Prompt:
I (25F) am currently stuck in my apartment with my 2 other roommates (Dave, 27M; Sarah 24F). We all met through mutual friends and have a good roommate relationship, we aren't close friends but in normal times we do things together occasionally.

Recently we've been sharing food costs and everyday a different roommate does the cooking and we all eat. We each have certain foods we don't like and are allowed to take a pass on that food being cooked. For one of my roommates (24F) she expects meat at every meal and will actively avoid vegetarian or vegan foods. It's not a health thing it's a preference thing and she has told us as much.

Well my one roommate (Dave), went grocery shopping the other day and came back with some Chorizo that I had requested for making Shaksuka. It turned out really good and Sarah expressed interest in having the meal again. She had never had Chirozo before and so she dug the wrapper out of the garbage to see what spices were in it. It's then that we found out Dave had accidentally bought 'soyrizo' rather than the meaty kind. Sarah was livid and starting saying I was trying to trick her into being vegan. (Note: none of us are vegan or vegetarian nor have ever been). Dave and I told her it was an accident but she wouldn't hear it. She's been ignoring us since last night and has since stated she will be cooking her own food and will be taking her pans into her room so that we won't 'contaminate them with tofu'.

I understand her frustration but the whole thing was an accident that I unfortunately can't undo. I think this while thing is just a misunderstanding but it's getting hostile in the apartment and I'm starting to feel like the asshole. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. You "understand her frustration"? How? What is there to understand? She's insane. And an asshole. ######


Prompt:
Title sounds bad but here me out

I have a child who is 18. My daughter knew that my wife was having an affair with another women for 2 years and she had evidence off it stored on her phone. Me and my wife are not able to afford a lot of things I had my suspicions when my wife gave my daughter a 2000 dollar gift   on her birthday when we are normally not able to afford it and the money did not came out of our bank accounts. I also had more suspicions that when my wife started giving her more expensive gifts in general.

Today I was checking my daughters phone cause my daughter was caught with porn and that she was also caught bullying people. I found some texts to a random lady that my wife was cheating with and that my daughter said she can't wait to meet her new mother and she can't wait to leave her dirty old father. My daughter also said stuff like Men are gross and disgusting to look at and how they should all be in jail

When my daughter asked for her phone (I paid for it) I refused to give it to her telling her that she could ask her new mom for one. My daughter asked what new mom and showed her text she tried her best to having a poker face but she broke. I told my daughter that from now on I am no longer her father and I don't want nothing to do with her.

 I said you have a new mother now your mom's new gf. My daughter asked what about her college that I was supposed to pay for her. I told her I am using that money for vacation eventually and that she can expect her new mom to pay for it. My daughter angrily left and when she sees me she yells at me so aita for not wanting anything to do with my daughter after she betrayed me. ######

Response: NTA. Yes she is young but she knew exactly what she was doing. You can’t blame this on ignorance ######


Prompt:
My provincial government has released a 3.5 million dollar support fund for university students, and a 1.5 million dollar fund for indigenous students.

I couldn’t care less. Having a separate fund for indigenous students (who make up a decent percentage of the university population) will likely result in more money for all of us. So it may work out better for literally every student? At least that’s what I believe.

My mom sent the news article to our family chat, accompanied with “they don’t work and get free school. OP, aren’t you mad about this? You work your butt off to pay for school”. I went up to her in person and said that I already applied for funding so I don’t care, and that it was a really harmful thing to say in front of my 14 year old brother that “natives don’t work”.

She started bitching at me about how lazy they are and I said that she was being a racist and it’s disgusting. She stomped to her room and slammed the door to call my father. I just received an angry text saying that was disrespectful to call my mother a racist and I have no idea what racism is.

AITA for saying she’s racist?? ######

Response: NTA. Yeah, what she said is racist, plain and simple and your father is enabling it at the very least. ######


Prompt:
I f16 and my brother m29 usually get along well but since i was about 10 years old all responability of his daughter f8 has fallen on me. I love my niece so much, shes always been the sweetest kid and i love to play with her, shes like my mini me, but for 2 weeks straight its just like  havinv my own kid.
My brother and his ex have split custody and we have my niece 2 weeks out of the month and while shes in i do everything! Getting her ready in the morning, cooking for her, doing her hair, helping her wash her hair in the bath, doing all homework and bedtime reading and playing ALL DAY. I dont mind helping out with her but its expected of me and it can get really Frustrating, especially when i have to stay home from plans and babysit without pay so he can go out. So WITBA if i told him its not my job to raise his child? ######

Response: NTA. Y'all need to have a serious discussion about how much work he's offloading onto you. ######


Prompt:
First, my sister and I are twins. We did the SAT during March 14, and we made a deal with each other. Whoever got the lower score would do the other person’s chores for the entire summer break. We both agreed on this, and we asked our mother to enforce it. Obviously minors can’t enter contracts, but our mom is the supreme authority on chores.

It turns out that I barely got higher than her. I have a 1500, while she got a 1480. I still beat her; therefore, I am chore-free for the entire summer. It turns out, she didn’t want to do that. She didn’t do my chores for the entire week, and then she got in trouble for it. She’s semi-grounded until she does all the chores.

I still fold my own laundry, and we all wash our own dishes. She just has to do extra stuff, like mow and fertilize the lawn, etc. She’s very mad at me now, for obvious reasons. She wants me to do my share of the chores. The thing is, we had an agreement. I’m positive that if I got the worse score, then she’d not care that I would’ve to do more chores.

I’m not going to relinquish her of her duty, but I just want to see how wrong I am.

So, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Y'all made a deal, and there's no extenuating circumstances. She just doesn't want to do it.

But for the sake of your relationship, consider calling the whole thing off, unless you want to spend the rest of the summer having this argument. ######


Prompt: We have been married for 7 years. The first half, at least was pretty rough. He kept several flirtationships hidden. Some went too far. We have worked on things and it’s been pretty quiet but I know I still have some lingering trust issues. A few days ago he started messaging the woman that cuts his hair to see if she would come over to our house to cut his hair. I let him know I wasn’t comfortable with that for a lot of reasons, mostly not having some stranger walking around the house. He took my objection as insecurity and let me know he talks to attractive women all the time. He then told me a funny story about his coworker betting him $20 that he couldn’t get an attractive woman’s name in 1 minute at a place they were working. He got her name, it just took a little longer than a minute. I was thrown off by that and let him know I didn’t think that was ok. He told me” I thought we were past all that”. I personally didn’t think it was a cute story but now he’s made it clear he just won’t tell me so I don’t overreact. AITA for taking issue with his bet? Or objecting to having a random person over at the house? ######

Response: NTA. Wtf. Your husband has no respect for you. If this is something that you are uncomfortable with, and you have expressed this to him, and he continues to do it, he is not being fair to you at all. This is not normal behavior, and in my opinion, borders on emotional cheating. The fact that he dismisses your concerns as “insecurities” is even worse. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. ######


Prompt:
Yesterday was my \[24f\] birthday.  My boyfriend already said he'd take me out for dinner to celebrate since last week, and I let my family know maybe 3-4 days ago. (for those of you wondering about lockdown, I live in a country where we have had restrictions relaxed as new cases have been in the low digits for a month)

Birthdays have never been big in my family.  I haven't received gifts from either of my parents since i turned 15 and the occasion never warranted much except perhaps dinner outside.  So to compensate, I suggested yesterday that we celebrate my birthday today instead.  Neither of my parents said anything.  I made the reservation earlier today, and now we're getting ready to go out.

My mum decides to tell me that my dad is not going because he's mad at me for going out for dinner yesterday with my boyfriend rather than spending it with my family.  She said I'm in the wrong for choosing to spend it with my boyfriend, and that she and my dad are not going to dinner today.  Obviously, I was confused and mildly pissed.  I don't think I'm TA for choosing who to spend my birthday with.  It's not like my dad even cares about for birthday for the past 10 years; no cards, no gifts, not even a verbal 'happy birthday' have I ever received.  That was the case yesterday too; only my mum wished me happy birthday.  So I was perplexed as to why he would suddenly be angry at me for not spending my birthday with him.  And there's the dinner today that I already told my family I've made reservations for; he's just making it worse by saying he's not going.

AITA here? ######

Response: NTA. Wtf? How can they seriously expect you to want to spend your birthday with them when they haven’t cared for the past 10 years? You want to spend it with someone who actually cares about you and that’s completely fine. Plus, you invited them to dinner tonight so I don’t see their problem. Clearly they’re jealous. ######


Prompt:
When I was still dating my wife I spent a christmas at her place and with her family. They had this bullshit rule that I couldn't see teh family opening up their presents so they told me to wait in the basemnt. I didn't think it would tkae so long but it  took 2-3 hours.

My gf's sisters' bfs were down there too. The three of us played pool and one of htem brought a bunch of beers so we actually had a lot of fun. One of them had been in this situation for a previous christmas or two so he came prepared this time with all the beers. We became really good friends after this actually. I normally would've said fuck this but my apartment and my family were in other states so I couldn't. After about 2-3 hours they let us out of the basement and we were a fairly drunk.

Family is pissed off but what did they expect, they ditched us for several hours in the basemnt, that was hella fucked up. Its bullshit that we couldn't be there for that, especially since my girlfriend and some of their family members got me gifts and I brought gifts for 10 people in that room. (basically everyone i knew personally).

we had the christmas lunch/supper or whatever nad when it was time for us to leave they asked me how did i enjoy the Christams party and I said it sucked but hte best part was chilling with the boys down in the basemnt. Girlfriend was kind of pissed and so was the family. I havn't apologized since and my wife is telling me i need to post this here to see who's right. I was still drunk when that happened and honestly i feel bad for getting drunk on christmas, im not sure if that was right and not because of the family, but i feel like that might have been disrespectful to Jesus though im not sure, if any priests/pastors are here , tell me if that was wrong. Anyways i dont think i owe my wife's family na apology cuz what they did was messed up yo ######

Response: NTA. Wtf kind of rule is that? If that's their tradition then they shouldn't invite non family, or maybe don't do gifts while you have company. They were incredibly rude especially since you and others brought gifts to exchange. What the hell are they getting each other that their guests need to be kept in the dark. ######


Prompt:
I know it’s a weird title, sorry. Also on mobile so layout might be strange.

