Prompt:
So yesterday was my husbands 40th birthday. We’re Hispanic and pushing kids faces into the birthday cake is a big tradition. This also extends to adults birthdays, especially milestones. We have three children who are 10, 7, and 5. The 10 year old is very sensitive and caring and it’s been a difficult adjustment for my husband who grew up in a very macho household. He tries. He could be better but I know he tries.

Well my son hates the cake smashing and used to cry when his father did it to him. I defended my husband at first because it’s a cultural thing but since he’s the kid my husband struggles with the most I eventually put my foot down. I was worried that it was going to cause more resentment.

Anyway the kids wanted to play a prank on their dad so when I bought the stuff for his party I let them get a thing of cheap cupcakes to smash. He was napping by the pool and the kids were getting ready but I told my 10 year old that I think it’s pretty unfair that he’s about to do to his father when he doesn’t let us do it to him. He has so many boundaries and I try to get my husband to respect them but don’t dish it out of you can’t take it.

So the younger two did their prank and we had people over that evening. Both of our families are loud and kind of obnoxious and I know it’s a lot for my son but this morning he told he he doesn’t feel like he fits in and now I feel like an asshole. ######

Response:
 YTA? Your husband's boundaries should be decided by him? You intejected and stopped your son from being part of the fun..

>The 10 year old is very sensitive and caring and it’s been a difficult adjustment for my husband who grew up in a very macho household. He tries. He could be better but I know he tries.

Also can you give some examples? Seems his sensitivity is  passive aggressively insulted... ######


Prompt:
So my gf and I have been together 4 months. We're both 27 and were happy. She has been texting her old guy friend recently and it's really starting to bother me. We dont get along with each other and she knows this. Apparently his cousin died but I doubt that and I think it's an excuse to talk to him . While she was asleep I changed her iPhone pin number so she can't get in and when she woke up I denied everything. (Throwaway for obvious reasons) I told her she must have been hacked by her IP. She is devasted because her granddad has cancer and she needs to be on a group chat for his appointment schedule (see who drives him to hospital whatever). I told her she needs to calm down and she can see him another day. She doesn't get paid for 9 days so she can't get her phone fixed by Apple til then
 My friends say this is bad and i shouldnt have done this but i think shs shouldnt be texting that dude.But AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA!!!! What. The FUCK. You are 100% undeniably a huge asshole bro. How DARE you lock her out of her own phone and who are you to tell her who she can and cant be talking to????? You are NOT mature enough WHATSOEVER to be in a relationship, holy shit dude. I hope she finds this and RUNS.

Edit: WHAT YOU DID WAS ILLEGAL AND I HOPE SHE FINDS OUT ######


Prompt:
This happened early in March and I've been constantly thinking back on this because I don't know if I was being an asshole in this situation or not.

I was out on my run at a large park that is near by. There is a playground near one of the edges, and behind it there are a bunch of short nature trails that lead out to a parking lot. I was running on one of these trails and coming from the direction of the playground, I saw a black woman (she looked around early 30's) holding the hand of a white child (he looked around 7-9).

Unfortunately I know this is coming off as discriminatory, but the white child was very pale and the black woman was very dark, so I figured he wasn't mixed and that she wasn't his mother.

I ran past them but I stopped. I wasn't sure if the child was being kidnapped, and I'd rather be called racist and be wrong than not say anything and be right. I walked back up to them and yelled "HEY" to make them stop. They both looked at me and I asked her "is this your child?"

The woman glared at me and said no, she's watching him. I ignored her and asked the child "do you know this woman?" He looked nervous and said "yeah" which made me more suspicious. She took his hand and kept walking and I followed them out to the parking lot. I yelled out to her "if you try to leave I'll call the fucking cops on you."

She got on her phone and she yelled back to me that she was calling the mother's child to pick up her kid and give her a ride back to her own home. About 10 minutes of waiting, another white women pulled up into the lot and they both glared at me (She had told the mother what was going on during the phone call).

I realize they probably think I am racist, but I didn't want the child to risk being harmed. ######

Response: YTA!!!! On so many different levels!!! I am a black woman w biracial children and i have been afraid from DAY ONE that i would come across someone as racist as you when i had my younger children. All three of them look like me in various ways but are extremely fair complected. I cannot imagine the stress you put on a woman doing a favor for her friend and a young child...Riddle me this OP, if you saw a white woman w a black child would you have said a bloody thing??? I doubt it....bc people like you feel that white savior’ing is a worthy occupation...the fact that you stopped your run to  assume that you needed to police a person who was ‘black while babysitting’ is disgusting to me... ######


Prompt:
I’ll try to keep this short. I got my dog as a birthday gift when I was 16 (23 now) and I love her. She slept with me every night, followed me everywhere, and only really paid attention to me. She is constantly right underneath me, but that’s what I love about her.

My boyfriend never really liked animals and being that she didn’t pay any attention to him, he was fine coexisting with her. When I would go home to visit my parents, he would occasionally stay behind and watch her for me. I started noticing that my dog spent less time following me around and would split her time between both my boyfriend and I, which was perfectly fine. He would take her on runs, they’d go to the park, and he would even let her ride in the car when he was going out for quick errands.

The problem started when he would skip out on little things to spend more time with my dog. We live together so I see him all the time, however if I wanted to watch a movie or play a game he would rather chill on the couch with my dog or take her for a run. I started getting really annoyed, because it felt like he’d rather spend time with her over me and when I asked him about it he said she was just growing on him.

I visited my parents about a week ago and took my dog with me, asking if they could watch her for a while and they agreed. When my boyfriend found out, he got upset and said that I was overreacting and called me weird for thinking he was choosing a dog over me. I feel bad, and it’s resulted in us spending even less time together. He’s hardly spoken to me since, but I don’t think he should be *this* mad over a dog that’s not even his. ######

Response: YTA! You seriously want to give your dog away (that you claim to love) so your boyfriend will pay more attention to you? He probably isn't mad because he is seeing the dog less, he is mad because he is dating a girl that would ditch her dog because she is jealous! ######


Prompt:
I (f45) have two sons, one is 20 and one is 18. This is regarding my older son. He’s currently at university studying medicine but is home at the moment studying online. He’s been in a relationship with a girl from his university city since last December and they seem really in love, but I do have my concerns.

I think a further education is crucial, and my sons girlfriend didn’t even finish high school. She’s in a good job as she has her own business but it concerns me. She seems to distract him a lot, but my son claims she massively motivates him and tells him to get his work done, especially at the moment whilst they’re long distance.

Yesterday my husband came downstairs and told me he could hear our son on the phone to his girlfriend. They call at least twice a day, for at least an hour each time. I went upstairs and asked him if he was talking to her and he said they had just finished. I told him I didn’t think they would last to the end of lockdown and that maybe he should consider just being friends with her at the minute so he can focus properly. I don’t disapprove of her, but in all honesty she isn’t what I planned for my son. She seems like a lovely girl but her lack of education does worry me.

My son has been furious with me as he told his girlfriend what I said and it really upset her. My husband has also said that I need to keep my nose of my sons business as he’s 20 now. AITA for telling him they won’t last? ######

Response:
 YTA! He got into med school, I'm sure he can decide what's best for his time management!
If you don't like her because you think she's under achieving, at least have the courage to say that to your son, rather than going on about what you think his priorities should be. Maybe you should ask him some questions about her and learn to understand what he sees in her, instead of trying to manage your son like a horse breeder. ######


Prompt:
I 23M have been living in a condominium building since January.  When I first moved into this building this tall beautiful woman caught my eye who lived on my floor.  We would usually get on the elevator together in the morning when we were heading to work. I introduced myself to her as her as we were waiting for the elevator months ago and we have been acquaintances since.  Due to a lot of people working from home these days I stopped seeing her, until last night where I saw her in our mailbox room.  I decided to catch up with her to see how she's doing.

She said she was bored and lonely. I decided to take this a sign and I told her she could come spend some time at my place whenever if she's ever gets too lonely.  She then said "That sounds lovely. I'll grab your number if you want, but first I have to tell you that I'm actually a trans woman. Is that okay?"  I was a little startled and almost jumped back because she didn't  look like a trans woman.  I responded "Oh. I'm actually straight so I don't think it would work out." She got defensive and said "That doesn't make you gay because I'm a woman."  I replied saying  I prefer women who are biological.  She started getting aggressive in our mailroom and said how I should accept her for who she is and that i'm transphobic and an asshole.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA:
NOT because you don't want to date a trans woman. You aren't obligated to date anyone you aren't comfortable with. You are not in the wrong for basically not wanting to hook up with someone

The reason you are in the wrong is because of your disgustingly ignorant language and feelings. You're still straight and it is not gay to date trans women because she is, in fact, a woman. You were attracted to her because she is a woman but it's okay to be unsure about dating a trans woman.

But saying "she didn't look like a trans woman" is gross. There is no one way a trans woman can look, as there is no one way a cis (non-trans) woman can look. You can't tell who is or isn't a trans woman in the world, because women, trans or cis, come in all shapes and sizes and trying to look at stereotypes only harms everyone.
She was very open to you about her being trans, knowing that is a dealbreaker for a lot of people, and you kinda showed her that you maybe aren't the best person to be around right now.

Do I think you're a horrible horrible transphobe who cannot be redeemed? Hell no! I'm just seeing a lot of ignorance a lot of cis guys have when it comes to trans women. Just remember:

• there is no such thing as "looking trans" because it's all based on stereotypes that are harmful to everyone. Even something as big as having a beard is something non-trans women can have.

• you are not obligated to date anyone, so you are not in the wrong for saying no. That is not the issue here.

• the focus on "biological women" is a very... iffy concept and is not only a very rude thing to say that hints at (even unintentionally) saying she's not a real woman, but is just a weird phrase to say.

