home, my mother is sick and I want to give her a chance to know the baby- even if we only stay for a few months, I’m hoping once my husband sees how beautiful it is there he’ll want to stay.

It’s about 11hours away from where we live, it requires a ferry so it’s not a simple drive either which is what’s so off putting for my husband.

I don’t expect him to live up there, I want to visit for a few months so my mother can see our baby (him liking it enough to move would be a perk)

He can Skype with the children and they can visit as often as possible.

We told his children’s mother so we can figure something out, custody wise, if we were to move.

She isn’t too happy, calling me an AH for expecting my husband to move away from the children and for expecting her to be ok with it.

AITA?

**We won’t be going ahead with this for a while** ######

Response:
 YTA-
It’s a tough situation for you with your mother being ill but you met this man where you are now and settled down with him knowing his custody arrangements. You’re asking him too much. Imagine him moving away 11 hours from your newborn now and the other woman saying “Well, he can visit.” It would break your heart and that’s what your doing to his kids and their Mam.

It’s up to you to visit your Mam with your baby as often as you can, with minimal change for the older kids. ######


Prompt:
I am a landlord in a relatively small city in New England (less than 15,000 year-round residents). I inherited several rental properties but my company has been steadily growing so that we are now the largest property holders in the city and control roughly 60% of residential rentals. This problem has cropped up over the years and I alway feel very torn about it, as I can see both sides of the argument and thought I would see what the Internet has to say....

I NEVER rent to friends/family. No exceptions. In the beginning of my career I leased an apartment to a friend who wasn’t the most qualified and subsequently lost her job. I gave her way more slack than I would normally give anyone, but at the end she ended up owing almost $8000 in rent and I had to evict her and her family. It obviously destroyed the relationship, hurt my business and I was vilified to mutual friends. Since then, I have never done it again.

The issue is that it is a very tight rental market, our city has a shortage of rentals and we often receive 50+ applications for a 2 bedroom apartment. A few times over the years, I’ve been approached by friends who need a rental, people who are qualified, have good jobs and great history with other landlords in the city, people I would have happily rented to if they weren’t my friends/family. AITA for not renting to them just because I know them? I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. I just value my relationships and this dynamic (them owing me $1000+ a month/calling me to chat oh and also their faucet is leaking) would almost certainly change things between us. Let me have it, AITA??? ######

Response: YTA-  It was reasonable until you mentioned you own 60% of the local rentals and are continuing to grow.  It seems like you are turning away people with nowhere else to go.  I would also point out people who so easily turn their backs on friends, or worse family in need tend to be less like-able then they believe they are.  You may realize you don’t actually have any friends, just people who treat you better than you probably deserve. ######


Prompt:
I (25F) have a friend that we’ll call J (30F). J is married to T (32M). We were all friends and hung out together at their house a bunch.
At one point, T caught some feelings for me, and there was some inappropriate texting. Yes, I fully know we were both assholes there, but that’s not why I’m here. Everything was brought out into the open, and amends were made. Took a long time, but trust was built back up. Now T and I are talking again behind Js back. It is 100% innocent and I kept all the messages just to prove it in case it came down to it.
T and I have a lot in common and we really are just friends, but we know that J will never trust us because of how royally we messed up before. Neither one of us have many friends, so we don’t want to stop. We really and truly enjoy talking to each other, but we don’t want it to blow up and cause problems.

So judge me reddit, I need help. AITA for continuing to talk to T? ######

Response: YTA-  if it wasn’t a problem, you’d tell her. ######


Prompt:
I had a bit to drink last night, and was sitting outside on my porch. My neighbor came outside and was doing a little hula hoop and dancing, I got a bit bold and started completing her. I’m friendly with the neighbor, she’s an attractive woman. She wasn’t offended by my drunk behavior and showed me a few tricks with her hula hoop.

I let some...too specific comments about her body slip, and immediately apologized to her. She told me not to worry about it, and I went back in.

Wife asked me what I was talking to the neighbor about, I told her what happened, and she got really upset. She had been watching us talking from the window and watched her show me some tricks or “dance for me” as she put it.  I could understand why she was upset, I apologized to her and told her it wouldn’t happen again. She didn’t accept my apology. In fact she told me that she won’t accept my apology until I call her beautiful/give her compliments within earshot of our neighbor a few times. I told her I thought she was being ridiculous, and asked her how she thought I should go about doing it. She told me I could whistle at her while she’s running, yell to her while she’s gardening, just something that the neighbor would notice.

I apologized to her again, but told her that I would not be doing the crazy shit she is suggesting. She got angry and we proceeded to argue. She’s making me sleep in the living room until I concede, and refusing to speak to me. She thinks I’m an asshole for refusing to repair the relationship her way after I “betrayed” her. I basically just let it slip that my neighbor was sexy while I was drunk. I apologized immediately. I didn’t betray her. I’ve apologized a thousand times, am I an asshole for not going along with this complimenting thing?

Edit:

I want to make sure everyone understands...she wants me to specifically compliment her and catcall her in front of my neighbor. ######

Response: YTA your title is really misleading and your behavior was totally inappropriate. You're married dude, what are you doing getting drunk and then catcalling/making comments about your neighbor's body? ######


Prompt:
I am a fourteen year old guy.
My birthday is in sixteen days, and my mom is asking for birthday ideas. (Where we should go, what I want, etc)
It’s quite obvious I can’t go to the local amusement park like I wanted. Last year, instead of asking for a gift, I asked if a friend and I could go there. It was really fun, so I wanted to go again. But, like I said, that’s obviously out of the picture.

I told my mom a while back, that for my birthday, from all my family, I only wanted one of two things.
Either a cat, or a dirt bike.
I specifically told her if I got a cat, I’d pay adoption fees, I’d take care of it, and id pay for its food.
And if I got a dirt bike, it didn’t have to be expensive. It could be a used one that’s seconds from falling apart, as long as it worked.

Well, it was a no to both.
She keeps telling me that if I don’t make up my mind for other birthday ideas, I’ll get nothing.
Every time I show mild interest in something, she pretends like I worship and want twenty of them.
She finds every chance she can to push the cat or dirt bike topics out of the picture.

She keeps suggesting I ask for a game, or gaming console, but I don’t want something that will stop me from going outside.

TL:DR; Mom won’t get me one of the two presents I want despite the fact I said I’d help pay for most of them even though they aren’t that expensive in the first place. ######

Response: YTA your mom doesn't owe you a cat or a dirt bike, dude. You're not a guy, you're a boy. You are too young for road rages on a dirt bike and if you're living with your mom, a living animal is not yours alone. If you fail to clean its poop or socialize it correctly she'll be the one cleaning up its messes for you. Just cuz it's your birthday doesn't mean you're entitled to whatever thing you want that your parents will have to deal with the consequences of. ######


Prompt:
Ok so this happened a few months ago, I have 2 kids, one is 5 and one is 3.
The whole family went over to my brothers house for my Dads birthday, anyway we were having a great time and I put the kids upstairs with some sandwiches while the adults talked.

So later on my brother went to get the kids down to play a board game, and he found that they had broken his gaming console (an old Nintendo one) and there were sandwich bits in the cartridge slot, he held it together in front of the kids but pulled me aside and really chewed me out.
He yelled about how much he loved that console and how it had been with him since he was 6 years old (our Dad bought it for him after a business trip) .

So he got pissed and wanted me to buy him a new one, o don’t get why as it was just a console and the games were old anyway. He demanded that I buy him one to replace it but I told him he needs to grow up and stormed out of the room.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA your kids are your responsibility. If they break someone's property intentionally or not it's up to you to repair or replace it. You were rude to your brother and justified your kids breaking his things because "he knew they were coming over and should have protected it." Under that logic if your brother decides to come over and break your TV he doesn't have to replace it because you knew he was coming over. Your entitlement complex is out of this world. ######


Prompt:
I have a daughter (16F) and a few weeks ago she sat me down and told me that she was struggling with purging. She said it was due to mental issues going on with school and her friends, and she talked about how she was feeling sad all the time.