So around a year ago I (M15) was diagnosed with Leukemia. Six months later and I was having a life saving bone marrow transplant. I was in the same room for a month, tired and sleeping 6 hours a day and 12 at night. I have now (almost) fully recovered but my muscles have a while to go before I am back to my fully fit self. I can walk and jump but I can’t run or joy without lots of effort and pain in my joints.

Anyway today I went on a dog walk with my mother (44) and my sister (12). My sister has a brain tumour, diagnosed just a few months after me. Unlucky, I know. She has to wear a splint on her leg and has extremely limited movement in her right arm and leg.

Halfway through the walk our dog, who’s an 18 week old puppy runs to see a dog. My mum is holding the lead and lets go, meaning our puppy can now run off to see the other dog. My mum has for some reason come out wearing sandals and therefore can’t run after him. She doesn’t even make the effort. She instantly looks back at me and yells ‘well run then!’ I say back: ‘I can’t!’ I give a desperate attempt to jog but it hurts too much to run. Our puppy at this point is simply wagging his tail 5 feet away and sniffing the other dog. Not moving anywhere. My mum walks up to him and grabs his lead, then looks back at me and says, ‘it’s like I have to babysit for you all the time. You can’t do anything by yourself. It’s like you’re a 5 year old.’ I can’t argue back because she hates being wrong. She doesn’t take a single bit of the blame even though she dropped the lead in the first place. AITA for not trying to run?

TL:DR I had to have a bone marrow transplant and stayed in a bed for ages, meaning it hurts lots to run. On a dog walk and mum let’s go of lead, expects me to run after dog. I try but can’t. She calls me a 5 year old and makes me feel embarrassed and like an asshole. AITA for not running after the dog? ######

Response: NTA. WTF is wrong with your mom? ######


Prompt:
Recently we found out some information about my brother in law’s baby momma. The pair is separated, but not divorced, and share custody of their children. My husband’s sister told us that his brother’s baby mama showed up at her house driving drunk, with the children in the car. This woman and his brother have three children together, all under the age of 12. One of the children (6) had also told her that their mom had let them go swimming that day and talked about how she had helped her little sister (4) back onto the steps when she fell off. His sister said that it was none of her business and that she was not going to tell their brother.

Of course, later that night I pressed the issue with my husband. He was extremely uncomfortable about it. I kept telling him that I love those children and that I couldn’t not bear the thought of anything happening to them and that he needed to tell his brother about the incident. Finally, after pressing the issue until the next morning he sent a text to his brother explaining what he had heard.

 A few nights ago we also learned that the baby mama had been involuntarily admitted into the hospital for mental health reasons. She told my husband’s brother that she couldn’t pick up the kids because she was “sick”. No one in the family wants to tell him the real reason because it is “not my business”.

I went off on my husband about this. I feel that no one is taking the safety of these kids seriously. I understand that not all mentally ill people are at risk of harming their children, but the father of the children definitely has a right to know. I also don’t understand why his whole family (his sister, his brother, and his mother) are keeping this from him. I told my husband that it is his business if he cares about his nieces and nephews. He told me to not stick my nose where it doesn’t belong. He refuses to tell his brother about what has happened. I have told him that if he doesn’t, then I will.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Wtf is wrong with your husband’s family?  It is absolutely their business that their very young relatives are being put in dangerous situations. ######


Prompt:
Keeping somethings vague because otherwise, they are too identifiable

My husband and I have known each other for 12+ years, married for 7. We have kinky sex lives, and I am not straight (bi), I dated women before him. But we have always had a monogamous relationship. About 2 years ago he started kidding about a threesome (or so I thought), and I laughed it off as sex talk or what you say when you are kinda drunk. Whatever.

I am not actually opposed to the idea, but I think there has to be a larger (sober) conversation about boundaries, expectations, ect .... which we have never had because it wasnt a real possibility to me. He would in the heat of sex talk dirty about how much he would like to see me and another girl, but I thought it was just that, dirty talk.

Fast-forward to now, I find out (because he told me during sex) that not only has he posted pictures of me to reddit without me knowing but that he has been talking to a woman that commented on the picture about setting up a threesome. He set her pictures of me, and sent her a dick pic next to a ruler .... He volunteered all of this, and then later gave me his reddit password like there was nothing wrong .....

For so many reasons I am upset. This is a man I have trusted for 12 years, and I feel like he used me overnight and doesnt see whats wrong with it. I actually havent confronted him yet because I dont know if I am overreacting .... I never actually said no, I thought it was obvious and that we were roleplaying. ######

Response: NTA. Wtf is wrong with him. Talking dirty is one thing, sending dick pics and nudes of your wife without her permission or knowledge is an entirely different thing. What a douche. ######


Prompt: Needless to say, I've bee dating this girl for a month and granted sometimes she likes to dress a little tomboyish every now and then but she lives an hour away and when she gets ready to leave my place to head home, I always find her putting on one of my outfits and trying to wear it when she heads home and I'm not just talking a shirt, I'm talking a shirt, pants, underwear, hat, etc, etc. Just last week she started to put on my belt and when I saw her I told her please not to use my belt because it's $40 and I use it every day because I only have the one. Well, guess what, she still wore it without me knowing and I have yet to see my belt back and he acts like when I bring this up that I'm so inconsiderate and she's going to bring it back and try to make me feel bad for being upset about her wearing my stuff when she shouldn't be touching it at all especially if she hasn't even asked if she can. Like when I found her wearing the whole outfit I kinda snapped and just asked her in what part of the world is it okay to put on someone else clothes without even asking and just start wear it when you leave to head back home and think there's nothing wrong with it and its okay. So when I snapped a little-told her a simple rule that I was taught growing up is #If it's not yours then don't touch it. Especially if you haven't even asked if you could touch/use/borrow the item that's not even yours in the first place." Well after gave her think a small bit of advice she started acting like a smart ass and saying sorry, just sorry for trying to look good for a job interview that I have. Sorry. (The outfit she was wearing what a untuck Buttondown with pink flamingos and levis boot cut khakis. That didn't even look interview worthy) So am I the Asshole. ######

Response: NTA. Wtf is wrong with her? I thought you were going to say that she wanted to take home one of your sweaters or something (I disagree with even doing that, but I would at least be more sympathetic), but taking whole outfits? That's... weird. Definitely not okay and you are right to be upset. ######


Prompt:
Okay, so a bit of a backstory here: I’m a teenager, so naturally i still live with my mom (my parents are divorced). I tend to have problems sleeping that result in me staying up until like three am. This doesn’t affect my energy throughout the day or anything, it’s just what I need to do to actually be able to sleep. Sleeping medication doesn’t work for me. So I’m always awake whenever the following occurs.

My mom doesn’t usually have trouble sleeping, but she does sometimes. And when she does, she thinks that the best thing for her to do is to crawl into my bed and try to snuggle with me. This makes me wildly uncomfortable because I dislike being touched like that unless I’m the one initiating. It’s also very uncomfortable for me physically because she tends to have warm skin and I absolutely hate heat when I sleep. I sleep without covers and with the fan on as high as I can set it. It’s also just really weird to me. I’m sixteen, and I feel as if she isn’t respecting my personal space and boundaries. I’ve brought the fact that I dislike this up to her and she still continues to do this. I have no idea why.

Today, I was up late, as I typically am, and she came in to try to get in my bed. I literally scooted as far away from her as I possibly could and kept shaking her off and asking her stuff like “why are you in my bed” and whatnot. She eventually left after a few minutes ( she usually stays for longer ). I know for a fact that in the morning, she’s going to make a comment about how it was rude of me to not let her cuddle with me in bed. But it genuinely makes me so uncomfortable and I hate it, and I’ve brought this up with her.

AITA for not letting her stay in my bed? ######

Response: NTA. Wow. That is....disturbing levels of breaking boundaries. ######


Prompt:
So my parents have been having issues for as long as I can remember, but the last few months it has gotten worse. Today my parents called me (F21) and my little brother downstairs to announce they're getting a divorce. My dad was adamant in saying "this is your mom's doing, I don't want this, all the hurt is on her", without ever reflecting on his own wrongdoings in this relationship.

I fully understand that he is hurt in this situation and that he doesn't want to hear from his own daughter that she agrees to a divorce- Basically agreeing to breaking up the family. I tried to explain that I rather see them happy separately and that a house filled with arguments and emotional manipulation isn't a good place for me and my little brother.

He interrupted me saying that he called me down to have his "semi-adult" daughter try to mend their relationship and support them in fixing their marriage- like a mediator. He stood up, pointed his finger in my face, and said: "I'm disappointed, disappointed, disappointed. Here you are siding with your mom to wreck this family.".

I know it wasn't the answer he wanted to hear, but how can he expect me to lie and side with him when I don't agree at all? I have tried in the past to help my parents out- my mom had compromised tremendously and my dad simply can't see what is so frustrating to my mom (the fact that he just can't see his inability to put himself into someone else's shoes and understanding people can have a different opinion without it making him the bad guy).

