Prompt:
I heard you are asshole aficionados here, and this is tangentially related to a literal one.

I work at a welding shop in the midwest.  It's hot, I sweat.  The toilet paper supplied by work is tough-guy TP: don't take crap off nobody, and you'll bleed if you try.

The last thing I need is a mud problem on a hot summer day.

So I be a little proactive, bring some brand name stuff here.  I don't have a locker, so I leave at my desk.  Do my business, have a fresh rest of my day.

Work is 24 hours, 7 days a week, divided into three shifts.  I come in, the damn thing is near empty.  Off shift workers took turns with my TP to their anuses like a three dollar hooker.

I've since requested a locker but told them it wasn't ok (stern, not yelling) and I have since started keeping the TP in my car, which is a three minute walk from the shop, so any emergencies I am shit creek.  The off shift now thinks I'm an asshole - so let me ask: AM I the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA

If enough of you don't like the company TP, they should raise a stink with management and get the good stuff for everyone.

Obviously, you don't owe them your own TP, so there's no way you can be TA here. ######


Prompt:
My (28f) husband (30m) and I have been together for 8 years, married for 2. Shortly before we got married, we purchased our home.

We’re at a point now where we’d like to start trying for children. My husband’s father has a rare genetic disease that is similar to Parkinson’s. He’s wheelchair-bound and has little control of his movements.

My husband and his sibling both have a 50% of having inherited this disease from their father. It’s an awful disease and I hate watching my FIL struggle. My husband and his sibling were recently talking about going for testing to determine if they’ve inherited the disease. My husband is nervous because he doesn’t want to find out if he has it or not.

I’m scared of this disease being passed along to my children. Obviously I wouldn’t leave my husband, but I’d like for us to know and that way, if he does have it, we can explore our options.

The other day, he wanted to have a serious conversation about us beginning to try for children. I was open and honest and said that I don’t feel comfortable with the idea of having children just yet and I’d like for him to get tested for the disease along with his sibling.

He got very defensive and said that I’m being selfish. He accused me of not wanting to have a family with him, of being ashamed of his family (the disease is caused by generations of in-breeding, low population density of where is parents are from). I’m not ashamed or embarrassed, I just want to ensure that our future children will be healthy.

AITA for wanting him to get tested before we have children?

TL;DR my husband’s father has a rare genetic diseases that my husband has a 50% chance of having inherited. I don’t want us to start trying for children until my husband gets tested for the disease. ######

Response:
 NTA

If anyone’s being selfish, it’s him. He really doesn’t care if he has a possibility of passing on a genetic disease that could literally ruin his potential child’s life? All because he just doesn’t want to know?

It’s not about him. It’s about the children you could have and he needs to understand that. ######


Prompt:
AITA: for getting frustrated with my MIL and now SIL just stopping bye whenever they feel like it.

So I am going to start off I generally like my MIL... My husband and I live in a small town and MIL lives 2 minutes away. SIL is currently long visit and is staying with the in-laws. We have had issues with her just showing up since we have been together (3 and half years now). Husband has tried to talk to MIL but it keep happening.

This week they tried to stopped by without calling while husband and I were having “some couple time.” Dog was barking but we didn’t hear anything. After we were done I had missed call from SIL. She said they dropped by and asked what we were doing ... I lied. Husband was upset. This was not the first time MIL has knocked on the door while we were doing the act.

Today, SIL calls husband ... he ignores it because he is playing a game. I have the front door open so the dog can lay on the chair and watch the street (she is a chihuahua). She starts barking more than usual. I go to look out and step out of the house. There I see my MIL and SIL coming up to my door. I told them, “So you call husband and when doesn’t answer you just come over?”

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

If a discussion with them hasn’t worked, it’s easily fixed another way.

Train them like toddlers.  Tell them point blank that you will no longer be answering the door unless you have prearranged plans.  And then stick to it consistently.  After they try it enough times, they won’t bother.  No one likes to knock and know they are being purposely ignored.  It’s humiliating and most people tend to avoid it. ######


Prompt:
These past few weeks, my mom has been trying to convince me to leave my son with her because she’s been lonely because my dad died recently but my wife and I refused because Of what she did that last time we left our son (8m)

My mom has become a very big conspiracy theorist and we left our son with her for a month because we wanted to go on a trip together. When he went back to school, they were talking about 9/11 and he immediately piped up “my grandma said the zionisy jews did it” we got a call from his teacher asking what is my mom teaching him. It embarrassed us both and I called her up asking what the fuck is she telling my kid. She just tried to defend herself with “it’s true, Besides do you know how many Jews died in 9/11? None!” I just hung up so that’s why I’m wondering if I did the right thing in refusing? ######

Response:
 NTA

If a babysitter did the same, you wouldn't call her back. While you probably should allow some bonding time between them, I myself wouldn't do that unsupervised. ######


Prompt:
AMITA

This might be a long post, so bear with me.

So my step dad works remotely due to COVID, but because of the significance of his position, he has to go into work Monday and Tuesday. I work 6 days a week, I'm up by 5:30 and out by 6:15ish, he's meant to be out at the same time.

The first time my mom asked me to wake him up, I went with it, thinking nothing of it. Then, the next week, she didn't ask me to wake him, so I didn't. I got a passive aggressive phone call from her later that day saying that he was late for work since I didn't wake him.

 I asked her why he needed someone to wake him up, she says he sleeps over his alarm. As a 62 year old man, and having such an important job, one would think he would get himself out of bed to get to work, but apparently not.

I've known people that say they set multiple alarms, and still manage to sleep over them. I myself don't get it. I kinda feel like it's the person's responsibility to wake themselves up for work. I don't like being woken up by anything but my alarm clock, myself.

I recently started leaving the house earlier, so I wouldn't be obligated to wake up a grown man so he can make it to work on time.

AMITA for not wanting to be responsible for a grown ass man? ######

Response:
 NTA

I’m with you on this. Imo, the only reason the alarms don’t work is because he *knows* someone will wake him up. Let him be late to work if he can’t be responsible enough to wake himself up ######


Prompt:
So we’ve been dating for a couple months now. She lives by herself and I’m with roomies but I’m moving into my new 1bed place in July. Whenever we’re at her place she keeps her feet on and walks around which at first flabbergasted me but it’s her place so I never said anything. I always joked that I’d never let her into my place if she won’t take her shoes off and she shrugged and said whatever. So now that I’m preparing to get my own place, the issue has come up again and again and each time she seems to brush it off. I know this might seem silly to stress about but honestly I think it’s disgusting if you walk around outside and step on dirt and dust and lots of other nasty stuff then spread it all over my floor and my god damn carpet.

So I decided to sit down with her and make it clear to her that I wouldn’t accept this kind of thing in my apartment. I didn’t phrase it that way to her, the way I said it was more along the lines of “I know we’ve been over this several times but it just seems that we can’t come to an agreement so I’d appreciate it if you kept your shoes off when you’re walking around in my apartment”. She totally took it the wrong way, she said that’s what she’s used to where she’s from (we’re in Canada and she’s American....do Americans not take their shoes off in the house????? I’m so confused) and that I’m trying to change her so soon and that’s a red flag. I didn’t budge and said that if she doesn’t take it off then she won’t be allowed in my place. And she just up and left without saying a word. Where did I go wrong.......am I really being unreasonable? I don’t think I am lol ######

Response:
 NTA

I’m American (white/midwestern roots) and my family and all my friends wear shoes in the house. I dated an international student and can’t stand the shoes in the house anymore. It makes the floors dirtier faster and I like being barefoot without getting my feet all grimy (and then my sheets too). You’re allowed to have that preference for your home.

House slippers were suggested by someone else and that’s a great compromise. If she can’t accept that, and insists on wearing her shoes inside, she’s just lazy. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway for obvious reasons

In January when my sister (22) found out she's pregnant, the father isn't in the picture and she is currently single. She lives a state away and my (F16) parents have always treated us much different.

I have nothing against my sister, she's great and I love her but after she left the house a few years back it's almost like my parents forgot they still had another kid to raise. I always felt like my wants and needs were put in the back burner, they were always too tired or too busy for me or any of my accomplishments. For example I got a piece of artwork sent to our state capitol for display and the only thing I got from my parents was a dismissive "that's cool." I always felt like they had my sister so my mom could have a girl and had me so my dad could have a boy, which obviously didn't work out.

Cut to today and my parents are constantly swooning over how they can't wait to be grandparents. They buy huge gifts and make homemade clothes and furniture just for the baby. In my mind it's just my dad's second chance for a boy so they're going all out. I have never felt so unwanted in my life. Some examples of this include:

my dad saying he's gonna give the kid the pickup once they can drive (the pickup that was supposed to be mine)  My dad framing a bunch of my great-uncle's records to give to the kid (ones that are bands *I* enjoy) my mom constantly making stuff for the baby meanwhile she promised me a blanket and a hat. Plus many more

I just feel like I don't even matter anymore, all they talk about is the baby and my sister lives an hour away! I get their excited but still. This all came to a head tonight when I asked for help on my math homework and they just ignored me. It feels like there's just a little voice in the back of my head telling me maybe if I get knocked up they'd care about me too.

So Reddit AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

I'm sorry you're stuck in this situation. Have your talked to your sister about this behavior from your parents?

What are your options looking like for moving out at 18? ######


Prompt:
Throwaway as I don't want to use my main.

When lockdown happened in March my mum asked could she stay with my wife and I while lockdown was happening as she was worried she'd get lonely during it. I asked my wife and we agreed as we both get on with her well and often go on holidays together abroad.

I thought things were going fine but today my mum seems to have snapped. I said to my wife 'love you beautiful' and my mum snapped shouting 'how many times a day do you two have to say you fucking love eachother?' we were both taken back and I told her we probably say it 4 or 5 times a day which to us doesn't seem excessive. This annoyed her further and she said 'youve been together 8 years now. That's well past the honeymoon stage of saying I love you constantly'. My wife started crying at this point so I told my mum she had to apologise if she wanted any chance of staying under our roof or she could go home. She said a very sarcastic sorry and stormed off to her room and won't come out. My wife has asked me not to force her to leave because she doesn't want to create any drama and my mums probably just stressed from being in lockdown so long.