In response, I told her to start a journal and think of at least three positive thoughts a day and that would help. However, when I told a friend of mine about it she said I should put her in therapy, as I should not be trying to deal with her mental health issues.

Personally, I do not think this is about mental health. My daughter is always smiling and happy with her friends, and it seems as though she only tells me these things when she wants something (i.e. to be allowed to hang out with her boyfriend). I have a hard time buying that she's actually dealing with mental illness, and I don't want her to be put on medication because she's a minor and it's probably her hormones.

So, AITA? ######

Response: YTA your daughter opened up about some serious issues she is having and her told to think positive and write a journal. Get her some actual help you insanely huge asshole. ######


Prompt: So my dad constantly asks for my netflix password. I have the cheapest account and I don't want him messing up my recommendations. He has hundreds of channels on his smart tv plus sling and hulu, so he has plenty of crap to watch. But he wants anything I have. (This happens ALL the time- he tried to take an art piece I made to put it on the deck outside because he wanted it. Or he tries to take any food I've made for myself instead of making his own or eating something that was made for the whole family. He never takes no for an answer and does whatever he wants.) Also he tends to patronize me for anything I do, so I know that he would try to put me down for anything I've watched. Well, he got into my account because I was watching it with a friend and it stayed logged in. He got in while I wasn't home, so he knew that he was going behind my back and watching it without my permission. He was halfway through Tiger King when I confronted him about it, and his only response was "Tiger King is for adults." So basically he was calling me a kid (I'm 20, so legally an adult in my state) and justifying himself stealing my netflix account because "I shouldn't have been watching Tiger King anyway". I changed my password and kicked him off, and he got really angry. He threatened to kick me off the family music account (I don't really care about that because I can literally get it on spotify free) and to not let me drive the family car (which is what I take to get to work). His point is that he lets me live in his house and he pays my drivers' insurance so I owe him my netflix password. Is he right, AITA here? (Let me point out, he has plenty of money to pay for his own and if he really REALLY needs to watch Tiger King he can easily get a free trial for a whole month. Not steal his daughter's account.) ######

Response: YTA your an adult in the same house, it’s crazy to have two Netflix accounts.  You know you can set up multiple profiles... then your recommendations won’t be affected. ######


Prompt:
My ex and I got divorced five years ago. Our youngest was 17. All of our kids were fine with it and have their own lives. I see them as much as my ex. My youngest "blamed" me for the end of our marriage. I was very close with him when he was a kid so this baffled me.

All of a sudden he blocks me from all aspects of his life and I only know what's going on through my ex and kids or ilwhen he asks them to ask me for money. The funny part is I have a better relationship with my ex than with him. We still have family get togethers with the kids and grandkids. He won't come if I go.

He moved to the other side of the state with his girlfriend last year. Earlier this week, I was having lunch with my girlfriend and saw my son down the street. He was in town for his friend's birthday party.

We made eye contact and he said something to his girlfriend. He started to walk up the street with his girlfriend towards us. Keep in mind, we haven't exchanged a word in three years. He looked like he was in a good mood. I know he wanted to come up and say "hi" and introduce himself to my girlfriend.

I looked at him with those "dad eyes" and shook my head, basically telling him not to bother me.

He got the message and walked the other way. He's almost 23 and not a kid. He needs to learn that when you burn bridges, you burn bridges. ######

Response: YTA you’re the parent. The child doesn’t owe you anything. Your adult decisions affected his entire childhood. Now he’s prolly older and trying to make amends for things he did AS A CHILD and you’re acting like you’re 12. Goodness gracious this is ridiculous. ######


Prompt:
I'll tried to keep it short. I'm (30M) a gamer and have been for a long time. I've been with my gf (30F) for 6 years and i got her into gaming a few years ago.

We dont often play together as we are into different games however I convinced her to play a popular first person shooting game that we could play campaign co-op.

We play, we finish the game, i get the last 3 achievemnts on steam to pop up for completing the game and she didnt. All other ahcievemrnts popped at rhe same time? Just not these end game ones for her.

She is pissed. She is an achievement hunter. She says part of the enjoyment of playing games on steam is popping the acheivements. She has spent hours doing this for other games to try and complete them.

I tell her that the acheivements are absolutely pointless, it brings no benefits to game play and that they are worth nothing. She told me to not put down the way she plays and that i was making her feel like shit which i dont think i was.

Now she isnt really speaking to me and isnt putting much effort into playing with me anymore. AiTA? ######

Response: YTA you've literally told her she's having fun the wrong way...... ######


Prompt:
I own a small business and my kids (10 and 12) help me with the business after school.

I don’t pay them, because we’re all members of the family who need to do our job and contribute.

They met some other kids who work at their family’s business and apparently those kids are making minimum wage, so now my kids are starting to demand I pay them.

They do pretty minimal tasks, nothing difficult, stacking and sorting, logging things into a spreadsheet, light cleaning, answering the phone.

They’re really pushing for me to pay them now and aren’t having nearly as much fun as we used to working together since they found out their friends are being paid.

I feel bad that they’re not enjoying themselves as much anymore, but feel it’s absurd for me to be expected to pay them. They’re my kids and this is their family. Plus, I never want to reverse a parenting decision because “that’s how my friends do it at their house” it sets a bad precedent.

But I’m starting to really get worried I’m being too stubborn now, because they do good work, and if their friends are getting paid times might have just changed since I was younger working at my family’s business. Am I the asshole for not paying them? ######

Response: YTA You're teaching them that their labor should be free and setting a bad example. The least you could do is put wages toward a college fund. ######


Prompt:
I (20M) live with my large family, and I'm stuck with all of them thanks to the ongoing situation. It's been a tough month, and my mother (47F) has been looking for ways to make money.

She's had some credit card debt. Nothing major, but because her businesses' incomes have dried up, she hasn't had any way to pay her debts off. She's begun making hand sanitizers and face masks to generate some extra income, but she's always on the lookout for more cash to support the family.

A few months ago, she asked me if she could sell my old bike. I agreed, since I don't use it much anymore and it's just rusting in a corner of our storage. It took a while, but today, she was finally able to sell it, as well as my dad's bike.

I helped her to cart it out front and wiped it down before the buyer pulled up and paid for it. After the guy drove off and we went inside, I asked her for my share. She was bemused at first, and asked me who was the one who sold it in the first place. I said it was her, but it is still my bike and my property. She said she'd give me half. I disagreed, and asked her for the full amount as I also need money since I'm saving to move out  sooner than later. I didn't mention the moving out part. That's a sore subject for her. She got upset and started ranting about how unreasonable I'm being and how the money would benefit me anyway once she pays off her debt and how she feeds and houses me and how she bought the bike for me as a gift anyway (6-7 years ago) and how I just horde my money (I don't, it's called savings). I sat silently while she went on for about 5-10 minutes and then she stormed off, got the cash and gave it to me, and is now giving me the cold shoulder. She gave me the full amount for my bike.

My family is making me feel bad for asking for the money, and I even tried to give her a portion, but she refuses to take it. AITA? ######

Response: YTA you want 100% of the money but didn’t bother to say anything first. You know she is trying to pay bills but you assumed she was selling it for you? ######


Prompt:
A friend invited me over a while ago and said “It’s been a while, let me buy you dinner and we can catch up.”

She ordered us a large pizza and salad. We had a good time. Then it was time to go. She said she was buying me dinner, so I packed the leftovers up and took them home with me.

Later the next day she texted me “Hey, did you see where the pizza ended up. Could’ve sworn I put it in the fridge but seriously can’t find it. worried (*her dog*) ate it, he doesn’t digest cheese well.”

I told her I took it home and she asked if I took some of it or all of it and I said all of it. She asked why I didn’t leave her any and I said because she said she was buying me dinner.