Op, I suggest maybe apologizing for what you said and asking her a bit about trans women so you know how to politely turn a trans girl down without saying some very offensive and rude things that basically all scream "I think you're a man" which is a very hurtful thing to say to someone who puts their life on the line to be who they want to be in life.

Best of luck to you and I hope you use this experience as a learning experience to not be so harsh and rude to people you don't quite understand! ######


Prompt:
Me(25f) and my bf(27m) live together.

Lately he's been watching this anime show called re: zero. At first I was curious to see what it was about but I find out that his favorite characters are extremely sexualized maids.

I ask why he's watching a show that has characters like that. He says that I have no right to dictate what he watches. AITA ######

Response:
 YTA: You can’t control what other people do, you’re an ass for trying.

Now if this is a deal breaker for you, you would not be an ass for moving on. ######


Prompt:
I have four boys - 16yo, 11yo twins and a 7yo. I can't explain it, but there has always been a buffer between me and my 16yo. The best way to describe it is like two magnets pushing each other away. I chalked it up to his wanting to be independent and expected that my other three would be the same. They are not that way. For example, I am very affectionate and playful with my other three kids and they enjoy and seek it. My 16yo was never a huggy kid and preferred to play with kids over me most of the time.  I have a connection with the other three that I never had with my 16yo. He is like me in the sense that he has a strong work ethic and is an avid learner. He sets high standards for himself. I absolutely trust him. The biggest irony is that the one male who he is closest with his uncle from his mom's side.

I was having a rare meaningful conversation where I told him all of this. It just came out. I think he was both hurt and complimented at the same time.

I am divorced with their mom, but we co-parent equally. He is closer with her than me. ######

Response: YTA: You basically told your kid you had a favorite. NEVER TELL YOUR KIDS THAT. ######


Prompt:
Due to a fire in my apartment I [30m] temporarily moved in with my girlfriend [29f]. I thought it would be great but it has sucked.

She has really bad insomnia, so getting to sleep and staying asleep.  She's been to doctors,  and sleep tests,  and has tried medication but she says the best solution she's found is sleeping for 4 hours, waking up for a few hours,  then back to sleep for another few hours.

I thought I could deal with that but it was more.  She hates sleeping next to people,  which I didn't know until I moved in.  She's says she's scared if waking people up and being woken up by people.  I can see that because I have snapped at her a few times when she's woken me up.

This means she doesn't want to cuddle at night in bed.  Its ok on the couch,  but not in bed.  The whole point of sleeping with your girlfriend is to cuddle,  but she hates it.  When I do convince her to do it,  she's on her phone all night. She doesn't even try to sleep.

The past two weeks she's taken to sleeping on the couch instead of in bed and it's driven this huge wedge between us.  I'm angry because she's given up even trying and it feels like she resents me.

This all blew over when she commented her back has been hurting from sleeping on the couch and she wanted to get a hotel room for the night so she could sleep.  It was heavily implied I would not be welcome and would be staying in her apartment.

I lost it. It is completely a waste of money and a health risk right now.  If she just tried sleeping in bed with me instead of the couch she'd be fine.  She could take some sleeping meds and be fine,  I know she's taken them before to sleep.

She left to go on a 'drive' to clear her head and I'm not sure if she's coming back tonight.  Now I'm starting to feel like I was an asshole for yelling at her,  but I have a point.  Not sleeping next to me feels like she doesn't even want me.

So reddit,  AITA? ######

Response: YTA: why aren't you sleeping on the couch? ######


Prompt: I have a friend who went on the keto cult for several months and she managed to lose 110 lbs and she's much slimmer now. She's been so ecstatic about her weight loss that she turned her Instagram into a fitness page and she's really passionate about it and sharing her weight loss journey. She makes videos on her story about Keto tricks, exercises, and meal preps. She has about 5k followers and several of her followers ask her for advice regarding keto and "the right way" to lose weight. She responds to them regularly and gives them the advice she researched. I saw the comments and I texted her saying that she's giving out dieting advice to people who need a DOCTOR'S recommendation, not an undergrad's medical opinion of why keto should work for them. I told her that not everyone is the same and she could seriously damage someone's health by giving dieting advice to her followers, without them consulting a physician. She got really upset at me and had the nerve to call me jealous. But funnily I'm not. Am I in the wrong guys? She's only 20 like me and she's no doctor or dietician, just somebody who lost a lot of weight. ######

Response: YTA: she isn't claiming to be a doctor or dietician. People who succeed will always be approached for advice. Given that she lost SO much weight, no wonder people want her advice. It's none of your business. If people want to follow her advice without consulting a doctor, that's on them. You don't *just* lose 110 lbs. She clearly knows what she's doing and it's between her and her followers. You have no business butting in and telling her she's in the wrong. She's just telling people what worked for her and how it may work for them ######


Prompt:
Yesterday was Mother’s Day. Me and my wife have two boys. One is 7 and the other is 5. Yesterday I took mother out for a pick nick. Since we are in a pandemic, that’s all we could do. I made some food for me and my mother and we went to a park and we spent some time together there and then we went to her house (my childhood home)so we could talk and go through our old photo albums that I keep there. I don’t have my old pics at my house because some pics are embarrassing and personal and my wife doesn’t need to see them. Then we watched a movie and then I went back to my marital home. Today my wife is mad at me that I didn’t get her anything and didn’t do anything for her on Mother’s Day but I don’t agree with that because Mother’s Day means showing appreciation to your mother, not your wife and I did do something for her. My boys are independent and can look after themselves. I made sure to make food for them so they could eat whenever they want and I put the food on the table so they could serve themselves so that my wife won’t have to do it and I specifically told them not to bother my wife because their mother needs a break. But it was Mother’s Day and I wanted to spend time with my mother since I’m usually busy dealing with my wife and kids. I wanted my time alone with my mother to just talk and reminisce about our past and my dead father. Something that I rarely get to do. When I strike back at my wife with my argument, she didn’t say anything after that but she responded by saying, I shouldn’t be doing anything for you on Father’s Day. And I responded by saying: does it look like I give a fuck ?
I talked to my best friend about my wife’s behavior and he agreed that she is just being a bitch. But I wanted to get your opinions. Am I an asshole for doing something for my mother instead of my wife ? ######

Response:
 YTA: not just that, you’re a HUUUGE asshole!!

Your children are young. They are not “independent”. They need you there to show them how to be good and loving towards their mother, instead you tossed some food at them and left for the day. I bet I know who cleaned up after them, too.

THEN you got on the phone with your friend to air your marital trouble and let you friend call your wife a bitch?! W.T.F. Man? Like WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCKING FUCK is **wrong with you**?! This is your WIFE not some hussy in the street. This is the mother of YOUR children!

You need to get your priorities straight and you need to apologize. You could have sent your own mom a card and flowers and promised to come see her next weekend for a picnic (which is the correct way to spell that BTW) and quality time together.

In the last 7 years of being parents have you always been this inconsiderate of your wife’s feelings? Did you ever help your kids make breakfast or draw a card or pick out flowers or a gift for your wife for Mother’s Day?
Did you *communicate to her* that you’d made some other plans for Mother’s Day before you slapped some food down for your kids and left the house for the day?

Dude. You’re the BIGGEST asshole here. HUGE. ######


Prompt:
Last night my girlfriend accidentally dropped her laptop down the stairs (our dog kind of jumped at her while she was going up). It still turns on but the only thing connecting the screen a keyboard are a couple wires and the screen is showing all those weird colors. Anyways she was freaking out about it and I helped get the hard drive out and connect it to my laptop. Luckily her documents were saved and I managed to transfer it onto her Ipad.

This morning she woke me up to ask if she could just access a few more documents through my laptop and I said cool. An hour or so later, I get up and see her typing up her assignment on my laptop on the couch. She said it would be easier since I don't even use it much right now.

Now my girlfriend isn't the most responsible person when it comes to taking care of things so I asked to rather use her Ipad and she was upset. AITA? ######

Response: YTA: look, she needs to get that work done, and accidents happen. Plus I’m sure she’ll be extra careful with your laptop, considering she just had hers broken and you helped save her data. If she isn’t, then you have bigger issues to deal with in your relationship. ######


Prompt: So I have pretty good reason to suspect that my girl has been cheating on me. She’s just been generally acting shady and doing things that don’t make sense unless she’s cheating on me. I keep bringing it up kind of subtly but she just kept making jokes at my expense in response, so it just made me more suspicious. I also felt like she wasn’t fully addressing my feelings and concerns. It got so frustrating that I decided to be upfront about it and tell her about my suspicions. When I confronted her about it, she got pissed at me saying she was joking with me because the comments were so unfounded and ridiculous to her. She did not provide an explanation for the behavior that made me suspicious beyond that it’s “totally normal" and that me thinking it's suspicious doesn't mean it is suspicious. So I asked to see her texts and other things on her phone to prove she wasn’t cheating. She responded with “How dare you ask to see my texts” and that she is not sacrificing her privacy to satisfy my “unfounded” suspicions. If she wasn’t cheating on me, she’d prove it. When I pointed that out to her, she accused me of not trusting her and refused to show me anything. I don’t think what I’m asking for is unreasonable. AITA? ######

Response: YTA: it’s impossible to prove a negative. If she’s not cheating, and shows you her phone, are you automatically going to believe her, or are you still going to wonder because she could’ve deleted the messages? If you feel you can’t trust her, break up with her, but do it because of you not because she can’t prove it to you. ######


Prompt:
**Reposting because the mods locked my last post because of the fake names I chose for people.**

My husband (29M) and I (27M) live in the same neighborhood as my parents, my brother and his wife. We walk to each other's homes for dinner on a pretty regular basis.

