Prompt:
Just to note - I'm a 3rd year paramedic student (in my country it's a 4 year degree). Not that it really makes a lot of difference here though.

I have a friend who's been constantly complaining for roughly 2 months now about feeling horribly sick. I believe her, especially within the past week she's looked sick. When asked about symptoms, it's all pretty vague - nonspecific generalized lower abdominal pain, malaise, intermittent fever, headache, etc.

It's every day she's complaining about being sick, and she refuses to go to the doctor because of the current events. I've just been letting her complain to me, and it's pretty annoying. I believe her, it's just overwhelming to hear all the time. It's only 10AM, and she's already started - so I told her to either go to the doctor or stop complaining to everyone. She's angry.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA: there are online appointments she could make with doctors, and i think nthat what you said is reasonable ######


Prompt:
My fiance and I have been together for almost 3 years, we got engaged 3 days before I found out I was pregnant.

He wanted me to get an abortion or give the baby up for adoption because he said we weren't ready.

I said I wasn't comfortable doing that as I knew I wouldn't be able to live with myself.

I wasn't supposed to be able to have children so getting rid of what I see as a miracle would destroy me.

I told my fiance that he could leave, sign of his rights if he wanted to, I wouldnt hold it against him and I wouldn't go after him for child support or anything.

He had been on and off again supportive but never left. Our son is 2 months old and my fiance snaps at him, says rude things to him, etc because "he's a baby and he won't remember it" but there's a lot of anger towards the baby.

I don't want my son to be raised in a household where there's resentment and I feel like that's how it will be.

So am I the asshole for keeping my son which is causing turmoil within my fiance and for my son to be raised with a father who shows the resentment? ######

Response: NTA: That is your son. In terms of importance, your son comes first. He is your direct responsibility. It seems your fiance didn't want children and that's in his right to feel that way. Have you spoken to your fiance about his behavior? Maybe he feels trapped in the relationship or doesn't like that he is no longer your one and only. Your son deserves a family full of love, even if that family doesn't include your fiance. Stay strong 💖 ######


Prompt:
So a bit of a back story I'm a 16 year old Male and was extremely close to my aunt.

So today as of writing this my family and I were informed of my aunts will. She was a business owner and very wealthy so obviously she had lots of assets like houses, cars and many other things.

Her two main countries for trading in was spain and England, now after reading the will she has entrusted me with all the assets in spain (Villa and two other properties) and her children were not happy to say the least... they've been threatening to take legal action and what not and I pretty much responded with go ahead.

They've now told everyone In my family that I'm a greedy asshole for not relinquishing the property to them.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA: She wanted you to have it. Her children need to respect that.  It sounds like they are the greedy ones. ######


Prompt:
Hello there! I'm a very friendly person and I'll chat with anyone and I always keep things light, casual, and non-committal because I love my space and privacy.

I logged into Facebook after YEARS off and decided to join my neighborhood community group of homeowners. Afterwards, a few of my neighbors requested to add me as a friend. I had no problem with that.

We would casually chat over posts and comments, nothing ever more serious than 'Star Wars is awesome!', etc.

A neighbor who had requested me posted something about minimalism and I commented that I used to live in a tiny home and how great it was. She mentioned she and her husband did, too and we both have Huskies so we LOL'd online about how much vacuuming we have to do.

She then immediately sends me a private message (1st time she comminutes privately) and says:

'Please don't message on my personal Facebook page like you know me.'
'I have never met you in my entire life'
'You have a lot of audacity or you're just rally (sic) lonely'

I replied back 'I've obviously upset and offended you and that wasn't my intention. I'm going to unfriend you now'.

She replied back 'I already unfriended you' and I replied 'Thanks' and that was that.

I'm so baffled. I have a bit of social anxiety and I would hate to make someone feel uncomfortable. I ended up deactivating my Facebook and making my Instagram and Twitter private.

AITA here? I'm not sure what I did to elicit such a reaction from a neighbor. ######

Response: NTA: she friended you, you commented on her post- nothing at all warranting someone to get upset. My gut is telling me she has a jealous and controlling husband. Are you an attractive guy? I wouldn’t be surprised if the husband was the one who messaged. ######


Prompt:
My ex wife and I got divorced because she was cheating on me. We had one child, my daughter who is now 3. We got the divorce finalized in January and she voluntarily gave me full custody.

We haven’t been in contact since. I didn’t block her because I wasn’t planning on preventing her from being part of my daughters life if she changed her mind. Today she texted me that it would have been nice to hear from me for Mother’s Day. I responded that she’s not really a mother, she just gave birth. She got pissed off and she blocked me. I feel like I perhaps shouldn’t have said that and I went too far, but at the same time she cheated and I don’t really feel bad.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA: she chose to leave and she chose not to be a mother...she just donated her eggs to you pretty much. Soldier on and raise your daughter to be the best she can be ######


Prompt:
I own a very successful restaurant chain in my area, which I am the founder, owner, and CEO of.

I named the restaurant after my two children, and we are very well known across several states.

Problem is, years after I launched the restaurant, I had a third child.

Now that my last child has gotten older, they've realized that they are not included in the name of the restaurant.

It's also worth mentioning that this restaurant is one that school kids, as well as college kids, and adults, often frequent. PLUS, it is providing ALL of my children college tuition, as well as a little extra along the way.

Back to the gist of the story...

My last child is all of a sudden up in arms and demanding I change the name of the restaurant so that the name will include them, too.

I refused.

We have been a staple amongst the locals across several states for MANY years. They know us. They know our name. If we change now, it will only cause problems and confusion.

Worth noting again***

To make up for this, I have named several dishes on my menu after my third child so that they no longer feel excluded.

So, AITA for not renaming my old, well known restaurant after my third child? ######

Response: NTA: naming some dishes was an appropriate response. ######


Prompt:
I’m gonna keep this short because I’m getting madder by the second.

So me and my boyfriend plan to move in together after New Years. We both live at home with our families right now and we’re just too old for this and need our privacy. The big problem per the title is that his high school age sister has a dog that she got last year. Now I advised them that she shouldn’t get a dog because she’s always out with friends and will be going to college in 2 years anyways and won’t be able to take him since she’ll be so busy.

Now fast forward to now and he’s telling me in-a-matter-of-fact way that he is going to take over the dog when she leaves for college next year, when we will be living together. I do not want a dog. I don’t want to pay the deposit on having a dog at the apartment. I have had a dog my entire life and I know they cost time and money that we won’t have. Mostly him because he works long hours and all the responsibilities will fall on me. Neither of them are experienced pet owners. He’s a big dog, which I had from experience and I loved them but it kinda sucks. He’s also loud every time someone moves. I’m mad. I’m mad that this was just decided upon and I’m supposed to go along with it. I want to tell him that I don’t want to live with him if he’s bringing this dog that was never my responsibility to begin with. Is that rude?

Like I get it’s his sister’s dog and he doesn’t want the dog to be alone but there’s 3 more people in the house who can take care of him, who currently take care of him! He just volunteered! ######

Response: NTA: It is very mature of you to place firm boundaries about not wanting to take in a big dog. You know that he won’t be able to take care of the dog, and you don’t want to. So you are being mature by not allowing the dog to move in. Just insure you have a mature sit down and don’t make it into an argument. ######


Prompt:
For context : My brother and sister in law have a one year old. I have a one and a half year old.  I am a stay at home mom. My husband is doing online nursing classes and the majority of his time is filled with studying. My sister in law is working from home since the lock down (she has a desk job that is primarily done on the computer) and my brother has been staying home for the most part to watch the baby. He still works, but his hours have been cut dramatically.

Today I get a text from my brother asking if I can watch my nephew for an hour at the most while my sister in law works at home. He has a mandatory work meeting he must attend. To me, an hour doesn’t seem like a significant amount of time to watch a toddler and do your work.  Lots of people do it on a daily basis. She mainly looks at spreadsheets all day. I used to work along side her so I know what her job entails more or less. Annoyed, I indicated I thought an hour was silly, but that I would watch my nephew if he dropped him off at my house. My brothers route to work requires him to pass right by house anyways. I do not receive a response.

Befor long, my mother calls to tell me my sister in law is throwing a fit and will not allow my brother to drop my nephew off at my house.  My brother was fine with it, but she is not. She wants me to come to their house. As a result, my brother misses his mandatory work meeting so that he can stay home and watch the baby while she works from home.

My mom said she feels bad for my brother and since he is family I probably should have just gone over there. My sister in law has always been a very selfish my-way-or-the-highway type of person and I feel I should not have to accommodate her every request. If she really needed me, I offered to watch him at my own house alongside my own child.

So reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA: In the immortal words of Samuel L. Jackson. Stay the fuck at home.

That means you and your sisters family stay away from each other. ######


Prompt:
Girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, living together for 2, she's 20F and I'm 21F

From what I've been told she was raised in a household where it was very "waste not want not"(?) And anything that so much as touched your plate got ate, no matter how full you are.

My girlfriend lives by that, she physically can't help it, I once watched her eat an entire plate of food, despite saying she was full less than half way and then be sick and continue to eat because she didnt want food wasted.

She has been getting counselling for the last 3-4 months but progress takes time.

Her mother recently came to visit us, we told her the issue and what we're doing is very small plates.

So, she insists on cooking and dishing up and every time it's been huge plates.

Her argument is that my girlfriend is an adult, obviously true, but she can't help it.

We've talked and argued several times.

I had enough and asked her to leave, she left after arguing about how my girlfriends an adult etc.

My girlfriend is fine with it, she never had a relationship with her mother anyway.

My mother said I was an AH and said that MIL was right, we should've set boundaries and not let her cook and I shouldn't have been involved.