She said she bought me dinner for that night but intentionally bought a big pizza to have some left for the next day.

I told her she can easily afford another pizza if she wants one and I really didn’t understand what the big deal was since she offered to buy me dinner.

This friend is much better off than I am money wise, she still has financial support from her parents and I do not. I feel like it was very entitled of her to invite me over for dinner and not let me take the rest home. Honestly, if I’d known she’d be that stingy, I would’ve made a point to eat it all there and then.

But now it’s been a few weeks and things have noticeably cooled between us in what used to be a close friendship and I’m starting to worry. I asked a mutual friend if they knew and they said she was upset I never apologized over the leftovers thing and just how I handled the situation.

She’s usually a very fair and level headed person and I am shocked she’s held onto this for this long. I’m starting to worry I misjudged things and am actually the asshole in this situation and am leading the demise of our relationship. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA you took them without asking when she paid for it. That's just bad manners. with leftovers, who ever paid defaults gets the leftovers unless they offer.

And it's not about if they could afford it and it wasn't that much. It's the fact that that was disrespectful and then when she brought it up, you made it clear you felt entitled to all of the leftovers when you're not. It's even worse you would have been greedy if you knew up front she wanted to keep all the leftovers. You should apologize for your poor manners if you still want your friend ######


Prompt:
There's no school and she doesn't have a job, so my stepdaughter has no responsibilities at the moment. For context, her dad was a single dad until he met me when she was 10, and now we have two more children together. Her dad is a GP so he works pretty much constantly and I'm left looking after 2 children by myself for the majority of the day, both 5 and 2 years old respectively.

Apart from cooking the daily family meal twice a week max, looking after the children 2x a week when we go grocery shopping and helping me put away said grocery shopping, my stepdaughter does nothing to help when I'm clearly in over my head and she's old enough to be taught a little responsibility. When I was her age, I was working two jobs and looked after my little sister and helped out around the house without being asked. She has to be asked to do every little thing apart from the things mentioned so far and almost always does them begrudgingly.

To teach her a better work ethic, I put together a chart full of chores she has to do every day. Until she's done them, she's banned from using her devices - both her phone and her ipad, and I also take away whatever book she's reading at the moment. She can have them back when all the chores are done. A typical day for the past week has involved her doing 5 chores of her choice from a list. The choices are, as examples: vacuum all of upstairs or downstairs, wash the floor, cook dinner, fold the laundry, do the dishes, dust any surfaces, tidy your siblings rooms, walk the dogs, pick up dog poop from the garden etc.

This was all working out fine until my husband caught onto what was going on, and he accused me of being lazy and punishing her for no reason and overstepping boundaries. I don't agree at all, the household is running much more smoothly with her help and I have more time to spend educating my 5 year old since school is out and I need to make sure he doesn't fall behind. AITA? ######

Response: YTA you started with you had 2 children, false you have 3. Maturing children into responsible adults is important, however I feel you have classic Cinderella step mother syndrome. ######


Prompt:
I'm a second-year radiology resident in a city in the Pacific Northwest. I'm a decent-looking guy, but a bit short and very socially awkward. So until recently, despite my best efforts, I've never been with anyone in any way at all. I was beginning to think I'd die a virgin without ever having been kissed...until I moved out here to Seattle. There, I found a lot of decently-put-together fairly attractive women that were living on the streets. I decided that was my best chance at sleeping with someone, and so decided to take advantage of the fact that I had a stable living situation to kick-start my romantic life.

I understand that these women are often vulnerable and in a shitty place in life; however, I always try to leave them in a better place than I found them. I buy them food and the supplies they need, leave them with a couple hundred dollars, and buy 'em six months' worth of a UPS mailbox so they can find jobs using the mailbox as a street address. I have a girlfriend, now, who's grateful for a place to live and is now in training to be a certified nurse's assistant. ######

Response: YTA you sound like a serial killer in training. Yikes ######


Prompt:
Me - 30 year old man

Her - 26 year old woman

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Me and my girlfriend has been together for 8 years, and our relationship is nontraditonal. I've taught her about the universe, freedom and i've told her that i think marriage is a trap and having kids is not a good future. We still hang out and make love, but don't talk to eachother in baby voices or walks in the park while kissing.

I personally hate mushy relationships, and have hate on Romantic Comedies. I feel a burning despise when i see young couples kissing like they're making a baby in public.

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Recently, when we where watching a romance movie that was going on TV, i saw her sighing. There was a scene were a man and a woman were on a romantic picnic.  She said "Do you want to go one of those sometime?". I though she was joking, and jokingly said back in a baby-voice "sure, honeybuns."

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Next day, she wakes me up wearing a sundress and has made tons of sandwitches that she's put in a basket. I've always made fun of romantic people, and i thought she was taking the joke further and started laughing without control.

She got confused and asked me why i was laughing. I understood she wasn't joking and told her it's a little unusual and mushy to do a morning picnic. She got upset.

AITA ######

Response:
 YTA you sound extremely condescending with your whole "I taught her so much, I am the master of enlightenment and she was taught by me, the great master" attitude right of the bat. Like she couldn't possibly understand what 'freedom' is or can't possibly learn about the universe without you.

Then you ridicule her for wanting to go on a picnic... Something that isn't even necessarily romantic. Friends do it, family members do it. It's casual fun for everyone who likes outside and likes to eat.

Take your ass down a notch or 20 and take the woman on a picnic. You don't have to be PDA about it. It's a great way to enjoy the weather/outdoors in a casual way. ######


Prompt:
My ex-wife and I had a horrific divorce when my son was 10 and my daughter was 12. Originally my wife had been cheating on me but truthfully we were horrible to each other and this showed in the divorce. We ended up with a 50/50 custody but she fought tooth and nail to get full custody and for 2 years we kept slogging it through the courts. After the expenses of the divorce, alimony, child support I had enough and just wanted to never see her again and start my life anew.

She got full custody and I had visitation rights but she ended up using that to turn the kids away from me. Not being able to see the kids for the holidays because she'd decided to travel to the other side of the country to see her new husband's family turned into "He doesn't want to see you". Every visit felt like I was trying to undo my ex wife's lies to my kids. They didn't seem to believe a word I said and she had her claws in deep. All they wanted from me was money and unless I sent it I never heard from them. I bought them both new phones, but I never got a call or text that wasn't about money.

I ended up re-marrying and starting a new family, this time not making the same mistakes. I haven't heard from my children in just over 10 years. I tried contacting them both when they each turned 18, but my messages were ignored so I decided not to bother anymore.

I was recently contacted by my daughter who wants to rekindle a relationship with me, I decided not to reply. I have a new family and I feel like I tried before. Why did she wait so long to get in contact? My number or e-mail hasn't changed in more than a decade. Both of them knew where I lived, both of them knew I was open for a relationship but they decided to ignore it all.

AITA for wanting to focus on a family that appreciates and loves me? ######

Response: YTA You said yourself your ex-wife poisoned them against you, so is it really their fault? In any event, she is your flesh and blood and is reaching out. You could at least hear her out and give her a chance. ######


Prompt:
  So, I’ve been dating H for about six months and everything going great, though if I had to pick on thing to change it would be that she’s a pushover, and can’t say no to anyone. Still when we’re alone or around our friends everything is going really well. The biggest issue is her overly zealous mother, who she was forced to move back in with during the pandemic.

H’s mom doesn’t like me, doesn’t think I’m good enough for her daughter, but at the same time always sucks up to me, because my dad is prominent in our community, and she thinks I’m like her daughter’s golden ticket to money. I’m definitely a jokester, always the life of the party, and honestly a lot of people don’t like that about me.

So, this weekend restrictions eased up, and her uncle invited us over for a little family get together. The mom was sort of rude like she always is, but everyone was having fun. I should mention her mother is a very strict Christian, H went to Catholic school, and he mom actually used to volunteer with some debutante thing where they taught the girls “respectable” behavior, so not the most fun woman.