My SIL (we'll call her "Jill") is, for lack of a better term, insufferable. Jill has been married to my brother "Jeff" for 3 years. Jeff is an engineer and Jill does not work, but will often talk about how she stays home with "the baby," which happens to be their german shepherd. This is especially annoying to me and my husband, who adopted a baby boy last year and who also both have full time jobs.

Jill is the kind of person who loves to say small jabs whenever she gets a chance. She also LOVES to talk about "how lucky she is" because since my brother has such a good, high-paying job, she'll "never have to work a day in her life." It's *insane* to me that she can brag about this around her husband's family, of all people. But that's just her mentality.

Last night, my parents, Jeff, and unfortunately Jill came over to our place for dinner. We started to talk about the the unemployment rate as a result of the current pandemic. Jill then said, "Well, fortunately for both of us, Jeff is still able to work from home, so we're gonna be just fine!"

I don't know why, but this comment just rubbed me the wrong way, and I blurted out, "Man, I'm pretty sure the reason I'm gay is precisely because of women like you."

My husband later told me that my comment was awesome, but Jeff and parents told me that it was unnecessary and rude. I told them that Jill is always bragging about how she's basically able to mooch off of Jeff and I had finally had it. They still think I was being an asshole though.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA: In this particular context, what you said was an unwarranted attack, and I'm pretty fed up with gay men thinking they have a free pass to insult women without reproach. Unless you have left out the worst of her behavior, it sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder about her/your brother's straight privilege? Which, ftr, I'm not denying exists. But her comment here just sounds grateful for their continued income when that obviously isn't the case for everyone else. You sound like you're doing a lot of comparing your life to theirs, and that perceived competition is causing you to hyper-analyze everything that comes out of her mouth. You are in no way a victim here. Get over it. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway, mobile, etc
My (28M) SO (24F) recently started noticing that her hairline was receding. She claims that it got really bad really fast and doesn’t know why. Now, she’s often one to overreact about everything, so when I found her crying in the bathroom about this, I went about my business as if she wasn’t there. I really, really do not care if she loses her hair, she’ll still be herself and I love her to pieces. She got mad about me disregarding her, and I told her, verbatim: “I do not care if you lose your hair. It doesn’t matter to me, and it shouldn’t matter to you, either. Looks aren’t everything, you’ll be okay!”
This somehow made her even more upset and now she’s crying by herself in our room. I do not see what the big deal is, and I genuinely will still find her attractive whether she’s experiencing hair loss or not. I’m wondering AITA? ######

Response: YTA: hair loss in a 24(f) is indicative of a medical issue—especially if it’s sudden. She’s probably scared. Also, she’s allowed to have feelings about her appearance that exist outside of how attractive you find her. Thirdly, it’s always shitty to dismiss someone’s feelings. You don’t have to validate the belief that prompts those feelings (ie I’m losing my hair and I’ll be ugly), but you can validate that she’s hurting. “Hey, I’m sorry this is stressing you out. I can tell you’re hurting over this.” ######


Prompt:
My 12yo nephew is getting a bit of a unibrow and bushy and seems to be unaware of it. So are his parents. I don't want him to be teased and doing something stupid like shaving it, so I pointed it out. I said "dude, you need to fix those brows. You need them waxed and trimmed" and it's something I do regularly like shaving my face. He resisted but he let me do it after I showed him pictures of really bad unibrows.

His dad (my brother picked him up) later on. Later I get an text from his mom asking what the fuck did I do to his eyebrows. I told her I fixed them. The funny part is that she instantly noticed that his eyebrows were done she saw them. She said I had no right to do it. I told her he's 12 and is old enough to decide himself. It's not a tattoo and even she has to admit he looks much better. ######

Response: YTA, YTA, YTA!!!  It doesn’t seem like the kid had an issue with the way he looked until you convinced him he didn’t look correct according to your standards.  This is so not cool. ######


Prompt:
I(37F) live with my kids(10F,13M,14M). I’m letting my nephew(16M) stay with me for few weeks. I have some rules in my house, such as: no locked doors, no phones after 9pm, wifi gets turned off at 8pm and turns back on at 11am, kids have to be up by 8am and make their breakfast, they should do homework, then they can play video games for 1 hour, then they read some books.

My nephew has been having a struggle following the rules. He has also been complaining about it. I understand that he has different dynamics at home but this is my house and he has to follow them. Last night we argued about “no locked doors” rule. I reminded him that I’m already doing him a huge favor by letting him stay with me and he should respect me and my house rules.

He called his parents and told them that he wanted to go back home. My sister called me and asked him to ease up on him a bit but I don’t think I should have to. I told them that he’d either follow the house rules or be grounded. ######

Response: YTA, your rules are shit. a 14 and a 16 year old have to be up at 8 am and can't lock their door? sounds like a nightmare. your rules are not reasonable and you need to consider why you think they are ######


Prompt:
My brother has two kids, 9 and 13. Their mother is out of the picture. Our family has been very supportive of him and his kids. My brother remarried and it was more of a "rebound" marriage for him and a marriage of "convenience" for her. My brother is a nice guy and makes good money. He only started to seriously date because his kids were older and he had more time. He was in one LTR that ended badly and then he started dating "Melissa." I was very suspect about her. Just like how my brother plays up the knight in shining armor, she played up the damsel in distress looking for her prince who would basically take care of her financially.

Long story short, they married two years ago. His kids do not view her as anything more than dad's wife. There is no parent-child bond. In fact, they have nothing in common with her. They don't like, but don't dislike each other. She's not particularly invested in them.

Lately, she's been bragging and complaining about being a "mom." The way she talks, you think she's talking about her own kids, but she has none of her own. She's talking about my niece and nephew. Often her brags and complaints are embellished as most parental brags and complaints are. Not too long ago, she was talking about how she feels like she's "failing my kids" in a lame "woe-is-Mom-ME" move. I couldn't take her and told her she wasn't a mother and no one seriously saw her as one either. I also told her that no one believes the marriage is going to last anyways and no one is even going to remember her.

And I am the nice brother! ######

Response: YTA, your brother should be the one having that discussion. ######


Prompt:
I try and stay fit. Keep some dumbells and bench inside my house. Work out 5-6 times Week at home currently. I think it has been start to rub off on her. She has joined past 3 days. Which I admire her for. If you want to change your life, take action. She has. Props to her.

Today was I working on my core. Push ups, Plank's, sit  ups. 10 sets of 6 for all these, 60 reps. She joined a little late I'm my sets, I already had 40 reps done, i wasn't going to make her 60 reps. Told her just in where I'm at. I get my set in, she's doing her pushups but only was able to do 4 legit ones. I didn't say anything. Time for Plank's I, I do my minute. Her turn. She only lasted 27 seconds, which again I didn't say nothing. Left it alone. Last one is sit-ups, I do my 10, her turn only able to 6 legit ones without moving feet. This is where I say "Wheww you have long way too go". she said sorry, Her energy wasn't really the same after that.

After we actually get done with everything, she told me that comment made her feel bad. I told her  I'm just trying to push you to work harder". I can't get everyone has to start somewhere but she isn't overly overweight or obese. When you ask or join me to work out I expect the same energy. Yes it the thought the counts but also it's the action too. You want to work out with me, I'm going to push you like how I would push myself. ######

Response: YTA, you're not her personal trainer, you're her SO. You should be encouraging and not condescending as fuck. ######


Prompt: AITA for letting my boyfriend know that it bothers me he calls my family "our" family? We've been dating for 9 months and have a baby on the way (I'm 40 and he's 44). He's met my dad and sister maybe three times. He insists on calling my family members our family and it bothers me because I don't think he knows them well enough to call them that. When I told him it bothers me, he immediately jumps to saying I don't want to be with him and I'm pushing him away.  I just feel that you need to get to know people first before calling them family. I've met his mom twice and, while she is my child's grandma, I don't consider her my family. AITA for feeling this way? My dad agrees with him that he's like family because he's my baby's father and will be moving in with me. ######

Response: YTA, you're having his child. You've been together a short amount of time but you clearly judged him as good enough to be having a child with him, so I think it's ok that he thinks of you as his family. By extension, he considers your family as his. ######


Prompt: I’m a mom to three kids, 2F, 9M, 14M. A few nights ago, I walked into my teen’s room to put something up. As soon as I walked in, he threw something under his covers. When I asked what he had, he lied and told me he didn’t have anything, I got frustrated and lifted the covers up. I found a stuffed lion that he got when he was little, I thought he had donated it a while ago. I got mad at him for lying to me and took it, I donated it a few days later since he’s too old to be having a stuffed animal in bed with him. It’s been a week and he’s avoided me almost the whole time, he hasn’t talked to me unless it’s about chores. AITA? ######

Response: YTA, you're a psycho. Plus he didn't feel as if he could come to you and let you know he wanted to keep the stuffed animal. Keep that in mind ######


Prompt:
My daughter is an 8th grader entering 9th grade. All incoming students had to go to a sort of orientation today, where they would get their schedules, IDs, the like. She had planned for my wife to take her.
I am physically disabled from an injury and can’t walk. She didn’t want me to take her because she knew I wouldn’t be able to walk up stairs and I wouldn’t be able to pay her fees for her or sign forms. My wife pretty much forbid me from going, saying we have a puppy with separation anxiety that needs watching at home.
It was painstaking and tedious but I managed to hobble over to my car and drive there. When I got there my wife saw me, got frustrated and drove home, essentially abandoning my daughter there. My daughter was in queue getting her laptop, and needed a parent to come up to the second floor with her. She came out to the parking lot to get her mother and saw me in her place, asked for her mother, and when I told her I sent her home she blew up at me and told me I ruined her day for my own ego.
I only wanted to be involved in her education. Reddit, AITA? ######

Response: YTA, you were asked not to go by both your wife and daughter, yet you decided to not listen to what your daughter wanted and go anyways ######


Prompt:
My son came out as LGBT a long time ago, I have been supportive of him. I am not going to lie, I wish he wasn't but I know that's how he is and there is no changing that. I have provided him a college education and even told him I would help him if he went to law school. I bought him a car when he turned 16. Generally helped him out a fair bit.