We tried not to let her cook and it didnt work.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA: If her mother cant respect your wishes in your own home, she is TA and needs to go. Period. ######


Prompt:
So I (F/22) at the moment live with my family. Sadly our apartment isn't huge so I'm sharing a room with my brother (18), always had. Now this might sound childish from my perspective, but it is what it is and I can't take it anymore. He pretty much has a routine - almost every day goes to sleep at around 10pm and wakes up at 7am. I usually go to bed at around midnight and sleep at least until 9am. When he wakes up, he doesn't care about anything else but himself. He opens up the curtains to the fullest (so that the light could come in); opens and closes drawers with a bang; when leaving the room, literally smashes the door; sometimes he even plays the dang music. Basically it's like there's no one else in the room. The proper way would be to just tell him, right? Tried before. He literally says: "I don't fkin care, maybe it's time to sleep less".
Now when I go to sleep (which is later than him) and he's already asleep, I literally try my best to be as silent as possible (I don't even know why I do this anymore). I could be turning on this small table lamp (so I could see things in the dark) and he'll literally start complaining. I thought about doing this thing where I act like I don't care either and when I go to sleep, I could just do the same things he does, so that he knows what it feels like. The only problem is that I don't like being mean, I'm not the type of person. Literally feel like I would be the asshole here, would I?
Also it triggers me even more considering I suffer from insomnia and I'm lucky enough if I fall asleep at like 6am and get to sleep for 3 hours. From yesterday literally started sleeping on the couch in another room... ######

Response: NTA: Id first tell your parents your plan. Maybe they can tell him its THEIR house and you both get to use it with regards to other people. But yeah its not that mean to give him a taste of his own medicine. ######


Prompt:
I used to go to a gym nearby and that closed down. I got some stuff on Amazon and have a pretty decent home gym. I have had some of my former gym members come by and use my place. I have them use it one at a time and wipe things down after they leave.

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There is this girl call her Karlee. Karlee a while back told some other people that I and some other guys at the gym were checking her out. And just to paint the picture she is not at all attractive and pretty overweight. I never checked her out nor stared too long. I think she honestly said it just to get attention.

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When she asked if she could drop by I told her, that I don't feel comfortable with having more people at my house. She started begging me, if she could only come Sunday mornings. I told her no, then next day she starts messaging me again if I have reconsidered. Flat out I don't want her in my house someone that is this much trouble at my gym will only cause more trouble in my dwelling. She thinks of me as an a-hole. ######

Response: NTA: I'd straight up tell her that the remarks made you uncomfortable and you wouldn't feel comfortable being alone with someone who felt that way about you. ######


Prompt: 2 weeks ago my wife was facing covid symptoms, she tested negitive about a week or so ago. One of her oldest friends was hosting about a 20 person party for her gender reveal. I told her we shouldn't go because she got over covid and I never had it. We would be break state curfue and social distance. I told her to simply call her the next day and say what happened and talk to her. Am I the asshole for not letting my wife see her friend's during this pandemic? ######

Response: NTA: I don't like the phrasing "not letting her go" but the sentiment is right. This woman needs to sit her behind at home during this pandemic.  People like her friend are not doing their part to help society fight the various. There is a reason that these restriction are in place, ######


Prompt:
My husband is an avid computer gamer - mostly WoW-type games. Approximately five nights of the week, he'll play games online from the time that our son goes to bed at 8:00 or 8:30 to about 12:30, so at least four continuous hours. That in itself is not at all an issue for our relationship. He spends plenty of time with me and our son, and I have my own hobbies that he isn't interested in that I engage in when he's online.

A few nights ago I was doing laundry while he was playing online, and I stepped on a toy that my son had left on the basement stairs. I fell pretty hard and dropped the basket. Luckily because of the way my weight was shifted I fell backwards rather than forwards, resulting in a bruise on my butt but I was otherwise fine. The laundry basket clattered down the stairs, ricocheted off some basement furniture, shot laundry everywhere. It was a huge racket. It woke up my son. My husband, who had his headphones on, heard literally nothing.

It dawned on me that if something really bad happened to me, my husband wouldn't know about it for potentially four hours - like what if I broke my leg falling down the stairs? So I asked if he would be willing, for my peace of mind, to just pop out of his office at the mid-point each night just to check on me. Like literally, just say hi and go back to gaming. He thinks this is a huge overreaction and a waste of time. I know for a fact that he isn't actively playing the entire time and he sometimes takes breaks to go to the bathroom or get a snack or whatever, so how is this different? AITA? ######

Response: NTA: I do it all the time for my wife, don’t see why he can’t. ######


Prompt:
I (10 M cat) was sleeping very comfortably in my owners' (36 M, 31 F) bed with them one evening when I suddenly had the urge to swat the guy with my paw a number of times and tickle him with my tail. For some reason he didn't take kindly to this, so he kicked me out of the bed, as he does many nights. He's a very mean person in this respect.

So I naturally then just do my thing. Fifteen minutes later my owners' son (3 M) comes into their bed asking if he can sleep with them. The guy tells him he doesn't think it's early morning yet, and starts to help the kid back to bed, when he notices the kid is covered in pee. Naturally he thinks it was a bedtime accident, and so takes him to the bathroom to change his pajamas, give him a bath, and gently explain that he should be more careful about going to the bathroom before bedtime, but it's ok. The kid for some reason doesn't take kindly to second bath at 2AM with really bright lights  while half-asleep, hearing about bathroom time yet again, and is very upset. After calming him down, the guy takes the kid to the couch so he could change the sheets....when he discovered there's no way the kiddo could have made such a big mess, and it clicked why the underwear wasn't even that wet.

I'll own up to it: it was me. I peed in the kids bed. I was just so angry at being kicked out of their bed! But all of this could have been avoided if he just ignored my pawing and tickling, and let me have like a third of the bed to myself with him as a toy. Really, it's on him.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA: he’s a tenant in your home and can live by your rules ######


Prompt:
I owned a really, really nice 2 door, droptop sports car when we were first together. My boyfriend has kids. I don’t. I never wanted kids but, they come along with him, so I have indulged in step-parenthood and spend time with them playing, doing sports, homework, look after them when they’re sick, surprise them with random nice things, talk to them about girl issues and life. He pays the child maintenance but I obviously spend money on the food and drink when they are here as well as a lot over birthdays and Christmas. I feel I give a lot to them.

My car was a manual. He only drives automatic. He has always pushed me to sell my car and get a 4 seater so I can also use my car for the kids. And automatic for convenience so we can both drive each other’s cars if needs be. I held firm.

BUT In the 3rd year if our relationship my boyfriend lost his job.

I sold my sexy 2 door sporty droptop to support us. It hurt and I felt I was losing a part of myself honestly but it had to be done.

We have since been carpool sharing his 4 seater little family car.

Now in our 4th year together we have had a small joint windfall. Both agree we should buy me a car.

* He wants me to get a reliable family car.
* No droptop.
* 4 seats minimum.
* Automatic so he can also drive.

In my heart I really want to have another sports car. Specifically the sexy 2 seater manual drive I had before. Only a much cheaper version.

I can probably compromise with a 4 door automatic droptop but in my price range they’re all so ugly compared to what I had and not really what I want.

AITA for being selfish and wanting my private fun car or should I be thinking of the whole family more?? ######

Response:
 NTA: edited to add a judgment

INFO what possessions of his did he sell when he became unemployed? And did he regularly leave the children in your care while going off to work/ with friends?

You sold your most prized possession to fully support him (and his kids, when he had custody of them), but it does not seem like he made the same sacrifices. It is clear you have already thought of the family and put them first, getting the kind of car you had before would just be making yourself “whole” again after the loss of your car. It sounds like he has been selfish this entire time.

I don’t understand why it is so necessary that he be able to drive your car in the first place, but if it is so important why won’t he learn how to drive a manual car? Instead you have to buy an automatic to accommodate him? And then since you’ve already accommodated him a little, now you must accommodate him more by having enough seats to fit his children in it as well!

You can drive his car, so if he wants you to drive him and his children around then you should be taking his car anyways. And he shouldn’t be leaving his children with you and going off elsewhere (other than a quick trip to the store or something), so he shouldn’t be able to pull the “in an emergency your car wouldn’t be able to fit both my kids.” It seems like he wants to set up a situation where he has ability to leave the kids with you and go elsewhere, giving you all the responsibility of looking after his own kids.

He clearly wants you to be taking on more responsibility for his children, which it is not okay that he has seemingly made this decision on his own. That should be a conversation between you two, rather then him nagging and making demands to buy the car of his choice. He does not get to unilaterally decide that you will be taking an active role in parenting his children. You knew he had children and agreed to stepmom role, but being the only person making sacrifices for the good of the family is decidedly outside of the scope of “stepmom” role. ######


Prompt:
I had to record a speech for an online course, and my newborn would not stop crying the entire time I tried filming the speech. So I picked her up and was pretty much holding her to my chest the entire time that I was filming. My s/o was at work and I had to get this video in, and the only way I could finish the filming was if I held my baby for the entire 10 minutes, or I’d have to hear her screaming in the background of my video. (And no I could not have someone come over and help me out, for obvious reasons).

Well when I uploaded the video, my classmates had to make comments on my body language and presentation of the speech that I was giving. All of the comments were saying that I was using my newborn for a better grade and that it was unfair to everyone else, how since I was holding her they wouldn’t be able to properly critique my speech, stuff like that. The comments didn’t necessarily bother me, it was more so how my professor reacted to my video.

She sort of reacted the same way as the students. She told me that I wasn’t being fair to my classmates and ended up giving me a zero on the assignment. I asked her if I could record it again when my s/o is off of work the next day, however at that point it would’ve already been late as she didn’t give us feedback until this morning which was 3 days past the due date. She isn’t giving me the option to re-do my speech because I apparently “took advantage” of having a newborn and tried to purposely use an advantage against my classmates to try and get a better grade.