Anyway, I was teasing H, and she took a dab of frosting from a cupcake and smeared it on my face. She knows me well enough to know I’m competative, and kind of an ass. Now the face just seemed too obvious so I smeared the rest of my cupcake on her cleavage.

She sort of muttered something about I take stuff too far, but she was laughing, and then I saw her mother’s face. Her mother looked pissed, so I said let me get that babe, and licked some of it off. Now H is mad because she had to listen to her mother’s lecture and she said I need to learn to tone it down when I’m with her family, but she says she loves me for me and I was just being my asshole self. I think she needs to learn to stand up to her mom, so AITA for having a little food fight with my girlfriend? ######

Response: YTA you licked your girlfriends cleavage in front of people ######


Prompt: My 16 year old son used to work 8-12 hours a day doing construction , and that’s all he ever did. I had given him a month and a half to clean his room, but he always used the excuse that he was tired when he came home from work, and he’d always go to sleep. I finally texted his boss, and told him he was no longer working for him, because he couldn’t get his room clean. His boss had told us that he always had a job there, so we thought that would make my son clean his room. But he comes into our room a couple minutes later telling us he’s been fired, and he had found a replacement. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: YTA you got him fired because he didn’t keep his room clean? That’s so strange and controlling. He was working hard maybe you should have cut him some slack. Your username is misleading, definitely not a normal thing to do. ######


Prompt:
My brother and his GF have been dating for two years now and are both 18. His GF came around for lunch and they were talking about a movie that they watched. While we were all talking, they said that they love eachother deeply.

I asked them a question that was in my mind for a while now about how they are they together without being physically attractived. At first, they seem normal but then they got mad. After I told them that in my opinion, they just seem like best mates. My mum got angry at me and told me to go to my room while my dad didn't do anything (he also believes the same thing). My brother and his girl left the house as they got pissed

My mum made me apologise to them for what I said. My dad didn't say anything but my mum and the rest got angry at me. AITA? ######

Response: YTA you don't get to decide what constitutes a full relationship ######


Prompt: I have lived in the same neighborhood for a few years. It's pretty Vanilla here. Recently, someone bought the house across the street. They seem nice enough. I have had no problems with them at all. Another neighbor came by recently and asked me if I had noticed the star. I hadn't. When they moved in, they had turned a mounted star (that was already there when they moved in) upside down. I guess it's a pentagram that way. I do not see them performing any satanic rituals, it's just weird. Then the same neighbor asked if I had noticed the clowns, and I hadn't. I looked closer and noticed there was a silhouette in the window but couldn't make it out. I walked over and looked, and it was a killer clown with an evil face with splattered blood on it. Again, I haven't seen anything happen over there. I feel like these are just some folks wanting to appear Cool by doing something edgy. I really don't know. I DO know that my kids are now afraid of the clown in the window that is always facing us. Would I be the asshole if I went over there and asked them to take the clown out of the window because it is scaring my kids? ######

Response: YTA you didn't even notice it before they pointed it out yet you say your kids saw it and yet they didn't say anything. You shouldn't be pointing out things to your kids about other people's houses ######


Prompt:
My gf has recently got very into skincare stuff. She suffered from pretty bad acne until last year when she went on acutane and it cleared it up. Since then she's been excited about being able to try different products and stuff.

One of her recent favorite products is this moisturizer which has snail slime in it. I find that honestly disgusting. She says it works really well for her skin which is a lot dryer than it used to be because of the acutane but I just do not get why you'd want to smear snail slime on your face. There's plenty of moisturizers that don't have actual snail in them. I absolutely cannot fucking stand the thought of kissing her on the cheek and kissing snail.

So I did some research and a couple weeks ago I found another moisturizer (it took ages, I had no idea there were seven million moisturizers) which has similar positive reviews to the one she uses, but without snail slime. It was expensive too, probably more than her snail one. I checked the ingredients and there's nothing in there that she's allergic to so I bought it. When she was out, I scooped out the snail cream from the pot and replaced it with the stuff I'd bought. I didn't throw away the snail cream but I decanted it into another container because I didn't want to throw away her stuff.

She used the new cream which she thought was snail cream for a few weeks with no issue. Then she found the jar of her actual snail stuff a couple days ago and asked me what it was and I came clean. I told her that the thought of her smearing snail on her face made me gag so I found a really good new one for her. I told her I hadn't told her because I wanted her to see that it worked just as well and she wouldn't give it a fair shot if I just asked her to use a different one. She hit the roof and accused me of tampering with her stuff. Ngl I'm still pretty sure I wasn't that out of order because I picked a great new moisturizer but she's still mad at me so I'll ask the hive mind AITA. ######

Response:
 YTA You deceived her and lied to her, all without giving her the chance to make the decision of changing  moisturizer of her own will.

You should have just spoken to her, told her how you feel and take it from there. If she changes the moisturizer, great. If not, tough. It's her body.

Good rule of thumb is: if it's not yours, don't mess with it. ######


Prompt:
So, my girl friend and I are in a long distance relationship and today is her bday. We live in different states so I can't see her or travel to her. We were suppose to be in the Bahamas right now, but due to everything going on right now, we couldn’t do that.

I booked a Bahamas trip this week for 4th of July weekend and was going to fly her down to where I live. I didn't ask first because I know she can choose when she works and I wanted to surprise her and figured I can always compensate her for not going to work.

I took off work over 2 months in advance so I would 100% have the time off and told her the plans tonight. She is upset because the week I will be flying her down and we will be going, it’s her moms bday and she won’t feel right being in the same state and not seeing her mom. (We will be in this state for a few hours before we head over to the Bahamas lol... also her mom lives like 6 hours away)

She seems upset over this especially because I said I’m not rebooking and changing the dates - and she told my twin bro (they’re really close) that I should have asked her first and that you should always spend your moms bday with her.

I feel like she’s not grateful for the trip I’m taking her on, and wants to do everything for her mom and doesn’t even care to see me. Am I the asshole for not wanting to rebook the trip I already took time off for? ######

Response: Yta you cant just book stuff without telling your so and asking if its okay. ######


Prompt:
So! My girlfriend of a few months works in HR and we both live in a big capital city. For context I used to work in journalism.

She randomly messaged me saying John Smith (it’s a public figure who runs a newspaper in our country and pretends to be a Man of the People) apparently has a chauffeur drive him everywhere. I guess she told me because I used to work in journalism and have pretty left wing views. When I asked how she knew she said she’s in a closed chat group for some HR people in our city and someone working there posted for HR advice relating to it.

I said I didn’t believe her and got her to send a screenshot of the post to me. She did after a bit of reassurance and - well it was real alright!

So I said in my opinion she should send the info in to a gossip website (and sent her the link) and she wouldn’t do it, she was pranging out in case they somehow identified her as the “leaker” lol and kicked her out of the chat group.

So I sent the info and the screenshot in to the gossip site and now she’s annoyed with me. She said she uses the HR group a lot for work stuff and they’re really strict about kicking people out and finding out where leaks come from. I’ve told her she’s just being paranoid but she’s not having a sense of humour about it.

I’d argue given said public figure genuinely does present as a “man of the people” the public also deserve to know re the chauffeur life he lives lol

Tl;dr am I the asshole for submitting some info about a public figure to a gossip column that my girlfriend found through her private work chat ######

Response: YTA You betrayed her trust in you ######


Prompt:
So I play a lot of video games, and like most gamers, my online friends are all in different time zones. Usually we all get on at around 12:00 am my time, and I stay up untill 4:00 am usually. It has been this way since quarantine.

We usually play games like Gmod TTT which can get heated at times and cause me to talk a bit loud. I play with my door closed and actively try to stay quite, especially late at night, but sometimes a death squeal or two is forced out of me.