So, I suppose what I am wondering is: am I the asshole for having said what I said in a very polite way? I've been crying my eyes out for over an hour now. Just hearing my dad say I'm a disappointment so unapologetically really fucking hurts. ######

Response: NTA. Wow, I am so sorry you had to go through that. Your mother is clearly unhappy in this marriage, and you’re incredibly strong for resisting your father’s attempts to emotionally manipulate his children in an attempt to force her to stay. ######


Prompt: I (25f) have recently gotten engaged to my girlfriend (24f) and both of us are very excited. We have been dating since college and have a house and have adopted a child together. We are both very excited to get married and are planning on doing so as soon a Coronavirus is over. Recently I got some messages on Facebook from my family. Now, I’m not really that close with my family as when they found out that I was a lesbian they kicked me out and pretty much disowned me. They heard that I had gotten engaged from a family friend who I am still close with and messaged me asking why I hadn’t told them about my engagement, who was the lucky man and when was the wedding. I haven’t spoken to them for 6 years so I am very shocked that they reached out to me. I messaged them back saying that I’m engaged to a woman and that they could come as long as they didn’t make a fuss about me marrying a woman. They agreed and at the time I thought the discussion was over.   Yesterday my fiancé came crying to me and showed me the messages that she’d gotten. My family had found her on the internet and had sent her hateful messages saying that she’s a whore and she’s going to hell for marrying a woman. Naturally I was furious and immediately messaged them to tell them that they had no right to treat her in that way and that they should get their heads out of their asses and understand that I have every right to marry who I want to. The responses that I got to this were horrible and both me and my fiancé are very upset. I responded to them saying that they’re banned from the wedding until they start treating my fiancé with some respect. I got messages of my aunts and cousins saying that I’m being to harsh here and that I just need to suck it up. All my friends are in agreement with my cousins. AITA here? ######

Response:
 NTA. Wow there's a lot here. Firstly, congrats on your engagement! Your fiance sounds like a lovely, lucky woman. Secondly, screw your family. They don't get to say awful things to you and the woman you love all the while expecting to party on your dime.

Don't invite them.

Your friends have never encountered such personal hate before, so they don't get a say. ######


Prompt:
My friend has had a crush on me for years now and knows that I do not reciprocate the feelings and nothing will ever happen between us.
I generally feel uneasy and uncomfortable with people saving my pictures on their phone as I find it really creepy.
A few months ago I found out he did that and even put my picture as his phone wallpaper and even whatsapp wallpaper. We got into a huge fight and he agreed to delete them off his phone and change the wallpaper. Now I found out he has my picture as a “home” wallpaper not the lock screen one. When I got mad about it he got defensive and said its just the lock screen so no one will see it. I know this seems really silly and stupid but from my pov we agreed on this topic awhile ago and its such a boundary issue.
Am i overreacting? Aita? ######

Response: NTA. WOW that is creepy. You're not overreacting at all. ######


Prompt:
I spend a lot of time either working from home or running my business from home so my wife and I decided I could use a spare room as my office. I turned it into a sort of library/office over the years and on top of all my bookcases and shelves I've placed models and figurines that I've made and or collected. [These are](https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Dz4xxb4WwAAavnL.jpg) examples of [some of the things](https://twitter.com/FinalFantasy/status/842760746463387648/photo/3) [that I have displayed](https://www.thewebernets.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/tech_seawater_03.jpg). None of my models of figurines are scantily clad women or dolls before you make that claim. Mostly planes and boats.

I still spend time with my family, I contribute to the household chores and I don't lock myself away in my office. My wife however said that all my models and such are childish and that she gets embarrassed when people come round to stay or visit. I pointed out that she's covered our bedroom in plushies and she said that's not the same. I was told to hide or get rid of the models and figurines, I refused so now she's refusing to talk to me.

We have 2 kids and they each have their own room, she also has a craft room where she does her dress making, sewing and cross-stitch things. ######

Response: Nta. Would she rather you spend Friday night at home painting models, or out doing body shots with the guys? ######


Prompt:
Hi all, this is a throwaway and I don’t really know how this works but I’ve been having an issue with my fiancé and her family.

Background: I am a part owner in a pretty upscale American restaurant in the United States. I have been engaged for a little over a year, the virus took a toll in our plans. I have been with my fiancé for a total of 4 years now. She does not have any kids but I have two daughters who live with their mother.

Situation: my fiancé’s sister called my fiancé to tell her that her 17 year old son (I’ll call Chris) was taking a girl on a date for the first time, and said they were gonna go to my restaurant.

The day came and I was working, they showed up and of course I said hello and talked to them and such. then I left them alone to enjoy their meal, I didn’t say anything to them until they were walking out. I just thanked Chris for coming and said it was nice seeing them.

An hour or so went by and I got a text from my fiancé calling me an asshole. I didn’t have time to text and I just told her We can talk when I get home. I got home and she told me she couldn’t believe I didn’t comp the bill for Chris. I said I didn’t know I was supposed to, and she called me a cheapass. She let me know that her sister and mother also thinks I’m an asshole.

She called me out for others I’ve comped meals for, including my ex wife (She’s still the mother of my daughters and we aren’t on bad terms, IMO not a big deal). I apologized and I promised I will next time they come in, but apparently the fact that I had to be told makes me an AH.

Was it really an AH move to not comp Chris’s food? ######

Response: NTA. Would it have been a nice thing to do? Yeah. Are you in any way obligated to do that? Not really. ######


Prompt:
So me and my fiancé are doing some work in our backyard, so for the past week or so I’ve had to take our dogs for walks through the neighborhood about 4 times a day, always walking past the same house right across the street from us.

The first few times, i noticed a dog barking when i walked by, but didn’t think much of it. But it happened every single time I walked by, so it started to catch my attention. Listening closer, I can tell that the dog is barking from the neighbors garage - the bark echoes and can clearly be identified as coming from the garage.

If this happened once, I wouldn’t think too much of it, but it’s every time I walk by from about 7am until the last time I take my dogs out around 9pm every night. I think they are keeping this dog in the garage all day most days.

I live in a very warm area approaching summer, and the high temperatures are starting to approach/exceed 90F daily here. I don’t feel like it’s safe to keep a dog in a closed up garage all day in the middle of the summer, but i also don’t want to approach my neighbors myself. The type of people who leave a dog sitting in hot garage all day probably wouldn’t listen to me or would get hostile with me, and then if i did end up calling someone on them they’d know it’s me, which I’d prefer they don’t.

So, WIBTA if I call animal control to check this out? ######

Response: NTA. Worst case scenario, they find the dog is fine. Otherwise, you save a dog. Ring it in. ######


Prompt:
this happened last year but it got brought up again recently and opinions are split. more like 'are we the asshole'

context: i grew up in a country where usage of the word 'fag' is very lenient. i also grew up in a family of smokers. this is important because where i live, 'fag' is common slang for a ciggie. i didn't know 'fag' has offensive connotations until i was 11 when someone called me a 'fag' and i asked my mum why they were calling me a ciggie and she explained. all my LGBT friends use it and have no problem with the word when used in the context of a cig.

onto the story: there was this exchange student (Beth) from America who was at our school and she gravitated towards my friend group. one day at lunch a few of my friends had gone for a smoke break and Beth asked where they had gone and i replied 'oh they've gone for a quick fag, they'll be back soon, don't worry'. Beth seemed fine the rest of the day but something was off. the next day she told the group she was leaving because 'certain members are homophobic'. my friends and I knew what she was on about and explained how we meant the word and that we meant no harm. she said fine but didn't want to stay because of the negative connotations so she left the group but we still spoke sometimes in the group chat we had.

a few weeks later she messaged saying she was upset that none of us had apologised to her. we were confused. this is going to sound weird but she didn't seem like she wanted an apology more she just wanted to move on. no one said anything (only I and one other person had 'read' the message) and she got annoyed and left the chat. everyone felt shitty but no one knew what to do so we left it. Beth went back home a few months later and we never heard from her again.

so, AITA?? ######

Response: NTA. Words have different meanings sometimes to different cultures. Not your place to impose your own interpretation based on your culture when in someone else's. ######


Prompt:
Am I about to rant over a muffin? Yes! I live in a pretty big household. I have 6 other siblings. So when my sisters made muffins last night, I’d already eaten so I decided I wanted one for the morning. But I knew my siblings would’ve eaten them all by the time I woke up and didn’t feel like risking it. So I hid one with my brothers baby food. Sure enough waking up this morning I was correct, the muffins were all gone but the one I hid was still there. I ate it, and that was that. Like an hour later my step dad came in and asked “do you know who hid a muffin?” And I said it was me, I didn’t see it as that big of a deal. Well, he pulls up a video on his phone of him LICKING THE FUCKING MUFFIN and putting it back, I was disgusted. I then heard him and my mom talking about how that’s what I get for hiding food, which is actually very hypocritical because they have entire cabinet of their own hidden food that we aren’t allowed to touch. It’s not like I took someone’s muffin by hiding it, all my siblings were able to have 2, I just wanted one. Now I’m pissed at my step dad and he doesn’t understand why.

TDLR; I hid a muffin, my stepdad licked it and put it back, and showed me a video of him licking it after I ate it. Now I’m pissed

Side note: I realize the post is stupid, I know it’s  stupid situation. But personally, I don’t enjoy eating food that has been touched, licked, or spit on by others. So why not rant about it 😂 ######

Response: NTA. Why????? Why would he lick a muffin and put it back???? Why would he RECORD IT???? What was there that he could possibly gain, just fucking eat it and get it over with good god ######


Prompt:
Obviously I know what my diagnoses are now, but I just wanted some other verdicts on this. And for reference, I am 18f.