Side note: all of my professors this semester were aware that I was going to have a baby a few weeks ago, as I informed them of my situation before the semester even begun. ######

Response: NTA: Contact your department chair and if they don't respond, the dean. This is getting into discrimination territory which they do not want on record if you were to go to the local paper or anything that would generate publicity. Also mention it on the end of year evaluations if your prof doesn't have tenure. ######


Prompt:
Sorry for the bad formatting, I’m on mobile.

Earlier today I wanted to get pizza, and was craving me some Papa John’s. So I ordered two large pepperoni and sausage pizzas, with a shitload of garlic bread and wings. The total order came out like $40 which doesn’t include tips.

Of course, when you’re ordering that much food in these unprecedented times, I figured it’d make sense to at least tip these workers risking their lives to simply deliver pizza. Takes a lot of guts to do that in my opinion.

Normally I would just give them cash, but because of everything going on I’d figure it would make more sense to just give them an online tip, so I generously gave the deliverer a $20 dollar tip.

It took over an hour for the pizza to get there, which was way longer than usual. When the delivery-woman showed up, she had this mean expression on her. I grabbed the food and asked her what was wrong.

She unloaded on me asking why I’m tipping her electronically. She was worried the government is gonna tax her now. She prefer getting tips the normal way because of that.

I explain her that was part of the reason (along with what’s going on) I gave her $20 dollars for a tip. She simply said that she would’ve preferred a $20 dollar bill and stormed off.

That shocked me for a bit. Not only did I not expect this from an employee on the clock, but I thought I was being generous with the tip

EDIT: For clarification the order wasn’t just for me. Didn’t mean to come off gluttonous ######

Response: NTA: a tip is a tip. Not everybody has cash on them. Every time I order online I normally tip that way. ######


Prompt:
I have a childhood friend, I don’t want to say she’s entitled but I suppose she is. She looks down on everyone she meets. Her way or no way.

Anyway, her birthday was a few days ago, and for the past few months she’s been asking me what I’m getting her for her birthday, and telling me what she wants. She also tells me the price range of what she wants cause she doesn’t want something “So cheap it hurts her eyes”.

Anyway, her birthday rolls around and since I’ve been extremely sick, and in the hospital, I couldn’t get her much. I got her an album of her favorite pop singer and a hoodie.

A few hours after my mom had brought it to her house, I get an angry call from her.

“Why didn’t you get what I asked for?! I didn’t want this at all! What’s wrong with you are you stupid?!”

“I’m sorry I couldn’t get much, I’ve been in the hospital.”

“Well that’s what AMAZON is for!”

I put Amazon in all caps, cause she screamed it extremely loud.

She hangs up and I haven’t heard of her since.

AITA? I feel bad. ######

Response: NTA; she needs to be kicked down a peg. ######


Prompt:
Our house has a weird layout. My bedroom is downstairs, general living space and the bathroom are upstairs. To get to the shower, I have to walk up the stairs and through the living room. Each time I have a shower, I wrap myself in a towel and walk through the living room to go downstairs. It’s a bath sheet, it covers everything down to my knees. The only thing really showing is my shoulders.  My Dad has said things a couple of times but I didn’t know it was a real issue. Today I was walking through the living room after my shower and he glared at me. I asked what was wrong and he said, “I guess I don’t have naked women in my house very often.” I said I wasn’t naked and I have worn dresses and other outfits more revealing than a towel. He just scoffed at me.

I can’t really get a bathrobe now. But too be honest I don’t really like them, and I don’t see why I should have to get one when a towel is really sufficient for a 5-sec walk through the living room. I never do it in front of company or anything. I guess I could get dressed in the bathroom but I like to lounge a bit and do skincare and hair care in my room before getting dressed.

AITA for doing this or is he the one overreacting? ######

Response: NTA; It’s really weird that your father is bothered by this. It’s almost creepy that he’s calling you a naked woman, when you’re his daughter in a towel. ######


Prompt:
So I’m a female (23)and my period pain has always been bad (I would pass out in those first few early ones or if I don’t take meds that work for me) BUT I learnt my lesson and now it’s not a walk in the park by any means but I manage.

My sister (20) REFUSES to take the same meds when her period starts, even though time and again we (my mom and I) have given them to her and they work.

This means that she does nothing to reduce her own pain until it gets to the point of vomiting and explosive diarrhea. Then cries that the pain is terrible and no one understands or cares. (We get up and help everytime )

At this point it’s to late to expect a quick turn around time on the meds so then it is crying and vomiting and pooping bonanza.

She does not seem to grasp that she could lesson her pain if she just listened to my mom and I and took the meds when the cramping begins.

Am I being to harsh? My mother feels that we should still be sympathetic every single time but I am over saying the same thing every month.

AITA for starting to lose my sense of compassion towards her and telling her she is on her own if she doesn’t want to try prevent this from happening in the future. Her and my mom are upset that I told her that this is the consequences of not listening and say I am not being compassionate. ######

Response: NTA; it's totally understandable that you are tired of helping take care of her, but it sounds like she needs serious medical help. I think you should encourage her to talk to her doctor - maybe frame it as "Look, it's really hard for me to see you be this sick." If she's unwilling to get help, or take pain meds, then you aren't on the hook for taking care of her. ######


Prompt:
Hiya reddit, this is a throwaway account.

I'm 25f and my younger (half) sister is 22f. She's supposed to be getting married in September if she doesn't have to reschedule the date.

I was at my step-mom (sister's mom) and dad's place this past weekend for father's day. My step-mom wanted to show me the "mother of the bride" dress she ordered that had just come in because she was so proud of how beautiful it was. The dress was white and lacy and floor length. It looked like a wedding dress to me. I told her as much and she waved it off saying how that tradition was old and didn't apply to moms anyways and my sister wouldn't mind.

I didn't think this was the case, and took a pic of the dress without my step-mom knowing and later that day sent it to my sister saying "this is what your mom plans on wearing to the wedding".

My sister said she DEFINITELY didn't approve that dress and ended up confronting her mom. Now my sister is upset with her mother, my step-mom is upset with me, and my dad is pissed I took a picture behind my step-mom's back AND he's mad at my step-mom for trying to go around my sister's wishes. Step-mom is also upset she has to return such a *beautiful* dress that cost like $300 or not be allowed in the wedding.

I was just trying to watch out for my little sister cause my step-mom has done shit like this before. AITA?

Edit: forgot to mention step-mom insisted he dress was off-white, not white. I know fuck all about dresses but I know off-white/eggshell/cream is just as inappropriate. ######

Response: NTA; if stepmom thought your sister wouldn't mind, she wouldn't have been so pissed about you showing your sister. ######


Prompt:
My SIL and BIL had a....quick romance. They started dating after a month of knowing each other, got engaged after 4 months of dating and got married a month after being engaged.

They'd planned on a year engagement but wanted to move in together. (Sex. They wanted to lose their virginity. Think Westboro Baptist 'Christian')

So, they announced that they were going to get married in a week via text message. They informed my parents in law that they would use their  back yard and insisted that we all pitch in to help.

So, my hubby and his parents took off work to clean and renovat a rather neglected back yard. I was able to cut my hours to help as well.

I sewed her dress and her maid of honor gown. If those had been commissioned gowns, they'd have been 1,500 or so USD each. I didn't charge her for my time or material.

My husband bought a few thousand dollar worth of material to build a dance floor, upgrade the porch and other stuff.

Their 6th anniversary is happening soon and we got a text from my SIL. She pointed out that money is tight right now(shouldn't be but see another post about that). She asked me to please send money for the anniversary and too send money that I forgot to send for their wedding gift.

I pointed out that the gowns and WEDDING was her gift. She texted back that a dress to be worn once was hardly a good wedding present and I was a bitch ######

Response: Nta; I sew. I deliberately wore my mom’s wedding dress so that I wouldn’t put anyone through more trouble than just the dry cleaning and a few tacks. Also sentimental value. If there’s any one out there who thinks that drafting and sewing a dress, especially a wedding dress, is easy...please go suck an egg. ######


Prompt:
I'm 19, living with my parents. I have a small part time job that gets me around $800 a month, I give my parents $400 a month for bills, food and miscellaneous things around the house. I pay for my car registration, fuel and any other bills that directly involve me. I try and save as much as I can, and they know that I have a savings account. My parents are now asking that I contribute more money every month. I told them that I already give them half of the money I get, but they say that I shouldn't be saving up when the money could be used. I don't mind giving them the amount I already give them, but I don't feel like I am willing to give up more than 50% of my wage.

Edit:

* I am currently attending university. ######

Response:
 NTA; $400 is more than reasonable. But they're asking for more? And you're in college?
Wait, who's paying your tuition? ######


Prompt:
I just moved to my current apartment about six months ago. It comes with its own covered parking behind the apartments which are all clearly labeled and it's common knowledge that covered parking at apartments is usually reserved.

To be honest, I hadn't used the reserved covered parking for the first two or three months because there are a lot of one way roads and I didn't have the time to try and find my way. Eventually I figured it out and started using my spot. Someone parked there once about two weeks after I started using it so I put a note that said "Please don't park here again. It's reserved." I was able to find other parking and that was it. Lately, though, it's happening more often. I leave a friendly note and go about my day.

Today, I'm pissed. I come home and my spot is taken again. I leave a note saying, "Please don't park here. Covered parking is reserved." My neighborhood is SO congested that there is almost literally nowhere else to legally park. Plus, I pay a stupid amount in rent so I should be able to have my own freaking spot. I grab my dog and we take off to the dog park for about two hours. I come back and the car is still there. The note isn't in the same spot so I know someone read it.

I've emailed my landlord about it and they just brushed it off saying "We're put of the office at 5. There's nothing we can do" but there are signs saying reserved parking your car will be towed.