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When it comes to my estate I was going to give it to charity, but over time I have gotten closer to my nephew and his children. So after some consideration, (I have not told them this) but I plan on sharing my estate with them.

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My son and I don't talk often, but last he called he was talking to me about that. I told him that I plan on giving it to my nephews children. He was angry, I told him that I gave him enough of a boost to do well in life. If he chooses to have a child through surrogacy or so that I will definitely give his children a portion of my estate. But as of now, it is going to be split between his cousin's children and charity.

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He is livid. I told him that I earned this money myself, I saved it. And I get to choose what I want done with it. He hates me for this. I don't know what to say, he is seeing that I am treating him badly because he is gay. I told him that if he was straight but decided not to have children I wouldn't give him money either. ######

Response:
 YTA, you try to control the life of your child with your money. This is abusive and disgusting.
It is your money, you can give it to whoever you want. But when u set conditions for how he will get the money it makes u TA ######


Prompt:
My roommate and I have been living together for a little over six months. She is a huge inspiration to me. She is gorgeous, I shape, intellectual, etc.

She’s put me on to her lifestyle. With her help I have lost just over 40 pounds since she moved in, i feel better than I have in my whole life, since I’ve been underweight since I was a child. She also introduced me to a lot of different food, movies, music, and other things. She has really helped me come out of my shell and I’m eternally grateful to her.

My roommate came back from a run the other morning, and she looked like she was glowing! I snapped a quick picture of her laughing at something silly that her dog was doing. I posted it to Instagram, and typed out a long caption about how awesome she is and how thankful I am for her help.

Everyone in the comments for the picture was calling her beautiful and congratulating me on my progress. My roommate care to me a couple of hours later and told me to take the picture down because she looked a mess. She told me she didn’t appreciate me posting it. That really hurt my feelings because I was singing her praises and trying to show my gratitude to her.

I told her that she looked amazing in the picture, and that she shouldn’t worry about it. Everyone was saying how beautiful she was. She told me she didn’t care, and wanted the picture taken down. I told her no, she should stop being vain. She tried to get my phone from me and delete it herself, and that’s when we got into an argument. She is trying to report me to Instagram, and publicly calling me a stalker for not taking the picture down.

This is out of character for her, so I’m wondering if I’m really an asshole for trying to show my appreciation to someone. ######

Response: YTA, you shouldn't post pictures of anyone without their consent no matter how beautiful you think it is ######


Prompt:
I know this isn't the practice for all people or couples, but I think it is good hygiene. This is even more true during summer when people sweat more and have more body oil.

In the past when she would spend the night, I never said anything, but now that we are living together and sharing a bed each night, I told her that she can't come home and crawl into bed without taking a shower. She has to take a shower unless she is sick or there's a good reason why.

She has taken this the wrong way and is viewing this as me telling her she is dirty, but it's not unique to her. I do this myself because I also would be gross if I didn't shower before bed. I don't think she is gross at all, and I think she actually would feel better and more relaxed if she took a pre-bed shower. I do.

She thinks I am being too rigid about, but to me this is all common sense and shouldn't be a controversial request.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA, you say in a comment that she showers in the morning, her hygiene is fine, you are being controlling in a very weird way.

>I told her that she can't come home and crawl into bed without taking a shower. She has to take a shower unless she is sick or there's a good reason why.

The thought that you feel like you can order her to conform to your (unreasonable) expectations and that she needs to offer you reasons for you to judge as to whether or not she is allowed to get into bed at night is pretty fucked up. ######


Prompt:
To start off me and my boyfriend are both childfree, but he is to the extreme he got a vasectomy but still begs me to use birth control and he uses a Condon. I suspect the reason he is this concerned is that he has a family history for certain learning disabilities.

He said he wouldn’t be able to handle having a child with a disability and since he’s a carrier of the gene he decided to forgo having kids altogether.

I told him I want to go off my birth control because it gives me acne and makes me gain weight. But he said if I go off it he’ll just stop having sex with me, I told him he’s acting dumb but he told me to stop infringing on his bodily autonomy.

AITA for thinking my boyfriend is being paranoid? ######

Response: YTA, you said he hasn't had the vasectomy yet and so he clearly just wants to ensure he doesn't risk getting you pregnant. He can't tell you not to stop birth control, but he still gets control over his body.  He's right, you're trying to infringe on his bodily autonomy. ######


Prompt:
I moved in with my significant other of 2 years after my pay was reduced in February due to everything that’s been happening and it didn’t make financial sense for me to live in my own apartment anymore. My SO asked me to move in with him so I took up his offer. My SO is my ex-bf’s dad, and I’m now living in the home where my ex-bf grew up.

My ex doesn’t visit the house at all. I suggested to my SO that we should move everything out of my ex’s childhood room, let me use it to store some of my stuff, and let me use it as my personal office/lounging room. My SO agreed. So I boxed up everything in my ex-bf’s childhood room and moved them to the garage, including the furniture.

I’ve redecorated the room and made it mine. Before I even moved his things, I emailed my ex about this and told him he should come by and take a look at what he wants to keep and/or sell and/or donate. After not hearing from him for three weeks, today he texts me calling me all sorts of names for clearing out and taking “his” room.

I’m really trying to be sensitive and nice here, but he is making this very difficult with his rage-filled outbursts and texts. My SO and I are giving him a year to clear out his childhood stuff from the garage before I donate everything. Neither my SO nor I feel clearing out his room was inappropriate, but my ex is just melting down in an tantrum-filled rage. Why does my ex feel like he owns his childhood room when he doesn’t even visit? It is very sad and bizarre. ######

Response: YTA, you left your ex boyfriend for his dad? Then moved into his house and decided to clear out your exes room? I hope this is fake. ######


Prompt: So I have pretty good reason to suspect that my girl has been cheating on me. She’s just been generally acting shady and doing things that don’t make sense unless she’s cheating on me. I keep bringing it up kind of subtly but she just kept making jokes at my expense in response, so it just made me more suspicious. I also felt like she wasn’t fully addressing my feelings and concerns. It got so frustrating that I decided to be upfront about it and tell her about my suspicions. When I confronted her about it, she got pissed at me saying she was joking with me because the comments were so unfounded and ridiculous to her. She did not provide an explanation for the behavior that made me suspicious beyond that it’s “totally normal" and that me thinking it's suspicious doesn't mean it is suspicious. So I asked to see her texts and other things on her phone to prove she wasn’t cheating. She responded with “How dare you ask to see my texts” and that she is not sacrificing her privacy to satisfy my “unfounded” suspicions. If she wasn’t cheating on me, she’d prove it. When I pointed that out to her, she accused me of not trusting her and refused to show me anything. I don’t think what I’m asking for is unreasonable. AITA? ######

Response: YTA, you don't trust her so leave. Cheating is the least of your worries right now. ######


Prompt:
This is extremely hard for us. I [54(M)] have three children's one is 22(F), 20(F) and 1(M). They both lives with us.

I will go straight to the problem, I pay for everything so they can concentrate on their studies. Due to medical conditions it is not possible for my wife to handle my son alone(This occurred sometime after his birth and completely unrelated) and neither I can spend too much time in the home. I expect both of them to take some responsibility and help their mother for at least hour or two daily. I am even ready to pay them some money for it. Younger one is okay with this but my older daughter is shaming both of us having children at this age. She is constantly arguing with us over this and told us we shouldn't have child if we cant handle him and I cant dictate her to do anything now cuz she is adult.

After her continuous rant I have decided to stop paying her fees and other help even though I am still allowing her to live with us(rent free) but I told her to move out within next three months. She is adult now and can her take own responsibility, my wife thinks I am being too harsh on her but I thinks it is time for her to learn valuable life lesson. AITA reddit? ######

Response: YTA, you cheated with the nanny and now your wife won’t accept a nanny for your son. It seems like you are leaving too much info out. Such sounds like a miserable household which the daughters stay only because you pay for their school. Don’t be surprised if they go nc with you in the future. ######


Prompt:
I’m going to try to keep this short. I have a 19yo cousin who has never had a job, doesn’t go to school and has severe anxiety. I bring her around my boyfriend and our friends a lot to help with her loneliness. She eventually started talking to my boyfriends band mate. I told calmly told her how I didn’t like that because my boyfriend has been working on music since before he knew me and we should respect his space. I also told her we need boundaries and I don’t want her talking to his friends because they’re a bit older (26-27) My boyfriend told his band mate the same thing and they both agreed to stay friends but they wouldn’t see eachother.

Fast forward a couple months and I find out she created an onlyfans account. The link to it was on her bio on Instagram. She didn’t post any nudes or relatively sexual as the pictures but she’d promote herself on the comments of those pictures. I look at the people she’s added and 1/3 of them were my boyfriends friends. She added 2/4 of my boyfriends band mates.

I think she thinks I’m being a hater but if I’ve expressed my boundaries to her before I think it’s fucked up that she disregards them. I told her she’s a really really pretty girl and she doesn’t need to be crossing my boundaries that she’s agreed to in order to be successful on that site. Needless to say she’s since blocked me from that Instagram but has me on her main one 💀 ######

Response: YTA, you can't introduce someone and then say that they are not allowed to be friends. ######


Prompt:
This happened back in September, but it's still a tension point for me. I'm nearly 60, and I have two daughters. First one is 26, still lives with me rent-free while she works full-time. Second one is 21 and in her last year of college.