I'm now starting to wonder if I'm an asshole for telling my wife I love her infront of my mum. We don't say it constantly around her, maybe twice a day and the other times are when it's just the two of us. ######

Response:
 NTA

I'm hoping this is just pandemic induced grouchiness, combined with apparently being single (widowed/divorced?) during a difficult time, which probably hits home a little more when she sees the two of you together.

I'm not giving her a free pass for it, that is why she is definitely the AH, but hopefully this is out of character for her?

But in no way is you being in a happy loving relationship a problem. ######


Prompt:
Here’s the background. My son “Danny” has been dating a girl for about six months. “Tracy” is in the same grade at a different school nearby. Additionally, Tracy’s mom “Susan” is a teacher in yet another school all these are in the same district.
I guess Susan got curious about Danny and his grades. So she contacted someone she knows at Danny’s school to pull up his grades. She then proceeded to tell Tracy she can no longer see Danny because his grades didn’t meet her standards.
I’m so mad right now. I feel she had absolutely no business looking up my sons information. She had no legitimate reason to do so.
I fired off emails to the principals of Susan’s school and my son’s school. I also copied the superintendent.
I was venting to my sister about it and she said I went over the top and should have just let it go. I’m floored and just don’t understand.  This has to be a violation of privacy or something.
So AITA?  I fail to see where I am wrong here.  Maybe I should have waited. I don’t know.  I got so mad so fast. ######

Response:
 NTA

I'm fairly certain that's illegal. You have every right to protect your child and his privacy. You weren't over the top in any way. That poor girl, having to deal with that as a mother. ######


Prompt:
I (21F) live with my boyfriend (24M) he eats alot and all the time he is snacking on something, but recently I've drawn a line. He has started eating food in bed, like chips and candy. It's gotten so bad he will fall asleep while eating. Last night I rolled over to a smushed candy bar that fell out of his hand and got chocolate all over our sheets. He always apologizes and says this is the last thing he will eat but he always gets more. Tonight I got mad when he had chocolate again and he told me it's ok he is awake and it's all he will have tonight. Not even 10min later he gets up to use the bathroom and brings back a honey bun I just roll over at this point and try to sleep but the smell of food is keeping me awake. He finally fell asleep and as soon as I started to doze off he woke up (not even 30min later) and went to grab some chips. I smelled them as soon as he opened them and I called him out of continually eating in bed and making a mess he got defensive saying he is sitting up and not making a mess and I told him if he wants to eat we have a perfectly good living room and kitchen and I'm tired of our bed room smelling like the food he brings up in the night. He told me I was exaggerating and finally I got up to sleep on the couch. He is now mad saying I'm making a big deal out of this and that if it's so important he will stop. But I've mentioned this so many times that it bothers me and he hasn't stopped.

Am I the asshole for telling my boyfriend I hate him eating in bed then going to sleep on the couch when he doesn't stop ######

Response:
 Nta

I'd honestly lose my shit if I was in your shoes, that would be annoying. Dudes gotta respect the shared bedroom, supposed to be a relaxing space. ######


Prompt:
So me and my wife (Jessica) have been together for 6 years now married for 1. However throughout that time my MIL (Julia) has always been a little on the distrustful side when it comes to me. For reference my wife is full German and I am a Puerto Rican.

It started off small so I never really cared, comments like “So Jessica how does it feel to have a taste of brown sugar?” Or one day she made some tacos for everyone and said “I hope I made them just like your mom does!” For those who don’t know tacos are a Mexican dish not a Puerto Rican dish. But none of those comments bothered me because the tacos tasted good and she tried, I get that she’s older and whatnot and she always seemed to be happy to see me so whatever.

But then I proposed to my fiancé and things started to get really weird. Like I’m talking “Oh no now our bloodline isn’t gonna be pure!” She said that as a joke but still really really weird right, but still I but my tongue cause her husband hasn’t said anything and also the entire family seems to love me and Julia actually started to try and learn Spanish.

But then me and Jessica buy a house and move in and Julia was giving Jessica some first house buying advice. Except I overhear her say, “Now you know how those people are ok their families are really close, so if they come to move in out of nowhere you have to fight to keep them out this is your space.” So I said, “Well my family isn’t a bunch of animals so how about you please leave we have a bunch of unpacking to do and in the meantime you can go to hell.”

Needless to say Julia is a total mess and went into a screaming match where “She knew i wasn’t the one for my daughter because she could sense there was something wrong with me.” I stayed quiet throughout the whole thing but now when Julia slammed the door behind her my wife turned to me and said “I get that was messed up but did you have to say that go to hell part asshole.” But seriously dealing with casual racism is enough, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

I would seriously talk with your fiance about this issue. Her mother is racist, and treating you like garbage. Your fiance has to put her family in check for their behavior because it's going to be an issue for the rest of your life/marriage. ######


Prompt:
Today is my birthday and I’m sitting at home while my husband is drunk and passed out in his car somewhere. Not only has he ruined every single birthday of mine since we have been together, he ruined our sons first birthday when he chose to get drunk and not show up to the place we had agreed upon.

Anyways, his birthday is in less than two weeks and I had planned on taking him out on a boat and giving him this portrait I made of our son, but now I’m thinking about taking our son to a nearby hotel to spend the day there while my husband spends the day completely alone. So, would I be an asshole? I feel like an asshole for even thinking about it. ######

Response:
 NTA

I was hoping you were saying you were going to take your son and NEVER COME BACK. ######


Prompt:
So I used to babysit for a old high school friend and loved working for them they had two kids a little girl who just turned two and a boy who was 8. They were very well behaved kids and I really enjoyed watching them. The mom had asked me to come to the girls 2nd birthday party and I said yes without hesitation and really looked forward to the food the dad said was gonna be there. Well the day comes and I'm told to be there at 1 and I showed up and no one was there yet and nothing had been set up and when I asked if I got the time wrong the mom said "no your right in time to start setting things up" and started pointing to all the boxes of decorations.  At first I thought that maybe she had asked for help and I didn't hear it so I put my gift I got her down and grabbed a box and started setting up. The dad eventually starts the grill and I'm thinking that ok they gonna start helping but no they come and tell me that they going to get ready and to keep an eye on the baby.

I didn't know what was going on but I was starting to figure it out slowly and when guests start showing up  they finally come out of their room and get drinks and snacks ready and when one of their guest asked where do they set the gifts down the mom who was holding the two year old walks over to me hands me the child and said I've had plenty of time to set up and can watch the baby while she fixes everything I messed up (apparently the gifts were supposed to go on a table that I didn't have time to set up).

I set the child down and grabbed my bag and walked out. Within 10 minutes my phone was blowing up asking where I went and calling me a asshole for leaving and it's my fault the baby got into some of the gifts cause I left and so on. I seriously thought they invited me cause I was apart of their lives and they wanted me to be a guest. I don't think I was a asshole for leaving but I've got about 20 text saying otherwise. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

I was expecting this story to go differently and you to be thinking you'd be paid for being a guest at a party. But nope, these parents are TAs. ######


Prompt:
This happened a while ago, but my friend still brings it up and says I’m a jerk. A little bit of background: I work in an industry that people tend to abuse the service animal policy to let their pets travel for free. I’ve had incidents were “service animals” attacked people and other pets and honestly it makes me really upset. I personally dislike it when people abuse the service animal policies.

My friend on the other hand uses the service animal thing every where. Granted, her dog (a wiener dog) is an emotional support animal but not a service animal. I’ve told her countless times that a SA and an ESA are not the same and that her dog really shouldn’t be out in public places like stores because her dog will growl at others. She told me that she NEEDS her dog to feel safe. Fine.

So one day my friend and I went to an ice cream shop. She put her dog into her bag and we walk in. Right away, my friend’s dog growled at the person in front of us and lady behind the desk looked at my friend and said, “Sorry, no pets allowed.”

My friend then snapped, “She’s a service animal!”

Honestly, as soon as my friend snapped at the lady, I was pretty much done with her using the SA. So, without skipping a beat, I look at my friend and said, “Hey, you know, Fluffy is an emotional support animal... not a service animal... don’t give the lady a hard time for doing her job.”

After I said that, my friend got PISSED at me. Without saying anything, she turned her heel and stormed out. Feeling bad, I bought my friend and myself some ice cream but yah.. to this day, she still brings it up and tells my friends that I’m a rat.

So yah... here I am, asking the internet if I’m an asshole because I’m tired of my friend lying about her dog.

Tl;dr- AITA for ratting out my friend out in front of a ice cream shop about her “service animal”? ######

Response:
 NTA

I was attacked in an restaurant by a so called "service animal".

I was too focused on my food, that I didn't notice the young 20ish couple that came in with their medium sized dog (not sure the breed). No leash either.

I'm enjoying my steak, when I hear a whine. Here's this dog with a SA vest standing next me me begging for my food...

I start asking who's dog is this? No answer. I go back to eating, I'm about to take a bit of my steak and the dog bit my hand. Trying to get my food. I screamed, the dog is clamped down on my hand. I hate to say, I punched the dog. (It was a reflex, I love animals)

Now the owners come running up claiming I attacked their service animal and how their going to sue me blah blah...

I ended up with 26 stitches and I sued them for damages. ######


Prompt:
So hi Reddit, I already people are gonna hate on me for this and yeah but let's just get to the backstory of the story (and yes I'm on a throwaway).

So I'm 15 and ESS (entitled step-sister) is 10, ESM (Entitled stepmom).

So my little sister loves playing basketball and I was visiting my dad the other day (they live close by, not too far). My little sister has such an attitude that all the other entitled children would cower in fear when she gets to them, she expects everything to be done for her and ONLY for her, she loves making snarky and harsh comments but hates constructive criticisms and hates losing.