So, my question. Would I be the asshole if I called to have the person towed who keeps parking in my spot? ######

Response: NTA,tow driver here, its in your lease and you pay for it. As long as its documented in the lease you can call almost any tow company that does private property impound, and theyll tow it away at the owners expense. They knew what they were doing when they did it. When they go to the office to pick up the car their going to say every excuse to get it free, so don't feel bad. ######


Prompt:
So my background was a picture of a dog that said "what the FUCK is oatmeal" by the way my background is one behind either a fingerprint, a 15 digit code, or a face lock so to see my background you would have to look over my shoulder whick is exactly what my stepsister did and then snitched about to my father who demanded I change it because it was "traumatizing and a bad influence for her (she's 10) (just for info I'm allowed to swear but they aren't) so my dad's pissed off at me and giving me the silent treatment because I changed it to a inspirobot quote that said "spy on individuals you don't know.
So AITA

EDIT: changed the background to chesquick (cheese milk) ######

Response:
 NTA,
I can already tell how entitled your sister feels because of her precious and impressional age. Best of luck with that mess of manipulation. ######


Prompt:
My eldest daughter is in her 20s with two kids. She lives about an hour away. I still have 3 kids at home, work a full time job, etc. I do see her and my grandkids (or did before the whole world shut down) but it’s not often. Before the shut down, my daughter and I got into a fight and we’re still at a loss.

Like I said, I have 3 kids at home and work. I know my daughter is stressed and I do talk to her often. If she asks me to take my grandkids and I can, I will. However, I rarely offer because I rarely have the time or the energy to offer. This became a huge issue. My daughter recently told me that I should offer to watch her kids more and she shouldn’t have to ask. She says that she’s tired of her kids seeming like burdens. I said they’re not, but I don’t have time to watch them often. She said “You’re they’re grandma, you should want to.” I said “Maybe before you had two kids, you should’ve thought about childcare.” She got really mad and our communication since has been spotty at best.

I standby that while I love my grandkids, I shouldn’t feel guilty that I can’t and don’t want to watch them in all my spare time. She says I should.  Am I the asshole here? ######

Response:
 NTA,

You do the crime, you do the time. ######


Prompt:
For my birthday I wanted to have dinner just with the two of us, no other family members were invited.

So on the night he picks me up and on our way to dinner we get a call from her. She has been out drinking with a friend and wants a ride. She could have asked her friend for a ride home or easily gotten a taxi as it wouldn't have cost much. She then over speaker phone starts saying I was the one who told you to call her (me) and make plans. My dad goes yeah but I was planning on ringing her anyway. She then starts saying about her kids (all of which are adults) that they wouldn't do that to him. Which is false because her kids did that many times when they started dating because they didn't like my dad.

So we arrive to pick her up and I am sitting in the front seat. She opens up the door and tells me to sit in the back. Nothing else was said like happy birthday or even hello. I didn't want to start an argument so I just moved to the backseat.

She then complains about how she told her friend she was out with that she was doing dinner with us and of course she couldn't then ask for a ride home.
This was untrue as he had let her know that it would just be the two of us. Then she turns to me and is all like so what's so wrong with me coming out to dinner with you guys. I repeat that I just want to spend time with my dad as we don't get to see each other very often. She then repeats about her kids and that it is super hurtful that we wouldn't invite her.

On the rest of the drive to drop her off she continues to try guilt us into letting her come with us. Luckily my dad refuses and says that she is not coming.

For context they have been together 3 years and it is a very rocky relationship. Neither myself or my brother (both adults) get on that great with her. She tolerates me but will not even talk about my brother and hates it when my dad talks about him. ######

Response:
 NTA,

You are not the asshole at all. Your dads partner sucks and I’m sorry she’s so annoying and tried to work her way into dinner plans like that.

Happy belated birthday!

I hope you had a good birthday despite the chaos ######


Prompt:
An old friend I knew from AA 15 years ago reached out  for money saying she and her husband were broke due to covid and she had already exhausted family and friends. I said I would paypal her 100 bucks. No problem.

When she got the money she then texted, thanks and by the way she was still “ bouncing” (a term meaning unable to stay clean/sober and her drugs of choice is opiates).

So of course I started texting her asking if she was ok and if she was using. I said don’t worry about the money, I just want to make sure you are ok!!!

No response.. i tried again later that night and twice the next day. No response.

I reached out to a mutual acquaintance who informed me she “got me” and was using and had almost died from an overdose last year.

I texted her one more time and said I was sending the police to do a wellness check if she didn’t respond. I was freaking out she was going to OD on money I gave her. No response.

I called the non emergency number for local police in her town and told them I was concerned about her. They asked why and I said she may have relapsed. I didn’t say on what.

So they went to her house and she was fine and then my phone blew up with indignation and threats and profanity. Blocked.

So..  AITA?? ######

Response:
 NTA,

This "friend" pretty clearly used your money for drugs, and is mad that they got caught. ######


Prompt:
Every since the age of like 16 my brother got REALLY rude and disgusting. Like I know boys can be messy but he takes it to an 11. He leaves empty boxes of food in the cupboard, he refuses to shower cause he KNOWS I hate his BO, he on purposefully brings his armpits to my nose for me to smell his nasty BO and some other stuff but those are the big ones. I fucking hate it and I tell him as such but he always says stuff like "can't take a joke sis?" "get over yourself" or "Your not in charge of me."

Hes disgusting and I hate being around him, he recently did something tho that I am even shocked by. He left a towel in the middle of my room..........BUT the towel had literal shit on it. I nearly threw up and I threw the whole towel away. I opened up a window in my room and smell is gone but thats just too far.

I went to confront him about this and all he could fucking do was laugh. (this is where I maybe the ass) I lost it and said "You are a disgusting fucking animal, can you not be a fucking dickhead for 1 day? Holy shit" I then slammed the door to his room. I didn't know but he was on the phone with mom and when she came home she took away his gaming consoles for a week for bothering me and I got 2 weeks without my phone cause I caused the fight. AITA? ######

Response:
 NTA,

Talk to your parents about this. And let him know that next time he leaves a towel like that in your room it will get rubbed  all over his gaming console and controllers.
See if he  still believes it to be funny then. ######


Prompt:
I have a new roommate in a share house. There's a few of us here, all young adults.

My new roommate wants to give music lessons to children and I said no.

I said no mainly because I am uncomfortable with having children at the house. This is a young adults share house where we all study and work. We are often home during the day, have boyfriends and girlfriend's over, have sex and so on.

It seems inappropriate to bring children into this environment.

I also have noise concerns, as the rest of us are often home during when these lessons would be, trying to study and relax.

But my main issue I don't really like kids, I don't think it's appropriate for kids to be around strange adults coming and going and I don't want kids hanging around my house.

AITA for saying no to the music lessons? ######

Response:
 NTA,

Parents will probably be uncomfortable with it too, imagine turning up to your 7 year olds music teachers house to find a bunch of other people roaming around, it would be strange and unprofessional.

Roommate is better going to the students houses to teach. ######


Prompt: my wife has been avoiding me for a couple months now. I thought it was stress. I lost my job, and was fully at home for nearly 3 weeks, and she started working more. Thing is, she would be 2-3 hours late coming home from work. One night, she didnt come home at all. I felt bad for her working so hard, so I made everything here as easy as possible while I looked for a new job. I ended up getting a new job fast enough that we didnt miss a paycheck, but she was still so distant, and still working extra. on my second day of work at the new job, she left for an errand the moment I got home. We have 2 daughters (1 and 2 1/2), so I went to get them from a nap, only to see my wifes ipad open, and receiving messages. some about me, but mostly about the guy shes been seeing for the last 2 weeks. I didnt mean to see them, but I couldnt look away, and she is furious at me for seeing them. I was served divorce papers yesterday, and have been getting messages from her friends saying that im the worst for reading those. Im thinking that if I hadnt seen them, I never would have known about the other guy, and her plan to take the kids to him. so, AITAH for reading my wifes messages? ######

Response: NTA, your wife is a cheater, a disloyal coward. Just get your ducks in a row for the legal proceedings and be done with her ######


Prompt:
Bit of context: my sister is abusive as all hell. She’s thrown me into walls and belittles me every chance she gets, and yet expects me to like her.

I got married in late July last year. My husband and I agreed to a family-and-closest-friends wedding almost immediately, since family alone was almost 50 people and it would be in his parents back yard. We also agreed that we didn’t want more than just the best man and maid of honor up there with us. I immediately asked my best friend to be my maid of honor. When I went to try on dresses it was just my mother, sister, and my husband’s sister as my best friend was out of town. On the way there, we were talking about the dress for my best friend. At this point I hadn’t even had a chance to tell my sister about the decision as this was only a week after getting engaged and I had been so busy. While talking about the styles my best friend had found for her dress, my sister asked “well is it going to look good on everyone?” which is when I had to tell her she wouldn’t be in the wedding. She was mad, which I understand. She was so cold to everyone during the dress appointment and only looked kind of happy when I found my dress. It made the whole thing really awkward. After that she wasn’t very involved in the planning. I offered for her to get ready with us on the day of the wedding and she refused and the day of she clearly wasn’t very happy and left without saying goodbye right after pictures were done. I got comments from a couple of people throughout the planning process that I should have had her in the wedding, but why would I want someone who has hurt me that badly up there with me? I keep questioning if I made the right choice. AITA for not wanting her up there? ######

Response: NTA, your wedding therefore it’s your decision. I understand that sisters are supposed to be MOH, but I’m sure there are exceptions for asshole sisters such as yours. Don’t feel bad, especially since you said she wasn’t very involved anyways and was sulking about the situation throughout the entire wedding process. ######


Prompt: My step mom has been my step mom since I’ve been 5. We have a decent relationship but it’s been rocky as of lately. I caught her purging after meals for the last few months. I don’t know if it began during quarantine or I just noticed because I’m always home. My step mom has always been critical of my weight and my half sisters. She criticized us for years, but since I was in sports and stuff I was always fit, I didn’t receive it as bad as my sisters. Last night, she screeched at my sister for eating past 8pm and called her fat and that she will never amount to anything because of her lack of “self control.” She started attacking me too because I defended my sister and called me piece of shit and that I looked like a man. I ended saying that she also doesn’t have self control because if she did, she wouldn’t need to throw up after she eats. That caused a big fight between us and my dad got involved and well, I’m in big shit now. ######

Response: NTA, your step-mom has her own mental health issues going on right now and it is manifesting as her trying to control everyones weight around her. It is her own food insecurities peeking out from behind the curtain. ######


Prompt:
I'm a guy. Me and my sister still live with our parents. My sister has a girlfriend. I woke at a store that sells a lot of clothes. I get really nice discounts on stuff I buy there. My sister's girlfriend asked me if I could buy a bra for her from there, and then she'd pay me back. Its a specific and fairly expensive kind of bra. She'd save money this way. I said sure and did it. Didn't think much of it.

