More rigorous shape inference in to_tf_dataset
`tf.data` needs to know the shape of tensors emitted from a `tf.data.Dataset`. Although `None` dimensions are possible, overusing them can cause problems - Keras uses the dataset tensor spec at compile-time, and so saying that a dimension is `None` when it's actually constant can hurt performance, or even cause training to fail for dimensions that are needed to determine the shape of weight tensors!

The compromise I used here was to sample several batches from the underlying dataset and apply the `collate_fn` to them, and then to see which dimensions were "empirically variable". There's an obvious problem here, though - if you sample 10 batches and they all have the same shape on a certain dimension, there's still a small chance that the 11th batch will be different, and Keras will throw an error  if a dataset tries to emit a tensor whose shape doesn't match the spec.

I encountered this bug in practice once or twice for datasets that were mostly-but-not-totally constant on a given dimension, and I still don't have a perfect solution, but this PR should greatly reduce the risk. It samples many more batches, and also samples very small batches (size 2) - this increases the variability, making it more likely that a few outlier samples will be detected.

Ideally, of course, we'd determine the full output shape analytically, but that's surprisingly tricky when the `collate_fn` can be any arbitrary Python code!