That's Where I come in, see in a fat tall kid, not that fit, but I'm tall enough to where I can hold the ball high enough so she cant get it, whenever we play basketball I let her win because I don't wanna deal with a brat crying and ESM raging at me after. So during the visit my ESS wanted to play basketball and gave the usual " I'm gonna beat you so bad you're gonna cry and cry" and me not dealing with this stuff anymore said  "sure" with a smirk on my face. we usually go to 20 points (10 baskets) but today I wanted to finally win so I said " I'll do 20 to win and you do 10 baskets okay?" and she lit up thinking she could win again.

Long story short I beat her 40-2

She ran inside and started to cry and ESM came outside and yelled at me until I just told her to shut up and told my dad what really happened, he was on my side but my ESM says that I'm an asshole

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So Reddit AITA ######

Response:
 NTA

I understand she’s younger and all, but yet again you played the game and you won it, there is nothing wrong here. ######


Prompt:
My fiancé proposed to me with an heirloom engagement ring that belonged to his great grandmother and has been passed down from generation to generation. It’s art deco style with a large, multiple carat diamond in the center and many smaller ones surrounding it and in the band. I love the ring’s history and the things it symbolizes, but I personally find it gaudy and impractical to wear because of its size.

I didn’t feel comfortable with the idea of wearing something so expensive and important every day, aside from the fact that I don’t really like how it looks. But at the same time I felt like it’s kind of wrong not to wear an engagement ring when I’m engaged, like how it feels kind of wrong when a married guy doesn’t wear his wedding ring on a regular basis. So I asked my fiancé if he could get me another ring, a simpler one. I told him that he doesn’t need to follow the three months salary ‘rule’ or anything like that. All I would like is a ring with a small solitaire stone that I can wear everyday as a symbol of our engagement.

My fiancé seemed disappointed at my request and said that I should try to wear the ring for a few weeks first because it might grow on me. When I told him that I’m worried about the risk that I would lose it someway, he said that if I take care of it, I won’t lose it. I don’t agree with the things he said and I think it’s not fair that I’m expected to just endure my discomfort about my own engagement ring for the sake of pleasing people who are not the ones who have to wear the ring. At this point I kind of just want to buy myself an ‘everyday’ ring that I can wear as a symbol of my engagement.

AITA? ######

Response:
 Nta

I too was proposed to with an heirloom ring and it is stunning and gorgeous and full of history and worth a bloody fortune. So my now husband bought me a simple solitaire that I wear day to day and then I wear the heirloom ring for special occasions. I was so terrified of damaging it! ######


Prompt: To get right down to it, my family is descended from Robert E. Lee. We don’t have the last name anymore, but if you have kids, it’s just a given in my family that one of them has to have Lee incorporated in there somewhere. Every year in June we have the “Lee family reunion” that I personally haven’t attended for years. I’m a girl, but I’m the firstborn of my siblings so my first name has Lee in it. I now have two kids of my own, a two year old and a five month old. Both of them are boys, neither of them have Lee anywhere close to their name. I love my family, but to be honest several of them are insanely racist and I just made the decision that I didn’t want to carry on the name or have my kids be any part of their bullshit. Who cares about some dead guy who lost his fight anyways. I’m convinced no one in my family actually cares about the “heritage” or ol’ Rob himself at all, he just happens to be famous so my family is a slut for the name. Obviously it’s been a bit of a hot topic recently. We have a “Lee family reunion” Facebook page, and the elders have been a bit snippy about the name not being carried on lately. Apparently a lot of people think it’s a really big deal and that all the attention shouldn’t be focused on the actions, but the “family” and the “heritage”. AITA for not continuing the tradition? ######

Response:
 NTA

I too am related to Lee. Not a descendant, but he was the cousin to one of my ancestors.

You're not an asshole for not carrying on the tradition.  And obviously Robert E. is not one that is great to glorify.

That having been said, if you are interested, the family history surrounding that Lee branch is fascinating. The line can be traced back to England a thousand years and to some historic figures who (I think) are far more interesting than Lee himself.  Lots of good info out there! ######


Prompt: I just gave birth to my daughter.  Of course my MIL is crazy over the top, over the moon.  She wants to come over all the time to see the baby.  I’m ok with that.  I really am.  I can use some company and advise.  My only request is that she please call me first ahead of time.  Call me so I can change out of my sloppy baby puked on clothes or put the dogs in another room so they don’t overwhelm her or just for the simple fact that I am not a big fan of surprises.  Anyway instead of respecting my wishes she tells the entire family that I’m a snob who doesn’t want her to visit even though I explained she’s always welcome and I would never say no just please call me ahead of time.  Now I’m getting snarky remarks from family members.  Am I being unreasonable? ######

Response:
 NTA

I think you should start saying no. I think you're going to cause yourself a lot of trouble and the future, but not making boundary while the baby is still a little.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with telling someone that if they don't call you're not going to let them in the house. Your mother-in-law might be an absolutely lovely woman, but she is showing a lot of selfish qualities bad-mouthing you to members of the family. And I think once someone starts throwing a s*** fit about normal boundaries, the boundaries get thicker.

I think you simply need to say that as a new mother you're trying to get the baby on a feeding and sleeping schedule, you don't have a lot of time to sleep, so you need her to text you if she wants to come over and you will tell her if it's okay. ######


Prompt:
So me and my ex fiancé were planning on getting married next week with only 20 people (corona has died down dont attack me). Well last month my brother passed away in a car accident where he got rammed by a drunk driver and both fell into the lake. This hurt me alot as we were close and he hit 6 months sober and we were proud. Well after that i wanted to honor my brother by wearing his favorite suit(we both are 6'2 and both about 180-190). Its a silky white suit and it fits me almost perfectly with only the wrist being a little tight. I had tild everyone and people were fine but my in laws and ex.They got upset saying im honoring a drug addict and i shouldn't be mourning someone who was bad. They also said its not a traditional black suit and i shouldn't wear it. Ex said i shouldnt mourn a death during a our wedding. I got pissed as i dont like people disrespecting my brother especially if he is DEAD. So i say  its not your wedding to my inlaws and Ex saying its not just about me and i have to be fair. I tell her i am as i let her wear what she wanted. She gets mad ands says that she doesn't want me wearing a suit of a man who did drugs,and wasn't Catholic (he was agnostic) there for he isnt part of god. This pissed me off an i said you know what the wedding is over. She then said fine i never wanted to marry into a family of drug addicts any way(my brother was the only one who did it). And i said thats it were done and broke up with her.

This was 2 days ago and im still getting messaged and harased about me "ruining" her day and i wonder if i went too far. Aita? ######

Response:
 NTA

I think you dodged a bullet there ######


Prompt:
So every wednesday I Hoover/wash the floors in my house (I'm 14M)

I like to leave my dog outside while I'm washing the floors because he has a habit of "leaving feces" on the wet floor. Dont know why he does it.

We have a neighbouring family directly across the street from us and the eldest child has autism (not sure what type, but I know he cant bare loud or high pitched noises)

So today when I let my dog out for approx 20 minutes while I washed the floor, he began to bark after about 10ish minutes, not sure why because he never usually barks but he decided to do that today.

So i wash the floors, let the dog back in and I began to put the hoover/mop back in the cupboard when I hear a knock on my door and to my surprise the police are at the door, so I open it and I'm informed that the neighbour called the cops because of my dog, I basically apologise and the cop scolds me because apparently " I made the neighbours son have a mental breakdown because I refused to take care of my dog"

After the cop leaves I'm just left flabbergasted, because I doubt my dog barking for 10ish minutes forced her son to have a mental breakdown, even though there house is a good 150 feet from our back garden.

So I'm sat on the sofa thinking if putting my dog outside was an a-hole move or not, but I'll let you judge that.

So reddit, was I the A-Hole? ######

Response:
 NTA

I sympathize with your neighbours struggles, but they aren't your problem. You weren't refusing to take care of your dog, you doing the responsible thing to avoid stressing him out while you do your chores. ######


Prompt:
So in the UK the minimum hourly wage is based on age. For an 18-21 year old, me, it’s £6.45 however for a 25+ it’s around £8.50.

Because of this low wage and working 30 hours (26.5 with breaks) a week at a crappy minimum wage retail job I only make about £170 a week. £680 a month. £8,160 a year. That doesn’t take into account being sent home early, unpaid sick days ect ect. So I’m about £4,000 short annually to pay taxes.

Two weeks ago my boss was complaining that taxes were going to be going up because the government is paying out furloughs. She asked me what I thought about paying more tax next year and I said:

“I don’t earn enough to pay taxes, so it won’t really be my problem.”

She stood there confused and said:

“Oh but you’ll be paying taxes some day.”

So I quickly replied with:
“If I keep this job and the same hours I won’t be paying taxes for the next 7 years because I earn that little at this job. I’m not complaining about not paying taxes but it just shows how little this job pays me.

My boss stood there god smacked, gritting her teeth at me, and didn’t know what to say.

A week later, last Saturday, I got called into the managers office where I was confronted by my manager, the assistant manager and the operations director of the company. To which I was verbally ganged up on by the three of them. All because I offended my manager by complaining about how little I get paid and that I should be great full to even have a job in the first place. I just sat there and took it for half an hour.

Eventually I got fed up of this and walked out of the shop and my shift.

So AITA here? I know I talked back to my manager ######

Response:
 NTA

I still remember at one of my first jobs when the boss was complaining about how he had to pay $20k in federal taxes.  He wasn't thrilled when I said "must be nice!  I don't even **earn** that much here".  Nothing came of it, though.  There were maybe 5 other employees there who also chimed in like me... and his whole point was basically to rub our poverty in our faces anyway.  (Fuck you, Charles.) ######


Prompt:
I(25f) recently had a child and my husband(29m) didn’t show up until about an hour after I had given birth.

I asked why he took so long to get here and he told me he had to help his friend clean their garage and that he planned to be here after it was done. I got furious at him for prioritizing someone’s clean garage over his wife going into labor.