Some of my mom's friends had an unfortunate event happen to them two days ago and as a result, have moved in with us (a family of three in a already crowed house). My mom said it's possible they stay with us for up to 6 months, and the last time she said that (about a different family), they ended up staying for 3 years...

I'm also introverted, so the introduction of more people has definitely made my life more uncomfortable, but I haven't complained or said anything about the situation, because I know their in a tight spot.

So today I'm going about my night as usual, playing TTT with my friends at 2 am when my mom walks in and starts telling me off for still being up. She said she's going to talk to me in the morning because I'm keeping our guest up.

Am I wrong in thinking that I shouldn't change the way I live because we graciously invited a family to live with us? It would be a nother story if it was temporary, but I'm not going to quite playing with my friends for 6 months+!

I think they should adapt to the way we live, not the other way around. Especially since their moving in at a unfortunate time (lots of construction is going on in our house which has already causes a lot of chaos and clutter).

Besides, it's not like I can just fix my sleep schedule, at this point it's too far gone. I would need something like school to force me into waking up early again. ######

Response: YTA You are an adult living for free at your mom's house, the least you could do is respect her rules. And changing your sleep schedule is totally possible, you just don't want to. ######


Prompt:
While he doesn't scroll this sub, I don't want him to see this on my feed and feel bad.

For the past few weeks, my bf(24m) and I(24f) have taken to scaring the shit out of each other. If you scream, you owe the other person dinner or a back massage or other things like that. Pretty simple game. I've gotten my bf pretty damn good a bunch of times but he's only made me scream about 3 times and hasn't again for about 2 and a half weeks. He makes me jump, but not scream and he gets really sad when his plans don't work. And I honestly hate seeing him like that because I know he's trying his best, I'm just not easily spooked. Soo a few days ago when he scared me, I gave him a scream and my God did he look so damn proud of himself that he got me. But I felt bad about it and I spilled the beans after dinner and he looked so sad. He reassured me that he wasn't mad or anything because he's let me win before in other games but some friends I confided in said that I was kinda a dick for tricking him like that. Was I wrong to let him think he won? ######

Response: YTA yeah I think your kinda the asshole here because if you’re going to pretend so that he can get a win, why would you then go back on it and say oh actually I faked it you didn’t really get me? Either play the game properly or fake it and let him have his glory ######


Prompt: We can have activities outdoor with 50 people in my city now. So my grandma threw me and my two cousins graduation party. We are all graduating college. It was super fun. My older cousins lent us their grad caps. I hired a photography and got him to take photos of me. My cousins wanted to get photos too but I didn’t let him take pics of them. My mom paid for him so his time belongs with me. My grandma was upset with this and tried to give him more money so he can stay longer so he can take photos for her and my cousins. He was up for it but HES MY PHOTOGRAPHER. ######

Response: YTA wow you sound possessive, your grandma was willing to pay for him too, and he's not YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER he's a person. ######


Prompt:
I live in an eight-unit apartment building for the last year. It's quiet. except for this woman who lives above me. I work early mornings so I go to bed at 8PM. All late night long she's slamming cupboards, doors, moving shit, etc. all night long. This is LOUD. I did mention it to her and suggested that if she needs to slam things then maybe get some felt coverings attached to her doors/cupboards. She said next time she would be quieter. Then it goes back to banging, slamming, etc. I have no idea what she's doing late at night and don't care. I do wear earplugs and use a noise machine.

She keeps on doing it so I set my alarm at 3AM and went to her door and knocked on it. She was mad as Hell. I apologized and told her that I would be quieter next time I wake her up early in the morning the same way she said she would be quieter the next time she wakes me up late at night.

EDIT: It's not like she ends her slamming binge at 9PM. I am awoken to a door slamming, something heavy dropped on the floor, a cupboard slammed, etc. at 11PM, 12:30AM, 1:45AM. I assume she goes to bed around 2AM because that's when it's silent and by then I have to leave for work in an hour. So I get ready and knock on her door. ######

Response: YTA work with property management first. Unless you did and didn’t share that INFO. ######


Prompt:
My daughter has been calling her father every day when she’s with me, sometimes for an hour or more. She’s been doing this since around when the pandemic started. It’s very frustrating to me because she never calls me when she’s with her father, and when I call her she only talks for 5 minutes before saying she has to go.

I asked her father to stop accepting her calls daily, and limit it to a couple times per week. He said that he wouldn’t stop answering calls from his daughter, and he’s not the one calling her, she’s calling him. He wants me to tell her to stop calling if I have a problem with it, but obviously I can’t tell her to stop because that will just make her upset with me.

I told him again that it would be polite to limit his contact to a reasonable amount when she’s with me, because I don’t interfere with his time when she’s with him. He got angry and said he wasn’t going to do that and hung up.

I think I’m being very reasonable here, and most 15 year olds don’t talk to their parents voluntarily as much as she talks to him. It’s only fair that when she’s with me she’s actually with me rather than just talking on the phone with him.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA which is probably why she doesn’t call you when she is with her father... ######


Prompt: We can have activities outdoor with 50 people in my city now. So my grandma threw me and my two cousins graduation party. We are all graduating college. It was super fun. My older cousins lent us their grad caps. I hired a photography and got him to take photos of me. My cousins wanted to get photos too but I didn’t let him take pics of them. My mom paid for him so his time belongs with me. My grandma was upset with this and tried to give him more money so he can stay longer so he can take photos for her and my cousins. He was up for it but HES MY PHOTOGRAPHER. ######

Response:
 YTA what's wrong with you?

You paid this guy hourly, he's not your personal photographer. It's his job, why can't he photograph your cousins, for extra money, paid for by someone other than your mommy?

You sound nuts. ######


Prompt:
Me and my ex were together for 5 years and we broke up 3 years ago. It was a really abrupt end to the relationship and I didnt see it coming. I didn't get to say good bye to her family etc and I never really received any closure. Pretty much a month after we broke up I was in a bit of a mess and I started dating, my now wife who I am very much in love with. Shes super chilled out and really understands me but I still feel I never really 100% let go of my ex and still think about her frequently.

6 months ago me and my ex had twins, and like I said is very laid back and let me pick the names. I originally wanted to pick my ex girlfriend and her brothers names but I thought it would be too obvious so I picked her father and mothers names instead. They were both great people to me when I was in their lives and I think it was quite therapeutic to still sort of have them in my life.

Everything was fine until about 6 months ago, my wife put some pics up of me and our kids and a mutual friend of me and my ex pm'd me asking why the kids names were the same as my ex's parents. I panicked and blocked him, he then insta messaged me asking why I blocked him and that its super creepy to name his kids after my ex's parents. I told him its a coincidence and my wife chose the names but I am worried now he is going to inbox my wife and ruin everything for me. WIBTA if I told my wife preemptively that its coincidental and made it into a bit of a joke or just say its a coincidence? ######

Response: YTA what the actual hell is wrong with you? ######


Prompt:
I (62M) was married to my ex (58F) for 20+ years until things went downhill. From her perspective I was emotionally cold and stubborn, and from mine she was so up and down. She suddenly left me (especially due to money issues) for another guy and moved to LA to live in his literal mansion.

This was 15 years ago, and we haven’t spoken since. My kids don’t mention her to me, which is easy because she lives far away. I basically plan to never speak to her again.

My two kids are grown, and my younger son is getting married in October. When my older son was married, he sat me and my ex super far from each other. The wedding was large, and I was able to avoid her. We agreed on not doing any photos with both of us in it, so he did photos with me then her separately, and with each of our family sides separately.

My younger son and his bride have a problem with this. They have agreed to seat us far, but they want a photo with the whole family. They said that it can be a large group so we’ll be far from each other, but this is something I’m uncomfortable with. Apparently my ex doesn’t care, but I do.