After I mentioned buying it to my sister, she got very angry at me. Saying its super innapropriate and pervy. She even asked me if I was attracted to her girlfriend (I'm not). She even told me that if her gf ever wore it during sexy time it'd kill the mood since she'd think about me. Our mom is on my sister's side. My girlfriend and all my female friends said I did nothing wrong and my sister is overreacting. I really didn't have bad intentions. ######

Response:
 NTA, your sister seems to have insecurities about her relationship and is trying to make a mountain out of a molehill.

You did her gf a favour, which was a nice thing for you to do. (And bras are *expensive* so I understand her gf’s idea of asking you, she shouldn’t have to run it by your sister either - it’s just clothing). ######


Prompt:
(Sorry for any spelling mistakes, but english is not my mother tongue)

So... Our new neighbors that are from China have just moved to the flat in front of us and invited my family and I to have a wonderful dinner to get acquaintance and to eat some of their traditional food after my dad gave them a fruit basket as a “welcome-gift” with our local fruits... My sister didn’t went because “she doesn’t like asians, and its because of them that we have pollution, illnesses, and overpopulation”, and the typical racist speech of a closed minded person... once we ate dinner and had a good time, they gave us a dish called “mantou” with different shapes and forms... i recall one of them was with the shape of a flower and a piggy...! And also some Sake.... My mom, dad and I were so eager and happy to eat them the morning after and to share it with my sister...and my grandparents that were gonna visit us the day after...

Once we got home and told her what they gave us... She proceed to DROP THE DISHES AND THE DRINK IN THE TRASH...! Saying “oh. I dont want any of those things here in the house”, and a bunch of racial slurs i don’t wanna mention here... i got so mad and called her an entitled racist bitch. How dare she do that to people who she doesn’t even know and that’s giving us food as a gift...! Later my mom heard that and started to takes sides with my sister, that I shouldn’t have called her that and that “she haves her reasons”. We had a big argument after that and told me to “apologize” to my sister for what i said. But i told my mom that i am not apologizing until my sister personally apologized to our neighbors explaining what she did. Then my mom told me that i am a selfish brother, that i don’t care about my sisters feelings... so AITA?

Edit: no... we didn’t had this dinner meanwhile the  pand. emic happens, this dinner happened a month ago. While here in my country (ecuador) we were with zero cases of it.!! (Just explaining) ######

Response: NTA, your sister is racist and it sounds like she’s pretty set in her thinking. Because of that, I don’t think it’s right that she apologizes to your neighbors. Yes, she was extremely racist, but your neighbors just had a lovely meal with you and your parents. Putting your sister on their doorstep is a good way to make sure that never happens again, and it also puts their safety at risk since they’re on the defensive. Also, talk to your mother and try to have them see why they shouldn’t allow your sister to be racist in their home. ######


Prompt:
Last week my BIL was arrested for domestic assault. He is out pending a hearing and is at my house because he isnt allowed near his wife for minimum 30 days. All day he has been whining about it and I told him off. He got drunk and threw something at her head and pinned her against the wall. He deserves what he gets imho. I dont want him here as we should be helping his wife and kids at this point not him but my husband is a softy about his brother and begged me to let him stay. I'm angry that he thinks this is all inconveniencing him. Husband says in being a jerk about it but I think I'm being fairly nice all things considered.

So AITA for not being more hospitable? ######

Response: NTA, your SIL needs and deserves comfort more I'd say. ######


Prompt:
Hello fellow assholes, first off thank you for giving my some perspective on my previous post about me and my wife. It helped us start a conversation and reach a better position in our marriage.

My wives cousin let’s call her Sara wants to move in with us because she recently had her second baby and wants more room to raise her family. Both me and my wife were the first people to marry outside our races and we came from very different backgrounds. My wife is huge on family and I’m not so much.

My wives family has lived with us before her aunt lived with us lived with us for two years when she fell on hard times till she got a good job and moved out. Her other cousin lived with us for a year after getting out of prison until he also got a job and moved out, I was fine with all of this.

I am not ok with Sara moving in with us, Sara is a single mother of two kids who lives completely off government assistance, government housing, utilities, food stamps you name it. Tax dollars provide her entire life. She has been doing this for 7 years, has no job and does not intend to get one. I fully believe she just wants to live with us to have a bigger and better house and lifestyle. If she moves in she will never move out. She lives in low income New Jersey housing we live in a 6 bedroom in Minnesota.

She says he have the room and it’s our duty to help out family, I told her I’m not willing to help a grown woman who doesn’t want to help herself. So am I the asshole? ######

Response: NTA, your right in she has no interest of moving out ######


Prompt:
Long story short, my partner is not from my country, and recently went back to their to see their family. Since they didn't knew how long they would be gone, and how they would go back due to flight restrictions due to the Corona crisis, they asked if I would be okay to buy the ticket back, which they would refund later when they get their salary further down the month.
Of course I agreed, anything to help of course. I said I'd transfer them the necessary amount or buy the ticket myself if needed.
A week later the prices for the tickets gets down a little and they ask me if they can use my card, which I interpreted by just buying it for them. But no, they quite literally want me to send my credit card numbers through message so they can buy it themselves using my card.
That is, to me, a full stop no, reinforced by the fact that I've had recent hacking attempts on my account. Nothing too serious, just people trying to get into my emails, but enough to get me slightly paranoid and make delete my card off on most website I use.
I'm completely okay with buying the ticket, or sending the money, but they kept arguing that I didn't trust them, that I was paranoid, and that they wanted to do it the way they wanted. I do understand their point of view, they want to make sure they get back, but in my opinion, since I'm part of the help, I should have a say in how this is done, and I refuse to send those kind of informations through messages. It's quite literally the one thing people tell you not to do!
Now they are mad, telling me I lied when I said I wanted to help...
So, AITA? ######

Response: NTA, your partners behaviour is ungrateful and seems fishy to me ######


Prompt:
   I(16F) live with my parents and 11 siblings. I'm the 4th kid, and the ages range from 20 to 1. We live in a 4 bedroom house, but it is so cramped with everyone in bunks and no privacy. My parents also put most of the responsibility of the younger kids on us while they lay down and watch TV. True, they can have their breaks but they take them so often that I don't really get to be a teenager.
   Last night, after my mom told me to but J+A(3) to bed, I told her to do it herself as I need to study. She said that it is my responsibility as an older child. I lost my temper and told her that she can't take care of her 12 kids as it is, and that she should give up her dream of 15 children because she’s depriving the younger ones of a better life. AITA?
TL;DR My mom has 12 kids and wants 15, and I lost my temper and said that she shouldn’t have any more because she can’t take care of all of them as it is. ######

Response: NTA, your parents want 15 kids in a 4 bedroom house? What the fuck? ######


Prompt: When I was a baby my grandmother used to hand sew me a birthday dress every year, and a matching one for my favourite doll. The dresses were beautifully smocked and must have taken weeks to sew. It was a bit of a tradition. I’ve been keeping these dresses (left with my mother in my childhood home) for the last 30 odd years thinking that one day I’ll pass them down to my own daughter. Well today is my nieces first birthday and my mom sends me a picture of niece in my dress that I was keeping. I’m fuming! My mom doesn’t think it’s a big deal and refuses to apologise for giving it to her. She says she’ll get the dress back when my niece outgrows it. But I can’t help think that the dress will be torn or stained , and also it’s my dress that I’ve been keeping for my own child and I don’t want my niece to wear it. AITA? ######

Response: NTA, your mum should have asked - it's your property! Can you explain the situation to your niece's parents? If they're reasonable people then they will understand the sentimentality behind the dress. In the meantime, get the rest of the dresses from your mum's house before she can give any more away! ######


Prompt:
I (17f) have a variety of socks. They range from the regular knee high patterned ones, to knit socks, to old fashioned lace ones. I don’t collect them or anything, I just like having different kinds of socks. I live with my dad (56m), and he knows that I buy socks fairly regularly. He doesn’t have an issue with it.

Since the world went to shit, I’ve been stuck at my mom’s (52f). The other day, I was on amazon, and I got recommended these really nice looking socks, with little stars sewn on them, and lace along the top. I ordered them (with my own money) and they got here yesterday.

My mom found the box, and opened it before I even knew it arrived. She found them, and then came into my room and started screaming at me. She told me that I shouldn’t be buying stuff to wear during sex or something, and I was confused. Apparently the socks were actually stockings, which isn’t sexual in any way in my opinion, but my mom thought otherwise.

She told me I was being a slut for buying these things, and told me that she was going to look for any more “slutty clothing”, and proceeded to go through my clothes, throwing anything she deemed sexual out. This resulted in most of my clothing.

My crop tops, shorts, socks with any sort of lace on them, and underwear that wasn’t boy cut got thrown out, leaving me with very little clothing left. I called my dad and told him about it, Mom overheard and told me it was my fault for buying “sexy socks.”