When I was four years old, I was diagnosed with mosaic Turner Syndrome (TS). I won't get too into this, but basically I knew that I was 'different' because of all the medications I had to take and doctors I had to see. I always asked my parents why I had to do all this extra stuff while my younger siblings didn't, but they always didn't answer me. But when I was 12 years old, my mom sat me down and told me that I had turner syndrome, and what it exactly was, and that explained so much about me.

I had been seeing a psychologist for many years, and one day when I was 13, I was taken in to do this all-day test thing that I didn't know why I was doing it. I do remember that my mom and my psychologist made me go out of the room while they discussed the results. Last night, I was filling out health stuff for college, and as my mom was looking it over, she added non-verbal learning disorder (NVLD) to the list of various health concerns I had. Obviously, that was news to me, and she didn't really say much about it, just gave me my laptop back. After researching stuff, NVLD does explain some aspects of my personality as well as some physical stuff.

I'm just angry that my mom hid all this stuff from me, and I'm wondering if my anger is even justified at all. I haven't lashed out or anything, just silently fuming. I did try asking once why I was kept in the dark for all this time, and they just said that I was too young and wouldn't have understood then. However, many teachers and adults have described me as perceptive and intelligent for my age, and I have met various TS girls who had been told about and understood the condition at a very young age.

So was my mom in the wrong? Or is my anger unjustified? ######

Response: NTA. Why would your mom hide your diagnoses from you? Even as a minor, you deserve to know what exactly is going on with your body, because it’s your own body. ######


Prompt:
My(28f) sister(20f) arrived in Canada for her first degree last September with the help of my uncle who gave her about $5500 to take care of her rent and other expenses at least for the first semester. The plan was for her to also get a part time job to support herself because her program consisted of only 4 classes a week ie one class for about 2/3 hours a day. This gives her more than enough time to work and study as well.
Once she arrived here, I tried to help by securing a cheap room near her campus, taking her to value village (It’s like Goodwill) for fall and winter clothes, driving her to grocery shops and fast food places to drop her resume and others. I should add I live in a different town almost 2 hours away from her but I did my best to get her situated.
Unfortunately I have been paying her rent for the 6 out of 8 months she’s been here. This is because she spent all her money on shopping sprees, taking Uber rides instead of the bus to school, ordering food and pizza all the time instead of cooking. My husband and i have adviced her constantly on doing better on several occasions.
She finally got a part time job a month ago and instead of paying off her rent, got an iPhone 10. She’s also on probation at school and has the potential of being withdrawn from the school.

Now my mum won’t stop crying and begging me to pay for my sister’s rent and food and I refuse to do so. I offered to have her stay with us but I’m in a “village” so that’s out of the question. We can’t tell my uncle because he expected her to be able to manage what he gave her and tbh things aren’t as good as they used to be because of the virus. I should add I have a young baby and I haven’t worked in a year. My husband has put his foot down this time and won’t help because of my sister’s lifestyle/decisions so far.

So AITA because I wouldn’t bail out my sister? ######

Response: NTA. Why would your mom expect you to pay her bills? If she wants to bail her out, that’s on her, but you should never be held responsible for her. ######


Prompt:
So, basically, for the past month, I've been planning a cross country move back to my college town. I had some plans to stay with friends, and get there on July first so I can move in.

When I told my mom I was moving out, she was somewhat upset with me with how sudden it was, and was upset I didn't give her enough time to make plans for her to take time off work so she could come with me.

So I decided to post pone my move in date to a later date - about a week off. But this also means not staying with some of my friends along the way, and means me sitting around for another week extra while I wait.

I'm considering telling her tomorrow that it might be better if I go earlier and by myself so I can stick to my original plan. I know this is probably going to upset her and she won't like it....but would I really be the asshole? ######

Response: NTA. Why would she assume she would be going? It's very odd. ######


Prompt:
We're 28. We're dual citizens of the US and the place we currently live. We both have cushy jobs with a multi-national, but back home I used to drive big rigs and busses, my side job here is a home-call mechanic. Her side job is as a fixed wing medivac pilot.

She might fly planes well, but she can't drive cars. She failed her driving test in the US numerous times before finally getting it. She's had her US license for about a year. Here she had her international permit suspended for a wreck where she was determined to be at fault, then she went through with getting locally licensed - she got suspended once on her probationary license for criminal excedd speed + following too closely. She got it back but then got revoked for another at-fault wreck while unaccompanied as a probationary driver. She has to go back to driving school to try again for a student license (then probationary, then full).

It's monsoon here. We were on a rural 6 lane highway with a 130kph limit. It was pouring rain with next to no visibility and incredibly windy. As your supposed to do, I pulled over to the far right lane. I was matching the speed of the cars distantly infront of me doing about 40kph. We were being passed by cars going the speed limit in the left lanes, and she was freaking out saying we need to go the speed limit. I told her twice that we're okay where we are, the visibility isn't good enough and obviously other people agree since the entire rightmost lane was doing 40kph.

She kept saying we need to speed up. I told her that her license is revoked for a reason, I'm driving, and I'm obeying the law.

She wasn't really happy with me saying that. ######

Response: NTA. why tf she's so worried about driving faster? Are you guys late? Or does she like living stupidly dangerous? ######


Prompt:
My gf’s birthday was today and she wanted to do a social distance get together with our friends (With our city having a really low amount of COVID cases they relaxed a lot of restrictions). Our mutual friends consist of us, and two other woman: and we all met in high school. Our one friend, let’s call her M, recently got out of a relationship with someone really toxic, and decided to start dating again. She asked us if she could bring her new boyfriend along to but she didn’t want to tell us who he was so she could surprise us. The only clue we got was that we went to school with him.

Lo and behold we get together in our backyard and in comes my childhood bully with my friend M. While I appreciate that she wanted to surprise us, I think she was unaware who she was bringing along. Tbh I don’t think he even recognized me, but I instantly recognized him. Things got really awkward when he started bragging about his life, etc etc. Suddenly it felt like the purpose of the party was lost. Then he just excused himself to go inside the house, even though we were supposed to be just outside.

I stopped him at the door and told him to leave my property, and I also said he wasn’t welcome here. He was shocked and very defensive saying “he just had to wizz and take a chill pill”. I promptly kicked him off my property, and my friend went with him. I apologized to my gf, and she understood why. However my friend is super angry with my and my other friend is taking her side. ######

Response: NTA. Why should you have to be around someone who clearly caused you some trauma, honestly those friends should try to understand your perspective on this. Though to play devil's advocate for a moment, did he change? Also did the friend who's dating him know about how he used to bully you? ######


Prompt:
Today I had someone confront me about my home made face mask. I made a standard face mask with 2 layers of cotton fabric. To make it look cute I added some lace to the front of it. It doesn't affect the functionality of it as far as I know.

I was told that face masks are safety and not for vanity. I was told it's wrong to turn a face mask into a fashion statement and I should reconsider why I'm wearing a face mask.  I'm actually embarrassed and I'm considering taking my face mask apart and removing the lace. I made it the way I did because I have made so many of them and I get so bored from how repetitive it is. Adding lace was a way to challenge myself. Maybe I'm selfish for keeping the fanciest one I have made so far.

I already get enough grief from non mask wearing folks. ######

Response: NTA. Why must practical things look utilitarian? We might as well make masks look good, we’ll be wearing them for a while. ######


Prompt:
So my girlfriend and I can’t see each other in person so we’ve been doing video chats during dinner and stuff like that. We have a words with friends game going and also she’ll sometimes play me at chess online. The thing is with chess is she’s one of those chess nuts who spends a ton of time practicing and reading moves and stuff. I mean it’s good for her and what she enjoys sure. But it’s not terribly fun for me, because I only know the rules, never practiced, don’t know what a queens gambit is or any of the other ridiculous move sets chess wizzes memorize. I lose completely and totally every time. She doesn’t go easy on me, so I could just press random buttons and do about as well as I do now.

Today I declined her invite to a game and texted her that I’d rather not play chess anymore. She immediately called me a sore loser and asked if I was just scared I’m going to lose. I responded that I’m not scared, I know I’m going to lose and it’s not fun.

She said “aw is the little baby going to cry”. I just didn’t respond to that and didn’t talk to her until dinner. When I called she was mad that I never responded to her. I said she was being rude and it was better that I not respond than she see what my response would have been.

She got mad again and said she’s not the one that declined “bonding time” because I’m afraid of losing. I again said I’m not afraid, but playing a game where moving randomly and trying to win yields the same result isn’t fun. She said it’s because I’m bad that happens, and I just hung up.

She blew up my phone with texts saying that it was rude to hang up in the middle of a conversation. But the way she’s acting is like if I arm wrestled her and when I won I ripped my shirt off and poured Gatorade all over myself. Or if I played basketball with her and then posted her up and dunked every possession.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Why is she your girlfriend if she belittles you this much? She can't be enjoying your chess games for any reason other than that she's kicking your ass. I guess she really likes making it clear how much better than you she is, and when deprived of that opportunity she throws a fit. ######


Prompt:
I (24M) still live at home, I'm aiming to move out within the next two years.

My sister (18F)  usually lives with my dad but has been spending more time with us, shes been with her boyfriend for 3 years, I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2.

My mother is obsessed with the idea of having a grandchild, she wont stop talking about it with me and my girlfriend but we dont want children.

So, she turned the "joke"  onto my sister.

She brings it up every chance she can.

We were eating dinner last night when my mother once again said "so when are you giving me a grandson *sisters name*?"

This wouldn't be a problem if she wasnt sending my sisters childrens names and if she was joking, she tries to pass it off as a joke but we can tell shes being serious.

My sister genuinely feels pressured, she doesnt have a backbone though so wont complain.

I snapped at my mother and told her to back tf off, she isnt getting a grandchild from either of us anytime soon and maybe she should focus on parenting her son (10) instead of this BS.