We are not together or even friendly so I don’t see why we should act like we are for the photo. I intend on staying as far away from her as possible, then leaving on the earlier end. I quite literally hate her guts and I don’t think my son totally understands that. It feels like he wants his family to be back to what it was, but he’s not seeing reality. He now mentions when he’s calling his mom or visiting her, etc., whereas we previously didn’t speak of that. So, Reddit, AITA for not doing this photo and for avoiding her?

Tl:dr; AITA for not taking a photo with and avoiding my ex at my son’s wedding? ######

Response: YTA way to prove you are "emotionally cold and stubborn" ######


Prompt: I live in a converted apartment under a larger house. A day before I moved in she got news her father is on his way out sadly and has been in Arizona since May 1st. A friend of hers came by twice over the month to get her mail and so on, ever since the second I met him he made my skin crawl. Like no joke cannot stand to be around this person, I think maybe 2 people ever have bothered me like he does. I was told he was going to stay upstairs for afew days. That night he started yelling at me and being so rude over something he misunderstood from my landlord/his friend and wasn't an issue. Its been more then afew days and im starting to get really frustrated. She's a very paranoid person and clearly wants him here to make sure I don't do anything to damage the property or her things. Also she admittedly doesn't know me well since I moved in right as she left. But I already have been here a month and the grass is mowed, no mess, parties, complaints from neighbors ect. It just doesn't feel like home at home and he has his own house in town, also she never mentioned anyone but her staying there while we talked about me moving in or when she left for Arizona. Basically every peace of mind she gains from him here is equal for me in the opposite direction. Am I the asshole for asking a date he will leave and if its a long time say I'm not okay with that? I can avoid him for some of the time, but definitely will always be in my life while here. ######

Response:
 YTA unfortunately but you need to take steps to protect yourself.

You don't get to dictate who is staying in your landlord's house.

However you can request all information go through your landlord instead of the proxy houseguest. (Double check your lease.) Use language like you want all information to go through your landlord so you know exactly what is expected. (Text or email preferably so you have documentation.) Cite him overstepping by yelling at you and how it's making you uncomfortable. Tell your landlord that since you don't know each other very well that you want to build a good landlord/tenant relationship with them and want to build trust for each other without a third party influence.

Go back over your lease. See if your landlord has violated the contract. Check your local laws for your rights. Take steps to avoid interactions with him. Make sure that he doesn't have access to your space without your consent. (Maybe a nanny cam?) You need to find a legal way to break your lease if you feel uncomfortable enough that you need to move.

Try to find a time to water that he won't be around. Or see if you can get a friend to come over for support. If push comes to shove tell your landlord that you can't preform the additional tasks for your reduced rent because of the houseguest's interference.

Everyone deserves to be safe in their home. And it's up to your landlord to correct the behavior of their guest. You can't just kick them out of your landlord's house. ######


Prompt:
So I just woke up, went into the bedroom, and it’s a disaster. Parts of shoe everywhere on the floor. I gasp.

Last night we were playing scrabble like good little quarantinee’s and he walked into the room gently holding her shoelace in his mouth, shoe trailing behind. I told him no, drop it, and he dropped it. I said “looks like he found a new toy” and she was annoyed, said something about how he “better not do anything” and then we continued our night. She left the shoe there. Admittedly, I didn’t move it either, but my shoes are always put in our mud closet next to the front door.

She wore these shoes 2 days ago and they’ve been laying in the hallway ever since.

She woke up and is now super angry at our dog (he turned 1 this past week). Mentioning about how we’ll have to get rid of him ( she doesn’t mean this, she always says harsh things when situations get rough). Throughout her discovering the shoe I mostly remained quiet because I knew that I believed the shoe shouldn’t have been left laying around.

Am I the asshole for taking my dogs side?
Is she the asshole for being mad at our puppy for chewing her shoe?
Is the dog the asshole for chewing a toy(shoe) in the night? ######

Response: YTA train your dog. They are no puppy anymore, they need to understand that not everything is a toy they can handle like they please. ######


Prompt:
Hello everyone!!
I feel like I'm crazy in this one. But basically my husband just loves copying my favourite foods!! We've been married 26 years now and he started this around 5 years ago and it really annoys me.
Anything I really like eating, he likes it to and then he'll go and buy it everytime we go shopping and say that it's his favourite too. He does it so much that its put me off my favourite food.
For example I used to love maple and pecan pies and they come in a pack of 2. My hubby tried it and after that everytime we went shopping he would buy it. It really annoyed me cause that's my favourite. He's done it with different things such a fruit loafs and brioche etc.
Now 2 days ago my daughter did the weekly shop and she likes to buy her dad something nice, so because his usual donuts weren't in stock she got the maple and pecan pies. He was happy when he saw them.
Later on I said to her, you know they're my favourite not your dads, he just copies me. She didn't say anything. I've talked to her about this before, how it annoys me so much that he copies my favourite food!!
So I've decided I'm just going to tell him to stop copying me so that I can enjoy my favourite food again.
AITA?? ######

Response: YTA this is the dumbest thing I've read today. A lot of people share favourite food, it should be something you can use to bond with your partner not get angry about. I am so confused. ######


Prompt:
As you know, french bulldogs have breathing issues due to their deformed noses.

I saw a girl jogging with her french bulldog. I told my wife i wanted to say something, but she said not to, so I didn't.

A few days later, I saw the same girl and dog around my neighborhood walking, so I took this chance to say something. I told her to please consider her dog's breathing issues when jogging. She told me when she jogs with him, she does intervals of light jogging for 1 min then does 3 mins of walking for 15-20 mins and she only does this every two weeks. Never in the Summer.

I see where she's coming from, but I told her he's probably not doing too good. She then says "ok i hear you - have a great day!". Honestly this is a rude response since I feel dismissed. So I ask if she's going to stop. She says probably not. At this point I'm mad so I tell her she shouldn't have gotten this breed then.

She then says "Yea sure." then walks away.

I told my wide about this and she said this is one of the dumbest thing I could've done and I should've minded my own business.

So, was I in the wrong? ######

Response: YTA This is between her and her vet. And she was unfailingly polite to you, but you were rude to her. The thing is, being dismissed when it is appropriate for someone to dismiss you is not rude. It was your cue to end the conversation. ######


Prompt:
This happened a few months ago but lockdown is making all of us dwell on our past possible mistakes so why not.

My daughter (6F) has a type of ichthyosis which is a genetic skin disorder that basically makes parts of her skin very very dry and scaly. I'm used to her getting some funny looks in public and luckily she's still too young to really notice but I definitely do.

I took her shopping a while ago because her friend had a new pink headband and they're best friends so she had to match, obviously, and so we went into a shop that sells accessories. My daughter spotted the wall of headbands and ran over to have a look. There was a teenage girl standing there, probably about 16, and when my daughter ran over, the girl kind of jumped and then immediately went to stand at the other side of the shop (the shop was super small so it was only a few feet away). I got pissed that the girl had seen my daughter and immediately felt like she had to get as far away as possible, so I looked at her and said "she's not contagious, you know." The girl gave me the stink eye and said "I was giving her space to look at the headbands, you weirdo" and then left the shop.

Honestly I have no way of knowing if she was telling the truth. People often think my daughter's condition is contagious or don't want to be near her in case she sheds on them (she won't.) But I do sometimes wonder if I was too harsh because my daughter didn't seem to notice that anything had happened. ######

Response: YTA the teenager didn’t say or do anything to earn your aggressiveness. Calm down mama bear. It sounds like your child ran up to the small area where this girl was already standing, which honestly, is kind of rude, and she moved out of the way. ######


Prompt:
I'm f24 my bf is 23 and we've been together for 3 years, he got into a car accident 3 weeks ago and broke both his legs and his right arm. He will make a full recovery and there was no other damage other then some cracked ribs.

Because of this since he's been home I've been taking care of him, and making him 3 meals a day getting him beer etc. But I am sick of it, I don't really like cooking but he can barely move so I have to for the time being. Before this we would take turns cooking and it was a lot more manageable and fun.