He says that he doesn’t see it as a big deal and says that he feels like he shouldn’t have to go if he didn’t want to. I was really hurt by that comment and I’m not sure if I should have been mad. AITA ######

Response:
 NTA

I sincerely hope this isn’t real, because your husband sounds like a prick.

ETA: That you’re most definitely NTA. And you deserve so, so much better. ######


Prompt:
Some background: I come from India but Im attending a college in the UK after accepting a scholarship.

So this started 7 months ago, so I told my family that I after I finish college I'm going to stay in the UK, I half heartedly thought they were going to be supportive but knowing my culture I knew that they were most likely going to be absolutely pissed and I was right, they were pissed as hell. Apparently I needed to marry our rich neighbor's son who was extremely average looking and also extremely traditional and they had already arranged marriage and I was extremely shocked, they expected me to still be immersed and obedient to our culture when im attending college in a different country for 4 YEARS, I told them that our culture was pure bullshit and I'm not going to go back to india.

A month later I get a call, the call was from our neighbor, they told me that my actions are sinful and an insult to god, and even worse the son joined and called me a whore, I told them that I will never accept the arranged marriage and to fuck off, after that I cut all contact will all my friends and family in india.

So Reddit AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

I really hope that you don't have to go home to India for the holidays or in the foreseeable future.

It could be dangerous for you.

https://karmanirvana.org.uk has already been mentioned here, they do amazing work. ######


Prompt: Our 16F daughter recently came out and to be honest I don’t care  and think there is nothing wrong with it.However,my wife thinks it’s weird,and has been acting hateful to our daughter.The other day she told me she’s thinks it’s wrong and that men are for women.I told her it doesn’t matter and that I only care about my daughters happiness.She told me she’s gonna try to do something to change our daughters mind.I straight up told her if she doesn’t Like our daughter for who she is then she doesn’t deserve her.She started getting mad saying it’s her daughter and that she loves her and needs to fix her.I told her what do you mean fix our daughter she’s perfectly fine.I told her she was of shit parent for not excepting our daughter and that I wouldn’t be surprised if our daughter cut her out of her  life.She got mad at me a kicked me out on the couch.AITA ######

Response:
 NTA

I really don't think there's any further explanation needed for that.

Please do not let your wife try to 'fix her' ######


Prompt:
I recently finished my internship and I offered them to hire me. I enjoyed my time there and hoped I could earn some extra money over the holiday season. My boss and colleagues liked to keep me but the management insisted that they would not hire anybody.

Fast forward to this weekend. I get a message from my boss that he needed my help for 4 days( Tuesday to Friday) and that I could have somebody to help me. Details would be discussed on Monday.

Job would be simple and anybody could do it from home.

That weekend, we were sitting with our group of friends and this comes up. A friend(girl) says that she has plenty of time and can help me out. I write it down.

The next day I tell my own girlfriend that I may have some work. It would depend on what is discussed on Monday. She is kinda excited to work with me. However she also said that she has a barber appointment(1+ hour gone) on Tuesday and work on Friday.

Monday comes up and my boss tells me he needs two people for 4 days. I accepted this and asked the friend that could help for. 4days.

I called my girlfriend with the bad news and now she is sad, disappointed and angry at me.

Am I the asshole for making this choice? ######

Response:
 NTA

I mean, she told you she couldn't work certain days/times and over that time is when the help is needed. If you want a possible future permanent job from this company you have to come across as good and reliable, if someone you bring along to this job can't work and has to dip out that looks bad on you and could ruin any possible future dealings with them. Explain that to your gf and say if it comes up again and she is free to work the entire length of the job then you will bring her along, but that was not the case this time. ######


Prompt:
In have this new coworker, 22F.  She has been here less than a year and comes with a limited amount of experience.  Nonetheless she is a very Type-A coworker and has identified herself a future manager.  As such she is very directive in talking and often points at people when addressing them, snaps her fingers when requesting information or asking/telling someone to do a job.  We all take turns in the position of “workload supervisor” and she is a little overbearing when it’s her turn.

A while ago I told her immediately after a finger snapping incident (she was requesting information and was snapping to get my attention and  was quite persistent) that she needs to stop.  She sort of agreed but really just defended her actions as she said she just wants to make sure things are done right. I told her no, never again, it’s disrespectful.  I have since told her on 2 more separate occasions to stop.  She persists.

AITA for wanting to make her stop snapping?  (Hey, flipnsip. *snap* I need this done. *snap* *snap* Now. ** )

For the record, manager is aware of her type-a leanings and just believes that is how she is.  Most coworkers hope she grows up and stops.  They find her irritating and immature but hope she is either going to improve or go on maternity leave.  At no point is her work anything other than average no matter her own perceived level of importance. I honestly try to avoid her but cannot stand the *snapping*. Not at me or any other coworker. ######

Response:
 NTA

I know it would be very very rude, but you might have to start snapping your fingers back at her to get your point across. ######


Prompt:
Pretty simple story.

I recently bought condoms with my face. Not exactly bought, but a friend gave me a gift card to this website. I just went to a website, submitted a photo, and voila. In 3 months I got a package of around 1000 condoms.

I didn’t know what to do with that many condoms. So, I just gave a lot of them to my friends. It doesn’t show my face in the package, so it’ll be a pleasant surprise.

When I told my fiancée about it, she got really mad. She said that it’s akin to cheating. We did talk over it, and we both apologized.

I just want to know, if I was truly in the wrong.

So, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

I have many questions, however... ######


Prompt:
So a few months back my cat Figaro had been acting a little strange, like not eating and just sitting there not doing anything, and I (12M) immediately told my mom that we should get him to the vet, so that’s what we did.

Now mind you Figaro is/was 9 at the time, so he had quite a few more years in him, and at the vet the doctor checked him out and he said the only real issue was that he basically was constipated and just needed a few days for it all to get flushed out.

Come next week he’s still not eating and my whole family is sort of panicking, so we decide to take him in one more time, and the same thing happened. The doctor said he was just constipated.

Then a few more days go by and nothing has changed. Two days later we find out he had major heart failure and had to be put down. Me and my mom were furious. Because the worst part was if that doctor would have taken the goddamn time to actually look instead of just say “Oh yeah he’s just constipated give it a few days”.

Anyways, we IMMEDIATELY took our business to another veterinarian in the area, and some friends of ours who also go to that vet have been saying we over reacted and should give them another chance.
So Reddit, AWTA?

Edit 1: sorry if my grammar and or English is a little fucked rn it’s 2 in the morning lol ######

Response:
 NTA

I have changed vets for far less. If you aren’t confident they are doing their best then there is no need to be loyal. They are a business. ######


Prompt:
Let me set the stage for you first, due to the economy and culture here, we usually live in the same house with our parents; even if we want to move out, it's hard to find a decent apartment with rent lower than our monthly salary (about $200-$350 are the starting salary here).

So my dad in his younger years found it really hard looking for and staying at a job due to his severe asthma. He lived off the money my mom sent for us while she worked in another country. Don't get me wrong he was a great dad, had his ups and downs but we got along great.

Earlier today he told me about his dream of me becoming successful, being able to get a new house, cars and having a great family. He was happy telling me his dream. Then it got to the part where he said that he'll stay with me, me providing for him when he gets more older, me taking him to places he wanted to go. I had to stop him there, and it went okay.

Then after a few hours, he told me again his dream and now he was thinking of what I need to do for him. I told him to stop but he just kept on going, which irritated me. I told him again that I don't want to hear it, but he goes on and on. And theeeenn, I kinda exploded in his face telling him that "I am not your retirement plan. You wanted a good life? Then you should've thought about that before instead of you thinking that I'll carry your broke butt to good senior years. You kept saying that you're strong and so proud that your last asthma attack when I was in first grade. Then why didn't you look for a job then? Why didn't you think of your senior years before? I told myself that I'm gonna help you when I finally get the good life I wanted, but I am not taking you with me."

Then I stormed out. It was quiet for the whole day after. ######

Response:
 NTA

I have asthma; it doesn't keep me from working.  Heck, my brother has awful asthma and has had part of a lung removed because of how often he's had pneumonia and he has still managed to work.

Something I often wonder when I read these sorts of filial piety posts:  When parents use cultural expectations to demand support from their child, how often have they provided a similar level of support to their own parents?

For instance, your father wants you to work and let him live in a house with you and buy him cars and other luxuries.  Did he work, have his parents live in his house, and did he buy them luxuries?  If he's not currently working and supporting his elder family members, he can't expect you to fulfill his expectations for this "social contract". ######


Prompt:
So I work at a fast food shop, and we close at 9 PM. We technically close at 9:15 for people who are in shop, but given corona, we do not allow people to eat inside. Every sign says 9 PM, so not many people (if any) know about the 9:15. Also, not every manager follows 9:15, and sometime it just depends on the day.

Someone came in the drive-thru at 9:01, and before I could say anything, my manager told me not to. Most of my coworkers will not say anything to potential customers who go through the drive-thru after we close, and just let them sit there. I personally do not like doing that, so I make sure I say "thank you for choosing [job], unfortunately we do close at 9 PM but for your convenience we will be open at 11 AM]". Most of the time, people will just say okay and drive off.

I also have a very high pitch customer service voice, and sometimes I wonder if it sounds sarcastic or b*tchy. I don't mean it that way, but it could be taken that way.

Anyways, when I told this woman that we close at 9, her response was "wow I'm 1 minute late, f*cking b*tch."

I was told to not say anything, and would have had to take and make the entire order myself, as my coworkers had closing tasks to do so we did not get out late.

AITA for not taking her order, given that she was only one minute late? ######

Response:
 NTA

I hate people who cuss at workers. ######


Prompt: I am class of 2020. I hated my high school with a burning passion. I would get bullied a lot and I was also sexually harassed. I want to put that part of my life completely behind me and not go back. so I've been cutting most people from that school out. I have been unfollowing and unfriending people on all social medias and made a new Snapchat account. I am getting called out for this though. I don't understand why I personally because I didn't do well in high school and most of those people know that. just wondering if I'm the one in the wrong ######

Response:
 NTA

I graduated about a decade ago, have zero contact with anyone from high school and certainly don’t regret it. High school sucked and so did the people lol.