She didnt react but later on we heard her crying about it to our dad.

My father texted me and my sister telling us if we cant take a joke and will be disrespectful we both know where the door is and can leave at anytime, and that we are assholes for being oversesnsitve and that I could've let my sister deal with it (she really doesnt like arguments)

AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Why is it that some parents feel it’s okay to bully their children into reproducing?

Keep your foot down on this one OP. ######


Prompt:
My roomate and I aren't the most well off people but I like to save a bit of cash and buy the good stuff. Butter instead of margerine, fresh instead of packaged. It's like the ONE thing I splurge on to try and be healthy.

I asked if it was cool to have our own shelves in the fridge since we often buy similar things and it's easy to forget who's is who's. Also because he used this as a frequent excuse as to why he ate my things. (He will EVENTUALLY replace it but it's always the unhealthy cheap version, not what I actually bought. He agreed.

He keeps putting his stuff on my shelf, and then eating my food saying he "forgot" and that he thought it was his. I reminded him multiple times mentioning "hey man, I'm not rich, I can't feed us both :p " he laughs and agrees.

So the other day a bunch of my stuff was missing again and a bunch of his stuff was on my shelf (probably a prepped setup for the "oh I mistaken the items since it's all mixed!" Excuse) .

Instead of bringing it up I just ate the things he put on my shelf. And he got really upset saying he can't afford that.

I feel bad now, but at the time it felt justified. To be clear I'm not against sharing my stuff, but to be *asked* would be nice. Plus I like my own space to be able to see what I still have / what I need etc. I don't know if I'm overreacting because it's JUST a shelf, but I'm a broke student and it seems like a good way to keep track of my stuff.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA. Why is it fine for him to eat your food, but the second the shoes on the other foot he packs a sad? This will hopefully teach him some boundaries! ######


Prompt:
I know how I might be wrong. Calling my wife out  in public, adhering to a sexist stereotype, etc. I know hoe she might be in the wrong, lying and adhering to a sexist stereotype.

So, let’s start the story. Yesterday, a couple of my friends, my wife and I were video chatting. Casually, someone asked who was the breadwinner in our relationship. She full on lies and says that she’s the breadwinner. I think she expected for me to say nothing. I just mentioned that she was lying and that I actually earned more than her

The thing is I wouldn’t’ve cared if she didn’t answer or if she said that was sexist. I honestly wouldn’t’ve. But she falsely said that she did earn more than me. That’s entirely wrong, I earn more than twice than she does.

My wife is pretty mad and won’t talk to me because “I called her out” and “I was being a sexy(st) jerk”

So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. Why is her friend asking about her finances and why is she lying about them? ######


Prompt:
Last summer, I signed a one-year lease on a three-bedroom apartment along with two of my friends. All was well for two weeks until one of these friends accepted a job offer in another city and wanted out of the lease.

Myself and the other friend managed to find another temporary roommate for 8 months but this temporary roommate is now returning home. The friend who bailed on us, whose name is still on the lease (but whose rent was essentially being covered by the temporary roommate) is now claiming he is unable to pay his share of the rent and wants us to pay for him until the lease is up. He has not spoken to me directly but has been pleading with the other friend to a great extent and just tonight, this other friend called me a “bitch” for not having empathy for this guy who bailed. She feels that her and I should indeed cover his rent until the lease is up.

We are looking for another roommate to circumvent this problem but, in the meantime, AITA for taking the stance that neither of us is responsible for his share of the rent? ######

Response: NTA. Why is he not sympathetic for your side? He caused the problem, it's his problem, he should be solving the problem. ######


Prompt:
Hi, I had to get this off of my chest because I’m still stewing about it. This happened yesterday.

My state is slowly lifting covid sanctions so my parents decided to drag me and my brother to a plant nursery. Afterward, we stopped by my parents’ friend’s house to drop off some trees we had bought for them. We were only supposed to stay for five minutes but parents never mean it when they say that.

For context, I’m in my twenties and I am lucky enough to live with my parents so I can aggressively pay off my student loans. I have a full time job that is about 14 hours a day and an hour commute one way. I’m writing this before work. So since I get up at 3am and have a long day ahead of me, I’m very strict with my sleep and aim to go to bed around 8pm. If I get less than 7 hours, I crash in the middle of the day.

Basically what it boils down to is my parents were having a great time shooting the shit and getting drunk and I was anxious about everything I had to do the night before work. So when it got to be 6pm and they had been telling me we were leaving soon for the last two hours, and they were pouring more wine I said “please, no more wine, can we go home?”

This turned into a whole thing and I almost called an Uber but they ended up getting motivated to leave at around 6:30. So all the way home, for 30 minutes, I got lectured about how selfish I am and how I can’t make sacrifices for my family. I was so angry because the argument made no sense to me. Yeah, I do think my sleep is more important than you getting drunk with friends, do that on your own time without dragging me and my brother along. And I don’t care that you haven’t seen your friends in months, we’re in a pandemic, no one has seen their friends. But apparently I embarrassed them, ruined the mood, and need to relax about work.

So tell me reddit, which one of us is overreacting? ######

Response: NTA. Why drag you along and leave you no way to get back when you have to work the next day? They could have dropped you off and returned, rather than keeping you stranded there *for hours*. ######


Prompt:
So me and a friend rent an apartment together. Her mom recently just came to stay for a little bit because her water is off in her house. Recently I found out that her mom has been using my things.

For example: My spray on deodorant, toothpaste, bodywash, shampoo, towels, loofah, etc.
 It grossed me out because I don't know this woman very well and I'm not comfortable with the idea of her using my things. I wasnt trying to start any conflict, so I kindly asked my roommate to buy her mom some of her own stuff to use.

Her response was that since I let her use my stuff sometimes, I should let her mom as well. Plus apparently her mom likes my stuff better since it's more expensive. We went back and forth for a bit until she finally gave in and said she'd tell her mom to stop.

The final straw came when I went into the bathroom yesterday morning and her mom was using my curling iron. After that, I moved all the stuff I paid for into my room. My roommate confronted me, saying her mom was upset because none of the stuff she used was there anymore. I told her until her mom can  buy her own stuff to use, I wont be putting any of mine back in the bathroom. We havent talked since.

Was I being too rash with my decision? Or selfish? ######

Response: NTA. Why does she not have her own stuff to use? That is just weird. ######


Prompt:
I (16f) found out a few days ago from doing an ancestry kit that my dad isn’t my real dad . That wouldn’t have bothered me that much but it turns out that my biological father was my mother’s ex boyfriend who my mum cheated on with my dad.

Bio dad didn’t know my mum was pregnant until after I was born as she ended it with him when he found out about the affair. She told him he wasn’t the father. She refused to do a dna test because her parents preferred her new boyfriend and I’m pretty sure she tried to get a restraining order.

Aita for getting angry at my mum after my aunt told me the story ? ######

Response: NTA. Why do parents even lie about this stuff? It's only going to lead to drama down the line... ######


Prompt:
My f17, Brother in law m37,
He has been violating my privacy lately, :going into my room without my premission, taking my phone without premission, he's been all around bossy and asshole.
When he found out about me posting about him online, he said he'd tell on me to my sister, but he didn't.
After what happened I set a password on my phone, didn't get the chance to get a lock for my door yet.

Today, He was snooping around looking for something, I didn't know what it was cause i didn't ask.

I just secretly followed him, while video recording to show to my sister that he's been walking into my room/taking my stuff without premission.

My door was half open, he walked in and started looking around my desk.
He went through half my drawers.
Mumbling something.

Anyways, I got closer, I basically stood near the door to get this on camera, he turned around and caught me and asked what I was doing.

I told him to get out of my room right then, he walked up to me, snatched my phone and saw That I was video recording him.
He asked "what is this? You're posting a video about me online?"

I told him"no, give me back my phone" he said that this is what it is, and that just cause he let the "shit talking" about him on the internet go, doesn't mean I can go far as to post videos online, he said he was gonna tell my sister this time, and my parents to about this behavior.
I deleted the video quickly, so that he won't have proof and went out to my friend's place.

I'm super worried, he'd make up some story about me doing this to post it online, I was just trying to get proof of him going into my room where he shouldn't. ######

Response:
 NTA. Why did you delete the video? You WANTED proof of what he was doing, right?

The antidote to lies is not fear, it is the truth. ######


Prompt:
I was a vegetarian for 3 years, and since been a vegan short over 3 years. My old sister a vegetarian for around 6 years and my youngest sister a vegetarian for around 4 years.

My parents are divorced and my sisters and I live with my dad and see my mom probably once a week. My dad has been a vegetarian for as long as I know, probably since I was 8, around 12 years but mom still eats meat (which is completely fine).

My youngest sister and I were going to my moms cottage for a week and she meal prepped us some veggie meals to bring because the meals she was planning to eat throughout the week all had meat. Probably on our third or fourth day at the cottage, my mom was making chili for dinner. My sister and I both assumed that my mother was preparing us the meal prepped chili she made us, which she told us she was. As we began eating it, we saw and tasted ground beef. We confronted her causing a huge fight to break out. Since then we haven’t talked to my mom, it’s been about 3 weeks. ######

Response: NTA. Why are people like this, it’s not cute. ######


Prompt:
So I sometimes make desserts, majority cakes, but I haven’t really been able to do so in the past few months because of school and work. However, because of the things currently going on in the world, I’m not working at the moment so I’ve had a lot of free time recently. Just two weeks ago, I was finishing decorating a two tier cake i had made when my cousin suddenly showed up at my house. She was instantly amazed at the cake i just made and starting making comments  like “hurry up and finish so i can post it on my Instagram.” Well, when I finished she proceeded to take a picture and post it. After that my family and I all ate the cake together and called it a day. Well apparently after she posted the picture, one of her friends responded to it asking if i would be able to make a cake for her sons birthday, which is today. The thing is my cousin not only didn’t ask me before saying yes, but she also didn’t let me know of this whole situation until 9a.m this morning! The boy’s “party” started at 3 today and I absolutely refused to make the cake after my cousin called me frantic on the phone claiming she forgot to tell me. Well because of this the boy didn’t have a cake for his birthday today and my cousin went around telling the whole family I refused to make a cake for a little boy, making me look like the bad guy.