He asked me what was for dinner last night after I made him breakfast and lunch and I told him just to order uber eats because I don't feel like cooking he said he'd rather not waste money since we bought groceries and he's gonna need me to go down to the lobby of our condo and get it for him. I kinda just told him to figure it out for himself he's 23 not a kid and I told him I don't want to cook as much anymore so he needs to figure something else out. He called me an asshole and a bitch.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA the guy cannot physically do it for himself right now so what do you expect him to do? I'm assuming you love him if you've been together 3 years and live together, is that really how you'd treat someone you love when they are in need? This is temporary and I'm sure he'll make it up to you when he's recovered if he usually shares the cooking. How will you manage if you ever have kids and have to look after them and feed them all their meals?

Why don't you make things easier for yourself and give him simple foods for breakfast and lunch that just take a few minutes to prepare and do some batch cooking for evening meals so you only have to cook every other day and have leftovers on the non cooking day. ######


Prompt:
My roommate has said I'm a selfish cunt and that I should even move out so I guess I want the internet to say the same thing.

Yesterday a dog showed up and was barking under my window at my cat, who was in my window. I made a commotion and my roommate, who is a dog lover, got up and she got the dog.

We spent the morning walking around the various houses asking if it was their dog. The dog was attached to a cut cable lead. No one recognized the dog.

Fast forward, the dog was fine UNTIL she came in contact with my cats. After that, she wouldn't stop whining nonstop over and over and over and tried getting to my cats, who I had to lock up in my bedroom. This continues. The whining stops for a second but then starts back up. We have a fenced in yard, she barks nonstop if she's out. When not whining at my closed bedroom door, she is frantically pacing the house and whining then going back to my bedroom. She's a medium sized hunting dog.

This morning, after hours and hours of listening to her whining and pawing at my bedroom door, I let her out the front door. She came back after running around. I did this three other times. The last time she did not come back.

I had full intentions to take her to the shelter today. The one for my county is not taking animals and the one a county over is closed until tomorrow. I know a lot of dogs roam around us so I guess I was hoping by letting her out the front, she would just naturally go home. My roommate says I'm a selfish bitch and she wants me to move out because I only care about myself because that dog needed our help. My anxiety is already at fucking 11 with everything else that's going on, I didn't even know you had to pay to bring a dog to the animal shelter so I was already nervous about that. AITA? Should I just move out? ######

Response:
 YTA The dog was even coming back because they had no idea where else to go. You should have told your roommate you were on your last nerve and the dog NEEDED to find another place to stay, so they'd at least have an opportunity to help the poor thing.

Instead now the dog now also has a chance of getting hit by a car, lost, injured, sick, or tortured by somebody cruel instead of being looked after in safety before finding a home. There are people willing to help.

Imagine throwing your cats out there. It's *still* not the same because cats do better on their own than dogs, but maybe it'll help make you think about how it's an asshole move to unilaterally decide "Not my problem!". The dog is a living, distressed creature. ######


Prompt: I \[14M\] was bored in quarantine, so I decided to post to r/AMA a post where I pretended I was a 14 year old with brain cancer, then reveal it's fake. The post blew up and got many awards, then I revealed it's fake. I expected everyone to laugh and leave it behin but now I'm hated all across reddit and I got death threats. So reddit, AITA? ######

Response: YTA that’s a horrible thing to do? Why did you think that pretending to have a serious possible lethal illness would be something that people laugh about? ######


Prompt:
Restaurants Just opened in my city where I am, so I wanted to just relax with and talk with my family. We missed times like this so we figured it was the right time.

I told her let's go some where a little nicer than usual. Meaning like upscale place. I wanted to eat good that night. Told her it was a steak house, didn't ask anymore questions so told her nothing else really about it. Figured she would know it cost a little more since I told her it was something nicer. Picked her up and we headed the restaurant.

We get there, she says "STK huh", I said "yeah, have you ever been here", she responded with "nope" told her she in for suprise. We walk up and get seated, I can tell shes impressed by the environment of the place. We get handed our menus, she looks at up at me almost immediately. Didn't even say say anything to me just looked at me. Face of shock. After looking at the menu for the couple's of minutes, she asked on how much we exactly plan on spending. Told her I'm going to get a steak, so I have no idea.

Staters alone are $20 then entrees vary from $40 to $50. I ended up spending $110 that night, she spent $60. We had good conversations throughout dinner but when it was over she told me I wish I told her exactly how expensive it was before. For she could've know how much she planned on spending. ######

Response: YTA that's a lot of money. If you're going to suggest such an expensive place maybe you should treat. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend (24F) and I (35M) have been together for almost a year. She comes from a wealthy family. They own several houses and buy my gf everything she wants whenever she wants it. They’re good people, but I think they need to treat her like a woman instead of a child. I worked hard for everything I have, which isn’t much, so it frustrates me to watch her coast through life. They pay all of her bills, including putting her through medical school. All she has to pay for herself are her luxuries, so she is able to build up her savings much more than I am. Who the hell is able to save up while they’re in medical school? Well anyone can become a doctor with the endless opportunities that she has.

So yesterday my girlfriend and I got into a very heated argument. She told me her new laptop had finally come. I asked her what laptop. She said her old one broke a few days ago so she ordered a new one. She got a top of the line MacBook, way more bells and whistles than what she needs. I asked how she paid for it but I knew the answer, her parents bought it. So here’s where I might be the asshole. I was really mad knowing they probably spent 3 months of what could be someone’s rent on a computer that she *doesn’t need*. I finally just asked her if she’s embarrassed that everything she has in life has been handed to her. Naturally she got defensive and we started arguing. After a while I calmly said I think she’s a spoiled brat and her parents are doing a disservice to her. She called me a string of obscenities in return before hanging up on me. We haven’t talked since.

I get that I was harsh on her but I really don’t think I was wrong. She’s an adult who has no concept of what the real world is like. I want the best for her at the end of the day. Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: YTA that was rude as fuck. you started the fight because you’re jealous and petty, she did nothing  to deserve that ######


Prompt:
I've been with my GF for 5 years and we recently had an anniversary. We did a huge thing and exchanged a bunch of presents. One of the presents I got her was a silver necklace from a game that I really enjoyed as a child and consider one of my favourite games. The publisher released it with a cubic zirconium piece so I had a jeweller remove it and replace it with a small diamond. All in all it cost me a pretty penny.

My GF loved it when I gave it to her and kept saying how happy she was with it, she'd wear it almost every day. When she was out with her friends one of them remarked "Oh, is that so and so's necklace from that game?". She Googled it and saw it was the same and blew up on me.

I explained what I'd done and how it was set with a diamond now but she was livid that I gave her "your gaming shit" and she now refuses to wear it and said I could do with it what I want.

Edit: This, [FF7, Aerith's necklace](https://store.na.square-enix-games.com/en_US/product/597038/final-fantasy-vii-silver-necklace-aerith-ribbon-ver-jewelry), is what I got her. I'm not really a gamer, I've got one gaming model which is just a plane and that's it. I've got a lot of other hobbies and I mainly just play FIFA or BF1 with friends every now and then.

My GF just reminds of Aerith a lot and I thought it would be a sweet gift. There were a lot of other gifts that were exchanged so this isn't the only thing I got her. ######

Response:
 YTA That kinda stuff is really hard to appreciate if you're not a fan. Idk man I know it's just a pretty necklace from a popular game but at the same time it seems kind of cosplay-ish? And that is never something a person wants to do accidentally.

I would be so embarrassed to be unintentionally wearing something from a video game character. Or really any niche interest (anime, Warhammer, MTG) I didn't share.

Would you be ok if she gave you something and you later found out it made people think you were dressing up as a character from Twilight? ######


Prompt:
I'm a pretty big and strong guy and I enjoy making people laugh and smile. My one party trick once I've had a few drinks is to lift people up and twirl them around. My GF loves it when I toss her around but as of late she's started to get annoyed that I'm touching other people.