My first daughter, who we'll call A, went to a state school and commuted from home and so her college tuition wasn't too hard on me, and she has no debts. Since she lives at home for free she's been able to save a lot of money. She helps here and there with groceries and such, but not nearly enough. My younger daughter, "D", chose to go to a private university out of state that's very costly, but I wanted her to have the full college experience and enjoy herself. However it's become very expensive for me to keep up with her tuition, rent, and sorority payments. The beginning of last semester I was about $12,000 short.

I asked A in September if I cold borrow $12,000 for her sister's tuition, promising that I would pay her back within the month. She didn't react well and said no, saying that she was uncomfortable with that and why couldn't her sister just take out a loan? But I don't want that, as D isn't very responsible with money and I don't want her to have that on her plate. As a result, I had to do a ton of extra work and dip into my stocks to pay off the tuition. I'm still pretty upset that A wouldn't loan me the money. We're family, does she not trust me? And I let her live here rent free, why can't she help out her sister? AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA, you can't force the responsible daughter that chose to go to an inexpensive school and commute to shell out $12,000 because her sister is going to some crazy private university. Your older daughter probably feels slighted by the whole thing anyways because you are showing obvious favoritism to the youngest! If you are unhappy with your older daughter living at home for free, then tell her to move out, but you can't use a previously established deal as a bargaining chip to guilt her into paying up.

Why are you prioritizing the happiness of one daughter over the other?

Not to mention I find it hard to believe that someone who could pay back $12,000 in a MONTH doesn't have the cash already. Hey, I don't know your financial situation, but it seems UNLIKELY that you wouldn't have had to dig into your stocks anyways. ######


Prompt:
Me (18M) and my boyfriend (20M) have been dating for a few months now. Before quarantine kicked in we lived together on the same floor at our university hall. The food there is catered, and both of us would always go for the vegan option. When I asked him if he was vegan too, he said he was, and we both kinda got really into it.

We were both in Facebook groups for vegans in our city that gave tips for cafés, recipes, etc. and a lot of the time he would fight with non-vegans online. He would get mad at people and talk about the rampant exploitation and torture of animal lives.

Safe to say, I was VERY surprised to find out than he was eating meat after we both went home for quarantine. He’s gone back to his childhood home and his parents refuse to cook vegan food. We were talking on FaceTime and I asked him why he doesn’t just buy vegan food for himself, and even offered to help pay for it if it was a money thing, but he was dismissive of it. I called him out for it by calling him a hypocrite for parading around his care for Animal Rights just to turn around and eat meat. He got mad at me and said he would go vegan again when quarantine was over, but for now, his situation is “easier”. He hung up shortly after.

I feel like he is still mad at me. Maybe quarantine has been wearing me down emotionally, but veganism is important to me and finding out it wasn’t as important to him as he presented himself to be... it feels like a betrayal. I don’t know if I should apologise or drop it fully or break up or what. AITA? ######

Response: YTA, you can't control his dietary choices. I completely understand you wanting to be with someone else who is vegan given it's important to you, but it's unfair of you to force that on him, so either accept he isn't vegan or break up with him. ######


Prompt:
A friend of mine started dating this girl, they are long distance. Now I love my friend he is a super talented engineer but he is a bit socially stupid. He hasn't dated any girls before and now started dating a girl that is nothing but red flags. She is a single mom and the way she describes her life as if she is a perpetual victim. To add to that all of her ex's been large tattoed men and now she is dating my engineering buddy when he met her at a conference.

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Again I told my friend to be mindful just because this is his first relationship and he is pretty experienced... But now he told me that she has been online shopping a lot on his credit card (she has his amazon account). But then he told me she spent $50 at CVS...

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I told him the only reason people spend that type of money at a pharmacy is to buy Plan B... (this was 6 days ago) and he hasn't seen her since January...He told me how dare I accuse his girlfriend of cheating. I told him to ask in our guys groupchat.. He asked and everyone called him an idiot. Now he is mad because he thinks I told our friends before hand. I am like no, if someone spends $50 at a pharmacy its 99% for that reason. ######

Response: YTA, you are sounding extremely sexist and misogynistic, being a single mom is absolutely NOT a red flag, and I can easily spend $50 at a drugs store in makeup, hair products, and snacks. ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend (23M) and I (18F) have been dating for a year. We met at university. He has met my parents and grandparents, and they really like him.

Yesterday my immediate family and I went to the cottage. Not technically our cottage but a friend’s that we borrowed from. My BF was invited. My family is Christian, and my grandmother especially was adamant that I don’t share a room with my boyfriend. She says unless we’re married we should not sleep together.

So I was supposed to sleep in a room with my cousin and sister while he slept in his own room.

Anyways my BF and I were playing pool in the basement at around midnight. Nearly everyone was asleep. He told me to sleep with him for the night. I reminded him that I’m not allowed to, and he said I’m an adult now and I can do what I want. He took my hand and led me upstairs to his room.

I wanted to get up early and sneak back to my room before anyone could notice but I woke up after most of my family. My BF was already downstairs. I was eating outside by myself when my grandma found me. She said she asked my sister where I slept last night, my sister told me I never came to the room. My grandma said she was very disappointed in me and that she expected better from me.

She also said that I should have set a better example for my little sister, and that I embarrassed her in front of her siblings (my great-aunts, who were also there). My mom was also upset at me but she didn’t lecture me or anything.

I felt really bad afterwards. My boyfriend said my grandma is overreacting and that we did nothing wrong, we’re not even at my house. He says I should stay in his room again tonight but I should remember to sneak out earlier.

Was I disrespectful by not obeying my family’s rules? Would I be TA for breaking the rule again and sleeping in my BF’s room? ######

Response: YTA, you and your boyfriend. A rule was set by the people who arranged to borrow the cottage and who are, presumably, footing the bill for any expenses while you're there. It is really disrespectful to violate that rule just because you don't agree with it. Also, your parents and grandparents DID really like your boyfriend - they likely don't anymore because of this. It is a few days of separate beds, not weeks or months. Suck it up. ######


Prompt:
 I don’t mind that my girlfriend hasn’t shaved her legs in a few months, because we’ve just been home together, and she has always worked from home so shaving her legs really only happens when we’re going out somewhere nice and she’s wearing a dress and doesn’t want to wear tights or if we’re having a beach trip.

Well since we’re not comfortable going out, it’s been a lot longer since she’s last shaved and her leg hair is getting a little long. Every night she rubs her legs against mine and it just feels weird, and sometimes itchy on my own legs and makes it hard to sleep.

I told her I didn’t care if she shaved or not but if she could put pants on before bed so I could sleep better. She laughed at me thinking I was joking but when she realized I was serious she got pretty annoyed with me and said she isn’t putting pants on when my “hairy legs rub up against her all night”.

I thought I asked for a pretty reasonable request. ######

Response: YTA, why don’t you just put on some pants if it bothers you? ######


Prompt:
Getting set up on a date that didn’t work. Was I an Asshole.

So many years ago when I was single and dating.  I got set up by friends with a girl for a date
Friends of her,friends of me.  They thought we’d click. But I didn’t get that connection.

We didn’t really click. But everyone said just go out for a date or two. So we did.
We had coffee. We had beers.  We went for Walks. Etc.

All she did was talk about another guy. Constantly. Like a lot. An awful lot.

We went to a movie premiere. I got us great seats. She started to talk about him again.

Just as the movie just as it started, I asked her if she wanted popcorn.

She said yes...extra butter and a large pop.

I walked to the lobby, exited the cinema and got on a fucking bus home.

The end. ######

Response: YTA, why didnt you end it earlier? ######


Prompt:
My wife is terminally ill. Because of that, she has been unable to show me any forms of physical affection and the spark in our marriage is nonexistent.

We cannot divorce because the legal logistics would rattle shareholders in our company. Therefore, she agreed I could see others if I kept it away from the family.

I have been dating this woman for about a year. At first we were careful not to show PDA when we went out but over time she told me how much that hurts so we started being affectionate when we were out on dates.

A few months ago, somebody from my daughter’s school took a picture of me kissing my partner and posted it on social media. My daughter ended up throwing a tantrum because it was a topic at her school and she got a bunch of comments and questions.

I explained that it was an agreement that her mom and I had, and I deserve to be happy.

Things have just cooled down, but for my birthday yesterday, my partner ended up sending me a present and a note that said she loved and missed me. She also sent my daughter a card congratulating her on finishing middle school.

My daughter started screaming at me that she wanted this woman out of our lives. My wife also got mad because my daughter was sad, claiming I wasn’t keeping it away from the family and that I let this present thing happen in front of my daughter’s best friend, who she invited over for cake.

However, she forgets that I really wanted to spend time with my girlfriend for my birthday but I abandoned that desire for the sake of the family.

My girlfriend makes me feel loved, and I love her very much. She has given so much to me, and I refuse to let go of my happiness because I feel my daughter would understand if she was older.

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Response: YTA, where to start? So much for "in sickness and in health," I guess, or were the vows at your wedding "in health and such other times that my sexual needs are 100% met, otherwise forget it"? And your wife is compassionate enough to okay your affair with ONE rule and you go out and break it and complain about it being unfair even though it has caused your wife and your daughter a ton of embarrassment? And then you're kind of being a jerk to your girlfriend and your company as well because it sounds like you're leading both of them on? And then there's poor daughter's best friend, the innocent bystander to all this drama, and her parents who had to get an earful of what went down at OP's house on his birthday. Yikes, who in your life haven't you hurt? ######


Prompt:
Throwaway... Also please don't just assume 'YTA' just because of the title.

So I like painting/drawing, it's a great hobby of mine, and I love to do it in my free time.

My gf is a very clumsy girl. She'll trip on air. Which is surprising since she loves to bake. She can bake really good cakes/desserts, tho the clumsiness sometimes makes her drop flour, eggs etc. And she has broken a few glasses, but she has always paid for me to get them back, so it's not really a big issue.