They are mad now but a) their opinions don’t even matter and b) they will be leaving most of those people behind soon enough anyways.

Focus on who you want to be, make good friends when you can (it gets harder as you get older to meet people to be friends with, plus adult life pulls you apart), and don’t let anyone from your past hold you back. ######


Prompt:
My sister has 3 children under 5. She works full time due to choice. She always says that while her husband makes more than enough to support the family in a middle class lifestyle, she can’t imagine being home with all the kids all day.

Right now, she’s at home working 12 hours a week for full pay. My BIL is a consultant, so he’s working about 20 hours a week right now for full pay since most people are engaging his company’s services.

I’ve heard nonstop complaining from both of them about how hard it is to be with the kids. This is nothing new. If we’re visiting on a Saturday and we head outside with one parent to grab food out of the car, both parents will be horrified that the other was left alone for 5 minutes.

I don’t have kids, but I have nannied for a family of 4 and worked at a daycare. I feel that sometimes, their reactions are over the top. They chose to have the kids, and that means that they have to actually spend some time with them.

When my sister was complaining on the phone yesterday, I said “yeah, but they could be good, because you get to be with your kids more than usual.” She said: “obviously you have no idea how hard it is to be around them this much.” I said: “well you knew it could be when you chose to have them.”

She hung up with me and we haven’t talked since. AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA

I get your sister’s pain, I’m in my house with one kid. I’ve always worked full time so it’s a whole new adjustment to be at home with kiddo 24/7, especially when he has aspergers and is NOT happy with his whole life routine changing.....

But my god, one of my pals has 3 kids and every. Single. Day. She’s on the phone complaining. If I say this is hard she’ll say HOW DO YOU THINK I FEEL I HAVE THREE!!!

Eventually said well you fuckin well chose to have 3, there’s a reason I was one and done!

Anyway, make child mind child. ######


Prompt:
Hello, I am relatively young and my first language is English so flame me if I get anything wrong.

Recently I dated this girl and everything was fine at first, I let her use my belongings (My drawing pad, hoodies and some other items) under the condition that I would get them back eventually. I never asked for the items back when we were dating because I didn’t really have any use for them.

After we broke up, I asked her if I could have the items back and she said sure, I waited 2 days for her to return them but during that period I heard rumours that she was planning to destroy the hoodies and the other stuff, I confirmed this from mutual friends and I asked again if I could have them back but this time she laughed in my face and told me that I would never get them back.

I didn’t know what to do after that so I told her I would call the police for theft, she told me to calm down and she returned the items the next morning.

I got called out for it afterwards because I apparently over reacted and scared the shit out of her, so I was wondering, AITA?

TL:DR
Ex had my stuff, refused to give it back so I threaten to call the police for theft ######

Response:
 NTA

I get her keeping your stuff to piss you off, but honestly what did she expect?? You to just sit tight and watch your property get destroyed from the shadows? That's the shit you can take legal action for. Her life could have been set back by a lot, or even destroyed if she went through with destroying them, and all because you broke up. ######


Prompt:
So today I resigned from my job. I't was apparently a 'graduate position' and my first job out of college. As soon as I joined the company, the head of my department quit and 4 weeks later once she actually left, I was in charge of the department. I was responsible for all the clients accounts and was extremely stressful and I was not well equipped nor trained well enough for the job. I don't even know what I'm doing half the time and no one is around to help. So this affected my mental health badly. I told my boss this and gavethem warning that I was at risk of leaving.

At the start of this month all employees took a 20% wage reduction. As it was still considered a 'graduate position' I was on almost minimum wage. After the 20% cut I was below minimum wage and was given a contract to sign to consent to the reduction. I informed my employer of the potential illegal document and I got scalded for questioning this (she's a lawyer and was very butter that I would accuse her, a lawyer of creating an illegal contract.

I requested my employer to put me on minimum wage which they rejected my request as they couldn't afford it. So I resigned today leaving the whole accounting service team with no members.

Everyone at the firm hates me for it right now and have guilted me and made me feel like an asshole for leaving. Anyway that sums up the story more or less so let me know what you guys think. ######

Response:
 NTA

I dunno which country you live in, but you can't take a paycut like that if it's below minimum wage. ######


Prompt: To preface this, I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a couple months and she has a variety of mental health issues, including severe social anxiety. One thing she has started doing is making this extremely loud high pitched scream whenever she feels emotion, like when she’s very happy, shocked, and as a greeting. It wouldn’t be a problem if it wasn’t so loud, it stresses me out and hurts my ears whenever she makes the sound, which is dozens of times a day. I ask her every time to stop or at try to be quieter, but she said it’s just instinctual now to do it and can’t/won’t stop and I can tell she doesn’t like it when I tell her to quit. ######

Response:
 NTA

I don’t really see how screaming as a greeting has anything to do with mental health issues. It would be different if she was doing it only when distressed, but this is weird

I may get downvoted loads for this but your girlfriend sounds like an attention seeker. Unless she has Tourette’s, or a learning disability, then this is really inappropriate behaviour for an adult. If she wants to act this way around likeminded friends (there’s a lot of grown up people who seem to enjoy behaving like this) then that’s up to her. But she’s got to understand that in most contexts it’s going to annoy people ######


Prompt:
Okay so, this might be a little weird so I’ll try and explain it.

Basically, out of all of my family I am the only one who has thick curly hair.

I mother swears up and down that she never cheated on my dad (although I’m pretty sure he still doesn’t believe it)

And because of my curly hair, I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve had people come squealing up to me going “OMG YOUR HAAAAAIR” and the proceeding to literally fist my hair and pull on my curls just to watch them bounce back up

It’s really fucking irritating. There is no need for a grown ass woman to come up to me and start feeling up my hair with no warning. It’s a little more understanding when a child does, but not a grown fucking adult.

The amount of times I’ve had to tell people to keep their hands to themselves is astonishing.

So I’m hatching a plan that the next time someone touches my hair, I’m gonna touch them right back. An eye for an eye.

If they think it’s okay to touch me without permission, then I’m just gonna assume I can do the same.

My mother says it’s not worth it and quite frankly childish. It may very well be true, but this is my personal space god dammit.

Luckily it isn’t that much of an issue as of right now, but I know damn well it’s gonna start back up again once everything has calmed down. ######

Response:
 NTA

I did this to people who randomly and without asking would touch my belly when I was pregnant.

It’s always a bit rewarding to see the look on someone’s face when they come at you thinking they can just. Touch without asking. And then you give them a couple good belly rubs.

I imagine it’s quite similar with hair as well. ######


Prompt: I (24f) am a night owl with ADHD. Everything I have succeeded at doing in life (my degree, working nightshifts, making a profit from my business) has been done when my body functions at it's best (at night). My mother (59f) and my sister (35F) have made it their new obsession to ensure I wake up at the same time as they do and will wake me up if I do not. I don't usually live at home, I live abroad but because of the unusual circumstances - I am at home. They regard my body clock as a character flaw and won't stop giving me unwanted advice that they've found on youtube on how I can change it. AITA ######

Response:
 NTA

I could have said NAH, but if they are getting aggressive about it, it makes them TA. You may be a better person than I, but I would start walking them up at my preferred time to give them a dose of their own medicine. ######


Prompt:
To start this off, today is my birthday. I woke up a little extra early and told him half-asleep I wouldn't be back to bed - only reason for doing so is since he has a tendency of noticing I'm not in bed and sleepily looking for me.

So I ended up in the living room using the laptop - the screen facing away from the bedroom. The alarm goes off at the usual time and I go to wake him as he claims the alarm doesn't wake him. He gets up and is a grouch all morning, stating me being awake throws off his morning and he hadn't planned for me to be awake - down to I should somehow know ahead of time to give him notice. I ask him to please stop, that I'd rather not be snapped at on my birthday, and it's one day out of maybe six months to a year I woke up early.

He continues up until leaving for work, blaming me for his morning sucking while I'm pissed I couldn't even get a "happy birthday" before he settled into grumpy mode.

AITA For being upset my husband was snappy at me? ######

Response:
 NTA

I can't even begin to understand his logic.

He sounds terribly controlling and unpleasant. ######


Prompt:
A bit of background: I (24F) don’t shave. Anything. I have arm hair, armpit hair, leg hair, pubes, even some ass hair. I’m very pale and have dark hair so it’s very noticeable. TL;DR at the end.

I started talking to a guy on Tinder almost 2 months ago. We talked for a few weeks and he asked me on a date. (The dates happened before the whole situation. Stay at home, folks) We have a really great date and I ask him out again, this time to my place. We are starting to hook up, I get undressed, and he sees my leg hair. He makes an uncomfortable “forgot to shave in the winter?” joke and I inform him that I never shave. He freaks out and scrambles to get dressed. He tells me I’m gross and I should have warned him before he wasted all this time on me.

I understand that it could be a dealbreaker, and it wouldn’t upset me if it was for him, I was just upset with the way he handled it. In my defense, I just never think about it. I haven’t shaved since I was in high school. The hair on my body is just part of me. I’ve only ever dated 2 people before him. One was a woman who also didn’t shave, and the other was guy who didn’t care.

My friends and family are split on this. My mom and sister, who also think I’m gross, agree with him but most of my friends are on my side. I do feel bad he felt tricked, but how am I supposed to bring this up before going on a date/sleeping together?

AITA for not telling him I don’t shave?

TL;DR: I have body hair, didn’t mention it to a guy before we went on a date, he gets upset. ######

Response:
 NTA

I bet 10 bucks and a sloppy BJ that he wasn't shaved either ######


Prompt:
I own about 10 plaid shirts, all different colours, I wear them all regularly, and my go to outfit is jeans, a tank top, and a plaid shirt. My dad hates that I dress like this and always pointedly asks me if I want to change or if I really need to be wearing that, and he's actually "joked" about burning my shirts on the BBQ before now, but I paid for them, I like them, and it's not like I'm making him wear them.