AITA for not making the cake? ######

Response: NTA. Who volunteers somebody else’s time without even talking to them? And then your cousin has the nerve to badmouth you about it? The level of entitlement here is insane. Your cousin should have realized she messed up not asking you before, and went and bought a cake to fix her own mess. ######


Prompt:
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My brother decided to propose and had me help pick it out. We decided to get her one with a middle stone that was 2.5 carats, with a baguette on each side that was about 1 carat each. Brother proposed she said yes but she was upset, saying she expected a bigger ring since he makes enough to buy her 5k ring, and that she can't handle him acting cheap all the time. He was really upset about this because this ring cost about 40k and was amazing clarity, colour etc. and he researched it excessively and made sure that it was the exact design ring she wanted. He called me and got mad at me because I was the one who said he should get the main stone to be 2.5k because bigger than that looks a little tacky and showy. I told him that this is probably God waving a red flag and giving him a chance to get out. I told him that someone who can't appreciate that 40k (esp since thats how much she makes a year), is a lot to spend on a ring. She didn't care about how hard he tried to please her, just about the money. He thought it over and agreed and broke it off. She called me after he asked her to move out and told me I was a meddling bitch and my brother will never get married when his family is so nosey. I asked my friends about it and they agreed, they said that you only get one engagement ring and she should get the ring she wants. So reddit AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA. Who the hell turns their nose up at a 40k ring? Shit. If anything she should have protested that he spent that much!

You just saved him some heartache. ######


Prompt:
My dad’s friend, “Carla,” recently lost her appartement due to the virus. We had a spare bedroom so my dad asked me (16m) and his girlfriend if Carla could move in and we both said sure. No one had any symptoms but just in case we disinfected the whole house before and after she moved in and she took a shower as soon as she walked in.

At first Carla was really polite and she even bought us gifts for allowing her to stay with us, but after a few days she got kinda pushy. At 10 she would try and tell me to go to bed, even though I don’t have a bed time I just need to be in my room relaxing by 11. Every so often she would barge into my room and demand that I clean it. I admit that my room isn’t the cleanest but most of the mess is just art supplies because I work better in (reasonable) chaos and eventually I do clean up. She also kept demanding that I shower everyday when I’ve explained to her that I can’t do more then every other day because I have dry and sensitive skin and every soap I’ve tried irritates my skin, even the ones marketed to sensitive skin, but she refuses to listen. I’m not a confrontational person so I was just being passive aggressive with her and hoping she would pick up on it. She didn’t.

The thing that made me snap though was when she started calling herself my mother figure. My mom hasn’t always been in the picture (she got involved with drugs) but she’s been trying. Yesterday Carla said she considered herself to be my mom and wanted to treat me like her son, despite only knowing me for a few weeks, when I told her I have a mom she laughed and said I shouldn’t count on her. I don’t remember exactly what I said because I was so angry but I remember calling her a bitch and telling her to fuck off.

My dad scolded me for cussing at a person and says I should’ve talked to her about it before blowing up and that I owe her an apology but I don’t think I need to. I’ll accept my judgement though and apologize if I’m in the wrong. ######

Response: NTA. Who tf does Carla think she is? ######


Prompt:
This guy I worked with asked for a ride home after our shift, we both live in the same town, so I said sure. He said after work he had to get somethings at a store close by.

work ends we get in my car and I needed to stop for gas. I get to the gas station and fill my tank, I paid by CC at the pump. After I am done filling my tank I hit the yes button for a receipt and the machine says must go inside for one. I go inside and get my receipt.

I get back in the car and I drive to the store, when I get to the store the co-worker gets out and says he will be a few minutes. After a few minutes of waiting I notice my cup holder of loose changes is empty. I am pissed and think who does he think he is to steal from me after I was doing him a favor. I think screw him, he can find his own way home and I drive off.

Next day at work he confronts me and calls me an asshole for ditching him like that cause he had to wait five hours to get picked up. I say to him, hope the five hour wait was worth the three dollars in change he stole from me.

He ends up telling all our co-workers I ditched him for stealing three dollars from me. The co-workers all gave me crap for it so I ended up quitting the job a week later.

I really don't think I did anything wrong. ######

Response: NTA. Who steals from someone doing them a favor? Assholes, that's who. ######


Prompt:
This is another of those super low stakes situations that we both find hilarious but also feel so correct on.

Several years ago (yes years), I was toasting myself a bagel. I asked my wife in the other room if she would like one and she said yes. So I made two. I asked her what she would like on her bagel. She said jam. I put jam on her bagel and brought it. She thought it was disgusting.

The important caveat is that it was an "everything" bagel (with seeds and such). This was the only type of bagel we had at the time. She feels that I should have questioned her choice of jam topping. I feel that if the bagel type was required information to decide her topping then she should have asked. At the time it wasn't a thought out malicious compliance, I just wasn't second guessing her... but given the chance I would totally do it again maliciously.

This is affectionately referred to as "the bagel incident" ######

Response:
 NTA. Who knew? I like jam on an everything bagel haha, so frankly my mind is being opened as we speak.

Edit: how on earth did this comment get so many upvotes haha ######


Prompt: My MIL (mother in law) is coming in 2 weeks and staying with us for 2 days while she visits the Eye Hospital...which I was completely fine with. However, she called today and wants to bring 3 of the grandchildren and extend her stay for 4 nights. We already have a 15 month old and 2 children from my husband's previous marriage that we will also have the same week. My husband is stoked but I'm not so keen. AITA for saying no? ######

Response: NTA. Who is supposed to watch the extra kids while MIL is visiting the hospital? Unless the answer is your husband than the other kids can visit another time. ######


Prompt:
So me and a friend rent an apartment together. Her mom recently just came to stay for a little bit because her water is off in her house. Recently I found out that her mom has been using my things.

For example: My spray on deodorant, toothpaste, bodywash, shampoo, towels, loofah, etc.
 It grossed me out because I don't know this woman very well and I'm not comfortable with the idea of her using my things. I wasnt trying to start any conflict, so I kindly asked my roommate to buy her mom some of her own stuff to use.

Her response was that since I let her use my stuff sometimes, I should let her mom as well. Plus apparently her mom likes my stuff better since it's more expensive. We went back and forth for a bit until she finally gave in and said she'd tell her mom to stop.

The final straw came when I went into the bathroom yesterday morning and her mom was using my curling iron. After that, I moved all the stuff I paid for into my room. My roommate confronted me, saying her mom was upset because none of the stuff she used was there anymore. I told her until her mom can  buy her own stuff to use, I wont be putting any of mine back in the bathroom. We havent talked since.

Was I being too rash with my decision? Or selfish? ######

Response: NTA. Who in their right mind uses someone else's towel and loofah?! 🤢 ######


Prompt:
Me and my husband are trying for a baby right now and his parents know about it. They told my sister in law I guess, we don’t have a bad relationship even tho we live far away, we still talk. She called me and brought up the baby topic, asked me if we were really trying and I told her yes. She asked “why now? There’s a huge pandemic going on and it’s kinda selfish bringing baby into all of this mess”, I told her that we have been trying for months already. She sarcastically asked why couldn’t we wait for a year or two and why was having a baby right now so fucking important. I just told her to kind her own business and hung up.

Of course 2 days later there’s a post on her Facebook about “selfish people not caring about anything other than their stupid wants and needs.” She told her parents about it too and they’re telling me that I was a bit too harsh and I need to apologize. ######

Response: NTA. Who does she think she is to tell you when you can have YOUR baby? Smh some people. ######


Prompt:
my partner when they were younger had issues with some older men saying they hoped they shaved their genitals. My partner mentioned something today about how bare female genitals make them uncomfy and said anyone who wants to be with someone who shaves is a creep. I asked what purpose pubic hair served, cause I honestly didnt know, guess its hygenic or somethin' cool. My partner then began to say people shouldnt shave, and it was weird if they did. I argued that if someone wants to do something to themselves like shave they can, its the individuals choice.

This was a bad thing to say. I was being accused of supporting something very gross and accused of being one. I denied and tried to clarify that i simply supported ones choice over their own hair situation and nothing beyond that. This went back and forth for a good while. And my partner asked if i would prefer if they shaved, to which i responded "I dont care, its your choice."

Again the wrong move. I am now disgusting and dont love my partner. They asked why i didnt stand with them on this, i told them it was because theyre advovating for social norms to be that we tell people to NOT shave instead of letting them make their own choice. As of this moment in time thats where we stand.

AITA for not siding with my partner, even though I disagree with what theyre saying? ######

Response: NTA. While I understand your partners troubles you are not obligated to stand with them. Also I agree that wether you shave or not isn’t anyone’s business but your own. Of course people can have preferences but it remains your choice. ######


Prompt:
I imagine this is going to be a bit of an ESH, but here's the context:

I have a nonbinary coworker, I'll call Ash, who unfortunately had their deadname printed on our weekly schedule for the first few weeks of their employment. They made it very clear to everyone they don't like to be referred to by it, and go by they/them pronouns. I myself am trans (though not entirely out at work), so I'm pretty sensitive to people using the wrong name/pronouns for someone.