 So since we're all staying inside I decided to paint, and I spent like 4+ hours on it (with breaks of course) and the final project was amazing. One of my best artworks. I was ecstatic.

I asked my gf to come and see it to give her opinion and what it looked like. She came in a few minutes and told me it looked amazing, and that I should sell it. She then got up to make some coffee and I decided to add some final touches and stuff.

So then when I was doing it, my g.f comes in, with the hot coffee, and...

*Spills it all over my painting.*

She immediately started saying sorry while saying she'll pay for a new canvas, new supplies, and other things.

I got really mad, and started yelling at her for being clumsy, and told her she couldn't repay me hours of my time and effort, that maybe she should watch where she's going before she ruins something else. And then we didn't really talk, and I came back to a ruined dry, messy canvas.

I went to sleep, and in the morning woke up to her making breakfast and apologizing. The house was all clean, and she made my favorite cake and stuff.  I forgived her, tho I'm still a little mad over it. But I feel a little guilty...

So aita for yelling at her reddit? ######

Response:
 YTA, though I understand when you pour time and effort into your craft, having someone ruin it (even unintentionally), elicits an immediate, emotional response. My AH verdict lies in my perception that you shamed her for a mistake she immediately regretted, then went on to shame her for a thing she can't control (her clumsiness), then felt after all her efforts to make it up to you, you, "forgave," her, but don't indicate you offered her anything in return for your outburst.

There's an actual neurological condition called dyspraxia. There are people who will enter into adulthood undiagnosed, with their loved ones laughingly characterizing them as clumsy, and they never get a diagnosis. Could your girlfriend have dyspraxia? I don't know, but it is worth evaluation. ######


Prompt: She’s 6 months away from being 18 so by then it’ll be out of my hands but until then I don’t want her to cut her hair, and I’d rather see her not get it cut for a very long time. She has beautiful long brown hair (down to her hips) and she wants it cut just below her ears but that would mean a lot of hair to be cut off so she’d lose her hair that she’s been growing for years without a cut. She says that it’s gotten too long that it’s high maintenance and gets tangled and messy easily but I think when she handles it, it looks nice and there’s no need to have it cut. I don’t want her hair to ever be cut (or at least for a while) and I rather not allow it but she’s always bringing it up and has even argued once and asked why I get to get my hair cut but not her, but that reason is because my hair needs to be cut because it’s not as healthy as hers since she’s young and I’m an older woman. Not to mention long hair like hers wouldn’t suit me. But since it does in her case, she should not get her hair cut. I want her to keep the long hair. ######

Response: YTA, this is very creepy and I think you need to get used to the idea that she will cut her hair. She could donate it and help a lot of people! ######


Prompt:
My mom is a medical worker. She doesn't come in direct contact with COVID-19 patients. Her hospital doesn't treat them. but we can't be sure about asymptomatic ones. She gets to come home around 4 PM for around 1.5 hours everyday. She has facilities of living and eating in a quarter at her hospital. It's obviously necessary to disinfect herself and her belongings. After all these she gets very little time before she leaves. She collects herbs we grow at our home, after every 3-4 days. Not everyday.

I am having too much university work to do from home. Disinfecting things take so much time of me and dad. I don't have any problem with her coming when it's necessary or even when she wants to after some days. It's her home too. I feel her coming everyday as a routine for no reason reasons on some days, takes up my time unnecessarily. If she stays there she can relax too. I don't want to sound like I am unwelcoming her in her own home. I am not even asking her to come only to collect herbs every 3 days. I want her to leave one day so I can work that day fully. Is it too much to ask her this? ######

Response: YTA, this is probably her mental break time. Yes she has space at the facility for her breaks between shifts, but I can only imagine how draining her work must be, and sometimes you need that change of scenery to actually break away from it. ######


Prompt:
Backstory: I've been with my husband for nearly 5 years, married late last year. He has a 6 year old from a previous relationship.
When we first me to was about 3 months before I met his kid (even then it was as a playdate with my nephew)  and about 6 before he introduced me at his partner and I actually started spending proper time with the kid (so we took it really slow basically)

anyway hes 6 now we have a pretty good relationship with his mother (for the most part) and I have a lot of respect towards her as she is his mother and I'm not trying to replace her in any way shape of form. The 6yr old doesnt even refer to me as step mum or mum.

My issue is that I feel I have been there in every way that I can since I came into his life yet she says she doesnt want me involved with his schooling (parent teacher interviews ect) or mediation, custody agreement (which I feel impacts me as much my husband his father)  and my husband agrees with me yet doesnt say anything to her about it as he doesnt want to ruffle feathers. He just let's her get whatever she wants. I feel if it wasnt for me he wouldnt even be in mediation which has granted us more time with my stepson.

So AITA for wanting my husband to stick up for me or should I just back off and be thankful that I get to be in his life as much as I am? ######

Response:
 YTA, this is not about your husband sticking up for you with his ex.  She is the mother and he is the father.

As a family court lawyer, in my opinion, it’s highly inappropriate for you to get involved in the legal proceedings/mediation/school meetings if the mother is uncomfortable with it.  I acknowledge that these things may affect you but you do not need to be “directly” involved. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway for obvious reasons but I need to know if I’m wrong here. Yesterday I overheard my roommate talking shit about me not doing the dishes for the past few months. And while she’s right, I have a good reason for it. I’m an essential worker and since I’m so high risk, the last thing I want to do after a long day of work is do the dishes. I explained this to her and she said  she’d take over my duties so I don’t know what her deal is!

Today she came to me and asked to talk, I said sure and she basically said that since the country has reopened she’s done with doing my share of the chores and wants me to take them over again. I find that ridiculous! Yes, everything’s reopened (way too soon imo) but that doesn’t mean I should have to sacrifice my mental health. So I said, “you know you’re constantly riding my ass about my hygiene but I never bring up yours. You’re like 3 times my size and take shorter showers than me, what’s up with that??” Her eyes welled with tears and she left. Now she’s staying with a friend.

I told my friend what happened and she called me a jerk. Honestly, I don’t see the big deal. She IS 3 times my size (I’m 100 pounds and she’s probably 300) and she said it was fine for her to take over my share of the chores! Honestly, she probably IS dirty I take nice 20 minute showers and she maybe takes 10 minute showers on a good day. She doesn’t stink but I don’t think she’s clean. So reddit, AITA for giving my roommate what she deserves? ######

Response: YTA, there was absolutely no reason to bring her size or showering habits into the conversation. If she's working as well now that restrictions are being lifted then you really have no leg to stand on. She wasn't even riding your arse about hygiene she just wants you to do your own dishes from the sounds of things. ######


Prompt:
So my wife and I have been doing a game night every so often with some other couples via zoom since we can’t go out and see people lately.

We were playing this card game that was like basically a trivia game for couples to play and you are asked a question and you write down your answer and your partner has to guess what they think you answered. If they guess correctly your team gets a point. Whichever couples knows each other the best wins.

So some of the questions in this version were a little spicy and one of the questions was “Who is your dream man/woman to have sex with.” I wrote down my spin instructor, since my wife knows I think she’s hot, and thought she’d guess her and we’d get a point.

Well, fuck me, turns out every other husband either wrote down their wife or a celebrity/fictional character.

My wife was livid, and upset. I tried to explain I didn’t actually *want* to do anything with my spin instructor and I would never even briefly consider being unfaithful, it was just me trying to play the game. She doesn’t believe me, saying everyone else’s instinct was women who didn’t exist or better yet, their wives. I feel really bad, but also really confused. Is she overreacting or am I an asshole?

(And no need to tell me about the Curb Your Enthusiasm Episode. No I hadn’t seen it. Yes I’ve seen it now. Almost every man there sent me references to it as soon as the video was off.) ######

Response: YTA, the fact you answered a real person that you could actually genuinely cheat on your wife with makes you an asshole. I'm not sure what's hard to understand about that? ######


Prompt:
My son and DIL recently had a baby. They were at our house last night and my wife's God father was there as well. My wife's father was kind of a creep. He had multiple wives and a couple of them were younger than my wife, and this was his best friend so he is a bit of a womanizer, but a very nice man. My children have known him their whole lives.

He commented that it was a shame the baby doesn't look like my wife. I mean it kind of is. My wife is stunning and got a pretty easy ride out of it, but I can understand why a new mother wouldn't want to hear that. He made another comment about it's such a shame the baby didn't get my wife's green eyes because she would have been so beautiful.

DIL said looks don't matter and he kind of laughed it off. He then told a kind of embarrassing story about my wife's modeling days, but she laughed it off. DIL wouldn't let it go and asked why he sees his God daughter in a sexual light and why he cares so much if the baby looks like my wife. My wife told her to let it go and she called him a creep.

I told my son he needs to take his wife and leave because she isn't going to insult a family friend in our home. Now DIL is saying she is stressed about having us around the baby because we didn't shut him down. I mean I don't know what she wanted me to say, but any child would be lucky to look like my wife. ######

Response: YTA, sounds like the guy is a creep and she called it like it was.  "A bit of a womanizer, but a very nice man".  Nope, he's a creep.  Just accept it and tell him to stay in his lane next time he gets creepy (if you still insist on having him in your life).  EDIT:  This is some typical boy club "boys will be boys" ish. ######


Prompt:
I am honestly so heart broken right now. I can’t believe this is actually happening.

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I’ve been dating my ex for 3 months. The last month we had multiple arguments and I decided to break up with him. None of us were really hurt by it since he also stopped having feelings for me.

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1 week after I broke up with him my friend started dating. I can’t believe this is happening. She always had a crush on him and she told me this before I even started dating him so it’s obvious she waited all this time for me to break up with him so that she could ask him out. What kind of friend is this? I got so upset and I told my other friends about her and asked them to stop talking to her.