I'm reorganising my bedroom. My room is fairly small and I don't have a lot of space, so I decided to take out my chest of drawers and put a hanging shoe rack and some over the door coat hangers in. One is over my actual bedroom door holding my coats/jackets, and I decided to put my collection of plaid shirts on the other. There are other plain shirts on this rack but they're all buttoned and dad hates all of them. I can't hang them inside my wardrobe because due to my reorganisation the space they used to occupy is now taken up with jeans/joggers, non buttoning shirts, and shoes.

This rack was meant to go over my wardrobe door in a way that when it shut the shirts would be inside, but it didn't close properly, so I've had to hang it off the side of my wardrobe instead.

I finished everything up yesterday and I really like it, but dad has come in, seen the shirt rack, and just rolled his eyes. Next time he came in he asked if I had to put those there and I told him the wardrobe wouldn't shut with it inside.

Next thing I know mum's come in and told me to take the rack down, said dad's raging over it, wants the whole thing gone and is totally fuming. Thing is, I like it. I don't want to take it down. It took me 2 days and a fair chunk of change to get everything just how I want it, I don't want to change it.

AITA for not taking it down? ######

Response:
 NTA

I assume that you're a woman and he buys into the whole 'plaid=gay' stereotype, which makes him even more of an asshole. If you're a man then idk maybe your mom dated a lumberjack in college?

Either way he's being ridiculous. ######


Prompt:
So basically my nephew wanted to watch a film at the cinema but it was a 15 rated film. (In the UK we have 12, 15, and 18 rated films)

He's really into special effects and stuff so I knew he wouldn't be scared by it so I told him to just say he's 15.

His mother found out, got really angry at me and told me I wasn't allowed in her home ever again.

I told her she's being ridiculous and her son is fine. She said she wants him "on the right path" and I'm encouraging him to commit a crime. I told her to get a grip and she said she needs to be in control for him to succede.

I lost it and told her she is just a narcissistic bitch who's scared that she can't control and micromanage every aspect of her sons life.

She screamed and I left

AITA ######

Response:
 NTA

I am British as well. There is not one of us that has not been to see one of these films when we were below the age prescribed. Everyone starts going to 15s at 13 or 14 and everyone goes to 18 movies at 16 or 17. It is just what we do.

That level of parental controlling behaviour is simply not normal for the UK.

He's your nephew. This kind of thing in our country is perfectly normal. Her reaction is not. The American audience on here will be alarmed and come at it from the point if view of their own cultural attitudes, but those are simply not British ones.

You weren't showing him porn or lighting up a joint. You would deserve that reaction if so. But I would say this honestly to the American and other non UK audience on here; in our country this would not be a big deal and the parent's reaction is an unusual one ######


Prompt:
My parents and I have been having an argument. My parents sat me down and asked me about my grades. I told them all the ones that I know. Some of my teachers don't post the grades to Google Classroom so I don't know what some of them are. I have 4 confirmed a's (3 are above 95%) and 3 b's. I'm in 8th grade. Right now I get 2 30 minute sections of game time per day after I do school, homework, and the extra 1hr of math that my mom tells me to do. Our school has a placement test for high school that helps the teachers decide what math class to put us in. I ***chose*** to be put into the 'lower' (i don't know a better word) math class. I've been not doing as good as my parents want me to in math. This happened during the grade conversation. My parents after hearing that I chose to be put into that math class got very mad that I didn't want to go the the higher math.

About an hour after I told them the grades that I know and that I was going to the 'lower math', they told me to study more. I've been studying more, about 2-3 hours each day+studying during classes. They cut my video game time down to 1 30 minutes after they have checked to see if I've done all my homework. I got mad and asked them why, and my mom said, "We are done talking about this." After that I went and studied math for an extra hour to try to make them happy. They are still mad at me for having the grades that I have atm. I'm studying more, but they don't seem to see it.

AITA for getting mad in this argument enough that my parents had to shut me down?

sorry for rambling ######

Response:
 NTA

I always hate parents who are like "you aren't in the advanced classes?  You just must not be trying hard enough.  No more fun, only studying until you perform at a level that 'we know you can'.  And we know you can, because we believe that our parenting is so awesome that we have birthed a winner!" ######


Prompt:
So my dad started a small business, and it grew to be pretty big. We have a few locations in our area. I’m going to be pretty vague about it for anonymity.

He and I always worked together on it, when I was little he would teach me about it, and in high school I helped work there, and I worked there throughout my 20s. He transferred ownership to me a few years ago because he was diagnosed with cancer, and couldn’t take the stress of running it full time, but he really still helped make all the big decisions.

He passed a few months ago, and I’ve recently gotten a call from my sister, who I haven’t talked to in a long time(probably 5 years now?). She never showed any interest in the business when she was young, and then after college moved away and hardly even called my parents. She’s lost her job and wants to work for me because it’s the “last memory of our dad”. I think she’s bullshitting and just wants a job where she’s not going to get fired because it’s family.

I told her no, and if she had any interest in it she would have shown it in the time our dad was still alive. My mom is telling me I should at least let her try to show she cares, but I don’t think I have any obligation to someone who left without so much as a visit to our dying dad, who now just wants the rewards for what we worked on.

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

However, I would recommend that you consider allowing her to apply, but apply through the usual method and her application be considered against other applicants in the same manner as any other applicant.  Don't give her any advantage in the application process, nor in any position.

If your business is large enough, you're not involved in every hiring process.  You don't need to be involved if your sister applies to work at your business. ######


Prompt:
Our dog usually eats tinned food or chub rolls, but every now and then she gets a special treat: two packets of ready to eat smoked mackerel from the fish section of the supermarket freezer.

There's usually two or three fillets in each pack. She doesn't get the fillets whole, they're broken up into her bowl. This is easiest to do by hand. I strip the skin off the back, put the fillet back on the packaging, rip the skin apart, then break the fillet up. Every now and then I pop a small piece of fish into my mouth.

When I mentioned this to some of my online friends they said this is wrong, and disgusting. Even though it's from the human section of the supermarket, the fact that it was bought for the dog makes it "off limits" for my eating in their mind.

AITA for eating parts of my dog's meal as I was preparing it for her? ######

Response:
 NTA

Holy shit the lengths people will go to to  be offended.  You're not eating dog food, the dog is eating people food.

More to the point...it's JUST FOOD. ######


Prompt:
Just for context: I (F18) have dated a guy (M22) for about 9 months, but never really loved him. He knew it, because at the first time he asked me, I denied, saying that I only see him as a friend. So he told me that if I didn't date him, he wouldn't have a reason to live - I was sooooo worried that I ended up accepting. We had a really bad relationship and broke up several times, but he always came to my door crying to ask for a chance and I was too afraid to deny since I knew what he would do.

In January, I received a very good job offer in another city, so I won't work with him anymore. A couple days after I started to work, he broke up with me. The inner me was so glad that he did it, to be honest.
Months without seeing him and working in a good place, I finally discovered that I'm lesbian. That explains a lot in our relationship as a couple.
His friends found out my twitter and saw me talking about Pride Month, 2 of them even replied to me saying that I was just confused because I had dated a guy before.
I didn't care at first, but an ex friend of mine texted me saying that I'm destroying his life because everyone is making fun of him for making me 'turn out as a lesbian' and I told her that it's not my problem because I have no control of what they do and say, she said that I'm insensitive towards him because I know he has problems with depression and anger, which is true.
(Don't be so focused on our relationship. This is about my decision to come out knowing all his problems). ######

Response:
 NTA

His mental health is not your responsibility. ######


Prompt:
There’s a lot going on here but I’ll keep it as short as possible. My husband and I live fairly close to his parents (like 15 min) and his brother who has severe intellectual disabilities at age 36.

My husband is a doctor and with the pandemic we’ve decided to live apart for the time being so he doesn’t have to worry about accidentally infecting me. So now I’ve moved in with my in laws and his brother.

I love his in laws like my own parents. His brother, however, is another story. He’s disabled but he has an incredibly foul mouth and very offensive opinions that he’s formed from years surfing deep corners of the internet.

But he’s disabled and is not all there sometimes, so I do my best to help out and keep my mouth shut. Last Saturday I was going on a walk with him (daily exercise) when we were walking past this big grocery store parking lot. We see a dad and son loading groceries into their car and my BIL started yelling racial insults at them (they were Asian).

I was horrified and I tried pulling him away. But it was heartbreaking seeing the look on the little boy’s face and the exhausted/defeated expression on his dad’s face as they drove away. I was so angry that night I called my husband and basically told him I will rent a hotel room myself because I can’t stand another minute in the same house as his brother.

It’s been a week and my husband has told me he can’t sleep because he’s so upset over what I told him. I admit I used harsh words and fully laid out my feelings to him. He said he still loves his brother and can’t stand the thought of us never getting along. AITA for telling him directly how I felt about this brother? I’m wondering if I should’ve just kept it to myself. ######

Response:
 NTA

Hey, I get disabilities . . . But listen, if the guy is smart enough to use the internet and impressionable enough to learn these toxic behaviors from those dark corners of the internet, he is capable of learning other behaviors too. Like, politeness.

The disability card is sometimes necessary, but sometimes it means people don't ever try to hold these individuals to any standards.

You do not have to like this. You do not have to feel comfortable around this, or fix it. ######


Prompt:
Hello there! I'm a very friendly person and I'll chat with anyone and I always keep things light, casual, and non-committal because I love my space and privacy.

I logged into Facebook after YEARS off and decided to join my neighborhood community group of homeowners. Afterwards, a few of my neighbors requested to add me as a friend. I had no problem with that.

We would casually chat over posts and comments, nothing ever more serious than 'Star Wars is awesome!', etc.

A neighbor who had requested me posted something about minimalism and I commented that I used to live in a tiny home and how great it was. She mentioned she and her husband did, too and we both have Huskies so we LOL'd online about how much vacuuming we have to do.