AITA for buying “sexy socks”? ######

Response: NTA, your mum has some issues. If these are all clothes you have bought with your own money she has no business throwing them out ######


Prompt:
Follow up on my previous post[here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/di82hm/aita_told_moms_boyfriend_was_being_a_cnt/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)

Basically I (19m) got into a fight with my mums boyfriend after he berated me for disrespecting my mother for there being clothes pegs on the ground and it ended with him calling me a little asshole and me saying he’s being a c*nt. Realising this blowup would wreck my mums relationship I tried to apologise twice, one of those times in front of my mum to prove I was being sincere.

He broke up with my mother for the second time in a month over this and said they could get back together if she kicks me out of the house immediately. She called up her family and caused all this drama to try and kick me out and although most were sympathetic they said I should leave. So after my semester at uni finished last year I have left home and am living with a flat mate and my sister who’s relationship with my mum is also strained.

My mother never got together with her boyfriend and has met a new guy who is amazing and hates the last boyfriend for what he did.

My mum has pretended like she never kicked me out and we still see each other every week for dinner. She never apologised for choosing her boyfriend over me and it’s always bugged me knowing she doesn’t have my back. My relationship with her side of the family is pretty strained now and although I love my mum and tried to work things out with her it’s been 6 months since I left home and I still kind of resent her.

WIBTA if I cut her off? ######

Response:
 Nta, your mother is a grown woman and she made her choice and she was not in a abusive relationship she kick u out to be in one.
I got a shity mom a junkie mom who smoked all my savings when I was 14 when I was on the run last year u know who got my back my mom
For all her faults an pain she caused she got my back and I'm on low contact with her compared to your mom she is mother of the year. ######


Prompt:
My younger sister is expecting a baby girl despite the fact she and her husband have struggled with finances since 2009, when they got married. Anyway, she texted me saying that she needed a loan of $200 for something related to the unborn baby girl, and I, being a teacher on summer vacation, cannot afford that. My boyfriend is a surgeon, but I don't want to rely on him financially for something like this.

When I turned her down, she got really mad and was like "Okay, so you don't care about your niece then. I guess you do really want us to put her up for adoption." I was like "Well...sorry, but I have to look out for myself first." She hung up on me angrily, and then after that, my mom and siblings all got mad at me.

I questioned why THEY didn't help her out financially, and they said
"Oh we contributed too, and we thought you'd be willing to help them out." Like do they not understand I am a TEACHER? I don't make that much and just spent a ton of money on gifts for my boyfriend's daughter. AITA in this situation? ######

Response: NTA, your money your choice in this situation. You can't afford to which is understandable and it's not like you don't want to have a niece you just can't afford it. Unless she has done something of equal contribution and a similar situation towards you then I'mma gonna go with n.t.a. ######


Prompt:
I’m 15f. My mom is 35f. Before the pandemic started, my mom’s friend and her two kids (friend is 36f, kids are 12f and 14f) came to stay with us, and are still here.

The friend’s kids are annoying, which I can deal with, it’s not an issue. But they’re also using my hygienic things, like my razor, my special soaps/hair products that I bought for my hair and put my name on. They’ve also been drinking after me. And they got into my prescribed pain killers that I got last week, my iron supplements, my last pack of birth control, and the stash of snacks I keep in my false bottom drawer in my room. They are also harassing my cat and tearing tufts of his fur out. I told my mom about this, she didn’t seem to care.

My mom’s friend, their mom, has also been an issue. She’s been smoking weed in the basement, which wouldn’t be an issue except she smokes enough of it to cause the entire house to smell like it, and causes me not to be able to breathe. Mom’s friend goes out partying, gets drunk, and hangs out with my mom in her room pretty much 24/7. I’ve been sick and unable to keep food down this week, and I’ve been ignored by my mom because she’s hanging out with her friend. Mom’s friend is also helping her kids in eating pretty much everything in the fridge before I get a chance to get to it.

I told my mom we needed to have a serious talk yesterday, and made her sit down and talk to me. I told her what her friend’s kids were doing, and then I straight up told her that her friend was causing my legitimate distress because apparently her presence was enough to make my mom stop acknowledging my existence. My mom told me that I didn’t need to have this conversation with her, and that I was being a rude spoiled brat. She’s gone back to ignoring me, and I am still sick. AITA for telling my mom our guests are causing me problems? ######

Response: NTA, your mom needs to understand where her priorities are... may I suggest buying a lock for your bedroom, and stashing everything you dont want anyone else using, it might be a temporary fix :) ######


Prompt:
I know it’s a weird title, sorry. Also on mobile so layout might be strange.

So around a year ago I (M15) was diagnosed with Leukemia. Six months later and I was having a life saving bone marrow transplant. I was in the same room for a month, tired and sleeping 6 hours a day and 12 at night. I have now (almost) fully recovered but my muscles have a while to go before I am back to my fully fit self. I can walk and jump but I can’t run or joy without lots of effort and pain in my joints.

Anyway today I went on a dog walk with my mother (44) and my sister (12). My sister has a brain tumour, diagnosed just a few months after me. Unlucky, I know. She has to wear a splint on her leg and has extremely limited movement in her right arm and leg.

Halfway through the walk our dog, who’s an 18 week old puppy runs to see a dog. My mum is holding the lead and lets go, meaning our puppy can now run off to see the other dog. My mum has for some reason come out wearing sandals and therefore can’t run after him. She doesn’t even make the effort. She instantly looks back at me and yells ‘well run then!’ I say back: ‘I can’t!’ I give a desperate attempt to jog but it hurts too much to run. Our puppy at this point is simply wagging his tail 5 feet away and sniffing the other dog. Not moving anywhere. My mum walks up to him and grabs his lead, then looks back at me and says, ‘it’s like I have to babysit for you all the time. You can’t do anything by yourself. It’s like you’re a 5 year old.’ I can’t argue back because she hates being wrong. She doesn’t take a single bit of the blame even though she dropped the lead in the first place. AITA for not trying to run?

TL:DR I had to have a bone marrow transplant and stayed in a bed for ages, meaning it hurts lots to run. On a dog walk and mum let’s go of lead, expects me to run after dog. I try but can’t. She calls me a 5 year old and makes me feel embarrassed and like an asshole. AITA for not running after the dog? ######

Response: NTA, your mom is the AH. If she can’t handle taking care of a puppy and chasing it sometimes, you guys shouldn’t have a puppy. There’s no way you or your sister should need to chase down the dog, especially if you’re in pain like this. ######


Prompt:
I've recently turned 18 a few days ago btw.

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(I was \~13-16 at the time) I really love riding my bicycle, but i live in California where drivers are shit and I have been hit by a car twice while on my bike (Both of them drivers fault) The first time wasn't too bad but it hurt like a bitch, the second one was a bit more serious and i was covered in blood, had to use crutches for about 2 months, and cannot walk in a straight line without a lot of effort. Of course with that kind of shit you sue, and I was told we got \~$6k. I come from a poor single mother family and have never had more than $300 so I was really happy. For the past few years I've been told many many times that i would get all the money when i turned 18 so I have been anxiously waiting. I recently turned 18 so i asked my mom about when i would get it and she said she would give me "a little bit of it". I was very shocked and she isn't willing to even split it 50-50. If it was for bills or debts it would be a bit more understandable but she said she wants to buy herself a new car (Nothing wrong with her current car) and again I was shocked. Am I the asshole for wanting most or at least 50% of the money? ######

Response: NTA, your lawsuit, your money plus she promised to give it to you ######


Prompt: So it’s all pretty stupid but I thought I’d make a post since my family seems to wanna make it a big deal. Before the virus that shall not be named shut down everything I had two beautiful twin girls. The names I picked out I kept a secret until I announced their birth + gender. Both names are from characters I love and hold near and dear. The names are Azula (Avatar the last air bender) and Eclipsa (Star vs the forces of evil). I made a post about it and everything seemed fine until I got a message in the family group chat. My mother was livid that I’d name my girls after two villains whose names won’t “represent my daughters well” (I found out my brother told her who they were names after.) I told her that the names don’t define who they are. She didn’t respond but I come to find a long Facebook post about how I “doomed” my “sweet little angles” and how names have weight and will effect how they turn out. All the comments are relatives agreeing with her and how “people these days will name their kids anything”. I didn’t name my kids hotdog and cheese like I don’t get what’s so bad. Anyways I’ve just been getting a lot of “hate” if you will from my family. It’s making me genuinely wonder AITA for naming my kids after  two “villains” ######

Response: NTA, your kids names wont effect how they turn out as human beings. If you raise them right, they will become good people. ######


Prompt:
We've been married for 4 years (me:24F and 25M)
We have 2 kids 8M and 2F, since I got pregnant with our lil girl I had so many health issues I had to quit my job, so I kinda lost all my." Social life"
Every since we got together I never went out o just hang out with friends anymore, there was always an excuse, he likes to play soccer once in a while with his friends, and I was fine with it. He has his circle of friends and play computers games on a daily basis  with his friends online.

Two days ago I mentioned I wanted to go to a party when my 2 year old kid can stay with her grandma or with him ( she is breastfeeding still), he said no right away, he said I was not going to be able to go out if it wasn't with him, and that I don't have the need to be making any other friends if I have him, (FYI I don't drink or smoke, so going out is just to dance, music and get to know ppl), and that "there's NO WAY I will ever go out alone to a party, maybe a gym"

So today he says his friend invited him to play soccer on Wednesday and I said no, I'm not going to be taking care of the kids when I can't even go out on my own because you forbid it, he said "don't expect me to love you after this.
AITA  here? Really? ######

Response: NTA, your husband is controlling. It is not normal for a partner to forbid you going out without them. This is alienating behaviour (keeping you aware from friends) and is a sign of abuse. I hope someone else here can comment with resources to help you. Please keep yourself and your children safe. ######


Prompt:
Before everyone judges me as an asshole, let me give a little backstory.