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I am not mad at my ex boyfriend at all, but I’m pretty upset with my friend. I would never do something like this to her, and to date him 1 week after I broke up with him? Well I think thats fucked up. Not only that but she recently texted me telling me to stop spreading bullshit things about her and her boyfriend and that I have no rights to complain about it since I also started dating 3 days after I broke up with him. But this is not the same thing. I am dating somebody that she does not know but she is dating my EX. We had a massive argument and she blocked me everywhere. I am now posting about her and letting people know what a shitty person she is for doing this to me and I am also doing this here.

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Please help me and let this post gain traction. Let her see how many strangers believe she is an asshole. Please upvote this and help me get this message to her. If I couldn’t give her the wake up call you guys do it instead. Unless you believe I am the asshole then in that case I would love to hear your thoughts about it. ######

Response: YTA, so much so that I’m having a hard time even believing this post lol ######


Prompt:
So i have lived with my friend for 5 months now and we’ve been friends for 13 years. We both have kids she has a 2 year old i have a 1 year old. Just some background if y’all were curious.

So anyway I’m one of the millions of people who got laid off. So i obviously just stay home with my daughter. I do all the chores now too now that I’m not working but i am still paying my half of the bills. My friend is an apartment manager and is still working. And she is getting a stupid amount of perks right now for working like, being about to work from home, a raise, half days off, and paid punches.

This morning i was walking my friend and her daughter to the car and my friend said she’s getting lunch with her boss because of the paid lunches. I said mockingly because you’re essential and she said exactly. I then said you’re not essential. Which she said back at least I’m not sitting home all day of the couch.

I didn’t think i was an asshole for saying she wasn’t essential but now I’m thinking i shouldn’t of been so dismissive of her work.

Amita for saying my friend isn’t essential. ######

Response: YTA, She's definitely an essential worker, especially right now when everyone is at home, and utilities are being stressed to the max. So many issues that never arose in apartments (because of varying schedules) will now be an issue. She probably has to work out social distancing measures, complaints, utilities, everything. I don't know how this didn't strike you. ######


Prompt:
For some context I am 17F and coworker (let’s say Stacey) is mid 50’sF. We both work in the checkout section of a supermarket and our whole team are quite close so share a lot of our lives with each other.

Stacey likes to engage with the younger group of our team which is great, however she likes to get a little to personal with her questions. For example, over New Years a couple of other girls were talking about the party and she said to them “remember your condoms and plan B girls!”. She also likes to comment on the physical appearance of younger male customers and it makes everyone uncomfortable.

Now, my boyfriend also works in the same supermarket, we are both Christian’s and very open about our faith and the fact that we are choosing not to have sex because as aforementioned we are a very close team so share a lot with each other.
However; Stacey likes to make very inappropriate jokes about us, I brought myself a ring a while ago and she noticed it asking if it was “from my lover”. After asking her to call him by his name, she continues to call him my lover, despite the fact that I am clearly uncomfortable as are people nearby.
She continues to ask my about my sexual preferences as well as the other girls and we have all expressed our discomfort and the fact we don’t like her to each other.

So, WIBTA if I told her that we don’t like her and that she needs to mind her own business? ######

Response:
 YTA, She needs to understand that unless you're inviting her to have that conversation, it isn't appropriate for work.

Ask her to stop and if she doesn't pursue other means to stop the behavior like speaking with mgmt or HR.

That said it doesn't mean you can make the jump that no one likes her. That feels needlessly mean spirited when she likely is coming from a place of genuinely trying to befriend you.

Talk to her about it and give her a chance to course correct imo. ######


Prompt:
Me(15m) and my sister(22f) play the same online game which I will not be saying what. The game has 3 currencies and works like this:

1 is for the in-game stuffs, rewarded by clearing dungeons and tradable in the player market. 1 is for the cash shop, purchased with real life money, not tradable in game and can only buy items in the cash shop. The 3rd one is a currency that can buy both in-game stuffs and a limited selection of cash shop stuffs, also can be traded in the player market.

I have been playing around with the 3 currencies, having multiple accounts, tracking the market prices and making a "cheat sheet" out of it, where I figure out the time to buy things with 1 currency and sell them in another, and profit from the difference in between. I have been making a good profit of it in the game, and even traded some of them with real life money, not much but it's the sense of achievement that counts.

My sister who plays the same game has been jealous that I have become a "rich player" without spending too much money. Ever since she lost her job she had been trying to do what I did but never had the patience for it. She had been asking me for my cheat sheet but I won't lend her, I don't want competition in the game and they are MY hardwork.

Today we had an argument as she accused me for having no life and a hacker(no I don't), then tried to tear up my cheat sheet. I got mad too and called her a jobless loser who fails at everything and can't even win her little brother in game without begging. She actually broke down and cried.

What happens exceeds the word count, I just want to ask right now AITA? ######

Response: YTA, she lost her job and probably isn"t feeling great, she likes the game so you could have helped her out to make her feel better but you don't want her to be competition ? Ridiculous.. Instead you decided to trash talk her and go where it hurts the most. You f up and should apologize, and provide support, not be a dong. I can't imagine how awful she must feel that her little brother sees her that way, she probably felt insecure about losing her job, and if she didn't she does now, congrats you were a shitty brother and shoulf know better. She was wrong for insuting you first but you took it too far. ######


Prompt:
Ao my fiancé works nights and sleeps during the day which is fine. I have no problem with that but lately for the past 2-3 weeks whenever I make dinner and try to wake her up to come eat, she gets all agitated and doesn’t eat which pisses me off big time.

It’s not like I wake her up at like 5-6 in the afternoon, I always wake her up at 8-9 PM to eat, so that way she can enjoy her meal and get some more rest before starting work at 12. It just really frustrates me because I love eating together and I always look forward to eating together and chatting rubbish you know ?

Idk maybe I should let her sleep til 9/10 and then eat ? But then she doesn’t have enough time to let the food digest and stuff like that..

Please let me know if I’m being an asshole because I am just so tired and upset over something so small like this ######

Response: YTA, she clearly doesn't want you to be waking her up to eat with her, but you've kept doing it. It's hard when you can't see each other as often or conveniently, and it's definitely something to talk about with her and find a compromise to make it work, but the way you're going about it is inconsiderate. ######


Prompt: Last night she put a pizza in the oven and when the timer went off I took it out. I yelled to the other room that the pizza was done and she yelled back for me to cut it. The scissors were handy and the knives were dirty so I thought to heck lets try it. Anyways, TLDR: I dont want to use anything else to cut pizza with now and she's mad at me even though I cleaned them. ######

Response: YTA, sewing scissors can be incredibly expensive if they were high quality, and they should only ever be used to cut fabric. You're probably never going to get all the pizza out. You should apologize profusely and offer to buy her a new pair. ######


Prompt:
So in February my sister (12f) confided in me (21f) that she had started her period. Our mom died about four years ago so she didn’t feel comfortable telling our dad just yet. I told him and he had a conversation with her about it. I wanted to make her more comfortable with the whole concept of her starting puberty and stuff so I decided I would throw her a surprise period party. My intention wasn’t necessarily to embarrass her, like it’s my job as her older sister to humiliate her but I mainly just wanted to make her more comfortable.

I went all out. I got balloons printed, banners printed, made a cake with a pool of red icing and a barbie sitting in it, and I invited all her friends. My dad knew of the party and didn’t approve of the idea, but let me do it as he thought I knew what was best. He took my sister out shopping in the morning whilst we were preparing and then we could surprise her. A few of our family members were there too.

She came home and I was expecting her to find it hysterical. All her friends were saying they wish someone had done it for them and thought she’d find it funny. The second she walks through the door and realises what’s going on she starts crying and runs upstairs to her room, apparently absolutely mortified. I went upstairs to talk to her and she said I had completely humiliated her and that she didn’t want such personal business being spread around by me. She hadn’t told her friends she’d started her period yet. I apologised but told her I thought she’d like it and she told me to get the fuck out of her room.

I spoke to my dad after and we decided that I’d go stay with one of my friends until my sister had calmed down because she was being so over dramatic. Then quarantine happened and I was stuck at my friends house. I went back home today and my sister is still absolutely furious with me and being so dramatic. My dad is saying I was way out of line. AITA? ######

Response: YTA, seriously??  Not only are you The Asshole for humiliating her on purpose, but you're keeping on being The Asshole for calling her 'dramatic' and totally dismissing her feelings. ######


Prompt:
So for the people who dont know. ABG is a popular term used in Asian American culture where a asain female goes and takes a lot from black and white culture and is normally talking to a lot of guys at once.

Now this morning I woke to find out my(15M) sister(18F) dyed her hair blond. Which I then made a comment saying "ah we are going full ABG I see." She ask what I meant which I said that she dyed her hair blond. She then said that doesnt mean I'm a ABG I just wanted to try something new. I told her she wears a lot of street wear and drink a lot if boba not to be a ABG. She reminded me that I wear a lot of the same brands she does and I agreed. She then got really upset which I tried to explain to her i was just joking but she wasnt having any of it and she started coming at me for the stuff i do like how i play a lot of league of legends so i must be a stereotype. I told her she was taking it way to personally and i left the room. ######

Response: YTA, not only are you judging your younger sister for her clothing choices and food which sets her up for a lifetime of insecurity but you’re gripping to this idea of “Asian purity” and implying that she’s a traitor for liking these things. Things that you say you also like/wear... ######


Prompt:
I (18f) has a boyfriend “Ed” (18m) who has a childhood friend “Kate” (18f) who he’s always hanging out with. Kate is friends with almost all of his friends, and lives next door to Ed, so she was almost always around while Ed and I were dating. I got jealous of her. She knows Ed a lot better than I did, is friendlier with his family than I was, and all of his friends liked her a lot better than me.