She then immediately sends me a private message (1st time she comminutes privately) and says:

'Please don't message on my personal Facebook page like you know me.'
'I have never met you in my entire life'
'You have a lot of audacity or you're just rally (sic) lonely'

I replied back 'I've obviously upset and offended you and that wasn't my intention. I'm going to unfriend you now'.

She replied back 'I already unfriended you' and I replied 'Thanks' and that was that.

I'm so baffled. I have a bit of social anxiety and I would hate to make someone feel uncomfortable. I ended up deactivating my Facebook and making my Instagram and Twitter private.

AITA here? I'm not sure what I did to elicit such a reaction from a neighbor. ######

Response:
 NTA

Her sending a friend request would mean to any reasonable person that they were interested in chatting.

(edit) somehow this is my most upvoted comment by over 10x ######


Prompt:
Divorce is weird. One part of our settlement was subscription services such as Amazon Prime, Netflix, etc.

I had to legally maintain them for 6 months. I don’t know if I was being taken advantage of, but it’s far too late now. Yesterday, when the 6 months were up, I cancelled every single subscription service I had and got new ones with a new credit card.

My ex was furious. Apparently, a couple of her orders got “cancelled” because the account got deleted. I mean, it’s my account, she could only use it for 6 months, and she did. She’s also complaining that she can’t afford Netflix now, with just her unemployment check. Yeah, because Netflix is a necessity.

A couple of our mutual friends are calling me an asshole because “she’s struggling”. Yeah, I honestly don’t care. She’s not my SO, nor is she my friend. She had a net negative impact on my life.

So, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

Her friends could let your Ex use their Netflix. ######


Prompt:
I recently just started going to the gym because I am unhappy with my weight. I’m working with a personal trainer and doing a program that requires I do meal preparation from a specific cookbook. I now have to prepare seperate lunch and dinner from my wife, who refuses to eat what I’m cooking. This means that I buy my own individual groceries, while my wife orders from those companies that deliver fresh meals in individual bags that you cook yourself. These bags take up almost the entire fridge. I rearranged the fridge, and gave myself a single shelf so that I could keep my groceries and meals in a single place.
When I told my wife I’d like her to leave that shelf for me she got really pissed at me, and called me selfish. She said she didn’t want to have to think about where she’s putting things in the fridge.
This blew over, but today I saw a new tub of butter sitting on my shelf. I thanked my wife for buying it for me. She acted surprised and said she just bought butter it wasn’t especially for me. I mentioned it was on my shelf and she’s said “I forgot.” This really pissed me off, especially after the big fight. Am I the Asshole? ######

Response:
 NTA

Her food took up the whole fridge until you took the time to clean out a rearrange it, however you asking for a single shelf now is somehow selfish? She's being lazy and argumentative for no real reason. ######


Prompt: My dad recently laughingly told us a story about how almost 20 years ago he took a job in a different state, listed and sold the house without my moms knowledge. My mom only found out because a friend of theirs was looking for a new house in the area and her agent showed her my parents house. At the time my oldest sibling was 5, my second sibling was 3 and I was only a few months old. My mom had just quit her job because the pay was about the same as paying for childcare. My dad I guess thought that since he was the one working, it was only his decision on if the entire family moved or not. When my mom found out I guess she took me to a friends house for a few days, but ultimately went back and went along with the move. The entire time my dad is telling this story, it’s clear he thinks it’s hilarious. I thought it was upsetting, especially as I new how much my mom loved the area they lived and the friends they had-she still talks about it to this day as being some of the happiest times. It really pissed me off how funny he found it. So I said “well if I was in moms position, I would have Divorced you” Apparently I over stepped. My dad got really defensive and said that if he hadn’t done it, then he wouldn’t have eventually landed the well paying position he is in today-and that I should be grateful. I tried to explain that it wasn’t that he took the job it’s that he made all the decisions without her, and now thinks it’s funny. I do feel a little guilty as my parents are currently really rocky, but were having a good day. Now my mom is upset with him, because she heard him laughing about it. I think he took it as me taking her side with everything or just stirring up trouble. That wasn’t my intention at all- and I really don’t want to them to go back to arguing. However, I did think it was wrong- and I definitely would file for divorce if I’m every in a similar situation. Should I have just kept my mouth shut? It’s definitely starting to feel like I should have. ######

Response:
 NTA

He’s selfish and unapologetic about it. I would have re-evaluate the relationship if I was in your moms shoes as well. ######


Prompt:
Before you judge off the title alone, my friend is a man. Not genderqueer or anything, just a man. He has always said kind of cringe things about women and sex, nothing bigoted but just....cringe. Like once he told me that he is most attracted to bisexual women because “pleasuring women is his biggest pastime” and he can’t relate to women who don’t.

Well his latest is he told me he’s a lesbian. I told him that unless he no longer identifies as a man, he isn’t a lesbian. He says that’s not true. His reasons for being a “lesbian” are: he has a powerful connection to women’s energy (further questioning revealed he was just talking about vaginas), he thinks he’s more turned on by watching two women together than other straight men, and his dream is pleasuring 4 women at once (you can do that....I guess....but you’d still be straight.) he also thinks lesbians are “hotter” than straight women. I’m 90% sure he’s never met a lesbian IRL and this is based on porn. He does not identify as a woman or even remotely not a man. He just dreams of being “in the middle of a lesbian orgy.”

I am normally not one to police identities but he’s obviously just a straight man and I find this borderline offensive. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

He’s not a lesbian, he has a lesbian fetish ######


Prompt:
I (M34) bought my boyfriend (M32) a 2018 Macbook Air on sale a few months ago because he needed a new computer. It did not come with a warranty. Two days ago, he got annoyed at me that I asked him to come to bed (it was 2am), slammed the laptop shut and came.

Then, he discovered the next day that his slamming the laptop shut broke the screen. He started demanding that I pay for it because "I provoked him" and because I was so stupid to buy a laptop without a warranty. I told him he should learn not to have temper tantrums.

He has a stable, salaried job. I understand that he doesn't want to pay to fix it, but I don't see how this is my problem. ######

Response:
 NTA

He’s 32, he should have more control over his anger by now, he’s an adult. Red flag imo

Why should you pay for damage HE caused to HIS computer during HIS temper tantrum? Red flag 2

You “provoked” him? You told him to go to bed when it was already 2am. Was he on something? ######


Prompt:
So this guy has been my friend for a few months now. Maybe 5 or 6. Went to a few parties at his place, talked a bunch when quarantine was starting, that kind of thing. Once, when i was pretty drunk at one of his parties (a get-together of 4 pretty close friends), i spilled that id slept with a friend in our closer friend circle. Literally the next day i find out he's been telling everyone about it.

Fast forward a few months to late quarantine and he starts criticising little things i do. Like just reacting to his texts on Messenger when I don't have anything to say, and straight up calls me "very dishonest" for telling a teacher online I couldn't hear them well.

A couple days ago I'm out with friends and i find out he's been spilling that conversation too, and now some friends of mine from totally separate groups know about it.

So I decide to cut ties with this guy, and he just won't let up. Saying he still wants to talk to me and that he never had any bad intentions and that he doesn't understand why I won't try to work on this relationship and talk things out rather than cutting ties straight up.

So, after all of this, i need a sanity check. Am I the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA

He's not your friend, and you don't owe anyone your time and friendship just because they want it. Same as you don't owe anyone a romantic relationship just because they want it.

There's nothing to work on, as it's not a friendship. ######


Prompt:
So this just happened. Some background, I'm at my parent's house with my two younger brothers.

I (19 F) walked inside and went into the games room. My younger brother (8), we'll call Sam, is on his iPad watching something. I go to sneak up on him to scare him but he notices me first than tries to hide the screen from me.

I asked him to let me look and he wouldn't. He than exited the app and I reached for it but he took it away. I don't usually do this but I went to our mum and explained that he won't let me look at the screen. Mum called him into the lounge room. Sam seemed a bit panicked and went to grab his iPad for her. But mum asked me to grab it and it was turned off.

Sam has some ridiculously long password on his iPad. He was trying to hide the screen from us while putting it in and failed it a few times, maybe trying to get himself locked out of it. Then mum told him to hurry up and so he did.

A thing about my mum is that she's not very tech savvy. So I had to show her how to access YouTube's  history tab and what not. She found some "interesting" videos and questioned him as she fast forwarded her way through them while Sam was standing next to her very nervous and saying theirs nothing bad on there.

Sam was almost in tears as mum continued to go through his history and threatened to break the IPad. After mum went through what she thought was enough she took it and my other brother's (10), Dean, iPad.

They've been banned for a while and Sam is still being questioned and has been asked for an explanation.

I don't blame him for hating me right now, I thought I was doing the right thing as there are horrible things on the internet I want to protect him from. I felt like I was doing my older sibling duties.

TL:DR
I got my little brother's iPad taken off him because he wouldn't show me what he was watching. ######

Response:
 NTA

He's 8 and who knows what kind of creepy things he could be getting into.

If he was hiding something stupid but harmless, he only has himself to blame for being so secretive. That's what raised the red flag. Probably you would have been more lenient with him than your mom if it was something iffy but not too terrible.

But if it's something *bad*, it needs to be found out now. ######


Prompt:
Hello! Basically my bf (23m) and I (21f) are having a disagreement about the word c\*nt. He’s been using it more and more lately, to which I have asked him to stop using it so much.

Tonight, we were watching a TV show where he called the character a c\*nt. I asked him to stop using the word so much, and he said “ill take it into consideration but also I enjoy the word. So unless you have a good reason” he’ll keep saying it. I simply responded that it makes me uncomfortable. His response to that was “then don’t be uncomfortable smh.”