Another coworker (Jessica) thought it was a great joke to annoy Ash by referring to them as their deadname and the wrong pronouns. Ash, as well as some others, had asked her to stop multiple times, she didn't. I got fed up, and started referring to Jessica as he/him and by the wrong name. She was visibly annoyed whenever I did it, but nothing ever came of it and she has since been fired for unrelated reasons.

Thining back on it, I do feel kinda shitty about it as one of my positions is that a person doesn't need to *earn* the right to be referred to by the correct name/pronoun, and I feel like I compromised my ethics on this. ######

Response: NTA. While I get why you feel guilty about it, it was done to prove a point. And sometimes things like this are the only thing bigots understand. Good for you for standing up! ######


Prompt:
My sister been addicted to drugs for about 3 years now, she’s addicted to Heroin and Fentanyl and just start using something called Purple down.

She has down a lot of awful things to get her fixed, like steal money from her family and sell her body, she claims now that she got everything under control which I don’t really believe.

Recently I found out that her soon to be husband doesn’t know that she’s an addict, My sister was acting odd when I brought up the monthly cost of it, she nervously laughed and said “you’re such a weirdo talking about that, are you into drugs now” so when her husband left I asked about it and she confessed that he doesn’t know I got super angry at her and told her she needs to tell him especially when you guys are trying for a baby and she said “I got everything under control so he doesn’t need to know” I got so upset that I left because I knew I couldn’t have at productive conversation at that time

A week later, I called my sister and tried to convince her that she should tell her fiancé about her drug problem and she said “I can’t do that, I will get off them soon” and when I asked her if she was gonna go to rehab she said “no” I then asked if she not going to rehab then how will you get off them and she claimed she was gonna do it by herself

Now I heard her claim she was gonna get off the drugs by herself for 2 years now so at this point I was frustrated and decided to call her fiancé and tell him, he was super upset and hurt that she didn’t tell him sooner but my sister was super Angry at me and threatened to disown me and never let me see my future nieces and nephews

AITA for telling my sister Fiancé ######

Response: NTA. While I dont think rehab is always the solution for addiction, if your sister has been telling you she will quit on her own for this long, it's time for her to face facts and get some help. If her fiance has been blind to her addiction for this long, you did the right thing telling him. It wouldn't be right to let her string him along like that. She may be angry now, but you have to remember that it's not her, it's the addiction. ######


Prompt:
We had a staff meeting via zoom few hours ago.

One of our coworkers was in the “protests” and was joining the meeting from there, I tried to ignore the loud noises behind him.

Then in the middle of the meeting, he turned off the front camera and switched it to the back camera and started streaming what was going on behind him in the protest.

I told him this was very unprofessional and he will be getting into big trouble and let’s hope he doesn’t lose his job for what he did and then kicked him out.

AITA reddit? ######

Response: NTA. Whether you agree with the protests or not it's extremely inappropriate to join a meeting in the middle of one. ######


Prompt:
A couple days ago my wife mentioned that our daughter wanting her ears pierced for her upcoming 7th birthday.

I was caught by surprised with this conversation as my daughter had gotten her ears pierced just the year before. My wife proceeded to clarify that our daughter wanted 3 piercings in each earlobe like herself. What surprised me even more that my wife mentioned that she had already told our daughter she would take her to get them done for her birthday.

I explained to my wife that I did not think it was a good idea for our daughter to have that many piercings so young. My wife disagreed and said she doesn't understand how it is different to getting the first holes which I was o.k with. She said that if I did not want our daughter to get them done then I would have to be the one to tell her no given she doesn't want to rescind on her gift.

I was not pleased with the move my wife pulled and don't see why I have to be the bad guy in all of this by being the one to tell our daughter she can't get her ears pierced when in my opinion it shouldn't have been agreed in the first place. AITA here for saying no or is my reaction warranted? ######

Response: NTA. Whether or not a 7-year old should have three piercings in each ear isn’t really the issue here. Your wife made a parenting decision, and communicated that decision to a child (thus raising her hopes for her birthday fun) without consulting you first for discussion. So you get no say, and then have to be the bad guy. Lose-lose on your end and a bit messed up. Change up the conversation with your wife to focus on the fact that you weren’t consulted on your child’s birthday wishes, and that you should be making decisions regarding your child’s body together. That’s the crux of the issue here. ######


Prompt:
So two weeks ago, my husband asked my opinion on cosigning a loan for his sister. I told him that honestly, I didn't like the idea at all and to please not do it, for consideration of our financial future.
His sister had her last car impounded twice for whatever reasons. The prior one to that, she wrecked and was then sued by the finance company for the remainder of the note. She's constantly asking him for money, all the while she has yet to ever pay him back.
She called last week and told me that he had, in fact, cosigned for her. Not only that, but it was a new enough car, she would be getting some sort of rebate check that one of us needed to take to her. I told her if she wanted it, that she was apparently free to drive herself to our house to get it.
I then confronted my husband and asked why he did ask my opinion if it didn't matter. His response was to tell me that he thought I would be okay with it, and when I wasn't, he thought I would get over it. AITA for being upset that he completely disregarded how I felt about this whole thing? ######

Response: NTA. When you’re married financial decisions should be made together. He asked your opinion and you gave it, then he co-signed the loan anyway, knowing that she has a poor payment history. ######


Prompt:
To preface this I'm 23 (m) and she's 20 (f), I quit smoking cigarettes for her when we started dating 2 years ago. That was a deal breaker for her and I respected that and chose her over my vice. Fast forward 2 years and now she's coming into her own and finding herself and wants to "go wild instead of being responsible" (her words). She started vaping with nicotine and sneaking alcohol into her parents house and wants to experience all types of drugs and not have restraints or feel obligated to not do stuff because of someone, which is likely me and her parents. We live in Tennessee which has harsh drug laws and I'm staunchly against drug use, which I've made clear.

I told her that her starting vaping upset me because of the stink she made about me smoking and telling me to quit, which I did. I told her about my experiences being addicted to nicotine and how I don't want to see her go through that. She says by all means start smoking again because it wouldn't be fair. However I think she helped me by taking that stand and it really pains me to see her start an addiction (which she admits shes addicted) especially to something that is supposed to help smokers quit. She said sorry, but blew me off. I didn't tell her to quit I just told her how I felt. I've also told her that doing drugs is a deal breaker for me to which she didn't really respond. I've just pretty much told her to do what she wants at this point and whatever happens, happens. I don't want to be the controlling guy or tell her what to do. But deep down I want her to choose me. Am I the asshole in this situation. ######

Response: NTA. When you’re in a relationship, you’re entitled to expressing your feelings on issues like this. If it’s a dealbreaker for you, so be it. ######


Prompt: Hey everyone, I’m a 22 yo girl living in Florida with my parents. I’m the oldest of 3. My parents are very strict asian parents. Lately, my mental health has been slipping from the current events. I find happiness with taking long drives, walking around parks, and being outside in nature. I do so with safety precautions (mask and such). My parents have always made it a rule to announce when and where we are going when we leave the house. Lately, they have been prohibiting me from trying to leave the house. I practically have to fight, scream, and shout to go to a park or drive myself to the grocery store and buy fruits. If I say that I am going anyway, they yell at me, call me names like slut, stupid, bitch. I told them that I wanted to find a job so I can pay my bills and save enough to move out. I’ve sort of rebelled by coming back home in the early mornings for the past few days. They threaten to kick me out for not doing what they want. I’m getting so tired of this. I don’t have a job right now(laid off from covid), but I’m trying to look for one just so I can save enough to move out. My mental health is just plummeting. I have been thinking of joining the army in a few months. They also told me not to go. AITA for all of this? ######

Response:
 NTA. When you have strict parents, sometimes the *only* way to live your *own* life is to go low/no contact.

They’ll only get stricter, since you’re no longer a child that they legally have control over.

They’re gonna get stricter because they have to convince you, an adult, that their word is law. ######


Prompt:
For context : My brother and sister in law have a one year old. I have a one and a half year old.  I am a stay at home mom. My husband is doing online nursing classes and the majority of his time is filled with studying. My sister in law is working from home since the lock down (she has a desk job that is primarily done on the computer) and my brother has been staying home for the most part to watch the baby. He still works, but his hours have been cut dramatically.

Today I get a text from my brother asking if I can watch my nephew for an hour at the most while my sister in law works at home. He has a mandatory work meeting he must attend. To me, an hour doesn’t seem like a significant amount of time to watch a toddler and do your work.  Lots of people do it on a daily basis. She mainly looks at spreadsheets all day. I used to work along side her so I know what her job entails more or less. Annoyed, I indicated I thought an hour was silly, but that I would watch my nephew if he dropped him off at my house. My brothers route to work requires him to pass right by house anyways. I do not receive a response.

Befor long, my mother calls to tell me my sister in law is throwing a fit and will not allow my brother to drop my nephew off at my house.  My brother was fine with it, but she is not. She wants me to come to their house. As a result, my brother misses his mandatory work meeting so that he can stay home and watch the baby while she works from home.

My mom said she feels bad for my brother and since he is family I probably should have just gone over there. My sister in law has always been a very selfish my-way-or-the-highway type of person and I feel I should not have to accommodate her every request. If she really needed me, I offered to watch him at my own house alongside my own child.

So reddit, AITA? ######

Response: NTA. When someone asks you for a favor it is on your terms. Why should you pack up your own kid twice to watch her kid while she sits right there?  Doesn't even make sense. ######


Prompt:
 ***Happened in October and recently came up in conversation***

I made a reservation at a nice restaurant for my anniversary. Our reservation was for 8:30 p.m. but the hostess said they were running a little behind. After 20 minutes of waiting, a couple walked in behind us and asked for a table. They didn’t have reservations and the hostess said they were looking at a 45-minute wait. The couple stood behind us discussing options, then five minutes later the hostess said our table was ready. The woman pointed out that she was seven months pregnant and would really appreciate if she could sit before us. I said no because we had a reservation and they did not, then suggested two places across the street that always have seats available. The couple was visibly annoyed and said something under their breath about how rude I was.