My brother in law got me a pair of really awesome boots 3 Christmases ago. I loved them. However, he got me the wrong size. I literally could not fit my foot into them. I asked my husband to ask my brother in law if he could exchange the shoes for the right size...and it just never happened. This pair of shoes has been sitting in my garage for over 3 years now because my brother in law has said he just doesn't have the time or the receipt anymore to get the right size.

So, today, I sold them. Money has been really tight with both my husband and I laid off and not receiving unemployment/stimulus yet. I made a pretty profit too because they are high end shoes that have literally never been worn.

My husband is really angry at me for. Called me ungrateful and that I should be "ashamed of myself" for selling them. Even though now we will be able to pay the light bill and get a few groceries after selling these shoes.

So AITA? I do understand where my husband is coming from - they were a gift, even though I've never been able to wear the shoes. My own BIL told him to chill out when he called BIL up to tell him how "ungrateful" I am. I just didn't see a reason to keep a pair of shoes around that I am never going to wear. :/ ######

Response: NTA, your husband is being an A though. Understandable if the shoes were the right size and you just weren’t using them or if you hadn’t asked to get them changed. That’s now impossible so what else is there to do with them? Make sure your husband doesn’t see a penny of that cash if that’s how he feels about it ######


Prompt:
Edit: he also says he feels better and has more energy. I forgot to add this part.

Edit2: I'm his primary caretaker as well. I didn't think it important to mention earlier but he has dementia and does revert back to child like behavior at times.

My dad is 77 and has a whole slew of health problems. A good chunk of them relating to his poor diet. He primarily eats fast food and rarely eats vegetables. Every meal has to have meat in order for him to consider it a "real meal". He's allowed me to do grocery shopping for him and I've been buying him veggie nuggets, burgers, pork, etc. (Ex: morning star buffalo chik'n patties). He can't taste the difference and enjoys what I make him. I also blend a ton of veggies into pasta sauce and he can't tell he's eating healthier food. It's not entirely vegetarian though. When he wants to order out, I get him what he wants. I only give him veggie food when I'm cooking.

His recent dr appointments and blood tests have shown improvement in his health. My brother tells me I shouldn't do that and just let him eat what he wants, even if it's making him sick.

AITA for slipping my dad healthier alternatives and getting more veggies in his system? ######

Response: NTA, your good for helping your father and making his last bit of time on earth more comfortable. ######


Prompt: I 27(M) have been dating my girlfriend 24(F) for six months. I love wearing sweatpants when ever I can my favorite ones are my grey ones. Lately she started to ask me to change to a different color which I would brush off. Well yesterday she told me it was inappropriate to wear them outside the house. Now here where I might be the ass I told her since we were talking about things that bother us I told her not wearing a bra bothered me. She told me that that’s not the same and that it was The responsibility of men to not stare at her. I replied with it not my responsibility if woman want to stare at me. She got mad and left. So AITA? ######

Response: NTA, your girl has a nasty case of double standard. Continue wearing your grey sweatpants I guarantee you your average woman on the street isn't checking your package. ######


Prompt: I'm from the rural midwest and my girlfriend is from a highly popuated area in Australia. Growing up I always drank milk with nearly every meal and I never viewed it as strange until I met my girlfriend. She pointed out that drinking milk with certain meals (pizza, spaghetti, etc) is really gross to her and that I was gross for doing it. She argues that when we eat together that I should refrain from doing it and drink something else instead because she is disgusted by it. AITA for drinking milk with meals that I eat with her? ######

Response: NTA, your GF should get over herself. It's not like you pick your nose during meals, you are just drinking fuckn milk. ######


Prompt:
Okay so I made [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gw4w78/aita_for_blocking_my_dads_number_refusing_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) in here earlier, my cousin - who idolizes my dad - found it, asked if it was mine, and so I admitted to it. Which then led to him calling me an asshole and bringing up the time I tweeted a pic as a joke that ended up going viral.

It was a college grad pic, with me holding up a sign that said, “thanks mom you made this possible 2019,” and I captioned the tweet to say “~controversial grad pics to throw shade at my married, welder dad who said if I ‘really needed to go to college’ my single mom could pay for it~” and it went viral and was seen by a million and a half people.

I posted it in November and my dad never said anything about it, but my cousin just told me he told my dad when it happened and he was upset. But also go read through the other post because I think that will give you a better idea about what kind of person my dad is. ######

Response: NTA, your father is an absolute child. What you posted wasn't meant to poke jabs at him purposefully, he needs to take a joke. ######


Prompt:
Backstory my(23F) step father(59M) passed away over 2 years ago suddenly. Prior to his passing my sister(38F) wasn't very active in his life, she wouldn't call, visit, etc... Dad would call her at least twice a week every week and write her letters. The whole family attempted to reach her aswell but she refused to talk with our father. Christmas before he passed she showed up to the house, yelled at him and called him and various family members pretty much every name in the book and said never to contact her again.

Fast forward 4 months and our father passed away unexpectedly. She made an appearance at the funeral then she disappeared, and up until a few weeks ago when she showed up at my home out of the blue.
     Our father had a will, I was listed as in charge of his estate and all of his possessions but he did have very specific possessions in his will to be given to his son(35M) and other daughter(33F). There was also specific instructions that sister(38F) wasn't to be given anything.

When she came to my home she handed me a list of our dads possessions that she wanted. Most of the items on the list were already given to the perspective family members, I was just gonna give her some of our fathers motorcycle memorabilia and be done with it. Well she decided that wasn't enough and has been threatening legal action against me stating that my house that our father left to me should be hers and that because she's the oldest that she has legal right to it. After she said this I decided to not give her anything and told her if she came back I'd have her arrested for trespassing.

Ever since this encounter a good portion of our family is harassing me for this stating how that because I'm not his real daughter I shouldn't be so greedy towards his possessions and to give my sister some things.

My other siblings agree with my decision but a part of me still feels like I'm being an asshole. ######

Response: NTA, your father already made his decision. Tell the folks harassing you that you are trying to respect the last wishes of the deceased and they can pound sand. ######


Prompt: I spent a couple hours painting my mom because she always tells me she wants some art of mine to keep, so I thought this would be really nice. I showed my dad and he got pretty mad at me. He suggested I go out and get her a real card. My mom's always been super sappy for my art so I figured it was perfect? I wrote a whole paragraph on the back saying how much she means to me. AITA for not getting her a real card? [Here's the picture](http://imgur.com/gallery/bQ0fTCf) ######

Response: NTA, your dad's the biggest asshole of all. ######


Prompt:
A week ago my bf and I made plans to visit my dad and his wife. My dad lives near one of my favorite restaurants, and I was hungry for one of their dishes for months. I told my dad that we'd love to have dinner, but I really wanted take out. I'd pay for it myself. I asked if he was OK with that. He was. I asked him to tell my stepmom to not cook for me and my bf.

Because I have autism i don't like plans changing. My dad asked if I wouldn't rather have a home cooked meal since his wife was cooking anyway. I told him again I'd prefer take out if that's okay. My bf is fine with whatever. But please do not cook for me.

Today I came in to the kitchen, and my stepmom proudly declared she was going to try to make my favorite dish... I love her, but the woman just isn't a great cook so I knew it wouldn't be very good, and again, I really don't do well with sudden changes.
Apparently my dad didn't tell her I wanted take out. She said it was fine, she wanted to cook anyway and I had already ordered food.

Now I just feel bad. She went out of her way to find the recipe of my favorite dish, get the right ingredients and cook it for me and my bf. I know she knows about my autism, and that she understands. But I just felt really crappy.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, your dad is the AH here. Maybe next time communicate directly with your stepmom instead of going through your dad if you think he might not relay a message correctly. ######


Prompt:
I (16M) and my brother (12M) live with joint custody between my mom (51F) and dad (53M).

My brother used to have a friend (we’ll call him A) in elementary school. They were never super close and I have never liked A because he is really whiny and spoiled because his parents are very rich. A has a college age brother named N but we never really talk because we don’t have a lot to talk about and he is not home a ton.

A year or two ago my brother stopped hanging out with A because of aforementioned reasons. By this time the dad of A (AD) and my dad had become friends. My brother never formally broke off his friendship with A in the interest of maintaining good will.

Unfortunately, A can’t take a hint. My brother has refused to hang out countless times but A still thinks they are on good terms.

Between this and my dads friendship with AD we go over there sometimes

I do not enjoy being with A’s family because I don’t have any friends over there & A acts bratty and spoiled a lot. My brother does not enjoy it either.

AD and my dad have talked about going camping this summer a lot but when I asked my dad he had always dismissed it as speculation. My dad knows very well that me and my brother do not want to go camping with A. We told him many times over the months but he has not listened.

Tonight my dad told us that he KNEW that we didn’t want to go camping with A’s family but we are going anyway for 4 days. Me and my brother put our feet down between disdain for A and concern for getting COVID (my dad has not been taking COVID-19 as seriously as we would like).

This is not something me and my brother have ever done so adamantly before and we are very serious about it.

My dad passive aggressively uninvited us and called us spoiled, bratty, and disrespectful. I think the real issue here is how he ignored our wishes for months and essentially chose AD over us.

So AITA for not just going or was it the right thing to tell our dad no? ######

Response: NTA, your dad is basically forcing you to go camping for *his* friend. Also good job on taking Covid-19 seriously, I wish you the best of luck ######


Prompt:
I'm one of 6 product managers at a 300 person Silicon Valley tech company, and am the only one on the team with an engineering education (masters and undergrad in CEng). The others have degrees in business or the humanities.