His other arguments for using the word c\*nt are 1) that America has freedom of speech, 2) that he shouldn’t have to censor himself, and 3) that me feeling uncomfortable shouldn’t be a reason to stop using the word. While the word was not aimed toward me, that doesn’t make me any less uncomfortable as I feel that it's a word rooted in sexism. AITA? ######

Response:
 Nta

He sounds charming. Why are you with him? ######


Prompt:
Got some degree of background, I (30F) was pregnant and miscarried. I now have to have the left over tissue removed from my body. I was only 9 weeks at the time, but I’m obviously hormonal and I’m sad.

My husband (31M) was never excited about the pregnancy. To be honest, it was unexpected. We have no other children and weren’t planning on it any time soon.

I scheduled the appointment and asked if he was available during that time. He confirmed he was, but as the conversation continued he kept bringing up how he was trying to make plans with a friend who’s in from out of town for that evening. I told him I didn’t want to do that.

He still wants to go hang out with his friend. Am I just hormonal? Or is it reasonable to expect him to be a source of emotional support after that? He just saw this friend two weeks ago. ######

Response:
 NTA

He should obviously be there with you, ESPECIALLY if you asked him to and didn’t just imply it and try and get him to figure it out. Friends can wait, marriages (hopefully) are for life ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend just let me know that his sister and her daughter have their flight booked to come stay with us...
I am upset because he didn’t feel the need to ask me first if it was okay that they stay with us. And now, he’s mad at me and says “I take the joy out of fun things like this.”

INFO: We live in a tiny one bedroom apartment. They are planning on staying for two weeks. And it is his sister and her 2 year old daughter, so I am going to have to give up my bed for them and sleep on an air mattress for the two weeks they’re here.

AITA for feeling like he should have at least consulted with me first about this? We equally split all bills, so it’s my apartment just as much as it is his. ######

Response:
 NTA

He needed to ask before inviting a guest to your shared space.

Also, you should not give up your bed.  His sister and the 2 year-old can sleep on an inflatable mattress. ######


Prompt:
Note: I do not know the people that live here. We speak different languages. I have had zero communication with them over 2-years. These people mean nothing to me. I am simply staying here while I apply for actual apartments.

The door to this building automatically locks when you leave UNLESS you stick a rug in the door and prevent it from closing. Generally speaking, you should take your keys with you, because if you go outside you aren't getting back in.

This one guy NEVER takes his keys. Yesterday, four times he went outside to smoke, forgot his keys, and spent five minutes banging on my wall to get me to open the door. It was 2am. I was sleeping.

The fifth time I got so pissed that I am simply pretending I am not home. He has been banging on my wall for 3-hours now, and I have just put headphones on. It is really fucking loud, but why should I have to do anything for his stupidity? It is now 1:30pm. He started banging at 11:30am.

AITA for not letting him in? ######

Response:
 NTA

He knows that what he is doing is rude but doesn't care because you're here to open and he wants a smoke. It's justified, and after a couple of times, he'll learn to bring his keys, which is a fairly easy skills to pick up. The alternative is him banging on your wall at ungodly hours until you move out, which I don't see why you should have to endure. ######


Prompt:
Last fall I bought a horse from my uncle for $200. I also purchased hay my uncle was selling for $50 per large round bale (I bought 7 for the horse).
This July I decided to sell the horse because they had lied about it's training and I could not even put a saddle on w/o it flipping out.
The bill of sale states that the previous owner has first refusal. I am asking $500 for the horse as I put lots of $$ into it weight booster (as it was very thin & malnourished when I bought it),
hoof trimming, wintering over etc.
The problem?
My uncle wants to buy the horse and is convinced I'm the ass hole because I want to get $500 and won't let him buy back at my purchase price of $200. His reason?
He "cut me a deal on hay". He priced the horse that low, he priced the hay that low, he malnourished the horse.
 If I sell back to him at $200 he would have made money off me by getting free hay, boarding, healthcare.
This is causing a family rift
and I just need to know, AITA in this situation?? ######

Response:
 NTA

He has right of first refusal and has refused to buy it at your stated price.  Do you really want that horse to go back to being malnourished?

It looks like the horse would be better off with someone who thinks it's worth $500 (or a little less if you want to bargain).

Stand your ground. ######


Prompt:
So I’ll keep this brief.

My mom and dad have been together for 23 years and have been quite successful.

They had me (20M), 3 years into their marriage.
My mom got diagnosed with cancer and it’s been horrible. Well apparently my dad didn’t find it that bad because it turns out he was cheating with one of their tenants. She has 2 kids and is pregnant with my dads.

When I found out I was furious and told my mom which made her condition worse. They proceeded with divorce.

It was lengthy and my mom got everything. My dad tried to convince me to let him in their house to get his stuff but I blocked him and want nothing to do with him.

My mom evicted my dads mistress and all was well. Turns out my dad had been paying her rent. They’ve been house skipping and times have been tough for them.

I came home from shopping a few days ago and they were on the front porch. My dad, his gf and her kids were all there. They asked for a place to stay and I told them get bent. In fairness the house is large and can fit all of them. Do I care? No. I shoved my dad out of the way when he tried blocking the door and went in and for the next few minutes they were banging until I threatened them with the police.

Well they were leaving and I was watching them from the top floor and I saw her slip and trip down the stairs. My dad called the ER and they came and took her and I thought that was that until today when my dad came and yelled at me. He told me she miscarried and they have no money or a place to stay. I told him I don’t care and he’s dead to me and I couldn’t care less about his gf’s kids to.

He stormed off and I got a call from my gran calling me a cruel loser and saying u killed my sibling. I just hung up but my dads side have been bombarding me and I’ve been called cruel by a few female friends.

I am just wondering, AITA and should I help? ######

Response:
 NTA

He dug his own hole and he needs to live in it now. He cheated on your mother. While I think it is awful that your dad's GF miscarried, that shouldn't concern you in the slightest.

In all, your father's current position is all due to his decisions. He pushed you guys away, and letting him back into your life and your mother's life will only cause more issues. ######


Prompt:
My roommate is convinced my asthma is fake. I have an inhaler for it and take medication for a bunch of other illnesses. I have a nice job so when they lost their job because of the coronavirus I started paying all the bills.

Last week I finished my work (im working from home) and when I went to take my medication it was gone. I asked my roommate if he took it and he said yes. I asked for it back. He said no. I told him I need my medication. He said it was a placebo. I began to panic and started begging for them back. He refused, saying I wouldn't die and I need to stop overeacting. I felt like I couldn't breathe and grabbed my inhaler but he snatched it away. I managed to calm myself down and told him to fuck himself.

I wouldn't die but if I didn't take my meds I'd become moderately ill. I rushed to the pharmacy and explained what happened and she was very sympathetic and helpful.

I decided to move out. I could afford to and I didn't want to live with this scumbag. I packed my things up, over the course of a week, got my new place ready and then one morning I told him I was moving out and he had the place to himself.

He immediately panicked, explaining how he had no job, family, friends or money. I know this is true and I felt really bad but I didnt care. I have asthma I had to risk my life to replace the meds. I was at risk because of him.

He said to me that he would go homeless and starve to death. I told him I really couldn't care less. He said he would give back the meds but he flushed them. Oh cool, he had no clue what the meds were for and flushed them. I could have died if I had a more serious condition.

He said when he dies of hypothermia, hunger or if someone murders him that blood was on my hands. I told him my blood could be on his hands if he actually had the fucking audacity to flush my meds.

I left and I feel bad. Did I do the right thing? ######

Response:
 NTA

He doesn't care about your health so why would you care about his living conditions?

Go and enjoy your life! ######


Prompt:
My mom died when I was 13 years old and
My dad remarried when I was 15
His new wife and stepsons. Was the boss
Anything and everything he will do it
I no longer was his son, or problems
They made fun of me , was always giving everything by my own father. He takes them out to any restaurant and buy them anything
I was the outsider  this go on for 3 more years and I left for college and in college every year he will take his new family on vacation and always  tell me he   paying for your my college.

I'm now 28 years old and have a high paying job plus $640,000 the bank

My father call me in February telling me how he got $30,000 in hospital fee left to pay from his surgery and is having problems paying the it off and said no I don't have the money why don't you ask your stepsons. He said son
Yours stepbrother are 19 and 15 please understand that and you and your wife have jobs and plus your in laws help you a lot with your sons. Please help, I just cut the call

He call me every week and wife and in law
about me helping him

My wife think I'm unreasonable because I got all this money in my account and can't help my dad

I tell her , he made me feel like a outsider and put his new family first and never look back for me and he spends a lot of money on them and I'm not helping him

Am i the Asshole ######

Response:
 NTA

He can’t decide you are his son when it is convenient for him.  He’s only talking to you because he needs your money.  He wasn’t there when you needed his love ######


Prompt:
My (F23) and my boyfriend (M24) have been dating for four years and we currently live together. We usually have a great relationship but recently we've been at each other's throats over this. I can't tell if this is a real problem or if it's just because we're cooped up.

The problem is that I eat a lot of foods my boyfriend considers gross. Some of these are foods everybody considers gross, and others are things just he does.

Things he thinks are gross: melted cheese, shredded cheese, hummus, chickpeas, fries in milkshakes, this Indian yogurt I eat, and peanut butter with nothing else.

Things probably everyone thinks are gross: pickles in milkshakes, ketchup in rice, capers and their juice, and mangoes and cheese. There are probably others I'm forgetting.

Anyways I like these foods and I get that others think it's gross, but I don't really think it's hurting anybody.

Recently though I've been eating them more, and as both my boyfriend and I are home all the time in a small studio, he's been seeing it a lot more. At first he just told me what I was doing was nasty and moved on, but now he's started getting angry at me when he sees me eating these things and others he thinks are gross.

Today we got into a fight over it. He wants me to stop eating all these foods he thinks are gross. I think he's being ridiculous. I always clean up after myself, and it's not like I'm rubbing it in his face that I'm eating these. He thinks it's inconsiderate for me to keep doing something that I know bothers him.

We're currently not talking over this. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA

He can absolutely sod categorically off if he thinks he can stop any sane human from eating MELTED CHEESE? What is his actual problem there? ######