Had they made a reservation I would have gladly switched so they could sit a few minutes early, but they were basically asking for our reservation. We were looking at having to wait another 45 minutes.

There were multiple restaurants in the area so there were options. There was also bar seating available and they could have gotten food there. ######

Response: NTA. When I was pregnant I wouldn't have asked someone to give up a reservation. I wouldn't have expected special treatment for something like that... I don't think I even made a big deal about needing a seat in crowded places. ######


Prompt:
So to start with, me (20F) and a guy (19M) we'll call him kai, have been dating for a few weeks, but friends for well over a year. Not a full relationship but definitely on the path. For context I've always interpreted the saying "dont threaten me with a good time" as a sarcastic way of saying "that wouldn't be so bad". It isnt only sexual, it can be used in a sarcastic way. If I'm wrong please correct me. So me and kai were on the phone (quarentine and all), and I was referencing a conversation from earlier. I'll paraphrase said conversation, it was with my mum and dad.

MUM - *makes sex joke*

ME- ewww

DAD - well if me and *mum* didnt have sex you wouldnt be here

ME - dont threaten me with a good time (joking that I didnt exist it would be brill)

Kai then proceeds to say that I made a sexual advance on my dad? When I say that's disgusting and explain my understanding of the saying, nd that it was in no way sexual, he hangs up and now isnt talking to me. I dont know if I over reacted by being disgusted, or if my understanding of the saying is wrong. Am I the asshole for being angry at his understanding? Is he the asshole for still hanging up after I explained what I mean? :( ######

Response: NTA. When I read this, I laughed because I knew you were saying that "Don't threaten me with not being on this earth because I'd gladly take it!". Comedy gold. I can understand the shock value, and him wanting clarification, but after explaining your interpretation and he still hangs up, is a bit childish. You're obviously not making a sexual advance on your father. ######


Prompt:
So yesterday was my boyfriend's birthday and we had a small lunch celebration with his family. My boyfriend doesn't like chocolate cake while his family and I love it. He likes ube cake, which no one else in his family likes. So I decided to bake two cakes, a larger 10 inch chocolate cake for me and his family and a smaller 6 inch ube cake since he's the only one who's going to eat it.

He didn't say anything when his family was there but after they left he told me that he felt like I cared more about his family than making him feel special on his birthday because the main cake was something that they liked and not what he liked. He also said that for his birthday it wouldn't have hurt for all of us to eat ube cake since we know that it's what he likes instead of making him feel like the odd one out.

I was just trying to please everyone since I knew that his family doesn't like ube cake and they like chocolate cake instead. And I think it was a good compromise to have a smaller lemon cake for him so he can still enjoy the cake he likes while the rest of us eat the cake we like. AITA? ######

Response: NTA. When I read the title, I thought you ONLY made a cake he wouldn’t like. But you didn’t—you went to the extra effort of making a dessert you knew he liked, and another that you knew others would enjoy as well. I would never expect people to eat food they expressly disliked on my birthday, it’s honestly pretty immature. ######


Prompt:
So this literally just happened and I personally don't feel I am the asshole but apparently According to everyone else I am.

So here's the story.

My brother has 3 kids all under the age of 5. They have had head lice atleast 4 times, this time I think makes the 5th time they've had it.

We ALL know EXACTLY where it comes from but my brother and his gf refuse to stop sending their kids over there because this is the only person who will baby sit all 3 kids for cheap.

When the 3 youngest kids got head lice the last time me and my mom spent HOURS trying pick their heads clean because they were 2yrs old, hand no idea what was going on, fought, screamed, cried, and we're over all miserable.

After that time I swore I would never do it again because it's so freaking easy for them to prevent their kids getting lice and why should me and my mom be the ones who have to do the clean up of their mess.

Literally EVERY SINGLE TIME they've gotten lice, everyone BUT my brother and his gf have done the clean up. They have never had to do it themselves.

This time was the first time they ever had to, and the rushed it. Because they rushed it they did not get all the lice and the day care called them saying they need to check their heads again.

My mom and brother asked me to come help. I said No. I don't feel is should have to because they finally need to clean up their own damn mess.

But apparently now I'm a bitch because I don't want to and I should help them because my brothers GF is at work and he's the only one working on them.

Tldr: my brothers kids always get lice because they keep sending them back to the source. I refuse to help clear the kids heads because my bro and his gf have never had to do the clean up and I think they should do it on their own. ######

Response:
 NTA. What. The. Fuck.

They're assholes for sending their kids to head-lice place.

They're assholes for making someone else clean up.

They're assholes for thinking you're an asshole for not cleaning up for them.

They're mega assholes for sending their kids to head-lice place more than once.

God this is making me angry. Who sends their kids to a place they know has head lice? ######


Prompt:
My nearly 12yo daughter has developed an interest all things beauty related. She is constantly going on about changing her hair colour, getting her nails done, makeup and even piercings.

At first I was accommodating to her wanting to experiment with her appearance. I allowed her to get blonde highlights done, bought her nail polish and also took her to get her ears pierced on a few occasions. She now has 4 holes on each lobe and any further will be cartilage.

 Unfortunately it seems that whatever I allow is never enough. My daughter constantly nags to dye her hair bright colours and wants even more piercings. Not just on her ears but also nose. I have reached my limits and am now saying no. The main reason is that I feel like I am being taken for a ride but also I heard that one of the other parent's at my daughter's school make a comment about my daughter being a bad influence and should put my foot down.

Unfortunately saying no has resulted in tantrums and constant nagging. It got so bad that I actually took away her makeup, nail polish and told her no more piercings until she is 18.

Am I being unreasonable here? Part of me thinks is justified but my daughter seems to think I am a total ass hole for this. ######

Response:
 NTA. What you’re doing is parenting and it is your job not to give in to all your daughter’s demands, particularly when they permanently affect her body. You’ve already allowed her to get away with a lot (as is your right) but now you’ve given her a boundary, you need to stick to it.

And who knows, when she is 18 or older, she may regret what she did at 12. You are (IMO) correct to stop her from having more piercings etc right now.

Edited: clarification ######


Prompt:
For the first time in ages (because of corona) me and my girlfriend went to a VERY nice fancy restaurant. This is important because normally I woudn’t make a fuss but since the food was so nice and very expensive i made an exception.

We go to the restaurant (she is driving). When get there they are about to close, they say we can’t dine, but we can take food away. We order similarly 1 starter, 1 main each. We split the bill 50/50.

We take the food to the car and while she is leaving the car park i check they got our order right. Her starter and main are there. But only my starter is their and my main is missing. I tell her they got the order wrong, while checking to see if they charged for us for the missing main: they did.

I ask her to go back and get my main. Keep in mind we are 1 min drive away from restaurant. Yet she said she can’t be bothered and i should deal with it. We argued for about a minute and then i said ‘ ok but then i get half your main’. She said no and i gave up.

Then when we got home she went for a shower. So i eat my starter and half her main. When she found out she got annoyed and told me to leave her house.  I said ok fine, it is late anyway.

Next morning she text ‘how am i going to make it up to her’.

So aita and should i have to make it up to her? ######

Response: NTA. What the hell, she just wanted you to not have dinner because she couldn't be bothered to turn around? And now she's mad at YOU? Is this a major anomaly or is she always this awful and selfish? ######


Prompt:
30 years ago my grandfather dug a well. It supplies our home and has a pump to supply water to a mini water tower thing to give our homes water pressure.

Another person built a house nearby and there was an agreement for them to plumb into our fresh water supply for limited domestic use: Cooking, cleaning, toilets etc. This agreement has stood for 10 years without any problems.

So what's been going wrong?

The house next door was sold.

It's now starting to get hot. So the next door neighbour has been filling a swimming pool. I don't see a problem with this. What I do see a problem is they fill the pool and drain it EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Based on my calculations they're wasting close to 400,000 litres of water every single day.

When I told them they can't waste water like this. They told me to f*** myself because the water is free and nobody owns it.

So I gave them a warning showing that the water supply belonged to us and it wasn't free at all. I was told to f*** off again. I watched as they filled their pool again AND drained it again.

I simply turned off their turned off the valve supplying their home which is on our land. They now have no water whatsoever as they tried to fill their pool again this morning.

They're now complaining and whining about not having any water. I told them they can get a tanker to come and fill their pool and supply them.

AITA about this? ######

Response: NTA. What the heck is the point of filling and emptying the pool? Is this some pool maintenance strategy I’m not aware of? ######


Prompt:
My (34f) husband (33m) has terrible allergies. This time of year his nose is always running. This is not his fault. However, what he uses to blow his nose blows -my- mind. Bathroom and hand towels (his and mine), kitchen towels, shirts, my sweaters, socks (both clean and used)- anything. And on top of this, he leaves whatever he’s been using laying around because he might need it again later.
After a few nasty surprises and a few instances of having nothing to dry my hands with in the kitchen, I bought him a big pack of handkerchiefs from Amazon, and a big pack of new dish towels. I asked him if he could please just use the new handkerchiefs and the -old- dish towels and spare the other household fabrics, and put the designated nose-blowers in their own spot.
He snapped “You know you can wash all of this stuff right??” and implied I’m being judgy and making him feel bad just because he has allergies. This feels crazy to me but.... AITA? ######

Response: NTA. What the fuck? Seriously? Wipe your nose in a hanky or a tissue and literally nothing else why did you even need to ask this question? Your husband is disgusting. ######