Everyone in my office is currently working remotely. I was one of the last people to log into the morning stand-up video call today and for the first time since the remote work policy was put in effect, I was taking the call from my desk. (Usually I do my meetings from the kitchen where I can spread my work out at the much larger dining table).

My desk is tiny and crammed into my condo's little "den". Displayed directly behind me and right over my shoulder are my 2 engineering degrees and a few other framed design awards and certificates. I don't want to show a screenshot of the wall for privacy reasons, [but here's a diagram I painted of what they would have seen on their screens](https://i.imgur.com/O8OVfLv.png).

After saying our good mornings, one of my PM coworkers loudly said "WoOoOoOoOh, *somebody* is trying to show off all their big fancy credentials". Everybody chuckled, so I just laughed along with them and continued with the meeting. Later on though after I had made some input to the ongoing discussion topic, he said again "good point there from the man with *all the fancy degrees to show us*".

I want to believe this was a joke, but I'm nervously second guessing myself now and I feel like I might have come off as a pompous ass? Does having them all displayed directly behind me genuinely make me look like a showoff? That's totally not what I was going for. I mean, I didn't bring them to the my office for that reason. Tbh, I didn't even register that they were there.

I don't want to show them off again if it makes me look like a braggart, but I don't want to take them down if I don't need to because I'll look like I fell to peer pressure. I'll probably just end up using the kitchen table from now on.

Thoughts? ######

Response: NTA, your coworker sounds like an insufferable ass and I would bet everyone else on the call thought so, too. ######


Prompt:
alright I've been working on a comic book for a bit, and I had used another Reddit page to look for an artist, I found a lot of good ones and I was about to choose them, but then I realized with the number of issues I would need and their prices, there would be no way for me to afford them.

In walks my buddy, who has been like a reviewer for my comic, I've sent him scripts and concept art to give me his opinion on, then two weeks he sends me a text while I'm on vacation and its a drawing of one of the three main characters...well it looked amazing, I was blown away, then last night he sent me two more sketches of other characters that have appeared and I swear it was like looking at a real comic book drawing.

I asked him after the first sketch if he'd want to be my artist for the comic, he said of course and that he while being supportive of me looking for an artist actually wanted to do it himself. so basically we made an agreement.

Well, my girlfriend's sister told me that I was being cheap not using these professional artists and instead was giving my buddy the job, she said these guys probably needed the job more than my friend and that I should tell my friend I changed my mind.

I told her no, and that I feel the comic would work better with two people who genuinely love the comic and not someone who's only gonna draw it on commission.

in my mind, I want like a Jack Kirby to my Stan Lee, Greg Capullo to my Scott Snyder, and Gary Frank to my Geoff Johns (if your not big into comics these are great teams that gave there all to there comics).

I even told her that it's not like my friends drawing for free when we finish the comic and end up selling it, I'm splitting the profit with him 50/50, and if we aren't able to sell I'm still paying him for his work.

But am I the asshole for going with my friend that I know, then an artist I don't? ######

Response: NTA, your comic and money so you make the decisions ######


Prompt:
Last year my parents lost almost everything they had, they literally had no money to buy food. They were always nice to me and they paid for my college so I thought it was kind of my duty to support them untill they become financially independent again
I (28m) am making 120k a year, but still since we we were living in the same city I decided to move in with my parents to not to waste money on rent while I help them financially. My dad got his business again, so far it is going well even though there almost no profits. I am hoping that it will soon be profitable.
My brother (32m)also lives with my parents and he is a total failure, he has never had a job. He only had a few failed businesses (my parent gave him the money to start the business). For the last 1 year I have been the sole source of income for the family, I have been paying for the food, utilites and all the other costs. Since my brother has never had a job, he cant get a job right now and my parents no longer have the money to give him to start another failed business, he has been unemployed. And he has ego problem, he cant go work minimum wage jobs. I recently learned that my brother has been taking money from my parents (the money I give them) and spending on going out with his friends. When I learned it I told my parents that he should not get any money, and he should not even eat the food I buy untill he gets a job on his own, even if it is a minimum wage job. My parents told me that I was overreacting and my brother called me the AH. Am I really the asshole here? ######

Response: NTA, your brother sounds like an irresponsible idiot. You should sending money to your parents if your brother is going to spend it and maybe send them groceries directly (only if you want to). ######


Prompt:
So for a bit of background, one of my brothers and I have a history of being at odds with each other. As we’ve gotten older, I’ve grown tired of it, and I refuse to participate unless he pushes me to an extreme. He still makes fun of me regularly.

It’s gotten to the point that even my parents are telling me to push back at him, but I find the whole ordeal tiresome and prefer to just avoid him unless absolutely necessary.

Anyway, on to the subject of this post: a few months ago, our baby sister offered to sell me her car when she and my parents came to visit us from out of state, which is happening this week. My brother, mentioned earlier, asked me about a week ago if he could have the car she’s going to sell me, in exchange for his car. The car he’s driving now is much smaller than the one my sister is bringing, and one of the reasons I agreed to buy my sister’s car is because I don’t have much storage space in my apartment, and I want the car to make up for that. So, AITA for not wanting to make the swap? ######

Response: NTA, your brother isn’t necessarily being an asshole but he might start being one when he realises he’s not gonna get what he wants, push back and don’t let him win. ######


Prompt:
I’m currently on my period and have some bad cramps today. My whole body is aching and I’m feeling very low energy.

I’m nearly running out of pads so I kindly asked my bf if he could go down to the local store to get me some pads, chamomile tea and painkillers. He started huffing and puffing and said he wouldn’t get “that stuff” for me. I asked him why and he said it’s too embarrassing.

I didn’t have the energy to argue so I texted my dad and asked him if he could “*that stuff*” for me. He lives nearby and is currently WFH (he was on his lunch break). Fortunately he arrived within 15 minutes and got me everything I needed and then some.

My BF got so pissed. He said that just because he refused, it doesn’t mean that I should go running to my dad. I asked him why that’s an issue and he didn’t fully explain himself. He just said that it’s HIS job to get me stuff like that which makes no sense because I asked him and he refused.

He was nagging the whole time and I had no patience for that. He continued being moody and said that it was disrespectful of me. ######

Response: NTA, your boyfriend probably feels ashamed of himself after your dad showed him how a decent person behaves, and he should be. Why are you wasting your time with this asshole? ######


Prompt:
Some back story. When he and I first got together up until merely a couple of months ago (two months max) she would call him begging him to take her back. They have a child, and in the past she's kept the child from him until recently, because she has no place to live. I've stayed insulted by her actions and trespasses against our relationship, my boyfriend, and even their child from keeping him away from his father.

Now the child has a routine, rules, and he knows what to expect day to day. He's very young and misses his mom all the time. My boyfriend messaged her asking her to contact him more, weeks would go by without a call or anything. When she did call, he'd wake up at night screaming, crying, or running to the front door. So he asked her to call and visit more often, which had helped him.

But now, due to current worldwide circumstances, she doesn't really have a lot of places to take him. However, it makes me very uncomfortable having her at our house. She corners him into discussions about their previous relationship, asking him what she did wrong, etc. I'm insulted that he would allow her to go that far.

She wants to spend time with him in our home. When my boyfriend said it wasn't okay she began to cry, which I see as a guilt trip. My boyfriend makes arguments to me about why she should be able to stay.

AITA for taking offense to all of this? To both of them; her for weaseling in, and him for allowing her to go so far? Am I justified in my view, or am I not seeing this clearly?

Thanks, reddit. ######

Response: NTA, your BF and his ex need to get a proper custody agreement in place, and the child needs to be listened to very carefully through that process. His ex should not be living with you, frankly I think you're a hell of a person to be able to put up with it. It's a very difficult position for you. I hope your BF realises that while his relationship with his child is obviously the most important relationship in his life, some sort of compromise has to be made for his relationship with you, and the rest of his life. Sacrificing everything else might seem noble, but is very unhealthy and can lead to resentment which will cause serious problems in the future. This is a tough situation for all involved, I really hope it settles down and ends with happiness for everyone and most importantly, stability for the child. ######


Prompt:
Me and my girlfriend tell each other we love the other and have been dating for a year. We got together our senior year of high school.

The first time I told her I love her while she was naked she got upset. We had told each other we love the other many times before but this was the first time I told her I love her while she was naked. She said to not tell her that when she is naked because it isn't genuine love when she is naked, she said the emotion I feel when I see her naked is lust. I tell her I always feel love for her but I am obviously more attracted to her when she is naked. I stopped saying it when she was nude because she would not like it and would repeat those reasons.

I accidentally let an I love her slip when she was naked and she got really upset saying I'm confusing love for lust. Whenver I say it while she is clothed she says it back to me happily. ######

Response: NTA, you’ve already told her you love her when she was clothed, so it should be clear that it’s genuine. ######


Prompt:
So imagine this: my mom comes into my room, flops on my teddy bear and just falls asleep. I sit there, letting her sleep and minding my own business for two hours. Then it's time for me to go to sleep.

So at this point I've tried to wake her up twice already but she only complains and goes back to sleep before I can say anything else. Since it's my mom, I left it be. But now it's time for me to sleep so surely she'd understand that she has to go right?

But she doesn't go, instead she tells me to just sleep in bed with her. For context, my family lives in a small house so when I was younger, I slept with my parents, before eventually moving into my own room. My mom is a very clingy person and tends to barge into my room very often, for very weird reasons. (Won't say more, but it's nothing bad on my end. Just super weird.)

She wasn't there when I was younger so I think she tries to amend that by doing things like this. Normally I understand, but I can't lie and say it's not uncomfortable for me.

This time I stood my ground, told her again I didn't want her sleeping with me. Eventually she left without a word. And I feel fucking bad about it.

AITA? ######

Response: NTA, you’re the age that you start to want your own space, and you can understand why she wants to be with you, but you also want to set healthy boundaries ######