I was at the park with a few friends and throwing people around which included seeing if 3 people could stand on my shoulders and back. As we were drinking we quickly came tumbling down in laughter. One girl however seemed to really enjoy me lifting her up to the point she kept asking and asking. I was happy to oblige and always made sure I grabbed her by the waist or bridal style.

We get drunker and suddenly she wants me to grab her in other places to lift her and wants me to grab her by the neck. I jokingly say "I'll probably end up choking you" and she replies she'd like that, I realise it's going too far and stop there. My GF wasn't happy as you can imagine.

On the way home we get into an argument and she says I shouldn't be touching any one else apart from her and I'm causing drama in the group. Apparently some of the guys see me lifting either their GFs or girls they like and feel emasculated, or they try lifting the girls and struggle which makes them embarrassed.

None of it is sexual for me, I just a giant performing bear essentially. ######

Response: YTA that girl was flirting with you before she asked you to choke her.  The situation was inappropriate long before then.  That's why she straight up asked you for a sexual favor in front of your girlfriend.  You told her you were down for it with your actions.  Many people consider flirting cheating and it sounds like you've made your girlfriend uncomfortable enough that you've put her firmly in that camp. ######


Prompt:
I have four kids in total. Two girls, ages 15 and 21. As well as two boys, ages 17 and 19. All four play sports. Both of my sons are basketball players, and received full ride college scholarship offers in their 10th grade years. In both instances as a reward, their mother and I bought them a car at either Christmas or their birthday as a reward for their outstanding accomplishments. My daughter's 16th birthday is coming up next month and she asked if she could get a car for either her birthday or Christmas, because her two older brothers did. I told her no, because those weren't simple gifts for no reason and they were rewards that they earned.

She immediately starts to lose her composure and complains that its unfair that we buy her brothers whatever they want but her and her older sister never got treated like that, then proclaimed we are being sexist and always show preferential treatment to the boys. I immediately shut down such preposterous claims and exclaim that they didn't get vehicles for being born with a penis, they got them as a reward for getting a scholarship and that if they didn't, they wouldn't have gotten it. I also told her if she gets one that I'd buy her one too. She then tells me she thinks, that I think they're better than her just because she hasn't gotten a scholarship yet, and cries off.

I then get a call about 2 hours later from my oldest cursing me out for making her cry like that. Saying I made her feel inferior to her siblings and I should've been more considerate. I understand her frustration at not getting what she wanted, but I don't see how my line of thinking went wrong here. I never said anyone was better than her. She simply My wife seems to agree as well but AITA? ######

Response: YTA sort of: unfortunately for your daughters. It is NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE to get a full ride scholarship for sports being a female. Universities do not put their money into womens sports. When I was applying for schools every school I spoke with said the max I could get for a soccer scholarship was 60% (guys could get 100%) Your daughters are at a disadvantage from the start with this. I believe though that you're missing her point. I dont think you're the asshole for not just handing her a car. But I think YTA because she clearly feels as if you favor your son's more than her. (Your oldest daughter might feel the same). I think that you need to have a conversation with your daughter because she clearly feels inferior to your son's. I also think you should tell her or help her earn academic scholarships and yell her once you know her college is taken care that you'll buy her a car as well. Or maybe tell her to do some sort of other work for the car. I dont think you're a huge asshole I just think that maybe you dont understand womens scholarships for sports DO NOT work the same as men's. It sucks but it is what it is. Maybe give her other ways to work for the car. And also I think you need to have a deeper more thoughtful conversation as to why she thinks you love your sons more. Because you could be doing it subconsciously. This isnt just about the car. She needs to feel loved and appreciated. ######


Prompt:
I’ve been with my husband for 21 years. I grew up with hamsters, ferrets, cats, dogs. He doesn’t like cats and has allergies, so I’ve given him that. I came into the relationship with a small breed dog and we got a large breed dog.. all learning experiences for him, but he loves our dogs. His only allergies that present are to cats.

Recently, our 16-year-old daughter wanted a hamster. She actually made a PowerPoint presentation about why she should have one. She already owns a crested gecko that she has taken amazing care of. She is also a straight A student and genuinely good kid. She also worked and saved money.

After her presentation my husband said no, and then I called him into another room to tell him I think if she is paying for it and caring for it and doing so great with her schoolwork, why not?

So I got her a hamster. He’s not happy with me, because he hates “rodents”.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA so your argument for her getting a hamster rested on the fact that she would pay for it but she didn't pay for it and you bought it out of spite of your husband ######


Prompt:
Some background. We are pretty well off financially. Me and my wife still work luckily and have 3 kids the oldest is 18 graduated highschool and the youngest is 13. We told our kids we had rules. If they don’t plan to go to college they are out of the house at 21 and if they do, out of the house by 28 so either way they have time to get themselves established.

The oldest said she wants to go to college so she can discover what she wants to do. She showed no interest in college before graduating and didn’t apply to any. Problem is, we, my wife and I, feel like it would be a waste of money. We have enough for each of our kids at this point and currently working on our retirement fund. But we think it would be a waste.

Our daughter barely made it through highschool and show no interest in college as said above. We sat her down and I said that it would be a waste if she goes one semester or one year and not go to any classes or fail out. She went ballistic saying we were crushing her dreams. I told her a compromise would be if she can pay the first two years either with loans and scholarships and made it through GPA wise, we would pay the final two years. Again she went ballistic and accused us for favoring her younger siblings ( after this I kinda do).

Me and wife stood firm on it until this week when she threatened to runaway with her boyfriend. I told her that her boyfriend is trailertrash. Honestly, her running away is putting some pressure on us, but I want to stay firm. My wife on the other hand is saying just give in.

Aita if I keep holding my ground and let her runaway? ######

Response:
 YTA So you gave her the choice of going to college or moving out at 21. So kind of an incentive to go to college I guess. Then, when she decides on college, you take that option off the table because you just don’t deem her to be a worthy investment.
People change you know. They can screw up high school but then realise that they wasted that time and want to do something with their lives. They can find what drives them and put their full efforts into it. Of course that’s not guaranteed but she’s your kid and you’ve held college out for so long you kind of have to deliver now.

You sound cold as parents, you’re financially stable so why are you so desperate to get rid of your kids

? ######


Prompt: I am in a group chat with some of my classmates, including a girl with really, really big boobs. She never really talked about them being annoying. She posted on the group chat, “I’m getting a breast reduction! I’m so excited, say bye-bye to the twins!” I said “RIP” and posted a picture of a gravestone. It was intended as a light hearted joke since that’s the tone of the group chat. People got upset at me and basically accused me of being insensitive and sexist, saying I’m implying that the only thing that matters is her boobs. In my opinion it was just a silly joke and fit the tone of her message. AITA? ######

Response: YTA she’s excited about getting the reduction, how does your joke fit the tone of what she was saying? You should’ve just said congrats or something normal ######


Prompt:
My daughter has been calling her father every day when she’s with me, sometimes for an hour or more. She’s been doing this since around when the pandemic started. It’s very frustrating to me because she never calls me when she’s with her father, and when I call her she only talks for 5 minutes before saying she has to go.

I asked her father to stop accepting her calls daily, and limit it to a couple times per week. He said that he wouldn’t stop answering calls from his daughter, and he’s not the one calling her, she’s calling him. He wants me to tell her to stop calling if I have a problem with it, but obviously I can’t tell her to stop because that will just make her upset with me.

I told him again that it would be polite to limit his contact to a reasonable amount when she’s with me, because I don’t interfere with his time when she’s with him. He got angry and said he wasn’t going to do that and hung up.

I think I’m being very reasonable here, and most 15 year olds don’t talk to their parents voluntarily as much as she talks to him. It’s only fair that when she’s with me she’s actually with me rather than just talking on the phone with him.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA She’s calling him. Not his fault. Do what’s right for your daughter, not your ego. ######