I told Ed I was jealous, and he reassured me that I didn’t need to be. Every time I told him I was jealous, though, he seemed to be getting more and more pissed about it, to the point where if I mentioned Kate, he asked what I was going to be jealous of her for this time. He basically became a dick anytime I mentioned Kate.

Ed and I had a movie date planned, and Kate was set up to watch Ed’s 9 year old brother for the evening. While we were watching the movie, Kate came over and told Ed that his brother had a pretty high fever, and asked what he wanted her to do about it. I got pissed because it’s just a fever, she should know what to do about it, and I told her off. I told her to look it up online if she was really that dumb, and that she needed to stop trying to insert herself into every situation Ed was in. Ed got pissed at me, and told me that I needed to shut up. He told Kate to bring his brother home, and told me that our date (and relationship) was over. When I asked why, he told me that he couldn’t date someone who was “this” jealous over his friend, and that I was just being a cunt. I told him that I wouldn’t be a cunt if he weren’t probably fucking Kate behind my back.

He and Kate both got mad, and I got kicked out of the house.

AITA for telling my boyfriend he was fucking his friend behind my back? ######

Response:
 YTA, not jsut for saying that but for how you behaved and not caring that his brother was ill.

Everyone can get a bit jealous sometimes but it's 100% on you how you handle it. You handled it really really badly ######


Prompt:
For some insight, I follow a pretty strict skincare regimen (oil cleanse, regular cleanse, chemical exfoliation, dry, tone, serums, mask, moisturize, sleeping mask etc… - I even started sleeping on my back because I learned that it’s better for your skin). My body skincare is also strict since I’ve started using serums on my body to work towards a more even skin tone and softness.

I used to have severe acne as a teen and I’m really proud of how far my skin has come along. Anyway, my skincare routine is a daily ritual that I follow religiously and it takes a lot of time but I am happy with it. My boyfriend \~\~we’ll call him Thomas\~\~  is from the countryside and doesn’t have hygienic practices anywhere near mine. Thomas says that my skincare routine is pretty much nothing but a practice of vanity and that I was even prettier with acne. First of all, I think he’s pretty stupid for saying these things but I’m starting to feel confused.

I worked really, really hard to get my skin to the place where it is now but all he does is use a 4-in-one “men's” body wash/face soap/shampoo/conditioner/anal douche or whatever. The real kicker is that his skin is immaculate. I’m in a bit of rage lately since it feels like Thomas literally hasn’t worked for anything that he’s ever received in life but I'm constantly working towards making things work in what feels like every possible way. Anyway, I’m at a point where I don't even want him to touch me at all because when we cuddle, I feel grime from his sweat. The worst is when I feel clean after a shower and he tries to make moves on me WHILE my serums dry- I naturally reject his body almost every time. AITA? ######

Response: YTA, not for your skincare regime, but because you appear to have rage against your boyfriend just because he had an easier time than you. How tf is that his fault? ######


Prompt:
My wife (30F) and I (28M) have an 8 month old daughter.  Since she was born my wife has not done anything besides go to work, and take care of baby.  I, on the other hand, have gone to work, gone skiing, played golf, done yard work, and done other house projects and of course, taken care of baby too.

And before anyone jumps down my throat, I love my wife and my daughter more than anything in the world and love being with them.  I also believe I can be a better dad and husband when I have a release and something that brings me joy outside of being with them.  To me, my hobbies are therapeutic to my mind and allow me to unplug for a couple hours per week.

The other day I told my wife that she should take up some hobbies.  I told her to join a volleyball league (she played in college and was pretty good), she should go for a bike ride, play golf or go skiing - anything to give her an outlet and not just go to work and come home and watch baby.  She views being a mom as her job, her passion and her hobby.  It is one of the things I admire most about her but I also feel it is important for her to have a hobby outside of being a mom and something that brings her joy, a release and an outlet for the frustrations of being a new parent.

This conversation did not go well and she left the room crying because I stuck to my argument that she needed a hobby and she disagreed and didn't want to be away from baby any more than she had to be.  Selfishly, I want her to have a hobby that she can do while I watch baby so I don't have to feel as guilty when I am doing my hobbies and she is watching baby.

AITA for wanting her to have a hobby so I can feel less guilty about mine? ######

Response: YTA, not for the sentiment (which I actually agree with) but for the way you expressed it. She just made a human and then ejected it from her body, so the insistence that she relearn a sport or similar is probably both exhausting and self-esteem issue inducing.  I'm sure there are a number of things you could suggest that would both assuage your guilt for enjoying your hobbies, demonstrate your appreciation for her parenting, and provide her with opportunities to carve out some space for "me" time. Honestly, buying her a book or movie she likes, or watching the kid while she meets a friend for coffee, gets a pedicure, massage or haircut, or even maybe a yoga class or trip to the pool, is likely to be way less pressure than "hey I think you and your post baby body should definitely take up this sport you havent played since hs" ######


Prompt:
Restaurants Just opened in my city where I am, so I wanted to just relax with and talk with my family. We missed times like this so we figured it was the right time.

I told her let's go some where a little nicer than usual. Meaning like upscale place. I wanted to eat good that night. Told her it was a steak house, didn't ask anymore questions so told her nothing else really about it. Figured she would know it cost a little more since I told her it was something nicer. Picked her up and we headed the restaurant.

We get there, she says "STK huh", I said "yeah, have you ever been here", she responded with "nope" told her she in for suprise. We walk up and get seated, I can tell shes impressed by the environment of the place. We get handed our menus, she looks at up at me almost immediately. Didn't even say say anything to me just looked at me. Face of shock. After looking at the menu for the couple's of minutes, she asked on how much we exactly plan on spending. Told her I'm going to get a steak, so I have no idea.

Staters alone are $20 then entrees vary from $40 to $50. I ended up spending $110 that night, she spent $60. We had good conversations throughout dinner but when it was over she told me I wish I told her exactly how expensive it was before. For she could've know how much she planned on spending. ######

Response: YTA, not everyone has the same amount of disposable income that you do, and you could have at least told her the name of the place so she could have looked up the menu and price range ahead of time. She might have just blown most of her grocery budget for the entire week on one dinner, but out of politeness/obligation/embarassment will never say so. ######


Prompt:
Pretty much the title. Throwaway

My roommate has a short hallway leading to to her room, she has claimed the space even though it is technically not hers.

She has a new age-y altar that sits in the hallway. It is filled with candles. It has dried flowers, money, sometimes honey and other things. She has a couple of different gods and religious symbols from different religions as the focus.

She has the altar all lit up tonight, and it looks really cool, so I snapped a few pictures of it and posted them on my Instagram.

She saw the pictures and came to me yelling and upset. She wanted me to take the pictures down. She wasn’t nice about it at all. She demanded that I take them down, rather than asking. She offered no explanation as to why I can’t post a picture of something in my house.

I told her that technically her “altar” is a public space and if she doesn’t want anyone to see it she should put it inside the room that she actually pays for. It’s mostly decoration anyway. Also if she wants me to take pictures down she can approach me appropriately.

She is not calming down though, so I’m wondering if this is really a big deal. If it is, I can probably smooth it over since it just happened AITA. ######

Response: YTA, most of all for not taking down the pictures when she clearly feel very upset and violated by them. You do understand this is probably part of her religion, right? ######


Prompt:
My wife and I have a 6yo son. I grew up racing dirt bikes from the age of 5 and never stopped. My son has been asking to get one so I talked to my wife about it and she said no because it’s “too dangerous”.

Yeah you are bound to fall and break bones, but racing teaches you to not give up, and it’s a lot of fun, and my son is very interested.

I went on Friday and picked him up one and my wife is furious, she said he’s going to die on this death machine and wants me to sell it now. I don’t think it’s fair to my son to say he can’t ride but I can. So AITA here? ######

Response: YTA, marriage and raising kids is a partnership.  Why even talk to her if you were just going to do what you wanted anyways?  Also, you seem very cavalier about breaking bones... ######


Prompt:
I (17m) will be moving out soon to go to uni. My sister (12) has made jokes about how she can't wait for me to move out so she can have my room, which is substantially bigger than hers. I said she couldn't have it as I plan to stay with my family a lot and don't want to be kicked out of the room I grew up in. When I said this my mum got angry and said it was selfish but my dads on my side.

I wouldn't mind if they moved house and then I got the smaller room but I don't think it's fair to get kicked out of the room I grew up in when I plan to stay with them a lot.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA, let her have it. You’ve moved on to university. It’s part of growing up. She’s the teenager of the house now. ######


Prompt:
My sister (22f) was recently terminated from her sales clerk position. she worked enough hours to pay her bills and her share of rent with her roommate but had no savings. she's been a thorn in my side and the family's side this happening; crying, fits of anger, you get the idea

I have 2 kids, one who is on the spectrum (8m). the other is 5f. I've been searching and searching for a sitter/tutor to get some down time for myself. I saw this as a win win situation and offered my sister to watch my kids a few times the week. of course I wouldn't be able to pay her as much as she needed but it would be something to hold her over until she found something else.

before I can even get into it she rejects my offer. I try again a week later and again she says no. but of course she's whining to our parents about having no job. UM WHAT?! I finally call her out at the easter reunion saying I offered a job as a sitter/tutor and she rejected it so obviously she's not that desperate. she got snappy back and said yeah I want a real job, not working with your bratty, unbehaved kids so you can paint your nails and sit on your ass all day

I was livid and my husband had to get her out of the house before I did something rash. I text her later that day that I have no sympathy for the situation she PUT HERSELF INTO and have told my parents not to give her the slightest pity either. Her behavior is disgusting when all I was trying to do was help ######

Response: YTA, just because she's in between jobs doesn't mean she's cheap child care for you.  Get over yourself, damn. ######